you yourself call forth in yourself in function of what you want to achieve, maintain or avoid. Mutual influence When we respond or act as parents or educators, we may lure a reaction or action with the child in connection with the activated perceptions, feelings, desires, thoughts, memories, fantasies, body sensations. This can be a reaction or action that we choose or want. However, it can also be the opposite reaction or action that we do not prefer and just do not want. This action or reaction of your child can in turn provoke a certain action or reaction that is not desirable for the child or the child himself does not want. As a parent or child you can be aware of this circular process of mutual influence in the form of provocation or not. A mutual influence that takes the form of circular triggering processes. . With our impatience, we often try to encourage our child to start, continue or stop something. The impatience can, however, provoke resistance and possibly provoke a blockage in the child. Just what we did not want at all. However, we just wanted the opposite, some more flexibility and mobility. The resistance and the blocking and the lack of flexibility and mobility of the child can arouse displeasure and cause even more impa-
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