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Salt Lake Men’s Choir’s Christmas concert, we sang a song that we’ve sung several times before, but this time it meant something different, or perhaps just more poignant, to me.

“When you’re worried, and you can’t sleep, just count your blessings instead of sheep.”

It may sound trite, but I took it to heart.

Like many who I’ve spoken with since the election, I have several fears about what the next administration will mean to this country in the next (I pray) four years.

Some of my greatest blessings have come during times of adversity, when we struggled for attention, when we risked harm when we spoke up, when we lost many more battles than we won.

During those times, I made many close relationships that felt almost as family.

We fought together and, when we lost, we looked each other in the eye and said, “time to start again.”

I learned how to push myself beyond my preconceived limits toward a goal I thought may not be attainable in my lifetime, but that I wanted to edge closer for the next wave.

I was able to meet others who were the wave before me, many of whom are still fighting the good fight. I met my heroes.

I found that people I saw as my enemies, for the most part, are not actually bad people. They simply think different things than I do and it is my job to convince them otherwise. I’ve, therefore, learned that name-calling and belittling runs counter to that goal.

I believe I am a better person because I’ve faced adverse times. I believe we are a better world because we’ve had the discussions. I also think we are better prepared for this round of scary times.

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news The top things you should know happened last month (Full stories at gaysaltlake.com.)

Pulse club owner backs out of sale to Orlando City Early reports were that Pulse nightclub, where 49 lives were taken on June 12 in the largest mass shooting in U.S. history, had been sold for $2.25 million to the city of Orlando to become a permanent memorial to the victims.

Nightclub owner Barbara Poma backed out on the sale of the property, saying she wants to guide the club’s future herself. Her lawyer, Orlando attorney Gus Benitez, Poma said she decided she “can’t just walk away” from the club, which “means so very much to my family and to our community.”

“I intend to create a space for everyone, a sanctuary of hope, and a welcoming area to remember all those affected by the tragedy,” Poma said. “I plan to do that directly with the involvement of the communities impacted by this tragedy, the families of the victims and any private or public sector individuals or organizations who wish to assist. We must do this together as a community.”

N.C. bathroom governor finally concedes North Carolina Republican Gov. Pat McCrory conceded he lost the race to Democrat Roy Cooper nearly a month after the election. While the Republican candidate for President won the state by 100,000 votes and Republican

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incumbent Senator Richard Burr was handily reelected, McCrory lost by 10,000 votes.

McCrory was the face of resistance to pressure to repeal a law considered to be anti-transgender passed by the state legislature.

He sued the Federal Government over an “advisory” from the U.S. Department of Education that the Title IX protections for sex and race in public secondary and higher education covered transgender people. His opponent, the state’s attorney general, declined to be a party to the suit.

Several major business interests and the NCAA opposed the law and Governor’s actions and canceled expansion and activities in the state. Some entertainment figures refused to appear at bookings in North Carolina due to the law.

McCrory is scheduled to meet with president-elect Donald Trump.

American colleges to hear from ‘Dangerous Faggot’ Controversial gay conservative commentator, Milo Yiannopoulos, who calls himself “the Dangerous Faggot” has returned to USA’s campuses since the presidential election, on a tour that he promises to be “bigger, badder, and more dangerous than ever.”

Yiannopoulos, a Breitbart senior editor, has stirred it up on campuses across the U.S. and Europe with inflammatory and “politically incorrect” speech heavy with irony, sarcasm and insults to left leaning faculty, politicians and social groups.

Some events have been canceled due to “Anti-Milo” demonstrations. Most cancellations come from last minute security fee increases which the sponsoring groups cannot afford. One West Virginia professor offered an “extra credit” to incent students to stay away from the Yiannopoulos speech.

At DePaul University, violent threats towards Milo from protesters and pressure from black activists on campus were followed by the resignation of the college president.

Boxer: Brief effort to be Champ Orlando Cruz, the first openly gay professional boxer lost in his first attempt to become a World Champion of boxing to WBO Lightweight Champ Terry Flanagan. Cruz says he has heard anti-gay slurs from ringside, but doesn’t care, “I don’t care if they say, ‘Orlando Cruz is gay. Faggot.’ I don’t care,” he says. His family is always ringside and supportive. This time his new husband, Jose, was also there watching him compete. “I want to inspire the gay community by becoming a World Champion,” he says.

Opponent Flanagan earns praise from Cruz as, “A true champion, who respects my life and my choices. He sees the man boxing him and that is it.”

Who you calling boutique?

Jennifer Finney Boylan a transgender women and activist has called out commentators who “blame” Hillary Clinton’s loss on the Democratic party’s focus on rights and protections for transgender people.

Boylan, a New York Times contributing opinion writer, is a Barnard College professor and GLAAD co-chair. Her is autobiography titled, She’s Not There: A Life in Two Genders In an NYT Op-Ed, she says the issues are dismissed by an offensive and inaccurate term, “They were called boutique — a place where you’d shop for pantyhose — it is not the first place I’d associate with an individual’s quest for equal protection under the law,“ she wrote.

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an Armageddon election” and an Ohio Democratic official writing in a Clinton Campaign memo, “People in the heartland thought we cared more about where someone else went to the restroom than whether they had a good-paying job.”

Even Saturday Night Live was cited for alleging transgender issues were at fault in a segment called, “Why Democrats Lost the Election.”

Boylan fears executive orders extending job protection, lifting the ban on transgender military service and the backing of transgender students under Title IX are on the “chopping block”.

“Cryin’ These Cocksucking Tears” A country music performer who has been performing gaythemed music since the 1970s has found renewed interest in his music. Patrick Haggerty, front man for Lavender Country, the first band to perform LGBT-themed country music, is on tour in Iowa, Indiana, Missouri and North Carolina.

The band’s most popular song is “Cryin’ These Cocksucking Tears.” The song is about the pain of being gay in the U.S. in the in 1970s. He says his tour has focused on progressive communities in the heartland, which he says, “Are so welcoming, so loving, so tightly knit, so committed, so inspiring.”

The band’s reemergence began with Dan Taberski’s short film named for the song, which has been screened at the Seattle International Film Festival and SXSW. Haggerty and Lavender Country’s musical project has been preserved by the Country Music Hall of Fame. After years in obscurity, he likes the new awareness of the music and the diverse audience it attracts. “It doesn’t matter anymore who’s gay at my concerts. The issue is whether you’re down for the struggle, whether you’re ready to stand up and defend everyone’s human rights.”

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Every cabinet member appointed

by Trump so far opposes LGBT rights The Republican president-elect is, as we all know, appointing his top team ahead of his inauguration in January. So far the billionaire — who claimed while running for election he would “protect our L-G-B-T-Q citizens” — has appointed a string of politicians who oppose LGBT rights.

ATTORNEY GENERAL JEFF SESSIONS Alabama Senator Jeff Sessions is known as one of the most conservative and anti-LGBT members of Congress, holding a 0 percent rating on the Human Rights Campaign’s Congressional Scorecard on LGBT rights. He fought vocally against equal marriage and discrimination protections for LGBT people, and opposed lifting the ban on openly gay people serving in the military.

SECRETARY OF EDUCATION BETSY DEVOS Betsy DeVos is a prominent donor to the anti-gay marriage lobby. She previously donated $200,000 in a successful bid to add an anti-gay marriage amendment to the Michigan ballot. DeVos family organizations have also made large donations to anti-gay marriage causes — $500,000 to the National Organization for Marriage, and $100,000 to Florida4Marriage.

SECRETARY OF HEALTH AND HUMAN SERVICES TOM PRICE Another opponent of LGBT rights in Congress, Price is a co-sponsor of the First Amendment Defense Act, which would legalize discrimination against LGBT people on the grounds of religion. He holds a zero rating on HRC’s Congressional Scorecard on LGBT rights, opposing anti-discrimination protections.

When equal marriage became law, he fumed: “Today’s ruling by the Supreme Court

serves only as further encouragement to use the court system as a systematic springboard to enact agendas outside the democratic and legislative structures of government.

“Thirty States have held statewide ballots banning gay marriage since the year 2000, and yet legislating from the bench has superseded both public approval and our elected representatives.

“This is not only a sad day for marriage, but a further judicial destruction of our entire system of checks and balances.”

VICE PRESIDENT MIKE PENCE The governor of Indiana stirred up international outrage last year when he signed Indiana’s controversial ‘Religious Freedom Restoration Act’, giving businesses the right to discriminate against gay people on the grounds of religion.

Pence claimed the law was intended to “protect” organizations from having to provide services for same-sex weddings.

Earlier this year appeared unable to answer when asked whether it should be legal to fire people because of their sexuality.

Pence recently confirmed plans to roll back Barack Obama’s executive protections on LGBT rights, so that “the transgender bathroom issue can be resolved with common sense at the local level.”

SECRETARY OF TRANSPORTATION ELAINE CHAO Secretary Chao served in George W Bush’s Cabinet as Labor Secretary, overseeing a Department of Labor which was opposed to LGBT anti-discrimination protections.

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Equality Utah, NCLR suing Utah Bd of Ed over ‘No Promo Homo’ laws Utah schools unconstitutionally subject homosexual students to harassment and bullying, censor their speech, violate their right to association and won’t even let them mention gay issues in a positive way, parents claim in Federal Court.

Equality Utah and three families sued the Utah State Board of Education, the state superintendent of public instruction, and the Cache County, Weber and Jordan school districts.

They say Utah’s “anti-gay school laws” and regulations “expressly prohibit speech that ‘advocat[es] homosexuality’ in public school classrooms and student clubs.”

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They accuse the state of “facially targeting lesbian, gay, and bisexual persons for disparate treatment, by prohibiting positive student and teacher speech about ‘homosexuality,’ while permitting positive speech about the sexual orientation of heterosexual persons,” and prohibit school clubs that support gay and lesbian students.

And in at least one case, the parents say, the state schools “refused to protect a gender nonconforming student from bullying and harassment.”

Lead plaintiff Equality Utah is joined by three parents and their children in the lawsuit.

The student plaintiffs include a gay high school student who was bullied and prohibited from talking about his uncle’s same-sex marriage at school, a lesbian student who was punished for holding hands with a girl, and a 7-year-old gender nonconforming student who was teased and beaten by his classmates.

“Even the parents of other students harassed John [Doe] and called him names,” the complaint states. It continues: When John’s mother was dropping him off for picture day early in the school year, she heard a group of parents saying that she was ‘turning him into a faggot’ by allowing John to wear dresses to school. His mother reported the incident to the principal, but he said that there was nothing he could do if she did not know the names of the parents and could not prove what they had said.”

Other students held the boy’s hand to a hot metal slide, giving him second-degree burns, his mother says.

James Doe, a high school student, was bullied, robbed and harassed at school, and

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when given a class assignment to write and discuss a family history, he was prohibited from talking about his uncle, who is married to another man. “(T)he teacher told James that if he wanted to do his report about his uncle, he would need to do the oral presentation after class, in a one-onone presentation to the teacher with no other students present,” according to the complaint.

This institutional discrimination fosters an environment “in which the very existence of LGBT students and teachers is treated as shameful and wrong and something that must be hidden and censored,” the complaint states.

Equality Utah executive director Troy Williams said: “These are some of the last remaining anti-LGBT laws that are currently being enforced in the country, and they’re especially odious, because they explicitly apply to school classes on every subject. These laws send a message that our lives are shameful and must be hidden and censored. They create a deadly culture of silence and non-acceptance, causing harms that can never fully be undone. The time has come to end the stigma and strike down this shameful law.”

State and county officials will not comment on pending litigation.

The plaintiffs seek an injunction and punitive damages on 14 counts of civil rights violations, including violations of the First, Fifth and 14th Amendments, for students and teachers, and violations of equal access to education and of Title IX. They are represented by Kathryn Kendell with National Center for Lesbian Rights of San Francisco, and Douglas Hallward-Driemeier with Ropes & Gray of Washington, D.C. One of the Utah laws was part of a wide-ranging sexual education bill passed with little dissent in 2001. It prohibits instruction on “advocacy of homosexuality,” along with contraceptives and sex outside marriage. The Utah State Board of Education adopted a similar rule the year earlier that applies to any class that covers marriage, childbirth or parenthood. Several states have similar laws.

Supporters say the laws bar talk in school about any kind of sex, and the court case could result in wholesale changes to other rules like emphasis of abstinence before marriage.

The lawsuit also challenges a law put in place in the mid-1990s that bans gay-straight alliance clubs at school.

Since then, the law has affected the purchase of psychology textbooks at a central Utah high school that struggled in 2005 to find any that didn’t discuss homosexuality.

It also led a school district to put a book about a lesbian couple raising children behind the library counter in 2013 and require parent permission to check it out. It was put back on the shelves after the American Civil Liberties Union sued.

This Utah lawsuit marked the first challenge since the U.S. Supreme Court same-sex marriage ruling.

The state of Utah replied to the suit in early December, denying it has anti-gay school laws as it defends itself from a lawsuit challenging restrictions on talk about homosexuality in the classroom.

The case quotes selectively from state law and school rules, which don’t contain the phrase “anti-gay laws,” state attorneys said several times in court documents filed.

They say the state school board is immune from a lawsuit and ask for the case to be dismissed.

The Utah attorney general’s office is defending the districts and the state board.

They deny most of the allegations in the suit, saying they lack “sufficient knowledge or information” to respond to the lawsuit’s assertions. They also say the minor plaintiffs have not been sufficiently identified.

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Utah Sen. Mike Lee to reintroduce ‘First Amendment Defense Act’ Republicans are confident that a federal bill which would protect Americans’ “right” to express anti-LGBT views will be passed shortly after Donald Trump steps into the White House.

Republican Utah senator Mike Lee told BuzzFeed that he planned to reintroduce the First Amendment Defense Act next term, and said he was confident president-elect Trump would sign it.

FADA, or HR 2802, would grant protection to individuals who opposed same-sex marriage or premarital sex. In other words, discriminatory action could not be taken against people who discriminate against LGBT members. Discriminatory action includes denying someone tax exemptions, withholding grants or contracts or denying federal benefits.

The bill is co-sponsored by Texas senator and former presidential candidate Ted Cruz. He said: “The prospects for protecting religious freedom are brighter now than they have been in a long time.”

“Hopefully November’s results will give us the momentum we need to get this done next year,” Conn Carroll, Lee’s spokesman, told BuzzFeed. “We do plan to reintroduce FADA next Congress and we welcome Trump’s positive words about the bill.”

In North Carolina, popstars, athletes and big corporations all boycotted the state in response to an anti-LGBT bill which was signed under governor Pat McCrory. The bill is likely to be repealed under the newly elected Democratic governor, but the proposed FADA federal bill, if it came into power, would cast doubt over the legality of such a boycott.

In what is likely to be the final victory

for the LGBT community under president Barack Obama, the senate declined to pass the “Russell Amendment”, which would have required religious exemptions for every transaction made by the federal government under the National Defense Authorization Act. The Russell Amendment’s sponsor, Oklahoma representative Steve Russell, said he had received “very good assurances” from the Trump administration that similar bills would be considered in future.

The new head of the Justice Department will be Alabama senator Jeff Sessions and LGBT activists have not expressed confidence in his desire to protect them from discrimination.

Former principal deputy assistant attorney general Samuel Bagenstos wrote in a blog that the future looked bleak regarding civil rights. “[…] there is a substantial prospect that

the Civil Rights Division will take an affirmatively anti-LGBT-rights position and intervene to make religious-freedom or free-speech arguments on behalf of the defendants in LGBT discrimination cases brought under state laws,” he wrote.

As Think Progress reported, LGBT people might be able to get protection within the court system. A judge recently ruled against a bill in Mississippi that was similar to the proposed FADA bill.

“A law declaring that in general it shall be more difficult for one group of citizens than for all others to seek aid from the government is itself a denial of equal protection of the laws in the most literal sense,” said judge Carlton Reeves.

The fight for so-called religious freedom comes as ethnic minorities and Muslims are facing their highest levels of hate crime and discrimination since 2001.

Trump has proposed forcing Muslims to sign a “register” or take a religious “test” to see if they abide by Shariah law. If so, former house speaker Newt Gingrich argued, they should be deported. Q

Herbert seeking tax money to fight pornography Utah Republican Gov. Gary Herbert is asking for $50,000 from taxpayers for his continued fight against pornography.

The money would be granted to the nonprofit Utah Coalition Against Pornography to hold anti-pornography conferences and seminars on addiction and preventative measures for children.

“I am already on the record that pornography is a public-health issue,” Herbert told the Salt Lake Tribune. “This effort is an effective way to empower parents with practical methods to protect their families from the dangers of pornography.”

Utah became the first state to declare

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pornography to be a public health crisis after Herbert signed legislation in April that deemed it an “epidemic that is harming the citizens of Utah and the nation.”

But Utah Libertarian Party Chairman Andrew McCullough sees Herbert’s proposal as a waste of taxpayer’s money.

“In the greater scheme of things, the governor would say, ‘that’s not a lot of money,’ but it is a lot of money if you’re throwing it down a rat hole or using it to interfere with my personal freedoms,” McCullough, an attorney who has represented adult businesses in Utah, told the Tribune.

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LGBT Resource Center to open in Provo A one-of-a-kind building in the state is about to become a one-of-a-kind service for young LGBT people in Provo, Utah.

Provo’s historic William D. Alexander House, listed in the National Register of Historic Places and thought to be the only period example of Stick Style architecture in the state of Utah, will become home to the Encircle LGBT+ Family & Youth Resource Center in February.

“Encircle stands as a beacon of hope where LGBT+ individuals can find understanding, information, and support within their families and communities,” organizers say.

Founder and executive director Stephenie Larsen says their hopes are to help families rally around their LGBT child once they come out, to help create a more accepting community in the area and to help young LGBT people lead happy, productive lives.

“There’s a need,” Larsen said in an NPR story. “[T]here’s no-

where currently that these kids can go that offer a no-judgment zone where they can feel the love and support of the community. And, so that’s what we’re trying to provide.”

“I feel like Provo’s ready for this. We need to move forward.

We need to start having these conversations. If we don’t, it doesn’t change,” she continued.

Larsen received a law degree from Brigham Young University’s J. Reuben Clark Law School and is a member of the Utah State Bar. She was an attorney for abused and neglected inner-city children while living in Washington, D.C. She also worked with then-Utah Congressman Bill Orton as well as the House Committee for Children Youth and Family.

She and her husband, Mitch, have six children.

She is also the niece of openly gay Gastronomy owner and “quiet LGBT ambassador” John Williams, who was earlier killed this year.

“John Williams and his

loving, exuberant life was the inspiration behind the Encircle home,” leaders wrote in a statement on the project. “John was involved in the genesis of this project, and was the first donor to commit funding before his passing. We hope to make this a place that will reflect the legacy of the life he left behind. To John, we will always be grateful.”

Larsen explains that she often struggled with her church’s relationship with the LGBT community, especially because of her relationship with her uncle. She also was often “heartbroken” by news of suicides by young Mormons.

“I called John a few years ago and said, ‘Will you help me do something in Provo?’ “ Larsen told the Salt Lake Tribune.

“Because if there’s anywhere in the nation that LGBT kids need support, it’s Provo.”

While Williams was enthusiastic about supporting such an effort, no real plans came together then. Then when

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the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints adopted the policy of deeming those in same-sex marriages as “apostates” and barring children in such families from membership until the age of 18, and only if they disavowed support for such marriages, did plans formally move forward.

Larsen and Williams met with leaders in the LGBT community to determine what needs were being unmet, especially in Utah County, and the idea of a drop-in center that focused on the entire family of an LGBT youth came to fruition.

Williams donated the first $100,000 toward the project.

SkullCandy co-founder Holly Alden purchased the building and is renting it to Encircle for $1 a month. Football Hall of Famer Steve Young and his wife donated another $100,000 and fundraising efforts have earned another $50,000 toward a $500,000 goal.

Organizers plan to run a food truck, with half the proceeds going to Encircle and the other half to provide necessities for Provo’s homeless, to help raise the funds. They also plan to sell a storybook featuring LGBT youth as an inspiration to other, struggling youth. Another revenue-raising plan is small-venue concerts.

Clean-up and construction events are being posted on the group’s Facebook page at fb.me/encircletogether. One is scheduled for Saturday, January 21 from 11 a.m. to 3 p.m. at the Center, 91 W 200 S, Provo.

An art sale will happen at the building the following weekend.

The 1,800 square foot building will have a large receiving room on the main level, which they plan to have open from 11am to 6pm for drop-in, and needs assessment, and for support groups from 6–9 p.m.

A gathering room on the

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main level will be available for one-on-one meetings in the early afternoon, a youth gathering space from 3–6 p.m. and support group meetings from 6–9 p.m.

Administrative and counseling offices will be housed on the second level, along with a project room open throughout the day (9 a.m. to 9 p.m.) for creative projects and art therapy. Another room upstairs is open through the day for support groups, therapy sessions and workshops.

(Of course, these are preliminary plans which may change as needs are fully assessed once the Center opens.)

Counselors and staff will adhere to the American Psychological Association recommendations for addressing religion, sexual orientation and gender identity, group leaders say.

Only information, therapeutic interventions and services

that align with accredited scientific and mental health organizations that share the viewpoint that bisexuality and homosexuality do not indicate mental illness or developmental disorders will be provided.

So-called “ex-gay therapies” will not be allowed by the Center.

The group will also be providing programming and services to counteract stigma, such as homophobia, heterosexism, transphobia, sexism and racism.

Their mission statement is “We’re bringing together the family and community to help LGBT+ youth thrive.”

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Largest transgender survey ever finds ‘alarming’ discrimination The National Center for Transgender Equality released the findings of the U.S. Transgender Survey, the largest survey of transgender people in the United States.

Conducted in 2015, the anonymous, online survey examines the experiences of 27,715 adults from all 50 states and the District of Columbia, as well as three U.S. territories and U.S. military bases overseas.

Among the findings is that nearly one in five transgender people who had contact with a medical professional about their gender identity reported the professional tried to stop them from being transgender. Transgender people who had these negative experiences were also more likely to experience psychological distress, to have attempted suicide, run away from home, been homeless, and have engaged in sex work than those who did not have the experience. The survey also found that about one in seven transgender people who disclosed their identity to their family were sent to a professional to stop them

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“This groundbreaking report underscores the vulnerability of transgender youth seeking professional support and the need for policies and legislation aimed at protecting these youth from unethical and potentially damaging treatment by mental health professionals. It also highlights the critical role of family support in ensuring the safety and wellbeing of transgender youth,” said National Center for Lesbian Rights Youth Policy Counsel and #BornPerfect Campaign Coordinator Carolyn Reyes. “No young person should ever be shamed by a professional into thinking that who they are is wrong. Mental health professionals, in particular, should provide care that is ethical and affirming for transgender youth and that assists families in supporting their transgender children.”

The National LGBTQ Task Force’s Trans/ Gender Non-Conforming Justice Project Director Victoria Rodriguez-Roldan joined the press conference at the National Press Club as key findings were announced.

“The report findings are devastating and unfortunately not surprising. As a transgender Latina, the findings that 43 percent of transgender Latinos and Latinas living in poverty, and 41 percent of transgender Latinos and Latinas reporting unemployment, hit very close to home. And as a transgender advocate working every day on health policy, I know all too well the barriers transgender people experience when attempting to access basic health and human services,” said Rodriguez-Roldan.

“Everyone — including transgender people — deserves a fighting chance to provide for themselves and their families. Unfortu-

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nately, transgender people continue experiencing alarming inequalities in the U.S., as this report vividly depicts. Much more needs to be done to protect transgender people against violence and discrimination. Urgent steps include strong federal laws against discrimination in employment, housing, health, education, and public places” Some of the key report findings include:

VIOLENCE & MISTREATMENT At home, 10 percent of transgender people who were out to their immediate family report that a family member was violent towards them because they are transgender, and 8 percent were kicked out of their home.

At school, 54 percent of trans people report being verbally harassed, 24 percent report being physically attacked, and 13 percent sexually assaulted.

In places of public accommodation, 31 percent of transgender people experienced at least one type of mistreatment in the past year, such as being denied equal treatment or service, verbally harassed, or physically attacked.

ECONOMIC HARDSHIP One in three transgender people (29 percent) report living in poverty, compared to 14 percent of the U.S. population.

15percent of transgender people report being unemployed, which is 3 times higher than the national average of five percent.

PHYSICAL & MENTAL HEALTH 40 percent of trans people report attempting suicide in their lifetime — over eight times the general population (4.6 percent).

A third of transgender people who saw a health care provider had at least one negative experience related to being transgender, such as verbal harassment or refusal of treatment.

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The author of Utah’s Amendment 3, which defined marriage as between one man and one woman — along with several other anti-LGBT measures — LaVar Christensen won his bid for re-election, a recount confirmed.

Democrat Suzanne Harrison, the chair of the Department of Anesthesiology at Riverton Hospital, challenged Christensen and was up five votes in preliminary results. As counting of absentee and provisional ballots continud, her lead fel to

a 3-vote loss. The recount added two more for Christensen.

Christensen also sponsored the legislative measure that put Amendment 3 on the ballot. It passed overwhelmingly by voters in all but Summit and Grand counties. In 2011 alone he introduced three anti-LGBT bills. One would have voided contracts that “went against state policy,” prohibiting same-sex couples from making contractual agreements that mimicked marriage.

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2016 IN REVIEW Looking back on a wild year.

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of the city’s first openly gay mayor, Jackie Biskupski, Janet Jackson stopping here on her Unbreakable tour, LGBT films available through the Utah Film Center, the Damn These Heels film festival, and Utah’s annual transgender conference, Genderevolution.

March ‘QSaltLake’ held its second Gay & Lesbian Wedding Expo

January Biskupski meets with LDS Church leaders, is inaugurated Mayor-elect Jackie Biskupski met with LDS Church leaders for the first time to discuss local issues such as homelessness and air quality. Not on the agenda was a discussion on the church’s new policies regarding samesex couples and their children.

Biskupski, who defeated incumbent mayor Ralph Becker in November, was sworn in to office Monday, Jan. 4. Openly gay District 4 city councilman Derek Kitchen, the namesake of Kitchen v. Herbert, was also sworn in that day.

Carol Gnade named acting director of Utah Pride Center Former ACLU of Utah director and Women’s Red Rock Music Festival founder Carol Gnade was named acting director of the Utah Pride Center, replacing Marian Edmonds-Allen who resigned after a short tenure. She was later named as a permanent replacement and began making deep changes to align to community needs.

NBA gets gayer Top NBA referee Bill Kennedy came out as gay after Sacramento Kings guard Rajon Rondo uttered a homophobic slur during a game.

February First common-law ruling for same-sex couple becomes legal precedent in Utah A case involving a Utah lesbian couple who lived together as if they were married — including having a child, having matching

rings, and being seen by both families as a couple — but never legally married was the first test of equality in common-law marriage in the state.

Plaintiffs Nicki Bidlack and Sara Clow were together for eight years until Clow died suddenly in September, 2014, of injuries sustained in a car accident on Interstate 15.

The judge ruled that Clow’s name was to be added to their child’s birth certificate, ensuring that he would have claim to her estate and death benefits. His decision is believed to be the first to recognize a common-law marriage between two people of the same sex in Utah.

Utah Pride Center re-imagining itself under new board, executive director It’s been a tough several years at the Utah Pride Center, and incoming board president Michael Ramon Aguilar said he was excited to take on the job of evaluating and re-imagining what the Center’s future will be. His first announcement was the board’s decision to bring interim director Carol Gnade on as a permanent full-time executive director.

The board also brought on five new members, adopted a new vision statement, a new mission statement, and went through the group’s bylaws making revisions relating to increasing transparency to the community.

Salt Lake City once again on ‘Advocate’s’ Queerest Cities list The Advocate unveiled its seventh annual “Queerest Cities in America” list and once again, Salt Lake City took among the top honors. While locales such as New York and West Hollywood are widely known to be LGBT-friendly, this list spotlights some unexpected cities not afraid to fly their LGBT-friendly flags.

The Advocate noted last year’s election

The Gay & Lesbian Wedding Expo was set up to help same-sex couples find willing vendors for their weddings.

“We’ve all read the news when a same-sex couple tries to work with unknown photographers, cake bakers, venues, even florists who refuse service,” said Michael Aaron, QSaltLake publisher. “We want to help couples avoid the agonizing strife that can cause their wonderful day. We believe in the BUYCOTT - supporting those who WANT our business, rather than the negativity and bad press of boycotts.”

Over 40 select LGBT-friendly wedding professionals exhibited to hundreds of people wanting to get married.

U.S. Supreme Court Justice Anton Scalia dies United States Supreme Court Justice Antonin Scalia, well known to LGBT people for his anti-gay positions in landmark cases, dies. Scalia, 79, was found dead at the Cibolo Creek Ranch, a resort near Marfa while on a quail hunting trip. Scalia was arguably the most conservative voice on the high court and was a reliable opponent of LGBT equality.

Utah Legislative Session wrapped-up Utah’s legislature had several proposals addressing issues such as marriage equality, same-sex adoption, hate crime, and attempts to find ways to ignore the Supreme Court about “domestic relations within the state.”

Only the hate crime measure achieved a floor vote, though it ultimately failed.

April U.S. Supreme Court delivers a win for gay adoption Most front-page Supreme Court stories involve fraught cases, closely divided votes and biting dissents. But the justices achieve unanimity much more often than they find themselves split 5–4 (or 4–4 after the death of Scalia) and occasionally those unanimous rulings are big news. Such was the case with V.L. v E.L., an interstate dispute involving an

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argument between two women, who were sweethearts for nearly 17 years and co-parents for 13 years before their falling out in 2011. In an unsigned six-page “per curiam” ruling, the Supreme Court, without dissent, upbraided the Alabama Supreme Court for failing to honor a neighbor state’s adoption order that gave V.L. and E.L. joint custody of their children nine years ago.

Salt Lake City tops LGBT growth in country ConsumerAffairs.com analyzed U.S. Census data and Gallup polling information to model the movement of the LGBT community from 1990 to 2014.

The overall trend is striking. In 1990, the LGBT population was concentrated in coastal metropolitan areas and other safe havens — San Francisco, New York City, Seattle and Atlanta. By 2014, LGBT hot spots cropped up in some seemingly unlikely places: Salt Lake City, Louisville, KY, Norfolk, VA, Indianapolis, and other red-state cities.

May 9th South in Salt Lake named Harvey Milk Blvd The Salt Lake City Council unanimously voted to make 9th South, from 9th West to 11th East, Harvey Milk Boulevard, at least honorarily. The stretch of road encompasses the 9th & 9th business district, which had revitalized in the 1980s by

gay-owned businesses including Cahoots Cards & Gifts, Twigs Flower Shop and The Coffee Garden, as well as the up-andcoming Central Ninth District, which is also attracting lesbian, gay and bisexual entrepreneurs.

The new VOA Homeless Youth Resource Center, Club Try-Angles and Off-Trax also call Harvey Milk Boulevard home.

Openly gay city councilman Stan Penfold wa largely responsible for pushing the designation.

March Madness has its gay on Derrick Gordon, 24, made history as the only out player to ever compete in the NCAA tournament.

Vatican boots Kim Davis supporter The Vatican replaced the ambassador to the United States, who arranged the meeting between Pope Francis and anti-gay Kentucky county clerk Kim Davis.

Archbishop Carlo Maria Viganò left the position of apostolic nuncio, the equivalent of an ambassador.

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Knowing that there are numerous factors that lead to suicide, and that queer youth are four times more likely to attempt or commit suicide, UPC began to research ways to provide a resource for those in need of support. Key staff attended a training at the Didi Hirsch Suicide Prevention Center in California. They then developed the first and only suicide prevention program in the nation that is specific to the needs of the LGBTQ community. The program, Survivors of Suicide Attempts, offers suicide survivors and those contemplating suicide a safe, welcoming and nonjudgmental place to share their experiences.

Utah leaders reacted to federal directive on trans* students Utah Gov. Gary Herbert (R) called an edict from the Obama Administration on inclusion of transgender students in public schools, “one of the most egregious examples of federal overreach I have ever witnessed.”

He promised that “if we have to fight this order, we will not hesitate to do so.”

On May 13, the Department of Justice and Department of Education told the country’s schools that they should be making sure transgender students have equal access to all educational opportunities, including using facilities that match their gender identity. If they don’t, they put themselves at risk of losing federal funding.

June Thousands gather for Utah Pride The largest crowd in history came to the annual Utah Pride Parade and Festival on a beautiful June weekend. With the theme #wearepride, this year’s parade grand marshals were local “icons” Connell O’Donovan and Jimmy Lee. Belinda Carlisle was the entertainment headliner.

Utah Pride Center sells building Utah Pride Center leaders announced that their building, which they have called home since April of 2013, has been sold. Leaders cited extensive building maintenance and cost associated with upkeep, lack of sufficient ADA access, and the fact that the facilities were “unable to match the diverse needs of the LGBT community.”

Honorary degree earns controversy for UofU The University of Utah found itself in the middle of a controversy by giving an honorary degree to Lynette Neilsen Gay. The selection ignited backlash from faculty

and staff because of her activities with the World Congress of Families and Family Watch International, both described as hate groups by the Southern Poverty Law Center, and oppose rights for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender individuals.

Gunman kills 49 and injures over 50 in Orlando massacre On June 12, 29-year-old security guard Omar Mateen killed 49 people and wounded 53 others with a semi-automatic rifle inside Orlando gay nightclub Pulse. He was shot and killed by Orlando Police after a three-hour standoff. Pulse was hosting Latin Night and most of the victims were Latino. It was the deadliest mass shooting by a single shooter, the deadliest incident of violence against LGBT people in U.S. history and the deadliest terrorist attack in the U.S. since the September 11 attacks in 2001.

Vigils held across Utah for Orlando victims From Logan to St. George, from Tooele to Salt Lake and Ogden and Provo, people from all across the state held vigils in support of the victims of the mass shooting at Pulse Nightclub in Orlando, Fla. A video of a speech given by Lt. Gov. Spencer Cox went viral worldwide, as he apologized for not being “kind” to classmates as he grew up who he later found were gay. “I will forever regret not treating them with kindnss, dignity, and respect — the love — that they deserved,” he said.

“May we try to listen more and talk less.

May we forgive someone that has wronged us. And perhaps, most importantly, try to love someone that is different than us. For my straight friends, might I suggest starting with someone who is gay.”

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July Misty Snow wins Utah Democratic primary to face Sen. Mike Lee Political newcomer Misty Kathrine Snow, a grocery store cashier, becomes the first transgender candidate in Utah to be on the November ballot in a statewide race, and one of two transgender candidates making history across the country.

Anti-trans* Utah school board candidate loses primary election A school board candidate who advocated on his Facebook page for violence against trans* people using the restroom aligned with their identity has come in last place in Utah’s primary election.

David Sharette, who was running for the Utah State Board of Education in the 8th District, pulled in 13 percent of the vote in the four-way race with 3,250 votes. Janet A. Cannon got nearly 38 percent with 9,351 votes and Richard Nelson got 24.78 percent with 6,118 votes.

Utah Sen. Alvin Jackson resigns seat Sen. Alvin Jackson (R-Alpine) announced this week that he is resigning from the Utah State Senate to move to Virginia to be closer with his family.

He was one of five senators who voted against SB296 — a compromise bill upholding religious liberties for certain

organizations and protecting lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people in housing and employment. He said on the floor of the Senate that it “disturbs me to the core” when the LGBT community compares its “crusade to the civil rights movement of my forefathers.”

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affirming healthcare to her patients at her clinic Rebirth OBGYN, and has dedicated her practice to providing care to the transgender community.

An irreverent headline, which reads: “Utah’s governor wants to handle your penis,” is a hit directed at Gary Herbert. The Republican governor declared pornography a public health crisis in a resolution in April.

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The Human Rights Campaign released a list of several U.S. senators and representatives who have “particularly anti- LGBTQ records,” including Utah Sen. Mike Lee. “These elected officials not only voted for anti-LGBTQ legislation, but they’ve introduced harmful bills and amendments, made extreme anti-LGBTQ statements and received a low score on HRC’s Congressional Scorecard,” the group said in a statement.

Ray Mabus, the secretary of the Navy, has notified Congress that he will name a fleet oiler for Harvey Milk. Milk joined the Navy in 1951 and was stationed in San Diego as a diving instructor.

OctobeR Title IX for transgender people barred by federal court Judge Reed O’Connor, U.S. District Court for the Northern District of Texas, issued a nationwide injunction barring the federal government from sanctioning schools for not following the Obama administration’s guidance on transgender bathroom policies.

Utah hate crime bill to return under new name Utah Sen. Daniel Thatcher (R-West Valley), brought back a recently defeated proposal to beef up the state’s hate crime law and add protections for gay and transgender people.

Thatcher said the measure would give heavier punishment to the small group of defendants who are found guilty of committing a crime to terrorize groups of people based on factors like race, gender and religion.

Equality Utah Allies Dinner sells out, draws thousands The annual Allies Dinner, raising funds to support Equality Utah’s efforts on Utah’s Capitol Hill and around the state, as well as endorsed candidates, is the largest political fundraiser in the state. This year the event sold out early, in part because the keynote speaker was Gloria Steinem — American feminist, journalist, and social and political activist, who became nationally recognized as a leader and a spokeswoman for the feminist movement in the late 1960s and early 1970s.

Three local “rebels” were honored with Allies Awards: Dr. Forrest Crawford, who has been in the trenches of Utah activism for over 30 years. Mama Dragons, a group of mothers who “breathe fire” for their LGBTQ kids. Dr. Rixt Luikenaar, who provides

HRC inducts Utah Sen. Mike Lee in Congressional Hall of Shame

Report: LGBT seniors are welcome in Salt Lake City A senior housing referral service ranked Salt Lake City as 11th in a list of America’s top cities for gay-friendly retirement. SeniorAdvice.com created SeniorScore, which they call the first comprehensive unbiased scoring system specifically designed to measure the livability for seniors; most recently determined the top gay-friendly cities for seniors.

Trump is ‘fine’ with samesex marriage ruling In his first television interview since becoming President-elect, Donald Trump said he does not think the Supreme Court needs to revisit the same-sex marriage issue, calling it “settled” and his feelings on it “irrelevant.”

“It’s law. It was settled in the Supreme Court. It’s done,” Trump told Lesley Stahl on CBS’ “60 Minutes.” “These cases have gone to the Supreme Court. They’ve been settled, and I’m fine with that.”

Nat’l Org for Marriage released plan to end LGBT advances, samesex marriage under Trump The leader of the National Organization for Marriage, founded in part by the LDS Church, announced Wednesday their plan to reverse same-sex marriage, lift President Barack Obama’s gender identity directives and pass a so-called religious freedom Constitutional amendment in light of Donald Trump winning the presidency.

Utah Pride Center elects new board leadership The Utah Pride Center Board of Directors has elected a new slate of leaders at its

annual election meeting. Former vice chair Sue Robbins is the new board chair, Michael Fordham is the new vice chair, Tim Johns is secretary and Jason Suker is treasurer. The new board will take office in January.

We See You and We Love You The Utah Pride Center launched a new awareness campaign meant to show solidarity and unity for Utah’s LGBTQ community and its allies, and address the problems those in the community face. The “We See You and We Love You,” campaign was created in response to the recent election, which has included verbal and physical harassment of members of the LGBTQ community.

December Anti-gay Rep. LaVar Christensen re-elected by five votes The author of Utah’s Amendment 3, which defined marriage as between one man and one woman, as well as several other anti-LGBT measures, LaVar Christensen, won re-election against challenger, Democrat Suzanne Harrison by just five votes. The race garnered over 15,000 total votes.

Election wrap-up U.S. SENATOR The highest profile race facing this state’s LGBT community was, of course, the Misty Snow vs. Mike Lee race. Snow was the first openly trans woman in the country to run for the U.S. Senate as a major party’s nominee.

While she did not displace incumbent Lee, she garnered over a quarter million votes from across the state.

GOVERNOR LGBT ally Mike Weinholtz lost handily to incumbent Gov. Gary Herbert.

ATTORNEY GENERAL Incumbent attorney general Sean Reyes has been a focal point in the battle for LGBT equality, but he won re-election at about the same rate as Gov. Herbert did.

UTAH HOUSE All candidates but one that were endorsed by Equality Utah this year ran either unopposed or won by over 60 percent of the vote, which was known early in the race.

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This year

we chose a local now known nationwide as the first trans candidate for the United States Senate. We chose her, not necessarily because she ran, but because she showed our community that a cashier from Taylorsville can make great change.

To us, a Person of the Year is an individual or group of people who make the greatest impact — for better or worse — on Utah’s gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and ally community.

We believe Snow’s impact was to instill hope and a sense of possibility into anyone who paid attention to the race.

To run against an incumbent senator, who has the power-brokers and money behind them, is to put yourself forth for judgment from the million-plus voters in the state. Not only did Snow do that, but she did it eloquently and with poise. She brought light to issues that are rarely spoken in a state where candidates of all sides attempt to show how conservative they are. Pay equity, marijuana legalization and clean air were issues brought by Snow to Utah voters — a feat in and of itself. To do so while being a member of a marginalized, misunderstood and much maligned community shows the stuff of a person of the year.

Comments from some of those who nominated her perhaps say it better than we can.

“She has shown not only the LGBT community, but all of Utah, that no matter who you are or what you think you can do you can always make a huge difference.

Her running for Senate was a huge task to take on but she did it with grace and dignity. She is inspirational because she has inspired younger people to become more involved in local government and take control of what is important to you and your values even if they don’t match with “The Majority.”

“She is inspiring and courageous! Her campaign for Senator this past year proves that no matter who you are or where you come from, you can make a difference! She fought the good fight for the working class of Utah!”

“The most ordinary working person that took the risk to make herself visible and to let Utah know we are all capable of pitching in to our community and government.”

For giving our community, people within our community, and future activists the hopes and dreams that they, too, can do big things; and for doing so with dignity, QSaltLake declares Misty Snow as our 2016 Person of the Year. Q PHOTO: PAMELA ANN BERRY

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“We’re living in a time when we might not have the future president that we wanted in this country. And as an immigrant who can’t vote, I don’t really get to say much.

But tonight, I do. People voted for him. So just like they gave us a chance to love equally, we will fight to keep that. But we have to give him a chance. And we do it by spreading love, not hate.”

—The never-not-controversial Kelly Osbourne, during an award acceptance speech for her work with The Trevor Project, a 24-hour, toll-free confidential suicide hotline for gay and questioning youth

“I don’t know the real answer to it. I don’t have an issue with it. I think it’s a compliment. I have a lot of gay fans. It’s not like it bothers me. Some people handle it differently, but at the end of the day, I’m cool with it and think it’s kind of funny. You have to learn to laugh; people are gonna create a story out of anything. You know, it’s probably because I’m in touch with my feminine side. Look, I love fashion; I love to dress well. I love certain things like that. And I have a lot of gay friends, as well, so that could probably point them in that direction. But again, the gay community is something that is close to my heart, so I don’t mind. Hey, if they wanna think I’m gay, it’s fun.”

— Joe Jonas, when asked

by Pride Source why people think he’s gay.

“I don’t care if you’re black, white, straight, bisexual, gay, lesbian, short, tall, fat, skinny, rich or poor. If you’re nice to me, I’ll be nice to you. Simple as that.”

— A quote misattributed to Eminem, but was actually a graduation speech by Robert Michaels, M.D.

“Happy holidays from the very gay, very liberal table sitting next to you. Jesus made me this way. P.S. Be accepting of your family.”

—Natalie Woods on a receipt she paid for a couple in the next booth who was “disgusted” upon discovering that their “liberal” nephew had come out as gay, and that they would pray for the nephew to be “cured.”

“Where do we go from here?

We only have one way to go, and that’s forward. We must find a way to defeat evil and find a way that, for generations to come, no one will forget what happened here.”

— Pulse Nightclub owner Barbara Poma at a six-month memorial of the massacre

“And while there is no timeline, I am committed to rebuilding Pulse Nightclub in a new location and to creating another place where members of the LGBTQ community can again have a place where they can be themselves. That’s what Pulse was and shall be again.”

— Pulse Nightclub owner Barbara Poma concluded

“Today is six months since the Pulse tragedy. I am so proud that we haven’t been defined by hate. We’ve been defined by love and compassion.”

— Orlando Mayor Buddy Dyer

“We will never forget what happened here 6 months ago or the 49 lost.

Love defeats hate.

Light conquers darkness. #OrlandoUnited” —Orlando Police Department tweet on the 6th anniversary of the Orlando Pulse massacre

“To love another person, is to see the face of God” - Victor Hugo

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who’s your daddy

Win/Win New Year's resolutions

BY CHRISTOPHER KATIS

The gym

I attend was open for half a day on Thanksgiving. My work had less to do with dedication to fitness and more to do with wanting to keep my perfect attendance record — never underestimate the power of OCD. I was surprised at how crowded it was, but I didn’t recognize anyone.

None of the people I see every weekday morning were there.

That made me think: 2017 is just around the corner, and I suspect I’m going to see a whole cast of new faces at the gym — at least for a couple of weeks until they abandon their New Year’s Resolution. After all, studies show nine out of 10 people fail to keep resolutions.

Only one person turns their resolution into a new habit.

Since I’ve always been pretty good about keeping my resolutions (thanks, again OCD), I’ve decided to suggest some resolutions to people who would really benefit from some self-improvement.

PRESIDENT-ELECT DONALD TRUMP: Quit flipping out every time Saturday Night Live spoofs you. It’s only going to make them do it more! And while you’re at it, make friends with some gay people; they’ll help you with your spray tan and that horrible hair.

VICE PRESIDENT-ELECT MIKE PENCE: Stop being such a jerk to LGBT people and our families. Reparative therapy is a crock. It’s dangerous and makes you look like an idiot.

SENATOR ORRIN HATCH: Keep your promise. You know,

the one you made back in 1976 to serve only two terms. Yeah.

Time to keep that promise.

GOVERNOR GARY HERBERT AND ATTORNEY GENERAL SEAN REYES: End your penchant for wasting taxpayer money trying to defend unconstitutional anti-gay legislation. You guys spent well over $1 million fighting for a ban on same-sex marriage that a first-year law student could have told you would be ruled unconstitutional. Don’t repeat your folly by wasting the taxpayers’ hard-earned money by trying to defend a stupid trans* bathroom ban.

REP. LAVAR CHRISTENSEN: Get a new hobby. It looks like you won re-election by a handful of votes — literally.

Read between the lines: your constituents think you’re goofy. You’re obsessed with gay people; that unhealthy obsession makes you write stupid legislation like Amendment 3 and your attempts to define a family as a mom, dad and kids.

Why not give the homophobia a rest and take up knitting instead this year?

FUNDAMENTALIST “CHRISTIANS:” Start living those tenets you claim are so darn important to you. Jesus advocated love, compassion and acceptance. Yet you guys elected the racist, self-absorbed, homophobic dick wads headed to the White House. See the disconnect?

THE SUTHERLAND INSTITUTE: Try to see the happiness in life. You guys are an enor-

mous drag. The 21st century is a very different place than the 18th century, and our country’s Constitution should reflect a modern society. Otherwise, African Americans are only 3/5 of a person and voting is limited to land-owning white men.

Wait, you probably agree with both those ideas, don’t you?

GAYLE RUZICKA/UTAH EAGLE FORUM: Reassess your priorities. Are my marriage and my family really so threatening to you? I mean compared to a Zombie Apocalypse are we

really that scary? Maybe you should reassess your priorities.

Which is more important to you: clean air for your grandchildren to breath and a topnotch and affordable healthcare system to save their lives, or a couple of married gay guys minding their own business raising their kids?

Think of what a great year 2017 will be if just one of my suggested resolutions becomes a habit. I’d call that a win/win.

Happy Holidays, everybody! Q

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2017 — Shift

BY CHARLES LYNN FROST

I’m sure

there are plenty of people who read QSaltLake that may be feeling similar or exactly how I am feeling. What the hell is next?

Are we really going to hit a drastic reset button for our country? Was 2016 truly the most significant year of change we will face in many of our lifetimes? What

do I do now, now that I am exhausted, worn out, have lost almost all trust I have for all people who possess power over the direction of the world, country, state, cities, and my life?

I have guarded my involvement in conversations, social media, broadcast news, and newspapers as a sheer coping strategy, but 2016 will most definitely loom as the year that everything changed, turned, became horribly disordered. I really don’t have any masterful answers or solutions, other than remain as involved as your soul can manage. I also refer to my LOS, or Life Operating System in really challenging times such as 2016. I lived through all the years of mission statements, values clarification, mantras, etc., however I have found

what works for me — my L.O.S. I won’t go into detail of my L.O.S. or manifesto, but rather share how important I think having one is — especially in times like these.

What is a manifesto? Literally speaking, your manifesto is a declaration of your life principles. It’s what makes you tick — what is important to you beyond the Facebook profile description. It may not necessarily reflect how you view yourself right now. You may be experiencing challenges in your career, relationships, and self-esteem, but your manifesto is not these issues — it’s the person you are underneath them.

Your manifesto is about realizing your deeper self. It’s about figuring out who is the real you—the man or woman beneath 

creep of the month

Betsy DeVos

BY D’ANNE WITKOWSKI

School

sux,

amirite, guys? Pencils, books, teachers’ dirty looks. Ugh. Who needs it?

I mean, the very idea of public education funded by tax dollars sprang from the mind of some lunatic named Thomas Jefferson, who I’m pretty sure is best known for “moving on up to a deluxe apartment in the sky.”

Not to mention public education’s biggest flaw: it isn’t driven by profit. I mean, who is getting rich off of this scheme? And if nobody’s getting rich, then what’s the point?

Which is why I’m so excited that Donald Trump has tapped Betsy DeVos, super mega zillionaire and major hater of public schools, to head the Department of Education.

Now, if you live in Michigan you probably already know DeVos (not personally, because you are probably a peasant she’d never talk to). The DeVos family fortune comes from Amway, the direct marketing company that hawks vitamins, make-up and household cleaning agents. You know, that shit your crazy cousin sells and is always trying to get you to sell, too, but

insists is not a pyramid scheme.

The DeVos family, which basically owns the GOP in Michigan, has been kicking public education in the groin for years in the Great Lakes State, pushing for public education dollars to be funneled into religious, charter and for-profit schools instead. Betsy and her family are big fans of vouchers, which parents could use toward tuition at a school that won’t teach your kid to read, but will teach your kid that Jesus used to ride on dinosaurs.

But why do so many right-wing conservatives hate public school so much?

Because public school is the perfect mix of right-wing triggers like government (always incompetent!) taxes (always bad!), unions (always thugs!), thinking (always dangerous!), and the separation of church and state (not a thing!).

Not to mention the fact that the federal gov’ment wants to protect LGBTQ kids.

The Education Department’s Office of Civil Rights under President Obama is doing things like fighting anti-LGBTQ discrimination and advocating that trans students be treated like human beings.

Now DeVos is not such a big fan of LGBTQ folks. In 2004, Betsy and her husband Dick were major players in the successful effort to get an anti-gay marriage amendment into Michigan’s constitution.

They donated $200,000 to the effort.

The DeVos family has given lots of money to rabidly anti-gay groups like the National Organization for Marriage, Focus

on the Family, Heritage Foundation and the Family Research Council, of which Betsy’s father is a founding member.

The reason why the “public” part of education is so crucial is that it is supposed to be free for all children. Dismantling the public school system would mean leaving the most vulnerable to fend for themselves. And LGBTQ students are in that category.

“True educational equity requires schools that serve the most at-risk students, including students of color; students with disabilities; lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer and/or questioning students; and English-language learners,” GLSEN Executive Director Eliza Byard said in a statement. “Vouchers and tuition tax credits do not advance this cause. As we have seen over the past eight years, federal civil rights oversight of education is essential to ensure that all students in this country have real access to opportunity.”

DeVos claims she wants all kids to have a good education. Unfortunately, what she’s unleashed in Michigan is absolutely not accomplishing that.

But hey, maybe DeVos won’t totally strangle public schools and squash all efforts to make life easier and education better for LGBTQ students. Unfortunately, the signs are bad at this point. Q D’Anne Witkowski is a poet, writer and comedian living with her wife and son. She has been writing about LGBT politics for over a decade. Follow her @MamaDWitkowski.

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the veneer. The person that’s aching to be seen and brought into the light. It is your best self on display for the world to see.

A long-time friend of mine, Scott Perry and I went to lunch awhile back, and we were discussing ever many important and vital things, along with several laughs, which Scott always offers me in abundance. I am grateful for that. I challenged Scott to write a manifesto, since he was struggling for direction in many aspects of his life. He wrote one, a very good one, and I have obtained his permission to share it with you.

SCOTT PERRY “As the years go on, I am creating stronger and more loving bonds with my family.

Some of them are happening after 40 years of work. Others have been there all along. I try to be the best son and brother I can by listening and giving advice when asked. I will also try to mentor my nieces and nephews who are coming up the line.

Friends come and friends go. I will nurture the friendships worth nurturing and let go of those which are not. It’s about quality, not quantity.

Creativity is a must. I believe at all times there must be at least one thing to keep my creative juices flowing, whether reading, writing or Oscar movie season. It has to be something.

Physical fitness has always been a sticking point for me. I will try to get more walks in at the park. It’s good not only for my physical being, but for my emotional and spiritual being, too. Liberty Park is my church and I can’t let that connection slide.

I will vote. I cannot sit by and watch as the anger, fear, neglect, and greed continue to invade what my version of our country should be.

Hard as it will be, I will need to watch my finances more closely. As I will soon be on a fixed income, there will be no fail safe to bail me out when I get carried away.

I need to cook more. I used to be a whirl in the kitchen, but the past few years of setbacks have taken that joy and opportunity away. I need to pick up that sauté pan and get back to business.

All in all, life has been very good to me. I have had a few kicks in the gut, but I’m still here. I will continue to express gratitude every chance I get and never forget the people and experiences that have helped me along the way.”

Thank you Scott for sharing so freely.

Manifestos in Zion may be attached to The “1890 Manifesto” (also known as the “Woodruff Manifesto” or the “Anti-polygamy Manifesto”) is a statement which officially advised against any future plural marriage in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. The Communist Manifesto by Karl Marx and Friedrich Engels (the word is right there in the name!), another powerful manifesto, that may cause trepidation by some people because it was the guide for Communism. However the manifesto has had a resurgence in the last decade, and I personally feel it is an effective inter-generational tool that can make a huge difference in life.

Here are some other diverse links offering excellent examples manifestos; Ten Awesome Inspirational Manifestos — bit.ly/manifestoOne Ten More Insanely Awesome Inspirational Manifestos — bit.ly/manifestoTwo Five Manifestos for Art, Life and Business — bit.ly/manifestoThree How and Why to Write Your Own Personal Manifesto — bit.ly/manifestoFour Simply put, a manifesto is a statement of ideals and intentions.

“A manifesto functions as both a statement of principles and a bold, sometimes rebellious, call to action. By causing people to evaluate the gap between those principles and their current reality, the manifesto challenges assumptions, fosters commitment, and provokes change.”

Here’s how to write your own manifesto in five steps:

GET INSPIRED. Read what others have written. Check out this links above to get you started, but don’t feel that you have to conform to any of these examples. This is your personal manifesto, so copying someone else kind of defeats the purpose.

MAKE NOTES. Your manifesto has three basic components: beliefs, goals, and wisdom. Grab a notebook and write “I believe...” at the top of a blank page, then think of five or ten ways to complete the statement. On the next page, write “I want to...” and fill in the blanks with ways that you’d change the world. Finally, write “I know this to be true...” and record words of wisdom.

These can be things you’ve learned from your own experience, wisdom passed down from your family, or even inspirational quotes.

WRITE A ROUGH DRAFT. Using the notes you made, create a rough draft of your manifesto. It can be as long or as short as it needs to be. You can write in long, flowing paragraphs, or you can make a bullet list like architect Frank Lloyd Wright’s manifesto (bit.ly/manifestoThree) for his apprentices. You could even create an infographic-style manifesto if you’re a visually inclined person. Don’t worry about impressing your significant other, your parents, your best friend, or the fourth grade teacher who criticized your penmanship.

PUT IT AWAY, THEN PROOFREAD. Once you’ve written the draft version, set it aside for a day or two. Resist the urge to tinker with it! When you come back to it with fresh eyes, you may find that some of the statements don’t ring quite true. While you’re rereading, you’ll probably also find some typos. If proofreading isn’t your forte, try using an automated proofreader.

LIVE IT. A personal manifesto is a declaration of your core values. It’s like an owner’s manual for your life, so don’t let it sit in a drawer or a file you never open on your computer. Hang it over your work-space, put it on the fridge, make it your desktop background, or print it on a laminated card you keep in your wallet: the idea is to read your manifesto regularly to reaffirm those values and remind you of your goals. Let it grow along with you as you go forth to follow your dreams!

Times in life — when you will be very glad you have a manifesto; • When you are afraid of change.

• When you feel disappointed about a failure.

• After a break-up.

• When it’s time to let go.

• When you feel overwhelmed by everything in your life.

2017 faces us, and all of us face it. So, define and focus on your strengths. Figure out your values. Consider your passions.

What breaks your heart? How do you want others to see you? What are you afraid of revealing or admitting? What fears, failures, and life experiences have shaped you? Having a manifesto to hold on to, to guide you—will make the future manageable. Best wishes, and if you wish to share your manifesto, I would love to read it. Q

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SPECIAL ENGAGEMENTS

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Equal parts community organizer, Elizabethan fool and bedazzled bon vivant, TAYLOR MAC has created internationally award-winning performance events that at once provoke and embrace his diverse audience. Mac is beloved for his iconic beauty, disarming vulnerability, and soaring spirit. Drawing from his current project, A 24 Decade History of Popular Music, which includes an epic performance over 24 continuous hours, this show will kick off MLK Week on the UofU campus and feature songs from 1946-1976, from the Civil Rights Movement to the Stonewall Riots.

Mac, will join acclaimed choreographer Bill T. Jones in a free lecture to discuss their careers in the arts and why the arts are essential to social justice and activism on the following Tuesday.

LAN CUMMING IN PARK CITY

Park City Institute’s traditional New Year’s Eve show features the penultimate master of ceremonies Alan Cumming. The Scottish and American actor is perhaps best known for his Tony award-winning role in Broadway’s “Cabaret” as well as his portrayal of the shady spin doctor/campaign manager on CBS’s “The Good Wife.

George S. & Dolores Dore Eccles Center for the Performing Arts, 1750 Kearns Boulevard, Park City. Tickets $48–189, parkcity.institute

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VE WINTERFEST. Salt Lake City comes to life with EVE WinterFest, a multi-day celebration with concerts, DJs, grown-up drinks and engaging activities for kids and families. Discover everything that downtown has to offer from Dec. 26–31 with one all-access pass. Save $5 on multi-day passes at America First Credit Union.

Downtown Salt Lake. Tickets $10–25 at eveslc.com

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LUB TRY-ANGLES will have their traditional New

Year’s Eve celebration, complete with a ham dinner, confetti cannons, champagne toast and maybe, just maybe, a ton of silly string. The party is a blast, pun intended.

We are just glad we don’t have to clean up the mess.

Doors at 6pm. $10 cover includes dinner. Club Try-Angles, 251 W Harvey Milk Blvd (900 South), clubtry-angles.com

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AM is now 10 years old and

rings in not only the new year, but a new decade. DJ Hollister will be pumpin’ up the Jam and drag shows will be performed all night. A cash drop happens at midnight, so wait to kiss until you filled up your pockets.

Doors at 8pm, $7 cover after 10:30pm. Club Jam, 751 N 300 West. jamslc.com

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NE80 AND Paul Sanchez Presents celebrate New Year’s Eve Eve on Dec 30 — Diamonds & Bowties Pre NYE Bash - DJ’s Jpan & Eddy V with performance

by Gia Bianca Stephens, brought to you by Patron & Corona ONE80, 180 W 400 South, 801.900.7499 Guestlist@PaulSanchezPresents.com

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SATURDAY — TAYLOR MAC: A 24-DECADE HISTORY OF POPULAR MUSIC: 1946–1976

7:30pm Kingsbury Hall, 1395 Presidents Cir., Tickets $5–25, utahpresents.org/events/taylor-mac/

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TUESDAY — TAYLOR MAC & BILL T. JONES LECTURE — HUMANITIES AND FINE ARTS

7:30pm Kingsbury Hall, 1395 Presidents Cir., Free, utahpresents.org/ events/taylor-mac-bill-t-jones/

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FRIDAY — KATHY GRIFFIN

Kathy recently released her much-anticipated second book, “Kathy Griffin’s Celebrity Run-Ins: My A-Z Index,” an A-Z compendium of the celebrities she’s met over the years and the outrageous, charming and sometimes bizarre anecdotes only she can tell about them. Salt Lake is one of her first stope in a 50-city standup tour under the same moniker.

8pm, Eccles Theater, Delta Performance Center, 131 S. Main St, .

Tickets $25–85, artsaltlake.org

THEATRE

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TUESDAY — KINKY BOOTS

Broadway’s huge-hearted, high-heeled hit! With songs by Cyndi Lauper, this joyous musical celebration is about the friendships we discover, and the belief that you can change the world when you change your mind.

Inspired by true events, KINKY BOOTS takes you from a gentlemen’s shoe factory in Northampton to the glamorous catwalks of Milan.

Through Jan 22, Delta Hall at the George S. and Dolores Doré Eccles Theater, 131 S Main St, times vary. Tickets $30–85, artsaltlake.org

DEC 20

TUESDAY — HEDWIG & THE ANGRY INCH

Eccles Theater, Delta Performance Center, 131 S. Main St, times vary, through Dec. 24. Tickets $30-70, artsaltlake.org

UPCOMING EVENTS JAN. 19-29, 2017 Sundance Film Festival, sundance.org FEB. 2-5 Mamma Mia!, artsaltlake.org JUNE 20–25 Dirty Dancing, artsaltlake.org AUG. 1-20,The Book of Mormon, artsaltlake.org

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book review

BY TERRI SCHLICHENMEYER

Game Changers: The Unsung Heroines of Sports History

TICKETS: 801-581-7100 UTAHPRESENTS.ORG

BY MOLLY SCHIOT C.2016, SIMON & SCHUSTER | $25 | 310 PAGES

You can’t bear to look at the score.

Whatever it is, it’s going to be close. Both sides are playing well today, and they’re all very talented. Your team might win. They might lose. Or, as in the new book “Game Changers” by Molly Schiot, they might alter the way the whole thing’s played.

Growing up, Schiot says, “I thought only men could be champions.” Most popular sports-themed movies indicated as much; so did TV before cable. Few tales of women in sports were widely known, so Schiot, a Hollywood director, searched until she found a “treasure trove of images” that “inspired me to pull theses stories out of the dark.”

Take the story of Alice Marble.

Marble was a Grand Slam championship tennis winner many times over, but her “post-tennis life” was equally remarkable: shortly after losing both her husband and her baby, Marble became a spy for the Allies during World War II. Althea Gibson was the first tennis player to break the color barrier at the U.S. Open.

But did you know that there were a lot of African American women who fought on the courts before her: Ruth Harris, Lillian Hardy, Alfreda Jackson, Clementine Redmond…?

Of course, this book includes athletes like Billy Jean King, Babe Didrikson Zaharaias, Nadia Comaneci, Renée Richards, and Diana Nyad. You’ve heard about them, but you may not know that Olympian Abby Hoffman masqueraded as a boy when she was nine years old, in order to play hockey in Canada.

You may not know about the abuse the first female pro-baseball umpire got during ump school, the jeers the first female Boston Marathon runner endured, or the record snatched from Kitty O’Neil. You might have seen an in-your-face move by skater Surya Bonaly, but you don’t know what bullfighter Conchita Cintrón did, or that Negro League baseballer Toni Stone cheekily befriended prostitutes while on the road. Because of what an autopsy revealed, you might not know about Stella Walsh at all.

Wow, are there a lot of surprises inside “Game Changers.” Q

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A 24-DECADE HISTORY OF POPULAR MUSIC: 1946-1976

In Partnership with the Office for Equity and Diversity

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The greatest theatrical feat ever...

—OUT 100 2016

Mac gave me one of the great experiences of my life. I’ve slept on it, and I’m sure.

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—The New York Times

Nancy Peery Marriott

Alice and Kevin Steiner

Donna and Michael Weinholtz

Queer guide to

Our annual guide to the Sundance Film Festival in Park City January 19–29, including competition and non-competition films and events.

Titles in pink have LGBT content, and people in pink are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or otherwise queer.

Dramatic U.S. DRAMATIC COMPETITION BAND AID U.S.A. (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: ZOE LISTER-JONES)

A couple who can’t stop fighting embark on a last-ditch effort to save their marriage: turning their fights into songs and starting a band.

CAST: ZOE LISTER-JONES, ADAM PALLY, FRED ARMISEN, SUSIE ESSMAN, HANNAH SIMONE, RAVI PATEL WORLD PREMIERE

BEACH RATS U.S.A. (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: ELIZA HITTMAN)

An aimless teenager on the outer edges of Brooklyn struggles to escape his bleak home life and navigate questions of self-identity, as he balances his time between his delinquent friends, a potential new girlfriend, and older men he meets online.

CAST: HARRIS DICKINSON, MADELINE WEINSTEIN, KATE HODGE, NEAL HUFF WORLD PREMIERE

BRIGSBY BEAR

CROWN HEIGHTS

U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: DAVE MCCARY, SCREENWRITERS: KEVIN COSTELLO, KYLE MOONEY)

U.S.A. (DIR /SCREENWRTR: MATT RUSKIN)

Brigsby Bear Adventures is a children’s TV show produced for an audience of one: James. When the show abruptly ends, James’s life changes forever, and he sets out to finish the story himself.

When Colin Warner is wrongfully convicted of murder, his best friend, Carl King, devotes his life to proving Colin’s innocence. Adapted from This American Life, this is the incredible true story of their quest for justice.

CAST: KYLE MOONEY, CLAIRE DANES, MARK HAMILL, GREG KINNEAR, MATT WALSH, MICHAELA WATKINS WORLD PREMIERE

BURNING SANDS

BEACH RATS U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: GERARD MCMURRAY, SCREENWRITERS: CHRISTINE BERG, GERARD MCMURRAY)

Deep into a fraternity’s Hell Week, a favored pledge is torn between honoring a code of silence or standing up against the intensifying violence of underground hazing.

CAST: TREVOR JACKSON, ALFRE WOODARD, STEVE HARRIS, TOSIN COLE, DERON HORTON, TREVANTE RHODES WORLD PREMIERE

CAST: KEITH STANFIELD, NNAMDI ASOMUGHA, NATALIE PAUL, BILL CAMP, NESTOR CARBONELL, AMARI CHEATOM WORLD PREMIERE

GOLDEN EXITS U.S.A. (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: ALEX ROSS PERRY)

The arrival of a young foreign girl disrupts the lives and emotional balances of two Brooklyn families.

CAST: EMILY BROWNING, ADAM HOROVITZ, MARY-LOUISE PARKER, LILY RABE, JASON SCHWARTZMAN, CHLOË SEVIGNY WORLD PREMIERE

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mother, she begins to develop an obsession with Alice, an enigmatic, and much older, white-collar criminal.

U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: BRETT HALEY, SCREENWRITERS: HALEY, MARC BASCH)

Lee, a former Western film icon, is living a comfortable existence lending his golden voice to advertisements and smoking weed. After receiving a lifetime achievement award and unexpected news, Lee reexamines his past, while a chance meeting with a sardonic comic has him looking to the future.

CAST: SAM ELLIOTT, LAURA PREPON, KRYSTEN RITTER, NICK OFFERMAN, KATHERINE ROSS WORLD PREMIERE

I DON’T FEEL AT HOME IN THIS WORLD ANYMORE U.S.A. (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: MACON BLAIR)

When a depressed woman is burglarized, she finds a new sense of purpose by tracking down the thieves, alongside her obnoxious neighbor.

But they soon find themselves dangerously out of their depth against a pack of degenerate criminals.

CAST: MELANIE LYNSKEY, ELIJAH WOOD, DAVID YOW, JANE LEVY, DEVON GRAYE WORLD PREMIERE. DAY ONE

CAST: JASNA FRITZI BAUER, ARLY JOVER, MAVIE HÖRBIGER, LAURA TONKE, HANS LÖW, BERNHARD SCHÜTZ WORLD PREMIERE

BERLIN SYNDROME AUSTRALIA (DIRECTOR: CATE SHORTLAND, SCREENWRITER: SHAUN GRANT)

NOVITIATE

NOVITIATE

WALKING OUT

U.S.A. (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: MAGGIE BETTS)

U.S.A. (DIRECTORS AND SCREENWRITERS: ALEX SMITH, ANDREW SMITH)

In the early ’60s, during the Vatican II era, a young woman training to become a nun struggles with issues of faith, sexuality and the changing church.

A father and son struggle to connect on any level until a brutal encounter with a predator in the heart of the wilderness leaves them both seriously injured. If they are to survive, the boy must carry his father to safety.

CAST: MARGARET QUALLEY, MELISSA LEO, JULIANNE NICHOLSON, DIANNA AGRON, MORGAN SAYLOR WORLD PREMIERE

PATTI CAKE$ U.S.A. (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: GEREMY JASPER)

Straight out of Jersey comes Patricia Dombrowski, a.k.a. Killa P, a.k.a. Patti Cake$, an aspiring rapper fighting through a world of strip malls and strip clubs on an unlikely quest for glory.

CAST: DANIELLE MACDONALD, BRIDGET EVERETT, SIDDHARTH DHANANJAY, MAMOUDOU ATHIE, CATHY MORIARTY WORLD PREMIERE

ROXANNE ROXANNE U.S.A. (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: MICHAEL LARNELL)

INGRID GOES WEST

INGRID GOES WEST U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: MATT SPICER, SCREENWRITERS: MATT SPICER, DAVID BRANSON SMITH)

A young woman becomes obsessed with an Instagram lifestyle blogger and moves to Los Angeles to try and befriend her in real life.

CAST: AUBREY PLAZA, ELIZABETH OLSEN, O’SHEA JACKSON JR, WYATT RUSSELL, BILLY MAGNUSSEN WORLD PREMIERE

LANDLINE U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: GILLIAN ROBESPIERRE, SCREENWRITERS: ELISABETH HOLM, GILLIAN ROBESPIERRE)

Two sisters come of age in ’90s New York when they discover their dad’s affair, and it turns out he’s not the only cheater in the family. Everyone still smokes inside, no one has a cell phone and the Jacobs finally connect through lying, cheating and hibachi.

CAST: JENNY SLATE, JOHN TURTURRO, EDIE FALCO, ABBY QUINN, JAY DUPLASS, FINN WITTROCK WORLD PREMIERE

The most feared battle emcee in early-’80s NYC was a fierce teenager from the Queensbridge projects with the weight of the world on her shoulders. At age 14, hustling the streets to provide for her family, Roxanne Shanté was well on her way to becoming a hip-hop legend.

CAST: CHANTÉ ADAMS, MAHERSHALA ALI, NIA LONG, ELVIS NOLASCO, KEVIN PHILLIPS, SHENELL EDMONDS WORLD PREMIERE

CAST: MATT BOMER, JOSH WIGGINS, BILL PULLMAN, ALEX NEUSTAEDTER, LILY GLADSTONE WORLD PREMIERE

THE YELLOW BIRDS U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: ALEXANDRE MOORS, SCREENWRITER: DAVID LOWERY)

Two young men enlist in the army and are deployed to fight in the Gulf War. After an unthinkable tragedy, the surviving soldier struggles to balance his promise of silence with the truth and a mourning mother’s search for peace.

CAST: TYE SHERIDAN, JACK HUSTON, ALDEN EHRENREICH, JASON PATRIC, TONI COLLETTE, JENNIFER ANISTON WORLD PREMIERE

WORLD CINEMA DRAMATIC COMPETITION Twelve films from emerging filmmaking talents around the world offer fresh perspectives and inventive styles.

A passionate holiday romance takes an unexpected and sinister turn when an Australian photographer wakes one morning in a Berlin apartment and is unable to leave.

CAST: TERESA PALMER, MAX RIEMELT WORLD PREMIERE

CARPINTEROS (WOODPECKERS) DOMINICAN REPUBLIC (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: JOSÉ MARÍA CABRAL)

Julián finds love and a reason for living in the last place imaginable: the Dominican Republic’s Najayo Prison.

His romance with fellow prisoner Yanelly must develop through sign language and without the knowledge of dozens of guards.

CAST: JEAN JEAN, JUDITH RODRIGUEZ PEREZ, RAMÓN EMILIO CANDELARIO WORLD PREMIERE

DON’T SWALLOW MY HEART, ALLIGATOR GIRL! BRAZIL, NETHERLANDS, FRANCE, PARAGUAY (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: FELIPE BRAGANÇA)

In this fable about love and memories, Joca is a 13-year-old Brazilian boy in love with an indigenous Paraguayan girl. To

TO THE BONE U.S.A. (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: MARTI NOXON)

In a last-ditch effort to battle her severe anorexia, 20-year-old Ellen enters a group recovery home.

With the help of an unconventional doctor, Ellen and the other residents go on a sometimes-funny, sometimesharrowing journey that leads to the ultimate question IS LIFE WORTH LIVING?

Cast: Lily Collins, Keanu Reeves, Carrie Preston, Lili Taylor, Alex Sharp, Liana Liberato WORLD PREMIERE

AXOLOTL OVERKILL

AXOLOTL OVERKILL GERMANY (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: HELENE HEGEMANN)

Mifti, age 16, lives in Berlin with a cast of characters including her half-siblings; their rich, self-involved father; and her junkie friend Ophelia.

As she mourns her recently deceased

conquer her love, he must face the violent region’s war-torn past and the secrets of his elder brother, Fernando, a motorcycle cowboy.

CAST: CAUÃ REYMOND, EDUARDO MACEDO, ADELI GONZALES, ZAHY GUAJAJARA, CLAUDIA ASSUNÇÃO, NEY MATOGROSSO WORLD PREMIERE

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FAMILY LIFE CHILE (DIRECTORS: ALICIA SCHERSON, CRISTIÁN JIMÉNEZ, SCREENWRITER: ALEJANDRO ZAMBRA)

While house-sitting for a distant cousin, a lonely man fabricates the existence of a vindictive ex-wife withholding his daughter, in order to gain the sympathy of the single mother he has just met.

CAST: JORGE BECKER, GABRIELA ARANCIBIA, BLANCA LEWIN, CRISTIÁN CARVAJAL WORLD PREMIERE

FREE AND EASY HONG KONG (DIRECTOR: JUN GENG, SCREENWRITERS: JUN GENG, YUHUA FENG, BING LIU)

When a traveling soap salesman arrives in a desolate Chinese town, a crime occurs, and sets the strange residents against each other with tragicomic results.

CAST: GANG XU, ZHIYONG ZHANG, BAOHE XUE, BENSHAN GU, XUN ZHANG WORLD PREMIERE

CAST: IA SHUGLIASHVILI, MERAB NINIDZE, BERTA KHAPAVA, TSISIA QUMSISHVILI, GIORGI TABIDZE, DIMITRI ORAGVELIDZE WORLD PREMIERE

THE NILE HILTON INCIDENT SWEDEN (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: TARIK SALEH)

In Cairo, weeks before the 2011 revolution, Police Detective Noredin is working in the infamous Kasr elNil Police Station when he is handed the case of a murdered singer. He soon realizes that the investigation concerns the power elite, close to the President’s inner circle.

CAST: FARES FARES, MARI MALEK, MOHAMED YOUSRY, YASSER ALI MAHER, AHMED SELIM, HANIA AMAR WORLD PREMIERE

POP AYE SINGAPORE, THAILAND (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: KIRSTEN TAN)

On a chance encounter, a disenchanted architect bumps

THE WOUND

THE WOUND SOUTH AFRICA (DIRECTOR: JOHN TRENGOVE, SCREENWRITERS: TRENGOVE, THANDO MGQOLOZANA, MALUSI BENGU)

Xolani, a lonely factory worker, travels to the rural mountains with the men of his community to initiate a group of teenage boys into manhood. When a defiant initiate from the city discovers his best-kept secret, a forbidden love, Xolani’s entire existence begins to unravel.

CAST: NAKHANE TOURÉ, BONGILE MANTSAI, NIZA JAY NCOYINI WORLD PREMIERE

Documentary U.S. Documentary Competition

GOD’S OWN COUNTRY U.K. (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: FRANCIS LEE)

Springtime in Yorkshire: isolated young sheep farmer Johnny Saxby numbs his daily frustrations with binge drinking and casual sex, until the arrival of a Romanian migrant worker, employed for the lambing season, ignites an intense relationship that sets Johnny on a new path.

CAST: JOSH O’CONNOR, ALEC SECAREANU, IAN HART, GEMMA JONES WORLD PREMIERE

MY HAPPY FAMILY GEORGIA (DIRECTORS: NANA & SIMON, SCREENWRITER: NANA EKVTIMISHVILI)

Tbilisi, Georgia, 2016: In a patriarchal society, an ordinary Georgian family lives with three generations under one roof. All are shocked when 52-yearold Manana decides to move out from her parents’ home and live alone.

Without her family and her husband, a journey into the unknown begins.

into his long-lost elephant on the streets of Bangkok. Excited, he takes his elephant on a journey across Thailand in search of the farm where they grew up together.

CAST: THANETH WARAKULNUKROH, PENPAK SIRIKUL, BONG WORLD PREMIERE. DAY ONE

SUEÑO EN OTRO IDIOMA (I DREAM IN ANOTHER LANGUAGE) MEXICO (DIRECTOR: ERNESTO CONTRERAS, SCREENWRITER: CARLOS CONTRERAS)

The last two speakers of a millenniaold language haven’t spoken in 50 years, when a young linguist tries to bring them together. Yet hidden in the past, in the heart of the jungle, lies a secret concerning the fate of the Zikril language.

CAST: FERNANDO ÁLVAREZ REBEIL, ELIGIO MELÉNDEZ, MANUEL PONCELIS, FÁTIMA MOLINA, JUAN PABLO DE SANTIAGO, HOZE MELÉNDEZ WORLD PREMIERE

Sixteen world-premiere American documentaries that illuminate the ideas, people and events that shape the present day.

CASTING JONBENET U.S.A., AUSTRALIA (DIRECTOR: KITTY GREEN)

The unsolved death of six-year-old American beauty queen JonBenet Ramsey remains the world’s most sensational child murder case. Over 15 months, responses, reflections and performances were elicited from the Ramsey’s Colorado hometown community, creating a bold work of art from the collective memories and mythologies the crime inspired WORLD PREMIERE

CHASING CORAL U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: JEFF ORLOWSKI)

Coral reefs around the world are vanishing at an unprecedented rate.

A team of divers, photographers and scientists set out on a thrilling ocean adventure to discover why and to reveal the underwater mystery to the world WORLD PREMIERE. NEW CLIMATE

CITY OF GHOSTS U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: MATTHEW HEINEMAN)

With unprecedented access, this documentary follows the extraordinary journey of “Raqqa is Being Slaughtered Silently” — a group of anonymous citizen journalists who banded together after their homeland was overtaken

by ISIS — as they risk their lives to stand up against one of the greatest evils in the world today WORLD PREMIERE

DINA U.S.A. (DIRECTORS: DAN SICKLES, ANTONIO SANTINI)

An eccentric suburban woman and a Walmart door-greeter navigate their evolving relationship in this unconventional love story WORLD PREMIERE

DOLORES U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: PETER BRATT)

Dolores Huerta bucks 1950s gender conventions by co-founding the country’s first farmworkers’ union.

Wrestling with raising 11 children, gender bias, union defeat and victory, and nearly dying after a San Francisco Police beating, Dolores emerges with a vision that connects her newfound feminism with racial and class justice WORLD PREMIERE

THE FORCE U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: PETE NICKS)

This cinema verité look at the longtroubled Oakland Police Department goes deep inside their struggles to confront federal demands for reform, a popular uprising following events in Ferguson and an explosive scandal WORLD PREMIERE

ICARUS U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: BRYAN FOGEL)

When Bryan Fogel sets out to uncover the truth about doping in sports, a chance meeting with a Russian scientist transforms his story from a personal experiment into a geopolitical thriller involving

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dirty urine, unexplained death and Olympic Gold exposing the biggest scandal in sports history WORLD PREMIERE

THE NEW RADICAL U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: ADAM BHALA LOUGH)

Uncompromising millennial radicals from the United States and the U.K. attack the system through dangerous technological means, which evolves into a high-stakes game with world authorities in the midst of a dramatically changing political landscape WORLD PREMIERE

NOBODY SPEAK: HULK HOGAN, GAWKER AND TRIALS OF A FREE PRESS U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: BRIAN KNAPPENBERGER)

The trial between Hulk Hogan and Gawker Media pitted privacy rights against freedom of the press, and raised important questions about how big money can silence media.

This film is an examination of the perils and duties of the free press in an age of inequality WORLD PREMIERE

QUEST U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: JONATHAN OLSHEFSKI)

For over a decade, this portrait of a North Philadelphia family and the creative sanctuary offered by their home music studio was filmed with vérité intimacy. The family’s 10-year journey is an illumination of race and class in America, and it’s a testament to love, healing and hope WORLD PREMIERE

STEP U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: AMANDA LIPITZ)

The senior year of a girls’ high school step team in inner-city Baltimore is documented, as they try to become the first in their families to attend college. The girls strive to make their dancing a success against the backdrop of social unrest in their troubled city WORLD PREMIERE

STRONG ISLAND U.S.A., DENMARK (DIR: YANCE FORD)

TROPHY U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: SHAUL SCHWARZ, CODIRECTOR: CHRISTINA CLUSIAU)

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This in-depth look into the powerhouse industries of big-game hunting, breeding and wildlife conservation in the U.S. and Africa unravels the complex consequences of treating animals as commodities WORLD PREMIERE. NEW CLIMATE

UNREST U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: JENNIFER BREA)

When Harvard PhD student Jennifer Brea is struck down at 28 by a fever that leaves her bedridden, doctors tell her it’s “all in her head.”

Determined to live, she sets out on a virtual journey to document her story and four other families’ stories fighting a disease medicine forgot

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WATER & POWER: A CALIFORNIA HEIST U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: MARINA ZENOVICH)

In California’s convoluted water system, notorious water barons find ways to structure a state-engineered system to their own advantage.

This examination into their centers of power shows small farmers and everyday citizens facing drought and a new, debilitating groundwater crisis

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WHOSE STREETS? U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: SABAAH FOLAYAN, CODIRECTOR: DAMON DAVIS)

A nonfiction account of the Ferguson uprising told by the people who lived it, this is an unflinching look at how the killing of 18-year-old Michael Brown inspired a community to fight and sparked a global movement.

WORLD PREMIERE. DAY ONE

World Cinema Documentary Competition Twelve documentaries by some of the most courageous and extraordinary international filmmakers working today.

Examining the violent death of the filmmaker’s brother and the judicial system that allowed his killer to go free, this documentary interrogates murderous fear and racialized perception, and re-imagines the wreckage in catastrophe’s wake, challenging us to change

In a small Bulgarian village troubled by the ongoing refugee crisis, a local postman runs for mayor and learns that even minor deeds can outweigh good intentions.

WORLD PREMIERE

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MACHINES

IRELAND, SPAIN (DIRECTORS: NEASA NÍ CHIANÁIN, DAVID RANE)

INDIA, GERMANY, FINLAND (DIRECTOR: RAHUL JAIN)

John and Amanda teach Latin, English and guitar at a fantastical, stately home-turned-school. Nearly 50-year careers are drawing to a close for the pair who have become legends with the mantra: “Reading! ’Rithmetic! Rock ’n’ roll!” But for pupil and teacher alike, leaving is the hardest lesson.

This intimate, observant portrayal of the rhythm of life and work in a gigantic textile factory in Gujarat, India, moves through the corridors and bowels of the enormously disorienting structure taking the viewer on a journey of dehumanizing physical labor and intense hardship.

NORTH AMERICAN PREMIERE

N. AMERICAN PREMIERE / NEW CLIMATE

IT’S NOT YET DARK

MOTHERLAND

IRELAND (DIRECTOR: FRANKIE FENTON)

U.S.A., PHILIPPINES (DIR: RAMONA DIAZ)

This is the incredible story of Simon Fitzmaurice, a young filmmaker who becomes completely paralyzed from motor neurone disease but goes on to direct an award-winning feature film through the use of his eyes.

The planet’s busiest maternity hospital is located in one of its poorest and most populous countries: the Philippines. There, poor women face devastating consequences as their country struggles with reproductive health policy and the politics of

INTERNATIONAL PREMIERE

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U.K., CANADA (DIRECTOR: KYOKO MIYAKE)

U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: STEPHEN JACOBSON, SCREEN: ELLEN STRINGER, JACOBSON)

This exploration of Japan’s fascination with girl bands and their music follows an aspiring pop singer and her fans, delving into the cultural obsession with young female sexuality and the growing disconnect between men and women in hypermodern societies

An amateur electronic-drum enthusiast travels to a housewares trade show looking to strike up the perfect business partnership. When things don’t go as planned, he’s at the mercy of the electronic drumbeat playing in his head.

WORLD PREMIERE

WINNIE FRANCE (DIRECTOR: PASCALE LAMCHE)

While her husband served a life sentence, paradoxically kept safe and morally uncontaminated, Winnie Mandela rode the raw violence of apartheid, fighting on the front line and underground. This is the untold story of the mysterious forces that combined to take her down, labeling him a saint, her, a sinner WORLD PREMIERE

THE WORKERS CUP U.K. (DIRECTOR: ADAM SOBEL)

Inside Qatar’s labor camps, African and Asian migrant workers building the 2022 World Cup facilities compete in their own football tournament WORLD PREMIERE. DAY ONE

Shorts JOSHUA: TEENAGER VS. SUPERPOWER

conservative Catholic ideologies

U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: JOE PISCATELLA)

PLASTIC CHINA

When the Chinese Communist Party backtracks on its promise of autonomy to Hong Kong, teenager Joshua Wong decides to save his city. Rallying thousands of kids to skip school and occupy the streets, Joshua becomes an unlikely leader in Hong Kong and one of China’s most notorious dissidents.

WORLD PREMIERE

WORLD PREMIERE

CHINA (DIRECTOR: JIU-LIANG WANG)

Yi-Jie, an 11-year-old girl, works alongside her parents in a recycling facility while dreaming of attending school. Kun, the facility’s ambitious foreman, dreams of a better life.

Through the eyes and hands of those who handle its refuse, comes an examination of global consumption and culture.

LAST MEN IN ALEPPO

INT’L PREMIERE. NEW CLIMATE

DENMARK (DIRECTORS: FERAS FAYYAD, STEEN JOHANNESSEN)

RUMBLE: THE INDIANS WHO ROCKED THE WORLD

After five years of war in Syria, Aleppo’s remaining residents prepare themselves for a siege. Khalid, Subhi and Mahmoud, founding members of The White Helmets, have remained in the city to help their fellow citizens and experience daily life, death, struggle and triumph in a city under fire WORLD PREMIERE

CANADA (DIRECTOR: CATHERINE BAINBRIDGE)

This powerful documentary about the role of Native Americans in contemporary music history featuring some of the greatest music stars of our time exposes a critical missing chapter, revealing how indigenous musicians helped shape the soundtracks of our lives and, through their contributions, influenced popular culture WORLD PREMIERE

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U.S. NARRATIVE SHORT FILMS AMERICAN PARADISE U.S.A. (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: JOE TALBOT)

A desperate man in Trump’s America tries to shift his luck with the perfect crime in this story inspired by true events.

CECILE ON THE PHONE U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: ANNABELLE DEXTERJONES, SCREENWRITERS: ANNABELLE DEXTER-JONES, ELLEN GREENBERG)

Overwhelmed by doubt and confusion after her ex-boyfriend’s return to New York, Cecile embarks on a series of telephone conversations that serve only to distract her from the one conversation she really needs to have.

COME SWIM

HOLD ON U.S.A. (DIR/SCREEN: CHRISTINE TURNER)

Family bonds are tested when a young man is left to care for his grandmother one morning.

HOT SEAT U.S.A. (DIR/SCREEN: ANNA KERRIGAN)

Teenaged Andrea uses a male stripper to gain the respect and admiration of cool girl Daphne in this exploration of coming-of-age sexuality and teen girls’ complex relationships, based on a true story.

I KNOW YOU FROM SOMEWHERE U.S.A. (DIR/SCREEN: ANDREW FITZGERALD)

A young woman incurs the wrath of the internet after she inadvertently becomes a viral sensation.

KAIJU BUNRAKU U.S.A. (DIRECTORS: LUCAS LEYVA, JILLIAN MAYER, SCREENWRITER: LUCAS LEYVA)

Here’s a day in the life of a husband and wife living in a world of giant monsters.

LAPS U.S.A. (DIR/SCREEN: CHARLOTTE WELLS)

On a routine morning, a woman on a crowded New York City subway is sexually assaulted in plain sight.

LOSTFOUND U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: SHAKTI BHAGCHANDANI, SCREENWRITERS: SHAKTI BHAGCHANDANI, EMRE GULCAN)

This story portrays a day in the life of a woman in the Nation of Islam.

LUCIA, BEFORE AND AFTER U.S.A. (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: ANU VALIA)

After traveling 200 miles, a young woman waits out Texas’s statemandated 24-hour waiting period before her abortion can proceed.

NEW NEIGHBORS

U.S.A. (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: KRISTEN STEWART)

U.S.A. (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: E.G. BAILEY)

This is a diptych of one man’s day, half impressionist and half realist.

How far will a mother go to protect her children?

GOOD CRAZY

NIGHT SHIFT

U.S.A. (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: ROSA SALAZAR)

U.S.A. (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: MARSHALL TYLER)

A complex chick deals with a vanilla beau, a shitty brunch and a dead coyote all in a Los Angeles day.

Get a glimpse into a day in the life of a bathroom attendant in a Los Angeles nightclub.

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THE GENEVA CONVENTION

U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: LIZZY SANFORD, SCREEN: SANFORD, ANNA CORDELL)

FRANCE (DIR/SCREEN: BENOIT MARTIN)

After a painful dry spell, a woman attempts to have a one-night stand.

SHINAAB U.S.A. (DIR/SCREEN: LYLE CORBINE)

A young Anishinaabe man struggles with his place in the inner city of Minneapolis.

TORU U.S.A. (DIRECTORS AND SCREENWRITERS: JONATHAN MINARD, SCOTT RASHAP)

An infant’s life is transformed by a new technology.

INTERNATIONAL NARRATIVE SHORT FILMS 5 FILMS ABOUT TECHNOLOGY CANADA (DIR/SCREEN: PETER HUANG)

Take a satirical look at the dumber side of technology.

AND SO WE PUT GOLDFISH IN THE POOL. JAPAN (DIR/SCREEN: MAKOTO NAGAHISA)

One summer day, 400 goldfish were found in the swimming pool of a secondary school. This is a story about the four 15-year-old girls who put them there.

AND THE WHOLE SKY FIT IN THE DEAD COW’S EYE CHILE, U.S.A. (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: FRANCISCA ALEGRÍA)

Emeteria is visited by the ghost of her patrón, Teodoro. She believes he has come to take her to the afterlife BUT HE HAS MORE DEVASTATING NEWS.

DADYAA / THE WOODPECKERS OF ROTHA NEPAL, FRANCE (DIR/SCREEN: POOJA GURUNG, BIBHUSAN BASNET)

Atimaley and Devi’s village is haunted by memories. When a dear friend leaves the village without saying goodbye, the old couple faces a dilemma: keep living with the memories or leave the village?

DAWN OF THE DEAF U.K. (DIR/SCREEN: ROB SAVAGE)

When a strange sound wipes out the hearing population, a small group of deaf people must band together to survive.

DEAR MR. SHAKESPEARE

As Hakim is waiting for the bus after class, he is caught in a vendetta between teenagers. He’s not keen to be involved, but can he avoid it?

HEAT POLAND (DIR/SCREEN: AGATA TRZEBUCHOWSKA, MATEUSZ PACEWICZ)

A young boy does an unusual favor for a friend, assuming his identity to visit his senile grandmother. The woman takes him for a walk, and tells him about the biggest mystery of her life.

KAO SHI (A TEST) CHINA (DIR/SCREEN: ZUXIANG ZHAO)

Days before the college entrance exam, teacher Chen Jun finds out that the father of his most promising student has died in a mining accident. Telling him or not bears heavy consequences.

MAPPAMUNDI AUSTRIA (DIR/SCREEN: BADY MINCK)

Through the eyes of cosmic cartographers, the viewer takes a voyage through 950 million years of Earth history and 15,000 years of cartography.

MARE NOSTRUM FRANCE, SYRIAN ARAB REPUBLIC (DIRECTORS: RANA KAZKAZ, ANAS KHALAF, SCREENWRITER: RANA KAZKAZ)

On a Mediterranean shore, a Syrian father makes a decision that puts his daughter’s life at risk.

PEDRO PORTUGAL (DIR/SCREEN: ANDRÉ SANTOS, MARCO LEÃO)

Pedro gets home at dawn. Before the young boy falls asleep, his lonely mother drags him to the beach.

SLAPPER AUSTRALIA (DIRECTOR: LUCI SCHRODER, SCREEN: LUCI SCHRODER, SAM WEST)

A broke and rebellious teen hustles money for the morning-after pill before it’s too late.

WHAT TEARS US APART FRANCE (DIR/SCREEN: WEI HU)

A Chinese couple visits the daughter they gave up for adoption 30 years ago. Language barriers become apparent and the birth mother’s hidden emotions rise to the surface.

DOCUMENTARY SHORTs ALONE

U.K. (DIRECTOR: SHOLA AMOO, SCREENWRITER: PHOEBE BOSWELL)

U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: GARRETT BRADLEY)

An exploration of Shakespeare’s intentions when writing Othello explores the play’s racial themes in historical and contemporary settings.

Investigation into mass incarceration and its shaping of the modern black American family seen through the eyes of a single New Orleans mother.

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JONAS AND THE SEA

NIGERIA (DIR: IFUNANYA MADUKA)

NETHERLANDS (DIRECTOR: MARLIES VAN DER WEL, SCREENWRITERS: RUBEN PICAVET, MARLIES VAN DER WEL)

In 2014, 276 teenage girls came together for exams in Nigeria. By dawn, nearly all had disappeared, and their school was burned to the ground. Jessica, an escapee, shares her haunting account of a friendship violently interrupted by Boko Haram.

In 1977, immigration divides Britain.

What happens when a punk fanzine challenges the status quo?

FRANCE, HUNGARY (DIRECTOR AND SCREENWRITER: RÉKA BUCSI)

THE BALD FUTURE FRANCE (DIR/SCREEN: PAUL CABON)

MY FATHER’S TOOLS CANADA (DIRECTOR: HEATHER CONDO)

Walter Naegle’s boyfriend, Bayard Rustin, was a famous civil rights activist 30 years Walter’s senior. In the 1980s, Bayard decided to adopt Walter for legal protection. This love story is about a time when gay marriage was inconceivable.

Stephen continues producing traditional baskets to honor his father and thus finds peace in his studio as he connects with the man who taught him the craft.

CLOSE TIES POLAND (DIR: ZOFIA KOWALEWSKA)

Barbara and Zdzislaw will soon celebrate their 45th anniversary despite their constant bickering, and the fact that Zdzislaw spent eight of those years living with another woman.

DEER SQUAD: THE MOVIE U.S.A. (DIRECTORS: PIPUS LARSEN, KENNETH GUG, SCOTT J. ROSS)

Kelvin Peña, a charismatic 17-year-old from rural Pennsylvania, shares his story of going viral after befriending a group of wild deer in his backyard.

THE DIVER MEXICO (DIR: ESTEBAN ARRANGOIZ)

Julio César Cu Cámara is the chief diver in the Mexico City sewer system who repairs pumps and dislodges garbage that flows into the gutters.

FISH STORY U.K. (DIRECTOR: CHARLIE LYNE)

Behind a fishy tale lies this search for the truth.

HAIRAT ETHIOPIA (DIRECTOR: JESSICA BESHIR)

A visual and lyrical exploration of the nightly ritual of a man in Eastern Ethiopia and his feral companions.

LEGAL SMUGGLING WITH CHRISTINE CHOY U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: LEWIE KLOSTER)

Documentary filmmaker Christine Choy undergoes an adventure of wild proportions when she accidentally smuggles cigarettes.

PROJECT X U.S.A. (DIRECTORS: LAURA POITRAS, HENRIK MOLTKE)

A top secret handbook takes viewers on an undercover journey to the site of a hidden partnership. Based on NSA documents, this film reveals the inner workings of a windowless skyscraper in Manhattan.

THE RABBIT HUNT U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: PATRICK BRESNAN)

On the weekends during the harvest season, 17-year-old Chris and his family hunt rabbits in the sugarcane fields of the Florida Everglades.

TEN METER TOWER SWEDEN (DIRECTORS: MAXIMILIEN VAN AERTRYCK, AXEL DANIELSON)

People who have never been up a 10-meter diving tower must choose whether to jump or climb down in this entertaining study of people in a vulnerable position.

TOUGH U.K. (DIRECTOR: JENNIFER ZHENG)

New light is shed on childhood cultural misunderstandings when a Chinese mother and her British-born daughter speak as adults for the first time. Some things can only be understood with maturity.

VISIONS OF AN ISLAND U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: SKY HOPINKA)

Indigenous and foreign presences coexist on an Alaskan island in the center of the Bering Sea. THE NEW CLIMATE

THE LAUGHING SPIDER JAPAN (DIRECTOR: KEIICHI TANAAMI)

U.K. (DIRECTOR: RUBIKA SHAH)

ANIMATED SHORT FILMS BAYARD & ME

Jonas has dreamed of living in the sea all his life, but it’s impossible. Or is it?

The early childhood memory of aerial attacks leaves a lasting impression, with strong stimulus and disquiet.

WHITE RIOT: LONDON

U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: MATT WOLF)

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Being a bald man sucks. Knowing you’ll become one is worse.

BLACK HOLES U.S.A., FRANCE (DIR/SCREEN: DAVID NICOLAS, LAURENT NICOLAS)

Dave is about to lead the first mission to Mars when he’s teamed up with a sentient melon, who claims to be the reincarnation of a fashion designer, upstaging his big moment and driving him to the brink of madness.

BROKEN — THE WOMEN’S PRISON AT HOHENECK GERMANY (DIRECTORS: VOLKER SCHLECHT, ALEXANDER LAHL, SCREENWRITERS: ALEXANDER LAHL, MAX MÖNCH)

This animated documentary about Hoheneck, the main women’s prison in former East Germany, is based on original interviews with former inmates.

It’s a film about political imprisonment, forced labor and enormous profits on both sides of the Iron Curtain.

DRAWN & RECORDED: TEEN SPIRIT U.S.A. (DIR: DREW CHRISTIE, SCREENWRITERS: CHRISTIE, BILL FLANAGAN)

This is the story behind one of the most iconic songs ever written, animated in the style of a pop-up book.

HOW’S YOUR PROSTATE? FRANCE (DIRECTORS: JEANNE PATURLE, CÉCILE ROUSSET, SCREENWRITERS: PATURLE, ROUSSET, CÉCILE MILLE)

One friend tells the other about the very strange time when, beside a swimming pool, she learned about her father’s prostate, his erectile function and his nighttime fantasies.

IT’S A DATE U.S.A. (DIR/SCREEN: ZACHARY ZEZIMA)

This film explores miscommunication, perceptions and vulnerability in the modern world. Everyone is an alien at first.

LOVE Haiku-like situations reveal the changing atmosphere on a planet caused by a meteoric impact in a distant solar system. Inhabitants become one with each other.

NIGHTHAWK SLOVENIA, CROATIA (DIRECTOR: ŠPELA ČADEŽ, SCREEN: GREGOR ZORC, ČADEŽ)

Attempting to remove an unresponsive badger from a dark road, a police patrol soon realizes that the animal is not dead but rather dead drunk.

NUTAG / HOMELAND CANADA (DIR/SCREEN: ALISI TELENGUT)

This hand-painted visual poem explores the ideas of diaspora, homeland and the mass deportations of the Kalmyk people during WWII.

SUMMER CAMP ISLAND U.S.A., S KOREA (DIR/SCREEN: JULIA POTT)

Oscar and his best friend, Hedgehog, just got dropped off at summer camp. Once the parents leave the island, the strangeness lurking beneath the surface is revealed aliens exist, horses become unicorns and there are monsters under the bed.

TRUMPET MAN HONG KONG (DIR/SCREEN: EMILY WONG)

A turntable springs out a woman named Avocado; her instinct creates a man called Soul. Passion swings both, and an uncertain madness strikes Soul heavily.

VICTOR & ISOLINA U.S.A. (DIRECTOR: WILLIAM CABALLERO)

Creatively visualized through 3D printing, two elderly Latinos embark on a resonating he said/she said account of the events that led them to live separately after more than 50 quirky and stressful years together.

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Internet where pornography, dating apps and virtual relationships are all just a click away. The Festival will debut one episode of the series, followed by an extended Q&A with Rashida Jones.

THE CHANCES DIRECTOR: ANNA KERRIGAN, CREATORS: JOSH FELDMAN, SHOSHANNAH STERN

Non-competition films PREMIERS CALL ME BY YOUR NAME ITALY-FRANCE / DIRECTOR: LUCA GUADAGNINO, SCREENWRITERS: JAMES IVORY, LUCA GUADAGNINO

The sensitive and cultivated Elio, only child of the American-ItalianFrench Perlman family, is facing another lazy summer at his parents’ villa in the beautiful and languid Italian countryside when Oliver, an academic who has come to help with Elio’s father’s research, arrives.

CAST: ARMIE HAMMER, TIMOTHÉE CHALAMET, MICHAEL STUHLBARG, AMIRA CASAR, ESTHER GARREL, VICTOIRE DU BOIS.

THIS IS EVERYTHING: GIGI GORGEOUS DIRECTOR: BARBARA KOPPLE

Are there limits to your love for your family? One family’s acceptance is tested when a champion diver, destined for the Olympics, announces he’s transitioning into a woman — and invites his YouTube followers along for every moment. It’s a story about unconditional love and finding the courage to be yourself.

MIDNIGHT THE LITTLE HOURS U.S.A. (DIR, SCREEN: JEFF BAENA)

A young servant fleeing his master takes refuge at a dysfunctional convent in medieval Tuscany.

CAST: ALISON BRIE, DAVE FRANCO, KATE MICUCCI, AUBREY PLAZA, JOHN C REILLY, MOLLY SHANNON WORLD PREMIERE DAY ONE

PUSSY POLAND (DIR: RENATA GASIOROWSKA)

Alone at home one evening, a young girl decides to have a solo pleasure session, but not everything goes according to plan.

XX DIRECTORS AND SCREENWRITERS: ANNIE CLARK, KARYN KUSAMA, ROXANNE BENJAMIN, JOVANKA VUCKOVIC

This all-female horror anthology features four dark tales from four fiercely talented women.

CAST: NATALIE BROWN, MELANIE LYNSKEY, BREEDA WOOL, CHRISTINA KIRK.

DOCUSERIES HOT GIRLS WANTED: TURNED ON DIRECTOR: RASHIDA JONES, “WOMEN ON TOP,” EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS: RASHIDA JONES, RONNA GRADUS, JILL BAUER, PETER LOGRECO

An extension of the feature documentary “Hot Girls Wanted,” which premiered at Sundance in 2015, this Netflix series tells personal stories about people whose lives are affected by the explosion of the

Best friends Kate and Michael, who are deaf, try their best to see their friendship through new changes in their lives, as Kate adjusts to being newly married and Michael attempts to get over his ex-boyfriend. The Festival will debut five episodes of this short-form episodic series.

CAST: JOSH FELDMAN, SHOSHANNAH STERN, AARON COSTA GANIS, LUCAS NEAR-VERBRUGGHE, DARRYL STEPHENS, WILSON CRUZ.

STRANGERS DIRECTORS: MIA LIDOFSKY, CELIA ROWLSON-HALL, PRODUCERS: MICHAEL B. CLARK, ALEX TURTLETAUB, JESSE PERETZ, MIA LIDOFSKY

Newly single and bisexual Isobel rents out her spare room in a last ditch effort to keep the home she loves. Along with her lesbian best friend, she navigates the most complicated time in her life — emotionally, sexually, and professionally — while sharing her home with a new stranger each episode. The Festival will debut the first three episodes of this shortform episodic series.

CAST: ZOË CHAO, MEREDITH HAGNER, JEMAINE CLEMENT, BREEDA WOOL, MATTHEW OBERG, SHIRI APPLEBY.

GENTE-FIED U.S.A. (CREATOR: MARVIN LEMUS, PRODUCERS: CHARLES D. KING, AALIYAH WILLIAMS, AMERICA FERRERA)

Seven characters deal with the effects of change in LA’s Boyle Heights. Bicultural millennials and oldschool business owners hustle to create spaces that celebrate their Latino identities—even while faced with rent hikes, a housing crisis, and a steady stream of outsiders threatening to gentrify their barrio.

The Festival will debut three episodes of this short- form episodic series. CAST: EDSSON MORALES, ALICIA SIXTOS, VICTORIA ORTIZ, YARELI ARIZMENDI, SALVADOR VELEZ JR, RAFAEL SIGLER. WORLD PREMIERE

I LOVE DICK U.S.A. (DIRECTORS: JILL SOLOWAY, ANDREA ARNOLD, KIMBERLY PEIRCE, EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS: JILL SOLOWAY, SARAH GUBBINS, ANDREA SPERLING, VICTOR HSU)

Chris and Sylvere, a married couple in the intellectual community of Marfa, Texas, become obsessed with a charismatic artist named Dick. What follows is the unraveling of a marriage, the deification of a reluctant messiah and the awakening of the female gaze. The Festival will present the first three episodes of this Amazon original series, followed by an extended Q&A. CAST: KEVIN BACON, KATHRYN HAHN, GRIFFIN DUNNE, ROBERTA COLINDREZ, INDIA MENUEZ, PHOEBE ROBINSON. WORLD PREMIERE

OUT OF EXILE: DANIEL’S STORY U.S.A. (ARTIST: NONNY DE LA PEÑA)

In August 2014, Daniel Ashley Pierce’s family verbally and physically accosted him before kicking him out of the house because they disapproved of his sexuality. Built directly around audio Daniel recorded from that encounter, this project includes thoughts of hope and triumph from Daniel and three other LGBTQ youth.

CAST: DANIEL ASHLEY PIERCE, KYLE WILLS, JULENE RENEE, CYNTIA DOMENZAIN, ANGEL VANSTARK, PHOEBE VANCLEEFE.

WHAT IF U.S.A. (ARTIST: ROSEMARIE TROCHE, KEY COLLABORATOR: BRUCE ALLAN)

A conflicted Christian man carries out a mass shooting. In his past: a same-sex hookup and self-loathing.

What if events had unfolded differently? What if his partner had convinced him to face himself?

Could that simple act change the course of history?

CAST: ZACHARY BOOTH, MITCHELL WINTER.

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Having His Cake and Eating It Too Joe Jonas on ‘fun’ gay rumors, Barbra Streisand fandom and the pleasures of S&M

BY CHRIS AZZOPARDI

Why is

Joe Jonas talking about whips and leather?

Apart from recalling his experience with both, the answer is simply because he can.

Because the former baby-faced JoBro is all man now, from his 5 o’clock shadow to his steel physique, which he’s not been shy about showing off.

While making the promotional rounds for his debut as lead singer of Los Angeles-formed collective DNCE, the newly liberated 27-year-old hasn’t merely shifted away from the much-publicized “purity ring” of his youth, taking on a kinky array of topics including porn, boners and penis size — he’s erased its very existence.

Like younger brother Nick, middle sibling Joe wasn’t done destroying any traces of his Disney halo when he freewheeled through our recent talk. Read on as he chats about his fondness for S&M, gay fans who send him pics of their privates and preferring an “older, mature” man play his hypothetical onscreen lover.

It’s been surprising to hear you talk so salaciously while promoting this album. But then again, I keep forgetting you’re not 17 anymore. (Laughs) A lot of people do!

What about your current professional life differs from your career as a Jonas Brother?

The biggest difference is the writing. I’m proud of the stuff I did with my brothers, but you grow up and go through a lot of different things, so you may be talking about something very innocent — a first kiss, taking somebody out for the first time — when you’re that age. But cut to when you’re 27, and you’re going through things that are a bit more mature, sexually or what not, and that’s what you’re gonna write about.

maybe [we] busted some outfits out — you know, you get a little crazy. It’s a fun song, and I hope people can have fun with it and learn from it.

A song from your new album, “Be Mean,” is essentially about S&M. Tell me about your decision to be so sexually liberated in your music. Some people say, “We finally can talk about these kinds of things, and we want to go wild and crazy,” but really, it’s just stuff we’re going through. I feel like I’m free in my life to speak about it, and yeah, everyone should try a little bit of something new in the bedroom. It’s definitely fun when you bring some whips and leather and whatever you may be into — a little bit of S&M — into the bedroom.

I wrote it about me and someone I was getting wild with, and

Were there moments before when people were trying to guide you to be something different than who you felt you were? I would say “yeah” to that. Yes, because it may have been subconscious; it could just be friends you’ve surrounded yourself with, or on a deeper level it could be music people around you saying, “This is the right direction for you, and this is where you should go next.”

I remember when I did a short run of a solo project [2011’s Fastlife, released on Disney Music Group’s Hollywood Records], all signs were pointing to a very R&B, smooth, sexy vibe for an album, and I listened without taking time for myself to really utilize influences that I love. I learned from it, but at the same time, it was jarring.

But I feel really comfortable in my life and career right now. I definitely feel like the best version of myself, and I’m glad I can have a good label now that allows me to spread my wings and create music that really is, for all of us [in the band], unique and special.

What do you want them to learn? (Laughs) Well... I would love for them to learn that it’s good to try new things.

Maybe you should teach them, Joe. I’ll do a handbook.

Have your brother, Nick, write the foreword.

Exactly. I expect you to be one of the reviewers.

Another change: Your body. What inspired the muscles? I wanted a change of pace and to put myself through a challenge. It’s easy to eat junk food and party every night on tour, so I put myself through a season where I challenged myself physically, and I really enjoyed it. There were days that were tough, but seeing your body slowly changing, you just want to keep on it. I had a trainer on tour with me — this amazing boxer Ava Knight — and she came out and busted my ass, and I was really enjoying it.

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Has your beefier body gotten you more attention from gay men? I think so! Probably, yeah. I’m seeing it just through DMs. It’s quite funny. But I take it as a compliment.

It’s cool. At the end of the day, for me, it goes back to the music, and DNCE has done a lot of cool concerts, like Pride shows. We have a lot of gay fans, and we love that they’re so supportive, so hey, if that makes them happy, it’s all good.

What do gay men DM you? I bet you could take a wild guess. (Laughs) It’s all over the map, from selfies to you-know-what. It’s funny, too, because you can’t really tell what people are sending because everything now is blurred out, and I like to read some of the DMs and hear stories. But, of course, sometimes there are crazy ones, and it’s just straight nudity. You have to just find something good in it — or laugh, depending on what it is.

I have to say, few things are making me feel optimistic about the current state of America, but your album is one of them. Oh, man.

Thanks! You know, honestly, that’s what we’re all about: taking people out of a place they don’t wanna be in and bringing some joy to a situation.

Why is it important for you and the band to perform at Pride events or, like you did recently, at a club like G-A-Y in London? In the world we live in now more than ever, it’s especially important that, like you said, our music can take you out of that.

I think, what is a better time than now for everyone coming together and being stronger together, whatever your thoughts are on the election? It can be a heartache for some. I think for DNCE we try to bring some joy to you and happiness and share the love, and that’s what it’s all about for us. If we can put a smile on your face, that’s what’s important to us. And look, our gay fans are awesome and we want to give back in every way we can, so we’re putting on shows for them.

How have you been processing the election outcome? I’ve been able to see a lot of different viewpoints. What I mean is, I just presented at the Glamour Women of the Year event, and it was a pretty somber

crowd, obviously. Toward the end, there was a bit of hope. Bono actually won Man of the Year, and he said it best when he was like, I shouldn’t even be up here, but now more than ever, men and women should be uniting and coming together. It was interesting to see how they’re handling it, but for me, personally, I was bummed. Now, it’s time to come together, and there’s going to be some positive things hopefully. It may suck, but I love this country and I think that’s what it’s about.

There are several videos online of paparazzi chasing you down and asking if you’re gay.

Why do people think you’re gay? I don’t know the real answer to it. I don’t have an issue with it. I think it’s a compliment. I have a lot of gay fans. It’s not like it bothers me. Some people handle it differently, but at the end of the day, I’m cool with it and think it’s kind of funny. You have to learn to laugh; people are gonna create a story out of anything.

You know, it’s probably because I’m in touch with my feminine side. Look, I love fashion; I love to dress well. I love certain things like that. And I have a lot of gay friends, as well, so that could probably point them in that direction. But again, the gay community is something that is close to my heart, so I don’t mind. Hey, if they wanna think I’m gay, it’s fun.

Reinforcing those rumors: the fact that you want to collaborate with Barbra Streisand.

Yeaaah! I love Barbra Streisand.

It’s so funny: Our stylist is like the biggest Barbra Streisand fan in the world, and it’s amazing because I always make sure we play the song “Barbra Streisand” when we walk in the room before a fitting.

Do you have a favorite Barbra album?

That’s tough to say. Look, I love theater as well. I had the opportunity to be on Broadway when I was younger, and I hope to be able to do it again one day. So, I would say the theatrical side of Barbra, I really love.

You’ve also dabbled in acting. If you ever followed in your brother Nick’s footsteps and played gay, who’s on your shortlist of male romantic interests? That’s a great question.

I’d say for sure Daniel Craig. I think Matthew McConaughey is a hunk of a man.

I’d have to go with George Clooney. Older, mature men.

What message do you hope to send to people who are reluctant to support LGBT issues?

Look, we’re all human. Some of the best friends in my life are gay, and we don’t look at each other any differently, and it’s not like there’s any separation of who we are as people. Love is love. And if you have a problem with that, then you can just get out of this world — first trip to the moon, first trip to space — because I honestly feel like life’s too short to worry about dumb things like that. People are people, and I’m gonna help out in any way I can. And what better time than now? Q Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate. He can proudly say Mariah Carey once called him a “daaahhhling.” He’s at chris-azzopardi.com and @chrisazzopardi on Twitter.

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Good Things Come to Those Who Are Megan Mullally ‘Will & Grace’ star on real-life lesbian advances, James Franco’s pubes and Karen Walker’s return

BY CHRIS AZZOPARDI

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back for Megan Mullally, who’s making a move to the big screen in Why Him? after a drove of indie roles, including gay-affirming mom Mrs. Van Camp in 2013’s G.B.F., and a variety of TV stints. But when it comes to the small screen, it’s the 58-year-old ­actress’ eight-year role on the groundbreaking late ’90s NBC sitcom Will & Grace, as quippy, martini-swigging socialite Karen Walker, that changed Mullally’s life as much as it changed ours.

So, honey, sit back and catch up on all things Mullally. She has a lot to say about that time a female coworker attempted to seduce her, crushing on “the gayest person in the world,” witnessing “100 percent” of James Franco’s butt crack and the likelihood of a Will & Grace reboot [spoiler alert: it’s very, very likely]

You’re saying he had a “why him?” moment?

Yeah… and then some.

Having you and James Franco in a movie together is basically a match made in gay heaven. He has quite the gay resume. That’s funny. I never thought about that! But yeah, totally.

On set, I guess you didn’t have a chance to compare your queer credentials. No, but I’m familiar with straight James, gay James, all of that. I mean, I know him. We got along very well, James and I. Maybe there was something in the air… the gays brought us together.

As someone I consider to be a guru of all things gay, were you able to determine what it is about James that appeals to the LGBT community? I think because he kind of flirts with them. (Laughs) I mean, he’s very cute. That doesn’t hurt.

There are a lot of gays who’d like to chat with you, so I feel very lucky. I love it. You can say, “Oh my god, she was really boring.”

And in the movie, shirtless. He’s also pantsless! His butt crack was 100 percent showing and, like, a little bit of pubes.

Why Him? centers on the awkward situation of bringing home someone your parents are likely to dislike. Have you ever brought a controversial boyfriend home to your parents? My first boyfriend in college, Brad. My father was an arch-conservative and Brad subscribed to the communist newspaper, so that was not cute. (Laughs) My father wasn’t too thrilled about Brad.

What was it like shooting those scenes? Um, it wasn’t horrible. I was actually a little embarrassed when I walked on the set the first time and was like, “Oh my. Wow. OK.” [Sings Bing Crosby] “Getting to know youuuuu.” So yeah, that happened.

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You were raised in Oklahoma City. Before you became immersed in the gay community through living in West Hollywood and star-

ring on Will & Grace, what was your introduction to it? Oh, that’s funny. A couple of things: I did my first summer stock musical when I was 12. I also did another summer stock when I was 14, and I had the biggest crush on this guy named Tommy who was in the ensemble and played a small part.

He was the cutest blonde boy in the world, and I just could not understand why he didn’t really pay very much attention to me. (Laughs) We were really good friends, always hanging out. But I was very naïve.

Later I was like, “Ohh, wait. Totally the gayest person in the world.”

Around that same era, there was a woman who was also somehow involved in this summer stock. She was gay, and I used to go to her apartment and she would get me high. I remember one time I fell out of the chair, I got so high. I, like, hobbled over out of the chair, and she thought it was hilarious. So yeah, she was gay and I thought, “Gosh, she really likes me,” and it dawned on me that she probably thought I was pretty cute, but she never made a pass at me.

Even later, when I was 20 or 21, I was doing this musical in Chicago. [Screenplay writer] Pat Resnick wrote the book to the musical, and we were doing it in Woodstock before we moved it into downtown Chicago. There was one night she and the other writers in the musical were all running house together and we were having a party. They said, “Pat wants to talk to you — she’s upstairs.” I go upstairs, and I was just wandering down the hall and there’s this open doorway, and there was nothing in the room but a mattress on the floor and a red lightbulb, and the light is on. So it’s a red light, and she’s laying on the mattress, and she wasn’t, you know, a knock-down, drag-down beauty or anything like that.

She literally patted the mattress and was like, “Sit down.” She said, “Megan, have you ever kissed a woman before?” And I was like, “No.” And she said, “Do you want to?”

And I said, “Nooo.”

But you have kissed a woman before, right?

I have. And I did like it. Maybe she tried to or something happened or I broke away.

She just wasn’t the one for me. (Laughs) Later, when it happened, I thought it was quite cute. Different situation, different girl. Better.

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you, what does it mean to hear stories from LGBT people who saw themselves being represented on a barrier-breaking TV show that cultivated visibility? Words can’t really describe what it means to me. All you really hope to do, if you’re a performer and if you’re not an asshole, if you’re coming from a really legitimate, sincere place, is to have a positive impact. So, to have been a part of a show that actually not only helped people come out to their parents, or to come out period, or to not to feel like they were alone — much less in the larger view and maybe, possibly even contributing to an awareness and an acceptance that has resulted in all the strides that have been made, especially gay marriage. I’m not saying Will & Grace is responsible for gay marriage (laughs); I’m saying that maybe there was an element that helped in some way.

When accepting other roles, did you ever say to yourself, “If it’s not as good as Karen, I’m not taking it”? Yeah, and it never is, but you have to work. I feel like I’m really lucky to have gotten a lot of the things that I’ve done since Will & Grace. I have Why Him?, but I also did four other indie movies this year that I really liked. Smaller parts.

And just a lot of weird TV shows I’ve done: Childrens Hospital and Party Down, and Gayle on Bob’s Burgers. Obviously, Parks and Rec. That role was sort of tailor-made specifically for me, which was great and so fun to do. I mean, rarely is [a role] at the level of a character like Karen, although I think Tammy on Parks and Rec is one of those great characters, and Gayle on Bob’s Burgers is a great character too. I mean, you don’t always get an eight-year run at it, and that makes a big difference too.

How many roles came your way that were just like Karen? I got offered a few, but obviously, I didn’t take any of them. They were just a shadow of somebody trying to write something like that, but I never really took any of those parts. I’ve tried to pick things that I think are well written, basically, and hope that the people involved are really nice and good at their jobs.

In September, the Will & Grace cast reunited on-screen for the first time in 10 years for an election-themed episode that received more than six million views on YouTube. And then, recently, you tweeted a pic of yourself and fellow Will & Grace stars Sean Hayes,

Eric McCormack and Debra Messing eating dessert. Is that what break looks like on the set of Will & Grace in 2016? That was actually over at Sean Hayes’ house, but, I mean... what are you asking me? (Laughs) I’m asking you if the show is coming back and if you’re working on new episodes. Well, OK. All I can say is that there is a very good chance that that might happen. It’s not happening right this second. I mean, we’re not rehearsing or anything like that. But there is a very good chance that something is going to materialize.

My heart wants to jump out of my body right now. I know. Mine too! But can’t really talk about it or say anything, because you know how it is.

How might a Will & Grace revival reflect the strides we’ve made in the LGBT community since the show’s original inception as well as the current political climate? So speaking theoretically, in a completely made-up world where Will & Grace is coming back to NBC for 10 episodes — just in that made-up world — it couldn’t be a better time. (Laughs) I mean, it couldn’t possibly be better timing. I think more so now than even when we started! And who would have ever — I mean, it’s heinous that it’s because Donald Trump is the president-elect. That’s just a crazy sentence that nobody would have ever thought they’d utter. But having said that, at the same time, that just gives us carte blanche.

I think the first rule of any show — and again, we’re speaking hypothetically — is that it be funny and entertaining. I mean, it’s comedy. If you’re doing a comedy, the first rule is that there be good comedy in that comedy show, so that’s the jumping off point. Then, from there — the show was always very topical. For eight seasons, extremely topical — so much so that [director] Jim Burrows was always telling the writers, “Honey, it’s crazy topical — it’s not gonna stand the test of time.” But I just think that’s what the show is. It’s a very topical, current show. We had a gay marriage on Will & Grace in 2000/2001. And I was like, gay marriage?! I mean, it was just really early.

Are you saying it was impossible to even think of the concept of gay marriage at the time? I was like, “Oh my god, I can’t believe it. You’re having two men get

married to each other — that is such a great idea.” Because it was just not happening! It wasn’t something! It wasn’t like every weekend, “Oh no, I’m sorry, I have another gay marriage to go to this weekend.” (Laughs) People just weren’t getting gay-married as much at that point. And the whole thrust of that episode was that they were gonna have a wedding even though it wasn’t recognized by any officiant. There wasn’t any paperwork involved. They were gonna get married and honor their relationship and celebrate their love for each other. It was such a beautiful episode.

People watching it must’ve been like, “Huh? Two gay people are having a wedding?” It was early! And the thing is, we had a gay marriage on the show, but it still has to be funny, and so that was one of the episodes where Jack and Karen have one of those famous slap fights. There was still a lot of funny stuff going on.

You were 40 years old when you played Karen on Will & Grace. Considering the amount of flak Hollywood gets for being ageist, what does fame feel like in your 40s, when most actresses would say they’d least expect it? Oh yeah, well, I don’t know because I think I’m a little anomalous in that I’ve always been a late bloomer in everything. I didn’t meet my husband [Nick Offerman] till I was 41, and I didn’t have that kind of career success till I was about that same age: 40, 41. A lot of things have come to me late in life, and it even applies to Why Him? I have gotten an actual part in a [major, big-screen] movie at the tender young age of 57! It’s all happening so fast!

Hope I don’t get into drugs. (Laughs) It’s just funny: I’ve always been a late bloomer, so that gives me eternal optimism, so I never feel like, “Oh, I’m gettin’ older; I guess everything is gonna stop.” I’m the opposite: “Oh, I’m just getting started.” I really feel like that, and also, I don’t really feel very much like a grown up, which is kind of a problem. (Laughs) I’m really starting to see the similarities between you and Karen Walker. (Laughs) That’s the thing that I really love about Karen — she has the ability to be very childlike and have a lot of joy. I think she’s a big optimist too, quite frankly. Q Chris Azzopardi is the editor of QSyndicate. Reach him via his website at chris-azzopardi.com and Twitter @chrisazzopardi

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food & drink

Lucky Foods for the New Year

BY LAUREN SALKELD

For many,

January 1 offers an opportunity to forget the past and make a clean start.

But instead of leaving everything up to fate, why not enjoy a meal to increase your good fortune? There are a variety of foods that are believed to be lucky and to improve the odds that next year will be a great one. Traditions vary from culture to culture, but there are striking similarities in what’s consumed in different pockets of the world: The six major categories of auspicious foods are grapes, greens, fish, pork, legumes, and cakes. Whether you want to create a full menu of lucky foods or just supplement your meal, we have an assortment of recipes, guaranteed to make for a happy new year, or at the very least a happy belly.

grapes before the last stroke of midnight, but Peruvians insist on taking in a 13th grape for good measure.

Cooked Greens Cooked greens, including cabbage, collards, kale, and chard, are consumed at New Year’s in different countries for a simple reason — their green leaves look like folded money, and are thus symbolic of economic fortune. The Danish eat stewed kale sprinkled with sugar and cinnamon, the Germans consume sauerkraut (cabbage) while in the southern United States, collards are the green of choice. It’s widely believed that the more greens one eats the larger one’s fortune next year.

Legumes

Grapes New Year’s revelers in Spain consume twelve grapes at midnight—one grape for each stroke of the clock. This dates back to 1909, when grape growers in the Alicante region of Spain initiated the practice to take care of a grape surplus. The idea stuck, spreading to Portugal as well as former Spanish and Portuguese colonies such as Venezuela, Cuba, Mexico, Ecuador, and Peru. Each grape represents a different month, so if for instance the third grape is a bit sour, March might be a rocky month.

For most, the goal is to swallow all the

Legumes including beans, peas, and lentils are also symbolic of money. Their small, seedlike appearance resembles coins that swell when cooked so they are consumed with financial rewards in mind. In Italy, it’s customary to eat cotechino con lenticchie or sausages and green lentils, just after midnight—a particularly propitious meal because pork has its own lucky associations. Germans also partner legumes and pork, usually lentil or split pea soup with sausage. In Brazil, the first meal of the New Year is usually lentil soup or lentils and rice, and in Japan, the osechi-ryori, a group of symbolic dishes eaten during the first three days of the new year, includes sweet black beans called kuro-mame.

In the Southern United States, it’s traditional to eat black-eyed peas or cowpeas in a dish called hoppin’ john. There are even those who believe in eating one pea for every day in the new year. This all traces back to the legend that during the Civil War,

the town of Vicksburg, Mississippi, ran out of food while under attack. The residents fortunately discovered black-eyed peas and the legume was thereafter considered lucky.

Pork The custom of eating pork on New Year’s is based on the idea that pigs symbolize progress. The animal pushes forward, rooting itself in the ground before moving.

Roast suckling pig is served for New Year’s in Cuba, Spain, Portugal, Hungary, and Austria—Austrians are also known to decorate the table with miniature pigs made of marzipan. Different pork dishes such as pig’s feet are enjoyed in Sweden while Germans feast on roast pork and sausages. Pork is also consumed in Italy and the United States, where thanks to its rich fat content, it signifies wealth and prosperity.

Fish Fish is a very logical choice for the New Year’s table. According to Mark Kurlansky, author of Cod: A Biography of the Fish that Changed the World, cod has been a popular feast food since the Middle Ages.

He compares it to turkey on Thanksgiving.

The reason? Long before refrigeration and modern transportation, cod could be preserved and transported allowing it to reach the Mediterranean and even as far as North Africa and the Caribbean. Kurlansky also believes the Catholic Church’s policy against red meat consumption on religious holidays helped make cod, as well as other fish, commonplace at feasts. The Danish eat boiled cod, while in Italy, baccalà, or dried salt cod, is enjoyed from Christmas through New Year’s. Herring, another frequently preserved fish, is consumed at

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midnight in Poland and Germany—Germans also enjoy carp and have been known to place a few fish scales in their wallets for good luck. The Swedish New Year feast is usually a smorgasbord with a variety of fish dishes such as seafood salad. In Japan, herring roe is consumed for fertility, shrimp for long life, and dried sardines for a good harvest (sardines were once used to fertilize rice fields).

balls of pasta dough fried and dusted with powdered sugar. Poland, Hungary, and the Netherlands also eat donuts, and Holland has ollie bollen, puffy, donut-like pastries filled with apples, raisins, and currants.

In certain cultures, it’s customary to hide a special trinket or coin inside the cake— the recipient will be lucky in the new year.

Mexico’s rosca de reyes is a ring-shaped cake decorated with candied fruit and

guests in order of age. Sweden and Norway have similar rituals in which they hide a whole almond in rice pudding—whoever gets the nut is guaranteed great fortune in the new year.

Cakes aren’t always round. In Scotland, where New Year’s is called Hogmanay, there is a tradition called “first footing,” in which the first person to enter a home after the new year determines what kind of year the residents will have. The “first footer” often brings symbolic gifts like coal to keep the house warm or baked goods such as shortbread, oat cakes, and a fruit caked called black bun, to make sure the household always has food.

What Not to Eat

Cakes, Etc. Cakes and other baked goods are commonly served from Christmas to New Year’s around the world, with a special emphasis placed on round or ring-shaped items. Italy has chiacchiere, which are honey-drenched

baked with one or more surprises inside. In Greece, a special round cake called vasilopita is baked with a coin hidden inside. At midnight or after the New Year’s Day meal, the cake is cut, with the first piece going to St. Basil and the rest being distributed to

In addition to the aforementioned lucky foods, there are also a few to avoid. Lobster, for instance, is a bad idea because they move backwards and could therefore lead to setbacks. Chicken is also discouraged because the bird scratches backwards, which could cause regret or dwelling on the past. Another theory warns against eating any winged fowl because good luck could fly away.

Now that you know what to eat, there’s one more superstition—that is, guideline— to keep in mind. In Germany, it’s customary to leave a little bit of each food on your plate past midnight to guarantee a stocked pantry in the New Year. Likewise in the Philippines, it’s important to have food on the table at midnight. The conclusion? Eat as much lucky food as you can, just don’t get too greedy—or the first place you’ll be going in the new year is the gym. Q

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Police Academy

BY KEITH TURNER [Trigger warning: domestic abuse]

Our

community has a difficult and sometimes violent relationship with police officers. A pivotal moment in our community was a series of confrontations with police officers at the Stonewall Inn. On the other hand, we have a complicated fetishized view of police that shows up in pornography and in BDSM groups.

The relationship has been muddled even more within the current political climate; police officers have become a highly volatile subject. What does the average citizen really know about the reality of being a police officer? The reality is often found in between these extremes.

soon forces the car door open. He drags her out of the car while hitting her. Amongst all the screaming, I hear her yell, “Lock the doors and stay in the car.”

My father drags her onto the lawn.

She curls up on the lawn with her hands wrapped around her head as my father continues hitting and yelling at her.

I sat in a locked car watching helplessly as my mother was beaten by my father.

She eventually escapes, running off to a neighbor’s house. My father ties to get into the car. I am too scared and refuse to unlock the doors. I am terrified.

Then, he picked up his motorcycle and drove off.

Within minutes a county sheriff arrives, walks up to the car, knocks on the window and asks me if I am okay.

I recently had the opportunity to participate in the Unified Police Department of Greater Salt Lake’s Citizen’s Police Academy. Through this experience, I learned firsthand some of the reality that police officers face each day. It also opened a place for healing old childhood wounds. I found myself better understanding my own emotional responses I would experience while interacting with police officers.

I am eleven or twelve. My father has come home for lunch. He has parked his motorcycle directly behind my mother’s car. We have a dentist appointment, my mother and I get into the car. She either forgets or does not know that the motorcycle is parked directly behind her car. Backing into it she knocks over the motorcycle. Momentarily we both look at each other in horror as we realize what has just happened.

My father runs out of the house, quickly makes his way to the driver’s side door of the car. A scuffle ensues as my father forces the door open and my mother is trying to re-shut and lock the door. He’s stronger and

He was a tall man when seen from the eyes of a child. I still see all but the details of his face clearly in my mind. Even that is probably stored somewhere in my memories.

[Author’s note: My father is a good person with his own issues like everyone else.

He became my biggest champion when I came out.]

Most, if not all, of my memories of police officers as a child involved them arriving to my house just after a moment of extreme violence. Their arrival indicated that all was now safe, for the moment. The violence had ended for the day.

Starting this fall I spent 10 Wednesday nights and one Saturday morning interacting with police officers. At the end of each of these classes I found myself feeling emotional, often crying as I drove myself home.

One of the scenarios we acted out during the police academy was responding to a domestic violence call. I played the role of an officer. The actual scenario was nonviolent, just a lot of yelling. Although it was enough to destroy any remaining walls I left around those childhood emotions.

I found a place in my life where little Keith feels safe enough to unlock the car doors and come out. I have a better understanding that some of the emotional, psychological and physiological reactions I experience when interacting with a police officer were rooted in an emotional past that, until recently, I have been unwilling to fully acknowledge and deal with. What started out as an intent to better understand police turned into a better understanding and integration of myself.

At the end of the day, every police officer wants to go home alive. They have family, friends and partners just like us. The difference is most of us do not face the uncertainty and possibility of death every single day.

Something as simple as a traffic stop has the potential to end in an officer being killed.

Like the deaths of police officer Douglas Barney and state trooper Eric Ellsworth this year. Also, more serious operations have the potential of risk such as the death of police officer Cody Brotherson.

There are members of our own community who put on the uniform every day. I can only imagine that they are often caught between two worlds — our community and the community that is their profession.

Before participating in the Citizen’s Police academy I never took the time to understand the world of the police officer, let alone my own emotional responses to them. Some people have negative experiences and reasons to be apprehensive in their interactions with the police.

In the end, each one of us has our own complicated relationship with the police, born out of the community we are a part of, the society we live in, and out of our own life experiences. In the midst of this complication exists the potential for greater understanding and the building of stronger bridges. Q [Author’s note: Both Salt Lake City Police Department and the Unified Police Department of Greater Salt Lake have citizens’ academies. I would encourage members of our community to attend a citizen’s academy and learn more about what it means to be a police officer.]

Gay Writes is a DiverseCity Series writing group, a program of SLCC’s Community Writing Center. The group meets the 2nd and 4th Monday of each month, 6:30–8 pm, 210 E. 400 South, Ste. 8, Salt Lake.

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Change your perceptions

BY ROCK MAGEN

If you

watch a lot of movies — or as of recent, presidential debates — it’s easy to start seeing things in only black and white.

Good guys or bad guys. Dead right or dead wrong. Republican or Democrat. You start viewing life through blinders, thinking you know every plot, story beat or what’s in the nation’s best interest.

Of course nearly everything has its shades of gray — and if you take the time to open your eyes and look for it, it can change your way of thinking.

Now, do not think I am telling you to go out and change your opinions on the elections, but what I am telling you is to take the opportunity to find ways in which you can grow from something that you may feel is negatively impacting you.

Each year around this time I begin to review: where I am, where do I want to be, and what I have gone through during the year. I have divided my life into five areas, and each needs evaluation to ensure that I am staying on target. What I find so interesting about this process is seeing how I have evolved or had my perceptions changed through the year.

Through new experiences, ac-

quaintances and circumstances, my perception of what is success or what direction I need to go can change drastically.

One such example of a change in my perception is how I define success in my career. I used to believe that success in my career equated to a lot of money and working many long hours. Now, I tend to lean toward success as being able to leave work to be with family and friends. It all ties back to perception. It is interesting how time tends to change how we think and how we feel success is measured.

This goes beyond our careers, and permeates all aspects of our lives. Do we allow ourselves to become engrossed in the current issues of today, or do we allow ourselves to look further into the future to help us in determining how this will all play out in the long run?

This year take the time to understand how you have grown and changed so that you can better react to the conditions of the world.

As we prepare to enter the new year, the best way to change yourself is to find things which inspire you to change your perceptions. For example, are you someone who is inspired by political events or are you led to action by social injustice. Regardless of your driving force, all of this leads to redefining yourself, expanding your perception and defining your new measures of success. Q Have a question on etiquette for Rock? email askmrmanners@qsaltlake.com

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ARIES March 20–April 19

Take a pause during a heated argument for a moment of clarity.

You always desire peace, but usually not in the form of tranquility. Never underestimate the power of keeping secrets, especially when it comes to dealing with a family member. There may not be a lot of drama right now, but a slow burn is likely to blow up soon.

TAURUS Apr 20–May 20 Be a tad conservative in emotional investments. The cost a friend may be higher than it’s worth, but remember that loss can be liberating.

The longer you wait to do something crucial, the more likely obligations are to build up. Find time to release and reload internally and the process will almost take care of itself.

GEMINI May 21–June 20 New faces will appear as the career path opens. Multiple options are great but keep track of those you talk to. Nothing is more embarrassing than looking flaky. Don’t take a chance

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until all ducks are in a row. Aim high but recall that some of the best things are low targets. The simple pleasures are worthwhile and invigorating.

CANCER June 21–July 22 A time-line to completion looms so spend time wisely.

Have a fall-back plan but be ready to improvise if things go off track. The best way to get over a problematic person is to forgive and forget. A partner or family member wishes to spend more time, so include them on the schedule. It’s all about priorities right now.

LEO July 23–August 22 It’s important to start fresh and let go of the past. While timing is subjective, there are practical reasons for heading in a new direction. An interactive demonstration at work will leave a wild impression, so be ready to consider all options. The tremendous work of others has a way of benefiting you. Show appreciation.

VIRGO August 23–Sep. 22 Gaining access to a once off-limits individual will be quite enjoyable.

A relationship is a labor of love but include a little fun in romantic encounters.

There are many different ways to play out a situation, so don’t be limited by a sense of structure. While the rules can

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be helpful, remember they are there to help, not to be served.

LIBRA Sept 23–October 22 A friend is doing a lot of nice things, but seems to be keeping score over the tasks done. Show gratitude but don’t get trapped in a game that could ruin the friendship. New priorities could mean cutting back on time spent and the ultimate goal of this person could come to light. Don’t be surprised if disappointment awaits you..

striving for a better life.

CAPRICORN Dec 21–Jan 19 Keep the pressure off by getting a little dirty. Send the world a message and uphold a rebellious nature. Play hard but don’t let work suffer either. Finding that sense of purpose is always a factor, but let go of expectations in order to reaffirm them. A microscopic view can be blinding to the big picture you seek. Defy the irony.

SCORPIO Oct. 23–Nov. 21 Something seems a little wrong and it is hard to identify what.

Break down and take out an ill-inducing element. This could be a person or habit.

Whatever gets you down has to go.

Spend time with someone special and take the relationship to a new level. By focusing on what really matters, unwanted elements are going to drop.

AQUARIUS Jan. 20–Feb. 18 A new phase could be starting in life and the timing couldn’t be better. Enjoy a shift in perception.

Finances have been a problem lately, but a new option for finding stability will become clear. Take some time to explore what is possible and dabble in new things. Don’t let fear of failure be a detriment, but be careful all the same.

SAGITTARIUS Nov. 22–December 20.

A timely input of information comes from a boss or personal idol. Take what is said to heart and don’t be quick to dismiss it in favor of a seemingly better option. There is no such thing as perfection, but flaws can be appreciated if the form of lessons. All information is power to be used. Don’t apologize for

PISCES Feb 19–Mar 19 This could be a good time to teach others how to treat you.

Don’t fear saying what you need but be willing to see the emotional side of others. While feelings define you, they are not your exclusive. Find a way to connect deeply with someone who seems more logical. Finding a compromise is the ultimate way to connect. Q

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Gay and Lesbianspecific meetings: Sunday 3p Acceptance Group, UPC, 255 E 400 S Monday 8p Gay Men’s Stag (Big Book Study), UPC, 255 E 400 S 8p G/Q Women’s Meeting, Disability Law Center (rear door), 205 N 400 W Tuesday 8p Live and Let Live, Disability Law Center (rear door), 205 N 400 W Wednesday 7p Sober Today, 375 Harrison Blvd, Ogden Friday 8p Stonewall Group, UPC Crystal Meth Anon  crystalmeth.org

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Northern Utah HIV/ AIDS Project Walk-Ins Tues Noon–5pm 536 24th St, Ste 2B, Ogden 801-393-4153 Planned Parenthood 654 S 900 E 800-230-PLAN Salt Lake Valley Health Dept HIV/STD Clinic 610 S 200 E 801-534-4666 Utah AIDS Foundation  utahaids.org

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Gay-Straight Alliance Network  gsanetwork.org Salt Lake Community College Equality Involvement Club 8 facebook.com/slcc. equality University of Utah LGBT Resource Center 8 lgbt.utah.edu 200 S Central Campus Dr Rm 409 801-587-7973 Univ. of Utah Queer Student Union utahqsu@gmail.com USGA at BYU  byuusga.wordpress.com  fb.co/UsgaAtByu Utah State Univ. Access & Diversity Ctr  usu.edu/ accesscenter/lgbtqa Utah Valley Univ Spectrum  discord.me/ spectrumatuvu  facebook.com/ groups/uvuspectrum Weber State Univ Faculty/Staff GayStraight Alliance  organizations.weber. edu/fsgsa  fsgsa@weber.edu Weber State University LGBT Resource Center  weber.edu/ lgbtresourcecenter 3885 W Campus Dr, Student Services Ctr, Suite 154 Dept. 2125 801-626-7271

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A show of gratitude

BY DAN WOOG

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time of year when we show gratitude — and LGBT folks (and their allies) have a lot to be thankful for.

Not as much as if the presidential election had gone the other way, of course.

From a gay point of view a Vice President Pence is at least as scary as a President Trump. The men (or women, but don’t hold your breath) who could wind up on the Supreme Court may well roll back many of

the hard-earned rights the LGBT community has gained over the past few decades.

We are in uncharted waters, and the seas are likely to be very, very rough.

Fortunately, there is smoother sailing on the LGBT sports front. Over the past few years — especially during 2016 — gay issues and athletics have moved from a corner of the locker room out into the center of the arena. A tipping point was reached, then passed. Gay, lesbian and bisexual athletes

and coaches are no longer seen as rarities, outliers or freaks. Allies are no longer afraid to speak up. Americans understand that we are indeed everywhere. “Gay sports” has moved from oxymoron to ho-hum.

So when we sit down to dinner this year, and say (Will and) grace, let’s give thanks to all the men, women, organizations and institutions that have helped get us where we are today.

For nearly 20 years, for example, Outsports has been the go-to website for LGBT sports news and commentary. Quietly, doggedly — but with spirit, humor and joy — Cyd Ziegler and Jim Buzinski have told stories about out competitors, coaches, referees and administrators. In the beginning, many of those tales were filled with fear and worry. Over time, they brimmed with hope.

Now, they’re almost uniformly positive.

Each story is different. Yet taken together — this experience at a religious school, that one on a curling team; this one describing a welcoming lacrosse culture, that one ending with a hug from a formerly unenlightened homophobe — they offer a clear, comforting picture of a segment of society that has changed quickly and significantly. The mainstream media has not taken much notice of the shift, but Outsports has. In fact, Outsports has made those changes possible.

Hot on Outsports’ heels, in terms of value to the LGBT sports world, is Athlete Ally. The brainchild of Hudson Taylor — the straight University of Maryland wrestler whose decision to put a Human Rights Campaign sticker on his headgear sparked first a backlash, then a movement — Athlete Ally has emerged as a potent educational and advocacy force.

The organization provides public awareness campaigns, programming, tools and resources. It’s mobilized an impressive list of “Ambassadors,” at over 80 colleges and including over 100 professional athletes.

Through speaking engagements, op-ed columns and social media, Athlete Ally has moved the needle of public perception significantly. In doing so, it’s helped make

LGBT people aware of the importance of allyship and intersectionality. We often say that sports teaches lessons of value far away from the playing fields. These can be some of the most important ones.

Sports teams and leagues themselves have hopped aboard the gay athletics train. Nearly every major league club now sponsors some variety of “LGBT Night.”

Teams respond quickly to isolated incidents of unwarranted behavior, like homophobic chants or signs in the stands, and intemperate comments by players and coaches. Those are (thankfully) fewer and farther between these days. And while the motive may be partly financial — gay and lesbian fans buy tickets too — it’s also indicative of societal shifts. Change once came slowly to the sports world. Now it mirrors the real world.

For 34 years, the Gay Games has promoted equality in and by sports. Calling itself “the world’s largest sports and culture festival open to all,” the Games (which legally cannot be called anything close to the “Gay Olympics”) are, well, like the Olympics but with broader participation, less commercialism and a ton more fabulousness. Every four years, the Gay Games makes a major statement about the value of diversity and inclusion. Want to be part of the next one?

It’s in Paris in August 2018.

That’s a lot of things to be thankful for.

But websites, non-profits, teams and organizations are not really what drive change.

The LGBT sports movement would not be where it is now without the courage and conviction of the countless men and women (and boys and girls) who have come out of the closet. By standing up — in their locker rooms, on their fields and in the sports pages — they have enabled countless more to be who they are. They’ve opened the eyes and hearts of their teammates, coaches and fans. They are the true story of gay athletics.

And for that, we are very, very thankful. Q Dan Woog is a journalist, educator, soccer coach and gay activist. His latest book is “We Kick Balls: True Stories from the Youth Soccer Wars.” He can be reached care of this publication or at OutField@qsyndicate.com.

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Ten FAQs on transgender surgeries

BY DR. RIXT A.C. LUIKENAAR MD FACOG

Within

the United States there are currently several transgender surgeons well known for GRS surgery (vaginoplasty-phalloplasty/ metoidoplasty with urethral lengthening, vaginectomy and scrotoplasty). These include Dr Curtis Crane (and partners), Dr Sherman Leis, Dr Toby Meltzer, Dr Joanna McGinn and Dr Marcy Bowers.

Together these physicians have performed thousands of transgender surgeries.

Several other surgeons are known for top surgery, breast augmentation and a few for facial feminization surgery and tracheal shaving. Most gynecologists perform hysterectomy although few are informed of the WPATH Standard of Care requirements of these are for Gender Dysphoria.

Insurance companies also give a list of requirements, some of them very outdated (one insurance requires living in the desired gender for one year). Most want you to have been on hormone therapy for 4 months (orchiectomy) to 1 year (GRS surgery).

The 10 questions I get asked most frequently by transgender people who are considering transitioning;

1. How do I get started?

The WPATH Standards of Care currently require 2 letters from mental health professionals with the diagnosis of Gender Dysphoria and the conclusion that you are “ready” for GRS surgery. For a hysterectomy that is 1 letter if the procedure is done under the diagnosis of Gender Dysphoria (not if it is for pelvic pain, bleeding issues or endometriosis). For top surgery 1 letter is requested by most insurance companies that have a transgender inclusive policy.

Insurance plans that currently cover transgender healthcare are; Aetna, United Healthcare, Blue Cross Blue Shield Federal and out of state (some states as California, Illinois, New York, Maryland), University Health plans (including market place plans) and some multi-plans. Always call

your insurance company (or your parents’ insurance company) to find out details. After January 1st 2017 some plans may now cover transgender health care where they did not before so check frequently.

2. How long does the mental health stage take?

This depends on the mental healthcare therapist you see and on the comorbidities (other mental diagnoses on the DSM) you have been given.

Some therapists see you have been on hormones and have socially transitioned and are comfortable quite quickly providing a letter, others want to get to know you first. For patients with little income this can become expensive depending on the amount of visits a therapist desires.

Consider asking a therapist at the first visit what they usually do. Surgeons don’t typically deny you surgery if you take antidepressants or anti anxiety medications and you should continue taking them as there is a condition called postsurgical depression. Like any stress factor in your life that can trigger depression, surgery is one of them. Especially if you have little support.

3. What is the time requirement for being on hormone therapy?

The WPATH Standards of Care requires patients to be on hormone therapy for at least a year for GRS surgery. There are no guidelines for gender nonconforming patients that desire surgery but do not desire to be on hormone therapy. These patients should discuss with their surgeon what they desire and if the surgeon is comfortable with it. The surgeon should discuss risks and benefits with you and also be honest about their comfort level performing your surgery. Many surgeons don’t get the fact that Gender is an Infinity or spectrum and are still very binary. Most insurances also require a year of hormone therapy.

4. Is there a weight limit for candidates?

This depends on what the surgeon is comfortable with. Some GRS surgeons do not (for example Dr Leis), others definitely do (Dr Bowers, Dr Crane). Of course you recover and heal quicker if your BMI (body mass index measurement) is normal.

In general surgeons want you to be both physically and mentally healthy. Chronic conditions like diabetes, hypertension and thyroid disease should be well managed.

Patients who have had weight loss surgery (gastric bypass for example) should not have other surgeries within the first year due to rapid weight loss and loss of important minerals and vitamins.

5. How long am I in the hospital after surgery?

Several surgeries are “outpatient” which means you go home the same day or the next morning. These are surgeries as orchiectomy, tracheal shave, breast augmentation or top surgery. Even after a hysterectomy can you go home the same day or the next morning. Patients who have GRS surgery are inpatient for usually at least 3 days because their recovery process is more complicated, especially if you have had other surgeries as facial and chest surgeries the same time. GRS surgeons often practice in facilities that have on-site recovery suites or a hotel nearby so the surgeon can check on your progress several times a day after surgery.

6. What is the recovery timeline after surgery?

Typically a patient can return to work or school anywhere from a few days to about 2 weeks for most facial or chest surgeries.

For GRS surgery most surgeons recommend 2 months off work and 3 months of recovery before exercise. For a hysterectomy that is anywhere from 2 to 6 weeks of work depending on what type of work

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you do and if you have the money to take the time off. Don’t lay in bed all day after surgery. It is important to move around to prevent blood clots.

7. How do I pay for transgender surgery?

Most patients pay in cash and almost all surgeons want it up front. Ask them about payment plans and loans. An increasing number of patients are covered by insurance, even if it doesn’t cover the entire bill.

Always check with your insurance and ask the surgeon if they accept the insurance plan. Even consider writing a letter to your insurance and ask for an exception. Some patients have had their surgeries covered this way. Cost may vary a lot so compare prices. Ask for a discount if you can pay the entire amount up front.

8. Can I schedule my transgender surgery in stages?

Every patient I see has their own journey with their own list of things they want to work on or change during their transition.

For some that can be breast/chest surgery, for others facial feminization or hair transplantation or hysterectomy. Some patients schedule facial surgery, tracheal shaving, breast augmentation and GRS surgery.

Dr Meltzer prefers to schedule a phalloplasty in two stages so do others.

Sometimes patients prefer this due to cost, although having procedures done at the same time saves you money (you only go under once, less recovery time).

Some patients desire to have all surgeries done as soon as possible, others can’t afford this (most of my patients) and for example start with an orchiectomy first (and maybe later GRS surgery-vaginoplasty).

9. How can I make my voice sound more feminine and what about vocal cord surgery?

Kathe Perez is a speech pathologist from

Denver who has been a voice coach for many transgender women (and men). She has an phone app, on line video’s and you can take a “crash” course in voice feminization with her. Within Utah we (soon) have 2 voice coaches, one of them is still working on getting experience, the other is Stacy Cole, a voice coach that works part time and recently brought some cards to Rebirth to hand out. She also helps trans men with their voices since a lot changes within your voice box as you start testosterone. Some of you sing and the impact of hormones on the voice can be significant.

It is then certainly a good idea to work with a voice coach. Vocal cord surgeries are becoming more popular but the procedure can be quite expensive and does not always turn out well. I don’t recommend it at this time until we have more data about success rates.

10. How soon can I have sex?

After GRS surgery, with a normal postoperative healing course, you can engage in sexual activity after 2-3 months. Around that time it is typically that I recommend transgender women to replace the dilator with a dildo or vibrator to stop thinking to “medically” about your new vulva and vagina.

For a phalloplasty that is about the same recommended time (after your last surgery) since you want to let your urethra

(the tube your urine comes out that has been lengthened with tissue from your vagina) heal. GRS surgeons require that you have a vaginectomy (removal or closure of the vagina) before you can have a phalloplasty. For a metoidoplasty with urethral lengthening they recommend it too since it closes the vaginal canal quite a bit. GRS surgeons also require a hysterectomy before you can have these procedures since you don’t want to bury the cervix and vagina to allow secretions and blood (not desired but does occur in trans men on testosterone therapy) to come out. If you want to give birth yourself one day, don’t get these procedures either (or ask for a cesarean section). If you have a hysterectomy I don’t recommend penetrative sex for at least six, maybe eight weeks (vaginas on testosterone take longer to heal). If you do, you could tear the scar on top of the vagina and your bowels could fall out...

Please ask us any questions you have about surgeries, our recommendations of where to go have your surgery. We are there to help you. For any of the above mentioned surgeries it does not matter what your current name or gender marker is. We do recommend at this time that you obtain a passport.

Our new administration next year may possibly make this very difficult. Q Rixt Luikenaar MD FACOG, is an obstetrician gynecologist and transgender healthcare specialist at Rebirth Obstetrics & Gynecology, rebirthobgyn.com

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New year, new you I’d like

BY PETER STOKER

to officially welcome every-

one to 2017!

A new year can mean many things for people, but all-inall it can mean a new you.

You get to reassess and reset goals, ideals and desires. As I sat down to write this article I pondered how I could make this a meaningful and enticing column despite the cliche that is New Year’s Resolution-making. Of course I want to give you something to work toward this new year, but I didn’t want it to be boring or mundane. So I decided to give some advice and encouragement to make 2017 a great year!

BE GRATEFUL What are you grateful for that occurred this year? Showing gratitude is a great way to learn about yourself and show others you are selfless. Write it down and bathe in your gratitude.

I am grateful for many things this year; one being my wonderful fiance. We’ve had a whirlwind of a year, but I’m grateful I did not have to go through it all alone.

GIVE YOURSELF SOME CREDIT What are you proud of accomplishing this year? Did you run a marathon? Graduate school?

Or simply arrive on time to work every day? Whatever it is, stay positive and give yourself a pat on the back. Making a list of all the things that happened this year will help you realize that 2016 wasn’t a waste and give you motivation to make 2017 that much better.

What I am proud of is that I stood up for my rights as someone who believes in the justice system and for doing the right thing.

MAKE PEACE WITH YOUR PAST “If there is no solution to the problem, then don’t waste time worrying about it. If there is a solution to the problem then don’t waste time worrying about it.”

—Dalai Lama XIV We all have made mistakes we wish we could forget or undo and move on; well let’s do just that. See what you can learn from it and chalk it up to experience and move on.

Pushing things aside or pretending they’re not there will only bog you down later. Make peace with your past, clear the board, and be ready for what is coming in 2017.

One thing I will be making peace with is not achieving any of the goals I set to accomplish in 2016. This year brought me many surprises and wonderful things, however, I did not achieve a single goal I set last January. Just because I didn’t achieve any of those goals doesn’t mean I was a complete failure … priorities change.

THIS TIME NEXT YEAR Imagine where you’d like your life to be a year from now.

What sort of things do you want to have accomplished?

Start scribbling ideas down … have $10,000 in savings, buy a home, and pay off student loans. Making a list will help when it comes to setting your goals, and will also be great to look at again next December to see what you’ve achieved and what still needs work.

One of the ideas that I have scribbled down is to run another half-marathon. It’s going to take a lot of courage and determination, which will help boost my self-esteem.

GET MOTIVATED Ask yourself what drives you, the reasons you get up in the morning. Consistently remind yourself of them and use them to make the things you want to happen, happen.

Motivation is a huge factor in behavior change; whether it’s drinking more water, or quitting smoking. Without motivation nothing will get done.

Motivation is a huge battle in my life right now. I need to find the right motivating factors to help me accomplish my 2017 goals. But I feel that I am in a place where that is more possible than before.

FAIL TO PLAN, PLAN TO FAIL Whatever you’re looking to accomplish in the next 12 months, it’s important to make a plan. Make all your goals SMART goals S= Specific description of the goal *I want to run the Provo City half-marathon on May 6, 2017* M= Measurable results. *Did I run it or not?* A= Attainable goal. *Is it really possible for me to go from couch to half-marathon in five months?* R= Realistic goal. *Do I have any health problems that will deter me from training or running? Will I have enough money for entry fees, travel, etc.?* T= Time-based goal. *Is five months a reasonable time to get into half marathon shape? Or do I need longer than five months?*

ACCOUNTABILITY AND SUPPORT It’s not difficult for your good intentions to go out the window once the reality of January sets in. There are ways to prevent this from happening. Put a note in your calendar to review your goals at the beginning of each month. Reviewing them will help you stay on course.

Putting it out there doesn’t

mean that you are boasting, bragging or weak. Putting it out there means you are being held accountable. Without being accountable our goals are just ideas in our heads.

Don’t just think about and make a mental list of the goals in your head, right them down and tell them to someone you trust. You may even find that they have similar goals that you can work toward together.

REWARD YOURSELF Be sure to set aside time to indulge and earn a reward or two along the way. Don’t, however, be counter intuitive with your rewards. Too many people reward their fitness goals or weight loss goals with decadent foods. Instead try using a reward as getting a massage or some new clothes.

Having few rewards along the way will continue to motivate you throughout the year.

Use them as little stair-steppers along the way. Break the year into quarters and use these rewards quarterly.

GIVE SOMETHING BACK If you’re going to dedicate time and effort to improving your own life why not set aside a little time to help someone else. This doesn’t have to be a scheduled, organized service.

Simply do some volunteering, helping out an elderly relative or neighbor, getting involved in your community; even just donating to a charity. Try doing things for your partner and family; making breakfast, doing laundry, taking care of the little ones. In helping others, you help yourself.

This will be my first year as a homeowner and I am so excited to do neighborly things in my community, shovel walks, mow lawns, and take goodies or dinner to those in need. Q Information in this article was gathered from multiple sources and is a reflection of the author’s opinion only.

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When might opening a joint bank account make sense?

BY NATHANIEL SILLIN

Did you

recently get married, move in with a new roommate, see a child off to college or start managing a relative’s finances? The change in relationship dynamics could prompt you to consider tying part of your financial lives together by opening a joint bank account.

You might enjoy the conveniences a joint account offers, or you could see it as a symbolic step in your relationship. But before you open a bank account with someone else, consider the potential benefits and drawbacks of the arrangement.

First, here’s a quick introduction to joint accounts. Individual and joint accounts are similar in many ways. You can open a joint account at an online-only bank or local bank branch. However, with a joint account both co-owners can deposit or withdraw money as if it was an individual account.

The account holders can also write checks, make online payments or transfers and use the account’s debit cards (if it offers them) to make purchases or withdrawals.

Let’s start with a few situations where you might want to use a joint bank account, followed by examples of why the arrangement might not make sense for you.

You might want a joint account if you share financial responsibilities with someone else. Sharing a joint account could be a good option if you’re married or living with a significant other. Some couples keep their individual accounts and also create a joint account where they deposit a portion of their paychecks and use the money to pay for household expenses or a shared savings goal.

With two people contribution to and watching a shared account, it could be easier to meet minimum balance requirements and identify savings opportunities. Some accounts also offer higher interest rates the more money you have in the account.

A shared account could also help you care for a family member. A joint bank account could help you care for relatives, whether they live nearby or in another state. With co-owner access, it’ll be easy to deposit or transfer funds online and at a bank branch, pay the person’s bills from the account and keep an eye on the account’s activity and balance.

But beware, joint accounts give everyone full ownership of the money. No matter

who makes the deposit, once money is in a joint account, each member “owns” it and can legally spend it however he or she wants.

In other words, you might not have any recourse if your new roommate raids a joint account and spends the rent money on a weekend getaway.

A joint account holder’s debt could also spell trouble for everyone on the account.

Because every joint account holder has equal rights to the money, creditors can go after the money in a joint account if they sue one of the account holders. Meaning all the money is risk if one person gets sued, falls behind on bills or doesn’t pay taxes.

If you’re considering using a joint account to help manage an older relative’s finances, a convenience account or getting power of attorney may be potentially safer alternatives.

Communication and trust are vital to managing a joint account. Lack of communication between joint account holders could lead to overdrawn accounts or low balances,

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and the corresponding fees. It can also lead to disputes if the owners have different ideas of how the money should be spent.

Some co-owners make an informal agreement before opening an account together.

Although it won’t have legal backing, you could create a rule that you have to ask the other person before spending $150 or more. Using a mobile app to check a joint account’s balance before making a purchase could also help you avoid mistakes.

Bottom line: While joint bank accounts let two or more people share access to an account, the convenience of the arrangement can sometimes be outweighed by the risks it poses to the co-owners. Even if you trust the other co-owner, having a clear understanding of the intention behind the account and how the money will be used are important to avoiding arguments and mismanagement of your joint funds. Q Nathaniel Sillin directs Visa’s financial education programs.

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HIV advocates face challenges new and old after U.S. elections A full repeal of Obamacare is unlikely, but the Ryan White Care Act will be even more important to people with HIV

BY AIDS UNITED

It is not

an overstatement to say that the nation Americans woke up to Nov. 9 is charted on a fundamentally different course than the day before. The differences in both temperament and in policy between the now President-elect Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton could hardly have been starker.

For people living with or affected by HIV, the choice was between a woman who had been working to end the HIV epidemic for more than two decades as a First Lady, Senator and Secretary of State, and a man whose campaign didn’t have an HIV/AIDS policy. America chose the latter to be their next president, a decision that will force HIV advocates to confront some new and unexpected challenges.

These challenges may be daunting, but they will not be insurmountable. We know this because we have been here before.

And because of this, we know that we can succeed. Our roles as advocates for policies and rights are needed now more than ever.

Making matters more difficult for those working to promote the health and well-being of people living with HIV is the fact that, in addition to winning the White House, the Republican Party held onto control of Congress.

The GOP lost only two seats in the Senate with Tammy Duckworth (D-Ill.) and Maggie Hassan (D-N.H.) defeating incumbents Mark Kirk (R-Ill.) and Kelly Ayotte (R-N.H.) and six seats in the House of Representatives. Republicans will have control of both the Executive and Legislative branches of the federal government for at least the next two years.

In addition, the continued uncertainty surrounding President Obama’s nomination of Merrick Garland to replace Antonin Scalia and the advanced ages of Justices Breyer, Ginsberg and Kennedy leave the ideological leanings of the court very much in doubt.

What does this mean for U.S. health care and HIV policy? It’s hard to know for

sure, but based on President-elect Trump’s recently released plan for his first 100 days in office and remarks from Senate Majority Leader Mitch McConnell, one of the first actions that the Trump administration and Republican-led Congress will likely take on is one that the GOP has been trying in vain to do for six years now: to repeal the Affordable Care Act. The days of President Obama’s signature piece of legislation may be numbered

and, although a full repeal of the ACA is unlikely given the Republican Party’s slim majority in the Senate, the fallout for people living with or vulnerable to HIV will be significant.

Using the Restoring Americans’ Healthcare Freedom Reconciliation Act of 2015 that was passed by the House, but vetoed

by President Obama last year as a template, we can be relatively certain a Trump administration would aim to roll back Medicaid expansion, eliminate the individual health insurance mandate and get rid of subsidies to help middle-income families purchase health insurance.

According to the Congressional Budget Office, the repeal of the portions of the ACA outlined in the Restoring Americans’ Healthcare Freedom Reconciliation Act of 2015 would leave an additional 22 million Americans without health coverage.

With the partial repeal of the Affordable Care Act on the horizon, it is impossible to overstate how important the Ryan White Care Act is to the health of people living with HIV in America. Now, more than

ever, it is incumbent upon us to defend the Ryan White Program with every ounce of energy at our disposal.

Without the ACA, the Ryan White Program will be the primary safety net for hundreds of thousands of people living with HIV. Under a Trump administration and a Republican Congress, we must prepare ourselves to protect the Ryan White Care Act, because it very well might be threatened.

Attempts to flat fund or cut funding to the Ryan White Program are likely during the next two to four years and it is up to us as HIV advocates to stem the advance of those who threaten to limit access to HIV treatment and support services.

For three decades, the HIV movement has fought tirelessly to emerge from a place of hopelessness and chaos to one of strength and transformative power.

Whether you’ve been fighting for the rights and welfare of people living with or affected by HIV since the epidemic’s inception or are new to the cause, we all have the responsibility to stand up and demand that our government be accountable to those that they might otherwise ignore or disenfranchise.

We have every right to expect a federal response that promotes the health of all Americans, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, race, creed or health status.

No matter what the response of the next administration and Congress, we must remain a united coalition that will do anything and everything that is needed to serve people living with and affected by HIV. Q On behalf of POZ magazine, this guest column is by AIDS United at aidsunited.org and on Twitter @AIDS_United.

This column is a project of Plus, Positively Aware, POZ, The Body, Q Syndicate, and QSaltLake.

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BY ROMEO SAN VICENTE

‘Ocean’s Eight’ Is A ‘Carol’ Reunion And So Much More The all-female “ ,” a sequel to the boys club (plus Julia Roberts) heist comedies, is charging full steam ahead, and it’s bringing us a lot of anticipatory comfort and joy.

On the heels of the all-female “Ghostbusters,” this sequel’s woman-centered story has yet to arouse the ire of infantile internet misogynists, which is heartening, but the biggest story for queer filmgoers right now is its cast. The film stars Rihanna (who recently, and gloriously, was seen wearing a t-shirt with an image of herself wearing a Hillary Clinton t-shirt, which makes Ri a one-woman “Inception,” and we’ll stop at “YASSS” with three s’s for now, out of journalistic prudence) and some other people named Sandra Bullock, Helena Bonham Carter, Dakota Fanning, Mindy Kaling, and Anne Hathaway.

There’s even a “Carol” reunion of sorts, with the inclusion of Sarah Paulson and Cate Blanchett, and we hope they play actual girlfriends this time around. To top it off, for in-the-know consumers of alt-comedy and oddball hip-hop, comic actress/rapper Awkwafina (aka Nora Lum) will be making some sort of appearance here, too. Get all the money, ladies, we’re rooting for you. Or, at least we will be rooting for you far off in the dystopic futurescape of June 2018 when this thing finally drops in theaters.

TRANS CINEMA IS WORLDWIDE The U.S. now has acclaimed dramatic shows like “Transparent,” sweet reality series such as “I Am Jazz,” and breakout indie films like “Tangerine,” all of which approach the subject of transgender people’s lives with care, intelligence and dignity. But in other countries around the world, media that deals with the broad spectrum of trans experience is often still in the “please understand” stage. Not ideal, but it’s a start, and it’s a hopeful one. Now, Chinese filmmaker Zhang Wei, a writer-director-producer best known for socially conscious dramas like 2014’s “Factory Boss,” will begin shooting “The Rib” in 2017. The film will deal with the family life of a transgender teenage girl, her decision to transition, and her struggle to be accepted by her devoutly religious mother. No cast has been named yet, but keep an eye out sometime in 2018 for this one if you’re the kind of filmgoer who jumps at the chance to see foreign language movies at festivals and arthouses.

being a young mother. O’Donnell will play Tutu, Bridgette’s socially unconventional mother who does her best to be there for her daughter and grandson.

Right now this one is in the pilot stages, which means it might or might not come to series.

So, fingers crossed — we could always use a “Gilmore Girls” with Southie accents.

‘AMERICAN GIGOLO’ IS COMING, EVENTUALLY Back in 2014, before the world began falling apart in earnest, there were rumblings about a TV series based on the 1980 classic glamour-noir film “American Gigolo.” And then... nothing. Blondie waited and waited for the project to move ahead and license “Call Me” all over again, but those royalty checks didn’t materialize. Well, now it’s the end of 2016, and it appears that the trick that we were sure flaked on us is back

making noise about “bringing pleasure” once again. Perhaps buoyed by the critical success of “The Girlfriend Experience,” the series based on Stephen Soderbergh’s film of the same name, Showtime is moving its own project an inch forward and has brought in Neil LaBute to direct the first episode of “Gigolo.” No cast yet, but we do know that the action has been updated to present day. That means our dreams of early ‘80s/ Giorgio Armani/post-disco elegance have been dashed, but it also might mean that sex work won’t be portrayed with a retro mindset mired in silliness, seediness or the creeping homophobia that marred the original film. Now it’s on casting to find us a hot dude we can all objectify. Showtime, you may proceed to pleasure us. Q Romeo San Vicente thinks DILF should be in more common usage.

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6 Tricks to giving your partner the perfect gift

BY MIKEY ROX

Choosing

the perfect gift for your significant other can be stressful — especially if it’s your first holiday together. But there are ways you can sneak a peek at your partner’s wish list — without outright asking for it — if you engage in a few spy tactics. Consider these six tinseled gift-giving tricks as Santa’s little sleuth to surprise your better half this season.

1. MINE THEIR SOCIAL MEDIA FOR DATA Social media profiles are full of interesting information about an individual — but you already know that, stalker.

Use your data-mining skills for treasure hunts that don’t include shirtless summer pics to find out what your babe wants under the tree this year.

Perhaps they’ve shared an item on their Facebook page, tweeted a link, or liked an Instagram photo of something that caught their eye. Browse the businesses they like, and keep an eye on the comments they make on those pages. A little attention to Internet

detail will go a long way in unearthing all the things that strike your S.O.’s fancy.

2. ASK THEIR FRIENDS AND FAMILY I started dating someone new this year, and even though I’m fairly astute in gathering clues to what he’d like for Christmas, I also asked his mother and brother to gain a more comprehensive perspective.

If it’s not too awkward, you should reach out to some of your partner’s family members too. You may come up with ideas you haven’t thought of yet, and your thoughtfulness toward your mutual loved one will be recognized by the family early on, which will help you build a rapport much quicker and easier in the New Year.

3. BE A GREAT OBSERVER Whether you know it or not, your partner has been dropping clues for what he or she would like as a gift since shortly after you started dating.

You’ve had countless conversation on your likes and dislikes throughout your relationship, you’ve talked about childhood

memories and holidays past, and you’ve each pointed out objects and ideas that pique your interest while on vacation or shopping or just walking around town. Take these collective experiences and put the pieces together to come up with a gift that’s not only special and memorable but also shows that you listen — which, in all likelihood, will be the best present of all.

4. CHOOSE MEMORIES OVER MATERIAL GOODS If you’re having a hard time thinking of a tangible _thing_ to buy, skip the material object all together. Rather, opt for an experience gift — like a quick getaway or an exciting activity — which you two can do together. Not only will you make a lasting memory out of the experience, you’ll prevent one more thing from collecting dust in his or her house before eventually ending up in the attic or — worse — a landfill.

5. CONSIDER THEIR NEEDS VS. WANTS We all want plenty of things, but are they necessities? If you partner needs things — like, say, a new interview suit or tires for their car — prioritize these over frivolous gifts that serve no real purpose. Sure,

these gifts aren’t glamorous or even exciting, but your partner will be thankful that they don’t have to spring for them — and if they’re a decent person in general, they’ll recognize that your love for them runs deeper than that video game console.

6. STAY IN SYNC Couples who are in sync don’t have much problem thinking of gifts to give one another.

Moreover, couples who are in sync make their own rules at the holidays by forgoing traditional gift-giving tactics by finding interesting ways to show their love and affection.

Make ornaments for one another, bid on that coveted childhood wish-list item that they never got, or make by hand (and heart) a piece of art that they’ll hang and think of you often. When you’re on the same page romantically, there won’t be any disappointment when it’s time to unwrap all the goodies. It’s the thought that counts, after all, and couples recognize that above all else. Q Mikey Rox is an award-winning journalist and LGBT lifestyle expert whose work has been published in more than 100 outlets across the world. Connect with Mikey on Twitter @mikeyrox.

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“I think it would help them understand women. It’s such a vulnerable position to be in, and it’s such a passive position to be in. There’s such an invasion, in a way, that even if it’s consensual, it’s just very personal.

I think there’s a psyche that happens because of it that makes you understand and appreciate what women go through their whole life, because it’s not just sexual, it’s a complete setup of the way the world works. I think that that’s something most men do not understand at all.”

— Nocturnal Animals director Tom Ford to GQ

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The tale of the big gay road trip Part Douche

BY PETUNIA PAP SMEAR

face into my crotch and began chewing on Mister Frankfurter through the spandex of my bike shorts. We arrived at Jim’s apartment complex, and got out of the cab. It was especially awkward for me because Captain Standish was pitching quite a tent in my shorts. Jim couldn’t find his keys. He told for me to wait with the cab while he tried to get a set of keys from the office. So I’m left standing there, with the driver, hunched over trying to hide “the tent of shame.” The driver then asked me, “Do you guys want a three-way?” I told him that it was Jim’s place and he would have to make that decision. Finally, Jim returned without keys.

So I gave the driver the address to Odel and Eddie’s house and off we went, continuing the heavy make-out session all the way, except that now the driver had his hand draping over the back of the seat trying to be involved. The driver couldn’t find the right house, so I told him to let us out at the 7-Eleven and I would call.

So we sent the driver away, looking very disappointed as Jim and I sat on the curb in PUZZLE SOLUTIONS

front of 7-Eleven making out like there was no tomorrow waiting for Odel to come and fetch us.

I really didn’t get any sleep that night. The next morning it was time to catch the van back to Salt Lake, so Odel drove me and Jim to the church. I said goodbye to Jim and got into the van. Reverend Bruce asked my how my night went, and the whole van sat in stunned silence as I told the story.

This story leaves us with several important questions: 1. Were spandex bike shorts ever really in style as casual street wear?

2. Is schnapps the best alcohol for your first drunk?

3. If I had been wearing denim, would Jim even have noticed me?

4. Does everything really stay in Vegas?

5. How easily could I have been murdered?

6. Are uneducated Idaho-mo drag queens especially foolish?

These and other eternal questions shall be answered in future chapters of The Perils of Petunia Pap Smear. Q

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school lessons about proper alcohol intake would have come in so handy.

After about three drinks he asked if I had ever tried peppermint schnapps. Wow, it was strong! He then invited me to play pool. These are all “firsts” for me in the dating arena.

Then he switched to peach schnapps. Oh, I liked that much better. I was beginning to get pretty lubricated.

The group said that the van was leaving. Jim quickly offered to take me home. In tipsy naivete, I told them that I was fine and to go ahead without me. Does anyone detect any danger signs? After a few more drinks Jim announced that it was time to go home, and he called a taxi.

The cab arrived and Jim gallantly opened the door for me.

I slid into the back seat and Jim climbed in and sat up against me and gave me a big old sloppy kiss on the lips, then he told the driver where to take us. Up to then in my life I had never exhibited public displays of affection, so I reflexively pushed Jim away, but he came back for a second helping. As the taxi pulled out of the parking lot, with Jim kissing my neck, in my newly experienced tipsiness, I decided that no one knows me here and will never see me again. What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas. So I kissed Jim back.

We got into a pretty hot and heavy make-out session. I noticed that the driver’s eyes were glued to the rear view mirror.

Then Jim suddenly dropped his

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to Las Vegas is fraught with danger and excitement (and memories).

Last month I wrote about a van full of Salt Lake queens visited Las Vegas over Labor Day weekend in 1988. I had been paired with the ever-so gorgeous Eric for a home stay at Odel and Eddie’s.

Our hosts were most gracious. They explained that they knew we might be out on the town, all hours, and that if we ever needed, they would be happy to come and get us from where ever we were. Wow, that is kind.

That evening the whole group was going to The Buffalo, a leather and denim bar.

I had not yet attended Miss Sylvia’s Finishing School for Future Queens, so I didn’t understand there was a dress code for such a place. I was wearing spandex biking shorts, which were ever so popular in 1988.

I was so fresh out of the closet that I had no idea how to act in a bar. I had never drunk alcohol. So I positioned myself against the wall, next to Reverend Bruce, and watched the guys playing pool as I drank diet Coke. I was emotionally crushed when I saw my roommate Eric go home with some cowboy.

After a while, a really cute guy, Jim, came and sat by me and started to chat me up.

Keep in mind, it was the first time I had been paid any attention by anyone. He asked what I was drinking and bought me a Coke. And then another; but I could taste rum. Finishing

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