our community pauses to remember those lost to AIDS, celebrate the progress made, and recommit to ending the epidemic. But as treatment has improved and public urgency has faded, some now wonder whether World AIDS Day still serves a purpose. It does. In fact, this year it feels more necessary than it has in decades, for at least three reasons:
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VACCINE
IS FINALLY WITHIN REACH—RIGHT AS FUNDING IS BEING CUT
We are closer than ever to an HIV vaccine. Advances in mRNA technology, new clinical trials, and deeper understanding of broadly neutralizing antibodies have pushed the science forward in ways that were unimaginable a decade ago. Researchers are optimistic. Some say we are standing at the edge of a breakthrough.
Yet the current U.S. Administration is pulling funding from HIV/AIDS research and prevention programs — cuts that are already disrupting trials, shrinking research teams, and threatening the community-based services that keep people connected to testing, treatment, and PrEP. Just as the science accelerates, the political will is retreating.
This year, World AIDS Day is a moment to say clearly: we cannot afford to lose ground now.
THE EPIDEMIC ISN’T OVER AND STIGMA STILL SHAPES WHO GETS CARE
While HIV may feel distant to some, infection rates remain high in communities that have long been underserved:
Black and Brown queer people, transgender women, unhoused LGBTQ+ youth, people who use drugs, and sex workers. Access to prevention and treatment still hinges on race, geography, income, and insurance status.
Stigma continues to keep people from getting tested or staying in care. Treatment only works when people can actually use it. Prevention only works when people know it exists. The disparities are real, and they persist.
World AIDS Day keeps those truths in public view.
MEMORY IS MOMENTUM
Honoring the millions lost and the activism that forced governments, hospitals, and pharmaceutical companies to act is not about looking back. It’s about understanding what it takes to keep moving forward.
The same spirit that drove ACT UP, queer organizers, and countless caregivers is the spirit we need now as political leaders undermine the very programs that have brought us this close to an end.
Progress is not permanent
None of the gains of the last 40 years are guaranteed. We can’t assume HIV will fade on its own. We can’t assume researchers will find a vaccine if their funding dries up. And we can’t assume future generations will inherit a safer world unless we fight for it.
This year, World AIDS Day is a warning and a call A warning that the progress we rely on is vulnerable. A call to defend the science, services, and communities that make that progress possible. Q
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Until 2000, it was illegal to be Gay in the British military. Service members who were Gay — or even suspected of being so — faced invasive investigations, dismissal, and sometimes imprisonment. Things in Great Britain have changed, and King Charles III has dedicated and unveiled a new national memorial dedicated to Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender members of the armed forces. This was his first official engagement in support of the LGBT community. The memorial, titled “An Opened Letter,” honors those who serve today while acknowledging the suffering of those persecuted under the ban. For many veterans, the sculpture represents long-awaited closure — the culmination of decades of campaigning to change the law and push the government towards justice and recognition. The bronze sculpture will stand at the National Memorial Arboretum in Staffordshire, the UK’s national site of remembrance. British Prime Minister Keir Starmer said the memorial “stands as a lasting tribute to the bravery and service of these veterans.”
Weiner after Pelosi’s Seat
Former House Speaker Nancy Pelosi of San Francisco announced her retirement, and one of the California State
Legislature’s most prominent gay members, Scott Wiener, has announced for the seat. Both he and Pelosi are Democrats in San Francisco’s heavily Democratic district, where the state’s top-two primary system sends the leading vote-getters to the general election regardless of party. It will not be easy for Weiner to slip into Pelosi’s seat. Other Democrats, seeing an easy win, are exploring the race. Christine Pelosi, her daughter, has been mentioned as a possible successor to her mother, who has been in office since 1987. Weiner has been a prolific California state senator, introducing many major LGBT bills offering privacy protections for transgender and non-binary adults, requiring foster parents to affirm transitioning youth, improving the collection and reporting of LGBTQ health data, and HIV/ AIDS care. A second-generation immigrant, Weiner says, “My family escaped fascism in Europe, I never thought the United States would slip into fascism like we’re seeing today.” Wiener pledged to fight for affordable housing, constitutional protections for LGBTQ+ youth and families, and accountability for insurance companies. Born in New Jersey, Wiener moved to San Francisco in the 1990s after law school, later serving on the San Francisco Board of Supervisors before his 2016 election to the state Senate. Weiner has been criticized by opponents for appearances in harness and chaps at San Francisco’s Folsom Street Fair, and said he would continue living authentically if elected: “I’m going to be me.”
Tig to Hines: “It’s Bobby or Me”
The recent Equality Utah Allies headliner, Tig Notaro, has cohosted a podcast for a few years with “Curb Your
Enthusiasm” actress, Cheryl Hines. The two were once close and co-hosted Tig & Cheryl: True Story, a podcast where they dissected documentaries and interviewed celebrities. The show ended in 2023. Appearing on a podcast, Notaro reflected on when she knew the friendship was over. The turning point came when Hines’ husband, Robert F. Kennedy Jr., announced his presidential run in 2024. “My friendship with Cheryl predated her marriage to Bobby,” Notaro explained. “Back then, his beliefs were like a gnat on my arm. But then they grew, and Cheryl wanted me to hear Bobby out. I just didn’t trust it. And then he endorsed the Republican in 2024, and it got hard.” Notaro said she couldn’t reconcile Hines’ willingness to overlook Kennedy’s positions. “You’re okaying a particular ride for this country to go on,” she noted. “Cheryl was one of my favorite friends to be with, but we also took the pressure off by asking things like, ‘Who are you attracted to in this documentary?’” Though she misses their podcast, Notaro emphasized her new priority: “I want to get back to prioritizing people that bring me joy and workloads that bring me joy.” Hines has not commented publicly on Notaro’s snub, but on ”Real Time with Bill Maher,” she indicated that she has found many former Hollywood associations ended when her husband announced his run for president as a Democrat in 2024, and then outright hostility to his endorsement of the 2024 Republican candidate.
Gayborhood living getting expensive
Way back in Gay and Lesbian history, the 1980s and 1990s, many mid-size and larger U.S. cities had neighborhoods where gay and lesbian com-
munities clustered. Think San Francisco’s Castro or New York’s Chelsea. These areas were often “down at heel,” but became vibrant cultural hubs once “faggotized,” as activists of the era rebuilt and redecorated. Affordable rents and low purchase prices were part of the draw. Once labeled “gay ghettos,” they are now marketed as “gayborhoods.” By late 2025, many of these districts will have become highly desirable — and expensive. West Hollywood homes average $1.02 to $1.33 million. The Castro ranges from $1.42 to $1.5 million, while Chelsea commands $1.58 million to $1.93 million. Even Salt Lake City’s enclaves have surged: Marmalade and 9th & 9th average $561,000 to $615,000; the Lower Avenues reach $750,000; Westshire in West Valley City runs $452,000 to $463,000; and Daybreak in South Jordan averages $587,000. Yet affordability remains in select gayborhoods. According to The Advocate, the ten least expensive include Ferndale in Detroit ($287,000), The Grove in St. Louis ($266,000), Uptown and Loring Park in Minneapolis ($225,000), Midtown Harrisburg, Pennsylvania ($179,000), Atlantic City, New Jersey ($220,000), Old Chinatown in Portland ($200,000), Highland Square in Akron, Ohio ($183,000), Ybor City in Tampa ($170,000), and Hawley-Green in Syracuse, New York — the most affordable at $145,000.
FBI sued over Progressive Pride Flag purge
A former FBI intelligence specialist is suing FBI Director Kash Patel, Attorney General Pam Bondi, the FBI, and the Department of Justice, alleging he was unlawfully fired for displaying a Progress Pride flag. The 18‑page complaint, filed in the U.S. District Court
for the District of Columbia, warns of a broader “gay purge” within federal law enforcement. David M. Maltinsky, who served more than 16 years at the bureau, was dismissed on October 1, 2025, just three weeks before graduating from the FBI Academy as a special agent. He had completed 16 of the 19‑week basic field training course and passed all major benchmarks. That evening, he was escorted out and handed a letter signed by Patel citing “inappropriate display of political signage.” His attorneys argue that the only signage was the Progress Pride flag, previously approved by leadership. “This case is about whether the government can punish Americans simply for saying who they are,” said Maltinsky’s attorney, Christopher M. Mattei, framing the dismissal as part of a campaign against LGBTQ+ employees.
Susan Powter proclaims, “I’m a huge Lesbian”
Susan Powter, the 1990s fitness personality best known for her “Stop the Insanity!” weight loss infomercials, is back in the spotlight with a new documentary, “Stop the Insanity: Finding Susan Powter.” Now 67, she told Entertainment Weekly that her last serious relationship was “years ago,” and she’s instead focused on enjoying life. In what can only be considered a career enhancer for her, she declared, “Now I’m a huge lesbian.” “Total lesbian, great love affairs, many girlfriends, big fun. Best fun ever!” As Shakespeare has written in “Hamlet”, “The lady doth protest too much, methinks.” Powter married her first husband in 1982 and had two sons in 1983 and 1984. They divorced in 1988, and she married again in 1989. That marriage ended in 1995, after which she adopted a third son, born in 1998. To no one’s
surprise, she came out as a lesbian around the turn of the century, later noting she never tried to hide her orientation. Contradicting herself, she said today she has no interest in ever getting married again or living with anyone. “I’m a very isolated person. I’m a hermit,” she explained. “I don’t date anymore, because that’s annoying as crap. I don’t socialize with anyone. I see my children once in a while. They’re adult men.” So, is she a huge Lesbian party girl or a hermit Lesbian? She needs to get her marketing talking points straight, so to speak.
Bishops ban gender therapy
U.S. Catholic bishops voted to ban gender‑affirming care for transgender patients at Catholic hospitals, finalizing a yearslong debate over medical ethics. Meeting in Baltimore, the bishops overwhelmingly approved revisions to directives guiding thousands of Catholic health institutions nationwide. Catholic hospitals treat more than one in seven patients in the U.S., and in some communities, they are the only available providers. While major medical groups endorse gender‑affirming care, most Catholic facilities have already declined to offer it; the new rules now mandate that stance, though bishops retain local discretion. Bishop Robert Barron of Minnesota said the church must make “a strong statement” on gender ideology. The guidelines draw on recent Vatican documents and a 2023 bishops’ note rejecting interventions to alter sexual characteristics. Responses remain divided: some parishes welcome trans Catholics, while others resist. Progressive denominations countered, affirming transgender, intersex, and nonbinary people as “created in the image of God.” Q
Derek Kitchen enters race for Congress
Former state senator, Salt Lake City councilmember, and LGBTQ+ civil rights figure Derek Kitchen officially launched his campaign for the U.S. House of Representatives this week, declaring that Utah’s newly redrawn 1st Congressional District “finally has a Democratic district, and it deserves a real progressive champion who has what it takes to fight back against Donald Trump and the MAGA Republican agenda.”
Kitchen, long known for his role in Utah’s marriage equality movement and his tenure as one of the few openly LGBTQ+ lawmakers in the state, said the new district presents a once-in-a-generation opening.
“Utah finally has a district where we can elect a representative who reflects our values,” he said, adding, “Now, Utah has a newly drawn district – a strong, solidly Democratic district – and for the first time in a generation, we have the chance to elect a progressive leader who reflects the values of the people who live here.”
Kitchen frames his candidacy around a lifelong commitment to justice and public service.
“Utah is my home. It’s shaped my values, grounded my work, and taught me what community really means,” he said. That foundation, he noted, began long before he held office. In 2013, Kitchen and his now-former husband became central figures in the landmark marriage equality case Kitchen v. Herbert. “I sued the governor in federal court… that made Utah the first state in America where a federal court required recognition of same-sex marriage,” he said. “It showed the nation what I already knew: Utah can lead.”
He says that belief guided his work at every stage. “On the Salt Lake City Council and in the Utah State Senate, I fought for affordable housing, sustainable growth, equality and dignity for every Utahn, and economic development that actually benefits working families — standing proudly with organized labor along the way.”
But being openly queer in Utah’s conservative Legislature also shaped his ability to govern. “As one of the few openly
LGBTQ+ legislators in America – and as a progressive in the deepred Utah legislature – I learned how to build coalitions, work across the aisle, and stand firm when it really matters.”
Kitchen also highlights federal experience he gained after leaving the Senate. “Most recently, I served in the Biden Administration as Senior Vice President at the Export-Import Bank, where I worked at the intersection of economic diplomacy, trade policy, and national security.”
Still, he insists some of his deepest lessons came from closer to home.
“Some of the most important lessons I’ve learned don’t come from government or politics. They come from owning a small business in Salt Lake,” he said. His popular restaurant, he added, taught him that “it all starts at the kitchen table… Running a small business teaches you humility, grit, and the power of service. It teaches you to take care of your people –and that’s more than just paying a living wage, it’s about bringing people together. Community is something you build.”
That message plays prominently in his pitch to voters of the new 1st District, which spans much of urban Salt Lake County and is widely considered safely Democratic after redistricting.
“We have a chance to elect a proven progressive who shares our values,” Kitchen said. “In Congress, Derek will fight for the Utah that we believe in, and I’ll never compromise on our values.”
Kitchen’s platform centers on four major themes: economic security, human rights, environmental protection, and government accountability.
“We deserve a Utah where everyone can afford to live and thrive,” he said, promising to “champion affordable housing, living wages, and smart growth that plans for the future.”
Kitchen also emphasized his continued commitment to civil rights.
“We deserve a Utah that leads on equality and human rights,” he said. “I will fight for full dignity for LGBTQ+ Utahns, women, immigrants, and communities historically excluded from power. I’m pro-choice, and I will always stand up for abortion rights.”
Environmental protection also features prominently in his message.
“We deserve a Utah that protects its outdoors, and our future,” Kitchen said. “We face many unique challenges with climate change in Utah – a drying Great Salt Lake, dangerous air, and risk to our tourism. I will always stand up to protect the environment.”
And, as in his past campaigns, he stresses independence from corporate interests.
“Our campaign will be fueled by people like you, not special interests,” Kitchen said. “Derek will always champion transparency, anti-corruption policies, and a representative who works for the people, not special interests.”
Kitchen closed his announcement with a promise to bring his history of advocacy to Washington.
“I’ve always fought for the issues that matter, even when it’s tough,” he said. “I’m ready to carry that fight all the way to Congress.” Q
Midvale Mayor Dustin Gettel, Helper Mayor Lenice Peterman, Salt Lake City Council members Chris Wharton and Erika Carlsen
LGBTQ+ and EU-endorsed candidates’ municipal election results
This year’s municipal elections brought a blend of decisive wins and narrow losses for openly LGBTQ+ candidates and those endorsed by Equality Utah.
Openly LGBTQ+ Candidates
In Midvale, newly appointed Mayor DUSTIN GETTEL secured a full term with 61 percent of the vote in a threeway race. Gettel, who took office in January after the previous mayor resigned, thanked supporters on Instagram: “Thank you for believing in me… I’m excited to keep moving Midvale forward together!”
In Carbon County, Helper Mayor LENISE PETERMAN won a third term with 53.82 percent of the 615 ballots cast. She celebrated on Facebook, writing that she was “beyond honored to serve this amazing community for the next 4 years” and grateful to all candidates who stepped forward to serve.
Two LGBTQ+ candidates performed strongly in Salt Lake City. District 3 Council Chair CHRIS WHARTON secured a rare third term with 51 percent of the vote in a five way race. “I’m honored, humbled, and thrilled to have earned the trust of District 3,” he said, noting that while progress has been made on housing affordability, public safety, and air quality, “there’s still a lot of work to be done.”
In District 5, ERIKA CARLSEN won decisively with 66 percent, reflecting on the historic makeup of the incoming council: “Majority Latino. Majority LGBTQ+. Majority female… I’m excited to get to work on ensuring Salt Lake City is a place we are ALL proud to call home.”
Two queer candidates fell short in their races. In Ogden, Councilmember MARCIA WHITE lost her At-Large A seat with 43.37 percent of the vote. Reflecting on 12 years of service, she
urged Ogden residents to embrace “progress and compassion, growth and preservation, innovation and tradition.”
In Midvale, JAMIE STEVERSON lost the District 5 council race to Denece Mikolash. Before results were finalized, Steverson noted, “Either I make history as the first openly trans person elected to public office in Utah, or I don’t. Either way, the fight is just beginning.”
Equality Utah–Endorsed Candidates
Equality Utah’s slate saw strong early returns statewide, with many endorsed candidates leading or winning races in Midvale, Cottonwood Heights, South Salt Lake, and beyond.
In mayoral races, GAY LYNN BENNION won in Cottonwood Heights (57.52%), PAUL FOTHERINGHAM in Holladay (57.04%), CHERIE WOOD in South Salt Lake (66.76%), and DUSTIN GETTEL in Midvale (62%). LENISE PETERMAN also won in Helper (53.61%). One race remains extremely tight: Park City mayoral contender RYAN DICKEY leads by just seven votes at 50.03 percent, prompting a recount.
Salt Lake County showed especially strong support for Equality Utah’s endorsed city council candidates. In Salt Lake City, VICTORIA PETRO won District 1 with 52 percent, CHRIS WHARTON held District 3 with 51 percent in final RCV results, ERIKA CARLSEN won District 5 with 66 percent, and SARAH YOUNG was unopposed in District 7.
Other notable council wins include:
• RACHEL WHIPPLE in Provo (67.15%)
• BRYANT BROWN in Midvale District 4 (76.43%)
• ELLEN BIRRELL in Cottonwood Heights District 4 (67.62%)
• LYNDSAY LONGTIN in Kearns District 2 (58.01%)
• THOM DESIRANT in Millcreek District 2 (59.25%)
• BEV UIPI in Millcreek District 4 (81.97%)
• FLOR LOPEZ in Ogden District 1 (60.12%)
• LARS NORDFELT for West Valley’s At Large seat (54.82%)
• MATT ISAACSON for Lake Mountain School Board (52.18%)
• DAVID SMITH for Timpanogos School District Seat 3 (52.34%)
• ALISA VAN LENGEVELD in North Salt Lake’s six way race (31.88%)
• DANIELLE KING in Clearfield (33.19%)
• DIEGO ZEGARRA (34.27%) and TANA TOLY (39.72%) in Park City’s at-large seats
• ANNETTE HARRIS (17.67%) and JESSICA WIGNALL (16.65%) winning two of West Jordan’s three at-large seats. Several endorsed candidates did not prevail.
• TARA CHIASSON in Big Water (44.85%)
• AUBRY BENNION in Bountiful (18.71%)
• KATIE REED in Perry (18.13%)
• NATE WORTHEN in Providence (22.21%)
• JAMIE STEVERSON in Midvale District 5 (33.4%)
• JARED EBORN in Murray District 2 (45.2%)
• BEN PECK 43.56 percent in Murray District 3.
• IVA WILLIAMS in Sandy District 3 (43.18%)
• STACY HUGHES in South Jordan District 5 (47.11%)
• MARCIA WHITE in Ogden At Large A (43.37%).
One previously endorsed candidate, PAUL HANCOCK of Lehi, had already been eliminated in the primary. Q
SLC returns to 100 score in HRC Municipality Equality Index
The Human Rights Campaign launched its 14th annual Municipal Equality Index from the steps of the Salt Lake City County Building alongside Salt Lake City Mayor Erin Mendenhall, City Council Chair Chris Wharton, and City Council Vice Chair Alejandro Puy to highlight the city’s efforts to regain a perfect score in a state that has passed many anti-LBGTQ+ laws in the past two years.
After dipping slightly to 96 points in 2024 because of anti-LGBTQ+ state legislation, the city has returned to the top, maintaining a record of excellence that began with its first 100 point score in 2021.
Cathryn Oakley, senior director of legal policy and the founding author of the
measured and celebrated by the municipal equality index, there are so many wonderful cities like our friends here in Salt Lake who have been doing a truly phenomenal job to continue to find ways to respect, support, appreciate, and serve LGBTQ folks in their community,” she continued.
Erin Mendenhall mentioned that the city was hosting thousands of elected leaders from cities, towns, and villages at the National League of Cities City Summit during this announcement. She also discussed the city’s progress toward equality since she became mayor.
MEI, spoke from Salt Lake City at a press conference launching this year’s report.
“The story of this year’s report is really best told with two statistics. First, for the first time in a long time, the average national score fell. The second statistic that’s really important is that we have more 100-point scores than we ever have had before,” Oakley said. “Both of those statistics are important because I think it really speaks to the situation that we find ourselves in, where cities across the country find themselves in, where they are facing increasing pressure to walk away from initiatives that protect many different types of members of a community, including but not limited to LGBTQ people. And there are a lot of pressures on cities around the country to roll back those efforts to make those efforts less visible, to dial back services.”
“While the situation remains very difficult for lots of cities around the country to be able to continue doing the work that is
“In 2019, just before I took office as mayor, Salt Lake City received an MEI score of 66. When I became mayor in 2020, I knew that we must do better and that we could do better. So, we’ve been putting in the work,” Mendenhall said. She noted that Weston Clark, Salt Lake City’s director of community out-
reach, took on the role to help increase the MEI score “with passion and commitment every single year.”
Mendenhall went on to enumerate the progress her office and the city council have made in LGBTQ+ equality over the past five years.
In 2020, the city began covering “gender affirming, life saving surgery for our employees and their dependents as part of our benefits package.” They also documented many initiatives that HRC hadn’t included in previous scores.
In 2021, the mayor said, HRC gave Salt Lake City its first perfect 100 score, which it kept for the following two years as well.
“And then in 2024, our city’s score dropped to 96 points due to a change in state law that was related to access to gender affirming care for minors,” Mendenhall said. “But let me be clear, Salt Lake City is still proud to cover this care and to provide that in our insurance that’s offered to our employees. But getting that care in the state
of Utah is more difficult for minors. And we know that that is unacceptable, and we encourage and hope that our legislature will remedy that decision that was made at the state level to reverse that decision.”
“We’ve continued to do everything in our power to make up those four points that we lost, not because of the points, but because it matters to keep doing the work,” Mendenhall continued. “And there is always more work to do. So, we had to get a little bit creative. For example, earlier this year, the state passed a bill that effectively outlawed government buildings from flying any flag except one that, in the state’s words, ‘represents a city, municipality, county, or political subdivision of the state. Salt Lake City looked closely at how we could abide by the law and still represent our city and our people’s values. The result was the adoption of three additional city flags in May of this year. One representing the history of Juneteenth and our Black and African-American residents, one representing our LGBTQIA residents and our loving acceptance of those residents, and another representing our transgender community and our commitment to seeing and celebrating them. On each flag, our iconic sego lily emblem adorns the upper hoist canton, leaving no question that these are indeed city flags and that they represent our shared values of belonging and acceptance.”
“And just last week, right here at city hall on a similarly beautiful day, we celebrated the inaugural raising of the Sego visibility flag at the beginning of Transgender Awareness Week and in anticipation of this Thursday’s Trans Day of Remembrance,” Mendenhall announced. “And that flag’s flying for you today. It flies proudly in front of this building, saying to everyone who sees it, Salt Lake City is here for you. Salt Lake City believes in you. And Salt Lake City loves you. Because in this city, we know that acknowledging and celebrating our diverse communities does not exclude others. In fact, it unifies us.”
Salt Lake City Council Chair Chris Wharton introduced himself as “the chair of a majority queer city council.”
“This recognition serves as a powerful reminder to our LGBTQ neighbors that you belong here. Your city sees, and we want to protect your right to live authentically,” Wharton said. “As a gay man and as an at-
torney who spent many years working on equality issues and who actually started my work in city government on the Salt Lake City Human Rights Commission when we helped create a report for the council to pass the first anti discrimination ordinance in housing and employment that included LGBTQ protections in the state of Utah. Later, that became state law, and now it is enshrined in federal law as well.”
“We all know that a score on this equality index is not a finish line,” Wharton continued. “There’ll be future years. There’ll be changing criteria. But this is a reminder that we need to keep growing, that we need to keep listening, and keep protecting the people who call Salt Lake City home. And in a year when so many of our rights have been changed and challenged across the country and in Utah, this work has never mattered more.”
According to HRC, the 132 cities
scoring the highest possible marks represent a combined population of roughly 49 million people, and emphasize that this “high-water mark is critical as pressure continues from states that pass laws and policies that seek to shut transgender people — particularly trans youth — out of public life.”
Other areas where the city made progress this year include the adoption of a youth bullying prevention policy and the expansion of city services for LGBTQ+ individuals, including those experiencing homelessness, older adults, members of the transgender community, and people living with HIV/AIDS.
Areas where the Index showed that
Salt Lake City could improve include the passage of non-discrimination laws for LGBTQ+ people in public accommodations, additional transgender-inclusive healthcare benefits for city employees, and non-discrimination enforcement powers for the city’s human rights commission.
Other Utah Municipalities
Other Utah cities and towns that the Index tracks include Park City with a score of 83, Ogden at 56, Provo at 54, Logan at 48, West Valley at 44, and West Jordan and Orem both at 34.
All of those scores are within a point or two of those reported last year.
“HRC’s Municipal Equality Index demonstrates the ways that many cities can — and do — support the LGBTQ+ people who live and work there, even where states and the federal government have failed to do so,” an HRC statement continued. Q
Salt Lake City’s
The Utah Pride Center has had a transformative 18 months and sent a message of gratitude, resilience, and a call to collective action. In a heartfelt letter launching the Center’s end-of-year giving campaign, executive director Chad Call reflected on what he described as “nothing short of a rebirth” over the past year and a half.
“Our small but mighty team has worked tirelessly to bring programs, support, and joy back to our community,” Call wrote. “And truly, it’s because of you that we are here.”
The Center’s new downtown home has become a lively hub for connection, healing, and celebration. Call noted that the building “has truly come alive,” now welcoming drop in visitors five days a week and offering programming and community groups seven days a week. Longstanding offerings like Pride in Recovery and Religious Trauma continue to anchor the Center’s support network, while new groups, including the Latine Social Group, Sapphic Voices, and Sit & Stitch, have expanded its reach. Pride Nights with Real Salt Lake, the Utah Grizzlies, and Pioneer Theatre Company added to a year filled with communi-
ty partnerships and queer joy.
Utah Pride, the Center’s flagship program, also made a statewide impact. In March, the organization unfurled what it believes to be “the world’s largest transgender flag” and marched it down State Street for Transgender Day of Visibility. June brought Utah’s largest Pride celebration, featuring David Archuleta and CupcakKe, which the Center proudly hosted “all while staying in the green.”
Beyond Salt Lake City, the organization supported dozens of local celebrations and even helped bring Brigham City its first ever Pride in the Park.
And the HalloQueen Ball? Call had just these words for its success: the community “showed up in a BIG way.”
These milestones, he said, highlight something essential: “Utah’s queer community is strong, resilient, and full of light. That’s where our strength in our community shows. Utah knows how to show up.”
But Call also acknowledged the challenges facing LGBTQIA+ nonprofits nationwide, noting widespread “funding cuts, scaled-back programs, and postponed Pride celebrations.” While he emphasized that the Utah
Pride Center remains financially stable, he added that it has “not been immune to nationwide corporate giving declines, even as demand for our programs continues to grow.”
This year’s campaign, aptly titled Make the Yuletide Gay, is both a celebration of community spirit and an appeal for sustaining support.
“Your money goes directly to programs, to support groups, to transgender joy, to Latine community gatherings, to rural Prides, to the people and places that need us most,” Call wrote. “And yes: even $10 a month makes an incredible difference in our work.”
Call stressed that the Center’s donor base is built not on wealth, but on solidarity. “Most of our donors are not wealthy. They are students, teachers, artists, parents, baristas — people who give what they can because they believe every queer Utahn deserves to thrive.”
“That’s my dream. It may be lofty, but it’s why I dedicate my time, energy, and heart to this movement. It’s why I’m proud to ask
you to join us,” he said.
If more community members joined as monthly donors, he said, “we could expand our programs statewide, build more local Pride celebrations, support queer youth and families, and ensure no LGBTQ+ Utahn ever feels alone.”
In the letter’s closing, Call made his commitment personal. “I love this community. I love you. I see you. I show up for you. And I promise to steward every dollar with ethics, responsibility, and unwavering commitment to our mission: to Unite, Empower, and Celebrate.”
As the holiday season approaches, he urged supporters to “do what we do best and let’s show up for each other and ‘Make the Yuletide Gay.’”
The Utah Pride Center will also host its Big Gay Holiday Show on Friday, December 19, at 7 p.m. at the Urban Arts Gallery — another chance for the community to gather, celebrate, and continue the momentum of a year defined by resilience and revival.
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The Utah AIDS Foundation, now operating as UAF Legacy Health, is set to mark a major milestone this month, hosting a 40th anniversary celebration on World AIDS Day, Monday, Dec. 1. The free, private, 21-and-over event will take place at the Rose Wagner Performing Arts Center’s Black Box Theatre in downtown Salt Lake City.
Organizers say the evening aims to honor four decades of service, advocacy, and community care while recognizing the people who have helped shape Utah’s HIV/AIDS response from the organization’s earliest days. Founded in 1985 at the height of the AIDS crisis, the Utah AIDS Foundation has grown from a small, volunteer-driven grassroots effort into a full-service community health center serving Utah’s LGBTQ+ and allied populations.
“This anniversary isn’t just about our organization — it’s about everyone who marched, volunteered, led, or simply showed up when it mattered,” the invitation states. “Your commitment has directly or indirectly shaped this journey.”
The Dec. 1 celebration will blend remembrance, joy, and community connection. Guests will be treated to complimentary hors d’oeuvres and drinks catered by LUX Catering, as well as live entertainment, including a performance by the acclaimed Repertory Dance Theatre. The program also includes a preview of a newly commissioned documentary chronicling UAF’s 40-year history, highlighting the challenges and triumphs that have defined Utah’s response to HIV/AIDS.
The anniversary arrives at a moment of growth and
Salt Lake
renewed purpose. While honoring its roots in HIV/AIDS advocacy, UAF has expanded its mission in recent years to encompass broader community health services, including primary care, behavioral health, STI testing and treatment, PrEP access, gender affirming care, and harm reduction programs.
Leaders say the celebration is as much about looking forward as it is about looking back. As Utah continues to diversify and grow, UAF Legacy Health’s work remains a critical resource for LGBTQ+ individuals, people living with HIV, and communities often underserved by traditional health systems.
World AIDS Day, observed globally each year on Dec. 1, serves both as a remembrance of the lives lost to HIV/AIDS and a recommitment to ending the epidemic. UAF’s event aims to bridge those themes, providing space for grief, gratitude, and renewed determination.
Organizers describe the evening as one of community, joy, and reflection, bringing together longtime advocates, current partners, and new supporters to celebrate an enduring legacy. The gathering will also spotlight the network of volunteers, donors, healthcare workers, and grassroots activists whose efforts have sustained the organization across four decades.
“For 40 years, Utah has moved forward because of people like you,” the invitation reads. “We hope you’ll join us as we honor the past, celebrate the present, and build a healthier future.” Q The event will take place Monday, Dec. 1, 5:30 p.m. at the Rose Wagner Performing Arts Center’s Black Box Theatre, 138 W Broadway. Attendance is free, but advance RSVP is required at EVENTBRITE.COM
Dennis McCracken’s final Christmas concert as artistic director of Salt Lake Men’s Choir
This December, the Salt Lake Men’s Choir (often fondly called Utah’s “OTHER Choir”) will present its annual holiday concert with a bittersweet twist: it’s the last Christmas show under the direction of Dennis McCracken, who is stepping down after 20 years at the helm. For many in Salt Lake City’s LGBTQ+ and arts communities, McCracken has been more than a conductor — he’s been a mentor, a unifying force, and a steady musical presence.
I spoke with him about his final holiday season leading the choir, his legacy, and what comes next.
When asked about planning this year’s concert, McCracken smiles and leans back in his chair.
“I try and find a piece of music to use as a title, and I stumbled upon Patti LuPone doing a number in her show, ‘Songs from a Hat’ at a dinner club called 54 Below in New York City, called ‘Santa Lost a Ho,” he said. “And so we found the music, and we made it our title song and called the concert ‘Merry Ho?”
“Then I started listening to music and looking through our library. I try to pick equal amounts of sacred Christmas music and secular music so no one gets offended,” he said. “The concert is a blend of sacred, secular music, some familiar and something new. Hopefully, there is music that will delight everyone.”
That balance, he says, is always central to his programming philosophy. He describes his process for choosing songs as both deliberate and deeply musical.
Among his favorites for this concert are Dan Forrest’s arrangement of O Little Town of Bethlehem and John Rutter’s I Wish You Christmas. For him, these pieces capture the concert’s emotional arc — reverent, joyful, and gently surprising.
TWO DECADES OF BUILDING A CHORAL FAMILY
McCracken’s departure marks the end of an era for the Salt Lake Men’s Choir, and he reflects on what first drew him to the group 20 years ago.
“I was looking for a place to use my talents. I really loved what the choir stood for as far as a mission statement,” he remembers.
Among the many memorable performances during his tenure, two stand out for him: singing at Ben McAdams’ Salt Lake County Mayoral inauguration, and what he affectionately calls “The ABBA Concert.” These moments, he says, truly “captured the spirit” of the choir — bringing civic engagement, joy, and the unexpected to the stage.
Since he first stood on the podium, McCracken has observed real growth.
“We have slowly increased the musical ability of the choir to tackle more difficult music. Each year we build on the last year,” he said.
But it’s not just about technical progress. He’s also witnessed a cultural shift.
“I also think we are more accepted now than when I started directing. We have lots of allies who are fans of the choir and come to each concert,” he said.
That said, he admits there were still moments that surprised him — some, painful ones.
“I am still surprised when we get negative reactions to us being a ‘gay’ choir. I remember being asked to sing with a local symphony one summer. The powers-that-be did not realize who we were until we showed up to rehearsal just before the concert. Some of them were not pleased. We sang very well, but I knew we would never be asked back.”
McCracken pauses when asked what the choir uniquely contributes to Utah’s arts scene and to LGBTQ+ visibility.
“I feel we fill a spot in the arts scene that is unique to us. We are made up of gay men, allies, and we have had some trans folks singing with us. We have never hidden who we are and stand proud of our organization,” he said.
He smiles, remembering the chaos of weekly rehearsals.
“It is like herding cats all the time! I deal with 90 different, unique personalities every week. I always try to bring some form of laughter to each rehearsal. I have singers who are shy and some who are outgoing. Trying to keep the balance is sometimes a big task,” he laughs.
One of his guiding
philosophies, he says, is simple but profound.
“I always talk about the fact that we are a family first. This is a place where everyone is safe and we take care of each other,” he said. “That is so important, especially in today’s world.”
It’s a lesson he hopes the next director carries forward.
STEPPING DOWN — BUT NOT AWAY
When I ask what he’ll miss most, McCracken’s voice quiets.
“I am going to miss teaching music. But, I am not going away.”
He smiles, reassurance in his tone.
“I will still be there on Thursday nights to help wherever I am needed, and I hope to do some community building. This choir is my chosen family, and I still want to be a part of it.”
As for his hopes for how he’ll be remembered?
“First, that I loved them and loved my time being the artistic director,” he started.”Second, I did the best I could to make them successful and wonderful. I am excited to see what a new director brings to the choir and what direction he takes them.”
This year’s Christmas concert — full of sacred carols, secular tunes, whimsy, and warmth — will be more than a seasonal performance. It will be a celebration of community, resilience, and the lasting family that McCracken helped build. As the choir sings the last Christmas concert under his baton one last time, audience and singers alike will share in the joy of tradition — and the hope for whatever harmony lies ahead. Q
The concerts will be performed on Friday, Dec. 12 and Saturday, Dec. 13 at 7:30 p.m. and Sunday, Dec. 14 at 4 p.m. Tickets are available at SALTLAKEMENSCHOIR. ORG and at the door.
Utah’s Transgender Day of Remembrance 2025
TDOR FLAG MEMORIAL
The Glitter Foundation unveiled its eighth annual Transgender Day of Remembrance Memorial, which is on display through November 29 on the plaza of St. Mark’s Episcopal Cathedral, 231 E. 100 South in downtown Salt Lake City. This year marks a significant transition for the memorial, which has been displayed at the Salt Lake City and County Building for the past eight years.
TDOR CEREMONY SERVICE
To commemorate Transgender Day of Remembrance, the Glitter Foundation will host a ceremony and candlelight vigil on Thursday, November 20, from 6 to 7:30 p.m. at the Salt Lake City Main Library Nancy Tessman Auditorium, 210 E 400 South, followed by a procession to St. Mark’s Cathedral for the vigil. The event will feature readings of names, personal reflections, music, and moments of silence, creating a shared space for remembrance and solidarity.
Both the memorial and the ceremony are free and open to the public. Community members, allies, and local organizations are encouraged to attend and show their support.
More info at instagram.com/glitterfoundationutah/
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“It’s a celebratory moment for a lot of people ... Nothing’s sexier than progress’”
—Jonathan Bailey said after becoming the first openly gay man named Sexiest Man Alive
“As a community, we have to kick outwards instead of punching inwards ... There’s this scapegoating that needs to happen. It feels like it’s the worst time in history for trans people right now.”
—Russell Tovey on the divide between some in the gay and transgender communities.
“Today’s election results make one thing clear: Americans are rejecting divisive politics that target LGBTQ people and instead demanding civic leadership rooted in belonging, inclusion, and respect.”
—GLAAD statement after the recent election
“This is a heartbreaking setback for the freedom of all people to be themselves … Forcing transgender people to carry passports that out them … increases the risk that they will face harassment and violence … adds to the considerable barriers they already face.
—ACLU on Supreme Court allowing Trump administration to enforce discriminatory passport policy
AGrab the Chloroform because Marjorie Tayor Greene is woke!
DANNE WITKOWSKI
few years
ago, I was in the home of two lovely gay men for a campaign event. Their home was gorgeous with lots of art. While I was looking at a cabinet of different curios, I saw a badge that read, “Secret Jewish Space Lasers Corps” and had a Star of David image made of what looked like lasers.
“This is amazing,” I said to one of the hosts, who was Jewish, pointing at the badge. He laughed and said that his husband had gotten that for him “because of crazy things said by you know who.”
Oh, I definitely did know who: U.S. Rep. Marjorie Taylor Greene (R Georgia).
Back in 2018, Greene, a major Trump supporter, blamed the California wildfires on “Jewish space lasers.”
Well, kind of.
“Although Greene has never publicly used the exact phrase Jewish space lasers,’ the controversy originated with a since deleted 2018 Facebook post from the Georgia Republican that did reference Jewish people and lasers from space,” reports Newsweek. “The post touted an antisemitic conspiracy theory that suggested the Rothschilds, a wealthy Jewish banking family who often feature in antisemitic conspiracies, were profiting off of California wildfires supposedly caused by ‘lasers or blue beams of light’ from space.”
Green’s antisemitic tirade was appropriately shortened to “Jewish space lasers” and cemented her reputation as a member of the not particularly intelligent far-right fringe in Congress, especially when taken together with the many wild ass things she’s said during her time in Congress.
“Greene has repeatedly drawn national attention for promoting conspiracy theories, including claims about 9/11 [and] mass shootings,” reports Fox5. “Her statements have included racist, Islamophobic and anti-LGBTQ remarks, as well as inflammatory comparisons between
COVID 19 policies and the Holocaust.”
There were some other things, too. Like the time she believed a conspiracy theory about Hillary Clinton murdering children in satanic rituals, or when she claimed that 9/11 was an inside job, or when she mocked a fellow congressperson’s transgender child.
So, yeah. That’s all very, um, problematic.
Or, I should say, WAS problematic. No more! Because Greene is woke now. Haven’t you heard?
Trump and Greene have had a falling out as of late. It started regarding Trump’s support for Israel. According to Newsweek, Greene was “the first elected Republican official to call its actions in the Gaza Strip a genocide.”
Greene got some props for this declaration, but it’s important to remember that she didn’t call out Israel because she cares about Palestinians. She called out Israel because she doesn’t like Jews.
But it seems that the Epstein files were the breaking point. Greene has been a vocal supporter of releasing the files, convinced that it would expose “the cabal of rich and powerful elites that enabled this.”
Greene was one of a small number of Republicans who signed onto a petition to release the Epstein files, and Trump responded by freaking the fuck out. Like a totally normal, innocent guy does.
“Wacky Marjorie ‘Traitor’ Brown (Remember, Greene turns to Brown where there is ROT involved!) is working overtime to try and portray herself as a victim when, in actuality, she is the cause of all of her own problems,” Trump wrote in a tortured Truth Social post.
Trump also called her “a ranting Lunatic” and a “Traitor to our Country!” (and, yes, he capitalized these words because of course he did).
But you have to understand, Greene didn’t support the release of the Epstein files because she thought it would get Trump in trouble. In fact, she’s still
defending Trump, saying he wasn’t involved in sexually assaulting children.
According to Newsweek, Greene said she “never thought that fighting to release the Epstein files, defending women who were victims of rape, and fighting to expose the web of rich, powerful elites would have caused this, but here we are.”
Here we are, indeed.
And now that Trump has disavowed Greene, there are Democrats who are like, “Hey, there’s room for you in our big tent!”
As if Greene is suddenly no longer anti-LGBTQ+, racist, or antisemitic just because Trump called her a traitor.
Keep in mind, this is a much more enthusiastic welcome than Democrats have given New York Mayor Elect Zohran Mamdani. You know, the guy who ran on the issues Democrats supposedly give a shit about, like making housing and groceries affordable. People came out in droves to vote for him.
But Democrats would rather woo far-right caricatures like Greene than win elections.
Meanwhile, we’re all still living in a fascist hellscape. One that Greene gleefully helped to usher in.
Let’s be clear: Greene is not on our side, no matter what names Trump calls her. And the Democrats trying their damndest to pull the party to the right? They’re not on our side, either. Q
D’Anne Witkowski is a writer living with her wife and son. She has been writing about LGBTQ+ politics for nearly two decades. Follow her on X @MamaDWitkowski.
Once’Tis
who’s your daddy
the season. Again.
CHRISTOPHER KATIS
again,
’tis the season to find the perfect gift for the LGBTQ+ parents and their kids in your life. Here are a few ideas that I think will help make your holiday shopping easy as trimming the tree.
If you’re looking for great ideas for babies and parents alike, ETSY seems to be the place to shop. For the baby of two moms, you can’t go wrong with one or all of these adorable onesies. The kid can announce IF YOU THINK MY MOM’S CUTE, YOU SHOULD SEE MY OTHER MOM! Why not shout that they’re being raised by two queens, complete with two stick figure mothers?
(Personally, I think not offering this with two fathers is a huge missed opportunity!)
For any baby lucky enough to be raised by a couple of guys, Etsy has you covered. How about a shirt suggesting IF DAD SAYS “NO”, ASK OTHER DAD? Try the whimsical onesie asking, WHAT?!! MY DAD IS GAY?!! WHICH ONE?
Also, from that online marketplace, you can find ornaments for the tree declaring TWO DADS ARE BETTER THAN ONE (a sentiment I agree with 100%), and one featuring two moms and a kid that can
be personalized to include individual names. For those who imbibe, you can pick up queer-themed wine and beer glasses that pay homage to Friends decorated with THE ONE WHERE WE BECAME PARENTS. They’re customizable to add the year of the kid’s birth. Other great choices for adults can be found at PREGNANT TOGETHER , an “inclusive virtual community that ensures LGBTQ+ families, solo parents, and all birthing people receive the compassionate, identity affirming care they deserve.” They offer a whole line of merch specifically for LGBTQ+ parents. I especially like the shirt that declares QUEER PARENTS ARE BADASS. They also offer the shirt for trans and non-binary parents, which is refreshing.
ALL OUR LOVE BY KARI-LYNN
AND SCOT RITCHIE is a little girl’s letter to the baby brother her dads are adopting. The fun SATURDAY IS PANCAKE DAY tells the story of a kid and a dad trying to get the other dad out of bed on a weekend morning.
MUDPUPPY, which creates toys, puzzles, and games to engage the whole family, offers some LGBTQ+ inclusive storyboard books, including LOVE UNDER THE STARS, which stars different animals expressing their love during the night, and They, He, She, introducing little ones to inclusive pronouns. There are also wooden tray puzzles like LOVE IN THE WILD, featuring two rainbow-maned male lions. I’ve always been a huge advocate of giving books for gifts.
THE PIRATE MOMS by Jodie Lancet-Grant shows that there is strength in having different from the norm parents. MY MOMMIES BUILT A TREEHOUSE by Gareth Peter offers a great lesson about parental support. Your first source for these and a plethora of other great titles for queer families should be THE KING’S ENGLISH BOOKSHOP, which has been a friend of our community since it opened its doors. If they don’t have it in stock, they’ll be happy to order it for you. Speaking of reading, a subscription to GAY PARENT MAGAZINE would be sweet! Finally, let’s not forget that there are a ton of great organizations that can use your support. A donation in a family’s name to THE TREVOR PROJECT, ENCIRCLE, PROJECT RAINBOW, and the UTAH PRIDE CENTER would be awesome. All of the above suggestions – and many more – are great ideas to give the LGBTQ+ parents and their kids this holiday season, but at the risk of being completely cliché, the very best gift you can give us is your unwavering love and support. Sounds pretty simple, right? Happy Holidays, everyone. Q
WINTERS
We are a social/service group for those that identify as men, organized to support and promote diversity, inclusion, foster positive involvement in our community, and provide opportunities which enhance the personal growth of our members, the Bear community, and the LGBT community as a whole. UtahBears.com utahbearsinc@gmail.com E @utahbears c @utahbears2011
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Holiday Shopping Guide
Commemorate a pivitol moment, give a beautiful gift, support an up-and-coming political photographer’s work
Commemorate a pivotal moment in history with the unveiling of the Pride flag at the Utah State Capitol in 2025 byb Romy Colvin, beautifully captured on canvas. This momentous occasion occurred just days after the Pride flag ban. You can acquire this 8x10 limited edition piece for just $60.
Prints and canvas reproductions of most photos in the Instagram gallery are available, with prices varying. For further details, please contact- @colvining_photography at INSTAGRAM.COM/COLVINING_PHOTOGRAPHY
SmugShot & MisShapen Identity — Local Art That Pops
Looking for the perfect locally made gift? Salt Lake City illustrator Scott Perry has you covered with SmugShot and MisShapen Identity, two delightful paperbacks packed with over 200 caricatures of pop-culture icons—from Endora to Elphaba, Barney Fife to Beyoncé. What started as an artist’s challenge (“I drew 100 caricatures in 100 days… it was so much fun, I did it again,” Perry said) has become a pair of playful keepsakes that double as stocking stuffers, guessing-game gold, or the quirkiest coffee-table books of the season. Both titles celebrate cinema, theater, music, literature, and more, all filtered through Perry’s unmistakable style. MisShapen Identity dropped this year, following 2024’s SmugShot: Pop Culture in Caricature. Pick them up locally at The King’s English Bookshop, 1511 S. 1500 East, or online at KINGSENGLISH.COM.
Under the Umbrella Gifting Tree
Under the Umbrella Bookstore is supporting Shelter Kids Utah with an in-store gifting tree. Pick up a flier, buy an item on the back, and drop off your gift at Under the Umbrella! All donations go to help support atrisk youth and young adults in our community, many of whom are LGBTQIA+. Shelter Kids provides emergency shelter care, transitional housing, crisis counseling, and after-school programming to support local youth. Requested donations include essential items like coats, hygiene products, and socks, but also thoughtful gifts, meaningful activities, and monetary donations that help support youth all year long.
511 W. 200 South UNDERTHEUMBRELLABOOKSTORE.COM
Give the Gift of a Gorgeous Voice — Utah Vocal Studio Now Enrolling
If someone on your list dreams of singing with power, ease, and confidence, local vocologist Roger Cox is ready to guide their journey. A seasoned performer with credits ranging from Utah Chamber Artists and Utah Opera Chorus to Disneyland and PBS, Cox now brings decades of training—and a trauma-informed, LGBTQ-inclusive approach—to personalized voice lessons for singers of all levels.
At Utah Vocal Studio, Cox uses evidence-based motor-learning techniques to help students build coordination, expand range, and unlock their natural sound—often in fewer lessons. He coaches in English and Spanish and works with male, female, non-binary, and transgender vocalists, along with choir directors seeking better results from their ensembles.
Gift cards are available at utahvocalstudio. com—a perfect way to support local arts while giving someone the joy of discovering their true voice.
UTAHVOCALSTUDIO.COM or 801-649-4332
Your Amazing Gift Deserves an Amazing Wrap Job
Skip the frantic wrapping, the crumpled bags, and the roll-of-tape disasters. CONNIE ZELLER of Salty Bee
Events turns every gift into a beautifully wrapped showstopper and keeps your holiday surprises safely hidden until Christmas Eve. No more stressing over hiding spots or last-minute wrapping chaos. Your perfectly wrapped presents are stored securely, then delivered to you just in time for the big reveal. Look like a gifting genius without lifting a finger.
801-554-5803, CONNIE@CZELLEREVENTS.COM
Handcrafted Dolls & Rugs by DJ
Looking for a standout gift that supports local LGBTQ-friendly makers?
D.J.’s Handcrafted Santa Claus Dolls are true holiday showstoppers. Standing up to 40 inches tall, each Santa is individually sculpted, hand-made, and comes with a certificate of authenticity. They make stunning centerpieces, whether on your dining table, in an entryway, or standing proudly beside your tree. Local pickup or delivery is available in Murray due to their size.
While you’re browsing, don’t miss their other handcrafted magic, including whimsical elf and witch dolls, and a hand-tufted Bear Pride rug built to last indoors or out.
Explore the full collection or purchase directly at HANDCRAFTUSA.COM or reach out to shop@ handcrafteddolls.shop to claim your favorite piece.
Signed Hardcover bookplate of David Arhuleta’s upcoming book ‘Devout: Losing My Faith
to Find Myself’
In this raw, deeply honest memoir, Archuleta pulls back the curtain on his journey from closeted Mormon teen to global pop star to openly queer man. He traces the hidden pressures of fame, the weight of religious expectation, and the often-painful path toward self-acceptance. From American Idol stardom at seventeen to a tightly controlled career under his father, to a mission in South America and, ultimately, the decision to leave the Church in order to live authentically, Devout is as gripping as it is healing.
Featuring never-before-seen photos and stories that will resonate with anyone who’s ever navigated faith, identity, or the courage to break free, this signed edition makes a meaningful, heartfelt gift.Preorder the signed hardcover now for its February 17 release at PREMIERE COLLECTIBLES
Holiday Shopping Guide
Give the gift of a shave, a cut, or a wax
Is your giftee in need of some hair removal, be it on their head, their face, or their nether regions? God Shave the Queen has you ... uncovered.
GODSHAVETHEQUEEN.CO
801-330-5055
Duvenge@gmail.com
1140 E Brickyard Rd #33 Suite 112
No more frown lines on that pretty face
Does your special someone complain of wrinkles? Gift them Botox or Jeuveau treatments at ENLIGHTEN LASER COSMETICS
Right now, they are $10 per unit AND mention QSaltLake for 10 free units with the purchase of 35. 801-294-9999 or visit 1560 S. Renaissance Towne Dr. in Bountiful.
Flight Deck ‘Fear of Flying’ Flashcards: Your Pocket Pilot for Peaceful Flights
If flying has your gift friend sweating and searching for the nearest exit, meet Flight Deck: Fear of Flying Flashcards. Co-created by gay Salt Lake City local BRIAN MORRIS, a self-described “former fearful flyer,” and airline Captain Emma Henderson, these flashcards are designed to calm nerves and guide passengers step-by-step through the flight experience.
Inspired by Morris’s lifelong battle with aviophobia, the deck offers reassuring insights for every stage of a journey, from taxiing to takeoff, turbulence, and descent. “It’s like having a pilot in your pocket,” he said. Morris, who overcame his fears to officiate a friend’s wedding requiring air travel, combined notes from Henderson’s expert advice with his own experiences to create the cards. Each one breaks down common in-flight events — like the descent starting 30 minutes before landing — demystifying the process and easing anxiety.
Help your friend leave their flight fright on the ground this holiday season at FLIGHTDECK365.COM
Horns, curiosities, and ... morning wood
The gay-owned Conjuring Tree offers handcrafted items designed specifically from natural materials to bring love, light, and laughter into your home.
You’ll find items you’d expect in a metaphysical store and more: scented candles, candlesticks, curiosities, athames, Viking drinking horns, incense, herbs, and an assortment of bronze statues from the world-renown Veronese Collection, and let’s not forget — penis sculptures. In fact, they have a
large selection of phalli.
Some best-sellers are the variety of Viking drinking horns, mugs, and tankards. Drinking horns have been used across many cultures for over 2,600 years. The buffalo horn was the drinking vessel of the Gods. In Native American culture, horns represent wealth and abundance and are said to offer the energy of survival and the ability to overcome any obstacle.
7074 S Redwood Rd, West Jordan
THECONJURINGTREE.COM, 385-842-3750
Don your tree with gay luminescence with Tru-Tone from Ogden, Utah
In Ogden, Utah, tucked right off the main drag, lies the little workshop of Tru-Tone Light Bulbs, a place glowing with far more than just LEDs. This company was born from the shared vision of DAVID ANDORA and his husband, SEAN HUNT, who turned a dream of vintage warmth into a thriving modern business.
David, a designer who once worked in Chicago, longed for the old-fashioned magic of classic Christmas lights. He loved the soft warmth of incandescent bulbs, but as the world switched to LEDs, he found himself disappointed by the harshness and artificial feel of most new strings. With his savings and a year of painstaking work with manufacturers, he refined every detail: wattage, glass shape, filament style, and even ceramic coatings. His goal was clear: to create LED bulbs that looked and felt like traditional incandes-
cent ones. He and co-founder John Francisco launched the business in April of 2023.
Sean, David’s partner in life and business, brought a creative counterpoint— composing the company’s nostalgic jingle and helping shape its warm, welcoming identity. Together, they built Tru-Tone not just as a company, but as a tribute to memory, design, and shared joy.
Today, Tru-Tone still operates a showroom from that same Ogden location at 466 26th St. Customers can visit Monday–Friday, 10 a.m. to 1 p.m. and Saturday, 11 a.m. to 1 p.m. (Sunday closed). The company warns that hours may vary seasonally, so it’s wise to check ahead.
Behind that door, you’ll find their full lineup: vintage-style C7 and C9 LED bulbs, pre built light strings, and themed bundles that echo the charm of classic holiday displays.
Tru Tone’s work reflects both craftsmanship, community and true customer service.
You can explore their full product range and order from their site at TRU-TONE.COM
Their products are also available in Salt Lake City at RETRO BETTY, 2327 E 3300 South. Q
Bookworm Sez’ Holiday Gift Guide
BY TERRI SCHLICHENMEYER
Santa will be very relieved. You’ve taken most of the burden off him by making a list and checking it twice on his behalf. The gift-buying in your house is almost done – except for those few people who are just so darn hard to buy for. So what do you give to the person who has (almost) everything? You give them a good book, like maybe one of these… (This is an abbreviated version of the list. For the full list, go to QSaltLake.com)
GENERAL FICTION
For the person on your list who loves a charming little novel, wrap up “THE PECULIAR GIFT OF JULY” BY ASHLEY REAM (Dutton). It’s the story of an orphan who goes to live with a cousin who barely knows the girl and doesn’t really want her. But July, the child, has a little magic up her sleeve, and what happens will dazzle your giftee. Wrap it up with “The Irish Goodbye” by Heather Aimee O’Neill (Henry Holt & Company), the story of three sisters, a long holiday weekend, and secrets that need tending. Here’s something for the historical novel lover you know: “THIS HERE IS LOVE” BY PRINCESS JOY L. PERRY (W.W. NORTON) is set in 1690 in Virginia. One of the characters is a slave. One is the child of a freeman. One is an indentured slave, and all somehow find love despite their bondage. How can anyone resist a tale like that?
MYSTERIES
Someone on your gift list loves mysteries with a good scare in them, and “THE WHISTLER” BY NICK MEDINA (BERKLEY) could make the perfect gift. It’s the story of Henry Hotard, who was the recent victim of a tragedy and now finds himself back on the rez in his grandparents’ care. It’s not optimal – and neither is the thing that’s stalking him.
GENERAL NONFICTION
For the politics-watcher, “THE IMPROBABLY VICTORIA WOODHULL” BY EDEN COLLINSWORTH (Doubleday) will be a nice surprise gift. It’s about the first woman to run for president, but that’s not the only historical thing Woodhull did with her life. Wrap it up with a bookmark and let your giftee be astounded.
So how did we get here, politically? The person on your
gift list who wants to know will want “TRAJECTORY OF POWER: THE RISE OF THE STRONGMAN PRESIDENCY” BY WILLIAM G. HOWELL AND TERRY M. MOE (Princeton University Press), a history book that may explain a lot. Another politics-based book you might want to give is “A Dream Deferred: Jesse Jackson and the Fight for Black Political Power” by Abby Phillip (Flatiron Books). This book focuses on Jackson’s legacy, specifically, his runs for President in 1984 and 1988. It’s a great addition to your political giftee’s library.
If there’s an activist on your list – someone who’s concerned with the justice system, “THE VOLUNTEER” BY GIANNA TOBONI (ATRIA) will be an absorbing gift. It’s the story of Scott Dozier, who was sent to death row in Nevada in 2007. He didn’t fight to get off death row; in fact, what he fought for was that his sentence be hastened. Don’t bother to wrap this up with a bookmark; your giftee won’t need one.
The person who grouses about growing older will want “THE FIFTH SEASON: CREATIVITY IN THE SECOND HALF OF LIFE” BY MARK NEPO (St. Martin’s Press) because it’s calming and inspirational. Also, it’s got tips for embracing this time. Also, activities. Also, questions a giftee can ask themselves, and a calming influence, too.
HISTORY
of a marriage and one of adventure. Could be your giftee’s best present this year, hmmmm?
For the DIY handyperson on your list, “ROPE: HOW A BUNDLE OF TWISTED FIBERS BECAME THE BACKBONE OF CIVILIZATION” BY TIM QUEENEY (St. Martin’s Press) will make an unusual gift. Who knew that such an always-around tool could have a deep and important story attached to it? Wrap it up with “Flashes of Brilliance: The Genius of Early Photography and How It Transformed Art, Science, and History” by Anika Burgess (W.W. Norton), another one of those super-interesting books about things you have, use, but don’t think about too often.
For the giftee who enjoys a touch of feminism with their history reading, wrap up “WITH HER OWN HANDS: WOMEN WEAVING THEIR STORIES” BY NICOLE NEHRIG (W.W. Norton). It’s the story of textiles from ancient times to today and how it fits in herstory.
Does your giftee love unusual kinds of history? Then wrap up “THE AVIATOR AND THE SHOWMAN: AMELIA EARHART, GEORGE PUTNAM, AND THE MARRIAGE THAT MADE AN AMERICAN ICON” BY LAURIE GWEN SHAPIRO (Viking). It’s not just the story of two very different, very influential people from a century ago, but it’s also the tale
If there are parents on your list who are tired of defending themselves, wrap up “JUST ONE: THE NEW SCIENCE, SECRETS & JOY OF PARENTING AN ONLY CHILD” BY SUSAN NEWMAN, PHD (Prometheus Books). It’s a balanced, all-around book that may offer comfort for parents who have made up their minds about the old baby-maybe dilemma. Wrap it up with “MAN MADE: SEARCHING FOR DADS, DADDIES, FATHER FIGURES, AND FATHERHOOD” BY STEVE MAJORS (University of Wisconsin Press), a book about the journey to become a man, be a gay man, and to become a father.
MEMOIR and BIOGRAPHY
If celeb bios are your giftee’s thing, then look for “THE LUCKIEST” BY KELLY CERVANTES (BenBella Books). It’s the Midwest-to-New-York-City story of an actress and her life, her marriage, and what she did when tragedy hit. Filled with grace, it’s a winner.
Your music lover won’t want to open any other gifts if you give “ONLY GOD CAN JUDGE ME: THE MANY LIVES OF TUPAC SHAKUR” BY JEFF
PEARLMAN (Mariner Books).
It’s the story of the life, death, and everything in between about this iconic performer, including the mythology that he left behind. Has it been three decades since Tupac died? It has, but your music lover never forgets. Wrap it up with “Point Blank (Quick Studies)” by Bob Dylan, text by Eddie Gorodetsky, Lucy Sante, and Jackie Hamilton (Simon & Schuster), a book of Dylan’s drawings and artwork. This is a very nice coffee-table-sized book that will be absolutely perfect for fans of the great singer and for folks who love art.
For the giftee who’s concerned with their fellow man, “THE LOST AND THE FOUND: A TRUE STORY OF HOMELESSNESS, FOUND FAMILY AND SECOND CHANCES” BY KEVIN FAGAN (One Signal / Atria) may be the book to give. It’s a story of two “unhoused” people in San Francisco, one of the country’s wealthiest cities, and their struggles. There’s hope in this book, but also trouble, and your giftee will love it.
LGBTQ+ FICTION
For the mystery lover who wants something different, try “CRIME INK: ICONIC,” EDITED BY JOHN COPENHAVER AND SALEM WEST (Bywater Books), a collection of short stories inspired by “queer legends” and allies you know. Psychological thrillers, creepy crime, cozies, they’re here.
Novel lovers will want to curl up this winter with “MIDDLE SPOON” BY ALEJANDRO VARELA (Viking), a book about a man who appears to have it all, until his heart is broken, and the fix for it is one he doesn’t quite understand, and neither does anyone he loves.
LGBTQ+ NONFICTION
For the young man who’s struggling with issues of gender, “BEFORE THEY WERE MEN” BY JACOB TOBIA (Harmony Books) might be a good gift this year. These essays on manhood in today’s world work to widen our conversations on the role politics and feminism play in understanding masculinity and how it’s time we open our minds.
If there’s someone on your gift list who had a tough growing-up (didn’t we all?), then wrap up “I’M PRANCING AS FAST AS I CAN” BY JON KINNALLY (Permuted Press / Simon & Schuster). Kinally was once an awkward kid, but he grew up to be a writer for TV shows you’ll recognize. You can’t go wrong gifting a story like that. Better idea: wrap it up with “SO GAY FOR YOU: FRIENDSHIP, FOUND FAMILY, & THE SHOW THAT STARTED IT ALL” BY LEISHA HAILEY & KATE MOENNIG (St. Martin’s Press), a book about a little TV show that launched a BFF-ship. Who doesn’t have a giftee who loves music? You sure do, so wrap up “THE SECRET PUBLIC: HOW MUSIC MOVED QUEER CULTURE FROM THE MARGINS TO THE MAINSTREAM” BY JON
SAVAGE (Liveright). Nobody has to tell your giftee that queer folk left their mark on music, but they’ll love reading the stories in this book and knowing what they didn’t know.
HEALTH
No doubt, there’s someone on your gift list who wants to stave off any effects of getting older. That’s why you should wrap up “THE AGELESS BRAIN: HOW TO SHARPEN AND PROTECT YOUR MIND FOR A LIFETIME” BY DALE E. BREDESEN, MD (Flatiron Books). Here, they’ll read about new, cutting-edge science and what can be done to keep their
noggin in tip-top shape.
SELF-HELP
Is there someone on your list who’s experienced a lot of change this year? Then wrap up “RESURFACE: A GUIDE TO NAVIGATING LIFE’S BIGGEST TRANSITIONS” BY CASSIDY KRUG (Penguin Life). We all go through challenges in life, and Krug – a former Olympic diver – has had her share. This book is easy to read, filled with advice and help, and your giftee will thank you for it. Wrap it up with “The Fear Knot: How Science, History, and Culture Shape Our Fears –And How to Get Unstuck” by Natasha Swalve, PhD, and Ruth DeFoster, PhD (Prometheus Books) and give your giftee that extra push they need, personally. The deep thinker on your list will want to unwrap “THINKING ETHICALLY: A HANDBOOK FOR MAKING MORAL
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CHOICES” BY SCOTT GELFAND, PHD, JD (Visible Ink Press). How does one live a moral, kind, giving life in today’s world? This book offers discussions, ideas, advice, and lots of sidebars to dig into and to ponder.
The person you know who likes studying human nature will love “THE SEXUAL EVOLUTION: HOW 500 MILLION YEARS OF SEX, GENDER, AND MATING SHAPE MODERN RELATIONSHIPS” BY NATHAN H. LENTS (Mariner) – because animal nature is in this fascinating book, too! Humans are not the only creatures that fall in love, bargain for sexual favors, or are gender fluid, and your giftee will love finding out more.
DEATH & DYING
For the person who’s been thinking about the inevitable, “WHAT MATTERS MOST: LESSONS THE DYING TEACH US ABOUT LIVING” BY DIANE BUTTON (The Open Field) might be a welcome gift. This is a thoughtful book, filled with discussion-worthy points and paragraphs that will stick with your giftee forever. Wrap it up with “A BEGINNER’S GUIDE TO DYING” BY SIMON BOAS (Vintage), a book about life, death, and what matters.
Okay, maybe this isn’t the time of year you want to think about this subject, but if you know someone on your list has death top-of-mind, give “BETTER: A MEMOIR ABOUT WANTING TO DIE” BY ARIANNA REBOLINI (Harper). Even when life was supposed to be great, Rebolini harbored a “dark desire” that curled around the edges of her existence. This book about suicide and its prevention could be a must-read for the right person, so give
carefully. For the giftee on your list who’s working hard to put their life back together now, wrap up “RENEGADE GRIEF: A GUIDE TO THE WILD RIDE OF LIFE AFTER LOSS” BY CARLA FERNANDEZ (Simon & Schuster), a book that goes beyond the old “time heals” common advice. Wrap it up with “THE GRIEVING BODY: HOW THE STRESS OF LOSS CAN BE AN OPPORTUNITY FOR HEALING” BY MARY-FRANCES O’CONNOR, PHD (HarperOne), for a well-rounded, well-person kind of gift.
PETS AND ANIMALS
The pet lover on your list will sit up and beg for “HEAL THE BEASTS: A JAUNT THROUGH THE CURIOUS HISTORY OF THE VETERINARY ARTS” BY PHILIPP SCHOTT, DVM (ECW Press). Filled with pets and other critters, it’s a look at the folks who made sure Fido and Fluffy stayed healthy through the ages, but with a twist of imagination and drama. Pair it with “DOG AFFIRMATIONS” BY ANDREA CACERES (Bloomsbury), a fun little book written by your dog.
And now for the housekeeping…
Titles change. Release dates get moved all the time, it’s never a problem – which is to say that if you’re looking for something on this list, check with your favorite librarian or bookseller to be sure you’re getting exactly what you want. They’ll also have other great ideas for you, just for the asking.
Enjoy your holidays, and Season’s Readings! Q
Handcraft: Where Local Artistry Meets Holiday Magic
In a season filled with mass-produced gifts and fast-paced shopping, Handcraft brings something beautifully different to Utah’s holiday scene: timeless, heirloom-quality pieces made by real artists, right here in the Salt Lake City. This LGBTQ+ owned small business is built on the belief that gifts should tell a story, and every handcrafted doll, rug and piece of art created at Handcraft is infused with the passion and individuality of the local makers behind them.
Handcraft specializes in hand-sculpted dolls, hand-tufted rugs, sea glass art, and acrylic paintings, each one crafted with meticulous care. Their signature dolls, beloved by collectors nationwide, are sculpted from clay entirely by hand, then dressed in garments carefully sewn from premium fabrics. No two dolls are ever the same, giving each character its own personality, charm, and heirloom value. From vintage-inspired witches to whimsical Santas and elves, they make for unforgettable holiday gifts or standout home décor. Each doll comes with their own certificate of authenticity.
Their hand-tufted rugs are equally impressive: high-quality, durable, and finished with anti-slip backing. Whether it’s a peppermint swirl rug for a festive entryway, a Santa’s belt rug to brighten the kitchen, or a charming snowman for winter décor, Handcraft’s designs elevate any home with warmth and individuality.
Beyond their holiday offerings, Handcraft showcases an assortment of artwork and goods created by small U.S. makers and local artists. Every purchase supports real artisans, not factories, and keeps creative craftsmanship thriving within our community.
For those looking to shop intentionally this season, Handcraft offers a refreshing alternative to big-box holiday gifts. Thoughtful, unique, and made with love, each piece carries the spirit of the artist who created it.
Whether you’re a collector, a home décor lover, or simply searching for a meaningful, oneof-a-kind present, Handcraft invites you to experience the magic of handmade art.
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‘Queer Enlightenments: A Hidden History of Lovers, Lawbreakers, and Homemakers’ by Anthony Delaney C.2025, ATLANTIC MONTHLY PRESS, $30, 352 PAGES
It had to start somewhere.
The discrimination, the persecution, the inequality, it had a launching point. Can you put your finger on that date? Was it DADT, the 1950s scare, the Kinsey report? Certainly not Stonewall, or the Marriage Act, so where did it come from?
In “Queer Enlightenments: A Hidden History of Lovers, Lawbreakers, and Homemakers” by Anthony Delaney, the story of queer oppression goes back so much further…
The first recorded instance of the word “homosexual” arrived loudly in the spring of 1868: Hungarian journalist Károly Mária Kerthbeny wrote a letter to German activist Karl Heinrich Ulrichs referring to “same-sex-attracted men” with that new term. Many people believe
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DECEMBER
BY SAM KELLEY-MILLS
ARIES March 20–April 19
Desire flickers like a candle you pretend not to notice. But everyone else sees the glow. Someone unexpected is drawn to your heat, and if you let them close, they’ll discover just how warm December can get.
TAURUS Apr 20–May 20
You want slow, grounding intimacy, the kind that feels like sinking into soft sheets after a long day. Let someone earn that space. Your steadiness becomes seductive when you stop apologizing for wanting more.
GEMINI May 21–June 20
Your curiosity turns delightfully wicked this month. You’re playful, teasing, testing boundaries with a grin. Just make
the bookworm
that this was the “invention” of homosexuality, but Delaney begs to differ.
“Queer histories run much deeper than this…” he says.
Take, for instance, the delightfully-named Mrs. Clap, who ran a “House” in London in which men often met other men for “marriage.” On a February night in 1726, Mrs. Clap’s House was raided, and 40 men were taken to jail, where they were put in filthy, dank confines until the courts could get to them. One of the men was ultimately hanged for the crime of sodomy. Mrs. Clap was pilloried and then disappeared from history.
William Pulteney had a duel with John, Lord Hervey, over insults flung at the latter man. The truth: Hervey was, in fact, openly a “sodomite.” He and his companion, Ste Fox, had even set up a home together.
Adopting your lover was common in eighteenth-century London in order to make him a legal heir. In about 1769, rumors spread that the lovely female spy, the Chevalier d’Éon, was actually Charles d’Éon de Beaumont, a man who had been dressing in feminine attire for much longer than his espionage career.
Anne Lister’s masculine demeanor often left her an “outcast.” And, as George Wilson brought his bride to
sure your heart isn’t the only thing you keep open. Honest connection is the real thrill.
CANCER June 21–July 22
Your nurturing side takes on a sensual edge. You’re magnetic in ways you don’t fully realize, drawing someone who wants to be held, and to hold you in return. Let yourself receive for once; it’s its own kind of pleasure.
LEO July 23–August 22
You radiate confidence even when you’re pretending to be chill. Someone sees right through the act, and honestly? You like it! Let them catch you off guard. Vulnerability might be the hottest thing you wear this month.
VIRGO August 23–Sep 2
Your desire for order slips, replaced by a craving for raw, unfiltered moments. Embrace the imperfection. A messy kiss, a spontaneous night, a confession
North America in 1821, he confessed to loving men, thus becoming North America’s first official “female husband.”
Sometimes, history can be quite dry. So can author Anthony Delaney’s wit. Together, though, they work well inside “Queer Enlightenments.”
Undoubtedly, you well know that inequality and persecution aren’t new things — which Delaney underscores here — and queer ancestors faced them head-on, just as people do today. The twist, in this often-chilling narrative, is that punishments levied on eighteenth- and nineteenth-century queer folk were harsher, and Delaney doesn’t soften those accounts for readers.
Read this book, and you’re platform-side at a hanging, in jail with an ally, at a duel with a complicated basis, embedded in a King’s court, and on a ship with a man whose new wife generously ignored his secret. Most of these tales are set in Great Britain and Europe, but North America features some, and Delaney wraps things up nicely for today’s relevance.
While there’s some amusing side-eyeing in this book, “Queer Enlightenments” is a bit on the heavy side, so give yourself time with it. Pick it up, though, and you’ll love it ’til the end. Q
said too quickly, these are the memories that stay warm all winter.
LIBRA Sept 23–October 22
You’re surrounded by beauty, but it’s the person who challenges your balance that catches your breath. Let them tilt your scales a little. Harmony doesn’t always mean playing it safe; sometimes it means diving in together.
SCORPIO Oct 23–Nov 21
Intensity is your love language, but this December brings a softer seduction. Someone wants to understand you, not conquer you. Share the shadow and the light as the mix is what makes you irresistible.
SAGITTARIUS
Nov 22–December 20
Your wanderlust turns inward, seeking new territory between heart and body. Follow the impulse. An enticing invitation, literal or metaphorical, opens
the door to passion you didn’t expect but absolutely deserve.
CAPRICORN
Dec 21–Jan 19
You’ve been disciplined all year. Now it is time to indulge a little. Let responsibilities rest and allow someone to coax you into pleasure without a plan. Surrender becomes your most surprising strength.
AQUARIUS Jan 20–Feb 18
Your mind sparks connections faster than mistletoe ever could. This month, an intellectual flirtation heats up into something far more physical. Let the chemistry unfold as the tension is part of the fun.
PISCES Feb 19–Mar 19
You’re swimming in fantasies that feel closer than ever. Don’t deny your instincts; they’re guiding you toward someone who wants to meet you in that dreamy, sensual in-between space. Follow the pull if it’s mutual. Q
Queer Guide to KILBY COURT BLOCK PARTY 2026
KILBYCourt’s 27th anniversary is being celebrated with Salt Lake City’s largest indie music festival May 15 17, 2026 at the Utah State Fairpark.
The 2026 edition might be its queerest, boldest, and most star-studded yet. This year’s lineup not only brings together a sweeping mix of indie, pop, experimental, and genre-blurring talent; it also features a deep roster of LGBTQ+ artists whose identities and artistic voices continue to reshape contemporary music. With tickets now on sale, the festival offers both a celebration of sound and an affirmation of queer presence on some of the year’s biggest stages.
Two of this year’s headliners, THE XX and LORDE , bring serious star power to the Fairpark. For queer fans, The xx’s appearance feels particularly meaningful. Both ROMY MADLEY CROFT and OLIVER SIM have been open about being gay for years, and their music — minimal-
ist, intimate, and emotionally charged — has long resonated with LGBTQ+ listeners who see themselves reflected in the group’s explorations of desire, vulnerability, and self-acceptance. Their headlining set is expected to be one of the festival’s most cathartic moments. Sharing the top line with them is “I’m a woman except for the days when I’m a man” Lorde, whose devoted queer fanbase has followed her since “Pure Heroine” through the sun-drenched introspection of “Solar Power.” Her presence adds a
contrasting, shimmering energy to the festival’s climax.
Alongside the big-name headliners, the lineup this year is rich with queer excellence.
BLOOD ORANGE ’s “I’m Not Gay, But I’m Not Straight” DEVONTÉ HYNES , whose genre-hopping creativity has made him a quietly influential figure for more than a decade, brings an introspective and experimental presence. Hynes has long embraced a sense of identity that moves beyond rigid labels, and his music reflects that expansiveness through stories of queer nightlife, chosen family, and the emotional interiority queer people know so well. His work, full of atmospheric textures, personal storytelling, and explorations of queer identity, makes him one of the festival’s emotional anchors.
LUCY DACUS , who has described herself as “kind of queer,” arrives with all the lyrical gravity she’s known for, capturing tension, longing, and the slow
THE XX
LORDE
DEVONTÉ HYNES
unfolding of self-understanding. Her songs about teenage crushes on girls, her reflections on faith and sexuality, and her more recent declarations of queer love resonate deeply with LGBTQ listeners. Joining her in the indie-rock sphere is MICHELLE ZAUNER of JAPANESE BREAKFAST, an openly bisexual artist whose lush sound and narrative depth continue to push the boundaries of pop and alternative music. Her work is a kaleidoscope of tenderness, gender-blurring characters, bittersweet nostalgia, and dreamlike soundscapes. Her shows often feel like sanctuaries — places where queer fans can exist without shrinking themselves, where gentle romance and self-discovery are allowed to unfold in public. Also taking the stage is JANE REMOVER , a rising trans and nonbinary artist whose work in hyperpop, digicore, and experimental pop has been pivotal in expanding what queer Gen Z music can sound like. Their inclusion marks a major win for younger festivalgoers who see Jane as a generational voice—someone whose sound is as fluid and boundaryless as their identity. The festival also taps into queer environmentalism, camp, and the beauty of outdoor drag activism with a performance from PATTIE GONIA , the internationally recognized drag queen, climate
activist, and community organizer. Pattie’s appearances are rare, high-energy, and deeply community-minded, blending performance with environmental messaging, queer joy, and a sense of collective purpose. Expect one of the most photographed sets of the entire weekend.
Another major queer voice on the bill comes through SNAIL MAIL’s LINDSEY
JORDAN , an out lesbian artist whose guitar-driven vulnerability has made
her one of the defining indie musicians of the past decade. Her rawness and clarity about identity, heartbreak, and youth have helped cement her status as a queer icon of modern indie rock.
THE LAST DINNER PARTY, one of the most visually stylized acts on the lineup, infuses their performances with Baroque glam, queer-coded sensuality, and the kind of over-the-top theatrics that resonate with anyone who has ever felt too much for too long. Beyond these more widely known
names, the Block Party showcases an impressive cross-section of emerging LGBTQ+ musicians. RITT MOMNEY, a Utah-based artist whose later work has leaned into queer themes, returns to a hometown crowd that’s watched his evolution unfold in real time. LYN LAPID, who identifies as part of the LGBTQ+ community, brings bedroom pop’s airy intimacy to the festival’s soundscape. Even artists who aren’t explicitly labeled as LGBTQ+ but who create queer-themed work or hold strong queer fanbases help deepen the sense of belonging. Bands like BEACH BUNNY, BETWEEN FRIENDS , and WILD NOTHING continue to attract large queer audiences through their explorations of gender, melancholy, desire, and self-reinvention. Others in the lineup such as MELODY’S ECHO CHAMBER , WOMBO, FREAK SLUG , CAROLINE , and DEHD draw heavily from aesthetics, narratives, and subcultures long nurtured by queer communities.
What makes this year’s Kilby Court Block Party feel particularly special is how seamlessly queerness flows through the festival across genres, generations, and cultural backgrounds. It’s not a tokenized handful of artists tucked into side stages or early set times; queer talent is present from the top of the poster to its smallest fonts. This year’s lineup feels like a living cross-section of where LGBTQ+ artistry stands in 2026.
The 2026 Kilby Court Block Party promises to be not only a standout event in Utah’s music scene but a meaningful gathering for LGBTQ+ festivalgoers looking to celebrate identity through sound, performance, and shared space. Tickets for May 15–17 are on sale now, offering queer Salt Lake City music fans—and everyone who loves vibrant, transformative art—a chance to be part of something electric, expansive, and unforgettable. Q
The Kilby Court Block Party 2026 runs Friday, May 15 through Sunday, May 17 at the Utah State Fairpark, located at 155 N. 1000 West in Salt Lake City. Tickets are on sale now and can be purchased through 24TIX
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Students of all ages are invited! Get access to free Wi-Fi, computers, printers, and snacks.
Mondays
QUEER WOMEN’S PEER SUPPORT GROUP, 7-8pm
Peer-led support group for queer women and fem-identifying people 18+.
Tuesdays
GAY MEN’S PEER SUPPORT GROUP, 6:30-8pm
Open to men ages 18+ who identify as gay, bisexual, or questioning. It is a peer-led support group with discussions guided by volunteer facilitators.
PRIDE IN RECOVERY, 7-8pm
Weekly Narcotics Anonymous recovery meeting for LGBTQ+ adults 18+.
Wednesdays
GAY MEN’S SACK LUNCH, 12-1pm
Bring your lunch and enjoy lively conversations with other guys in the community. Open to gay men 18+.
YOUTH ONLINE PROGRAMS, 6-8pm
A welcoming, virtual space where LGBTQ+ youth can come together to talk, share experiences, and support each other. Open to youth 14-20. Email Jay at jay@utahpridecenter.org to get access to the UPC Youth DiSCORD.
Thursdays
YOUTH IN PERSON DROP IN HOURS, 4-8pm
The UPC History Library is a place to curl up with a good book. Check out. The Computer Lab is a good place to catch up on some homework. Welcoming ages 14–20 to join for fun, connection, and support
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SIT & STITCH, 6-8pm 1st & 3rd Mondays
Get your stitch on with friends! Bring your knitting, crochet, cross-stitch, or any other craft you’re working on. Meet new people, give/ receive crafting tips, and enjoy snacks, movies, and music in a safe, welcoming space.
GET CONNECTED TO HEALTH INSURANCE, 4-6pmfirst Tuesdays
Utah Health Policy Project will help get you connected to an affordable health insurance plan no matter your current economic situation. Open to queer folx and allies. No appointment required.
RELIGIOUS TRAUMA SUPPORT GROUP, 6-8pm, 1st & 3rd Tuesdays
Religious trauma among the LGBTQ+ community looms large and has left deep wounds for many. Right now in the world (and in Utah particularly), the religious culture can make coming out and becoming one’s true self a difficult and costly process. Often it means losing family, losing community, and losing faith. UPC is proud to offer a monthly support group for those with Religious Trauma to help understand what it is, how it affects us, and how to begin to heal. Our dear friends Pastor Curtis and LCSW Candace Peterson will be there to help facilitate the discussion.
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Pura Vida with Pride: Exploring LGBTQ+ culture in Costa Rica
BY JOEY AMATO
Costa Rica may be known for its lush rainforests, pristine beaches, and the ever-present philosophy of pura vida — the “pure life” — but it’s also one of the most progressive and inclusive destinations in Central America when it comes to LGBTQ+ rights and culture. With same-sex marriage legalized in 2020 and a growing queer community thriving in both urban and coastal regions, the country offers a welcoming atmosphere that celebrates diversity amid natural beauty.
Costa Rica’s journey toward LGBTQ+ equality has been marked by steady and meaningful progress. In 2020, it became the first country in Central America to legalize same-sex marriage, a landmark decision that followed years of advocacy and public dialogue. The government has also taken steps to strengthen anti-discrimination protections, support trans rights, and incorporate LGBTQ+ education and awareness into public policy.
This progressive spirit resonates deeply with locals and travelers alike. Whether in the cosmopolitan capital of San José or the relaxed coastal towns, visitors often remark on the country’s sense of openness and acceptance.
My journey began in San José, the
cultural and social hub for the country’s LGBTQ+ community. The city’s vibrant nightlife scene includes popular bars and clubs such as CLUB EL TEATRO, which has hosted drag shows and queer performances for decades, and LA AVISPA, one of the oldest gay bars in Latin America. Beyond nightlife, San José’s art and cultural institutions also reflect queer
advocacy, education, and social support.
The city’s annual MARCHA DE LA DIVERSIDAD (Pride March), typically held in June, attracts tens of thousands of participants from across Central America, filling the streets with color, music, and the unmistakable energy of solidarity and celebration.
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voices. Local galleries frequently showcase works by LGBTQ+ artists, while community organizations such as CENTRO DE INVESTIGACIÓN Y PROMOCIÓN PARA AMÉRICA CENTRAL DE DERECHOS HUMANOS play an important role in
HOTEL HACIENDA BELÉN, located about 15 minutes from downtown. The property offers a luxurious escape that blends old-world charm with modern sophistication. From the moment you arrive, you’re greeted by breathtaking views of the
Central Valley and the scent of freshly roasted coffee drifting through the air — a fitting introduction to a resort built on a historic coffee plantation. The hotel’s elegant Spanish colonial architecture, with its arched corridors, terracotta tiles, and lush gardens, evokes a timeless sense of place, while the service is warm, genuine, and distinctly Costa Rican.
One of the highlights of the Hacienda Belén experience is its array of immersive, on-property activities. Guests can enjoy complimentary coffee tastings, art and cooking classes, and wellness experiences that reflect Costa Rica’s rich cultural heritage. The resort’s spa and outdoor pools offer peaceful havens for relaxation, surrounded by the sounds of tropical birds and rustling palms.
Dining at the Marriott Hacienda Belén is equally impressive. Each restaurant celebrates local flavors with international flair, whether you’re indulging in a traditional gallo pinto breakfast, indulging in a fabulous steak dinner at La Isabela Steakhouse, or enjoying a farmto-table dinner at Hacienda Kitchen.
Every meal is elevated by impeccable presentation and the resort’s warm hospitality.
scape, and the pura vida lifestyle itself.
If you are looking to venture outside of the city, Costa Rica’s coasts offer some of the most LGBTQ+-inclusive destinations in the region.
Manuel Antonio, on the Pacific coast, has become the country’s unofficial gay beach town. With luxury resorts, boutique hotels, and beach bars that welcome LGBTQ+ travelers year-round, it’s a place where diversity is embraced as part of daily life. Playa Espadilla and Playa Biesanz are particularly popular with queer visitors, offering relaxed vibes, stunning sunsets, and a strong sense of community.
What truly sets this Marriott apart is its authentic Costa Rican soul. It’s luxurious without being pretentious, historic yet contemporary, and perfectly situated for exploring everything from the capital’s museums and markets to day trips into the country’s lush countryside. Whether you’re visiting for business, leisure, or a bit of both, the Costa Rica Marriott Hotel Hacienda Belén is the kind of place that makes you feel connected—to the culture, the land-
Other destinations such as Tamarindo, Puerto Viejo, and Santa Teresa are also becoming popular among LGBTQ+ travelers. What truly makes Costa Rica unique is the way its pura vida lifestyle extends to acceptance and respect. The phrase is more than a slogan—it’s a reflection of how Costa Ricans approach life: with joy, empathy, and openness. This spirit is palpable in the way locals treat LGBTQ+ visitors not as outsiders, but as fellow travelers sharing in the beauty of their homeland.
From the bustling boulevards of San José to the quiet beaches of the Pacific coast, Costa Rica offers LGBTQ+ visitors the freedom to be themselves in a setting that’s as breathtaking as it is inclusive.
Whether you’re watching the sunset over the ocean with your partner, exploring cloud forests teeming with life, or dancing at Pride in the heart of the capital, Costa Rica invites you to celebrate pura vida con orgullo — the pure life with pride. Q
BY ROMEO SAN VICENTE
Finally, ‘Scream 7’ is ready to slash again
It’s been a long time coming, but “Scream 7” is due to take its murder bows after the holidays. Kevin Williamson, gay creator of this legendary horror franchise — one that has inspired fans to interpret characters and narrative elements through a queer lens — is back, both in the director’s chair and as screenwriter, having co-written it with Guy Busick (2022’s “Scream” and “Scream VI”). Returning for their third chapter is queer “Yellowjackets” star Jasmin Savoy Brown, alongside fellow returning castmates Mason Gooding, Neve Campbell, Courteney Cox, David Arquette, Matthew Lillard and Scott Foley. What’s it about? Well, there’s this Ghostface, see, and people get stabbed. Forever-target Sidney Prescott (Campbell) has to take matters into her own hands, and… look, you know what’s coming, and you love it, so grab your people and hit the theater in the new year, February 27.
Bisexual murder mystery
‘Anything That Moves’ goes retro
When a serial killer’s trail of corpses points to an innocent bisexual sex worker (Hal Baum), how does he solve the mystery? You’ll find out in the ’70s throwback indie film “Anything That Moves” from filmmaker Alex Phillips, young and going-for-it creator of wild movies like “All Jacked Up and Full of Worms” (which is exactly what it sounds like). The Chicago-based, giallo-inspired thriller has already wowed audiences at New/Next Film Fest and its credentials are pretty solid: produced in cooperation with the very cool people at Vinegar Syndrome, the cast is up-and-comers with a few ringers thrown in: legendary adult film stars Ginger Lynn (“The Devil’s Rejects”) and Nina Hartley (“Boogie Nights”). This one doesn’t skimp on the downand dirty atmosphere of ’70s filmmakers Larry Cohen and Paul Morrissey, with all the sleaze, gore and weird comedy names like that bring to mind. It’s still making its way through the film festival world, but keep this one in mind until it finds a theatrical or streaming home.
deep inside hollywood
John Mulaney is directing ‘Hacks’ star Robby Hoffman and you’re not ready
When the character of “Randi” arrived on the fourth season of the HBO comedy “Hacks,” she may as well have been an electrical jolt. Blunt and strange, she’s the definition of oddball recurring character, and as played directly and forcefully by stand-up comic Robby Hoffman — a lesbian who makes her general annoyance with sexual orientations into comedy — she stole every scene she was in. For that work, Hoffman was Emmy nominated for Outstanding Guest Actress, then caught the attention of stand-up king John Mulaney, and now they’re working together. He’s directing Hoffman’s first special for Netflix, which will take place at the Masonic Lodge on the site of the Hollywood Forever Cemetery (yes, only in Los Angeles is there a cemetery where comics, musicians and speakers like John Waters perform) and will make your Netflix “recommended for you” algorithm decidedly nervier after you watch it. Stay tuned for a drop date.
“The Baby-Sitters Club” invites you to sing along
Attention ’80s and ’90s kids who were obsessed with the Scholastic Book Fair. Your favorite series of novels, “The Babysitters Club,” is headed to the musical stage. The series from lesbian author Ann M. Martin (you knew a 100-plus book series of wholesome stories about loyalty and friendship among young girls had to come from our team) was turned into a sweet, charming ’90s film, and is now in development as a stage musical with writer Kate Wetherhead (“The Devil Wears Prada”), director Annie Tippe (“Octet”) and with music from Mark Sonnenblick (“KPop Demon Hunters”). Current information is that the story involves the former teens reuniting as adults in the fictional town of Stoneybrook, Connecticut, navigating adult challenges to happiness, and that the show is expected some time in 2027. No casting news yet, so it’s still early. Of course, even if it takes until 2028 you’ll never re-read all those books by then.
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gay manager: James Norton
James Norton is a British actor known for being on TV shows like Masterpiece’s “Grantchester,” and Netflix’s “House of Guinness.” He was also in Greta Gerwig’s “Little Women.” His sex symbol status is solid among fans, but now his biggest profile role to date is set: Brian Epstein. That’s a name you might not know, but he was the manager of the Beatles, he was gay, and he was a driving force behind their early success, and sometimes referred to as the “Fifth Beatle,” which means his presence across all four upcoming Beatles biopics from “Skyfall” director Sam Mendes will be significant. The four films in question will be referred to, for now, as “The Beatles – A Four-Film Cinematic Event” and star Paul Mescal (Paul), Harris Dickinson (John), Barry Keoghan (Ringo), and “Stranger Things” actor Joseph Quinn (George). The four-movie multiplex-busting project is set to arrive in 2028 – these things take time, after all – so newcomers to all things Beatle can content themselves by watching “A Hard Day’s Night” and “Yellow Submarine” over the next 36 months while you wait to meet The Fab Fifth.
John Early’s got a “Secret”
Queer comic actor John Early has directed his first movie after being everywhere at once on TV and in film, most notably as one of the stars of “Search Party.” His debut feature film is “Maddie’s Secret,” and it won great acclaim at the Toronto International Film Festival last month. The plot involves a young woman named Maddie – played by Early – who works as an internet food content creator and who also has a husband and an eating disorder she’s trying to keep secret. Word is that the comedy also works within the retro TV movie social issue genre, which is intriguing – Kristen Wiig and Will Farrell did something similar in 2015’s “A Deadly Adoption” – and the supporting cast, including Vanessa Bayer, Kristen Johnston, and queer comic Kate Berlant makes this one something we’re eager to see. Indie distributor Magnolia Pictures has picked it up for release in 2026, so we’ll be there supporting our local arthouse theater.. Q Romeo San Vicente wants all intellectual properties turned into stage musicals.
BY IAN GILES
Cis parents’ guide to holiday gatherings
[Editor’s note: This is a small snippet of Giles’ guide. A link to download the full version is at the end of this article.]
For many, the holidays are a time of joy and family, but for the LGBTQ community, it’s often a time of incredible stress, invalidation, and attacks from so-called family. The burden so often lands on the queer person to make everyone else comfortable. Not anymore. This article will discuss the ways the cis parents and allies can make the holidays easier on their queer loved ones.
Step 1: Validation and Input
The first step is simple. Talk to your LGBTQ loved one. Your first step as a parent or ally is to simply reassure your queer loved one that they are, in fact, loved. Use the word “love.” Tell them to their face. Validate their queer identity. Then ask your queer loved one how they are feeling about the upcoming holiday gatherings. Follow that with asking what they want to do regarding their concerns. If your loved one is your young child, you can skip this step; though, don’t reject any input they may offer.
Step 2: Prevention
It’s time to have that dreaded conversation with your family. And do it BEFORE the holiday gathering! Why before?
• It will give you a chance to clarify or educate.
• Get the drama out of the way.
• It will shorten your guest list. Write a letter or email. Everyone can get the letter at the same time, you can take your time in writing it, and focus on what really matters to you. It also gives folks time to think before they
react. If you’d rather have this discussion over the phone or in person, that’s fine too. Write down your key talking points. Practice what you’re going to say. Be prepared for negative reactions.
Boundaries and Rules
Setting boundaries and rules will be essential for a more peaceful holiday. Let’s begin by clarifying the difference between boundaries and rules. Boundaries guide your own behavior through personal limits, while rules aim to control someone else’s behavior. Boundaries are about communication and taking ownership of one’s own emotions and choices. It’s about protecting your own mental, emotional, and phys ical health. When a bound ary is broken, that person will react to protect their own well-being. Rules are about control, so break ing them results in pun ishment. Rules dictate what others can do.
RULE : Don’t send me work emails after 5pm.
BOUND -
ARY: I will not reply to work emails sent after 5pm.
Remember, the goal here is not to exclude your LGBTQ loved one from important discussions. It’s to take the emotional and mental burden off of them. This is where talking to your queer loved one ahead of time comes into play. They will tell you what they are and are not ok with you doing and saying to others, and when they would like to be involved. This is part of that conversation y’all had during Step 1.
Step 3: Follow Through
Some possible boundaries/rules:
• No misgendering or deadnaming.
• No talking about politics.
• All partners will be treated the same, regardless of sexual orientation, gender identity, or gender expression.
• No questioning someone’s sexuality or gender.
• Bring problems to you before the holiday.
• Consent first.
This is the most important part. You MUST follow through if/when someone crosses the line. You have to show you mean business. This is important not just for the guest who’s causing the trouble, but also for your queer loved one. In order for them to feel safe with you, they need to know you have their back, especially when you receive pushback. Are you a true ally? Will you keep them safe when it really matters?
Before you run off to begin your holiday preparations, take a deep breath. Yes, really. Breathe. And tell yourself, you’ve got this! It can be hard, but remember for whom you are doing all of this. You’ll trip up. And that’s ok. We see and value your efforts more than you know. Q
Ian Giles is the owner-operator of Genderbands, a nonprofit helping transgender and non-binary people pay for transition-related costs. To read more about this in depth, and see what to do if you aren’t the holiday host, download the full 12-page version online at KO-FI.COM/IANGILES
Thethe perils of petunia pap smear
A tale of better living through chemistry
BY PETUNIA PAP SMEAR
road
to my bed is fraught with danger and excitement.
Having experienced more years than I’d care to count, I find my once pristine beehive wigs showing their age—the lacquer yellowing and cracking, a testament to the relentless passage of time. With age comes new perils, chief among them the challenge of achieving a good night’s sleep, which has grown increasingly elusive, sometimes tricksy, and often downright disappointing.
My nightly ritual has grown so involved that it could rival the complex preparations required to launch a mission to Mars, or at least a shopping trip to Costco. To begin, I take a generous assortment of medications: pills for blood pressure, cholesterol, and blood thinners, as well as two varieties of pain relievers and some melatonin. To top it all off, I indulge in a cannabis edible, hoping it will ease the tension in my arthritis-ridden muscles. Once medicated, I settle onto the sofa and immerse myself in my favorite shows, waiting patiently for the meds to kick in. Despite this elaborate pharmaceutical line-up and my commitment to the evening ritual, I never fail to wonder if sleep will actually grace me with its presence. Sometimes I debate swapping in an ancient folk remedy, like counting sheep, but let’s be honest, since I was raised on a farm with 5,000 sheep, I have grown to detest the critters. Therefore, they cannot compete with the promise of modern chemistry. By the time the edible takes effect, I’m already navigating the delicate balance between drowsy channel surfing and the sudden urge to reorganize my kitchen junk drawer, but usually, an intense case of the munchies wins out.
On one memorable night, I ventured into the kitchen in search of sustenance. The cravings were so strong that I felt I could devour the entire inventory of a Costco warehouse. The world’s largest Costco is temptingly just three blocks from Chateau Pap Smear. After a thorough raid of my pantry, I settled for some stale
crackers and a dubious yogurt lurking at the back of my fridge.
Eventually, all my chips, dips, crackers, and cheese were depleted, and I turned my attention to a two-weekold leftover lasagna, now sporting a thriving layer of mold. In a moment of desperation, I considered scraping off the fungus and indulging. Sleepy and imaginative, I even wondered if the mold’s color would make a better eyeshadow than anything in my makeup case. My reverie was shattered when the fridge door struck me, knocking my beehive wig askew, pulling me back to reality.
Late night cravings satisfied, I shuffled to the bathroom for one last stop, checking my reflection to see if my wig required a touch up or would suffice as is. The final moments before sleep became their own production, involving a generous application of moisturizing lotion to my calloused, cracked feet—skin so tough it could rival the hide of a prehistoric rhinoceros.
Due to sleep apnea, I sleep sitting up in a recliner, affectionately dubbed my night throne. A C-Pap machine is essential, not only for breathing but also so I don’t snore loudly enough to alarm neighboring counties with the sound of stampeding buffalo. Fitting the C-Pap headgear over my beehive wig is a nightly struggle; the hose tangles with my pearl necklace, and I wear headphones to drown out the sound of my own breathing. The whole routine is reminiscent of an astronaut suiting up for a spacewalk. Finally, I turn on the music in my headphones and try to drift off to sleep, hoping that I can get a few solid hours of quality rest. Of course, that’s when the real adventure begins—between the whirring of the C-Pap machine, the hum of the oxygen concentrator almost drowning out the sound of music in my headphones, it’s a miracle if I drift off before sunrise.
Just as I was on the cusp of sleep, I heard a car alarm going off in the neighborhood. Oh fine! I listened to the constant drone of the alarm for at least ten minutes. I began to be irritated that
the owner of the offending car seemed to be ignoring the neighborhood’s distress. Finally, I was able to nod off to sleep. The next morning, errands awaited. Heading to the driveway, I saw neighbors down the street, talking and pointing in my direction. Normally, such attention is reserved for my flashy bingo attire. For some unknown reason, this morning, my key fob refused to unlock Queertanic, forcing me to use the manual key. Conscious that I was being observed, I climbed into my beloved land yacht, inserted the key in the ignition, and lo and behold, the car was lifeless. Well, shit! So, I popped the hood, grabbed the battery charger from the garage, and hooked the cables to the battery. As soon as the connection was made, Queertanic’s car alarm began loudly honking. I quickly jerked the cable from the battery, silencing the noise. I looked up and saw that the neighbors were nodding and pointing again. OH, MY GAWD!
I realized that it was Queertanic that disturbed the peace last night. I sheepishly waved to the neighbors and skulked into my garage to hide until the coast was clear and I could pull up my skirt, show some leg, and hitchhike to buy a new battery.
This story leaves us with several important questions:
1. Is it a blessing that Costco is not open at my bedtime?
2. Which color of mold makes the best penicillin?
3. Could a kiss from me bestow antibiotic properties to the receiver?
4. If I bedazzle the C-Pap headgear, could it be mistaken for a stylish tiara?
5. Which lotion would best smooth my rhinoceros feet enough to allow me to wear open toe shoes?
6. If packed tightly, could my beehive wig muffle a car alarm?
These and other eternal questions will be answered in future chapters of The Perils of Petunia Pap Smear.
