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to press, the country’s gays and lesbians are holding their breath for the announcement of the U.S. Supreme Court’s decisions on Constitutionality of the Defense of Marriage Act and the California’s Proposition 8. We are calling it Q-Day here, perhaps for obvious reasons. Some fear mass revolt should the justices not fall our way. Others fear not enough reaction. We must remember, however, that any decision — good or bad — is not the end of our journey towards full equality. When the Court ruled in 1896 that restaurants, hotels, hospitals and other public accommodations must serve black people equally, albeit separate was tolerated, that did not mark the end of racial strife. When the Court said in 1923 that states could not ban the teaching of foreign languages in schools, that did not end the “English Only” debate. In 1950, the Court struck down segregation of public schools and in 1954 ended “separate but equal” public schools. There wasn’t a sudden shift of the public more that teaching students of different races side-by-side was okeydokey with them. No, where actual change is made is in the hearts and minds of the general public. In that arena, we are making progress, but it remains slow and steady. Just this month we have had a roller coaster ride of steps forward and steps back. The Boy Scouts of America made a monumental shift and now allows gay boys to be members, but will still kick them out when they turn 18. Immigration Reform is making its greatest strides since 1986, but the Uniting American Families Amendment that would have allowed foreign partners in gay or lesbian relationships the same ability to obtain permanent residence as heterosexual couples was excluded from the Gang of Eight’s Bill and the Senate Judicial Committee’s markup. Gay marriage will be

legal in Minnesota August 1, but yet the Illinois House didn’t even progress to a vote on a marriage measure. Areas of the country are seeing a rash of hate crimes that hasn’t seen since the 1980s. And internationally, many countries are heading in quite the wrong direction. But poll after poll of Americans is showing greater and greater support of gay rights, especially in the arena of marriage. People are starting to get it, and even in the most conservative of areas, people know that gay and lesbian marriage is inevitable. When Proposition 8 was on the ballot just a few short

We must remember, however, that any decision — good or bad — is not the end of our journey towards full equality years ago, merely a 4 percent difference seperated Californians who favored gay marriage and those who opposed it. Today, 58 percent of Californians support gay marriage compared to 36 percent opposed — a 22 percent difference. That was a change over just five years. Even in Utah, even in a poll done by Brigham Young University, a full 71 percent of Utah voters support some kind of legal recognition for same-sex couples. Only 29 percent agree with full gay marriage, but only another 29 percent disagree with any legal recognition at all. The rest fall into the “civil union” category — what some call “seperate but equal.” So, yes, some important decisions are causing many to chew their nails to the bone, but in the end, these decisions are merely another milepost along our great journey.  Q

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‘Kinky Boots’ sashays to top the Tony Awards The Cyndi Lauper musical, Kinky Boots, took home six Tony Awards, including best musical and an award for best actor. The musical tells the story of a drag queen who helps save a struggling shoe factory,featuring many openly gay characters. It beat out contender Matilda, which was based on a popular Roald Dahl book. Other winners included a revival of Pippin, which took home four Tony Awards.

Marriage equality inevitable, poll says More than 70 percent of Americans believe that marriage equality will soon be the norm, according to a new survey from the Pew Research Center. Eightyfive percent of gay marriage supporters see it as an inevitability, as do 59 percent of gay marriage opponents. Seventy-three percent of Republicans and 72 percent of Democrats said they believe marriage equality is inevitable. The survey also found that 51 percent of Americans support legalizing same-sex marriage and 42 percent remain opposed.

Teen nearly beaten to death in France

An 18-year-old gay activist was hospitalized and left brain dead after an attack by a group of anti-gay activists. Clément Méric was attacked by three skinheads in Paris shortly after French parliament voted to legalize marriage equality. Méric was known for his progressive activism and was a strong supporter of the marriage equality bill.

Apple removes ‘ex-gay’ mobile app from store After a petition demanding Apple remove the Setting Captives Free application gathered more than 60,000 signatures, it was removed from the iTunes store. The app purported to help people change sexuality. The petition was started by the LGBT rights advocacy group All Out. It has also been delivered to Google to have the app removed from the Google Play Store.

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Russian parliament approves anti-gay bill Russia’s lower house of parliament voted unanimously to approve a bill that would reinforce an already existent ban on so-called homosexual “propaganda.” The Duma voted 242-0 to approve the bill, which imposes fines for holding Pride rallies or providing information about homosexuality to minors. The bill is assured an easy passage in the upper house of parliament and President Vladimir Putin has pledged to sign it into law.

Utah Boy Scouts spark outrage in conservative circles After several members of local Boy Scouts troops marched in the Utah Pride Parade, American Family Association spokesperson Bryan Fischer took to his radio show to decry the showing. He alleged that the Boy Scouts who marched in uniform in the parade were part of a propaganda effort similar to Hitler youth. The Nazi youth movement was, in Fischer’s words, a “major homosexual recruiting effort.”

Obama announces continued support for LGBT rights In an annual address to show solidarity with queer rights supporters, President Barack Obama said his administration will continue fighting for equality. While there is still much ground to be made, there have been great advances, including expanded partnership visitation in hospitals, the lifting of the HIV entry ban and the repeal of the military’s ban on openly gay service members. Obama said his administration is a “proud partner” in the fight for LGBT equality.

‘Glee’ actress comes out as lesbian Charice, the Filipina pop star and former Glee star announced on a radio show that she is a lesbian. She also apologized to family, friends and fans who were disappointed to hear the news and thanked those who continued to show their support. Fans may remember Charice as she stunned playing Sunshine Corazon in the second season of Glee. She is a judge on the Philippine version of The X-Factor.

NOM ordered to reveal donors The Maine Supreme Court ruled the antigay National Organization for Marriage cannot hide its donors from disclosure. After NOM donated $1.9 million to a campaign to ban marriage equality in the state, it failed to disclose donors to the Maine Election Oversight Commission. Because of the nature of its involvement, NOM should have registered as a Political Action Committee, and its executives failed to do so. NOM spokespeople contend that disclosure poses a risk and could result in the harassment of donors.

Gay college athlete raised in Mormon faith The first openly gay college basketball player was raised Mormon and is proud of his heritage, according to a story by OutSports. Jallen Messersmith is a forward for the Benedictine College Ravens and said he has received support from his Mormon family, although he is no longer a practicing member. He said he was bullied relentlessly while growing up but his teammates are supportive.


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Human Rights Campaign president Chad Griffin is calling on Utah lawmakers and leaders within the Church of Jesus Christ Latter-day Saints to support federal workplace protections that would ensure no American could be fired simply because of their sexual orientation or gender identity. Griffin made the remarks in Salt Lake City at the HRC Gala Dinner June 8: “Despite the recent setback in the push for a statewide nondiscrimination law, we have a real chance to make progress at the federal level. HRC is leading an aggressive new campaign for a fully inclusive Employment Non-Discrimination Act (ENDA)—a law that would finally bring workplace protections to this state and to every other state in the country. “I’m going to be honest with you. It’s not going to be easy, and we need a coalition to do it. That coalition includes not just Democrats, but Republicans, business leaders and faith leaders alike. “Here in Utah, the LDS Church has a powerful voice in this debate. But after supporting a non-discrimination ordinance in Salt Lake City, the Church has gone silent on sharing those protections with everyone else. That’s wrong, and I know I’m not alone in that belief. “You know, as a kid growing up in southern Arkansas, I went to church with my Southern Baptist family every Sunday morning, Sunday night, and Wednesday night, too. And I’ve never forgotten what I learned, seated in those church pews, about the Golden Rule—treating others like you would like to be treated, loving your neighbor as yourself. “So tonight, I’ve got a firm, yet respectful, message for the leaders of the LDS Church. If the Golden Rule was good enough for Salt Lake City, then it ought to be good enough for everyone. If you really do oppose discrimination, it’s time to stand up and say so. It’s time to help pass nondiscrimination laws right here in this state and across the country, starting today. “Because in the end, we are all judged by our actions, not by our words. ENDA is the right thing to do. It’s time to get it passed. It’s time to get it signed. And this state and that church can lead the way in getting it done.”  Q

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Scouts, leaders take heat for participating in Utah Pride BY MICHAEL AARON

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are around Dave McGrath, you know you are near a passionate man. When he is presenting the colors, it is done by the book, with a gruff reverence and respect. A partially untucked shirt will get admonishment before going on stage. McGrath’s twin brother is gay, as are two of his six sons. He and his straight son, Army Specialist Joe McGrath, not only appeared in the Utah Pride Parade and the opening ceremonies of the Utah Pride Festival, but they just returned from Boise Idaho’s Pride, where they performed the same services. But perhaps their grander feat for equality within scouting’s ranks was when the father and son rode 1,800 miles from their home in Idaho Falls to the national Boy Scouts of America offices in Irving, Texas (through the horrific storms in Oklahoma that pervaded the newscasts for a week) to await the decision of the national organization on whether gay scouts and leaders could remain in their ranks. “We are on a crusade to end discrimination,” he said when they stopped along the route in Pocatello to protest the city council’s recent failure to pass a nondiscrimination bill. Three council members voted for the bill and three voted against. The mayor broke the tie by voting no. Dave McGrath chastised the three councilmen and Mayor Brian Blad for casting votes against the ordinance. The duo stopped in Salt Lake City and joined Utah scouts and cyclists in a ride around Temple Square. “We came to this place here because this place represents an institution that I loved growing up,” Dave McGrath said. “This institution is the largest supporter of the Boy Scouts of America in the United States.” As is well known, the BSA chose to allow gay scouts to remain members, but disallow adult leaders who are openly gay. “The world has shifted. A quarter-turn,” he wrote on his blog after the announcement. “We are thrilled. We are pleased. We are not done. We have a duty. We will do our duty.” Both Dave and Joe were asked to do both the opening ceremony for the festival and

Joe and Dave McGrath

be the color guard at the parade. They were joined by Scoutmasters Peter Brownstein and Neil Whittaker and Whittaker’s Eagle Scout son, Kobe McDonald. They met with Great Salt Lake Council executive Rick Barnes, encouraging him to “make Scouting available to all boys in our council.” Barnes, however, emailed that, “having uniformed Scouts and Scouters in the Gay Pride Parade is not acceptable and not allowed. The new policy states that no person, youth or adult, may use Scouting to promote sexual orientation, or any other political or social agenda.” McGrath, Whittaker and McDonald, along with Eagle Scout Kenji Mikesell, wore their uniforms at the parade, as did an unnamed cub scout. Brownstein chose to march, but not in uniform. “I was essentially intimidated and told not to wear my BSA uniform,” Brownstein said. “I am unfortunately not in my uniform, but I am glad others chose to do so.” After the festival and parade, Deron Smith, a spokesman for the national headquarters of the BSA, said it was up to the local council to determine any punishment. Indeed, officials with the Great Salt Lake Council called the Brownstein and Whittaker in, showed a photo with Whitaker in uniform at the parade and demanded they sign an apology letter for “violation of [BSA] policies and disobedience.” “We were very disappointed that you used Scouting to advance the gay agenda at the Utah Pride Parade on Sunday in Salt Lake City,” the letter by Barnes and Council

President Bry Davis stated. It also warned that a similar future offense could lead to their dismissal from Scouting. The men refused to sign the apology letter, stating their participation was one of patriotism at a cultural event. There was no political statement being made by marching with the flag in the parade. “We weren’t rallying for a politician or political event,” Whitaker said. “To me, it was being supportive of my fellow human beings.” “Like the Days of ’47 Parade, which commemorates the journey and struggle of Mormons as they arrived from across the Plains so many years ago, the Utah Pride Festival commemorates the journey and progress of the LGBTQ community, a community that has also endured a long history of being marginalized, victimized and oppressed,” Utah Pride Center Executive Director Valerie Larabee wrote in a statement. “Any discipline or questioning of members of the Scouting family who participated in our procession as a member of our color guard, a unit carrying our nation’s flag, would be deplorable.” There is no word on any further ramifications for Whittaker, but BSA officials say the scouts will not face punishment. The McGraths were guests of the Human Rights Campaign at their gala dinner the Sunday following Pride. Dave’s twin, Geoffrey McGrath, marched in the Portland Pride parade in his scout uniform, carrying the POW/MIA flag on June 16. Q

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Salt Lake County passes mutual commitment registry Salt Lake County Councilmen Arlyn Bradshaw and Randy Horiuchi found a great way to celebrate Gay Pride Month — get a mutual commitment registry started in the county. The Council voted June 4, with just one nay vote, to establish a registry recognizing “adult relationships of financial dependence or interdependence.” Under the ordinance, the County Clerk will maintain a registry that would allow committed couples who are not

legally married to receive documentation from the county attesting to their relationship status to help simplify the process of securing benefits and services from the county or from businesses that offer them voluntarily to employees whose family units fall outside Utah’s legal definition of marriage. “I view it as supporting our family-centered culture that we have in our community and in our state,” co-sponsor Bradshaw said.

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“The council just said, ‘We support all families that are committed to one another,’” he said after the measure passed. “To me this is a very, very important ordinance and change,” co-sponsor Horiuchi said. “It really does give nontraditional couples an opportunity to have their relationships codified.” Council chair Steve DeBry called the ordinance a “slippery slope” to the legalization of gay marriage before voting against it.“Traditional marriage has supported societies and served us well for thousands of years,” he said. Q




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Boise Pride goes on even as board ousts president BY MICHAEL AARON

Thousands of gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and ally people celebrated Boise Pride the week of June 11–16, despite a last-minute ouster of the organization’s president. “We are going forward with the Pride Festival as planned,” said Minerva Jayne, Boise Pride’s director of administration the Monday of that week. “With any organization there can be pitfalls and concerns that arise. We can try to to address those concerns in a mature and rational way and hope everyone will step up with maturity and grace.” Boise Pride board members received a complaint against Matthew Luke Vankirk, who was elected president of Boise Pride in May of this year, alleging that he failed to fully disclose his criminal background

and history, which includes his 2003 conviction on charges of lewd conduct with a child under 16. Vankirk was 21 at the time of his conviction and remains on Idaho’s sex offender registry. Vankirk remains on parole, which prohibits him from occupying a public park (the Pride festival will be at Ann Morrison Park), attending events at bars or other venues

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distributing alcohol (there will be alcohol at the festival), attending events with minors present, supervising minors, consumption of alcohol, maintaining access to internet accounts, including Facebook and Twitter, or possession of a computer. The board presented a letter with these charges, and Vankirk immediately resigned. The organization has not yet recovered access to their social media accounts, however, and organizers are concerned people may believe the festival is cancelled. Subsequent investigation the Pride board uncovered evidence of misappropriation of funds for personal and unauthorized use, according to a press release. “significant and excessive charges to the general account of Boise Pride were made for personal use and were not authorized by a full consent of the board,” the release reads. “We take these charges seriously and acknowledge our duty to reasonably investigate any complaint presented us by our membership or the public,”

Jayne said. “Boise Pride is saddened that Pride 2013 has been marred by these unfortunate circumstances. However, we are committed to producing a successful Pride Event.” “No vendor or sponsor has backed out and all necessary steps are being taken to ensure the event will go on,” Jayne continued. A rally took place Saturday at the Idaho State Capitol grounds, followed by a parade to Ann Morrison Park, where a festival went through 8 p.m. After parties were held at Lucky Dog Tavern and the Balcony Club. The Pride flag flew at the Boise City Hall. Across Idaho, six cities, including Boise, have enacted ordinances that ban discrimination based on sexual orientation or gender identity. The Idaho Republican Central Committee, however, is considering a resolution urging the legislature to render any local anti-discrimination ordinances unenforceable, similar to unsuccessful plans by Utah conservatives.  Q More information on Boise Pride is available at their web site,


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HUD announces first same-sex housing discrimination study The U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development today released the nation’s first-ever national study examining housing discrimination against same-sex couples in the private rental market. The study, An Estimate of Housing Discrimination Against Same-Sex Couples, measures the treatment samesex couples receive from rental agents when inquiring about apartments advertised online, as compared to how otherwise similar heterosexual couples are treated. According to HUD’s study, same-sex couples experience unequal treatment more often than heterosexual couples when responding to internet ads for rental units, and findings show that gay male couples experience more discrimination than lesbian couples. “President Obama and this administration have been unmatched in our efforts to ensure equal and fair treatment of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender persons and communities,” said HUD Secretary Shaun Donovan. “Following the president’s lead, HUD has taken historic steps in the area of fair housing to ensure that we fulfill our nation’s commitment to equality. As this study shows, we need to continue our efforts to ensure that everyone is treated the same when it comes to finding a home to call their own, regardless of their sexual orientation.” “A person’s sexual orientation or gender identity should not be a reason to receive unfavorable treatment when searching for housing,” said Bryan Greene, HUD Acting Assistant Secretary for Fair Housing and Equal Opportunity. “HUD is committed to making

sure that LGBT individuals have equal access to housing opportunities.” HUD’s study is based on nearly 7,000 email tests conducted in 50 metropolitan markets across the country between June and October of 2011. For each paired test, two emails were sent to the housing provider regarding the unit advertised online. The only difference between the emails was whether the couple was same-sex or heterosexual. Unfavorable treatment was measured by whether the tester was told the unit was available, asked to contact the landlord, invited to the see the apartment, or received any response at all. Key findings of the study showed that: • Same-sex couples experience discrimination in the online rental housing market, relative to heterosexual couples. • Adverse treatment is found primarily in the form of same-sex couples receiving fewer responses to the email inquiry than heterosexual couples. • States with legislative protections show slightly more adverse treatment for gays and lesbians than in states without protections. • Adverse treatment of samesex couples is present in every metropolitan area where tests were conducted, but no clear-cut pattern exists in the magnitude of adverse treatment by metropolitan size. The Fair Housing Act makes it illegal to discriminate in rental, sales and lending on the basis of race, color, national origin, religion, sex, disability and familial status, however it does not include sexual orientation or gender identity as protected classes. Q


For me, marriage is for a woman and man to have children. I am not discriminating as a same-sex couple is sterile. It’s a parody of equality, it’s a big lie.” —Jean-Michel Colo, mayor of a French town who refused to allow a gay couple to marry

“Yes, it is difficult. In the curia there are holy people, truly holy people. But there is also a current of corruption, also there is, it is true… they speak of a ‘Gay Lobby’ and that is true, it is there.. we will have to see what we can do… The reform of the Roman Curia is something that almost all Cardinals asked for in the Congregations preceding the Conclave. I also asked for it. I cannot promote the reform myself, these matters of administration… I am very disorganized, I have never been good at this. But the cardinals of the Commission will move it forward.” —Pope Francis

The world we live in now is, in many ways, an abhorrent distortion, an accumulation of generations and generations of response to negative stimuli. Many don’t even have a concept of what normal is, by virtue of having lived afraid, ashamed, as victims of abuse, or inadequately handled for so long. I believe in coming up from under that fear and allowing the psyche/soul to truly heal. I understand that healing is a process, but I also believe that it is our responsibility to seriously care for ourselves, so that we can extend that level of concern for others and positively affect our environment.” —Grammy Award-winning singer Lauryn Hill defending her anti-gay lyrics

People forget that durable rights don’t come from courts, they come from consensus and strong support from society.” —Jonathan Rauch, author of Denial

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WSU naming of family center after Boyd K. Packer angers gay groups In early May, Weber State University announced their center for families would be named after former WSU alumni and Mormon apostle Boyd K. Packer. Chloe D. Merrill, Packer Center director explained, “The center is named for the Packers because they are alumni of the university, and because of their values of education and family.” The board of the Utah Stonewall Democrats sent a letter to Alan Hall, Chairman of the Weber State University Board of Regents, expressing their opposition to the decision: “Mr. Hall, we highly urge you to reconsider associating the name of Mr. Packer with a Center for Families. Weber State University is an institution of higher learning, owned by the people of the state of Utah. The name of this Center should reflect the diversity of Weber State University, and honor people who are committed to the betterment of all our communities served by it, not just one limited segment.” With the exception of a stint as a combat pilot in WWII, Packer’s entire career has been within the LDS Church and its

not as i do YOUNG REPUBLICAN LEADER TAKES ADVANTAGE OF HIS SLEEPING BUDDY The former chairman of the Young Republicans had voiced opposition to marriage equality and advocated for conservative policies. But in 2008, Glenn Murphy Jr. was convicted of sexual assault after being caught performing fellatio on another man while he slept. The sex act was done without consent and the victim was also a Young Republican at the time. After some jail time, Murphy has lost his steam as a rising star of the Republican

institutions. He received an Associate’s Degree from Weber, before going on to Utah State University and Brigham Young University. Weber State University spokesman John Kowalewski indicated that, while the university understands that not all members of the greater community respect the decision, Weber is standing firm. He stated that the goal was to raise money and that to date they had raised roughly three-quarters of the desired amount. The Packers, however, have donated no money to the project. Stonewall Democrats board member Bob Henline responded, “No amount of money makes bigotry acceptable. For the past 30 years or more, Packer has demonstrated a remarkable track record of denigrating various parts of our population. He has made comments against interracial marriage, feminists, intellectuals and the LGBT community. He represents a limited section of our population, and quite frankly, he is a bigot.” Gail Turpin, another member of the Stonewall board, added “It’s not about the church, it’s about Boyd K. Packer. He

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After Republican Commissioner Bruce Barclay of Cumberland County, Pa. was accused of sexual assault by a 20-year-old male, police obtained a search warrant for his home in 2010. The police found hundreds of videos containing sexual encounters that the commissioner had with other men. It was apparent that the sex was consensual between Barclay and his numerous other partners. Barclay was a vocal op-

Congressman Ed Schrock, a Republican from Virginia, strongly opposed gay-rights issues during his two terms in office. He voted against allowing gays in the military and voiced opposition to marriage equality legislation. However, in 2004 while running for a third term, he was caught on tape soliciting sex from a male prostitute. He was later hired as a staff person for one of the subcommittees of the Government Reform Committee.

talked at the recent conference about how people can be ‘too tolerant,’ which was clearly a reference to marriage equality. He has traditionally spoken in a very demeaning manner about LGBT people. “I have LDS people in my family, and I have gay people in my family, and I love them all. I don’t like seeing the Packer name associated with a family center when he has spoken that way about half my family. It’s hurtful. It causes me emotional pain.” The Stonewall Democrats, among others, helped push an online petition started by James Carroll, which now has over 2,300 signatures. Despite the public outcry, however, Weber State remains committed to the Packer name. Kowalewski defended the university’s commitment to diversity by referencing a scholarship established in the name of Matthew Shepard, a young gay man who was brutally murdered years ago. “Are they saying we need to tip the scales to neutrality by doing something terribly wrong? Weber State’s mission statement says it is committed to ‘valuing diversity.’ This is a slap in the face to the community.” Henline added.  Q


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Pride Counseling

Jerry Buie MSW, LCSW

SL County Library comes under fire for support of Utah Pride Salt Lake County Council Chair Steve DeBry, who last month was the lone councilperson to vote against a mutual-commitment registry, is questioning the legality of a team of Salt Lake County Library staffers who participated in the Utah Pride earlier this month. Salt Lake Tribune columnist Paul Rolly reported that DeBry’s administrative assistant, Bryan Maxwell, spoke with a deputy Salt Lake County district attorney about the issue, and was told there didn’t appear to be a violation. Salt Lake County District Attorney Sim Gill noted that no official request for a decision has yet reached his desk but, “Our initial take is that it is not a partisan event and does not constitute a political agency.” “County agencies have participated in multiple events to promote a service and do community outreach,” Gill told Rolly. Library staffers, bedecked in blue library T-shirts, walked with a banner in the parade with the county library’s logo and a statement of support for the parade’s theme of equality: “Salt Lake County Library Staff supports equality for all.” They also staffed a booth on the Festival grounds. Some fans of the library system’s Facebook Page complained about a photo showing the staffers at the parade, and Greg Near, public relations coordinator for the library, thanked the commentators, and said, “[W]e want everyone to know you’ve been heard. Yes, budgets for county agencies do sometimes include items like

t-shirts & banners for a variety of outreach events, including this one. If anyone has concerns about county budgets, I would encourage you to attend county council meetings and library board meetings. They always include time for public feedback in the agendas. A dialogue is always a good thing, and all of us at the library appreciate hearing from our patrons.” Apparently at least one patron took Near’s advice to heart. DeBry said he was acting on the concerns of a constituent who asked whether the Utah Pride Parade was a partisan political event, which the county is prohibited from endorsing. “I would have the same question of any event the county is involved in, including the Celebration of Marriage conference,” DeBry said. Library Services Director Jim Cooper said he has heard no complaints about participation in any of the other three dozen events library staffers have attended in the past year, and this is the first time there was a complaint about the Utah Pride Parade, which the library staffers have participated in for the past three years. Other events include the Days of ’47 Parade, the Hispanic Fiesta, the Asian Festival, the Girl Scout Cookie parties, the Safe Kids Fair and the Spanish Small Business Conference. Salt Lake County Animal Services, Youth Services, Health Services and members of the Salt Lake County Sheriff’s Department also participated in Pride this year. Q

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Equality in the Community – Provo Equality Utah will host community meetings along the Wasatch Front during the second half of 2013. The meetings will mediate discussions concerning nondiscrimination ordinances and other issues facing the queer community. The meetings include Provo, June 29, Clearfield, July 30, Salt Lake City, Aug. 21 and St. George, Oct. 22. For more information and addresses, go to WHEN: June 25, 7 p.m. WHERE: Provo City Hall, 351 W. Center St., Provo INFO:

make it happen big. They are also hosting a fundraiser: Soup and Dessert Cook-Off. Bring your best kitchen creations of soups and desserts, bring friends and family! Enter your specialties for $10 or two items for $15. It is $5 to eat and judge. Prizes to be awarded to the top three contestants. WHEN: July 20, 5–8 p.m. WHERE: Provo Community United Church of Christ, 175 N University Ave., Provo INFO: and Twitter @ProvoPride DONATIONS: ProvoPrideDonate

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The Provo Pride Festival is coming out this Fall. Yes, Provo. The organizers are currently seeking volunteers and donations to

The annual day at Lagoon Amusement Park is set for early August. Thousands of gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and

allied people attend and, as history writes, everyone has a great time. Attendees are encouraged to wear red to show solidarity. The Pioneer Pavilion, near Rattlesnake Rapids, has been reserved for group members to drop their belongings ... but not their trunks. A group photo will take place at 4 p.m. Discount coupons, good for 20 percent off admission for up to eight people, will be available beginning July 1. WHEN: Sunday, Aug. 4 WHERE: Lagoon Amusement Park, 375 Lagoon Dr., Farmington INFO:

Family Night Out at the Bees Pride Softball League, Q Kickball League and QSaltLake will host a Pride night out with the Salt Lake Bees Minor League Baseball team. A whole section of the stadium will be reserved so attendees can bring all their

friends and “family.” Stay after the game to enjoy the fireworks display. Tickets are $10 and food will be served for an extra $10. WHEN: Saturday, Aug. 17, 7 p.m. WHERE: Spring Mobile Ballpark, 77 W. 1300 South COST: $10

Equality Utah Allies Dinner Equality Utah’s 12th Annual Allies Dinner: Equality in My Community will be an evening of inspiration, entertainment and action. The Allies Dinner will feature Academy Awardwinning actor Sean Penn as keynote speaker. Receiving awards this year are the Salt Lake City School District, Troy Williams and Stephanie Pappas WHEN: Sept. 16 WHERE: Salt Palace Grand Ballroom, 100 S. West Temple, Salt Lake City INFO: COST: $125

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SL County Council Chair Steve DeBry calls the new domestic partner registry a slippery slop to gay marriage

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10 things we heard last month

Absolutely right, it is a slippery slope! Look what happened when we gave black people the right to vote — one became president!” —Kevin Scott

QSaltLake Magazine welcomes your letters to the editor.

Please send your letter of 300 words or less to letters@ We reserve the right to edit for length or libel if a letter is chosen for publication.

Weber State University names its Family Center after anti-gay LDS Apostle Boyd K. Packer

WSU should be horribly embarrassed. Right their wrong, and enter the 21st Century!” —Charles Lynn Frost

As an alumna of Weber State University, I find it reprehensible for anything on campus to be named after Boyd K. Packer.” —Dominique Storni

Utah Pride Parade

Someone please tell me why I have to go into a porn store to buy a Pride flag. When will the day come that we can get one at Michael’s or Target.” —James Adelman

Utah Pride disinvites blogger Joe Jervis in part because of potential Mormon backlash, and board strife


I disinvite myself from gay pride.” —Grey Wolfe

So the Mormons have again played the role of over lords. Mormons do not treat us as equals why should we cower before their possible hurt feelings? This is just plan sad.” —Warren Equal Gerritsen

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The Utah Pride Center has acted in many ways which some people, including myself, consider detrimental to the Utah LGBT community it is charged with serving.”

—David Nelson

If one needed a textbook example of how not to conduct effective PR with community goodwill, this is it. Clearly, an internal disagreement has devolved into an embarrassing predicament that definitively shows the Utah Pride Center is not ready for the prime time when it comes to community

and political leadership and advocacy. This is an organization that puts little value or attention into a public relations emphasis that should be able to accomplish much in terms of positive recognition and acceptance. This is a crisis of leadership in the organization. And, it should serve as a strong reminder that perhaps in the future, the Utah Pride Center might boost its community profile by inviting a local leader and respected individual in the LGBT community as its grand

marshal. There certainly were plenty of local candidates this year who have provided much better thematic emphasis to the ideals of engagement and social bridging in the community. Then, perhaps, it would avoid these types of embarrassments that expose an unattractive culture of nonprofessionalism when it comes to community relations for this organization.” —Les Roka


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from the editor

Art and music bring out Utah’s gays BY SETH BRACKEN


music was readily available online, I used to sit crosslegged on the living room floor for hours with a blank tape in the stereo and my finger poised on the record button. I would wait until a song came on that I wanted to keep and listen to on my Walkman I had bought at a local pawn shop. Sometimes I’d be waiting for a specific song, like Ricky Martin’s “Living La Vida Loca,” and sometimes, I just wanted to keep a recording of potential new favorite songs. The other way I found new music was through the public

library. The CD collection was sparse, but it’s how I got to know Counting Crows, Sister Hazel, Blues Traveler and others. I checked out hundreds of albums knowing that if I didn’t like the styles I could return them without consequence. But when I stumbled on Antigone Rising’s “From the Ground Up,” I knew I had hit gold. The soulful folk music was right up my alley, but more than that, I could tell the singer was a lesbian. Or at least, I thought she was. Deep in my closeted world I was titillated that something gay would

be so close to my eardrums. I went to Barnes and Noble and bought the album. I hid it inside my secret CD case, along with other music I knew my parents wouldn’t approve. But there weren’t any questionable lyrics or salacious melodies on this CD. It was much like other folk-country albums, except the object of desire was of the same gender as the lead singer. Antigone Rising is still around and will be headlining the fabulous Women’s Redrock Music Festival in Torrey, Utah. The festival is just one of many arts, music and film festivals that cater largely to the LGBT community in Utah. The festival often features lesbians and other strong women who are talented and independent. Other festivals, including the Utah Arts Festival, Damn These Heels! Film Festival, the Deer Valley Music Festival and the Red Butte Concert Series

are just as queer-friendly as any Pride celebration in Utah. The listings of music, art and film festivals in Utah are growing each year and taking advantage of these terrific celebrations not only enriches our community, it’s an outstanding way to meet new gay Deep in my and gayfriendly closeted world I Utahns. was titillated that In something gay this issue would be so close we list to my eardrums. some of the most prominent music and art festivals in the region. We can’t guarantee that the weather will cooperate or that the music and art will live up to expectations, but we can guarantee there will be a strong showing of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people anywhere there is art to be found.  Q

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the straight line

Empowering our persecution BY BOB HENLINE

Much has

been said of late regarding LDS Church involvement in our social and political affairs. Seemingly, this came to a head with their overt involvement in California’s “Proposition 8” marriage equality debate, when they suffered from negative national press. In fact, many observers have argued that the backlash over their involvement in that campaign has prompted the LDS Church to adopt a softer stance, which has since helped marriage equality measures in other states. If you live in Utah, however, it isn’t hard to see that the Mormons have not softened at all, they’ve merely changed tactics to a much more subtle, and more dangerous, type of involvement. Several recent events signify this new strategy and the problem we face as equality activists in Utah. The first instance of their more subtle approach occurred on Jan. 29, 2013, when LDS attorney Von Keetch filed an amicus brief with the United States Supreme Court in defense of Proposition 8. The brief, however, was not filed solely on behalf of the LDS Church, their name was buried among a list of other, smaller faith groups. This document is filled with the same oppressive arguments and bogus social-history claims that have been the hallmark of LDS opposition to marriage equality since the inception of this debate. Instead of continuing their losing campaign in the public arena, they’ve changed battlegrounds to one wherein the public scrutiny is less intense, but the stakes are much, much higher. The second instance was localized here in Utah, during the 2013 General Session of the Utah State Legislature. As in previous sessions, Equality Utah prioritized a bill that would prohibit housing and employment discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation or gender identity. Reports surfaced that EU was involved in negotiations with various “stakeholders,” including the LDS Church, and that the bill would be released once the final language was agreed upon by all stakeholders. The bill was to be sponsored by a prominent

LDS state senator, Curt Bramble. Bramble, historically one of Utah’s most conservative Republican legislators, remarked to the media that he would bring the bill forward if the LDS Church approved the final language. As the 45-day general session dragged on with no bill released, some observers starting to worry. The community was constantly assured by Equality Utah Executive Director Brandie Balken that the bill was coming, they were just working diligently to make sure they “got it right,” which is Utah political double-speak for “Mormon-approved.” This approval never came, Bramble backed out, and the bill was released near the end of the session through a new sponsor, Southern Utah Republican Steven Urquhart. For the first time in history, after years of attempts, the bill was passed favorably out of the Utah Senate Economic Development and Workforce Services Committee. Utah’s LGBT community celebrated this victory, but it was short-lived. The bill cleared committee with just a week left in the session, and with internal vote counts predicting failure, the sponsors pulled the bill without it ever being debated on the floor of the senate. Throughout the process, none of the bill’s sponsors or advocates would acknowledge the role of the LDS Church; but Sen. Bramble’s earlier remarks put it into focus: The Church would not approve the language. Negotiations were allowed to drag on to such an extent that the bill timed out at the end of the session. Another victim of church-state politics in Utah. Still, however, the “leaders” of Utah’s LGBT community refuse to comment on the role and influence of the LDS Church in this event, ever afraid of awakening the “800-pound gorilla.” Even on peripheral issues the fear of LDS wrath is ever-present. In May 2013, Weber State University, a public institution located in Ogden, Utah, announced its decision to name a building in honor of LDS leader Boyd Packer. Given the decades of anti-gay bigotry and denigration perpetrated by Packer, the

Utah Stonewall Democrats sent an official protest to the chairman of the WSU Board of Regents. Several Utah political figures and community leaders were asked to send similar letters of protest. One prominent state senator responded, indicating that he was unwilling to expend his political capital in an effort that would label him as a “Mormon hater.” Last week a story came to light that prominent gay blogger Joe Jervis (Joe. My.God) had been disinvited as one of the grand marshals of this year’s Utah Pride Parade. Upon further inquiry, it was discovered that this retraction was the result of concern that some of his statements might be offensive to Mormons. The Utah Pride Center issued a statement that the LDS Church had no role in this decision, If you live in Utah, it was made by however, it isn’t their executive hard to see that the director. For decades Mormons have not the equality softened at all movement in Utah has lived in fear of the LDS Church and their power. This power was exhibited in all its glory in 2004, with the passage of Utah’s Amendment 3, enshrining into the state constitution the definition of marriage as a union exclusively between one man and one woman. With every piece of pro-equality legislation that finds its way to Utah’s legislature comes the ever-present fear that the conservatives will retaliate by enacting statewide policies that will undermine some of the gains made in municipalities, fueled by the power of the LDS Church. Events transpiring around the nation and around the world, however, only serve to demonstrate how antiquated the Utah political strategy really is. Following the Proposition 8 campaign, the LDS Church took a public relations beating in the national press, and has since dramatically scaled back its public efforts in this regard, at least outside of its strongholds in Utah and Idaho.


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Yet the strategy of Utah’s pathy. Faced with increasing LGBT advocates is to continue negative publicity, they will be negotiating behind closed forced to completely disengage doors of Utah’s capitol and to from this debate at some point avoid any statements or actions in the very near future. that might arouse the ire of the Undoubtedly pushing hard LDS Church. That is the stratwill result in a few more egy of a bygone age, and one legislative losses. There will be that only serves to reinforce pro-equality measures introthe perceived power of the duced at the legislature and LDS Church. They are losing in municipal chambers that this battle in the realm of pubmight be defeated because of lic opinion, which is why we an adversarial strategy, but we can’t afford to let them switch need to be looking at the endbattlefields. game, and this fight is one that It is long past time we force history tells us we are destined this issue into the light of to win. That will only happen, day. Poll after poll show the however, when we take up the numbers growing for support fight in the light of day. When of full equality, not just in we, as citizens and activists, deUtah but around the nation. It mand that our voices be heard is time to push, and push hard, in the halls of government — for what is right. If that means when we refuse to accept the we force the LDS Church to status quo as “political reality” take a stand against equality and change the paradigm. in the public arena, then by all As long as equality activists means, we should force that in Utah continue to fear LDS stand. With every such stand reprisal, we will continue to they loseUFM_Q_mag_ad_2013_v3_x1a.pdf members, they lose empower our own persecution 1 5/21/13 11:10 AM revenue and they lose symat their hands.  Q

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lambda lore

Sodomites unite BY BEN WILLIAMS

Ten years

ago the Supreme Court justices changed the lives of gay people by writing off those consensual sodomy laws impinged on the Constitutional liberties of Americans. There is a whole generation of gay youth in Utah today who have come of age after that historic June 26, 2003, Supreme Court ruling which struck down Texas’ sodomy law as an unconstitutional violation of privacy. They will never know what it’s like to be a sexual outlaw.

LAWRENCE V. TEXAS Many who are fighting for marriage equality today hardly remember the landmark decision that invalidated a Texas law, and others like it, which criminalized anal and oral intercourse, saying it was a violation of the due process clause of the 14th Amendment. The 2003 ruling in the case of Lawrence and Garner v. Texas ensured the termination of all anti-sodomy laws in the 14 states which still had laws on the books criminalizing consensual non-vagina-penis intercourse. These “blue laws” were used, especially in Utah, to justify discrimination against gay people and to deny them equal protection under the law because their actions were “criminal.” (Utah’s law is still on the books, but is unenforceable because of Lawrence.) The decriminalization of homosexuality has also opened the door to marriage equality. The notorious Texas case entered the national political debate in 2003 with conservatives like Rick Santorum, a former member of the Senate’s Republican leadership, telling the Associated Press that if the justices overturned the Texas law, “then you have the right to bigamy, you have the right to polygamy, you have the right to incest, you have the right to adultery, you have the right to anything.” However, writing for the 6–3 court majority, Justice Anthony Kennedy wrote, “Liberty presumes an autonomy of self that includes freedom of thought, belief, expression and certain intimate conduct.” Justice Antonin Scalia, joined by Chief Justice William Rehnquist and Justice

Clarence Thomas, dissented, saying the court “has largely signed on to the socalled homosexual agenda. It is clear from this that the court has taken sides in the culture war, departing from its role in assuring, as neutral observer, that the democratic rules of engagement are observed.” The case stemmed from a 1998 arrest of a gay Houston, Texas couple who had engaged in “same-sex” intercourse. Under a Texas law passed in 1970, which made it a crime to engage in homosexual sex, the Texas state appeals court upheld the law because it “advances a legitimate state interest, namely, preserving public morals.” This lower court opinion was bolstered by the 1986 Supreme Court decision that upheld the prosecution of two gay men under a Georgia anti-sodomy law which denied gay people the right to privacy. Justice Kennedy said the 1986 court decision “was not correct when it was decided, and it is not correct today (2003).”

BOWERS V. HARDWICK The infamous Bowers v. Hardwick decision spurred the October 11, 1987 March on Washington, which inspired the formation of a National Coming Out Day to heighten gay visibility. To show how bigoted the sodomy laws were applied, in 1997, the former Georgia Attorney General Michael Bowers, who fought to have the US Supreme Court uphold Georgia’s sodomy law, admitted to having had an adulterous affair that lasted over a decade. And while Georgia’s sodomy law carries penalties for adultery, Bowers was never dragged through the courts. The Supreme Court’s 2003 decision prompted 36 cities to organize celebratory rallies, among them Salt Lake City where nearly 100 exuberant people met on the steps of the state capitol. Many wept openly while others cheered. I took pictures and recorded remarks from the Utah Stonewall Historical Society. A close friend of mine exclaimed, “Woohoo! I’m going to celebrate by ‘sodomizing’ my brains out!”

FELONY Until 1969, sodomy was a felony in Utah, where judges sent violators to prison, jail, or the state mental institution. In 1957, a 20-year-old Layton man was sentenced to three to 20 years in state prison for sodomy. In 1969, the state legislature reduced the severity of sodomy from a felony to a misdemeanor in order to ensure more convictions of homosexuals. Unlike the Texas law, which was specifically aimed at homosexuals, Utah made some sodomy legal in 1977 for married heterosexuals only. Utah’s law forbade “any sexual act with a [unmarried] person who is 14 years of age or older involving the genitals of one person and the mouth or anus of another person, regardless of the sex of either participant.” The court’s decision to “Woohoo! I’m abolish sodomy going to celebrate laws in America came nearly 34 by ‘sodomizing’ years, almost my brains out!” to the day, after Canada had repealed its sodomy laws on June 27, 1969. On that date all homosexual acts in the U.S. were still criminal except in the state of Illinois. Therefore, a raid on a gay bar in Greenwich Village that night didn’t seem out of the ordinary. The late civil-rights attorney, Brian Barnard, endeavored many, many times to remove Utah’s sodomy laws from the criminal code without success. The state claimed no one was being harmed by the sodomy statute being on the books. In fact, former Utah Attorney General Mark Shurtleff argued that, while unenforceable, Utah sodomy laws had “pedagogical value,” which can only be surmised to mean that Shurtleff believed that the State of Utah has the right to condemn sodomy regardless of the prohibition being effectively invalidated by Lawrence v. Texas. As Ben Fulton, former editor of City Weekly once wrote, “Our legislature will never let go of


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any tool that lets them beat up on gays and lesbians.” Utah Eagle Forum’s head harpy, Gayle Ruzicka, is still committed to making sodomy illegal in Utah again, under the guise of sodomy being a public health menace. “Anytime you put semen into those cavities of the body not made to receive the semen, you have a much higher chance of disease and infection. So there’s a very good health reason why those acts should remain illegal.” Is that why the STD rate is higher among heterosexuals than gays, Gayle? What about lesbians and their “angel sex?” By what means will Ruzicka criminalize them? I wonder if Gayle thinks gay sex is “icky,” but woman-on-woman action is hot. More than 150 years ago, a mid-19th century German named Karl-Heinrich Ulrichs became the first person in modern times to speak out publicly in defense of same-sex love. At the Congress of German Jurists in 1867, he urged the repeal of sodomy laws. He

was booed. Some people are still booing today. The most progressive gay civil rights movement in the early 20th century was in the Weimar Republic of Germany, where you could be gay as long as you registered with the local police. We know how badly things turn out when fascism comes to power. In fact, fascism in Russia has recently called the promotion of homosexuality a criminal offense. African nations are making homosexuality illegal and calling on the death penalty for sodomy. In certain Middle Eastern countries young gay men are being tortured and hanged. As gay people, we must be ever-vigilant in guarding our rights to love, marry and yes, even attend White Parties, if that is your thing. Never take freedom for granted. Pride is more than a party. Its being proud of your community, your friends and lovers, and yourself. The 4th of July includes our “pursuit of happiness,” too.  Q


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times. And SCF expects people to wait 60 days for results? How does this app expect to compete with Grindr? The Door of Hope assures its pupils, “[D]espite what you may have heard elsewhere, you do not have a ‘homosexual gene,’ nor were you born this way with no hope of freedom. You can be set free from the bondage of homosexuality through the power of Jesus Christ and the cross! If you will apply the biblical principles found here, you can walk through the Door of Hope into a new life with Christ, free from sexual impurity and self-gratification.” Got that? Being gay is not “normal” and being Christian and gay are incompatible. You must reject one in order to be the “You do not have a other. Mind you, plenty of ‘homosexual gene,’ gay Christians nor were you born would disagree, this way with no but hey, they hope of freedom.” can get their own app. (Note: I just checked. They have one, actually). Under “Helpful Tips” there’s this unintentionally ironic statement: “Be transparent and honest. Since you are likely someone who is quite used to hiding your sin from others, we would encourage you to walk in the light and speak forthrightly about what is happening in your life and in your heart. This will help you to receive the most benefit from these lessons.” Note that SCF is not advocating that you be honest in real life. They’re calling you a sinner and telling you to “confess.” They continue, “However, by encouraging you to walk in the light we are not saying that you are to be graphic or overly detailed in your responses. Satan has received enough glory and attention.” In other words, they don’t want you to gross them out. Because you, gay person, are icky and damaged, says the “Christian” group who is trying to “cure” you out of the goodness of their “hearts.”  Q


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a mom’s view

My date with 11 men BY LEESA MYERS

It was

the morning of June 10, 2010, when my son Jay called all excited and said, “You will not believe what just happened? I was on my computer feeling bummed because I wasn’t going to participate in the Ragnar Relay. I went to their website and they still had openings.” Jay had ran this relay twice before, once in Arizona, and he was really looking forward to running Our team was this year. He called Super had worked Heroes, I was on getting sponsorship Super Mom. through the Our team was Old Spaghetti comprised of 11 Factory where cute gay men he worked at the time. He and me. had two teams together but because of communication problems with Ragnar the sponsorship fell through. When he saw the opening, which is unusual being so close to the race, he called them and explained what had happened. Ragnar staff told Jay to get a team together at no cost. The problem was Jay’s two teams had already gone on to other teams and he had eight days to put a team of 12 together. I had been jogging for over a year, and two weeks before Jay called I had jogged my farthest. When Jay called, I asked if I could join the team. He was not sure I could do it. I then asked if I could walk. He said yes and if I really wanted to do it, it was okay with him. Ragnar’s motto, “Think of it as a 178mile party.” You start in Logan and end in Park City. The team of 12 is in two decorated vehicles. Our team was called Super Heroes, I was Super Mom. Our team was comprised of 11 cute gay men and me. One teammate was dressed in Superman

underwear. He turned heads of men and women. I was leg #6, the first one in the second van. My first leg, I started off jogging much too fast and was quickly out of breath. After I had ran a mile, I caught up to our van and my cheerleaders. It was fun to have my team cheering and telling me what a great job I was doing. My next leg was at the bottom of East Canyon Reservoir. I thought I would be running around the lake, but instead was diverted up the mountain. When I hit the turn, I was looking at a very steep grade. I jogged, then began walking up the mountain. I kept my head down and as runners passed me they said, “Keep your head down, you can do it.” Each time I looked up, I felt like I was walking backward. The top didn’t look like it would ever come. I must have looked like a red tomato ready to burst. Jay parked the van illegally and ran over to me. Then he walked with me, telling me what a great job I was doing, and he handed me water and an energy bar. My energy started coming back. Not only did I make the steep hill but also a second smaller hill before I passed off to the next runner. Everyone was hugging me, saying “great job, you did it.” I was so happy for me and for not disappointing my team. Each one of us had a hill we had to battle. One of our teammates had to conquer “Ragnar Hill,” termed “Hell Hill,” and it was. He was struggling and a different team’s runner went to him and said, “Let’s do this hill together.” I learned that everyone has a hill in his or her life to climb, and if you keep your head down and have the support of your team and cheerleaders, not only will you make the hill, you will also go farther. Never give up on yourself or your dreams!  Q

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President Barack Obama has nominated the fourth openly gay person to ever serve as a U.S. ambassador. Daniel Baer has been nominated to become the ambassador of the Organization for Security and Cooperation, based in Austria and comprised of 57 European, Asian and North American countries that cooperate on security, terrorism, economic and human rights issues.

A New York Congressman is drafting legislation that would correct unfair discharge papers for gay and lesbian veterans. Rep. Steve Israel’s bill would allow service members who were dishonorably discharged from the military under the “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy to receive medical and other benefits. Israel said the bill would correct wrongs committed under previous policies and would honor the service performed honorable Americans and their spouses.


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who’s your daddy?


A few

weeks ago I received an idea for the column from a PR person in Los Angeles. She wanted me to write about, a website that helps people decide what to wear on a first date. Honestly, I don’t remember what Kelly or I wore on our first date all those years ago, but it must have been cute. On July 31, we celebrate our 25th anniversary.

We like to joke that, unlike other couples, we don’t stay together for the children, we stay together in spite of them. We’ve seen a lot since that hot summer day when we jumped over a broom. The Berlin Wall came crashing down. An African American was elected president. Gay people started marrying legally as more and more states started embracing marriage equality. And the Internet, a little known means for researchers to share raw data, was rescued from obscurity through porn. Closer to home we’ve been through a lot together. There’s been five major moves, several job changes, deaths of family members and friends. Oh yeah, and the little hooligans joining the mix. They certainly turned a good thing on its head! We like to joke that, unlike

other couples, we don’t stay together for the children, we stay together in spite of them. Actually, the boys help put their parents’ relationship with one another in crystalclear perspective. Whether it’s guiding our two rambunctious little dudes to hopefully become upstanding men, or trying to figure out what to make for dinner, we’re in this together. Are we in it together forever? I can’t peer into the future, so I can’t say. I hope so. But stranger things have happened. I am, after all, the only one of my parents’ kids still married to a “first spouse.” It’s ironic for these six people whose parents recently celebrated their 64th wedding anniversary. I know there are plenty of people who don’t understand what I see in Kelly, nor what he sees in me. I’m outgoing to his reserved, opinionated to his neutral, talkative to his silence, moody to his calm, diplomatic to his straightforwardness. I suppose it’s good for the boys

to be raised by such different people. Maybe as adults they’ll embody only our good traits while abandoning our less desirable qualities. That’s a nice thought, but the truth is that Gus’s personality is very much like Kelly’s, while Niko is mini-me. Well, except that Gus is outgoing and Niko can be terribly shy. So, I guess I love Kelly because he lets me be me. But I also love him because he sees in me attributes I never dreamed I could have. He’s the one, after all, who made me a father. He was the one who could see past my sometimes volcanic and selfcentered personality, recognizing all I had to offer to a child. It was he who made me believe I’d be a good dad. He’s the one who constantly tells me I am

a good dad — even when I’m not. Now that I think about it, he and I have always been able to see something in each other something in us as individuals and together as a couple. After all, as two gay men starting out in 1988, the deck was pretty much stacked against us. Remember, back then neither society nor the law was on our side. On more than one occasion it would have been easier to shake hands and go our separate ways. But we didn’t. We continued to see something that made us want to persevere. We kept seeing the silver lining in our relationship and in each other. Having the boys in our lives has simply made that silver lining a lot shinier.  Q

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queer shift


“Nobody sees anybody truly but all through the flaws of their own egos. That is the way we all see ...each other in life. Vanity, fear, desire, competition-- all such distortions within our own egos-- condition our vision of those in relation to us. Add to those distortions of our own egos the corresponding distortions in the egos of others, and you see how cloudy the glass must become through which we look at each other. That’s how it is in all living relationships except when there is that rare case of two people who love intensely enough to burn through all those layers of opacity and see each other’s naked hearts.” —Tennessee Williams

June is

one busy month, Pride Festival, HRC Gala, parties, arts festival, and on and on. I hear every year how glad people are once June is over—and they can truly begin to somewhat relax and enjoy the summer. I know I feel that way, and I have heard it expressed a lot this June of 2013. Another common topic or theme that seems to be trending, posted, and discussed is how much of what occurs during June every year keeps people caught up in the thick of thin things. Why are gay people so mean to one another, so comparative, so elitist, so downright bitchy? How does the queer community really do what Tennessee Williams suggests above and burn through the pretense, the illusion, the plasticity, and get to the caring and celebration of each and every person? Does it have to do with respect? Maturity and dignity? Cause and concern? Purpose and contribution? What? What the hell gets in our way? I think it boils down to ego, and the only ego we can really change, alter, or check — is our own! A future leader, game-changing, young gay man I admire, Issac Higham, posted a week or so ago — “What the hell is wrong with some people? Why is it so hard to

just be nice to others? I hear and read so many comments from members of the gay community that bash other members of the community for being ‘too fem,’ ‘too closeted,’ ‘too slutty,’ or hundreds of other examples of pointless putdowns. For a community so desperate for freedom to live life the way we feel is right for ourselves, we should be more accepting of each other.” We may disagree, you don’t have to be friends with everyone, or even like everyone, but at least stop attacking each other! There are plenty of ignorant, hateful people willing to do that already.” Isaac’s words and example is one of hundreds you hear or see every day. Why does this permeate so hugely in the queer community? I would like to offer ego as the reason. I used to have a boss that would holler as people would enter a business meeting “check your ego at the door,” and his rule worked, and innovation, collaboration, creativity, sustainable solutions, and team building were always results of his advice. Yep, ego, coming from Latin, where it means “I, myself.” When others use the word in today’s vocabulary, they typically are referring to someone else that is me-myself-and-I absorbed, so much so they can’t see anything else. I am using the word in this Queer Shift column to bring awareness to how everyone has to be fully informed of their own ego, to make sure that it doesn’t run amok and turn them into a self-absorbed asshole. Here are some early self warning signs or behaviors of the unchecked EGO, which I hope support my assumption. Being; judgmental, pushy, pessimistic, manipulative, overbearing, hasty, stubborn, dictatorial, overzealous, rigid, defensive, unrealistic, indiscriminate, blind, naive, inflexible, uninspired, paranoid, inconsiderate, anxious, political, overly-competi-

tive, showcasing your brilliance, seeking acceptance, comparative, complaining, criticizing, reckless, impractical, restrictive, know-it-all, detached. Ego and Scarcity Thinking go hand in hand down the road to becoming a miserable, ornery, isolated, and at times lonely person and hateful community. I talk a lot about Scarcity versus Abundance Thinking and to tie it together here--I’d like to offer some abundant behaviors that won’t eradicate this issue, but it may help those who want to hear, consider, and be change

Why are gay people so mean to one another, so comparative, so elitist, so downright bitchy? agents for a better queer community. Abundance Consciousness begins with a sense of gratitude, giving other people credit for their contributions and victories, read opinions that differ from theirs, talk about ideas and possibilities, share information, exude joy, embrace change, dream, forgive others, accept responsibility for their failures, want others to succeed, embrace self & community growth, continuously learn, expose themselves to different people, and operate from a transformational perspective. When someone like myself offers opinion and suggestions such as these, they can be thought as judging too, but this is humbly offered as a plea for engaging in becoming a more healthy community. Healthy in our behaviors, our connection, our similarities--rather than harping on our differences. Truly.


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Everything from Angels to Zen And hopefully if we could all collectively do this--then the meta question that keeps arising of why can’t the queers get along and celebrate the totality of all of us, would dissipate. Maybe, just maybe--the drag queens, twinks, twunks, lezzies (lipstick and bull dyke), bears, uber bottoms, cowboys, hasbians & yestergays, rackers, bis, trannies, gender neutral & non-conformists, power tops, rubber aficionados, chasers, trans*, leather men, boys, bois, cubs, two spirits, non-binaries, misstresses, masochists, gender-fluids, fruit flies, fag stags, doms, subs, slaves, divas, jocks, circuit boys, gay listers, show queens, faeries, art

fags, Grindr addicts, barebackers, suburbigays, nerdigays, daddies, ultra femmes, under-ragers, faux butches, throuples, frat boys, starry eyeds, rough trades, gutter punks, sex traders, porn stars, and YES even dirty bath waters could all just simply CELEBRATE DIFFERENCES, beginning with ALL of ourselves.  Q “I work really hard at trying to see the big picture and not getting stuck in ego. I believe we’re all put on this planet for a purpose, and we all have a different purpose... When you connect with that love and that compassion, that’s when everything unfolds.” —Ellen DeGeneres

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thinking out loud

Pride, 80s Style Celebrating our lives when no one cared that we were dying BY ABBY DEES

The motto

of my first Pride parade was “Unity and More in ’84.” If you think this is ancient history, I can assure you it’s not. Pride in ’84 meant then, as now, that despite the insults and assaults we faced other days, for one weekend at least, we had each other and we were beautiful. Next came “Alive with Pride in ’85,” with “alive” being the operative word. If it was possible to spend 1984 having only heard about the “gay plague,” by 1985 AIDS had touched almost every one of us. Pride in ’85 felt like a wake. President Reagan, “the Great Communicator,” stayed resolutely silent about AIDS as the death toll kept climbing. Members of his administration, though, freely told the press that it was our own damn fault. So much for policy. In 1986 at a centennial celebration of the Statue of Liberty, comedy legend Bob Hope cracked, “I hear Lady Liberty has AIDS. Nobody knows if she got it from the mouth of the Hudson or the Staten Island Ferry.” The Reagans, who were present, laughed. By the end of that year, US AIDS deaths topped 11,000, with tens of thousands infected and no treat-

ment in sight – my friends among them. Can you imagine if Leno joked about the victims of the Boston bombings or the Oklahoma tornadoes? What if the president did nothing but laugh? It was as bad as it sounds. To quote a 1986 episode of Designing Women, AIDS was “killing all the right people.” Clearly, to survive, we could only truly count on those personally affected by it. In 1987, five years in, the Reagan administration finally took some measure of leadership. AIDS historians still argue about what could have happened and what should have happened, but they surely must agree on what spurred the progress we made in this country to fight AIDS: relentless, unflinching activism by LGBT people and our allies. Now that it’s been 18 years since anyone in my life died from AIDS, my anger has softened. I even publically praised Dubbya for his commitment to the issue. Yes, yes, I know about the abstinence-only garbage that passed for public-health education, but Bush did show commitment that his predecessors were afraid to. I’ll give him that. We have drugs that — for those with reliable access to them — can keep HIV at

sanctity of marriage MAJORITY OF CALIFORNIANS SUPPORT GAY MARRIAGE A new Los Angeles Times poll found that 58 percent of registered voters in California believe gay couples should have equal access to marriage benefits. Only 36 percent of registered voters were opposed to gay marriage, according to the poll. In 2008, a measure banning gay marriage in the state passed with 52 percent. Now, marriage equality enjoys a 22-point lead.

THERE ARE ANGELS IN AMERICA Support for marriage equality among white Evangelicals is at 18 percent, up from 10 percent in 2004, according to a poll by the Pew Forum on Religion and Public Life. White Evangelicals make up an important voting bloc, especially in highly conservative areas. According to the same poll, 54 percent of Catholics say they support marriage equality, up from 40 percent in 2001. More than 50 percent of Protestants support gay marriage,

the poll found. However, only 30 percent of black Protestants support gay marriage. Nationally, more than 50 percent of Americans support gay marriage.

SHE AIN’T PUTIN UP WITH HIM NO MORE Lyudmila Putin announced to Russian press that she is getting a divorce from her husband, President Vladimir Putin. The couple has been married for more than 30 years and they have two children. Putin has supported several anti-gay laws, including laws that ban Pride celebrations and that would ban same-sex parents from adopting Russian children.

bay. No one is putting an AIDS quarantine initiative on the ballot like Lyndon LaRouche once did, or advocating branding people with AIDS like William F. Buckley once did. Childhood AIDS in the US is now virtually nonexistent. Why am I talking about this now, then? Precisely because it’s easy to forget how bad things used to be, even if we were there. And when we forget how bad things used to be, two things happen: First, we get complacent about where we are now. The purpose of knowing our history isn’t to pat ourselves on the back for being wiser than It’s easy to people were back in the day; it’s to forget how bad remind us to keep things used to checking our be, even if we assumptions and questioning our were there. fears. They have always gotten humanity into serious trouble. The second thing that happens is that we lose our faith in the possibility of cultural progress. When state legislators can sponsor a bill prohibiting teachers from mentioning gay people at all – except to “out” a child (this year in Tennessee), or when a young man can be gay-bashed and left for dead in his gay-Mecca neighborhood (this week in West Hollywood), it’s easy to think that we will never, ever get to a place of rational acceptance, let alone equality. But big change is possible and the history of AIDS in the US is just one example. Of course, people had to fight with the profound knowledge that their lives and those of their loved ones depended on it. And lives still depend on it. This is why, for this year’s Pride, I’m remembering those who fought so hard not so long ago, many of whom are gone now. They would still be fighting today, I know, because there’s so much left to do.  Q Abby is a civil rights attorney-turned-author who has been in the LGBT rights trenches for 25+ years. She can be reached through:

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Damn These Heels celebrates 10th season Utah’s own

lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender film festival is in its 10th season and growing. The Damn These Heels! Film Festival will be held July 12–14, at the Rose Wagner Performing Arts Center. It was recently recognized by IndieWire as one of the 10 most notable LGBT film festivals in the country. This year’s festival will include 21 feature films from nine countries – more than double the films slated for last year’s festival – and screenings will be in both the Jeanné Wagner and the Black Box Theatres. For the first time, audience members will vote for their favorite feature film via balloting after each screening. The winner will be announced July 15 and then screened during the DTH! Year-Round slot on July 18 at Brewvies Cinema. Individual tickets for DTH! LGBT Film Festival are $6 per screening and can be purchased online A limited number of 10 tickets passes will be offered for $30 and include access to opening night celebrations. All-access packages are also available online. For tickets and more information, go to or

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blood of virgins that she would stay young and beautiful forever. Still alive today, she’s found a perfect hunting ground.


Directed by Malcolm Ingram Not Rated | 95 min | 2013 | USA

The story of Continental Baths, a well-known New York City establishment for gays during the late ‘60s to 1974. South by Southwest Film Festival 2013; Frameline Film Festival 2013; BAMcinemaFest 2013

Directed by Marçal Forés Not rated | 94 min | 2012 | Spain Catalan w/English subtitles

This thriller is a very unconventional coming-of-age tale and an intoxicating blend of fantasy and cold reality as it follows a shy teenager’s perilous period when exciting but troubling sexuality enters his innocent world. San Sebastian International Film Festival 2012; BFI London Lesbian + Gay Film Festival

Directed by Simon Savory Not rated | 97 min | 2013 | UK/USA/ France

Earlene arrives at Venice Beach after running from a desperate situation, only to become fast friends with an Australian skater who is also lost. Together, they set out into the desert to find themselves.

What happens after Tanner is outed by his classmates and becomes the “gay best friend” for three high school queen bees?


Directed by Alan Brown Not rated | 83 min | 2013 | USA

FIVE DANCES is a creatively adventurous narrative feature film set in the New York ‘downtown’ modern dance world.


FRAUENSEE (Women’s Lake)

At Goodkind High School, a group of students of varying sexual orientations form an after-school club as a discrete way to share their feelings and experiences.

Directed by Zoltan Paul Not rated | 86 min | 2012 | Germany German w/English subtitles


Directed by Darren Stein Not rated | 92 min | 2013 | USA

Tribeca Film Festival 2013; Frameline Film Festival 2013; Closing Night – Outfest 2013

Opening Night, Dance On Camera – Film Society of Lincoln Center 2013



A middle-aged couple in the German countryside has unexpected visitors that cause trouble in their already tenuous relationship.

Directed by Gary Entin PG-13 | 85 min | 2013 | USA

Toronto InsideOut Lesbian and Gay Film and Video Festival 2013

Toronto InsideOut Lesbian and Gay Film and Video Festival 2012; Frameline San Francisco International LGBT Film Festival 2012


Directed by­Nicholas D. Wrathall Not rated | 83 min | 2013 | USA/Italy


Directed by Stephen Lacant Not rated | 100 min | 2013 | Germany German w/English subtitles


Directed by Nickolas Bird + Eleanor Sharpe NR | 77 min | 2012 | Australia/Germany


A passionate group of Australian same-sex ballroom dancers battle homophobia, injury and personal drama as they pursue

In the early 1600s, Countess Elizabeth Bathory slaughtered more than 600 young women, believing if she bathed in the

Directed by John V. Knowles Not rated | 95 min | 2013 | USA

A promising career with the police, a baby on the way – Marc’s life seems to be right on track. Then he meets fellow policeman, Kay. Opening Night, New Film! MOMA 2013; Berlin International Film Festival 2013

This is an unashamedly opinionated film. In Gore Vidal’s America, the political coup has already happened. Tribeca Film Festival 2013 – Frameline Film Festival 2013


Directed by Doug Spearman Not Rated | 103 min | USA | 2013

Imagine Lethal Weapon only with Mel Gibson and Danny Glover as ex-boyfriends. Frameline Film Festival 2013

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NR | 168 min | 2012 | Canada/France French w/English subtitles

An astonishingly crafted exploration of the 10-year relationship of a male-to-female transsexual with her lover. Opening Night, Un Certain Regard; Winner, Best Actress; Winner, Queer Palm – Festival De Cannes 2013



Directed by Michiel van Erp NR | 80 min | 2011 | Netherlands Dutch, German, French w/English subtitles

The first generation of transsexuals who had their sex change in Casablanca in the mid-1950s to 1960s take stock of their lives. IDFA International Documentary Film Festival Amsterdam

Directed by Sophie O’Connor Not rated | 97 min | 2013 | USA


Directed by Dominique Cardona + Laurie Colbert Not rated | 90 min | 2012 | USA

When cash-strapped yuppies fire their teenaged daughter’s lesbian Mexican nanny, Margarita, they set off a chain of events that lead to her deportation.


Directed by Jeffrey Schwarz Not rated | 90 min | 2013 | USA

How Divine, also known as Harris Glenn Milstead, became John Waters’ cinematic muse and an international drag icon. South by Southwest Film Festival 2013; Frameline Film Festival 2013


Directed by Peaches Not rated | 80 min | 2012 | Germany

Peaches herself likes to describe it as “The Jukebox Musical that got a Sex Change!” Toronto International Film Festival 2013, Sundance London 2013, BAMcinemaFest 2013


Directed by Chris Michael Birkmeier Not rated | 87 min | 2013 | USA

The relationship of a young couple disintegrates in the dog days of Chicago summer as the neighborhood is being terrorized by a serial killer. Toronto InsideOut Lesbian and Gay Film and Video Festival

LAURENCE ANYWAYS Directed by Xavier Dolan


Directed by Scott Gracheff Not rated | 90 min | 2013 | USA

The film explores the life of Mark Bingham, one of the passengers of United Flight 93 on Sept. 11.

A Generation Y love story presented as a fetish sex drama, Submerge explores the need of Generation Y for constant stimulation and instant gratification underpinned by a sense of entitlement. Frameline Film Festival 2013


Directed by Anna Margarita Albelo | NR | 83 min | 2013 | USA

The day after her 40th birthday, Anna decides it’s time for the madness to stop. She lives in her friend’s tool shed, her career as a filmmaker isn’t paying her bills, and worst of all it’s been 10 years since she’s had a girlfriend. Frameline Film Festival 2013

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Antigone Rising to headline Women’s Redrock Music Festival by Seth Bracken

Known for

soaring threepart harmonies, and a infectious and vivacious live show, Antigone Rising has held their own while touring with The Rolling Stones, Aerosmith, The Allman Brothers Band, The Dave Matthews Band, Rob Thomas, Joan Jett & The Blackhearts, Lucinda Williams and The Bangles. The folk-alt country band will be heading the annual Women’s Redrock Music Festival, Aug. 9-10, in Torrey, Utah. We caught up with openly lesbian lead-singer Kristen Ellis-Henderson to talk about the new EP, how her sexuality has affected her career and about her family. For more information, go to So you’re working on a new EP, correct? When can we expect it to be released?  We are practically done. We’re just moments away. I’m anticipating sometime in July. It will be summer, maybe early August. And we’re going shoot a video for the first single, “Whiskey.” We have some cool producers and directors. It’s kind of where all our focus is right now. You’ve worked

with crowd-sourcing before it was en vogue. Do you think that’s the way of the future for bands?  Definitely. I think these sites and ways of raising money are so quick to change, I never know what’s coming next. But we always try to anticipate the next big thing. We did a crowd-sourced CD back in 2000, before Kickstarter was started. We had a website, but we told people they could mail checks, and we raised $10,000. We did a Kickstarter for 23 Red, our latest album. So I do think it’s the way of the future and there are even major-label artists doing it. You’ve worked with labels and gone independent. Do you have a preference?  I loved our time with our label when we were with a major label. But our label, Lava Records, was a pretty small presence on a much larger major label. It was so fun to have a team like that working alongside us. We’d already been together for so long that we were already a well-oiled machine, as far as running our business, tours and lives. So when we did partner up with Lava, it was amazing. It was like business on steroids. We had major publicists

and people who could pick up the phone and get us booked on The Tonight Show. I wouldn’t say I like one more or less than the other. But there is something about being independent. We don’t have deadlines. We’re able to train and work within our own time frames. And it’s ironic, but the checks are much bigger being independent. When we get a royalty check it’s much bigger now. For my readers who don’t know you yet, how do you describe your music?  I think we work really hard at writing good, honest songs. And that’s always been our primary focus. I think we’ve got a little country influence in our writing. We were primarily a touring band for a long time and we’ve gotten really good at it. We can take our song and really make a jam out of it, really turn it into something for the live show. We definitely put a lot of thought into the songs. If you don’t have great songs, no one’s going to listen. You can put on the best live show and have all these other elements, but no one will want to listen. You’re open about your sexuality. How do you think that has influenced your career?  For a long time I wasn’t open. I think we were concerned about how open we could be. But we started to realize that the only way to live is honestly. I have kids now and I can’t be afraid of who I am. I can’t set that example for them. I think for our careers, more than anything, ever since I’ve come out, our audiences have grown. The demographics have changed and I see more men and more straight couples. I find now that we’re out and open, everyone is there. What we feared the most was that we PHOTO: ANTHONY ST. JAMES

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wouldn’t be considered mainstream. From a career standpoint, concert promoters and publicists would rather deal with a band that’s open and honest and real. I would say we have more opportunities because of our honesty. Do you think one genre of music is more open to gay and lesbian artists?  I think that there are certain country artists that would have a much harder time because they’re Nashville based and signed to the country labels. I think the great thing about Antigone Rising is that we are a little this and a little that and we’re not pigeonholed. We have a little bit more freedom. We don’t live in Nashville and we’re not making records in Nashville. So I don’t feel those elements. I think there’s an issue in country music for gay and lesbian artists. Have you been to Utah before? What do you remember about your visits?  We have been to Utah. It’s so beautiful. What I remember most is how beautiful it is. We toured through in 2006 and I just remember looking out the window and thinking, ‘I feel like I’m on another planet, it’s so beautiful.’ I have to ask about your kiss on the cover of Time magazine. How did that come about? What was the reaction?  It came about because of my family. Sara and I got pregnant on the exact same day and 10 months later we gave birth to our son and our daughter. We got a book deal and we discuss how, in 2009, marriage equality nearly passed in New York. We got a lot of phone calls when marriage equality came back into discussion in 2011. So the Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation referred media to us when they wanted to talk to a gay couple. When the U.S. Supreme Court


was listening to oral arguments about DOMA, Time called and asked us to see if we’d be willing to pose for photos. They asked if we’d be comfortable kissing. We didn’t think it was for the cover, we had no idea. The reaction has been amazing. It’s been entirely positive. If there’s anything negative, I haven’t felt or seen it. Who would you say are your alltime inspirations?  I would have to say The Beatles. I love listening to a Beatles album like Abbey Road. Oh, and Roseanne Cash is another influence. Who are you listening to now? Who’s on your iPod right this minute?  My iPod gets taken over by my kids. Fortunately, they’re both really into The Beatles. My son, Thomas, is really into Elton John. So we listen to a lot of Elton John. And my daughter, Kate, is totally obsessed with the Broadway show Annie. So at any given moment, I’m dialing between Elton and Annie. If you could record with one person alive or dead, who would it be and why?  I’ve been asked this question before, and it always changes depending on the day. But I’d have to say I’d love to sit with George Martin, who produced The Beatles records, and get his take on things. It’s amazing what they did. Of course it wouldn’t hurt if John Lennon was there, too. Do you have any advice for young gay people living in conservative Utah?  That they’re not alone. Even if they’re unable to come out, they’re not alone. Whether it’s the Internet or through other resources, find friends. You’re not alone and it gets better. It breaks my heart to see young gay and lesbian kids being bullied. We’re all here fighting the fight for equality.  Q

Weekend music fest to paint the rock red, again Since

2007, the Women’s Redrock Music Festival has been attracting bigger acts and more people. The fest will be held Aug. 9-10, in the scenic Southern Utah town of Torrey. Attracting people from around the region, the festival is an intimate and personal experience unlike any other. On the edge of Capitol Reef National Park and other stunning outdoor attractions, Torrey offers a unique festival experience unlike any other in the nation. While the festival is not just for queer women, it has an enormous lesbian and feminist presence, and this year indie rockers Antigone Rising and TOBY will headline. Other performers include Michelle Malone, ELLIS, God-Des & She, Jen Foster, Wayward Molly, Awna Teixeira Erika Luckett & Lisa Ferraro, Julian Moon and Jess Furman. Passes to the two-day series are $80, and Saturday only is $45. Nearby hotel accommodations and RV/campsites — for the rugged types — are available, but festival organizers strongly encourage booking early as space is limited as hotels are already selling out. The festival is an economic boom for the small town of 200 people, and it serves as a tool to change minds and attitudes.

AUGUST 9TH 5:00 – Ericka Luckett & Lisa Ferraro 6:00 – TOBY (solo) 7:00 – Jen Foster 8:00 – GOD DES AND SHE 9:00 – Antigone Rising

AUGUST 10TH Noon – Jess Furman 1:00 – Julian Moon 2:00 – Awna Teixeira 3:00 – Sophia Dion 4:00 – ELLIS 5:00 – Wayward Molly 6:00 – Michelle Malone 7:30 – Antigone Rising 8:30 – TOBY (with band) For full schedule information, accommodations and tickets, go to

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Twilight Concert Series heats up this year Performers BY SETH BRACKEN

for the annual Twilight Concert Series lineup include The National, The Flaming Lips and Grizzly Bear. Each year the concert series, presented by the Salt Lake City Arts Council, attracts thousands of people to Pioneer Park in Salt Lake City. The lineup this year is as exciting as ever and the crowds are expected to be larger than in years past. The concerts are held Thursdays, July 18 to Sept. 5, at 7 p.m., with gates opening at 5 p.m. There is no reserved seating, but there are food and beverage carts where refreshments can be purchased. Beer and wine can be purchased in select areas of the park. Pioneer park is located at 400 W. and 400 South.



Aug. 22 Kid Cudi took the Internet by storm with his 2008 breakout single, &Day &n& Nite,& which scored two Grammy nominations in 2010. Cudi also released an EP on Fool&s Gold by the same name.

Aug. 1 The indie pop band recently released an album that&s described as dark and even mystical.


GRIZZLY BEAR BELLE AND SEBASTIAN WITH BLITZEN TRAPPER July 18 The indie pop band hails from Scotland is often compared to acts such as The Smiths.

Aug. 29 Australia&s Empire of the Sun creates epic, electro-glam-pop music, rooted in an obvious passion for lavish theatricality and meaningful storytelling.

Aug. 7 Their sound has been categorized as psychedelic pop, folk rock and experimental, and is dominated by the use of vocal harmonies.


ERYKAH BADU THE FLAMING LIPS July 25 The Flaming Lips are three decades into a fascinating career driven by lush, multi-layered psychedelic rock songs and life-changing stage shows, which reflect the innovative group&s firm belief that concerts should be bold adventures.

Aug. 8 Badu defies singular definition. The awardwinning artist is a singer, songwriter, actress, disc jockey, activist, teacher, mother, doula and healer. She’s the quintessential hip-hop girl, though she sings more than rhymes. She’s the queen of neo-soul, or nu-soul. She is, quite simply, a goddess.

Sept. 5 Cosmic forces were at work when MGMT’s co-founders, Andrew VanWyngarden and Ben Goldwasser, met over 10 years ago at Wesleyan University. Drawn together by a mutual love for music and mysticism, the duo signed to Columbia Records in the eve of 2006. On a mission to sprinkle the music industry with unpredictability, the band delivered their critically acclaimed debut album, Oracular Spectacular, in 2008.

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audiences with her impressive 50-album catalog.

Arts Council highlights an outdoor concert series each year. This season will showcase hit acts such as Huey Lewis and the News, Judy Collins and Wayne Brady. For more information, go to


The Davis

Negron (Formerly of Three Dog Night), Gary Puckett & The Union Gap, Mark Lindsay (Former Lead Singer of Paul Revere & The Raiders) and Gary Lewis & The Playboys.


June 29 An evening of beloved hits will take the audience back to an era ruled by those Jersey Boys.


July 8 Five legends in one night. The Turtles’ Flo & Eddie, Chuck

Aug. 28-31 All the world’s a stage in the third annual Shakespeare In The Park production — a comedy about love, family and transformation.



June 24 Midlife Crisis and Code Blue light up the stage with hit music from the 1960s and 1970s.

Aug. 1 With vocals that take listeners down a three-lane road to magic, this trio hailing from the Mountain West is well on its way to solidifying a major presence in country music.



July 22 Pop rockers Huey Lewis and the News celebrates the 30th anniversary of their No. 1 album Sports. This iconic band delivers “The Power of Love.”


July 27 Sublime vocals, boldly vulnerable songwriting and personal triumphs: Judy Collins inspires

Aug. 7 Emmy-award winning comedian and improv superstar Wayne Brady has been hailed as one of the most versatile performers in show business today.


Aug. 17 With a wide range of individual talents, these Utah musicians have a passion for the country lifestyle and music that makes your heart sing. Rough Stock serves as the 2013 Hill Air Force Base Appreciation Night.


Sept. 3 There’s tap dancing, and then there’s Rhythmic Circus. The percussive-dance phenomenon is on hand for an encore performance of “Feet Don’t Fail Me Now.”


Red Butte Garden summer concert lineup

The Red

Butte Concert Series is a popular venue for Salt Lake City concerts, and it attracts diverse acts and crowds. Big-name performers are commonplace and many of the most well-known gay and lesbian artists make their way to this outdoor venue. However, many of the concerts sell out quickly, so it is advised to purchase tickets as soon as possible. The following is a list of the remaining summer lineup. For more information, visit | issue 220 | july, 2013

Richard Kriehn will host two hours of duet singing, absurd improv with sound effects, Guy Noir Private Eye, poetry, outright foolishness, and the News from Lake Wobegon.

KENNY LOGGINS July 23 Loggins is a massively successful solo artist, a sonic pioneer in smooth jazz, a reigning soundtrack superstar, and an enduring recording artist and live performer.

PINK MARTINI July 9 The so-called little-orchestra was founded in 1994 and consists of 12 members. The group is known for its jazz and lounge-style music. However, it is also a master of incorporating Latin, pop and classical sounds. Thomas M. Lauderdale, founder of the band, described the genre as “music of the world without being world music. If the United Nations had a house band in 1962 hopefully Pink Martini would be that band.”

DWIGHT YOAKAM July 25 A long-time Los Angeleno, Yoakam has sold more than 25 million albums worldwide. He has 12 gold albums and nine platinum.

MERLE HAGGARD July 30 Studying, analyzing and observing the details of life around him, Haggard relays what he sees, hears and feels through his songs.

RODRIGO Y GABRIELA July 12 Internationally acclaimed Mexican acoustic rock guitar duo Rodrigo y Gabriela are bringing their unique instrumental blend of metal, jazz and world music to Salt Lake City.

BRANDI CARLILE July 14 Her concerts are near legendary in their perfect communion between performer and audience.

TONY BENNETT June 20 The Italian-American singer of popular music, standards, show tunes and jazz has won an astounding 16 Grammy Awards.

SHE & HIM June 25 She & Him is the seemingly unlikely pairing of the effervescent actress/singer Zooey Deschanel (TV’s New Girl) and the soughtafter guitarist M. Ward.

OLD MEDICINE SHOW July 5 From Bonaroo and Coachella to A Prairie Home Companion, Old Medicine Show crafts classic American-roots music while pushing itself in new directions.

Aug. 4 The trio’s amalgam of jazz, funk, “avantnoise” and a million other musical currents is nearly impossible to classify, which is just how they like it.


TEDESCHI TRUCKS BAND June 24 The formidable husband-and-wife duo are exploring new ideas together through songs rooted in the blues and infused with their own unique blend of southern soul, American roots music, authentic rock and a touch of Florida swamp magic.


DAVID BYRNE AND ST. VINCENT July 15 The brass band backing up the pair of singers lends the songs an appealing theatrical sheen while programmed percussion provides a contemporary feel. The inventive arrangements have inspire some remarkable vocal performances.

GARRISON KEILLOR’S A PRAIRIE HOME COMPANION July 17 Host and writer Garrison Keillor, singer Aoife O’Donovan, comedian Fred Newman, Rich Dworsky and The Guy’s All-Star Shoe Band with guitarist Pat Donohue and violinist

Aug. 7 Steve Miller Band first hit the psychedelic blues scene in the late 1960s, and by the early 1970s, the band had several hits that are now rock classics, including “Jet Airliner,” “Take The Money and Run,” “Fly Like An Eagle,” and “The Joker.”

STEELY DAN Aug. 10 Donald Fagen and Walter Becker met in college in the late 1960s and have been writing songs ever since. Blending elements of jazz, rock, funk, and pop, Steely Dan made their mark with several classic tracks like “Reelin’ In The Years,” “Do It Again” and “Rikki Don’t Lose That Number.”

JOHN BUTLER TRIO Aug. 14 John Butler Trio, an eclectic-roots jam band

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from Australia, have released five studio albums, of which, Three (2001), Sunrise Over Sea (2004), Grand National (2007) and April Uprising (2010) went platinum in Australia.


Chicago Blues sound and influenced the likes of Jimi Hendrix. He has been known to play his guitar with drumsticks and stroll through the audience while playing solos.



Aug. 29 The legendary jazz saxophonist and composer made his triumphant return to Blue Note Records after 43 years with the Feb. 5, 2013, release of Without A Net, his searing new album with his long-running quartet featuring pianist Danilo Perez, bassist John Patitucci and drummer Brian Blade.

Aug. 18 Musician, humanitarian, and children’s book author, Michael Franti, is recognized as a pioneering force using music as a vehicle for positive change as well as his his unforgettable, high energy shows with his band, Spearhead.

JOHN PRINE Aug. 20 Some four decades since his remarkable debut, John Prine has stayed at the top of his game, both as a performer and songwriter.

GEORGE THOROGOOD & THE DESTROYERS AND BUDDY GUY Aug. 27 George Thorogood & The Destroyers have been rocking the music scene since their debut album in 1976. Their biggest commercial success came with their 1982 release of “Bad to the Bone.” Buddy Guy established himself as a pioneer of the

THE BLACK CROWES Sept. 15 The Black Crowes have sold more than 20 million albums and are known as one of rock’s best live acts.

NEKO CASE Sept. 16 Neko Case, a Washington-bred singer, songwriter, and producer claims no genre, nor utilizes any classic formula to her songs and vocal arrangements. For more information, visit

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to the pristine Wasatch Mountains’ cool air and enjoy the astounding selection of performances at the Deer Valley Music Festival at the outdoor amphitheater. This summer’s selection includes performances by the Utah Symphony, OneRepublic, Jewel, Los Lonely Boys and many others. Many concertgoers take picnics, and wine and beer are allowed on the grounds. There is also a full concession stand with food and drink for purchase. For a full lineup and ticket information, go to

LOS LONELY BOYS, LOSLOBOS, ALEXANDRO ESCOVEDO July 4 American Chicano power rock takes over for Independence Day.

SIDESHOW RAMBLERS June 19 Since winter 2010 in Park City, Josh, Gordo and Dave have been entertaining audiences and keeping the dance floor packed with crowd-pleasing covers and exciting original material.

MARY BETH MAZIARZ June 26 Mary Beth Maziarz is a professional songwriter, performer, workshop facilitator and author. Born in north-central Illinois, she enjoyed an international education, then settled in Park City, Utah. She’s fabulous!

TCHAIKOVSKY 1812 OVERTURE June 29 The music of Pyotr Ilyich Tchaikovsky will be featured in explosive fashion.

TAKE ME HOME — THE MUSIC OF JOHN DENVER July 6 Join the Utah Symphony as they highlight some of Denver’s greatest hits.

MOTHERLODE CANYON BAND July 10 Danceable rock and acoustic folk take center stage.


July 3 Local bluegrass favorites will showcase Park City flair and sound.

JOY & ERIC July 17 Soulful and talented local musicians Joy and Eric will demonstrate true vocal and guitar prowess.

STEVE MARTIN AND THE STEEP CANYON RANGERS July 19 Steve Martin and the Steep Canyon Rangers will perform bluegrass, banjo and folk music in one of the most inventive shows this season.

INDIGO GIRLS July 20 Grammy-winning folk-rock duo Indigo Girls deliver a beautifully crafted batch of songs that revel in spirited simplicity.

NATALIE MAINS July 30 The lead vocalist for the female alternative country band the Dixie Chicks will showcase songs from her new album.

LASH LARUE July 31 Lash LaRue is a Park City musical power group formed in the spring of 2009 with Karri Dell Hays, Jack Walzer, Mark Viar, Cole Hobbs and Elaine Berns.

July 12 Wicked good! This concert of diva showstoppers from Broadway, opera, and popular music is highlighted by selections from the Tony Award-winning musical Wicked.

July 13 Hear one of the most dynamic and vivacious performances when trumpeter Arturo Sandoval performs Latin, jazz, classical, and more alongside the Utah Symphony.

July 15 Bruce Hornsby is known for impromptu performances featuring classical, jazz, bluegrass, folk, Motown, gospel, rock and blues music.

THE PATWA REGGAE BAND Aug. 7 The Patwa Reggae Band brings a classic and authentic sound to Park City reggae music. With members from America, England, and Jamaica, TPRB creates an original blend of talent and taste in a timeless genre.

UTAH OPERA IN THE OPEN AIR Aug. 9 There will be arias in the open air as Utah Opera returns to Deer Valley for an unforgettable night of music in the mountains. The Music of the Rolling Stones with the Utah Symphony Aug. 10 With the Utah Symphony backing Brody Dolyniuk’s screaming vocals, the audience will hear the best Rolling Stones hits in a whole new way.

SOPHIA DION BAND Aug. 14 The 13-year-old singer is a true community star.

LYLE LOVETT AND HIS LARGE BAND Aug. 17 The Grammy Award-winning country artist is an American folk-music legend.

STONEFED Aug. 21 The groove-funk band from Moab, Utah is a mix of jazz, reggae, soul and hip-hop.




MANDY PATINKIN WITH THE UTAH SYMPHONY Aug. 3 Tony Award-winning actor from Homeland and Princess Diaries will be performing with the Utah Symphony.

DARLENE LOVE Aug. 4 Powerful vocals and a distinct folk-blues style mark Love’s outstanding performances.

Aug. 24 Singer-songwriter Jewel is a platinum-recording artist and actress, and has sold more than 27 million records.

MARINADE Aug. 28 Local blues rockers are regulars at music festivals, bars and concert halls around the state.

ONEREPUBLIC Aug. 31 With chart-topping hits, such as “Apologize” and “Stop and Stare,” OneRepublic is a perfect finale concert to the music festival.


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Aug. 28 Local folk groups from across Utah come together to perform dances and music from countries around the world.

June 21 Rockapella’s latest show “Motown & More” includes many audience favorites and pays tribute to the music of Motown with unique versions of hit songs from The Jackson 5.

AMERICAN WEST SYMPHONY AND CHORUS June 26 Sandy’s own community orchestra, American West Symphony and Chorus comes to the amphitheater for its annual summer pops concert.

Aug. 9-17 Thoroughly Modern Millie is a high-spirited musical romp that has everyone dancing the Charleston. It’s the zany new 1920’s musical that has taken Broadway by storm.


HAPPY TOGETHER July 9 Five legends in one night. The Turtles’ Flo & Eddie, Chuck Negron (Formerly of Three Dog Night), Gary Puckett & The Union Gap, Mark Lindsay (Former Lead Singer of Paul Revere & The Raiders) and Gary Lewis & The Playboys.

EXILE WITH SPECIAL GUEST JUICE NEWTON July 12 Exile embraces 11 No. 1 country and pop hits and two gold albums. Hits include, “Kiss You all Over,” “I Don’t Want To Be a Memory,” “Give Me One More Chance,” “Crazy For Your Love,” “She’s A Miracle” and “Hang On To Your Heart.”

THE NEW ELECTRIC SOUND AND THE NORTH VALLEY July 13 The New Electric Sound has a sound that falls between today’s music and an older era. The North Valley is a young but ambitious quintet from Salt Lake City.

PAT BENATAR AND NEIL GIRALDO July 3 Benatar has always been a rule-breaker and a trailblazer, and she remains a bold and distinctive artist both on stage and on record, and now, after more than three decades in rock ‘n’ roll, she’s a bonafide living legend.

ARRIVAL: THE MUSIC OF ABBA July 6 Back in 2013 for an encore performance, Arrival recreates the ABBA experience like none other. Hear the hits like “Mama Mia,” “Dancing Queen,” “Does Your Mother Know” and much more.



July 16 Smash Mouth, Sugar Ray, Gin Blossoms, Vertical Horizon and Fastball take the stage. Some of the best bands of the 1990s and 2000s come together for this tour.

Aug. 29 Actor, singer, songwriter Chris Isaak’s music is unmistakable and is inspired by the greats like Roy Orbison, Elvis Presley, Johnny Cash, Carl Perkins and Jerry Lee Lewis.



July 20 Stayin’ Alive is the quintessential tribute band to the Bee Gees, capturing the excitement of live performance and bringing the sights and sounds of the Bee Gees to the amphitheater.

Sept. 9 Out of 45,000 contestants Charley was a top 12 finalist on NBC’s hit show, Nashville Star.

HUEY LEWIS AND THE NEWS July 23 Pop rockers Huey Lewis and the News celebrate the 30th anniversary of their No. 1 album Sports. This iconic band delivers “The Power of Love.”

CREEDENCE CLEARWATER REVISITED Sept. 13 Creedence Clearwater Revisited has taken on a life of its own. The rhythm section from the legendary group Creedence Clearwater Revival launched Creedence Clearwater Revisited to again perform live Creedence Clearwater Revival hits.

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Heartthrobs Tegan and Sara join the fun Tegan and Sara

are moving in new directions this year and taking big risks with new material. Venturing into ‘80s electro-synth, the openly lesbian twin sisters from Canada pull no punches with their latest album, Heartthrob. The indiedarlings are known for perfect harmonies as one takes few breaths to slow her breakneck assault as the other takes the softer, more melodic approach. The seesaw vocals take the leading role on this album which adds techno beats to urban folk. The duo will be performing with pop-rock fave, fun., at Saltair on Aug. 23. Tickets will sell out quickly and are available at We caught up with the lesbian fashion, culture and singing icons to chat about their new album, their inspiration and their memories of Utah. Your latest album, Heartthrob, is different from most of your earlier works. Do you see it as a departure from previous style, or an evolution?  With each album we strive to create a stand-alone work that pushes both our songwriting and sound forward. With this album it was our goal to try and write the best songs of our career, while also matching the compositions with exciting, modern, am-

bitious production that would allow access to more people musically than ever before. Do you think you took a risk moving your music in a different direction?  We feel as though we’ve shifted seamlessly between genres most of our career. One of our greatest successes to date was our electronic collaboration with Tiesto. So we felt comfortable and confident that our audience would accept this record as much as any other we’ve put out. Who does the writing? Is it a joint effort or does one person take the leading role?  We both write independently. Often we’ll collaborate on each other’s songs once much of the writing is done. For example, “I WAS A FOOL” was nearly completed but needed an eight-measure bridge both melodically and lyrically that was added on after the fact. That independent writing has allowed us to really see our own artistic vision represented while also enhancing and strengthening each other’s songs. You’re about to embark on a tour with superstar band fun. and we can’t wait to see you here in Utah. You’ve been here before. What do you remember most about your visits?  We’re really looking forward to the tour! We absolutely love Utah and have wonderful memories of performing there over the years. We find the audiences to be genuinely excited and focused on the musical performances and that is very rewarding for us.

Will we get to hear some of your older songs at the show, or will you mainly focus on Heartthrob?  We often play upwards of 25 songs, performing the entire new album plus 15 of the classics off our previous six albums. On shorter sets we’ll do a mix of our most popular songs and a few new ones to keep it interesting. It’s a great show! You’re been public about your sexuality. How do you think it has affected your careers? How do you think your careers would be different if you had been closeted?  We think that being gay has meant that we have faced homophobia in our personal and professional lives. Sometimes it’s subconscious, or a result of institutionalized ideas about gender roles or lesbian stereotypes. It’s been our goal to both be ourselves and be proud, but also to demolish any preconceptions people have about gay people and music that is made by people who are gay. We see ourselves as a pop band that makes music for anyone and everyone, but also as pop musicians who are gay and believe in being visible. We would never have been closeted, so it’s impossible for me to imagine a life like that. We live in a very conservative state where LGBT people are often treated unfairly. Do you have any advice for your young fans who have been bullied or mistreated? Perhaps an “It Gets Better” moment for Utah teens?  It’s important for straight people and queer people with power to be allies to those who are not safe or comfortable being visible in their communities. To those who suffer from bullying or social pressure to stay closeted, we can only say that the world is a big place and there are millions of people who love, cherish and support the gay community. Take strength from their strength. Do you have any guilty pleasure music? Maybe an old Hilary Duff CD stuffed away in your bag somewhere?  No music is a guilty pleasure! If you love it, be proud! If you could record a song with anyone alive or dead, who would it be and why?  Patsy Cline. Loved her voice and it would have made grandma very happy!  Q PHOTO: LINDSEY BYRNES

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Salt Lake concerts attract big, small acts From arena-filled concerts to intimate venues, Utah attracts some of the best talent to the stage. Here’s a collection of some of the concerts that caught our wandering eye.

In the Venue FALL OUT BOY June 22 Fall Out Boy are back. See them live when their Save Rock & Roll Tour comes to Salt Lake City.

WE THE KINGS July 20 Get ready for Summer Fest 2013 featuring We The Kings and guests Breathe Carolina, T. Mills and The Ready Set.

HOLLYWOOD UNDEAD July 27 Hollywood Undead will unleash their tour in support of “Notes From the Underground” with Escape the Fate and All Hail The Yeti.

The Complex ANBERLIN June 28 Anberlin will bring their Summer 2013 Acoustic Tour with guests Stars In Stereo and Campfire OK to The Complex.


YELLOWCARD Sept. 30 Get ready for the pop-punk sounds of Yellowcard when they return to The Complex with guest Geoff Rickley (of Thursday).

Saltair DAS ENERGY Sept. 17 Get ready for Das Energi Festival 2013 featuring Hardwell, Adventure Club, Borgore, Dannic, Savoy W&W and many more.

FUN. WITH TEGAN AND SARA Aug. 23 Are you ready for some fun.? Then be at Saltair when their tour with special guests Tegan and Sara hits town.

THE LUMINEERS Sept. 17 Spend an evening with folk-rock trio The Lumineers when their tour with Dr. Dog and Nathan Rateliff stops at Saltair.

Energy Solutions Arena MUSE Sept. 19 British rockers Muse will bring their The 2nd Law World Tour with special guest Cage The Elephant to EnergySolutions Arena.

JOSH GROBAN July 23 British pop icon Adam Ant returns to the road with his latest album release, Adam Ant Is The Blueblack Hussar in Marrying the Gunner’s Daughter. Oct. 11 Spend an evening with classical/pop crooner Josh Groban when his In The Round tour fills EnergySolutions Arena with music from his latest release, All That Echoes.


P!NK Sept. 6 Swedish electro-pop group Icona Pop will hit the stage at The Complex. | issue 220 | july, 2013 Oct. 17 P!nk brings her The Truth About Love Tour to EnergySolutions Arena.

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DIANA KRALL July 18 Check out Jimmy Eat World when they bring their tour in support of their upcoming release, Damage, to Salt Lake City. Sept. 24 Diana Krall’s extraordinary new album, Glad Rag Doll is an exhilarating and adventurous exploration of new sounds, new instrumentation and new musicians. It stars a singer and piano player, filled with mischief, humor, and a renewed sense of tenderness and intimacy.

USANA Amphitheatre BARENAKED LADIES AND BEN FOLDS FIVE June 20 Be at USANA Amphitheatre when the Last Summer on Earth Tour with Barenaked Ladies, Ben Folds Five and Guster hits the stage.

DAVE MATTHEWS BAND Aug. 27 The iconic band brings their Summer 2013 Tour to Utah.

The Depot MOE. July 5 Come enjoy An Evening with moe. when their tour rolls into


HANSON Sept. 20 Hanson will be out on tour in support of their new release this fall. See them live with guest Paul McDonald.

SHARON NEEDLES W/ ALASKA THUNDERFUCK Oct. 5 Halloween is coming early to SLC Drag’s most haunted royal couple, Sharon and Alaska take to the Depot stage.

Peppermill Concert Hall, Wendover, NV SARA EVANS July 19 Evans is back with Stronger, a landmark record filled with the kind of gutsy explorations on life and love that have made Evans one of the most compelling female vocalists of her generation.


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Utah Festival Opera goes Technicolor and more Utah Festival Opera is a true Utah summer experience. The five-week festival in Logan, Utah consists of more than 100 events, including four operatic productions. Also scheduled are various orchestral and vocal concerts, an international competition, continuing adult education, pre-performance discussions and much more. For tickets and more information, go to

FIDDLER ON THE ROOF July 13, 18, 20, 23, 26, 27 Aug. 2, 8, 10 Tevye lives at a crossroads. His family and Jewish traditions are being challenged by his strong-willed daughters, and the Tsar of Russia has issued an edict to evict Jews from their homes and villages.

THE FLYING DUTCHMAN July 10, 19, 25 Aug. 3, 9 Ghost ships, curses and treasure! Long before those Caribbean pirates sailed the ocean blue, The Flying Dutchman wowed opera-goers with romantic and mysterious tales of the sea.

JOSEPH AND THE AMAZING TECHNICOLOR DREAMCOAT July 11, 17, 19, 25, 27 Aug. 1, 8, 9 Follow Joseph as he is sold into Egypt by his plotting brothers and later reconciles with

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July 12, 20, 26 Aug. 2, 10 In true opera fashion, this tale is packed with deceit, conspiracy, a love triangle and tragedy. Otello, a Venetian general, returns home from a successful military campaign to assume his governorship of Cyprus.

EIGHT HANDS, TWO PIANOS July 13 Revel in creativity. Highly accomplished pianists “tickle the ivories” in a concert of inspired performances on the world’s favorite and most versatile instrument.

A TRIBUTE TO IRVING BERLIN July 18 Aug. 3 Enjoy an evening of the best of Irving Berlin, who is widely considered one of the greatest and most prolific songwriters in American history.

INT’L OPERA COMPETITION July 23, 31 Utah Festival hosts more than 20 extraordinarily talented artists. The audience helps select the winner, who then heads to Italy to compete for the ultimate operatic prize.

PIONEERS AND PATRIOTS July 24 Celebrate Pioneer Day and the Western pioneer spirit with fanfares, patriotic music, a stirring salute to the men and women in our Armed Forces and more.

OPERAFEST July 31 Utah Festival’s ensemble, soloists and orchestra perform selections from some of the world’s most beloved operas. For the first time, this year’s Int’l Opera Competition Finals will be incorporated into this dynamic performance.

MISSA SOLEMNIS Aug. 7 Beethoven’s Missa Solemnis is one of the composer’s supreme achievements.  Q

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Glee made

Matthew Morrison (and his unruly curls) a star, but his success started long before his role as do-gooder teacher Will Schuester. Morrison originated the studly Link Larkin during the Broadway run of Hairspray, and then he went on to earn a Tony nomination for his stint in The Light in the Piazza. The Glee star goes back to his Broadway roots for Where It All Began, a collection of show-tune covers. For Morrison, though, it goes back even further. All the way to elementary school, in fact. Where did it all begin for you? When did you first start singing?  I first started singing in fifth grade. I grew up in Southern California and my parents took me to Arizona for the summer – I have a lot of family there: aunts, uncles, cousins – and my grandma put my cousin and I in a children’s theater production of this show called The Herdmans Go to Camp. I’m sure you’ve heard of it. (Laughs) Yeah, it was big on Broadway, right?  (Sarcastically) Yeah, exactly. It had a great run. (Laughs) So, it was this little made-up show and I was so lucky to have found my passion at such a young age in doing that show. I came back to Southern California after the summer and told my parents that I wanted to be in children’s theater and that started the whole thing. This album is being released on Adam Levine’s label, 222 Records. How well did you get to know Adam? Did you guys have a beer after recording?  (Laughs) We’ve had a few drinks in our day. We both live in Los Angeles, and he’s such a big fan of this kind of music. I wouldn’t think that personally – you think of him as this pop-rock kind of guy – but he’s such a fan of the standards.

When I got to know that, and we started talking about that, I told him this was the record I always wanted to make and he’s like, “Let’s make it.” He’s been a big champion of mine through this whole process, but at the same time he’s really given me my space. He’s an artist himself and he knows how an artist should be treated, and he really gave me space and respect. He checked in probably three times during the process just to hear stuff and hang out in the studio. He didn’t have much to say because he was really loving everything.

didn’t feel authentic. It didn’t feel totally authentic to me, whereas this is rooted in the music I grew up singing and I know so well. This music is in my bones, so I feel very confident. We don’t have song-and-dance people anymore. A lot of performers can go up on stage now and dance, but they’re probably not singing most of the time. Then there’s the singers who go up there and plant their feet on the stage and sing. I really wanted to go back to Sammy Davis Jr. – to that kind of era – and really do it all.

Did you two ever settle the question that’s been on everyone’s mind: Who has the bigger gay following?  Wow. I don’t think we answered that question. Do you know the answer to that? I have no idea.

You look good in that top hat on the cover of the album. Are you much of a hat man?  I do like hats ... especially because I’m so synonymous with my crazy curly hair now. I can cover it up. It’s good to have a little disguise.

You’re supposed to say yourself.  Well, you said it for me then. (Laughs) I would give myself the advantage coming from the theater world and stuff, but he’s younger and more attractive than I am, so I give him the advantage that way. It depends on what gay genre you’re looking at. If you like the tattoo kind of thing, he’s your guy. If you like the clean-cut kind of guy, that’s me. You say this is the album you always wanted to make. Why didn’t you make it the first time around with your selftitled debut, when you were on Mercury Records?  You know, that’s a good question. (Pauses) I kind of felt like it was the height of Glee and that’s the kind of music that we were doing on the show and ... I liked that album. It was a really interesting process for me, just because I had never done songwriting before, so I got to work with some world-renowned songwriters – some people who wrote songs with Adele – so that was a really great opportunity to kind of work a muscle that I’d never really worked before. It was great, but it just ... it

Is there a song on this album that most inspired your musical-theater career?  Yeah, actually there is. “On the Street Where You Live,” which is from My Fair Lady, is a song that I found really early on in my life. I first sang it when I was maybe 13 at a talent show or something. It’s typically done as a ballad, and that’s actually the song I’ve sung for every single audition I’ve ever had in my entire life, including Glee. That song has kind of made my career, I guess. (Laughs) But for this version on the album, I really wanted to kind of give it a little more pep, speed it up a bit, make it a little more danceable. So that’s what we did! When you were recording these songs, did it dawn on you how outdated the vernacular is? And how much the word “gay,” which once just meant happy and carefree, has changed?  It’s funny you say that, because every time I sing “Younger than Springtime” with the “gayer than laughter” line – I think I sing it maybe three or four times within the song – it does pop in my


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mind. You’re right, it doesn’t mean that ... well, it does mean that, but it has changed, absolutely. That song in particular, to me, is one of the most beautiful songs ever written. I love that song. I love the sentiment of the song. And when I originally was hearing it I was thinking of (the “gay” reference), but it’s not like I really care. (Laughs)

What’s your future on Glee?  It’s been renewed for a couple of seasons, but I don’t know the answer to that question.

Of all people, I didn’t think you did.  (Sarcastically) Damn those gay people!

What do you see for yourself when Glee does end? A break?  I don’t think Glee is ever going to end. (Laughs) No, I don’t want a break. I have

How did you get involved in the Human Rights Campaign video for marriage equality?  From my friends. I have so many friends who are involved with HRC — my friends from the theater community — and it’s a cause that I absolutely support. It just comes down to human rights. Forty years ago, if you saw a black man walking down the street with a white woman it was like “oh my god,” but now you don’t even blink. I’m hoping that’s the same thing that’s gonna happen with this, and hopefully gay and lesbian couples can marry. That you can’t marry the person that you love in today’s society is just wrong. I think a loving and committed gay and lesbian relationship deserves the same rights as anyone else’s. I was honored recently with the Ally for Equality Award at the HRC Atlanta dinner, and there were these brothers from New Hampshire. The younger brother is gay, and the older brother is straight and married to his wife, and hearing the straight brother talk about his brother and what he’s gone through and the person that he is, he got so choked up. It was the most beautiful thing to see him talk about his brother, [saying] that he deserved the same rights that he has. I was blown away by these two guys. It was pretty incredible. Have you performed at a gay wedding before?  I have performed at a gay wedding. And my massage therapist and his partner are planning a wedding in the next year or so and I plan on singing at their wedding too. What will you be singing?  I’m gonna leave it up to them. But I’m taking requests!

two months off from the show right now and I’m putting out an album and doing some touring. I love working. I always wanna work. I think for me – now that I’ve done everything, and I’ve been on stage for 10 years and done film and television – my heart is in the theater, and that’s where I feel the most alive and connected to the audience. I love being on stage. That’s something that I know I will definitely go back to. I feel like I’ve had a really well-rounded career so far, and I want to keep trying to put my hand in a lot of different things. I take it you won’t be bringing The Herdmans Go to Camp to Broadway? My career would probably be over. It’s that bad?  I don’t remember it. That’s saying a lot.  Q Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Find him at ­


wine terroirist Blue Crabs, Natty Boh, and World-Class Wine

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“Wine is

just too fancy for Maryland,” explained Rob Deford, the owner of Boordy Vineyards in Baltimore County, as he discussed the local wine industry’s challenges. “We eat crabs here; we drink beer.” The audience at this year’s Drink Local Wine conference chuckled in agreement. Blue crabs and Natty Boh are iconic in the Old Line State, but few think of premium wines. Rob Deford and a handful of other vintners are trying to change that, working to raise the profile of the local wine industry — and increase wine’s popularity among consumers — by raising the quality of Maryland’s wines. They’re quickly gaining traction. While the state had just 11 wineries in 2001, it’s now home to 62. And an increas-

ing number of vintners are moving away from the fruit wines and non-European grape varieties that have long plagued the East Coast to produce wines that can compete on the world stage. Just one hour west of Boordy Vineyards, Ed Boyce and Sarah O’Herron have gained a reputation for producing stunning wines at Black Ankle Vineyards. The husbandand-wife team purchased the 145-acre farm in 2002 and promptly turned the property into an estate winery, selecting grapes well suited to the property’s soil and climate. In 2011, Black Ankle ranked fifth on Wine Business Monthly’s annual list of the nation’s “most exciting” wine brands. Just a few miles north from Black Ankle, Old Westminster Winery is about to release its inaugural vintage. Led by three siblings — Drew, Lisa, and Ashli, who manage the vineyard, winemaking, and marketing, respectively — the wines are already generating quite a buzz. The list of exciting producers goes on. This year’s Drink Local Wine conference was held in Maryland, and over two days, I tasted dozens of local wines. The wines from Black Ankle and Old Westminster lived up to the hype, and the offerings from Boordy, Knob Hall, Slack, and Big Cork were also quite impressive. Optimism is clearly in the air. As Drew Baker of Old Westminster Winery explained to Frank Morgan, a popular wine blogger, “Maryland has great potential and I believe that the quality bar is rising quickly. Soon, poorly made wines will be the exception in an otherwise great region.” Baker’s promotion of Maryland wine — rather than just his own offerings — isn’t unique. Even though Maryland’s wine industry traces its roots to 1648, the state’s winemakers see themselves as part of something new, making wine together in unchartered territory. During the twoday conference, it was a struggle to get vintners to talk about their own projects. Every winemaker I chatted with seemed more interested in promoting the industry as a whole than talking about herself.

Here, Maryland is taking a page from California’s playbook. Today, no one doubts the Golden State’s ability to produce world-class wines. But until 1976, few wine critics took California seriously. That year, a British wine merchant named Steven Spurrier organized a wine competition in Paris, where he pitted California’s best Chardonnays and Cabernet Sauvignons against the best wines that France had to offer. Everyone assumed that France would win, as the nation had been making wine for thousands of years and was widely regarded as the world’s top wine region. But with both the whites and the reds, California won. That competition — now known as “The Judgment of Paris” — transformed California’s wine industry. It helped accelerate Robert Mondavi’s efforts to tout California’s wines as being on par with Europe’s best offerings. California winemakers continue to credit Robert Mondavi for putting the state’s fledgling industry on the global wine map — and one can find California wine at restaurants and retailers across the world. Maryland’s wine industry still faces a number of challenges. For such a small state, Maryland has a wide range of climates and a number of different soil types, so viticulturalists are still figuring out which grapes work best, where. But without question, the future is bright for Maryland wine.  Q David White, a wine writer, is the founder and editor of His columns are housed at Palate Press: The online wine magazine at

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cocktail chatter



gin has such a degenerate reputation that to drink it without mixing in some other ingredient is to invite either derision or an intervention. I have no idea why. Straight up, on the rocks, or neat, asking for nothing but gin simply isn’t done in public, and pouring a glass at home makes many people so self-conscious that they begin to think they can actually feel the cirrhosis nodules beginning to grow in their livers. Drinking straight gin is the kind of thing folks do with the blinds drawn. This is sad and quite needless. Juniperflavored alcohol has a long, formerly proud history as a tonic. Monks made it, for God’s sake — literally. People in the Dark Ages made that drab era a little lighter with it; they drank it as a way of warding off the Plague. Of course it didn’t really work to that end, but gin did make one’s

buboes seem a great deal less repulsive for the brief period between their onset and the drinker’s unpleasant and smelly demise. Buboes are best experienced through a gin haze — on that I think we can all agree. The 17th century, when gin was flavored with turpentine, will not be elaborated upon here except to note that the phase didn’t last long. Juniper berries returned as the primary flavoring soon thereafter, though today’s premium brands often feature such an array of secondary essences that the roster resembles the ingredients in high-end organic shampoo. Beefeater gin, for example, features not only juniper but also eight other botanicals: the seeds and root of angelica, licorice, almonds, oranges, lemon peel and everybody’s favorite, orris root. What the hell is orris root? Orris hap-

pens to be one of the “notes” in Yves Saint Laurent’s perfume Opium. It’s flowery, and heavily so when sniffed on its own. And apparently witches use it to pry into other people’s subconscious. (Note to readers: If someone you know – say, your mother – wears Opium, be very wary of having even the slightest contact with her, or else your wonderfully filthy fantasy life will be an open book.) Which brings us to the subject of this column: Pink Gin. Tailor made for lesbian and gay drinkers, Pink Gin is even closer to straight gin than a martini is. Even the driest martinis have something in them besides the main ingredient. Pink Gin, on the other hand, contains nothing but straight gin that is faintly colored by the addition of Angostura bitters. What’s in Angostura bitters? According to Rachel Maddow, who knows everything worth knowing, the recipe is such a secret that only five people on the planet know it. All the rest of us know is that it’s a tincture of herbs and spices that originated in Venezuela in the 19th century. One of the great Latin American liberator Simon Bolivar’s doctors cooked it up; he may have based his highly guarded recipe on the local Amerindians’ folk medicine. It does not — repeat, not — contain angostura bark, which is poisonous. Angostura bitters have a very complex taste, one that’s difficult to describe beyond “herbal and spicy.” Easier to describe is the feeling one gets while drinking a Pink Gin – delightful! The botanicals of the gin are well complemented by the bitters. But don’t overdo it. The following recipe creates exactly the right proportion of gin to bitters. And the color is lovely.


What’s going on this weekend?

5 dashes Angostura bitters 4 Tbsp. Beefeater gin, chilled Lemon peel garnish (optional) Shake 5 dashes of bitters into a chilled cocktail glass. (Bitters bottles have caps similar to Tabasco sauce so you can’t overdo it.) Swirl the bitters around until the glass is coated with it, then toss the excess in the sink. Fill the glass with chilled gin and serve. Ed Sikov is the author of the e-book, “The Boys’ and Girls’ Little Book of Alcohol,” a novel with recipes based on his Cocktail Chatter column.


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Q health

20,000 condoms and counting BY LYNN BELTRAN

Now that

Pride weekend is behind us, I think it’s a good time to have another “check-in” regarding sexual health. A lot of patients disclose to me that they tend to engage in more sexual activity during Pride weekend due to all of the social events and celebrating that surrounds the weekend. In many ways, this is a mindset. With this is mind, I think it is fair to say that what happens during Pride weekend doesn’t always stay at Pride weekend … in other words, this could be a good time for everyone to reflect on any risky sexual behavior they may have engaged in over the weekend, and perhaps get some testing done. I was very pleasantly surprised to hear that one agency distributed well over 20,000 condoms at the Pride Festival. My hope is that they are all going to good use, or rather they are being used and not just tossed in the garbage or on the streets. I often hear from patients that they don’t consider condom use during sexual activity and they don’t want to hear about condoms from public health officials. Patients now use terminology like “condom fatigue,” which speaks to a growing apathy, particularly within the gay community about condoms. This apathy seemed to follow the height of the HIV and AIDS epidemic where people were dying and there was a lot of fear around HIV. Fortunately, with the advent of HIV antiretrovirals, the face of HIV has changed dramatically since the 1980s and ‘90s, and I find that men want to reclaim their own sexual paradigms. The Salt Lake County Health Department certainly endorses condom use, particularly for individuals who have multiple sex partners, as one of the best ways to stay healthy and disease free. Public health care also recognizes that when it comes to sexual behavior and risk, people need to be able to choose and develop their own plan; the hope is that at the very least, everyone is informed about disease transmission and empowered with the facts. The facts are simply that anyone can

have a sexually transmitted disease (STD), including HIV and not know it. You cannot tell if someone has an STD or HIV by simply knowing or looking at them. The majority of people with an STD have no symptoms at all. STD’s do not discriminate; anyone who has ever been sexually active may have an STD. You can get an STD during anal or oral sex, you can also get an STD during anal sex if someone pulls out before he ejaculates.You can get an STD from rimming and from mutual masturbation; although, these last two sexual activities are not going to transmit HIV. Having an STD, such as chlamydia, gonorrhea or syphilis, dramatically increases your risk of getting HIV. The reason for this is the fact that bacterial infections cause an inflammation of the membranes in the genital and reproductive tissue that makes them more susceptible to HIV. When used appropriately and when used 100 percent of the time during anal

tivity that you should take when you have multiple partners is to simply ask each of your sexual partners to be tested for all STDs at least twice a year, and agree to let each other know if anyone tests positive, so that everyone can be treated around the same time. If everyone gets tested during the same time period, say around the same week, there is a better chance of getting everyone treated quickly before re-exposures can occur. If you have a primary partner with whom you engage in unprotected sex, and you also have sexual partners outside of the relationship, you can reduce your risk of getting an STD by always using condoms with your sexual partners outside of the relationship. This way you are not as likely to bring any diseases back to the sexual relationship between you and your primary partner, where there is high vulnerability due to the unprotected sex.

and oral sex, condoms have a 97.9 percent risk of protecting you from an STD. These odds are quite good. If condoms are not an option for you, you need to recognize that your risk of getting an STD is much higher and therefore you should be be tested for all STDs at least twice a year. Using lubricant regularly during rectal intercourse and during any masturbation is a risk-reduction method. If you have multiple sex partners, your risk of getting an STD is increased. Knowing your partners does not make it any safer than not knowing your partners. If you have multiple sex partners, your risk is high and you should be tested for all STDs at least twice a year. A risk-reduction ac-

It is also important to know that you can get an STD such as chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, HPV or herpes during unprotected oral sex. I often counsel patients that it is safer to engage in protected rectal sex, than unprotected oral sex. This is just a quick briefing around safer sex. One of the best things that you can do for yourself is to value your sexual health and have a good plan. If you have any questions regarding ways to reduce your risk of acquiring an STD and would like to speak with a counselor one on one about this, or if you simply want low cost STD testing, please call the Salt Lake County Health Department STD clinic at 385-468-4242  Q

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q scopes ARIES March 20–April 19 You’ve been having a hard time lately. You can’t seem to get a grasp on your burdens. The time for a release of the tension has come. Hold on tight … then just let go. TAURUS April 20–May 20 Spending time with friends is vital this month. There’s nothing wrong with helping a buddy out, or returning the favor. A joint venture will be the goal for the soul and give you a much needed push in the right direction. GEMINI May 21–June 20 You will find that there is so much more than just hanging out this month. You must also be flexible if you hope to fit in with the crowd. Being a pleaser is simply part of your nature, but don’t forget to take some time for a special friend. CANCER June 21–July 22 Time seems to be slipping away faster than a greased hand on a firehouse pole. Don’t descend too quickly or you might find yourself in a world of hurt. A good friend may be temping you to take a trip this month. Enjoy yourself but don’t lose yourself in the process. LEO July 23–August 22 The world can be a very demanding place at times. This month will present itself with many challenges, but you can rise to the occasion if you assert yourself firmly. Don’t come off too strong though; slow and steady wins the race. VIRGO August 23–Sep. 22 The world seems to be rotating around you this month. Enjoy the sensation, but don’t let it go to your head. We all have our time in the limelight, but don’t forget to enjoy the solace of some downtime. You’ll find there’s much more to life than the group scene.

LIBRA Sept 23–October 22 Efficiency is your middle name. You have a way of having your cake and eating it too. Don’t forget to spread the joy around. In fact, share your joy with everyone you meet this month. Your sense of giving has a way of coming back to you. SCORPIO Oct. 23–Nov. 21 Put a cap on disparity this month and put a smile on your face. Treat yourself often and don’t forget that it’s easier to be happy. You have to take the pleasure with the pain, but don’t let the pain get in the way of your pleasure. SAGITTARIUS Nov. 22– December 20. There are plenty of fish in the sea. And there are plenty of seas. The number of choices you find yourself faced with is baffling. Staying close to home and sticking with what you know is the best choice this month. Your best friend may turn out to be your greatest lover, right under your nose. CAPRICORN Dec. 21– Jan. 19 Anything goes this month, and it will seem to go pretty fast. Keep up with the pace and find your rhythm. Don’t be afraid to find an external source of inspiration to keep you grounded. Happiness comes in the form of a sense of wonder and surprise. AQUARIUS Jan. 20–Feb. 18 Your friends will notice a real change in you this month. This change is something you’ve been wanting to make for a while, but change is like a shot: once you take the plunge, there may be no going back. PISCES Feb 19–Mar 19 The rainbow varies in color, but is all part of one long chain. Your month will be full of a variety of experiences, but they will all be part of a natural course of action. You will find meaning in the form of a deep romantic experience or special time with a very good friend.  Q


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INVESTITURES 6PM Flaming Star in the Galaxy

40 Tea or glory hole cry? 41 Himalayan legend 43 Traps for suckers ACROSS 46 Org. that has never 1 Memo start been to Uranus 5 Three-men-in-a-tub 48 Seminary subject event 49 Eton alum 9 Sex toy for the butt 51 Erected 13 Prince’s purple 53 Unmannerly man precipitation 54 Position of 14 Kazan, whose desire 36-Across was a streetcar 58 “Ta ta!” 15 Glinda portrayer in 60 Marsh material The Wiz 61 Skirt for Nureyev’s 16 Help with the heist partner 17 Trust, with “on” 62 Woman’s name em18 Mournful cry braced by hermaph19 City of the team of rodites? 36-Across 63 “She” to Rimbaud 22 Vardalos of My Big 64 Peanuts oath Fat Greek Wedding 65 Silence for Bernstein 23 R.E.M. frontman 66 It may be grand, to Michael Glenn Burke 24 Riddler of old 67 Scores 26 Fabric name ending 27 Wet hole 31 McDowall of Planet DOWN 1 Shrinking Asian body of the Apes 32 Wolfe or Woolf, e.g. 2 One who may screw with your equip(abbr.) ment 34 Fiddle around with 3 Connects with it 4 Coming soon 36 The first active 5 It made people go openly gay male down on the Titanic athlete to compete in a U.S. professional 6 On the calm side team sport 7 Cash cache

8 Sean of Will & Grace 9 Try to seduce (with liquor, e.g.) 10 Soviet leader Brezhnev 11 Relax after a hard day 12 Team of 36-Across 20 Just out 21 Shoot off a larger branch 25 Hive product 28 Like some twins 29 Rest atop 30 Doone of fiction 33 Mushroom source? 35 Woody pile 37 It’s a bust 38 Lingering 39 Drag queen’s high heel, perhaps 42 Under guardianship 43 Sport of 36-Across 44 Trisha Todd’s ___ of the Moon 45 Role played by a man named Julia 47 Follower of Jim Buchanan 50 “Blow me down!” 52 Part of UHF 55 Woody valley 56 Eleanor’s pooch 57 Bit from Michael Musto 59 Granola lesbian’s bit ANSWERS ON PAGE PAGE 62






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ask mr. manners

Pumping iron BY ROCK MAGEN

Gym junkies

everywhere have, at some point, encountered another member behaving badly. Even at the gym - a place where tank tops, profuse sweating, protein shakes and mild grunting are perfectly acceptable (and, in some cases, recommended) - there are rules of engagement that one should adhere. Of course, the social graces expected in a weight room are a bit different from those expected at the symphony or the Louvre, but the rules of etiquette are important just the same. GQ magazine so lovingly refers to any sort of faux pas as “that guy,” and we have all had interactions with such a violator, but in these moments of personal crisis it is best to know how to rise above it and not be included in that demographic. It all begins in the locker room. It would seem that each gym has a fair share of naked shavers who let it all hang out in front of the mirror. The best etiquette in this situation is not to have your locker room become your personal grooming space. I completely understand those who hit the gym before work and need to get dressed and ready, but keep the “assembly” of yourself to a minimum when you’re in a public space, and lay the “ground work” in private. It’s perfectly acceptable to trim up quickly, but don’t perform a full-body shave in the mirror while others are coming and going. Common decency

allows for greeting in passing, but having a full-fledged conversation with a stranger shaving for work is overkill. While on the gym floor, I’ve noticed a lot of guys who like to text while taking a break between sets. The gym is a place to work, and thus should be respected as such. If you feel so inclined to constantly text your friends while working out, feel free to bring them with you, but texting them while using the squat cage (which always tends to have a line) is unacceptable. Quite a few arguments break out over someone just sitting on a piece of equipment and texting while someone else is waiting to use it. If texting is that important, bring that person to the gym with you, and as Gold’s Gym admonishes its members, “You’ll have a workout partner helping you succeed!” On a final note, there are some people at the gym who just reek. I understand working out means getting gross and sweaty, but there is a fine line between working to get to that point and starting off that bad. If your gym bag needs a boost then by all means add Febreeze or a dryer sheet to help freshen it. You don’t need a full gym wardrobe, but you do need enough options to get you through your workout week. I was once told that the gym is “Gay Church.” Who’s to say if that’s the best analogy, but if it is for some people, we have to make sure we respect holy ground.  Q

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the dating diet


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to stop going to parties where people think Heineken is high-end beer. That’s how I met a 30-year-old ginger named Ron who’s confused about his sexuality. I know. I don’t have enough to deal with. Now, I have to contend with an ambiguous hetero who wants to know how often I clean my ass. “Aw. You should be flattered,” my friend Chuck says. “He wants you to teach him. It’s like having an apprentice.” “Really? And what does he get when he graduates. A career in anal?” I know. I’m not supposed to talk about my ass in the column. But every time I try to change the topic, someone brings it back. It’s bad enough when it happens at the dinner table. But when I’m attending a social event? No. Just. No. There are rules to follow. Etiquette. “Dude,” Ron says. For the second time this month he finds me at a kegger for col-

lege students. Apparently, we’re buds. “Remember me?” He glows with a grin, his red hair matching his freckles. “I wish I didn’t.” “I don’t want to bother you, but can I ask you a question?” He speaks before I reply. “Do you take it in the ass every night? That’s gotta hurt, right?” I gasp, choking down my beer. “Whoa, man. My bad. Is that rude?” “No. It’s normal for an opener. It goes hand-in-hand with ‘hello, my name is.’” He eyes me with genuine naivety. “Sorry. I don’t mean to be a dick. I just don’t know what’s going on with me.” He offers to fill my cup. “See, I’m straight, right? But I’ve been hanging out with this gay dude.” He stalls, struggling to admit he’s been playing tongue hockey with the guy for the last month. It takes two more trips to the keg before the big reveal. “I want to take it to the next level, but I don’t know if I can do …” He points to his ass. “You know … that.” “Um. That’s not the only thing we do.” “I know. You blow each other too but …” I groan. “Really?” His gay love interest arrives, and he becomes jittery. “Shit. He’s here.” We both turn to look, and the guy walks off in a huff. “He’s pissed because I told him I’m straight,” Ron explains. “He doesn’t believe me.” “Why?” “Because I had my hand on his dick when I said it.” “Wow. Just wow.” I walk off, and he tries to explain himself. “Look man. I like spending time with him. Seriously. I think about him when he’s not around. I want to lie in bed with him. Be next to him. It’s not about sex.” He laughs. “Ooh, that sounds gay.” He catches himself. “No offense.” I stand on my tongue. “I really have to go.” “No. Wait,” he says, his gay lover approaching. “Just chill. He’s coming. I don’t want this to be awkward.” “Too late,” I say. Ron makes introductions, trying to

include me in the conversation while they begin to argue about who’s been avoiding whom. It seems Ron hasn’t been replying to text messages. Hurt, his guy eyes me like I’m the reason. To calm him, I make it clear that I have a boyfriend. I bring it up, over and over. Boyfriend. Boyfriend. Boyfriend. “Yeah,” Ron confirms. “And get this, they do more than bang each other in the ass.” I turn white, and his lover flushes, excusing himself. “I thought you didn’t want this to be awkward,” I say. “What? I thought it would be a good icebreaker. So he and I could talk about, you know, our problem.” “Not in the middle of a party.” He smacks himself in the head. “Right. Damn. Stupid. I’m supposed to treat him like a girl.” My chest burns. “No, you’re supposed to treat him with respect.” I mimic his behavior, smacking myself. “Oh. I forgot. You can’t like him. You’re straight.” I dodge I know. I’m not Ron for supposed to talk the rest of about my ass in the the night, stepping column. But every outside time I try to change to get a the topic, someone closer look at brings it back. the indie band playing in the shed. From time to time, I see him smoking and playing with a stray dog. I tell myself to be nice; he’s struggling with a feeling that contradicts the way he defines himself. It’s not easy. He’s no different from my other friends caught up with labels. I’m Gay. Queer. Two-Spirited. I’m LGBTQ-RSTUVWXYZ. Some people don’t understand that, in the end, there are more important things that describe our character than whom we love. For Ron, loving a man doesn’t fit in the right box so he has to think outside of it, pondering how it shapes him as a man. “Look. I’m sorry. Will you just listen?” he says, finding me as I leave. “I’m new to this.” “To what?” I ask. “You’ve never been in love?” “Yeah, but not with a dude.” He lingers, shaking his head. “I don’t know where to start.” “It’s easy. You admit it.”  Q

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hear me out Kinky Boots (Original Broadway Cast Recording) “The world seemed brighter six inches off the ground.” So goes the drag-inspired fabulousness of the British indie-turnedBroadway hit Kinky Boots, a love letter to anyone who’s ever felt different, rejected and like they’d look hawt in a pair of stilettos; it’s self-discovery set to music. Who knows a thing or two about true colors shining through? About following your heart? Cyndi Lauper, of course. The pop icon takes the music-writing reins in this passion project, the culmination of a career that’s not only positioned her as a charttopper but as Mama Bear to her queer cubs. The heartbreaking honesty of “Not My Father’s Son,” then, is something Lauper can empathize with – and that Billy Porter sings with gut-wrenching pathos and a bravo finish. “Hold Me in Your Heart,” the other slow-building centerpiece, is another showstopper; as Lola, Porter shows that song who’s boss with a very “And I Am Telling You …” moment of climatic vocal heat. GRADE: B+

The National, Trouble Will Find Me It’s still early in the year, but hold a spot for The National on your best-of list. Trouble Will Find Me is a gloriously rich, life-changing listen that knows how to elicit emotion (see: sadness, more sadness) without overblown superfluity. The Ohio indie-rockers’ sixth release knows that subtlety can be just as, if not more, powerful – especially when heard alone in a dark room, these mellow slow-burners washing over you in peaceful solitude. With pensiveness that gets you in the gut (“I don’t know why we had to lose the ones who took so little space”) and the gentle ambiance of glistening guitars, “Hard to Find” is the perfect outro. The same quiet beauty is captured on the wistful standout “I Need My Girl,” an utterly gorgeous bass rumble carrying the track into a sublime state of shifting splendor as frontman Matt Berninger laments regret and being “a 45 percenter then” GRADE: A-


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the perils of petunia pap smear

The tale of the Big Gay Fun Bus BY PETUNIA PAP SMEAR

The road

away from the curb to begin our escapade. As a bingo host on a bus, I am required to make many trips to the rear of the bus, to help serve the Jello shots, pass out bingo cards and collect garbage. I made my inaugural foray down the aisle to greet the assembled masses and to scout out the cutest boys upon whose laps I could fall as I pretended to lose my balance. Sadly, I found that, topped with my beehive hair, I was “too statuesque a personality” to be contained comfortably within the vertical space of the bus. If I stood upright, my hair would sweep the ceiling of the bus and get caught in the lighting fixtures. I was forced to bend over and let my prodigious posterior pound from side to side, like ping pong, from person to person, producing a passel of patootie-pummeled people. Upon the subsequent trips down the aisle, I found that if I announced that a “prime rump” was passing, many fewer injuries occurred. The bus suddenly hit a large bump in the road, which sent me nearly “Buns-overBoobs” bobbing down the stairs to stammer a shaky “hello” to a very startled bus driver. I have discovered the hard way that it is best that I not drink beverages when I’m “working.” After I have squeezed my ample bodus rotundus into a crinoline and strapped on my breasticles, the resulting combined mass and girth are much too large to be able to squeeze into a bus rest room, or port-a-potty for that matter. In desperation, I did a little research seeking an exemption from the laws of physics concerning this deliCryptogram: People forget that durable rights don’t come from cate matter. I wrote to courts, they come from consensus and strong support from society the famous scientist Neil Degrasse Tyson and gave him a detailed description of my wardrobe dimensions and body mass index. He calculated that the combined mass of my booty and breasticles were enough to create their

beneath the Big Gay Fun Bus is fraught with danger and excitement. Since my dear sister Ruby Ridge decided to move to Australia and commune with the wallabies and kangaroos (honestly, it’s like herding cats), it has fallen upon yours truly to substitute as a bingo host on the Big Gay Fun Bus to Wendover. Excited by the possibilities of this new adventure, I donned my best pink frock, pink beehive hair, put on my pink fuzzy dice earrings and packed my purse with my Testicle Tester® and extra batteries. I gathered up my make-up kit and a spare muumuu (I’ve always thought that when I wear them, they should be spelled MooMoo. The bovine reference would be a much better fit with my “perky” breasticles.) and threw it all into Queertanic, my luxurious royal limousine, and drove to Club Try-Angles, where we could board the Big Gay Fun Bus. I was overjoyed to see that a group of suitably cute twinks and stunningly massive hunks were assembled, preparing to board the bus. I thought to myself that this would be more like a pleasure cruise for me than actually working a bingo hall. As we mingled in the parking lot, I overheard many excited conversations. “Oh the prospects of such a trip. Will I win fabulous bingo prizes on the bus? Will I win big money at the casino? Will I get drunk from the Jello shots? Will I score a hottie in the restroom?” There arose many squeals of excitement, as we boarded the bus and pulled

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own gravitational field strong enough to be able to drag the smaller planets from their orbits. Oh the indignity! As our happy bus approached the desolation of the salt flats, I kept expecting Ronald Reagan to appear on the television and welcome us to Death Valley Days. To the contrary, though, bingo was played, prizes were won, Jello shots were consumed, and I was honored when everyone on the bus observed a moment of silence in respect for all the “work” that had been done at my unofficial office, the rest area in the middle of the Salt Flats. After a lovely afternoon of hard drinking and gambling in Wendover, the bus deposited our tired and drunken butts back to Club Try-Angles. There was much confusion as everyone disembarked and gathered their belongings. I began to look through my purse for my car keys. I couldn’t find them. I dumped the contents of the purse out onto the hood of the Queertanic. Still no keys. I next emptied out my two other bags onto the asphalt. Again no keys. I began to pace around the car, what was I going to do, stuck here at the bar, in drag with no car keys? On my third trip around Queertanic, which I might add is quite a long distance, I noticed that in my haste to board the bus, I had left the keys hanging from the keyhole in the trunk for the entire time we were gone. I didn’t know whether to count myself lucky that no one had stolen the car, or disappointed that no one thought it was worth stealing. As always, these events leave us with several burning eternal questions: 1. Is Ruby Ridge secretly a koala coddler in a petting zoo? 2. In order for a car to be considered a limousine, must I have a driver? 3. Would a Speedo and a sun tan be considered a sufficient limo driver uniform? 4. Should the bus company hire me to clean the ceilings of their busses? 5. Should I wear a catheter when I’m “working”? 6. Is it possible to be-dazzle a catheter? 7. Could I get rich selling “Fashion Catheters”? 8. If I ran around Queertanic several times, while wearing full breasticle augmentation, would that qualify me for the Iron Man/Queen competition? These and other important questions to be answered in future chapters of: The Perils of Petunia Pap Smear.  Q

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