FEBRUARY 2023
DID YOU TRY YOUR BEST? This has been an interesting lesson for me over the last several years. Some of our experiences raising Blake seemed to encourage the idea that effort can be completely separated from outcome. As long as you give it your best, the results shouldn’t bother you.
I believe that working hard to attain goals and overcome challenges is important. I also believe that falling short can be a great learning experience. I agree that the outcome of a given effort shouldn’t define you, and you can’t get too crazy about it. I am not sure if it’s nature or nurture, however, effort and outcome seem to be the two ways we often measure ourselves. I think some of the current approaches are intended to take the pressure off the kids, and that makes sense. I am just not sure how well it works sometimes. Blake played soccer for a few years when he was younger, and every parent and coach was instructed to disregard the score in any game. These were developmental matches, and it was our job to encourage the kids to play well and not worry about it. Several years earlier, the league adopted the policy of not keeping score. The games were great! Every child played, and there wasn’t a scoreboard in site. Parents and coaches could be heard supporting the players for the sideline. No one talked about the score. I remember a conversation with Blake after a particularly one-sided game. “Well son, did you give it your best out there?” He simply said, “Yeah, Dad.” We walked along in silence for a while headed for the parking lot. His head hung low. “I think your team played a little better this week. I heard more communication and saw some good passes,” I offered. “I guess that was good,” he responded. After he was settled into his car seat, I knew I had to go there. “The score doesn’t matter Blake.” We caught eyes in the rearview mirror. “It’s a good thing,” he said, “because they beat us 12-2.” Fast forward to sixth grade. Blake attends a good school and seems to enjoy it. He hasn’t had letter grades until this year. The school’s focus is “to develop character, knowledge and creativity....” Sandra and I have never pushed him academically. We encourage him and speak of our expectations that he will work hard. The message has always been, “You can accomplish whatever you are willing to work for. You’ve got this.”
IN THIS ISSUE A few months ago, he came home with his first report card. His lowest grade was an A- and he achieved “high honors.” We celebrated with a big dinner at Ichiro, his favorite restaurant. The conversation that night followed a general pattern that we have adopted: “Are you proud of yourself? Did you give it your best?” We shared our feelings about his success. Overall, it was a great night filled with pride and laughter. A few weeks ago, I came home from work and Blake was upset. He told me, “I bombed my math test. I got an 84!” At that point I had to tell him about my sophomore year in college, when I had to explain to my parents what a “W” meant on a report card. I explained to Blake, as I had to my parents, that a “W” indicated that I withdrew from my Physics class. I needed a miracle on the final to pass, and that wasn’t in the cards. My parents raised us a little differently. They always pushed us in school. “Do your best,” was always the message. What was also crystal clear was that I was paying for college myself if I came home with another “W.” Blake seemed to enjoy the idea of me being on the other end of a disciplinary conversation. I went on to tell him that an 84 was a respectable grade. “You have the rest of the marking period to bring that grade up. Put the work in and you’ll be fine.” He lightened up a little, and the conversation moved on. I felt pretty good that the situation was under control and wasn’t hung up on the outcome of a “bombed” test. Later that night as he was getting ready for bed, I hugged him and asked, “Are you good?” He smiled, and said, “Yeah Dad, I’m good. I just might not get into a good college.” Thanks,
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