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From the HEART
THE SEEMINGLY MATERIALISTIC and emotionally driven demands of
December can be daunting. This issue of Q ATLus takes the opportunity in the thick of the holidays to remember what really matters: Community.
If we can tap into our own humanity this time of year and project it out-
ward at least some of the time, it’s a win in the lasting, meaningful spirit of
the season. That’s where the 10 Q Things comes in, with a gathering of free
or incredibly inexpensive things any LGBTQ person can give this season — including the best thing, ourselves.
Q People meets ABC News correspondent Steve Osunsami about his 23
years in Atlanta. He brings some lessons for the rest of us about being Black and gay in the ATL in a must-read interview. Another 23-year veteran of
the LGBTQ Atlanta is the florist Foxglove & Ivy. One of the owners talks about the shop’s pandemic-level pivot.
Even our good mood has a Grinch, though, and it’s U.S. Sen. Kelly Loeffler. She donated a chunk of her Senate salary to at least two anti-LGBTQ organizations in Georgia. That’s in Q News this week, and there is more politics, crime and other items of interest every day on Project Q Atlanta at theQatl.com.
You being you and Q being Q, we also have a full calendar of Q Events,
sage wisdom in Q Advice, and a look around town on the Q Map. Look
for us in print each week each out and online every day, and reach out via mike@theQatl.com.
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INSIDE THIS ISSUE VOLUME 4 ISSUE4
D E C E M B E R 1 7, 2 0 2 0
ABC’s Gay Atlanta Ringer
From the Heart Low- or No-Cost Gifting
Kelly Loeffler’s AntiLGBTQ Donations
11 Q ADVICE
Is This Love?
All Signs Point to Rebound
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Gay Florist’s Pandemic Pivot 10 Q Things............... 8 Q News.................... 11 Q People................... 14 Q Community.......... 19 Q Events.................. 23 Q Map...................... 26 Q Advice.................. 30
From a DIâ€Š 10 THINGS
Smize Above the Mask
Backyard Haircuts Apologies
Postcards and Letters 8 theQatl.com
Low- or No-Cost Things to Give, Get & Share This Season Dog, Cat & Human Snuggles
Audio & Video Streaming Passwords (Shhhhhh) Laughs Socially Distanced Walks, Runs, Bike Rides Thank Yous
Oh yes, SHE DID Sen. Kelly Loeffler donates to two Georgia anti-LGBTQ groups By Matt Hennie U.S. SEN. KELLY LOEFFLER — LOCKED IN a tight runoff election — donated a chunk of her Senate salary to at least two anti-LGBTQ organizations in Georgia. The $7,600 in donations to two anti-LGBTQ groups are among 10 donations of $3,800 each that Loeffler made. Buzzfeed first exposed one of the recipients — Covenant Care Adoptions, a Macon-based organization with counselors in Atlanta. Its “Statement of Faith” disavows LGBTQ marriages, charges that transgender people reject God, and compares homosexuality and bisexuality to bestiality and incest (see excerpt on page 12). A Project Q Atlanta review of Loeffler’s donations uncovered a second anti-LGBTQ organization among the recipients: A Beacon of Hope. The pregnancy care center in Johns Creek rejects LGBTQ marriages and states that sex is only for marriages between one man and one woman. News of the donations comes amid a tight runoff between Loeffler, a Republican, and Democratic challenger Rev. Raphael Warnock on Jan. 5. Warnock strongly backs LGBTQ equality, and his campaign reaches out to LGBTQ voters. When she announced the donations, Loeffler said the anti-LGBTQ groups and other recipients “em-
U.S. Sen. Kelly Loeffler
body the best of Georgia and the best of America.” “This quarter, I’m proud to donate my salary to 10 Georgia-based organizations that are on the frontlines lifting Georgians up and providing life-changing resources and support to so many,” Loeffler said in a press release. “Charitable organizations and nonprofits embody the best of Georgia and the best of America, and they play a critical role in fostering thriving communities across our state,” she added. Loeffler, one of the richest members of Congress, donates portions of her $174,000 annual Senate salary to charity each quarter. A Beacon of Hope and Covenant Care Adoptions were among Loeffler’s fourth-quarter donations. theQatl.com 11
LOEFFLER continued LGBTQ equality since Gov. Brian Kemp appointed her to office in January.
Loeffler targeted transgender people in a bill she filed in September and supports anti-LGBTQ
“religious freedom” legislation. She also helped confirm an anti-LGBTQ judge, Andrew Brasher, to
the 11th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals in Atlanta.
LOEFFLER ‘OUT-OF-STEP WITH MODERN AMERICA’
Warnock, endorsed by HRC, said he’s been an LGBTQ advocate for years and would fight
Alphonso David, president of the Human Rights Campaign, said Loeffler’s donations “reaffirm her disdain” for LGBTQ equality.
“mealy-mouthed” foes of LGBTQ equality in the
“Sen. Kelly Loeffler’s involvement with a virulent, extremist anti-LGBTQ adoption agency is shameful and something she must answer for, as the eyes of the country turn to Georgia to decide control of the Senate,” David said in a press release.
munity in Atlanta both inside and outside of my
“The people of Georgia overwhelmingly believe LGBTQ people should have the right to create loving families and adopt children. Loeffler’s beliefs are not just out-of-step with modern America, they are out of step with voters. Her decision to associate with this discriminatory group only reaffirms her disdain for LGBTQ equality, making her unfit to represent Georgia in Washington,” he added. The donations to the anti-LGBTQ groups are part of Loeffler’s track record attacking 12 theQatl.com
“I have been a strong ally of the LGBTQ com-
church,” Warnock said during an interview with Project Q Atlanta. “When President Obama came out in support for marriage equality in
2012, I celebrated from the pulpit because as a pro-LGBTQ+ pastor I believe supporting all
people, and especially marginalized communities, is a responsibility of all people and especially those in the church.”
“I’ve also worked to help reduce the stigma around things such as the HIV epidemic through my work and called on my fellow faith leaders to
affirm the humanity and equality of people that
identify as LGBTQ+ because what affects one of
us, affects us all. How we treat the marginalized is the acid test of our faith,” he added.
Read the full story on Project Q Atlanta at theQatl.com.
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A Day’s WORK
2020 makes 23 years in LGBTQ Atlanta for ABC News reporter Steve Osunsami By Patrick Saunders ATLANTA-BASED ABC NEWS CORRESpondent Steve Osunsami has been “100 percent” out and proud at every job he’s ever had.
“I am Black first, people see me as Black first,” he told Project Q Atlanta. “In some respects, being gay kind of softens some of those perceptions people have when they first meet me, seeing this 6-foot-3 Black gay guy. So I’ve been out every place I’ve gone.” Osunsami became a familiar face to ABC viewers since joining the network’s southern bureau in 1997. He regularly appears on Good Morning America, World News Tonight with David Muir, Nightline and 14 theQatl.com
other broadcasts and online platforms.
But it took a lot of work to get to where he is now — on the cusp of 50, living in Brookhaven with his husband, and reporting on racial justice, politics, natural disasters and more to millions of viewers every week. Osunsami was born in Washington, D.C., to Nigerian immigrants. He came out in college, and his father responded by throwing him out of the house. He experienced the nomadic life of a TV reporter, going from stations in Rockford, Ill., Grand Rapids and Seattle before landing in Atlanta. The reporter lived it up in Midtown like many other young, gay men in the 1990s. The socializing paid off when he ran into Joe Remillard, an artist and Kennesaw State professor. “I met my husband at the Heretic at 2 o’clock in the morning,” he said.
That was in 2005, and they never looked back. The pair created a modern family with Remillard’s two grown kids from his first marriage. Osunsami is especially close with Remillard’s ex-wife, who he said is “like a sister to me.”
Osunsami said. “And you’d run to the TV screen and see someone who looked like you on the TV screen. It just didn’t happen that often, and it meant something.”
‘INCREDIBLY SEGREGATED’ LGBTQ ATLANTA
Being Black in LGBTQ Atlanta isn’t always easy. Osunsami said he faces plenty of racism from white gay men here. “I have experienced in Atlanta more racism from white gay men than I have experienced homophobia from straight Black Atlantans and Georgians,” he said. LGBTQ Atlanta is “incredibly segregated,” Osunsami continued.
RACE, POLITICS AND PANDEMIC
There is no typical workday for Osunsami. His stories could appear on any ABC News show from morning to late night, and the travel can be spontaneous and relentless in non-pandemic times. Osunsami adjusted over the years. “I’ve been doing this for a very long time,” he said. “I’m a two-time cancer survivor. I had prostate cancer, and I had a recurrence. That put a lot of things into perspective. I need to get rest, I need to carve that out for myself.” Osunsami did plenty of election and pandemic coverage this year, but he spent most of 2020 on the police shooting of Rayshard Brooks in Atlanta and the murder of Ahmaud Arbery in Brunswick.
“People need to work harder to diversify the people they hang around with,” he said. “You’ll never understand what someone’s going through unless you have someone close enough to tell you.” Despite challenges and change that’s slow to come, Osunsami put down solid roots in Atlanta and has no plans to leave, he said. “I love this city. I love this region. My home is here. It will always be here,” he said. “I’m very proud to live here and represent the people here, and I don’t take it for granted.” Read the full interview at theQatl.com.
“The protests and racial unrest were way bigger stories, and to me, as a Black gay man, more important,” he said. He added that representation in journalism for LGBTQ and people of color is “hugely important.” He remembers watching TV before cable and before you could pause a live broadcast. “You would see someone Black in the commercial, and we would yell across the house, ‘Hurry come down!’” theQatl.com 15
Still BLOOMING Gay Atlanta florist Foxgloves & Ivy retains its bloom through pandemic By Patrick Saunders THE CORONAVIRUS PANDEMIC CREATED a mixed bag for Atlanta florist Foxgloves & Ivy. Wedding cancelations torpedoed business, but other holidays managed to make up for it. “We haven’t been able to do any weddings since the industry has shut down,” out co-owner Larry Hammack told Project Q Atlanta. “Weddings shifted from spring to fall to next year. Honestly, I don’t have much faith that we’ll be able to do those next spring.” Some 23 years after opening its original location in Virginia Highland, the business now on Moreland Avenue in Little Five Points did shut down in March due to the pandemic. It reopened in May, just in time for one of its best Mother’s Days ever. “Because everyone’s at home,” Hammack said. “We’re not doing gangbusters, but we’re staying steady. I don’t think we’re going to be any worse off than last year.” Still, the pandemic led Hammack to do something he never would have imagined before this strangest of years — banning customers from coming inside the store. theQatl.com 19
FOXGLOVES & IVY continued “If we have anyone that orders and wants to pick up, I make them stay outside,” he said. “They have to wear a mask, and I wear a mask. The only people allowed in the store are me, my designer and my driver.” Foxgloves & Ivy’s deliveries are also contact free. Hammack was spared from laying off workers, and a small loan from the federal Small Business Association helped keep business going during the roughest part of the year. The store counts on a strong holiday season to round out an uncertain year.
Foxgloves & Ivy storefront and Foxgloves co-owner Larry Hammack (inset)
In the meantime, Hammack gears up for the long haul as Georgia enters the third spike in coronavirus infections with no expectation of relaxing of safety precautions.
“If we can just keep it at this steady pace, we have the opportunity to do more at Thanksgiving and Christmas because more people are staying home,” Hammack said. “I put the Thanksgiving centerpieces on the website to order, and within 10 minutes I had my first order,” he added.
“My gut is saying we’re not going to see any major changes until the start of summer,” he said. Foxgloves & Ivy is at 484 Moreland Ave NE. Visit foxgloves.biz.
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Q Events The Best LGBTQ Things to Do in Atlanta This Week THURSDAY, DEC. 17
Holiday Blend Atlanta Women’s Chorus does their thing with seasonal flair, virtually of course. It’s an “aromatic blend of favorites from holidays past and new videos from holiday present.” Streaming free @ YouTube.com/atlantawomenschorus. Love, M After a World AIDS Day premiere, this heartfelt play about mothers and sons streams through the end of the month @ Horizon Theatre, 7 p.m. horizontheatre.com
FRIDAY, DEC. 18 Code Red The circuit party crowd will turn out for DJ Cindel’s driving beats, with masks and social distancing of course @ Heretic, 10 a.m. hereticatlanta.com Fem Friday The backyard and patio are open for women who love women who love open-air parties, with two socially distanced and masked levels indoors @ My Sister’s Room, Fridays and Saturdays 8 p.m. – 3 a.m. mysistersroom.com
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FRIDAY, DEC. 18 Edward Scissorhands Only one group would put this at the outdoor drive-in and make it a queer af. The Wussy crew screens the Johnny Depp-Winona Ryder classic on the parking lot wall @ Plaza, 7:30 p.m. wussymag.com
Porch Pop-Up Special deals with social distancing from the trans- and lesbian- led feminist bookworms @ Charis Books & More, 12 noon – 4 p.m. charisbooksandmore.com Dirty Elf Party DJ Ed Wood spins for shirtless-but-Santathemed dancing queens with special performances and other suprises @ Heretic, 10 p.m. hereticatlanta.com theQatl.com 23
EVENTS continued SUNDAY, DEC 20 Sunday Funday Gather on the refreshed patio and re-branded corner hotspot for food and drinks @ X Midtown (formerly Ten Atlanta), 4 p.m. - 12 midnight.
Glitz & Glam Charlie Brown and her girls give you dinner and a show in Atlanta’s drag restaurant and bar. Make reservations @ Lips Atlanta, 6 p.m., 9 p.m. and the Taboo Show at 11:30 p.m. DJ Joe Pacheco Xion Afterhours hosts the international DJ for a wee-hours Saturday night set, technically on Sunday morning @ District, 3 a.m. – 7 a.m.
Booze & Beats MSR does what they do with a few extras for Sunday funday. Knock back $3 mimosas and enjoy DJs and brunch @ My Sister’s Room, all day.
TUESDAY, DEC. 22 Trivia Tuesday Drop in on a full afternoon and evening of specials, and don’t forget Trivia Tuesdays with a $50 bar tab prize @ Hideaway, 9 p.m. Happy Hour specials every weekday, 2 p.m. – 6 p.m. facebook. com/atlantahideaway Find dozens of LGBTQ weekend events every Thursday at theQatl.com.
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Mary’s 1287 Glenwood Ave SE
10. Joe’s on Juniper Ralph McGill Blvd. NE 1049 Juniper St NE
Sister Louisa’s 466 Edgewood Ave SE
4. Friends on Ponce 736 Ponce De Leon Ave NE 5. My Sister’s Room 84 12th St
11. Zocalo Mexican Kitchen & Cantina 187 10th St NE Highland Ave. NE
6. X Midtown 990 Piedmont Ave. NE
12. Barking Leather After Dark 306 Ponce De Leon Ave NE (inside Eagle)
7. Atlanta Eagle 306 Ponce De Leon Ave NE
13. Urban Body Fitness 500 Amsterdam Ave NE
Future (Opens July 3) 50 Lower Alabama St SW, Suite 180 Glen Iris Dr. NE
3. Bulldogs Bar 893 Peachtree St NE
The T 465 Boulevard SE Swinging Richards 1400 Northside Dr NW Lips Drag Show Palace 3011 Buford Highway NE Lost ’n Found Youth Thift Store 2585 Chantilly Dr NE
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Q Atlus Map Directory The businesses on the preceding pages are integral parts of Atlanta’s LGBTQ landscape. Those listed in boxes are consistent Q partners and community allies. BARS, CLUBS & RESTAURANTS Amsterdam Cafe 502 Amsterdam Ave. NE Atlanta Eagle 306 Ponce De Leon Ave NE BJ Roosters 2043 Cheshire Bridge Road NE Blakes on the Park 227 10th St. NE Bulldogs Bar 893 Peachtree St NE Felix’s on the Square 1510 Piedmont Ave NE Friends on Ponce 736 Ponce De Leon Ave NE Future 50 Lower Alabama St SW, Suite 180 Henry’s Midtown Tavern 132 10th St NE The Heretic 2069 Cheshire Bridge Road NE The Hideaway 1544 Piedmont Ave NE Joe’s on Juniper 1049 Juniper St NE Las Margaritas 1842 Cheshire Bridge Road NE Lips Drag Show Palace 3011 Buford Highway NE Mama’s Cocina 1958 Piedmont Road NE Mary’s 1287 Glenwood Ave SE Midtown Moon 1510 Piedmont Ave NE My Sister’s Room 84 12th St Oscar’s 1510 Piedmont Ave NE
Roxx Tavern 1824 Cheshire Bridge Road NE
Sequel Bar 1086 Alco St. NE Sister Louisa’s 466 Edgewood Ave SE Swinging Richards 1400 Northside Dr NW The T 465 Boulevard SE Tripp’s Bar 1931 Piedmont Circle NE Woof’s Sports Bar 494 Plasters Ave NE X Midtown 990 Piedmont Ave. NE Zocalo Mexican Kitchen & Cantina 187 10th St NE
RETAIL & SERVICES 2Qute Hair Salon 1927 Cheshire Bridge Road NE Barking Leather 1510 Piedmont Ave NE Barking Leather After Dark 306 Ponce De Leon Ave NE (inside Atlanta Eagle) Boy Next Door 1447 Piedmont Ave NE Brushstrokes 1510 Piedmont Ave NE Equilibrium Fitness 1529 Piedmont Ave NE Lost ’n Found Youth Thrift Store 2585 Chantilly Dr NE Urban Body Fitness 500 Amsterdam Ave NE
ADULT Flex 76 4th St NW Southern Nights 2205 Cheshire Bridge Road NE Starship Galaxy/Starship Novelties 2273 Cheshire Bridge Road NE Tokyo Valentino 1739 Cheshire Bridge Road NE
Love clusters, sex losers and fast turnarounds
How long is long enough after a breakup before I get into another relationship? When do I know I’m ready to take the plunge again? My wife dumped me while I was recovering from a major medical issue. We divorced and sold our house. So, I met this cute woman, and now I want to take her home to meet mama. I can totally see us getting married. Is it too soon? Dear Hurry Up: That’s a lot. First, take a breath. Now, take another. Deeper. There ya go. Now, just by asking if it’s too soon, you show that something inside may say that, for you, right now definitely feels like Fast & Furious 9.
Love isn’t on a timeline. What’s your hurry? You’ve heard of rebound relationships, and we know serial monogamy is a longstanding queer epidemic. When you’re caught up in it personally, it may be hard to tell the difference between the real deal and fake news. Does it feel like a rush job? Do you need to get married again, or want to be with this woman forever? Would it hurt to continue dating to find out? Therein lies your answer.
I thought I was satisfied, but now I’m pretty sure that everybody is having more sex than me. Other gay guys are getting all kinds of laid, and here I sit with my occasional booty call and random hookup. Dear Always Greener: The only thing worrying gets you is frustrated. Forget assumptions about, and braggadocio from, other people. Go back to your initial statement: You were satisfied. Was worrying somehow more appealing than that?
Here’s a queer conundrum for you. I want a guy named Paul, but Paul has the hots for a girl named Sadie and her bisexual partner Noah. And, yep, Noah and Sadie are all about me. Help! Dear Cluster: That you’re all friends is a great start. Buy a bottle of wine, call a meeting, and see what happens. The knots can’t get more twisted by applying some honest communication to the situation. Q Advice is intended for entertainment, not professional counseling. Send your Qs to
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LGBTQ gifts from the heart, ABC News's gay Atlanta Correspondent Steve Osunsami, Foxgloves & Ivy, Love on the rebound and more.
Published on Dec 16, 2020
LGBTQ gifts from the heart, ABC News's gay Atlanta Correspondent Steve Osunsami, Foxgloves & Ivy, Love on the rebound and more.