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Splash DOWN Q LGBT Atlanta Plunges into Memorial Day

Find All of Atlanta’s Best Holi-gay Weekend Events Ways to Support Local LGBTQ Artists & Makers Feel Your Way Through Busting Sexual Hangups


Deep DIVE THE FIRST SPLASH of summer arrives with this issue, and

like the rest of LGBTQ Atlanta, we here at Q ATLus couldn’t possibly be more ready for it.

More than the summer heat, the skin-baring attire and the lazy, hazy days, we need the release that comes over Memorial Day

Weekend. Of course, that is exponentially more relevant this year. Find local and regional gay getaways on our Q Travel pages and in Q Events.

10 Q Things finds ways you can help individual artists and makers who are poking their heads out and coming back to active life.

In Q Community, special Stonewall Month plans are taking shape. In Q News and Q Shots, gay voters are already being courted.

What does that leave? Reach down and touch yourself in Q Advice, then hit us up every day on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and on our Project Q Atlanta home page at theQatl.com.

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INSIDE THIS ISSUE VOLUME 4 ISSUE 27

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HIS WAY

Mr. Brown Steps in the Ring

COVER

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Traveling On

Regional Gay Getaways

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10 Q THINGS

COMMUNITY

Ways to Support LGBTQ Artists

Stonewall Month Special Events

Artsy

10 Q Things................. 8 Q News...................... 11 Q Events.................... 21 Q Shots...................... 23 Q Map........................ 26 Q Advice.................... 29 6 theQatl.com

June Bug

Q SHOTS

Hi, Felicia

Mayoral Candidate Reaches Out

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10 THINGS

From th  10 ways to support the local LGBTQ arts IT’S COMMON TO LEAN on and expect makers and creators to just do what they do, but here are ways to respect their work and help them thrive. Yes, pulling out your wallet is on the list, but that’s just the beginning of support that local queer artists and crafts people can take to the bank. Buy from and hire local living artists, artisans, writers, filmmakers performers and creators of all kinds.

Provide artists with good reviews and like, share comment on their social media posts.

Volunteer your time, resources and skills to organizations that support the arts.

Attend art events, theatrical performances, galleries and museums. Take your friends.

Pick up & download books, podcasts, new releases and support materials from musicians and artists you like.

Donate to non-profit arts education.

Write, call and lobby lawmakers and school officials to keep the arts a priority in education.

Forge partnerships with artists to support your efforts and promote their work at the same time.

Ask! a creator how you can help.

Sources: americansforthearts.com, artworkarchive.cm, lightspacetime.art, culturualpolicies.net 8 theQatl.com


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NEWS

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COMPLICATED PHOTO BY MATT HENNIE

City Council member Antonio Brown wants to be Atlanta’s first LGBTQ mayor By Matt Hennie ATLANTA CITY COUNCIL MEMBER ANTONIO Brown formally announced his campaign for mayor on May 14, launching an effort that if successful would make him the city’s first-ever LGBTQ mayor. Brown, 36, faces a complicated path to the mayor’s office. He joins a growing field of candidates that bring deep ties and pockets to the race while staring down a federal indictment for fraud. Brown — standing on the steps of City Hall and flanked by dozens of supporters — called on

voters to help him “reimagine Atlanta.” “I ask that you join me as we begin the journey of reimagining Atlanta together — a journey to create an inclusive ecosystem that reimagines public safety and empowers safe communities, improves our transportation and our crumbling infrastructure, provides quality jobs and affordable housing while recognizing the needs of our most vulnerable residents, our youth, our seniors, our LGBTQ+ community, our working middle class and our unsheltered population,” Brown said. Brown became the first Black LGBTQ member of the Atlanta City Council in 2019. Since he took office, Brown has been at the center of a flurry of progressive proposals, and organized several racial justice protests last summer as he helped launch the People’s Uprising. theQatl.com 11


BROWN continued “So know that I’m not a perfect person, nor have I ever pretended to be. We don’t need perfect politicians. We need empathy. We need solutions. We need safer communities. We need jobs. We need affordable housing. We need vision. We need new ideas. And we need change, sweeping change,” he said.

“The people of this city will no longer ask for a seat at the table. They have awakened to the realization that they are the table, and that the elected officials are merely invited guests to have a seat at that table with them,” Brown said. “Now, I feel a moral obligation to do my part to continue moving us forward on this path to social justice,” he added.

‘I AM ABSOLUTELY INNOCENT’ In June 2020, Brown led a march through Midtown celebrating Pride and the 51st anniversary of the Stonewall Riots while calling for justice and equality for Black transgender people. A few weeks later, a federal grand jury indicted him on seven fraud charges. Prosecutors allege that he faked loan documents to buy a Mercedes C300 and a Range Rover. The case has been slowed by the coronavirus pandemic, but an evidentiary hearing was held in April. During his announcement speech, Brown called the criminal case an effort to “divide and distract us.” “So let me clear that up right now, once and for all. I am absolutely innocent,” he said. “Let me repeat that. I am absolutely innocent. Furthermore, let me state unequivocally Atlanta deserves a mayor with honesty and integrity. And I would not be running for mayor if I felt any concern about the outcome of this case.” Brown also said elected officials don’t need to be perfect but do need to bring fresh ideas to addressing problems in the city. 12 theQatl.com

Brown is one of four openly LGBTQ people ever elected to the city council, starting with Cathy Woolard in 1998. He would be the city’s first LGBTQ mayor. Mayor Keisha Lance Bottoms said on May 6 that she decided against re-election, a surprise move that opened the race to a growing field of candidates. City Council President Felicia Moore launched her mayoral campaign in January, pledging to advocate for the city’s LGBTQ residents and address the city’s beleaguered HIV housing program. On Wednesday, Moore made her pitch directly to LGBTQ supporters. Attorney Sharon Gay is also running, along with City Council member Andre Dickens. Former Mayor Kasim Reed is seriously considering seeking a third term. Jason Carter, a former state lawmaker and gubernatorial nominee, and former Atlanta City Council member and mayoral candidate Mary Norwood are also reportedly considering the race. Brown brings a powerful personal narrative to the race that could appeal to the city’s marginalized residents. “I, too, am the rest of Atlanta. I grew up in poverty, with my parents in and out of prison. I dropped out of high school at age 15 to bag groceries to support my family, and was even homeless at one point in my life,” Brown said. “However, through God and faith and self-determination, I could see that there was greatness on the other side of the mountain. And I rose above my adversities to become a successful CEO, and a city councilman,” he added. Read more on the mayor’s race and other local news of LGBTQ interest on Project Q Atlanta at theQatl.com.


It’s ON Atlanta Pride, Braves, more

add Stonewall Month events By Mike Fleming 2021 JUST KEEPS LOOKING UP. ATLANTA’S

COMMUNITY “Is this a Dance Party? No, this is similar to an

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‘Adults Night Out at the Museum.’ Guests will

tour the Aquarium with cocktails included – so no cash is exchanged – at an extremely reduced capacity,” the announcement said.

Expect pandemic protocols, about 75 percent fewer people than the Pride Weekend aquarium event,

three cocktails with your admission, plus music by local gay DJs Seth Breezy and Ree De La Vega.

post-pandemic Pride Month calendar adds some

BASEBALL, YOU BET

ty-cautious return to semi normalcy.

2020, a biggie might be the opportunity to add to

old favorites and new events to celebrate a safeThe growing list of LGBTQ events – with the virtual Evening For Equality on June 17 and the in-person Atlanta Pride Run & Walk on

June 20 already slated – now includes an Atlanta

Pride party at Georgia Aquarium, plus two Pride

Nights, one with the Atlanta Braves and one with its Triple-A affiliate the Gwinnett Stripers.

Among the plethora of things you missed during your Atlanta Braves rainbow gear. Years past of

Pride Night with the Braves brought the branded hat, the other logo hat, and the shirt.

What you didn’t know you needed but now totally do: the 2021 Pride Night cooler tote bag.

The event takes place at Truist Park on June 15, when the Braves take on the Boston Red Sox.

Pride Night tickets include the bag and a pre-party at the Coca-Cola

Roxy. A portion of ticket sales goes to Lost N Found Youth.

Braves minor-league affiliate the

Gwinnett Stripers get in on the Pride

action even earlier. When you buy June 4 tickets at Cool Ray Stadium, use the code GPRIDE for both a discount

and, if 2019 was a clue, a cool hat too.

MORE PRIDE STUFF IN JUNE? We have our ear to the ground and PHOTO BY PATRICK SAUNDERS

Atlanta Braves Pride Night 2019.

are working to confirm at least one

other local pro sports franchise hold-

Atlanta Pride announced a fresh twist on a tried-

ing a Pride Month event. More sporty swag in

Out Night at Georgia Aquarium is different in

Out Night at the Aquarium tickets are at georgiaaquar-

and-true idea: an aquarium party on June 25. But many ways than the raucous annual Pride Kickoff Party. Pride calls it a “softer, lighter and more exclusive version” of that event.

your future? Sources say yes.

ium.com. Braves Pride Night tickets are at mlb.com/

braves/tickets/specials/pride. Stripers Pride Night tickets are at milb.com/gwinnett/tickets/ticket-specials.

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IN BRIEF

Mayoral candidate Felicia Moore greets LGBTQ supporters

ATLANTA CITY COUNCIL PRESIDENT FELICIA Moore made a campaign stop at X Midtown on May 12 to shore up LGBTQ support and raise

funds in her race to become the city’s next mayor. The Midtown bar rolled out the red carpet for attendees hosted by local attorney Robert L.

Stewart. He introduced Moore for a few com-

ments, and she took questions from the crowd. With 23 years of experience on City Council, including three as council president, she leads a growing pack of candidates in a wide-open

race after current Mayor Keisha Lance Bottoms dropped out of the race.

PHOTO BY RUSS BOWEN-YOUNGBLOOD

Felicia Moore at X Midtown on April 12.

then. Other potential mayoral candidates include former Atlanta Mayor Kasim Reed, former state senator and gubernatorial nominee Jason Carter

Attorney Sharon Gay and (openly queer) cartoon-

and former Atlanta City Council member and

when Bottoms withdrew. City Council members

Brown is the council’s most progressive and only

ist Alex Barrella were already declared candidates Andre Dickens, as well as Antonio Brown (Dis-

trict 3) have declared their intentions to run since

mayoral candidate Mary Norwood.

sitting LGBTQ member. See coverage of his cam-

paign, and photos from Moore’s event, in this issue.

Latina trans woman shot and killed in Brookhaven 36-YEAR-OLD SOPHIE ARRIETA VASQUEZ was shot and killed in a Brookhaven apartment on May 4 and became at least the second trans woman killed in metro Atlanta in 2021. Police found her body on May 4 in the doorway of

Police recovered five shell casings and three

bullets from a .380 caliber handgun, according to an incident report from the Brookhaven Police

Department. The police report said Vasquez was not a resident of that apartment, but community

an apartment in the 400 building at Atlantic

activists told Project Q that Vasquez did live in

mont Drive is near Clairmont Road just south of

The case is under investigation and was not

Brookhaven. The apartment complex on Windits intersection with Buford Highway.

the complex.

listed as a hate crime based on details the police

would not release. An 18-year-old suspect, Pedro Silva-Renteria of Norcross, was later identified with whereabouts unknown.

Police declined to release possible motive or other details about Vasquez’s killing, though Project Q is working to find out more. PHOTO VIA FACEBOOK

Sophie Vasquez

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Read the latest on these and other local LGBTQ

news stories on Project Q Atlanta at theQatl.com.


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Memorial Weekend getaways for LGBTQ Atlantans By Mike Fleming

GRAND VACATIONS ARE GREAT, BUT OUR gay neighbors across the region are ready and able to help weekenders relax, refresh and recharge. Bigger trips to far-flung destinations may be in the cards further out, but warm weather and a long weekend mean that it’s officially time for regional road trips. Nothing will get you in the summer spirit better than flying your rainbow colors. Here’s our quick guide to the queerest destinations this weekend. You don’t have to go far to feel like you’re a world away. 18 theQatl.com

Sexacola Beach May 27 – May 31 sexacolabeach.com

Hosted by Atlanta’s own My Sister’s Room, this all-out blast features thousands of lesbian and gay attendees over four beachy days and four ladies’ nights in Pensacola, Fl at Cap’t Fun. 18+ admitted, 21+ to drink, rain or shine. Memorial Weekend Pensacola May 28 – May 30 johnnychisholm.com With an even longer history of queers on the sands of Pensy, gay bar owner and promoter Johnny Chisholm corrals the queens with DJ beats by day and night. Daily and nightly beach and dance parties with DJs including Joe Gauthreaux, Dan Slater, Roland Belmares, Will Lowe and Joe Ross.


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Memorial Weekend at Timberfell May 27 – May 31 Greenville, Tenn. timberfell.com

Memorial Weekend at River’s Edge May 28 – May 31 Dewy Rose, Ga. camptheriversedge.com

Memorial plans at this gay men’s campground are stacking up as much as the campsite and cabin reservations. Music, parties, cookouts and mountain air are waiting.

Clothing is optional, but fun is not. The kitchen has meals planned, and events around the pool, around the fire, in the hot tub and on the dance floor.

Festival of Colors at Roy’s Hideaway May 28 – May 31 Collins, Ga. royshideaway.com This campground flies its rainbow freedom flag with daily, nightly and afterhours parties. Fun in the sun includes carnival games, camper crawl and male revue.

One Magical Weekend June 2- 6 Orlando, Fl. onemagicalweekend.com OK, so technically it’s not Memorial Day at all, but you may need an extra week to prepare yourself. Orlando opens wide for one of the biggest circuit parties still in existence. There are pumping beats, Red Shirt Day at Disney World, and so much more. theQatl.com 19


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Q Events

The Best LGBTQ Things to Do in Atlanta This Week

DJ Morabito

SATURDAY, MAY 29

Xion, 3 a.m. – 7 a.m. facebook.com/xionatlanta

Big Peach The 35th anniversary of the most popular gay softball tournament brings teams from around the country @ Johnson Park & V-Plex, all day and Sunday too. hslbigpeach.org

The weekend goes long, so you can too. End your Saturday night spinning in Sunday morning @ T-Dance Barbecue DJ Mike Pope takes things outside for flame-grilled goodness, and Big Peach teams wind down their weekend to the beat @ Heretic, 3 p.m. – 9 p.m. hereticatlanta.com DJ Kidd Madonny The Miami heartthrob keeps the party vibe going into the night @ Heretic, 9 p.m. hereticatlanta.com

TUESDAY, JUNE 1 Chunk Big boys get some love with DJs Cake and Dicap, plus hot go-go bears @ Heretic, 10 p.m. hereticatlanta.com Charis Porch Pop-Up

It’s Not a Burden Michele Boyaner and her partner Barbara Green bring this intimate, humorous and heartfelt documentary about adults caring for their aging parents @ On Demand, all month. greeniefilms.com

Special deals outside with the trans- and lesbian-led booksellers @ Charis Books & More, 12 noon – 4 p.m. charisbooksandmore.com

SUNDAY, MAY 30 AquaPOP Your poolside looks are requested at a sexy new pool party featuring DJs Brynn Taylor and Mike Trotter @ District Atlanta, 3 p.m. – 8 p.m. facebook.com/beBOLDatl

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Q Atlus Map Directory The businesses on the preceding pages are integral parts of Atlanta’s LGBTQ landscape. Those listed in boxes are consistent Q partners and community allies. BARS, CLUBS & RESTAURANTS Atlanta Eagle 306 Ponce De Leon Ave NE BJ Roosters 2043 Cheshire Bridge Road NE Blakes on the Park 227 10th St. NE Bulldogs Bar 893 Peachtree St NE Felix’s on the Square 1510 Piedmont Ave NE Friends on Ponce 736 Ponce De Leon Ave NE Future 50 Lower Alabama St SW, Suite 180 Henry’s Midtown Tavern 132 10th St NE The Heretic 2069 Cheshire Bridge Road NE The Hideaway 1544 Piedmont Ave NE Joe’s on Juniper 1049 Juniper St NE Las Margaritas 1842 Cheshire Bridge Road NE Lips Drag Show Palace 3011 Buford Highway NE Mama’s Cocina 1958 Piedmont Road NE Mary’s 1287 Glenwood Ave SE Midtown Moon 1510 Piedmont Ave NE My Sister’s Room 84 12th St Oscar’s 1510 Piedmont Ave NE Roxx Tavern 1824 Cheshire Bridge Road NE

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Sequel Bar 1086 Alco St. NE

Sister Louisa’s 466 Edgewood Ave SE Swinging Richards 1400 Northside Dr NW The T 465 Boulevard SE Tripp’s Bar 1931 Piedmont Circle NE Woof’s Sports Bar 494 Plasters Ave NE X Midtown 990 Piedmont Ave. NE Zocalo Mexican Kitchen & Cantina 187 10th St NE

RETAIL & SERVICES 2Qute Hair Salon 1927 Cheshire Bridge Road NE Barking Leather 1510 Piedmont Ave NE Barking Leather After Dark 306 Ponce De Leon Ave NE (inside Atlanta Eagle) Boy Next Door 1447 Piedmont Ave NE Brushstrokes 1510 Piedmont Ave NE Equilibrium Fitness 1529 Piedmont Ave NE Lost ’n Found Youth Thrift Store 2585 Chantilly Dr NE Urban Body Fitness 500 Amsterdam Ave NE

ADULT Flex 76 4th St NW Southern Nights 2205 Cheshire Bridge Road NE Starship Galaxy/Starship Novelties 2273 Cheshire Bridge Road NE Tokyo Valentino 1739 Cheshire Bridge Road NE


Q Advice

TOUCH

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Yourself

When it comes to sex, I may be too specific about exactly what I want, and too dismissive about what I don’t want. A former boyfriend of mine who became a friend later says that it’s weird how I’m only into giving oral and just not into it when he tries to reciprocate, or when anyone suggests another activity. I honestly don’t care if anything besides oral ever happens, yet other guys can’t cum without “everything else.” I’m amazing at giving pleasure, but why can’t I care enough to do what every other guy wants?

hobble home over my blue balls until I can get the job done in private.

Dear Mouthy:

Some people get offended — or worse, sad and confused – when they can’t be part of getting me off. I can prepare for the moment all day, but when the time comes, I can’t get there.

Don’t stress about wanting what you want. Humans are remarkably diverse in their sexual triggers. So you’re fixated on oral, but “everything else” is not “what everyone else wants. All earthlings do not leave you grappling with this alien issue because you are terminally unique. You’re not. Your friend and some other people like what they like, but your own sexual match(es) are out there — in droves. Still, as much as there is nothing wrong with having preferences, there’s no harm in adding to your roster of moves. Don’t do it for your partners; do it to expand your own horizons. Ease into other climaxes through masturbation, when there’s no pressure to please anyone but yourself. Look at and imagine scenes that give you a full view of what you desire but new stimuli as well. Over time, increase the “other stuff ” and decrease the oral visuals.

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I can’t orgasm when I’m with someone, but I’m Geyser McFountain when I’m alone. I can’t tell you how many times I stop trying, get the other person where they’re going sexually, then

Dear Solo: “Ejaculatory incompetence” is like being pee shy. When someone else is looking, the floodgates run dry. So relax. “Preparing for the moment all day” may be psyching you out. Enjoy the sex without the grand finale in mind. Just like I told Mouthy above, the cure might come via masturbation. Include stimulation in which the person is looking right at you, then slowly increase the ratio of that imagery. You could even get a fellow experimenter to masturbate with you while facing away or blindfolded. Have them look at you once your orgasm has started but not early enough to stop it. Gradually introduce their gaze earlier in the process. It takes time, but the meantime could be super fun. Key words: No pressure! The Q is for entertainment, not counseling. Send burning Qs to mike@theQatl.com. ILLUSTRATION BY BRAD GIBSON

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