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FAMILIES OF CHOICE understandably get a lot of attention in LGBTQ circles. When some parents fail, there’s a community to take up the slack.
Two Atlanta sisters lucked out in the family-of-origin department, landing each other in the bargain. Meet mis-matched siblings Lindzey and Loren Shaffer in this week’s Q Cover story. When Lindzey got cancer, friends and family stepped up, including Loren’s millions of followers and a viral gender-identity video. A double-dose of Q Community in this issue keeps the vibe going. See how one gay dentist and a pair of gay restaurateurs jumped into action for others when coronavirus threatened their own livelihoods. Q Voices finds Ian Aber dances with personal demons in the wake of an LGBTQ suicide in his circle. Other folks wrestle instead with their own lies in Q Advice. Hope rises to the top in both columns. We never leave our community wanting in Q ATLus, either. Find the Q Events calendar for your downtime, the Q Map if you feel lost, advertisers you can trust, and a whole site of fresh daily content on Project Q Atlanta at theQatl.com. Q ATLus. It’s ATL and it’s Us. Write mike@theQatl.com.
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THEY SAY YOU’VE GOT TO TAKE TIME
that should surprise no one in our community.
to be grateful for what you have, that the act
of gratitude will ground you, motivate you and make you appreciate your life more.
Some days, I just live my life and nothing
that happens is so good or bad that it trig-
gers the depression inside me. Then there are
This is some straight-person bullshit. Why
wouldn’t you stop to smell the roses, when you own all the roses?
weeks like this.
I lost another queer friend to suicide this past
week. To everyone that knew him, he was one
of the most bright and bubbly
In truth, I agree in principle,
personalities they had ever en-
but in practice, anytime I have
countered. That’s what he was
ever attempted to make a grat-
to me, too: someone who could
itude list, I am left filled with
light up a room, who could
dread. To me, a gratitude list
make you feel like you were
is everything you have to lose,
the most special person in the
everything that could possibly
world while he talked to you.
be taken from you.
I also knew he struggled with
What if, for instance, the political climate gets any darker or
more foreboding, or the actual
climate goes to shit and society
depression all his life. I knew he had attempted to take his life
before, and that the person he
goes full dystopian?
projected was the best self he wanted to be.
Am I being melodramatic? Of course, but I
He leaves behind a huge void in the lives of the
will attack me with next, and it definitely likes
sion is trying to use his death as a trigger, I know
don’t have full control over what my depression to paint a fearsome and detailed picture to fret and obsess over.
That is how my brain works, and it always has.
people he touched, and as much as my depres-
that the best way to honor my friend is to keep
working on my mental health and be the kind of person he was in the world.
Any moment of success or joy is immediately
I definitely identify with the term “suffering”
“ain’t shit” I am. Any moments of success or
hand. It’s more like a dance. My depression and
followed by a thorough self-analysis of how
joy are just that, fleeting moments in a life of disappointment and struggle.
with depression, but I am done suffering at its
I are tied together at the wrist, each with a knife
in our free hand. I may be suffering, but I am not
I’m not alone. Studies point to queer people hav-
going down without a fight, hunny.
orders than our heterosexual counterparts, a fact
runner in Atlanta.
ing higher occurrences of mood and anxiety dis-
Ian Aber is a stand-up comic, columnist and show-
Prevention the BE
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The staff of Chip Hill, DDS, PC
Expertise and office ‘family’ help LGBTQ dentist weather 2020
disinfected and in keeping instruments sterile,”
By Mike Fleming
For Hill, strict adherence to CDC guidelines
LGBTQ ATLANTA DENTIST CHIP HILL, DDS, PC had a leg up on the rest of the world back in March. As broadsided as anyone by the impact of coronavirus, Hill and his staff were old hands at safety protocols. “In dentistry, we are prevention experts and use universal precautions in keeping our work areas 10 theQatl.com
Hill told Project Q. “As people who have worn
mask regularly for decades, we know they work.
Masks are the best measure to avoid contracting or passing Covid-19 to others.”
was a no-brainer. Above-and-beyond measures
for patient safety, as well as some quick thinking on the business side, were in order, too.
Hill closed his practice completely for 10 weeks beginning in March. With federal payroll
protection and unemployment insurance in
place, the office spent lockdown installing new equipment and additional PPE.
ST PROTECTION “The airborne threat increase with Covid-19
‘The sooner the better for this to be back under control. We miss our patient hugs!’
led to adding new suction devices to control aerosols, air purifying units throughout the
office and increased PPE for our team,” Hill
said. “Once we were again secure in knowing
our team and our patients would be protected, we reopened June 1.”
— Chip Hill, DDS, PC
Upon reopening, the whole staff came back at
full pay, and they have stayed busy since. That’s
seem pleased with the efforts we are putting
eryone else experienced in the age of COVID-19.
As an expert, Hill offered simple, effective ad-
not to say there weren’t intense moments like ev-
into keeping everyone safe.”
“We are a family, and we are there to offer
vice about basic precautions until the pandemic
spirits up by staying in close contact with group
“Social distancing and hand sanitizing/hygiene
support to one another,” Hill said. “We kept our messages and Zoom meetings.”
is behind us.
are excellent safety measures,” he said. “If we
all do our part, we can bring the infection rates
EXPERT ADVICE The new normal at the practice includes masks for patients and limited people in the waiting
area. Visitors can also expect a temperature check and a plexiglass barrier at the reception desk.
Patients seem to welcome the extra precautions and understand the changes, Hill said.
“To offset the ongoing cost of additional PPE,
down while continuing our lives somewhat undeterred.”
There is one thing Hill can’t replace as LGBTQ Atlanta waits for the end of the pandemic, he added.
“The sooner the better for this to be back under control,” he said. “We miss our patient hugs!”
we elected to cease validated parking rather
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Steve MacNeil (left) and Walt Bilinski at No Mas! Cantina.
LGBTQ-owned eatery No Mas! gives back during tough times NO ONE WOULD BLAME WALT BILINSKI and Steve MacNeil if they laid low after losing 90 percent of sales at No Mas! Cantina back in March. Instead, they rose to the occasion of quarantine in some impressive ways. “During lockdown, we focused on being what the community needed during that time,” said Bilinski, who founded the Mexican restaurant and adjacent arts emporium with MacNeil in 1996. “We knew we weren't the only business suffering and that our community was hurting as well.”
Like many local eateries, they opened for delivery and takeout. They also offered grocery delivery by tapping their supply chains, even as grocery stores went dry on some items. “We also started a ‘Feed the Front Line’ campaign and donated a meal for every meal that was purchased,” Bilinski added. “On Cinco de Mayo, usually our busiest day of the year, we donated 2,020 meals to essential workers and front-line workers.” Giving back wasn’t the easiest thing to do, but it was the right move for No Mas!, Bilinski asserted. “Like many other businesses, the pandemic shutdown struck us very hard,” he said. “Along with the health implications of COVID-19, we were certainly stressed about the financial PHOTO BY RUSS BOWEN-YOUNGBLOOD
NO MAS continued wellbeing of our businesses and staff. It was incredibly difficult during the lockdown. We experienced a 90 percent decrease in sales during that time.” One thing helped — a lot. “Focusing on doing what we could for our staff and community is what kept our spirits up and kept us opening the doors day after day,” he said.
‘PART OF THE UNIFORM’
No Mas! reopened under state guidelines in the summer. Revenues improved, and safety became second only to “great food and service,” according to Bilinski. “We wanted people to be able to come to No Mas! and relax and enjoy the experiences they had come to expect before the pandemic,” he said. “We only seat the restaurant at half capacity, so we highly encourage reservations.” Employees remain masked at all times, and patrons must wear them when not actively eating and drinking. Look for hand-sanitizing stations throughout the establishment and consistent re-cleaning of common surfaces. “You will notice that there will be lots of space between the guests and that social distancing is maintained,” the owner said. “We will continue to practice
all the additional safety measures until we are certain that our staff and guests will be safe, so masks will probably be part of the uniform for a while.” “Most people have been very supportive of the changes we have made and feel safe dining in our restaurant and shopping in the Artisan Market,” he added.
HOPEFUL AND RESOLUTE
Bilinski said that everyone at No Mas! is hopeful for the future, despite a rough year. “We are definitely ready for things to get back to the way they were before the pandemic,” he said. “We know as long as we keep putting people first and doing the best we can for our community and staff that things will work out.” With a Castleberry Hill location convenient to concerts and pro sports, No Mas! looks forward to serving margaritas and fajitas before and after events. “It may not be tomorrow, next week or next month, but everything will get back to the way it was,” Bilinski promised. “And we will be here, ready to celebrate with you.” No Mas! Cantina & Artisan Market is at 180 Walker St. SW. Visit the restaurant and shop online or call 404-574-5678.
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‘TikTok sisters’ drive views, LGBTQ attitudes amid cancer battle By Mike Fleming
AT FIRST GLANCE, YOU MIGHT NOT THINK siblings whose styles diverge so much would be super close. Maybe you wouldn’t imagine them collaborating on a clothing line or an international video sensation that addresses gender equality and LGBTQ issues. But if the sisters are Loren and Lindzey Schaffer, you’d be oh-so-very wrong. “People have always been curious about Loren and me as sisters, we’re so different,” Lindzey told Project Q Atlanta. “Loren always hypes me up about how amazing and unique I am, and that people need to hear my story and know about me.” The LGBTQ local, who is a veteran promoter on Atlanta’s nightlife scene, went viral on TikTok in a matter of hours last month for her androgyny, unique style and family bonds. It started when older sister Loren posted about Lindzey’s undeniable fashion sense. A post proving that they are both stunning in their own, completely different ways came next. “Loren felt maybe other androgynous people could relate to me,” Lindzey remembered. “She also wanted to show what it looks like to support family and that it’s OK to be different.” Then bigoted comments about Lindzey’s skater style inspired a third post that became a global sensation. In the video, Loren slammed pre-conceived notions about gender and sexuality. “You guys need to stop telling me that my sister
is my brother,” Loren’s voiceover says in part. “It’s 2020. Women can wear what they want.”
In less than a day, the post racked up an amazing 10 million views and countless messages of support. It’s the kind of “going viral” most people hear about but never experience. Both sisters were humbled by the results, but Loren said she wasn’t surprised. “I knew it would blow up,” Loren remembered. “I made the TikTok and said to her, ‘I hope you know that when I press this button you’re going to be famous. … I had been telling her for years, ‘People just need to see you, if they knew about you, they’d love you.’”
Inspired and Inspiring As much as the messages showed support, viewers also didn’t miss that the videos reference Lindzey’s stage IV cancer. It’s why her hair is short at the moment. In January 2020, the 29-year-old faced a diagnosis that’s all too familiar in her family. The women’s mom had cancer, their aunt has it now, and they lost their dad to colon cancer in 2017. “My entire life changed overnight,” Lindzey said. “When the doctor told me ‘stage IV,’ I felt like I was floating in a dream. That’s the only way I can explain it. I just lost my dad to this. ‘There’s no way. I refuse to believe it.’ I instantly switch on warrior mode. I will beat this.” She sees the battle as much as a fateful duty as a personal challenge, she said. “I want to help as many people as I can that have cancer and people who struggle showing the theQatl.com 19
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world who they are,” Lindzey added. “I was meant for this.”
positive vibes, virtual hugs and prayers.”
After the initial shock of the news, big sister Loren recognized that fighting spirit. It’s a perfect example of who Lindzey is as a person, she said.
posts include hilarious candid moments and ba-
“Lindzey is selfless. She’s always trying to help people,” Loren said. “Friends, family, strangers, spoiling our nephews. She’s very giving. She truly believes she’s going through this whole cancer thing so she can inspire and help others. I agree, wholeheartedly.” Donations poured into a GoFundMe for Lindzey started by their older sister Lisa. At this writing, the campaign is nearing its initial $50,000 goal. Other friends and family have donated, raised funds and comforted Lindzey through tough times. “Fundraisers were held by skateparks, yoga studios, tattoo shops and local artists,” Lindzey said. “Now Loren’s TikToks about me have people sending love and prayers from all over the world. I am so beyond grateful.”
Looking Ahead Lindzey is not out of the woods with her cancer. “There are some tough moments, but I’m feeling so much better than I was a few months ago,” she added. “I’m so grateful for
Fresh TikToks continue to drop, too. Subsequent dass curated content. There’s also a tearjerker for Breast Cancer Awareness Month on YouTube.
The latest TikTok looks at the pair’s burgeoning sense of style while growing up. That said, the women look forward more than back.
“It’s always been our dream to create a unisex
clothing line together,” Loren said. “We’ve already started on it! We’re shooting for Spring 2021.”
The Schaffer drive includes a sense that the family is lucky, despite their history with cancer. Inspiring others is something of a shared mission.
“We realize how fortunate we are,” Loren said. “Our parents always loved and supported our
differences. We have a very close-knit family. Our heart goes out to people with little or no support who are unable to fully be themselves.” Lindzey agreed. “Always be yourself,” she said. “Surround your-
self with people who lift you up and make you want to be a better person.”
Follow the sisters on
TikTok and Instagram
at @loren.schaffer and
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Election’s Over. What Now? Project Q Atlanta founder Matt Hennie hosts a live Q&A with LGBTQ Georgia leaders prepping their moves in the climate of the next presidential term @ Crowdcast, 12 noon. theQatl.com
SATURDAY, NOV. 7 Madames and Divas of the Moonlight Some of the city’s most talented glamazons take the floor every Friday and Saturday night @ Midtown Moon, 11 p.m. facebook.com/midtownmoon
Murder at the Estate Sale Charlene Ball and Libby Ware discuss their new Lily Charles mystery novel, wherein their lesbian characters Molly and Emma solve murders and fall in love. Charis hosts @ Crowdcast, 7:30 p.m. It’s also Charis’ 46th birthday weekend of specials. charisbooksandmore.com theQatl.com 23
EVENTS continued SUNDAY, NOV. 8 Heifer Review Ruby Redd corrals the queens while you down endless mimosas and the food bar @ Midtown Moon, 12:30 p.m. Georgia Out of the Darkness The statewide American Foundation for Suicide Prevention event goes online for 2020, but not without compelling, meaningful opportunities to connect and make a difference @ Zoom, 2 p.m. afsp.org/GAexperience
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6. X Midtown 990 Piedmont Ave. NE
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7. Atlanta Eagle 306 Ponce De Leon Ave NE
13. Urban Body Fitness 500 Amsterdam Ave NE
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these fits your boyfriend, but the upshot for you is the same: disappointment. Sit him down and show him his pattern. Put it on him to fix it, and decide not to rely on him any more until he does.
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My boyfriend tells me what he thinks I want to hear before turning around and doing whatever he wants. He says he’ll pick up milk, then forgets. He says he’ll mail something, and it sits in his backseat for a week. He says he’ll be home at 7 p.m., then rolls in at midnight. When I ask, he unloads about his schedule. I’m busy too, but when I say I’m going to do something, I do it. Isn’t it reasonable to expect the same in return? Dear Busy: Have you ever noticed that everyone is busier than everyone else? It smacks of disregard for others. Some perpetual promisers worry about disappointing others and take on more than they can handle. Others hate conflict, so they agree to everything. A few are actually as selfish as they appear and make assurances to shut you up. I don’t have enough information to say which of
I have a friend who’s always late. Always. I begrudgingly grew used to it, but he recently kept my new acquaintance and I waiting nearly an hour for dinner. We were starving by the time he got there, and my guest left with a bad impression of both of us. Meanwhile, my friend full of excuses. How can I get through that thick skull that late isn’t cute? Dear Doormat: If your friend writes me wanting to change, I’ll give them an earful about grownups being only as good as their word. But since you’re the one writing, I won’t help you try to fix their issues. Occasional trouble scheduling is normal, but acceptance of repeated behavior is on you. Stop being a doormat to habitual tardiness. You could figure out your friend’s patterns and work around them. If they’re perpetually 30, 45, 60 minutes late, factor it in and tell him an earlier start time than everyone else. If he has to wait on you — and by your description, he won’t — all the better to convey your message. Another option is to continue your plans without him. When they show up late and you’re wrapping dinner, maybe he learns over time. Maybe not, but nobody is hungry but him.
I scheduled a Grindr hookup, then decided I wasn’t into it and ghosted without messaging. I figure those are the breaks for random hookups. Am I right? Dear Fickle Pickle: Even if you didn’t owe strangers an explanation, you owe yourself good karma and personal integrity. Your call. You can’t change nature, but worrying without changing your perspective is just emotional self-flagellation. Stop it. Q Advice is intended for entertainment, not professional counseling. Send your Qs to mike@theQatl.com. ILLUSTRATION BY BRAD GIBSON