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The "Do-Over"
he Words of disdain both escaped their lips as they were drenched in a cold sweat from the climactic argument that ensued. The Couples decided to go to their own separate rooms, whispering their final words “I want a divorce” this was Jazmine and Alex’s typical evening that has been going on for several months if not years. You see they were many issues that have been layering over time, issues that never were addressed, and when they did talk, no one listen to understand but only listened to react. In my many marriages that is the underlying issue, is listening to react, where couples only focus on trigger words, so that they can continue to build a case to win a verdict. This is called “Courtroom Marriage” Where the Lawyer, Judge, and Jury is each other, both trying to win a case, drive their points home, and guilt-shame each other in a posture more suitable for them to wave their trophy and say those famous words by the opposing opponent “I told you so...”
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Jazmine and Alex have been married going on 10 years, the courtroom marriage has been a diary of notable entries by both parties only going into the dairies to bring up the evidentiary evidence held against each other so that they can win. “Clap Back” at its finest and each entry must be time-stamped with voice recordings and pictures supporting the infractions or crimes the spouse is culpable of doing. Sadly, many marriages are guilty of doing such actions, we levy their offenses against them and to do so is a clear manipulation tactic at its finest. Marriage suffers from the weight of scrutiny, the inability to forgive, the lack of understanding, and the empathy needed to bathe our spouses with love, because we have a point to make…but at what cost?
