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pointe! magazine asked 300 women questions relating to Our Favorite Things. Look for these diamonds throughout our magazine to see their responses!
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Pointe! East, West, North, South Charleston Favorites . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8 North Charleston Community Events . . . . . . . . 10 Summerville Main Street to Your Street . . . . . . . 11
The Main Pointe! All of My Favorite Things . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 12 Untangled . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 24
Design Pointe!rs Favorite Winter Wardrobe . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 15 The Consigning Fashionista . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 17 A Designing Woman’s Favorite Things . . . . . . . . 22 Photography Hints & Tips . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 38 Welcome to the World of Pinterest . . . . . . . . . . . 40
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CONTENTS
Ask Meg . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 7 It’s the Little Things . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 26 How Do I Love You? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 18
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For the Love of Coffee . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 20 I’m a MOP, I’m a GMOP . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 28 My Kids’ Favorite Things . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 30 Oh, She’s My Favorite . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 32 The Great Outdoors. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 45
growing roots Major changes are taking place outdoors as trees and shrubs prepare for winter. Soon, most will be able to withstand temperatures well below zero. Scientists have found that short days and cold temperatures trigger the development of cold hardiness. During winter dormancy, usually no above ground growth happens, but the plant continues basic metabolic functions and minimal growth/repair below ground. Do you feel the nudging as well this winter season to put down deeper roots and do some reparative work? Do you hear the chilled breezes of winter whisper your name? “Come deeper. There is more for you.” Suggestions for going deeper this winter: 1.
Assess your family system. What has served you well and what has not? Pick just one area for improvement and focus on it. Remember, the truth sets you free. You cannot grow deeper without being honest with yourself.
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Read. One of the greatest resources for growth and repair is the Bible. The intake of new information supports growth.
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Find a friend who listens well. If you’re feeling really gutsy, pick someone who’ll tell you the truth. You cannot grow deeper without sharing your thoughts and feelings – good or bad!
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Do not isolate. You cannot grow deeper alone! It’s fine to sit by the fireplace and read a book but too much time alone, particularly if you’re emotionally isolating, is not good. Inner isolation produces frigid conditions that stifle growth. Your soul cannot survive prolonged chills.
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Forgive. Unforgiveness in relationships, be it with dad, mom, sister, brother, friend, co-worker or even an ex-spouse, will stifle any deepening of your inner root system. Choose to release and let it go. No forgiveness means no growth.
Pointe! Yummy Comfort Food . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 33 Health Simplified. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 42
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Lori Stephanoff Wanda Litchenberg Cindy Van Horn
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Winter can be the best season of the year. As you reflect, correct and put your roots down deeper, you will emerge a stronger and more fruitful person in the spring because of the growth and reparative work you did this winter. In great expectation, g p ,
Senior Pastor, Cathedral of Praise
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Jan 7: Bulldog Breakaway 5K The Citadel, CITADELSPORTS.COM Jan 15: Charleston Marathon Marathon & 5K, N. Charleston CHARLESTONMARATHON.COM
Jan 28: Charlie Post Classic 15K/5K, Sullivans Island Feb 4: Nativity School Flapjack 5K James Island County Park Feb 4: Ashley Ridge Fox Trot 5K Run/Walk, Summerville Feb 11: Go Red Heart 5K Run/Walk Mount Pleasant MUSCHEALTH.COM/GOREDRUN
RACE DISTANCES 5k = 3.1 miles, 10k = 6.2 miles, Half Marathon = 13.1 miles Marathon = 26.2 miles
Feb 25: LifePoint Gift of Life 5K/2K Run & Walk, James Island LIFEPOINT-SC.ORG
Feb 25: MESSA 8K for H2O Folly Beach Pier SPINNER.COFC.EDU/~MESSA
Mar 10: Flowertown Festival Run 10K/5K, Summerville SUMMERVILLEYMCA.ORG
Mar 15: Catch the Leprechaun 5K, Mt. Pleasant CATCHTHELEPRECHAUN5K. BLOGSPOT.COM
Mar 31: Cooper River Bridge Run 10K, Mt. Pleasant/Charleston BRIDGERUN.COM
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MEGAN TURNER
Ask MEG
AS A WIFE AND WORKING MOM WITH 3 GIRLS, MEGAN UNDERSTANDS THE CHALLENGES OF BALANCING HOME, FAMILY AND FRIENDSHIPS. ENERGETIC AND PASSIONATE, SHE LIVES LIFE WITH CONTAGIOUS JOY AND FREEDOM.
“My one year old is whining all the time and seems constantly frustrated. I'm not sure what to do or how to help. Do you have any advice?” — Desperate Mother
you’re around her. Let her know you are aware of her; but, at the same time, spend time with your friends and talk to other girls. Who knows? You might just catch yourself a doe!
Three Words! Baby Sign Language. It will change your life. With a little positive reinforcement, babies learn quickly. They can pick up sign language as early as six to seven months. Recently, my one year old kept waking up several nights in a row. Finally, the other night she did the sign for “eat, eat” and I realized that she must be going through a growth spurt and getting hungry in the middle of the night. I gave her a snack and she went right back to sleep.
“I have been married for eleven years and it still seems that my husband and I are sometimes on a different page. I love him but we fight over the small things. I am just getting tired of it and don’t want to spend the next eleven years having the same petty arguments. How can we move past this?” — Tired Sarah
Trust me, being able to communicate with your child will alleviate so much frustration. There are free online resources that will help you teach your little bundle of joy. Start with the basics (hurt, help, more, eat, drink, and please) and build from there. You’ll love it when they are able to express their needs and wants. Good Luck!
“I really like this girl and have tried to do everything I can to get her to notice me. Why is she not interested in me?” — Boy Looking for Love Every girl ultimately wants to end up with a sweet, perfect Romeo and have the princess, fairy tale story. And there has to be some intrigue! What do I mean by this? Well, women are hunters, too! Imagine you’re planning to go on an amazing hunt. You took time to get all the right gear and make sure your clothes were scent-free, went to bed early, and got up before sunrise to be in the woods at the best time. After all that work, you find the deer tied up in the woods, standing right in front of you. No nervous waiting, no chase, no mystery, and no chance to use your new scope — just there and available. Let’s be honest, it would not be fun, because the heart-racing anticipation of the hunt is a huge part of the adventure. Likewise, in courting a girl, the hunt is a big part of the fun for her. Now I am NOT saying to always be playing games. What I AM advocating is spending time to make yourself intriguing to her. Don’t always come on super strong. Show confidence when
Here’s the number one advice that changed my marriage: assume the best. This is such a foreign concept. The average person you meet does not have your best as their focus. Our experiences growing up often reinforce that message. However, God means for marriage to be different. He intended it to be a safe place where you both feel prized, cherished, valued, and honored. This can be difficult in the beginning and does take practice, but the payoff is priceless. Let’s try it. You call and he says, “Sorry, I’m working late.” What you should not assume is…He always works too much. He doesn’t want to spend time with me. Work is more important than the family. What he should not assume is…She is such a nag, always checking on me. She has no appreciation for the hard work I do and money I bring home. What if you both ASSUMED THE BEST? And you thought…He works hard to provide for us because he cares so much. I know he wishes he could be here. We will make the most of it when he gets home. And he thought…She really misses me; that’s why she keeps calling and texting. She is such a dependable mother; I know when I am gone she takes great care of the kids! Then, when he walks in the door, instead of tension and a cold night, you’re both waiting with passionate anticipation to see each other; and as soon as the kids are in bed, then the sparks fly…just how God intended married life to be!
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favorites
— Stacy E. Domingo
So please, take a moment, join me in being goofy and be glad that my voice isn’t in your heard! When you get a moment, play the original…it’ll make you smile.
The smell of Magnolias And warm sandy beaches A day of fishing And believing in Jesus Bouncing kids flying high on swings These are a few of our favorite things
When our pointe! editor requested an article for this issue, I immediately knew I would have to write on our favorite things about Charleston. This area of South Carolina, called “The Lowcountry” by locals, is an eclectic mix of cultures, religions, and opinions. Newbies will discover that there are some things on which lifelong residents agree. Charleston, historically known as “The Holy City” due to the number of churches established here, was founded by those seeking freedom to worship God in their own way. So it’s not unusual that lifelong residents count God and freedom as two of their most cherished rights. Steeples dot the low skyline in the City of Charleston and throughout the Lowcountry. The variety of architectural styles represent a broad range of denominations all living harmoniously together. Whether old or new, the messages spoken in these sanctuaries are the same: to love one another and be kind to our neighbors. Charleston residents also proudly support our military (Navy, Air Force, and Coast Guard bases are located here). We value people, smiling, and hospitality. And on the list of personal food favorites: we love boiled peanuts and pork barbeque. I have taken the liberty of altering the lyrics of Julie Andrews’s popular song, “My Favorite Things” to fit Charleston’s way of life.
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Juicy, rich melons And home-grown peanuts Iced tea that’s sweet And a few jalapeños Chefs who are masters at cooking hot wings These are a few of our favorite things Horses and carriages strolling the streets Saying hello to new people we meet Mild winters, hot summers, azaleas in spring These are a few of our favorite things Dodging hurricanes Keeping cool over 90 degrees When we could be sad We simply remember our favorite things And then we don’t feel so bad
exceptional dining
— Cindy Van Horn
The picturesque streets of downtown Charleston, South Carolina beckon all to explore. Visitors and residents alike agree there’s nothing like a stroll along the historic streets and around the beautiful parks. With a bit of intentional planning, even busy locals can find time to enjoy all the city has to offer. Through day trips and overnight stays, our family has visited quite a number of the local attractions, restaurants and hotels. We started by spending a day in the downtown area just walking and enjoying the architecture, history and little gems we found “off the beaten path.” Whether we travel the city in a carriage, on a trolley or by plain old “flat-footing it,” discoveries abound! When you’re ready to take a break from shopping or touring the historical buildings and homes, you’ll find some amazing restaurants. If you’re in town to celebrate a special occasion or looking for an exceptional dinner, there’s no better place than The Library at Vendue Inn. Located just a few steps from Waterfront Park and well within walking distance of many Charleston landmarks, Vendue Inn is a well-appointed boutique hotel with excellent service, breathtaking views and a stellar restaurant. The Library is a small, sophisticated restaurant which exudes comfort and luxury, without being stuffy. The atmosphere and service, combined with an award-winning chef, makes The Library a favorite of both residents and visitors. While the focus is “Lowcountry” cuisine, the menu includes updated classics like Shrimp and Grits and slightly more unusual fare like Antelope Shepherd’s Pie. The restaurant highlights local farms, markets and artisans, as evidenced by the nightly fresh seafood specials. No trip to Charleston is complete without an exceptional dining experience and The Library at Vendue Inn is just that. While you’re there, check out the unparalleled view of Charleston from their rooftop! Enjoy!
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North Charleston North Charleston is a vital and growing community with many new and established residential neighborhoods. Not only does it offer great housing opportunities, North Charleston is also the largest retail center in South Carolina! With the opening of the convention center complex in 1999, North Charleston is a center of entertainment. In addition to convention center/exhibition halls, the complex boasts a 14,000 seat coliseum and 2,300 seat performing arts center. Most recently, a versatile event venue, Montague Terrace, has been added. The historic district of North Charleston, known as the Olde Village, has been revitalized in the last few years. This area located on East Montague, brings residents and visitors together with its small family owned businesses, shops and restaurants. Whether you’re hungry for some great barbecue, pizza or down home cooking, the Olde Village is a great place to frequent. And, just a short distance away, you’ll find a beautiful waterfront park with a wonderful restaurant with a Jamaican twist and gorgeous views. Here are just a few of North Charleston’s cultural offerings in this first quarter of 2012: CITY GALLERY EXHIBIT 9am-5pm daily, Convention Center, Free 1/2/2012-1/31/2012 - The City of North Charleston’s 2011/12 Artist-in-Residence, Lori Starnes Isom, presents realist portraits in various mediums. Free reception hosted by the artist on Thursday, January 5, from 5-7pm. 2/1/2012-2/29/2012 - Members of the Goose Creek Artists Guild present works in a variety of mediums and subjects as part of their annual judged show. Free reception hosted by members of the guild on Thursday, February 2, from 5:00-7:00pm. DR. MARTIN LUTHER KING JR. CELEBRATION CONCERT Royal Missionary Baptist Church Saturday, 1/14/2012, 7pm, Free with advance ticket The Charleston Symphony Orchestra Gospel Choir and Spiritual Ensemble present His Light Still Shines, an inspirational tribute to the life and legacy of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Request tickets (limit 4) by sending a selfaddressed stamped envelope with request to Tickets/City of North Charleston Cultural Arts Department/PO Box 190016, North Charleston, SC 29419-9016 OR pick up in person at the North Charleston City Hall (Cultural Arts Department office) or Royal Missionary Baptist Church.
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COMMUNITY EVENTS OPEN STUDIO WORKSHOP The Meeting Place, pre-registration required, $15 Tuesday, 1/31/2012, 10am-12:30pm Adult workshop featuring Monologue Masks with Karole Turner Campbell. Create a collaged mask using music as inspiration and incorporating two of your own personal objects. Tuesday, 2/28/2012, 10am-12:30pm Adult workshop featuring a Jewelry Repair Clinic with Michelle Rose. Discover techniques to spruce up old jewelry. Participants are asked to bring old pieces of jewelry to be redesigned for a modern look. KID’S ART CLASS: BE CREATIVE, ARTISTIC & COLORFUL! Saturdays, 1/21-3/3/2012 (except 2/18), 10am-11:30am The Meeting Place, pre-registration required, $95 Children ages 8-12 will explore different media inspired by the works of famous artists. Lessons in color theory and techniques will include various forms: watercolors, acrylics, oils, colored pencils, watercolor pencils and mixed medias. Materials are included in fee. Space is limited and early registration is encouraged. DINNER THEATRE Friday, 2/10/2012, 7pm, Tickets $37 (group discount avail.) Charleston Area Convention Center Ballroom Lowcountry Delights presented by Actors’ Theatre of South Carolina. Featuring wit, wisdom and romantic songs from the Lowcountry. Love and laughter abound! Menu catered by Embassy Suites. CHILDREN’S THEATRE Sterett Hall Auditorium, Children $2, Adults Free Friday, 2/3/2012, 10am-11am Bright Star Touring Theatre presents Struggle for Freedom, celebrating the work and life of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Experience heroic work of Rosa Parks and the Montgomery Bus Boycott, the March on Washington and more. Featuring songs from the era. For Grades 3 – Adult. Friday, 3/30/2012 2 Performances: 10am-11am & 11:15am-12:15pm Porkchop Productions presents Sticks and Stones. Using its signature whimsical style, this performance addresses the major steps to implement when confronted with a bully. Performance designed to inspire, educate and entertain. For Grades K-8. For more information, contact the Cultural Arts Department of the City of North Charleston at (843) 740-5854 or visit www.northcharleston.org/residents/Departments/Arts
Summerville FROM MAIN STREET TO YOUR STREET— Cindy Van Horn My husband and I have lived near Summerville for over 20 years. Along with our children and our extended family, we’ve eaten at almost every local restaurant, from Eva’s on Main Street to Firewater Grille near I-26. I can say the same for shopping, Third Thursdays and the Farmers' Market on Saturday mornings. Over the years I’ve noticed subtle changes: improvements in business property, landscaping, and even parking. However, I was not aware of the tremendous amount of work behind the scenes by Summerville D.R.E.A.M. (Downtown Restoration, Enhancement and Management) and its members. In a recent visit with Susan Morris, Executive Director of Summerville D.R.E.A.M., I discovered the revitalization of Summerville started with the formation of this organization over 19 years ago. Through countless meetings, extensive research and the relentless dedication of Summerville business leaders and citizens, the non-profit organization was formed and the hard work began. As a member of both state and national Main Street Programs of the National Trust for Historic Preservation, Summerville D.R.E.A.M. has followed the “Main Street Approach” to downtown development and promotion. This approach joins historic preservation and economic development to market Historic Downtown Summerville to residents and guests.
Now, as I walk through the Town of Summerville, I’m even more aware of the hours, days, months and even years of work that have culminated in a fun, growing, relevant and close-knit community. Thank you Summerville D.R.E.A.M. and all business members for making Summerville one of my favorite things!
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n the Third Thursday of every month, the historic downtown Summerville district throws itself a party. Hutchinson Square, the park in the center of downtown, becomes an entertainment venue. The pedestrian mall area, called Short Central, becomes a street fair and Art Central Gallery sponsors Art Walk with booths of artists and artisans selling their crafts and artworks. It’s a perfect chance to get acquainted with the historic downtown area of Summerville in one lovely evening. Come join us! Every Third Thursday every month Center of Downtown Summerville 5:00- 8:00pm Questions? Contact Summerville D.R.E.A.M. (843) 821-7260 or info@summervilledream.org For a full listing of other events and to locate business members of Summerville D.R.E.A.M., go to www.summervilledream.org
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“Through the organization of events to promote area businesses and to bring visitors to our town,” says Morris, “our popularity has grown! The volunteer hours spent in cleaning up the downtown area, from power-washing sidewalks to landscaping, are part of why this community is unique.”
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ALL MY — Jeff King
I had a favorite T-shirt once. It was a birthday gift from a friend and fit me perfectly. It was the softest tuxedo T-shirt I had ever seen. My wife, however, did not share my love for this T-shirt. I’m not sure what she did with it, but after I wore it to my cousin’s wedding rehearsal dinner, she made sure I’d never find it again. Actually, I think she cut it into pieces and sent them to the far corners of the earth. Fortunately, that T-shirt was not my favorite thing.
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y favorite football team is the New Orleans Saints. It’s probably less of a “favorite football team” and more of an “obsession.” I grew up in New Orleans and being a Saints’ fan is part of my DNA. I know it’s crazy that the entire week’s mood rests on the ability of 53 guys that I’ve never met to score more points than 53 other guys that I’ve never met, who happen to be wearing a different color outfit. That’s the rational side of me. The more dominant irrational side of me, though, still forks out $300 per season to make sure I’m able to watch every game, all while wearing a jersey and screaming at strangers on my television. And this thirty-something year old man, with a wife and kids, even got a tattoo of a fleur-de-lis (the Saints’ logo). Even still, the Saints are not my favorite thing. I love exercising and playing all sports. So much so that I wake up at 4:40 a.m. every morning to make sure I’m able to get to the gym m that day. The problem is, however, exercising doesn’t love me. I’ve dislocated both shoulders and a hip and torn ligaments in both ankles, both knees, and an elbow. My body cracks so much that when I get out of bed, it sounds like I was lying on bubble wrap. Working out is not my favorite thing.
in our backyard. So far, we’ve gotten about four dozen eggs. That comes out to roughly $16 per egg…not dozen…PER EGG! The chickens are not my favorite thing. So what IS my favorite thing? It’s not something I own, watch, do or wish I could eat. No, my absolute favorite thing is the feeling I get during those seemingly tiny moments that happen throughout the day. It’s the kiss my nine-year-old daughter gives me every morning, the noise my wife makes when I start to massage her shoulders. It’s the dry delivery of a joke my 11-year old tells that reveals he has my sense of humor. It’s staring at my four-year-old in the rearview mirror as he’s asking me the absolute craziest questions. These are the moments I live for. These are the moments I will cherish forever. Because these moments, these beautiful moments, may be the only time my mind is off how much money I’m spending per egg.
We have four chickens, two cats, and one dog. Reluctantly, I’d have to say the chickens are my favorite because they’re relatively quiet, don’t use the restroom in the house, and they give us eggs. Initially, my wife let them sleep in a modified Tupperware container in our bedroom. I woke up thinking I lived on “Green Acres,” without the talking pig. After six weeks and $800, I built a chicken coop
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Favorite go-to accessory? 40% will choose a purse
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favorites revisited — Brooks Hearn
Nearly everyone has a favorite item in their closet. It may be a go-to black dress, a knit scarf, a hat with sentimental value, or a pair of shoes that just seems to tie any outfit together. Being a lover of fashion, I can’t settle on just one favorite. Trends and seasons come and go, but some items are worth keeping around from year to year. Of course, if it’s staying in your wardrobe, it’s worth keeping in top shape. Prolong the life of a favorite pair of shoes by using shoe polish or protectant. You may also take shoes to be professionally repaired between seasons. I have a beloved pair of riding boots that desperately need to be resoled in order to make it through the upcoming fall/winter season. Because these boots were such an amazing find, I consider them nearly irreplaceable, and therefore worth the extra maintenance. Closet pests are no joke. I discovered this firsthand upon pulling a favorite argyle sweater off the shelf, only to discover a large moth hole in the right sleeve. Protect out-of-season items by
storing them in containers that keep pests away. Additionally, you’ll gain extra closet space to help you sort through in-season clothes and accessories. Proper tailoring can allow you to continue wearing favorite pieces. A creative tailor or seamstress may also “reinvent” a beloved but tired article into something fresh. A word of caution to those who hold on to everything in their closet: it may be time for a little fashion intervention. If you don’t know the difference between “vintage” and “last season,” ask a trusted friend or family member to lend their (constructively) critical eye to your wardrobe. If the item is beyond repair, you may want to consider letting it go. Decide which pieces will be wearable and which ones are just taking up closet space. Certain garments and accessories can always recall great memories or accentuate your best features. With a little care and a discerning eye, you can keep a balance between fashion-forward and favorite pieces to maximize your personal style.
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The Consigning — Stephanie Gammons
Fashionista
My love for “thrifting” and “consigning” started while I was in college, working part-time, with very little money for clothes. Still wanting to look cute, I hit the local thrift stores and soon fell in love. I found so many great clothes at incredibly low prices. Imagine a whole outfit for under $20! Now college, a husband and three kids later, my heart still beats strong for consignment shops and thrift stores. Here are a few things I have learned along the way:
1. Give yourself time L the saying goes, “You may have to kiss a few frogs before Like you get a prince.” With thrift stores, you may have to look past the polyester pants and faded jeans before you find a gem. I’ve found so many name brand clothes sandwiched between a tacky Christmas sweater and a neon windbreaker. However, many consignment stores now only accept “in style” clothes which really saves the shopper a lot of time.
2. Shop for the future At the end of last summer, I found winter gloves for my kids for $0.25 each. I wasn’t shopping for gloves, but knew my kids would need them in a few months and I couldn’t beat the price. Many people donate their old Halloween costumes which are great for dress-up clothes. Pick up that adorable sweater, even if it is 100 degrees outside. Come winter, you will be so happy you did.
3. If you don’t love it...don’t buy it! I always tell myself, “Somebody gave this away or is selling it for a reason.” It could be their weight fluctuated or it may fit funny. Be sure to check the item over completely. Just because something is $2 doesn’t mean you have to buy it!
4. Don’t be specifics crazy If you need a new pair of jeans, certainly look at the jeans section, but look throughout the entire store. You may find a cute scarf or even that cheesecake pan you keep forgetting to buy. My favorite piece of furniture in my house is an old wooden dresser purchased for $20 at a thrift store (while I was actually looking for black pants.)
5. Get free clothes! Every consignment store works differently. But many will buy your clothes and give you store credit or cash. Why not organize your closet and make room for new items? Also, when you donate items, many thrift stores will give you a discount coupon to use on your next purchase.
6. Shop with company It’s always more fun to shop with friends and hunt for treasures together. And if sometimes you question your fashion taste, a true friend will tell you if you are headed in the right direction.
Take a break from the mall and outlets. Give your local thrift and consignment stores a chance! I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised.
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HOW DO I LOVE YOU? LET ME COUNT THE WAYS
— Alyce Reeves
One characteristic of happily married couples is their ability to appreciate each other. They seem to actually like each other. Not only do they touch and look at each other affectionately, they say wonderful things to each other. Did they marry a perfect person? What is the secret of all that joy and pleasure? The answer may lie in the way you think about your sweetheart. By focusing on what’s good and what you like in your mate, your feelings become more positive and you’re more likely to receive goodness back. This does not mean you ignore problems or deny they exist. Certain unloving, disrespectful, and sinful behaviors need to be addressed and dealt with in order to have a happy and healthy marriage.
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It is important and fun to go on a daily treasure hunt of your favorite things about your honey. Here are some simple ways to motivate your thinking.
Remember the reasons you fell in love. What first attracted you to him? What qualities captivated your heart and soul? Was it his strength and self-confidence that made
you feel secure? Was it his sense of humor that made you laugh when you were angry? Was he easy to get along with and a good listener? Or maybe it was his big broad shoulders and the way you felt when he held you close? He is still that person. Tell him your favorite memories.
Make a “Love List” Begin a journal of your favorite things about your husband. Write down two or three things daily for a month, even if you are currently unhappy with each other. Watch how God works in you and your husband as you change your focus from the negatives to the positives. You can discover things to add to your love list when you: THINK ABOUT HIM. Remember good things he has said and done for you in the past, and you will find many ways to admire and appreciate him. Think about the intentions of his heart, the ways he shows his love and commitment to the family, and the good times you have had together. Add those qualities to your love list. OBSERVE HIM. What are the physical things you love about this man? Note anything you like that is part of his masculinity — like his large build, his strong muscles, his manly beard, his deep voice, his amazing athletic abilities, his competitiveness to win, or even his lovemaking. Maybe you appreciate his work in the yard, his ability to repair something, or his desire to carry heavy things for you. Watch him and take notes.
honor, courage, unselfishness or a desire to protect and provide for his family? LISTEN TO HIM. Get him to talk about himself, his work, his recreational activities, his favorite team, or his politics. Do not listen only to what he is saying, but to the man who is saying it. As you really hear him, you will find many wonderful things about this man you love. PLACE FRAMED PICTURES IN VIEW. What you look at will affect your thinking, so make sure to have many photos of you two around the house. Photos from milestone events, routine days, and good memories will visually remind you of things you love about your sweetheart. And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. Philippians 4:8 There are tremendous rewards for counting all the ways you love and cherish your husband. Begin today!
DATE NIGHT FAVORITE
IDENTIFY HIS TRAITS
Emotional
What are the things about your husband that touch your soul? Does he make you feel loved, capable, beautiful, sexy, smart, secure, or successful? Do you love the way he is with the children? Does he help with the meals, laundry, chores, or finances? Is he good with people? What are the ways he makes your life better? Write them down and watch your love grow.
Mental In what areas do you appreciate his ability to think and solve problems? Think of the times he has had a good idea or a plan that worked for your situation. How does his way of thinking complement yours? Appreciate the way he thinks and works.
Spiritual If your mate seeks to know God, goes to church, desires to please God, is teachable and growing in the Lord, then you have many precious blessings to add to your list of favorites. Don’t take these qualities for granted. What Christ-like characteristics do you see in your sweetheart – love, joy, peace,
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For the Love of Coffee The scent, the flavor, and the company of a cup of coffee. — Dr. Linda Karges-Bone
I’m going to Seattle for the first time around the time this article goes to print, and I shall make a pilgrimage. Not to a cathedral or a shrine, but to the original Starbucks™ store in the Pike’s Place Market. It will probably be the high point of my visit. You see, I am a certifiable, committed, happily caffeinated, coffee aficionado.
Starbucks™ began its climb toward fame in 1971; but my relationship with the java began even earlier, in my grandmother’s kitchen in Queens, that part of New York City where little Italian ladies brew some of the richest coffee this side of Italy. My sisters and I learned to sip coffee in colorful china cups, a concoction of café con leche — much heavier on the sugar and milk than the coffee, but the taste still unmistakable. Hence, one of my favorite things, to this day, is a cup of coffee.
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I like a big mug of coffee in the morning, early. Setting up my fancy brewing machine the night before, so that no time is wasted before the scent and sounds of freshly ground beans permeate the house, is a nightly ritual. The formula includes the dark roast beans, a tablespoon of sugar-free vanilla or hazelnut syrup (per pot) and cold water. Each cup, and I need at least two to participate fully in human
company, will require a packet of sugar-free sweetener and two squirts of fat-free whipped topping (canned) or a tablespoon of the tub variety. Years ago, my sisters and I discovered that whipped topping adds the “lightness” of milk, plus an added, sweet creaminess. My grandmother, Anna Peretti LaPorta, would have found the use of anything other than cream or full-bodied milk to be a sacrilege. I can still hear her saying, “Where is the cow?,” her name for the milk. Once, as a new bride, Grandma visited my home. I wanted the coffee service to be perfect, so I baked a cake, spent half my weekly grocery budget on premium coffee, and found an actual china “cow” creamer to pour the milk from. She talked about it for years afterward and I was very pleased.
It’s so sweet. Or, maybe he has learned that I am much sweeter when my coffee needs are met. At any rate, when I thank God for the small things that make life a bit more pleasant and pliable, I thank Him for “Coffea Arabica” the scientific name for my favorite plant. Clearly, this was part of the work of Genesis chapter one: “God saw all that He had made and it was very good.”
In addition to the china “cow,” I have collected a number of artifacts to support my coffee commitment: tins for the beans, mugs from workshops and travels, and at least three types of brewing machines. Details on these would require another article, but at least one of them makes individual frothy cups of different coffee beverages. Amazing! What goes in these machines? Coffee from places that I visit is part of the ritual. Costa Rica provided some of the most robust flavor ever and a pound bag cost less than two American dollars in the “supermercado.” I brought home as much as my luggage and US Customs would allow. It was gone in a month. Lots of folks rave about the Kona blends of Hawaii. I brought some back, but they weren’t as amazing as I had hoped. The coffee in Italy was fabulous, but I may be prejudiced, since it is the homeland of my ancestors. My favorite things…coffee is certainly one of them, but it isn’t the brew alone that brings me pleasure. The company and memories attached to so many cups of hot java over the years contribute to my passion. Long afternoons with my best friends and sisters. Early mornings with my daughters. Meetings with clients and colleagues. Each of these scenarios include coffee and conversation, a special, significant connection. Oddly, my husband of three decades doesn’t like coffee. At all. In the early years, he would balk at dollars spent on the brew or grudgingly allot time on trips finding coffee for his bride. I consider it an authentic sign of his love for me and his ability to grow and change that he now hunts the coffee for me, especially when we travel. “Look,” he’ll say, “they have the kind you like.”
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Favorite Th i ng s — Karie Calhoun
There are several favorite things that I like to keep an arm’s length away in case that decorating mood hits me. You know what I’m talking about…the actual moment when you cannot stand it any longer, and you must re-arrange a room; or that empty spot on the bookcase keeps calling out for an accessory, and you can no longer look at the void. Most people think they need to run out to the store and purchase an item for here, there or wherever. Years ago, I started creating my own in-house store. I would see something on sale or at a yard sale and pick it up to add to my collection. Now I keep several items on hand, not only for my own personal clients but for myself, too.
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My kids never know when they walk into the house whether or not I’ve re-arranged or added something new. There is always a surprise at our house and never a dull moment.
Some of my favorite things include: • PAINT FAN for selecting colors. • NOTEBOOK for keeping magazine photos or other ideas that you like. • TREASURES from a yard sale – think about using someone else’s trash as your treasure even if you have to paint it or add to it. • FABRICS! FABRICS! FABRICS! Stripes, solids, patterns, I just love fabrics! • ARTWORK – unusual artwork is fun or create a family photo collage. • WINDOW TREATMENTS add so much to a room. • BOOKS – use them to stack on a bookcase. With the spines outwards, you will create color; with the pages turned out, you will create a neutral palette. • AREA RUGS can help anchor a seating area. • FRESH FLOWERS are an amazing addition for company or especially for your family, just because! • DISHES or CHINA to set a breakfast room table – colorful or neutral.
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the joy of a fairy-tale ending — Anna Micheaux
As a woman in my early forties, I’m proud to admit I still love a cartoon. Bring on the animated features. We often miss them in the theater, so it was about a year after it’s release that we finally saw Tangled.
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t’s a captivating story – a lost damsel searching for her true identity, somehow knowing deep inside that she was meant for more than the walls of her tower. If you haven’t seen Tangled, it’s the modernized Disney version of the German fairy tale about Rapunzel, a beautiful princess with long golden hair, imprisoned in a tower. In this animated version, Rapunzel was stolen from her royal nursery as a small child. The evil captor lies to her, deceiving her into believing that she is her mother. She really only wants Rapunzel for the age-defying powers in her golden locks.
The expression on the king’s face told more than any dialogue or narration ever could. A parent’s heart never stops looking. Kingly countenance clouded with wearying grief. I was struck to the core. For the first time, I think I glimpsed how God’s face would look every time He thinks of children of His heart who have not yet found their way home. Hearts deceived by an evil force using them to satisfy an insatiable desire for eternal life and glory reserved only for the true heirs and heiresses. Just one more time. Let the light shine. Let all inhabitants of the kingdom join in. Send up the beacons. Seek the lost. Bring them home.
The expression on the king’s face told more than any dialogue or narration ever could. A parent’s heart never stops looking.
On the day Rapunzel was born to the king and queen of a nearby kingdom, all the residents filled the sky with beautiful, floating lanterns. Each year on her birthday, her brokenhearted parents still release the lanterns — hoping, longing, wishing, praying, and dreaming of finding their precious daughter. Year after year, Rapunzel has seen the lanterns from her tower and dreams of seeing them in person one day.
It’s their daughter’s 18th birthday. The king and queen prepare yet again to launch their one light that will signal thousands to send up their lanterns. Will the princess see? Will she return? Had they decided this would be the last year they would try or had they committed to continue until the princess returned or death snuffed out their own lights? Little did they know she was still alive and had grown into a lovely young lady who would soon prove that royalty will find a way to express itself, even in obscurity.
And finally, this year, as in all good fairy tales, the princess returns and the whole kingdom celebrates. If that’s what happens in the wonderful world of Disney, can you imagine the celebration in heaven when one child of God who has been lost for so long, escapes the clutches of evil and comes home?!?! It’s a party of eternally extravagant proportions. A celebration that outshines all celebrations.
And isn’t that the true heart of all celebrations? The WHO and not the WHAT. We celebrate the people in our lives and restored relationships. Perhaps there are things in your life that need a little untangling: in your relationship with God or with a parent, loved one or friend. Go ahead and take the chance. You may well find the light has been burning and the arms are wide open. Or maybe someone simply needs to come home to you. Open the door. Perhaps this is the time the favorite part of all fairy tales will happen to you — “And they lived happily ever after.”
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IT’S THE little THINGS — E. Otto Tilley
Whether you’re decorating a room, creating a beautiful centerpiece or getting ready to plant those seasonal flowers, it’s the little nuances of personal touch that make the difference. By paying attention to details, a space becomes a favorite place.
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So what if you took the same principle of personal touch and used it in your relationships with family, friends and acquaintances? I don’t think there’s a better New Year’s resolution than deciding to take time for the people in your life. So here are my favorite “personal touches”: 1.
SMILE AND LAUGH; it’s contagious! It’s a proven fact that smiling is contagious and changes our mood. Even if we don’t feel so well, the act of smiling or laughing will change our mood and the atmosphere around us. You’ve seen it in Charles Dickens’ A Christmas Carol. Even old Scrooge himself would get caught up in the smiles and laughter of the scenes he watched. A smile warms the heart and laughter breaks the bitter crust that can make hearts cold.
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“LOOK INTO MY EYES.” That corny catch phrase of hypnotists holds tremendous power because eyes are the window to the soul. The simple art of eye contact has been lost in our culture. When you make direct eye contact with someone, you validate them as a person and they gain a greater sense of connectedness.
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“HAVE YOU HUGGED YOUR ______ TODAY?” There really is power in a touch. A firm handshake is great; but as the conversation continues, take the next step. A gentle touch on the arm or shoulder says, “You have my full attention.” And, if it seems appropriate, you can even give them a big hug. Bill Keane, the Family Circus cartoonist said it well, “They invented hugs to let people know you love them without saying anything.”
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“IF YOU DON’T HAVE ANYTHING NICE TO SAY...” Words are incredibly powerful. Think of people as paintings and your words as the brush strokes that bring out the hidden details of each masterpiece. What can you say to someone that maybe no one else has noticed? Maybe it’s the way they light up a room with their smile or the way they make you feel when they’re near? Take time to speak kind words.
Now let’s put it all together. You have a “get together” and invite your coworkers, friends, and neighbors. Notice the touches, a pat on the shoulder, a gentle grasp of the arm. Watch as they look into each other’s eyes, smile and laugh. The laughter becomes contagious and spreads across the room, warming the hearts of all. Conversations, filled with love, kindness and hope, fill the love tanks of those who were empty and bring life to the atmosphere! Now you’re getting it. estment that will pay You’re making an investment ars to come. great dividends for years You’ve discovered the greatest resource on the face of the planet...people.
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that you have ever received? Almost HALF said a hand-written note, card, or drawing
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I'M A — Rachel Scholl
Our Mothers of Preschoolers (MOPS) group has been a huge blessing and encouragement to me since joining almost two years ago. It’s always the highlight of my week because it’s an uplifting time spent with friends. I enjoy every minute!
and beautiful personality. It’s so much fun watching them open up and share more as the weeks go on. I love having the opportunity to pray for each of them and hopefully be an encouragement to them. We enjoy listening to wonderful speakers and doing fun crafts. It can be a melting pot of ideas, too. Moms share craft ideas they’ve done with their kids. At Christmas time we all throw in ideas on decorations, baking, family traditions or fun things to do with kids around town. It’s also wonderful seeing ladies encourage each other through sharing their struggles and victories of motherhood. MOPS is a safe place where moms feel comfortable being themselves and enjoy doing life together. I’d love to see more moms get involved with MOPS. Not only do I believe all moms need a break at least once a week while someone else watches the kids, we need and enjoy time with each other. Through our relationships, teaching topics and personal tips/ideas, we grow in our confidence of being a godly mom and wife. MOPS has blessed me tremendously and I know it has done the same for many others!
My husband and I moved to Charleston two years ago and didn’t know a soul. Once we found a church, I started looking for ways to meet other people. I had previously heard of MOPS but didn’t know much about it. So, I thought I’d give it a try and I fell in love with it the first time I went! Here were other women in the same stage of life with so many things in common. We all had kids, loved the Lord and wanted to grow through friendships with one another. God designed us to have relationships and some of life’s greatest joys can be found in those positive relationships. The women at MOPS genuinely cared and wanted to know about me and who I am. I felt loved and accepted immediately and knew this was right where I was supposed to be. This year, I’m serving as a table leader and having a blast! I love getting to know all the ladies at the table! They each have a unique
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— Vicki Vincent
When a good friend asked me to be a Mentor Mom for MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers), even the name appealed to me. I love to mentor. I love being a mom. What could be more fun than getting together with young women who are looking for friendship, parenting tips, or just a well-needed break? I was amazed at my first meeting with this group. I was told to just pick a table and whoever sits at the table would be our mentees. As I begin to meet these young women, I couldn’t help but remember what it was like at this age when I was a young Air Force wife and mother of three. I didn’t have a MOPS group, but I am so grateful to have had some mentor moms to help me through those early years. Even more special was discovering most of the women sitting at our table were military wives. Now THAT is one of my favorite things. They have to deal with everything here at home that life throws at them while their husbands are gone. And they’re not gone for just a few weeks; these husbands are overseas, fighting for our freedom. I love being able to tell them that God, not Uncle Sam, is the Author of their assignments. He always puts us on a path where our journeys merge with others to do life together. And, as in my own journey, you become fast friends for a lifetime. I love watching their lives connect with each other. I love hearing one mom tell another about some great tip on potty training. I love watching their faces as I tell them that not one of my children graduated high school wearing a diaper. As I look in their faces, they are just asking the same question we’ve all asked ourselves at one time. Do I have what it takes to be a mother? Do I have what it takes to be a wife? Will I make friends? Am I loveable? Do I matter? Will I be safe here? This is where my heart wants to jump out of my body and exclaim, “YES, YES, and YES!” There is nothing more fulfilling than offering hope to someone; and MOPS is one of those amazing places to connect, find a bit of advice, or just get a big hug. And, much to my delight, I now call myself a GMOP (Grandmother of a Preschooler)!
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Favorite things My Kids’
— Tracy Perrine
When the two oldest asked how they could know for sure we had checked on them, I started leaving a Hershey’s Kiss under their pillow with a note that said, “You’ve been kissed.” Since chocolate melts in the heat of summer, I often cut out a Kiss from brown wn foam paper and write on it “You’ve been kissed.” In the morning, ning, they turn it in to me for one real kiss and one chocolate kiss. It’s very important to our kids, especially the younger ones, to celebrate half-birthdays. Our five-year-old was having a particularly hard couple of weeks. When I realized it was close to his half birthday, we celebrated with his favorite cake and dinner. We asked as many times as possible, “How old are you?” so he could say the half year with a big smile! We now celebrate everyone’s half-birthday, often letting the half-birthday child also pick the family movie or game. This gives us another night on the calendar to be together.
I have to say, my most favorite thing is my family. I absolutely adore my husband. Even when I get him into all sorts of events and harebrained schemes, he hangs in there with me. Most of my schemes involve something for our five children, so he’s usually not opposed to the silly things in life that make memories. We both understand the value of a strong family heritage for our children. My favorite memory-maker for our children has always been date night for me and my husband. You would think a date (I mean a real “leave-the-house and leave-the-kids-with-a-babysitter” date) wouldn’t excite them, but it does. We’ve explained to them that when they’re grown with families of their own, Dad and I want to still be in love with each other. That means we have to spend time together now. Of course, the first thing we do when we get home is check on them and kiss them good night.
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I have to confess, I’m not a big picture-taker or scrapbooker, but I wanted a way to record what was happening in our lives. Our solution: take an hour on one Sunday each month to remember our favorite things about the previous month. Each child gets a sketchbook page to record their memories. Last August one son did a page about his birthday party. Another child did a page on her new friends and classes; one did a page on his first time knee boarding and another on his All-Star baseball tournament. The youngest had a page of pictures taken with him and everyone else on their first day of school. We’ve had such fun encouraging the children to share their own story. Our family always enjoys dramatizing stories, commercials or whatever. Our daughter loves to act and direct and can talk her brothers into all sorts of roles. We created a new dinnertime game we call “imitate a person in our family.” One person acts out happy emotions and events while the others guess. Absolutely hysterical! We’ve learned a lot about how our kids see us. And it’s brought up great conversations about how to handle life. The best part is my husband and I have been able to respond to things we didn’t know were happening in times when the kids were together playing on the trampoline or walking the dog. It’s been a great insight into their hearts and ours. You, too, can make everyday life something to celebrate. Just start looking for a few small things and make a big deal out of them. Remember — it’s the silliness that makes it fun!
Kiddo Classes
Bottles 'n Brushes
— Alyssa Maute
If you’re looking for a great time to share with your girlfriends, here’s an idea…paint. Not the inside or outside of the house, but on a canvas, with real artist paint and brushes, at a painting party! At Bottles ‘n Brushes, professional artists teach you how to paint step-by-step in a fun and social environment. All it takes is a desire to have fun; a love of art helps, too! “Bottles ‘n Brushes gives everyone a chance to be a painter. Even people who are scared of being creative can go home with their very own painting,” says artist Danielle Cain.
Sign-up, show-up, and paint! We offer after school classes, weekend sessions, birthday parties, and camps for kiddos that love art!
one night - your masterpiece
Summerville 120 North Main Street 843.419.6077 www.bottlesnbrushes.com
In addition to adult classes, Bottles ‘n Brushes hosts kiddo art classes, birthday parties, private parties and art camps. “Often a parent asks me to help fix their child’s painting. I’m thinking, ‘Are you sure? Because that one very small, beady eye and one very large eye on that panda bear are AWESOME!’ It’s just going to be great to look back at your five year old’s painting with them when they are grown and laugh together about that lopsided panda,” says artist Lyndsey Kemper. Bottles ‘n Brushes offers art lovers of all ages the opportunity to be creative in a very unique environment. In just a couple of hours one night or day, you can create your masterpiece!
Bye-Bye Winter Blues
Crafts That Cheer!
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favorite! When you’re feeling sad or “on empty,” what refuels you? Almost HALF said they call someone to talk or hang out.
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I am the oldest of three girls. From my two sisters, I have been tremendously blessed with four beautiful nieces who range in age from ten-years to fivemonths old. Because my nieces live in other states, I don’t have the opportunity to see them as often as I would like.
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find myself in frequent conversations with my sisters for updates on their activities. Not an update goes by without me being in stitches, laughing at some new adventure, word, or story shared about one of the girls. There is nothing like hearing the unedited, uncut, version of how a chain of events really happened. Like how the letters from the computer keyboard really came off, how the hair moisturizer really ended up as facial cream, or how the crayon colorings on the windows in the front of the house really got there. And with every moment shared, I am transported into their world, not just in my mind, but also in my heart. Recently, during one of those catch-up conversations, my daughter and I were in the same room. She listened intently to my dialogue with my sisters and to my frequent outbursts of laughter as I heard yet another hilarious saga. As my sisters offered the update on each one, at the end of the story, I would end my laughter with, “Oh, she’s my favorite!” While it didn’t matter which niece or how naughty or nice the story, my response was consistently the same, “Oh, she’s my favorite!”
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When I ended the call with my sisters, my daughter sat and listened to my recap of the events as I shared a second laugh with her. We chatted about how smart, mischievous, and precious they each are. And, then she asked, “But Mom, how can they all be your favorite?” Without pause, I responded, “It’s easy; I just love them like that!” One of the definitions in the Merriam-Webster Dictionary for favorite is, “a person who is specially loved.” Isn’t it amazing how specially loving others causes us to find our “favorite” in them? Pause for a moment and think about each person in your life whom you “specially love.” Consider the joy you receive from their smile, the laughter you receive from their stories, even the compassion you feel as you walk with them in their challenges. Each one holds a place in your heart reserved only for them – a place that is uniquely theirs which no one else can fill. A place created by God with the capacity to accommodate unending delight, enjoyment, amusement, and so much more. And I am confident that the same place exists in His heart for me and for you. Each day, in every hour, and within each moment, His special love comes to each of us wrapped in gifts of blessings, with an affectionate declaration…“Oh, she’s my favorite!”
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You will need to double this recipe for an 8 x 11" baking dish. Separate eggs, yolks in small dish and egg whites in mixing bowl for meringue. Put vanilla wafers on bottom of baking dish; add sliced bananas on top of wafers. In a medium saucepan combine sugar, salt and cornstarch. Gradually stir in evaporated milk and water, cooking over medium heat. Add egg yolks one at a time and stir constantly until mixture thickens. Take off heat; add butter and vanilla. Pour filling over bananas and wafers. Add another layer of wafer, bananas and filling. Top with meringue.
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Chocolate Chip Cookies Your favorite comfort dessert? It's a close call… Chocolate Chip Cookies won with 30% and Banana Pudding came in a close second at 29%.
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Baked Mac 'n Cheese
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Favorite comfort food? 1 out of 3 gals want Mac & Cheese!
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Black Bean Soup 10 slices bacon, finely chopped 2 cups onions, chopped 6 garlic cloves, pressed 1 (14½-ounce) can chicken broth 1½ cups canned chopped tomatoes 2 tablespoons ketchup 2 teaspoons Worcestershire sauce 1 tablespoon chili powder 4 (15½-ounce) cans black beans, drained but not rinsed Salt/pepper 1 bunch cilantro (optional) juice of ½ lime (optional) Sliced scallions, sour cream, grated cheese for garnish 1.
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Buttermilk Fried Chicken
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Soak chicken overnight (at least 8 hours and up to two days) in buttermilk with onions, herbs, paprika, and cayenne pepper. Drain in colander, leaving some herbs on chicken. Heat 2 cups oil in a large skillet on medium high heat until a pinch of flour starts to sizzle when dropped in the hot oil (but not so hot that the pan is smoking). In a large paper or plastic (sturdy) bag, mix flour with seasonings. Place chicken pieces in bag with flour and shake until thoroughly coated. Add chicken to hot pan and fry on 1 side for 12-15 minutes, until golden brown, and then use tongs to turn the pieces over and fry for another 10-12 minutes, again until golden brown. Be careful to keep the oil hot enough to fry the chicken, but not so high as it burns the chicken.
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Prepare and cook chicken in broth/stock. In bowl, mix Bisquick and milk until soft, add more Bisquick if needed so not too sticky. Drop by spoonfuls onto boiling soup. Reduce heat; cook uncovered 10 min. Cover; cook 10 minutes longer. Salt/pepper to taste.
Meatloaf Meatloaf: 1½ 1 1 ¾ 2
pounds ground beef onion, finely chopped green pepper, finely chopped cup bread crumbs eggs, beaten
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Lots of people agree on the importance of photos to preserve memories. Sometimes it’s difficult to know how, when and where to get the best shots. It’s great to have the quick photos we snap at life events, but to preserve this moment in time can take a little planning and knowledge. We asked three local photographers for some pointers.
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LOCATION The Charleston area is filled with great locations, whether it’s a favorite park, the beach or historical sites. Billy Hyer of Hyer Images suggests “Philadelphia Alley, Chalmers Street and the Queen St. Washington Park area in downtown Charleston. All these areas provide a variety of options and tons of character.” Beach scenes are very popular, as well. If you take a short walk to the lighthouse on Folly Beach, not only will you find great photographic spots along the way, you’ll find it to be fairly private. Be sure to include the sand dunes, beach grass, driftwood and even the dead trees still standing in the sand.
other props. She adds, “The most important element of a successful child’s photo shoot…allow them to have a good time.” If you decide to hire a professional photographer, understand that the cost covers more than just the actual photo shoot. It also includes travel time, editing, ordering, shipping and delivery. The editing process alone can be several hours long but is well worth it for the custom, edited photos you’ll receive.
Shannon Buss of Cameron Blake Photography extols the landscape and beauty of the Charleston area as a perfect backdrop for any occasion. Currently, her favorite locations are the new Boardwalk on Shem Creek, Mepkin Abbey and the Rustic Train. “On Shem Creek, you get the beautiful waterfront, the boats, sunset and, best of all, you can have the Ravenel Bridge as a back drop!”
LIGHTING Another key to great photos is lighting. Most portraits are taken in “soft” lighting, which basically means the light doesn’t come from one source that directly shines on your subject. Rather, it comes from multiple directions and sources which create reflected light. For example, in direct sunlight your shadow is clear but when you step into the shade, your shadow disappears because you are in reflected light. Your best photos will be taken on a cloudy day and the best times of day can be right at sunrise or an hour or two before sunset.
PHOTOGRAPHING CHILDREN When you’re working with children, location and timing are especially important. Secluded, quiet areas tend to be less distracting for young children. Try to work in a timeframe when your children are happiest, typically in the morning, well before naptime. Bring snacks, drinks and a favorite toy to entertain them between shots. Jessi Stormer of Palmetto Portraits suggests timeless classic outfits that match along with hats, scarves and
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A Beginner's Guide to PINTEREST
— Jennifer Malone
e erhaps you have already been introduced to Pinterest; if so then you have begun to understand what I am talking about. If not, then I am extremely pleased to be the one to tell you about this website that has absolutely changed my life! No woman should go through life without having the opportunity to explore its riches!
You can discover so many things: do-it-yourself projects, fashion and beauty, party planning, delicious recipes, photography ideas, decorating and so much more! Whatever your mind can think of, you’ll be able to find something on Pinterest! It is spreading like wildfire among the women (and some men) that I know, from teens to grandmothers. You will not be disappointed! I do need to throw out a word of caution . . . You may need to set a timer to avoid being sucked into this world for an indefinite amount of time! Many of my friends, including me, have become, shall I say, slightly addicted! I do hear from time to time, “I just don’t have time for it.” Well, the good thing about Pinterest is that it’s not something that you have to keep up with. You can just jump on (has a great phone app, too) when you need ideas to decorate for a party or something to cook for dinner this week. I recently decorated my guest bedroom based on inspiration from Pinterest. I made a “board” and titled it Guest Bedroom and then searched for blue and white rooms, and décor, as well. Then I just “pinned” anything I liked to that board. When I felt like I had enough material to go from, I just went back to that “board” and got started. It was all in one place for me. I didn’t have five folders of stuff I had saved on my computer or bookmarked to search through. It was all in one place! And even better, any DIY project I saved, by just clicking on the picture it took me directly to the site that told me how to do it! I will definitely be using many of the ideas I have found here on decorating for the holidays and for good eats, too! Pinterest can be a little difficult to navigate at first, so to the right are a few tips to get you started. Of course, if you are having any trouble just stick with it or ask a girlfriend. I promise it will be worth it!
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Have someone invite you via email or go to www.pinterest.com and request an invitation. You will be added within a few days.
There is a 'search' box at the top left where you can type in anyting you want to explore!
4. Search and explore 1. Create an account
You can find your friends from Facebook or Twitter to follow. You just have to provide Pinterest with your login info.
You will create 'boards' to 'pin' to. Click the 'Add+' button at the top right of the website. Be specific; instead of just a 'Decorating' board, create a 'Christmas' board.
2. Add your friends
5. 'Pin' to your 'Boards' For instructions on a 'pinned' DIY project, just click the photo until it takes you to the original site where it was posted.
Your main page will be all the cool stuff that your friends or people you follow are 'pinning.'
7. Click for more info
3. Check your front page To 'pin' items from other sites, add the 'Pin It' button to your toolbar. Click the 'About' button on the top right of Pinterest and click 'Pin It' button. Follow the simple instructions there.
8. Get the 'Pin It' button
If you end up on a rabbit trail and like the 'pins' of someone you don't know, by all means follow them!
I am so excited for you as you begin your adventures in the life-changing world of Pinterest!
6. Don't be afraid to follow
9. Happy Pinning!
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Health Simplified —Amy Brace
Who among us doesn’t want to live a healthy lifestyle? Yet our fast-paced lives often leave little room for the realization of our health goals. Be encouraged! Healthy living starts with basic principles that we can incorporate into each day. Here are ten tips by Dr. Don VerHulst, M.D. from his book 10 Keys That Cure:
LEARN TO RELAX
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• A continual adrenaline rush will put your health into a downhill slide. • Four-Six It! Philippians 4:6 says, “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God.”
GET TO BED ON TIME
• Rest time is restoration time. • Studies show that the hours between 10pm and midnight are four times more restorative than those after midnight.
EXERCISE
• Going for a walk is a great place to start! Endorphins released during exercise literally make you feel better. • Exercise prevents illness; statistics show that for every hour you exercise, you add two hours to your life!
BREATHE FRESH AIR
• Some experts believe that oxygen deficiency is the single greatest cause of all disease. • People who quit smoking can see 80% of the negative changes in their lungs disappear after only two years and almost all negative respiratory effects gone further down the road!
SOAK IN THE SUNSHINE
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• Sunshine is intimately related to your body’s wake-sleep cycle (circadian rhythm). • Sunshine converts cholesterol in the skin into Vitamin D which strengthens bones; bones are where the body’s immune cells are formed.
EAT FRUIT
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• Bananas are excellent because they most closely parallel the mineral content of the human body; two apples a day will keep the doctor away twice as long!
EAT VEGETABLES
• They fight cancer and aging, and they make you feel good! Raw veggies are the best and they satisfy hunger. Cut them up and make them available for snacking.
EAT WHOLE GRAINS
• The nutrition in white bread has been processed out and replaced with sugars and preservatives that sap our strength rather than supply it.
WHITE IF YOU CHOOSE MEAT • Scientific research continues to prove the validity of dietary guidelines found in the Old Testament of the Bible dealing with “clean” and “unclean” meats. “Unclean” animals are scavengers and can accumulate toxins in their tissues; any meat with antibiotics and hormones should be avoided. Clean fish is the healthiest.
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• Drink what you’re mostly made of; a well-hydrated body is a healthy body because water is the ultimate detoxifier. Try to drink half your body weight in ounces each day. *Information in this article is used with permission by Dr. Don VerHulst.
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Some families love enjoying the great outdoors by traveling, hiking, backpacking and camping. Outdoor living simply means relaxing, playing, eating, and having fun in the fresh air.
The Great Outdoors IN YOUR OWN BACKYARD
— Meredith Cunningham
Today’s trends in outdoor living bring the adventure to your own backyard with outdoor kitchens, patios, living rooms, dining rooms and more. What a great way to enjoy nature with all the creature comforts.
invest in your own backyard paradise? Many people in the Lowcountry have invested in creating their own outdoor oasis using items such as hot tubs, patio furniture, pools, and more.
Anytime you have the family gathered in one place, opportunities abound for relationships to deepen and As you know, breathing fresh air is vital to longevity. Simply better communication to happen. Bring a fire pit into your taking slow, deep breaths can bring a backyard and roast some marshmallows! Add a much-needed sense of calm. Spending beautiful deep-seating patio set and enjoy that time in a natural setting also improves Anytime you have the part of the night where the sun is just going brain function which helps restore your family gathered in one down and the light of the moon is falling upon ability to focus and your memory. Your you. For cooler evenings, simply add an outdoor place, opportunities outdoor space will attract friends and patio heater and you can stay outside all night! family to gather. With that, laughter Think about your health and the well being of your family.
is sure to be found, and we all know laughter is some of the best exercise (and medicine) you can get!
abound for relationships to deepen and better communication to happen.
Economically speaking, outdoor living allows you to invest in your home and, more importantly, in your family. Everyone wants to save money these days. Why throw your hard-earned money away on extra gas and eating out when you can
Being outdoors has something for everyone. There is unlimited space for a child’s imagination to soar and adults can enjoy the beauty of the world after a day of hard work. Whether you are adding to your existing outdoor space or creating a new one, you’ll enjoy the freedom, beauty, and peacefulness outdoor living can provide for you.
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Winter is the time for comfort, for good food and warmth, for the touch of a friendly hand and for a talk beside the fire: it is the time for home. —Edith Sitwell
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