Youth From Every Quarter - Winter 2010

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Youth From Every Quarter A newsletter for parents and friends

Winter 2010

Tapping each student’s capacity to succeed Dear Parents, A few weeks ago, when this job was feeling heavier than it should, I received an e-mail from a friend containing a slide show. I generally don’t have time to look at forwarded messages, but I opened this one, and I was happy I did. It revived my spirits. The slides were photographs of gorgeous landscapes, flowers, and exotic animals. The first slide caught my eye right away: a close-up of a gorilla looking straight at me. The caption read, “Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.” Wow! I went back to the beginning and learned that the slides contained quotes from a message the Dalai Lama had written for the 2009 New Year. Great achievements involve great risk. This struck a chord in me as I thought about how each Andover student must embrace this idea in order to grow. Coming to Andover is a risk in itself. Will I make it? Will they like me? Will I have friends? Over time, however, students realize that the biggest risks, but the ones that pay the biggest dividends, are intellectual risks. Taking them is at the heart of a great Andover education. The next slide came along—a stunningly beautiful, backlit white rose. “When you lose, don’t lose the lesson,”

Enjoying the All-Community Luncheon in Case Memorial Cage on Parents’ Weekend are, back row from left, Megan Robertson ’11 and her sister, Molly, Jennifer Dwyer ’11, and Angelica Jarvenpaa ’11. Front row from left are uppers Dominick Chang, Demetrius Lalanne, and Scott Shambaugh. After lunch, many parents of uppers attended a panel discussion with college admission officers.

was the message. Earlier this year, we were honored to hear a talk by James McBride, winner of the Anisfield-Wolf Book Award for literary excellence for his book The Color of Water. He pointed out that even though he’d written dozens of books, only one was a best seller and prize winner. He reminded students they can learn from mistakes and failures. Our students do not accept failure or losing easily especially in academics. In the college application process, we often see seniors who feel they failed to achieve the perceived top prize, only to learn later that they landed at exactly the right college. The next slide was the most arresting: two elephants walking side by side, a parent and a young elephant. It was cap-

tioned, “Follow the three R’s: respect for self, respect for others, and responsibility for all your actions.” I have, for some years, spoken to students about these non-academic R’s but probably needed to put more emphasis on the third. Part of the dean of students’ job is to oversee the disciplinary system. We sometimes struggle with issues of honesty and integrity with students who fail to uphold their commitment to follow school rules. The vast majority takes responsibility when confronted, though some, regrettably, are not as straightforward. My belief is that no one’s place at Andover is worth sacrificing one’s integrity. “Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck,” the fourth slide said. The backCapacity to Succeed continued on page 2


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