Charity No. 700993
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AUTUMN 2023
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Welcome & Sarah and Her Family Launch Light Up a Life Reflection “My dad always said that he wasn’t afraid of dying; just afraid of what he was leaving behind. So when I was asked to launch and support the Light Up a Life campaign, I had no hesitation, due to the care our family received at Pendleside Hospice.” Sarah shares her family’s story as to why they feel honoured to support this year’s event.
Meet Simon Frauts, Family Support Team Leader, and Sarah Holdsworth, In-Memory and Legacy Fundraiser, at Pendleside Hospice. Both Simon and Sarah will be in attendance at this year’s winter event, Light Up a Life. “First and foremost, we want to thank our local communities for their dedicated support for Pendleside Hospice; without you, we wouldn’t be able to continue to enhance the quality of life for people, their carers and families, living with life-limiting illnesses.” Sarah says.
Sarah Jarjue’s father, Anthony Ashworth, from Nelson, passed away in April of this year, after being diagnosed with lung cancer at the start of 2020. What started with a niggly cough, soon turned into Anthony needing to have part of his lung removed. Bouts of chemotherapy and radiotherapy seemed to be working at the start, then Anthony began to feel very unwell and withdrawn. Subsequent scans revealed that the cancer had spread to
his bones, as well as his brain, and another operation was needed.
By January 2022, Anthony started to experience significant pain and discomfort, due to the cancer in his bones and was admitted to Pendleside’s inpatient unit for symptom control. Sarah added: “The targeted radiotherapy reduced my dad’s pain and he was able to come home after three weeks. My dad absolutely loved it at the Hospice! Food was his solace and he always used to talk about how delicious the meals were. Restrictions were still in place by this point, but myself and my family enjoyed sitting in the gardens with my dad on those chilly winter days.” Due to the covid restrictions, Anthony’s family couldn’t go round and see him as much as
Simon adds: "The Light Up a Life event highlights that people are not alone in their grieving and that their loved ones are not forgotten. Come along to enjoy the music and festivities, while at the same time, look back and remember those special people who are no longer with us. A member of our Family Support team will be at the event, offering bereavement support to those who need it.”
Anthony later moved onto immunotherapy, which seemed to be improving his overall mental and physical wellbeing. However, after eight months of hope, it was revealed that the cancer had spread and by October 2022, Anthony was told that he had months to live. Sarah said, “Throughout his illness, my dad was in and out of hospital with infections. Ultimately, on his latest admission, in March 2023 after a week of IV antibiotics, the doctor confirmed my dad had days to live, and that we needed to bring him home. My dad wasn’t quite himself in
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Hospice at Home care was quickly put in place, and I can’t thank Kate Gerrety, [Pendleside’s Hospice at Home Registered Nurse] enough for organising the support we needed and a nurse arrived not long after we got back from hospital. A bed had been delivered, an oxygen tank was in place, and the Pendleside nurses worked around the clock, right up until my dad’s passing.
Sarah, with her dad, Anthony, and husband, Fadel
Sarah Jarjue and family
My mum, Linda, had taken time off to be with my dad, and I moved into the family home to be with him too. My mum works as a nurse at Pendleside Hospice herself, so having the nurses stay with us brought her the peace of mind she needed.
It will be an honour to shine a light on the wonderful man that was my dad.
those last few days, but he knew what this meant.
“My role is to support those who have lost a loved one and help them with their fundraising journeys, including legacy donations. Our idyllic Light Up a Life event is the perfect way to remember those you have lost at Christmas, as well as supporting your local Hospice. Your loved ones do not need to have been supported by Pendleside; we welcome anyone to remember their loved ones by dedicating a light this Christmas.”
they would have liked. As a close-knit family, this became more and more difficult to comprehend. They wanted nothing more than to give him a hug, sit by his side and watch football with him on a Sunday afternoon.
After my dad died, my eldest daughter, Elizabeth (13) and I, received bereavement support from Pendleside’s Family Support team. I found I was being incredibly hard on myself and the sessions helped me understand that everyone deals with grief differently. Pendleside is an incredible charity and we are so grateful for all they have done for us. It will be an honour to shine a light on the wonderful man that was my dad.”
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Charity No. 700993
Remembering our loved ones by dedicating a light
Alderson & Horan
TO DEDICATE
Funeral Service
CELEBRATION OF LIFE SERVICE I SUNDAY 17 TH DECEMBER 2023, 3.30pm To make your dedication visit: www.pendleside.org.uk or telephone: 01282 440 120
Pendleside Hospice, Colne Road, Burnley, Lancashire BB10 2LW
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