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A few weeks back, my brother texted me one of the most perfectly captioned photos
I’ve seen in a long time. It’s a picture of a middle-aged dad (my brother) comically leaning into the moment — arms thrown up in the air, mouth open wide in sarcastic anticipation (or maybe mock fear) of the thrilling roller coaster ride that’s about to start. To his right sits his tween daughter, physically distancing herself from him as much as the rigid seat restraint will allow, throwing side-eye shade that epitomizes the term “peak teen.” The caption reads “On a scale of 1–10, how much does she love me?” Brilliant.
What I love about the image isn’t the goofy expression on my brother’s face. It’s not my niece’s icy glare. It’s not even the interaction between the two of them, as hilariously relatable as it is. What makes it so perfect is the caption that captures the spirit of fatherhood with such unintentional honesty. He’s meeting her where she is, creating joyful moments and, most importantly, not taking her too seriously or her actions too personally. Because being a great dad means loving on your kids, even — and especially — when they wish you wouldn’t.
We’re celebrating the spirit of fatherhood in our June issue and inviting readers to add more chairs to the metaphorical Father’s Day table with Rebecca Hastings’ feature story. In it, she offers up plenty of suggestions to help you celebrate the many men who set aside their ego and lead with love in the lives of you and your kids (p. 6). Follow up your Father’s Day feast with a family outing. As always, our intrepid calendar editor, Julie Dodobara, maps out play ideas worthy of the World’s Best Dad and his crew (p. 30).
June also signals the end of the school year, and maybe — if we’re lucky — the return of the sun. Count us all in for helping you plan a summer to remember with the kids. Start with Mary Ann Blair’s simple rules to follow when choosing a vacation rental (p. 11). Her do’s and don’ts will help narrow down your list and ensure you find that just-right place to stay, whether you’re simply spending the night or an entire week. This month’s Book Buzz (p. 15) is all about beach reads for the family. Pack one of Gemma’s picks in your bag, next to your sunscreen and waterproof towel. If you’re staying close to home, science writer Kellie Schmitt’s guide to local tide pool beaches is packed full of helpful suggestions, required gear and tips from area experts (p. 25).
Finally, if summer camp is on your list, check out my what-to-pack guide (p. 16). I know you’ve got the basics, so these suggestions go beyond the ordinary.
Here’s to a great start to your summer!
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by Julia
Because I grew up with a single mom, Father’s Day always felt a bit tricky to me.
I did have a relationship with my biological dad, but we were not very close. So, instead of honoring only him on Father’s Day, my mom taught me how to honor people who had a father-like role in my life.
I’ve been blessed to honor five other men who played that role in my life. Being a father isn’t always about biology. Father’s Day has typically focused on biological dads. But what about the men in our lives who take on the role of a father even if there is no biological connection? For me, this was an uncle, a grandfather and a stepfather who later adopted me. When I got married, I added my father-in-law and later, my husband as the father of our kids.
The beauty of Father’s Day doesn’t have to be limited to one person. Instead, we can recognize the contributions of people who are fatherly presences in our lives and in those of our children. As we approach Father’s Day this year, consider recognizing and celebrating all the dads in your life.
Acknowledging these people does not need to be complicated. Often, simple is better. You can find meaningful ways to honor the people who are father figures in your life.
Honoring your dad on Father’s Day
The most obvious person to celebrate is your own father. No matter why you think of this person as your dad, you can use this day to honor them for the role they play in your life. Try one or all of these ideas to recognize this special person:
Personalized gifts: Consider giving your dad a personalized gift that reflects his interests and hobbies. It could be a custom-made item, engraved with a meaningful message or his initials.
Cook his favorite meal: Prepare your dad’s favorite meal for dinner. It’s a thoughtful way to show him how much you care.
Memory jar: Encourage family members to write down their favorite memories of, or messages for, your dad and place them in a decorative jar. Present it to him as a keepsake and reminisce about some favorite memories.
Meaningful ways to celebrate a grandfather on Father’s Day
Grandfathers have a unique role in their grandchildren’s lives. Sometimes they are part of your daily life. Other times, grandfathers live far away or there are other limits to how often you connect. Father’s Day is still a great time to remind them of how much you care. Here are some ways you or your children can honor a grandfather:
Handwritten letter or card: Express your gratitude and love for
your grandfather in a heartfelt letter or card. Share specific memories or qualities you admire about him.
Family gathering: Organize a family get-together or a special meal to honor your grandfather. It could be a barbecue, coffee date or dinner at his favorite restaurant.
Photo album or scrapbook: Create a photo album or scrapbook filled with pictures of your grandfather, family gatherings and memorable moments together.
Ideas for celebrating a father-like relative
Many people have a relative, such as an uncle, who have stepped into a fatherly role. This could be because a father is absent or simply because this relative cares and wants to show their love and support. Celebrate this person on Father’s Day with one of these ideas:
Gift basket: Put together a gift basket filled with his favorite snacks, drinks, books or hobbies. Tailor it to his interests and preferences.
Outdoor adventure: Plan an outdoor activity that your loved one
continued from page 7 enjoys, such as fishing, hiking or a stroll in the park. Spend quality time together in nature.
Video message: If you cannot be with your relative in person, consider recording a video message to send him on Father’s Day. Share your love and appreciation for him in a heartfelt video.
a friend or mentor on Father’s
Often, people have adults in their lives who demonstrate fatherly characteristics. This could be a teacher, a coach or a close family friend. It is thoughtful to show them how much they mean to you on Father’s Day. Consider these ideas:
Gift of time: Sometimes, your best gift is your time. Simply spending the day with this mentor and doing activities he enjoys can be a meaningful way to honor him on Father’s Day.
Express gratitude: Write a heartfelt letter or card expressing your appreciation for your mentor’s guidance, encouragement and impact on your life. Share specific examples of how they helped you grow and succeed.
Public acknowledgment: If appropriate, publicly acknowledge your mentor’s contributions and impact on your life or career. You could write a social media post, dedicate a blog post or publicly thank them at an event.
Watching your partner become a father will have a lifelong impact on you. Think of ways you can make him feel special and loved for all he does. Think about ways you can show him how much you appreciate him as well as ways your kids can show him that they love him.
Breakfast in bed: Start his day off with a special breakfast served in bed. Prepare his favorite dishes and include a handwritten note or card expressing your love and appreciation.
Family outing: Plan a fun family outing or activity that your partner enjoys. It could be a trip to the zoo, a hike in nature, a visit to his favorite museum or a picnic in the park.
DIY gifts: Get creative and make DIY gifts with your kids to surprise your spouse. It could be handmade cards, crafts or personalized photo albums that capture
family moments.
Tech-free day: Declare a tech-free day, when the focus is on spending quality time together as a family. Disconnect from devices and engage in activities such as playing board games, completing a project or going on outdoor adventures.
Family movie night: Set up a cozy movie night at home with your husband’s favorite films, snacks and blanket. Spend the evening cuddled up together enjoying quality family time.
Surprise getaway: Plan a surprise weekend getaway or staycation for your husband and the family. This is a great way to unwind and create new memories together.
Express appreciation: Throughout the day, verbally express your appreciation for your spouse’s role as a father and partner. Let him know how much he means to you and how grateful you are for everything he does for the family. ■
Rebecca Hastings is a former teacher who is passionate about faith and family. Her books are available on Amazon, and her work has been featured on websites such as those of The Washington Post and Parents magazine. Connect with her at RebeccaHastings.net and on Instagram.
By Mary Ann Blair
Are you planning a family vacation this summer? Wondering where you should stay? If you have never stayed in a vacation rental, I encourage you to give it a try. They can be a great alternative to staying in a hotel. Vacation rentals can offer more room to spread out, more privacy, a wellstocked kitchen and a unique experience. But when booking a vacation rental, there are a lot of things to consider. Here are some vacation rental do’s and don’ts.
Do check out different websites when booking your vacation.
Two of the most popular vacation rental websites are VRBO and Airbnb. But many owners will list their rentals on other sites as well. For example, I recently discovered another travel site called Vacasa. I found the same cabin listed on both VRBO and Vacasa. The Vacasa fees for the same exact travel dates were about $80 less!
You also can find other vacation rental sites by doing a quick internet search using the location and type of accommodations you’re looking for.
Do check the exact location on Google Maps.
Let’s use the beach-rental example again. A vacation listing might be described as “just a short walk to the beach” or “steps to the beach.” You might interpret that as meaning you will be right on the beach, but
in reality, that could mean you are a few blocks away. Or it might mean your rental is on the street that is next to the beach, but it’s on the side of the street from beach and there’s a house blocking your view.
Do be honest to avoid extra charges. If you have a pet and the rental contract states there are no pets allowed, don’t try to sneak one in. If you break something, don’t try to hide it. Just be honest with the owner. On a recent vacation, I dropped one of the glasses on the kitchen floor, and naturally, it shattered everywhere. I sent a message to the host and told her what had happened, and she thanked me for my honesty and said not to worry about it.
Do leave a review on the rental company website.
It’s always nice to take a few minutes to leave a review, whether good or bad.
Owners appreciate the feedback in order to improve their rental, and future guests appreciate hearing about your experience. A review isn’t required, of course, but I just think of it as paying it forward.
Don’t skip the reviews. Yes, it will take extra time to read through these, but reviews can be very revealing. And an owner’s response to reviews can also be very telling.
Don’t skim over the listing details. You want to know exactly what you are going to get for your money. The more pictures the owner has included, the better. Owners who have nothing to hide about their property are more than willing to share lots of pictures, which usually gives potential renters a better idea of the space. Do keep in mind that sometimes pictures can be deceiving. For example, a picture could show a beach area right in
continued from page 11 front of your rental, and you might assume that it is your own private beach. But in reality, your rental might be on the third story, and you would have to share that “private” beach area with every other renter in the building. It’s always a good idea to ask questions.
Also, if you travel with pets, be sure that the rental property accepts them. There is usually an extra fee if you plan to bring your pet.
Don’t assume the rental will provide everything you need.
We took a family vacation to a beach house last summer, and I didn’t even think to ask if there would be beach chairs or beach toys provided for the kids. I just assumed there would be, but we were disappointed to discover there was none. If there are specific items that you might want or need, it’s always good to ask ahead of time.
The same thing goes for condiments/spices and other pantry items as well as kitchenware. Many places will have the staples available for guests, but the selection may be limited. If you plan to prepare meals at your rental, find out what will be available ahead of time.
I hope these tips will help you get the most out of your vacation rental. Happy traveling!
Mary Ann Blair is a mom of two boisterous boys. Besides chronicling her adventures in motherhood at maryannblair.com, she loves the outdoors, reading and all things crafty.
By Allison Sutcliffe
The end of the school year is nigh, and if you’re limping to the finish line like I am, adding another task to your overwhelmingly long to-do list is probably the last thing you want to think about. But hear me out, finally making it to the last day is a momentous occasion and should be celebrated, if only because we finally get a break from the relentless onslaught of school emails, texts and app notifications we get all year long. So after you’ve gathered your child from the bus stop or waited through the parent pickup line for the last time (this year anyway), push through and party on — you finally made it!
• Throw an aerosol string party. Shout out to my neighborhood bus stop moms who started this tradition years ago. Greet the kids with cans of aerosol string (such as Silly String) as they file off the bus and let ‘em rip. Trust me, the kids will take over spraying duty in no time so you can sit back and — well, relax isn’t quite the right word. Sure, it’s untethered chaos but it only lasts as long as the cans do.
Just remember to clean up after yourselves before heading home.
• Plan a picnic. Nothing says footloose and fan cy-free quite like a picnic on a sunny day, especially when it marks the beginning of summer vacation. Pack your kids’ favorites into your picnic basket of choice, grab a comfortable blanket and head to a neighborhood park or pocket beach to commemorate the day as a family.
• Set up a sundae station. Although we can’t always count on the last day of school being a hot summer day here in the Pacific Northwest, we can count on ice cream as a way to celebrate. Set up a sundae bar with delicious ice cream choices, plentiful toppings and mounds of fresh whipped cream. Invite neighbors and classmates to really make it a party.
• Break out summer favorites. Bring on the sidewalk chalk, bubble machines, squirt guns and water balloons. The last day of school is a perfect opportunity to revive summer favorites that might be feeling neglected after a long winter. Set up a backyard party or sidewalk “happening” — it’s time to bring on the long, lazy days of summer!
However you choose to mark the occasion, I hope it’s the start to a really great summer. ■
Allison Sutcliffe is ParentMap’s managing editor.
Beach Reads Adults tend to save their lighthearted, easy-to-read fiction for beach vacations while encouraging their kids to read more challenging books to stop the summer slide. But I suggest getting your young one a book that can do both. I’ve found a bunch of books centered on summer and sea that are so positive, fun and engaging, they might even coax your kid out of the pool to read.
“Odder: An Otter’s Story,” written by Katherine Applegate and illustrated by Charles Santoso, is the picture book adaptation of Applegate’s best-selling middle-grade novel about an orphaned otter that becomes a teacher to other rescued animals. Inspired by the Monterey Bay Aquarium program that pairs orphaned otter pups with surrogate mothers, Applegate once again tells a powerful story with hope in its heart. $18.99, April, ages 3–6.
“Life After Whale: The Amazing Ecosystem of a Whale Fall” by award-winning local author and former “Bill Nye the Science Guy” writer Lynn Brunelle, explores the life-giving process of “whale fall,” the stages of decay through which a whale’s corpse passes as it sinks to the bottom of the sea. Jason Chin, the book’s Caldecott Medal–winning illustrator, has a new book, “Hurricane,” that will appeal to the same kids. $16.70, June 2024, ages 4–8.
“Bibi Saves the Ocean” by Judith A. Ewa is the second in the “Preserve the Planet” picture book series for early readers. Nineyear-old Bibi is excited to play at the beach with her two best friends. But when she discovers it’s covered in garbage, she’s determined to clean up the beach, even if she has to recruit help. $13.99, August 2024, ages 5–8.
“Lizard Boy 2: The Most Perfect Summer Ever” by Portland artist Jonathan Hill is not connected to the musical “Lizard Boy” by Seattle playwright Justin Huertas, but it does share its theme of finding one’s place as an outsider. In this second installment
of Hill’s graphic novel series, our alien protagonist and his friends expect a perfect summer vacation when they find a tree house in the woods. But they find that even summer has its problems. $14.99, April, ages 8–12.
“Dive,” the three-book, middle-grade deep-sea survival series by Gordon Korman, has been rereleased in paperback, with new cover art, this year. In “The Discovery,” “The Deep” and “The Danger,” four friends improve their scuba skills as they deal with sharks, shipwreck and sunken treasure. $7.99 each, February, ages 9–12.
“Graciela in the Abyss” by Newberry Medal winner Meg Medina pairs sea ghost Graciela with human boy Jorge in a quest to keep evil spirits from wreaking havoc on both the living and the dead. To save the sea ghosts, Jorge will have to overcome his fear of the water. $18.99, July, ages 10–14.
“Float” by Kate Marchant features Waverly, who has been sent to spend the summer with her aunt in Florida. The Alaskan teen is not the beachy type — she can’t even swim — but her cute new neighbor, Blake, might change that. The 2022 novel has been made into a movie and is getting a graphicnovel adaptation this summer. $7.53, 2022, ages 12–14. Preorders for the graphic novel will be $16.99, July, ages 12-14. ■
Seattle-based freelance writer Gemma Alexander focuses on the intersection of parenting and the arts.
By Gemma Alexander
By Allison Sutcliffe
While many parents look forward to summer’s lazy schedule — sleeping in, leaning into brunch over breakfast, and playing fast and loose with bed times — camp parents know there’s still work to be done. Shuttling kids out the door with a full water bottle (chilled and ready to withstand the heat of a day), a healthy snack in hand, and every accessory in place is a miracle on any day, but it’s especially true in summer when we’re supposed to be able to breathe a little.
To ease you into the new routine (and hopefully help you pull off a few more miracles before summer’s over), I’ve curated some camp accoutrements that should elevate your child’s summer experience beyond the everyday. Set them out the night before so you remember to tuck them into your happy camper’s day pack before making a mad dash out the door in the morning.
Swim camps: Sunscreen, goggles and a towel are the baseline if your child is registered for swim, sailing or water-themed camps this summer. But if you want to go the extra mile, slip in these thoughtful items that will help keep them dry and comfortable in any waters.
• A waterproof bag to hold a wet bathing suit. (Don’t forget a change of clothes to go with it.)
• A super absorbent swim shammy.
• Nose plugs so they can be hands-free, even underwater.
Sports camps: Beyond whatever specific gear your athlete needs (shin guards, gloves, helmets … the list is endless, really), adding these items to their pack should help keep them in good spirits,
no matter what the score.
• A light breathable jacket for our cool Pacific Northwest mornings.
• A misting fan because all that activity will make them hot.
• Sports-specific sunscreen that won’t wear off when they sweat.
Art camps: One word comes to mind for me when I think of art camps. No, not creative. Messy! Help keep your kid clean as a whistle when you pack these accessories alongside their favorite snack.
• A spare shirt or pants to go over whatever fancy outfit they couldn’t live without that morning.
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• More than a few wet wipes, so they can clean off every last bit of paint, clay or glue before getting into the car.
• A lint roller because no art camp would be complete without at least a little glitter.
Nature camps: Does it get any better than roaming through the woods on a balmy summer day in the Pacific Northwest? If an outdoor camp is part of your child’s summer plan, consider packing a few accessories they can pull out as they wander along the trails.
• A magnifying glass so they can look at bugs, leaves and twigs up close.
• A floppy hat to keep the sun off their neck and face.
• A walking stick, if it’s allowed, so they can stay balanced on the trail.
Overnight camps: Sleepaway camp is a big step for many kids (and parents!). Give everyone peace of mind when these items find their way into your child’s overnight bag.
• Stamped, addressed envelopes and a few pieces of stationary with the first line already started — “Dear Mom,”.
• Card games so they can pass the time and make new friends while they’re at it.
• A special surprise to let them know you’re thinking of them.
Here’s to hoping you can find a little breathing room after you’ve gotten them successfully packed and off to camp! ■
Allison Sutcliffe is ParentMap’s managing editor.
By Kellie Schmitt
Children who are lonely don’t always act sad or hopeless. Sometimes, there might be less obvious indicators, such as a child completely obsessed with technology.
That was the case with a middle schooler, who was referred to school social workers for behavioral outbursts, cursing and social struggles, explained licensed clinical social worker Kianna Carter. The more she learned about their story, the more she understood that their excessive technology use was masking social isolation.
“They didn’t identify as lonely,” says Carter, who supervises the youth engagement services for Mary Bridge Children’s Hospital. “Kids often don’t realize it.”
Carter and her team were able to work with that middle schooler, helping them connect with peers and improve their school interactions. That individual experience, though, underscores how widespread hidden loneliness is among today’s adolescents. The solitude of the pandemic years is still having lasting reverberations today. At the same time, youth are increasingly
reliant on technology for social interactions and enjoyment. Often what looks like bad behavior, zoning out or social struggles is driven by these isolating experiences.
“Kids are spending excessive time alone and drawing back from activities they used to enjoy, which adds to this overall sense of disconnectedness,” she says.
What causes loneliness?
Loneliness is a persistent problem for Americans today, so much so that the former U.S. surgeon general issued a 2023 report on the country’s “epidemic of loneliness.” That isolation takes a troubling toll on people’s physical and mental health, the report found.
The pandemic worsened already growing rates of loneliness among youth. Today, social workers like Carter are still seeing the lingering impact of the pandemic on children’s social development and connections. Today’s adolescents had years of learning social norms taken away from them. Those experiences are coupled with growing dependence on technology as means for interacting.
Some adolescents — like the middle schooler she described — develop a dependency on devices that can heighten dysregulation. Those struggles carry over into peer interactions where children might show less patience and empathy.
“Frustration tolerance is at an all-time low,” she says. “We’re so used to getting things instantly. This can create barriers in terms of your social development and your ability to thrive.”
Identifying changes in your child
Since children may not understand these effects, it’s important for parents and caregivers to watch for less obvious signs of loneliness.
These indicators might look different depending upon the child and personality. Even so, a common characteristic is a change in behaviors. For example, they might be spending additional time on devices or sleeping excessively. Others might experience changes in appetite, act withdrawn or be less interested in family connections. Still others might exhibit more emotional intensity.
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Tech devices such as cell phones and personal computers can be a doubleedged sword, she says. On one hand, the platforms can connect people. But those feelings of connection can be fleeting, leaving users feeling even more alone.
“There is a lack of humanity compared to actually sitting down with friends,” she explains.
“Parents know their kids best, but we want to pay attention to whether there is an excessive amount of time they want to spend alone,” she says. “Pay attention to what your kid is like at baseline and if this behavior is getting away from that.”
A simple first step to address loneliness
If you suspect your child might be experiencing loneliness, a tried-and-true method may be the best approach: Be open and honest.
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Carter suggests addressing what you’ve observed in a direct way, such as: “I’ve noticed you’re cooped up in your room. You’re not coming down for family game night, and you don’t want to play soccer anymore. I want to check in. Is everything OK? What’s going on internally for you?”
A transparent conversation like that can open the door for a child to self-reflect — and possibly unload some confusing and intense feelings. Listen with interest, not judgment, she advises.
“Coming from a place of curiosity can ebb that defensiveness we see from adolescents sometimes,” she says.
Even if that initial discussion doesn’t yield insights, establishing good rapport can lay the foundation for future discussions.
If your child does acknowledge feeling low, ask what you can do to support them. Parents and caregivers could offer some low-stakes way to engage such as taking the dog for a walk together, or going out for a pizza dinner. Even if they decline these offers, though, the open discussion itself can help ease that sense of isolation.
Parents can also model social interactions, creating organic moments for their children to socialize. Stopping to chat with a fellow parent during school pickup can give your child a chance to interact with peers in a low-stakes way.
“Create those easy-going moments,” she says. “When we model that behavior, it makes it easier for kids.”
If your efforts aren’t working and your child is experiencing persistent loneliness, consider seeking professional support such as therapy, she says. Professional support can also be important for caregivers since navigating these tough issues can feel isolating for them, too.
Set healthy limits on screens Excessive technology use and social isola-
tion often go hand in hand.
Children aren’t the best at limit setting, especially when it comes to technology. That’s why it’s important for parents to take a look at how their child is spending their free time. If technology use is interfering with in-person socializing or activities, household policies might need to be restructured.
In these conversations, explain why it’s important to have boundaries, especially when something is impeding one’s ability to thrive.
If the feelings of loneliness stem from social media use, consider a conversation to reflect on how these online comparisons can make people feel. Sharing your own feelings about watching “beautiful lives” play out on social media can provide a good opportunity for reflection and connection, Carter says.
Be creative with strategies
Amid today’s tech-intensive world, it can be hard to find balance. Along with limitsetting, work with your child to find equilibrium between enjoying technology and allowing time for real-world interactions.
Sometimes, the two might be intertwined. Take the example of the middle schooler who struggled with technology overuse and social isolation. The family of the child worked with Mary Bridge Children’s school support staff to find an activity that combined technology and socializing. They came up with a robotics club, where they could share their passions with peers. The success trickled over into the student’s school performance, where they now experience fewer outbursts and better social relationships.
“That club was a huge win,” Carter says. “There is hope and room for change.” ■
Kellie Schmitt is an award-winning health and science writer.
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Puget Sound tide pool adventures to wade through with the kids
By Kellie Schmitt
On a recent sunny afternoon, Vanessa Tippmann crouched down on the wet sand to show her 3-year-old daughter the difference between smooth emerald-green eel grass and bumpy Turkish towel, a reddish-brown algae.
The day before, they had spent three hours exploring the low tide at Edmonds’ Brackett’s Landing North and had enjoyed the experience so much that they returned for more.
“It feels like Christmas, finding all this fun stuff together,” says Tippmann, as the waters of Puget Sound lapped around her ankles. “All she has been talking about is natural stuff now, and it’s been educational for me, too.”
On days when the tide is especially low, Puget Sound’s beaches are filled with families experiencing the wonder of these hidden marine worlds. People of all ages are drawn to tide pools, which means adults and children can discover them together.
“We’re so lucky we have spaces where we can go and see these cool creatures that would normally be covered by the tide,” says Liz Hines, who leads Point Defiance Zoo & Aquarium’s Explore the Shore events. “You don’t need any experience other than the excitement to explore.”
A variety of factors cause extremely low tides, including the gravitational pull of the moon. Tide pools result when the seawater retreats especially far from shore. When the tide recedes, the beach expands, revealing ocean life that is normally hidden below the waves. During these times, beachcombers can often find fascinating creatures in the small pools of water left behind in rocks, on the beach, or against old pier or dock pilings.
While you can typically find seaweed and shells at any low tide, creatures such as moon snails, anemones, sea stars and even
octopus may be spotted on days with a negative low tide. Negative, or minus, tides occur when the water level drops well below the average low-water levels. “You’re looking for anything -1.5 or greater,” Hines says. “Minus 2s and -3s are amazing.” On rare occasions, Puget Sound beaches may experience an extremely low tide of -4, which is the most exciting time for tide pool enthusiasts. Check online tide charts, such as NOAA’s, and locate your beach of choice during low tide. Time your visit at least an hour before the peak low tide to give yourself ample time to explore.
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For rocky beaches, it’s best to wear sturdy water shoes or even rain boots. Since barnacles can scrape skin, cover up your feet if you’ll be climbing over rocks. Strollers can be tricky to navigate on the uneven terrain, so consider a hiking backpack or front carrier for infants. Young beach explorers might appreciate an extra set of dry clothes for warmth after the adventure. Pack a water bottle and snacks to fuel beach play afterward.
While some animals are easy to identify — such as sea stars and crabs — others might require a good guidebook. Check out the Point Defiance Zoo and Aquarium’s Field Guide or the Seattle Aquarium’s online guide. Phone apps such as iNaturalist can also be helpful.
During her time as a Seattle Aquarium beach naturalist, Dawn Chesbro enjoyed engaging young beachgoers on the low-tide walks. She would find an old crab shell and ask young onlookers: “Do you think this crab is alive or dead?” The answer, of course, is that we don’t know. The crab molts and leaves behind its old shell.
Questions like that can help prompt curiosity and interest among young tide pool enthusiasts. As a
Check out these prime tide pool spots around Puget Sound
North Puget Sound: Brackett’s Landing North Park in Edmonds, Richmond Beach Saltwater Park in Shoreline, Carkeek Park in North Seattle
Seattle: Golden Gardens Park, Olympic Sculpture Park Pocket Beach, Discovery Park, Constellation Park
South Puget Sound: Owen Beach in Tacoma, Titlow Park beach in Tacoma, Dash Point State Park in Federal Way
Road trip destinations: Double Bluff Beach on Whidbey Island, the Olympic National Park’s Ruby Beach and Oregon’s Cannon Beach
Point Defiance Zoo & Aquarium will offer several free Explore the Shore events, during which participants can investigate the shore at low tide with naturalists. Check out the Explore the Shore page for more information and upcoming summer dates.
Seattle Aquarium’s seasonal Beach Naturalist program has been confirmed for 2025. Participants can explore 10 different Seattle-area beaches at low tide, guided by volunteer naturalists. More information can be found on the aquarium’s Beach Naturalist page.
parent, you can also encourage your child to consider why a creature behaves a certain way. For example, why do crabs scuttle away so quickly when you pick up a rock? Why do sea stars frequent rocky crevices and pier pilings?
Be mindful of tide pool etiquette and safety
When searching for sea creatures, keep in mind you’re a guest in the animals’ homes. Chesbro would often remind children that they wouldn’t want a friend to come over and mess up their home. Similarly, you want to be a respectful — and gentle —
visitor in the sea creatures’ world. A magnifying glass or phone camera can help young beachgoers zoom in on an animal’s intricacies without picking the creature up. Algae and seaweed can be slippery, so be mindful where you’re walking. Keep an eye out for the returning tide and start moving closer to the shoreline when you see it coming in.
Identifying tide pool wonders
Even everyday low tides can reveal sea treasures, such as clam or scallop shells and various types of seaweed. It’s also common to spot small sea snails or tiny shore crabs on rocky beaches, including some that are no more than the size of a nickel. During super low tides, you are more likely to find sea stars, ranging from the thick ochre stars to the slender Pacific blood star. Other animals are even more elusive, like the otherworldly sea slugs, or nudibranchs. (Among the local favorites are the shaggy mouse, sea clown and opalescent.) The best advice for finding those harder-to-spot creatures: Take your time, Hines advises. “Take a moment and observe what’s right at your feet. Look in the kelp and seagrass. Observe your surroundings and be in the moment.”
It’s about more than tide pools
While spotting cool animals is engaging and fun, the benefits of exploring tide pools extends beyond species identification, says Chesbro. Examining tide pools can
instill a sense of wonder and appreciation for the broader environment. “For many kids, this is their first introduction to the Puget Sound: coming down and looking at tidepools at the beach,” she says.
That excitement was evident on the recent low-tide day at Edmonds’ Brackett’s Landing as Christie Verda held her 2-yearold son while her 4-year-old daughter searched for sea stars under the ferry dock. “This gets us out of the house and in the fresh air,” she said, pausing as she spotted a seal popping up alongside the Edmonds-Kingston ferry. ■
Kellie Schmitt is an award-winning health and science writer.
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By Cherie Gough
It’s birthday party time!
You’ve planned the games, chosen a cake and shopped for party favors. Then it comes — an RSVP from one of your child’s classmates who has an allergy. According to Food Allergy Research & Education (FARE), 1 in 13 kids have a food allergy. What’s the best way to accommodate this guest and still plan the perfect party? Don’t panic. Parents of kids with food allergies want party hosts to know they don’t expect the whole event to revolve around accommodating their child. Here are their tips for creating a fun, safe party for all without it becoming a burden.
The most supportive thing hosts can do Moms of kids with food allergies agree that the best way to make them feel at ease is to inquire about dietary restrictions when sending out the invitation. Jenn Williamson of San Diego, whose 11-year-old daughter has a peanut allergy, says, “It lifts a weight and lets me know that the host is more approachable. I feel comfortable talking with those parents, knowing they’re aware of food allergies and are open-minded about discussing it.”
Tiffany Hinton, a Chicago mom of three girls with severe food allergies and the author of “Gluten Free Mom Certified,” says, “When someone asks if there are any food restrictions, it allows me to be an advocate for my children, share information to dispel myths and help keep them safe.”
Kids with food allergies are individuals, and each family is unique. Be open to commu-
nication. Know that parents are grateful for any effort made to include their kids.
After sending invitations, expect contact from parents of a child with allergies. A phone call or conversation in person best facilitates clear communication. They may ask what foods you’ll be serving, how the cake will be decorated and if there will be games that include food items (such as a piñata). This lets them know ahead of time what may need to be modified.
My daughter has celiac disease and eats only gluten-free foods. With pizza and cake as standard party fare, parties pose a
challenge. I usually provide a snack bag with foods that are safe replacements for her. I can even decorate a fancy cupcake to fit the party theme. It helps my daughter feel included, and she gets excited for the party when decorating with me. Since one crumb can make her sick for weeks, I prefer to do the baking to make parties fun and safe for her.
Susan Lemus, a resident of La Mesa, California, has children who have a dairy allergy. She recounts a time when a conversation with a party host helped tremendously. The original plan was to take the guests for ice cream sundaes after a
movie and provide a special cookie for Lemus’ daughter. “I don’t want to make it hard on the parents. I really want my kids to feel just like everyone else.” After speaking to Lemus, the host better understood where she was coming from. The host took the girls for sorbet instead, so everyone could enjoy the same experience.
When a food-allergic guest arrives, review how you’ll handle food safety. Even kids who are old enough to be dropped off need this reassurance.
Make sure you understand the child’s needs or ask the parent for clarification. If it puts you more at ease, ask parents to stick around.
Ask for a contact phone number in case of an emergency.
In the event that an EpiPen might be necessary, parents should consider training the host or staying at the party. Williamson reviews the steps with hosts before dropping her daughter off at a party. And since her daughter is older, Williamson feels comfortable knowing her tight-knit group of friends looks out for her.
How to keep party food safe
Instead of big bowls of chips and pretzels, which invite cross-contamination (a problem for kids with nut and gluten allergies), serve individually wrapped bags. One of the kindest things a friend did for us was set up a table at her daughter’s party that included only gluten-free foods. My daughter could safely eat anything at the party, and I didn’t worry about crosscontamination.
Allow party guests to use the kitchen to prepare food they brought. Hand out non-food items as prizes and party favors.
While celebrating with friends is lots of fun, parties can be a real challenge for parents of kids with allergies. Going the extra mile to create a normal party experience for their children is a gift of kindness that is greatly appreciated. ■
Cherie Gough is a writer who shares simple solutions for families facing food allergies and celiac disease. Find her on Instagram @cgoughwrites.
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By Julie Dodobara
Give a cheer, June is here! I can practically taste summer. The month of the summer solstice and the final days of the school year, June brings so many possibilities — you’ll want to make the most of the splendor of the season. Father’s Day, dinosaurs, outdoor theater and fests galore, you’ve come to the right place to get the goods on summer-style fun. Read on for my top picks for my family and yours!
� Dinosaurs come to life this summer at the Woodland Park Zoo with 26 life-size animatronic dinos, from gentle veggie eaters to fierce predators. Give your paleo fans a thrill as they experience a slice of prehistoric life at the limited-time outdoor exhibit “Dinosaur Discovery.” Through Sept. 1. Admission is an extra $10 on top of admission.
� Head outdoors for a unique and kid-friendly theater experience. Kitsap Forest Theater invites families to enjoy this season’s show, the much-loved musical “Annie,” which you’ll enjoy surrounded by towering trees and fresh air. Weekend performances take place
May 25–June 15 in Bremerton. Tickets $10–$23; ages 5 and younger, free.
� Aussie kiddie entertainers
The Wiggles make a stop in Seattle this June as they tour North America in their big red car. Sing, dance and laugh along to your favorite tunes with familiar friends, including Dorothy the Dinosaur, Captain Feathersword, Wags the Dog and of course, the Wiggly crew. Head to the Paramount Theatre on Tuesday, June 3 at 6 p.m. for this single-show event. Tickets start at $25.
� Join ParentMap on Thursday, June 5, noon–1 p.m., for strategies to help kids man-
age stress and build resilience from mental health counselor Janine Halloran. Join our webinar live or receive a recording to watch anytime. $10.
� Panda Fest, an Asian food and culture extravaganza, makes its Seattle debut Friday–Sunday, June 6–8 at Seattle Center. Expect a plethora of street-food vendors and performances representing diverse Asian traditions. Kids can enjoy bouncing on panda inflatables and other family-friendly activities. Admission is $15 ($2 more on Saturday); ages 5 and younger are free.
� Washington State Parks offers a generous number of
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no-cost opportunities to get out and explore on a fee-free day — and there are three in June! On June 7–8 (Free Fishing Weekend) and 19 (Juneteenth), visitors to our state parks can park their car without a Discover Pass. Get out and play!
� The celebration of the Eastside’s agricultural past and present goes retro this year Duvall Days reinvents itself as “Duvall Daze,” kicking off with a fun run on Friday evening and culminating in the Grand Parade, kids’ zone, music, car show and fireworks on Saturday. Friday–Saturday, June 6–7. Festival activities are free except for the fun run.
� Sound the alarm! You won’t want to miss this chance to meet Seattle Fire Department firefighters, try on firefighter gear and learn about fire safety. Slide down the pole and scamper over to Fire Day at MOHAI, Saturday, June 7, 10 a.m.–1 p.m. Fire Day activities are free; regular museum admission is not included or required.
� This is a good bet to burn off a big Father’s Day brunch. Gather up your family’s bikes (or scooters) and helmets, and roll out on a pleasant bike ride along Lake Washington. June Bicycle Weekends, when a section of Lake Washington Boulevard is closed off to cars, take place Saturday–Sunday, May 31–June 1, June 14–15 and 28–29, with more dates through September. Free.
� What could be sweeter than
meeting all the lambs, calves, chicks and bunnies at Swans Trail Farms and then picking strawberries from the berry fields? Celebrate the beginning of summer at the farm’s family-friendly Baby Animals and Berries Festival. June 14–15, 19–22 and 28–29. Book tickets in advance: $24.95 per person ages 1 and older; tots ages 11 months and younger enter free.
� Hopefully, soccer superfans have already secured their tickets to the highly anticipated Lumen Field–hosted FIFA Club World Cup games in Seattle. There will be six games in all, three of which feature our hometown heroes, the Sounders, on June 15, 19 and 23. Tickets start at $110.
� Calling all car-loving dads! For a special Father’s Day outing that will get his motor running, cruise on over to Fenders on Front Street. Admire classic cars, trucks and motorcycles; plus, partake in kids activities and food truck fare. Sunday, June 15, 8 a.m.–3 p.m. Free.
� The largest Juneteenth celebration in Washington state returns to Tacoma’s Stewart Heights Park, Thursday, June 19, 11 a.m.–5 p.m. Festivities include live music, community resources, a kids play zone, food trucks and more.
� Giant puppets, stilt walkers, parade floats and wacky naked bicyclists — witness the Solstice Parade and Fremont Fair. To celebrate the start of summer, get your free-spirited self to
June 6–8 | Friday–Sunday
Panda Fest
Seattle Center
Seattle’s “Center of the Universe” on June 21–22. The Solstice Parade happens on Saturday at 1 p.m.; the Dog Parade is on Sunday beginning at 2 p.m.
� PrideFest, one of the nation’s largest, is back at Seattle
June 7 | Saturday Fire Day MOHAI
Center with activities and entertainment for people of all ages. Celebrate all types of families and all manner of love on Sunday, June 29, noon–8 p.m. Free. ■
Julie Dodobara is ParentMap’s calendar editor.
June 7
Discover Healing Play at KidsQuest
Bring a plush pal to Teddy Bear Clinic, June 7, for health fun with student doctors. Learning comes to life Tuesday-Sunday with more than 25 kid-curated exhibits. kidsquestmuseum.org
June 7
Dragon Boat Workshop
Join us on June 7 for a hands-on boat-building workshop inspired by the annual Dragon Boat Festival. Free with admission! Ages 5 and older. seattlechildrensmuseum.org
June 14
Come be you with us at our Prideful Playdate. Enjoy drag story time, vibrant pride-themed activities, our kid-friendly Prideful Parade and more!
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