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Vol. 113 No. 32 September 9, 2011


Serving Bayville, the Brookvilles, Centre Island, Cold Spring Harbor, Cove Neck, East Norwich, Lattingtown, Laurel Hollow, Locust Valley, Matinecock, Mill Neck, Muttontown, Oyster Bay, Oyster Bay Cove, Syosset and Woodbury

In memoriam for our neighbors ▲ ▲

Anthony Perez Andrew K. Friedman ▼

Bernard E. Patterson ▼ Stuart Todd Meltzer

After 10 years, lost loved ones still shining in our hearts The Guardian is paying homage to our close neighbors, to the 350 Nassau County residents and to all who perished in the World Trade Center attack on Sept. 11, 2001. Ten years ago the events of tht fateful Tuesday changed the world in many ways, but the biggest damage came to the families who will forever be missing members. In the following alphabetical list, family and friends share some anecdotes as well as thoughts about their loved ones, reinforcing that although they are gone, they will never be forgotten.


▲ Brooke A. Jackman

Edward J. Papa ▲ John Ballantine Niven

Thomas A. Mahon

Jonathan “J.C.” Connors ▲ Timothy M. O’Brien ▲

▲ Maria Rose Abad ▲

Jonathan S. Ryan ▲

Joseph A. Kelly

Described as a “hardworking executive, always with a smile,” Maria Rose Abad, 49, of Syosset had started as an Administrative Assistant at Keefe, Bruyette & Woods and had worked her way up to Senior Vice President as well as the highest ranking woman in the company. She was in her office on the 89th floor of Tower Two at the World Trade Center on the morning of September 11th. Born and raised in Queens, Abad had originally studied socially and wanted to be a teacher. She was an avid reader who absorbed hundreds of books per year. Abad is survived by her husband of 26 years, Rudy. He said, “We had a Cinderella marriage. Everyone knew that we were the happiest couple you’d ever meet. We lived for each other.” Her plan was to join Rudy in retirement at the end of 2001 so (Continued on page 6)

Venditto ready to serve again in town he loves Oyster Bay Guardian: What drives you to run for an eighth term?

by David J. Criblez

Photo by David J. Criblez

John Venditto greets Carol Petraglia.

Supervisor John Venditto has enjoyed one of the most successful careers in the history of the Town of Oyster Bay. After serving as a Town Board member (19811990) and Town attorney (1991-97), Venditto has reigned supreme as Town supervisor since 1998. Throughout both the North and South Shores, Venditto’s popularity has increased with each term handily winning elections by big margins. Currently, he has announced his candidacy for an 8th term. The Guardian recently spoke with Supervisor Venditto about his reasons for running again, his subscription to the Republican philosophy, how he connects with the residents and his lifelong desire to be an elected official.

Supervisor John Venditto: “We still have some unfinished business. There are projects that I’d like to see through to competition. We are in this economic downturn and it’s a challenge. I’d like to stay with the Town rather than abandon ship during these perilous times. If I’m fortunate enough to win and serve my term it will be a sweet 16.” OBG: What keeps you coming back? Venditto: “I was born and raised in this Township. I can’t tell you how much I loved growing up here and how much I appreciate it. When I became an adult I never

thought about going anywhere else. I’m in love with the Town. When I say ‘there’s no better place to live, work and raise a family’ - there’s much more truth than rhetoric in that statement. This is where I want to be and this is what I want to do.” OBG: There are many elements to your job. Which part do you enjoy the most? Venditto: “In the course of a given morning I could be on the phone with a resident discussing potholes on their street or how the snow wasn’t plowed as well as it should have been. Minutes later I could be on a phone conference with the Governor of the state of New York talking about an environmental bond issue. It’s amazing (Continued on page 7)

Exhibit at Raynham Hall celebrates its women Raynham Hall Museum, a historic house museum dating from the 1740s, certainly had its fair share of celebrated residents including Robert Townsend who served as a spy for General George Washington during the Revolutionary War. Other founding families in the Oyster Bay area included the Weekeses, Coles, Underhills, and Youngs. Naturally, these families intermarried often, and the Townsends and Weekeses were no exception. The men of these families were well regarded in such fields as law, politics, mercantile trading, and medicine. While the undertakings of the Weekes men are well-publicized, often the many accomplishments of the women have been overlooked. In a traditional genealogy, family lines are described as stretching into the distant past along the fathers’ side. However, matrilineal genealo-

Alice Russell Howland Delano

Alice Hathaway Delano Weekes

gies — those traced along a female line — can provide a wealth of information that a traditional genealogy omits. The high social standing of the Weekes is evidenced by the collections of documents that survive them, like the Weekes Family Scrapbook, which is the centerpiece of a new exhibition. This scrapbook contains letters,

Alice “Wynne” Delano Weekes

Alice Delano Weekes

autographs, certificates and other written ephemera from the celebrities and dignitaries of the time. The stations of the Weekes men allowed them to collect the writings of such individuals as Theodore Roosevelt; Victor Emmanuel, the King of Italy; and William Wordsworth, among others. However, this scrapbook does not merely serve as a repository for famous

signatures, but also contains more personal correspondences, such as valentines and notes written from parents to children. Indeed, by examining the contents of the scrapbook as a whole, the integral role of women in the Weekes family comes to the fore. Raynham Hall’s new exhibition, “A Scrap-Book for the Ages: Four Generations of Alices,” which opens to the public on September 10th, focuses on the lives of four women of the Weekes family, all of whom were named Alice. In this exhibition, the four Alices include a mother, daughter, granddaughter, and great-granddaughter. That four successive generations of women in this family bore the name “Alice” illustrates a tradition that stems from the extraordinary nature of each Alice, and allows the matrilineal line to be emphasized more (Continued on page 7)

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Dr. Praver releases ‘New Science of Love’

When it comes to the complicated subject of love, people often refer to it as “matters of the heart.” However, in her new book, The New Science of Love, Dr. Fran Cohen Praver of Locust Valley explains how “your brain is the heart of love” and the manner in which we can use it to bring back love. Dr. Praver, who has lived and practiced as a psychologist and psychoanalyst in Locust Valley for the past 25 years, was born and raised in Montreal and enjoys the tranquility of the North Shore. The New Science of Love is her third book as she released Crossroads at Midlife in 2004 followed by Daring Wives: Insight into Women’s Desires for Extramarital Affairs in 2006. She also known for her popular blogs for Psychology Today. “My new book is to help people whose relationship needs a little tweaking or a real overhaul,” said Dr. Praver. “This is the first book that uses neuroscience as the basis for bringing love back and making it exciting again.” When asked why she choose this particular subject, Dr. Praver said, “I was in a marriage where love had faded and I tried very hard to make it work. I wanted to help others in a similar situation. It takes two people who are dedicated to make this happen. One person can’t do it alone.” Surprisingly Dr. Praver noted that there are many young people who are in passionless marriages these days. “Sometimes a lot of anger, resentment and disconnect has occurred. They are left with simply caring about each other and being

Dr. Fran Cohen Praver of Locust Valley devoted to one another but the passion is gone,” she said. “People then hurt each other with infidelity and I teach in the book how you can forgive and move on.” In 2011 relationships tend to run out of steam early on. “We live in a complex world right now. Everything is fast. If things don’t work right away, couples want a change. They are unwilling to work at it,” said Dr. Praver. “The internet has sped up our society. There is a big emphasis on instant gratification. They want a quick fix but there is no quick fix when it comes to love.” In her book Dr. Praver talks about “mirror neurons,” which are brain cells that are located in the premotor cortex that are released when we perform an action or observe someone else performing an action and we can relate to it as if it were our own. This helps us connect with our partners. “The mirror neuron system is the infrastructure for empathy. We are born with the capacity for empathy,” said Dr. Praver. “When things go awry in a bad marriage, the empathy goes off track but we can bring it back. The ability to feel for

someone else is the most important thing in a relationship.” Very often couples cite vast differences as being a major problem in their relationship. However, Dr. Praver views differences as a positive. “If you are a strong person who is confident and in touch with yourself, the differences can enrich you and help you expand. They don’t have to divide you. They can be wonderful,” she said. “A lot of people love someone but they want to change them. You can’t do that. You can only change yourself.” To those who are quick to pull the plug on their relationship, Dr. Praver warned, “If you don’t fix yourself, whatever went wrong in your current relationship will go wrong in the next one.” The book is based on real life situations Dr. Praver experienced with her patients but she drastically changed the details so they couldn’t be identified. She said she gains a lot of knowledge from her patients. But perhaps the biggest lesson she learned is that people have the strength to change if they want to. Dr. Praver said, “I admire the human condition. I am always amazed at how people can transform themselves.” After reading her book Dr. Praver wants people to walk away with the understanding that relationships can be rekindled. “The universal wish is to love and be loved in return and be able to maintain that,” she said. “When you have that kind of love, your brain chemicals make you feel great.” Dr. Praver’s book can be purchased at amazon. com or local book outlets. For more info., visit: www.

‘Music for Peace’ concert in LV this weekend On Sunday, September 11th, a free “Music for Peace” concert will be provided for the community in Locust Valley’s Thomas Park. The September Concert is being sponsored by Locust Valley’s Operation Democracy with the support of the Locust Valley Chamber of Commerce and is a celebration of peace and humanity through music. The music will be from 1-4 PM with Long Island singer and acoustic guitarist Rob Baione whose music selections range from classical to country, rock to rap, folk to metal, etc. His philosophy is “there’s a song for everybody.” This concert is part of a program hosted by The September Concert. This non-profit is part of the cultural program of The Sister Cities International. Sister Cities Int., concept of fostering peace one city at a time, was initiated on Sept. 11, 1956 by President Dwight

D. Eisenhower. President Eisenhower launched a program about citizen diplomacy and building world peace through grass roots relationships. President Eisenhower witnessed this relationship first hand when he visited Sainte Mere Eglise in France after the World War II and saw what a small community in the United States was doing for the first town liberated on D-Day 1944. This town was Locust Valley and Operation Democracy was born. This grassroots program was nationally known around in America as Operation Democracy (1947 to 1956) until 1956 when Sister Cities International was developed. The concept of adopting a town that was devastated by the affects of the war but also at the heart of this movement was the belief that the government alone cannot achieve peace, it is set in the motion in the hearts of people themselves.

MUSIC FOR PEACE September 11, 2011 Sunday-1pm to 4pm

Locust Valley’s Thomas Park Gazebo


Rob Barione Acoustic guitar & vocals-music selections range from classical to country, rock to rap, folk to metal, etc. There’s a song for everybody. Audiences are always entertained by his charisma and ability to include them in the show. One way he does this is by allowing the audience to choose the songs. It’s like having your own personal jukebox. No one wants to leave when they hear “their song”.

Everyone is welcome! Bring a blanket! Come enjoy an afternoon in the park & the free music! Presented by:

Locust Valley’s Operation Democracy Program (Locust Valley is the Founding Sister City of Sainte Mere Eglise, France 1947) This concert is part of the cultural program of The Sister Cities International.


By David J. Criblez

Our mission is to fill the skies with music at the same time around the world every year. We strive each year to bring people together, to reaffirm our hope for peace, and to celebrate life and our universal humanity.


honors the fallen and salutes those who answered the call and have made a difference since that fateful day.

Rob Baione The concept of holding a free concert is to give the community a chance to come to the park and sit for moment and just listen to the music. “We are inviting everyone to stop by and come together as a community. Bring a blanket or chairs, no speeches will be made, it will be exactly what it says - Music for Peace,” commented Kaye Weninger, President of Operation Democracy. “We just want to fill the skies with music and hope for peace.”

Harrison (back) and Kyle Brown (right) of Locust Valley with cousin Eric Brown of Glen Cove (left) caught a dozen snappers in 5 minutes in the Creek in Bayville on Labor Day Monday, September 5th on the vessel Sea J accompanied by Scott Brown and Stacey Linardos Bruno. They finished with a total of 25 for the day. When they got home the boys gutted and cleaned the snappers then lightly floured and fried them with a little salt and a splash of malt vinegar.

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Loco #35 full steam ahead

Photos by David J. Criblez

Pamela Betti, above left, will perform with her band at the Bayville Waterside Festival on September 17th from 2-6 PM. Above right, 6 Gun 5 (guitarist Bobby Valderrama) will play along with Racket on September 18th from Noon-6 PM.

Bayville Chamber prepares for Waterside Festival Bayville Chamber of Commerce will host its annual Bayville Waterside Festival on September 17th and 18th from 10 AM to 6 PM at Ransom Beach in Bayville. This is the fourth year that the festival has been under the direction of the Bayville Chamber it was previous organized by the Inc. Village of Bayville. The opening of the festival will coincide with the commencement of Bayville’s annual Family Bike-A-

Thon. Beginning at 10 AM (registration starts at 9 AM) at West Harbor Beach the pack of cyclists will travel to Ransom Beach were they will be met with drinks and refreshments courtesy of the Chamber. The festival will offer a food court with a variety of choices beyond the usual faire. Beer and wine will be available for the adults. Gooseberry Grove will providing inflatables and activities for the children’s area.

On Sunday the “Clam Jam Eating Contest” will return with the clams being donated by the North Oyster Bay Baymen’s Association. 50/50 raffles will be conducted each day and the Chamber will use the proceeds to fund their annual “Breakfast with Santa” holiday event as well as scholarships for the community’s youth. Live music will be performed by the Pamela Betti Band on Saturday, Sept. 17th from 2-6 PM. Betti has

worked with some some of the biggest acts in the music including Richie Cannata and Liberty DeVitto from Billy Joel’s Band. She is also the winner of the Long Island Blues Society’s Challenge. Local band 6 Gun 5 will perform on Sunday trading offsets with Racket from Noon-6 PM. For more information, visit the Bayville Chamber of Commerce’s website:

On Tuesday, September 6th the Oyster Bay Town Board voted to approve contributing $222,000 towards the restoration of historic steam engine Locomotive #35, under the direction of the Oyster Bay Railroad Museum. Nassau County will put up $262,000 and OBRM will throw in $40,000 for the $524,000 restoration project. Locomotive #35 was constructed in 1928 in the Juniata PA shops of the Pennsylvania Railroad for service on its subsidiary, the Long Island Rail Road. After 27 years of faithful service, Locomotive #35 was formally retired in 1955 as the railroad replaced its steam locomotives with more efficient diesel-electric machines.

Valicenti wins Labor Day Raffle The Bayville Fire Company announced the winners of its 17th annual Labor Day Raffle, run by Raffle Chair Joe Florio and his Raffle Committee (Rich Florio, Joe Noto, Brian Tedaldi and Marc Bilbrey), on Monday, September 5th. First Place ($10,000) went to Giselle Valicenti of Bayville. The lucky ticket #1357 was pulled by volunteer Shelia Brown and was sold to her by Danny Antonetti. Second Place ($1,000) went to Ronald Thomas of Oyster Bay (ticket #361) and

Photo by David J. Criblez

Third Place ($500) went to Adele Burke of Bayville (ticket #1280). (Pictured above) Volunteer Shelia Brown pulls the winning ticket from the barrel of nearly 2,000 names.

Mill Neck’s Fall Harvest Festival turns 50 Every year, Mill Neck Family’s Fall Harvest Festival draws tens of thousands of returning visitors and many more new friends. The Festival annually brings the best of the autumn season to Long Island, making a trip to the Mill Neck campus over Columbus Day weekend irresistible. This year’s Festival, to be held on October 8th and 9th from 9 AM to 5 PM, celebrates 50 years and promises to be better than ever, with the return of apples, crafts, seasonable produce, grilled bratwurst, children’s activities and anniversary events throughout the weekend. Located on the grounds of a historic Gold Coast estate, between Oyster Bay and Bayville, the Festival, also known as the Apple Fest,

has it all. Visitors will find a wide variety of cheeses in the “Cheese House,” and plenty of mouth-watering baked goods, jellies, fudge and strudels. The “Country Store” also features a fullline of famous Karl Ehmer wurst and bacon products. In the children’s activities area, Gooseberry Grove will have a fantastic array of games and activities, and facepainting by Agostino Arts will also be back this year on Saturday from 11 AM to 4 PM and Sunday from noon to 4 PM. In addition to the Festival’s golden anniversary, Mill Neck Manor School for the Deaf turns 60, the Mill Neck Manor Early Childhood Center turns 20 and Mill Neck Services for Deaf Adults turns 25. If you are

a current student, client or staff member, or part of our alumni, please visit our Hospitality Tent to sign in, reminisce and receive a special anniversary souvenir. The Festival also showcases the latest in Deaf technology, sign language novelty items and books. Each year, Mill Neck Manor alumni attend the Fall Harvest Festival as a homecoming, and the event brings the heart of the Long Island Deaf Community together. Other activities include a hearing van featuring free hearing screenings from 9 AM to 4 PM on Saturday and Sunday, and our successful 50/50 raffle. Be sure to take a chance…tickets are only $10 each, and the winner, picked on Sunday at 3 pm, receives half the

net profit of the money collected. Over the years, winners have taken home over $10,000! The Mill Neck Family of Organizations will host the second annual “Kick-Off Breakfast for Volunteers” at the Deaf Education Center from 9 to 11 AM on Saturday, October 1st. Open to all 2011 Fall Festival volunteers ages 16 and over, the event will include a continental breakfast, orientation and long-time volunteer recognition. For more information or to sign up, contact Nancy Leghart at (516) 628-4243 or via email: or Michelle Yadoo at (516) 628-4231 or via email: Proceeds from the Festival benefit the Mill Neck Fam-

Photo by Pat Strassberg

Flashback Shakes Up the Homestead As the summer came to a close Flashback pulled into the Homestead in Oyster Bay for one more hurrah to kick off the Labor Day weekend with the Oyster Bay Main Street Association’s final “Sundown” Concert on September 1st. The band rocked the outdoor patio opening with Van Morrison’s “Moon Dance” followed by classics “Under the Boardwalk,” “My Girl,” “Teenager in Love” and everyone’s favorite, “Sweet Caroline.” (Pictured above from left) Guitarist Bob Heaning, bassist Mike Digiuseppe, lead guitarist/vocalist Chris Angyal, drummer Bill Fitzpatrick and guitarist/vocalist Bob Boggia.

The Fall Harvest Festival, also commonly known as Apple Fest, featured a bounty of assorted apples. (Pictured above) Two visitors carry a selection of the delicious, fresh fruit at last year’s festival. ily of Organizations, which includes Mill Neck Manor School for the Deaf, the Mill Neck Manor Early Childhood Center and Mill Neck Services for Deaf Adults. Please join the Mill Neck family for our very special annual Fall Harvest Festival. The Festival owes its success to the support of volun-

teers, and the help of civic groups, students, alumni and parents. In addition, local businesses contribute to the Festival by presenting donations, providing services or contributing products. For sponsorship opportunities or for more information about the Festival, call (516) 628-4231.

LV Rotary to hold Oktoberfest Locust Valley Rotary will hold its annual “Oktoberfest” beginning Friday night, September 23rd from 6-10 PM and continuing Saturday, September 24th. The German Festival will be held in Locust Valley’s Thomas Park with umpa band Die Schalauberger plus authentic German beer and food on Friday night. On Saturday, September

24th the festivities will start at 1 PM and run till 8 PM with old time favorite German band The Spitzbaum, kids activities, German dancers and more German beer and food. Adults admission will be $5 while children enter free. For more information, visit: or call Scott Pullo at (516) 7595319.


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t is difficult to believe that 10 years have come and gone since Al Qaeda terrorists slammed two hijacked jetliners into the World Trade Center, a third into a field in Pennsylvania and a fourth into the Pentagon, killing nearly 3,000 innocent people. We have endured so much since that terrifying time. The long, slow recovery from the attacks was punctuated by thousands of funerals and memorial services. We have lived with the constant threat of yet another attack. Two wars have exacted a terrible toll on the nation. More than 6,200 American troops have died in Iraq and Afghanistan, and more than 100,000 of our men and women have been injured in combat. The two wars could ultimately cost the U.S. $4 trillion. We are not the same country we were a decade ago. We are immeasurably less naïve. We understand better that evil lurks in the world and bad things can happen to us. Of course, we must never forget Sept. 11, 2001. The families who lost loved ones certainly cannot. They still grieve. As a nation, we still mourn their loss with them. At the same time, we must continue to move forward, which isn’t always easy. Osama bin Laden, mastermind of the 9/11 attacks, is dead, but new terrorists have emerged to take his place. We still have tens of thousands of combat troops in harm’s way in Iraq and Afghanistan. And the country remains mired in the economic doldrums. In August, the U.S. created no new jobs and the unemployment rate remained stuck at 9.1 percent. Still, we must remain hopeful. America’s resolve has always carried us through to tomorrow, from the American Revolution to the first and second world wars to today. We are not quitters. We may be down, but we are far from out. Witness the remarkable progress made at ground zero. Construction of the 1,776-foot-tall One World Trade Center, a

magnificent glass-and-steel structure, is now half finished. The $3 billion project is expected to wind down in 2013. The white oak-lined Memorial Plaza is expected to be unveiled this week, and the National September 11 Museum next year. We encourage you to visit this hallowed ground, and when your children are old enough, take them with you. Share with them your memories of that awful day 10 years ago. Help them to understand that, yes, there are those who would seek to destroy what is good in the world –– freedom, democracy. But remind them, as well, that there are good men and women in our military who are fighting day in, day out to preserve the ideals that we, as a nation, hold dear. There were also good men and women –– our police officers and firefighters –– working to aid the victims of Sept. 11. Hundreds of firefighters raced into the twin towers to help get people out. Some 343 of them never returned, making the ultimate sacrifice in the line of duty. In the days and weeks that followed the attacks, people were kind to one another. We comforted one another. We donated food, blankets and money to the Red Cross. Our narcissistic tendencies were suddenly gone. Here’s hoping the 10-year remembrance will help us rekindle that spirit of community, because we need it just as much a decade later. Our schools can do much to keep the history of Sept. 11 alive. The World Trade Center Tribute Center is advocating for inclusion of a 9/11 curriculum in the schools, noting that history textbooks –– particularly American history textbooks –– should be updated to include the attacks. We agree. We wish we could rewind history to Sept. 10 and somehow alter the course of events to bring back all of the men and women killed the following day, but we cannot. We remember Sept. 11 not only to honor them, but so we never forget that we must always work toward world peace.

Of course, we must never forget Sept. 11, 2001. The families who lost loved ones certainly cannot. They still grieve. As a nation, we still mourn their loss with them.

Presbyterian Church offers 9/11 service The community is invited to a special healing and contemplative 9/11 service, which will be held at The First Presbyterian Church, located at 60 East Main Street in Oyster Bay, on Sun-

day, September 11th. This service will consist of special music, hymns, prayers, scripture and a brief homily; it will offer an opportunity to reflect, remember and find hope. Worship be-

gins at 10 AM. The building is fully accessible. A bagpipe performance will precede the service beginning at 9:45 PM. For more information, call (516) 922-5477.

THINGS TO DO - PLACES TO GO Friday, September 9th

■Teaching Studios of Art inaugural Plein Air Competition at Sagamore Hill 10 AM-5 PM. Entry is by application only and is limited to a selection of 35 artists. For more information, visit: http://www. events/tsa-sagamore.php. Also Saturday, Sept. 10th. ■ The Town of Oyster Bay will hold its annual 9-11 Memorial Ceremony to honor the memory of those lost on Sept. 11, 2001 at TOBAY Beach at 7 PM. ■ “Long Island Fringe Festival: Fringe Force 3� at C.W. Post Campus in Brookville featuring art, dance, music, poetry, theater, film and more. Also Sept. 10th & 11th. Tickets: $25 for the entire weekend. Discounted tickets of $20 are available for Arts Council Friends and Affiliates (tickets must be purchased through the Arts Council). To purchase tickets, call (516) 223-2522, ext. 11 or email: infoLIACF@gmail. com. For a complete schedule of events, visit www. longislandfringefestival.

Saturday, September 10th

â– State Senator Carl L. Marcellino will commemorate the 10th Anniversary of September 11th with a ceremony at the Western Waterfront 9/11 Memorial, located at West End Avenue in Oyster Bay at 10 AM. For more

information, visit: www. ■The Mill River Rod & Gun Club will hold its 12th annual Pat & Jimmy Carroll Children’s Snapper Derby at the West Harbor docks at West Harbor Beach in Bayville from 10:30 AMNoon. Fishing poles and bait will be provided or participants can bring their own. Prizes and lunch will follow at the Mill River Rod & Gun Club, located on West Harbor Drive in Bayville. For more info., call (516) 628-9643. ■ The 53rd annual Frank Russo Memorial Chicken BBQ, sponsored by the Community United Methodist Church of East Norwich, will be held on the church grounds, located at located at 1300 JerichoOyster Bay Road, from 4 to 7 PM. Dinners are $12 per adult and $7 per child. Takeout, baked goods and White Elephant sale will be available. For more information, call (516) 922-0133. ■ The Oak Neck Athletic Council will hold its annual Old Fashioned Clambake on the bay side of Centre Island Beach in Bayville from 7-11 PM. The event will include a lobster dinner, live music and more. Tickets are $75 per person and can be obtained by calling Nancy Staab at (516) 628-0301. For more information, visit: www.

Sunday, September 11th

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gion of the Horseless Carriage Club of America and the National Park Service will host a Pre-World War II Antique Car show at President Theodore Roosevelt’s Cove Neck home, Sagamore Hill National Historic Site from 10 AM to 4 PM. Preregistration donation: $8 or $10 day of the event. For more information, call (631) 366-2498. ■“Music for Peace� free concert in Thomas Park in Locust Valley from 1-4 PM featuring the music of Rob Baione. Sponsored by Operation for Democracy.

Saturday, September 17th

■Bayville Chamber of Commerce will host its annual Bayville Waterside Festival from 10 AM to 6 PM at Ransom Beach in Bayville. Food, arts & crafts, live music and children’s activities. For more information, visit the Bayville Chamber of Commerce’s website: www.bayvillechamberofcommerce. com. Also September 18th ■ Beach/Bay Clean-Up (via Town of Oyster Bay, Friends of the Bay and the Power Squadron). TR Park boat ramps at 8:30 AM. ■ Family Bike-A-Thon at West Harbor Beach in Bayville (over the bridge and make a right) at 10 AM. For more information, or register, call Donna at Bayville Village Hall at 6281439, ext. 16.

With the 10th anniversary of the 9/11 terrorists attacked on downtown America, the nation will commemorate with somber memorials and solemn reflections. In Locust Valley the community is invited to attend a ceremony to honor the memory of those who lost their lives on September 11, 2001. Today, Friday, September 9th, at 5:30 PM situated on the corner of Weir Lane and the entrance of Thomas Park parking lot, a new memorial will be unveiled in remembrance of the victims of our community and the surrounding areas. The public is invited to come together as a community for a moment of reflection and remembrance. The ceremony will include the unveiling of the monuments, raising of the flag, a moment of silence, reading of the names of the victims from Locust Valley and the sur-

rounding areas as well as a prayer and a candlelight vigil in memory of 9/11 victims to symbolize enlightenment and hope for the future and to never forget. The memorial will consist of two 7-foot replicas of the towers made out of Grigio Sardo Granite, which were designed, built as well as donated by Anna Villella of Cosmo Tile and Stone and brother Mario Gallo of Forest Iron Works. The Gallo Family has been working on plans for this project the past few years with the help of Kaye Weninger, who has been instrumental with working with the Town of Oyster Bay, the project will now be completed in time for the 10th anniversary. Kaye and Randy Carr have helped Anna and Mario tremendously in the coordination of getting the memorial garden donated and completed for the community. The towers will be

placed in a garden for remembrance which will be surrounded by four new trees and three park benches, planting and bushes and a flagpole donated by various local organizations as well as businesses and families of the victims which include: Cosmo Tile and Stone, Forest Iron Works, Villella Construction, Anker Electric, Greenvale Electric Supply, Locust Valley Chamber of Commerce, Operation Democracy, Locust Valley Rotary, Matinecock Neighborhood Association, Howard Van Wagner American Legion Post 962, Miller Nurseries, J. McLaughlin, Trois Jours Boutiques Etc, LeJoaillier, Daniel Gale Realty, Linda & Jim Slattery and the Town of Oyster Bay. The remembrance ceremony will be held rain or shine. For more information, call Kaye Weninger at (516) 637-8496.

AMEDEI Task Force Forum to be held in OB New York State Assemblymen Michael Montesano and Bill Reilich will host the Assembly Minority Economic Development, Education and Infrastructure Task Force forum on Thursday, September 15th from 10 AM-noon at the Oyster Bay Community Center, located at 59 Church Street in Oyster Bay. At the forum, task force members will join with local business owners to discuss government policies that impede small business development and private sector job creation and contribute to the migration of young people out of state. The task force is traveling throughout the state, gathering input and feedback from those who educate and employ the workforce, including small businesses and industry organizations. At the conclusion of the fo-

Long Island Dog Shows coming to Planting Fields The Brookhaven Kennel Club hosts their 42nd AllBreed Dog Show, Obedience and Rally Trial with special attraction of Best Puppy in Show, Guided Dogs Show Tour, education tent, vendors and food on Friday, September 30th at Planting Fields Arboretum in Oyster Bay. Admission is $12 per carload. For additional information call (631) 467-7510 or go to: www.brookhavenkc. org. Westbury Kennel Association will host its 95th AllBreed Dog Show and 79th annual Junior Showmanship on Sunday, October 2nd at Planting Fields Arboretum. Special attractions will include Best Bred By Competitor in Show, Best Beginner Puppy in Show, Meet the Breeds, Guided Dog Show Tour, Canine Good Citizen Test, Flyball Demonstration, Carting Demonstration and Nose Works (dogs trained in scent discrimination), education tent, vendors and food. Admission is $20 per carload or $10 per person. For additional information, call (516) 579-3977 or go to: www. Nassau Dog Training Club will hold its 63rd Annual Obedience and 7th annual Rally Trial on Sunday, October 2nd at Planting Fields Arboretum. For more information, email: wackydogs@

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St. Dominic’s brings Bayhawks football back

By Jeff Davis

Football season here

For the next several weeks this column will be centered on high school football and our local teams, the Oyster Bay Baymen, the Locust Valley Falcons and St. Dominic Bayhawks. The season for these teams begins this weekend and the long hours of practice and the lessons learned are now going to be put to the test. OBHS BAYMEN For Oyster Bay it will be a season to see if the Baymen can begin their rebirth as a football squad. With the change in coaches, the dean of Nassau coaches, Joe Knoll is now trying to return the team to its former greatness. His biggest obstacle will be a lack of experience and a small squad that will place great demands on the players. The Baymen are ranked 13th in a 13 team division. They are coming off a 1-7 season and will be especially venerable to any injuries, which would make the small team even smaller in numbers. Yet Coach Knoll can be an incredible motivator and will not be out coached. If there is a way to get this team to win he will find it. The Baymen will have a difficult task as their opener at home against West Hempstead will be their toughest game. The Rams of West Hempstead are ranked 5th but probably should be in the number two spot. They have dropped down from Conference III where they were a 4-4 team. Virtually the entire squad has returned and tailback Tayvon Hall is truly a threat. He can run, pass and is one of the better on field leaders. He also has Justin Boatwright as a running mate. This young man cuts and has real speed and doesn’t mind hitting. On defense he also is the leader playing middle linebacker. The Baymen are not without weapons. Senior quarterback Steve O’Neill is an exceptional athlete, leader and can throw the ball. The question is…who will he throw to? Presently there is no proven receiver and that will need to be developed if OB is to gain some wins. Seniors Phil Mihlstin and Robert Morgan hopefully will step up and become the receivers O’Neill will need as well as good running backs. Dylan Rankin has some experience on the line and with Matt Romeo will be sometimes pressed when trying to handle some of the bigger teams they will face. The team has a tough road ahead but under Knoll’s direction could surprise some of the teams they will face. LOCUST VALLEY FALCONS The Locust Valley Falcons have a real defense. They have perhaps the best passing quarterback in the Conference in Joe Jacobi. They have a graceful, tall receiver who is an all-county basketball player in Alex Rawa. But the big question is can they establish a running game? The key for the Falcons will be the offensive line. The running back Senior Chris Appel has speed and quickness but so far in pre-season scrimmages the line has been inconsistent and Appel hasn’t been able to show what we saw in glimpses last season. The size is there and big linemen Marion Maldonado, Kevin Rieger, and Louis Falciano, will have to start moving defenses. These big guns can become “Killer Birds” but they have to get it together when they face a seasoned and tough Mineola Mustangs in Locust Valley. The Mustangs senior linebacker Nico Pantelides will be testing the Falcons and he has the speed and toughness to make it a long day for LV. The running of Steve Napolitano for Mineola will be a concern to the defense. Yet as a unit the Locust Valley defense has been almost impenetrable in the preseason. Tom Nastasi, Bobby Heney and young sophomores John Piscitello and Matt Vezza add strength and depth to the Falcons. Coach Matt McFarland in his first year will be tested by the older more experienced coaches and his opener against Dan Guido who is in his 25th year will be especially difficult. ST. DOMINIC BAYHAWKS St. Dominic’s will be starting the season with a home opener under the lights at Centre Island Field in Bayville tonight Friday, Sept. 9th. Head Coach Tore Barbaccia is trying to resurrect the St. Dominic football program, which was dormant for 29 years prior to returning last season. The Bayhawks have the task of having to face an experienced Bishop Ford H.S. With 21 freshmen on the squad the team is very young. Last year St. Dominic’s was 1-4 but that is one big year in experience and with the quality of student athlete that St. Dominic’s produces I suspect that Barbaccia will have his team ready and playing tough exciting football.

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There’s new spark of excitement at St. Dominic High School this year as the Bayhawks football team unveils its first full varsity schedule since 1988. The football program is being rebooted by Head Coach Tore Barbaccia, who has been working for the past two years on re-establishing the sport at the school. “We want the program to get re-circulated amongst the public and let people know that St. Dominic’s football is back. What a better way to do it that playing a full varsity schedule,” said Coach Barbaccia. “This was fun for me because I never revived an old program before. You couldn’t predict what was going to happen.” Last year the team played an abbreviated varsity season and the players got their feet wet. “We are a young team. Half the kids never played football before. But we are putting things together,” said Coach Barbaccia. “The program is way ahead of where it should be. Usually it takes 5-6 years to build a varsity team.” Barbaccia played football for Locust Valley High School (Class of ’79) under the tutelage of legendary coach Fred Smith. “I’m old school,” he said. “I learned how to run a high school football program from Fred Smith.” Coach Barbaccia played college ball for Temple University under Wayne Hardin and Bruce Arians, current Offensive Coordinator for the Pittsburgh Steelers. He went on to coach at Jericho, LVHS and Oyster Bay High School, where he scored an undefeated season in 1997 before losing in the first round of the playoffs. When asked what he looks for in a player, Coach Barbaccia stated, “I want a player who will work hard not only in football but in academics. What they learn in the classroom is most important but what they learn on the football field is just as valuable.” Coach Barbaccia doesn’t believe in standout stars or MVPs. To him it’s all about the team as a whole. “Foot-

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ball is the type of sport where everyone is important. They all contribute to the game. It takes a lot of people to create a successful team,” he said. “They are all excellent young men.” St. Dominic Alumni have been calling for a return to football for many years. When Fr. Kevin Smith came to assume the role of pastor years ago, he decided to reinstate football. “It took a lot of hard work, running around and a tremendous amount of patience to pull this off,” said Barbaccia. “You need to believe in yourself, your staff and your students. Plus, have your morals in the right place. I believe if you work hard, it will come.” His goal is to get enough kids playing football to establish a Junior Varsity program. He also wants to draw some crowds to their

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home games at Centre Island Field in Bayville. “Last year’s games were packed. The curiosity factor is out there and people want St. Dominic’s to have a football program,” he declared. In terms of recruiting players Barbaccia sells them on the whole package of St. Dominic’s as a school. “We’ve had some good athletes who have jumped on board. This freshman group coming in is solid but they are only going to get better,” he said. “Our team has integrity. We care about our students and we work directly with them.” Over the summer St. Dominic’s weight room was open and players began conditioning to get a head start. Barbaccia already described this year as a “night & day” difference from last year. “We are trying to nurture

the younger kids and intertwine them with the older kids. As the season moves forward and they get some games under their belts, the camaraderie will build as they unite in the common purpose to win,” Barbaccia said. “These kids will never quit. I believe they have a realistic view of where they are but they will always keep giving and trying. That’s what you look for as a coach.” Tonight, Friday, September 9th, the Bayhawks will kick off their season with a big game against Bishop Ford High School at Centre Island Field in Bayville at 7:30 PM. “As far as I’m concerned, all the games are important,” said Coach Barbaccia. “I’m curious to see how much better we get as the season progresses. That’s what I’m looking for.”

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Loved ones lost on 9/11 still shine in our hearts

Jonathan “J.C.” Connors, 55, of Old Brookville, was a self-made man who had never attended college but spent many years tending bar at Mugs on Second Avenue in Manhattan. On the urging of his friends, Connors found a job on Wall Street because of his love of people and zest for life. He worked for various firms in New York City since the early 1970’s, including Cantor Fitzgerald, where he had been working since 1988. As Senior Vice President in Equities, Connors was “loved by everybody,” according to his wife Susan. Whenever people asked him how he was doing, he’d always enthusiastically respond, “Tip-top!” Being a father to his two sons, Jonathan and James, was a priority with Connors as his father had died when he was 12. He loved making money, fancy clothes, fine dining and dancing. He was madly in love with his wife who he often greeted with a passionate kiss. His view of life was influenced by his 89 year-old mother from Wexford, Ireland. “He talked to his mother all the time,” explained Susan. “She taught him to envelop life. She was a freethinker and he was one too.”

ANDREW K. FRIEDMAN “Laid back and lighthearted” are the words friends and family use to describe Andrew K. Friedman, 44, of Woodbury. He was Vice President for Institutional Equities Trading at Carr Futures. He had begun work on the 92nd floor offices in Tower One at the World Trade Center only a few weeks before September 11th. When Friedman called his wife Lisa, he said, “We have plenty of air, we’re going to be fine.” Lisa describes that as “typical Andy, he never wanted others to worry on his account.” A Valley Stream native, Friedman was a favorite among his friends and was teased “as we only wished he had a mean streak,” said David Goldman, Andy’s roommate at George Washington University. “He was a big teddy bear.” Friedman was his twin sons’, Michael and Daniel, favorite coach. He and his wife instilled strong family values in their sons. More than 2,000 people showed up to Friedman’s memorial service in Woodbury including family, college friends, work friends and neighbors. He was known as the “glue that held everybody together.” In his memory, the Andrew Friedman Memorial Award is annually distributed to Syosset High School and George Washington University Seniors. A basketball court was named after him at Syosset-Woodbury Park as well as an elevator at Woodbury Jewish Center and Piquets Lane in Woodbury was dubbed “Andrew K. Friedman Way.”

BROOKE A. JACKMAN “To know Brooke was to love her,” recalls her mother Barbara Jackman, describing her 23 yearold daughter, Brooke A. Jackman of Mill Neck. Brooke was a 1996 Oyster Bay High School graduate and received her B.A. in history

JOSEPH A. KELLY Joseph A. Kelly, 40, of Oyster Bay, worked for Cantor Fitzgerald as a Government Bond Trader and was on the 105th floor of Tower One at the World Trade Center when the first plane hit. Jim Kelly described his bighearted older brother as “extremely generous.” Once he left a new car at his parents’ house when he went to London for a few days and never came to pick it up. “The joke in the family was that you could never tell him something was nice because he would leave it there with you,” Jim added. A “competitive man, who turned family volleyball games as an Olympic event,” Kelly was a successful businessman, but “he had no love of money. He gave it away, but he loved to win.” Despite his frequent promotions and financial success, Kelly was looking for a job closer to home, even if it meant taking a paycut. Kelly was family man who is deeply missed by his wife Susan and their children, Christopher, Thomas, Caroline, Catherine and Timothy. As a graduate of Hofstra University, Kelly’s name is a part of the school’s 9/11 Memorial in front of C.V. Starr Hall at the Hempstead campus. His name is also a part of the Holy Rood Catholic Cemetery Memorial in Westbury.

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JOHN B. NIVEN John Ballantine Niven, 44, of Oyster Bay and New York, was Senior Vice President in Mergers and Acquisitions at Aon Risk Services, an insurance firm on the 105th floor of Tower Two at the World Trade Center. He spent weekdays in Manhattan and weekends in Oyster Bay. Niven is survived by his wife Ellen, son John Jr. (Jack) and his mother Mrs. William Niven, brother William and sisters Susan and Wendy. Growing up in Oyster Bay, Niven attended East Woods School and Salisbury School in Connecticut and Lake Forest College in Illinois. He was an avid tennis player who still played with his childhood friends. Niven loved to read about history and philosophy but his favorite activity was spending time with his son.

TIMOTHY M. O’BRIEN Timothy Michael O’Brien, 40, of Old Brookville, was the Managing Director of the mortgagebacked securities desk at Cantor Fitzgerald. He was the oldest of seven children and grew up in Rockville Centre.

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Syosset resident Stuart Todd Meltzer, 32, was an Energy Broker for a Cantor Fitzgerald. He is survived by his wife Lisa, sons Jacob and Dylan, parents Joyce and Zachary and brothers Lawrence and Kenneth. Meltzer attended the University of Michigan and Wesleyan College and was a longtime resident of Newton, MA. On the morning of September 11th, he was in his office on the 103rd floor of Tower One at the World Trade Center. After the first plane struck the building, Meltzer was able to call Lisa. “He called his wife and said, ‘I love you, I don’t think I’m going to make it, take care of the children,’ ” explained his father Zachary. “They tried to lock themselves in a room to get away from the smoke.” His brother Ken added, “Seeing that building collapse and not being able to do anything, I feel like I died up there with him. He was the best brother a man could have.”

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EDWARD JOSEPH PAPA During the 1993 bombing of the World Trade Center, Edward J. Papa, 47, of Oyster Bay, helped carry a wheelchair bound women down 10 flights of stairs to safety. Although a bit hesitant, he returned to his job as Vice President, Partner, Government Securities with Cantor Fitzgerald on the 105th floor of Tower One at the World Trade Center believing something like that could never happen again. Unfortunately it did, ending his life. Papa is survived by his wife Patti and their four daughters, Michelle, Maggie, Elizabeth and Kacee. The couple met when they were 15 at a high school sock-hop at St. Mary’s in Manhasset, which was then an all-girls school and he was a student at the all-boys Chaminade High School in Mineola. “It was love at first sight and we were talking about getting married within a few weeks of meeting each other,” said Patti. Eddie attended Boston College while Patti got a job in the area. They were married at 20, in 1975 by Eddie’s oldest brother, Charles, a Roman Catholic priest at St. Mary’s. “We were an absolutely perfect fit,” Patti explained, “We were the half to each other.”

BERNARD E. PATTERSON Bernard E. “Bernie” Patterson, 46, of Upper Brookville, was “just a wonderful father and husband,” who when he wasn’t working, “didn’t know what to do first” for his wife Navila or their children, Kevin, Scott and Anna. Patterson had worked as a Bond Trader for most of his career since graduating from Hofstra. In 1990, he, along with other traders, started their own Manhattan bond-trading firm, Municipal Partners. They sold the firm in which Patterson was a partner, to Cantor Fitzgerald in 2000 and he signed a contract to stay on during the transition. He planned to look for a different job when his contract was up in a year and a half. Having met at J.J. Kenny, a Manhattan municipal bond brokerage firm in 1986, Patterson used to tell his children and friends the numerous times he had to ask out Navila before she agreed. “He used to say his persistence wore down my resistance,” recalled Navila. They were married in 1988. “Bernie was just a lively, happy, strong presence in the house,”

Navila said. “The most difficult time of the day is around 6:30 PM, when he would burst in and yell, ‘Daddy’s home!’ It is incredibly different around here now.”

ANTHONY PEREZ When Anthony Perez, 22, of Locust Valley met his future wife, Mary, he was trying to sell her a Mazda RX7. “I went in and saw him, and I said to myself I wanted him as the salesman. He was incredible looking, tall, dark and handsome. He had the perfect build, as far as I was concerned,” said Mary. Although Perez failed to sell Mary a car, he did succeed in setting a date with her for later that night. A year and a half later, they were married and later moved to Locust Valley and had two children, James and Alexis. Perez also had another daughter, Olivia, from a previous relationship. Perez wasn’t really a car salesman, but a stockbroker and had been helping out a friend at the dealership when he and Mary met. He soon discovered that selling stocks suited him no better than selling cars. “It wasn’t his cup of tea,” explained Mary. “Anthony was not a very pushy person and unfortunately, being a stockbroker, you have to be pushy. He ended up making friends instead.” Finding his calling in computers, Perez returned to school to learn programming and landed a job as a Technical Specialist at Cantor Fitzgerald on the 103rd floor of Tower One at the World Trade Center. Eight days before the attacks, on September 3, 2001, the couple celebrated their sixth wedding anniversary and “spent it with the family. We didn’t have to do anything really special. Just being together.”

JONATHAN S. RYAN Bayville resident Jonathan S. Ryan, 32, loved life and took full advantage of each day. His enthusiasm was contagious. He enjoyed playing lacrosse and golf and entertaining family and friends. He also treasured quiet times like a Fire Island sunset or a good book. Ryan worked in banking before joining Eurobrokers Inc. in 1996. He worked on the Emerging Markets desk on the 84th floor of Tower Two at the World Trade Center. On the morning of the attack, Ryan and his co-worker and former lacrosse teammate at SUNY Stony Brook Tony Cabrera, saw the explosion in Tower One and planned to leave. Cabrera yelled, “We have to get out of here. I thought J.R. was right behind me. I saw him standing at his desk, his bag was packed.” Ryan loved spending time on Fire Island, where his father lives year-round. He adored his daughter Autumn, 3, taking photos of her constantly. It was a mutual infatuation, whenever he came home from work, Autumn would be waiting for him at the top of the stairs. “There was no doubt that she was Daddy’s little girl,” according to his wife Maria. In addition to his daughter and wife, Jon is survived by his son, Colin, who was born October 2, 2001, his parents Robert Ryan of Fire Island and Deena Ryan of Jamaica Estates in Queens as well as his three older brothers, Scott, James and Michael. (compiled by David J. Criblez from various previously published articles, news bites and material submitted by family & friends of the 9/11 victims)

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Thomas A. Mahon, 37, was raised in Oyster Bay and after living in New York City, he and his wife Beth decided to move to East Norwich to raise their daughter Shay, who was born in 1999. He worked for Cantor Fitzgerald and was the oldest of five children. On weekdays, Mahon would unwind on his train ride home to be ready for his bike ride with Shay. When his car pulled into the driveway, Finn, their Irish water spaniel would hear it and start to run. Across the deck and up on hind legs, Finn would greet Tom as Shay came to see her dad. Beth has etched that scene in her mind. Initially the couple met on a blind date, which didn’t work out and three years later their paths crossed again. “We just never grew tired of each other,” Beth said. She found closure in a cancelled check a firefighter found amid the rubble and gave to her on September 16, 2001. The check was made out to her in 1996 and signed by her husband. “Everyone wants a sign,” she said. “I think that was his way of telling me that he’s in a better place and that he’s OK.”

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and a minor in Women’s Studies from Columbia University in 2000. Her first job was in publishing, after which she decided to go to Wall Street where she worked as an Assistant Bond Trader at Cantor Fitzgerald. The night before the attacks, Jackman told her mother there was “more to life than making money” as she was applying to the University of California at Berkley School of Social Welfare to receive her Master’s degree in social work. Described as “fiercely independent, determined and compassionate,” Jackman had the ability to succeed in any endeavor no matter how difficult, but always remained modest and humble. A “child of Oyster Bay,” Brooke always wanted to help people and her commitment began during high school and continued into college where she volunteered in a soup kitchen, a thrift shop to benefit cancer patients and as a teacher’s aide in a school for disabled children. She was recognized for her consideration with an award from then Nassau County Executive Thomas Gulotta when she graduated high school. In order to keep Jackman’s spirit alive, her family created the Brooke Jackman Literacy Program, a pilot program in New York City to address the education and emotional needs of underprivileged children. One important facet to this program is a school backpack, “The Brooke Pack.” This backpack will not only provide a child with school supplies, including books and writing materials, but will also give children who live in shelters a possession of their own, as well as giving them hope and a sense of dignity. Every May the Brooke Jackman Foundation holds the Brooke Jackman Run for Literacy in Oyster Bay, which culminates at her alma mater Theodore Roosevelt Elementary School in Oyster Bay where the Brooke Jackman Memorial Garden sits in the front of the building. To make a donation, write to: The Brooke Jackman Foundation, Inc., c/o Marquis Jet, 230 Park Avenue, Suite 840, New York, NY 10169. For more information, visit:


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Venditto seeks eighth term as Town of Oyster Bay supervisor

OBG: What about the economy? Venditto: “The part that the Town of Oyster Bay and its budget play in the overall economy is so small. I don’t think the Town is part of that issue. Is the economy the #1 issue? Yes, but is the Town’s impact on the economy an issue? I think it’s not. After the federal government, the state government and the school district, ninety-nine percent of the tax dollar is done and the Town is left with that 1 or 2%. I believe residents understand that. The number

Venditto: “I became the Town of Oyster Bay Supervisor on January 1, 1998. On that day we were looking at the potential of a $30 million deficit in this Town. We didn’t spend a nickel - we did the opposite. We ended up taking the Town from a potential $30 million deficit to a $20 million surplus. During that time, the Town’s bond rating rose to the highest level obtainable. Once we established ourselves financially, I made a decision to spend money. For a long period of time the Town was getting by with a coat of paint. It became clear that unless we took steps to protect our infrastructure we would become very vulnerable to changing conditions in this Town threatening our quality of life. Yes, I did spend a lot of money but I spent it on shoring up, improving and refurbishing, the infrastructure of this Town for generations to come. Most importantly I did it in partnership with my residents. Every project, whether it be the field at Centre Island Beach or Theodore Roosevelt Park or Marino Field or the TR triangle, was done in partnership with the residents. We had $120 million in environmental bonds, which were endorsed by over 70% of the electorate. We’d hear from everybody about the wants and needs of the community and explore each situation. The residents not only signed off on the expenditures, they pretty much designed the project by telling us what they wanted. Not a penny was spent without the residents being on board.”

OBG: The Township covers both the North Shore and the South Shore, which are completely different. How do you keep the balance? Venditto: “It’s both a diverse population and a very diverse

OBG: When did you decide you wanted to be an elected official? Venditto: “I always had an interest in being an elected official and went to law school for that purpose. Ultimately when I graduated law school I went to a local firm where there was a high level of political activity. I was fascinated by it. It was everything I wanted it to be. I positioned myself accordingly. I joined several civic organizations and made my presence known. In 1980 it was apparent that two vacancies were going to occur on the Town Board. At that point I was a member of the North Massapequa Republican Club and Committeeman in the area and I caught the eye of the political leadership. They thought enough of me to put me on

rather than the required 50 feet. The above application is on file at the office of Humes & Wagner, LLP, attorneys for the Village, 147 Forest Avenue, Locust Valley, New York where it may be seen during the regular hours of the usual business days until the time of the hearing. All interested persons will be given an opportunity to be heard at said time and place. If any individual requires special assistance to attend, please notify the Village Attorney at least 48 hours in advance of the hearing. David Helme Chairman September 7, 2011 September 9, 2011 Z-366 #22661E LEGAL NOTICE VILLAGE OF UPPER BROOKVILLE BOARD OF APPEALS PUBLIC NOTICE A public hearing and meeting will be held before and by the Board of Appeals of the Incorporated Village of Upper Brookville, Nassau County, New York, at the Planting Fields Arboretum Annex Facility on Planting Fields Road in said Village, on September 21, 2011 at 7:30 P.M. The hearing will be on the appeal of Amin and Ebadallah Khwaja, owners of a 2.25 acre parcel of land located at 20 Woodhill Lane in the Village, designated as Section 22, Block 23, Lot 36 on the Nassau County Land and Tax Map and located within the Village’s R-1 (2-acre) zoning district. The Appellant seeks to permit the construction of a two-story addition to the easterly side of the dwelling, which would require the following variances: 1. Section 205-10 (D)(1)(a) - to permit the dwelling to have a cubic volume of 96,880 cubic feet rather than the maximum permitted 90,000 cubic feet; 2. Section 205-10 (E) - to permit the proposed addition to have an easterly side yard setback of 45’ 4” rather than the required 50 feet. The above application is on file at the office of Humes & Wagner, LLP, attorneys for the Village, 147 Forest Avenue, Locust Valley, New York where it may be seen during the regular hours of the usual business days until the time of the hearing. All interested persons will be given an opportunity to be heard at said time and place. If any individual requires special assistance to attend, please notify the Village Attorney at least 48 hours in advance of the hearing. David Helme Chairman September 7, 2011 September 9, 2011 Z-364 #22662E

the ballot for the Oyster Bay Town Board.” OBG: Who has been the one person who has had the greatest impact on your career? Venditto: “Over the years I have marveled at so many people that I’ve learned from. I respect anyone who sat in this chair because I know what they went through such as past Town supervisors John J. Burns, John W. Burke, Joseph Colby, Lewis J. Yevoli and Angelo A. Delligatti. I’d like to think I took the best from all of them. But if I had to point out one person who has been the most influential person in my career it’s our Nassau County Chairman Joe Mondello. I wish every Nassau County resident could spend five minutes in his office and see the pressures that he’s under. Because of the decisions he makes and the flow he creates, supervisors like me take advantage of that flow and utilize it in our towns. He couldn’t be more supportive. I believe good government makes good politics. If you do the right thing by the residents, they will vote for you. It’s that simple. That notion I took from him.” OBG: If elected for an eighth term, what will be at the top of your ‘to do’ list? Venditto: “I want to make sure that we financially reassert ourselves. In 2008 and 2009 we saw the economic red light and people predicted that by 2011 things were going to be OK. As it turns out they haven’t been OK. We remain in difficult economic times. My highest priority is to fortify us financially. If I am re-elected I’m going to work very hard to rebuild our surplus again. It was a rainy day fund and

unfortunately it poured and we needed to use it. We are not in deficit spending by any means but we need to replenish our reserves.”

Raynham Hall exhibit hails women’s story (Continued from page 1) clearly. The exhibit also contains a full wedding ensemble, published works, newspaper articles, and photographs and paintings depicting the lives of these four extraordinary women. It chronicles the lives of Alice Russell Howland Delano (1806-1834) — wife and on-board help-mate of Capt. Joseph C. Delano. She was a diarist, poet, and mother of five of whom one, Alice, survived infancy; Alice Hathaway Delano Weekes (1827-1917) — daughter of Alice Russell Howland Delano and Joseph Delano. She was the wife of John Abeel Weekes, a scrapbooker and mother of six; Alice Delano Weekes (18781949) — granddaughter of Alice Russell Howland Delano. She was an author, horticulturalist and historian and Alice “Wynne” Delano Weekes (c.1900-1964) – great-granddaughter of Alice Russell Howland Delano. She was a professional ballet dancer, artist’s model and teacher. Most remarkably, for a dancer, she is reported to have been completely deaf. Raynham Hall Museum, located at 50 West Main Street in Oyster Bay, is open Tuesday – Sunday, 1-5 PM. For information, call (516) 922-6808 or visit: www.

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LEGAL & PUBLIC NOTICES LEGAL NOTICE VILLAGE OF UPPER BROOKVILLE BOARD OF APPEALS PUBLIC NOTICE A public hearing and meeting will be held before and by the Board of Appeals of the Incorporated Village of Upper Brookville, Nassau County, New York, at the Planting Fields Arboretum Annex Facility on Planting Fields Road in said Village, on September 21, 2011 at 7:30 P.M. The hearing will be on the appeal of George Tilghman, contract vendee of a 2.0 acre parcel of land located at 1351 Wolver Hollow Road in the Village, designated as Section 24, Block E, Lot 42 & 44 on the Nassau County Land and Tax Map and located within the Village’s OP-1 (5-acre) zoning district. The Appellant seeks variances to permit the construction of the following additions to the pre-existing, non-conforming dwelling and lot, all of which will be located within the required 50-foot northerly side yard setback and the 75-foot westerly front yard setback, and would be located on a portion of the lot having a lot width of 106.31 feet rather than the minimum required 200 feet: 1. Section 205-10 (E) - to permit the construction of a second-story addition to the northerly side of the existing dwelling, which has a westerly front yard setback of +/-59.8 feet rather than the required 75 feet and a northerly side yard setback of 2.8 feet rather than the required 50 feet; 2. Section 205-10 (E) - to permit the construction of a two-story addition to the easterly and southerly side of the existing dwelling, which would have a front yard setback of 64.32 feet rather than the required 75 feet and a northerly side yard setback of +/-14.6 rather than the required 50 feet; 3. Section 205-10 (E) - to permit the construction of a one-story addition to the southerly side of the existing dwelling, which would have a front yard setback of +/-49.8 feet rather than the required 75 feet, and a northerly side yard setback of +/-30.2 feet rather than the required 50 feet; 4. Section 205-10 (E) - to permit the construction of a portico addition to the southerly side of the existing dwelling, which would have a front yard setback of +/-49.1 feet rather than the required 75 feet; and a northerly side yard setback of +/-37.1 feet rather than the required 50 feet; 5. Section 205-10 (E) - to permit the construction of a covered porch to the rear of the dwelling which would have a northerly side yard setback of +/-9.3 feet rather than the required 50 feet. The Appellant also seeks variances to permit the construction of a patio at the rear of the dwelling, which would have a northerly side yard setback of +/-9.5 feet rather than the required 50 feet, and to permit the construction of a detached two-car garage on the southerly side of the property which would have a southerly side yard setback of 10 feet

Venditto: “To those who say you have too many Republicans in the Town, your beef is not with me it is with the residents who elect us. They are the ones who make a decision every two years as to who should sit in these seats. I don’t quibble with it. They are the bosses. If they want nine Republican elected officials on the Town Board, that’s their call. Whatever verdict they deliver, I accept it. That is gospel to me. There was a time during my tenure that five elected officials were Democrats. Of those five Democrats, three were defeated in their second election and the other two converted to Republicans. Of the three defeated, one of them converted to the Republican party as well. Former Supervisor Lew Yevoli was an ardent Democrat and when I came on I hired men from his team like Chuck Johnson, Jerry Harris and Kevin Langberg. I’ve run against Democrats who now work for me like Joe Lawrence who is on our Environmental Control Commission. When I see or hear of a good idea, there is no pride of authorship. Whether they are Republican or Democrat, if it works for the Town that’s my overriding concern. If you come to work for me, the only job qualification I have is that you have the best interests of the Town of Oyster Bay in your heart.”

terrain. There are some cultural differences but the one thing that ties it all together is that I interact and listen to all my residents to make sure I have it right. A good elected official knows when to speak a better elected official knows when to listen. That rule applies from the South Shore to the North Shore. The common thread between both shores is that they all want a certain quality of life. The standards might be different from shore-to-shore but they want to know that when they pay their taxes to their Town government they are looking at it as an investment. They want to make sure their Town government invests that money wisely. Their standard to determine how well their money is invested is whether or not it is being utilized to protect and preserve the quality of life that they cherish so dearly. That common thread runs through the entire Town of Oyster Bay.”

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Venditto: “Protecting our quality of life. The constant struggle is to continue the balance in this town. We are a community of one family homes with an appropriate measure of commerce to serve those homes with schools, parks and libraries mixed in. But there is a great pressure being brought upon this Township to move it in a different direction - to urbanize it and reshape it. This involves bringing in more people causing more traffic. I don’t understand why there is a constant pressure on Nassau County to become the sixth borough of New York. That movement has been underway for at least a decade. To me it’s a very serious and difficult struggle. I’ve always got my guard up.”

OBG: You have been criticized for spending a lot of money in the Town. How do you respond?

OBG: Many have complained that because the entire Town Board is Republican there is a lack of balance. What are your thoughts?

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OBG: What’s the most difficult part of the job?

one issue on the minds of my residents is the quality of life in the Town of Oyster Bay. Our residents view my job as being able to protect their well-being, their property and their quality of life 24/7. We don’t declare war or get involved in gun control but we take care of our residents.”


(Continued from page 1) how this job touches on so many issues. One week we are talking about a flood or a snow storm then the next week we are discussing illegal immigration. The dynamics are fascinating. But the one thing I enjoy the most is spending time out on the streets of the Town and interacting with the residents. It’s so valuable to me in terms of understanding what the issues are and what’s on their minds. They are my bosses. I get a two-year contract of employment and at the end of the two years they decide whether or not my contract should be renewed.”

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OB-EN kicks off 2011-12 school year

Photos by Tom Gould

The rain was falling in the early morning of Tuesday, September 6th as students arrived for their first day of the 2011-12 school year. Although the weather was wet, it could not dampen the spirits of the students anxiously greeting their friends and entering the three schools of Oyster Bay-East Norwich Central School District. The administration and staff of all the schools were out to be sure that every student was personally welcomed. It is no wonder that there were so many smiling faces. Students are very comfortable entering their school. Many feel that it’s like a second home. (Left picture) Vernon students are happy to be with Principal Nancy Gaiman (center) again. (Center picture) Alessandra Martorella, 8, of Oyster Bay is ready for the new school year. (Right picture) PTA President Malia Guercia and her daughter Skylar start the year at the James H. Vernon Intermediate School in East Norwich.


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