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In This Issue:

Rhode Island’s lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer community news source since 1982.

September 2015, Vol. XXXIV, Issue 5

Publisher Kyle McKendall kyle@optionsri.org Editor in Chief Jen Stevens editor@optionsri.org Resources Editor

BB Hayes: Seamstress Behind Providence’s Drag Community pg. 18

Myra Shays Calendar Editor Sam Simas calendar@optionsri.org Copy Editors Julia Barber, Bradford Greer, Maria Phillips, Rex LeBeau, Joseph Morra, Myra Shays Graphic Design

Options Interviews Paula Poundstone pg. 14

Ron Lewis to Speak at AIDS Walk RI pg. 23

Stephen Hartley Resigns from ACOS pg. 29

4 From the Editor 23 AIDS Walk RI 5 National Equality Act 23 Bear & Bones 6 From the Publisher 25 SAGE-RI Electing First Board 6 Advertisers 26 Preventing Gynecological Cancer 8 Calendar of Events 27 YPI:The Roaring Teens & Twenties 10 News Briefs 28 Lesbians on the Loose 12 Geeky Kink Event New England 29 Kitty Litter’s Final Drag Bingo 14 Paula Poundstone Interview 30 Resources 17 Rhode Island Pride has Moved 38 Worth a Look 18 BB Hayes: Fitting Into the Fabric of Life

Home delivery is free! Subscribe at www.optionsri.org, email frank@optionsri.org, or write to us at our PO Box. Retraction: Last month’s RI Pride article said Kate Monteiro helped found the RI Alliance for Lesbian and Gay Civil Rights. Kate led The Alliance as President for many years. Diane Cook and Marilyn Davis formed the organization in 1983. © OPTIONS 2015. Options is published monthly. The opinions expressed are those of the authors and do not necessarily reflect those of the governing board, volunteers, or staff. Listings are provided as a resource and do not imply endorsement. Submissions to Options must include a phone number or email address. Names may be withheld on request. Submissions, ads, calendar, or resource listings for the October issue must be delivered by September 11.

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From the Editor

Letter to the Editor

Dear Reader, Happy housemates Options Magazine and Rhode Island Pride have moved back to Providence to share the second floor of 1055 Westminster Street. Our welcoming landlord, Providence Community Acupuncture, occupies the first floor. There’s parking, room for a small library, and the possibility of outdoor events. Our West Side neighborhood introduces our organizations to a broader range of passersby, making our services more accessible. The RI LGBTQ Center board met regularly at our former Pawtucket location, so they’ve made the move with us, too, and it’s easy to envision how our new home’s possibilities will strengthen the collaboration among these organizations. It feels as if a monumental step has been taken toward realizing the dream of a community space with open doors and buzzing activity.

It’s easy to lose oneself in an ever-expanding Facebook friendiverse, so we hope this issue will foster connections in our swirling microcosm of living, breathing, local gay community. You’ll meet people out there with intense magnetism, like our adventurous Lesbians on the Loose, Annie and Melanie, who epitomize community support by attending as many events as possible (while writing for this magazine and volunteering for fundraisers, even if it means they end up in a drag contest). (p. 28) Then there’s 17-year-old Alyssa St. Franc, a youth leader who’s being recognized for her local and national involvement in Gay/Straight Alliances and the governance of Youth Pride Inc. (p. 27) Consider the impact of BB Hayes, who bolsters the Providence drag scene by lending her time and talents to keep our queens looking their best and commanding crowds with confidence, usually raising funds for organizations providing excellent services. (p. 18) Between a playful post-Pride summer and the bustling holidays, autumn is the season for socializing at annual signature LGBTQ events.

The AIDS Walk, RI Pride Honors, the SAGE Brunch, and Youth Pride Inc.’s gala all appear on our calendar, and entertaining artists await you at live shows of all sorts. (p. 8) So, get out there and make some connections. Community takes work, but the rewards are boundless.

I’ll leave you with the below photo taken during one of our last editing sessions in the old space. The individual points of view of this energetic, thoughtful bunch lend so much to shaping the magazine you’re about to read. We hope you enjoy.

We lost a true shero this week when Sally Gabb passed away, or as she would say, moved on to her “next adventure.” I am thankful to have had the opportunity to share just a bit of her enormous wild life in the March 2015 “Where Do You Find Your LGBTQ Feminism in RI?” interview.The overflow crowd at the Bell Street Chapel spoke to how she touched so many people in so many different ways. Our love, light, and music go out to her wife, Beth.Thanks for the smiles, Sally.

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Equality Act of 2015

by Bradford Greer The Supreme Court has granted the right for all to marry any person they choose and President Obama has made nondiscrimination the rule for federal employees. However, no federal non-discrimination law exists in regard to public accommodations, public education, employment, federal funding, jury service, legal protections, and credit. “Every day, millions of LGBTQ Americans face the danger of real discrimination and sometimes even violence because of their sexual orientation or gender identity,” states Rhode Island Congressman David Cicilline. “In most states, a samesex couple can get married on Saturday, post pictures on Facebook on Sunday, and then risk being fired from their job or kicked out of their apartment on Monday.”

The Equality Act of 2015, called The LGBT Nondiscrimination Bill, is considered a landmark bill because it would expand the Civil Rights Act of 1964 to include LGBT Americans as a protected class.

Equal protections are already mandated to cover race, sex, color, religion and national origin. Also of importance, the bill allows for all sex-segregated facilities to be made available to people on the basis of their gender identity. Also, women may not be charged differently from men for the same goods and services. One of the bill’s most important effects would be to narrow discrimination guidelines allowed within the Religious Freedom Act. The bill, introduced by Representative Cicilline and Senator Jeff Merkley of Oregon, goes even further than the Employment NonDiscrimination Act (ENDA) which has been stalled in Congress since 1994. A statement from the RI Democratic Party’s LGBTQ Caucus said the bill “amends many existing laws such as the Civil Rights Act of 1964, Government Employees Rights Act of 1991, Civil Service Reform Act, Equal Credit Opportunity Act, and the Jury Service and Selection Act, to include sexual orientation, gender identity, and expression to the non-discrimination categories covered in those laws to prevent the discrimination of civil rights of LGBTQ citizens.” If enacted, the Act would make “laws on the federal level similar to those laws already in place for well over a decade here in Rhode Island.”

It is surprising to learn that there were no Republican cosponsors of the Equality Act of 2015. Who is Congress listening to?

It would seem unlikely that the majority of Americans of any political party would oppose this bill until you consider the following.

Ryan T. Anderson, PhD., the Senior Research Fellow for conservative think tank The Heritage Foundation, said in his commentary in The Daily Signal, “The bill does not protect equality before the law, but unnecessarily and unjustly violates freedom by creating special privileges based on sexual orientation and gender identity. Sexual orientation and gender identity laws create unnecessary problems. SOGI laws regulate commercial decisions that are best handled by private sectors,and they regulate educational decisions best handled by parents and teachers, not bureaucrats.

Prohibiting schools, businesses, and charities from making decisions about transgendered students, faculty, and employees—especially regarding those in positions of role models—could be confusing to children and detrimental to workplace morale…. It’s hard to see what the justification could be for a federal law that would interfere in employment decisions to create special privileges based on sexual orientation and gender identity when the market is already sorting these things out. A pluralistic civil society is policing itself; no law is needed here. No need for the government to weigh in.” He concluded, “SOGI laws imperil religious liberty, privacy, economic freedom, and child welfare, creating more problems than they aim to resolve.They are a solution in search of a problem.”

The idea that LGBT Americans are seeking special rights only applicable to them is misinformation that fosters misunderstanding.

LGBT Americans are simply looking to enjoy the rights promised to every American. They do not wish to be singled out unfairly as the exception in order to have those rights denied capriciously and sometimes violently. Even in 2015, there are still many who feel that LGBT people are lesser citizens and only deserve selected rights— like women in the 1900s or black people in the 60s.

It’s unclear what chances the Equality Act has of being passed this year, though support is mounting. In addition to many Democrats in Congress, corporations like Microsoft, Dow Chemical, Levi Strauss and Apple have expressed support for the Equality Act. In Senator Merkley’s opening speech before the Senate he said, “There are few concepts as fundamentally American as equality.

We have challenged unjust rules and destructive prejudices and chosen to advance basic civil rights.” American Civil Liberties Union Deputy Legal Director Louise Melling called the act “visionary, historic, and long overdue.” q

Jennifer A. Minuto LGBT Legal Advocacy.

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Being a Cranston native and current resident, I’m thrilled to announce our upcoming fundraiser in Garden City Center.

On Tuesday, September 28, B.good restaurant will donate 20% of all purchases made between 5pm and 8pm to Options. The restaurant offers “real food, fast,” featuring items like New England all-natural burgers, hand-cut fries, seasonal salads, and kale and quinoa bowls. Many items are sourced locally and everything is made fresh on the premises. All you need to do is dine at B.good (or get takeout) and you’ll be supporting us at no extra expense. Members of the Options team will attend, so please come by and say hello to us. If you haven’t been to Garden City Center in a while, you’ll be happy to find renovations, beautiful new gardens, and many new retailers and shops.

I’m honored to announce that Options Magazine will now be the recipient organization of funds raised by the 2016 Legends Calendar. Led by the beautiful and talented Haley Star and LaDiva Jonz, the Legends Calendar is currently in its 11th year and features Rhode Island’s best drag queen entertainers in a themed, pin-up style calendar. One hundred percent of the proceeds from calendar sales will be donated to Options.

Details regarding a November release party and how to place your order will be available soon. Be sure to visit our website for updates, and read about the event in our October issue.

There is much to celebrate here at Options. Several new people have joined our team, bringing their time, passion, and skills to the organization. We have ideas for events and fundraisers and are strategizing ways to make them successful.

We’re always talking about how to improve the magazine’s content and design and grow our advertising base, so we’d love to hear from you. What do you like about Options as an organization, and as a publication? How can we serve you better? Please write to me at kyle@optionsri.org to initiate a conversation.

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Calendar of Events AIDS Walk RI September 13

September Sat. 5 Village Block Party with Thea Austin, Becky Chace, DJ Dena, 8pm. 373 Richmond Street, Providence.

Thu. 10 Sweet Little Variety Show, 8pm. Aurora, 276 Westminster Street, Providence. A queer-produced potpourri of entertainment including music, comedy, Kristen Minsky & The Tropigals, and hooper Rachel Lindenthal. $6. Find Sweet Little Variety Show on Facebook.

Sat. 12 SAGE-RI Annual Meeting & Brunch, 11am-1pm. Chelo’s Hometown Bar and Grille, 2225 Post Road, Warwick. Membership votes for the organization’s first board of directors. Free for members/$10 brunch donation requested for non-members.

Sun. 13 30th Annual AIDS Walk, registration 9am walk 12pm.

Rhode Island State House. Benefitting AIDS Project RI and AIDS Care Ocean State to provide education, prevention, testing, and a range of services for people living with HIV/AIDS in RI. For more info, www.aidscareos.org and www.aidsprojectri.org.

Sun. 13 RI Prime Timers, 4:30-7pm. Networking group for older gay and bi men. Social, dinner, and meeting. For more info, www. riprimetimers.org or call Steve at 996-3010.

Sun. 13 RI Pride Honors, annual gala, 6:30-9:30pm. Aqua at the Marriott Downtown, 1 Orms Street, Providence. Pyramid of Pride presented to Kate Monteiro, Spirit of Pride presented to Steve Ahlquist, Parade and Volunteer awards given. Featuring host Payton St. James, poet Ron Lewis, musician Bridie Jurasevich, Complete Destruction, saxophonist Manny Pombo. Cash bar, appetizers. $35/$60 couple. For tickets and info, www.prideri.com or info@ prideri.com.

Wed. 16 RI Association of Gay Professionals and Blue Cross Blue Shield of RI Present: Diversity in the Workplace, 5:30pm. BCBSRI, 500 Exchange Street, Providence. For more info, www.riagp.com.

Wed. 16 Queer Book Club, 7-9:30pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence. Reading: Between These Walls by John Herrick. Discount if book is purchased at Books on the Square. For more info, email queerbookclub@gmail.com.

Sat. 19 Lez Zeppelin, 7:30pm. Park Theatre, 848, Park Avenue, Cranston. All female powerhouse band covering classic Led Zeppelin. $20. For tickets and info, www.parktheatreri.com.

Sat. 19 Drag Divas v. Renaissance City Softball League Swingers, 2pm game followed by a homerun derby. Agawam Softball Complex, 1600 Pawtucket Avenue, East Providence.

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Wed. 23 Bisexual Pride Day! Wed. 23 Rhode Island Pride Open House, 7pm. 1055 Westminster Street, Providence, Floor 2. Join us to celebrate our new location on the West Side of Providence. This is a social gathering and discussion of community events and opportunities for involvement.

All are welcome. For more info, www.prideri.com or 467-2130.

Sat. 26 The Imperial Court of RI presents: For the Boys, 8pm.

Mirabar, 15 Elbow Street, Providence. A showcase of male performers. $5 to benefit the ICRI scholarship fund.

Sun. 27 Options Release Party, 3-6pm.The Stable, 125 Washington Street, Providence. Join Options Magazine for the release of the October issue.Volunteers needed for distribution.

Mon. 29 Options Benefit at B.good restaurant, 5-8pm, Garden City Center, 62 Hillside Road, Cranston. 20% of all purchases will be donated to Options. Menu features all-natural burgers, hand-cut fries, seasonal salads, and kale & quinoa bowls, sourced locally and made fresh.Visit www.optionsri.org for additional information.

October Thu. 8 Sweet Little Variety Show, 8pm. Aurora, 276 Westminster Street, Providence. A queer-produced potpourri of entertainment including music, comedy, dance, and oddities. $6. Find Sweet Little Variety Show on Facebook.

Fri. 9 Paula Poundstone, 8pm. Hyatt Regency, 1 Goat Island, Newport. Acclaimed comic Paula Poundstone makes her Newport Comedy Series debut. See more at www.newportcomedy.com/ shows/paula-poundstone-on-friday-october-9th.

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Youth Pride Inc.’s Annual Gala October 16

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Sun. 11 RI Prime Timers, 4:30-7pm. Networking group for older gay and bi men. Social, dinner, and meeting. For more info, www. riprimetimers.org or call Steve at 996-3010.

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Fri. 16 Youth Pride Inc.’s Annual Gala: The Roaring Teens & Twenties, 5:30-10pm. The Arcade, 65 Weybosset Street, Providence.

Honorary Chairperson Jacqueline DiMera with awards presented to Elizabeth Roberts, Rhode Island Foundation, and Alyssa St. Franc.

Food, performances, silent auction, music, dancing, signature cocktail and cash bar from New Harvest Coffee & Spirits, $50.

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Wed. 21 Queer Book Club, 7-9:30pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence. Reading: The Underground Girls of Kabul: In Search of a Hidden Resistance in Afghanistan by Jenny Nordberg.

Discount if book is purchased at Books on the Square. For more info, email queerbookclub@gmail.com.

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Wed. 28 RI Pride Annual Meeting, 7pm. 1055 Westminster Street, Providence, Floor 2. All are welcome. Members (those frequently involved over the past year) will vote on a Board of Directors election slate.

Regularly Scheduled Support Groups: ACOS Tue. 4pm, (gay males): Wed. 1:30pm Alcoholics Anonymous (LGBT Group): Tue. 7pm COLAGE (children of LGBTs): 3rd Sat. 10:30am PFLAG (parents, friends, allies): 1st & 3rd Wed. 6:45pm TGI Network (trans*): 1st & 3rd Tue. (7pm) & Sat. (3pm) TransFamily New England: 2nd Mon. 6:30pm YPI (youth): Way Out Thu. 4pm/Gender Spectrum Tue. 4pm See Resources on page 30 for more info.

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News Briefs

by Adam Brooks

Obama Takes a Stand for LGBT Rights in Kenya President Barack Obama spoke adamantly on implementing LGBT rights during a press conference with Kenyan President Uhuru Kenyatta in Nairobi in late July. As being gay is illegal in Kenya, several African leaders advised Obama to avoid speaking about LGBT rights during his trip. However, when the issue of LGBT citizens of Kenya arose, Obama spoke openly and passionately about his desire for equality. “I believe in the principle of treating people equally under the law and that the state should not discriminate against people based on their sexual orientation,” he said. Obama said he’s “painfully aware” of what tends to happen when one group is denied equal rights by their government, noting segregation and slavery as historical examples. “If somebody is a lawabiding citizen who is going about their business and working in a job…and not harming anybody, the idea that they are going to be treated differently or abused for who they love is wrong—full stop.”

In response to President Obama’s beliefs, President Kenyatta flatly stated that LGBT rights are simply not a priority for modern day Kenya, saying, “The issue of gay rights is really a non-issue. We want to focus on other areas that are day-to-day living for our people…

Maybe once we overcome some of these challenges, we can begin to look at new ones.”

Six Marchers Viciously Attacked at Jerusalem Pride Parade

A vicious stabbing took place at Jerusalem’s Pride Parade on July 30.Yishai Schlissel, an Orthodox extremist who was convicted of a similar attack at the Pride Parade in 2005, entered the barricaded parade route as the marchers made their way down the streets.

Despite heavy police presence, the man took out a knife and quickly stabbed six participants in the back before being tackled to the ground and arrested by nearby officers. Sixteen-year-old Shira Banki died a few days later from her wounds. Schlissel has since appeared in court regarding this attack, and his case is still under investigation.

Condemnations of the attack were made in abundance, even from the most Orthodox of leaders.The Pride Parades in Israel have been a source of animosity between Israel’s mostly secular population and the Orthodox Jewish minority. Gay marriages performed in the country are not currently recognized by authorities. Oned Fried, the head of a leading gay rights group in Israel, made a statement on the tragedy, saying,“Our struggle for equality only intensifies in the face of such events.”

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NJ Governor Vetoes Bill to Allow Trans Individuals to Alter Birth Certificates

Last month, New Jersey Governor Chris Christie again vetoed the Birth Certificate Modernization Bill, which would have allowed birth certificate changes to reflect the gender identity of transgender individuals with the stipulation that the individual provides, proof of ongoing gender transition treatment from a medical professional.

Current NJ law allows these changes to birth certificates only following gender confirmation surgeries. In June of this year, the bill passed with strong support in New Jersey’s legislative chambers.

Assemblywoman Valerie Vainieri Huttle, a bill sponsor, speculates that Christie’s veto was influenced by his 2016 GOP presidential candidacy and said, “Instead of updating a standard state procedure to be more inclusive and reflective of our changing society, the governor has once again chosen to pander to the right by masquerading behind baseless arguments.”

Christie announced the veto, saying he remains “committed to the principle that efforts to significantly alter state law concerning the issuance of vital records that have the potential to create legal uncertainties, should be closely scrutinized and sparingly approved.”

The National Center for Transgender Equality released a statement criticizing Christie’s decision, stressing how crucial birth certificates matching an individual’s gender identity are to one’s security, employment, and psychological well-being. Currently eight states in the United States have laws allowing transgender individuals to alter their birth certificates without having had gender confirmation surgery.

Children’s Bill of Rights in RI Now Protects Against Discrimination

Governor Gina Raimondo signed into law legislation that adds protection from discrimination to the Children’s Bill of Rights, which is posted at all the programs that serve youth under Rhode Island’s Department of Children, Youth, and Families (DCYF).The legislation, sponsored by Senator Gayle Goldin and Representative Grace Diaz, ensures that no child under the care of DCYF will be discriminated against based on race, religion, national origin, gender, gender identity, sexual orientation, economic status, or any kind of disability including physical, developmental, or sensory.

Senator Goldin said in a statement, “I am delighted to see this bill

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become law and am thankful to all the advocates who worked on behalf of the children in state care to make this bill a reality. All children should have access to the services they need and feel comfortable expressing their true selves without fear. By adding this language to the Children’s Bill of Rights, our most vulnerable children will know that the state stands with them at all times.” Isabel Storey, the Committee Chair and Director of Special Population Services at Family Services of Rhode Island, said, “Respect for all people in DCYF care must be guaranteed and it’s important that young people—including those dealing with issues related to sexual orientation and gender identity/expression—will be empowered to address any issues of discrimination they encounter or perceive.”

Upcoming Stonewall Movie Garners Disapproval From LGBT Community

The trailer for the new movie Stonewall, based on the 1969 riots at the Stonewall Inn in Manhattan, was released mid-August to a lot of criticism from historians and members of the LGBT community.

The trailer depicts the main character—a young, white, blond man—throwing the brick that started the riots, which would imply that he was the catalyst for starting the gay rights movement. This directly contradicts the popular theory that Marsha P. Johnson and Sylvia Rivera—two transgender women of color, along with Stormé DeLarverie, a lesbian drag king—were the leaders in the riots and the start of the fights for equal rights that followed. This raises concern that the film will serve to whitewash this pivotal moment in American and LGBT history. Petitions and criticisms regarding Stonewall have

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been circulating on social media. At press time, a Moveon.org petition called for a boycott of the film and had over 500 signatures. It addressed the film’s director, Roland Emmerich, and summarized the community’s concerns:“Hollywood has a long history of whitewashing and crafting White Savior narratives, but this is one step too far. A historically accurate film about the Stonewall Riots would center the stories of queer and gender-nonconforming people of color like Sylvia Rivera and Marsha P. Johnson, not relegate them to background characters in the service of a white cis-male fictional protagonist.” No public statement had been made by Emmerich or any of the film’s producers regarding the controversy.q

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The

GeekyKink Event Invades Rhode Island

by Piper Minear

With all of the exposure the Bondage, Domination, Sadism and Masochism (BDSM) community has received in the last few years, greatly due to the 50 Shades of Grey phenomenon, you may have a very specific image of the subculture. However, the bondage scene is not just about whips and chains. Your preconceived notions are most likely wrong, especially if you have never stepped into the scene yourself, nor spoken to anyone who has. Whatever you have seen in the movies, watched on television, or read in books—put it all aside.

Perhaps the biggest misconception is that BDSM relationships are all about sex.As a kinkster myself, I can tell you that not every encounter ends in an orgasm and not all forms of punishment from a dominant lover are physical. (Ever tried punishing a chocolate lover with more chocolate?) Also, many people view BDSM relationships as codependent, but a healthy dominant/ submissive dynamic is a consenting relationship between two individuals who both learn and grow from each other.

Another misconception is that monogamy is necessary for healthy relationships and families. While there are many tops and bottoms who remain monogamous to each other, there are just as many who engage in polyamory. You would be surprised at how many seemingly average people you know have agreements for open relationships. Perhaps a couple is very much in love, but one mate doesn’t have an interest in fulfilling the other’s kinky side. A conscious choice can be made to let one partner engage in the fetish lifestyle, rather than bottling up fantasies and causing resentment, which could dissolve the relationship. This does not make them bad spouses or parents.

Polyamorous people can still love their children and be attentive

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husbands or wives. Balancing multiple partners can be difficult, but the practice of open, honest, and ongoing communication can actually allow both/all partners to develop trust and find fulfillment in ways that would be otherwise impossible.

So, where does one go to learn more? I recently observed the BDSM community through the lens of one of New England’s most beloved fetish conventions held right here in Rhode Island. The Geeky Kink Event New England (GKE NE) was held at the Sheraton Hotel in Warwick, August 14-16.This annual event is a spinoff of the Geeky Kink Event Classic, and celebrates individuality and creativity in the BDSM world, as well as the surprisingly popular crossover between geeks and kink.

GKE Classic was created in New Jersey in 2011 by professional organizer Jeff Mach, whose many other events include the Steampunk World’s Fair,Voltaire’s NecroComicCon, and Wicked Faire, all of which have cultivated a dedicated following in and around the Garden State. As GKE Classic tickets sold out each November, Mach considered making it a higher-capacity event. He told Options, “I felt that making GKE significantly bigger…would have really changed the nature of the event in unpredictable ways. And GKE is wonderful; that’s something we hear over and over… Honestly, it’s everything I dreamed and hoped it would be, and much more…. So we decided, instead, to change geographically, and New England seemed like the place to go.” He chose a late-summer date in 2013 to launch the sister convention and drew 300 attendees.

Mach added, “Rhode Island is, without a doubt, the most welcoming state I have ever worked in by a very wide margin.”

This year’s convention drew 600.

When asked what sets GKE NE apart from other adult conventions, Mach replied “Part of the core of kink is that you can go beyond what other people expect out of sex, interpersonal contact, relationships, and many kinds of experiences. Part of

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the core of being a geek is that you can create your own rules about how to find an identity, how to use your mind, how to look at entertainment and culture.

Combine those two incredibly powerful pieces of self-determination, and you have an event whose form and energy are unparalleled.”

Annual adult-themed kink and fetish conventions have been held all around New England since long before BDSM hit the mainstream with E.L. James’ book. Just like everyone else, kinksters enjoy being around others with similar interests in a safe environment where they don’t fear being judged or shunned for who they are. It’s common for attendees to be with multiple partners, and full nudity as well as sexual activity is allowed in approved public areas.

With a minimum age of 19, GKE NE attracts a younger crowd than most of its competitors, yet the diversity of alternative lifestyle workshops cater to the novice as well as the seasoned veteran.Topics including gender and sexual identity, introduction to the lifestyle, abuse in the scene, safety, education, disability, and all things kink. Some workshops demonstrate consensual hitting with fists, boots, whips, floggers, and blunt implements. Despite

the overtly geeky nature of many of the workshops, events, and some vendor booths, this is not to be confused with Rhode Island ComicCon. If workshops and classes weren’t your interests, you could have shopped the nearly two dozen vendors selling their wares. From sensual and intimate bedroom essentials to more advanced implements, there’s something of interest for any skill level. Beautiful jewelry, corsets, and kilts tantalized the aestheticminded. Vendors targeting geeks showcased pink Hello Kitty paddles and colorful floggers adorned with charms from comic books and popular television shows.

Perhaps the most anticipated attraction at the convention was the infamous GKE ball pit (pictured), which has evolved in both size and attendance over the years. Where else can you find a ball pit in which to play with your adult friends once you have surpassed 48 inches in height? There’s also a popular clothing-optional pool party held in the hotel’s indoor pool area where attendees dance to electronic and techno beats with glow sticks, lasers, and fog machines into the early hours of the morning. Gaming fanatics especially enjoy the many intimate gaming meetups.

Both Geeky Kink Events are well-attended and loved because most attendees respect, accept, and befriend others without judgment, and we hope to keep it this way. The passion of organizers, volunteers, presenters, vendors, and attendees keeps these events safe and enjoyable and running smoothly year after year. The next Geeky Kink Event is in New Jersey, November 6-8, 2015. q

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The Options Interview

Paula

Poundstone

by Kristen Connolly

Comic legend Paula Poundstone returns to Rhode Island for one show at the Newport Hyatt on October 9. Poundstone, who grew up in Sudbury, Massachusetts and started her career in Boston comedy clubs more than 35 years ago, has seen her share of ups and downs and (fortunately for her legion of fans, including many lesbians) ups again. She can be heard as the character The Forgetter Paula in this summer’s Disney Pixar movie Inside Out. Poundstone recently took time to catch up with Options to discuss her career, her family, and what she loves most about being on stage.

Options: Why stand-up? What made you go into it and what’s made you stay?

fun when you’re on stage. What’s your favorite part of doing stand-up?

Paula: When I was 19 years of age I was bussing tables in a restaurant in Boston and there was a burgeoning stand-up comedy scene at the time. I was lucky to be there at the right time. When I was younger, I never really thought of standup at all. I watched I Love Lucy, Dick Van Dyke, Laugh-In. I had seen myself doing more sketch comedy. I didn’t know where the door was, but it turned out that the door was in another place, and I walked through it. I can’t complain; I’ve been very lucky in a lot of ways.

P: I think that when you share something with the crowd (especially with parenting), when you say, “Oh, my god, I don’t think I can make it,” people understand and suddenly you’re not alone. It’s truly connecting people.

If we were the only ones to have the struggles we have, then the jokes would seem freakish. I think it’s helpful to be able to say, “Hey, this isn’t going anything like the picture.” Now that I’m older and have been around the block, I’ve found that, as it turns out, it is one of the most emotionally healthy things that we can do. People hear things differently when they’re in a crowd. To be in a room

O: You seem like you’re really having

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with people who are there to laugh... absolutely, I’ve had enough struggles that I can say that is a really good thing.

O: You have a lot of fans from NPR’s Wait, Wait...Don’t Tell Me! It seems like the perfect fit.

P: It was like the luckiest break in my life, I think.

O: What’s something about the show that fans might not know?

P: There’s steroids involved...and cheating, a lot of cheating. [Laughs] No, what you see is what you get. If you go to see a live show, it’s about two hours.

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O: I went to your show at Rhode Island College 20 years ago. I can think of a few things I wish I knew back then that I know now. If you could go back 20 years, what would you do differently?

P: If I could go back 20 years the thing I would do is stop drinking. That would have saved a lot of trouble over the years. But it’s hard to say because I think that’s why hindsight is 20/20. Until you live that, you just don’t know it.

O: Throughout your career, you’ve been, unequivocally, you.

You’ve consistently defied labels of all kinds. What advice would you give others who might be struggling to do the same?

P: I think the world, or some parts of it, are a lot more receptive about people being who they are than they used to be. I find on stage I’ve always been an acquired taste. Instead of trying in my career to fit in something I was never going to fit in anyway, it’s much more rewarding. A successful night is to get closer to who I really am, on stage, and I think that’s true in life as well.

O: I remember, years ago, when you used to tell jokes about your cats...

P: Still do, sadly.

O: ...you used to say you were worried that someday you might start dressing them up. Has that happened yet?

P: That’s why I got kids. (Just three, but two were difficult, so it’s like having five.) I did put a tutu on Matilda for one time but it wasn’t because I thought she would enjoy it. I have 15 cats and two German Shepherd-mix dogs. I tell [the cats] they might get more attention in a shelter. My oldest daughter is home from college for the summer and she has taken on some of the petting duties with the cats.

O: I watched some recent videos of you and you’re still in the suits and ties, but updated. They look great.

P: Thank you...You know what I hear a lot? “Oh, she wears men’s clothing,” and not once have I bought a suit in a men’s store, even the ties. I always find that so funny. I have yet to find a man who wears clothes like mine. No men come to my closet and say, “Let me try this on.” It’s just easier to wear suits. “Maybe I’ll wear this tie tonight and this one tomorrow night.”...I have gained weight, though.

O: I can’t tell from the videos.

P: It’s true...If I could go back 20 years that’s one thing I would change: one or two less Three Musketeers bars...and I’d wean myself off butter.

O: What’s next for Paula Poundstone?

P: I’m writing a book that’s supposed to come out in January 2017. The main thing I do is go on the road and tell my little jokes. I do my silly Twitter and occasionally post goofy videos to my website. It is truly the greatest job in the world. Well, that’s not true—being a parent is the greatest job in the world. This is the second greatest job. All the time you get on stage, everything melts away. It’s being in the—what do they call it?—in the flow. I can get it from doing dishes, too, but this pays better. I was really good at bussing tables but I never got applause for bussing tables.

O: What can we expect at your show in Newport?

P: Talking about raising a house full of kids, a house full of animals, and politics. My favorite part of the night is talking to the audience. My goal for the evening is for every single audience member to fear incontinence. Just fear it, that’s all.

The experience of going out and being in a group of other people laughing is so great, so much fun, that I would be willing to bet that everyone would feel better going out than when they came in. q Paula Poundstone performs at the Newport Hyatt on Friday, October 9, at 8pm as part of the Newport Comedy Series. Get your tickets at www.ticketmaster.com. Find Paula on Twitter at @ paulapoundstone and her website, www.paulapoundstone.com.

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RI PR I D E RI Pride Honors

We hope you’ve purchased your tickets to RI Pride Honors, our annual celebration of outstanding members of the local LGBTQ community. Join us at 6:30pm on Sunday, September 13 (after the AIDS Walk), as we honor two exceptional individuals. Kate Monteiro will receive the Pyramid of Pride for her decades of contributions to improving our quality of life.

Steve Ahlquist will receive the Spirit of Pride Award primarily for his journalism coverage through rifuture.org, bringing social justice issues of our community to the forefront. Volunteer and Parade awards will also be presented. Join us at Aqua at the Marriott Downtown (1 Orms Street, Providence). Tickets and sponsorships are available at www.prideri.com.

RI Pride Annual Meeting and Elections

Pride’s Board of Directors is seeking suggestions and/or selfnominations from individuals with expertise in legal matters, financial accounting, development/fundraising, and event planning. Names should be submitted to info@prideri.com

by Wednesday, September 30 for consideration. An election slate will be finalized and announced by the current Board on

by Kurt Bagley

October 14 followed by a ratification vote by the membership at the Annual Meeting on Wednesday, October 28, at 7pm. All longtime donors and volunteers who have been consistently active in the preceding year are considered members.

We have Moved!

After four years, RI Pride bid adieu to our digs in Pawtucket’s Hope Artiste Village and headed for the West Side of Providence. We hope you’ll join us soon to check out the new Pride Center space at 1055 Westminster Street, 2nd floor.

We’re above Providence Community Acupuncture, just a short hop away from Ogie’s Trailer Park, and 0.3 miles from Youth Pride Inc. Our mailing address and phone numbers remain unchanged, and various open meetings will continue to be held the first, second, and fourth Wednesdays at 7pm.q Rhode Island Pride is a 501(c)(3) organization dedicated to promoting the visibility, equality, and diversity of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender community and provides safe space to come out, express, and celebrate all sexual identities and genders.

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BB Hayes

by Bradford Greer

Fitting Into the Fabric of Life Y

ou may know her as BB Hayes, the beautiful, dignified, elegant, and fabulously-dressed drag performer.

She always projects a well-presented voluptuous image. She was crowned Empress I when the official Imperial Court chapter in Rhode Island formed over twenty years ago to raise large amounts of money for charity. She has gowned and coiffed many performers, including LaDiva Jonz and Jacqueline DiMera and she’s largely responsible for Kitty Litter’s fashion and hair. You

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may be less familiar with the man behind the dress.

Brian Laquerre was born in North Smithfield—the youngest of three with two sisters. His grandmother taught him to sew at a young age.

He played hockey, took art classes, and had a punkish style inspired by Jean Paul Gaultier. He always knew he was gay. It was just not acknowledged.

He was pretty free to be the artistic jock that he was, and even helped the hockey players’ girlfriends make their prom gowns.

Brian carries the memory of his parents every day. “God bless my parents for being who they were and allowing me to be who I was.

My parents were wonderful.” Brian wanted to be honest with them and not hide being gay. He never thought twice about getting made up and having his friend come over to do his nails while he was at home. Brian believes that because he didn’t hide his sexuality or think there was anything wrong with it, negative thinking about it was diminished. His father’s reaction Options | September 2015

to Brian’s coming out was, “Is that it?

It doesn’t change who you are. Know you are a good person. Remember to always think of others. It’s not always about you. Find your way to fit into the fabric of life. Don’t let others tell you how to fit in. Continue to be a good person.”

After high school Brian pursued his interest in fashion and attended summer sessions at the Art Institute in California. From there he went to hairdressing school and that opened up a whole new world for him. Besides being a “seamster” now, hair and makeup became his passion. “Hairdressing is a great industry. You don’t want to copy or steal from someone but you can be influenced by them to find your own way. Even in fashion everything is a re-interpretation of something. Same thing with hairdressing. There is a new way of looking at things.”

In 1990, personnel of the salon he worked at traveled to the south of France representing Sebastian products, where Brian would help to style and dress contestants in a drag contest of Hollywood legends. His fascination with swimming legend Esther Williams inspired him to accept a dare to do drag for the first time. His majestic image won first place wearing a vintage swimsuit and a hula hoop with some Mylar strands that looked Options | September 2015

as if he was coming out of a fountain.

Upon his return to Rhode Island, Brian visited Kings and Queens, a gay bar in Woonsocket, and was introduced to Lee Daniels, an oldschool drag queen who would become a strong influence and mentor. They spent a lot of time together. Lee shared his wisdom and Brian observed Lee’s approach.

“He had a big heart and was very nurturing. He opened my eyes to what the possibilities were and what you could do. But at the same time, he always kept me grounded. I don’t take anything for granted.” Lee needed someone to help her backstage at her shows and suggested that Brian perform a number. That led to becoming an understudy in the group numbers, and BB Hayes was born.

At this time people often assumed drag queens were prostitutes because many of them had to work the streets to make ends meet. BB was sheltered from most of that by drag mother Lee who would slay anyone who gave her any trouble. BB got to know drag legends like Jackie Collins and the other girls and recalls getting along with everyone. There was never any animosity as long as you weren’t taking their spots or interfering with how they made their living. BB also did performances for The Enforcers leather men.

It was during this time BB began to work with the Imperial Court, which was having some difficulty securing their Rhode Island charter.

With the help of Raffaelle Martino, Lee Daniels, and Fitzgerald Himmelsbach they secured their 501(c)(3) status and became official participants of the Court. BB and Raffaelle became Empress I and Emperor I. BB Hayes is known as the Underwire Empress because she always has fantastic cleavage. Inspired by the covers of Cosmo to be sexy and voluptuous, Brian admits to being obsessed with boobs. His height and body type helped him create the ideal drag image he was looking for. Yes, all that taping and work is painful, but you

have to suffer for your beauty. Heavily influenced by Bob Mackie, Brian has done all his own fashion. He used to travel with a Miss Rhode Island to do her make-up and hair, which formulated his vision of drag to be the most glamorous and realistic—pushing the envelope a little bit but not going over the top. It’s not his full-time job but it is a passion.

“I was fortunate enough to know a lot of theatre people, and a friend of mine said to me; if you’re serious about doing this you need to look at it from a theatre perspective and give it an identity, like creating a character for a play. The stronger that is—that helps how you hold yourself. For me it was trying to be classy. I think LaDiva is beautiful through and through. Her look is this amazing glamorous kind of 60s.There is something about her that I am always enamored with. You gotta love Sabrina. I love her. And Jacqueline DiMera—she often does things over the top. Or Complete Destruction—I have the utmost respect and admiration for her. The kind of androgyny he has going [while still being] approachable, not everyone can do. Everyone has their own personalities, their own back story.”

Brian has been dubbed Switzerland because in dramatic situations he always tries to remain neutral and see the bigger picture. If there is a disagreement, Brian says,

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“There are always three sides to the story.” If someone is left out he’ll try to help them feel comfortable.

“Brian is one of the kindest people you will ever meet,” says Stephen Hartley, aka Kitty Litter. “He’s one of those people you can always count on for anything. We have been friends for 30 years. He was in my wedding.”

The two met while Stephen was bartending, but it wasn’t until Stephen became involved with the Imperial Court around 1995 that they became friends. Stephen said, “If it was not for Brian, Kitty Litter would not exist, plain and simple. He makes all of Kitty’s outfits as well as all her hair…. For the past 18 years, BB has helped me become Kitty and for that I will always be grateful.”

Brian understands clothing and how to make women’s clothing work for a man’s body. He enjoys taking things apart and recreating them into something else according to his inspiration. Brian sees drag as an open playing field for everyone. He knows there are so many different looks, so when he works with a drag queen he likes to find out what her vision is. He advises them that as long as they own it, their vision will shine through.

“It’s different now with the new girls,” he says. “It’s exciting to see them. It’s become more mainstream and acceptable. You can go online on YouTube and learn how to contour your face. Before that you had to figure it out for yourself or find a drag queen to help you. Now it’s almost an encyclopedia of drag on the internet.

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lot of gay men appreciation [for the] work a drag queen goes through to go out on a Friday or Saturday night to have fun. It’s amazing what you can get away with in drag. You give yourself free rein to do the things you normally wouldn’t do. When you’re in drag other people give you license to do things too.”

Brian has found his way in life. He works at Contemporary Classics Hair Salon and he’s very open about who

...like creating a character for a play. The stronger that is—that helps how you hold yourself. For me it was trying to be classy. he is. He happily shares stories about putting on a face and dressing up and going out with Kitty and LaDiva, go-go dancing at The Strand, having drinks at Fritz in Boston, doing shows with The Enforcers and the traveling escapades attending the various charity events to raise money with The Imperial Court in glamorous wardrobe, hair, and jewelry. “BB is one of the best performers when it comes to drag in Rhode Island,” says Steven Hartley.

“She always knows the correct song for the event she is at. Always a true performer.”

Brian lives in a simple two-story home with a back yard on a small street in Pawtucket where he has lived for 25 years with his cat. The inside is unpretentious but artistically painted and decorated. The only nods to ostentation are the crowns and elaborate costume jewelry here and there, some of which he admits he has only worn once. Downstairs in the basement is a workroom that would be the envy of any clothing designer.

There are fabrics, body forms, feathers, jewelry, and racks of gowns, wigs, “everyday drag,” and shoes. He has a display of pins given to him for every time he travelled and was presented to an Imperial Court monarch.

When Brian is not BB Hayes or making clothes, he enjoys paddleboarding because it is time for himself away from everything. It forces him to shut down and relax. It’s no surprise he also loves shopping, even just to see what’s available. He finds the soundtracks to Cirque du Soliel relaxing.

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“I am grateful to Providence for letting me evolve into my own persona. It accepted me. That’s always meant a lot to me in Providence. You go to other places and it’s different. I am never more than a man in a dress when I am in drag. That’s what I would always tell myself. I don’t care how

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many people tell me how good I look or this and that, when I come home all this comes off. It’s important to know who you are.” q

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AIDS Walk Speaker Keeps Hope Alive by Creating Safe, Open, and Honest Spaces

by Stephen Hug

AIDS Walk RI, taking place Sunday, September 13, will present artist, activist, and recent college graduate Ronald Lewis as a featured speaker.

the stigma associated with HIV and AIDS,” he said. In 2012 he was diagnosed as positive, and about a year later decided it was time to be open. “Once I was given a positive diagnosis, it was important to not allow the fear of stigma to control my life and the types of interactions I would have intimately and communally,” he said.

Lewis, who recently acted in an unorthodox version of Moliere’s Tartuffe at the Artists’ Exchange in Cranston, graduated this spring from Rhode Island College with a bachelor’s degree in theater. He lives in Providence, but grew up in Jacksonville, Florida, where he participated in workshops about HIV/AIDS at an LGBTQ youth center.

“Keeping hope alive means being open and visible to foster dialogue about HIV and AIDS,” he added. “HIV/AIDS affects real people like your brother, your sister, your partner, or even you, as I know firsthand. If we are to keep hope alive, it’s important to create safe, open, and honest spaces in our lives.”

“I found myself with a deep longing for affirmation and community in the gay community, where disparate lines are often drawn between race and class,” he said. Lewis found “affirmation and community a luxury.”

In response, he has emphasized creating “safe, open, and honest spaces” by being public about being HIV-positive. “Many of my HIV-positive friends wouldn’t speak of it openly because of

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AIDS Walk RI is such a space, and he urges everyone to join him in raising money to fight HIV and AIDS and to foster dialogue, community, and affirmation—not only at the walk, but year-round.

The annual event, sponsored for the first time by two AIDS service organizations (AIDS Project Rhode Island and AIDS Care Ocean State), includes an approximate two-mile route that starts and ends at the Rhode Island State

House lawn that faces downtown Providence.

The 2015 AIDS Walk RI theme is “Keeping Hope Alive.”

Registration starts at noon, and is also available online at firstgiving.com/aidswalkri as well as through the two agencies’ websites.

Participants often form “walk teams” to raise money. The speaking program commences about 12:30pm, and the walk steps off shortly after. AIDS Walk RI raises critical funds for public awareness, advocacy, testing, and comprehensive services for people living with HIV/AIDS.q AIDS Project RI is a division of Family Service of RI, providing case management, various healthrelated services, advocacy, prevention education, and HIV and Hep-C testing. APRI’s location is 9 Pleasant Street, Providence.

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News from SAGE-RI

by Kim Stowell Change is Good SAGE-RI says hello to you this month from its new office at 1 Virginia Avenue, Providence, within the offices of CareLink. As you may have heard, SAGE has a new executive director too (see byline above for her name), and there are more changes to come. Here’s one: On Saturday, September 12, SAGE will hold its Annual Meeting, where the membership will vote for the first time on a slate of candidates to form a Board of Directors. This event is also a brunch and a fun social outing. Plan to join us at Chelo’s Hometown Bar and Grille, 2225 Post Road in Warwick at 11am. Brunch is free for members and a $10 donation is requested from non-members.

Why Become a SAGE Member?

Once out and proud, many elders in our community now find themselves fearful about having to live out their days in a senior care facility where they may well encounter

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discrimination. Reports show that LGBT older adults face hostility, verbal abuse, exclusion from group activities, attempts to convert them, violations of legal directives, and more. Appropriate medical care is also very important to this group, especially those who are transgender. There is a palpable fear of being dependent on a health care provider who may be homophobic.

It breaks the heart to see this level of vulnerability. Our elders may not have the physical stamina they once had, and even the boldest among them is often afraid. If a stay in assisted care or nursing facilities is in their futures, they face the very real possibility of having to go back into the closet to escape abusive treatment. And these are the very people that pioneered our movement.

SAGE works to support aging members of the community, advocate for their rights, and foster a greater understanding of LGBT ageing. But they can’t do it without your help!

SAGE depends on the larger community for support, and a membership in the organization is an easy way to help. Members receive a monthly e-newsletter, preferential

discounts at events, and voting privileges, and they also know that they are a part of something bigger.They are helping to build a better world for those who paved the way for them.Visit www.sage-ri.org to download our membership application today.

On a Personal Note I’d like to say a big thank you to all those who have congratulated and supported me as I take on this exciting new position. I’m thrilled to be working on behalf of the LGBT community again, and especially tickled to be writing for Options, for which I worked for so many years. Let’s do this thing! q SAGE-RI (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders) addresses issues of concern to LGBT elders and is an organization of diverse people of all ages. For information on programs or to join SAGE-RI, drop us a line at sageriinfo@gmail.com; call us at (401) 443-4451; write to us at SAGE-RI at CareLink, 1 Virginia Avenue, Providence, RI 02905; on the web at www.sage-ri.org, or find us on Facebook as SAGE/ Rhode Island.

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What you need to know About Gynecological Cancer as a Lesbian or Bisexual Woman

Gynecological cancers affect more than 80,000 women per year.1 While these cancers can be fatal, they are often treatable if discovered early. For a variety of reasons, lesbian and bisexual women are at greater risk for some of these cancers, so it is important to be are aware of common gynecological cancers and understand their unique risk factors.

The three most common types of gynecological cancer that affect a woman’s reproductive system are endometrial, ovarian, and cervical.

Endometrial cancer affects the lining of the uterus. Many women who develop this kind of cancer have been exposed to estrogen without the counteracting effects of progesterone (such as during menopause), have never been pregnant, or have never taken oral contraceptives.

There are 54,000 new cases of endometrial cancer per year.2 Ovarian cancer is a cancer of the ovaries. Ovarian cancer is most likely to occur in women who have never taken oral contraceptives, have never been pregnant, have a family history of ovarian cancer, or have been exposed to estrogen without the counteracting effects of progesterone. Roughly 21,000 new cases of ovarian cancer are reported each year. 3 Cervical cancer is a cancer of the cervix, the lower part of the uterus.

Cervical cancer is most often attributed to the Human Papillomavirus (HPV), a sexually transmitted infection. It can affect any sexually active person, whether they have sex with men or women. Twelve thousand new cases of cervical cancer are reported annually. 4 According to a 2013 analysis from the Fenway Institute5, lesbians undergo fewer cervical screenings and are less likely to consider vaccination for HPV since they perceive they are at lower risk of HPV infection. Beyond the risks associated with fewer screenings, lesbian and bisexual women are vulnerable to gynecological cancers because they are less likely to be exposed to hormonal regulators like oral contraceptives, pregnancy, and breastfeeding, all of which have been shown to help lower the risk of developing gynecological cancers.

Because lesbians face greater risk of gynecological cancers, it is important that they schedule regular visits with their doctor.

The American Cancer Society recommends that women age 21 and older undergo Pap tests at least every three years to detect HPV and any changes to the cervix. Women with a history of HIV infection should receive annual screenings. While there are no specific screening tests for endometrial or ovarian cancers, appropriate counseling can be given with regard to individual risk factors and potential prevention strategies.

Here are some additional things to be mindful of between screenings: • Know your body. Endometrial and cervical cancers can present with symptoms such as unusual discharge, spotting, or bleeding. Pay close attention to any changes in your gynecological health, and tell your doctor about any unusual symptoms • Quit tobacco use and maintain a healthy lifestyle. Women who do not use tobacco and are at a healthy weight are less likely to develop gynecological cancers. If you are a smoker and/or overweight, talk to your doctor about steps toward a healthy lifestyle.

• Talk to your doctor about preventive measures if you have a family history of gynecological cancer.Your doctor is the person most informed about which screenings, vaccinations, and medications can best keep you healthy and limit your risk for developing any of these cancers.

As with many illnesses, gynecological cancers are preventable and sometimes treatable, if discovered early. Practice preventive care by getting routine screenings with a provider with whom you feel comfortable, and don’t hesitate to speak up if you notice something “off ” about your health. Taking care of yourself when you are well helps ensure you have a long and healthy life. q Katherine Dallow, MD, MPH is the Vice President of Clinical Affairs for Blue Cross & Blue Shield of Rhode Island. http://www.cdc.gov/cancer/knowledgepdf/cdc_gyn_comprehensive_brochure.pdf http://seer.cancer.gov/statfacts/html/corp.html 3 http://seer.cancer.gov/statfacts/html/ovary.html 4 http://www.cdc.gov/cancer/cervical/statistics/ 5 http://fenwayfocus.org/2013/04/lesbians-bisexual-women-lag-behing-heterosexualwomen-in-receiving-adequate-cervical-cancer-screening/ 1 2

AIDS CARE OCEAN STATE PRESENTS

A very special

Farewell to Kitty Litter

DRAG for her last night as hostess

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SEPTEMBER 17TH 2015

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don’t grow up invisible

Youth Pride Inc.

by Kerri Kanelos

At our annual gala on Friday, October 16, we will honor several people for their contributions to Youth Pride Inc. and Rhode Island’s LGBTQQ community. One award, the Luis Pagan Award, honors a YPI recipient who is a leader and advocate for all par ticipants. This year’s recipient is Alyssa St. Franc (pictured), a 17 year-old pansexual young woman from Providence who recently gradated from Classical High School. During her time at Classical, Alyssa was heavily involved in her school’s gay/straight alliance (GSA), and she has been involved at YPI in many ways over the past four years.

Alyssa first learned about Youth Pride Inc. through her GSA’s involvement with the organization’s annual GSA conference. Members of her GSA presented a workshop on issues facing all adolescents, regardless of sexual orientation and gender identity/expression. After the conference workshops, all attendees were invited back to YPI’s drop-in center for a closing reception. “I loved the conference, so I knew I would love the space,” she said, “I came in and it was just bubbly. Staff were ver y nice and ever yone was really friendly. I left feeling great.”

At Youth Pride Inc., Alyssa ser ved on the Board of Directors, the annual event planning committee, and Youth Programming Council for two years. “There were a lot of e-mails and meetings, but it was a great leadership oppor tunity and a chance to work on YPI behind the scenes,” she said. She also traveled to Minnesota to par ticipate in the National Gathering—an annual conference for GSA members throughout the countr y.

Being chosen as this year’s Luis Pagan award honoree “was a shock, but ver y exciting.” She said, “Over the past four years I’ve watched other youth receive the award and it has been so inspiring. My time at YPI has been literally life-changing.”

When asked what she would like people to know about LGBTQQ youth and young adults, Alyssa shared her belief that others need to better respect the ways in which youth have harnessed technology to advocate for social change.

“We are willing to educate ourselves if the information isn’t being given to us in a way that’s accessible. People often complain about ‘teenagers with their Facebook and their

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Twitter’ and whatnot. That’s how we communicate with each other and raise awareness and how we advocate for one another.” She continued, “Hashtags aren’t a joke; we legitimately are tr ying to spread the word about issues.”

She also stressed that intersectionality is impor tant in conversations about LGBTQQ issues. “If I’m a queer black girl and all I see in our GSA are straight cisgender white guys, that’s an issue that needs to be discussed. We need to have constructive conversations about these issues.”

Alyssa also has the following message for her fellow YPI youth: “Keep being awesome; educate and advocate for yourself; don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do something; raise hell, and give back to the community if you can.”

In the fall, Alyssa will be entering the Massachusetts College of Liberal Ar ts where she hopes to major in social work. Her future career goal is to become a counselor for middle school or high school age youth.

Join us on October 16 to honor Alyssa and our other award recipients. Enjoy cocktails, appetizers, a silent auction, dancing, and enter tainment. For more information and to purchase tickets please visit youthprideri.org/event. q Youth Pride Inc. provides support, education, and advocacy for LGBTQQ young people ages 13-23. Our Drop-in Center is at 473 Westminster Street, Providence, RI 02903. Visit www. youthprideri.org, email info@youthprideri.org, or call (401) 421-5626 for more info.

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by Annie Cronin-Silva & Melanie Silva

Can it be true? Is it really September already? We haven’t even worn one-fifth of our summer attire. Well, that just means we need to pack more activities into our social calendar before the temperature drops.

Comedy has been a priority for us this summer. The 2nd Story Theatre production of Die, Mommy, Die! starring Payton St. James brought us to Warren for an amazing show packed with fast-paced one-liners delivered with impeccable timing. The talented cast kept us engaged for the entire night as we watched the comedic drama unfold. This LGBT-friendly theatre is really a hidden gem, so check out a production there soon.

We ventured to a comedy showcase at Indigo Pizza in Coventry.

It’s owned and operated by Mary Day, a longtime contributor to the local community through her many performances at PrideFest, the Goddess Show, and other LGBT events and nightclubs.Their creative pizza selections include unique combinations like the Shepard’s Pie Pizza and the Buffaque—Buffalo and Barbeque combined! The restaurant was packed as John Kelley warmed up the audience for Christina Thomas, who left us in stitches. It doesn’t get much better than a night filled with laughter, friends, and pizza. Indigo Pizza is planning a comedy night in October with some well-known lesbian comics. Look for details on their Facebook page.

Mid-summer we took our annual pilgrimage to Provincetown, aka Ptown, aka the Gay Mecca of the Northeast.This year we rented a townhouse during Family Week to vacation with our niece Taylor and Melanie’s cousin Jaime, who brought her fiancée Leslie and her son Noah. Since it was our first time in Ptown for Family Week, we were a bit apprehensive, wondering if the town would be overrun with strollers and screaming babies. We’re happy to report it wasn’t.

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There were more families than usual when compared to our other visits, but everything was manageable and pleasant. We had a blast taking the kids on a dune tour and learned the fascinating history of Provincetown, as narrated by our tour guide. We wished our guide had done donuts or popped wheelies in the sand with the Suburban we rode in! Our top agenda item for the trip was to hit the beach.

We soaked up the sun as beachgoers admired our mermaid sand sculpture. It was a little strange not to hit a tea dance or a club, but we still had a blast, proving Ptown is a great place for family time.

In August, the community rallied at the Dark Lady to support the sister of one of our favorite performers and bartenders, Gary Jacques, aka LaDiva Jonz.

Gary’s sister Sarah has been battling breast cancer and this fundraiser, titled Songs for Sarah, was meant to ease the monetary burden of this life-changing disease.

Acclaimed drag queens LaDiva & Sarah BB Hayes, Payton St. James, Kira Stone, Sabrina Blaze, Vi’let, Jealousy Jonz, Jacqueline DiMera, Haley Star, along with LaDiva, donated their performances. The emcees and bartenders donated their time as well as all their tips. Many attendees contributed at the door and online, and numerous businesses donated gift baskets for the raffles. We knew it would be a special night, but to witness the generosity of the community was overwhelming.

There are plenty of ways to take advantage of the waning days of summer. Check out the calendar and join us at the Options Release Party. Come out, be seen, and be part of the community!q

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A Very Special Farewell to Kitty Litter at Drag Bingo

by Christopher Dalpe for AIDS Care Ocean State It is with a heavy heart but warm wishes that AIDS Care Ocean State announces that, after ten years of outstanding service to the community, Development Director Stephen Hartley (perhaps even better known as the one and only Kitty Litter) will resign from his position in September 2015. His presence will be greatly missed at the agency. It is with warmest personal regards that we wish Stephen success in his new endeavors as he pursues the next milestone in his accomplished and truly inspiring career.

So, get those daubers ready, folks, because September 17 will be Miss Kitty Litter’s final night as hostess of Drag Bingo. It will truly be the end of an era for ACOS and Drag Bingo. There are not enough words, or dollars raised, or balls pulled to express the magnitude and impact Kitty Litter has had on our community through Drag Bingo and the agency is so thankful for all her hard work. Whether it was for crowds of 200 people or 900, she always put on a show.

But, continue we must, and we promise a full season of amazing giveaways, prizes, and outrageous drag queen antics. Last year was the biggest, most record-breaking season ever and we’re excited to get back to the games and fun.

Drag Bingo happens on the third Thursday of every month. Doors open at 6pm at the Riviera Bingo Palace (1612 Elmwood Avenue, Cranston) and the first game starts at 7pm sharp. Over $2,000 in cash and prizes is awarded every month. It’s $20 and 18+ to play. Every Drag Bingo has a theme, and prizes are awarded for best costumes and contest winners. The first bingo on September 17 is the “Back to School” costume contest and we want to see what you’ve got. Go to aidscareos.org/bingo to see the complete bingo schedule.

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Miss Kitty Litter host Drag Bingo one last time. All money raised from the evening goes directly to support HIV/AIDS services. Just by attending and playing you’re supporting individuals and families who are affected by HIV/AIDS in Rhode Island. q AIDS Care Ocean State provides comprehensive AIDS service, supportive housing, emergency funds, and a Speakers Bureau.

Located at 18 Parkis Avenue, Providence. (401) 521-3603.

Appointments: (401) 781-0665. www.aidscareoceanstate.org.

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Resources Options originated in 1982 as the offical newsletter of the Rhode Island Gay Task Force. Editor Jos Fayette explained, “The RIGTF wants to make the homosexual community aware of their options as gay men and women in Rhode Island. And it’s only because we live, work, love, and play in this state that there are such a large number of options available to all of us.” Options has always, and will continue to print LGBTQ resources so that you can, as Fayette went on to say, “Exercise your OPTIONS today to make positive changes in your life tomorrow.”

Help us help you! Email info@optionsri.org if you come across a resource listing that needs updating. Phone numbers are in the 401 area code and addresses are in Rhode Island, unless otherwise indicated.

Addiction Support Groups AA Brothers in Sobriety: Saturday 7:30pm. 372 Wayland Avenue, Providence. 751-9328.

Alcohol/Drug Helpline: RI Council on Alcoholism & Drug Dependence. 24hr. (866) 252-3784.

RI LGBT AA Group: Tuesdays 7-8pm. The Wellness Company,132A George M Cohan Blvd.,Providence.All are welcome.

Set Them Free: Narcotics Anonymous open discussion group.

Wednesdays 7:30-9pm. Anchor Recovery Community Center, 249 Main Street, Pawtucket. 721-5100. info@anchorrecovery.org. www.anchorrecovery.org.

Seven Hills Behavioral Health: Addiction support services and Narcan. 1173 Acushnet Avenue, New Bedford, MA, 508-9994159. 310 S. Main Street, Fall River, MA, 508-235-1012. Leonard Amaral, Program Manager, lamaral@sevenhills.org.

Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous: 12-step program. Fridays at 7pm. Providence Presbyterian Church, 500 Hope Street, Providence, side entrance, downstairs to the left. Gay, but all are welcome.

AIDS/Health Resources AFIA Center for Health & Wholeness: Meals, food pantry, HIV support groups, recovery groups, recreational and social activities.

Sponsored by AIDS Project RI. Free to clients. Wednesday and Thursday 12-3pm. Mathewson Street Church, 134 Mathewson Street, Providence. Contact Gordon Cooper, 331-1350 ext.

3268. info@uwri.org. www.familyserviceri.org.

AIDS Action Hotline: MA only. (800) 235-2331. www.aac.org.

AIDS Care Ocean State: Confidential HIV & Hep C testing, safer-sex supplies, case management, emergency funds, clinical services, assisted and supportive housing for people living with HIV/AIDS, street outreach, ENCORE, HIV+ support groups.

Speaker’s Bureau, 18 Parkis Ave., Providence. 521-3603 (call 781-0665 to schedule an appointment). www.aidscareos.org.

AIDS Project RI: Division of Family Service of RI. Case management, buddies, COBRA and dental services, emergency fund, mental health counseling, nutrition support, assessment and referral, wellness programs, advocacy, strength training, prevention education, HIV testing. 9 Pleasant Street, Providence.

831-5522 www.aidsprojectri.org.

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AIDS Quilt RI: Displays local AIDS memorial quilt panels, panel-making programs including Anna’s Workshop, HIV/AIDS education for young people. PO Box 2591, Newport. 434-4880. admin@aidsquiltri.org. www.aidsquiltri.org.

Brown University AIDS Program: Clinical trials, public policy, research, lectures, conferences, patient and community education.

121 South Main Street, Second Floor, Providence. 863-6790. brunap@brown.edu. brown.edu/Departments/BRUNAP. Community Care Alliance: Case management, support, personal care items for people living with HIV/AIDS in northern Rhode Island.

245 Main Street, Woonsocket. 235-6092. lcohen@famresri.org.

Comprehensive Community Action Programs: Medical, mental health, dental, social services, LGBT outreach. 311 Doric Avenue, Cranston. Also Coventry, Pawtucket, and Warwick. 467-9610.

Gabriel Care, LLC: Nursing/social worker case management and financial compensation for assistance and supervision for those living with HIV. MassHealth funded for MA residents. 376 South Main Street, Fall River, MA. Contact Jenn, (508) 678-1002.

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HIV Antibody Testing: Anonymous.Free or sliding scale.RI Department of Health. Providence, Newport and other locations. 222-2320.

Home and Hospice Care of RI: Medical care management for HIV/AIDS. 24hr nursing staff for treatment. 1085 North Main Street, Providence. Referrals: 782-0725. Bereavement groups: Contact John Charette, 727-7079. Main Office: 415-4200 or toll-free 800-338-6555. www.hhcri.org.

House of Compassion: HIV/AIDS housing. 2510 Mendon Road, Cumberland. 658-3992.

LGBT Caregiver Online Support Group: For LGBTs caring for someone with chronic health problems. www.caregiver.org Luis E. Martinez House CHS, Inc.: Supportive, permanent housing for 10 adults living with HIV/AIDS and/or substance abuse. New Bedford, MA. Contact Joe Taylor. (508) 984-7514.

Partners in Learning About AIDS: Outreach to minorities, women of color, and LGBT community at clubs and other locations. North Providence office provides free condoms and information about STIs and post-exposure prophylaxis for HIV. 1006 Charles Street, Suite 5, North Providence. 484-7523. info@plaidsproject.org. www.plaidsproject.org.

Planned Parenthood of So. New England: Confidential, lowcost, same-day & walk-in STD and HIV testing. Commonsense approach to health. 111 Point St., Providence. 800-230-7526. www.ppsne.org.

Project Weber: Services for male sex workers. Drop-in center, support groups, HIV and Hep C testing, clean needles.

383-4888. www.projectweber.org.

Seven Hills HIV Prevention & Screening: TWIST program, HIV and STI prevention and testing,partner care.1173AcushnetAvenue, New Bedford, MA, 508-999-4159. 310 S. Main Street, Fall River, MA, 508-235-1012. Contact Leonard Amaral, lamaral@sevenhills.org.

SSTAR (Stanley Street Treatment & Resources): Counseling, drug treatment, detox, domestic violence programs, free and confidential HIV, HEP C, and STD testing, education, case management and support. MA and RI locations. 386 Stanley Street, Fall River, MA. (508) 679-5222. Project Aware (HIV/HCV); (508) 324-3561. Family Healthcare Center; (508) 675-1054. www.sstar.org.

Steppingstone, Inc.: Welcome Home Medical case management program. One-on-one peer support in Somerset to Wareham area. HIV support groups available. Free and open to any HIV+ person 18+. 5 Dover Street, New Bedford, MA. (508) 984-7514. www.steppingstoneinc.org.

Tranquil Mind & Wellness: Counseling, alternative healing, yoga, Pilates, meditation.109 Rhode Island Road, Lakeville, MA. (508) 947-1683. www.tranquilmind.net.

Thundermist Health Center: Provides HIV/AIDS services including medical care and treatment by an HIV specialist, dental care, behavioral health counseling, nutritional assessment and counseling, pharmacy consultation, free and confidential HIV testing. 450 Clinton Street, Woonsocket. Contact Philip Kane.

767-4100 ext. 3516.

Information/Education

The Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health: Education, pleasure, health, advocacy. Tues. -- Sat. 12 -- 6 and by appointment. 250 Main Street, Unit 1, Pawtucket. 489-5513. www.thecsph.org.

Fenway Community Center LGBT Helpline: Support, information and referrals. Fenway Community Health Center, Boston. Open daily 6-11pm. (617) 267-9001 or 888-340-452 GLBT National Help Center Hotline: Local resources

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nationwide provided by social services agency. 888-843-4564. www.glbtnationalhelpcenter.org.

Newport Out: LGBT website for Newport. www.newportout.com.

RILGBT-News: Low-volume email distribution list for LGBT & AIDS news from RI. Not a discussion list. To subscribe: tinawood@cox.net.

United Way of RI Referral Line: 2-1-1

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Nightlife The Alley Cat Providence: Downtown neighborhood bar.

Monday-Thursday 3pm-1am, Friday 3pm-2am, Saturday 2pm2am, Sunday 2pm-1am. 19 Snow Street, Providence. 272-6369.

Bobby’s Place: Dancing, pool, video lounge, karaoke. SundayWednesday 5pm-1am, Thursday-Saturday 5pm-2am. 62 Weir Street,Taunton, MA. (508) 824-9997. www.bobbysplacema.com.

Brooklyn Coffee Tea House: 209 Douglas Ave., Providence: public/private venue for music, art, film screenings, weddings, showers, etc. RHODYWOOD@yahoo.com; 359-0192.

Club Body Center: Gay men’s sauna. Membership required.

One-day pass available. Open 24hr. 257 Weybosset Street, Providence. 274-0298. www.cbcresorts.com.

The Dark Lady: Downtown bar and nightclub. TuesdayThursday 9pm-1am, Friday & Saturday 9pm-3am, Sunday 9pm1am. 17 Snow Street, Providence. 272-6369.

EGO: Providence’s newest gay nightlife performance/event space.

Sunday and Thursday 9pm-1am, Friday and Saturday 10pm-3am, 73 Richmond St, Providence. 383-1208. www.egopvd.com.

Indigo Lounge: 599 Tiogue Ave, Coventry RI 02816. Breakfast buffet, specialty pizzas, T Dances, live entertainment, karaoke Thurs. Hours vary, closed Mon. www.indigopizza.com.

Mirabar: Downtown bar and nightclub. Monday-Thursday 3pm-1am, Friday and Saturday 3pm-2am, Sunday 3pm-1am.

15 Elbow Street, Providence. 331-6761. www.mirabar.com.

Providence Eagle: Leather, Levi, bear cruise bar. MondayThursday 2pm-1am, Friday 2pm-2am, Saturday-Sunday 12pm2am. 124 Snow Street, Providence. 421-1447.

The Stable: Downtown video bar. No cover. Monday-Thursday 2pm-1am, Friday 2pm-2am, Saturday 12pm-2am, Sunday 12pm1am. 125 Washington Street, Providence. 272-6950.

The Village: Downtown Providence’s newest LGBT owned and operated restaurant and live entertainment venue.

Lunch & dinner Wednesday through Sunday for varying hours.

373 Richmond St. 228-7222, www.thevillageri.com

Political & Legal Groups American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU): 128 Dorrance Street, Suite 220, Providence. 831-7171. riaclu.org.

Amnesty International OUTfront: Program to campaign globally for LGBTQ human rights. (212) 807-8400. Cvohs18904@yahoo.com. www.amnestyusa.org.

Brown University Queer Alliance: Student advocacy and support organization. queer@brown.edu.

Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders (GLAD): LGBT/ HIV legal info hotline. Weekdays 1:30-4:30pm. 30 Winter Street, Suite 800, Boston, MA. (617) 436-1350 or (800) 455-GLAD. gladlaw@glad.org www.GLAD.org.

Lambda Legal Defense & Education Fund: 120 Wall Street, Suite 1500, NY. (212) 809-8585. www.lambdalegal.org.

Lawyers for Equality and Diversity (LEAD): Advocates for LGBT causes. lawyersforequality@gmail.com.

National Lesbian & Gay Journalists Assoc./New England: Works for fair and accurate media coverage of LGBT issues. info@nlgja.org, www.nlgja.org.

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The Next Thing (TNT): Political and support group for queer people of color located at Brown University. 863-3062. tnt@brown.edu.

RI Commission on Prejudice and Bias: Hate crime awareness training program. www.hatecrimeri.org.

RI Socialist Action: 952-5385, adgagneri@gmail.com. Spanish: 351-3514, walsil@cox.net.

RI Human Rights Commission: Anti-discrimination law enforcement agency with jurisdiction in employment, housing, public accommodations, and credit. 180 Westminster Street, 3rd floor, Providence. 222-2662 TTY: 222-2664, richr.ri.gov.

Scouts for Equality: An organization composed largely of Boy Scouts of America alumni dedicated to ending the BSA’s ban on gay members and leaders. Contact Carol Crowther. ccrowther1@gmail.com. Facebook.com/riscoutsforequality.

Servicemembers Legal Defense Network: Serving LGBT military personnel and veterans. PO Box 65301, Washington DC. (202) 328-3244. or (800) 538-7418. sldn@sldn.org. www.sldn.org.

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Religious & Spiritual All Saints Memorial Church: 674Westminster Street, Providence.

751-1747. asmcri@verizon.net. www.allsaintsmemorial.org.

Amicable Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming.

Pastor William Sterrett. Sunday 10am. 3736 Main Road, Tiverton.

624-4611. amicablechurch@aol.com, www.amicablechurch.org.

Association of Welcoming & Affirming Baptists: robin@awab.org, www.awab.org.

Barrington Congregational Church: UCC. “The white church.” Sundays 10am. 461 County Road, Barrington. 246-0111. office@bccucc.org, www.bccucc.org.

Bell Street Chapel: Unitarian Universalist. A Welcoming Congregation. Rev. Margaret Weis. Sundays 10am. 5 Bell Street, Providence. 273-5678. www.bellstreetchapel.org.

Beneficent Congregational Church: UCC. An Open & Affirming congregation in the heart of Providence. Co-Pastors Todd & Nicole Yonkman. Sundays 10am. 300 Weybosset Street, Providence. 331-9844. BeneficentChurchUCC@gmail.com, www. beneficentchurch.org.

Berean Baptist Church: A safe and welcoming place for all God’s children. Sunday 10am. 474 Chapel Street, Harrisville. 568-5411. bereanbaptist@verizon.net. www.bereanri.org.

Calvary United Methodist Church of Middletown: LGBTQ early dementia support group. Contact Amy. Sundays 10:30am. 200 Turner Road, Middletown. 847-6181, www.middletownmethodist.com.

Central Congregational Church: UCC.An Opening & Affirming Congregation. Sundays 10:30am. 296 Angell Street, Providence.

331-1960. www.centralchurch.us.

Channing Memorial Church: Unitarian Universalist. A Welcoming Congregation. Sundays 10am. 135 Pelham Street, Newport.

846-0643. administrator@channingchurch.org. www.channingchurch.org.

Charter Oak Grove ADF: An Open and Welcoming Congregation of Neo-pagan Druids in CT. charteroakadf@gmail. com, www.charteroakadf.org.

Christ Church in Lonsdale: Episcopal.

1643 Lonsdale Avenue, Lincoln.

Services 8am and 10:30am.

725-1920. office@christchurchlincoln.org. www.christchurchlincoln.org.

Church of the Ascension, 390 Pontiac Ave., Cranston, RI 02910.

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Sundays at 10am. 461-5811. www.ascensioncranston.org.

Church of the Epiphany: A diverse Open & Affirming Episcopal congregation. 1336 Pawtucket Avenue, East Providence. 434-5012. info@epiphanyep.org, www.epiphanyep.org.

Church of the Holy Paraclete: Independent Old Catholic.

Fr. Jakob Lazarus. Sunday 9am and 6pm. 155 Douglas Avenue, Providence. 218-0706. www.holyparaclete.org.

Edgewood Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming.

Service 10am. 1788 Broad Street, Cranston. 461-1344. office@edgewoodchurchri.org. www.edgewoodchurchri.org.

Emmanuel Episcopal Church: Sundays 8 and 9:30am. 120 Nate Whipple Highway, Cumberland. 658-1506. office@emmanuelri.org. www.emmanuelri.org.

First Congregational Church in Bristol: An Open and Affirming Congregation. Skip Macaulay, Interim Pastor. 281 High Street, Bristol. 253-7288. www.fccbristol.org.

First Unitarian Church: A welcoming congregation.

Sunday 10:30am. 1 Benevolent Street, Providence. 421-7970. admin@firstunitarianprov.org, www.firstunitarianprov.org.

First Unitarian Church: Service 11am. 71 8th Street, New Bedford, MA. (508) 994-9686. admin@uunewbedford.org, www.uunewbedford.org.

First Universalist Society: UU. Welcoming congregation. Samegender weddings. 262 Chestnut Street, Franklin, MA. (508) 5285348. fusf@verizon.net, www.fusf.org.

Foxboro Universalist Church: UUA. Service 10am. 6 Bird Street, Foxboro, MA. 508-543-4002. chair@uufoxborough.org. www.uufoxborough.org.

Grace Episcopal Church in Providence: 175 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-3225. hello@gracechurchprovidence.org. www.gracechurchprovidence.org.

Immanuel Lutheran Church: A Reconciling in Christ congregation. Pastor Sandra Demmler D’Amico. 647 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-2898. www.immanuellc.org.

Interweave at Channing Memorial UU Church: A membership organization for the spiritual, political and social wellbeing of LGBTQ persons, and their allies, confronting oppression.

135 Pelham Street, Newport. 846-0643.

Lutheran Church of the Good Shepherd: A “Reconciling in Christ” congregation (Welcoming). 3383 Old North Rd., Kingston,

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RI. Sundays 9 am. Pastor Mary Hansen-Joyce. 789-7776; office@ goodshepherdri.org Mathewson St. Church: United Methodist. 134 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-8900. MathewsonStUMC@gmail.com.

Mercy of God Community: Christian, inclusive religious order. mercycomm@yahoo.com, www.mgc.org.

Murray Unitarian Universalist Church: Marriage and commitment ceremonies for all. Rev. Bob McKetchnie.

505 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-0505 www.murrayuuchurch.org.

Newman Congregational Church: Open & Affirming. 100 Newman Avenue, Rumford. 434-4742. www.newmanucc.org.

Newport Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming.

Rev. Hayes and Rev. Baker. 73 Pelham Street, Newport. 849-2238.

Park Place Congregational Church: 71 Park Place, Pawtucket.

726-2800. office@ppucc.necoxmail.com, www.parkplaceucc.com.

The Pub Church: An Open & Affirming church that meets in a pub. Location may change. Saturday 5pm. The Dugout, 722 Commonwealth Avenue, Boston, MA. thepubchurch@gmail.com.

Pilgrim Lutheran Church: An inclusive congregation. Sundays 8 and 9:30am. 1817 Warwick Avenue, Warwick. 739-2937. parishasst@pilgrimlutheranri.org, pilgrimlutheranri.jimdo.com.

Pilgrim United Church of Christ: Open and Affirming. 635 Purchase Street, New Bedford, MA. (508)-997-9086.

Riverside Church: UCC.15 Oak Avenue, Riverside. Service 10am. 433-2039. www.rcc-ucc.com.

St. Augustine’s Church and Episcopal Center at URI: 15 Lower College Road, Kingston. 783-2153. Sundays 8am and 10am.

StAugustinesChurch@necoxmail.com, www.staugustineuri.org.

St. James Church: Episcopal. 474 Fruit Hill Avenue, North Providence. 353-2079.

St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: Sundays 8 and 10am. 50 Orchard Avenue, Providence. 751-2141. StMartinsNB.Secretary@gmail. com, www.stmartinsprov.org.

St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: Welcoming Church. Monthly LGBT Eucharist. 136 Rivet Street, New Bedford, MA. (508)994-8972. stmartins1887@comcast.com, www.stmartinsma.org.

St. Paul’s Episcopal Church: Sundays 9am.50 Park Place,Pawtucket.

728-4300. office@stpaulspawtucket.org, www.stpaulspawtucket.org.

St. Paul’s Church: A welcoming Episcopal church. Sundays 9am.

2679 East Main Street, Portsmouth. 683-1164. stpaulsportsmouthri. org.

St. Peter & St. Andrew’s Episcopal Church: 25 Pomona Avenue, Providence. 272-9649.stpanda25@verizon.net. www.stpeters-standrews.org.

Saint Therese Old Catholic Church: Open & Affirming. Fr. David Martins. Sunday 10:30am. 1500 Main St., W. Warwick, RI 02893. 680-9076. stocc134@gmail.com, www.saintthereseocc.org.

Second Congregational Church of Attleboro: UCC. Open & Affirming. 50 Park Street, Attleboro, MA. Sunday 10am. (508) 2224677. office2nd@verizon.net, www.attleborosecondchurch.org.

Seekonk Congregational Church: Rev. Joy Utter. Sundays 9am. 600 Fall River Avenue, Seekonk, MA. (508) 336-9355. sccucc@verizon.net, www.scc-ucc.com Soka Gakkai: Buddhist association for peace, culture, and education.

Contact for weekly meetings in Providence. 930 Commonwealth Avenue, Boston. (617) 264-2000. www.sgi-usa.org.

Temple Agudas Achim: Reconstructionist congregation.

901 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-2243. office@agudasma.org, www.agudasma.org.

Temple Beth-El: Rabbi Sarah E. Mack. 70 Orchard Avenue, Providence. 331-6070. info@temple-beth-el.org, www.templebeth-el.org.

Temple Emanu-El: A welcoming Conservative congregation.

Rabbi Wayne Franklin. 99 Taft Avenue, Providence. 331-1616. info@teprov.org, www.teprov.org.

Temple Habonim: A warm, Welcoming Reform congregation.

Rabbi Andrew Klein. 165 New Meadow Road, Barrington. 2456536. office@templehabonim.org, www.templehabonim.org.

Temple Sinai: A Welcoming Reform temple. Rabbi Jeff Goldwasser, 30 Hagen Avenue, Cranston. 942-8350. webmaster@templesinairi.org, www.templesinairi.org.

Unitarian Church in Fall River: Sunday 10:30am. 309 North Main Street, Fall River, MA. 508-678-9700. office@unitarianchurchfr. org, www.unitarianchurchfr.org.

Unitarian Universalist Society of Fairhaven: Service 10:30am.

102 Green Street, Fairhaven, MA. (508) 992-7081. www. uufairhaven.org.

Unitarian Universalist Congregation of South County: 27 North Road, Peace Dale. 783-4170 or Val 789-7282. uucscri@ yahoo.com. www.uusouthcountyri.org.

Westminster Unitarian Universalist Church: A UUA Welcoming Congregation. 119 Kenyon Avenue, East Greenwich.

884-5933. www.westminsteruu.org.

Bear Providence: Monthly social events for the bear community. www.bearprovidence.com Bisexual Resource Center: PO Box 170796, Boston, MA. (617) 424-9595. brc@bicresource.net www.biresource.net.

Biversity Boston: Mixed-gender social events for Boston and the surrounding area. (617) 424-9595. biversity-subscribe@biversity.org, www.biversity.org.

Boston Bisexual Women’s Network: Social activities including monthly brunches, coming out groups and quarterly newsletter “Bi Woman Quarterly.” www.biwomenboston.org.

Bears Ocean State (BOS): Informal e-group for gay & bisexual bearidentified and affiliated men for friendly companionship.All welcome. groups.yahoo.com/group/bearsoceanstate.

Cape and Islands Gay & Straight Youth Alliance (CIGSYA): 56 Barnstable Road, Hyannis, MA. (508) 778-7744. info@cisgsya.org, www.cigsya.org.

Communisong: For unity through song. Non-performance

monthly singing session. www.communisong.net.

CORISMA: Potluck get-togethers for couples from RI and southeast MA. corismainfo@comcast.net, www.corismagroup.org.

Imperial Court of RI at Providence: Drag and non-drag performers raise funds for local charities. All welcome to general membership meetings on first Monday at Dark Lady, 17 Snow Street, Providence. icri.prov@gmail.com. www.icriprov.org.

Mixed Borders Gardening Group: Gardening and more.

Monthly meetings, all welcome. Mixedborders@cox.net. www.mixedborders.com.

Opera Club: Enjoy hearing and attending. Last Sunday of each month at 1pm. BrettCornellpi4@aol.com.

Providence Gay Men’s Chorus: New season rehearsals begin in January and August. Singers and non-singing volunteers welcome.

Monday 7-9:30pm. Beneficent Church, 300 Weybosset Street, Providence. www.provgmc.org.

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RI Association of Gay Professionals: Networking and philanthropy. www.riagp.com.

RI Parents Pride: Gay parents socializing together with their children. Contact Melanie. 464-2288. saphicangel120@yahoo.com.

RI Pride: Open house 4th Wednesdays. Festival & Parade 3rd Saturday in June. Office: 1005 Main Street #1105 Pawtucket. Mail: PO Box 1082, Providence, 02903. 467-2130. info@prideri.com, www.prideri.com.

RI Prime Timers: Social and networking group for older gay and bi men. Second Sunday. Call Steve, 996-3010. www.riprimetimers. org.

RI Skeptics Society: Yearning to talk with someone rational?

Refreshing discussion. Fourth Saturday. East Providence restaurant

location. www.meetup.com/skeptics-133/.

RI Women’s Association: Lesbian social group. 21+. Dances & events. www.riwa.net.

SAGE/RI (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders): Advocacy, education and social events for LGBT seniors. SAGE-RI at CareLink, 1 Virginia Ave., Providence, RI 02905. 443-4451. sageriinfo@gmail. com. www.sage-ri.org.

SEMASSMEN: Social group for GBQ men of southeastern MA & RI to foster strong friendships. Semassmen-subscribe@ yahoogroups.com. rlevass@yahoo.com.

Yankee Lambda Car Club: Regional club for GLBT vintage and specialty car enthusiasts. www.yankeelcc.com.

Sports & Recreation PrideSports Boston: Network of twenty-plus gay sports leagues/teams in Boston area. www.pridesportsboston.com.

Boston Gay BASKETBALL League: ksg.bgbl@gmail.com, www.bgbl.com.

Big Gay Al’s Duckpin BOWLING League: Proceeds benefit AIDS causes. Tuesday 6:30pm. 1463 Atwood Avenue, Town Hall Lanes, Johnston. Contact Frank Ferri. 831-6940.www.bgalbowling. com. www.townhalllanes.com.

GALA Bowling League: Sundays 5:50 p.m., E. Providence Lanes, 80 Newport Ave., E. Providence. Season begins Aug. 30. View us on Facebook or email galabowling1990@gmail.com.

FLAG (For Lesbians And Gays) FOOTBALL: Boston-based recreational football club. All skill levels are encouraged to participate.

Saturday mornings in the fall and spring. www.flagflagfootball.com.

Boston Pride HOCKEY: www.bostonpridehockey.org.

Rondeaus KICKBOXING: 272-5425. www.rondeauskickboxing.com.

Main Street MARTIAL ARTS: Non-profit. Welcoming dojo and community center. 1282 North Main Street, Providence.

274-7672.www.mainstma.org.

Chiltern Mountain Club: OUTDOOR recreation club in New England. events@chiltern.org. www.chiltern.org.

Boston Gay ROWERS: Worldwide online community for gay and lesbian rowers, coxies, coaches, and race officials. www.glrf.org.

Boston Ironsides RUGBY Football: www.bostonironsides.org.

Providence Women’s RUGBY Center: Competitive and recreational. www.providencerugby.com Frontrunners Rhode Island RUNNING Group: Running and walking group. Newcomers welcome. Meet at the end of Blackstone

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Boulevard at Hope Street, Providence.Thursday 6pm. Contact Brian.

751-7643. bripm@cox.net, frontrunnersri@gmail.com Frontrunners Boston RUNNING Group: Morning walk/ run along the Charles River. Saturdays,10am. Club Cafe, 209 Columbus Avenue, Boston, MA. www.frontrunnersboston.org.

OutRyders SKIING: New England’s largest gay and lesbian ski and snowboard club. www.outryders.org.

Boston Strikers SOCCER Club: Non-profit social organization to learn and improve soccer skills in a relaxed, congenial environment. www.bostonstrikers.com.

Renaissance City SOFTBALL League: New players and boosters always welcome. www.providencesoftball.org.

Beantown SOFTBALL League: Friendly competition. 27 teams in four divisions of play: competitive, intermediate, and recreational. (617) 297-7490. www.beantownsoftball.com.

LANES (Liquid Assets New England SWIMMING): Fitness and/or competition. (617) 937-5858. www.swim-lanes.org.

TENNIS-4-All: Boston area tennis organization. www.tennis4all.org.

Cambridge Boston VOLLEYBALL Association: Players of all skill levels welcome. secretary@cbvolleyball.net www.gayvolleyball.net.

Ocean State Pride VOLLEYBALL League: Adult coed indoor league following USVBA rules. No try-outs. Fee applies. Kent County YMCA, 900 Centerville Road, Warwick. ospvolleyball@gmail.com.

East Coast WRESTLING Club: (617)937.5858 x6. ecwc@juno.com. www.eastcoastwrestlingclub.org.

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Students & Youth Bristol Community College Gay/Straight Alliance: Steven Camara, Advisor. BCC-H202, 777 Elsbree Street, Fall River, MA. (774) 357-2391.

Brown University Queer Alliance: Umbrella organization at Brown University for LGBTQ groups. 863-3062. queer@brown. edu or lgbtq@brown.edu.

CCRI Triangle Alliance: an LGBTQQ student-run group at CCRI, on the Flanagan, Liston, and Knight campuses. www.ccri.edu/triangle/.

COLAGE: Support and social activities for children of LGBT parents. Coordinator Veronica Jutras. Third Saturday 10:30am12pm. Gordon School, E. Providence. rhodeisland@colage.org www.colage.org/colage-chapter/colage-rhode-island-chapter/.

LGBT National Youth Talkline: 800-246-7743. Private oneto-one chat and info on local resources.

Peer Listening Line: Youth-staffed hotline for GLBT youth.

Support, info and referrals. 5-10pm. Fenway Community Health Center, Boston, MA. (617) 267-9001 or (800) 399-PEER. www. fenwayhealth.org.

Salve Regina University – The Alliance: 100 Ochre Point Avenue, Newport. Contact: Mandy Hart. mandy.hart@salve.edu.

SeaQuel (Southeast Asian Queers United for

Empowerment and Leadership): a program of PRYSM. Monthly Sunday meetings. 383-7450. SeaQuel@prysm.us. www.prysm.us.

S.H.E.P.A.R.D. (Stopping Homophobia, Eliminating Prejudices and Restoring Dignity): Providence College, 1 Cunningham Square, Providence. 865-1631. shepard@providence.edu.

The Trevor Project: The only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis and suicide prevention helpline for LGBT youth. Also offers social networks. (866)4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386). thetrevorproject.org.

University of RI LGBTIQ2: Alumni association. 874-5808. gsimonelli@uri.edu.

URI LGBTQ Center: A cultural department for students, faculty and staff. Florence Badejo. 874-2894.

Youth Pride Inc.: Support, education & advocacy for LGBTQQ young people ages 13--23. Tues. -- Fri. 2 -- 8pm. The Way Out peer support group Thurs. 4pm. Gender Spectrum support group Tues. 4pm. Visit our website for full calendar of events. 743 Westminster St., Providence. 421-5626. info@youthprideri.org. www.youthprideri.org.

Support Groups & Social Services Abuse Victims and Survivors: Support on phone for LGBTQ victims & survivors of partner abuse. Confidential peer-led groups.

Hotline: (617) 742-4911.TTY: (617) 227-4911. advocate@tnlr.org.

Adoption Options: Non-sectarian help. Jewish Family Service, 959 North Main Street, Providence. Contact Betsy Alper. 331-5437. www.adoptionoptions.org.

Child & Family Services: Counseling, young parent support, adoption, more. LGBT groups beginning July. Open six days. 66 Troy St., Fall River, MA. (508) 676-5708. www.child-familyservices. org Community Care Alliance: Stipend, assistance, training provided

by Family Resources Community Action. 235-6095. www.famresri. org.

Foster parents needed: For newborn to age six. 276-4300. www. childrensfriendri.org.

Family Service RI: Training, stipend, support provided for nurturing families. Family Service of RI. Contact Gregary Wright. 331-1350 ext.

3305. www.familyserviceri.org.

Seven Hills Behavioral Health: HIV Prevention and Screening.

310 South Main Street, Fall River, MA. (508) 235-1012. T.W.I.S.T. (508) 672-0378.

Blackstone Valley Advocacy Center: Offering resources for victims of domestic violence. 723-3057. www.bvadvocacycenter.org.

Compass: FTM trans info, support and social group.

Boston first Thursday 7-9pm. compassftm@gmail.com. www.compassftm.org.

Crossroads RI Hotline: (800) 367-2700.

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Day One: Counseling & legal aid for victims of sexual assault/ abuse & incest. 24hr hotline. (800) 494-8100. 421-4100. www.dayoneri.org.

Domestic Violence Resource Center of South County: Support, court advocacy, counseling, safe home, info for women and men in abusive or controlling relationships. 24hr free and confidential helpline. 782-3990 or toll free 800-494-8100, www. dvrcsc.org.

Gay Fathers of Greater Boston: Support. 738 Main St. #323, Waltham, MA. (781) 333-8429. info@gayfathersboston.org, www. gayfathersboston.org.

Gay Officers Action League (GOAL)/New England: Law enforcement officers (sworn & civilian), fire, rescue & publicly employed EMS. Confidential. P.O. Box 171587, Boston, MA 02117. www.newenglandgoal.org. On Facebook at NewEnglandGOAL. Gay Share: Coming Out? Gay men’s support group. No fee.

Wednesday 7:30pm. Contact Tom or Mike. 369-9448. info@ gayshare.org, www.gayshare.org.

GLBTQ Domestic Violence Project: Support, info, shelter. 955 Massachusetts Avenue, Private Message Box 131, Cambridge, MA. (800) 832-1901. www.glbtqdvp.org.

Helpline for LGBT Youth: Trevor Helpline and social networks for crisis and suicide prevention. 24/7. (866) 4-U-Trevor.

HIV+ Gay Men’s Support Group: Refreshments served. AIDS Care Ocean State, 18 Parkis Avenue, Providence. 521-3603. New members contact Scott. 640-3108.

Kathys’ Group: Free support group for lesbians with cancer or any life-threatening illness. Partners and caregivers welcome. Meets

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monthly in Providence. 888-5KATHYS. Mantalk of S.E. Mass: Socializing and discussions for gay, bi and curious men. Confidential. Drug and alcohol-free. 18+. Thursdays in Taunton and first Tuesdays in New Bedford. 7-8:30pm. mantalksouthcoast@yahoo.com.

Partner Support Group at Fenway Health: A ten-week support group with the purpose of building community and connections for anyone who identifies as non-trans, ages 18+, and is in a relationship with a trans* person(s). 1340 Boylston Street, Boston, MA. Contact Sarah Eley, LICSW. 857-313-6551. seley@fenwayhealth.org.

PFLAG (Parents, & Friends of Lesbians & Gays): Attleboro Chapter serves Southeast Mass. Third Wednesday 6:45 p.m., Second Congregational Church, 50 Park St. (side door). email pflagattleboro@gmail.com. Greater Providence Chapter serves all R.I. First Wednesday at 6:45 p.m., Met School, 325 Public St., Providence.

751-7571. PFLAGprovidence@gmail.com. www. pflagprovidence.org.

RI Coalition Against Domestic Violence: 24hr helpline: (800) 494-8100. 467-9940.

RI Rainbow Support Group: For people with disabilities who identify as LGBTQ. Last Tuesday. 98 Rolfe Street, Cranston.

6-7:30pm. Contact Ken Renaud. 785-2100.

Samaritans: 24hr hotline for suicidal, lonely, despairing, depressed.

(800) 365-4044. 272-4044 (RI only). www.samaritansri.org.

Sexual Health Education & Advocacy Program: HIV, sexual wellness, domestic violence risk reduction. Free, confidential, bilingual (Spanish). No caller ID used. Calls blocked for safety. 8616191 ext. 121.

Sojourner House: Call for confidential support group. Support, shelter, advocacy and information for people in abusive relationships.

Including specific LGBT services. No caller ID used. Outgoing calls blocked for safety. 24hr helpline. 765-3232. 861-6191. www. sojournerri.org Straight Spouses: Groups and online support. www. straightspouse.org.

TGI Network of RI: Support, advocacy for transgender, transsexual, gender-variant and/or intersex people. Borderlands peer group 1st & 3d Tues. and 1st & 3d Sat. of the month. Location & information: 441-5058. info@tginetwork.org. www.tginetwork. org.

Trans* Partners New England: Gives romantic partners of transgender people a confidential, safe space to explore the impact of a loved one’s gender identity on their relationships, and to connect with other loved ones of transgender people. First Wednesday 6:30-8:30pm. Providence. Location unpublished for privacy. partners@tginetwork.org.

Trans* Youth Family Allies: Support for gender-variant and transgender children ages 3-18. info@imatyfa.org, www.imatyfa.org.

Transgender American Veterans Association (TAVA): Growing organization to address the concerns of fair treatment of transgender veterans and active duty service members. www. tavausa.org.

Women’s Resource Center of Newport and Bristol Counties: Offering services to victims of domestic violence. 8465263. www.wrcnbc.org. q

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Worth a Look

by The Lit Chick

Logo TV’s new documentary, Out and Around, follows an adorable lesbian couple as they globetrot through 16 countries and over 51,000 miles to document LGBT equality around the world. HIV/AIDS social worker Lisa Dazols and her now wife, businesswoman Jennifer Chang, weren’t strangers to traveling when they set off on their yearlong adventure, but the trip became the experience of a lifetime.

Along the way, they looked to lesbian, gay, and transgender leaders for their unique perspectives on LGBT life in each location.

The result is eye-opening, sometimes heartbreaking, and often inspiring. Those interviewed include Nepali transgender (“third gender”) activist Bhumika Shrestha, Filipino philanthropist Ricky “Mother” Reyes, Shanghai Pride organizer Dylan Cheng, and David Kuria, Kenya’s first gay senate candidate who faced multiple public In The Land of Stories, surprises are just around the corner, as they were for me when I discovered that this award-winning children’s book series was written by none other than Chris Colfer, best known as the out and fabulous Kurt Hummel on Glee. Colfer’s bestselling book series holds its own among the best children’s fantasy stories and has become my favorite by-the-pool read of the summer.

Fans of TV show Once Upon a Time—adults and children alike—will love this series, and there are so many more lands to escape to than Boston and New York. The series focuses on twins—brainiac teacher’s pet Alex and her brother, the slacker, nonconformist Connor—as they accidentally find themselves saving the day through a re-imagined world of fairy tales that might just make you believe in goblins, trolls, dragons, mermaids, talking animals, and, of course, evil queens.

The stories begin with The Wishing Spell and continue through this summer’s release, Beyond the Kingdoms, which, luckily for fans and Colfer’s publisher, sets the stage for limitless future installments.

I liked how the newest book features Hans Christian Andersen and uses him and his Fairy Godmother to introduce the magic to come.

For all of you road warriors, Colfer personally narrates the audiobook, which is worth a listen even if you’ve already read the books. The Land of Stories series is a fun read for adults and for school-age children. I’ll definitely stow it away for my preschool nephews to discover when they’re a little bigger.

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death threats during his campaign.

The documentary is as personal as it is global. While Lisa’s family is fully accepting of their relationship, Jenni’s chooses not to acknowledge it; Jenni’s announcement of their engagement and her parents’ reactions are also a big part of the film. I would love to see Lisa and Jenni on The Amazing Race someday. If this pair can climb Mt. Kilimanjaro and plant a rainbow flag on top, they can do just about anything.

“The voices of LGBT people are getting stronger, and they’re getting stronger because they have models, and because they have examples of healthy gay people living in different parts of the world, and because they have the support of other countries,” says Lisa.

“In the end, love is going to win out. It’s really just a matter of time.”

Order the film or find a screening at www.outandaround.com.

Lez be honest: What’s more banging than an all-female hair band? Get your fix this month when Lez Zeppelin, the ultimate Led Zeppelin tribute band, plays the Park Theatre. The September 19 show will recreate the 1973 three-day Madison Square Garden concert series by Led Zeppelin that became the band’s 1976 album, The Song Remains the Same, and led to a film by the same name.

Lez Zeppelin is not your average cover band. Featuring front woman Shannon Conley, founder and lead guitarist Steph Paynes, bassist and keyboardist Megan Thomas, and drummer Leesa Harrington-Squyres, the band rose to worldwide fame after being profiled in SPIN magazine as “the most powerful allfemale band in rock history.” The group has toured throughout the United States, the U.K., Germany, and Japan.

Lest you think Lez Zeppelin is a one-trick wonder, these ladies created their own Zeppelin-inspired tracks on their debut album Lez Zeppelin with the help of producer Eddie Kramer, who has worked with Led Zeppelin, the Rolling Stones, and Jimi Hendrix. Sticklers for authenticity, their follow-up release, Lez Zeppelin I, was recorded on the same equipment Led Zeppelin used in 1968.

We all know that Cranston is the perfect place for any hair band, so brace yourself for “Stairway to Heaven” on Park Avenue on September 19. Get tickets at www.parktheatreri.com/events/lez-zeppelin.

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