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Dear Reader, This holiday season, we ask that you kindly sponsor an Options subscription, whether it be your own or as a symbolic offering to a fellow reader. Your $35 gift pays for a year of printing, mailing, and our web presence to directly provide readers with local LGBTQ+ resources, news, and events that enrich their lives and connect them to our vibrant community.

We have worked diligently to meet our new mission, which includes representing the diversity of our beautiful community and increasing our support of other LGBTQ+ nonprofits. Your contribution helps us continue this work.

During Options’ ten-month hiatus last year, we heard from many readers that they missed the publication and urged its comeback.

One reader said that receiving that first issue when we returned in May was like welcoming home an old friend. Options is a lifeline to our

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community for many readers, some of whom have difficulty leaving the house or navigating the vir tual world. And we know Options has served as a tool for many a family with one member struggling to express themselves openly and find acceptance.

Our team continuously improves the quality of our publication (i.e., increasing our social media presence, improving our website, recruiting talented contributors, focusing on design elements, and expanding our Resources section). We showcase the remarkable stories, vibrant images, social oppor tunities, political initiatives, thoughtful discussions, and valuable resources and health information that better our lives.

Here is your chance to show that you value the magazine and LGBTQ+ community resource that you hold in your hand. The cost to print and mail Options to each subscriber for one year is about $35 – a small price for some, and a cost others can’t afford. As we strive to win over new adver tisers, we continue to gain new subscribers, but printing costs have outpaced new ad revenue. Our total contributions received in 2017 was $11,000, averaging $3.67 per subscriber. It costs about $12,000 to produce each issue. Options’ survival – our ability to provide this needed resource to our community – is dependent upon increased financial suppor t from our readers.

Contributions in any amount are greatly appreciated.

Your donation today With thanks and wishes for ensures that Options a happy, healthy, and safe holiday continues to publish quality season, content well into the future – freely available to all, Editor-in-chief Jen Stevens regardless of income, age, or Board President Dr. TC Rogers accessibility. and the Options Team

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Rhode Island’s lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer community news source since 1982.

Dear Reader,

December 2018/January 2019,

These recent blatant attacks by the Trump administration, aimed to stuff trans people so deep into closets as to make them nonexistent, were met with boisterous rebuke from the local trans and allied community, whose infrastructure in RI only seems to strengthen in Rhode Island as resources such as social groups and health services are refined to specifically meet trans needs.

Before Trump’s election it may have seemed unthinkable to some that the United States military might once again shun the service of trans people and the Department of Health and Human Services would deny and ignore the unique health needs of a demographic revealing itself to be a greater piece of the citizenry pie than previously understood. This issue delves into what it means to live a trans life (p. 14), how we defend the rights of trans people (p.

12), and how we mourn trans lives lost to hateful violence (p. 10).

I want to tell you about one lone and mighty crusader who has made a huge impact on this magazine, and this editor. I met Rex LeBeau in the spring of 2015 when they began volunteering for Options as a copy editor.

I had trans friends, but this was the first person in my life whom I regularly spoke of as a they, as opposed to a he or a she. Rex was willing to entertain the curiosities of editors from an older generation, explaining the essence of being nonbinary as many times as needed to be understood. Though I imagine it to be exhausting, all these years later, Rex is still explaining, paving the way for others coming out as nonbinary or trans.

Rex contributes the Transosaurus Rex comic (p. 39) each issue, distributes copies of the magazine, writes stories (p. 14 & 24), submits photos, ensures coverage of Newport’s LGBTQ events, and continues to edit. And that’s just what they do for Options. Rex is quite an active community member! They attend trans game nights, play in a band, storytell in variety shows, participate in support groups and cuddle circles, and organize church events. Rex even cared for my newborn son as I finished up work ahead of our Options editing session, demonstrating a limitless generosity of spirit, which has inspired me to pay that generosity forward.

This season, we humbly ask that your generosity extend to this organization and the community it serves (p. 2). While we very necessarily seek your financial contribution, know that the gift of your time can be just as impactful. We thank you in advance for your generosity.

In solidarity, Jen Stevens

Rex LeBeau, Jen Stevens, and Baby Elio at the RI Trans Rights Rally.

We want to hear from you. Send letters to editor@optionsri.org.

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Volume XXXVII, Issue 6

Editor-in-Chief Jen Stevens jen@optionsri.org Resources Editor Myra Shays resources@optionsri.org Copy Editors Rex LeBeau, Joseph Morra, Carson Pavoa, Myra Shays Graphic Design Theresa “Reese” Barzyk www.tibcreativestudio.com Web Master Victoria Graceffa Contributors Felicia Nimue Ackerman, Kwana Adams, Steve Ahlquist, Guillaume Bagal, Yael Bat-Shimon, Tiffani Carcieri, Chris Cedroni, Cathy Gorman, Charlie Hall, Ethan Huckel, Craig Johnson, Rex LeBeau, TC Rogers, Myra Shays, Paula Smith, Jen Stevens, Lauren Vella, Mikel Wadewitz Photographers Steve Ahlquist, Jen Bonin, Ryan Clarke, Ryan Welch Advertising Manager Kim Stowell advertising@optionsri.org

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2 Your Community Gift 4 From the Editor 6 From the Board President 6 Advertisers 8 Calendar 10 News Briefs 12 Trans Rights Rally 14 Trans Existence 16 TGI Network 17 Ask Yael and Paula 18 Review: Bohemian Rhapsody 19 100 Years of Bernstein 20 Out on the Town 22 The 2018 Midterm Election 24 Newport Election 24 AIDS Project RI 25 YPI Gives Thanks 27 ACOS Brings Holiday Joy 28 Blue Cross Blue Shield RI 28 Billy Gilman & the Big Blue Bug 30 Report from SAGE-RI 32 Resources 39 Felicitations 39 Transosaurus Rex

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BOARD Executive Committee Dr. TC Rogers,

Board President

Brendan Chipley Roane,

Board Vice President

Dr. Dawn Letourneau,

Recording Secretary

Dr. Mike Marrapodi, Treasurer Directors Melissa Da Silva, LICSW Ashley Delgado Daniel Kellum, Esq. Nathan McNamara Dr. Eileen Medeiros Arthur Snow

FROM THE BOARD PRESIDENT Dear Readers, As we approach a new year, there is so much to reflect on. How will we thrive in a political environment aimed to repress our beautiful LGBTQ+ community? I remain committed to and grateful for the work that I am able to do to support Options – an extremely valuable resource for our growing community. This past year, 600 new readers signed up to receive Options in their mailboxes, adding to the thousands of readers already receiving Options. And the requests continue to roll in.

Options, as a magazine and organization, is a ray of hope and bastion of support for LGBTQ+ people and our wonderful peer nonprofits, which also work to assure our rights and freedoms.

We hope that you give to Options during this season of generosity, not only to ensure its sustainability, but to provide the resources necessary to best serve our diverse community.

I was so grateful to recently receive a Facebook message from a reader who applauded our efforts regarding our revised mission, praising the work that Options does to support and represent all members of our diverse community. “After a long hiatus we would like to resubscribe. It appears that the new Options will be more courageous about its political involvement than it was during the fight for marriage equality. And it will represent ALL the members of our community, not just the extremes – maintaining decorum and balance in its content.” The Options team needs the community’s support and guidance as we pursue our mission. Please continue to write to us and attend our events to talk about how Options can best fulfill the needs of our community.

Options especially supports local LGBTQ+ nonprofit events through attendance, coverage, and promotion via print and social media. Please visit our revised website, social media pages, and our expanding events calendar to become more engaged in our community. LGBTQ+ event submissions are encouraged; send details to calendar@optionsri.org.

I sincerely wish you all the safe, warm, and joyful holiday season that you deserve. I encourage you to remain steadfast in your commitment to our diverse LGBTQ+ community and honor the accomplishments of 2018. In 2019: Be brave; be bold, and honor the beauty in being so. And love one another along the way.

Cheers, Dr. TC Rogers Options Board President

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CALENDAR: DEC 1 World AIDS Day

DEC 7 PrYSM's 17th Birthday Fundraiser

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Stephen Hogan's 8th AnnualToy Drive

DEC 13 Sweet Little Holiday Show DEC 19 Queer Book Club Potluck

DEC 20 Drag Bingo

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years of age.

Sat. 1 World AIDS Day

Sat. 8 SAGE Table: Holiday Intergenerational Dinner, 4-6pm.

Miss Cranston Diner, 1150 Oaklawn Avenue, Cranston, RI. An initiative to spread generational awareness in the LGBT community. Italian buffet.

Members $18/Non-members $20.

Register through Eventbrite or by email at sageriinfo@gmail.com, then pay at the door.

Sat. 1 SAGE-RI open membership meeting, 11am. Church of the Transfiguration, 1665 Broad Street, Cranston, RI. All welcome. Location is accessible, on bus lines, with ample parking. Light refreshments.

For more info, contact SAGE-RI at sageriinfo@gmail.com or see facebook.com/SAGERhode-Island.

Sun. 2 Drag Brunch, 12-2pm.

Massimo Restaurant, 134 Atwells Avenue, Providence. Glitz, glam, and humor with Drag in RI girls Jacqueline DiMera, LaDiva Jonz, and Vi’let. Reservations encouraged at 273-0650.

Mon. 3, 10, 17, 24 & 31 Free Play Arcade GAYme night, 7pm-1am. Colosseum, 182 Pine Street, Providence. Over 115 vintage arcade games, pinball, skee ball, and drag show. All games set to free play. 18+. $4 cover to benefit RI Pride. For more info, freeplayri. com.

Fri. 7 PrYSM’s 17th Birthday Fundraiser, 7-11pm. Holy Ghost Society, 11 Ventura Street, West Warwick, RI. Tickets on Eventbrite start at $35. For more info, fundraiser@prysm.us.

Fri. 7 Stephen Hogan’s 8th Annual Teddy Bear Ball Toy Drive, 9pm.

Providence Eagle, 124 Snow Street, Providence. Raffle and prizes. 18+. $5. No cover if you bring a new, unwrapped toy for a child 10-15

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Sun. 9 Options Magazine Release Party, 3-5pm. The Stable, 125 Washington Street, Providence.

Volunteers needed for distribution.

Sun. 9 RI Prime Timers, 4:307pm. Social, dinner, and networking group for older gay and bi men on second Sundays. For more info, www.riprimetimers.org or call Steve at 996-3010.

Thu. 13 Sweet Little Holiday Show, 8pm. Mirabar, 15 Elbow Street, Providence. A queerproduced potpourri of entertainment performed monthly on second Thursdays. Featuring comic Rich Hite, the Tropigals, live music, and more. $7 to pay the artists. For info, facebook. com/sweetlittlevarietyshow and sweetlittlevarietyshow.com.

Sun. 16 Holiday Drag Brunch with the Trailer Park Girls, 11:30am and 1:15pm seatings. Parlor Bar & Restaurant, 200 Broadway, Newport. Full brunch $40/standing room $15. For more info, visit newportout.com/events.

Sun. 16 Interweave meeting, 5:30pm. Parish Hall of Channing Memorial Church, 135 Pelham Street, Newport. Potluck dinner, yankee swap, and second half of Man in an Orange Suit (60min., TV14, 7pm). Bring a dish to share and an inexpensive gift for the swap if you'd like to participate. All welcome. For more information, contact Rex at interweave@ channingmemorial.org.

Wed. 19 Queer Book Club, 7-9:30pm. Potluck – no reading this month. For more info, email queerbookclub@gmail.com or join the Providence Queer Book Club Facebook group.

Thu. 20 Drag Bingo: Gay Apparel, 6-9pm. Riviera Bingo Palace, 1612 Elmwood Avenue, Cranston.

Hosted by Haley Star and LaDiva Jonz. $20 gets you in all games with over $2,000 in cash and prizes awarded monthly. Wear your more festive holiday attire. 18+.

No alcohol. All funds raised benefit AIDS Care Ocean State and AIDS Project RI. For reservations, email bingo@aidscareoceanstate.org with name, number of people, and phone number.

Fri. 21 SAGE LGBT Café, noon2pm. Church of the Transfiguration, 1665 Broad Street, Cranston. A delicious, low-cost lunch in a gayfriendly setting on third Fridays sponsored by Meals on Wheels, the Department of Elderly Affairs, and SAGE-RI. $3 donation suggested for LGBT people 60+ and people with disabilities; $6 donation suggested for all others. Reservations required.

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Call Diane at 351-6700 x105.

Sat. 5 SAGE-RI open membership meeting, 11am.

Church of the Transfiguration, 1665 Broad Street, Cranston, RI. All welcome. Location is accessible, on bus lines, with ample parking. Light refreshments. For more info, contact SAGE-RI at sageriinfo@ gmail.com or see facebook.com/ SAGERhode-Island.

Sun. 6 Drag Brunch, 12-2pm.

Massimo Restaurant, 134 Atwells Avenue, Providence. Glitz, glam, and humor with Drag in RI girls Jacqueline DiMera, LaDiva Jonz, and Vi’let. Reservations encouraged at 273-0650.

Mon. 7, 14, 21 & 28 Free Play Arcade GAYme night, 7pm-1am.

Colosseum, 182 Pine Street, Providence. Over 115 vintage arcade games, pinball, skee ball, and drag show. All games set to free play. 18+. $4 cover to benefit RI Pride. For more info, freeplayri.com.

Thu. 10 Sweet Little 9-Year Anniversary Show, 8pm.

Mirabar, 15 Elbow Street, Providence. A queer-produced potpourri of enter tainment performed monthly on second Thursdays. $7 to pay the artists. For info, facebook.com/ sweetlittlevarietyshow and sweetlittlevarietyshow.com.

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RI Prime Timers,

4:30-7pm. Social, dinner, and networking group for older gay and bi men on second Sundays. For more info, www. riprimetimers.org or call Steve at 996-3010.

Wed. 16 Queer Book Club, 7-9:30pm. Third Wednesdays at Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence.

Reading is TBD. Discount on books purchased at Books on the Square. For more info, email queerbookclub@gmail.com.

Thu. 17 Drag Bingo: Game of Thrones "Where are my Drag Queens!?" Riviera Bingo Palace, 1612 Elmwood Avenue, Cranston. Hosted by Haley Star and LaDiva Jonz. $20 gets you in all games with over $2,000 in cash and prizes awarded monthly. 18+. No alcohol.

Theme dress encouraged. All funds raised benefit AIDS Care Ocean State and AIDS Project RI. For reservations, email bingo@aidscareoceanstate.org with name, number of people, and phone number.

Fri. 18 SAGE LGBT CafĂŠ, noon-2pm. Church of the Transfiguration, 1665 Broad Street, Cranston. A delicious, low-cost lunch in a gayfriendly setting on third Fridays sponsored by Meals on Wheels, the Depar tment of Elderly Affairs, and SAGE-RI. $3 donation suggested for LGBT people 60+ and people with disabilities; $6 donation suggested for all

others. Reservations required.

Diane at 351-6700 x105.

Sun. 20 Interweave potluck and programming, 5:30pm.

Parish Hall of Channing Memorial Church, 135 Pelham Street, Newpor t. All welcome.

Bring a dish to share. Interweave is Channing's group for LGBTQ people and allies. For more info, interweave@channingmemorial. org or call Rex at 595-9068.

Mon. 21 Mar tin Luther King Jr. Day of Service. Volunteer with a local nonprofit.

Regularly Scheduled Support Groups: ACOS (HIV/AIDS): youth, Tue. 4pm/gay males, Wed. 1:30pm Grief: Usually 3rd Wed. 3:30pm LGBT Alcoholics Anonymous: Tue. 7pm PFLAG (parents, friends, allies): Providence, Attleboro, Newpor t TGI Network (trans,par tner, and non-binary groups): 1st & 3rd Tue. 7pm/Sat. 1pm

TransFamily New England: 2nd Mon. 6:30pm YPI (youth): Way Out, Thu. 4pm/Gender Spectrum, Tue. 4pm/youth 13 and under : Thu. 5pm See Resources on page 32 for complete information

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JAN 6 Drag Brunch

JAN 7, 14, 21 & 28 GAYme night

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Massachusetts Trans People Retain Protections

Two years ago the Massachusetts legislature enacted nondiscrimination protections for transgender people.

But thousands of people petitioned the state to rescind those protections, and Question 3 on the ballot November 6 asked voters to decide. Thanks to campaigners like the Mass. Transgender Political Coalition, Boston Pride, and the Equality Federation, the referendum passed resoundingly. The civil rights of trans people are still protected.

Three Transgender Day of Remembrance Ceremonies Held in RI

On November 20, Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR) ceremonies were held around the world to commemorate the transgender lives lost to hate crimes.

Three major ceremonies were held in Rhode Island. Beneficent Church in Providence opened its doors for its wellattended annual gathering. Providence City Hall raised the transgender flag and held its first ceremony, with Mayor Elorza pledging the start of a yearly tradition.

This photo, taken by Bill Peresta, depicts the tenth annual TDOR ceremony at Channing Memorial Church in Newport.

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LGBT Partners of Diplomats Face Deportation

The LGBT advocates in the Democratic National Committee have expressed concern about the policy of the Trump administration to deny visas to samegender partners of diplomats and U.N. officials. Only about 10% of U.N. member countries have same-gender marriage, so LGBT diplomats could be forced to leave their posts or their partners.

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Support Group Thriving in East Providence

LGBTQ+ Pregnancy and Parenting Group is a support organization meeting on first Saturdays of each month (second Saturdays on holiday weekends) from 4-5:30pm at Open Circle in East Providence. It is a safe place where queer families can grow their support network,

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Action to Bar Trans People from Military

Although transgender people served in the military during President Obama's administration, President Trump asked the Supreme Court on November 23 to bypass the usual legal process and prohibit trans people from enlisting, possibly subjecting current service members to discharge and denying them certain medical care. Two lower federal courts have yet to decide this matter.

The pro-LGBT law firm Lambda Legal said, "This highly unusual step is wildly premature and inappropriate‌. There is no valid reason to jump the line and seek U.S. Supreme Court review before the appellate courts have even ruled on the issues."

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Rugby Teams Demonstrate Against Homophobic Attack The United States is one of ten member countries of International Gay Rugby (IGR) who mounted a protest in November to show support for a Welsh player who was the victim of a homophobic attack in Cardiff. IGR clubs around the world wore rainbow laces in their boots to raise awareness and demonstrate solidarity. "Rugby is a sport for all, regardless of age, race, gender identity, or sexual orientation,” said the IGR chair.

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Surprise Taiwan Election Results Reverse Gains for Gay Community One of the biggest issues in the recent Taiwanese election campaign was civil rights for gays. In a referendum, voters on November 24 expressed overwhelming opposition to same-gender marriage, despite a court ruling last year that limiting marriage to heterosexual couples was unconstitutional. Voters also supported the removal of content about homosexuality from primary school textbooks. Many in Taiwan, especially young voters, were stunned by the referendum results. The referendum questions on gay rights were the subject of a well-funded campaign led by conservative Christians and other groups. The campaign, mostly online, included misinformation, warning of an AIDS epidemic and low birth rates. The Marriage Equality Coalition Taiwan, an alliance of gay rights organizations, said the government had not done enough to push back against online misinformation that it said "frightened and manipulated voters."

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TRANS RIGHTS RALLY

Story and photos by Steve Ahlquist

On November 3, hundreds of people gathered on the south lawn of the Rhode Island State House in defiance of a Trump Administration plan to erase the identities of transgender people nationwide and impose a binary gender identity to be determined by genetic testing and genitalia present at birth. In Rhode Island, people who identify as transgender, gender diverse, and/or intersex have fairly decent state protections. These statelevel protections are vitally important should federal protections disappear.

The rally served as a strong rebuke to Trump from Rhode Island’s LGBTQI community and their allies: We will not be erased.

“On January 20, 2017, Donald Trump was sworn into office,” said rally organizer Cam Jenkins. “Two hours later his administration had removed all mention of LGBTQ people and their rights from the Whitehouse.gov website.

The LGBTQ community has been under attack ever since.”

The Trump administration is seeking to change the way the federal government sees people. A memo says that “sex means a person’s status as male or female, based on immutable, unchangeable biological traits identifiable by or before birth, specifically a person’s genitalia, confirmed by chromosomal testing” said Ethan Huckle of the TGI Network of Rhode Island. “We all know that conflating sex and gender is factually inaccurate and that this reference to chromosomal testing reflects less than a middle school understanding of science.

But I am concerned less with those details than I am with the spirit of the

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memo. Don’t be mistaken. This memo reflects an intention to exclude trans people from legal protection or recourse against discrimination.”

“Just last week, seven days ago, we lost 11 people from this world in an act of violence that was essentially state sponsored terrorism by the white men who so often think that they can play God. That they can choose who lives and who dies. That they can choose who is a man and who is a woman and who is who and who you are,” said Noraa Kaplan, organizer of Never Again: An Antifascist Assembly for Jewish Lives rally that immediately followed this rally.

“When you think about voting, you have to think about human rights,” said TC Rogers board chair for Options Magazine. “And you have to think about nothing other than human rights. And you have to tell your friends, your family, and the politicians that nothing is more important than that the human rights of the most marginalized people of this nation are served.”

“The trans community is under attack,” said Chloe Savage, representing the trans artist community. “We as a community have so much fear already.

Us trans women of color have to worry about being at such a high risk of being murdered just for walking down the street and living as ourselves.”

“We won’t be erased. Indigenous people will not be erased. Indigenous trans people will not be erased. Black trans people will not be erased. Disabled trans people will not be erased. Trans people living with HIV will not be erased. Transgender immigrants, won’t

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be erased. People of color will never be erased,” said Payton-James Osborne in a call-and-response with the crowd. “All transgender people will not be erased as long as we all fight for the rights of transgender people together.”

“I am afraid. But now, more than ever, I am angry. And I am kicking down the closet door from the inside to tell you that we need to be loud. And we need to scream until 45 is out of office. And we need to scream until we are understood and we are heard,” said Ben Felag, an ambassador from Project Fearless. “We are going to scream until we get the respect that we deserve.”

“I’m trans. I’m here. I’m queer and I’m going nowhere,” said Reverend Donnie Anderson of the Rhode Island State Council of Churches. “I need to tell you, after 69 years of confusion, and dysphoria and shame, no one is going to erase me.”

“The most vulnerable amongst us are our youth. The most vulnerable amongst us are those who are marginalized before they ever realize who they are,” said Paul Tavarez, representing Queer Transformative Roots as part of the Providence Youth Student Movement (PrYSM). “That silencing does not go away simply because young people are still alive and grow up. It matures with us.

It grows with us. And that abuse leads to murder when we forget how to love.”

“I’m Tati, one of those queer, gay, Latinx youth that Paul was talking about that has faced homelessness, goes to organizations to eat… you know how that goes.The best feeling of my youth has been walking into YPI (Youth Pride Inc.), watching people who come in graphic

tees and jeans, go to the bathroom – the glittery, beautiful bathroom – and come out in the most sparkly heels and bougie dress you can see, and feel the most acceptance and love from the people there who tell us that we’re great and destined to be something beautiful.”

“We are fighting for ‘Yes on 3,'” said Amy Hogarth, who works at Wayside Youth and Family Support Network, “It’s a ballot question, in Massachusetts. We are in a hard fight for the simple rights of transgender folks. This is a popular vote on human rights – which makes no sense at all – and asks us to remove protections for trans and gender non-conforming people. It’s trying to remove protections in all public spaces.”

“The sad reality is that we still have a long road ahead of us,” said Kaiden Ramsey. “There are still 21 states where discrimination against trans individuals is still legal – that you can still be fired, denied health care and other opportunities strictly because of who you are as a human….”

“The right to vote is one that we cannot take lightly,” said Ryley Ruben.

“Not voting is not an act of protest. it is an act of stupidity and I dare you to tell me otherwise.”

“All of our struggles for freedom are connected,” said K Martinez. “Those of us who are here today, please think about those who are traveling right now in this ‘caravan’ as 45 has mobilized troops to the border. There are trans folks in that caravan. We are all seeking freedom. We are all seeking justice. We can’t be here thinking about trans lives if we are not thinking about them too.”

Steve Ahlquist is an award winning journalist who founded and writes for the Uprise RI news site (upriseri.com), covering issues of social justice, human rights, progressive politics, and climate change. He lives in Providence with his amazing wife, Kathy.

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Trans Existence

I S HUMAN E X I S T E N C E

by Rex LeBeau

On October 21, I woke up on the campus of my old college, Maine Maritime Academy (MMA), in Castine, Maine.

I’d been invited there to be part of the Ocean Studies Advisory Board; we had a big meeting that Saturday. I spent Sunday morning at my former church listening to a beautiful sermon about giving away money to needy children, saw the flaming fall foliage the whole drive back to RI, gave free hugs at a rest stop, and spent the evening at a non-sexual consent-based cuddle party. That night, in bed scrolling through Facebook, my happy bubble burst when I saw that the Ocean Studies Department Chair of MMA posted an article from the New York Times on redefining trans people out of existence. The first comment on that post spewed transphobic filth about keeping trans people out of sports. The following comments were not much better, conflating being transgender with being intersex, and showing complete gullibility to the transphobic fear tactics of conservatives.

The New York Times piece discussed a leaked memo from the Trump administration. The memo gives guidance to the Department of Health and Human Services to define a person’s sex as that assigned at birth, by observation of the genitalia. The assigned sex could not be disputed or changed, except after undergoing genetic testing. This would allow the Department of Education and Department of Justice to throw out lawsuits asking for accommodations for trans people, thus denying trans people their civil rights. Three days after the memo, the Department of Justice asked the Supreme Court to revisit several cases that uphold anti-discrimination of trans people, and see if they can be overturned.

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I came out as nonbinary five years ago, long after graduating MMA. She even drove all the way to Newport to hear my TEDx talk on nonbinary genders. The day before the New York Times article came out, I spent the day in a meeting with her and other faculty and alumni to discuss improving the Ocean Studies Department. It was also the first time the rest of the faculty had seen me since top surgery and a terrible attempt to grow facial hair. MMA is a conservative school with only 14% women enrolled. I’d been nervous about coming up for the meeting, not knowing what people would think, but everyone was kind to me and I had a good mini–reunion. The Department Chair posted the article to highlight how trans people are unfairly treated. Those who responded to the Facebook post included old classmates of mine, educated people, many completely ignorant of anything true about transgender people. It makes me sad to think if I were to apply to colleges knowing what I know now about my gender identity, I probably would not attend MMA.The comments on Facebook underscore how much ignorance and danger I would have faced.

I am grateful to live in Newport, RI now, and grateful for this little state and its public accommodations laws. While I’m in my world surrounded by kind and woke people, plenty of others in this country act like my old classmates, totally buying into the fear of trans people winning all the sports and committing assaults in bathrooms, unwilling to make changes to their binary cisgender world for the safety and respect of trans people.

Trans people are a somewhat hidden minority, unlike race or physical disability.

Many trans people’s outward appearance conforms to binary male/female gender norms. No one would look at them twice, and they pass seamlessly through

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the world. A popular shirt slogan seen at trans conferences says, “No one knows I’m trans.” Many binary trans people make cispassing a goal, trying to look and act according to those gender’s cultural norms for appearance and behavior.This works so well that many people have no idea how many trans people they encounter day to day. According to a Williams Institute survey in 2016, about 1 in 200 people in the U.S. identify as transgender.

For nonbinary folks, to be cispassing is to be misgendered. Even statements of solidarity like, “We stand with our trans brothers and sisters,” leave out nonbinary people. Obviously we have much to do to educate this country about all trans people.

Trans people face ignorance all the time. Ironically, the Trump administration’s memo claims to represent scientific facts.

This administration does not value science or facts, but let’s look at what science tells us about sex and gender. Sex and gender are two different things. Sex is something currently defined by genitalia, hormones, and chromosomes. Gender is a social construct and has to do with how you feel inside. We conflate the two all the time since most people don’t know the difference. For most people, the gender they feel inside matches the typical body our culture associates with that gender. But biology is messy. We humans created two categories for sex, but science doesn’t care about our distinctions. Plenty of people have variations in genitalia, hormones, and chromosomes that fall outside what is typical of males and females. These conditions fall under the collective term intersex. Even sex is not binary.

Much of gender depends on culture, with some cultures having three or more gender options. In Western culture, the number of gender identities skyrocketed in recent years. Gender most likely has its

biological origins in the brain, but it’s mostly specific health needs, and the icing of our eyes to Congress to advance the a social science right now, and that isn’t cultural ignorance and discrimination Equality Act and ensure that LGBTQ surprising. Until recently, being transgender on top, make an especially easy target. people are explicitly protected by our was considered a mental illness. It was Like those Facebook comments, lots of nation’s civil rights laws.” only in 2013 that the fifth edition of the people have no comprehension of trans Here in Rhode Island, things have Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental issues but yet have very strong opinions never been better for trans people. We Disorders (DSM) removed gender identity about trans people. Many people believe enjoy public accommodations protections, disorder. They replaced it with the more the conservative rhetoric and think have affordable access to trans health accurate term gender dysphoria, a term trans people are out to win women’s care, and can change our gender marker to describe how bad it can feel to be sports or assault women in bathrooms. (sadly, only binary options right now) misgendered. No amount of therapy can Conservatives already proved they without having surgery first. We have a make someone not transgender. Being don’t care about women’s safety after governor who stands in solidarity with transgender is now seen as something the Kavanaugh hearings. This memo is transgender protections. After the New we are born with, not something we can another bunch of lies, likely to placate York Times article appeared, Governor decide to change. Some scientific studies the fundamentalist Christian base of Vice Gina Raimondo issued the following have explored what makes someone President Pence’s before the midterms. statement to Options: “There is no place trans, like the one from Belgium that came What the memo has actually done for discrimination in Rhode Island, period. out this summer looking at white and grey is light a fire of activism, spurring outcry No matter where you’re from, how you matter ratios in the brain.The sample sizes from all kinds of progressive groups across identify or who you love, you are welcome were so small that the results of these the country. From the Equality Federation: here. Definitions matter, and we stand studies were inconclusive. Science has no “We’ve been working for over twenty with all transgender Rhode Islanders in definitive answer to what makes a standing up to hatred and bigotry person trans.This is new territory wherever we confront it. As allies, for the hard sciences. In the future we must constantly rededicate we’ll have a better idea of the ourselves to the cause of equality, biology behind gender. For now, and we must never stop fighting Sex is something we only have the humanity of to ensure that our policies the trans people to guide policy. currently defined by reflect our values.” Providence Science changes all the time, but Mayor Jorge Elorza, who has genitalia, hormones, and humanity does not. done so much to make the city inclusive of trans people, stated, That’s the point of the Tump chromosomes. Gender is a “Our transgender community memo: to deny trans people social construct and has to #WontBeErased by these their humanity. Denying them the regressive and discriminatory ability to freely live in this country do with how you feel inside. policies.” as their true gender denies them civil rights protections. With all This Trump administration the gender segregation that still memo does not change anything. exists in this country, the memo Not yet. The regulations have to really hurts binary trans people, be drawn up and put to the public for 60 who need to be able to use the bathroom, years to make sure you can live without days of input before they become law.The have accurate documents, and play on the fear in the community you call home. No memo is upsetting. Anything so ignorant, sports team that corresponds to their matter what happens in Washington, we bigoted, and full of hate towards innocent gender identity. We need to keep moving are here to fight for all transgender and people should be upsetting. Be upset. Be forward, ending segregation and opening nonbinary people across the country.” angry. up these spaces to all people. A handful of From MomsRising: “Nothing Trump With the “blue wave” and more trans states allow nonbinary gender markers on administration officials do can erase trans people than ever running for office (and state identification and more will follow. people, and it is heartless and ugly for winning) all over the country, no wonder We are on the right track. This contents them to try. The moms of America are the Trump administration is scared, hoping of this memo must not be allowed to committed to full and equal rights for to wave trans people away with a few transgender people and for all people. words. One memo does not erase our become law.

The Trump administration has We are repulsed by the politics of division existence, our freedom, or our dignity. We done nothing but attack the most that seem to drive this administration’s are here to stay. vulnerable people in this country, from actions. True leadership is bringing people Rex LeBeau is a frequent contributor, undocumented immigrants, to children together and boosting us all.” From the editor, and cartoonist for Options Magazine, seeking asylum, to victims of sexual Human Rights Campaign: “Right now, this as well as a musician and marine scientist. assault. Trans people, with high rates of administration is firmly on the wrong side homelessness, substance abuse, suicide, of history. And, if they successfully move and unemployment, combined with forward with these regulations, we’ll turn

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News from TGI Network

Story by Ethan Huckel Photos by Ryan Welch

Earlier in November, we gathered with our allies at the Rhode Island State House in response to a leaked federal Department of Health and Human Services memo that referred to a systemic effort to erase trans identities by narrowly redefining sex and eliminating the term “gender� from government policies and directives.

I recognize that this latest attack feels like a punch in the gut to community members. While I would seek to soothe that hurt with reassurances about the rights and safety we have locally (where gender identity and expression are explicitly protected), I think it’s important to stand in the pain and discomfort of this moment and let it stir us into action. Trans community members and our allies must be sure to sharpen our understanding of our legal rights and the scientific, medical, and psychological case for our inclusion.

Where misinformation is a weapon being wielded against us, truth is our protection.

So, too, is our commitment to one another.

This is not the first time the current administration has targeted our community.

They attack us when they attack immigrants; they attack us when they work to suppress votes; they attack us when they tear apart the Affordable Care Act; and they attack us again now. This administration has targeted those who lack political power. They have sought to tear us apart into smaller factions and pit us against one another. We must fight back on both accounts. We must prove that we are not alone and that we

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do not lack political power. We must prove that we will stand together.

We at TGI Network urge our community members and allies alike to stand up and take action. Call and write your elected officials, continue to attend rallies, or show up for your neighbors when they bear the burden of the next political attack. Thanks to everyone who voted and urged others to vote on November 6. Our loudest voice is our collective vote.

This Thanksgiving, TGI Network partnered with Thundermist Health Center, Project Fearless, and Project Weber/RENEW to create a Thanksgiving meal for the local transgender and genderdiverse community members. Folks came together to share food, conversation, and friendship in an affirming, welcoming space, and the result was a truly magical event. As Christmas approaches, we are preparing another opportunity to bring people

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together who may not have a welcoming home or supportive family. On Christmas Day, we will again partner with Thundermist Health Center to provide movie tickets to those who need a safe and welcoming place to be. Please watch our Facebook page for more information or reach out to us at info@tginetwork.org.

TGI Network of Rhode Island is the only statewide organization providing support, advocacy, and education for the transgender, gender-variant, and intersex community (aka trans* community). Incorporated in 2011, our mission is to be a resource for TGI people navigating their lives and the medical and legal systems; to serve as a resource for professionals working with TGI people; and to serve as a liaison between the TGI and LGB communities and the community at large.Visit us at www.tginetwork.org.

Yael Bat-Shimon, MA, LMHC, and Paula M. Smith, M.Div., MFT are Certified Imago Relationship therapists in private practice in RI. They offer weekend workshops for couples, relationship training for single individuals, and couples therapy. Write to Yael and Paula with your questions at yaelandpaula@optionsri.org.

A Holiday Reminder from Yael & Paula

by Yael Bat-Shimon and Paula Smith We want to thank you for the support and feedback we received on our last article.We are extraordinarily grateful to share our thoughts and experience with the LGBTQ community.

It’s been a hard year. We’ve seen awful things happen—the undermining of our democracy, blatant racism, sexism, hatred as well as violence and discrimination against our beloved transgender folks. But we think there’s a lot to be hopeful about too. We see the world challenging us to work hard, to give and to try to make a difference. We see it as a challenge for us to be better and help others to be better.

The holidays and winter are here. What does it mean for us LGBTQ folks? We are feeling the love and joy, but we are also conscious of the loneliness and rejection that many of us feel during this time of the year. Christmas is an explosion of festive lights and warmth during a season of darkness, cold, and damp. The holidays aren’t just a celebration of light, they’re a celebration of love. When we were dating, many of our straight friends went out of their way to invite us to their homes because we were both isolated from our families. They understood that the holidays were difficult because a lot of LGBTQ people aren’t welcomed at their biological family’s holiday tables. Or , if they are welcomed, the experience is so stressful that staying away and being lonely feels healthier than attending.

These days LGBTQ people are integrating more and more into mainstream culture and communities, but the need to come together and create families is still important. Because things have gotten better for a lot of us in terms of acceptance, we can so easily forget that they aren’t better for all of us — not by a long shot.

Plenty of us transgender, lesbian, gay and other rainbow-striped folks live in places where finding community and creating family is very challenging.

The holidays might be especially hard for older LGBTQ people who, like us, are less likely to have had children and biological families of their own. A big part of our vision as a married couple is to create our own chosen spiritual family. Although we have close friends and colleagues all over the world, we still sometimes feel lonely and isolated when we’re home during the holidays as the people we love are celebrating with their own families.

We’re writing this to remind our LGBTQ family in all our diverse, dispersed communities that holidays are hard for some of our people, and that reaching out to them is an act of love.

Remember the youth kicked out of their homes for being different.

Remember the elderly. Remember the lonely. Remember the shunned. Seek them out.They aren’t likely to ask you for help.They

might even be embarrassed for people to know that they feel lonely and depressed during this season.

We don’t have to be religious and commercially indulgent to raise a candle, to spark a bonfire of winter warmth and love.

Maybe we have a sacred responsibility, given that so many of us understand in our bones what it feels like to be stigmatized and unwanted. It’s always important to come together in communities of love and acceptance, but maybe this time of year presents more reason for that than usual.

What can YOU do this year to spread warmth, love, gratitude, and joy?

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ARTS REVIEW:

Bohemian Rhapsody

I went to see Bohemian Rhapsody on a Saturday night at the Providence Place cinema. Having read articles and done a little research, I was excited to see it. I didn’t know much about the band Queen or its lead singer Freddie Mercury, but I did enjoy a few of their songs. I knew Mercury had a captivating life that ended all too tragically. I didn’t fully understand what he meant to people all over the world, especially the LGBT community, which is why it was disappointing to see how they portrayed his sexuality in the movie.

Like any historical drama, there are a lot of inaccuracies and dramatizations for the sake of entertainment. These important factors aside, the rest of the movie was simply amazing. I’ll try to keep the spoilers to a minimum.

The film starts with a young Freddie working as a baggage handler for an airport before going to hear one of his favorite bands, Smile, at a nightclub. Fast forward and he becomes the lead singer of that band, and they change their name to Queen. They toured the United Kingdom, playing at bars and such before they sold their van to record an album with EMI Records in 1970. By 1975, Queen had left EMI and recorded their fourth album. The executive for the label refused to make “Bohemian Rhapsody” a single or put it on the radio because he believed it was too long. It became a hit after Freddie took it to a radio station and had a DJ friend play it. I’m going to have the song “Bohemian Rhapsody,” stuck in my head for months.

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While they recorded their first album and toured the US, Freddie began to question his sexuality. He was engaged to a woman named Mary Austin, who came out as bisexual, too.Throughout the rest of the movie, Freddie is portrayed as wildly partying and engaging in sex with men while appearing to still be in love with Mary.

This part of the movie has angered some community members for its bi erasure and the way Mercury’s sexuality is portrayed.

After reading a few articles and discussing it with friends, I began to see what all the frustration was about. The movie depicted his relationship with Mary as fun and sweet and beautiful. Then when they broke up, Freddie seemed to spiral out of control, partying, doing drugs, and sleeping with men, ultimately contracting AIDS. It may or may not have occurred like this. It appears that the writers and director depict AIDS as a punishment for being with men.

According to Indiewire,“Not only does the movie frame queerness negatively, but it completely erases Mercury’s bisexuality, preferring an either/or view…. In the movie, when Mercury tells Austin he likes boys, too, she says: ‘Freddie, you’re gay.’ By erasing his bisexuality, the movie reinforces a heteronormative view of queerness, and says it through a straight mouthpiece.” The movie makes it seem as though Mercury was corrupted by gayness when he was clearly bisexual – as though queerness was something evil and gave him AIDS, which is disrespectful to his memory. This movie could have done better.

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by Kwana Adams

Maybe I’m just being picky, but I was not at all convinced by actor Rami Malek’s prosthetic teeth. Malek captured Freddie’s spirit; presumably doing extensive research for the role. I might have been convinced he was actually Freddie if it weren’t for those tragic teeth. I found them distracting and completely unlike Mercury’s signature smile. (Apparently Mercury didn’t want to fix them because he believed they added room in his mouth for greater singing range.) Also, I wish the film explored Mercury’s relationship with his parents and his Parsi background. Details of his life outside of music were sparse.

This movie made me feel many emotions. It made my soul ache for someone who died so tragically, who passed before I was even born. It made me frustrated that if more research into HIV/ AIDS had been done, maybe Mercury’s life and many others could have been saved. It made me want to become a rock legend (even though I can’t sing to save my life). I especially enjoyed all of the film’s performance scenes. I wish I could go back in time to see them perform just once – to really feel the energy that buzzed all around.

While I had some criticisms of this movie, it was a great concept and full of life. Mercury became the legend he always said he’d be. His soul lives on through his music, his family, and his fans.

Kwana Adams is a 24-year-old Community College of RI student who likes cats and vintage sweaters.

100 Years

of Bernstein

by Craig Johnson

With everything else going on in these crazy times one could be forgiven for not giving too much notice to the centennial celebration this year of one of our greatest in the field of music. Leonard Bernstein was born 100 years ago. In commemoration of this event there have been concerts and recitals, biographies on all sorts of media, numerous discussions concerning his important place in our cultural history, and periodic interviews with those who knew him and worked with him, including family and friends.

But wait! Perhaps I missed it, but I have yet to see or hear mention anywhere of one very important aspect of this hugely talented man's life.The man was GAY (or at least bi), right? Are we still in an age where the fact of one's sexuality is to be swept under the rug for the sake of propriety? Not sullying the man's reputation? Frightening the horses?

Yes, I can see where this subject might be of some difficulty for his immediate family. There is pain involved in the mere acknowledgement of these “double life” situations. But to deny the rest of us in the gay community this claim to one of our own does a disservice not only to us, but to history. To suggest that this important element of the man's being is somehow so shameful as not to be mentioned? C'mon folks! We are beyond that – aren't we?

For backup here I refer to the writings of one Douglass Shand-Tucci who addresses this subject in his book The Crimson Letter, a fascinating study of homosexuality at Harvard. One section is devoted largely to the comings and goings of our boy Lenny, class of '39. He right away addresses this matter with: “Bernstein's was an era when there was no possibility at all

of homosexual marriage or of a gay man or woman having a family.” The desire for family was allowed the one option. This a strong enough encouragement for even the slightest inclination in the direction of “normal” sexual behavior, at the expense of all else in one's sexual expression. For so many closeted gay men of the time, heterosexual marriage was the one allowable path.

Thankfully for his many fans, Bernstein did find expression for that indefatigable spirit through his music and creativity.

Gay? How's this? Again from The Crimson Letter, quoting David Denby of The New Yorker: "Bernstein seemed almost sensually overendowed. His shoulder-shaking boogiewoogie could shame the label off a bottle of bourbon." (Love that line!) [There’s also] his reported performance backstage one year, singing loudly to a Tchaikovsky melody at Tanglewood: "Everybody out of the Closet!" (Uh, people. Are we seeing clues yet?) And is there any deeper significance to the thought that it was, after all, Lenny and three known gay guys who gave us the song "There's a Place for Us" for West Side Story? (Hmmm.)

But the real story for us gay folk is to be found with the number of men in his life with whom he found sexual and emotional expression, most notably (again, according to Shand-Tucci) one Tom Cothran with whom Mr. Bernstein progressed from a life of “encounters” to a “loving relationship with a man.” (Go, Lenny!) But this happy discovery late in life was not without its complications.

As indication of the struggle involved to balance one's life in more closeted times, I recount here an anecdote reported to me years ago by a friend employed with the New York Philharmonic (NYP). Imagine the following scene of dressing room drama happened upon backstage at the NYP. Here's our Lenny, on his knees (No! Not

that!) begging Lillian Hellman, of all people, not to share certain details of his private life with those for whom such disclosure would not be well received. Lillian, clearly in the power seat, [has] Lenny submissive in desperation at her feet – a face-off of egos like no other. Apparently all worked out in Lenny’s favor. What Ms. Hellman walked away with for her silence can only be conjectured. (I edit here considerably from the original version… as far as I should go with it for Options' sake. For those unfamiliar with Lillian Hellman: aside from being rather a big mouth apparently, her Children's Hour is a must-see film for all of us enjoying the freedoms of our time. Have tissues handy.

And then get mad as hell!)

I think it fair to say that Leonard Bernstein was conflicted, certainly. We all know a little something of that societal pressure to not be what we truly are. Given his time – the 1940s, 50s, 60s – imagine how much more oppressive that societal pressure was. I am willing to give the man a pass for not leading the parade.

What I am not willing to accept, however, is the complete elimination (read “denial”) of the man's true self from his legacy. How much of that inner turmoil of the gay experience was expressed through his work, for instance? How did his gay sensibility (if there be one) color his creations? How would his success in the field have been altered without the bonds and connections made through the largely gay community of classical and popular music? These and other questions can only be addressed by acknowledging, first and foremost, that the man was a club member like the rest of us!

Yes. Happy 100 to you, Mr. Bernstein!

Know that you will be recognized as one of the greatest GAY figures in the history of music.You may not have led the parade, but you are certainly in there with us.

Craig Johnson is a frequent Options contributor and lives in Cumberland.

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OUT ON THE TOWN

RI Pride Honors Gala Providence Marriott Downtown, October 14 Photos by Jen Bonin

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Legends Calendar Release Party EGO Providence, Oct. 21 Photos by Ryan Clarke

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by Lauren Vella

The 2018 Midterm Election:

An Awakening and A Rainbow Wave In the days following the 2018 midterm elections, a sigh of relief reverberated throughout the liberal recesses of the nation.

Democratic candidates managed to deliver on the party’s promise of a “blue wave” that would wash over the country and flip red seats on election day. And although the Democratic Party lost incumbent seats in the Senate, they picked up at least 38 seats in the House, thus ending the GOP vise grip on both houses of the United States Congress.

While this election proved to be a major win for Democrats, the results also showed evidence of a “pink” and “rainbow” wave as well. One hundred twelve women won seats in both chambers of Congress— the highest number of women to serve in the legislature in United States history. An astonishing number of candidates of color won races across the country, and over 400 LGBTQ candidates ran for seats this year, 153 of whom won.

LGBTQ candidates made huge strides in historically red states where anti-LGBTQ legislation and insufficient representation plagued local government. In Kansas, Sharice Davids became the first openly gay congresswoman to represent her state.

She is also one of the first Native American women elected to Congress. Kyrsten Sinema made U.S. history by being the first openly bisexual woman to be elected to a Senate seat. In Colorado, Jared Polis became the first openly gay man to be elected governor of any state in the country.

The state of Rhode Island was also touched by the “blue wave.” In fact, our historically blue state became an even

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darker shade of blue this November at the local level. Most notably, East Greenwich flipped its Town Council from Republican to Democrat, and the state legislature became overwhelmingly Democratic in both the Senate and the House of Representatives.

Rhode Island also had many female candidates, several of whom won their local races;it held fast to its LGBTQ representation.

State Senator Donna Nesselbush and Representative David Cicilline—two openly LGBTQ candidates—will return to their respective offices in the coming year.

On a municipal level, the Providence City Council has also seen a remarkable demographic shift. For the first time ever, the Providence City Council Rachel Miller will be comprised of a female majority, many of whom are women of color. The council will also welcome Rachel Miller from Ward 13—the first openly queer council member to be elected to this position.

When asked about how her queer identity affected the way she ran her campaign, Miller remarked that she was honored to “provide visibility and representation, especially for young people or anyone struggling with their identity.”

The newly elected council member also intimated that her identity did not determine the way that she ran her campaign. However, she was sure to recognize the road paved by brave members of the community that allowed her to focus on the issues rather than defending her identity.

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“It was primarily my background as a community organizer for economic and racial justice that informed my campaign.

Being queer is just one part of my identity, as it is for all of my LGBTQ family, but really just a few years ago it would have been controversial to the point of defining my campaign.”

Miller is ready to take her seat on the Providence City Council along with three other newly elected women—a significant change of which she is highly aware. Miller acknowledged that diversity does not guarantee that change will come, but she hopes that this new City Council will come together and make significant structural and equitable change. Her first order of business is to work on a sustainable taxation policy that would allow all Providence citizens to enjoy long-term economic growth and protect working people and neighborhoods.

“I also look forward to bringing our tax stabilization policies (a mechanism Providence uses to promote economic development) into alignment with long-term growth strategies that include protections for working people and for our neighborhoods, so that all of the residents of Providence can enjoy the benefits of a strong economy.”

What caused this democratic surge in the Ocean State? According to Rhode Island State Representative Deborah Ruggiero, an out lesbian, “There has been an awakening after the 2016 election.” The temperature set by the current administration has had a drastic effect on the way Americans cast their votes. Nationwide, people realized that it is important to participate in America’s democracy for fear that their rights as citizens

will be forgotten. As a result of the current administration’s discriminatory policies regarding women’s rights, immigrants’ rights, healthcare, and trans rights, there has been a surge of resistance from marginalized groups. The midterm election results showed that these groups were unwilling to be overlooked. Representative Ruggiero said, “Women, minorities, and the LGBTQ community are no longer sitting on the sidelines. People volunteered, people helped on campaigns—people voted... and many ran for office.”

The midterm results yielded good news for Democrats in Rhode Island and the nation, but what they do with their power in the next two years is equally as important as winning the election.

Deb Ruggiero To Representative Ruggiero, it is important that Democrats make good on their word and step up to serve their communities; “Democrats have to now follow through and make sure we do a lot of what we said we wanted to do and not get too far afield and realize that there is still a lot of work that

has to happen.”

When it comes to the LGBTQ community, Ruggiero says that the fight for equality is never over. Rhode Island has made important strides within the last ten years to ensure that the rights of the LGBTQ Rhode Islanders are protected. Governor Gina Raimondo has signed a bill that requires a deceased member’s death certificate to accurately reflect their gender identity. The state has also moved to ban conversion therapy—a discredited practice proven to worsen the mental health of LGBTQ people—the after-effects of which could drive people to self-harm and suicide.

These policies protect the overall community; however, there has yet to be legislation passed to ensure the health and well-being of older members of the LGBTQ community. In an effort to push towards equality, Ruggiero says that the next hurdle is to secure anti-discrimination laws for LGBTQ seniors. Proposed legislation would make it illegal for homecare professionals and nursing homes to discriminate based on the person’s sexuality or gender identity and deny access to proper care or admittance to a home.

“I believe it’s important to protect our

LGBTQ seniors as they age in place in their homes. As a state rep I’ve done a lot of policy work around helping seniors. I’m now working with advocates and the elderly on a bill I’d like to put in Rhode Island to protect our LGBTQ seniors. When a homecare provider comes into their home, no one should have to go back into the closet as they get older—whether in a nursing home or in their own home—out of fear that a caregiver could retaliate.”

Massachusetts is currently the only state to pass an anti-discrimination bill like the one that Ruggiero envisions. It took a lot of work in the Massachusetts legislature to get it over the goal line. However, with a newly reinvigorated state legislature in Rhode Island, Ruggiero believes a similar bill could pass.

Lauren Vella is a freelance writer based out of Providence. She can talk for hours about LGBTQ issues, gender politics, and the newest LGBTQ shows and books. She founded the LGBTQ/feminist blog AwkwardandOut.com and can be found on Twitter @LaurenVella.

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Women Win

BIG

Story and photo

by Rex LeBeau

in Newport Election The City by the Sea made history in the election with the election of Angela McCalla to the Newport City Council, representing Ward 1. Angela, her wife Allyson, their son, and a gaggle of supporters gathered at Parlor on Broadway to celebrate a queer woman of color winning the council seat.

These are several firsts for Newport. When asked how she felt about her win, McCalla recounted, “I feel great, I feel wonderful, powerful, all of that…. I think our families have finally spoken. Newport has spoken that it’s time for change, time for something new, and to do things differently.” McCalla

McCalla (left) and Vanessa Soares at Parlor in Newport election night

beat her opponent James Dring by almost 60% of the total votes cast.

Alas, Newport’s other LGBTQ candidate did not win a City Council seat.

Valerie Larkin ran against incumbent Lynn Ceglie for the Ward 2 seat, earning 1051 votes to Ceglie’s 1581. Larkin did well considering Ceglie’s longtime establishment in Newport. She conducted her campaign with humor and grace. Newport has not seen the last of this amazing trans woman, and she may run again in two years. “This was my first time running for public office,” said Larkin, “I’m really excited about some

of the people who did win in Newport and how we can make this city a more vital and viable place to live and to move forward in the 21st century’s informationbased economy.” When asked what’s next, she exclaimed, “I would say I’m going to Disneyland, but actually I’m looking forward to playing my bass.”

A majority of the victorious council candidates hold progressive values and six of the seven elected council members, including the next mayor, are women.

AIDS Project RI:

Carrying 2018’s Momentum Through 2019

by Mikel Wadewitz, Ryan White Director, AIDS Project Rhode Island

The end of every year is a natural moment to take a look back at what happened during the previous months and take a deep breath and get ready to dive into the year ahead.

For APRI, the most exciting things to happen in 2018 were expanding the services we provide to people living with HIV/AIDS and collaborating more with community partners across the state. The statewide CoEXIST program brought in new resources and opportunities for HIV/AIDS service organizations to focus on critically needed services such as housing, substance use/ abuse, and mental health. The re-launch of our peer Buddy Program supported clients with a social support system outside of a case management/medical framework. We also expanded our food pantry and hot meal program, known as the Afia Center, and began offering services such as help with estate planning forms, including powers of attorney and living wills.

In addition, we expanded our HIV, syphilis,

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and hepatitis C testing program, adding walk-in hours at our Providence offices, testing at every college campus in the state, and providing HIVnegative clients a streamlined PrEP referral process with local providers.We also launched our new testing van at RI PrideFest in June, and used it throughout the summer at festivals and block parties across the state.

Our annual AIDS Walk became the AIDS Run/Walk for Life in 2018 and included a 5K fun run with a superhero theme. We worked with the team at AIDS Care Ocean State to make this long-standing event a success and are planning for next year’s event to tie in to Pride month festivities.

Lastly, APRI got a little facelift in 2018 with a new logo, website, social media channels (@ hello_apri on Instagram), and informational materials about our services, for example, the Undetectable = Untransmittable campaign.

2019 is shaping up to be just as busy, with many new opportunities for collaboration.One of our major initiatives will include working on issues related to HIV, aging, and long-term care

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as more and more HIV+ people get older.This next year will be time to get involved in politics on a local and national level, make sure our representatives know what our concerns are, discover what our communities (and clients) need, and keep forging a path toward a truly just and equal society for all.

Challenges remain, of course. One look at the administration in Washington, D.C. tells us all we need to know about the looming threat of decreased federal funding for testing, prevention, and HIV/AIDS services. Threats to the civil rights of trans and gender nonconforming individuals remain; therefore, our community’s support is needed more than ever.

APRI provides support services and free, anonymous walk-in testing for HIV and other STIs at 9 Pleasant Street in Providence. For more information,call (401) 831-5522,visit aidsprojectri. org, facebook.com/AIDSProjectRhodeIsland, or twitter.com/AIDSProjectRI. APRI is a division of Family Service of Rhode Island.

YPI Gives

Thanks

Story and photos by Tiffani Carcieri, YPI Staff

The bustle of daily life often distracts us from acknowledging and appreciating all the gifts and opportunities we have been given. Thanksgiving, and the holiday season collectively, reminds us to be mindful of our blessings while simultaneously giving back to those who may not be as fortunate or privileged. As a way to give back to our youth, YPI hosts an annual Thanksgiving dinner the Wednesday night preceding Thanksgiving Day. The dinner is open to YPI youth along with their invited friends and family. Served potluck style, an array of traditional dishes and desserts were this year graciously supplied by YPI friends, volunteers, community partners, staff, and board members. The Gulf Stream Bar and Grille donated our main course of turkey and ham.Youth also had the opportunity to write what they are thankful for on autumn leaf cutouts, and add them to our Wall of Thanks.

It is important to remember that a lot of our youth face homelessness or unstable housing. Many may not have a safe home or family to return to during the holidays. They may not have anyone to say grace with, or fight about who gets the last piece of turkey.

We hope to feel like family to our youth and that they find familiarity, comfort, and support from all of us here at YPI over the

holidays and every day.

Other ways we give back to our youth include keeping our Basic Needs Pantry stocked full of clothes, food, toiletries, and school supplies. In anticipation of the upcoming winter months, YPI is asking our friends and allies who want to give back to our youth to donate winter coats and cold weather gear to our pantry. We will accept gloves, mittens, hats, ear-warmers, scarves, and coats that are gently used.

If you are interested in supporting our pantry all year long, consider becoming a Basic Needs Pantry Sponsor by hosting quarterly food drives on our behalf. YPI will provide promotional materials for your drives and pick up the donations from your location. Sponsors will also be mentioned wherever our pantry is advertised. If your group, organization, or business is interested in hosting quarterly food drives, we would love to hear from you. We can be reached at info@youthprideri.org.

Youth Pride Inc. provides support, education, and advocacy for LGBTQQ young people ages 9-23. Our Drop-in Center is at 473 Westminster Street, Providence, RI 02903. Visit www.youthprideri.org, email info@youthprideri. org, or call (401) 421-5626 for more info.

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ACOS Brings Holiday Joy to 500+ Rhode Islanders

by Chris Cedroni

As we enter the holiday season, AIDS Care Ocean State (ACOS) continues its mission of providing a high quality of life for those affected by or at risk for HIV infection in Rhode Island. ACOS was thrilled to start this year’s Adopt-a-Family campaign with an incredible donation of over 100 turkeys from The Make A Difference Foundation, a longtime partner who has donated turkeys to ACOS for more than ten years. Thanks to generous donations from individuals and organizations, ACOS also provided families with a plethora of Thanksgiving fixings, ensuring a traditional, hearty Thanksgiving meal for over 500 individuals.

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Our toy drive kicks off in December, including our December 20 Drag Bingo where ACOS will collect gifts for children and adolescents affected by HIV. ACOS extends a huge thank you to the seven companies, organizations, and clubs participating in this year’s toy drive. We cannot wait to see the wonderful impact their efforts will have on the ACOS community.

Beyond Drag Bingo and our toy drive, donations are an incredible way to give back to communities in need this holiday season. Gifts of cash are always welcome and can be made at aidscareos.org. This

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season, join ACOS in bringing warmth and light into the homes of those in need and ensuring a joyful holiday for each and every family.

AIDS Care Ocean State, the largest and most comprehensive AIDS service agency in Rhode Island, is dedicated to providing quality housing, case management, medical and nursing care, and prevention to adults, families, adolescents, and children who are affected by or at risk for HIV infection. Located at 18 Parkis Avenue, Providence. (401) 5213603. Appointments: (401) 781-0665. www. aidscareos.org.

When you could use a little face time with your health plan.

Introducing Your Blue Store.SM A place to talk local with a local team, in English or Spanish. A place where you can learn about your health plan options, take a fitness class, or even make a payment.

When you come to one of our three stores, you’ll also find a warm local welcome – just like at our network providers that proudly display our Safe Zone logo as LGBTQ-friendly offices.

It’s not what you’d expect from a health plan, but maybe you should. Visit bcbsri.com/yourbluestore

Look into our Safe Zone program to find a growing list of health providers who deliver safe, affirming, and inclusive care to the LGBTQ community.

Safe Zone Committed to providing a supportive environment for LGBTQ individuals.

Call (401) 459-2200 or just come by: Cowesett Corners 300 Quaker Lane Warwick

Highland Commons 71 Highland Avenue East Providence

Lincoln Mall 622 George Washington Hwy. Lincoln

Blue Cross & Blue Shield of Rhode Island is an independent licensee of the Blue Cross and Blue Shield Association.

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Healthcare Literacy: Combating LGBTQ Community Health Concerns A recent National LGBTQ Task Force study revealed that more than 50 percent of LGBTQ individuals have experienced some form of healthcare discrimination while seeking medical treatment. Whether it be the absence of proper gender designation on medical forms, lack of desired and necessary medical services, or refusal of care, the LGBTQ community is constantly faced with stigma while searching for healthcare.

This lack of acceptance can have a lasting effect on the overall health and wellness of LGBTQ people, as many are left without a place to voice any ongoing health concerns.

Everyone deserves the right to safe and affirming medical care, regardless of their identity or relationships.

Blue Cross & Blue Shield of Rhode Island’s (BCBSRI) intent is to ensure that all Rhode Islanders have access to affordable, quality healthcare. Since 2015, we have been partnering with healthcare providers across the state on our LGBTQ Safe Zone certification, which aims to provide high-quality and inclusive care to the LGBTQ community.

With more than a dozen providers enrolled, members of the LGBTQ community now have additional options across dental, primary care, and mental healthcare to receive treatment they need in a welcoming setting.

Health needs vary from person to person and from community to community, so it is important for lesbian and bisexual women, gay and bisexual men, and transgender individuals to be aware of certain health concerns that can impact members of the LGBTQ community: • Lesbians and Bisexual Women: While many may know that breast and gynecological cancers are two of the most common cancers for women, it is less known that lesbian and bisexual women are at an even higher risk.

According to the American Cancer Society, studies suggest that lesbian and bisexual women are less likely to get routine care including breast and cervical cancer screening, Pap tests, and mammograms — further increasing risk of illness.

• Gay and Bisexual Men: Gay and bisexual men are more likely to suffer with body dissatisfaction and body image issues, resulting in a high number of eating disorders. Males struggling with these issues often hesitate to seek help because of the stigma associated

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with being a male with an eating disorder, and gay and bisexual men can feel a more intense stigma due to their sexuality. Also, their risk of contracting HIV is higher.

• Transgender Individuals: Along with general reluctance to visit their primary care provider due to stigma, transgender individuals can experience an assortment of potential complications from hormone treatments.

There are many health risks associated with cross-gender hormone therapy, including increased risk of heart attack or stroke.

Specifically, estrogen can increase blood clotting, raise blood pressure, and cause water retention; testosterone can increase the risk of liver damage, high cholesterol levels, and cardiovascular disease.

A common underlying issue across the LGBTQ community continues to be mental health. The Gay and Lesbian Medical Association reports that lesbian and bisexual women have experienced chronic stress due to homophobia and biphobia. Depression and anxiety may be greater in gay men compared to the general population, especially if they choose not to disclose their sexual orientation.

It’s also important to recognize that in Rhode Island specifically, mental health issues occur at higher than average rates. While the

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by Guillaume Bagal, lead Diversity & Inclusion Consultant, Blue Cross & Blue Shield of Rhode Island

national depression diagnosis rate averages 4.4 percent, Rhode Island comes in at 6.4 percent, emphasizing the need for high-quality and accessible mental healthcare for all Rhode Islanders, especially populations that are at higher risk.

All groups within the LGBTQ community are especially prone to stress, depression, and anxiety from several factors, including social pressures and discrimination, abuse and violence, unfair treatment in the legal system, and rejection by family and friends.

We urge all individuals to take control of their mental and physical health by designating a primary care provider and scheduling regular preventive appointments. BCBSRI is proud to work continuously toward providing a more inclusive healthcare experience for all.

Blue Cross & Blue Shield of Rhode Island is the state’s leading health insurer and covers more than 450,000 members. The company is an independent licensee of the Blue Cross and Blue Shield Association. For more information, visit www. bcbsri.com, follow us on Twitter @BCBSRI, and like us on Facebook at fb.com/bcbsri. To learn more about Safe Zones, visit bcbsri.com/safezones.

LGBTQ+ HEALTH CARE WE WANT TO SHARE OUR PRIDE. Our commitment to equitable, inclusive care for LGBTQ+ patients and their families.

LGBTQ+ training for all Health Center staff Non-discrimination policies for LGBTQ+ patients and employees.

Gender Neutral Bathrooms

To make an appointment with a medical provider who has experience in care for the LGBTQ+ community, please call 401-519-1940.

NEW PATIENTS WELCOME!

Services Offered: Preventive & Primary Health Care Services Behavioral Health Counseling Integrated Behavioral Health Dental/Oral Health Services Medication Assisted Treatment STD Counseling, Testing, & Treatment HIV Prevention & Treatment Hepatitis C Treatment Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis (PrEP) Post- Exposure Prophylaxis (PEP) Contraception Counseling & Family Planning & More

Most health insurance plans are accepted.

We offer a Sliding Fee Discount Schedule to those that qualify. No one is ever denied access to care due to inability to pay.

Services Available at: 1126 Hartford Avenue, Johnston, Rhode Island 02919 33 Maple Avenue, North Providence, Rhode Island 02911 www.tricountyri.org 401-519-1940

Report from SAGE-RI

by Cathy Gorman

SAGE-RI has been engaged in a number of significant events and activities this fall.

SAGE-Table events are promoted

by SAGE/USA as a way of bringing our community together to increase understanding and strengthen solidarity among our friends and allies. SAGE-RI has held intergenerational events at Fellini Pizza in Pawtuxet Village in the fall of 2017, and at Lemongrass in Warwick this past spring.

On October 3, SAGE-RI sponsored an ice cream and movie night social with Youth Pride showing the film Love, Simon, rekindling an alliance that promises future opportunities for building intergenerational connections. For this purpose, SAGE-RI is sponsoring a Saturday, December 8 Intergenerational Holiday Supper at Miss Cranston Diner, 1150 Oaklawn Avenue in Cranston, from 4-6pm. Registration is through Eventbrite, with payment at the door for a scrumptious and plentiful Italian buffet. Join us for fabulous food and welcoming company. See SAGE/ Rhode Island’s Facebook page for more information.

SAGE-RI co-sponsored a showing of the Gen Silent documentary with the RI Chapter of the National Association of Social Workers (NASW-RI Chapter) on October 5. The film and conversation afterwards brought information on LGBT elders and transgender issues to a whopping 85 social workers and other health care and social service providers in Rhode Island. This award-winning documentary and informative presentations by expert panelists were very well received. SAGERI sponsored another Gen Silent screening, along with the URI Providence Campus Arts and Culture program, on November 16. Afterward, participants engaged in a

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discussion of their reactions to significant issues and concerns, while also enjoying generous refreshments provided by the AARP-RI Chapter.

On October 17, a RI Foundation Equity Action forum focused on the needs and concerns of LGBT elders. URI Nursing Professor Dr. Patricia Burbank presentated on both national and local survey reports highlighting key issues confronting LGBT elders. Brian Berger, Vice President of Access and Community Engagement from Hope Hospice and Palliative Care, spoke about hospice care and their initiative to offer LGBT cultural competency training to ensure the highest quality of care.

Freeman T. Freeman, a clinical social worker and ordained minister, spoke about the spiritual needs of the community. Longtime activist Sally Hay addressed issues from the community’s perspective. SAGERI presented on the organization’s history and current status. This event has helped forge relationships leading to further collaboration on behalf of LGBT Elders.

Volunteers participated in the Senior Agenda Coalition’s annual conference on November 2 and attended workshops on preventing elder abuse and neglect and choosing this year’s legislative priorities for promoting an Age Friendly Rhode Island.

SAGE-RI displayed publications from SAGE/ USA, fact sheets and local resource guides.

Community health care and social service providers stopped by to share information and to arrange presentations on programs and services for LGBT seniors at the LGBT Café.

On November 3, SAGE-RI held its 2018 annual meeting to report on this year’s progress to members and friends.

Held at the Church of the Transfiguration in Cranston, the site of the LGBT Café, it

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represented the culmination of a year-long effort to ensure a more stable foundation for the organization. A slate of steering committee members was adopted.

Additionally, the group announced regularly scheduled membership meetings for the first Saturday of the month at the Church of the Transfiguration at 11am. This will enable the LGBT community to access information and volunteer opportunities in keeping with the goal of building an active and engaged membership – one capable of creating safe and welcoming space for LGBT elders within the LGBT community and in various settings in the wider community.

A contingent from SAGE-RI joined the State House rally on November 3, in support of transgender civil rights. SAGERI volunteers are working with advocacy organizations such as the RI LGBT Action group to promote local understanding of transgender issues, and for policies designed to protect LGBTQ youth.

Stay tuned for further announcements as even more opportunities for SAGE-RI and its mission are on the horizon.

SAGE-RI (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders) addresses issues of concern to LGBT elders and is an organization of diverse people of all ages. For information on programs or to join SAGE-RI, drop us a line at sageriinfo@ gmail.com; find us on Facebook as SAGERhode Island; or send correspondence to our new address SAGE-RI c/o the Church of the Transfiguration, 1665 Broad Street, Cranston, RI 02905.

EXPANDED HOURS Open before school and work 7 a.m. - 9 p.m. weekdays 9 a.m. - 5 p.m. weekends and holidays

Walk-in medical service for common illnesses and injuries.

You do not need to be a patient of Thundermist to use Convenient Care.

Low co-payments.

We treat patients two years and older.

Woonsocket 450 Clinton Street Woonsocket, RI 02895 Phone: (401) 767-4100

West Warwick 186 Providence Street West Warwick, RI 02893 Phone: (401) 615-2800

Wakefield 1 River Street Wakefield, RI 02879 Phone: (401) 783-0523

RESOURCES Options originated in 1982 as the offical newsletter of the Rhode Island Gay Task Force. Editor Jos Fayette explained, “The RIGTF wants to make the homosexual community aware of their options as gay men and women in Rhode Island. And it’s only because we live, work, love, and play in this state that there are such a large number of options available to all of us.” Options has always, and will continue to print LGBTQ resources so that

you can, as Fayette went on to say, “Exercise your OPTIONS today to make positive changes in your life tomorrow.”

Help us help you! Email info@optionsri.org if you come across a resource listing that needs updating. New, updated, and featured resources are highlighted. Phone numbers are in the 401 area code and addresses are in Rhode Island, unless otherwise indicated.

ADDICTION SUPPORT GROUPS

AIDS Quilt RI: Displays local AIDS memorial quilt panels, panelmaking programs including Anna’s Workshop, HIV/AIDS education for young people. PO Box 2591, Newport. 434-4880. admin@ aidsquiltri.org. www.aidsquiltri.org.

Brown University AIDS Program: Clinical trials, public policy, research, lectures, conferences, patient and community education. 121 South Main Street, Second Floor, Providence. 863-6790. brunap@ brown.edu. brown.edu/Departments/BRUNAP. Community Care Alliance: Case management, support, personal care items for people living with HIV/AIDS in northern Rhode Island.

245 Main Street, Woonsocket. 235-6092. lcohen@famresri.org.

Community Care Alliance-Agape Providence: Transitional housing, drop-in center, testing, intensive case management, counseling, peer support for people living with HIV/AIDS. 292 Elmwood Ave, Providence. 572-3800. www.communitycareri.org.

Comprehensive Community Action Programs: Medical, mental health, dental, social services, LGBT outreach. 311 Doric Avenue, Cranston. Also Coventry, Pawtucket, and Warwick. 467-9610.

Gabriel Care, LLC: Nursing/social worker case management and financial compensation for assistance and supervision for those living with HIV. MassHealth funded for MA residents. 376 South Main Street, Fall River, MA. Contact Jenn, (508) 678-1002.

HIV Antibody Testing: Anonymous. Free or sliding scale. RI Department of Health. Providence, Newport and other locations.

222-2320.

Home and Hospice Care of RI: Medical care management for HIV/AIDS. 24hr nursing staff for treatment. 1085 North Main Street, Providence. Referrals: 782-0725. Bereavement groups: Contact John Charette, 727-7079. Main Office: 415-4200 or toll-free 800-3386555. www.hhcri.org.

House of Compassion: HIV/AIDS housing. 2510 Mendon Road, Cumberland. 658-3992.

LGBT Caregiver Online Support Group: For LGBTs caring for someone with chronic health problems. www.caregiver.org.

Luis E. Martinez House CHS, Inc.: Supportive, permanent housing for 10 adults living with HIV/AIDS and/or substance abuse.

New Bedford, MA. Contact Joe Taylor. (508) 984-7514.

Miriam Hospital HIV & STD Testing Clinic: For gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis, HIV, Hep C, and trichomoniasis. Linking to

AA Brothers in Sobriety: Saturday 7:30pm. 372 Wayland Avenue, Providence. 751-9328.

AddictionCenter.com: Web information guide for addiction resources nationwide. Or call 1-877-830-2915.

Alcohol/Drug Helpline: RI Council on Alcoholism & Drug Dependence. 24hr. (866) 252-3784.

RI LGBT AA Group: Tuesdays 7 -- 8 pm Bell Street Chapel, 5 Bell St., Providence, 273-5678. All are welcome.

Seven Hills Behavioral Health: Addiction support services and Narcan. 1173 Acushnet Avenue, New Bedford, MA, 508999-4159. 310 S. Main Street, Fall River, MA, 508-235-1012.

Leonard Amaral, Program Manager, lamaral@sevenhills.org.

Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous: 12-step program. Fridays at 7pm. Providence Presbyterian Church, 500 Hope Street, Providence, side entrance, downstairs to the left. Gay, but all are welcome.

YPTQ (Young People, Queer, Trans) meeting of AA: Wednesdays 7:30 -- 8:30pm, “common room” of Brown University Alumni Hall, 194 Meeting Street, Providence.

AIDS/HEALTH RESOURCES

Afia Center for Health & Wholeness: Meals, food pantry, HIV support groups, recreational and social activities. Sponsored by AIDS Project RI. Free to clients.. Wed. and Thurs. 12 -- 3pm. 134 Mathewson St., Providence. Info: Kim Clohecy, 831-5522, Ext. 2299.

AIDS Action Hotline: MA only. (800) 235-2331. www.aac.org.

AIDS Care Ocean State: Confidential HIV & Hep C testing, safersex supplies, case management, emergency funds, clinical services, assisted and supportive housing for people living with HIV/AIDS, street outreach, ENCORE, HIV+ support groups. Speaker’s Bureau, 18 Parkis Ave., Providence. 521-3603 (call 781-0665 to schedule an appointment). www.aidscareos.org.

AIDS Project RI: Division of Family Service of RI. Case management, buddies, COBRA and dental services, emergency fund, mental health counseling, nutrition support, assessment and referral, wellness programs, advocacy, strength training, prevention education, HIV testing. 9 Pleasant Street, Providence. 831-5522 www.aidsprojectri. org.

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physicians for PrEP. Wed. -- Fri. 12:30 -- 3:30. 1125 N. Main St., Providence (rear of building). 793-4715.

Partners in Learning About AIDS: Outreach to minorities, women of color, and LGBT community at clubs and other locations.

North Providence office provides free condoms and information about STIs and post-exposure prophylaxis for HIV. 1006 Charles Street, Suite 5, North Providence. 484-7523. info@plaidsproject.org. www.plaidsproject.org.

Planned Parenthood of So. New England: Confidential, low-cost, same-day & walk-in STD and HIV testing. Commonsense approach to health. 175 Broad Street. 800-230-7526. www.ppsne.org.

Prima CARE Transgender Clinic: Fall River, MA. Counseling, hormonal reassignment, referrals for surgery. Kishore Lakshman, MD. 508-235-0481.

Seven Hills HIV Prevention & Screening: TWIST program, HIV and STI prevention and testing, partner care. 1173 Acushnet Avenue, New Bedford, MA, 508-999-4159. 310 S. Main Street, Fall River, MA, 508-235-1012. Contact Leonard Amaral, lamaral@sevenhills.org.

SSTAR (Stanley Street Treatment & Resources): Counseling, drug treatment, detox, domestic violence programs, free and confidential HIV, HEP C, and STD testing, education, case management and support. MA and RI locations. 386 Stanley Street, Fall River, MA. (508) 679-5222. Project Aware (HIV/HCV); (508) 324-3561. Family Healthcare Center; (508) 675-1054. www.sstar.org.

Steppingstone, Inc.: Welcome Home Medical case management program. One-on-one peer support in Somerset to Wareham area. HIV support groups available. Free and open to any HIV+ person 18+. 5 Dover Street, New Bedford, MA. (508) 984-7514. www.steppingstoneinc.org.

Tranquil Mind & Wellness: Counseling, alternative healing, yoga, Pilates, meditation.109 Rhode Island Road, Lakeville, MA. (508) 9471683. www.tranquilmind.net.

Thundermist Health Center: Provides HIV/AIDS services including medical care and treatment by an HIV specialist, dental care, behavioral health counseling, nutritional assessment and counseling, pharmacy consultation, free and confidential HIV testing. 450 Clinton Street, Woonsocket. Contact Philip Kane. 767-4100 ext. 3516.

RILGBT-News: Low-volume email distribution list for LGBT & AIDS news from RI. Not a discussion list. To subscribe: tinawood@cox.net.

South Coast LGBTQ Network: Information & advocacy network for individuals of all ages. 774-371-0711. info@ sclgbtqnetwork.org. www.sclgbtqnetwork.org.

United Way of RI Referral Line: 2-1-1 on your telephone.

INFORMATION/EDUCATION

POLITICAL & LEGAL GROUPS

The Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health: Education, pleasure, health, advocacy. Tues. -- Sat. 12 -- 6 and by appointment. 250 Main Street, Unit 1, Pawtucket. 489-5513. www.thecsph.org.

Fenway Community Center LGBT Helpline: Support, information and referrals. Fenway Community Health Center, Boston. Open daily 6-11pm. (617) 267-9001 or 888-340-452 GLBT National Help Center Hotline: Local resources nationwide provided by social services agency. 888-843-4564. www.glbtnationalhelpcenter.org.

Newport Out: LGBT website for Newport. www.newportout.com.

American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU): 128 Dorrance Street, Suite 400, Providence. 831-7171. riaclu.org.

Amnesty International OUTfront: Program to campaign globally for LGBTQ human rights. (212)807-8400. Cvohs18904@ yahoo.com. www.amnestyusa.org.

Brown University Queer Alliance: Student advocacy and support organization. queer@brown.edu.

Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders (GLAD): LGBT/HIV legal info hotline. Weekdays 1:30-4:30pm. 30 Winter Street, Suite 800, Boston, MA. (617) 436-1350 or (800) 455-GLAD. gladlaw@ glad.org www.GLAD.org.

Lambda Legal Defense & Education Fund: 120 Wall Street, Suite 1500, NY. (212) 809-8585. www.lambdalegal.org.

Lawyers for Equality and Diversity (LEAD): Advocates for LGBT causes. lawyersforequality@gmail.com.

NIGHTLIFE The Alley Cat Providence: Downtown neighborhood bar.

Monday-Thursday 3pm-1am, Friday 3pm-2am, Saturday 2pm2am, Sunday 2pm-1am. 19 Snow Street, Providence. 272-6369.

Bobby’s Place: Dancing, pool, video lounge, karaoke. SundayWednesday 5pm-1am, Thursday-Saturday 5pm-2am. 62 Weir Street, Taunton, MA. (508) 824-9997. www.bobbysplacema.com.

Brooklyn Coffee Tea House: 209 Douglas Ave., Providence: public/private venue for music, art, film screenings, weddings, showers, etc. RHODYWOOD@yahoo.com; 359-0192.

Club Body Center: Gay men’s sauna. Membership required.

One-day pass available. Open 24hr. 257 Weybosset Street, Providence. 274-0298. www.cbcresorts.com.

The Dark Lady: Downtown bar and nightclub. TuesdayThursday 9pm-1am, Friday & Saturday 9pm-3am, Sunday 9pm1am. 17 Snow Street, Providence. 272-6369.

EGO: Providence’s newest gay nightlife performance/event space. Sunday and Thursday 9pm-1am, Friday and Saturday 10pm-3am, 73 Richmond St, Providence. 383-1208. www.egopvd.com.

Mirabar: Downtown bar and nightclub. Monday-Thursday 3pm-1am, Friday and Saturday 3pm-2am, Sunday 3pm-1am.

15 Elbow Street, Providence. 331-6761. www.mirabar.com.

Providence Eagle: Leather, Levi, bear cruise bar. MondayThursday 2pm-1am, Friday 2pm-2am, Saturday-Sunday 12pm2am. 124 Snow Street, Providence. 421-1447.

The Stable: Downtown video bar. No cover. Monday-Thursday 2pm-1am, Friday 2pm-2am, Saturday 12pm-2am, Sunday 12pm1am. 125 Washington Street, Providence. 272-6950.

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National Lesbian & Gay Journalists Assoc./New England: Works for fair and accurate media coverage of LGBT issues. info@ nlgja.org, www.nlgja.org.

The Next Thing (TNT): Political and support group for queer people of color located at Brown University. 863-3062. tnt@ brown.edu.

RI Commission on Prejudice and Bias: Hate crime awareness training program. www.hatecrimeri.org.

RI Socialist Action: 952-5385, adgagneri@gmail.com. Spanish: 351-3514, walsil@cox.net.

RI Human Rights Commission: Anti-discrimination law enforcement agency with jurisdiction in employment, housing, public accommodations, and credit. 180 Westminster Street, 3rd floor, Providence. 222-2662 TTY: 222-2664, richr.ri.gov.

Scouts for Equality: An organization composed largely of Boy Scouts of America alumni dedicated to ending the BSA’s ban on gay members and leaders. Contact Carol Crowther. ccrowther1@ gmail.com. Facebook.com/riscoutsforequality.

Servicemembers Legal Defense Network: Serving LGBT military personnel and veterans. PO Box 65301, Washington DC. (202) 328-3244. or (800) 538-7418. sldn@sldn.org. www.sldn.org.

RELIGIOUS & SPIRITUAL

All Saints Memorial Church: 674 Westminster Street, Providence.

751-1747. asmcri@verizon.net. www.allsaintsmemorial.org.

Amicable Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming.

Pastor William Sterrett. Sunday 10am. 3736 Main Road, Tiverton.

624-4611. amicablechurch@aol.com, www.amicablechurch.org.

Association of Welcoming & Affirming Baptists: robin@awab.org, www.awab.org.

Barrington Congregational Church: UCC. “The white church.” Sundays 10am. 461 County Road, Barrington. 246-0111. office@bccucc.org, www.bccucc.org.

Bell Street Chapel: Unitarian Universalist. A Welcoming Congregation. Sundays 10am. 5 Bell Street, Providence. 273-5678. www.bellstreetchapel.org.

Beneficent Congregational Church: UCC.An Open & Affirming congregation in the heart of Providence. Sundays 10am. 300 Weybosset Street, Providence. 331-9844. BeneficentChurchUCC@ gmail.com, www.beneficentchurch.org.

Berean Baptist Church: A safe and welcoming place for all God’s children. Sunday 10am. 474 Chapel Street, Harrisville. 568-5411. bereanbaptist@verizon.net. www.bereanri.net.

Calvary United Methodist Church of Middletown: LGBTQ early dementia support group. Contact Amy. Sundays 10:30am. 200 Turner Road, Middletown. 847-6181, www.middletownmethodist.com.

Central Congregational Church: UCC. An Opening & Affirming Congregation. Sundays 10:30am. 296 Angell Street, Providence.

331-1960. www.centralchurch.us.

Channing Memorial Church: Unitarian Universalist. A Welcoming Congregation. Sundays 10am. 135 Pelham Street, Newport.

846-0643. administrator@channingchurch.org. www.channingchurch.org.

The Chapel of the Holy Spirit: Independent Old Catholic.

Fr. Jakob Lazarus. Sunday 9am and 6pm. 155 Douglas Avenue, Providence. 413-4821. www.holyparaclete.org.

Chapel Street Congregational Church UCC: Open & Affirming.

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185 Chapel St., Lincoln, RI. 722-7934. www.chapelstreetucc.com.

Charter Oak Grove ADF: An Open and Welcoming Congregation of Neo-pagan Druids in CT. charteroakadf@gmail.com, www.charteroakadf.org.

Christ Church in Lonsdale: 1643 Lonsdale Avenue, Lincoln.

Services 8am and 10:30am.725-1920.office@christchurchlincoln.org. www.christchurchlincoln.org.

Church of the Ascension, 390 Pontiac Ave., Cranston, RI 02910.

Sundays at 10am. 461-5811. www.ascensioncranston.org.

Church of the Epiphany: A diverse Open & Affirming Episcopal congregation. 1336 Pawtucket Avenue, East Providence. 434-5012. info@epiphanyep.org, www.epiphanyep.org.

Church of the Redeemer, a Welcoming Episcopal church. 655 Hope St., Providence. www.redeemerprovidence.org. office@ redeemerprovidence.org. Rev. Patrick Campbell, 331-0678.

Concordia Center for Spiritual Living: A diverse community welcoming all spiritual paths to God. Sunday Celebration 9:15am.

292 W. Shore Rd., Warwick. Rev. Ian Taylor, 732-1552. info@concordiachurchri.com. www.ConcordiaCSL.com.

Edgewood Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming.

Service 10am. 1788 Broad Street, Cranston. 461-1344. office@edgewoodchurchri.org. www.edgewoodchurchri.org.

Emmanuel Episcopal Church: Sundays 8 and 9:30am. 120 Nate Whipple Highway, Cumberland. 658-1506. office@emmanuelri.org. www.emmanuelri.org.

First Unitarian Church: A welcoming congregation.

Sunday 10:30am. 1 Benevolent Street, Providence. 421-7970. admin@firstunitarianprov.org, www.firstunitarianprov.org.

First Unitarian Church: Service 11am. 71 8th Street, New Bedford, MA. (508) 994-9686. admin@uunewbedford.org, www.uunewbedford.org.

First Universalist Society: UU. Welcoming congregation. Samegender weddings. 262 Chestnut Street, Franklin, MA. (508) 5285348. fusf@verizon.net, www.fusf.org.

Foxboro Universalist Church: UUA. Service 10am. 6 Bird Street, Foxboro, MA. 508-543-4002. chair@uufoxborough.org. www. uufoxborough.org.

Grace Episcopal Church in Providence: 175 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-3225. hello@gracechurchprovidence.org. www. gracechurchprovidence.org.

Hopedale Unitarian Parish: Sundays 10:30 am. 65 Hopedale St., Hopedale, MA. www.hopedaleunitarian.org, 508-473-0745. Rev. Tony Lorenzen.

Immanuel Lutheran Church: A Reconciling in Christ congregation. Pastor Sandra Demmler D’Amico. 647 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-2898. www.immanuellc.org.

Interweave at Channing Memorial UU Church: Organization for the spiritual, political and social well-being of LGBTQ persons, and their allies, confronting oppression. 135 Pelham Street, Newport.

846-0643.

Lutheran Church of the Good Shepherd: A “Reconciling in Christ” congregation (Welcoming). 3383 Old North Rd., Kingston, RI. Sundays 9 am. Pastor Mary Hansen-Joyce. 789-7776; office@ goodshepherdri.org.

Mathewson St. Church: United Methodist. 134 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-8900. MathewsonStUMC@gmail.com.

Mercy of God Community: Christian, inclusive religious order. mercycomm@yahoo.com, www.mgc.org.

Murray Unitarian Universalist Church: Marriage and commitment ceremonies for all. Rev. Bob McKetchnie.

505 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-0505 www.murrayuuchurch.org.

Newman Congregational Church: Open & Affirming. 100 Newman Avenue, Rumford. 434-4742. www.newmanucc.org.

Newport Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming.

Rev. Hayes and Rev. Baker. 73 Pelham Street, Newport. 849-2238.

Park Place Congregational Church: 71 Park Place, Pawtucket.

726-2800. office@ppucc.necoxmail.com, www.parkplaceucc.com.

Pilgrim Lutheran Church: An inclusive congregation. Sundays 8 and 9:30am. 1817 Warwick Avenue, Warwick. 739-2937. parishasst@pilgrimlutheranri.org, pilgrimlutheranri.jimdo.com.

Pilgrim United Church of Christ: Open and Affirming. 635 Purchase Street, New Bedford, MA. (508)-997-9086.

Providence Presbyterian Church: 500 Hope St., Providence.

Service 10 am. 861-1136. www.provpresri.org. provpresri@ verizon.net.

The Pub Church: An Open & Affirming church that meets in a pub. Location may change. Saturday 5pm. The Dugout, 722 Commonwealth Avenue, Boston, MA. thepubchurch@gmail.com.

Riverside Church: UCC.15 Oak Avenue, Riverside. Service 10am.

433-2039. www.rcc-ucc.com.

St. Augustine’s Church and Episcopal Center at URI: 15 Lower College Road, Kingston. 783-2153. Sundays 8am and 10am.

StAugustinesChurch@necoxmail.com, www.staugustineuri.org.

St. James Church: Episcopal. 474 Fruit Hill Avenue, North Providence. 353-2079.

St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: Sundays 8 and 10am. 50 Orchard Avenue, Providence. 751-2141. StMartinsNB.Secretary@gmail.com, www.stmartinsprov.org.

St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: Welcoming Church. Monthly LGBT Eucharist. 136 Rivet Street, New Bedford, MA. (508)9948972. stmartins1887@comcast.com, www.stmartinsma.org.

St. Paul’s Episcopal Church: Sundays 9am. 50 Park Place, Pawtucket. 728-4300. office@stpaulspawtucket.org, www.stpaulspawtucket.org.

St. Paul’s Church: A welcoming Episcopal church. Sundays 9am.

2679 East Main Street, Portsmouth. 683-1164. stpaulsportsmouthri. org.

St. Peter & St. Andrew’s Episcopal Church: 25 Pomona Avenue, Providence. 272-9649.stpanda25@verizon.net. www.stpeters-standrews.org.

Saint Therese Old Catholic Church: Open & Affirming. Fr. David Martins. Sunday 10:30am. 1500 Main St., W. Warwick, RI 02893. 680-9076. stocc134@gmail.com, www.saintthereseocc.org.

Second Congregational Church of Attleboro: UCC. Open & Affirming. 50 Park Street, Attleboro, MA. Sunday 10am. (508) 2224677. office2nd@verizon.net. www.attleborosecondchurch.org.

Seekonk Congregational Church: Open & Affirming. Sundays 9 and 10:30am. Rev. Joy Utter, 600 Fall River Ave., Seekonk, MA. (508) 336-9355. sccucc@verizon.net. www.scc-ucc.com.

Soka Gakkai: Buddhist association for peace, culture, and education.

Contact for weekly meetings in Providence. 930 Commonwealth Avenue, Boston. (617) 264-2000. www.sgi-usa.org.

Temple Agudas Achim: Reconstructionist congregation.

901 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-2243. office@agudasma.org, www.agudasma.org.

Temple Beth-El: Rabbi Sarah E. Mack. 70 Orchard Avenue, Providence. 331-6070. info@temple-beth-el.org, www.temple-beth-el.org.

Temple Emanu-El: A welcoming Conservative congregation.

Rabbi Wayne Franklin. 99 Taft Avenue, Providence. 331-1616. info@teprov.org, www.teprov.org.

Temple Habonim: A warm, Welcoming Reform congregation.

Rabbi Andrew Klein. 165 New Meadow Road, Barrington. 2456536. office@templehabonim.org, www.templehabonim.org.

Temple Sinai: A Welcoming Reform temple. Rabbi Jeff Goldwasser, 30 Hagen Avenue, Cranston. 942-8350. webmaster@templesinairi.org, www.templesinairi.org.

Unitarian Church in Fall River: Sunday 10:30am. 309 North Main Street, Fall River, MA. 508-678-9700. office@unitarianchurchfr.org, www.unitarianchurchfr.org.

Unitarian Universalist Society of Fairhaven: Service 10:30am.

102 Green Street, Fairhaven, MA. (508) 992-7081. www.uufairhaven. org.

Unitarian Universalist Congregation of South County: 27 North Road, Peace Dale. 783-4170 or Val 789-7282. uucscri@ yahoo.com. www.uusouthcountyri.org.

United Congregational Church, 524 Valley Rd., Middletown RI 02842. A Welcoming congregation. Sunday, 10 am. www.UCCMiddletown.org. 849-5444.

Westminster Unitarian Universalist Church: A UUA Welcoming Congregation. 119 Kenyon Avenue, East Greenwich.

884-5933. www.westminsteruu.org.

SOCIAL ORGANIZATIONS Bisexual Resource Center: PO Box 170796, Boston, MA. (617) 4249595. brc@bicresource.net www.biresource.net.

Biversity Boston: Mixed-gender social events for Boston and the surrounding area. (617) 424-9595. biversity-subscribe@biversity.org, www.biversity.org.

Boston Bisexual Women’s Network: Social activities including monthly brunches and quarterly publication, Bi Women Quarterly. www.biwomenboston.org.

Cape and Islands Gay & Straight Youth Alliance (CIGSYA): 56 Barnstable Road, Hyannis, MA. (508) 778-7744. info@cisgsya.org, www.cigsya.org.

Communisong: For unity through song. Non-performance monthly singing session. www.communisong.net.

Gay Men’s Social Group: FirstTuesdays,6 -- 9pm,Seven Hills Behavioral Health, 1177 Acushnet Ave., New Bedford, MA. Refreshments. Info: Lenny Amaral, 508-999-4159 or lamaral@sevenhills.org.

Imperial Court of RI at Providence: Drag and non-drag performers raise funds for local charities. All welcome to general membership meetings on first Monday at Dark Lady, 17 Snow Street, Providence. icri.prov@gmail.com. www.icriprov.org.

Mixed Borders Gardening Group: Gardening and more. Monthly meetings, all welcome. Mixedborders@cox.net. www.mixedborders.com.

Opera Club: Enjoy hearing and attending. Last Sunday of each month at 1pm. BrettCornellpi4@aol.com.

Providence Gay Men’s Chorus: New season rehearsals begin in January and August. Singers and non-singing volunteers welcome.

Monday 7-9:30pm. Beneficent Church, 300 Weybosset Street, Providence. www.provgmc.org.

Queer Book Club: 3rd Wednesday, 7pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence, queerbookclub@gmail.com.

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RI Association of Gay Professionals: Networking and philanthropy. www.riagp.com.

RI Parents Pride: Gay parents socializing together with their children.

Contact Melanie. 464-2288. saphicangel120@yahoo.com.

RI Pride: Open house 4th Wednesdays. Festival & Parade 3rd Saturday in June. Office: 1055 Westminster St., Providence 02903. Mail: PO Box 1082, Providence, 02903. 467-2130. info@prideri.com, www.prideri.com.

RI Prime Timers: Social and networking group for older gay and bi men. Second Sunday. Call Steve, 996-3010. www.riprimetimers.org.

RI Skeptics Society: Yearning to talk with someone rational? Refreshing discussion. Fourth Saturday. East Providence restaurant location. www. meetup.com/skeptics-133/.

RI Women’s Association: Lesbian social group. 21+. Dances & events. www.riwa.net.

SAGE/RI (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders): Advocacy, education and social events for LGBT seniors. Write to Church of the Transfiguration, 1665 Broad St., Cranston 02905, or email sageriinfo@gmail.com, or find us on Facebook.

SEMASSMEN: Social group for GBQ men of southeastern MA & RI to foster strong friendships. Semassmen-subscribe@ yahoogroups.com. rlevass@yahoo.com.

Smart Monkey Gay Men’s Support Group. Meets twice monthly in Cranston to learn about integrity, intimacy and male roles. Write Paul (ctripaul@yahoo.com) or Steve (43dadzone@gmail.com).

South Coast Social Club for Gay & Bisexual Men: Social and networking opportunities for gay & bisexual men in S.E. Mass. www. southeastsocialclub.com.

Yankee Lambda Car Club: Regional club for GLBT vintage and specialty car enthusiasts. www.yankeelcc.com.

SPORTS & RECREATION PrideSports Boston: Network of twenty-plus gay sports leagues/teams in Boston area. www.pridesportsboston.com.

Boston Gay BASKETBALL League: ksg.bgbl@gmail.com, www.bgbl.com.

BOATING: Yankee Cruising Club, New England’s club for LGBTQ boaters. www.yankeecruising.org. yankeecruisingclub@ gmail.com. Keith (508) 423-6123.

Big Gay Al’s Duckpin BOWLING League: Proceeds benefit AIDS causes. Tuesday 6:30pm. 1463 Atwood Avenue, Town Hall Lanes, Johnston. Contact Frank Ferri. 831-6940.www. bgalbowling.com. www.townhalllanes.com.

FIELD HOCKEY: Teamworks Somerset, 732 Lee’s River Ave., Somerset, MA. New season every 10 weeks. (508-676-3956) info@teamworkssomerset.com.

GALA Bowling League: Sundays 5:50 p.m., E. Providence Lanes, 80 Newport Ave., E. Providence. Season begins in Aug. View us on Facebook or email galabowling1990@gmail.com.

FLAG (For Lesbians And Gays) FOOTBALL: Bostonbased recreational football club. All skill levels are encouraged to participate. Saturday mornings in the fall and spring. www. flagflagfootball.com.

Boston Pride HOCKEY: www.bostonpridehockey.org.

Rondeaus KICKBOXING: 272-5425. www. rondeauskickboxing.com.

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Main Street MARTIAL ARTS: Non-profit. Welcoming dojo and community center. 1282 North Main Street, Providence.

274-7672.www.mainstma.org.

Chiltern Mountain Club: OUTDOOR recreation club in New England. events@chiltern.org. www.chiltern.org.

Boston Gay ROWERS: Worldwide online community for gay and lesbian rowers, coxies, coaches, and race officials. www.glrf.org.

Boston Ironsides RUGBY Football: www.bostonironsides.org.

Providence Women’s RUGBY Club: Competitive and recreational. www.providencerugby.com.

Frontrunners Rhode Island RUNNING Group: Running and walking group. Newcomers welcome. Meet at the end of Blackstone Boulevard at Hope Street, Providence.

Thursday 6pm. Contact Brian. 751-7643. bripm@cox.net, frontrunnersri@gmail.com.

Frontrunners Boston RUNNING Group: Morning walk/ run along the Charles River. Saturdays,10am. Club Cafe, 209 Columbus Avenue, Boston, MA. www.frontrunnersboston.org.

OutRyders SKIING: New England’s largest gay and lesbian ski and snowboard club. www.outryders.org.

Boston Strikers SOCCER Club: Non-profit social organization to learn and improve soccer skills in a relaxed, congenial environment. www.bostonstrikers.com.

Renaissance City SOFTBALL League: New players and boosters always welcome. www.providencesoftball.org.

Beantown SOFTBALL League: Friendly competition. 27 teams in four divisions of play: competitive, intermediate, and recreational. (617) 297-7490. www.beantownsoftball.com.

LANES (Liquid Assets New England SWIMMING): Fitness and/or competition. (617) 937-5858. www.swim-lanes.org.

TENNIS-4-All: Boston area tennis organization. www. tennis4all.org.

Cambridge Boston VOLLEYBALL Association: Players of all skill levels welcome. secretary@cbvolleyball.net www.gayvolleyball.net.

Ocean State Pride VOLLEYBALL League: Adult coed indoor league following USVBA rules. No try-outs. Fee applies. Kent County YMCA, 900 Centerville Road, Warwick. ospvolleyball@gmail.com.

East Coast WRESTLING Club: (617)937.5858 x6. ecwc@juno.com. www.eastcoastwrestlingclub.org.

STUDENTS & YOUTH Bristol Community College The Lambda Connection: (TLC@ BCC) Robert Delaleu, Advisor; BCC-G118, 777 Elsbree St., Fall River, MA (774)357-4056.

Brown University Queer Alliance: Umbrella organization at Brown University for LGBTQ groups. 863-3062. queer@brown.edu or lgbtq@brown.edu.

CCRI Gender Equity Initiative: SafeZone & Trans* 101 training.

Support, info for LGBTQ people and allies. www.ccri.edu/genderequity.

CCRI Triangle Alliance: an LGBTQQ student-run group at CCRI, on the Flanagan, Liston, and Knight campuses. www.ccri.edu/triangle/.

Home to Hope: Support for housing-insecure LGBT youth 13 -- 24. Crisis intervention, medical and other services. At YPI (743 Westminster St., Prov.) and Mathewson St. Church (134 Mathewson St., Prov.) varying days and times. For info/appointments: ayanna@ rihomeless.org or 484-7720.

LGBT National Youth Talkline: 800-246-7743. Private one-to-one chat and info on local resources.

Peer Listening Line: Youth-staffed hotline for GLBT youth. Support, info and referrals. 5-10pm. Fenway Community Health Center, Boston, MA. (617) 267-9001 or (800) 399-PEER. www.fenwayhealth.org.

Queer & Trans Thursdays: 6-8pm. Space for LGBTQ and heterosexual youth (24 and under) of color to foster coalition-building and organize to address intersections of oppressions. 669 Elmwood Ave., Rm. B7, Providence. www.prysm.us. 383-7450.

Rhode Island College LGBTQ+ Office: works towards inclusion of gender, gender identity/expression and sexual orientation in all appropriate aspects of campus life. 401-456-9033 www.ric.edu/lgbtq Salve Regina University – The Alliance: 100 Ochre Point Avenue, Newport. Contact: Benjamin Mead, benjamin.mead@salve.edu S.H.E.P.A.R.D. (Stopping Homophobia, Eliminating Prejudices and Restoring Dignity): Providence College, 1 Cunningham Square, Providence. 865-1631. shepard@providence.edu.

The Trevor Project: The only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis and suicide prevention helpline for LGBT youth. Also offers social networks. (866)4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386). thetrevorproject.org.

University of RI LGBTIQ2: Alumni association. 874-5808. gsimonelli@uri.edu.

URI LGBTQ Center: A cultural department for students, faculty and staff. Florence Badejo. 874-2894.

Youth Pride Inc.: Support, education & advocacy for LGBTQQ young people ages 13--23. Tues. -- Fri. 2 -- 8pm. The Way Out peer support group Thurs. 4pm. Gender Spectrum support group Tues. 4pm. Visit our website for full calendar of events. 743 Westminster St., Providence. 421-5626. info@youthprideri.org. www.youthprideri.org.

SUPPORT GROUPS & SOCIAL SERVICES

Abuse Victims and Survivors: Support on phone for LGBTQ victims & survivors of partner abuse. Confidential peer-led groups. Hotline: (617) 742-4911. TTY: (617) 227-4911. advocate@tnlr.org.

Adoption Options: Non-sectarian help. Jewish Family Service, 959 North Main Street, Providence. Contact Betsy Alper. 3315437. www.adoptionoptions.org.

Blackstone Valley Advocacy Center: Offering resources for victims of domestic violence. 723-3057. www.bvadvocacycenter.org.

Child & Family Services: Counseling, young parent support, adoption, more. LGBT groups beginning July. Open six days.

66 Troy St., Fall River, MA. (508) 676-5708. www.childfamilyservices.org Community Care Alliance: Stipend, assistance, training provided by Family Resources Community Action. 235-6095. www.famresri.org.

Community Care Alliance-Agape Providence: Transitional housing, drop-in center, testing, intensive case management, counseling, peer support for people living with HIV/AIDS. 292 Elmwood Ave, Providence. 572-3800. www.communitycareri.org Compass: FTM trans info, support and social group.

Boston first Thursday 7-9pm. compassftm@gmail.com. www.compassftm.org.

Crossroads RI Hotline: (800) 367-2700.

Day One: Counseling & legal aid for victims of sexual assault/ abuse & incest. 24hr hotline. (800) 494-8100. 421-4100.

www.dayoneri.org.

Domestic Violence Resource Center of South County: Support, court advocacy, counseling, safe home, info for women and men in abusive or controlling relationships. 24hr free and confidential helpline. 782-3990 or toll free 800-494-8100, www.dvrcsc.org.

Family Service of RI: Training, stipend, support provided for nurturing adoptive families. Family Service of RI. Contact Gregary Wright. 331-1350 ext. 3305. www.familyserviceri.org.

Foster parents needed: For newborn to age six. 276-4300. www.childrensfriendri.org.

Gay Fathers of Greater Boston: Support. 738 Main St. #323, Waltham, MA. (781) 333-8429. info@gayfathersboston.org, www.gayfathersboston.org.

Gay Men’s HIV+ Social Group: Third Tuesdays, 6 -- 9pm.

Refreshments. Seven Hills Behavioral Health, 1177 Acushnet Ave., New Bedford, MA. Info: Lenny Amaral, 508-999-4159 or email lamaral@sevenhills.org.

Gay Officers Action League (GOAL)/New England: Law enforcement officers (sworn & civilian), fire, rescue & publicly employed EMS. Confidential. P.O. Box 171587, Boston, MA 02117. www.newenglandgoal.org. On Facebook at NewEnglandGOAL. Gay Share: Coming Out? Gay men’s support group. No fee.

Wednesday 7:30pm. Contact Tom or Mike. 369-9448. info@ gayshare.org, www.gayshare.org.

LGBT Grief Support: Monthly meetings, usually 3rd Wed. 3:330 -- 5pm at Hope Hospice, 1085 No. Main St., Providence.

Center for Hope & Healing (888-528-9077).

Helpline for LGBT Youth: Trevor Helpline and social networks for crisis and suicide prevention. 24/7. (866) 4-U-Trevor.

HIV+ Gay Men’s Support Group: Refreshments served.

AIDS Care Ocean State, 18 Parkis Avenue, Providence. 5213603. New members contact Scott. 640-3108.

LGBTQ+ Pregnancy & Parenting Group: Free support group for people (partnered or not) parenting or considering it. First Saturdays at Open Circle in East Providence. Visit Facebook or email LGBTQpregnancyandparenting@gmail.com.

Mantalk of S.E. Mass: Thurs. eves. inTaunton, MA. Social support for gay, bi, and questioning men from Mass. and RI. Confidential, drug- and alcohol-free. Find us on Facebook and MeetUp. MentalHelp.net: National directory of inpatient treatment options for those with substance abuse problems. www. mentalhelp.net/care/substance-abuse/ri/.

Partner Support Group at Fenway Health: A ten-week support group with the purpose of building community and connections for anyone who identifies as non-trans, ages 18+, and is in a relationship with a trans* person(s). 1340 Boylston Street, Boston, MA. Contact Sarah Eley, LICSW. 857-313-6551. seley@fenwayhealth.org.

PFLAG (Parents, & Friends of Lesbians & Gays): Attleboro Chapter serves Southeast Mass. Third Wednesday 6:45 p.m., Second Congregational Church, 50 Park St. (side door). email pflagattleboro@gmail.com. Greater Providence Chapter serves all R.I. First Wednesday at 6:45 p.m., Met School, 325 Public St., Providence. 751-7571. PFLAGprovidence@gmail.com. www. pflagprovidence.org.

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Project RENEW: Support, employment services, HIV prevention for male and female sex workers. Amos House, 415 Friendship St., Providence. 272-0220. Trans support group meets Thurs. Info: transoutreachpwr@gmail.com.

Queer Transformative Roots (QTR): Queer & trans people of color organize campaigns to support stability for our communities. 669 Elmwood Ave., Suite B13, Providence 02907. www.prysm.us. 383-7450.

Rape Crisis Center for S.E. Mass: New Hope, Inc. Advocacy, shelter, services for domestic abuse survivors. Hotline (800) 323-HOPE. Office (508)226-4015.

RI Coalition Against Domestic Violence: 24hr helpline: (800) 494-8100. 467-9940.

RI Rainbow Support Group: For people with disabilities who identify as LGBTQ. Last Tuesday. 98 Rolfe Street, Cranston.

6-7:30pm. Contact Ken Renaud. 785-2100.

Samaritans: 24hr hotline for suicidal, lonely, despairing, depressed. (800) 365-4044. 272-4044 (RI only). www. samaritansri.org.

Seven Hills Behavioral Health: HIV Prevention and Screening.

310 South Main Street, Fall River, MA. (508) 235-1012. T.W.I.S.T. (508) 672-0378.

Sexual Health Education & Advocacy Program: HIV, sexual wellness, domestic violence risk reduction. Free, confidential, bilingual (Spanish). No caller ID used. Calls blocked for safety.

861-6191 ext. 121.

Sojourner House: Call for confidential support group.

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relationships. Including specific LGBT services. No caller ID used. Outgoing calls blocked for safety. 24hr helpline. 765-3232.

861-6191. Office 861-6191. www.sojournerri.org.

St. Mary’s Home for Children: Sexual abuse treatment for children. 450 Fruit Hill Ave., No. Providence. www.smhfc.org.

Adam Cable, 353-3900.

Straight Spouses: Groups and online support. www.straightspouse.org.

TGI Network of RI: Support, advocacy for transgender, transsexual, gender-variant and/or intersex people. Borderlands peer group 1st & 3d Tues. and 1st & 3d Sat. of the month.

Location & information: 441-5058. info@tginetwork.org. www. tginetwork.org.

Trans* Partners New England: Gives romantic partners of transgender people a confidential, safe space to explore the impact of a loved one’s gender identity on their relationships, and to connect with other loved ones of transgender people. First Wednesday 6:30-8:30pm. Providence. Location unpublished for privacy. partners@tginetwork.org.

Trans* Youth Family Allies: Support for gender-variant and transgender children ages 3-18. info@imatyfa.org, www.imatyfa.org.

Transgender American Veterans Association (TAVA): Growing organization to address the concerns of fair treatment of transgender veterans and active duty service members. www.tavausa.org.

Women’s Resource Center of Newport and Bristol Counties: Offering services to victims of domestic violence.

846-5263. www.wrcnbc.org.

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By Felicia Nimue Ackerman

I AM GAY, FATHER WILLIAM

"I am gay, Father William," the young man said, “And Nathaniel's my joy and my light.

We are glad that at last we can legally wed.

Won't you priests ever see this is right?"

"In my youth," Father William replied to the man, "I was taught it was bad to be gay.

But I've since come to see that you’re part of God's plan, And – guess what – I am also that way!”

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