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Jerry Pujals, Founder and Broker of Homestead Real Estate, has been a pioneer in the Napa real estate market for 25 years. From being an early adopter of technology to investing heavily in agent training, Jerry has a reputation for being a savvy business owner and a top-notch Realtor. But in an industry with such a high turnover rate (some estimates claim that up to 80% of real estate agents quit after 5 years), what is Jerry’s secret to success and longevity? We sat down with Jerry and Susan Pujals, his wife and business partner, for a candid Q&A to uncover what sets them and Homestead Real Estate apart from others, as well as their future plans.
Q: Jerry, how did you get started in real estate 25 years ago?
Jerry: In the 1990s, I invested $300 and opened a produce wholesale business. Within a few years I was selling $20 million in produce in the San Francisco area. But my life was very unbalanced. I was working long hours and barely had time for my family. A friend who was a real estate broker in central California suggested I give real estate a try. I did and really enjoyed building relationships with people and taking care of my clients. As a result, during my first 10 months in real estate I closed 55 transactions. By my second year I doubled that number. And I did this while keeping a healthy worklife balance.
Q: Susan, why did you decide to get involved in real estate and join Jerry in the business?
Susan: I got my real estate license in 2008. Prior to that, I was helping Jerry manage the training aspect of his business. He had written 2 successful books and was doing real estate training and seminars all over the country. So working together was common for us. By 2008, the kids were older and needed me less. I wanted something more to do that would offer me the flexibility to still be there for the kids. So I decided to get my real estate license. But when I entered the business in 2008, the real estate market was very different. Remember, this was the time when many people were losing their homes; short sales and bank-owned properties were plentiful. Some would say it was the worst time to become a Realtor, but in reality, it was a great time to learn the business because you had to be creative. You had to especially focus on people and help them. Even though the market was tough, I had a very good first year. Of course, I also had a great mentor.
Q: In 2020, you two decided to leave the safety of the national broker you worked with and start Homestead Real Estate. What led you to that decision?
Jerry: I realized several years ago that the real estate industry was undergoing a complete shift, and I always want to be ahead of shifts. With the advent of Zillow and other online platforms, consumers have access to so much more information than they used to without needing the assistance of a Realtor. So our role needed to shift, and most national brokers weren’t embracing that shift. I saw it coming and knew we had to work differently. For example,
we now have over 350 5-star reviews on Zillow. Because of this achievement, consumers contact us first for much of the inventory on the market, regardless of who the listing agent is. This allows us to keep our agents very busy. By starting our own company, we had the ability to embrace the shifting nuances of the industry earlier than most real estate agents. We’re able to go the extra mile for our customers and agents while giving them so much more than competing brokerages. This is what makes us stand out.
Q: Can you give an example of what “more” looks like for your buyers and sellers?
Jerry: We are the pioneers in offering a home rehab program to our sellers with zero interest loans. We come equipped with moving trucks, dump trailers, and other resources that traditional companies don’t offer. These resources allow us to make a client’s home market-ready. It’s not just staging-it could be repairing damaged floors or remodeling an outdated kitchen. We have a crew of 18 people who are specialized in every aspect of remodel and construction.
Susan: Also, we are truly pillars in our community, and that’s helpful for buyers. We know when homes are about to hit the market and strive to keep them updated. When we have people moving into the area who aren’t familiar with the local market, we help with neighborhood and home selection. We then refer them to our trusted partners for any and all needs-including mortgage brokers, moving companies, and home renovation contractors. Because of the relationships we’ve built over the years, the professionals we refer truly embrace our mindset of always giving more.
Q: In just a few short years you’ve built a large organization with 20 real estate agents and 6 support staff. What do you look for in an agent?
Jerry: First, we are a virtual company. We are not weighed down by brick and mortar, and that gives us so much more flexibility and resources. Because we are virtual, we only bring on the best talent – people who don’t make excuses and people who show up, lean in, and take advantage of all the tools and resources we have to offer. Our agents love surrounding themselves with like-minded energy and the connections with other professionals. They know our organization isn’t about competition. We provide our agents information and support so we can best help all of our clients. We’ve all worked with companies where agents compete for business with the owners. We do not subscribe to this way of doing business. Everyone on our team collaborates and works together, because ultimately this is what’s best for our clients.
Q: We keep hearing the news reports that the real estate market has shifted yet again. What are you doing during this current shift to stay successful?
Jerry: Yes. The market has shifted. We are educating our agents on how to pivot and better focus on the buyer or seller’s needs. We are also empowering our agents with cutting-edge tech-based
platforms to make them more efficient. We are giving them the tools to run a mobile business with brokers on demand 7 days a week and an in-house marketing and graphics team to support them. We don’t use the shifting market as an excuse to do less; rather, we double down on our training and marketing so we can all do more.
Susan: I also believe that when the market starts to shift, it’s more important than ever to focus on your clients. The good news about a shift is that you now have more time to catch up with people. After all, strong relationships are the key to a successful real estate business. I love networking and talking with people. I’m a Napa native, so I have a long history in the community and feel like everyone is a friend. I encourage our agents to adopt that same outlook, especially when the market is shifting. It’s important to check in with people you haven’t heard from in a while and find out what’s new with them. Families grow, people want to relocate, or they want to bring their parents closer. You can find so much opportunity during times of market shifts.
Q: What are your goals for Homestead Real Estate?
Jerry: We’re currently focusing on real estate within Napa, Sonoma, Solano, Sacramento. Our goals are to expand within these markets and to keep developing the best talent in our areas.
Q: How can you people reach you?
Jerry: We love our business and are on our phones 24/7. The best way to reach us is by calling or texting 707-249-0518 or 707-249-0819. You can always email us as well at either Jerry@homesteadreca.com or Susan@homesteadreca.com. Folks can also check out our website homesteadreca.com
Q: Any parting words?
Susan: Thank you for this interview and the opportunity to share our story. Most of all, we want to say thank you to our clients. You are the reason we are here, and we look forward to helping more of our neighbors achieve their real estate goals in 2023.
the group. Through crispy slices of juicy meat over a handmade tortilla, topped with a slice of pineapple, diced onions, fresh cilantro, and spicy salsa, the trio immediately fell in love (or back in love) with the city’s taqueria culture and knew they wanted to bring that experience state-side.
FFounded by husband-and-wife team Ben and Ali Koenig and their business partner Charles Whittaker, the idea for ‘Mothers’ was planted back in 2017 when the Koenigs visited Ali’s family in Mexico City. Another visit to CDMX (Mexico City) in 2022, this time with Whittaker, cemented the idea for
Unlike other local Mexican establishments, the group behind ‘Mothers’ aims to be ‘taco puristas’ (Taco purists), by featuring a menu focused almost solely on the taco.
“Everyone has a version of tacos,” says Charles Whittaker, the growing
“To us, a taqueria needs handmade tortillas cooked fresh on a plancha, salsas made ‘from scratch’ every morning and meats marinated piece by piece.”
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hospitality group’s operating partner and Director of Operations. “It’s a universal food and we know that there is no shortage of tacos in Napa. Tacos from Mexico City have a certain edge, a certain vibe and flavor profile that we obsess over. We wanted to bring that experience to the Valley.”
“We are not aiming to be a typical stateside Mexican restaurant, where tacos are merely a component of a much larger menu,” says Ben. “To us, a taqueria needs handmade tortillas cooked fresh on a plancha, salsas made ‘from scratch’ every morning and meats marinated piece by piece. We have placed an overriding emphasis on flavor and quality across the menu, which we hope is apparent from everyone’s first bite.”
The group spent over eight months in recipe development and worked with a Mexico City native and James Beard award winning chef out of Austin throughout the process. The recipe development team also consisted of Anthony Calderon, lifelong chef and currently the General Manager of the group’s flagship restaurant, Heritage Eats.
“Tacos are hard,” says Ednha Landin, General Manager of ‘Mothers.’ “There is a great amount of nuance to a taco, despite the perceived simplicity, and we want to make sure we are staying true to our initial vision, putting out the best taco possible. We deliberately chose to not
serve burritos, for example, or even tortilla chips. The focus of the menu means we can pour ourselves into the taco.”
The store has a fresh and clean décor reminiscent of a shop you might see in Mexico City. Walls are lined with white tile. Several brands of Mexican beers and soda stand in a self-serve chilled case. The team worked with Gospel Creative, a boutique branding and design firm out of Mexico City on the brand and interior design, with the goal of creating a taqueria vibe that could have its place on any number of the bustling streets of Mexico City.
The utilitarian Mexico City design of ‘Mothers’ is as ubiquitous as a diner style in America, steel and white tile, with accents of red and green.
“Tacos are meant to be for the ‘every man,’ a ‘working class’s’ food, so the
vibe, space and price point needed to reflect that,” continued Ben. “The sounds of meat being chopped, the visual of the masa being balled, pressed and cooked on a plancha, the smell of roasting peppers and sizzling al pastor, and the upbeat music all contributes to what we feel should be an experience that appeals to every sense.”
As the Valley ascends out of one of the wettest winters in recent memory, the team is currently putting the finishing touches on plans to add a 1,000-square foot patio on the south side adjacent to their location.
“We have approved plans to expand our parklet on the side of the building,” says Charles. “We’re just waiting for the opportunity to build.”
Responding to local feedback, the culinary team is also planning to
add off-cuts (Lengua, Tripa, Cabeza) to the menu in the Spring. They hope to appeal to the LatinX population and the more hardcore taco lovers in the Napa Valley.
The taco menu offers Pastor, shaved from the ‘trompo’; Suadero, which is slow cooked beef and CDMX staple; Chilorio, Sinaloan-style braised pork; Carne Asada, marinated grilled steak; Pollo Asado, chargrilled marinated chicken; Pescado, beer battered fish; and three vegetarian options, one vegan.
“Mothers Tacos was always meant to be a growth brand,” says Ben. “But we have no immediate plans to expand beyond Napa.”
“The most important thing to know is that we’re distilling the concept of authentic and craveable. We’re real and true to the concept, working non-stop to be the best we can.”
“One of our favorite things is having natives of Mexico City try our food. They’re tough critics and rightfully so. But after they’ve eaten their tacos and they look at us with eyes wide and say “uno mas,” we know we’ve done our job.” 3150 Jefferson Street, Napa | MothersTacos.com
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Spring is here and it is prime time to get out of your house and into your garden! If you’re wanting to plant a vegetable garden this year then now is the time to do it. Here in the Napa Valley we have Tax Day, April 15th, as our last frost date. Waiting until then to plant warm season vegetables like tomatoes, beans, corn, and squash in the ground means you won’t have to worry too much about frost hurting them. You can plant lettuces, strawberries, peas, swiss chard, bok choy, mizuna, beets, spinach, artichokes, and more this month.
Most fruits and vegetables appreciate at least 8 hours of direct sunlight and many need 12 for optimal performance. If you are limited and do not have garden spaces with that much sun then opt for cherry tomatoes, kale, or lettuces this summer.
Did you know you should be adding 2-3 inches of fresh potting soil to your raised beds each fall and spring if you’re growing veggies year round? And if you’re planting in the ground you should do the same but with compost! Whether you till this new soil in is a personal
choice and there are pros and cons to each method. There is lots of new science coming out that shows the strong benefits of ‘no-till’ for soil health!
OR SEEDS. If you’re unsure about your gardening skills then play it safe and start with seedlings. These will let you jump right past the tricky first few weeks after seeds germinate. If you have a bit of experience under your belt (or you’re feeling lucky) then planting seeds is often a very
fulfilling endeavor. Be sure to read the fine print on the back of the seed package as some seeds like to start with some sunlight and others prefer darkness, some like to be soaked overnight and others need to be thinned. You’ll also see how many “days until germination” which can tell you when you can expect to see your seeds sprouting.
PLANT SOME DEEP. Some plants are able to grow roots from their stems. Planting tomatoes, kale, peppers, broccoli and cauliflowers a few inches deeper than usual can mean more roots and plants that are better able to deal with our hot summer weather.
CONSIDER YOUR SPACING. Different plants often need different amounts of space to grow well. A strawberry plant might need 1 sq. ft. but the average pumpkin plant will need something closer to 30 sq. ft. Requirements for each plant are often written on the plastic plant tag or can be found by a quick internet search. Pay attention to these details and make sure you give each plant the room it needs to grow to its potential. Overcrowded plants can lead to disease (due to poor airflow) and increased fertilizer needs.
ADD SOME FLOWERS. Besides adding beauty,
veggie gardens will really benefit with the addition of certain flowers. French marigolds have stinky roots and leaves that can mask the smell of tomatoes and brassicas, thus hiding them from many bad bugs. Nasturtiums work as a type of ‘banker plant’ by luring aphids and other pests away from your tender greens and ensuring that there are pests around for good bugs to eat. Plant nasturtiums alongside lettuce, squash, tomatoes, and artichokes. Alyssum is another type of banker plant that attracts and feeds beneficial predatory insects. It will attract the good bugs that you need to save your vegetables from pests!
If you’re still feeling like you have anything other than a green thumb do not fear! Hopefully these five tips have helped you and increased your gardening confidence. If you have more questions then consider asking the gardeners working at Van Winden’s Garden Center which has been “Helping Napa Grow” since 1953 and is now celebrating 70 years in business!
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At this point, we all get it – the planet is in trouble, and needs our help. Desperately. The problem is trying to figure out what we as individuals can do about it. “City leadership is supporting Napa achieving net zero climate pollutants from public and private operations within the city by 2030,” said Erin Perna. “But what can local residents do to help?”
Perna is with the Environmental Education Coalition of Napa County (EECNC), the group that hosts Napa’s Earth Day Celebration. “At this year’s Earth Day event, we are going to showcase climate actions that everyone can take, so that we can achieve the 2030 goals the City of Napa has set.” She adds, “Whether you’re a homeowner or a renter, rely on a car or bicycle for transportation, there are steps you can take to make a meaningful difference. Effective change starts with each individual, because as cliche as it is, together we can make a difference,” said Perna.
This year’s Earth Day Napa Celebration is Sunday, April 23 from 11:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. at the Oxbow Commons, and the theme is “Inspiring Change Makers.” This is by no means a dry, stuffy, preachy event. While attendees will have the chance to
learn more about alternative energy, supporting local agriculture, watershed health, pollution prevention and more – fun is a key element of the day. Live performances begin at 11:00 a.m. and continue till 4:00 p.m. People of Earth and the Laura T Lewis Band will both be performing. Delicious local food, beer and wine will be available. Additionally, there will be interactive booths with games and crafts, activities for all to enjoy. As always, admission is free.
Originally, this was more of a ‘table-only’ affair, but after a few years, the organizers decided to add entertainment. “We want people to walk away with tools they can use to support the planet, but we want them to have a fun and memorable experience as well,” said Perna.
The sales of beverages have also made this a money-making event. Beer and wine are donated by local breweries and wine is provided by Napa Green certified wines. All of the proceeds from those sales fund the Field Trip Bus Grant program run by the Environmental Education Coalition of Napa County (EECNC). EECNC funds field trips for Napa County students to visit sites such as Skyline Park, Connolly Ranch, Carolyn Parr Nature Center and Bothe State Park where they can gain an appreciation of the local environment. Proceeds also support the Darcy Aston Environmental Advocacy Scholarship, which is awarded to a local high school student who is planning to pursue a career in environmental sciences.
Ride your bicycle to the Oxbow Commons and take advantage of free bicycle valet parking, provided by the Napa Bicycle Coalition. To keep in the spirit of the day and to help organizers achieve their goal of being a zero-waste event, bring your water bottles and stop by the Water Bar filling station.
And don’t miss the pre-party. Over the years, an increasingly popular aspect to the celebration is the Earth Day Community Cleanup, organized by Napa RCD, which runs from 9 a.m. to 11:30 a.m. “We had 250 participants at the 2022 Cleanup,” said Ashley Kvitek, who has organized the cleanup for the past four years. “People should bring gloves, a bucket and sturdy footwear that can get dirty.” Those wishing to help on the water can bring their canoes and kayaks, and meet at Kennedy Park. Although some of the stuff people will pick up can be muddy, it’s mostly manageable. “People are much more responsible with their large waste items, and now our main focus is micro trash – those little bitty pieces of plastic that look like fish food when they make it to the river.”
The first Earth Day in the country was held in 1970, in response to several environmental catastrophes, particularly the Santa Barbara oil spill and the Cuyahoga River fires of 1969. Many Americans felt it was time to take a more active
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May - Celebrate Spring with 8 Course special menu by a Celebrity Guest Chef
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“My mother has always been horse crazy,” says Devon Day, owner of Valley Brook Equestrian Center (VBEC), which is celebrating 10 years at its El Centro Avenue location in Napa. “She was a trainer and I was born into the horse business. I’ve always been enamored by the passion people have for horses. It’s about love, time and appreciation for these animals.”
Raised in Dallas, Texas, Devon came to Napa in 1995 by way of Colorado, where she taught riding for five years. After living in Calistoga, she relocated
to Napa in 2010 and taught at Rapp Ranch. Three years later, she jumped at the chance to buy VBEC (then Napa Valley Equestrian Center) and moved there with 26 horses.
“Napa has been good to me,” Devon says. “We’ve grown and grown. There’re never fewer than 40 horses here.”
VBEC offers English hunter/jumper boarding, training, showing, lessons and sales on their 10-acre parcel in Napa. They compete all over Northern California and have on-site
competitions the first Sunday of every month from April through October. With the addition of a grand prixsized outdoor covered arena, their own competitions will soon expand to include more winter months. The covered arena is in addition to the large outside arena already on the property. Both arenas have excellent footing for all weather conditions.
“The large, steel constructed, covered outdoor arena is 125 feet wide and 225 feet long,” says Devon. “It will be the largest covered arena in Napa Valley and enable us to have shows
forward seat style to allow the rider to stay in balance with the horse on the flat or over a course of fences. Judges grade in equitation (the art and practice of horsemanship), and a rider’s position, ability to clearly communicate with the horse and overall performance.
the equipment for riding. It’s under supervision at first. As riders move into group lessons, they begin to arrive a half hour early so they can be ready to go into the ring for the full hour lesson. They stay half an hour afterwards to take care of the animal. That’s how I was brought up, never with grooms. Students learn what’s needed and can do everything. In summer, some riders come all day.”
“One of the big misconceptions about riding is that people don’t see it as work, that it’s physically demanding, or they might think it’s made up of exclusively wealthy people. It’s not just for the elite.”
“Riding starts at affordable rates, but as students get serious and enter competitions, you have to
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OOne thing is certain, from birth to the end of our days, we will have either been cared for or have given care to another. Many times, around-the-clock care happens at home, and the responsibility for caregiving and companionship, falls on a family member. I know a few people who have not only cared for at least one loved one . . . but multiple loved ones, sometimes sacrificing years of their own lives. I consider these people angels among us. There is no question that they each
have something special inside, that allows them to take on the sometimes rewarding and sometimes heart-heavy tasks of the day-today care of someone they love.
One lady I know has cared for both of her in-laws, at the same time, for years—both are bed-ridden and physically dependent. Another person I know has cared for numerous of her loved ones, consecutively, beginning about 20 years ago with her
maternal grandmother. Soon after that loved one passed, her husband’s grandmother lost the capacity to care for herself, and she moved in and was lovingly cared for, 24 hours a day at their home for years. Not long after that, another very close relative of the same friend was in need of almost daily care as he awaited a major organ transplant. Without question, my friend learned how to properly care for him—at home. As if all those situations weren’t enough for one person to handle, my friend then assisted both of her own parents through illness, and the end of their lives—one after the other.
I cannot imagine the strength it took for her to care for so many loved ones for such a long stretch of time. Occasionally, there was support from Hospice, which was much appreciated. Our family and friends may share their day-to-day experience caring for others with us, there is so much of what they encounter that may never cross our minds until we may find ourselves in the same position.
Another dear friend of mine, Lynn Abaté-Johnson, from February 2011 to May 2017, cared for her mother, Rosemary Ann Hakim, (known to family and friends as Rah-Rah or RAH), as she faced a long, protracted illness caused by cancer. RAH was a strong and smart woman, determined to make her best effort to thrive and survive. Lynn was going to do all in her power to help her mom through.
To help keep family members informed of doctor’s visits, test results,
and RAH’s day-to-day needs and routine, Lynn began to keep a journal. Putting pen to paper, writing almost every day, Lynn detailed their journey resulting in the culmination of a recently published book, “Out of Love: A Daughter’s Journey with her Mom to the End.”
This book is an excellent primer for anyone who has become or may become a caregiver, in which Lynn addresses: “…your fears, anxieties, conflict, joy, humor, doubt, rage, sadness, anger, guilt, and more.” On the pages, the reader is taken from Lynn’s ‘deer-in-the-headlights’ situation, to becoming a loving caregiver, writing with a commitment to others “to having them feel comforted by knowing I’m with you there in spirit, at your service.”
Filled with many thoughtful reflections and suggestions, the book may help a caregiver feel as though
they are not completely alone—a common occurrence for someone who may be involved in another’s care, 24 hours a day. As one person I interviewed shared his thoughts with me, he spoke of being responsible, yet powerless at the same time.
Lynn writes about the importance of managing expectations . . . when it comes to these situations, there is no control. If you feel the need to ‘control’ something, Lynn suggests that you . . . “Make a list.” Trusting your instincts is something that will also be of great help. At the beginning of RAH’s illness Lynn didn’t yet trust her gut. As time passed, she learned that when she, “listened to her body, heart, and soul,” she was able to, “get out of her head and move into a place of trust.”
Humor was at the top of the list when it comes to managing the stress
of caregiving. Learn to laugh and normalize the funny stuff. One of Lynn’s friends commented on something Lynn had written in the journal one day . . . “These journal entries are better than TV or the Comedy Club! How you interpret for us in print the humorous moments in a day filled with challenges! It’s beyond me! I feel so blessed to know you, RAH and your amazing family of angels.”
During one of RAH’s hospital stays, Lynn seeing her mom fall from the toilet into a trash bin was one of her most hilarious memories, Lynn’s journaling reminds us. “Laugh when you can—anytime you can.”
Just getting enough sleep is a challenge, as well as, depending on your own personal strengths and giving others room to step in to help when you feel exhausted. Navigating guilt must be one of the more difficult things for a caregiver. Not to mention that the ‘feeling of relief’ is absolutely acceptable when a loved one has succumbed to an illness.
There’s a section called “Further Inquiry” at the end of each chapter which provokes self-reflection and an opportunity for the caregiver to see a bigger picture, not only for the loved one, but for the caregiver’s own sense of well-being. I found this helpful as Lynn encourages the reader to take her experience and use that as a springboard to address thoughts, concerns and questions any caregiver may have.
Lynn’s journey began taking care of her mom, but she also found herself being led down the road of self-care. A life-long desire to take better care of her own health became the focus of the past couple of years and resulted in a well-rested, healthier and more personally joyous outcome for Lynn and her husband, Corey, who took the leap of faith with her and stepped into a future of health and self-care.
APRIL 1
3RD ANNUAL ¡VIVA MARIACHI!
This cultural event at the NVC Performing Arts Center promotes the rich heritage and traditions of Mexico through Mariachi music and music education. The Viva Mariachi Festival is once again hosting youth/student groups representing three levels of our nation’s public institutions: middle school, high school and college. performingartsnapavalley.org
APRIL 6
KELLIE FULLER AND THE MIKE GREENSILL TRIO
Kellie Fuller and the Mike Greensill Trio presents, Close to You: Songs of Burt Bacharach. Enjoy an evening of some of his most beloved songs, paying tribute to this legendary music icon. bluenotenapa.com
APRIL 12
LOCALS NIGHT: MARSHALL HOUSE PROJECT
Marshall House Project is a driving soul funk outfit with one foot
rooted deep in the pockets of the past and the other fearlessly exploring the deep fry of the future. Reservations are not taken; it is a first come, first seated venue. If you are a Napa County local, show ID upon arrival, tickets do not need to be purchased. bluenotenapa.com
APRIL 13
COLIN HAY
Rolling Stone (has) praised his “witty, hooky pop” tunes, while NPR’s World Café lauded his “distinctive voice,” and late night hosts from David Letterman and Craig Ferguson to Jimmy Fallon and Jimmy Kimmel have all welcomed him for performances. uptowntheatrenapa.com
APRIL 16
JOHN OATES
John Oates is one half of the best-selling duo of all time, Hall & Oates, as well as an accomplished solo artist. He is a member of the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame, The American Songwriters Hall of
Fame, recipient of the prestigious BMI Icon Award, multiple Grammy nominations and more. Since forming his creative partnership with Daryl Hall in the early 1970s, they have gone on to record 21 albums, making them the most successful duo in rock history. uptowntheatrenapa.com
APRIL 21
SILENT SKY
This true story of 19th-century astronomer Henrietta Leavitt was written by the Bay Area’s Lauren Gunderson, who has become America’s most produced playwright. It explores a woman’s place in society during a time of immense scientific discoveries, when women’s ideas were dismissed until men claimed credit for them. luckypennynapa.com
APRIL 22
ALDEA'S 51ST ANNIVERSARY FUNDRAISER
Join Aldea at Tre Posti in St. Helena as they acknowledge 51 years of impeccable service and tireless dedication to the children and families in our community. Plan on a night of great music, tasty food, fabulous auction items and overwhelming generosity from their incredible community partners, donors, volunteers, and staff. aldeainc.org
APRIL 23
EARTH DAY NAPA
The Environmental Education Coalition of Napa County (EECNC) presents the 2023 Earth Day Napa celebration at the Oxbow Commons in Downtown Napa from 11 am to 4 pm. This annual event connects people to local businesses and organizations that provide earth-friendly and creative pathways towards a sustainable future. Earth Day Napa is a time to honor and celebrate this planet that we all share. At this event, there is something for every segment of our community. There will be live music and performances, as well as beer, wine and food for purchase. All proceeds from the beer and wine sales benefit EECNC’s Field Trip Bus Grant Program
and the Darcy Aston Scholarship. Admission is free, dogs on leashes are welcome, a water bottle refilling station is provided, and there will be a free bike valet hosted by the Napa Bike Coalition. napaenvironmentaled.org/earth-day
APRIL 29
DAN & CLAUDIA ZANES
Grammy Award-winner Dan Zanes, an original member of the 80s band, The Del Fuegos, and Haitian-American music therapist/ Jazz vocalist Claudia Zanes specialize in a style they call “all-ages social music,” mixing old and new songs. Every performance is a party when “… the best new thing in Family Music” comes to town! In their work, Dan and Claudia tackle themes of racism inequality, community, social justice and paying forward positive messages for new generations. This highly interactive concert will inspire dancing in the aisles and singing along as the duo performs homespun, artful and joyful music for all to enjoy. eandmpresents.org
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