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VOL. 16 NO. 5 JUNE 2016
Sleepless in Seattle + Oprah True Love for = Northwest Couple
H
ow does an artistic free spirit from California and a logical engineer from the Northwest meet and fall in love? Courtesy of the Oprah Winfrey Show, thank you.
The year was 1993 and Sleepless in Seattle was a blockbuster hit movie. It starred Tom Hanks as a recently widowed man whose 8-year-old son calls a radio talk show to help find his father a wife. Meg Ryan plays one of thousands of women who were so moved by the grieving man’s story that they write the radio station asking to meet him. Later that same year, triggered by the movie’s success, the Oprah Winfrey Show asked five men from the Seattle area who had lost their wives to cancer to tell their stories. Oprah invited women viewers to write in asking to meet the men. It was one of the most popular shows of the season and in a case of life imitating art, the response was overwhelming. Within a week or so, Oprah drove a forklift onto the set carrying thousands upon thousands of letters from women wanting to meet the widowers. Each of the men chose someone from the mountain of letters to go on a date with, which was filmed for a later Oprah show. None of the dates turned into relationships. Enter rita ann (small r, small a) of Santa Cruz County, California. She was one of those thousands of women who had written to the men. She noticed Boeing engineer Jim Schwarting right away because he was very tall (6’4”) and his career sounded interesting. But mostly she was moved by the story he told of his late wife. She was both moved and daunted; Jim’s wife was a doctor (psychiatrist) who played ten musical instruments.
Jim and rita Schwarting of Kent are still in love all these years after meeting courtesy of Oprah Winfrey
“But it isn’t a big risk,” thought rita, “what are the chances he’ll even see my letter?” rita didn’t have many recent photos to include with her letter, heart of a poet,” she declares. rita was enchanted and responded right away. but she did have one where she was “We met in March of 1994 in wearing Groucho Marx glasses. That is the photo the ever-whimsical rita sent. Seattle,” she says. They had spent a lot of time talking on the phone and Jim received an overwhelming exchanging letters, so they felt they 10,000 letters. After his date filmed could be friends before they ever met. for the Oprah show, as well as other “Our first meeting was easy.” dates that people kept setting up for Their whirlwind courtship him, he had stopped reading through the letters. But then, during his annual consisted of rita flying to Seattle for Boeing Christmas hiatus, he decided to long weekends and Jim flying to stay with her in Capitola, California. take another look. He was organizing “When he first came down in them into piles – one stack represented April 2014, we spent the first evening those he would send a postcard to and with 25 the other or more of stack was my friends. for those Everyone he would was respond checking to with a the guy letter. out,” Jim was sorting In a tribute to the Groucho Marx glasses that were a key says rita. to the Schwarting’s first meeting, wedding guests wore “Saturday, through we went to the piles of Groucho glasses after the vows my brother’s house, where my mother mail when he came across rita’s letter; her Groucho glasses caught his eye. He was living. And on Sunday, I had about 30 people at my house to meet placed the letter on top of a tall stack he intended to answer with a postcard. him.” They’d had a full few days, but on Then he left to walk the dog. When he returned, rita’s letter had Monday rita wanted to visit her mother again in Oakland, as was her practice. fallen from the stack and landed on his computer keyboard. That really is a Jim agreed. “We were sitting at the dining room table with my 83-year-old cute photo, he thought. He could tell mom, when all of a sudden Jim said she had a sense of humor. He moved her envelope to the top of his tall stack to my mother, ‘Mrs. Landmann, what would you say if I asked your daughter to answer with a letter instead of a to marry me?’ Without skipping a beat, postcard. Then he left for dinner. Mom’s response was, ‘If she doesn’t say When he came back, rita’s letter yes, I will!’ had fallen to his keyboard again. “After that, we had our long drive “It’s a sign,” he said to himself. back to Capitola. I put in a cassette Those very words are a recurring tape; it was all about living life to the theme in the movie, Sleepless in Seattle. fullest, taking risks and being in the It seemed that this relationship was moment…wonderful stories about meant to be. Jim sat down then and celebrating life. I’m driving down the there and wrote to rita. back mountain road and Jim said, ‘I “It was kind of a miracle when I guess I need to take a risk. Will you got his letter,” says rita. “So much time marry me?’ had passed that I’d forgotten all about “Wait a minute,” said the plucky it.” But Jim’s letter was wonderful and charming. “Jim is an engineer with the rita, who was still driving on the
mountain road. “You said if you ever proposed, you would get down on one knee. I’ll wait for that.” When they got to town they went directly to the jewelry store and asked the owner, Harry, if he would be a witness. “Jim got down on his knee and proposed. Then we went around the corner to my best friend’s store and announced that we were engaged!” The couple was married in Santa Cruz on November 4, 1994 – the oneyear anniversary of the airing of that fateful Oprah show. The wedding is a story all unto itself. Their children stood for them (rita has a son, Jim a daughter). Unbeknownst to Jim, rita brought Groucho glasses for the entire wedding party. After the couple said their vows they turned to face the audience to behold a sea of Groucho glasses, which everyone wore during the song The First Time Ever I Saw Your Face. Like any couple, the Schwarting’s have had their shares of adjustments. “It wasn’t all a walk in the park,” said rita. “But we walked it together.” When she moved, rita left behind her own business and a community of friends. Luckily, her mother moved in with the couple shortly after they were married, and her son moved to the area six months later. She even has a cousin in Bellevue she never knew existed. Having family nearby is important to rita. “It’s a cool thing because growing up I didn’t have any extended family,” says rita, whose parents were immigrants and who lost family members in the Holocaust. “Having this sudden family has been just wonderful.” rita and Jim continue to happily share their lives together, engaged in the community, surrounded by children, grandchildren, family and friends. They are surrounded by love. The story of rita and Jim is the stuff of fairy tales … or at the very least a good romantic comedy! ❖