2025 NPI Endeavors Annual Publication

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October2025

The Nashville Psychotherapy Institute is a 501(c)(6) nonprofit, professional organization. Founded in 1985, NPI now boasts 370+ members.

ThepurposeofNPIincludes providingcontinuingeducation programsforpracticing psychotherapistsandpromoting interdisciplinarydialogueand supportamongthevarious psychotherapeuticprofessions.NPI’s searchabletherapistdirectoryisa wayformemberstomarkettheir practice,makereferralsand connectwithpatients.

NPIstrivestocultivaterespectwithinour communityforpeopleofallabilities,ages, countriesoforigin,ethnicities,genders, genderexpressions,races,religions,and sexualorientations

Letter from the Chair

InpreparingtowritethisarticleaboutthestateofNPIinFall2025, IreferencedthearticleIwrotelastyearasChair-elect.

Asmanyofyoureadersknow,oneofthechallengesofthis“volunteergig” iskeepingtheenergygoing Itcanbeanintensivetimecommitment Whydosomanyofussignupforit?Ithinktheansweristhatwe feeltheimportanceofhavingaprofessionalcommunityforsupport, education,andconnection.Ithasbeenimportantoverthelast40yearsandnow,morethanever,itfeelsintegralfor professionalandpersonalhealth. ItiswithgratitudethatIcanreportthatthestateofNPIisstrong. Westandat370members,withthestrongestgrowthamongourEarlyCareermembers,animportantdemographic! Our financials are solid with a 17% increase in revenue which allows us to create additional programming and membershipopportunities,aswellassupportasmallincreaseinourexecutivecoordinator‘sweeklyhours.Wealso dedicatedsomefundstoasocialmediaassistantwhichhasallowedouronlinepresencetogrow(Wehadlessthan 80Instagram followersinJanuary andnowhave890!) Thisprovidesanothermediumforpromotionofeventsas wellasconnectingwithcommunitypartners Speakingofcommunitypartners,wecontinuedourfundraisingmodel shift and now have seven corporate partners and three community partners. These relationships allow us to gain moreofafootholdinthecommunityandallowourpartnerstoaccessourmembership.Inreturn,ourpartnerships helpstabilizeourfinancialfoundation.

We completed a membership survey last year and hopefully you have noticed some of your suggestions implemented this year in programming or networking events. We started the year with a snowed-out luncheon, so wepivotedtoanonlinetraining Ifyoumissedit,checkitouthereonourYouTubeChannel.Wewereabletogather inFebruaryandinfactover75attendeescametohearJessicaHyne’stalkon"Fromfragmentationtofreedomand wholeness: Healing from shame and high control religious groups through the lens of Somatic Experiencing and InternalFamilySystems.”Thatsamemonth,wehadoureveryotheryearConnectionRetreatatbeautifulStMary’s at Sewanee Retreat Center. This event brought long-time members, as well as newer members, who were able to takeadvantageof anopportunitytogetawayfrombusyNashville,checkoutNPIandearnsomeCEUs.

While we have worked to celebrate our 40 anniversary throughout the entire year, we officially marked the occasion with a lovely April celebration at the home of David McMillan and Marietta Shipley. A 40 anniversary committeediligentlyplannedandorganizedtheevent.TwentyNPIMembersservedaspatronswhichallowedusto partiallyfundtheeventandofferdiscountedticketpricestomembers InJuly,weofferedaCarefortheCaregiver event where members came together, relaxed on a warm evening, participated in self-care activities, and enjoyed thecompanyofothermembers(makesuretocheckoutphotohighlightsinthisissue!).

Whilecontinuingeducationmonthlyluncheonsremainour“anchor”activity,wedidofficially“brand”NPIatNight as a second monthly activity. Strictly social in nature, we gather at a local restaurant on the 4 Thursday of the month. th

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TiffanyDavis,LCSW

OftenmemberspopinaftertheirlastclientonThursdaytosayhello,talktoothersthatarenotclientsorspousesor children,blowoffsteam,andcheckoutNPI Ithasproventobeanotherentrypointfornewermembersandoffersa purelysocialgatheringoption Agroupnottobeforgottenisourstudentmembers Studentoutreachhascontinued withMembershipcommitteemembersvisitingdifferentgraduateschoolprogramsandeducatingaboutNPI We welcomedstudentsbacktoschoolwithaSeptemberStudentMixer StillyettocomethisyearisourannualFall WorkshopinNovemberFallco-sponsoredwiththeNashvilleGroupPsychotherapySocietyentitled,“ThouShaltNot: Howreligionharmsandrelationshipsheal,”andourEthicsandSuicidePreventionTraininginDecember Wewill celebratetheendofour40 yearwithourannualHolidaySocialandRaffleonDecember11th! th

Weareexcitedaboutsome2026experientialgroupoptionsthattheResetCommitteehasbeenworkingon formulating-thesewillserveasanopportunityformemberstodosome“internalwork”oftheirownaswellasearn CEUs.OurProgrammingCommitteehasbeenbusypreparingnextyear’sevents(SeeChair-electRobertDeSalvo’s columnforthesedetails!).WhenwelookeddownatthecalendaratthisSeptemberBoardmeeting,wetookadeep breathandrealized(WOW!)westillalotofgreatopportunitiesforgatheringandlearningaswefinishout2025.

Ofcourse,noneofthiscouldhappenwithoutthediligentwork,time,andenergyofthecurrentBoard(and committeesmadeupofBoardmembersandotherNPImembers)buildingontheworkofNPIBoardsoverthelast40 years!Thankyouto2025NPIBoardandthankyoutoourmembersforsupportingNPI’smissionwithyourtimeand energy!Wecouldn’tbewhowearewithoutyou.Here’stothenext40years!

From the Chair-Elect

LookingAhead:AYearofInnovation,Connection,andCollaboration

As we look at starting another year, and as I step into the role of Chair for our organization, I want to take a moment to share both my gratitude and my excitement for what lies ahead Being part of a community of therapists and providers who are dedicated to growth, integrity, and care has been a source of professional inspiration and personal grounding. Our organization is a space where we come together to support one another, challenge each other, and stay curious about what’s possible in the world of psychotherapy and personal growth In that spirit, I want to offer you a glimpse into a vision for the coming year: a year centered around new, interesting, and up-and-coming concepts and therapies the kind of ideas that spark our curiosity, stretch our thinking, and enrich the work we do with clients.

SpotlightonOur2026Theme:ExploringWhat’sNextinTherapy

Therapy, and mental health generally, is always evolving New research emerges, new models are developed, and new modalities are introduced that challenge us to rethink the ways we approach healing. My hope is that our monthly luncheon series and other trainings will become a place where we can encounter those innovations together where we can be learners again, open to fresh perspectives and energized by the creativity and bravery of colleagues who are forging new paths

While a core commitment to ethical, evidence-based care remains steady, I also believe there is tremendous value in exploring the edges of the field such as the growth and integration of artificial intelligence, culturally responsive and decolonizing frameworks, sex-positive therapy, or other similarly exciting topics These are not just “trends” they represent real opportunities to deepen our work and expand the options we offer our clients.

CelebratingOurNewBoardMembers

As we look forward to this new chapter, I also want to take a moment to celebrate the new board members who are stepping into volunteer leadership roles with us this year Each of them brings a unique blend of experience, dedication, and passion for the mental health field, and I’m thrilled to welcome them onto the board.

Rebecca Selove, Chair-Elect, brings a significant history of involvement with NPI including previous time on the board of directors and fastidious involvement in committees She is also a winner of the Movimiento Guerrilla de Diversidad award which recognizes an NPI member who makes considerable effort to serve diverse and marginalized populations and to promote social justice.

Renee Doe, Board Member, offers deep expertise supporting clients who struggle to access their emotions, are neurodivergent, or have experienced environmental or relational trauma Alongside her work with NPI’s Reset Committee, Renee has extensive nonprofit, volunteer, and humanitarian experience around neurodivergence, attachment wounds, life transitions, anxiety, and couple and family conflict.

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Abby Van Eman, Board Member, is an energetic presence that has been significantly involved with several NPI committeespriortojoiningtheboardintheupcomingyear.Shealsoclinicallybringsexperienceincludingmen’s neurodivergence,attachmentwounds,lifetransitions,anxiety,andcoupleandfamilyconflict.

Amy Ridings, Board Member, brings a strong history of community involvement through fundraisers, school initiatives, local cleanups, and addressing urban food issues alongside therapeutic work blending grounding practiceslikebreathworkwithSomEx,EMDR,andDBT.

Stu Walker, Board Member, has experience in music and consumer goods sales and marketing, plus years of community work as a volunteer DJ and arts advocate As a counselor, he fosters healing through authentic connection,helpingadultsnavigateADHD,grief,andlonelinesswhiledeepeningself-awareness,spirituality,and wholeness.

Kellee Ewing, Student Member, joins us as a current student at Lipscomb University in their Clinical Mental Health Counseling program which is a career transformation after extensive experience in the medical business world, bringing strategic vision, cross-functional expertise, and a passion for empowering others, as well as havingadeepcommitmenttophilanthropyandcommunityservice.

Krista Gray, Board Member, rejoins us for another 3 years on the board after serving on the Membership and Programming committees. Along with her tireless volunteer work for NPI over the past 3 years, she brings deep expertiseintrauma-informedcare,specializinginpersonalitydisorders,complexPTSD,ADHD,autism,andother mentalhealthchallenges.

David Spielmen, Treasurer, is completing his current board term and has committed to another three years as incoming Treasurer. With experience shaping the Membership Committee and speaking at a luncheon this year, he contributes energy and dedication alongside his clinical expertise with Autistic, ADHD, and LGBTQ+ individuals

GetInvolved:CommitteesThatMakeaDifference

Ourorganizationissustainednotjustbytheboard,butbythecontributionsofourmemberswhoserveon committees.Thesecommitteesaretheheartbeatofourorganizationandtheplacewhereideasturnintoactionand wheremeaningfulconnectionsarebuilt.

DevelopmentCommittee:Helpsbuildthefinancialandstructuralsustainabilityofourorganizationthrough fundraising,partnerships,andresourcedevelopment

MembershipCommittee:Workstogrowandsupportourmembershipbase,ensuringourmembersfeel welcomed,valued,andconnected.

ProgrammingCommittee:Plansoureducationalofferings,includingourmonthlyluncheons,workshops,and specialevents

SocialJusticeCommittee:Focusesonequity,inclusion,andculturalhumilitywhilesupportingusincreating spacesthathonordiverseidentitiesandexperiences.

ReSetCommittee:Centersontherapistwellnessandself-care,helpingusnurturethenurturersbyoffering restorativeandrejuvenatingopportunities.

Servingonacommitteeisoneofthemostrewardingwaystobeinvolved It’sachancetobuilddeeperrelationships, developleadershipskills,andshapethefuturedirectionofourorganization Ifyou’vebeenthinkingaboutgetting moreinvolved,thisisawonderfultimetojumpin

YourVoiceMatters:WeWelcomeYourFeedback

OneofthethingsIappreciatemostaboutourorganizationisthatithasalwaysbeenshapedbythepeopleinit We arenotstatic wearealive,evolving,andlearningtogether,whichisespeciallyimportantduringtimesof environmentalturmoilanduncertainty.Thatmeansyourfeedback,suggestions,andideasmatter. Ifthere’ssomethingyou’dlovetoseeusdodifferently,atopicyouthinkwouldmakeagreatluncheonpresentation, oraninitiativeyoubelieveweshouldexplore,Iwanttohearfromyou.Ourgoalisnotjusttoberelevant,buttobe responsive.Themorewehearfromyou,themorethisorganizationcanreflecttheneeds,hopes,andvaluesofits members.WearealsoexcitedtobesoonintroducingaQRcodetoscantoprovidequickfeedback.

AYearofPossibility

AsIlookaheadtomytermasChair,Ifeelasenseofpossibility.Wehaveanopportunitytocontinuebuilding somethingmeaningfultogetherandtostaycurious,tosupportoneanother,andtoembracetheinnovationsthatcan helpusgrowastherapistsandaspeople.Myhopeisthattheyearaheadwillbemarkedbycreativity,collaboration, andconnection.

Thankyoufortheworkyoudoquietly,steadfastly,andoftenwithoutrecognitionbothwithyourclientsandthe community.Andthankyouforbeingpartofthisparticularcommunity.Iamhonoredtoservealongsideyouand excitedforthejourneyahead.

Here’stoayearofdiscoveryandtoallthewayswewilllearnandgrowtogether.

TheEraofAntipathologyisHere

Since2003,Ihaveworkedattheintersectionofhumandevelopment, education,communitymobilization,andsystemstransformation.

AstheformerCEOofPACEsConnection,aninternationalnonprofit raisingawarenessoftheACEsstudy,andnowfounderof CockhrenConsulting,Ihavecollaboratedwithschools,grassroots movements,nonprofits,hospitals,andgovernmentagenciesto addressstressandtrauma.Thesearenotabstractconversations;they areurgentinterventionsinhomes,communities,andinstitutions bucklingundertoxicstress,trauma,burnout,andinequity.

Myexpertisewasfeaturedin "ReducingStressinSchools:RestoringConnection&Community" (Harvard EducationPress,2025),whichexploredhoweducationalenvironmentsmustberedesignedtoviewtoxic stressnotasanindividualfailing,butasasystemicphenomenon.

Basedontwentyyearsinthiswork,Icanconfidentlysaytheeraofantipathologyishere.

In2022,theWorldHealthOrganizationreleased“WorldMentalHealthReport:TransformingMentalHealth forAll”.Thereporthighlightedthat“exposuretounfavorablesocial,economic,geopoliticaland environmentalcircumstances,includingpoverty,violence,inequalityandenvironmentaldeprivation,also increasespeople’sriskofexperiencingmentalhealthconditions”(WorldHealthOrganization[WHO],2022, p.18).ThisreportvalidatedwhatIhadseenfordecadesinhomes,schools,andcommunities. Everyheadline,datareport,andtherapist’scaseloadconfirmsthattheU.S.isinamentalhealthepidemic. Sustainedratesofdepression,anxiety,suicidality,substanceuse,burnout,violence,andpolitical polarizationreflectnotonlyindividualstrugglebutsystemiccollapse.Yetmentalhealthprofessionals remaintrappedinsymptommanagement,treatingdistresswhileignoringitsrootcauses.

Fromitsinception,psychologyhasbeenrootedinpathologywhichcanleadtoconceptualizingillnessonly withintheindividual,diagnosingdeviations,andadoptingtreatmentmodalitiesfocusedon“fixing”the person.TheDSMbecameourcompass,themedicalmodelournorthstar.Whilethislensprovides predictability,itnarrowsourvision.Whatifmuchofwhatwecall“mentalillness”isnotillnessatall?Whatif itisapredictable,adaptiveresponsetogenerationaltrauma,historicaloppression,andcollectiveharm? Thisisthefoundationofantipathology:aframeworkthatshiftsfromblamingorlabelingindividualsand insteadcontextualizestheirdistresswithinthesocial,political,andhistoricalrealities.Antipathologydoes notabandonscienceortreatment;itreframes.Distressisnotalwaysevidenceofdisorderedmindsbut oftenevidenceofdisorderedhomes,disorderedcommunities,anddisorderedsystems.

Recentstudiesshowthatdescendantsoftraumasurvivorsexhibitheightenedpsychologicaldistressand physiologicalchangesinstressregulation,eveninenvironmentswithoutongoingdirecttraumaexposure (El-Khaliletal.,2025).

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Thebody,ourDNA,ournervoussystemscarrythememoryofharmlongaftertheoriginalevent.Parental childhoodtraumahasalsobeenlinkedtoincreasedriskofmooddisordersinoffspring.Traumadoesnot resetwithgenerations(Montanarietal.,2025).

Thesefindingsindicatethatintergenerationaltransmissionoftraumaiswidespread.Amother’suntreated griefmaymanifestasherchild’sanxiety.Afather’sunspokenhistoryofviolencemayappearinhisson’s depression.Understandingthedifferencesbetweengenerationaltrauma(patternstransmittedwithin families),historicaltrauma(legaciesofslavery,genocide,orcolonization),andcollectivetrauma(events likepandemicsorwars)iscrucialforeffectivecare.Thesedistinctionsarenotacademic.Theyreshapehow wehearaclient’sstory,howweinterpretsymptoms,andhowweintervene.Antipathologyurgesustostop pathologizingtheseresponsesandrecognizethemassurvival-drivenadaptations.

Antipathologydemandswewidenourlenstoincludeenvironmentalrealities.Povertyerodesmentalhealth throughchronicstress,unstablehousing,andinsecurity.Peoplelivinginpovertyarenotexhibiting disorderedthinking;theyarerespondingpredictablytounrelentingstressors.Racismisnotjustanexternal stressorbutanembodiedreality.BIPOClivewithheightenedvigilance,intergenerationalstressresponses, andlimitedaccesstocare.Thetollshowsupincortisollevels,cardiovascularhealth,andsymptom expression.Historically,self-reportedracismwaspathologizedasparanoia,butforthosecarryinghistorical trauma,racismisanexistentialthreat.

Sexismcompoundsrisk,makingwomendisproportionatelyvulnerableduetogender-basedviolence, inequitableworkplaces,andimbalancesinemotionallabor.Meanwhile,patriarchalsystemssilencemen’s struggles,stigmatizingvulnerabilityandleavingdistressuntreatedandhidden(Wrightetal.,2025). Pathologyreducestoindividualdiagnosis.Antipathologyinsistsweresistthisreduction. Structuralracismisnotinterpersonalbias;itislaws,policies,andpracticesthatcreatecompounded disadvantageforpeopleofcolor,regardlessofincome,healthcareaccess,oreffort(Bravemanetal.,2022). Thesestructuresproducedisparitiesthatindividualresiliencecannotovercome.Thefieldofpsychologyis notimmune.Workforcediversitystilllags.Clinicaltrialsremaindominatedbywhite,Western,middle-class samplesgeneralizedasuniversal.Diagnosticcategoriesignoreculturalexpressionorlabelitasdeviant.As Kyereetal.(2022)argue,mentalhealthsystemscontinuetoreflectinequitiesinbothdesignanddelivery. Whencliniciansignoretheserealities,theyriskretraumatizingandreinforcingsystemicharm.

Thefieldmustreckonwithitshistory.ThefirstpresidentoftheAmericanPsychologicalAssociation,G. StanleyHall,openlytheorizedthat“Africans,Indians,andChinese”were“adolescentraces”inastageof incompletegrowthandthatWesternpsychology’srolewastosavethemfrom“theliabilitiesoffreedom.” Thismindsetexemplifiesscientificracismandscientificcolonialism,whichalsojustifiedthemass institutionalizationofwomen,developingintelligenceteststorankraces,usingpsychiatrictheoriesto supportsegregationandsterilization,andmisdiagnosingwomenandpeopleofcolorwhiletheywere activelyenduringsystemicoppression.

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Today, this looks like skewed clinical trials, under-sampling of marginalized populations, and dismissal of Indigenous or non-Western healing practices Such distortions continue to shape what is considered normative psychological knowledge (Journal of Clinical Psychiatry, 2023) Emerging research shows trauma is embodied not only through individual experience but also through attachment patterns, social identity, and epigenetic transmission (Bowe et al , 2025)

Trauma is not contained within the psyche; it lives in relationships, communities, societies, and even biology. If this research holds, the most significant drivers of poor mental health are the very sociocultural issues still treated as supplementary to practice.

Why shift? Because antipathology is ethical and advantageous.

Clinical relevance. Clients are naming childhood adversity, racism, sexism, poverty, and systemic stress in therapy. To ignore these realities is to leave suffering untreated.

Cultural competence. Antipathology positions clinicians to serve diverse populations ethically and effectively, reducing harm and building trust.

Professional growth Continuing education, conferences, and journals are increasingly centered on equity and systemic understanding

Pathology-centered practice risks obsolescence

Financial sustainability Clients seek therapists who “get it ” Insurers and organizations demand trauma-informed, culturally competent providers

Far from weakening the field, antipathology strengthens it by aligning practice with the realities clients face. This is not a call to abandon treatment, diagnosis, or evidence-based care. It is a call to expand our lens, integrate social determinants, historical legacies, and systemic forces into our understanding of mental health, and act accordingly.

This shift will not only improve care but also restore relevance, integrity, and sustainability to the field To cling to the medical model alone is to remain complicit in systemic harm To embrace antipathology is to position the field for a future where healing is possible, not just for individuals, but for communities and societies, for generations to come

Studies suggest 30% of the general population - much higher in marginalized people - have experienced religious trauma. Join us on November 15 to examine why Group Therapy is particularly effective in addressing religious and spiritual struggles.

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Presenter: Jay Tift, Ph.D., LPC-MHSP, ACS

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Time: 1:00 - 3:00 pm

Presenter: Jessica Meléndez Tyler, Ph.D., LPC-S, BC-TMH, NCC

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CORDS

I glanced out my window and up at the sky. I’m not sure why.

My eyes were caught by a thin cord of cloud, Tying together two big fluffy white clouds. How unexpected. How unlikely. It startled me. I looked down, then quickly looked back up. The cord was quickly vanishing. It felt like a message. I puzzled.

What am I being shown?

I think of my beloved friend Who told me last night he felt he was dying. Perhaps we are each like a cloud. Impermanent. Always changing. Tied to one another by fragile cords that can vanish between glances. These ties seem so deep and strong and indestructible, But in truth can be blown away by the wind of the Holy Spirit. We love for the time we are given. It is always a sacred gift. And we release with a broken and grateful heart when the appointed time arrives.

A few moments later, I happen to look up again. I see another cord - thick and strong and moving fast. Not connected to anything. Free. Just being its Self. And then it is gone. 12/32

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WhenIsitwithnewsupervisees,theyoftenworryaboutwhattechniques tousetohelpaclientwithapresentingproblem.Oneofthemostimportant thingsforthemtolearnisthattheylikelyalreadyhavemuchofwhatthey needtoassisttheirclients Psychotherapyatitscoreisrelational Itisan invitationtoopen,honestrelatingatanintimateandauthenticlevel Creatingsuchanenvironmentinvolvesthetherapistbeingauthentic,open, andhonestwiththeirclientwithintheframeoftheworktoattunetoand a ient.Makingmeaningfulconnectionswithourclientsinvolvestendingtocertainaspects ofcommunicationandtherelationshipbetweentherapistandclient.Iprimarilywrotemybook,Therapeutic Friendship:CultivatingRelationshipsthatHeal,forageneralpopulationtosharewhatIknowthroughtrainingand experienceasapsychotherapist(andclientinpsychotherapyformoreyearsthanIcancount)thatmighthelpfriends connectmoredeeplyandfindtheirrelationshipsmoremeaningful Thesesuggestionscomefromtheworkof psychotherapyandthetoolsthathelpusmakebetterandmoremeaningfulconnectionswithourclients.

Thetherapeuticrelationshipbeginswiththe“Frameoftherapy.”Theframeaddressesissuesofwherewemeet,when wemeet,howlongwemeet,thecostofthesession,thelimitsofconfidentiality,rulesforcontactoutsideofsession, etc.Payingattentiontohowclientsreactandrespondtotheframecanbeinformative.Payingattentiontoourown abilitytomanagetheframecanalsobehelpful Atherapistthathasdifficultychargingafeethatreflectstheirtraining andabilityoratherapistthatstrugglestoendasessionontimemightrevealunderlyingfeelingsthatwouldbehelpful toexploreinsupervisionorpersonalpsychotherapy.Aclientwhofrequentlychallengesthelengthofsessions, missesappointments,showsuplate,commentsonpayment,orisfixatedonnotexceedingtheirtimemaybe revealingunderlyingmotivationsoraspectsoftheirpersonality.Openlyexploringthesepatternscanhelpclients betterunderstandthemselves,addressdeeperissues,andimprovecommunication.

Ihesitatetotalkabout“Activelistening”asanimportantpartofpsychotherapybecauseitseemssofoundationalto thework,butIbelievethattherapists,especiallynewertherapists,tendtounderestimatethepowerofsomeone beingheardandfeelingunderstood Onlyabout7%ofwhatiscommunicatedbyapersoncomesfromtheirwords Therestisthroughtoneofvoice,bodylanguage,facialexpressions,etc.Learningtoobserveandaskaboutsuch potentiallyunconsciousthingscanleadtoadeeperunderstandingoftheclient’sexperience.

Anotherpowerfultoolthatservestherapistswellandcanmakeahugedifferenceinpersonalrelationshipsisthe focuson“Process”over“Content.”ThisconceptfromSystemsTheorynoticesthatconversationsoccuronmultiple levelsandclientscanhavefeelingsaboutwhatisbeingshared,feelingsabouthowweareresponding,andfeelings aboutwhatishappeninginasessionorfromsessiontosession So,“Content”iswhatisshared,and“Process”is “talkingabouttalkingabout”whatisshared.“Whatisitlikeforyouorwhatwoulditbelikeforyoutosharethiswith me?”“Whenyousaythisisimportanttoyou,tellmemoreaboutwhatisimportant.”“Inoticedwhenyoutalkedabout thateventinyourlife,youdrewyourlegsuponthesofa.Whatwereyoufeeling?”Theseareallexamplesofprocessorientedinquiry.

Process-orientedinquirycanalsobemadeaboutchangesinthetherapeuticframe Clientsoftennotehowit“feels weird”whentheymeetmeinthemorningwhentheynormallymeetmeintheafternoon Itcanbemeaningfultonote suchshiftsorevenpreemptivelyaskaboutsuchfeelings

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However,therearealsosomepotentially moresignificantconversationsthatmosttherapistsoverlook When atherapistbeginsasessionlate,forgetsasession,issick,orgoesonvacation,clientsmay havefeelingsabout this,evenif they initially deny orminimizeany feelings.Itisworthasking about.Thisexperienceof changesin theframeof therapy isrelatedtotheconceptof “Transference.”

Mosttherapistsarefamiliarwiththeconceptoftransference.Itiswhenourclientsexperiencesomethinginthe presentwithaninterpretationorthefeelingsofsomethingfromtheirpast.Thiscanbepositiveornegative.Yearsago, Ihadtheopportunitytoparticipateinaprocessofpsychoanalysis.Imet4daysperweekfor3yearswithmyanalyst. Eachtimemyanalystwouldbegone,shewouldbeginweeksaheadtellingmeshewouldbegoneandaskingifIhad anyfeelings.Atfirst,Iwoulddenyanyfeelingsandsay,“Haveanicetime.”Laterinourprocess,shetoldmethatshe wasgoingonvacation,andIbegantocry.Ithenwasself-critical,judgingthatIwasfeelingsadabouthergoingon vacation.Myanalystencouragedmetomovebeyondmyjudgmentandexplorethefeelings.Whatwediscoveredwas thatinmyfamilyoforigin,itwasmyemotionaljobtocareforothersandtobeokayformymother.Shehadenough happeningwithotherthingsinherlife.So,Ilearnedhowtomanageanyuncomfortablefeelingsmyself.So,my analystgoingonvacation,Ihadtobeokay WhatchoicedidIhave?However,IlaterwasabletoadmitthatIfeltsad thatshewouldbegone Thisdidn’tmeanthatsheshouldnotgo(obviously) Ilearnedtolivewiththedialecticofthe situation Tendingtoourabsences,ourtardiness,ourillnesswithourclients,canhelpthemexploretheirunderlying feelingsandputthemintohistoricalcontext

Relatedistheexperienceof“countertransference”whichistheexperienceoftheclientandtheclient’sstorybythe therapist Therearemanywaysthatourownexperiencecaninfluencehowweinterprettheclient’sstory,affectthe assumptionswemakeabouttheclient’sexperience,orimpactourownemotionalwell-being ThisiswhyIfeelitis criticalfortherapiststohavedonetheirownreflectivetherapy Atherapistneedstofocusontheclient,anditcanbe challengingtodothatiftheclient’sstoryisactivatingourowndeeplyunresolvedissuesorwearemissingtheclient’s experiencebecauseofassumptionswemakebecauseofourownexperiences.

However,countertransferencecanbeusedfortheclient’sbenefitwhenwehaveapositiveassociationwithaclient thathelpsusbuildconnectionandrapport.Itcanalsobehelpfulforsomeclientsforustoadmitourownfeelingsof outrageorangerwhentheyshareaboutaninjusticethattheyhavesuffered.Someclientsmayhavejustaccepted mistreatmentasawayoflifeorminimizedtheseverityoftheirexperienceandsharingourfeelingsaboutthiscan helpthemgrowintheirownemotionalawareness.Forexample,Ihadaclientwhosharedaboutabusebyaparent. Shewasashamedoftheexperienceandhadblamedherselfforyears.WhenIexpressedthatasaparentoftwo daughters,Iwasangeredbyherparent’sbehavior,sheconfessedthatmyexpressingangerwascomfortingtoher. Thiswasthebeginningofherbeingabletodeconstructherself-blame.

Relatedtocountertransferenceisthepossibilityof“Empathicfailure”,atermthatcomesfromHarryStackSullivan’s InterpersonalPsychology.Becauseofthedepthofourcaseload,challengestoourownwell-being,our countertransference,wewillfromtimetotimeempathically“miss”aclient,saysomethinghurtful,becomefrustrated withaclient,etc.Someoftheseempathicfailuresaretoobigfortherelationshiptorecover,butwhenweareable workthroughthesechallengeswithintheframeoftherapy,itcanhelpbuildtheinternalresourcesourclientsmay needtocreateandrespondtosuchempathicbreaksinfriendshipsoutsideofthetherapyroom

Theseconceptsmaybeareviewformany,buttheyaresometimeslostorneglectedinthedesiretomasternew interventions However,byturningtothefundamentalstimeandtimeagain,andremindingourselvesoftheirpower, wemostreliablyimproveourskillsindiagnosis,improveclientinsight,buildclientskills,andcreatetransformative healing 17/32

MINDINMOTION,EVERDYNAMIC

Readytogo,notreadytogoAjourneycommences,markedbymountains,valleys,andplateaus. Astheconductoryells,“Allaboard!” Themindpreparestoexplorelifeunexplored. Thepassenger,themind,findsaseatonthetrain, Readyandnotreadytomovepastthemundane.

Theseatsaroundthemindaretaken, Bythosewhowillhelpthemindawaken. Mother,father,formerlover, Impactofeachthemindpreparestouncover. Theunconsciousissittinginaseatoutofsight, Tobeexploredbythemindwhenthetimeisright.

Meanwhilethemindissoothedbythehumofthetrain; Themoretimetraveling,themoreawarenessgained. Therearelandmarksalongtheway Thememoriesofwhichhavebeenkeptatbay. Suchasthelossofalovedoneandsubsequentgrief, Whichthemindknowsavoidingprecludesrelief. Astheheartnowachesformemoriesofpast, Thelovedonereentersthemind’sheartatlast.

Themindthendriftsoff,meetingupwithitsdreams, Onlytobejoltedawakebysomesignaturethemes. Thingslikeshameandguiltthathavehadrecurringroles, Andnownoteventhetrain’shumsoothesthemind’ssoul.

Thetrainnowclimbsamountainrangecalleddefenses. Herethemind’slearningofnewwayscommences. Asthealtitudechanges,discomfortensues, Vulnerabilitytheonlyremedy,thuswhatthemindwillchoose. Atthetopofthemountainliesasourceofhope, Astheminddiscoverstherearenewwaystocope.

Thetrainthenentersatunnelwheredarknesspervades, Uncoveringbegins,asthemindreflectsonpastdecades. Themindhasnochoicebutthrough; Andafterfacingthepast,thesuncomesbackintoview. Inthelight,theshadowsofshameandguilthavenowwaned, Asunderstanding,awareness,andacceptancearegained.

Thetrainreturnstolevelground, Andasthedestinationnears,themindfeelsmoresound. Readytogo,notreadytogo, Themindstepsoffthetrainintotheworldsolo.

Preparing a Professional Will: A Practical and Ethical Imperative for Psychotherapists

Disclaimer: I am not a lawyer, and this article should not be taken as a substitute for proper legal advice Make sure you have a relationship with an attorney to advise you on practice laws in TN.

When therapists speak of “wills,” we usually think of estate planning—who inherits property, accounts, or personal possessions. Yet as mental health professionals, our responsibilities extend beyond our private lives. We also have profound obligations to our clients, who trust us with sensitive information and depend on us for the continuity of their care. For this reason, every clinician should create a professional will: a formal document that outlines how your practice, client records, and clinical responsibilities will be handled in the event of your incapacity or death.

Despite its importance, many clinicians delay or avoid this task, perhaps assuming that colleagues or family members will 'figure it out.' Unfortunately, the absence of a plan can leave clients unsupported, records unsecured, and families overwhelmed. Creating a will is not only a good practice in management; it is also an ethical safeguard aligned with our professional codes.

Why a Professional Will Matters

The American Psychological Association (APA) and other professional bodies emphasize that clinicians have an ethical duty to ensure continuity of care. Without a professional will, a sudden death or illness may lead to:

Abandoned clients left without referrals, follow-up, or closure

Compromised confidentiality if records are mishandled or inaccessible

Stress on loved ones who may be forced to navigate professional and legal obligations without guidance.

Licensure or ethical complaints if obligations to clients are unmet.

Core Components of a Professional Will

While a professional will should be personalized to your specific practice, there are some general guidelines that can give a good starting point.

Designate a Professional Executor

Identify a trusted colleague - licensed, familiar with your practice, and willing to act on your behalf. This person will notify clients, manage records, and coordinate continuity of care. Provide their full contact information and confirm their consent in writing. They will need power of attorney to manage and close financial, practice management (EHR, employees, etc), and property (such as an office) obligations. These responsibilities may be shared with a spouse or family member. Make sure to designate who is responsible for which part. Only the licensed professional should manage clinical files.

Secure Client Records

Include instructions for accessing your electronic health record (EHR) system, encrypted drives, or physical files. Provide passwords, keys, and account details in a secure but accessible format. Clarify whether records should be transferred, archived, or destroyed according to law and board requirements.

Plan for Continuity of Care

Outline procedures for notifying clients, offering referral lists, and handling active treatment plans. This supports both ethical obligations and client well-being during transition.

Clarify Communication Protocols

Clients deserve sensitive, respectful communication. Provide templates or preferences for how to notify them (e.g., phone, secure email, mailed letter). Include preferred names, contact details, and any relevant relational considerations.

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IntegratewithInformedConsent

Clientsshouldbeinformedinadvancethat,intheeventofyourincapacityordeath,adesignated colleaguemayaccesstheirrecords Includingthisinyourintakepaperworkensurestransparencyand preventssurpriseslater.

IncludeLegalandLicensureDetails

Listyourprofessionallicenses,liabilityinsurance,andrelevantprofessionalmemberships Thesedetails helpyourexecutorinterfacewithboards,insurers,andcolleaguesefficiently.

ConsultwithanAttorney

Whiletemplatesandchecklistsarehelpful,aprofessionalwillisultimatelyalegaldocument.Consultation withanattorneyensurescompliancewithstatelawandavoidsgapsinprotection.

EthicalDimensions

Professionalwillsarenotonlylogisticaltools;theyalsoreflectourcoreethicalcommitments: BeneficenceandNonmaleficence(dogood/avoidharm):Clientsshouldnotbeleftunsupported. FidelityandResponsibility:Ouragreementswithclientsextendbeyondthetherapyhour Confidentiality:Sensitiverecordsmustbesafeguarded,evenafterdeath Integrity:Planningtransparentlydemonstrateshonestyandprofessionalism.

Neglectingthesedutiescouldunintentionallyharmclientsorviolateprofessionalstandards Conversely, creatingaprofessionalwillembodiesthevaluesofcareandresponsibilitycentraltocounseling.

OvercomingBarriers

Manytherapistsavoiddraftingaprofessionalwillbecauseitfeelsuncomfortable toomorbid,too complicated,ortoopremature.Yettheprocesscanbestraightforwardifbrokendownintomanageable steps:

1 Startwithachecklist UsetoolsliketheSimplePracticeProfessionalWillChecklisttoensurenomajor areaisoverlooked.

2.Identifyyourexecutor.Reachouttoatrustedcolleagueandhaveanhonestconversationabout expectations.

3 Documentsecurely Storelogininformationandinstructionsinasafeplace,ensuringyourexecutor knowshowtoaccessit.

4.Reviewannually.Updateyourwillasyourpractice,technology,orpersonalcircumstanceschange.

5.Integratewithpracticepolicies.Addlanguagetoyourinformedconsentsoclientsareawareofthe planfromthebeginning

PracticalTipsfromtheField

Usepracticemanagementsystemswisely EHRslikeTherapyNotesandSimplePracticeallowsecure transferofclientlistsandrecords,simplifyingtheexecutor’stask Keepitsimple.Youdon’tneedtodraftalengthylegaltreatise clear,practicalinstructionsoften suffice.

Pairwithpersonalestateplanning Coordinateyourprofessionalwillwithyourpersonalwill,powerof attorney,andotherlegaldocuments Normalizetheconversation.Discussprofessionalwillsinpeerconsultationgroupstoreducestigma andfosteraccountability.

ALivingDocument

Aprofessionalwillisnotsomethingtocompleteonceandforget.Practicesevolve—newtechnologies, changingcaseloads,orshiftsinlicensurestatusmeanthatdetailsmustberevisited.Thinkofyour professionalwillasalivingdocument,reviewedandupdatedjustlikeyourmalpracticeinsuranceor emergencyprocedures.

Conclusion

Aspsychotherapists,wededicateourprofessionallivestosupportingothers Preparingaprofessional

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willextendsthatcommitmentbeyondourlifespan,ensuringthatclientsarecaredfor, confidentialityisprotected,andourprofessionalvaluesendure.

Pleasereachoutifyouhaveanyquestionsorwanttoconsult.

References

AmericanPsychologicalAssociation.(n.d.).Instructionsforpreparingaprofessionalwill. Retrievedfrom https://www.apaservices.org/practice/business/management/professional-willinstructions

Pope,K.S.(n.d.).Theprofessionalwill:Anessentialpartofgoodpracticemanagement. Retrievedfrom https://kspope.com/therapistas/will.php

TherapyNotes.(2023).Howandwhytoprepareaprofessionalwillforyourtherapypractice. Retrievedfrom https://blog.therapynotes.com/how-and-why-to-prepare-a-professional-will-foryour-therapy-practice

https://www.simplepractice.com/resource/professional-will-template-therapist/

ADHDchangeshowandwhensocialanddevelopmentalmilestonesarereached, withneurodivergentchildrenlagginginemotionalmaturityby2to3yearsrelative totheirpeers ThepersonwithADHDhasdifferencesandsensitivitiesthatcan challengeidentitydevelopmentthroughoutthelifespan,impactingfriendships, family,andcareer.ManypeoplewithADHDareincrediblysuccessful entrepreneursandartists,andit’softenbecausetheyovercomechallenges thatstartinchildhoodandcontinuethroughadulthood.

TheADHDChild:AnOutsider He’stherestlesskidinclass Sheblurtsoutanswers,forgetsinstructions,fidgets,andmightbea‘pickme!’orseenas ‘toomuch’bypeers They’reoftencorrected “Stopinterrupting,payattention,slowdown”Theyfrustrateteachers, andpeersdistancethem.Everydaythemessagecanbe:Youdon’tfitin.

Toreducenegativeattention,somelearntomaskbydisconnectingfromtheirbodies.Forexample,onemomdidn’t likewhatRitalindidtoherson,soshesaid,“justlooklikeyou’repayingattention.”Thatendedteachercomplaints,as thechildretreatedintodaydreams Helearnednottotrustwhatwasinsidehim Theinnernarrative,“I’mdifferentina badway,”hadroomtogrow

Adolescence

Inadolescence,wetryonidentitieslikeT-shirts,butADHDmakesitmuchriskier.Surgingemotionsandimpulsive behaviorcanbeembarrassingwhenyoualreadyfeelinsecureanddifferentinawaythatyoudon’t understand.Misreadingsocialcuesandsituationscanleadtoweakerconnectionsandemotionalisolation. Neurodivergentsensitivitiesamplifysmalldisappointments,likeadismissiveglancefromapeer,ateacher’ssharp tone,oranyperceivedexclusionordisappointment TheADHDbrainnotonlyinterpretsthemasrejection,butthen rehearses,amplifiesanddistortsdisappointments ThisiscalledRejectionSensitivityDysphoria,orRSDIt’snotpart ofthediagnosis,butit’sverycommonwithADHD.(RSDisalsocommoninPersonalityDisordersandmaybethe reasonthey’resohardtotreat.)

RSDturnsself-criticismandnegativeexpectationsintoconstantbackgroundmusicintheneurodivergentmind.Our sensitivitiescouldbewaystoconnect,butbeingover-sensitiveandgettinghurtleadstotreatingsensitivitieslike openwoundsthatneedtobeguarded RSDcausesrepeatedmicro-traumaandcanleadtohiddenselfpreoccupations

TeenswithADHDaremorelikelytofeeldistantandbeexcluded Somepropuptheirself-esteemthrough achievement.Otherspolishsocialcharm,butifRSDisatplay,theyusetheircharmandhumortodeflectcontact awayfromthe‘bad’partsofthemselves,ratherthanenjoyconnectionsbornoftheircharms.Theymaydevelop socialskillsbutliveinsideasurvivalpersonathat’snevertrulyinhabited.RSDlimitsexplorationoftheirdeepest valuesanddesires,soatbesttheylearnto‘fitin.’Theymaylackasenseofhowtobelongorjustassumeit’snot possibleforthemtofeelthatway

Adulthood:ImposterSyndrome

Inadulthood,theADHDprofessionalmaystrugglewithpatternsofinconsistencyatwork,relationalfriction,and hiddenshamespirals.Theskillsofmaskingdeficitsandperfectionismhideinnerturmoil.Butperfectionismis productivityfromaplaceoffear,andmaskinglimitstheabilitytoreceivesupport.Ultimately,thesestrategiesaren’t enoughforhealthydevelopment.

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DR. DOUG HERR

“WhatCanIGiveYoutoHelpYouGiveMeWhatIWant?”

AReviewofTheNewRulesofMarriage: WhatYouNeedtoKnowtoMakeLoveWork byTerrenceReal

“Wearedrawntopeoplewhoseissuesfitperfectly withourowninaway thatguaranteesareenactmentof the old,familiarstruggleswegrewup with.Weall marry ourunfinishedbusiness.You may think thatagood relationship doesn’tbring up tothesurfaceevery hurtandangeryou’veevercarriedinside.Butitdoes.” (p.45)

“Real intimacy isbornprecisely outof theimpactof yourhumanimperfectionwithmineandhowweboth handlethemaddening,endearing,challenging,andcreativecollision ” (p 48)

“Theonly partof therelationship thatisunderyourdirectcontrol isyou andthatisonagoodday Giveup the madagendaof ‘getting’ yourpartnertochangeandtry changing yourself instead Whileyou cannotdirectly control eitheryourpartneroryourrelationship,you may beabletoinfluencethem bothby experimenting with radical newmovesof yourown.” (p.77)

“Intherepairprocess,thelistenerhasonly onegoal:tohelp thespeakermoveback intoharmony,tohelp him orherfeel better Thelistener’sattitudeis:‘Iam atyourservice HowcanIhelp?’Anything elsewill beperceived asatbestextraneousandatworstinfuriating Wheneveryou shiftattentionaway from yourpartner’s concernsovertoyourown,you createasituationinwhichtherearetwospeakersandnolisteners.Andthatis precisely howmostof usdoit,howwetry,andfail,toeffectchange.” (p.208)

“Whenwecastacool eyeovertheso-calledlistening mostof usclaim todo,itturnsoutthatwe’remostoften notlistening atall.Whetherit’soutonthetableorlockedinourheads,whatmostof usdo,sentenceby sentenceandpointby point,isargue.Thenwehavethegall toget‘frustrated’ by mateswhoarebeing ‘difficult,’ wheninfactwehaven’treally appreciatedawordthey’vesaid.Finally,weanswermostof their concernsby discounting them altogetherorby replacing thoseconcernswithourown.” (p.212)

Whenpatientscontactmeaboutstarting couples’ therapy,almostuniversally they say thatthey needhelp with“communication.” Very fewcoupleswhopresentfortherapy knowhowtolisten.Instead,asIhavequoted TerrenceReal justabove,“whatmostof usdo,sentenceby sentenceandpointby point,isargue.” My goal asa couples’ therapististohelp them have“constructiveconversations” insteadof uselessarguments.

Real describeshealthy self-esteem:“Self-esteem isyourcapacity torecognizeyourworthandvalue,despite yourhumanflawsandweaknesses.Yourvalueasapersonisn’tearned;itisn’tconditional;itcan’tbeaddedto orsubtractedfrom.Youressential worthisneithergreaternorlesserthanthatof any otherhumanbeing.It can’tbe.Self-esteem isaboutbeing,notdoing.You haveworthsimply becauseyou’realive.” (p.135)

Real introducestheideathatpartnersmusttaketurnsinresolving conflicts.Hewrites,“Overwhelmingly,our commonapproachtoproblemsishaveadialogue:You tell meyoursideandthenI’ll tell you mine,andthen we’ll thrashisouttogether…Formostcouples,any intensely chargedissuequickly revealsthatthethat’syour side,here’smy sideapproachcarriesahighrisk of increasing ratherthandecreasing tensionsbecauseneither sidefeelssufficiently heardorunderstood.Inagreatrelationship bothyou andyourpartnercan,if you must, airyourupsetaboutanissue,butnotatthesametime.” (p.207)

Real continues,“Therepairprocessisunilateral,notmutual.Onepartnerasksforandreceiveshelp from the otherinordertomoveoutof astateof acutediscontent(disharmony) back intotheexperienceof closeness andconnection(harmony).Thelistenermustputhisorherownneedsaside…someoneexperiencing distress, evenif he’sintentonmaking thingsright,isn’treally interestedinyourthoughts,yourfeelings,oryourreasons orexplanations.Inthosefirstrawmomentsof reconnection,theupsetpartnerdoesn’tcareall thatmuch aboutyou oneway ortheother.Whatheneedstoknowif whetherornotyou careabouthim.”(p.207)

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Realadds,“Onceyouhavedemonstratedyourcareandsincerityandaddressedhisconcerns,thenhemight haveaninterestinyou.Beforethatoccurs,adistressedpartnerwillinevitablyperceiveanybidonyourpart tofocusonyourexperienceasadeflection.Andthoughyoumayhavenothingbutthebestofintentions,he willseeyourbehaviorsasdefensive,ungiving,selfish,orevasive.And,bytheway,he’dberight!”(pp.207-208)

Realelaboratesonthispoint:“Thetruthisthatwhenmostofusengageinso-calledlistening,wehaveahot nanosecond’sworthofattentionspanbeforewe’reoffandrunning.Andjustwhatareweoffandrunningto? Rebuttal.‘Geez,that’snotright,’wemightsay,or‘Hey,Ineversaidthat.Thatissuchanexaggeration.’Or,if you’reapsychologicallysophisticatedcouple,youmightsoundsomethinglikethis:‘Honey,that’syour projection.’‘No,dear,it’syourdenial.’”(p.212)

Realaddressesthemostprofoundquestionfortroubledcouples:“What’sbestforyourchildren?”Hewrites, “Wearelivinginveryconservativetimes,andalotofemphasishasbeenputonpreservingfamiliesatall costs.That’ssimplyunreasonable.Yes,childrenaredamagedbydivorce.There’snoquestionaboutthat.The realquestionis,howdamagedaretheybystayinginmiserablehomes?Asbadasdivorceis,achildwouldbe betteroffwithouttheexposuretoyellingandfightingandablatantlydisturbedenvironment.Fewpeople arguethatpoint.Sonowthequestionratchetsdowntothis:Howdamageddochildrengetinhomeswitha miserablemarriagethatismorecontained?Manywouldarguethatchildrenarebetteroffinsuch environmentsthanwithdivorcedparents.Asafamilytherapist,ImustsaythatI’mskeptical…It’snotatall cleartomethattheso-calledcontainedorhiddenmiseryinnonexplosivemarriagesisreallyashiddenaswe mightliketothink.”(pp.268-269)

Realcontinues,“Evenifyouweretoconvincemethatchildreninsuchhomeswerelessdamagedingeneral,I willneverthelessguaranteeyouthattheywillsustainconsiderabledamagewhenitcomestohavinghealthy relationshipsoftheirowninthefuture.AlmosteverytroubledrelationshipIhaveeverworkedwithwasa replayofsomeaspectofthetroubledrelationshipeachpartnergrewupwith…Evenifitwereproven somehowthatchildrenaremoredamagedthroughdivorcethanthroughremaininginhomeswithunhappy marriages,itisnotatallcleartomethatthemoralimperativeisforadultstosacrificelivinghealthylivesfor thesakeoftheirchildren.Ihavehelpedunhappycouplesbreakup;Ialsohavehelpedthemstaytogether preciselyforthesakeofthechildren.”(pp.269-270)

Concluding,“Inextremecircumstances,thechoiceseemsclear.InlessblatantsituationsImistrustanyone, frankly,whoclaimstobeabletotellyouwhat’sbestforyourchildren,orforeitherofyouforthatmatter.You mustdecide.Thinklongandhard;talkitoutwiththoseyoutrustandlistentowhatyoufeel.Intheend,most ofthepeopleI’veencounteredovertheyearswhohavebeenthroughthisdecisionrarelyspeakaboutwhat theyshouldhavedone,onewayortheother.Theyspeakaboutwhattheyfelttheyhadtodo.”(p.270)

NextRealasks,“Whenshouldyoupulltheplug?”Hewrites,“Itservesnoone’sintereststopreserveendlessly toxicinteractions.Addictsandabusivepartnerscanbehelped,andthefirststepshouldalwaysbean ultimatum:Gettreatmentorelse!Butifsomeonesimplyrefuses,orifhewon’tallowhistreatmenttobe effective,Idon’tthinkthere’smuchchoice.Ifirmlybelievethatanytwopartnerswholoveeachotherand whoarewillingtodotheworkcantransformevenaterriblerelationshipintoagoodone,andevenintoagreat oneovertime.Oncebothpartnersareatthetableingoodfaith,anythingcanbeworkedout.Theonething thatcannotbeworkedout,however,isgettingbothpartnerstothetable.Theyhavetotaketheirplaces themselves.Thatdoesn’tmeanthatpressurecan’tbeexerted.Onthecontrary,itabsolutelyshould,and dependingonhowbadthingsare,asmuchpressureasisreasonablypossible.”(pp.270-271)

Finally,Realsharesabouthisownjourney:“AsayoungadultIwasplaguedwithwriter’sblocks,self-defeating behaviors,oscillationsbetweenfeelinggiftedandcursed,grandandworthless.Ibeganwhatturnedouttobe yearsofhealingwork;Ibecameatherapistmyself.Iwasdoingallright,butIfeltIhadmoreinmetogiveand noideahowtobringitoutintotheworld.ButIwashealthyenoughtoaskforhelp.Overtheyearsseveralwise andwonderfulpeoplehavementoredme,andeveryoneofthemgavemehisorherversionofthesame advice.Callitgrace,callitpower,intuition,inspiration,thesweetspot,ortheflowstate—callitanythingyou like.Butwhateveritisthatflowsthroughyouinthatwonderfulstate,don’tcallityours.Don’ttakecreditfor it.Don’tactasifyouownit.Anddon’tshrinkawayfromit,either,fromitsscaleoritspower.”(p.277)

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