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When are you getting married?
25 already, still no girlfriend?
Got my degree! What's next? what do i do now?
Oh no! I'm only in my twenties and i'm having a quarter-life crisis.
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NEWS UPDATE: Price rise of HDB in 2018
Can my degree help me achieve my dreams.....
Get a job! Make sure salary is high.
ave you ever had these questions running through your head like, “I don’t know what I want”, “I’m not doing what I want”, “What am I doing with my life...” or “Why is adulting so hard?” “Can I not be an adult and go back to when I was a kid”, and so forth. If you do, then you should read this article. If you don’t, I suggest you read this still as I am going to challenge you and turn the perspective around which you will be mind-blown later...or not. Anyhow, we are all scared of making failures in life (not all but some) and we may think that one wrong move means our life is screwed.
This thinking is very common especially when we are in our twenties and early thirties or shall I say, “adult” stage of life. We could call it ‘adulthood’ for now — that period where you embark onto this “adult” journey of getting rushed to settle down, having kids, getting a stable job immediately after you are finished with your studies, paying bills, owning a house and carrying more and more responsibilities. EEK! that’s a lot to take in, huh? That is probably, one of the reasons why we are being so cautious with every step we take at this stage of life. Adulthood does seem very overwhelming, hence,
the ‘afraid of screwing up’ happens. I think it’s because of this thought of not being able to follow the “example” of life that we were thought or told to be in our society. For example, in a Singaporean context, or let’s just say, most asian families (I know... stereotyping) that are strictly devoted to their traditions, they tend to have their whole life planned out by following the examples of the older generation. You will hear these often in an asian family — “Get married before you hit 30”, “Have kids before you’re 32”, “Get a job as soon as you graduate from school”, “With your degree, you can get better paying jobs”, and the list goes on. Thus, it is a norm to see most Singaporeans live their life according to that “guide book,” hoping to get the title of being an adult. (The perfect definition of an adult?) Moreover, screwing up is not a part of the equation to this “perfect” constructed life that we planned it out to be. This is why we feel the pressure or stress especially when we failed to fulfill the desired steps, hence, disappointing ourselves and others around us who put a certain expectation on us. It is as if, (imagine this) if you missed a turn and you cannot make a u-turn so your course of direction changed from the original route from that point onwards and now you have to stick with it and go with