No Choice, but an
opportunity
By Monica Alfing
IT WAS THE 7TH OF MARCH OF 2020, TIRED, EMOTIONAL, A BABY GIRL ON MY ARM THAT DIDN’T WANTED TO SLEEP WITHOUT A MUMMA AND A BOOB. AFTER MONTHS OF HAVING NO SLEEP, FRUSTRATIONS OFF NOT FEELING SUPPORTED, HOUSEWORK AND A JOB THAT WAS DRAINING THE LIFE OUT OF ME, HERE I WAS SITTING ON THE STAIRS CRYING, TOO TIRED TO EVEN GET UP..
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his was definitely by far not the first time I wanted to quit, to stop it all. Since being a mum more than ever,… again since being a mum more than ever I knew this was too much, too much stress, pressure . But did I have a choice, No, not really. I am talking about my job, ladies. A job that I was in, because I needed to be in there, I was in this job because I was working for a visa to stay in the country. And I am the person that always and will still say, “you always have a choice”, well My choice was to live and make a new life in another country, and with that choicesacrifices needed to be made, work that we maybe would not like, a lot of money needed to be paid, cause you know ,..paperwork and visa’s cost money, building your life up from scratch, sacrifices to be made and we came here with just two bags and two suitcases, that was is. Just us, no family or support,.. but we made it all happen!! It was amazing and it was all meant to be for a long time…., Fast forward. 4 years later, we built our life on a beautiful spot in Australia, got our beautiful rainbow baby girl after years of pain and trying, we were happy… right?
amounts of stress, major postpartum problems, breastfeeding with constant blocked milk ducts and I can’t count the amounts of mastitis I had.. Going to the bathroom the first year was a living hell, I know, that long..? Yes ladies, unfortunate this happens more than we think.. Postpartum problems are very real…! But I had another one big stress factor on my side, a job that I resented to go back to,.. a job that was stressful, staff that walked away constantly because of a boss that was horrible to staff, and breathing down everybody’s neck 24/7 as he couldn’t let go of his micro management and yes I was the Manager of the Business. 4 years and this would have been my last year,.. but, o god,.. I have spoken out my frustrations so many times,
my cries for help to the universe , cried so many times, stressed and hurt, because of a job.. a job ladies!!! And let me tell you this, if a friend or client would come to me, with this story, I would say, ‘walk away’ And this is of course one tip, if you are in a job you hate or dislike and you dó have unlike me a choice to walk away then do!!! And we all know this next one,.. the first months going back to your job after becoming a mum is even harder right??? And yes, I asked the universe a lot for a solution… and well then,.. Covid hit.. and my life changed ! hahah, my husband is still joking that I did ask for a solution, well here it was.. But with that,.. We both lost our jobs, no income, and even to the point we needed help from the foodbank… Now, ladies, it is March 2021 a year later,.. And we are doing unbelievably good! We have 3 successful businesses, saved money on the bank, assets, and investments and we are working both from home and seeing our baby girl grow every day. What changed?? We got an opportunity!! And a little backstory here, our mindset was always on expansion and growth, back home I always worked for myself and owned 2 businesses and set up 4. Me and my husband since moving down to Australia were always in the mindset; “How can we make this even better, how can we grow ourselves even more..?” But because of our visa’s
Well yes, and no really.. Since becoming a mother my whole life changed, honestly I never knew it would be thís crazy..! I had such big MUMPRENEUR MOVEMENT |
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