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TOASTMASTERS’ VOICE TMV WINTER 2024

IN MEMORIUM.

RICHARD HENRY NORMAN HEYWOOD I first met Richard Heywood in my office in 1992.

He had recently taken over in charge of Fundraising at the Cottage Homes.

The Cottage Homes held an annual fundraising event at the Grosvenor House in January each year. I remember the meeting as if it were yesterday. He always used to say that he was not sure if he achieved a good deal, something that I came to learn was very important to him. He did not seem to bargain but achieved his objective with charm and Yorkshire tenacity. He had lost the top joint of one of his fingers – he always said it happened when he shook hands after one of our negotiations!

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We became firm friends, watching the six nations rugby together on TV at the Grosvenor at a time when he was single. He came to my house.

Why is this important? Well, he never forgot those times which formed a basis for our friendship. I have met many of his friends who also had firm connections with Richard stretching back over the years in a similar vein.

Once a friend with Richard – always a friend. He went on to work at the EEIBA also holding a ball at the G H. I moved on and Richard made sure he held a function with me in my new job – he was that sort of person.

We held a St Georges day luncheon at the Savoy. Richard bought 200 people and filled the banqueting suite to capacity. We never lost

contact – Richard made sure of that.

I moved on once more to run the Hospitality at Woburn. By then, Richard was working as an Usher in the Law Courts and training to be a Toast Master. I needed a toastmaster for a photo shoot for my wedding brochure. Richard travelled 100 miles, worked all day for no fee. He went onto my list and came to the Wedding Fairs to officiate – again no fee. We used to argue over fees for jobs, he always succeeded!

and Shirley insisted that I stay with them at Cherry Barn.

He had joined the NAT, becoming the President. He felt it was important to have a social weekend. The first event was at the Hotel I was running in the Midlands. We went on to run five more round the country.

At the same time, we organised the annual Christmas Lunches and I was privileged to assist him in this regard.

He always achieved a good deal, and they were always full to capacity.

We talked prior to the cruise round the British Isles. He was very excited.

I had calls from lots of associates asking how I was – they had been tipped off by Richard.

I ran the VIP area at the Silverston Grand Prix, one summer – Richard

Andrew Coy.

We both started to slow down. He used to ring me regularly – keeping up contact between events. I had to have an operation – it was Richard ringing to make sure that I was OK. This was despite all the ailments that he had. He managed them with his usual fervour, making sure his healthcare professionals were on their toes!

He was a great guy – I and many others will miss him.

Rest in Peace Richard, my and everyone’s friend.

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IN MEMORIUM.

GORDON VERRAN

9TH JULY 1934 - 13TH AUGUST 2024

In 1991 I had the pleasure of completing my Toastmaster training with the NAT under the watchful eyes of the “Masters”, Bryn Williams, Martin Nicholls, Barry Dorn, Malcolm Clayton and Dougie Hill.

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Among our number were Howard

Robbins, Sheila Davies, Mike Solomons and of course Gordon. We considered ourselves to have had the best mentors money could buy and as a group flourished and all passed our final examination with flying colours. All five of us went on the join the NAT as Associate Members and

all made our way through the ranks.

Gordon made President in 2005 and enjoyed a great year, arranging for us all a great visit to the Houses of Parliament, hosted by the then Chief Whip, where we enjoyed a memorable evening including a tour of the House and a sumptuous meal.

The following day we all took part in the Lord Mayor’s Show parading through the streets of the City of London, with Gordon holing court in open top, double decker bus. Great memories.

Gordon was a true gentleman and ruled in his own inimitable style. He was a loyal member of the NAT and served on the Executive Committee for many years and whilst he had not been active for some years, he was still involved in NAT matters.

Gordon will be sorely missed by his

friends and colleagues, especially the more senior members.

I attended the celebratory church service just before Gordon’s funeral and although no longer a member of the NAT, passed on the good wishes of all of his NAT buddies to his dear wife Gladys, whom we all adore. I showed Gladys the photograph attached below, which Howard had kindly sent me earlier. She was so pleased to see me and gave me a huge smile and a hug and asked for a copy of the photo from 1991, which I happily sent in her Christmas card. It was a lovely service and a fitting farewell to a lovely friend and colleague. RIP Gordon.

Steve Warwick Former PPNAT

Former PPNAT Former PPNAT

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IN MEMORIUM.

ROY THEOBALD We are all so upset to hear the sad news that the ‘legend’ that is, Roy Theobald has sadly passed away.

Roy was one of the nicest people you would have ever met, and a very well-respected upholsterer throughout the trade.

Roy was also a renowned Toast Master who has personally done our family proud over the years.

From Toast Mastering at my wedding, to reading the eulogy’s at both my grandparents funerals, Roy was always considered a close friend to the family.

Everyone will miss you Roy and your infectious laughter, each & every time you visited us at Martins. #RIP Posting made on Martins Upholstery Supplies Ltd Instrgram

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Roy greets Margaret Thatcher

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In Memorium

Content

Message from the President

Editor introduction and miscellaneous information

NAT Christmas Lunch

It’s Not Just Around the Corner - it’s Here Now - David Tinney

28. It’s Not Just Around the Corner - it’s Here Now! - David Tinney

36. Red Coat in Pakistan - Brian Lee

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Paul Deacon’s New Year Resolutions for a Changing Events Industry

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Red Coat in Pakistan - Brian Lee

40 Halt Who Goes There? - Ceremony of the Keys

42 Why Am I a ‘Life Vice-President’ of the NAT Howard Robbins

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MESSAGE FROM THE PRESIDENT Dear Friends and Colleagues, This may be the final TMV of the year, but it marks my first as President of the National Association of Toastmasters.

I want to extend my heartfelt thanks to all the members for placing their trust in me and electing me to lead the Association over the next two years.

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On Monday, 2nd December, we celebrated our Annual Christmas Lunch at Bakers Hall. It was a wonderful afternoon, filled with great food, laughter, and plenty of singing, shared with good friends and colleagues. I must extend my personal thanks to Associate Member Alex Murphy who officiated as Toastmaster at the lunch and did a fabulous job. We hope to see even more of you at next year’s event, which promises to be even bigger and better—so watch this space!

This is truly an exciting time for the National Association of Toastmasters. While we continue to evolve and embrace modern times, our commitment to professionalism remains unwavering.

Looking ahead to 2025, I plan to host more social events in both the North and South of the UK, listen closely to our members, and work to ensure the NAT reflects your aspirations.

Together, we can build on the strong friendships we already enjoy and take our Association to new heights.

I am always open to hearing your thoughts, suggestions, or feedback on how we can make the NAT even stronger. Please don’t hesitate to give me a call—let’s work together

to create an organisation we are all proud to be part of.

As the festive season approaches, Nicola and I wish you a very Merry Christmas filled with joy, good cheer, and time well spent with loved ones.

Here’s to a happy, healthy, and successful New Year.

We look forward to seeing you in 2025!

Best wishes, Robert and Nicola

Robert Persell President

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Welcome to the Autumn Edition of the TMV We are delighted with the announcement of Robert Persell as the new President of the NAT. Congratulations to Robert on this significant achievement!

In this edition, you will read that Robert is keen that the NAT goes from strength to strength. With this in mind there are two articles that are ‘must reads’ offering plenty of food for thought— these are by Paul Deacon and David Tinney.

At the end of this edition is an article by Howard Robbins, tutor and mentor to many, who looks back at his past but also offers thoughts for the future of the NAT. Not only has Howard been in the industry for over 50 years but he has also celebrated a milestone birthday - happy birthday Howard!

Special thanks go to Andrew Coy and Steve Warwick for their heartfelt tributes to Richard Haywood and Gordon Verran, whose contributions to our community were significant.

As always, my gratitude goes to everyone who has contributed to this magazine.

Your efforts have made this this publication a vibrant and informative resource.

Finally, I’d like to wish you all a very merry and happy festive season.

Happy reading!

Dates for the diary Executive Committee Meeting Mondayd 20th January 2025 Monday 28th April 2025 Monday 9th June 2025 Monday 15th September 2025

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Annual General Meeting This year’s Annual General meeting was held on Sunday 6th October at “The Water Rats Club” in London. At the meeting Robert Persell became the “President of The National Association of Toastmasters” and will hold the office for the next two years. Robert received the Presidents ‘Chain of Office’ from the outgoing President Tom Reddy. Robert took the opportunity to thank Tom for all his efforts and hard work.

Fifteen members attended the Meeting. Following the meeting they were joined by seven partners for a fabulous reception and lunch

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Monday 2nd This year’s Christmas Lunch was held in the beautiful setting of Bakers Hall. A wonderful meal, sing-along and entertainment was enjoyed by 60 attendees that included 20 members of the NAT. Probably one of the most challenging jobs is to ‘toastmaster’ a toastmaster’s lunch.

However, one of our newer members Alex Murphy was unfazed by the task and did a great job of getting all the right people in the right place at the right time.

New President, Robert Persell was joined by family and friends and gave his Christmas speech before lunch was served. During the speech bouquets of flowers were given to those that had assisted in organising the event. One of those was to Janine Robbins.

Howard is the NAT Social Secretary, but we all know who the mastermind behind all the coordinating is really!

The President’s Award, an award that was the brainchild of former President Peter Thompson, was presented to Past President Paul Deacon. Paul was very surprised but honoured and delighted to receive it.

As Alex Murphy told the guests, ‘It is a lunch that just kept giving’. There was the usual game of Heads and Tails – no money required to join in but a bottle of bubbly, kindly donated by Howard Robbins, was won by Malcolm Blackmore guest of NAT Member Brian Lee.

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d December Treasurer, Rodger Oatley held the NAT 100 Club Christmas draw and was ably assisted by Nicola Persell. The Winners for December and the 3 extra Xmas Draws at the Luncheon on were as follows.. ...

December Prize- £20 Peter Edgar 3rd Prize £25 - Patrick Hayes 2 nd Prize £50 - Mike O’Rourke 1st Prize £100 - Richard Heywood (paid to Shirley) The lunch would not be the NAT lunch without singing and this year the guests excelled themselves with renditions of Tom Jones’ ‘Delila’ and Neil Diamond’s ‘Sweet Caroline’, all led by the fabulous Ian Leigh.

However, it is Christmas and therefore carols were also the order of the day. The talented Rory Windass, another newish member, played the piano whilst all sung carols.

I know that many of you reading this would have really liked to join us but had family or business commitments to attend to... but we all very much hope that you will be able to join us next year.

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IT’S NOT JUST ARO IT’S HER As we go into 2025, I would give you a little glimpse in the Technological world to come.

There is a revolution coming on par with the Industrial Revolution and the Computer Revolution, so get on board.

Jobs by their 100’s of thousands will go and new jobs will be created by the AI revolution. Transactional jobs will go and the process is likely to be speeded up if the costs of employing people continues to go up. Artificial Intelligence is already here! And gathering momentum! Whilst I often think of the dangers of Generative AI, the benefits will outweigh the drawbacks. Once something like this is out-of-the-box you can’t put it back in.

Take an example which is not even AI! And we are moving towards it.

Example: You go into a shop, your App registers you and you go around and put things in your trolly. You do not scan them! Each item label is fitted with an RFID tag tech thing costs 1/4p. As you go through the sensors at the door the RFID tags are uploaded, charged to your App and through the App to your bank account.

Theft disappears unless you remove a label which is absolute theft! Staff are not needed at the Tills at all and you are gone! Did not speak to a soul.

A real example of AI. Last week I was producing a video which needed a voiceover and I wanted a lady due to the event and organisation. My first choice did not pan out and someone showed me an AI voice over. Oh my 28

goodness! Something I thought was just not possible was awesome! The voice was not electronic it sounded so so real.

The intonation, in fact if you had kept it quiet, I would not have guessed it was a bot. In the end I managed to get a great volunteer and the video has gone down incredibly well. Voiceovers will be dead!

Not in the future, from now.

I recently was at an event where someone was showing a Microsoft Teams call, a little like Zoom. As they were going through the conversation, I could see a workflow tool on another screen showing the system organising things based on the conversation. “You join us on the 5th and you will need a security pass, may I take your picture now?” Yes, picture taken. “Can I confirm you still live at XYZ” “Yes, I do”. “Shall I send the pass there or would you like to pick it up?” and the workflow to arrange the pass was initiated. “Oh and you are joining us as a developer”.

You will need a high spec computer for that”. “Is the Dell XYZ suitable?” “Yes”. “I shall order that for you”. Throughout the conversation the work to fulfil the needs was all automated. Then the bomb shell.

It was not a person but a Visual Bot! The only person who was real was the person being interviewed, but it looked so real!

This technology is already available guys. The revolution is coming!

So how can we as Toastmasters and Masters of Ceremonies use the new technology?

Speech writing assistance. Whilst I never take an AI output and use it, since November 2024 I have started putting in what I want to say to get off a blank page.

OUND THE CORNER RE NOW!!

To get the process started. I then take the AI output and have created much better speeches adding in my personal touch, pattern and approach with the suggested content from the AI. Routine tasks - As a Master of Ceremonies, last month I was shown old news footage of me in 1989 organising a conference event for nearly 1000 people, we do lots of routine tasks. Now as we look forward AI can assist with the logistics of our functions but also the risks I had to consider at this conference. What could go wrong? What might I need to consider relating to security? All questions I had to research at the time. AI can also help research our venues as well as simple things like managing schedules.

As events become partially hybrid we rely on expert teams, however, there is a need for us to consider some media, whether that is professional media or social media. We are no longer talking to 100 people in the room but some in Portugal, India, Australia, in fact it could be anywhere in the world. This is key for corporate events.

How do you manage social media and online platforms now? They are not going away! But AI will be able to help support and recommend on this and even automate some of the pictures and storytelling. Your own communications guru! Just look at some these Christmas Wraps from Apps like music and photos.

They take the material and can work through the story and play it back for you.

AI can assist with much of what we do if you have the imagination but there are a few things it cannot do and for me, important for Toastmasters, and that is one of the primary functions of a Toastmaster - to engage with the audience. The charisma a Toastmaster can bring to an event is a key aspect that AI cannot take over even if virtual. The personal touch, the conversation, the real human element. If we are to survive the next 30 years as Toastmasters then this is the area we need to continue to excel.

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Paul Deacon’s New Year’s Reso Indu The dawn of a new year is always a time for reflection and goal-setting, especially for those of us in specialised professions like Toastmasters. As I look back over my career, I can’t help but wish that someone had handed me a crystal ball 30 years ago to predict the twists and turns of this field.

Back then, referrals flowed freely from seasoned professionals like the venerable Secretary Martin Nicholls, and wedding fairs weren’t even a twinkle in the industry’s eye. Social media? What social media? It was all about word-of-mouth – the original social network – and an understanding by clients that Toastmasters played a key role in most formal events.

However, times have changed, and the current landscape is much more complex.

The advent of social media, the evolving preferences of younger generations, and economic challenges are reshaping the Toastmaster profession. Allow me to reflect on these changes to try and understand the modern dynamics of the wedding and event industry. I think it’s essential to us for staying relevant, and if I want to maintain my current job levels, rather than see them reduce, I have to change the way I get them.

A Changing Industry Landscape In recent years, several trends have reshaped the work available to Toastmasters:

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1. Decline in Corporate Events Post-COVID, corporate events have decreased as companies have tightened budgets and prioritised remote interactions over in-person gatherings. With fewer people meeting in physical spaces, the demand for live event professionals has waned.

2. Shifting Wedding Traditions Younger generations are embracing nontraditional approaches to weddings. DJs or family friends are often asked to act as MCs, sidelining the need for a Toastmaster.

Banqueting managers, particularly those from younger generations, are often unfamiliar with the role of a Toastmaster, which compounds the issue.

3. Economic Constraints Rising living costs have placed significant financial strain on couples planning weddings. According to a recent report from Getwedpro, 58% of UK couples have scaled back their wedding budgets. In 2024, a staggering 81% of 50 couples interviewed

are spending less than £20,000, with nearly half allocating £10,000 or less. In 2024, 53% of couples plan to invite 51-100 guests, while 27% will host fewer than 50 guests, slightly down from 34% in 2023. Although

olutions for a Changing Events ustry the average number of guests has slightly increased from 77 in 2023 to 83 in 2024, there remains a clear trend towards smaller, more intimate weddings. Smaller guest lists and scaled-down ceremonies might further reduce the likelihood of engaging a professional Toastmaster.

A report this year by F. Hinds the jewellers also revealed that the classic sit down threecourse meal could become ‘extinct’ from future weddings, with couples favouring more informal food options such as grazing tables, dessert bars, and brunch or afternoon tea.

Addressing the Influence of Gen Z

4. Wedding celebrants The new government has made little mention of registering celebrants so that they can legally marry couples. But if this does come to the fore during 2025 as many celebrants expect, and are pushing for, it may dramatically change the role the celebrants have during wedding celebrations. It may make them more popular and, as some do now, they may well look after both the ceremony and the wedding breakfast.

5. Masonic Ladies Festivals In Arena Magazine, the official magazine of the London Freemasons, I read recently that “we had our busiest February for Ladies Festival enquiries ever. It certainly seems that these wonderful events are coming back.”

NOTE: I personally believe that there will always be a market for the larger traditional wedding.

Looking ahead, the influence of Gen Z cannot be ignored. As Kian Bakhtiari noted in Forbes, Gen Z is characterized by a focus on individual pursuits over collective experiences, and the advent of AI companions highlights an increasing reliance on technology for social connection.

This shift may transform how weddings and events are organized in the next decade.

Virtual and hybrid weddings, AI-driven coordination, and smaller, more intimate gatherings could become the norm.

To stay ahead of the curve, Toastmasters must consider integrating modern technology into their services. Most of the conferences I used to look after dropped me when they started to offer only online events, but perhaps I, rather than the event organisers, could be telling speakers what they need to do, and I could have learnt to deal with delegate online enquiries. Would we offer zoom or virtual MC services or learn to manage hybrid event formats which could position us as indispensable professionals in this evolving landscape?

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Looking Ahead: Adapting to the Future The challenges we face as Toastmasters are not insurmountable but require adaptability and a forward-thinking approach. Here are some strategies I think are needed to thrive in the evolving industry: 1. Strengthening Professional Relationships Building and maintaining strong relationships is more crucial than ever.

Reflecting on where most of my work came from last year, I’ll ensure regular contact with venues, agencies, and individuals who have referred me work. I need to communicate better with my NAT colleagues in 2025.

2. Expanding Into New Markets Diversifying into underserved or growing markets could increase workloads. For example, Asian weddings often require skilled Toastmasters familiar with changing cultural traditions and large-scale events

and I regularly see different nationalities now having a UK wedding.

Similarly, exploring opportunities in West End corporate events could open new doors now, provided I adapt my skillset to meet the changing expectations of these highprofile gatherings.

It’s easy to ask local lodges about their Ladies Festival. They might not pay well but they’re fun, it’s a great advertisement and they sometimes bring in a wedding enquiry.

Which new venues have opened recently?

3. Embracing Digital Marketing Younger audiences live online, and Toastmasters must establish a strong digital presence to reach them. My professional website showcases testimonials, but now needs a portfolio of events, and even short videos of past work.

4. Deciding who I don’t want as a client I’ve just read this tip in a booklet I received from Hitched. “By understanding who you don’t want to attract, you can avoid

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investing resources in marketing to the wrong audience and instead concentrate on creating content that resonates with your ideal clients—the ones you truly want to work with. This way, your messaging becomes more intentional, and your efforts are channelled towards attracting couples who genuinely appreciate your unique offerings.”

5. Making changes at weddings Do I need to change my offering at weddings?

Like the DJ at last week’s wedding who said that it was part of his package at every wedding, should I offer to MC the Mr & Mrs shoe game?

Or, if content creators are starting to make a living out of weddings, couldn’t I do that too? At least I would know what to be create for my content.

Bearing in mind everyone drinks so much at weddings these days, should we do some informal wedding toasts during the wedding breakfast to try and keep guests in the banqueting suite or offer the traditional but out of date sixpence in a cork ceremony?

Navigating Economic Challenges

class, and reducing stress for the couple can help justify the expense.

Collaborating with other vendors to offer bundled services might also be an effective strategy. I wonder if I should team up with photographers, DJs, or florists to create attractive package deals so that we can add value for clients while broadening our reach.

Wardrobe Considerations: Modernising the Toastmaster Look Looking ahead, should I evaluate my wardrobe and the traditional Toastmaster uniform? While the uniform is synonymous with professionalism and formality, I must consider whether it resonates with couples who are more into pastel suits and flower crowns. Perhaps a contemporary twist on my attire could help me bridge the gap – professional yet approachable.

If this is the case, I’ll assess what I already have in my wardrobe that could strike the right balance between formality and approachability. And yes, the bank manager suits from two decades ago may finally need retiring.

Planning for the Year Ahead As I prepare my New Year’s resolutions, I’ll focus on several key areas to refine and grow my Toastmaster practice.

In light of economic constraints, creativity is essential to appeal to budget-conscious clients. Offering customizable packages tailored to smaller weddings or intimate gatherings could make hiring a Toastmaster more accessible. Highlighting or changing the value we bring, for instance, “would you like a Downton Abbey style butler on your special day?” and continuing to ensure seamless event execution, adding a touch of

1. Analysing Past Work Reflecting on the sources of my work over the past year will help me identify successful strategies and areas for improvement. As highlighted above: - Am I in regular contact with agencies, venues, or individuals who referred work to me?

- Am I nurturing relationships with key referrers?

- Are there untapped markets I should explore?

2. Staying Professional Equally important is ensuring I remain professional and courteous within the Toastmaster community. Am I still being

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supportive to the other Toastmasters (some not in the NAT) who referred work to me? I’ll need to reflect on whether I reported back promptly on jobs they entrusted me with and avoided any “poaching” faux pas which might mean they would give me no more work. In a field where collaboration and reputation are key, fostering goodwill and trustworthiness is non-negotiable.

3. Social media Another area I’ll prioritise is enhancing my social media presence. Thankfully, I updated my website and my NAT entry earlier this year, but I see that some Toastmasters have dated testimonials which were written 10 years ago, without any modern ones. Do they think that shows the length of their experience?

Do platforms like Facebook, while no longer the dominant force they once were, still hold value for connecting with older clients and industry professionals? However, are younger couples increasingly turning to Instagram and TikTok, making these visually oriented platforms vital for showcasing my skills and events? Additionally, newer platforms like Skyblue, with their innovative and community-focused features, could open doors to tech-savvy couples and modern audiences.

Considering traditional platforms with emerging ones and regularly updating my content will be crucial for maintaining my visibility in an increasingly digital world.

4. Investing in Growth Finally, I’ll explore areas for growth and consider my budget for it.

Can I expand more into markets like Asian and other international weddings? How do international (perhaps those coming from USA) and Asian brides find a Toastmaster? Is it really just through existing family connections?

How do I get back into high-profile West End corporate dinners, conferences or awards ceremonies which seem to be dominated by just a few existing Toastmasters, or where the Toastmaster has been replaced by a cheaper Voice of God? Wedding fairs? Which ones brought me work?

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It’s time for a new article for the local newspapers with a photograph. What on earth could I send?

The President’s award presentation! Perfect opportunity!

Another question I need to explore is whether I’m missing opportunities to work at events attended by distinguished figures such as Lord-Lieutenants, High Sheriffs, civic heads, or mayors.

Why haven’t I been in touch with my new local MP? Personally, I’m quite sure that with a declining understanding of formality among organisers, there must be a growing need for someone with my skills to oversee such events with the appropriate decorum. The challenge is identifying how to access these opportunities. Would it hurt if I were to approach civic offices or local councils to introduce my services? Would networking with venues known for hosting these kinds of events yield results? Finding a way into this segment could help me carve out a valuable niche in the market.

5. Summary Diversifying my client base and marketing will help me remain relevant and broaden my opportunities in a competitive market. By reflecting on these aspects and committing to a strategic approach, we could all position ourselves for continued success in the coming year.

The Toastmaster profession has always been about adapting to the needs of clients and evolving trends. While the challenges are real, so too are the opportunities for those willing to innovate.

Who, in the last 10 years, has seen newlyweds drive away with tin cans tied to the back of their car? While traditions evolve, our core offering – adding polish, poise, and professionalism to life’s most important events – remains timeless. Traditions may change, but who else can help to ensure the speeches run on time, the cake cutting doesn’t descend into chaos, and the father of the bride remembers his toast?

As we step into 2025, let’s all embrace these changes with creativity, determination, and a willingness to learn. Here’s to embracing change, staying adaptable, and keeping the red coat flying high. After all, the show must go on – and who better to keep it on track than us?

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It’s a bit of a long story how I ended up being a toastmaster in Kashmir and Pakistan but first of all I would very much like to express my gratitude to Paul Deacon. Several months ago, Paul enquired if I could cover an event in High Wycombe for an ex Mayor and ex Chair of the Council Mahboob Hussain, who had just been awarded an OBE.

a receiving line with Asian guest arriving at 7.00 and others at 7.30. unfortunately, the host had forgotten to tell the Lord Lieutenant and Lord Goodman about this and they subsequently turned up just before 7.30. In the meantime, nobody was allowed into the Town Hall which resulted in many people waiting outside for almost half an hour.

I was available but my first thought was not to let Paul down as I was covering for him. The event duly took place, about 250 turned up including the Lord Lieutenant, who was there in a personal capacity (Lady Howe) and Lord Goodman. The event was fairly chaotic before proceeding got underway. For example, a bagpiper had been hired as well as the local cadets with drums and flags but nobody had spoken to them about the order or the ceremony (I had been informed beforehand of the way proceedings would take place but nothing had happened). I like to think I got them organized fairly quickly. There was also

When the door was opened, it was chaotic, with Muslim ladies not wanting to go to the receiving line for an introduction as they don’t shake hands.

Fortunately, I persuaded the hosts wife to be part of the receiving line and persuaded the ladies to say hello. I also only allowed one door to be open so I could direct everybody through to the receiving line. I now know that after this event I have confidence that I can do well at any event in the future. It was a bit of a steep learning course but very enjoyable. The other matter that caused concern is that Mahboob wanted me to read the OBE citation and then present

n Pakistan. him with the OBE after the drummers and pipers had been on stage.

explain the position and also apologised

Fortunately, with the assistance of the Lord Lieutenant, Mahboob was told that this was not possible as he had already been presented with the OBE by HRH Princess Anne. I therefore merely stated to the guests that somebody much more important than myself had presented the OBE, read the citation and merely pinned the OBE to the lapel. The Lod Lieutenant said it was beautifully done in the circumstances.

that I may not have gone about this in the correct way. Paul asked me to tell Mahboob that he was free and would be available to assist. I duly rang Mahboob and told him the protocol but he asked if I could attend as I had done the UK event.

Anyway, lets get on to Pakistan. About a week later Mahbood rang me and asked as I had been the toastmaster at the event in High Wycombe, would I consider going to Kasmir and Pakistan for further events to celebrate his award.

I was available and subject to negotiation delighted to assist. Within the day though I realized even though there was no fee, (simply all expenses paid) that this was a referral from Paul so duly rang him to

We flew out one early afternoon to Islamabad and arrived at 9.00am the following day. We were greeted by friends and garlands duly placed around our necks then immediately set of for Kashmir which was about 3 hours away.

There were about 10 cars in our convoy, the first car having guards with sub machine guns! Traffic was not a problem when it usually is around Islamabad. We arrived at the crossing with Kashmir and I was asked to get changed by the side of the road as a convoy with friends and bands would greet us just outside the village. Took me a good five minutes but

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all achieved then I was rather surprised to see a big banner outside the village with a picture of myself, together with lord Goodman and the host. In large words were written. The Hon Brian Lee, Kings representative. Now this was stretching the truth a bit far to say the least but immediately gave me a problem, which I pointed out to my host. He simply said there has been a mistake with the organizers, so what to do. I took the view that although this was completely false, there was no way that I could make my host lose face, about the worst thing you can do in Aisa. I also considered that if I upset the organizers by telling them of their error and upset people, well then it was a long walk back to London.

host I was considered the most important person there, so I duly said a few words and sat down. Interesting, there were no women in attendance, they were sitting in a courtyard watching the event on TV. We then all sat down for a magnificent feast with lots of pictures taken, I think I had a picture taken with every villager. I did stand out in my wonderful red coat.

The following day we went to a village outside Lahore, a six hour drive, called Shangla Hill. About 15 minutes before we arrived I was asked again to put my uniform on as we were opening a shopping street, not a mall or shop but a whole street. I duly obliged and when I stepped out of the car we were greeted by a huge a crowd.

So, the event went ahead with the village attending in a large marquee. I suspect about 500 people were in attendance, quite a few did not speak English. There were 10 speakers, including a local minister as well as the head of the village and I was actually given due notice to say as few words. Apparently, next to the

A mass of garlands were placed around my neck, there was a military band and press with photographers.

We merely walked up the street, but it took about 30 mins. The press then asked questions after which we all retired to a Sultans house via a horse and cart, for

another feast with lots of dignitaries.

Well, an experience in itself, once again many thanks to Paul, I need to return the favour quickly By chance my next event is a wedding at the Brighton pavilion, more Asian than English!

Brian Lee

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‘HALT! W THE On a cold evening, a group of 13 members of NAT, along with friends and family, gathered at the West Gate of the Tower of London for a memorable experience. The evening was hosted by our guide, Yeoman Serjeant John Donald, whose knowledge brought the history of the Tower to life.

The visit began with a brief history of the Tower, offering insights into its rich and often dramatic past. We were then taken to the Chapel of St Peter ad Vincula, a sacred and historic space where notable figures from England’s history are laid to rest.

Following this, the group was invited to the Yeoman’s Pub, The Keys, for drinks in this exclusive venue. The highlight of the evening was witnessing the Ceremony of the Keys, the ancient ritual of locking up the Tower. As the clock struck 10 o’clock, the solemn sound of the Last Post echoed through the historic grounds, marking the conclusion of a truly unique and atmospheric experience.

Sincere thanks to Peter and Gillian Thompson for organising this event.

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WHO COMES ERE?’

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WHY AM I A ‘LIFE VIC NA How do you envision your career as a Toastmaster?

Is officiating at Weddings enough? Or do you aspire to build a more diverse and fulfilling path? There are countless opportunities to explore beyond the traditional English wedding. From Civic, Masonic, or cultural celebrations such as Jewish, Asian or Mediterranean Weddings and parties, to charity and fund-raising events, each new type of event adds a fresh layer to your professional experience. By embracing variety, you not only enrich your own journey, but can also inspire other members by sharing your experiences and insights from a broader range of events. Did you do something in your Toastmaster uniform which would be of interest to others? Don’t keep it a secret!

For me, branching out from traditional weddings has been one of the most exciting aspects of my career. I’ve found that stepping away from just English and Jewish Weddings has opened a wealth of opportunities and kept my work dynamic and fulfilling. Through the networking opportunities provided by the National Association of Toastmasters (NAT), I have regularly connected with other professionals, which has led to exposure to a wider array of events and, ultimately, additional opportunities for work. While the NAT itself does not directly provide work as an agency, the connections and support it offers through networking, have played a crucial role in diversifying my career and helping me grow both professionally and financially.

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My connection to the world of Toastmasters runs deep. My Grandfather, Alec, became a Toastmaster in 1933, and my Father, Bernard, followed in 1948.

Both were widely respected and beloved figures in the profession. I began my own journey under my father’s guidance in 1971, at the age of 17. My first solo function took place in December 1973, when I was just 19 years old. Tragically, my father passed away in 1981. At that point, my workload increased significantly, as I took on much of his business.

Howard’s Grandfather Alec

In 1991, I dedicated myself fully to being a Toastmaster and applied to join the NAT. It was a pivotal decision in my life and career.

The National Association of Toastmasters has a proud history of growth and evolution. Since its inception, the organisation has gone from strength to strength, thanks to the dedication and support of its members. This spirit of volunteering and mutual assistance has been the cornerstone of its success, with

CE-PRESIDENT’ OF THE AT? members stepping forward to share their knowledge, organise events, and foster a sense of community.

But is that spirit of support declining?

In recent years, we have seen fewer members offering their time and energy to keep the NAT thriving. Re-igniting this tradition of collaboration is essential to ensure its continued prosperity.

In the past, for instance, the NAT held regular well attended face-toface meetings in London, three or four times a year. These gatherings provided an excellent opportunity to connect with fellow members, and I quickly formed long-lasting friendships with my colleagues. The Association also hosted annual events such as the Christmas Lunch, and a Black-Tie Dinner and Ball at prestigious West End hotels. In 1994, during Christine Akehurst’s year as President, I was honoured to be invited to serve as her ‘Social Secretary’. This role allowed me to build closer relationships with members and contribute to the organisation in a meaningful way.

After election to the Executive Committee, where I would help to shape the future of the NAT, I was immensely proud to be made a Fellow in 1996.

I assumed leadership roles such as Second Vice-President and, ultimately, President in 2001. Hosting the ‘Annual Dinner and Ball’ in the Great Room of the Grosvenor House Hotel in Park Lane, with over 600 attendees, remains one of my proudest and memorable achievements.

Throughout my time with the NAT, I have consistently sought ways to

support our members and strengthen the organisation. One of my proudest contributions was proposing the creation of the ‘Welfare Officer’ role, which I undertook myself for several years. This position involved reaching out to members who were unwell or in need of assistance, as well as supporting the widows, widowers, and partners of late members. This role was incredibly rewarding, and I was glad to pass it on, knowing its value would endure.

One of my passions and a driving force has been to maintain the standards of new Toastmasters, while at the same time adapting to the changing world we live in. So, to that end, I started training new Toastmasters, subsequently joined by my friend and colleague, Past President, Paul Deacon. I continue to train, and many of our new and younger members 43

have been trained by us. It’s incredibly fulfilling to see them flourish, and it’s a privilege to play a part in shaping the next generation of Toastmasters. Do you think you might be a future ‘trainer’?

How could Paul and I help you to do that?

In December 2020, I was deeply moved when President Peter Thompson introduced the ‘President’s Award’ and honoured me as its first recipient. At the time, I believed this would be the pinnacle of my career. However, that belief changed a year later.

The highest honour the NAT can bestow upon a member is that of “Life VicePresident”. So, why was I given this great privilege? Sometimes I ask myself this very question, and I wouldn’t be surprised if others have pondered it as well. However, one thing is certain, I am immensely proud to hold this esteemed title. It’s a joy to stand alongside our other Life Vice-President, Barry Dorn, and to follow in the footsteps of distinguished individuals, including my dear friend and ‘mentor’, the late Bryn Williams.

To come up-to-date, at our latest AGM, when President Robert Persell asked for someone to take on the role of Social Secretary, I accepted the position .. ( albeit very ably assisted by my wonderful Wife, Janine ).

At some point in the years ahead, it is obvious that we will need Members like yourself, to step-up and take on some of the very important roles in the NAT, such as the Secretary, Treasurer, Welfare Officer, Social Secretary, a Member of the Executive Committee, and even the Editor of this TMV Magazine.

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As King Charles III once remarked, “It is through giving, as much as receiving, that we find true fulfilment”. This sentiment encapsulates what I have experienced in my years with the NAT. The more effort you invest, the greater the rewards you reap—not just personally, but for the entire organisation.

Although I understand that COVID-19, and other reasons, have reduced peoples’ desire to meet socially, I genuinely believe that if Members were encouraged to do more for the Association—no matter their current position—it would revitalise our sense of community. This could involve writing an article for ‘Toastmasters Voice’, volunteering to organise and host a social gathering, delivering a talk on ‘Zoom’ on a relevant topic, or proposing new ideas for events such as the Christmas Lunch to the Executive Committee. These actions, small or large, help sustain and grow our shared mission.

This is not just my reflection on the past but a message for the future.

One day soon, please follow in my footsteps. Take on a vital role, bring your energy and ideas, and help keep our Association thriving. In time, YOU too will be recognised for your dedication and commitment.

As for me, I have no plans to retire, just yet ! In life, as with being a Toastmaster, the more you invest in your work, either by diversifying your activities or by simply doing more jobs, the more you will gain in return. The time, dedication, and enthusiasm you put into being a Toastmaster, enrich not only your own career, but also the community around

you. Now, more than ever, it’s crucial that we each contribute to the growth and vitality of the NAT, ensuring its legacy endures for generations to come.

In 2025, what kind of impact are YOU going to make on the future of the NAT ?

Together, we can honour the tradition of our profession while shaping its future for those who follow. There are too many people sitting back and doing nothing.

Howard with the President of the Law Society

TMV Editor with his trainer in 2017

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