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38 30 jake shears cuts loose what’s life like after departing a long-term kiki with
the Scissor Sisters? For Shears, it’s included a solo album, a memoir, a Broadway show and more.
sina grace had plenty on his plate working on indie
titles, but when Marvel invited him to usher a major superhero out of the closet, he couldn’t refuse.
38 finding the lgbtQ in edm
dance music has long been a defining part of the
queer experience, but as EDM culture flourishes, does our connection to the beat go on?
52 A TASTE OF NEW ORLEANS want to see the big easy? we sampled some of the
city’s extraordinary culinary traditions and consider our community’s place in its perpetual parade.
52 ON THE COVER PHOTO BY RAPHAEL CHATELAIN
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about the dangers of doing what you love for a living. I think he was, in part, engaging in behavior common to parents of enthusiastic high school theater dorks who might aspire to a career on the stage. Dad is uniquely qualified to speak on the subject: He spent many years suffering the slings and arrows of bad auditions and stretches of unemployment. He saw performing artists of great talent go unrecognized and others felled by injuries. He fought every step of the way. But on this particular occasion, I don’t think he was simply warning me about the odds of making a go of it in the theater. He was warning me about a peculiar alchemy that happens when any artistic pursuit is touched by business. No matter how much you love it and no matter how great the art is that you create, it becomes a product. And if you’re a performing artist, you become the product.“Some days,” he said with a sigh,“it feels I’m stamping out notes like license plates in a factory.”Subconsciously, I think I absorbed this as a warning to always be on the lookout for the hidden consequences in any art-making I might pursue professionally - and attempt to course correct so as to not end up in license plate factory mode. So when I went to college and saw my friends knocking themselves out to audition for parts they didn’t even particularly want (simply to gain experience), I shifted my focus to writing for the stage instead: after all, why be another actor in need of a part when I could be cranking out parts myself. Then after years of writing, directing and producing - only to watch shows lose money or barely break even, I felt the grind of the license plate machine approaching and largely pulled away from that world of putting up shows in dingy black box theaters, hoping to reach a “next level” that kept failing to arrive. Instead, I decided to diversify. I studied writing comedy in a class that was designed to be much like the writer’s room of a late-night talk show. Unfortunately I had more success cracking witty asides than coming up with the kind of jokes and sketch ideas that gain one access to actual writer’s rooms. I tried my hand at writing for scripted television, was advised by a mentor to write a spec script, and wrote a rather a fabulous one (if I do say so myself) for an episode of Ugly Betty. However, before I could send it to an agent, the show was unceremoniously cancelled, and my mentor advised me that it was generally considered outré to send out scripts for shows no longer on the air. All that work gone right out the window because someone at ABC decided America Ferrara and Vanessa Williams were not the ratings draw they once were? That seemed like a raw deal. I continued to experiment. I wrote songs and started singing at open mic nights and piano bars. I spent a year and a half of my lunch hours writing a young-adult fantasy novel that (to this day!) I still am only halfway through transcribing. I made YouTube videos about musical theater. I spent the past seven Augusts writing 31 short plays to post on the Internet in 31 days. I liked to tell myself that practicing each art form made me better at all the others; on some level I wondered if I’d have more success sticking with one more obsessively. I have stuck with at least one thing. I’ve been working on this magazine for over 16 years. There are moments when I see people with whom I went to college appear on some of my favorite TV shows or end up with their books on shelves at Barnes & Noble, and I wonder if I’ve done enough. But there are other times when I consider myself very lucky - to have been part of the cultural conversation all this time; to have helped chronicle the increase in visibility, acceptance and legal rights among our LGBTQ community; to never have once worried about being accepted as an openly gay man at my place of work. And while my sundry other artistic pursuits may not have earned me the riches and fame I dreamed about as a wide-eyed kid, I can say they have very seldom felt like working in a license plate factory. ■
MY DAD, A PROFESSIONAL MUSICIAN, ONCE WARNED ME
22 CULTURE 6 METROSCOPE The sexy Warwick Rowers, a troubling film about a trans ballerina, Mardi Gras parties, Rent: Live, and gay ski adventures. All this and more... in scope!
15 WEEKENDER Show up for Israel’s biggest costume party.
16 BOOKS An artist serves face, and Times Square is in focus.
22 SCREEN A gay French romance, a young man who comes home with a secret, and awards season predictions!
28 MUSIC Barbra, Robyn and Chris Garneau change it up.
BODY 26 METRO HIV Open your heart with Bette, Hugh, and NPH.
44 HEALTH Tips and tricks to look redcarpet ready.
VIEWS 18 DIARY Wade finds the gay in Game of Thrones.
19 GAY VOICES “I accidentally slept with a Catholic priest...”
20 POV Kevin looks at life, one dance floor at a time.
88 LAST CALL Adam Shankman directs Taraji and Amy.
EXCLUSIVELY NY 60 HOME Make a magical media room.
62 NY SCOPE What’s hot in NYC museums?
66 METROMONY Honeymoon in Montreal.
69 HOT SHOPS A bakery that cuts the carbs.
70 BAR SOURCE Where to drink up…
71 RESTAURANT BITES …and chow down.
74 BUSINESS DIRECTORY Businesses that cater to the LGBT community.
86 COMMUNITY RESOURCES Organizations and resources for NYC’s LGBTs.
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February/March 2019 | VOLUME 30, NO. 1
The Legendary NYC Drag Queen We Love Is…
The votes are in, and you’ve chosen one fabulous queen to join this year’s list of People We Love. WE STARTED WITH SEVEN ENTERTAINERS — ALL DESERVING OF
the accolade “legendary” — each one vying for a place on our annual list of People We Love. The queens mounted impressive campaigns; many shared videos encouraging their fans to vote for them online (and even threw some sassy shade at their legendary sisters). But in the end — after one queen withdrew her name from contention, and we’d tallied the combined votes from those who cast their ballots online and in person at our booth at DragCon — one has taken this year’s crown: Tina Burner. “Thank you to all the Metrosource family and readers!” said the victorious Burner. “It’s especially an honor knowing that Sherry Vine had to move away ‘cause I won.“ As a self-described “linebacker in a pantsuit,” Burner is the winner of numerous titles and crowns. She recently strutted the runway as Miss Fire Island 2018. “I view drag as an opportunity to carry conversations and push certain messages,” she says. “It’s a responsibility, and I use it as a platform to promote my two mantras: ‘treat everyone how you want to be treated,’ and ‘we are stronger as a community than we are as a nation.’ Stick together and stand for your beliefs. Be the change; don’t sit and wait for it.” Burner has been performing drag for nearly a decade, and has become a mainstay of the New York drag scene with her one-of-akind comedy, presentation and costumes. “I honestly can’t thank everyone enough for their continued support and patronage of my career, and even establishments I work in. Without the support of the LQBTQIA community, I wouldn’t be where I am today. The only reason I do what I do is to have the superpower of changing someone’s day and putting a smile on their face. To all my fellow nominees, without you trailblazing the way I wouldn’t exist. Much love from this linebacker in a pantsuit,” said Burner. Congratulations to Tina Burner and best wishes for continued success to Sherry Vine, Joey Arias, Shequida, Hedda Lettuce, Lypsinka and Lady Bunny (who withdrew from the contest early on). To see videos and learn more about each queen, visit metrosource.com/legendaryqueens. Sign up for our newsletter at metrosource.com/subscribe. MetroEspresso will keep you updated on great drag events and videos throughout the year with more of your favorite queens. ■ METROSOURCE.COM FEBRUARY/MARCH 2019
CURATED BY SEBASTIAN FORTINO, PAUL HAGEN, ERIN JORDAN AND JEFFREY JAMES KEYES
ROW MY GOODNESS DOING GOOD NEVER LOOKS AS FINE AS IT DOES WHEN GRACING
the pages of The Warwick Rowers ‘annual calendar. Celebrating its 10th anniversary this year, the calendar features the buff bods of the University of Warwick’s men’s rowing team and other rowing athletes stripped down to their bare essentials. Though risqué, their pictures stay on the safe side of explicit (though perhaps not enough to be this year’s desk calendar). Beyond serving as a visual treat to those with discerning eyes, these athletes are raising money to promote LGBTQ and gender equality, and part of the goal behind
posing au naturale is to normalize male behavior and interaction historically considered out of place in sports. Their charity, Sports Allies, is also partnering with London Film School and Sky Sports to spread their message about the necessity of inclusion in the world of sports — an area that is increasingly improving, but still has a long way to go. Those looking to support this worthy cause can find the calendar for purchase on warwickrowers.org. Other 10th anniversary specials include a coffee table book and a subscription package to receive video and still images during the year. Woof.
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VIRGIN VOYAGES, A NEW BRAND FROM RICHARD BRANSON’S VIRGIN
Group has been causing a commotion with a foodie concept set to shake up the travel industry. Their first ship, the Scarlet Lady, boasts more than 20 options, including restaurants, seaside lounges and casual eateries.“We want our eateries to delight and ignite serendipitous experiences for our sailors, so [we] have set out on a mission to capture the spirit of dining in the best cities of the world and bring it to sea,”explained Virgin Voyages President and CEO Tom McAlpin. Intentionally adult by design,Virgin Voyages caters to the over-18 traveler and boasts one of the cleanest fleets at sea with a ban on single-use plastics and no buffets on board of the ship. The Scarlet Lady’s inaugural voyage sets sail from Port Miami for the 2020 season with 2,770 sailors and a crew of some 1,160. The Scarlet Lady also brings an impressive lineup
of drag performers onboard in their new Drag Brunch series. Their lewks are a good match for the décor at Razzle Dazzle, which is inspired by the bold camouflaging of vessels from World War I. Its creative menu will offer a broad array of “naughty” and “nice”options, including“nice”plant-based vegetarian and vegan dishes and “naughty” dishes that incorporate meat and alcohol. Drag Brunch attendees will have the option of enjoying bottomless drag-inspired cocktails like the“Yassss Queen”(seriously) and the Razzle Dizzle, a CBD-infused libation. Other restaurants will include Wake, which offers an extraordinary view of the water churning behind the ship alongside theatrical land and sea classics; the laboratory-like Test Kitchen, which offers cooking and mixology classes; and Pink Agave, which is meant to evoke the warm ambience of Mexico City. virginvoyages.com
NOW AND THEN
AS OF JANUARY 18, A CONTROVERSIAL FILM WILL BE AVAILABLE FOR
viewing on Netflix. Girl is a Belgian movie about a 15-year-old transgender girl who pursues her dream of becoming a professional ballerina. The film was met with raves at the Cannes Film Festival, where it was the winner of awards including the Queer Palm and the Camera d’Or for Best First Film, while its star Victor Polster was recognized with the prestigious Un Certain Regard Best Actor prize. But wait: members of the trans community have shared some pointed words about the film, in that protagonist Lara attempts to cope with the multitude of stresses related to her transition through self-mutilation — and there have been objections that the lead is played by a cisgender male. Nora Monsecouer, whose life provided impetus for the script (although it is billed as a work of fiction) has also spoken — suggesting that those who have interpreted Girl as reflecting the perspective of its cisgender director Lukas Dhont disregards her own contribution to the collaborative storytelling. Fair warning: viewers may be traumatized by the film’s graphic depiction of the injuries sustained by the main character in the course of her own aggressive attempts to alter her genitals. netflix.com METROSOURCE.COM FEBRUARY/MARCH 2019
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the women celebrated in a home mixologist’s bartending guide called Free the Tipple ($14.95, Prestel). From author Jennifer Croll and illustrator Kelly Shami comes this salute to a brilliant range of diverse women from the 20th century to present time who have made waves in entertainment, the arts, politics, fashion, literature, sports and science, including Frida Kahlo, Rihanna, Serena Williams, Virginia Woolf, Yoko Ono, Zaha Hadid, Zadie Smith and more. The book offers insightfully created cocktails intended as an homage to each woman’s life and legacy. Looking for something frilly as a tutu? Try the Anna Pavlova, which is a vodka-based drink with hints of lemon and
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vanilla. Looking for the ideal tipple when hosting viewing parties for The Handmaid’s Tale? Look no farther than the Margaret Atwood (with an appropriately lethal garnish). Fan of ex-pat chanteuse Josephine Baker? Try a blend of cognac, port, and brandy that recalls le jazz hot of the ﬂapper era. Prefer the exotic glamor of a noir non-conformist? Try the Marlene Dietrich, a citrusy, rye whiskey-based recipe which was actually served to her in Hollywood. Thinking punk? Rock out with a purple drink celebrating Vivienne Westwood. Got eyes for Bette Davis? Then try the scotch-based refresher named in her honor. (Just don’t drive home afterwards. Even if you buckle your seatbelts, it could be a really bumpy night). prestel.com
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gifts with which to shower that special someone come February 14, this year we came across a very different way to show you care: The Katana Arc is a multi-level security system that attaches directly to the back of a smart phone, connecting it to a built-in alarm, a mobile app with a GPS-enabled locator and messaging center, and a 24/7 response center. If your paramour ever feels in danger, they can trigger either an audible or silent alarm and be connected to a response center. The response center will call the cell phone to evaluate the situation, and if that phone is not answered? They quickly contact appropriate emergency response services. Users can also select a circle of seven friends and family to be sent a map of the phone’s current location and a notiﬁcation that the user may be in need of help. While such a gift may seem less than romantic, the sad truth is that hate crimes are on the rise in the U.S. The FBI recently reported a 17-percent increase in bias crimes over the previous year’s statistics — the third consecutive yearly rise. That adds up to approximately 1,500 incidents of violence against members of our community alone. And while some massage oil or sexy underwear may seem like a better Valentine’s day mood-setter, nothing says “I Love You!” like help when its needed most. katanasafety.com METROSOURCE.COM FEBRUARY/MARCH 2019
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FOR THOSE WHO SAW ITS BROADWAY-SHAKING THEATRICAL RUN, IT’S HARD TO BELIEVE THIS
year marks the 20th Anniversary of the debut of Rent, Jonathan Larson’s re-imagining of Puccini’s La Boheme set among an enclave of artists struggling with identity, poverty and AIDS in gritty contemporary East Village NYC. While the 2005 film version’s reception was mixed (with critics noting its cast was largely too old to convincingly capture the show’s young and hungry characters), the piece remains a turning point in the history of American musical theater. And on Sunday, January 27 at 7pm, Rent becomes the latest entry in the recent trend of transforming musical theater into live television events. The cast includes pop star Vanessa Hudgens as Maureen (the role that helped launch Idina Menzel’s meteoric rise). Other cast include Kiersey Clemons (Angie Tribeca) as Joanne, Tinashe and Mario (late of Empire) as Mimi and Benjamin, Brandon Victor Dixon (Jesus Christ Superstar’s fantastic Judas) as Tom and James Levya (pictured) — better known to Drag Race fans as Valentina — in the role of Angel. Tune in to see if they’ll launch a whole new generation of Rentheads. fox.com/rent
IN A 1953 TIME REVIEW OF A MUSEUM OF MODERN ART
“Good Design”exhibition, the magazine asked ,“Is there art in a broomstick? Yes, says Manhattan’s Museum of Modern Art — if it is designed both for usefulness and eye appeal.” It’s a good indication of how the museum has, since its inception, sought to explore the definition of good design and how that can enhance almost every aspect of life. Their mission continues February 10. The Value of Good Design, a remarkably varied assemblage of superior design as reflected in objects including domestic furnishings, appliances, ceramics, glass, electronics, transportation, sporting goods, toys and graphics. Since their inception, the philosophy behind MoMA’s “Good Design”initiatives has spread well beyond the museum walls, with world governments recognizing their goal as a vital tool of social and economic reconstruction in the wake of World War II. It’s also made museum
ATTRACTING HUNDREDS OF THOUSANDS,
this is one of the world’s largest celebrations of LGBTQ Pride. Highlights among this year’s many events include the Pose-style Sissy Ball, a series of presentations on Queer Thinking, a Victoria Park picnic event called Fair Day, the White Party with Drag Race champ Aquaria, a massive parade and non-stop parties in every flavor. mardigras.org.au
WHILE PRIDE MAY BE SYNONYMOUS WITH
SYDNEY GAY & LESBIAN MARDI GRAS FEBRUARY 15 – MARCH 3
FORT LAUDERDALE PRIDE FEBRUARY 21–24
Peter Schlumbohm (American, born Germany. 1896–1962). Chemex Coffee Maker. 1941. Pyrex glass, wood, and leather, 9 1/2 × 6 1/8” (24.2 × 15.5 cm).
with extra fur, there’s a sexy weekend in Palm Springs coming up that features a variety of themed pool parties and DJhelmed dances, a speed dating event, a Hungry Bear Brunch and even a chance to don a toga for “Bearcules.”ibc-ps.com
pieces of such unlikely objects as a Fiat Cinquecento automobile, a Soviet-era Werra camera, a poster for a Mitsubishi sewing machine, a Chemex Coffee Maker, and even Irwin Gershen’s Shrimp Cleaner. moma.org
June in many climes, Fort Lauderdale hosts theirs in February. Expect plenty of fun in the Florida sun, including a parade, a festival and some truly great live entertainment from stars including American Idol’s Ada Vox and frequent Drag Race choreographer and judge Todrick Hall. pridefortlauderdale.org RAINBOW REYKJAVIK WINTER PRIDE MARCH 7–10 PINK ICELAND WELCOMES VISITORS TO
experience the chill charm of this singular world city surrounded by fellow members of the LGBTQ community, including a visit to the sexy and stunning Blue Lagoon, hunts for the Northern Lights, visits to the area’s famous geysers, trips to the unforgettable Phallological Museum and an opportunity to let loose at the fabulous Pink Party. pinkiceland.is
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FOR THOSE WHO LIKE THEIR CIRCUIT EVENTS
From Left: Elevation Utah; Elevation Mammoth
LEVELS OF ELEVATION THERE’S NOTHING QUITE LIKE A GOOD GAY SKI WEEK — ONE THAT
allows you to embrace sport on the slopes during the day before ushering you into evening parties hot enough to thaw the most frigid winter sport enthusiast. Now Tom Whitman, the man behind true classics in terms of these winter wonders, has expanded his empire to include three Elevation events. First up, and making its debut this year, is Elevation: Tremblant (January 31–February 3) in Quebec. It’s the first time an Elevation event has been held so far east, and it’s certain to beckon sporty New Yorkers northward (in addition to droves of cute Canadians). Next up is the ninth annual Elevation: Utah (February 21-24), where you can meet up with over 1,000 bromos and slope sisters
to storm Park City, famously home to both Sundance and the Salt Lake Olympics. It’s worth noting that Park City and Canyons resorts are now one enormous expanse now, which created a vast 7300 skiable acres and some of the world’s most beautiful vistas. This threesome of snowy celebrations ends as many colder climes are beginning to thaw with the seventeenth annual Elevation: Mammoth (March 13-17) in Mammoth Lakes, California. This year, they’re expecting some 3,000 guys and gals to take over the Village, transforming this sleepy ski town into a bona fide boy buffet. Each event promises to capture the flavor of its locale, while also providing the level of fun and quality that fans have come to expect from Elevation. elevationgayski.com
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Follow Dudes With Dogs, which offers up exactly what its name implies— and more. See a diverse selection of men doing everything from playing on the beach to catching some Zzzs with their furry friends. Fans of squishy faces, rejoice: Frenchies and pugs make frequent appearances. Fans of hot guys like Scott Cruz (pictured, follow him on Insta @thescottcruz) will be pleased as well. On top of photos of many good boys (both human and canine), Dudes With Dogs offers its followers a real sense of community: As a leading LGBTQ-inclusive space for pet parents, their pages are a great way to meet other “dog dads” who know what it’s like raising a furbaby. When pet rearing guides and blogs aren’t enough to help you get into the swing of caring for your four-legged friend, connecting with these hunky dog dudes can provide much-needed human advice.You can catch cute photos and stories from around the world both on Instagram (instagram.com/dudeswithdogs) and feel the camaraderie and support of dog lovers like you in their Facebook community (facebook.com/groups/dudeswithdogs). METROSOURCE.COM FEBRUARY/MARCH 2019
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ALL DRESSED UP FOR PURIM If you’re an LGBTQ traveler who constantly craves the costumes of Halloween and the street parties of Mardi Gras, Israel hosts a holiday where you’ll feel right at home. BY PAUL HAGEN
FOR MANY IN THE LGBTQ COMMUNITY, HALLOWEEN IS THE MOST EXCITING
be inventive with their costumes; you’ll find many unafraid to flash a little flesh. Although Pride is the highlight of gay life in Israel (and Tel Aviv’s celebration is legendary), Purim provides another opportunity for LGBTQ travelers to see how colorful and welcoming the region’s party capital is. Some might prefer its relaxed fun to Pride in certain ways: It’s a more playful celebration, and also offers an atmosphere that welcomes straight and mixed crowds alike. That said, the celebrations are memorable both in Tel Aviv’s popular gay bars (like Shpagat) and at circuit events thrown by organizers like the POP Ring, who transform everyday warehouses into LGBTQ wonderlands. Save some energy for AFTER-Purim: very popular with gay party people, it usually starts around 6am on Saturday of Purim week. But even with many LGBTQ-specific places you can play, one Purim reveler we spoke to described Purim in Tel Aviv as “post-gay” - with LGBTQ people welcome to join almost any party. With all the festive and flamboyant costumes, one can picture the difference between gay and straight revelers becoming blurred. And since one of the slogans of Purim can be roughly translated to,“Drink until you don’t know the difference!”, perhaps it’s no wonder that Purim is a time when LGBTQ travelers would feel especially warmly embraced by the city. Visit goisrael.com to learn more about how you can join Israel’s unforgettable Purim festivities and find other great ways in which Israel is eager to welcome LGBTQ travelers like you. ■
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holiday of the year. We’re a community that values self-expression and prefers not being limited by societal norms, which are two of hallmarks of that celebration. Well, we’ve discovered a reason to get dressed up and party with all the fun of October 31st — but a great deal sooner: Purim. This year, Israel’s epic Purim celebrations will begin March 2021 (Wednesday and Thursday) and continue on into the weekend. The celebration finds its religious roots in the story of how a plot against the Jewish people was foiled. This led to a holiday for feasting - marked by traditions such as exchanging gifts of food and drink, donating to charity, and sharing celebratory meals. Like so many cherished holidays, Purim has taken on a life of its own, and it’s celebrated by the whole nation of Israel - from religious Jews in Jerusalem to secular Tel Avivans. Purim parties take place across Israel, filling almost every city with its street parties and their carnival atmospheres. More secular pastimes of the holiday include drinking, donning masks and costumes and engaging in general public revelry. So visitors can get all the joys of visiting Israel (great weather, gorgeous landscapes, stunning beaches, modern cities, history everywhere) plus a fabulous nationwide costume party. The largest of all these public celebrations is in Kikar Hamedina in Tel Aviv. It’s a day-long rave attended by young and old, families and singles, gay and straight people. And it’s a happening all over the city. It’s a time of year with great weather, allowing partygoers to
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WORLDS OF PURE IMAGINATION Revisit Times Square as a cultural vortex, spy on readers lost in their own private worlds, and meet an artist whose face is the medium. BY SEBASTIAN FORTINO
LYLE XOX: HEAD OF DESIGN By Lyle Reimer; Rizzoli; Rizzoli New York; $50
“EVERY DAY IS AN EXERCISE IN EXPERIMENTAL PLAY WHICH FOLLOWS THE CREATIVE URGE TO
push my own personal view of beauty,” explains Lyle Reimer in this approachable volume. Through 125 color photographs that feature the artist as model (or is it canvas?), Lyle Reimer creates a gallery of selfportraits which are quite, well, head-turning. Using ordinary objects - ranging from leftover cardboard packaging to burned matches, loafer tassels and repurposed laundry detergent containers, these and many more items have been artfully turned into creative designs. You may be tempted to consider these designs headgear or even hats, but they also recall something akin to the sense of character found in the work of American photographer Cindy Sherman. The figures, under the art direction of Robert Fabien, almost seem to effervesce onto the pages. Meanwhile, handwritten notes on the opposing pages explain Reimer’s intent with each self-portrait. In a style that bears comparison to Kabuki traditions, Reimer often first cloaks himself in a monochromatic layer, typically white. Then imagination takes over and design elements trickle down, as he’s framing or sometimes applying concepts directly to his face; occasionally the basics are augmented through the addition of rich color blocks. One piece that’s especially eye-catching: Panda Fondue, which recalls a party given by a mythical hostess. The execution of its black and white paper shreds curled into flowers and attached to a sort of medieval helmet with an extended nose cover and softened by black tulle, suggests the artistic whimsy of Elsa Schiaparelli. An eye inserted into Reimer’s left ear and a trail of blood trickling down his neck recalls her contemporary and collaborator Salvador Dali. But whatever the reference — and no matter how dramatic the transformation — each image captures an arresting aesthetic that is unmistakably the artist’s own. FEBRUARY/MARCH 2019
AMERICA’S STAGE: TIMES SQUARE With photos by Betsy Karel and Afterword by Gerry Badger; Steidl; $45 HOW CAN ONE CAPTURE A PLACE AS STORIED AS TIMES SQUARE? “HERE,”
suggests photographer Betsy Karel, “many of the major trends of our society — consumerism, hypersexualization, hucksterism, surveillance, narcissism, globalism — are condensed and amplified. Fantasy parades as reality.” And while many seasoned New Yorkers still seek to avoid these once-gritty blocks where 42nd Street intersects with Broadway, the area still thrums undeniably with the pulse of the city it anchors. We’re fickle about what it ought to be: many hated the detritus of its mid-20th century incarnation, an era when it symbolized the decay of many an American metropolis. But then, after former Mayor Giuliani crusaded to spruce it up as a tourist lure, it was mocked as a Disney-fied version of the neighborhood it once was. Suddenly the strip clubs and sex workers they loathed were missed as part of a lost and inglorious past.
“[Karel] has not only captured a mood with flair and intelligence at a pivotal point in American history, but more importantly, in a perhaps small but vital way, she has shaped our understanding of both life and society from her personal experience,” writes British photographer and critic Gerry Badger. Highlights include: An older woman, 40 or so years ago, inspecting a rifle alongside a member of the armed services; a double-decker bus ferrying a group of nudists bedecked only in body paint and international tourists standing mute in traditional dress awash in modern chaos swirling around them. Karel may now live in Washington, DC, but she was born in New York. Like Times Square, she has reinvented herself – sometimes as artist, sometimes as photojournalist. Whatever label she was wearing at the time, Karel’s collection of more than 70 black-andwhite images document the essence of the City that Never Sleeps.
VOYAGERS Edited by Melissa Catanese; The Ice House; $25
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ACCORDING TO ITS PUBLISHER, VOYAGERS IS “A WORDLESS BOOK WITH
the size and feel of a vintage paperback found at a flea market” meant to remind us “of the power and intimacy of our relationship to reading devices” and evoke “nostalgia for our recent pre-digital culture.” And there is a certain serenity that descends while flipping through the pages in Melissa Catanese’s book of pictures of people reading books. It’s quite the little treasure. Since the subjects in these vintage images rarely regard the camera (most are focused on the printed tomes in hand), we are given license to observe them unconfronted, knowing we’ll never be caught invading their space. A few of Catanese’s images don’t appear to have people in them at all, and these weave their own eerie poetry: in one, a century-old car approaches through a tunnel; in another, a bright light stands alone against a night sky awash in or either snow or stars. Since we seldom can tell where our subjects are voyaging — who the characters are in their novels, what the news is in their
papers — time seems to wrap them in a cloak of privacy, whenever they are (many date from the early 20th century to the mid-’60s). Unlike many photo collections, you won’t find any nudes here. However, many still capture a summer sensuality: in one, a shirtless hippie sits on a beach in cutoff jeans (above, second from left). It’s followed by the portrait of an older gentleman around the turn of the last century, seated on a chaise lounge sheltered in some type of beach tent with a steamer trunk nearby. Although he sports a waistcoat and neckwear, he’s evidently on vacation, enjoying his newspaper, comfortably shoeless. Intentionally or not, the collection also features as a catalogue of vintage wear - check out those widelegged trousers from the ‘30s and ‘40s or the A-line dress on a blond young woman sitting by a jeep looking for all the world like famed chanteuse Blossom Dearie. Other curios include furniture, decorations, accessories and contemporary technology, making this as delightful a read as many of the subjects depicted are having. METROSOURCE.COM FEBRUARY/MARCH 2019
QUEEN OF THE DRAGONS Wade had assumed that Game of Thrones wasn’t for him. But when he finally gave in and watched, he found himself suprisingly enchanted. BY WADE ROUSE
“WHO? WHO WAS THAT? WHY
are their names all seven words long?” The initial episodes of Game of Thrones that Gary and I watched did not feel like the experience my friends had promised. Gary couldn’t understand the accents, which is also the reason why we never watched BBC shows or anything starring John Cleese. The GoT cast was so large that I had to start making a flowchart. And we saw more boobs than in a Victoria’s Secret catalogue. “Just put on House Hunters,” Gary begged. “Or a rerun of Fixer Upper.” “We have to give this a shot,” I said. But did we? I actually had to be shamed into watching the show. As a former writer for People, I kept getting assigned GOT stories about everything from the actors to the cliffhangers. And I kept having to ask my editors,“Who in the hell is Jon Snow, and why do people care?” They were aghast.“Just watch it,” they said. “OK,” I lied. Growing up, I had never been a fan of epic fantasies. I didn’t do Dune, I didn’t dig dragons and (gasp!) I was never a huge Star Wars fan. I preferred my entertainment more anchored in reality. But my large and disparate group of adult friends — including an eclectic mix of writers, editors, agents, gay, straight, of all ages — not only universally loved the show but also spoke about it with fierce devotion and loyalty, like I do when I talk about Erma Bombeck. So, we finally watched. And Gary, unable to follow it, fell asleep. By the time he woke up, I was on episode three, sitting on the edge of the couch, hands clutched over my heart, pulse racing. “What are you doing, Jessica Lange?” he asked, using the pet name he calls me when he believes I’m being overly dramatic, which is a lot. “Best. Show. Ever!” I exclaimed. I made him watch the episodes he missed, explaining who was who as we went along. By the end of season one, neither of us could sleep. We were worried about characters, sadly realizing that many would be killed off. We binge watched every season until we were caught up. We cheered when Joffrey died. FEBRUARY/MARCH 2019
We cried when Catelyn Stark was murdered. For me, it wasn’t simply that the show was superbly well written, acted and directed. It was also how GoT challenged my artistic sensibilities. I kept asking myself: How could I like a show like this? When I teach writing, I preach that the best writers are the best readers. Writers must challenge themselves to read all genres: Novelists should read memoirs, humor writers should read literary fiction. But when it came to my entertainment, I found myself typically watching the same TV shows: Will & Grace, House Hunters, Barefoot Contessa; sports. There was something else, too, something primal about the show and its characters. GoT challenged the norms of both entertainment and society. Gary and I lusted over a shirtless Jason Momoa, even though he was filthy and spoke a language we couldn’t understand. We prayed for Jon Snow not only to survive but also to take off his clothes. We discussed recreating Renly and Loras’s famous chest-shaving scene but Gary worried about handing me a razor. There were both actual gay characters, and those – like Arya Stark and Brienne of Tarth – who defied gender stereotypes. Moreover, the show was as diva-licious as a season of Drag Race. And it mirrored reality: In a world dominated by men, it was women – Cersei Lannister (please die!) and Daenerys Targaryen (please don’t!) – who were ultimately the strongest of those vying for the Iron Throne. And those people who society typically cast aside — characters like Tyrion Lannister, Varys and Grey Worm — are the smartest, most sensitive and, thus, most relatable characters. In this current political cycle, it also gave us somewhere to laser-focus our anger. I have no idea what the final season of GoT will bring, but I will be watching through my fingers like everyone else and holding my breath. And I know a few things for sure: I will go back and read all of George R.R. Martin’s books. I will dress up as the Mother of Dragons for Halloween. And, henceforth, I will dare to give shows a chance, even if they don’t sound like anything I’d remotely enjoy. Dracarys, bitches. ■ Check out Wade’s memoirs, including It’s All Relative and At Least in the City Someone Would Hear Me Scream, and his novels under the pen name Viola Shipman, such as The Recipe Box and The Hope Chest. To learn about them all, visit waderouse.com. HAVE YOU RESISTED A TV TREND ONLY TO BECOME A FAN? SHARE YOUR STORY IN “GAY VOICES” AT METROSOURCE.COM.
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HOW I Accidentally SLEPT WITH A GAY CATHOLIC PRIEST
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CAN YOU OUTRUN YOUR CHILDHOOD? Possibly not, I realized after a brief tryst in Louisville. There on a press trip, I bumped into the cutest guy I’d seen in quite some time. Red hair, eyes of a cerulean summer sky, and a smile that would make sunshine jealous. We sat by the crackle of hotel lobby firelight and laughed, told stories, and shared secrets until I invited him up. Our time alone was intense and well spent. We languished in the shower afterwards, squirting water in each other’s faces, scrubbing each other and unable to go more than 30 seconds without locking lips. Of course I asked him to spend the night. Of course he said yes. Something about him seemed familiar, although I was sure we’d never met before. Was it because he was 99 percent Irish like me? Was it because we’d seen alcoholism in our families or that we’d both moved repeatedly across the country as kids? Was it because we had each been an altar boy? Being Catholic was one of the things that saved me as a boy - not “saved” in the everlasting sense, mind you, but saved from spending time with my mother and my ogre of a step-father. Once I became an altar boy, I had a free pass from the daily anarchic drama my parents called “home.” I’d do my chores, but then scamper off into the comforting arms of My Sweet Lord, and my parents couldn’t have any objection. Who could carp about service to the Almighty? That was one of the topics Brian and I landed on when we started chatting. Neither of us could say enough about how it had shaped us. Loving the security, loving the traditions, loving the serenity had clearly intoxicated us both. That the Holy Church railed against homosexuality was almost incidental, as we both acknowledged: the Church said one thing in its
dogma, while the brothers and the priests and the rest of the Catholic hierarchy did what they pleased with a wink and a nod — and maybe a few extra Hail Marys for good luck. As the next morning wore on, we had another go around and then cleaned up to depart. I asked to see him again. He said he’d like nothing more, but didn’t think it was a good idea. “Why not?” I asked. “Because,” he said, “I’m a priest. I’m married to the Church.” I was gobsmacked. I had just several times helped a Man of the Cloth violate his vows and had been hoping to do so many times more. I asked him how, if he was so set in his beliefs, he could do that — and why he hadn’t just told me the whole truth from jump street. He shrugged. “I’m a sinner. We all are. The best we can do is try to live by God’s law and ask forgiveness when we can’t.” I was overcome with sorrow and shame. I couldn’t deny my attraction or our connection. But I also couldn’t condone someone so casually sidestepping his own code of ethics for romps with randoms. At that point we parted company, and I was left thinking that although I had left Catholicism — and indeed, Christianity — for something that felt more spiritual and less hypocritical, I still felt an excruciating pang of what the faithful call “Catholic guilt.” I never contacted the priest again. I never heard another word from him either, even though we had exchanged phone numbers the night before. I could not bring myself to reach out to him for another night of passion, another drink by the firelight, or another moment of camaraderie. Every time I wondered whether he might be the One Who Got Away, my mind would bounce to those serene hours back in church, what they had meant for me, and how one man took my trust in him and my former faith, put them in a blender with his own insensitivities and set them swirling together on high. I was never abused as an altar boy, as so many have been. Nevertheless, this man had found a way to reopen old wounds, pour salt in them, and amble out of that hotel with a conscience clear as any spring morning. ■
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YOU SHOULD BE DANCING
While spinning on and off the dance floor, Kevin comes out of the closet, progresses through a series of partners and ultimately glimpses his future. BY KEVIN PHINNEY
I LEARNED THINGS ABOUT myself I could never have known otherwise — on the dance floor. I’ve been an avid clubgoer since the glory days of disco, before I understood that being gay wasn’t an intermittent impulse I could keep at bay. From the moment I stepped into the swirl, an instinct took over that let the crowd, the lights and the music work their way into my psyche until my body had no choice but to respond. I danced at straight clubs, watching guys watch the girls in a way I did not - all of us caught in rhythm’s thrall. I danced until my partner would pant for a break; then I wanted to dive back into the throng as soon as she’d caught her breath. I took “You Should Be Dancing” as an imperative. I’d never felt more free — until I made a clandestine trip to the Old Plantation in Dallas one fateful spring break — secretly visiting a club that was unabashedly and unapologetically gay. The place was cavernous, with little alcoves off to the sides where gay boys retreated to drink and smoke — cattily sizing up the competition or lusting aloud after their dream dudes. And, as the lights swirled and the polyester shirts got clingy, I allowed myself for the first time to soak up the sights, sounds and scents of men in tribal communion united by music. When the DJ put on Donna Summer’s “I Feel Love,” I felt like I’d been transported to another dimension. Disco died an ugly death of course — falling victim to what “Le Freak” composer Nile Rogers later called a toxic combination of racism and homophobia. But it didn’t stay dead for long, and was soon reincarnated as something the MTV generation simply called “dance music.” The first time I danced with a guy was in Manhattan. I was on a visit from Austin with my then-girlfriend, and her NYUstudent brother Tony begged us to join him at an underground college dance. We watched the crowd bounce up and down spastically to the B-52’s and Devo for a bit. Suddenly, as thunder and storm sounds rumbled from the speakers , Tony grabbed my hand. “Come on,” he said, we gotta dance to this!” He dragged me to the middle of the floor for my first exposure to “It’s Raining Men.” As far as I know, Tony was straight, but halfway through the chorus, I understood with certainty for the first time that I wasn’t. Not long after, I broke it off with Tony’s sister and began venturing out to dance clubs alone. One was a straight nightspot called Club Foot (“the coolest place ever named after a physical FEBRUARY/MARCH 2019
affliction,” according to their radio ads), where I danced to the Go-Go’s and other new wave bands live on stage. But the gay dance clubs still called me back. And — wouldn’t you know it? — on my first foray into a gay dance club in Austin, I ran across a copy editor from the city paper where we both worked. Still in the closet, I explained over the din that I was just there looking for someone. He arched a knowing eyebrow and replied, “Aren’t we all?” By the time I moved to LA as the ‘80s gave way to the ‘90s, I was hooked on dancing, but also partnered to a guy who hated the club scene in general and dancing in particular. So instead, we spent nights in front of the television and weekends playing card game marathons with friends. But sometimes after work, I’d slip into Oil Can Harry’s at happy hour and marvel at the permed blond boy in white patent leather go-go boots and short-shorts twirling a baton on the floor to “Vogue” — entirely by himself. I let dancing go, telling myself it was a pastime for the young, until I moved to New Orleans with a new partner. I found myself on a dance floor again at Oz, a mainstay of Bourbon Street’s gay nightlife. As we wandered in — knocked sideways by the heat, humidity, and pheromones in the air — I realized I’d been wrong about being too old to dance. The shirtless guys in the sweaty mass included men in their 50s and beyond. I remade myself in the image of the guys there: I got myself a little swagger, something friends described as my “panther walk ”— half-speed with rolling shoulders, as I claimed my ground and surveyed the revelers. Ultimately, my guy came to hate it and the attention it generated. When I fell in love again, it was with somebody who loved to dance to Britney and Icona Pop. We’d rush to the floor to dance with and for each other, our conduct causing a stir of envy, lust or disgust from onlookers. I wouldn’t dance any other way now. I’m not the best out there, but I’m the scandal of many a wedding reception in the way I always let the music have its way with me. I have a favorite photo; one that may foretell my future. It’s a snapshot that captures the great conductor Leonard Bernstein (who was gay and married to a woman) on the dance floor at Studio 54. The 70-something-year-old maestro’s tux shirt is open to the navel and he’s sweating profusely — with an expression on his face that could only be called beatific. In one hand is a martini; in the other, a cigarette. Opposite him wearing next to nothing is a boy with a face right out of a Botticelli painting, his eyes locked on Bernstein as if he were gazing upon the face of God. I don’t ■ need the cigarette, but the rest looks like paradise to me. HAVE YOU LEARNED ANY LIFE LESSONS ON THE DANCE FLOOR? SHARE YOUR STORY IN “GAY VOICES” AT METROSOURCE.COM.
The Finance Five Which Guru is for You? Who should members of the LGBTQ community trust when it comes to the ever-expanding world of popular finance experts? BY JENNIFER DAY WHICH FINANCIAL GURU WILL PROVIDE THE BEST FINANCIAL ADVICE FOR
you? In order to answer the question, you ought to start by asking yourself: what are your financial goals? Are you trying to build personal wealth, budget your money more effectively, buy a home, or start a business? To find a source of wisdom that matches your needs, let’s look at five figures who’ve become renowned for delivering their personal brands of advice.
takes a hard look at what consumers are doing wrong with their finances. With no-nonsense directness, she doesn’t believe in excuses for a poor financial situation. She compels consumers to understand the difference between what they want and what they need, helping them to cut the fat out of their finances. If you find yourself falling back on old excuses for financial failure, she may be just the guru for you. suzeorman.com
BARBARA CORCORAN Barbara Corcoran is most widely known for being a television personality on the ABC series Shark Tank. This American businesswoman is an author, columnist, consultant, investor and speaker. She is considered one of the most powerful real estate brokers in the country and operates one of New York’s most prestigious real estate companies, The Corcoran Group. Her most recent book, Shark Tales: How I Turned $1,000 into a Billion Dollar Business, discusses her strategic approach to starting a business. Corcoran’s personal finance advice includes overcoming obstacles (she was once a dyslexic student who could barely pass her courses), and not listening to the negative people in your life. You might look to her if you want to emulate her in overcoming the odds in the business world. barbaracorcoran.com
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SUZE ORMAN Suze Orman is known for her flamboyant, take-charge personality when it comes to providing financial advice: she does not pull any punches and gets right down to business. She too is a best-selling author and also a television host with two Emmy Awards to her credit and is one of the top motivational speakers in her field. In addition to penning seven financial guides, she’s also produced six PBS specials. For a period of ten years, Orman directed The Suze Orman Financial Group, having spent four years prior to that as the Vice President of Prudential-Bache Securities. Orman’s personal finance philosophy
In addition to being heard on his syndicated radio program The Dave Ramsey Show in over 450 countries, Ramsey is the acclaimed author of Total Money Makeover and Financial Peace. Viewers can also tune into The Dave Ramsey Show Primetime on the Fox Business Network. Between these various efforts, more than four million people benefit from Ramsey’s financial advice, and he might be the right help for you if you find yourself facing financial obstacles that seem insurmountable since Ramsey’s “baby steps” approach to financial freedom guides consumers from living paycheck-to-paycheck to living debt-free. His hard-nosed approach toward developing better financial outcomes is eagerly sought by those who struggle with remaining financially disciplined. He guides consumers through the process gradually, keeping his advice resultsoriented. daveramsey.com
David Bach has a personal finance philosophy which incorporates living green in conjunction with building personal wealth. He is a finance author who’s written ten consecutive best-selling books. In addition to making several appearances on The Oprah Winfrey Show, Bach’s book, The Automatic Millionaire, remained on the bestseller list for 31 consecutive weeks. To his credit, Bach is not only passionate about teaching the intricacies of personal finance, he’s also involved in numerous charitable organizations. You might turn to Bach if you’re looking to learn fast and simple money management strategies, like the ones he teaches in his popular series, FinishRich®. davidbach.com
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ALI VELSHI Ali Velshi is best known for his work on CNN, including anchoring CNN International’s World Business Today, serving as CNN’s Chief Business Correspondent, and hosting Your Monday during the weekly business roundtable. Velshi holds true to his belief that the world’s universal language is m-o-n-e-y. He coauthored a manual entitled How to Speak Money: The Language & Knowledge You Need Now with CNN anchor Christie Romans, which outlines how to build wealth, implement successful budget strategies and understand the economy. In addition, Velshi has authored Gimme My Money Back: Your Guide to Beating the Financial Crisis, and he serves as a columnist for Delta Sky magazine and Money magazine. Velshi’s journalism background helps him present financial advice in a way that’s reputable and easy to grasp. Velshi’s advice may be best suited to those interested in the big picture, as his personal philosophy revolves around knowledge of the nation’s economy and understanding the power held by financial institutions over consumers. thevx.com
THE BOTTOM LINE There are many personal finance experts from whom you can learn. Knowing whether your goals start with getting out from under a mountain of debt or taking risks to build wealth will help you know who you should be reading, watching and following about your finances. ■ METROSOURCE.COM FEBRUARY/MARCH 2019
A French May-December gay romance; an entrepeneur who ends up in a Chinese ghost city; a story of hidden German atrocities; and the Lone Star homecoming of a son with secrets. Plus: our prestige predictions as awards season heats up. BY JONATHAN ROCHE
The Intouchables, attempts to piggyback on the original’s popular success by copying it closely. Both ﬁlms are based on the real relationship of paraplegic billionaire Phillip (Brian Cranston) and his street tough ex-con body handler or “life auxiliary” Dell (Kevin Hart). The setup is relatively simple: Phillip chooses the worst candidate for the job, despite the concerns of his loyal and attractive business assistant Yvonne (Nicole Kidman) because Phillip is at the end of his rope anyway, and at this point, he would prefer crude honesty to pitying professionalism. And from there it probably doesn’t take much imagination to see where the story is going in terms of bonding and heartwarming redemption. The mood never dips far into the very bleak potentials of the situation, and all too soon each man’s life is enriched by the unlikely inﬂuences of other. While never
surprising, this ﬁlm by director Neil Burger (The Illusionist, Limitless) ﬁlm is pretty easy to watch. Cranston ﬁlls his role ably (pun intended), while Kevin Hart offers his signature spark. One of the most successful comedians working today, there’s no question Hart is a funny guy, even if you’re among the many who were concerned when several of his old homophobic tweets resurfaced. Be warned: If he’s not your cup of tea, this is his usual brew here. But while watching The Upside, I realized Hart does demonstrate a real ﬂair for acting. The trouble is, he only really plays one character: Kevin Hart (or at least the Kevin Hart stage persona). It would be interesting to see him perform some Shakespeare; in the right role he might truly be great. THE WORD: A feel-good friendship comedy that will likely be a soft-hit or a miss, although both leads are fairly strong. COMING TO: Theaters
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