PENTATONIX’ SCOTT HOYING & CONNIE HOYING
FINDING HARMONY
TOURMALINE
THE JOY AND DEFIANCE OF MARSHA P JOHNSON
PETER SOM FROM MICHELL OBAMA TO BRAISED SHORT RIBS
KIT WILLIAMSON
REDEFINING REPRESENTATION IN HIS NEW SERIES UNCONVENTIONAL
JEFF HILLER
LEADING WITH LAUGHTER
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CELEBRATING PRIDE
I AM THRILLED TO PRESENT TO YOU OUR LATEST ISSUE OF METROSOURCE, CELEBRATING PRIDE MONTH. As we embrace the spirit of diversity, inclusion, and love, we aim to amplify the voices and stories of the LGBTQ+ community.
In this special edition, you will find a blend of narratives, experiences, struggles, and triumphs, from individuals who have helped pave the way for greater acceptance and equality. Through these features, interviews, and viewpoints, we honor the resilience and courage of the LGBTQ+ community, as we do in every issue of Metrosource.
Pride is more than just a month; it’s a testament to the enduring spirit of resilience and authenticity that defines the LGBTQ+ community. It’s a time to honor the trailblazers who fearlessly marched, protested, and fought for equality. It’s a moment to reaffirm our commitment to building a more inclusive society where everyone can live authentically and without fear of discrimination. It’s a call to action to stand up for equality, justice, and acceptance for all.
Some of the prideful and powerful voices you will recognize in this issue include our cover, Jeff Hiller. He has more than spilled the tea in his debut memoir Actress of A Certain Age as he recounts his journey from a bullied, awkward kid whose mom tried to make him cool with a perm in 1980s Texas, to ultimately finding his place in a once-in-a-lifetime role as Joel in the HBO hit Somebody Somewhere. We also chat with Kit Williamson, who in 2012 wrote, directed, and starred in the popular series EastSiders. Not only would he make a name for himself with this franchise, but he would raise the bar for queer content, changing the way mainstream looked at independent work. Our interview with Scott Hoying of Pentatonix,
centers around a book written by his mother Connie, detailing Scott’s childhood, career, and coming out. This is a touching memoir and an eye-opening account of the realities behind the fame of Pentatonix. Also, for pride month, it is timely that Tourmaline’s book – The Joy and Defiance of Marsha P Johnson, comes out as told from Marsha’s own words and Tourmaline’s exhaustive research.
Some voices you may not immediately recognize, but none the lesser, include Peter Som – fashion designer to Michelle Obama and now venturing in the world of the cooking with his cookbook Family Style. And we surveyed the globe and found some of the best LGBTQ-friendly spas to check out as soon as you’re ready to don a robe and slippers for your pampering. If you are in Palm Springs and looking for a fun pride-month event, look no further than the 3rd Annual Palm Springs Equality Wine & Food Fest raising awareness and fund for local charities.
We recognize that our responsibility as storytellers extends far beyond the confines of our pages. It’s a commitment to fostering dialogue, driving change, and creating a more inclusive world. It is my sincere wish this pride season, that we work together to create a future where everyone can live authentically, free from fear and discrimination. Our strength IS our diversity.
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SINGER-SONGWRITER/PRODUCER/PERFORMER BOYFRIEND IS EXCITED TO RELEASE HER NEW ALBUM TODAY. A reimagining the biblical story of Adam and Eve through a feminist and queer lens that is a fusion of music, theater, and social commentary, the ambitious In the Garden – a concept album that blends bold storytelling and an all-star cast of collaborators including Scissor Sisters’ frontman Jake Shears, Billy Porter, Peaches, and Big Freedia – is out now via Big Freedia’s Queen Diva Music (distributed by The Orchard).
A fully realized artistic statement breathing new life into an ancient narrative, In The Garden was initially heralded with the release of its first single, “CURIOUS.” Boyfriend then released “FIGHT (Feat. Jake Shears).” The track sees Shears – the iconic Scissor Sisters co-founder and Broadway/West End star (Kinky Boots, Cabaret) –bringing a spectacular theatricality to the role of Adam, here portrayed not as the first human but rather the brash foil to the saga’s leading lady, Eve (performed by Boyfriend). The album’s third single, “BITE,” an electro-pop soundtrack for the most famous bite taken in history, was released last month.
Boyfriend has earned international applause for her provocative musical artistry, powered by complex lyricism, extravagant theatricality, and radical social commentary tackling gender roles, sexism, body positivity, the patriarchy, and more. Since making her debut as Boyfriend in 2012, the multi-talented New Orleansbased artist has unleashed a long series of singles and EPs while also staking a claim as an in-demand songwriter and producer with credits spanning Charli XCX, Troy Sivan, Mykki Blanco, Mala Rodriguez, Pom Pom Squad, Cimafunk, The Revivalists, and Rebecca Black, placements with ABC, Comedy Central, HBO, Hulu, Netflix, and Starz, including major motion pictures Space Jam: A New Legacy and Office Christmas Party and spots for Amazon, Apple, Red Bull, and Walmart to name a few.
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HAPPY ENDINGS WITH BRUNO, AN ALL-NEW ORIGINAL SERIES STARRING RUPAUL’S DRAG RACE PIT CREW MEMBER AND LONG-TIME MASSEUR BRUNO ALCANTARA. On Happy Endings with Bruno, the Pit Crew legend will invite special guests to his massage studio for a full body massage interwoven with intimate and emotional conversations which answer the question of: “What does my Happy Ending look like?”. Happy Endings with Bruno will premiere exclusively on WOW Presents Plus worldwide this summer, from Emmy-winning producers World of Wonder.
Combining the soothing elements of massage ASMR with thoughtful and often vulnerable interviews, Happy Endings with Bruno offers viewers a rare glimpse into the personal journeys of its guests. Each episode will feature a new massage patient in the studio, with a cast of celebrity guest stars across Drag Race queens, RuPaul’s Drag Race Live! dancers, actors and content creators: Brandon Kyle Goodman (actor; Abbott Elementary, Big Mouth), Kyle Krieger (content creator), Nick Lemmer (RuPaul’s Drag Race Live! dancer, Lazi Susan), Kameron Michaels (RuPaul’s Drag Race S10, RuPaul’s Drag Race All Stars S6), Sebastian Molina (RuPaul’s Drag Race Live! dancer), Siam Phusri (Drag Race Thailand S3).
Bruno Alcantara said, “I’m deeply grateful for the opportunity WOW Presents Plus has given me to share my passion for massage with a global audience. For me, massage is more than just relaxation—it’s about connection, healing, and the power of human touch.”
Happy Endings with Bruno will premiere exclusively on WOW Presents Plus, joining an extensive catalog of WOW Presents Plus original programming, World of Wonder-produced documentary films, licensed content, and the entire international Drag Race franchise. Subscribe at wowpresentsplus.com
HI HONEY, I’M HOMO!
MATT BAUME
FOR DECADES, AMIDST THE BRIGHT LIGHTS, STUDIO-AUDIENCE LAUGHS, AND ABSURDLY LARGE APARTMENT SETS, the real-life story of American LGBTQ+ liberation unfolded in plain sight in front of millions of viewers, most of whom were laughing too hard to mind.
From flamboyant relatives on Bewitched to closely-guarded secrets on All in the Family, from network-censor fights over Soap to behind-the-scenes activism on the set of The Golden Girls, from Ellen’s culture clash and Will & Grace’s mixed reception to Modern Family’s primetime power-couple, Hi Honey, I’m Homo! is the story not only of how subversive queer comedy transformed the American sitcom, from its inception through today, but how our favorite sitcoms transformed, and continue to transform, America.
Accessible, entertaining, and informative, Hi Honey, I’m Homo! features commentary and interviews from celebrities, behind-the-scenes creators, and more.
“POSSESSED.” “DEVIANT.” “SICK.” HISTORICALLY, COLONIAL REGIMES ATTEMPTED, GAINED, AND MAINTAINED CONTROL OVER CUIR/KUIR/QUEER, TRANS, BLACK, AND INDIGENOUS PEOPLE BY PATHOLOGIZING THEM ALONG WITH THEIR RELATIONSHIPS—TO THE LAND, TO THE NONHUMAN, TO ONE ANOTHER. The rich sexual and gender diversity of the many cultures of Abya Yala (Kuna for the entirety of the Americas) was unintelligible to Western knowledge frameworks. To justify acts of violent dispossession and extraction, they characterized specific ways of existing as unnatural. These narratives have wound through legal, religious, cultural, political, and ideological structures in Abya Yala since 1492, and—as ficciones patógenas (pathogenic fictions)—they shape our understandings of bodies, land, culture, and power today.
The artists in this exhibition explore how ficciones patógenas have been perpetuated and embodied, occluding local, non-Western, and Indigenous ways of being and knowing. In their 2018 book, ficciones patógenas, Guaxu trans writer, activist, and participating artist Duen Neka’hen Sacchi traces their own medical history through Western regimes of bodily conformity. The wounding and suturing of Neka’hen’s body (and other
nonconforming bodies), based on false notions of order and reproduction, echoes the violent reshaping of the “Indies,” which inextricably bound biology to nationhood. Through hybrid practices that draw from Indigenous, colonial, and contemporary images and strategies, the artists propose ways in which land and bodies exist as sites of resistance and transformation.
This exhibition is part of Dispossessions in the Americas: The Extraction of Bodies, Land, and Heritage from la Conquista to the Present, a project of the Mellon Foundation’s Just Futures Initiative. Over the past three years, in eleven countries across the Americas, the project has sponsored exhibitions documenting over 500 years of territorial, embodied, and cultural heritage dispossession through mechanisms of deceit, disease, and warfare. The exhibitions have featured contemporary artworks that address indigeneity, extractivism, coloniality, racism, and gender and sexual dissidence. The organizers of ficciones patógenas, Stamatina Gregory and Georgie Sánchez, bring together only a small selection of the artists and artworks presented across this multitude of international exhibitions. Visit leslielohman.org for more information.
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CARNEGIE HALL ANNOUNCED THE SUMMER SCHEDULE FOR CARNEGIE HALL CITYWIDE, A FREE CONCERT SERIES THAT BRINGS AN ELECTRIFYING MIX OF LIVE PERFORMANCES TO VENUES THROUGHOUT NEW YORK CITY. Presented in collaboration with esteemed community organizations, the celebrated series features artists of all genres—classical, jazz, Latin music, and beyond—in performances across the city’s five boroughs.
Kicking the summer season off, Carnegie Hall Citywide partners with Brooklyn collective ChamberQUEER and Grammy Award–winning Boston institution Handel and Haydn Society to present BaroQUEER: Historically Informed at the Judson Memorial Church (June 5). Next up in the series, a performance by women-led brass ensemble Brass Queens (June 12) in collaboration with the Times Square Alliance for the series TSQ LIVE. Carnegie Hall Citywide continues its
collaboration with Bryant Park Picnic Performances this summer presenting five free concerts in the park on Fridays in July and August. The vibrant lineup features innovative music collective The Knights featuring bandoneon soloist Julien Labro (July 11); award-winning salsa dura band La Excelencia (July 18); three-time Grammy Award-winning jazz vocalist Cécile McLorin Salvant (July 25); visionary pianist and composer Orrin Evans and the Grammy Award–nominated Captain Black Big Band (August 1); and acclaimed singer-songwriter, top 8 finalist on NBC’s The Voice, and star of Broadway’s Maybe Happy Ending, Dez Duron (August 8).
Carnegie Hall Citywide partners with Madison Square Park curating a dynamic three-concert series featuring renowned string ensemble Toomai String Quintet (July 9); Australian guitar virtuosos Ziggy and Miles (July 16); and Grammy Award–winning Catalyst
Quartet (July 23). The programs for performacnes in Madison Square Park will take inspiration from Gardens of Renewal, an immersive installation by botanical artist Lily Kwong that inspires well-being, connection, and play. The installation is on view through September 1, 2025.
Additional highlights to the Citywide summer season include concerts at Wave Hill in the Bronx featuring bassist, composer, and bandleader Endea Owens and her highenergy ensemble, The Cookout (June 26); New York City’s own “chajunto” orchestra Son Del Monte at Al Quiñones Playground (July 12); and at Historic Richmond Town in Staten Island with a program featuring the genrespanning Symphonic Brass Alliance (July 26).
All Carnegie Hall Citywide performances are free, and no tickets are required. To learn more about Carnegie Hall Citywide, please visit carnegiehall.org/Citywide
A CAPPELLA GROUP PENTATONIX CHANGED THE MUSIC SCENE WHEN IT MADE ITS DEBUT, WINNING THE THIRD SEASON OF NBC’S REALITY TV COMPETITION SHOW THE SING-OFF IN 2011. The group not only became an international success, both online and onstage, but it also challenged the norms of what popular music was in the industry. Not just a vocal gimmick and not regulated to the stereotype of a “nerdy school choir,” the group earned its place in top industry billing with unique mashups, powerhouse vocals, and A-list collaborations. They continue to sell out venues around the world as the enjoy making music history with a Hollywood Star on the Walk of Fame, top Billboard chart rankings, and 5 Grammy nominations with three wins, with a long list of other accolades. Besides Mariah Carey, they pretty much dominate the Christmas season.
The group began with Kirstin Maldonado, Mitch Grassi, and Scott Hoying, who met as high school mates. The three went viral for their YouTube version of Gaga and Beyoncé’s “Telephone.” Pentatonix owes its formation to Hoying, who frantically got the crew back together for a last-minute audition for The SingOff, adding a cappella notable Avi Kaplan and viral YouTuber Kevin Olusola to the mix. With literally just hours to rehearse for the first time, they went on to win the show, and the group’s long-running history began.
In time for Pride season, details about Hoying’s childhood, career, and his coming out are now detailed in a book. The Untold Story of Scott Hoying, Pentatonix Star is emotional, compelling, and extremely intimate. In a unique twist, the book is not told by Scott, but by his mother, Connie Hoying, who, along with her own detailed memories of Scott’s musical talents from a very early childhood, to the pain of seeing her son’s struggle in coming out, has amassed a scrapbook collection of quotes of memories from Scott’s dynamic journey to stardom. This doesn’t just read like your standard biography; this is a mother’s loving recount of her son’s life that does not shy away from the difficult moments, but ultimately celebrates all aspects of the human spirit with regards to perseverance, the power of music, disappointment, challenges in parenting, the LGBTQ community, self-acceptance, and above all, unconditional love.
For fans of Pentatonix, the book is eyeopening as the realities behind the fame of the group; for parents of those queer kids who are coming out, this serves as unofficial guide; and
SCOTT HOYING AND CONNIE HOYING FINDING HARMONY
BY ALEXANDER RODRIGUEZ
for the queer and entertainment folk, it is a book about loving yourself, living your passion, and never giving up. The story isn’t about Scott’s fame; it is about all of our journeys in the face of life’s challenges.
While Scott knew his place in music as a child prodigy and then to rising star, his sexuality was not something that he celebrated, and he did not understand how it fit in with his career. Now, he is a bona fide international star, married, and his solo and Pentatonix careers show no signs of slowing down. Connie knew she had to share Scott’s story. We chatted with her as she waited for the book to go public.
After Scott’s wedding, I felt inspired to write the book. The timing seemed perfect. Over the years, many have asked me to share how we supported his success in the music industry and urged me to write about it. Now,
with retirement and our last child married, the moment felt just right.
Regarding Scott’s coming out in high school, Connie does not shy away from the bumps and bruises that came with the experience. Though she felt unconditional love for him, she wasn’t sure how to proceed. She encouraged him to stay closeted professionally and, to aid Scott’s mental health, placed him in therapy – therapy that would prove to be less than helpful.
When Scott came out to me, my greatest fears were that he would face bullying and discrimination. As he was pursuing a career in the public eye, I also worried about discrimination in that world.
Looking back, I regret taking Scott to a therapist involved in conversion therapy. I didn’t really understand what it would be like for him, and I was devastated by how
TO PARENTS OF YOUNG QUEER FOLK IN TODAY’S COMPLEX SOCIAL AND POLITICAL CLIMATE, MY MESSAGE IS SIMPLE. LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY AND LISTEN DEEPLY.
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much it upset him. The therapist told Scott that he would go to hell and never succeed in the music industry—that still haunts me that I didn’t shield him from that.
Connie and her husband provided a safe and loving space for Scott and his siblings. The bond that connects this family is palpable, even through life’s challenges. For Connie, writing the book was bittersweet.
Revisiting the past by watching videos, looking at thousands of pictures, and speaking with and catching up with people from our past was really wonderful. I was struck by how those small, seemingly ordinary moments at the time shaped our lives and made us all who we are.
Writing this book was deeply emotional and nostalgic. It brought back all the memories of the highs and lows and the messy, beautiful moments of family life. It was bittersweet in that I missed those years of having little ones. This made me sad at times, but reliving the past 40 years and the memories also brought me so much joy and pride. Writing about the day Scott came out to me at 17, brought back some very raw emotions. Putting these stories on paper helped me see our life in a whole new light—the joy, the challenges, and the immense love our family has for one another.
Though fans see the glossy version of Scott onstage, on YouTube, and on social media, Connie needed to share Scott’s real life with his fans, and what it took for him to get where he is.
Scott has a relentless work ethic and boundless creativity. His passion extended beyond music to writing pop songs, musicals, rock operas, books, and films. Despite setbacks, he never gave up, often using challenges as fuel to push harder. I also want to highlight that people never accomplish anything alone. It takes a village. I hope to inspire others to persevere through rejection and never abandon their dreams and also remind people to appreciate the community they have or work to build.
The book isn’t just a tale about Scott’s life. It is a message to other parents of queer youth. It is a message that comes at a perfect time when LGBTQ families are challenged by what is happening socially and politically towards the community.
To parents of young queer folk in today’s complex social and political climate, my message is simple. Love unconditionally and listen deeply. Embrace your child’s identity and support them. Encourage them to live
boldly, advocate for their right to thrive, and have open conversations to understand their dreams and fears. In a world that can feel divisive, your home should be a safe place— where they are accepted and celebrated for exactly who they are.
I hope readers of my book come away understanding that love, support, acceptance, and positivity can be truly life-changing for a young person. I also want them to see that setbacks do not have to be the end of the story. You must keep showing up, whether as a parent or someone following an impossible dream. Above all, I want them to see that our story is about leaning into life with love and keep in mind one of Scott’s mantras: ‘What would you do if you knew you could not fail?’
What is so intimate and touching in reading the book is Connie’s sharing of how she has been changed by her children. Unconditional
love goes both ways, and it is important to see how parents can struggle, may not always have the right answers, and can learn and grow from understanding their children.
Raising Scott and his siblings increased my patience and empathy and taught me to be accepting. There is a lot I don’t understand about the world, but all of them helped me see new perspectives that have made me a better person. Raising children made me a more selfless, grounded, and reflective person, constantly pushing me to grow alongside them.
I’ve always told my kids they could achieve whatever dreams and goals they had, but I never gave myself that same encouragement. When I questioned who I thought I was, thinking I could write a book, it was my children who became my cheerleaders, urging me forward with, ‘You can do this, Mom.’ Their belief in me created a beautiful full-circle
Scott Hoying and Mark Hoying
YOU DESERVE TO FEEL SAFE AND LOVED EXACTLY AS YOU ARE, AND THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO WILL ABSOLUTELY LOVE YOU AS YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF.
moment, showing me that I can do what might feel impossible, too.
And Connie’s message to parents of LGBTQ youth this Pride season is clear:
Love your child fully and unconditionally. Educate yourself about their experiences— connect with resources like the Trevor Project or local LGBTQ+ organizations. Celebrate their strengths and encourage their dreams. Setbacks can happen, but they can also fuel growth. Also, a more recent realization: no matter how old you are, you can still be an example- and the best examples can sometimes come from your own kids.
Scott provided the foreword to the book. That, too, is touching and highlights the love that he has for his fans, his husband, his parents, his siblings, and all of those who helped along in his career. With his stardom, he remains humble and aware of the gifts and chances that he has received in his career, not discounting the blood, sweat, and actual tears it took. With constantly being in the spotlight, presenting his best version, did he have any trepidation in having intimate details of his life shared? He chatted with us all about it.
Not too much! There were definitely a couple of things that felt scary to share, just because they’re so personal. But at the same time, I’m entering an era of life where authenticity and vulnerability mean more than ever. And if it helps someone feel less alone, then it’s definitely worth it.
There were parts that made me laugh and parts that brought back some suppressed memories. But overall, it made me really proud of the journey. It reminded me how much I’ve grown.
It is one thing to be close to your mom, it is another to have your parent do a deep dive into your life. For Scott, it bonded them even further. It was beautiful, honestly. She’s always been my biggest supporter and seeing how she processed my story with so much love and detail, it made me emotional in the best way. I am really, really lucky to have had that support system my whole life.
Looking back at his coming out and some of the missteps during the process, does Scott wish that anything had gone differently?
I don’t think so. It wasn’t perfect, but it happened the way it needed to. I learned a lot. I grew a lot. And I wouldn’t be who I am today without all of it. I mainly just feel lighter now. Like I don’t have to pretend or hide anything. I feel more me, which has made everything—music, relationships, life—feel way more aligned and effortless. Authenticity creates flow. Flow is so powerful and attracts so much good into your life.
For Scott, celebrating his queerness is imperative. It is a part of him, which makes it a constant part of his art. Sharing the queer parts of his life in this book brings his fans closer to his music.
My queerness is in everything ... my perspective, my lyrics, the way I perform. The sonic quality of the music. It’s not something I try to inject—it’s just part of who I am, and it naturally shows up in the art. And queer art is FUN.
What does he want his fans to know most about him?
That I really care. About the music, about
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the message, about people feeling seen. I’m still figuring things out just like anyone else, and rediscovering myself every day, but I’m trying to always lead with honesty and joy.
Though Scott enjoys a life of stardom, he is wildly aware of the struggles that the LGBTQ community faces, not just locally, but around the globe. What does he want opponents of queer folk to understand the most?
That we’re just human beings trying to live our lives. That we laugh, dance, fall in love, and dream just like everyone else. Especially when it comes to kids, telling them that who they are is wrong can do real damage. We all just want to be accepted and loved for who we are. The irony of the situation is, the more you let go and let a kid be, the more powerful, happy, and amazing they become.
As someone who remained in the closet at different stages in his life, he also has a message to those struggling with coming out.
You’re going to get through it. I promise. Go at your own pace. There’s no right timeline. But also, know that being yourself is a beautiful thing. You deserve to feel safe and loved exactly as you are, and there are people who will absolutely love you as your authentic self.
You’re iconic!! Keep being you. Queer people are essential to this world. Your light, your perspective, and your joy. You’re not alone, and I am so grateful for you.
As Scott continues to look to the future, where does he go from here, already having such success in so many areas? What kind of legacy does he want to create?
I hope it helps people feel a little more understood and helps people understand. I hope my music can stick around and make people feel something, even long after I’m done performing it. (I want) to keep making stuff I’m proud of. I want to keep evolving, keep trying new things, and always make space for joy and meaning in what I do. I’d love to act more, dance more, produce more, and expand my artistry past any boundary possible. Life is so rich with opportunity. ■
The Untold Story of Scott Hoying, Pentatonix Star: My Son’s Journey to Find Harmony in Music and Life is now available wherever you get your books
The book also includes a QR code to an original, unreleased song, “Pray.”
JEFF HILLER
LEADING WITH LAUGHTER
BY ALEXANDER RODRIGUEZ
ACTOR JEFF HILLER IS ENJOYING HIS TIME IN THE SPOTLIGHT. And why shouldn’t he? It’s taken over 25 years of working odd jobs that he wasn’t very good at, while making sporadic appearances in bit parts on TV, while performing improv anywhere he could (the basement was not below him…get the pun?). Thanks to his first co-starring role in the HBO sleeper hit Somebody Somewhere, he has gone from being “that guy” that you think you recognized to hobnobbing with Seth Myers on late-night television and making the media rounds, recounting life’s funny stories, one after the other.
His recent star rise is definitely not overnight, and it is definitely not without life’s bumps and bruises. He has more than spilled the tea in his debut memoir Actress of A Certain Age as he recounts his journey from a bullied, awkward kid whose mom tried to make him cool with a perm in 1980s Texas to the random number of jobs he’s taken from working in the
non-profit (his heart was there, his attention was not) to failing at excel spreadsheets in an office, to blowing up the bathroom in front of Sam Mendes, to ultimately finding his place in a once-in-a-lifetime role as Joel in the Somebody Somewhere
And while Hiller may not have played his leading man role on-screen just yet, he is a complete charmer with a winning personality in real life. In reading the first few lines of his book, you know you are in for a different ride. He is not just funny, he is hilarious, even at the most inappropriate times. You aren’t just reading a book about his life; you are sharing a cocktail with him at happy hour and getting the tea directly from the spout. Whether you know his career or not, he all at once becomes your bestie who just wants to kiki about life and dream big. We tore through his memoir in one reading, laughing, tearing up, and becoming Hiller as we also contemplated life, our passions, and
derrières (trust us, they play a big part in the book). Even while Hiller describes many of life’s struggles, the book is an unofficial motivational tome that gives the reader hope that we, too, can find the gold lining in all things, and we also can reach our dreams, even if we are of a certain age.
With Hiller, what you see is what you get. That infectious giggle he gets, those funny one-liners, and that optimistic excitement are all there face-to-face. Chatting with him is truly like talking to a long-time friend, and he remains down-to-earth, bluntly honest, and totally charming. But he is not just that funny guy from the screen and from the page; he has a better handle on the meaning of life than most of us will ever have, even if the humor is pumped up. We could have talked to Hiller for hours, and the next day, we wanted to reach out and see if we could come over and make martinis and watch Housewives
Why a memoir, why now?
[In his infectious giggle] I have been telling these stories for about 20 years, and why now? Because I got famous enough to get a book deal! I’d love to have written a book earlier. It’s just that nobody wanted it.
Actress of a Certain Age does not shy away from even the most difficult moments of Hiller’s life, from childhood to the present. He was mercilessly bullied growing up, dealt with food and money issues, has put himself in some precarious acting gigs, has had to deal with hair and eyebrow malfunctions, and has not always nailed the audition, not things a potential casting director wants to know about. Did Hiller have any trepidation in sharing so much about his life?
When I was writing it, no, but when I was rereading it, I was like, ‘Oh, who cares? Who cares about any of this?!’ [Laughs] But since turning 40, I have just wanted to be super authentic. I don’t want to put on airs. I don’t want to try and make myself look better than I am, or worse than I am. That was just sort of my guiding light throughout writing this whole book.
First and foremost, Hiller wants readers to laugh. But sharing the intimate moments of his life is an unofficial guide to surviving life. He is a leader for anyone who has ever felt less, or not good enough, he is the one laughing at life rather than the other way around, he is the king (or queen) of the underdogs, and has proven that yes, we can win at the game of life.
If you’re delusional, but you’re happy, who cares? If you’re doing community theater and there’s a bunch of bitchy queens in the back, not laughing at you the right way, who cares? As long as it’s something that you enjoy doing and that you draw joy from. There were definitely times I should have given up. It was hard to make a living and try to become an actor. But it’s the dream and it’s the thing that makes me the happiest. And so, even though it would’ve made logical sense to give it up, it just didn’t make sense in my heart. And so that’s why I stuck with it.
IF YOU’RE DELUSIONAL, BUT YOU’RE HAPPY, WHO CARES?
The biggest thing is, and it’s very similar to Somebody Somewhere where the show was really all about not giving up on yourself and about having hope in yourself, even though you might have aged, or even though you’re maybe not gorgeous or perfect or desired in the way that the world desires some people, that you still matter. That you’re still important enough to have a story and to tell your story. I think the biggest thing I’d love for people to take away from it is to say, ‘Yeah, my story matters too.’
Somebody Somewhere did come to Hiller later in life. He could have thrown in the acting towel a number of times because it just wasn’t making sense emotionally or financially for him. But he didn’t And it paid off. But at what point should an actor face facts?
Perhaps part of Hiller’s success and why Somebody Somewhere’s creator, Bridget Everett, emailed him out of the blue about auditioning for the show is because his kindness and his sincerity make him stand out in the entertainment industry. Those qualities were instilled in him partly due to his relationship with religion. He was raised to be a Lutheran and was able to pick out the beautiful parts of faith. Though his relationship with religion has changed, the values remain the same. I’m not someone who goes to church every day or every Sunday anymore. But I wouldn’t stand here and be like, ‘I’m an atheist.’ I’m also like a woo woo, crystal owning, bitch. I want to believe that there’s something bigger in the world, but I also believe that church is about community and about connection. In (Somebody Somewhere), I improvised a line saying, ‘This is church’ as we were driving around. And I think that’s true. I think that finding a connection with other people is really what the church is for me now. That also means helping - volunteering, helping people up the stairs on the subway sometimes, the little things that I think make it more spiritual, especially in this political time where hate is so valued and so lauded. That is my church, that is my religion, to bring that compassion and love to everyone, even the people who don’t agree with me, because I just don’t want to continue fueling such hate in the world.
Another major character in Hiller’s book is his mom, also a role model when it came to compassion. His mom supported his quirks, tried to protect him from the mean kids at school, and provided a home of love. Sadly, Hiller lost his mother to illness while he was still trying to find his footing in his
acting career. One of the more emotional parts of the book is Hiller’s dealing with losing his cheerleader. How does he work through grief?
It’s not like now I’m through, it comes and goes. There are still moments that are difficult. I was just home in Texas, and I found this letter from her, and it made me miss her. But when I miss her, I do take this moment to just be like, I’m so grateful I had her, and I’m so grateful that she was so fiercely protective and loving toward me. Especially because I’ve met a lot of people who had just straight up shitty moms. I just feel so much gratitude for that. My mom was pro-compassion even before it was cool. She was always hosting someone at our home and helping in any way she could, and being there for people, including me. I just feel like she really passed that along to me, and I feel grateful for that, too.
With the recent boom in queer representation in mainstream media, Hiller has seen the likes of Matt Bomer, Jonathan Bailey, and Colman Domingo take center stage. Regardless of not being cast as the suave leading man, he is now enjoying some of that same spotlight. How does Hiller feel, now being invited to the party?
It feels exciting. You know, you’re still not Jonathan Bailey. [Laughs] There’s still a ceiling. What it feels like is, I knew I had talent, and I just needed some people to see that I had it. I know I will never have another role like Joel, and I’m so sad that the show is over. But I can have a guest star on Will Trent, because they saw me on Somebody Somewhere, and so it means I can continue to work and I can continue to go to Broadway openings and see plays for free, which I appreciate. [infectious giggle]
Hiller had to come out a number of times, feeling the need to hide it in his Christian faith-based non-profit work and circles. But he is out and proud now, and is not only a spokesperson for the underdog, but for the queer community. Does he feel a pressure to get political in today’s times?
I don’t feel pressure or anything. I do feel like we can’t not stick together and stick up for each other. I’m not Lady Gaga. I’m saying that because she does so much activism for the community. But I think with any platform, you have to say this trans person is my equal, and I’m not going to allow you to oppress them and take away their rights. I think that’s important. But I wouldn’t say I feel pressure, I feel more like it’s all of our duty, and it’s about that thing, what I was saying before about compassion, it’s like, I’m going to respectfully say I disagree with you and also protect the rights of other people, to whatever extent of power that I have. Everyone has value.
In Somebody Somewhere’s final season (not giving away any spoilers), Hiller’s Joel has an intense, quiet moment with no dialogue, just an outpouring of emotion. It is a winning moment, showcasing Hiller’s acting chops, but also giving the audience a moment to breathe and feel all the feels with the character. That is why the show has become a quiet success; viewers feel every part of these characters’ journey. No wonder Hiller has quickly become a fan favorite.
I really identified with Joel in that moment where it’s like, you get to this age and you thought your life was going to be one way, and you have this life that’s good. It’s not bad. You don’t hate it. It’s just that you have to mourn the things that you thought would have. Like Joel, I also had to mourn life a bit. I’m almost 50, the jig is up. I’m probably not going to have kids, so I had to mourn that. And I think Joel had to mourn that too. And Joel had to mourn the sort of weird putting together of different groups, and it worked well, but it isn’t perfect, and you have to massage it and work at it.
As we enter into Pride season, many gay men are hitting the gym, worried about pool parties and going shirtless. In Actress of A Certain Age, Hiller shares his struggle with compulsive eating and weight fluctuations, a total disaster if you’re in front of the cameras. But even with more eyes on him on his media tour, he is in a good place.
I don’t know if I’ve found the key or anything. I’m just trying to really love my body as my body. Once you get to a certain point, unless you’re just like the sexiest daddy in the world, you’re considered pretty undoable anyway. So, I’m just like, let’s throw in the towel. Let’s just let the gut hang out. I’m trying to be healthy, not to be thin. I think a lot of times I just want it to be thin, and I would try and get thin in a way that was not healthy. So, that’s more of my focus. But listen, if anyone has any tips!
As Hiller doesn’t hide from presenting the realities of his career with smoke and mirrors, he gives an honest outlook as to where he goes from here, with the disappointing fact that Somebody Somewhere is cancelled (although fans have
I DON’T KNOW IF I’VE FOUND THE KEY OR ANYTHING. I’M JUST TRYING TO REALLY LOVE MY BODY AS MY BODY.
signed a petition for at least a wrap-up movie).
I probably should have some better grand plan. I just want to continue acting and doing roles that challenge me and that are interesting, playing people who are complicated and not surface. The reality is, if I hadn’t gotten this guest star on Will Trent, I wouldn’t have made my health insurance this year. It’s a weird time in the industry, and I’m doing really great for a really obvious fem-leaning, middle-aged, chubby gay dude…meh, we’re trying to find things and things have come up that are great and I’m super excited about, I have lots of hopes for the future. I would often look at people and be like, Oh, they got a show now, everything’s
set for them. But it’s never like that. You still have to keep hustling, hustling. And his message this Pride season?
I would say happy Pride. And also let’s try and make it a happy Pride for everyone. I just feel like right now there is so much hate directed at trans, non-binary folks, just anybody outside of the gender binary. I think that’s really where we need to put our foot down and say, “No, no, no, no more of that.” Even if you did write Harry Potter, or you’re the President! ■
Actress of A Certain Age is available June 10th at all major booksellers.
LGBTQ FRIENDLY
BY JEFFREY JAMES KEYES
EVERYONE CAN USE A TRIP TO THE SPA FOR A LITTLE REST AND RELAXATION DURING THE HEAT OF THE SUMMER MONTHS. And luckily, there is no shortage of treatments to turn to all over the world. We surveyed the globe and found some of the best spas to check out as soon as you’re ready to don a robe and slippers for your pampering. Soak it all in, you deserve it!
THE BOULDERS RESORT & SPA, ARIZONA
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Restore mind and body at The Boulders in Scottsdale, Arizona. Their adult only 33,000 sq. ft. spa offers stimulating revitalization through the art of massage, the science of facials, and other refreshing therapies infused with ingredients from the Boulders’ desert environment. Whether you’re detoxifying, meditating in our signature labyrinth, or reclining alongside the outdoor heated swimming pool, you’ll find this luxurious spa offers everything you need for soul-stirring renewal. Enjoy a couples suite Spa experience designed to be shared with your companion side by side in one of their beautiful Spa suites. Additional suite time can be added to enjoy your private Jacuzzi outdoors. The therapists will customize the massages towards each guest’s specific needs. Voted one of the Top 25 Best Spas in the World.
BLUE LAGOON GEOTHERMAL SPA, ICELAND
www.bluelagoon.com
The Blue Lagoon was formed in 1976 during the operation of a nearby geothermal power plant. Its geothermal water has a unique composition of three active ingredients: silica, algae, and minerals. The water is a blend of fresh and seawater, combined at extreme temperatures rising at just about 100-degrees Fahrenheit. People started bathing in the lagoon and noticed the incredible effects it had on their skin. In 2005 the New Blue Lagoon Clinic opened with a variety of retail shops, building on the existing spa with skincare lines. Guests can opt to stay at the glamorous Silica Hotel with sweeping views of the nearby lava fields. The standard entrance fee to the Blue Lagoon (which includes a Silica Mud Mask, a towel, and a first drink of your choice) is $79. The luxury pass will grant you entrance to the Retreat Spa, a private changing suite, spa care amenities, a drink of your choice, and access to eight subterranean spaces as well as the Spa Restaurant. Take your spa day to the next level at the Blue Lagoon by adding on their Signature Massage, a 120minute in-water massage in the revitalizing powers of geothermal seawater.
SHUI
SPA AT CROWNE POINTE HOTEL, PROVINCETOWN, MA
www.crownepointe.com/spa
Shui Spa at Crowne Pointe Hotel, voted the best spa & wellness hotel on Cape Cod, invites you to unwind and renew. This spa offers a tranquil atmosphere for relaxation, featuring healing treatments, massage therapies, and facials. Unisex treatment rooms, mineral baths, licensed therapists, and spaces designed for both energizing and meditative experiences. Enjoy the Himalayan salt sauna, with benefits including allergy relief, respiratory rehabilitation, weight loss, detoxification and hormone balance. After millions of years under ancient lava beds, the Himalayan salt crystals contain 84 trace minerals that are bio-identical to the human body. The Shui Spa provides an oasis of wellness in Provincetown.
CASA SPA AT HOTEL PUNTA ISLITA, COSTA RICA
www.hotelpuntaislita.com
Hotel Punta Islita is a Costa Rican luxury property that connects guests with the vibrant culture and legendary landscapes of its surroundings. Located in Guanacaste, one of the most popular provinces in Costa Rica, this resort boasts one of the best ocean views in the country. Venture into a lush tropical garden to discover Hotel Punta Islita’s Casa Spa, home to “pampered wellness.” From the moment you are greeted with a relaxing cup of just-brewed herbal tea you will feel a true taste of Costa Rica’s legendary hospitality. Beauty rituals, Costa Rican traditional healing arts, and local herbalist wisdom are artfully combined to gently relieve modern stress. Casa Spa’s ample selection of treatments offer options for the whole family and includes massages, aromatherapy baths, body scrubs, and skin nourishing wraps. Keep the wellness going throughout your stay at Hotel Punta Islita, with on-site Pilates/Yoga, guided arm stretches to “channel the ocean’s energy” and take some time in the resort’s infinity-edge pool that merges with the ocean horizon. What a great way to start (or finish) each day!
SIR SPA, CHICAGO, IL
www.sirspa.com
Want to stay on top of your game? Get back your go at SIR Spa, the premier Chicago day spa for men with massage, facials, body waxing/grooming, body treatments, and nail care. Experienced professionals make you feel comfortable in a relaxing, spacious environment. Enjoy state-of-the-art spa amenities, like our fully appointed locker room, steam room, rain showers, and relaxation lounge. Customize your spa package to meet your needs, enjoy lunch, or enjoy a SIR Spa Couples Escape Spa Package, which includes sparkling wine and chocolates following spa services.
EAU PALM BEACH RESORT & SPA, FLORIDA
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Eau Palm Beach Resort & Spa, situated on the expansive and inspiring backdrop of Florida’s gold coast, offers fun in the sun, an intimate ocean retreat, and a place to unplug and find your inner bliss. Indulge in the warm Florida sunshine, with chic accommodation designed by Jonathan Adler, and the award-winning Eau Spa. Step into the adorably titled Self-Centered Garden, a true oasis with cabanas, lush water gardens, a central dipping pool and swinging chairs for lounging and playing. The spa itself is a 42,000 square foot wonderland, a mix of play and relaxation. Planning on getting a few treatments? Eau Spa offers a completely customizable experience including a selection of scents, color therapy, tailored music, and your choice from their “Scrub & Polish Bar’’ available in nineteen different treatment rooms. Eau Spa proudly carries Storie Veneziane by Valmont, a line of elegant, handcrafted fragrances. Float a candle in the Wishing Well, sip on free-flowing bubbly, and nibble on whipped cupcakes. The sky is truly the limit at Eau Spa. Eau Palm Beach Resort & Spa is part of Preferred Hotels & Resorts, the world’s largest independent hotel brand, connecting discerning travelers to not only luxury but unparalleled service levels through their Integrated Quality Assurance Program.
KOH SAMUI SPA RESORT TREE SAMUI SPA, THAILAND www.banyantree.com
Located just off the coast of the azure waters of the Gulf of Thailand, Banyan Tree Samui is nestled perfectly in the jungles of Lamai Bay. The luxury all-pool villa resort offers a variety of exquisite spa treatments through the Banyan Tree Spa Samui. Disappear for an afternoon and indulge in this secret hideaway that features The Rainforest: a holistic hydrotherapy wellness experience designed to heal and soothe. Banyan Tree Spa Samui offers a suite of ten spa treatment pavilions where you can experience the Sukhothai Heritage treatment, an authentic spa journey including Thai Body Treats, a Thai Classic Massage, Coconut Jasmine Rice Facial, and a Thai Jasmine Bath. Products in the Sukhothai Heritage treatment include Thai ingredients like fresh coconuts, jasmine rice, turmeric and tamarind.
AWAY SPA AT W MEXICO CITY www.marriott.com/en-us/hotels/mexwm-w-mexico-city
Kick back and relax at the W Mexico City Spa hotel with an energizing massage, stimulating aromatherapy, or Hot Stone or European-style therapy. AWAY® Spa at W Mexico City is the perfect way to detox, reset, and refresh. Discover personalized massages, facials, and tailored rituals, a mixed hydrotherapy circuit, and the standout feature that makes it truly distinctive: Mexico’s ancient pre-Hispanic heritage known as “Temazcal,” a traditional Mexican adobe sweat lodge with invigorating facials, revitalizing body treatments, and aromatherapy sessions.
LA MAMOUNIA PALACE, MOROCCO
www.mamounia.com
In Marrakech’s La Mamounia Palace, one of the most Instagrammable hotels in the world, sprawling corridors reproduce Medina’s narrow streets and gorgeous wooden doors lead the way towards sweet dreams in 135 rooms, 71 suites, and three elegant riads. The lavish property is famous for celebrity guests like Winston Churchill, Elton John, and even Sarah Jessica Parker while she was filming Sex and the City 2. The crown jewel of the palace is the luxurious spa, of course, and if you’re ready to pamper it’s the place to be. Allow the lanterns to guide you to The Spa at La Mamounia, an expansive sanctuary of marble and exquisite ornamentation dedicated to beauty and well-being. Let your worries wash away as you travel from the hammam to the jacuzzi pavilion, sauna, outdoor heated ozone swimming pool, indoor ozone swimming pool and beyond. Need a workout? In addition to a high-tech fitness facility, La Mamounia offers a coaching room, cardio, fitness, yoga, two clay tennis courts, table tennis, and even a French bowling pitch.
QC SPA, NEW YORK
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Escape the bustle of the city at QC Spa New York, a serene New York spa & sauna retreat on Governors Island. Unwind in outdoor heated pools, surrounded by iconic skyline views and blooming landscapes. Recharge with calming steam baths, revitalizing massages, and peaceful relaxation rooms designed to restore balance. When relaxation builds up an appetite, head to Casa QC Bistro, where you can dine in a cozy robe and soak in the breathtaking Manhattan skyline. Their gourmet buffet offers a diverse selection of main courses with a fine array of cold cuts, artisanal cheeses, a fresh salad bar, seasonal fruits, and indulgent desserts. The best way to nourish your mind, body and soul while relaxing is a bathrobe. And you can toast to your wellness with refreshing drinks from the bar. This is where the city comes to spa.
PETER SOM
TURNING
BY ALEXANDER RODRIGUEZ
LIFESTYLE GURU PETER SOM IS BECOMING THE QUEER EYE CAST ALL WRAPPED UP IN ONE! Wellknown for his celebrity fashion designs, he has become very popular for his dinner parties, and this Pride season, to mix everything together, he has released his debut cookbook, Family Style. With artistic flair, family-infused style, and near-perfect aesthetic, what can’t Som do?
Som was born and raised in the rich food and art culture of the San Francisco Bay Area. His architect parents encouraged him to start sketching at an early age, and his journey into a life of creativity began. He headed east to get his art history degree from Connecticut College and went on to apprentice for designers Michael Kors and Calvin Klein while studying at Parsons School of Design. While at Parsons, he also accumulated a long list of accolades, hinting at his bright and successful future. After Parsons, Som went to work for Bill Blass as Assistant Designer while creating his own designs from his apartment. Cathy Horyn, the resident fashion critic at the New York Times, called Peter “one of the best young designers working today.” He would go on to collaborate and consult with Tommy Hilfiger, Lancôme cosmetics, Anthropologie, and Monolo Blahnik, expanding to shoes, purses, and lipstick.
His self-named label has been seen in Vogue, W, Elle, Harper’s Bazaar, and InStyle, just to name a few, and his list of celebrities is a veritable who’s who for women. Michelle Obama, Scarlett Johansson, Natalie Portman, Rachel McAdams, and Claire Danes represent just a small list of his famous clients. His ability to transform feminine energy into wearable art comes naturally to Som.
I’ve always been drawn to the power of feminine energy — it’s this incredible balance of energy and the way a perfectly cut dress or a swipe of lipstick can become armor, celebration, or rebellion all at once is awe-inspiring.
For me, designing for women has always been about honoring that complexity. It’s not about dictating how someone should look — it’s about helping her in some small way express exactly who she is. There’s a magic in creating pieces that make someone feel strong, and yes, fabulous.
His cookbook, Family Style, is also a celebration of his feminine inspiration as it serves as a love letter to the two most important women in Som’s early life, his mother and
EVEN WHILE I WAS IN THE THROES OF MY FASHION CAREER, I ALWAYS FOUND PEACE IN COOKING – IT KEPT ME GROUNDED AMONG THE CRAZINESS OF THE FASHION WORLD!
his grandmother. What did they teach him most about life?
Honestly — everything. That a perfectly steamed fish can fix just about anything. That there’s power in quiet confidence — especially when wielding a cleaver. And that cooking for people is one of the most wonderful forms of love.
They taught me that food is never just food — it’s storytelling, it’s tradition, it’s a little bit of theater. Family Style is my ode to them — to the flavors they passed down, the lessons learned between bites, and the belief that no matter what’s going on in the world, there’s always room at the table… preferably with seconds!
Family Style represents Som’s Cantonese background, farm-to-table methods from his Northern California upbringing, the wines of Napa Valley, his New York sensibility, and a dash of queer aesthetic. For Som, his move from fashion to cookbook is just a natural progression in his creative path.
I don’t consider it a pivot—more like an expansion of focus—as I still have a few toes in the fashion arena, like my ongoing collaboration with Rent the Runway. Cooking has always been a part of my life. Even while I was in the throes of my fashion career, I always found peace in cooking – it kept me grounded among the craziness of the fashion world!
My last runway show was 10 years ago, and once I took a step back, I was able to see and understand cooking more clearly. It’s something I am passionate about and brings me joy, but it’s also a gateway to understanding other cultures, speaking to identity, memories, and heritage. I’ve learned that you can approach cooking in the same way you approach your everyday life – like choosing what you wear in the morning, you also have to choose what you eat, so why not make it great?
The kitchen has been a constant source of comfort for Som, it is only fitting that he pay homage to the skill that got him through many points in his life.
In the throes of my fashion days, cooking was a way I found my peace and quiet among the hectic days, so now, my more formal foray into cooking has helped steady me every day. There’s nothing that brings me more joy than being in my kitchen – whether I’m cooking for myself, sitting down for a cozy night in with my cheesy crab fried rice and a class of Chardonnay, or bringing a crowd of friends and family together around the table with good food and wine.
His two loves, food and fashion, even share his same creative outlook and process.
For both food and fashion, presentation is everything. I use ingredients that work well together to create a final product that’s both fun to make and look at. Just like you want an outfit to look and feel good when you put it on, you want a dish to look fantastic upon completion but then taste delicious at every bite! You could choose the perfect outfit, but if you don’t think about accessories or how you style the whole ensemble, you’re still missing something. So when I pull together a dish, I always ask what, beyond the recipe, will really make it complete?
Ultimately, I want the process to convey the same joy I experience when I cook a meal for family and friends. Family Style is filled with what I call “happy recipes,” just like my runway collections were filled with “happy pieces.” The process should be fun and joyful. In Family Style, every word is my own, every recipe comes from my family and me, to share that piece of joy.
He has been engaging in hosting epic dinner parties for some time now, sharing his skills in all aspects of his presentation and food. He is eager to share his stellar tips on hosting a dinner party. We are jealous we haven’t been invited to one. And, again, Queer Eye, he is coming for your jobs! For me, it’s all about the vibe, so the little things matter! Dim the lights, light some candles, and find the perfect playlist.
To have a great dinner party, the main dish has to be great, so that’s my primary focus. This includes the preparation, presentation, and what you’re serving with it. I love to find the wine that perfectly complements my main dish. Wine is all about taste – in both senses of the word. Just like a little black dress is timeless, goes with everything and makes a statement, so can your choice of wine. It sets the tone of what people can expect. For me, that’s Rombauer Vineyards’ Chardonnay. It’s a huge crowd pleaser and gets my dinner parties off on the right note!
After the main dish, I’ll prep a side or a starter that’s quick and easy to throw together. Then, and most importantly: if your guests offer to help, let them! More is more, and it’s always great to have an extra dessert, side dish, anything!
In consideration of Pride season, Som pays homage to his queerness and to the aesthetic it has added to everything he does. It is part of his core, his foundation, and his outlook on life.
Being queer has always been central to how I see the world — it’s like having this built-in lens
DRESSING MICHELLE OBAMA WAS MY GREATEST MOMENT — NOT JUST BECAUSE OF WHO SHE IS (THOUGH ICONIC IS AN UNDERSTATEMENT), BUT BECAUSE IT WAS A MOMENT WHERE EVERYTHING I CARED ABOUT — DESIGN, MEANING, REPRESENTATION, STRENGTH, AND KINDNESS — CAME TOGETHER.
for nuance, for remixing the expected, for finding beauty in the in-between. Whether I’m sketching a dress or developing a recipe, I’m always thinking about contrast, balance, and surprise — mixing high with low, classic with bold, savory with sweet.
There’s also this deep appreciation for storytelling and chosen family that comes with being queer — and that shows up in my food, especially in Family Style. It’s about bringing people together, celebrating individuality, and turning the everyday into something a little more fabulous. Honestly, being gay gives everything I do a little extra oomph — and probably a better playlist too.
With everything that he has accomplished in so many areas of fashion and lifestyle, what has been a crowning moment for Som?
Dressing Michelle Obama was my greatest moment — not just because of who she is (though iconic is an understatement), but because it was a moment where everything I cared about — design, meaning, representation, strength, and kindness — came together. And of course, writing Family Style has been a different kind of milestone. Knowing that people are actually cooking the recipes, sharing the meals, and connecting with the stories — that’s deeply personal. It’s one thing to make a great dress, but it’s another to be part of someone’s dinner table. Both took a lot of heart — and both felt like big, beautiful challenges worth taking on.
Who knows what direction Som will go next? With so many talents under his belt and with such a positive, artful outlook, no doubt any project he embarks on will add some flair and goodness to the world.
I want my legacy to be about joy, connection, and self-expression — whether it’s through a beautifully draped dress or a bowl of noodles shared with friends. Style and flavor may evolve, but the feeling they create should always be timeless.
This Pride season, he reflects on how his queerness has added to his life, and his message to the community during these trying times.
I’m most proud of living authentically — in my work, my life, and my voice. Now more than ever, we have to stand up, be strong, and show the world that queerness is powerful, joyful, and here to stay. Pride isn’t just a celebration — it’s a about who WE are, and I’m proud to be part of that every day.
Be bold, be kind, take up space — now more than ever, our voices, our joy, and our stories matter. ■
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KIT WILLIAMSON
REDEFINING REPRESENTATION IN HIS NEW SERIES UNCONVENTIONAL
BY ALEXANDER RODRIGUEZ
KIT WILLIAMSON IS A RENAISSANCE MAN OF ENTERTAINMENT He’s done just about everything imaginable, both behind the scenes and in the spotlight. He’s appeared in mainstream fare like Mad Men, The Good Wife, Bosch, and more. He’s appeared on Broadway with Liev Schreiber in the Tony Award-nominated revival of Talk Radio. He’s written projects for CBS, Legendary Entertainment, A&E Studios, and MTV Studios. He’s also done passion projects, taking part in independent fare, from TV series to web series.
In 2012, he would write, direct, and star in the popular series EastSiders. Not only would he make a name for himself with this franchise, but he would raise the bar for queer content, changing the way mainstream looked at independent work. The little series that could started off with two episodes on YouTube and would go on to subsequent seasons funded by Kickstarter, and ultimately land a home on Netflix. Williamson received more than a handful of Emmy nominations, with one win. In the dark comedy, which quickly became a fan favorite, the lives of gay men and their circle of friends were explored with very real themes that dealt with infidelity, substance abuse, and the complexities of love. It changed the narrative of queer content. These were everyday gay men with everyday real problems. It was a hit.
Now, over a decade later, Williamson is back with Unconventional, which he also created, starred, wrote, and directed. In this 9-epsidoe arc, we see Williamson’s Noah Guillory, a queer millennial having to deal with adulting in a 10-year marriage, on the brink of growing his family, while dealing with his family’s mental and substance issues, and being the sperm donor for his sister’s wife. Throw in a throuple theme and a ghost from the past, and you’ve got yourself this new hit.
Unconventional was acquired by Revry, the leading LGBTQ+ streaming network, and has become a game changer, breaking records as the most-watched original scripted series on the platform.
We caught up with Kit amid the buzz of the success of Unconventional, hot off the heels of Deadline’s announcement that Williamson will be adapting the Charlotte Holmes books into a series with the novelist, and Kit’s childhood schoolmate, Brittany Cavallaro.
With EastSiders being such a critical and fan success, did Williamson feel the pressure to one-up himself with his new show?
In many ways, Unconventional is a spiritual successor to EastSiders, which allowed me to
continue exploring some of the same themes without imperiling the characters’ relationships for the sake of keeping the story going. The shows are really companion pieces, in conversation with each other rather than competition.
Fans of EastSiders will notice that there is added maturity to both Kit’s work and his performance. Whether it is because many of us fans of his first series have aged a bit, or whether it is because we expect more from our queer TV shows, the added layers in Unconventional definitely strike a chord.
You always hope that with age and experience come growth, but I think the biggest changes came from the outside: being able to work collaboratively with a room of amazing writers, including the wildly talented James Bland who plays Dan (and was also a director and producer on the series), and being able to bring on more department heads that were supervising their own teams. The scope of the production was much bigger than EastSiders; the crew was more than twice the size. I loved getting to work collaboratively with so many amazing artists, but I will always be drawn to really intimate sets as well. They have different energies; it just depends on what you need to tell the story.
The timing for Kit’s new show is impeccable. As the government is trying to tell us how to live our lives, many of us are just trying to survive our careers, our relationships, our identities, and our mental health. The show highlights all of that. What does Kit want audiences to walk away with most?
That there is no one “right” path in life, in love, in starting a family. Everyone makes mistakes, and everyone is just doing their best to figure it all out as they go. “Respectability” is a myth. It’s also unattainable for queer people—no matter how “normal” you are, you will always be a freak to someone. The game is rigged, and it’s bullshit. I think it’s actually a gift to look at society from the outside and ask yourself what other rules are made up. I think that’s part of why we love drag so much— it shines a light on how arbitrary everything really is.
Every character in Unconventional has flaws. It is somewhat comforting, at the same time, it is alarming. Does Kit think the queer community is flawed in nature?
Everyone is. If they say they aren’t, they’re either lying to you or to themselves. And lying’s messed up, so… there you go.
The series does not shy away from some
pretty dark themes like mental health and substance abuse. It isn’t handled with kid gloves here. These themes are presented in raw form, not glamorized or even solved. Sobriety and depression are now finally being discussed out in the open in the queer community. Why does Kit think we are finally addressing these issues openly?
I think many queer people grow up feeling like they have something to prove—I certainly did. If I had this horrible flaw of being gay hanging over me, I wanted to draw attention to my accomplishments, not my challenges. Not to sound like a bullshit self-help influencer, but it really is all about loving and accepting yourself—and having compassion for others. There’s been a major shift in the way we talk about mental health and sobriety, and I hope that this show can continue destigmatizing these conversations. And we tried to allow some laughter into these conversations, because the characters have a sense of humor about themselves, whether it’s Aubrey Shea’s character Margot trying to argue her way out of psychosis, or Willam’s character Arthur cracking jokes about selling meth at AA.
The show also deals with queer aging. No, even though the show was filmed in Palm Springs, we aren’t talking about the Golden Girl era. It deals with that limbo stage of life when our drunken, ecstasy-filled nights aren’t so cute the next day, and the hookups start turning into emotional roller coasters, and career choices can’t be avoided. Through Kit’s first series and now with this continuation, we’ve seen Kit mature into a new group of life issues. How has he dealt with these circumstances in his own life?
One thing I’m really proud of with EastSiders is that the narrative spans nearly a decade—it’s rare to get to do that in television, and even moreso with queer characters. You literally get to see us grow up, and becoming an adult and making “good choices” is something I wanted to explore with Unconventional. Life isn’t easy, nobody has it all figured out. I have no idea what the hell I’m doing—I’m just doing my best.
In a weird way, it’s been a blessing for me working in such a volatile industry, because I have never had the illusion of security. I think a lot of people are caught off guard by how quickly the rug can get pulled out from under them in this country. Most of us are one bad day away from disaster. You can do everything right and still find yourself struggling, while
strangers on the internet laugh and call you lazy. Things are only getting more uncertain, and I think it’s important to have empathy for each other because you never know what someone might be going through.
One thing is for certain: sex is always a part of gay culture, no matter what other adulting issues you are dealing with. Unconventional has plenty of hot skin to please our queer appetites (for both the men and the women), and
sexuality is celebrated in the series. In Kit’s opinion, why is it so important to highlight our sexuality in queer content?
I think it’s important for all human beings, but especially for queer people, to express their sexuality because love and lust is a part of what makes us human. That doesn’t mean I’m trying to turn every pride event into Folsom—there’s a time and a place for everything—but I think we need to be unapologetic
as a community. Give the bigots an inch and they’ll take a mile.
With so many colorful characters in the series springing from Williamson’s creative mind, which one does he mostly identify with presently?
Honestly, I’m an Eliza. And not just because my husband and I renovated a homestead in Joshua Tree. Like Dan, she’s a pragmatist. She’s determined to create the life
In Kit’s opinion, it is imperative that we continue to make strong, queer content, and celebrate that content as a community. It affects the energy that Kit brings to his projects.
I’m stubborn, so my gut reaction to being told to be quiet is to get loud. Too many people accept injustice by default because they aren’t willing to speak up and make people uncomfortable. I grew up in Mississippi, and if they want us to go backwards, they’ll have to drag me kicking and screaming.
On a personal level, Williamson has so many different directions he can continually head in. As an actor on his own, he handled stage and screen with success. As a filmmaker, he’s done the same, with a long list of accolades. How does he balance his personal career alongside his productions?
TOO MANY PEOPLE ACCEPT INJUSTICE BY DEFAULT BECAUSE THEY AREN’T WILLING TO SPEAK UP AND MAKE PEOPLE UNCOMFORTABLE.
she’s always dreamed of, but she has a lot of anxiety about the future, and sometimes she forgets to enjoy the life she’s worked so hard for while it’s actually happening. We could both stand to live more in the moment and care less about what other people think. And we’re both working on it! I love the humor and self-deprecation that Briana Venskus brings to the role, and I’m always trying to hold onto that mindset as I navigate life.
It’s definitely important to find a balance, because the projects that keep you fed aren’t necessarily the ones that feed your soul. Obviously, the goal is to live in the middle of that Venn diagram, but in the meantime, I’m just juggling as best I can. I have a bad habit of caring deeply about what I do, even if I won’t ultimately control whether it gets made, so it’s important for me personally to keep creating projects independently and getting my work out there outside of the system, because the system is broken.
And his message to the community this Pride season?
Be gay. Do crime. And stick together— because we’re a family. ■
WE KNOW THAT LIBERATION IS A COLLECTIVE ENDEAVOR. THERE’S NO SUCH THING AS LIBERATION FOR ONE GROUP WHILE ANOTHER GROUP IS ENDURING OPPRESSION.
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THE JOY AND DEFIANCE OF MARSHA P JOHNSON
IT SEEMS EVERY DAY, OUR QUEER RIGHTS ARE BEING CALLED INTO QUESTION MORE AND MORE, AND NOT JUST ON A GOVERNMENT LEVEL, BUT ON A SOCIAL LEVEL. Just look at the comments on any public Pride post and you’ll see what we mean. What we had just feared from the current presidential administration is now coming to fruition, and the queer community is being forced to retreat decades back.
How did the LGBTQ community ever get out of such a dark place? How did we end up losing our power? And more importantly, what can we do about it? It is time to reflect and become educated about our queer revolution, and those who fought against the odds to defy remaining silent, without rights. Though many of us may have a general idea of how Pride started with tales of the Stonewall riots, do we really understand the power of what happened on June 28, 1969? One such figurehead from that era is Marsha P. Johnson. While stories may differ as to her part in the night’s proceedings, it is clear that her activism wasn’t regulated to
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that one night and that the legacy that she continued to build until her death has become part of the foundation of our revolution, not just for trans folk, but for all letters of LGBTQIA.
It is timely that author Tourmaline, a Black trans activist and luminary, has penned the first full scope biography of Marsha, titled Marsha: The Joy and Defiance of Marsha P. Johnson, that fleshes out this remarkable activist from the iconic, flower-crowned image that often remains part of any Pride celebration to a complex human being, as told from Marsha’s own words and Tourmaline’s exhaustive research.
It is more than fitting that such a feat be handled by Tourmaline, who, if you believe in reincarnation, embodies more than enough elements of Marsha’s outspoken support, education, and activism in the queer world. Tourmaline was born into a family of activists; her mother was a union organizer, and her father is an anti-imprisonment advocate. It seemed her destiny in the social and political arena was destined.
I grew up in Roxbury, a historically Black neighborhood in Boston, Massachusetts, and my parents spent days, nights, and weekends organizing their communities to make the world a better place. So, I had that example from a very young age, and a passion for justice and fairness was a big part of my upbringing. When I was a teenager, I wanted to expand the way that history was taught at my high school, where I was one of very few Black students. I ended up creating and implementing the first Black History curriculum. Seeing and feeling the impact of that change really hooked me on organizing.
Tourmaline would attend Columbia University, earning a Bachelor of Arts in Comparative Ethnic Studies. At the young age of 41, she has been involved in an extensive list of organizations, campaigns, and movements that have dealt with economic justice, prison abolition, and queer activism. Her work has included visual art, films, podcasts, and writing to catalog and spotlight the drag and trans community
involved with and responsible for the Stonewall movement. Tourmaline’s exposure to Marsha’s story developed as Tourmaline was finding her identity in queer New York City.
I moved to New York City for college, and as I was exploring the city, I found Christopher Street, which has been a vital hub for the queer and trans community for decades. Marsha’s legacy was so strong in those spaces, and she quickly became an icon for me of the power inherent in living unapologetically as your most authentic self.
Tourmaline has enjoyed a long relationship with Marsha’s story. In addition to her new, definitive biography Marsha, she co-produced Happy Birthday, Marsha!, a short film that recounts the moments leading up to the Stonewall Riots, and STAR People Are Beautiful People, a documentary-narrative feature diving into the formation of Street Transvestite Action Revolutionaries (STAR), an activist organization founded in 1970 by Sylvia Rivera and Marsha P. Johnson. This time period and subject matter are a big part of Tourmaline’s life. What about Marsha’s life that continues to inspire her?
Beyond her commitment to living authentically as her most vibrant self, Marsha had an incredible talent for dreaming big and dreaming far beyond her current circumstances. This was someone who had a successful international tour as a performance artist, inspired art-world figures like Andy Warhol and Earth, Wind, and Fire, and created a collective to provide affordable housing to her fellow street queens. Marsha never allowed the harshness of the circumstances around her to interfere with her ability to envision and create a world more filled with ease, joy, and connection.
The biography is a great wealth of quotes and stories from people who were around Marsha, and from Marsha herself. The amount of research that has been compiled to rebuild Marsha’s life and what was going on in the era is dizzying and complex, and always inspiring, if not many times shocking. What was Tourmaline’s creative process in beginning this huge task?
This biography was such a long time coming. I first began learning about Marsha through archival research, including the fully private records and documents of her dearest friends and beloved community, starting almost two decades ago. My process for the book was absolutely non-linear. I started by really channeling her by immersing myself in videos, interviews, letters, and stories. Eventually, and with help from my editor, I was able to compile her story into a biography which twines together her story with bigger reflections on the role of history, collective memory, disability justice, and more. But none of it would have
been possible without the people who were so generous in sharing Marsha’s story with me.
Again, many comparisons between Tourmaline’s activism and Marsha’s legacy are many. In the present time, we have more words and a better understanding of trans culture and history. As a queer, trans Black woman, what was she able to infuse in Marsha’s story?
I think Marsha and I share some values in common, so I’m not sure whether it was infusion, or amplification. But I loved the opportunity to amplify Marsha’s commitment to looking beyond and through current circumstances to a more beautiful world. That’s been a huge part of my artistic practice, including self-portraiture and film, so it felt like a really natural fit.
Especially when I was younger, I was so hungry to see people who were truly in touch with their most alive, joyful, vibrant self. Marsha and her legacy were such a powerful example of that and a real lighthouse for what life can be like when you choose to embrace every aspect of yourself and show up with joy and beauty regardless of the wider world’s expectations.
The book also dives into rumors and myths that surround Marsha’s story. Did she or didn’t make the first move during the Stonewall riots? In reading the book, the facts speak for themselves. It would be a shame to reduce Marsha’s entire legacy to a single action. This is something Tourmaline addresses. To be honest, we weren’t aware of the many ways Marsha lived as an activist, publicly and among her friends who became family. It was a continued rally, started by Marsha in her own life early on, many times giving up safety for her beliefs. Especially for our younger generations, it is imperative that we know Marsha’s full story. Tourmaline elaborates:
Marsha played an important role at Stonewall, but sometimes people don’t know about the other aspects of her life and work– her creativity, her love of travel and rest, the deep care-taking work she offered to her community from her earliest days in NYC through the heart of the AIDS crisis. I wanted the story of her to be as big as her life was– not defined by a single moment alone.
Marsha had an ability to tune out what did not serve her, and with the support of friends and her beloved community, she tuned into bigger dreams and deeper truths – dreams of authenticity, ease, joy, and abundance. Those skills weren’t accessible to her because she had a perfect, easy life, free of care or fear. They were accessible to her because she returned her energy and focused to them over and over again, despite the harsh circumstances she was facing. I think we can learn so
SUCCUMBING TO DESPAIR AND DREAD CAN FEEL TEMPTING IN SUCH A FRIGHTENING POLITICAL MOMENT, BUT MARSHA IS HERE TO REMIND US THAT WE HAVE EVERYTHING WE NEED TO BUILD BEAUTY, EASE, AND CONNECTION RIGHT NOW – IT’S NOT A TASK THAT CAN WAIT.
much from her about that discipline of dreaming big – freedom dreaming.
Tourmaline did not shy away from all aspects of Marsha’s life. Marsha is presented as a beautiful soul, bumps, bruises, and all. Marsha’s life in sex work was rough. Her relationship with her mother was not always easy. Her relationship with mental health was complex. Her constant struggle to fight for equal rights overshadowed her personal comfort. Her death was far from glamorous. This book does not glorify Marsha into a superhero, although by most standards she was one, but presents a woman with strength and resilience in the face of impossible odds. Not just for herself, but for generations of queer people that would come after that she would never meet. It was important for Tourmaline to include all of the details about Marsha’s life in the book.
Marsha was deeply affected but not defined by the harsh realities she experienced. Her whole story is evidence that we can dream beyond circumstances that are violent, oppressive, or harsh– and we can actualize those dreams, too, just like Marsha did.
What is Tourmaline’s take as we appear to be going back to some of the government’s beliefs and practices towards the queer community, especially after all of the efforts by people like Marsha?
I think the backlash to joy and freedom that we’re seeing in our current political climate is a consequence of fear, misunderstanding, and a desire to reign in the amazing power that people have access to when they are able to live authentically and truthfully. Dreaming big and living authentically are very threatening to the authorities, so now is a moment to keep putting momentum in that direction.
A shocking and extremely important part of the book is how the trans community was treated by the rest of the gay community. It isn’t pretty. At the time, trans identity wasn’t understood nor celebrated by the rest of the queer community. Trans folks, who were then seen as transvestites or people in drag, were often disallowed at gay bars and even ostracized from activist organizations. The divide between the trans and gay communities was, unfortunately, very clear. The trans community were unwelcome family at the queer table. Has the gay community evolved? Do we truly consider trans rights as queer rights? Learning from Marsha’s life and from her own experiences, how does Tourmaline thing the gay community can best support our trans family?
We know that liberation is a collective endeavor. There’s no such thing as liberation for one group while another group is enduring oppression. Collective liberation is going to require us to lean into the beauty we find in each other – the beauty of our authentic selves, which is so much deeper than a single identity category. Encouraging each other to embrace ourselves fully and authentically is part of the work of being in the community.
Even in the wake of political oppression, Tourmaline has been enjoying the media circuit with an exhausting schedule of appearances promoting the book. She has been able to talk about the book and Marsha’s life in political and activist circles, but even in the pop culture world, she is able to share with a younger generation who may now see the need to get politically involved. We certainly enjoyed her lively appearance on Bowen Yang and Matt Rogers’ Las Culturistas podcast. Tourmaline is elated at the surge in interest in Marsha’s life. It also helps that Tourmaline, herself, is inspiring and activating. A good pair.
It feels like a real testament to Marsha’s power, to be honest. She was an icon in her time, and the fact that her beauty and brilliance
transcend her death is not surprising. Marsha was a big believer in reincarnation, so getting to be a part of her “life after life” feels like such a tremendous honor.
Tourmaline has an optimistic outlook on the queer community, despite our current climate. What does queer representation in the future look like, in her opinion?
Bigger, more joyful, and truer, all the time. Watching people tap into their authentic selves is such a joy, and when people do that, our collective capacity for joy, love, and connection grows.
And her message to the community this Pride season?
This Pride season we’re dreaming bigger than ever. Succumbing to despair and dread can feel tempting in such a frightening political moment, but Marsha is here to remind us that we have everything we need to build beauty, ease, and connection right now – it’s not a task that can wait. ■
Marsha: The Joy and Defiance of Marsha P. Jordan is available at all major book sellers.
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