Recipes for Success

LANCE EDWARD ASTON

Recipes for Success

ART BY MAXWELL ASTON

C HAPTER 1

Recipe: Noun Something that is likely to lead to a particular outcome.

Synonyms: Means / way of achieving, formula, blueprint “A recipe for success” Google search

Success:Noun Something that happens as a consequence, outcome or result. The achievement of one’s aim or goal / The opposite of failure / A town in Clay County, Arkansas.

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T HE FIRST CONCEPT .

This concept is to understand what success means to you.

To begin, list five things you think you have been successful at.

1 2 3 4 5 OK, I know this is an e book so you can speak them out loud or GO GET A NOTEPAD or write it in your ipad / iphone / ibook notes or or whatever you find the most enjoyable way of making notes.

More writing is to come.

Dedicated to my wife and son.

This book could help you find your success.

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Success has no universal meaning.

It is only defined by you.

Therefore at any time you can decide to be completely successful as only you determine your success.

You could determine that you are completely successful right now as you have made it to this moment in time.

All things in the past must be a success as they are part of world history which cannot be changed.

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You are a success ?!??!!

Now do you want more stuff to feel successful ?

- Yes, is probably your answer.

That is not success, that is more stuff.

Take a moment to think about the word success.

It, perhaps, implies Judgement.

Whether you judge yourself or others as successful is not actually a real thing ‌ it is an opinion ‌

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OLD SAYING: ”Opinions are like butts, we all have them and they are full of poop”.

Success has no physical formno atomic structure it is a word a concept of VALUATION determined by you.

Success is not an actual thing.

SUCCESS DOESN’T ACTUALLY EXIST!

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When you know, You know We spend much of our time FANTASIZING events in our thoughts.

SHOULD I ASK HIM

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DOES SHE LIKE ME ?

IF I DID THIS > THEN WOULD THAT HAPPEN ?

ASK. Just ask

(Don’t let the wimp get in the way.)

if the answer is YES … progress … if the Answer is NO … let it go if the answer is maybe or I don’t know … continue the conversation and move

Now you know and your amazing imagination won’t be caught in the land of

forward.

invented scenarios that only exist because you didn’t ASK.

Now you KNOW !

You can replace the word ASK for DO if it’s not people related.

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Being serious serves no purpose.

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All Change Repeating old behavior and expecting new results is NUTZ Your NON conscious mind (Subconscious) Wotever….

DOES NOT like change.

Billions of actions a second try to keep things nice and easy. Safe. No conflict. That is about 95% of your brain wanting to keep it safe and easy. Just as it is. Similar.

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If

you want to learn something new

or change an old habit it takes ENORMOUS effort of the conscious 5% of your brain/mind/ thoughts … wotever ... and therefore change seldom comes.

Don’t be too hard on yourself.

Your mind likes you just the way you are.

For a more detailed explanation try the book “The Answer” by John Assaraf and Murray Smith

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OLD

PROVERB

If at first you don’t succeed try, try again.

If Edison didn’t keep trying we wouldn’t have electric light bulbs If Brian Epstein didn’t keep trying we wouldn’t have the Beatles However if Edison just tried the same design bulb it would have failed forever and we would live in a world of gaslight.

When you fail… learn from it and change it up a bit.

Now try, try again … differently.

PS Asking for help is not a sign of weakness or failure.

It is a key to achieving your ambitions.

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Do what you love Love what you do...

Is it possible to be “Successful” doing something you don’t like doing?

You decide … it’s only your life...

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Recipe The days of competition to make things better are dead. Yea I know ‌ Pretty radical idea‌ Cooperation is the only way forward.

Competition breeds fighting and cheating.

Cooperation breeds communication and honesty.

Teaching kids to WIN on the sports field misses the point of sport. Sport is about skill and teamwork and physical improvement.

But give two kids a ball and two goal posts and tell them to score more goals than the other kid and be the winner.

Or give two kids a ball and say pass it to each other with both feet and take it in turn to shoot at goal.

First scenario one kid is a loser and no improvement in basic skill.

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Your ingredients ❖ One

cup of kindness, a table spoon of joy and a dash of forgiveness.

❖ This

is an excellent recipe for success.

❖ One

cup of anger, a tablespoon of revenge and a dash of hate.

❖ This

is an excellent recipe for failure.

Your ents are everything 14

Thanks /Gratitude /Appreciation

Buy a cake or make one write “Thank you” on it give it to someone you choose it doesn’t need to be a cake you get the idea

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Relax ❖

Most experts agree stress is harmful.

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Explore yoga, a massage

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or breathing techniques.

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Calm the xxxx down

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A Bun Dance

the opposite of

Scar City

I am more than enough

I am not enough

I have a plentiful amount

I have a small supply

There is an excess of what is required

There is an insuďŹƒcient amount

Which side do you feel you are on?

Your choice / opinion is big for you and the planet but it starts with you Abundance is all around us, and so is scarcity. You choose what you focus on.

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Ingredients:

1. A Jar or can of truth.

2. A box or packet of honesty.

Mix well in a bowl of reality and serve on a mirror. some might find it bitter some might find it sweet But nothing is more refreshing than the taste of sincerity.

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The Dance of Life

Everything is energy Energy is vibration Vibration is movement movement is dancing enjoy your dance

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Bang the Drum As children we banged stuff … a toy against the floor … a spoon on the table … we made a drum kit out of saucepans … it was fun …

As adults we need to connect more with our feelings.

Positive or negative.

If you are stuck in an emotion; anger, disappointment, rage even happiness, try getting a pillow and giving it a good old punching.

Motion and E Motion are very closely connected. … go

bang your drum …

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There is no such thing as self help.

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Self help books / CD’s / video / seminars /are created by other people.

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Therefore you are being guided by another person’s opinion.

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If you want to help yourself ????

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Write your own book.

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Or go see a professional therapist.

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The Blender We are made of many emotional and physical ingredients.

Nature and Nurture some call it.

Add + love, hurt, pain, rejection, kindness, fun, playfulness, criticism, education, role models, decisions, relationships, you get the idea ‌ Put them in your life’s Blender and there you are.

Add some new ingredients if you want a different taste of life.

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Why are you Rushing?

Because you choose to attempt to do too many things ‌

Simple ain’t it.

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Trying an attempt at futility an admission of failure prior to an event an acknowledgement you don’t really want to do a task or action don’t keep trying try doing

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Alphabet Soup Words, the importance of, or, the ingredients of society.

Old Proverb “STICKS AND STONES CAN BREAK MY BONES BUT WORDS WILL NEVER HURT ME”.

WRONG Words are powerful.

Words create wars or end them.

Words can inspire or defeat.

Words can humiliate or empower.

“The word is mightier than the sword” Give your words the respect they deserve, add a new word or ten to your vocabulary everyday.

Make friends with words, make words your friend.

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Breath ❖

Inhale,

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then say to yourself,

“I am extremely confident and I excel @ everything I choose to do”. ❖

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Say this 10 times

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(To yourself or out loud)

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and repeat every hour for the rest of your life,

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and smile.

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Your Body, Brain, Mind & Soul

Body: Created by a single egg and sperm. Billions of cells working in perfect harmony. It is a true wonder. Be very respectful of it. Give it the nutrition it needs. It is a miracle.

You are a miracle.

Brain: Billions of systems working in nanoseconds that you are completely unaware of. All you know are sentences behind your eyes. We know very little of how this gray matter exists and works. To know thyself is a very complex task.

Relax, children find it easy.

Mind: Way too complicated for this little book. “if you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter”.

Soul: Even more complex.

“The immortal essence of a living being” Religions have been fighting over this invisible, unprovable, concept for thousands of years. “Chicken soup for the soul” anyone?

An interesting read by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen.

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Ever had an argument with yourself ?

The Fighting Mind

“You should do this” “No ... if I do that, this might happen you idiot”…

“But if I do, then she might …” etc., etc., etc.

Know what I mean?

My recipe to help that, is when you become aware of your fighting mind, have nice cup of kindness.

Give yourself a hug and breath.

Please STOP ARGUING WITH YOURSELF. Just take the action you are fearful of.

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be a quitter

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Who is the me that I am waiting for?

Most of us seem to have a notion that we are not enough now, and that sometime in the future we will find our true selves.

Nope.

Now is all you got.

Forever.

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Final Recipe Get a notebook.

Write in it.

Anything you want.

Read it back now and again.

This is “You” soup.

Tasty.

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Final Thought

(for now)

Throw the old concept of success in the trash bin where it belongs.

Success is self love and self acceptance.

Love is all. All is love. Love is truth.

Give Love.

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Thanks to me for creating this and you for reading it.

Thanks to my incredible wife for the constant cheer leading and encouragement.

Thanks to my son Maxwell Aston for the brilliant art.

Thanks Chen for your safe comfy sofa.

Please don’t sue me for anything.

Just contact lanceaston@gmail.com

Š Lance Edward Aston If I infringe on anyones legal rights it is not done so intentionally so get a sense of humor please.

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