marriage with devastating effects, and now they’re still working on rebuilding the broken trust. If you’re reading this with porn stashed in your home, car, office, or computer, it is only a matter of time before someone who trusts you finds it. And then what will become of that person’s trust? Is it worth it? The other scenario of broken trust happens when a spouse suggests bringing porn into the marriage, wanting to “spice things up.” I have heard both husbands and wives confess they used this approach out of a selfish desire to indulge in porn. When one spouse trusts another and follows his or her suggestion, it is devastating to discover that the spouse who wanted to use porn did not have the best interests of the marriage or the other spouse at heart. Rather he or she was seeking a way to indulge lust. Broken trust alters the very core of a relationship, and the only way to restore it is by making good decisions over time. However, I cannot say with certainty that trust can ever be completely restored in a marriage infested with porn, and without this vital marriage component, intimacy is almost impossible.
Porn Destroys Intimacy Lee Wilson, director of media and literature for the Family Dynamic Institution, discussed the power of choice to enhance or decrease intimacy. If you choose to use pornography as a means to sexually arouse yourself, you are forfeiting the ability to become aroused by your spouse. Over time, it will become more and more dif-
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