The church can be a difficult place for anyone who has struggled with behaviors that are stigmatized by society. We may sense disapproval and feel that we are setting ourselves up for failure within the community of the church. In his book The Search for Significance, Robert S. McGee explains that the fear of rejection can cause us to “avoid situations in which we are prone to fail or experience disapproval, and lead us to do only what we are good at doing, expecting our good performance to earn the approval of others” (p. 217). Describe some situations or people you have avoided for fear of rejection.
Personal response. Examples: • Avoiding family and Christian friends • Avoiding gymnasiums or beaches (overly conscious of body image) • Self-conscious at prayer meeting, Bible studies, and any other small group meeting
As a new Christian without proper accountability, it would have been premature for me to speak publicly about my story. But as I grew in the knowledge of God, it became cowardice not to speak. I was warned by my peers that I might lose my ministerial credentials or friendships if I shared my story, so I kept my testimony shrouded in silence until I realized that silence was disobedience. I prayerfully wrestled with God in my private Gethsemane, His will against mine. I meditated on the rejection and shame that Christ suffered on my behalf, and the Spirit of God empowered me with the courage I needed to speak out. In Psalm 3, I read that God lifts our heads. The verse reminded me of a scene from My Fair Lady that demonstrates the concept of “lifting our heads.” During the royal ball, the queen passes all those who are bowed. Then she stops and bestows her favor by lifting the head of Eliza Doolittle—the girl who once had nothing. This is what God had done for me: I was aware of my condition and bowed in shame, anticipating rejection; but God bestowed favor.
Spiritual Awareness Lead–In According to Galatians 1:10, if we belong to Christ, what should our goal be?
To please Him instead of trying to please man.
Putting our trust in people will ultimately lead to disappointment. Even those who mean well will disappoint us at times. Others may outright reject us. Jesus understands. He suffered indignation, rejection, and betrayal. When you repented of your sin and received Him as your Savior, He clothed you in His righteousness (Isaiah 61:10). Nothing can separate you from His love (Romans 8:37-39). He will never leave you or forsake you (Hebrews 13:5). Facilitator’s Guide: Lessons Learned, Turning Point, P. O. Box 22127, Chattanooga, TN 37422-2127
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