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—ALICE HOFFMAN, The Museum of Extraordinary Things

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“My breath came out in a fog and rose into the milky sky.

Snow fell on my eyelashes, and all of Brooklyn turned white, a world in a globe. Every snowflake that I caught was a miracle unlike any other.”

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E d i t o r ’s N o t e

Gifts I’ll be giving already stressing me out!”

This was a text from a friend recently that ended with that greenish emoji face that looks like it just ate a vat of pickled cabbage. While I didn’t text this back, I did think: Are the holidays stressing you out—or are you letting the holidays stress you out?

I realize that sounds judgmental. But I know from experience that the quest to create the perfect season can turn your holly-jolly into a horror show when you let seasonal activities become oppressive obligations.

I used to drive myself—and my loved ones—nuts as I obsessed over finding just the right wrapping or punch bowl. But during a particularly busy December a few years ago, as I searched for the best family photo to upload for our cards before the deadline, I reached a level of head-pounding stress that turned into a mini epiphany: What’s the worst that would happen if I don’t send Christmas cards (or even New Year’s cards) this year? Would Christmas be ruined? Would my friends shun me? Nah. I was putting this pressure on myself, when I could have been happily wandering snowy streets or making cookies with the kid.

The best gift you can give yourself this year is the permission to let go of expectations that don’t match your true values. As for the gifts you give others, let us help. Our editors started searching in July to bring you interesting, useful, or just plain delightful gifts for our 14-page guide on page 83. We hope it saves you time so you and your loved ones can relax and enjoy the season with only cheerful emoji faces.

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Contents December 2018

O N T H E C OV E R

TO DIY: Our stylist made the wreath

on our cover using a Styrofoam wreath core and a hot glue gun.

Use shatterproof ornaments that look like glass to avoid broken bulbs.

TO BUY: For similar decorations, search for ornament wreaths on etsy.com.

94 Unique & Affordable Gifts

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Easy Holiday Recipes 36, 112, 134, 140, 144 Fun Decor for Any Space Stay Healthy All Winter

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Not your nana’s mantel

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Make friends from all over

Modern holiday outfit ideas

Cookies almost too pretty to swap

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Thoughts

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Editor’s Note

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How to Love Thy Neighbor Secrets for peacefully coexisting with almost anyone 55

2018 Holiday Gift Guide Find the perfect present for everyone 83

Good Read What writer Priya Krishna learned about love from her parents’ arranged marriage 61

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Real Simple 24 /7

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Your Words

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The Short List

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what we love Presents That Pay It Forward

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The Staple Black peppercorns

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Pretty Smart Beauty buys to save your sanity 29

the realist How to Make a Jar Candle Last

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Real Simplifier Hang holiday lights in one day 34 Cooking School Easy punches for entertaining

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Modern Manners Catherine Newman offers advice The Vets Will See You Now Pet problems, solved

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balance Stay Healthy Away from Home Tips for feeling your best no matter where you’re traveling 71

That’s a Wrap Give your presents a little pizzazz 39

How to Build Savings at Every Age Save for tomorrow, today 77

Drugstore Insider Shop the aisles with celebrity makeup artist Sarah Lucero 44

Making It Work How do you handle gift giving in the office?

Road Test The best hairstyling tools

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Holiday Ornaments Our favorite shimmery jewelry 49

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Ahhh Take a breather

A Very Modern Mantel Jolly touches for every space in your home 106 Sweet Sparkles Holiday treats with a bit of bling

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Expand Your World (From Your Own Backyard) Why bridging cultures is good for you—and how to do it 120

49 Eye-candy accessories

The Easiest Way to Dress for the Holidays Get creative with the wardrobe you have 124

food 5 Easy Dinners

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Make It Yourself Frozen pie shells

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Road Test Party platter essentials

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Big Batch Caramel sauce

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The Struggle Is Real

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39 Formulas for gorgeous gift wrap

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Coordinated pajamas are not only cozy, they also add a “special, festive touch” to a gift exchange, says Reichel. “We let the kids open them up on Christmas Eve after dinner and wear them to bed that night.”

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“Everyone knows the saying about first impressions, that’s how I feel about gifts!” says Reichel. “I feel like people really treasure gifts when they come in beautiful packages —it makes them seem more thought-out.”

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A spin on the traditional Advent calendar, Reichel stuffs 24 pockets with small surprises and activity thought-starters. “They’re filled with fun ways to celebrate the season, and I sprinkle in a few fun little gifts as well!” she says.

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Best-ever gift: A friend once gave me a bright passport case.

The color makes it hard to lose, and the case makes me think of her whenever I travel, even 10 years later.

Get 10 percent off your order by using the code RSGiftGuide at hyggelife.com (valid through December 31, 2018).

Go-to recipe: Scrambled eggs prepared the way my grandpa taught me. It’s basic, yes, but it gets the job done.

Favorite item in my apartment: My little gray cat, Luna. @SEAFISHY ON INSTAGRAM

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Yo u r W o r d s

What accomplishment are you most proud of this year?

Believe it or not, building a chicken coop.

I think it’s nicer than my first apartment in college. @BLEUMO ON

I managed to clean out every one of my closets this summer. I purged 15 years’ worth of stuff. After all the recycling, donating, trashing, and shredding, I was really proud of the big pile of empty boxes I had and the wonderful feeling of calm all that empty space brought me.

CHRISTINE MEDINA , CHATSWORTH, CALIFORNIA

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“GOING THROUGH A BIT OF A R E D P H A S E . ” @ I KO F LOW E R S

Paying off my student loans!

I backpacked through a 40-mile section of the Appalachian Trail— something I didn’t think was possible with a full-time job and three kids. @BRO OKEFRIEDMAN

I finally dusted off my mom’s old sewing machine she gave me a decade ago and learned how to sew in February.

Not only have I sewn almost every item of clothing I wear now, but I’ve also begun to make peace with my body.

PAM KO CKE, NE W ORLE ANS

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I bought my first home on my own!

It wasn’t easy to save up and learn home-buying basics. I felt such victory and celebration walking into my new house for the first time.

I became 90 this year, and I just got my first iPhone.

I love hearing from family members I don’t usually keep in touch with on Facebook. Google has helped when I come across words I don’t know when I’m reading. Texting comes in handy at times. I’m still learning, but I’m optimistic that I’ll do better.

C.B.

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Finishing a PhD at 41 while raising two daughters. @ M AYAY U M I 3 6

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I am trying to do a good deed every day.

It could be holding the door open for someone who needs a little more time, picking up and putting back a bag or box that has fallen off a shelf at the grocery store, or letting someone in a hurry go in front of me in line at the bank.

JOYCE HOFFER, LYNDHURST, OHIO

I meditated every morning. It set a positive tone for the whole day—20 minutes of peace goes a long way. @INSTAK AT6

I could never have predicted this, but caring for my mother after surgery is the thing I am most proud of this year. She recovered with us for a month in our home, and I feel so grateful to have had the opportunity to care for her.

DENISE ALDEN, E AGAN, MINNESOTA

My retirement, after 45 years in the workforce!

LORI TRAYNOR, PARADISE, CALIFORNIA

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I decided in January that this year would be dedicated to contributing to my community.

I thought it would feel like a sacrifice, but instead I’ve made new friends, I’m more connected to the people around me, and I truly feel like I’ve made a difference in a world that sometimes feels very divided.

SARAH SHIELDS, BRO OKLYN, NE W YORK

My husband and I bought a small condo on Lake Erie, which meant we needed to downsize the possessions in our three-story house by 75 percent. We agreed that we both needed to sacrifice to reach our goal of living smaller at the lake. It took us a month, but we succeeded in moving to a simpler lifestyle.

# R S L OV E “ H O L I DAYS A R E M Y JA M . ” @THEHAPPYLIT TLE APRON

LINDA O GRAM, P ORT CLINTON, OHIO

Putting myself first was one of my proudest accomplishments this year. I’m a wife, I have a 4-year-old and a 6-year-old, I work full-time, and I am constantly busy. Finding time for myself was long overdue, but I am so glad I’m able to take care of myself while taking care of my family and other responsibilities. It’s been nice getting reacquainted with myself.

LIZ BOTELLO, SAN ANTONIO, TE XAS

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The Short List F I V E B O O K S T H AT W O N ’ T D I S A P P O I N T

By Nora Horvath

Small-town whodunit

Delicious memoir Modern family Exes Claire and Matt, the pair at the center of The Adults, both want to spend Christmas with their young daughter, Scarlett. So they jump at the idea of the three of them, along with their new partners, heading off on a holiday vacation.

They’re all grownups, so what could go wrong? Caroline Hulse’s farcical debut is an ode to the big personalities and drama you find in families—unconventional and not.

Mysterious, handsome teacher Tom Fitzwilliam attracts a lot of attention, including the wandering eye of his neighbor Joey, whose innocent crush becomes something more intense. Elsewhere in town, a paranoid mother is convinced Tom is following her and is desperate to expose him. Lisa Jewell’s gripping novel Watching You unravels a tangled web of rumors—and a shocking twist.

Great for book club After their son, Dhaqaneh, kills himself in a suicide attack, Somali immigrants Gacalo and Mugdi reluctantly agree to host his widow, Waliya, and children in Oslo.

Their arrival is more disruptive than imagined, as Waliya throws herself into her religion and her children explore their newfound freedoms. Nuruddin Farah’s powerful and timely novel North of Dawn explores the lasting impact of extremism and violence on families.

Sarah Selecky’s Radiant Shimmering Light introduces us to Lilian Quick, who is 40 years old and feeling stuck. She jumps at the chance to work for her estranged cousin Eleven Novak in New York City, eager to learn the ins and outs of Eleven’s business, a self-help and leadership program.

Selecky’s sharp parody explores female friendship and questions the role of consumerism in women’s empowerment and self-improvement trends.

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In Kitchen Yarns, Ann Hood explores the role food has played throughout her life: growing up in an Italian-American home, starting a family, coping with divorce, and falling in love again. In this cozy read, Hood shares recipes that shaped her—from her mother Gogo’s lemon meringue pie to her second husband’s perfect baked potato—and the poignant life lessons about loss, love, and friendship she learned in the kitchen.

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Presents That Pay It Forward

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By Cat Dash and Lauren Phillips

Buy one, give one: What could be easier or feel better this time of year? Start with State Bags. For each stylish backpack purchased, a student in an underfunded neighborhood is given one stocked with essentials like school supplies, socks, and healthy snacks. TO BUY: Lorimer backpack, $90, Kane Metallic Plaid backpack, $95, Williams Leather Patchwork backpack, $295; statebags.com.

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1 B E N E F I T B AU B L E Kenyan artisans make these painted-wood and brass cuffs; with each purchase, 25 school meals are provided to students.

TO BUY: FEED Jenny Cuff, $48; feedprojects.com.

2 CANDLES FOR KIDS Buying this cinnamonand-nutmeg-scented candle donates three meals to a child in need.

TO BUY: Remember When 8-oz. Small Jar Candle, $16; bridgewatercandles.com.

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3 G R E AT K N I T Love Your Melon wants to give a beanie to every kid with cancer. It donates 50 percent of all profits (including those from this knit throw) to cancerfighting nonprofits. TO BUY: Black Speckled Blanket, $85; loveyourmelon.com.

4 W H AT A D O L L Buying this hand-knit toy sends 10 meals to children around the world. TO BUY: Avery the lamb, from $52; cuddleandkind.com.

5 KISS AND CARE Gifting this lip balm trio also donates 205 meals.

TO BUY: Kiehl’s x Andrew Bannecker for Feeding America Limited Edition Kiss Me with Kiehl’s, $25; kiehls.com.

6 CLEAN GIVING For each set bought, Hand in Hand donates four soap bars and four months of clean water. TO BUY: Hand in Hand 4-Pack Assorted Bar Soap Set, $20; handinhandsoap.com.

7 GO OD SOUNDS House of Marley supports reforestation by planting trees for each of these pint-size Bluetooth speakers sold.

TO BUY: Chant Mini BT, $50; thehouseofmarley.com.

8 SWEET SHEETS Parachute helps donate a lifesaving mosquito net for each purchase of this bedding set. TO BUY: Parachute Percale Venice Bedding Set, from $239; parachutehome.com.

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1 in 8 Americans struggles with hunger.

THIS SEASON YOU CAN HELP For every O, That’s Good! pizza, soup or side purchased we’ll donate a meal* to someone in need.

November 4th - December 29th

+ *From 11/4/2018 through 12/29/2018, the monetary equivalent of a meal will be donated. $1 helps provide at least 10 meals secured by Feeding America® on behalf of local food banks. Mealtime Stories guarantees a minimum donation of 500,000 meals. Feeding America: the nation’s largest organization dedicated to ighting domestic hunger through a network of member food banks.

W H AT W E LO V E

The Staple It must be hard living in salt’s shadow. But black peppercorns are just as key when it comes to creating balance in a dish. These easy ideas ofer the humble dried berry a star turn. Add a teaspoon— that’s about 100 grinds, if you’re counting—to roasted caulilower (or any cooked vegetable) and shower with cheese. Simmer in abundance with red wine, orange, and spices for a nightcap with a kick.

Or whisk into a warm bath of chocolate and cream, then roll into trules good enough for gifting.

Quick Ideas 1 CACIO E PEPE C AU L I F LO W E R

Toss 8 cups cauliflower florets with cup olive oil and 1 tsp. kosher salt on a rimmed baking sheet.

Roast at 425°F until brown and tender, 15 to 20 minutes. Transfer to a bowl and add 3 oz. grated Pecorino Romano cheese and 1 tsp. freshly ground black pepper; toss to coat.

2 SPICY MULLED WINE

Combine 2 bottles red wine, cup black peppercorns, cup granulated sugar, 4 strips orange zest, a 1-inch piece ginger (peeled and sliced), 1 cinnamon stick, and 1 star anise in a large pot.

Bring to a simmer over high. Remove from heat; let stand 30 minutes.

Strain and discard solids.

Serve warm, garnished with orange slices and cinnamon sticks.

Place 1 cup chocolate chips, 1 tsp. freshly ground black pepper, and 1 tsp. vanilla in a large bowl. Bring cup heavy cream to a simmer. Pour over chocolate; let stand 5 minutes. Whisk until smooth. Cover and chill for 2 hours. Scoop into 24 (1 Tbsp.) balls. Roll balls in cup cocoa to coat.

B y D a w n Pe r r y Recipes by Robin Bashinsky

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Photograph by Corey Olsen

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Pretty Smart A B R E A KO U T T R E AT M E N T T H AT D O E S N ’ T D RY Y O U R S K I N , PLUS SE VEN OTHER BE AUT Y BUYS T O S AV E YO U R S A N I T Y

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GLOSSIER ZIT STICK

Not reserved for bedtime, this pen has an antimicrobial stainless-steel tip that precisely applies 5 percent benzoyl peroxide, a gentle salicylic derivative, and healing tea-tree oil to reduce the size of blemishes.

It dries clear, so you can apply makeup, if you like, and be on your way. Use up to three times per day.

TO BUY: $14; glossier.com.

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FA R S Á L I S K I N T U N E B LU R

Store this gritty mask in the shower so it’s convenient. Then, when your skin is feeling dull or congested come midholiday hustle, rub it on and rinse after 10 minutes. Pumpkin and apricot-seed powder buff skin to up brightness. TO BUY: $44; sephora.com.

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We’d never suggest you buy another lipstick unless it was truly worth it—this is.

Matte pigments marry with oil-infused powders for a comfy, divine lip that lasts all day. TO BUY: $37 each; bobbibrown cosmetics.com.

CHANEL SHOWER G E L I N PA R I S BIARRITZ AND PA R I S-V E N I S E

These body washes smell romantic and fresh, but it’s their ingenious caps, which swivel open instead of screwing off, that simplify your shower. TO BUY: $50 each; chanel.com.

Catch beauty director Heather Muir Maffei’s video demo of these beauty buys at realsimple.com/ prettysmart.

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Yes, it’s an extra step, but this multitasking primer has skin-care benefits: It evens skin tone, brightens, and soothes. Plus, it blurs pores and lines so you can wear less makeup. TO BUY: $54; farsali.com.

ALGENIST ALIVE PREBIOTIC BAL ANCING MASK

If your skin has been out of whack, give this five-minute facial a whirl. It balances skin’s good bacteria so it looks clearer and more hydrated. Fun: The mint green mask turns pink! TO BUY: $38; algenist.com.

PA N T E N E P RO -V INTENSE RESCUE SHOTS

The dye, the heat— if your hair has had it, use this weekly one-minute mask in place of your conditioner to bring locks back to life. TO BUY: $6 for 3; at drugstores.

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Glow without glitter with a swipe of this finely milled peachy gold powder (peep the big mirror)—the only thing you need to go from your desk to dinner. TO BUY: $49; sephora.com.

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H OW TO M A KE A JA R C A N D LE L A ST Want to extend the life of your pine-scented favorite? Trim the wick to about inch each time you light it, says Abigail Cook Stone, the founder of Otherland Candle Co. This helps the wax burn slower and at a more even pace and helps prevent soot buildup on the glass container. Also make sure you’re burning your candle long enough to prevent any tunneling (that hard wax ring that forms around the flame when the candle’s top layer isn’t fully melted). “A good rule of thumb is to burn your candle an hour for every inch the candle is wide,” says Kristen Pumphrey, the creative director and owner of P.F. Candle Co. “So if it’s two inches wide, two hours should do it.” Blow out the candle gently (to prevent wax splatters) or use a snuffer to extinguish.

By Brandi Broxson Order one of our top cozy candle picks at realsimple.com/candles.

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Real Simplifier

Hang Holiday Lights in One Day AV O I D C L A R K G R I S W O L D – S T Y L E S N A F U S T H I S S E A S O N W I T H T H I S ST R A I G H T F O RWA R D G U I D E F RO M T H E P RO S.

By Maggie Puniewska

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To determine the amount of electricity your outdoor power source can handle, go to the main circuit breaker panel, find the switch for the outdoor outlet, and look for a number printed on it (15 to 20 amps is average for outdoor outlets). “Only use about 70 percent of the circuit” (which would be 14 amps of a 20-amp circuit), says Chris Fitts, a professional lighting designer and installer in St. Augustine, Florida.

To figure out how many strands you can hang, multiply the watts and then divide by 120 (100 bulbs at 7 watts each would be 700 watts; divided by 120, that equals 5.8 amps). The wattage of each strand will be listed on the box and will differ for LEDs and incandescents.

Make sure the lights you buy are outdoor-safe.

Walk to the front of the house and snap a photo. “You’ll see your property like a passerby and identify which features pop and are worth decorating and which ones won’t be on view and therefore can be skipped,” says Fitts. Seeing the big picture will also help you identify a focal point to decorate around.

For most homes, that’s the front door, since people’s eyes naturally gravitate toward it.

Fitts likes to print a few copies and sketch different lighting blueprints to use as a guide for hanging. The game plan can be as simple as outlining the front door in lights and wrapping a few strands around columns or shrubs.

Grab a tape measure, outdoor extension cords, electrical tape, and a dependable ladder, says Scott Parrish, a professional light installer with Illuminight Holiday Lighting in Chicago. Pick up an outdoor timer, which can help keep electricity bills low, and ditch the hammer and nails, which can damage surfaces over time.

“Zip ties will secure lights to porches and columns, and plastic clips are great for hanging strands,” says Fitts. Before putting up strands, plug them in—even new ones—to check for faulty bulbs.

Next, do a shake test: If bulbs flicker or turn off, don’t hang them, because they will likely go out.

Using the tape measure, go around the door and window frames. “Estimate the roof by measuring the base of your house and adding a foot or two just to be safe,” says Parrish. (Note: Lighting a roof is best left to professionals unless you’re extremely comfortable and experienced on a roof.) If you’re wrapping any poles or banisters with lights, use a soft tape measure—one you might find in a sewing kit—and wrap it around the surface for a more accurate measurement, says Fitts. Size up the distance to the power source too, which will help determine the length of any extension cords you might need.

Mark measurements on your design plan.

H A N G S A F E LY A N D A D M I R E YO U R W O R K

Set aside at least half a day to put up lights, says Parrish. (Never hang lights on rainy or snowy days.) Tackle one area at a time, such as the porch or walkway shrubs, stepping back after you finish to make adjustments. Don’t connect too many strands together or you’ll overpower the string’s fuse, causing the lights to power down. “For LEDs, you can put around 20 strands together, but incandescent ones should be limited to four 100-bulb strands,” says Parrish. Always double check the box, which should give limits. Wrap electrical tape where the strands connect to seal the area from moisture and to prevent the lights from separating in wind and snow.

At the end of the season, store lights the right way with the tips at realsimple.com/lightstorage.

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Cooking School T I P S, T EC H N I Q U E S, A N D R EC I P E S ST R A I G H T F RO M T H E R E A L S I M P L E TEST KITCHEN. THIS MONTH: ONE-BOT TLE PUNCHES Recipes by Karen Rankin

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Bartender’s Secret Rather than sling drinks all night, entertain with one of these easy punches.

Each one requires just a single bottle of booze. Add ice and a few easy-tofind ingredients, then sit back, relax, and enjoy the party.

G O L D E N G I N G E R- L E M O N VO D K A P U N C H

2 cups each sugar and water and a 2-in. piece fresh ginger (thinly sliced) in a medium pot. Bring to a boil, stirring occasionally, and cook until sugar dissolves, 1 minute. Remove from heat and stir in 1 Tbsp. ground turmeric.

Let cool, then strain through a fine mesh strainer lined with cheesecloth; discard solids.

COMBINE

together ginger-turmeric syrup, 1 liter vodka, 3 cups fresh lemon juice (from 16 lemons), and cup honey in a large pitcher or punch bowl until honey dissolves. Chill for at least 2 and up to 24 hours.

STIR

before serving, add 1 liter chilled club soda. Serve over ice, garnished with lemon twists. Makes 16 cups.

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S P I C Y B O U R B O N -A P P L E P U N C H STIR together one 750-ml bottle bourbon, 6 cups sparkling apple cider, 2 cups fresh orange juice, cup maple syrup, 3 Tbsp. apple cider vinegar, and tsp. each cayenne pepper and angostura bitters in a large pitcher or punch bowl. Chill for at least 2 and up to 24 hours.

over ice, garnished with apple slices. Makes 12 cups.

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P O M E G R A N AT E - L I M E TEQUIL A PUNCH

1 cup each sugar and water in a medium pot. Bring to a boil, stirring occasionally, and cook until sugar dissolves, 1 minute. Let cool.

COMBINE

together simple syrup, one 750-ml bottle silver tequila, 48 oz. pomegranate juice, and 1 cup fresh lime juice (from 8 limes) in a large pitcher or punch bowl.

Chill for at least 2 and up to 24 hours.

STIR

before serving, stir in 3 cups chilled club soda. Serve over ice, garnished with pomegranate seeds and lime slices. Makes 14 cups.

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That’s a Wrap G I V E YO U R P R E S E N T S — A H E M — M O R E P R E S E N C E T H I S Y E A R BY M I X I N G A N D M A T C H I N G T H E S E B E A U T I F U L PA P E R S A N D E M B E L L I S H M E N T S .

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TR ADITIONAL To create a timeless look with modern appeal, opt for classic paper patterns with an updated twist (like glittery plaid or oversize gingham). Then add an unexpected adornment.

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Coral gingham satin gift wrap, $3 per sheet; katiekime.com. Boxwood ribbon, $8 for 25 feet; shopterrain.com. Mini Bodum Copper Chambord French Press ornament, $10; worldmarket.com.

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Raffia ribbon in red by Celebrate It, $6 for 75 yards; michaels.com. Snow sports wooden holiday ornaments, $17 for 3; lightpaper.etsy.com.

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Suzanne Kasler classic gift wrap in green antler, $10 per roll; ballarddesigns.com. Linen ribbon, $5 for 5 yards; papersource.com. Wood Scandi House ornaments, $21 for 3; worldmarket.com.

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Holiday plaid wrapping paper, $10 per roll; papersource.com. Satin 1 -inch cut-out ribbon in gold, $21 for 15 yards; onekingslane.com. Pinecone bag

by Ashland, $6; michaels.com.

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White with gold Merry Merry gift wrap, $6 per roll; sugarpaper.com.

ECO Baker’s Twine in solid metallic gold, $5.25 for 55 yards; justartifactsstore. etsy.com. Creatology 30mm jingle bells in gold, $4.30; michaels.com.

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Ornate tree wrap, $6.50 for 2 sheets; snowandgraham.com.

White trimmed red velvet ribbon, $10 for 10 yards; containerstore.com. Gold stars party favor piñatas, $12 for 3; merimeri.com.

TO BUY:

C O N T E M P O R A RY For wrapping that will work through the winter season and beyond, choose elements that hit on a trend rather than a holiday (like holographic ribbon, terrazzo-inspired paper, or an instant photo as a fun tag).

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Chalkboard wrapping paper, $10 per roll; knotandbow.com. Holographic -inch ribbon, $2 for 12 yards; hallmark.com.

Fujifilm Instax Mini 9 instant-film camera, $69; fujifilmusa.com for stores.

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Tree fern stripe wrapping paper in evergreen by Alethea and Ruth, $15 for 5 sheets; minted.com. Twenty-count batteryoperated mini LED string lights in warm white, $20 for 3; bedbathandbeyond.com.

Golden star sparkler, $8; shopterrain.com.

TO BUY:

Wrap like a pro this year with the step-bystep guide at realsimple.com/giftwrapping.

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Lana’s Shop banana-leaf gift wrap, $16 for 3 sheets; onekingslane.com. Cork ribbon, $12 for 26.2 feet; shopterrain.com.

Piel Leather classic luggage tag in saddle, $10; bedbathandbeyond.com.

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Teal -inch velvet ribbon, $8 for 5 yards; minted.com. Abstract greenery ornament, $5; westelm.com.

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TO BUY: Rainbow geode wrapping paper by Alexzandra Fajardo, $15 for 5 sheets; minted.com. Cream double-faced sat in ribbon, $10 for 50 yards, and mini silver mercury ornaments, $8.50 for 12; jamaligarden.com.

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4 Steps to a Mess-Free (and Cozy!) Season Winter is a wonderland, but it’s best kept outside.

As the weather cools down, we’ve got the in-house hacks that will keep your home and floors free of slush, salt, and other seasonal messes. Check out this guide and get set to shine all winter long.

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A bright, boldly colored doormat doesn’t just pop against the season’s dreary weather—it catches the attention of visitors who will be more likely to take notice and wipe their feet accordingly.

The best part of a shoe-free home?

Cozy socks. Keep a tray by your door for stowing dirty boots and shoes, and fill a basket with soft socks for family and visiting friends. Bonus: Embrace the fun of sliding across your clean wood floors in stocking feet.

2 BASKET CASE The answer to the mysterious case of the single missing mitten: individual cubbies.

Simple, small baskets designated for each family member create instant storage for scarves, hats, and gloves that they’ll access easily on their way out the door.

The New Swiffer WetJet Wood is a one-step cleaning system with a wood-safe, Quick Dry solution that cleans your floors in half the time. Learn more at Swiffer.com

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Drugstore Insider T H E B E ST B E AU T Y P RO D U C T S I N T H E A I S L E S, H A N D P I C K E D BY A P RO

Global executive director of creative artistry at Stila Cosmetics, Lucero creates looks for celebrities (Victoria Beckham), models at fashion shows, and everyday women (she did our beauty director’s wedding makeup). Follow @sarahluceroglam for achievable makeup inspo.

Aquaphor Healing Ointment “It is the best-kept secret for flaky skin. I use it on lips and on eyelids for shine. I even comb it through eyebrows for a finished look.”

TO BUY: $12; cvs.com.

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Scünci Everyday & Active No Damage Elastics “I love these hair ties because they never tug or pull out my hair.

The colorful ones add some fun, and I can spot them in my makeup bag.” TO BUY: $3 for 18; cvs.com.

Weleda Skin Food “My favorite product for adding a glossy touch to features. And if you put on too much foundation or powder, simply tap a little on your cheekbones, the bridge of your nose, and your eyes.” TO BUY: $19; target.com.

La Roche-Posay Toleriane Ultra Soothing Face Moisturizer “Ideal for all skin types, this lotion works when it’s hot and humid out but is also good for cold, dry weather.”

TO BUY: $30; cvs.com.

Simple Kind to Skin Cleansing Facial Wipes “These wipes leave zero residue, and they are great for sensitive skin. Plus, they come in handy when I am cleansing on the go.” TO BUY: $4.50; target.com.

Maybelline New York Baby Lips Moisturizing Lip Balm “Wear it over a matte lipstick to keep lips from feeling dry.

It makes lips look smooth but not shiny.

Dab it on your bottom lip and blot.” TO BUY: $4.50; cvs.com.

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B E S T WA N D

Remington Pro 1"–1 " Pearl Ceramic Curling Wand This tool turned our tester’s straight hair into waves that lasted three days! Wear the included heat-protective glove when wrapping hair. TO BUY: $25; walmart.com.

B E S T F L AT I RO N

Drybar the Brush Crush Want to reduce frizz without starting over?

Run this heated brush through dry hair from root to tip to look polished fast. Angle it up and out at the ends for a bouncier look. TO BUY: $145; thedrybar.com.

The Beachwaver Co. Coast Pro Ceramic Professional Styling Iron Yes, this flatiron smooths hair (and heats up in a record 17 seconds), but its versatility sold us.

Use it as is for a sleek style or add attachments for a blowout-like finish. TO BUY: $99; beachwaver.com.

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T3 Cura Luxe Hair Dryer Like a luxury car, this dryer is a speed demon (cutting drying time in half), purrs quietly, and looks sleek thanks to its ergonomic design. Equipped with five heat settings, two speed settings, and a volume-boosting button, the dryer emits negative ions to smooth hair. Also cool: its autopause sensor, which stops airflow when you set it down.

TO BUY: $285; sephora.com.

ghd Curve 1" Classic Curl Iron Its technology ensures that heat is consistent (365 degrees) across the barrel so that curls are uniform—no stringy pieces that require multiple passes—and long-lasting. TO BUY: $199; sephora.com.

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Amika Mighty Mini Jet Set Kit Pack this and have good hair your whole trip. A matching zip bag houses a mini flatiron and blow-dryer with two attachments— none of which compromise performance for size. TO BUY: $80; sephora.com.

Get how-tos for party-ready looks at realsimple.com/ holidayhairstyles.

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S T Y L I N G B Y A L E X S I LVA

T O B U Y: (From top) R.J. Graziano Lacey necklace, $95; rjgraziano.com. Ben-Amun

by Isaac Manevitz Crystal Collage necklace, $545; ben-amun.com.

Lulu Frost Radiant necklace, $490; lulufrost.com. Noir Jewelry Glacée Récolter necklace, $300; noirnyc.com.

STELL AR NECKL ACES E V E R Y N I G H T I S S TA R R Y W I T H THESE STRIKING STRANDS, W H I C H D R E SS U P E V E RY T H I N G FROM A WHITE TEE TO AN LBD.

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THE REALIST

C RY S T A L R I N G S T H E S E V I N TA G E Y BAUBLES ARE A N E A S Y W AY T O M A K E YO U R W O R K O U T F I T C O C K T A I LPA R T Y R E A D Y.

T O B U Y: (Clockwise from top left) Swarovski Peter Pilotto Arbol Cocktail ring, $249; swarovski.com. Bounkit Amethyst and Blue Quartz Baguette ring, $242; bounkit.com. ADMK Jewelry Double Smokey Cocktail ring, $68; admkjewelry.com. Frances Valentine Posy Peridot ring, $100; francesvalentine.com. Sorrelli Emerald Cluster ring, $50; sorrelli.com.

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O R B I TA L C U F F S RO L L U P YO U R S L E E V E S A N D LET THESE MODERN BRACELETS B E T H E S TA R S O F T H E S H O W.

T O B U Y: (From top) Carolee

Wide Open cuff, $125; carolee.com. Alex Mika Jewelry Criss Cross cuff, $115; alexmikajewelry.com.

Alexis Bittar Crystal Encrusted Brutalist cuff, $275; alexisbittar.com.

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T O B U Y: (Clockwise from top right) Roxanne Assoulin Hip-Hop but Not Triple Tier earrings, $180; roxanne assoulin.com. Jennifer Behr Allanah earrings, $345; shopbop.com. Kenneth Jay Lane Polished Emerald Top & Drop earrings, $150; kennethjaylane.com.

Kate Spade Rock It Statement earrings, $98; katespade.com. Baublebar Cassielle Drop earrings, $42; baublebar.com.

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when I was 28, my husband and I helped start a cohousing community in Oakland, California. We had lived in shared rentals since college, even after our marriage. It had not only made chores easier, but also sparked supportive friendships.

So we were delighted when we found a group of folks at our new church who also longed to interact more intentionally with others in their community. We developed a condominium complex from the ground up with five other families and moved in three years later.

Cohousing—in which a group of people come together to deliberately create a neighborhood, both physical and relational—is a small movement but one that’s been on the rise. Right now, there are 168 established communities in the U.S., with 140 in the early planning stages (acquiring land, finding members), according to the Cohousing Association of the United States. Most consist of apartments, townhomes, and houses built around a common area that may include laundry and usually a kitchen and dining area for regular events. In my community, we gather for two meals a week and meet for monthly “yard parties” to maintain our communal outdoor spaces. We make decisions together as a co-op would.

It’s certainly true that we’ve chosen a way of life that many would not. It’s also true that cohousing has taught us to skillfully deal with others. Because let’s face it: No matter how you live, you still have to get along with your neighbors. Here are five hard-won lessons we’ve learned.

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The problem is…me?

It’s far easier to judge others’ behavior than to consider one’s own, a truth I realized soon after moving into our community. I was incensed when Neighbor A forgot to take the trash cans to the curb, when Neighbor B took too long to get rid of stuf she had stashed under the stairs, and when Neighbor C left a pen in the dryer.

But over time I began to remind myself of things I’d done. Thinking they were weeds, I ripped out new plants a fellow cohouser had put in the garden. I’d said insensitive things at meetings. I sometimes find myself thinking, Why do I live with these jerks? Then it dawns on me: Oh, I can be a jerk too.

Acknowledging this tendency toward judgment and taking the bigger view—we all mess up sometimes—have also helped me cope better in a variety of situations outside my community, from long lines at the supermarket to that one irritating coworker.

Respect others’ values One evening, I arrived at a community meeting full of righteous indignation: In my mind, our communication about rescheduling an upcoming meeting had been ineicient. All those emails going nowhere! No one taking responsibility for closing the loop!

And why were we trying to adjust the meeting time anyway?

As we talked, it became clear we were operating under diferent priorities. My neighbor Cheryl Gärlick had suggested changing the meeting time so that people could go to a concert some neighbors were giving the same night.

What I’d interpreted as a disorganized process, she’d seen as a way to support our creative eforts.

“It was a classic example of

how we all have diferent ways of approaching an issue, and if we don’t take that into account, there’s conflict,” Gärlick says.

We ended up rescheduling the meeting so both goals could be accomplished, and I was reminded that a key part of relationship harmony is an awareness of others.

Find common ground Living well with your neighbors means everyone is a friend, right?

Not necessarily. You can work effectively with others without making everyone a buddy. During my years in cohousing, I’ve had the opportunity to practice this again and again. When one of our renters threw a fit after I’d reorganized the storage in our common house—accusing me of thoughtlessly throwing out books she’d been saving—I had to work hard not to react in a way that would have made the situation worse.

“We’re typically attracted to people who are like us,” says development consultant Kathryn McCamant, who along with architect Charles Durrett, her husband at the time, helped introduce the concept of cohousing to the U.S. in the 1980s. “But it’s worth trying to cultivate an appreciation for those we wouldn’t necessarily gravitate toward. The person who tends to drive you crazy could also be the one who never forgets to water the garden.”

Tackle problems directly When it comes to neighbor relations, we often feel like tamping down our frustration when there’s a problem. But sometimes exasperation can help groups find solutions. This was a lesson our community learned the hard way.

After about 10 years of living together, we discovered that some of us were behind on our monthly homeowners’ dues—by thousands of dollars. Many of us were sapped by the demands of raising children. It was a victory to manage a shower in a day, much less track dues deposits. Those who had been paying were understandably angry at those who hadn’t. The situation could have splintered our community, but we found a way to audit ourselves and settle up. How? Through many meetings, during which we decided that working together was easier than breaking apart.

With big conflicts, it can be helpful to bring in a third party, such as a mediator who holds the various perspectives on a disagreement while the group hashes it out. Call an expert when it’s clear you can’t be impartial.

I sometimes find myself thinking, Why do I live with these jerks? Then it dawns on me: Oh, I can be a jerk too.

Ronnie Rosenbaum, a mediator and facilitator based in Golden, Colorado, who specializes in cohousing and family issues, works with clients to identify the problem, ensure community members feel their concerns have been heard, and help them move from taking sides to finding common ground. She uses tools like communication agreements that outline ways to hold discussions respectfully. And she emphasizes the importance of making time for the process. “Don’t just meet at the mailbox,” she says. “Set a time and place to discuss the issue.”

Let in joy Sure, dealing with other people can be frustrating. But the rewards are great: After years of living together, my community has an ease and a closeness in our relationships that make life better, richer, and more interesting. This ease comes not just from working through conflicts but also from witnessing one another face challenges, like major illnesses and the vicissitudes of parenting.

Acknowledging the ways in which the hard work of living together pays of keeps us going.

On a recent sunny afternoon I found myself sitting with six of my neighbors around the courtyard picnic table, sharing wine and cheese and joking about our kids. In that moment I felt grateful for this life I’ve chosen.

As McCamant says, this growth happens when we share our lives with others. “We just don’t mature in isolation,” she says. “We mature in relationships with others.”

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The author’s parents on their wedding day in India.

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I often find myself flipping through my parents’ wedding album. It’s a regal, red, fabric-coated book filled with faded black-and-white photos overlaid with delicate tissue paper. One photo, in particular, strikes me: In it, my parents are sitting on thrones in an event hall in New Delhi, my dad in a smart-looking suit and a gold turban, my mom in a red sari and gold jewelry.

They’re looking at each other. It’s not the gaze you might find in a modern wedding album, in which the bride’s and groom’s eyes are locked in an intense, adoring gaze. The look my parents are giving each other is more unfamiliar— like two people trying to make a connection or size each W H E N I ’ M B A C K H O M E I N DA L L A S ,

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My parents’ arranged marriage didn’t look like love to me. Love was what I saw in romantic comedies. other up for the first time. It’s not the gaze of a couple in love, at least not in the Western sense. At the time the photo was taken, my parents had known each other for only about two weeks.

My parents’ courtship wasn’t a whirlwind romance. It’s even hard to call it a courtship. Instead, they participated in the long-standing Indian tradition of arranged marriage, wherein parents—with input from grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins—choose spouses for their children. My mom and dad had met a few other potential partners; they mutually selected each other. My mom emphasizes to me that arranged marriage was never something that was forced on them. They elected to do it. My mom was 20, had just

finished college in India, and decided she was ready to take that next step. My dad had just started work at a computer software company in Massachusetts and flew back to India with the explicit purpose of finding a wife.

It’s hard to imagine that my parents—both rational, thoughtful people—decided to marry after a two-hour meeting. But they trusted their families, they told me. They didn’t see it as a rash decision. Once they decided to marry, there was no elaborate, yearlong planning process. A venue was booked.

Saris and jewelry were purchased. And my mom and dad were married in a traditional Hindu ceremony, with garlands exchanged and many prayers recited, on November 18, 1980.

in the U.S. shortly after.

They didn’t know many people, let alone each other, at first. Then, right after they had kids, my maternal grandparents—who were supposed to come to America to help our family—passed away suddenly in a car accident.

My parents, who were (and still are) both driven, careerminded people, had to find a way to raise two kids with limited resources while pursuing their professional ambitions. My dad started his company out of our garage so he could take care of my sister and me during the day; my mom taught him to cook so he could prep dinner before she came home. My parents spent money they didn’t have so we could get the best possible education. These diicult choices were the foundation on which their marriage was built.

And yet, for me growing up, I felt alienated by my parents’ arranged marriage. At friends’ houses, their parents would ask me how my folks had met. When I said it was an arranged marriage, they would often recoil in horror. “They Dream job popped up online were forced to marry each Pulled an all-nighter updating résumé other?” they’d ask. I had a spiel about how the Went in for assistant partnership was entirely Came out a boss consensual; it was the way the culture was. Inevitably there were follow-up questions: “What about

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you? Do they have a nice Indian boy they’re planning to fix up with you?” I’d shake my head and explain that my parents wanted my sister and me to go about choosing partners however we thought best. I was mortified.

My parents’ marriage didn’t look like love to me. Love was what I had seen in romantic comedies as a kid. I still remember feeling like my heart would leap out of my body at the end of John Hughes’s Sixteen Candles when Molly Ringwald exits the church at her sister’s wedding and her crush is waiting outside for her…with a cake. When I learned the phrase “meet cute,” I asked all of my parents’ friends to tell me theirs: They were lawyers at the same firm, family friends who lived across the street from each other, students who shared a chemistry class. Why couldn’t my parents have a normal love story like everyone else?

I watched and rewatched my favorite rom-coms as if they were instruction manuals, trying to decipher the formula for what I saw as the superior version of love and marriage. There was always an instant connection, several grand gestures, an over-the-top proposal, and a splendid white-dress wedding. This was the love I wanted. a boy named Steve, was the first person I had fairy-tale romance dreams about. We were good friends who walked to lunch together every day. But when I sent him an email telling him how I felt, the feeling was not mutual, and our friendship fell apart.

This seemed to happen to me a lot as a teenager and then essentially all through college. You’d think it would have made me more jaded about love—but it didn’t. It just made me all that much more determined to find my soul mate.

MY MIDDLE SCHOOL CRUSH,

Then something happened. At 23, I met a man at a bar.

We didn’t lock eyes from across the room. He didn’t even see me. A friend introduced us, we discussed our mutual love of showtunes, and he asked me to dinner.

Soon after, we started dating. I made him watch the climactic scenes of every single one of my favorite rom-coms.

I played “Can’t Help Falling in Love” when I told him I loved him for the first time. I brought him a sheet cake inscribed with his name when we were in a long-distance relationship, and I visited him at grad school.

He responded to my gestures with mild discomfort. Yes, he liked Nat King Cole and baked me pies. But the way he viewed our relationship was not like what I saw in my favorite movies. He didn’t wax poetic about his love for me; he preferred to spar about international politics. Before we moved in together, we made lists of what we needed the other person to do to be a good roommate. While I swooned over his parents’ storybook origin story—a nurse and a cardiologist who fell in love caring for the same patient—he told me how much he admired my parents’ relationship, that even though they didn’t always vocalize their love, he could see it in the way they raised two kids while supporting each other’s careers and embraced the unfamiliar together.

I asked my dad if he remembered the exact point he fell in love with my mom. He laughed and shook his head. “There is no Western sense like, Wow, I’ve met Prince Charming,” he said.

“Love is gradual. You develop a fondness for each other as you are understanding each ABOUT other’s quirks. You understand that there are T H E AU T H O R some things you may not like but other things Priya Krishna is a food writer who you like. You quarrel.” This kind of love, he regularly contribsaid, was one that is sustainable—designed to utes to the New withstand diicult times.

York Times, Bon Appétit, and other The man from the bar and I are still together. publications. Her And our love, it turns out, is more like my latest cookbook, parents’ than I ever could have thought. We Indian-ish, will be published in disagree often. We’ve endured tests of our April. She lives in relationship (long distance, demanding jobs).

New York City.

We make compromises. It’s practical. I admit that I still create birthday treasure hunts and make him slow dance with me in the living room. But I don’t watch nearly as many rom-coms. That fluttery, homerun feeling I used to get at the end—I get it from him instead.

And it’s not because of any grand gesture. It’s because of everything else.

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K.B. ASKS…

My team at work does a lot of mandatory post-work team-building events. Unfortunately, I don’t enjoy spending extra time with my colleagues, and the outings drain me completely. I suggested doing lunches instead so they fall during work hours, but the team vetoed it, saying they want to have drinks. It might seem like a small thing, but I DREAD these outings for weeks in advance. Going to human resources seems extreme, but is there another option?

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I was invited to a “housewarming” for a couple’s new rental apartment. I feel like a housewarming party where gifts are customary is reserved for when someone buys a home, but I fear looking cheap by not bringing one. Should I bring a gift, or is it unnecessary for a rental?

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I’m not sure I follow your logic. Unless your friends are buying a house, you’re not inclined to give them a gift for their new home? Because gifts should be given only to people with…more resources? The essence of a housewarming—asking one’s community to help set up a new home—is in no way afected by whether someone has an equity stake in the property. If you’re thinking a lease feels less permanent than a mortgage, remember that some owners end up selling their homes after just a couple of years, while plenty of renters stay put for decades. The apartment is this couple’s new home, and this party is a celebration of that fact. Bring a gift.

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That these events occur outside of work and involve drinking makes “team building” sound like a euphemism for sponsored partying, which should not be compulsory. But, forgive my presumption, I also wonder if you might have a bit of a social-anxiety disorder, given that all-capped “dread” and the fact that you feel it for weeks in advance.

If you do have social anxiety and you get a diagnosis, then this becomes a diversity issue, and HR is required by the Americans with Disabilities Act to accommodate you without consequence to your career. Even if that doesn’t resonate for you—maybe you’re simply shy or protective of your time—I would still let HR know that you prefer to conserve your energy for the work itself. For all you know, others on your team may be grateful to you for speaking up.

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A family friend experienced a terrible tragedy, and I was devastated for him. While I’m not close enough with him to, say, show up with a casserole, I did send a care package. I would never expect a thank-you, but as time has gone by, he’s never said anything (although he did thank me for a check-in I sent via text), and I worry the box was lost. If he didn’t receive it, I would love to send a new one.

Would it be terribly insensitive to ask if he got it?

My impulse is to say: This sucks in every way, but you can’t ask. It’s neither here nor there in the scheme of such devastation, and if he did get it, he’ll feel bad, which is the opposite of your intention. But I also understand how you can hang all your grief on the weirdest hook—in this case, the uncertainty about whether this package, filled as it was with all your care and sorrow, was delivered. Can you be fully transparent? “This is the world’s least important thing, but I sent you a package, and I’ve become obsessed with whether you got it. If you didn’t, I’m going to send a new one. Will you please let me know?” If you like, you can add, “This is probably just another way of saying that I am thinking of you”—because it is.

S.S. ASKS…

When you are talking on the phone with a friend or a family member, how can you politely end the conversation without saying that you need to go?

Is it OK to give this excuse even if it isn’t true?

Your question made me stop and wonder how many white lies I might regularly tell without thinking about it, because I certainly tell that one. Although, honestly, if you don’t want to be talking any longer, then you do kind of need to go. I mean, your time is precious, your life is flashing past, and you have a billion pressing obligations—am I right? Plus, saying “I need to go” is a widely accepted convention, and just because you made or answered a call doesn’t mean you entered into a contract to talk forever. If you are stricter than that about the truth, then say whatever it is that’s truest: “I should probably get back to work.” Or “The kids are going to be home from school soon.”

Or “The couch isn’t going to lie around on itself.” (Just kidding, though feel free to say that to me if we’re ever on the phone—I promise I’ll laugh.)

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Should I be worried if my cat eats poinsettia leaves?

I have a dog and an indooronly cat. Does my cat still need flea treatment?

I’m thinking about getting our pet a microchip. What should I be aware of before I commit?

Are there any cons?

It’s a common misconception that poinsettias are highly toxic to cats. While it’s best they not eat it, the plant isn’t likely to harm your kitties long-term, says veterinarian Andy Roark.

Reactions are relatively rare.

She might have some vomiting or diarrhea, but it shouldn’t last for more than an hour. Two hours after her upset stomach, offer her small amounts of water and bland food (like plain white rice or cooked skinless chicken) to settle her stomach.

While a reaction to poinsettia is uncommon, mistletoe and plants such as azaleas, lilies, and tulips actually are poisonous to cats (see aspca.org for a full list). If she ingests any of these, contact your vet immediately or call the ASPCA’s 24-hour Animal Poison Control Center (888-426-4435)—a $65 phone consultation can help determine the best treatment.

If you’re worried about a sneaky feline, consider faux plants, but monitor her to see if she tries to nibble on them.

Even if your cat doesn’t go outside, fleas can easily make their way inside your house and onto your cat via your dog, your shoes, and even other pests. So it’s necessary to use a monthly flea-prevention method on all cats and dogs, says veterinarian Liz Koskenmaki. Ward off feline fleas with a vet-prescribed monthly oral preventative (like Comfortis, from $132; 1800petmeds.com) or topical treatment (like Frontline Plus for Cats, $109 for a six-month supply; petco.com).

If he gets fleas, Koskenmaki recommends an over-thecounter treatment (like Capstar, $23; chewy.com) to help kill the pests within about a day and a bath using a flea shampoo. Make sure to rinse him thoroughly so there’s no residue, since it could be harmful if your cat ingests it.

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Microchipping is a smart move for many pets, from cats and dogs to horses and birds, says veterinarian Gayle O’Konski.

The microchip, about the size of a grain of rice, is placed between your pet’s shoulders in a relatively painless and quick procedure. O’Konski recommends microchips for pets larger than five pounds or older than 6 months, since the needle may be overwhelming for very small animals. If your pet goes missing, many chip companies will send alerts to local shelters and vet clinics to help reunite you. The biggest concern is that owners often forget to update their contact information online. To address the issue, the American Veterinary Medical Association designated a national Check the Chip Day (August 15), when local vets can send an email reminder to make sure your info is upto-date. You can also set your own annual calendar alert.

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Know Your Coverage your boarding pass is printed, and then it happens: Your throat hurts. Or, maybe worse, you’re having a great vacation and suddenly come down with a bug. If it feels like you always get sick around the time of a trip, it’s not your imagination. Travel can be tough on our bodies, says Lin H. Chen, MD, director of the Travel Medicine Center at the Harvard University–ailiated Mount Auburn Hospital and president-elect of the International Society of Travel Medicine. We’re stressed about getting ready to leave. We’re crammed into a small space with lots of people on the way there. We may be waking up in a new time zone and adjusting to a new routine (or no routine at all).

Though every trip is diferent, “being prepared is half the challenge,” says Tullia Marcolongo, executive director of the International Association for Medical Assistance to Travellers. “If you know the risks and prepare yourself, you’re already well on your way.”

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Write It Out Before you go, make a list of health info in case of an emergency. Document health conditions, emergency contacts, medications, allergies, your health insurance, and your travel itinerary, suggests Shanthi Kappagoda, MD, an infectious-disease physician with the Stanford Travel Medicine Clinic in Palo Alto, California. Keep the list on your phone and print a copy just in case. And if you’re traveling outside the U.S., know the number to call in an emergency: It’s probably not 911.

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Some insurance plans and credit cards may assist with emergency costs, such as if you need to rebook a trip. If not, consider buying travel insurance, which can cover a visit to the doctor or emergency room in a foreign country or help you get home if you need more intensive treatment. Read the fine print, though: Not all travel insurance plans cover preexisting conditions.

Hop Online Check the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s Travelers’ Health site (cdc.gov/travel) for news about regional outbreaks and health advice by country. The World Health Organization (who.int/ith) also monitors diseases around the globe. If you’re going abroad, you may want to sign up for the U.S. Department of State’s Smart Traveler Enrollment Program (step.state.gov), which can help keep you informed about safety conditions and send alerts about the country in which you’re traveling, Chen says.

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Deal with Germs Traveling can expose you to more (or just diferent) germs than your body is used to, putting you at higher risk for infection, Chen says. The simplest way to deal with them: frequent handwashing with soap (sanitizer will do in a pinch). And make sure you’re up-todate on vaccinations, including the flu shot, which can help protect you from the season’s worst, says Stuart Cohen, MD, chief of infectious diseases at UC Davis Health. (For some countries, doctors recommend additional shots, which need to be given a few weeks in advance to be efective.)

Keep Moving During flights or car trips longer than about four hours, try to take breaks, stretch, and walk around regularly to reduce your risk for blood clots, which older people and women who are pregnant or on certain birth-control medications are especially vulnerable to. Look out for warning signs of a clot, such as redness, swelling, and pain in the calf.

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FIRST AID KIT Take adhesive bandages and an antibiotic cream for minor cuts and burns.

THERMOMETER Young kids tend to have trouble telling you what’s wrong. A thermometer can gauge the severity of a fever and let you know if a trip to a doctor is needed.

C O L D A N D F LU M E D I C AT I O N You can take acetaminophen or ibuprofen for fever, headaches, and other pains.

With warmer temps around the globe, you may be at risk for mosquito and tick bites even if you’re not traveling to a tropical destination. Consult a doctor if you feel joint pain, develop a severe fever or headache, or feel nauseated or dizzy, especially if you have a bug bite. Same deal if you develop a rash and fever from a tick bite.

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At Home In the U.S., call the customer-service number on your insurance card to find a doctor in your network. Otherwise, head to an urgent-care clinic for minor issues. If you think you may need blood work, diagnostic tests, or X-rays, you should find a hospital, since it will most likely be equipped with what you need.

Abroad If you’re in a big city abroad and don’t speak the language, look for a university teaching hospital, advises Marcolongo. It will likely conform to international health standards and employ English-speaking staf.

Both the International Association for Medical Assistance to Travellers (iamat.org) and the International Society of Travel Medicine (istm.org) also ofer lists of English-speaking doctors and clinics by destination.

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Reframe Your Attitude An illness doesn’t have to ruin your trip. Reframe your expectations, suggests Rebecah Freeling, a family coach in Berkeley, California. No, you can’t go hiking all day, but maybe you can do one small activity or even just play games with your loved ones. Consider keeping a journal about the trip too: “Retelling it is fun later, once you’re done and you can look back on it,” Freeling says. And remember the purpose of your trip: “You wanted to connect. You wanted to be together. It’s about the people who are with you.”

Or Just Chill You may simply need to give in and relax. When Michele Ashley of Oakland, California, traveled to Mexico with her family, her 10-year-old son came down with dengue, a viral disease transmitted by mosquitoes.

It was important for him to rest, so Ashley spent most of the trip with him in the hotel. “I took naps, ordered room service, and read,” she says.

Honestly, that doesn’t sound like the worst way to spend a vacation.

D I A R R H E A M E D I C AT I O N Most travelers’ diarrhea can be treated with over-the-counter medications, such as Imodium or Pepto-Bismol.

HAND SANITIZER Washing with soap is preferred, but sanitizer can kill many germs. Consider taking a small bottle of soap too, in case of poorly stocked bathrooms.

SUNSCREEN It’s not just for the beach: Protect your skin from sunburns with broad-spectrum sunscreen of at least 30 SPF. MOSQUITO REPELLENT Carry repellent with a concentration of 25 percent deet to help prevent mosquito-borne illnesses.

ANTI-ITCH CRE AM A tube of hydrocortisone cream can soothe red, itchy bumps and cut down on scratching.

A L L E RGY M E D I C AT I O N A new environment could trigger an allergic reaction, like watery eyes or a runny nose. An antihistamine such as Benadryl can alleviate those symptoms.

PRESCRIPTIONS You’ll want to hand-carry at least an extra two to three days of prescription meds in case of flight delays or other emergencies. Keep your medication in its original packaging, since other countries may have different entry requirements, says Marcolongo. The name on your prescription should also match the name on your passport.

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may feel like a drag. Our brains naturally prioritize the here and now (psychologists call this “present bias”), and research shows that saving is especially hard when you think of time as one superlong stretch, says Brad Klontz, PsyD, a certified financial planner and a founder of the Financial Psychology Institute. So stop. Instead of picturing retirement as some far-of finish line, approach it as a series of checkpoints.

When You Have 30 (or More!) Years to Go… Aim to put 5 to 6 percent of your pretax income toward retirement (which typically gets you the match from your employer) and another 5 to 6 percent into short-term savings (so you don’t dip into your retirement account when a curveball hits). With every raise or paid-of student loan, try to increase those percentages until the accounts are getting at least 15 percent combined of your earnings, says Katie Waters, a certified financial planner and the founder of Stable Waters Financial, based in Athens, Georgia. Once your emergency fund is built up (three to six months of living expenses), put the GET STARTED:

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whole 15 percent toward your retirement account. Just starting out? Investing even $50 a month will make retirement savings a habit. And the earlier you start, the longer compound interest can work in your favor. Let’s say you have $5,000 to put toward retirement. If you invest it with 30 years to go and get an average return, you’ll end up with about $40,000 in your retirement account—without your having to kick in an extra dime.

When You Have 20 Years to Go… One-third of baby boomers have $25,000 or less stashed for retirement, but research shows that even if you’re starting from scratch, you still have time to catch up. To work toward reaching the $1 million mark in two decades, researchers at the American Association of Individual Investors say you should max out your 401(k) and take advantage of catch-up contributions (an extra $6,000 a year is allowed for those age 50 and older), as well as lean aggressively into stocks. If you already have some momentum with your retirement accounts, use this checkpoint to crank the dial a little higher. The average 401(k) participant saves about 10 percent each year, including employer contributions. That’s nothing to sneeze at, but it’s still a far cry from the 15 percent most experts recommend. Need to free up some cash to throw at your investment portfolio? Ask: Is it time to close the Bank of Mom and Dad for your college-age kids? Would downsizing sooner than expected make sense? Or can you beat back some of the lifestyle creep that’s so common mid-career?

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When You Have 10 Years to Go… For past generations, retirement tended to be abrupt—from full-on work to full-on leisure. Now, surveys show, nearly half of pre-retirees are planning on a phased retirement, like shifting to part-time work, and nearly 20 percent say they want to try something new, like launching their own business or changing employers. “The more clearly you can imagine what you want retirement to look PAINT A PICTURE:

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like, the more motivated you are to work toward it,” says Deacon Hayes, author of You Can Retire Early! Retiring to a beach house versus launching a vacation-rental side hustle will warrant diferent financial plans and quityour-job timelines. And if you do dream of something radically diferent, you can spend these years building the skills for it or testing the entrepreneurial waters— while still working at your day job. Stash some cash too, says Waters. Conventional wisdom says everyone should have an emergency fund that covers three to six months of essential living expenses. You still need that stashed cash in retirement— in fact, it’s so important that six months probably won’t cut it. “The goal is to head into retirement with one to two years of cash savings in your overall portfolio, as a bufer in times of market volatility,” says Waters.

Building up those reserves won’t happen overnight, so make it a top priority now.

When You Have 5 Years to Go… CRUNCH THE NUMBER S:

Fidelity Investments recommends having 10 times your annual income in retirement savings by age 67. Another rule of thumb, which Waters recommends, is to mock up your ideal retirement annual income, then divide that number by 0.0375. (So $50,000 in annual income would require at least $1 million.)

“These calculations can be scary, especially if you fall short,” she says.

But it’s better to know now—rather than after you send out invites for your retirement party—whether you should double down on your savings or plan to work a few more years. Also keep in mind that age can play a big factor in Social Security benefits, and your “full retirement age” might not be the same as your spouse’s or colleague’s.

Claim benefits before you hit that target, and your benefit checks could be up to 30 percent smaller— permanently. To calculate your benefits and when you’ll hit full retirement age, head to ssa.gov.

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How do you handle gift giving in the workplace?

To me, part of gift giving is to celebrate the unique talents folks have and share them with others.

I have an awesome chef on my culinary team who is really gifted at designing hats. So last year for the holidays, he made four different designs of hats, and we gave one to everyone. You could pick whichever one you wanted. Buying the same gift for everyone just doesn’t fit who we are as a company. I also like to invite my senior team to my home to celebrate over a meal.

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We do Secret Santa gifts across departments for our team of about 125 people.

Sometimes the production side doesn’t get to interact with the finance side or the legal team. So we will mix it up so that operations gives gifts to ad sales and ad sales may have to give gifts to legal. It creates interaction between people in the office and builds camaraderie. We have some people who are not into big displays of gift giving, so Secret Santa is a nice way to acknowledge everyone.

TAMARA WALKER, 40, FACILITIES TEAM MEMBER FOR BBC STUDIOS IN NEW YORK CIT Y

One year we donated a gift to underprivileged folks through a nonprofit where you buy a cow, goat, or chicken for a family in need. We had been doing a gift exchange but were annoyed that we were wasting money on things we really didn’t need.

With gift giving, we have to get back to that root of generosity and kindness rather than commerce and exchange. We raised so much money that we purchased not only one cow for a family in need, but also a goat and a bevy of chickens.

RICCO SIASOCO, 46, K-1 2 EDUCATOR IN LOS ANGELES

A few years ago I started making body scrubs to give to my coworkers. It’s a really good way to get everyone’s gift handled quickly.

I can go home, make a huge batch, and get 10 scrubs from it.

I think it also adds a personal touch. This winter I’m going to make a hot-cocoascented scrub. As far as gifts go, you want to do something that doesn’t stress you out but that has enough thought in it that people can actually use and enjoy it.

We are a small company, so I try to give gifts that support other small businesses in town.

There’s a local glass artist I’ve bought gifts from. There’s a guy down the street from us who makes sock monkeys. There’s an organization made up of women artists, and we will often get prints from them to give as gifts. We know how much work goes into building a company and what it means for others to champion that for you, so we are always looking for opportunities to support others locally.

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F E E L- G O O D P O P C O R N Fifty percent of profits from this prettily packaged snack (in 16 flavors) go to help kids with special needs. TO BUY: Double Good popcorn, from $16; doublegood.com.

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T O RT I L L A M A K E R Next taco night, make the tortillas from scratch.

All you need are this castiron press, masa cornflower, and water. TO BUY: Verve tortilla press, $48; uncommongoods.com.

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1 K I T C H E N S TA P L E At a fraction of the price of typical Dutch ovens, this quality pot is sturdy and stylish. Also in white.

TO BUY: Milo Dutch oven, $95; cookwithmilo.com.

2 MASTER CHEF JR. Outfit the little cook in your life with this kid-friendly knife, Y peeler, and finger guard. Grip rings on the wood handles help keep small hands in position for safety and better control.

TO BUY: Opinel Le Petit 3-piece chef’s knife set, $50; williams-sonoma.com.

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3 COUTURE CARBS Dinner goes high fashion thanks to this Dolce & Gabbana spaghetti.

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4 PRET TY POUR Decant olive oil or dish soap into these handmade clay bottles with copper spouts for a touch of rustic elegance in the kitchen. TO BUY: Pouring bottles, from $48 each; aquestionofeagles.com.

4 5 U N L I V R E D É L I C I E UX Foodies will savor this stunning coffee-table book about all things French food—from recipes to guides to oysters and frites. TO BUY: Let’s Eat France!, $50; workman.com.

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5 6 G R AT E E X P EC TAT IO N S Use this pretty pyramid to shred, slice, and grate with ease. TO BUY: The Nacho grater, $25; wandpdesign.com.

7 P RO D U C E P O S T E R Help your favorite cook quickly discover which items are in season and inspire her next kitchen creation. TO BUY: Fruit & Vegetable poster, $30 (premium); thisisya.com.

8 C I D E R TA S T I N G A selection of three heritage ciders delivered with a tasting guide and pairing recommendations.

TO BUY: Holiday cider trio from South Hill, $58; ciderinlove.com.

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2 R I C H RO B E The perfect weight for yearround use, this butterysoft bathrobe will become her one and only. TO BUY: Khimori silk cashmere robe, $175; naadam.co.

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3 INFUSED CUBES The tea enthusiast will savor the extra aroma from these flower- and flavor-infused sweeteners. TO BUY: Teaspressa sugar sticks, $17 each; neimanmarcus.com.

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4 E A S I E S T E M B RO I D E RY Use this pattern to stitch a design onto a tote or cushion. When you’re done, wet it and the pattern magically disappears, leaving only your handiwork. Choose from 12 designs. TO BUY: Cactus Collection Magic Paper Kit, $7; dmc.com.

5 GO OD READS From the editors of the popular site Book Riot, this journal challenges readers to diversify their bookshelves. TO BUY: Read Harder (A Reading Log), $17; abramsbooks.com.

6 PRET TY DRIP Terrazzo marble, shimmery brass, and rippled glass combine to form a sleek tool for making coffee. TO BUY: Terrazzo pour-over coffee stand with glass dripper, $40; worldmarket.com.

7 S H E L F S T RU C T U R E Weighty but not obtrusive, these tinted-glass bookends lend a burst of color to an office or a shelf.

TO BUY: Color Pop crystal bookends (in blue or pink), $44 for 2; westelm.com.

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8 P LU S H S L I P P E R S She’ll want to roll out of bed and right into these sumptuous slippers every day of the week. TO BUY: Women’s suede moc slippers, $45; landsend.com.

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1 L I T E R A RY D E C O R These gilded vases, designed to look like hardcovers, come in three sizes that fit pens and pencils or bouquets. TO BUY: Bibliophile vases, from $20 each; chroniclebooks.com.

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1 FA N -TA S T I C S H O E S You’ll score when you gift these sneakers emblazoned with the logo of their favorite football team. Available in men’s and women’s styles.

TO BUY: Forever Collectibles Low-Top and High-Top canvas shoes, $40 per pair; foco.com.

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2 BANNER GIFT These handmade felt pennants will let her free-spirit (or nerd or dreamer) flag fly. TO BUY: Wild & Free pennant, $16; theriseandfall.com.

3 H A N DY L I G H T This durable LED gadget functions as a traditional flashlight, a 360-degree lantern, a desk lamp, and an emergency strobe light.

TO BUY: Worx Multi-Function LED, $70; worx.com.

4 HANDSOME HOOP Upgrade someone’s backof-the-door ball game with this sophisticated wallmounted basketball hoop.

TO BUY: Rustic wood basketball hoop, $130; bluefox furnishings.etsy.com.

5 S L E E P- B E T T E R T E N T It sets up in 15 minutes (really!), has room for four, and blocks 90 percent of sunlight for a more restful night at camp. TO BUY: 4-Person Dark Room Tent with Screen Room, $190; coleman.com.

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6 S P E C TAT O R S P O RT In acrylic and silver, this tabletop soccer game is a sleek makeover of the dorm-room classic.

TO BUY: Foosball acrylic game, $400; zgallerie.com.

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7 PA R K P O S T E R S Choose from 61 WPA-style designs celebrating our country’s national treasures. TO BUY: Glacier National Park, $35; national-park-posters.com.

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1 SKYLINE CUSHIONS Pick one of three sizes and a day or night view of your favorite major city.

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2 T R AV E L F U N D Know someone who deserves a break? This gift card covers lodging and experiences around the globe. TO BUY: Airbnb gift card, $25 to $500; airbnb.hawkcards.com.

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5 CLOUD-LIKE KICKS Lightweight and breathable with a cushiony sole, these are the ideal shoes for the frequent traveler.

TO BUY: Ultra Flex First Take, $65; skechers.com.

6 F I R S T- C L A S S C O M F O RT She’ll be so cozy ensconced in this blanket, pillow, and eye mask that she’ll forget she’s even in flight. TO BUY: Travel gift set, $98; verabradley.com.

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7 BAG OF TRICKS An organized traveler’s dream, this carry-on duffel has separate sections for shoes, tech, toiletries, and clothing to maximize every inch of space.

TO BUY: Bento Bag, $229; nomadlane.com.

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3 GL AM ON THE GO Stainless-steel slant tweezers make plucking easy, while the curler gives lashes an extra-wide curve. TO BUY: Champagne Shimmer gift set, $36; tweezerman.com.

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A RT F U L A G E N DA She’ll be the boss of her schedule with this graphic calendar hanging from her office wall. TO BUY: 2019 wall art calendar, $32; poketo.com.

REUSABLE BOWL Reduce waste and encourage homemade lunches in the new year. The plastic lid secures to the bowl with a silicone strap.

TO BUY: The Porter Bowl, $25 (plastic); wandpdesign.com.

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1 HOT STUFF For those nose-to-thegrindstone mornings, this mug keeps muchneeded coffee at a consistent temperature. TO BUY: Ember temperaturecontrolled ceramic mug, $80; bestbuy.com.

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2 LUX E LU N C H B A G This insulated veganleather lunch box is so chic, she’ll actually want to bring her lunch to work.

It comes complete with a removable strap, a magnetic closure, and an interior utensil slot. TO BUY: Modern Picnic the Luncher, $149; modernpicnic.com.

3 D E LUX E H A I R D RY E R Enjoy a faster, quieter drying time at one-third the average hair dryer’s weight with this high-end tool.

TO BUY: Dyson Supersonic hair dryer 23.75 karat gold, $500; dyson.com.

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4 U LT I M AT E A L A R M This alarm clock gradually emits scent, light, and sound to wake up the night owl as peacefully as possible. TO BUY: Sensorwake Trio, $59; trio.sensorwake.com.

5 S O L E S U P P O RT An elegant upgrade to stash in a gym bag. TO BUY: Utile travel shoehorn, $65; neimanmarcus.com.

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6 PA C K A P U N C H Knock out the tension after a hard day on the job. TO BUY: Desktop punching bag, $25; neimanmarcus.com.

7 SLEEK FOLIO A sophisticated blush leather pouch to protect her tablet and impress her clients. TO BUY: Blush iPad case, $70; minted.com.

8 E Y E C A N DY Ten long-lasting, waterproof gel liners let her match her makeup to her mood. TO BUY: Julep Soaring Lines long-lasting eyeliners 10-piece set, $50; ulta.com.

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1 B E A D E D B RO O C H E S An artful addition to a denim jacket or canvas tote that will leave no question about who her favorite family member is. TO BUY: Dog brooches, $150 each; mignonne gavigan.com.

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2 C AT P Y R A M I D Pull the tab at the top of this wicker abode to wiggle the hanging pom-pom and entertain a frisky kitty.

TO BUY: Pyramid Cat Nester, $160; sauder.com.

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4 SUEDE UPGR ADE Elevate Rocky’s outerwear during the dog days of winter with this reversible suede vest. TO BUY: UGG Classic suede reversible dog coat, $25; bedbathand beyond.com.

5 M I R RO R I M A G E Create a stuffed-animal version of a beloved pet that lives far away. Simply upload photos and note any special markings to be replicated. TO BUY: Petsies, $199; mypetsies.com.

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6 TA RG E T D O G B E D This bright bull’s-eye makes a plush pad for your pet to lounge on.

TO BUY: The Best Made target dog bed, $198; bestmadeco.com.

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7 CUSTOM SO CKS These cute custom socks—in sizes for both adults and kids—feature the face of a favorite pet.

TO BUY: Custom dog socks, $24; divvyupsocks.com.

8 A D O R A B L E A RT Transform nearly any image of his pet into a treasured portrait. Allow at least two weeks for customization.

TO BUY: White framed print, from $35 (4 by 6 in.); perkieprints.com.

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3 B E D T I M E S T O RY Customize the illustration to resemble a particular pet and personalize the story to include family members’ names.

TO BUY: If My Cat Could Talk personalized cat book, $30; iseeme.com.

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1 MEASURE UP A measuring tape too pretty to be trapped in a toolbox.

TO BUY: Geometric wood tape measures, $36 each; jaysonhome.com.

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3 G OA L G E T T E R The latest fitness tracker from Fitbit includes new exercise modes (from yoga to swimming), a seven-day battery, and access to helpful sleep and health insights. TO BUY: Fitbit Charge 3, $150; fitbit.com.

4 A L L- I N - O N E This lightweight multitool boasts a bottle opener, rulers, wrenches, and assorted screwheads that fit within the body.

TO BUY: Tactica multitool, $40; tacticagear.com.

5 LUX E T O O L B OX Wrapped in leather, this organizer is the ultimate gift for the drill master in your life (or for yourself).

TO BUY: Leather toolbox, $300; industrywest.com.

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6 M I N I T U R N TA B L E Set this bamboo brick atop a favorite record and prepare to be amazed by the sound quality. TO BUY: RokBlok wireless record player, $99; westelm.com.

7 POWER UP Inspire a little one to use STEM skills. The corresponding app teaches kids to code animations that display on the gauntlet, along with more than a dozen other activities. TO BUY: Avengers Hero Inventor Kit, $150; littlebits.com.

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2 TECHY PHOTO B O OK Let your device addict explore the fascinating inner workings of common household items with this book from gadget YouTuber Mike Warren.

TO BUY: Cut in Half, $28; chroniclebooks.com.

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2 MINI GRILL MASTER A training tool for your little helper. The coals light up and sizzle like the real thing. TO BUY: Weber Original Kettle barbecue toy, $45; weber.com.

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4 G RO W W I T H M E B I K E This cargo bike has a reversible frame to help youngsters learn how to balance. Once they’re pros, flip it for a more traditional shape. TO BUY: Flip Flop Balance bike, $120; yubabikes.com.

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5 C O Z Y C RO W N She’ll feel royal in this fantastical knit cap— complete with a crown and pigtail braids.

TO BUY: Kids character hat, $48; garnethill.com.

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6 3-D KNAPSACK A shimmery statement for school in the new year.

TO BUY: Hologram unicorn mini backpack, $55; omgaccessories.com.

7 I SPY In this family game, take a token from the bag and be the first to find the specified animal among the 300 on the board. TO BUY: I Saw It First! Jungle edition, $30; chroniclebooks.com.

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3 A DV E N T U R E T I M E This illustrated book transports budding travelers (ages 8 to 12) to some of the world’s most unusual places. TO BUY: The Atlas Obscura Explorer’s Guide for the World’s Most Adventurous Kid, $20; workman.com.

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1 C H E E RY PA R A S O L Liven up a dreary day with the help of this iridescent umbrella.

Also in adult sizes.

TO BUY: Holo kids umbrella, $30; hipsterkid.com.

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BRIGHT EYE-DE A A statement piece for her wall with a clear cord that practically disappears from view. TO BUY: Eye LED neon wall light, $100; ampedandco.com.

FOR

STICKER KEEPER Filled with fold-out pages and sparkly pouches, this binder makes it fun for your tween to organize his or her sticker collection.

TO BUY: Hands Off My Stickers!, $19; workman.com.

TEENS AND TWEENS

SOUND MACHINE Candy-colored Bluetooth speakers to blast their favorite tunes. TO BUY: Sonos One x HAY Limited Edition speaker, $229; store.moma.org.

MUSIC LESSON The lights on the neck teach amateur musicians where to place their fingers for each chord. TO BUY: Populele smart ukulele, $189; store.moma.org.

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1 S PA R K L E M O T I O N Your teen will flip out over this shimmery phone case.

Brush your hand across the cover to reverse the direction of the sequins.

TO BUY: Velvet Reverse Sequin phone case, $13; icing.com.

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2 W H I M S I C A L WA L L S A groovy addition to her gallery wall or desk, this 10 -inch mirror comes in four colors.

TO BUY: Rainbow Mirror

by Bride & Wolfe, $85; gretelhome.com.

1 3 M O B I L E VA N I T Y A rose-gold glam station to transport beauty supplies wherever she goes. TO BUY: Benefit x PBteen Travel Vanity, $599; pbteen.com.

S N O W F L A K E S : D YA D P H O T O G R A P H Y, S T Y L I N G B Y M A I T R A N ; P R O D U C T I M A G E S C O U R T E S Y O F M A N U F A C T U R E R S

4 DOUBLE DUTY This reusable water bottle has a hidden surprise: Pop the cap to find a moisturizing, rose-scented lip balm.

TO BUY: bkr Little Kiss Kit, $49; mybkr.com.

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5 INITIAL BEANIE A hobby for the holiday break, this knit kit results in a warm wool cap.

TO BUY: “Say the Word” knit kit, $49; wooland thegang.com.

6 BO O GIE D OWN Shiny skates with light-up soles and glitter wheels— what more could a tween want? Also in gold. TO BUY: LED roller skates, $100; neimanmarcus.com.

7 T RO P I C A L T O O L S Vegan and cruelty-free, these beauty brushes are soft and durable, and they’ll look cute displayed in a cup on her dresser.

TO BUY: Let’s Flamingle brush set, $44 for 5; tartecosmetics.com.

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8 S E E -T H RO U G H B A G For the avid concertgoer or sports attendee, this clear crossbody complies with most venue handbag regulations. TO BUY: Clear crossbody, $135; markand graham.com.

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2 0 1 8 H O L I D AY G I F T G U I D E 1 REUS ABLE TOTE Each lightweight sack holds up to three times as much as a typical plastic bag to reduce waste on shopping trips. TO BUY: Standard Baggu, $10 each; baggu.com.

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3 MINI BOOKMARKS Metal page markers for winter time reads or textbooks during the school year. TO BUY: Weather bookmark set, $25 for 4; easytigerco.com.

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4 S A RC A S T I C 9 B A L L Like the 8 Ball we know and love but with saucier responses (think “Good luck with that”). TO BUY: Sarcastic 9 Ball, $18; blueribbon generalstore.com.

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5 R A I N B O W C H A RG E R The pot of gold at the end of this rainbow is a collection of fully powered devices.

TO BUY: Power Palette 5-in-1 charger, $15; modcloth.com.

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6 T RO P I C A L T R E AT A balm of coconut and sweet almond oils to nourish chapped lips. TO BUY: Rebels Refinery geometric pineapple lip balm, $6; ulta.com.

7 B E AU T Y T R E AT M E N T Mix these packets with water for a rejuvenating steam, soak, or scrub.

TO BUY: Botanical treatments, $7 to $8 each; formulary55.com.

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8 S U S TA I N A B L E S T R AW This compact collapsible stainless-steel straw comes with a carrying case to clip right on your key chain.

TO BUY: Final Straw, $25; finalstraw.com.

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9 P L AY I N G C A R D S Each suit features icons from four music genres, making game night a battle of the bands. TO BUY: Genius Music playing cards, $10; chroniclebooks.com.

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2 RING TOSS One player dons the headband while the other tosses the foam rings. Each ring awards players a different number of points when it lands on the horn.

TO BUY: Unicorn Hoopla game, $20; kohls.com.

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Ahhh...

You know how you can hold a seashell up to your ear and immediately be transported to the ocean, listening to the sound of the waves? At this time of year, it’s easy to get both stressed out and shiveringly cold. Try this breathing technique anytime you need a little beach escape to settle the mind and generate some internal warmth—you can even do it while walking around shopping for gifts. Start with a couple of breaths in and out of the mouth just to get going. With each long exhale, make a gentle ahhh sound. Then transition to breathing in through your nose and out the mouth. Imagine you’re trying to fog up a mirror. Now, what if you tried to make that same sound while exhaling through the nose?

Can you find a similar sound as you inhale through the nose too? Keep going for another 10 to 20 breaths and let these slow, oceanic breaths warm and soothe your nervous system.

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A VE RY MODERN MANTEL D e c k w h a t eve r h a l l s yo u h ave t h i s s e a s o n — w h e t h e r yo u ’ re wo r k i n g with a traditional f i re p l a c e o r a ve r y small space.

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FIRESIDE FOREST

NICOLE FRANZEN ST YLING BY CHRISTINA L ANE

Layer an assortment of treeshaped objects in varying heights and textures atop the mantel. Use a metallic, leafy garland to reflect the firelight from below.

T O B U Y: Table Forest Hollyjolly, $24 for 3 cardboard trees; shop.moglea.com.

Wool-wrapped tree objects, from $34 each; westelm.com. Christmas tree tea-light holders, $18 each, pressedmetal-fern garland, $44; shopterrain.com.

Allen + Roth bottlebrush-tree tabletop decorations, $17 for 4; lowes.com.

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Trick out a door or window frame with an asymmetrical assortment of stars.

Use adhesive strips to hang a strand of cascading star lights accentuated with ornaments and lanterns of various sizes.

T O B U Y: Paper-star string lights

in gold, $20 per strand, glittered Northern Star ornaments, $18 for 3; worldmarket.com. Lumabase 7-point-star paper lanterns, $15 for 3; bedbathandbeyond.com.

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P R E V I O U S S P R E A D : 1 0 - I N . W H I T E - B E A D W R E AT H , $ 8 ; J A M A L I G A R D E N . C O M . T H I S S P R E A D : N AT U R A L M O D E R N W O O D D I N I N G - C H A I R S E T, $ 3 3 3 F O R 2 ; O V E R S T O C K . C O M

CELESTIAL D O O RWAY

STOCKINGED STAIRWELL Hang stockings from a banister trimmed with garland (live or faux) using floral wire or zip ties hidden amid the greenery.

T O B U Y: Vintage-rug stockings in red, $129 each; rejuvenation.com. Faux-cedar garland, $58 (72 in.); shopterrain.com.

Mixed Metals storage basket set, $186 for 3; dearkeaton.com. Wandering Mark rug in bright, $750 (4 by 6 ft.); minna-goods.com.

FAUX HEARTH Place pretty logs in a wire basket and wrap them in fairy lights for a twinkly glow.

A low-profile tree adorned with a few vintage ornaments completes the festive vibe.

T O B U Y: Extra-large decorative wire

storage bin, $25; target.com. Stargazer copper-twine lights, $48 (50 ft.); shopterrain.com. Velvet pillow by Edie Ure in mustard yellow, $190; hyggelife.com.

T H R E S H O L D D I A M O N D - K N I T C H E N I L L E O V E R S I Z E S Q U A R E T H R O W P I L L O W, $ 3 0 ; TA R G E T. C O M . T Ö R S L E V S T R I P E D R U G , $ 2 0 , F L A D I S B A S K E T, $ 1 3 ; I K E A . C O M

LEANING LADDER Attach stockings to a decorative ladder and liven it up with a swag of pine garland. In January, replace the stockings with throw blankets.

T O B U Y: Velvet and linen stockings, $48 each; shopterrain.com. American Trails decorative ladder with solid American maple, $86; amazon.com.

Faux-pine-needle garland, $58 (5 ft.); shopterrain.com.

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SWEET S PA R K L E S Add a little bling to this year’s cookie swap with one (or all) of these easy-to-make glittery treats.

Recipes by DAW N P E R RY Photographs by J O H N N Y M I L L E R

CORNFLAKE MERINGUES

S A LT E D C H O C O L AT E B U C K W H E AT T H I N S

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CARAMELIZED HONEY NUT BARS

NUTELLA CONES WITH HAZELNUT PR ALINE

C H O C O L AT E PEPPERMINT S H O RT B R E A D S

S A LT E D C H O C O L AT E B U C K W H E AT T H I N S ACT I V E T I M E 2 5 M I N U T E S TOTA L T I M E 4 5 M I N U T E S MAKES 24 COOKIES

cup buckwheat groats

CORNFLAKE MERINGUES

1 cup packed light brown sugar cup (1 stick) salted butter

ACT I V E T I M E 2 5 M I N U T E S TOTA L T I M E 1 H O U R MAKES 30 COOKIES

2 Tbsp. cocoa powder tsp. pure vanilla extract 1 large egg

1 cup sugar

tsp. flaky sea salt

1 tsp. cornstarch tsp. baking powder Pinch kosher salt 4 large egg whites, at room temperature tsp. cream of tartar 1 tsp. pure vanilla extract 2

cups crushed cornflakes, divided Edible gold leaf (optional)

oven to 250°F and line 3 baking sheets with parchment paper.

Whisk together sugar, cornstarch, baking powder, and salt in a medium bowl. Combine egg whites and cream of tartar in the bowl of an electric mixer fitted with the whisk attachment; beat on medium speed until frothy, about 2 minutes. Gradually add sugar mixture. Stop machine and scrape down sides of bowl to make sure all the sugar is incorporated.

PREHEAT

INCREASE speed to medium-high and beat until mixture is glossy and stiff peaks form, 6 to 8 minutes. Fold in vanilla and 1 cups of the cornflakes.

Put a small dab of meringue under each corner of parchment to help it stick to the sheet. Drop heaping tablespoonfuls of meringue onto the parchment and sprinkle with remaining 1 cup cornflakes.

BAKE meringues until puffed and dry to the touch, 25 to 30 minutes. Turn off the oven and let meringues cool in the oven, 30 minutes more. Remove and let cool completely. Top with edible gold-leaf flakes, if using. Store at room temperature for up to 3 days.

FILLING cup granulated sugar cup (

stick) unsalted butter

cup honey 1 Tbsp. heavy cream

oven to 350°F with racks in upper and lower thirds. Spread buckwheat in a single layer on a rimmed baking sheet. Bake until slightly darkened and fragrant, 10 to 12 minutes. Let cool.

PREHEAT

LINE 2 baking sheets with parchment. Combine sugar and butter in a medium pot over medium. Cook, stirring occasionally, until butter is melted. Remove from heat and let cool slightly. Stir in cocoa and vanilla until evenly combined. Add egg and stir until evenly incorporated. Fold in toasted buckwheat.

tablespoonfuls of batter onto the prepared baking sheets, spacing them 2 inches apart and flat tening slightly with the back of a spoon. Top with flaky salt.

DROP

until shiny and dry, 8 to 9 minutes, rotating sheets front to back and top to bottom. Let cool until firm; transfer to a wire rack to cool completely. Store in an airtight container at room temperature for up to 3 days.

BAKE

CARAMELIZED HONEY NUT BARS ACT I V E T I M E 2 0 M I N U T E S TOTA L T I M E 2 H O U R S MAKES 36 BARS

CRUST cup (1 stick) unsalted butter, at room temperature, plus more for baking dish 1

cups all-purpose flour cup powdered sugar 1 tsp. kosher salt

tsp. kosher salt cup sliced almonds cup pumpkin seeds

CRUST oven to 350°F with rack in middle position. Butter an 8-inch square baking dish and line with 2 crisscrossed pieces of parchment; butter the parchment.

PREHEAT

flour, sugar, and salt in a food processor and pulse to combine. Add butter and pulse until mixture resembles coarse meal. Whisk egg yolk and 1 tablespoon ice water in a small bowl. While pulsing, add yolk mixture to flour mixture and pulse a few more times until mixture starts to form larger clumps.

COMBINE

dough to the prepared dish and press dough evenly into bottom. Bake until golden brown and dry, 20 to 25 minutes.

TRANSFER

FILLING sugar, butter, honey, cream, and salt in a medium saucepan over medium-high. Cook, stirring occasionally, until butter is melted and mixture is smooth. Continue to cook, stirring, until mixture comes to a full boil. Stir in almonds and pumpkin seeds and continue to cook, stirring, about 1 minute. Pour almond mixture over crust, using a wooden spoon or spatula to help it settle evenly. Transfer to oven and bake until caramel is bubbly, 18 to 20 minutes more. Let cool completely before cutting into bars.

Store in an airtight container at room temperature for up to 3 days.

COMBINE

1 large egg yolk

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NUTELLA CONES WITH HAZELNUT PR ALINE ACT I V E T I M E 1 H O U R TOTA L T I M E 1 H O U R , 3 0 M I N U T E S MAKES 24 CONES

Continue to cook, undisturbed, until mixture begins to turn golden. Swirl pot to incorporate any golden sugar and continue to cook until mixture is evenly amber, 8 to 10 minutes.

Remove from heat and stir in hazelnuts to coat. Carefully pour mixture onto the prepared sheet. Let cool completely. Transfer to a resealable plastic bag and crush with the back of a spoon or rolling pin.

F I L L I N G A N D A S S E M B LY Nutella and remaining cup hazelnuts in a medium bowl. Fill prepared cones with Nutella mixture so that it peaks over the edges of the cones. Dip cones in reserved melted chocolate mixture (reheat in the microwave for 20 seconds if necessary to keep it liquid) and transfer back to parchment-lined sheet. Sprinkle tops with praline and freeze until set. Cookies can be made up to 2 days ahead. Bring to room temperature before serving.

MIX

C H O C O L AT E C OAT I N G 8 oz. chopped semisweet chocolate or chocolate chips (about 1 cups) 2 Tbsp. coconut oil 24 mini sugar cones

PRALINE cup granulated sugar cup roasted hazelnuts, chopped

FILLING 1 13.3-oz. jar Nutella cup roasted hazelnuts, chopped

C H O C O L AT E C OAT I N G chocolate and oil in a medium bowl set over a pot filled with an inch of simmering water.

Stir until chocolate melts, about 4 minutes. Remove bowl; transfer chocolate mixture to a liquid measuring cup.

COMBINE

a baking sheet with parchment paper. Working over a bowl with one cone at a time, pour chocolate mixture into cones, then invert cones so the chocolate runs back into the bowl. Transfer chocolate-lined cones to the prepared baking sheet.

Repeat with remaining cones and chocolate. Reserve chocolate at room temperature and refrigerate cones until chocolate is set, about 15 minutes.

LINE

PRALINE line a baking sheet with parchment paper. Stir together sugar and 2 tablespoons water in a medium pot over medium-high; cook, stirring occasionally, until sugar dissolves, about 4 minutes.

MEANWHILE,

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C H O C O L AT E PEPPERMINT S H O RT B R E A D S ACT I V E T I M E 4 0 M I N U T E S TOTA L T I M E 2 H O U R S MAKES 40 COOKIES

2

cups all-purpose flour cup cocoa powder tsp. kosher salt 1 cup (2 sticks) unsalted butter, at room temperature cup light brown sugar tsp. pure vanilla extract 6 oz. chopped semisweet chocolate or chocolate chips (about 1 cup) tsp. peppermint extract Crushed peppermint candies, for decorating (about 5) Flaky sea salt, for decorating

together flour, cocoa powder, and salt.

WHISK

butter, sugar, and vanilla in a food processor and process until COMBINE

SPICY CITRUS SANDWICH COOKIES

creamy and evenly incorporated.

Add flour mixture and pulse until mixture is uniform but still crumbly, scraping down sides of bowl as needed. Turn dough out and knead until smooth. Divide dough in half and form each into a square-edged log. Wrap in plastic wrap, squaring off edges, and refrigerate until firm, at least 1 hour or up to 2 days.

PREHEAT oven to 350°F with racks in upper and lower thirds. Line 2 baking sheets with parchment paper. Slice dough -inch thick and transfer to the prepared sheets. Bake until dry around the edges, 10 to 12 minutes, rotating top to bottom and back to front. Let cool completely on sheet.

shortbread to a wire rack set over a baking sheet. Heat chocolate in a microwave-safe bowl, stirring every 30 seconds, until melted and smooth; stir in peppermint extract. Dip tops of cooled cookies in chocolate mixture. Turn right-side up and place on rack. Sprinkle with crushed peppermint candies and a little salt. Refrigerate until chocolate is set, 15 to 20 minutes. Store in an airtight container at room temperature for up to 2 days.

TRANSFER

SPICY CITRUS SANDWICH COOKIES ACT I V E T I M E 4 5 M I N U T E S TOTA L T I M E 2 H O U R S , 4 5 M I N U T E S MAKES 24 SANDWICHES

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cups all-purpose flour, plus more for surface tsp. kosher salt tsp. baking soda 1 cup (2 sticks) unsalted butter, at room temperature cup granulated sugar, plus more for decorating tsp. cayenne 3 tsp. lime zest (from 2 limes), divided 2 large egg yolks, plus 1 large egg tsp. pure vanilla extract cup prepared lemon curd

flour, salt, and baking soda in a large bowl. Using an electric mixer, beat butter, sugar, cayenne, and 1 teaspoons lime zest in a large bowl on medium-high until creamy, about 3 minutes. Add egg yolks and vanilla and beat to combine, scraping down sides of the bowl as needed. With mixer on low, add flour mixture and beat until evenly incorporated. Divide dough in half and form into 2 disks. Wrap in plastic and refrigerate until firm, about 2 hours.

WHISK

PREHEAT oven to 350°F. On a lightly floured surface, roll out each piece of dough to a -inch thickness.

Using a 2- or 2 -inch round cookie cutter, cut the dough into rounds and place on parchment-lined baking sheets, spacing rounds 1 inch apart. Using a -inch round cookie cutter, cut out holes, slightly off-center, from half the cookies.

Reroll and cut scraps as necessary.

BEAT the whole egg in a small bowl.

Brush the punched-out cookies with egg and sprinkle with remaining sugar. Top each sugared cookie with a little lime zest. Bake until edges are golden, 12 to 15 minutes, rotating sheets halfway through.

Cool slightly on the baking sheets, then transfer to wire racks to cool completely.

SPREAD 1 teaspoon lemon curd on the whole cookies and top with the sugared cookies. Store in an airtight container at room temperature for up to 2 days.

Expand Your World (From Your Own Backyard) Travel feels great because it exposes you to new people and experiences. But you don’t need to wait until your next trip to experience a new-to-you culture.

Here’s how to connect wherever you live.

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TH E RE’S NO GE TTING AROU N D IT: We live in polarized times.

Jessie Kissinger

Bridging divides—whether cultural, political, or religious— is more important than ever. It’s nice when you can get away, to be swept up in a foreign place. But you don’t always have to travel to immerse yourself in another way of life. There’s an easy, inexpensive opportunity right in front of us.

When we engage across diference in our own hometowns, we cultivate stronger communities and a stronger democracy, says Rachel Peric, executive director of Welcoming America, a nonprofit that works with local governments and other organizations to create a more inclusive climate for all Americans, including new residents from other countries. “Connecting with other cultures is about creating a sense of belonging for everyone,” Peric says. “Especially at a time when our communities don’t look the same as they did 20 years ago.”

And no action is too small. “Citizen diplomacy has a much deeper impact than anything governments could produce because it’s experiential,” says Patricia Harrison, PhD, director of International Professional Exchange Programs at World Learning, a nonprofit that runs cultural exchanges and other educational programs.

Finding a profound—or at least an interesting—local crosscultural experience takes curiosity and a willingness to get lost, feel awkward, and occasionally be overwhelmed by how little you know. In other words, it helps you grow. Engaging with other cultures expands our creativity and makes us more empathetic. If you’re game, here are 10 places to start.

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Ayumi Takahashi

1 Think global, eat local

At the 7th Street Community Garden in Louisville, Kentucky, immigrants and refugees plant crops beside longtime residents, sharing knowledge.

If you’re part of a community garden, talk to organizers about reserving plots for newcomers. The International Rescue Committee’s New Roots Program can connect refugees to gardens.

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3 Cook together

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Learn about another religion

Local interfaith organizations, like Interfaith Partners of South Carolina, promote cooperation among religious groups, running a variety of programs, including visitor days at mosques, temples, synagogues, and churches.

IPSC board member Holli Emore also recommends visiting a house of worship on your own: “Just reach out to people and introduce yourself.”

Cooking classes led by immigrants and refugees are emerging all over the U.S., in cities large and small, from the League of Kitchens in New York City and Los Angeles to the Welcome Neighbor STL Supper Club in St. Louis.

You can taste Afghan meat dumplings (mantu), Argentine empanadas, and more as you get to know folks from those countries through something we all share: an appetite.

4 Dine with a future leader

Since 1940, the U.S. Department of State has selected emerging world leaders (500 have gone on to become heads of government) to meet American professionals through the International Visitor Leadership Program.

A meal with an American family is an essential component, and hosts often get hooked. Over the past 10 years, Connie Miller of Seattle has hosted more than 150 people, among them female entrepreneurs from all over Africa, Japanese bankers, and a doctor from the Pakistan-Afghanistan border. Sign up to host through World Learning or the Global Ties U.S. Network.

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Seek new music Look for concerts in intimate, interactive spaces—libraries, yoga studios, churches, and festivals—suggests Sabrina Lynn Motley, director of the Smithsonian Folklife Festival.

If there’s a language barrier, she adds, “listen to a rhythm or a melody that draws you. You may not know the words, but you can often understand the emotion.”

7 Help a newcomer

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Get an old-school pen pal When she was 13, Joy Catania of Erie, Pennsylvania, answered an ad for a pen pal. For years, she and Shantaram Dhamale of Kadus, India, exchanged letters, sharing everyday experiences and historical events of their time. “One of the most poignant letters I [wrote] was about the assassination of Martin Luther King Jr.,” she remembers. Catania, 65, and Dhamale, 67, stay in touch via email and text now, but she recommends the tactile experience of a letter. Find your own pen pal through PenPal World or Global Penfriends.

8 Head to the library It’s a portal to other worlds.

Check out a reading by an international author. Borrow a foreign film. See an exhibition. Join a language-practice group. Or just people watch.

“You will see all diferent cultures,” says Marcellus Turner, executive director and chief librarian at the Seattle Public Library. “It’s one of the last democratic institutions where people can have access for free.”

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When we engage across difference in our own hometowns, we cultivate stronger communities and a stronger democracy.

Mentoring an immigrant family can involve helping them move, taking them to the post office, enrolling kids in school, and practicing English. “When I came to this country and didn’t speak the language, my mentor was instrumental,” remembers Fatima Said, now executive director of Project FINE (Focus on Integrating Newcomers through Education), a nonprofit in Winona, Minnesota. Welcoming America’s network of partners and nonprofits is a great place to start looking for a mentoring organization where you live.

Host an international traveler

Sign up for Servas, an international hospitality social network founded in 1949 that pairs travelers worldwide—a majority are from Asia, Europe, and North America—with local volunteer hosts. (Its founder envisioned it building cross-cultural understanding and peace.) A typical stay is two nights, but you can also opt to be a day host and meet a traveler for a few hours. For other homestay opportunities, try the international center at your local university.

10 Build your own bridge Many cross-cultural opportunities don’t exist yet. So look around. “All of us are sitting at different tables, whether it’s as a parent in the PTA or somebody in a condo association,” says Peric. “There’s always a space to be thoughtful about who’s showing up.

Ask: ‘Am I doing things that make sure different voices are heard?’ ”

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T H E E A S I E S T W AY T O

DRESS FOR THE H O L I D AY S COMBINE YOUR STAPLES WITH A FEW FASHION AND BEAUT Y FLOURISHES, AND YOU’RE READY FOR ANY GATHERING IN AN INSTANT.

Photographs by M E I TAO Styled by PAU L A K N I G H T

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Abercrombie & Fitch turtleneck, $28; abercrombie.com.

Gabrielle Union Collection skirt, $90; nyand company.com. Kendra Scott earrings, $70; kendrascott.com.

Nine West heels, $89; ninewest.com.

FINISHING TOUCHES Try a new combo: purple eyes and red lips, or rose cheeks and fluffy brows. Both models are wearing Maybelline New York Tattoo Studio Brow Gel ($13; target.com).

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Modcloth coat, $175; modcloth.com. Chico’s ring, $40; chicos.com.

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FINISHING TOUCHES A swipe of gold liner makes even tired eyes sparkle. Try Marc Jacobs Beauty Highliner Glam Glitter Gel Eye Crayon in All That Glitters ($25; sephora.com).

THE NEW B L AC K T UX A classic look gets a refresh with a double-breasted velvet blazer and lace pants.

Pair them with your go-to white button-up.

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PRETTY P L E ATS This conversationstarter bright pleather skirt is still office appropriate when paired with a pretty blouse and pumps.

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FINISHING TOUCHES Balance flashy fabrics with monochromatic makeup, like Charlotte Tilbury the Pillow Talk Look ($149; charlotte tilbury.com)—rose shadows, lip liner, lipstick, and blush.

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KICK IT UP Show your holiday spirit by adding glittery shoes to a simple and cozy outfit.

TO BUY Veronica Beard sweater, $450; veronicabeard.com.

J.Crew pants, $90; jcrew.com. Madewell Mary Jane pumps, $108; madewell.com.

FINISHING TOUCHES Throw highlighter in your bag and dab on cheekbones when last-minute plans pop up. Try CoverGirl Trublend Super Stunner Palette ($10; target.com).

BRING OUT THE BLING Layered necklaces and crystal hairpins turn your LBD into a party-ready look.

TO BUY Ann Taylor dress, $139; anntaylor.com.

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FINISHING TOUCHES No mirror needed with Pat McGrath Labs Lip Fetish Sheer Colour Lip Balms in Wild Cherry and Love Supreme ($38 each; sephora.com).

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FINISHING TOUCHES For nails with gel-like shine without the pesky removal process, try Dior Vernis Ultra Rouge in No. 770 Love ($28; dior.com), a classic red that looks chic with, well, everything.

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The stockings are hung by the chimney with care. The gifts are all purchased, cards ready to share. A big batch of caramel (page 144) is wrapped with ribbon. It’s a sweet homemade gift, received or when given.

Stash frozen pie shells (page 140) for quiches or tarts; you’ll be ready whenever the season kick-starts. And if unexpected guests drop by in a pack? Serve them a platter of holiday snacks (page 142).

On quieter nights, a sheet-pan salmon (page 137) does the trick.

Keep it simple, as always, while you wait on Saint Nick.

Photograph by Victor Protasio

Easy Dinner 1

Slow cooker black bean posole ACTIVE TIME 10 MINUTES

TOTAL TIME 5 HOURS

SERVES 8

Freezable Make Ahead Big Batch Slow Cooker One Pot Vegetarian Gluten-Free Family Friendly

8 cups low-sodium vegetable broth 3 poblano chiles, chopped 1 onion, chopped 8 cloves garlic, chopped cup olive oil 2 Tbsp. chili powder 1 Tbsp. tomato paste 1 tsp. dried oregano 1 lb. dried black beans 1 28-oz. can golden or white hominy, drained cup fresh lime juice (from 2 limes) 1

tsp. kosher salt tsp. cayenne Fresh cilantro, sour cream, sliced avocado, and radishes, for serving

broth, poblanos, onion, garlic, oil, chili powder, tomato paste, oregano, and black beans in a 6-quart slow cooker on high. Cook until beans are tender, 5 hours. Stir in hominy, lime juice, salt, and cayenne.

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COMBINE

topped with cilantro, sour cream, avocado, and radishes.

SERVE

P E R S E RV I N G : 327 CALORIES, 7.5G FAT (1G SAT.), 0MG CHOL., 7G FIBER, 17G PRO., 48G CARB., 824MG SOD., 7G SUGAR

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Photographs by Victor Protasio

FOOD

oil in a large skillet over medium-high. Season chicken all over with salt and pepper.

Add chicken to skillet and cook until golden brown on both sides, flipping halfway through, about 4 minutes per side.

HEAT

2 Tbsp. olive oil

Easy Dinner 2

4 boneless, skinless chicken breasts 1 tsp. kosher salt

Chicken with salsa, olives, and lime ACTIVE TIME 20 MINUTES TOTAL TIME 20 MINUTES SERVES 4

Quick Cooking One Pot Gluten-Free Family Friendly

tsp. freshly ground black pepper 4 cups refrigerated pico de gallo cup chopped green olives (such as Castelvetrano) 2 Tbsp. drained capers Tortillas and lime wedges, for serving

ADD pico de gallo, olives, and capers and bring to a simmer.

Simmer until chicken is cooked through and sauce is slightly thickened, about 5 minutes.

chicken with tortillas and lime wedges.

SERVE

P E R S E RV I N G : 479 CALORIES, 19G FAT (3G SAT.), 166MG CHOL., 0.5G FIBER, 53G PRO., 26G CARB., 1,718MG SOD., 8G SUGAR

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COOK pasta according to package directions. Drain, reserving cup pasta water.

12 oz. penne or other short pasta

Easy Dinner 3

cup olive oil 4 oz. prosciutto, torn 4 cloves garlic, finely chopped

Prosciutto penne with spinach

5 oz. baby spinach

ACTIVE TIME 25 MINUTES TOTAL TIME 25 MINUTES SERVES 4

tsp. lemon zest

Quick Cooking Family Friendly

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tsp. kosher salt tsp. black pepper 3 oz. Parmesan cheese, grated (about cup)

HEAT olive oil and prosciutto in a large skillet over medium. Cook, stirring, until prosciutto is crisp, about 4 minutes; transfer to a plate using tongs. Add garlic to skillet and cook 30 seconds.

Add spinach, salt, pepper, and lemon zest and cook, tossing, until spinach is wilted, 2 minutes.

pasta, reserved pasta water, and half the cheese to skillet. Cook, tossing, until sauce thickens and coats the pasta, about 1 minute. Top with prosciutto and remaining cheese.

ADD

P E R S E RV I N G : 576 CALORIES, 23G FAT (7G SAT.), 31MG CHOL., 4G FIBER, 27G PRO., 66.5G CARB., 1,110MG SOD., 4G SUGAR

FOOD

Easy Dinner 4

Sheet pan salmon with potatoes and Broccolini ACTIVE TIME 25 MINUTES

TOTAL TIME 25 MINUTES

SERVES 4

Quick Cooking One Pan Gluten-Free

1 lb. small Yukon Gold potatoes, halved cup olive oil, divided 1

tsp. kosher salt, divided tsp. black pepper, divided 4 6-oz. salmon fillets 1 lb. Broccolini, trimmed 2 Tbsp. fresh lemon juice (from 1 lemon) 1 shallot, finely chopped

1

tsp. Dijon mustard

oven to 450°F. Toss potatoes with 2 tablespoons oil, teaspoon salt, and teaspoon pepper on a rimmed baking sheet. Roast for 15 minutes.

PREHEAT

rub salmon with 1 tablespoon oil and season with teaspoon each salt and pepper. Add salmon to sheet and roast until potatoes are tender, 5 more minutes.

MEANWHILE,

potatoes, add Broccolini to sheet, and drizzle with 1 tablespoon oil. Heat broiler and broil all until salmon and Broccolini are browned, 2 to 3 minutes.

TURN

lemon juice, shallot, and mustard with remaining cup oil and teaspoon salt and drizzle over salmon and vegetables.

WHISK

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P E R S E RV I N G : 658 CALORIES, 40G FAT (7G SAT.), 87MG CHOL., 3G FIBER, 43G PRO., 29G CARB., 766MG SOD., 3G SUGAR

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Easy Dinner 5

Cumin-lamb stir fry ACTIVE TIME 25 MINUTES TOTAL TIME 25 MINUTES SERVES 4

Quick Cooking Gluten-Free Family Friendly

1 cup low-sodium beef broth 3 Tbsp. tamari 2 Tbsp. cornstarch 2 Tbsp. rice vinegar 2 Tbsp. canola oil, divided 12 oz. boneless lamb shoulder, cut into thin strips tsp. kosher salt tsp. black pepper 1 Tbsp. cumin seeds 1 yellow bell pepper, thinly sliced 1 yellow onion, thinly sliced Steamed rice, for serving Fresh cilantro leaves and tender stems, for serving beef broth, tamari, cornstarch, and vinegar in a bowl.

WHISK

1 tablespoon of the oil in a large skillet over high.

Season lamb with salt and pepper. Add lamb and cumin to skillet and cook, stirring often, until browned, about 4 minutes. Remove from skillet.

HEAT

remaining 1 tablespoon oil to skillet. Add bell pepper and onion and cook, stirring often, until vegetables are slightly softened, about 5 minutes.

Return lamb to skillet along with cornstarch mixture and bring to a boil. Cook, stirring, until sauce is thickened, about 1 minute.

ADD

over rice and top with cilantro.

SERVE

P E R S E RV I N G : 385 CALORIES, 12G FAT (2G SAT.), 54MG CHOL., 2G FIBER, 23G PRO., 44G CARB., 775MG SOD., 3G SUGAR

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Make It Yourself A D E L I C I O U S E SS E N T I A L T H AT’ S BETTER HOMEMADE THAN S T O R E - B O U G H T. W E ’ L L P RO V E I T. THIS MONTH: FROZEN PIE SHELL S

By Ananda Eidelstein ACTIVE TIME 10 MINUTES TOTAL TIME 3 HOURS MAKES 2 PIE SHELLS

2

cups all-purpose flour, plus more for work surface 1 Tbsp. sugar 1 tsp. kosher salt

flour, sugar, and salt in a food processor and pulse to combine. Add butter and pulse 20 times. Drizzle in 2 tablespoons ice water and pulse to combine. Continue, adding 1 or 2 tablespoons ice water at a time, until dough just comes together when squeezed in your palm (it should be pretty sandy).

COMBINE

DIVIDE dough into 2 piles.

Transfer 1 pile to a large sheet of plastic wrap. Use edges of wrap to gather and compact dough toward center, using your knuckles to help press it into a compact disk. Wrap tightly with plastic and repeat with remaining dough. Refrigerate for at least 2 hours and up to 3 days.

out 1 disk at a time on a lightly floured surface to a 14-inch circle. Place in a 9- or 10-inch pie plate. Fold under overhang so crust just covers the lip of the plate. Crimp edge as desired. Poke holes all over bottom with a fork.

Transfer to freezer and freeze until firm, about 30 minutes.

ROLL

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each pie shell with a piece of parchment paper and stack 1 shell on top of the other. Wrap with plastic wrap. Freeze for up to 1 month.

LINE

Preheat oven to 350°F with rack in lowest position. Remove pie shell from plastic wrap (leave parchment paper in place) and fill with pie weights or dried beans. Bake until edge is golden, about 30 minutes. Remove parchment paper and weights.

Return crust to oven and bake until bottom is lightly golden and dry, 10 to 15 minutes. (Parbaking ensures a crisp crust.)

TO PARBAKE THE CRUST:

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1 cup (2 sticks) cold unsalted butter, cut into -in. pieces

BASIC QUICHE

Whisk 4 large eggs with cup half-and-half, tsp. kosher salt, and several grinds of black pepper. Stir in 2 cups cooked vegetables (such as wilted spinach, sautéed mushrooms and onions, or leftover roasted squash) and 8 oz. grated Cheddar or Gruyère. Pour into parbaked pie shell and bake at 375°F on bottom rack until just set, 35 to 40 minutes.

Photograph by Victor Protasio

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Tart and crisp, they’re a welcome addition to cheese boards—or martinis.

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Marin French Cheese Baked Brie en Croute Rich Brie made with milk from California dairies is wrapped in flaky dough from La Boulangerie de San Francisco.

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Photograph by Victor Protasio

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Big Batch

Vanilla sea salt caramel sauce ACTIVE TIME 30 MINUTES

TOTAL TIME 30 MINUTES

MAKES 6 CUPS

5 cups granulated sugar 3 cups heavy cream 1

cups (2 sticks) unsalted butter, cut into large cubes 3 Tbsp. pure vanilla extract 1 tsp. fine sea salt

together sugar and 1 cups water in a large heavybottomed pot. Place over medium-high and cook, undisturbed, until sugar begins to turn amber around the edge of the pot, about 15 minutes.

STIR

stir mixture until color is uniformly amber, about 1 minute more. Reduce heat to low and gradually stir in cream. (Be careful: Sauce will bubble and steam vigorously.) Continue to cook, stirring over low, until caramel is smooth, about 2 minutes.

GENTLY

butter, 1 piece at a time, whisking constantly until butter is melted and emulsified.

For a sweet holiday gift, place caramel in 4- or 8-ounce glass jars and tie with ribbon.

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REMOVE from heat and stir in vanilla and salt. Serve warm or let cool. Store in airtight containers and refrigerate for up to 3 weeks.

Pair homemade caramel sauce with only the best sundae toppings.

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Recipe by Ananda Eidelstein Photograph by Victor Protasio

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The Struggle Is Real

The 7 Dogs You Meet Online

By Juno DeMelo

Click through your local shelter’s website and you’ll find dozens of eligible canines.

Much like online dating, however, the process can be full of dubiously accurate descriptors.

Use our guide to decode the profiles and you just might find your soul mate!

S O C I A L B U T T E R F LY

He’ll nuzzle up to every stranger and try to convince them you’re a negligent dog owner who does not, in fact, give him grass-fed organic beef and let him take up half the bed.

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L OV E S T O H I K E

G R E AT G UA R D D O G

QUITE THE SNUGGLER

He requires two-plus hours of exercise a day or he’ll shred the tampons in the trash, then use the strings as laces for the tiny sneakers he’ll need to jump the fence and take himself on a run. If you want a towrope on the switchbacks, this is your guy.

She’ll protect you if someone tries to break in. She will also bark at every person except you, but sometimes also at you if you ever have the audacity to open the door before you’ve closed an umbrella.

He’ll always be your little spoon. The other kitchen tool he may remind you of is a Microplane, grating on your nerves with his whining as soon as you leave his sight. Luckily, he can outgrow the separation anxiety with training, becoming your ideal cuddle buddy.

KNOWS BASIC COMMANDS

S U P E R S M A RT

NOT A CIT Y GIRL

You’ll be amazed by how quickly she becomes bored with that $40 puzzle toy guaranteed to keep dog geniuses occupied.

On the plus side, you can train her to play dead every time your husband asks where his keys are again.

She’ll cower at the sound of bus brakes and butterflies flapping their wings. But she’s fully on board with bingeing The Great British Baking Show—and her love more than makes up for her idiosyncrasies.

This dog can definitely sit!

She even does it on her own, in the absence of a command! She’s got nothing else, however. Consider her a blank slate on which you can paint a nice picture of well-mannered dogs playing poker.

Illustrations by Joel Holland

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