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A wrenching story of love and its limits

THE NEW REESE WITHERSPOON, MINDY KALING, and YOU KNOW WHO take on the universe in A WRINKLE IN TIME

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Contents

Live Your Best Life

34 CONNECTIONS

Love That!

102 WHERE DO WE GO FROM HERE? Sexual

23 Luxurious lodgings to

harassers have been put on notice. Women aren’t taking it anymore. Now it’s time to navigate a better future.

pamper your pooch... behind the scenes with Oprah, Reese, and Mindy on the set of A Wrinkle in Time...and more.

Writer Jane Ratcliffe thought she was doomed to repeat her difficult family history. Her dad had other ideas.

47 FAB FIND The traditional trench gets a very-now update.

36 EASY DOES IT

vintage florals to modern metallics, these are the season’s freshest looks.

FEATURES

118 MAKEUP AND A MANTRA To boost your look and your mood, we matched spring’s prettiest trends with motivating mottoes from a few spirited women.

126 IN CRUST WE TRUST! Thin and crispy, soft and chewy, hearty and healthy: These creative takes on the traditional pizza base will have you thinking outside the delivery box.

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32 THE WORLD ACCORDING TO GAYLE Editor at large Gayle King gets with the mean girls and sets her sights on some cool new specs.

In the third installment of our mindset-makeover series, O life coach Martha Beck helps Dixie Laite take tiny steps toward a big dream.

49 O’S SPRING FASHION LOOK BOOK From

57 STYLE WITH SUBSTANCE Our third capsule collection with Talbots—modeled by ladies we love— helps women move fashionably forward.

COVER 1: Photograph by Ruven Afanador. FASHION EDITORS: Jenny Capitain (Oprah), Petra Flannery (Witherspoon), Cristina Ehrlich (Kaling). HAIR: Nicole Mangrum (Oprah), Adir Abergel for VirtueLabs.com (Witherspoon), Laura LaRocca (Kaling). MAKEUP: Derrick Rutledge (Oprah), Molly R. Stern (Witherspoon), Cindy Williams for Leslie Alyson Inc. (Kaling). SET DESIGN: Ron Zakhar. On Oprah: Top, Skinny Tees. Skirt, Brunello Cucinelli. Earrings, Mahnaz Collection. Ring (left), Roberto Demeglio. Ring (right), Vhernier. Pumps, Manolo Blahnik. On Witherspoon: Dress, David Koma. Earrings and diamond ring, Neil Lane. Pearl ring, Anita Ko. On Kaling: Dress, Pietro Brunelli Milano. Earrings, Effy. COVER 2: Photographs by Ruven Afanador (ice cave landscape) and Bruno Dayan/Disney (actors). HAIR: Kim Kimble, Jasmine Kimble, Kendra Garvey, Colleen La Baff.

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OPRAH AND JONES: VICTORIA WILL. COLLAGE: ASTRID TORRES. PURSE AND MAKEUP: RICHARD MAJCHRZAK. HANDS: OWEN GILDERSLEEVE. PIZZA: RYAN LIEBE. CUPS: GREGOR HALENDA. JACK-IN-THE-BOX: BRETT RYDER.

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126 O, Beautiful!

Feeling Good

Reading Room

Let’s Eat!

65 HEADS UP

75 IS IT REALLY YOUR HORMONES? The other

91 Amy Bloom imagines

133 SINGULAR SENSATION This month’s

Crunch-free mousse formulas—without the ’80s flashbacks.

factors that can mess with your body and mind.

66 DOES YOUR SKIN NEED A THERAPIST?

78 IN ONE EAR, OUT THE OTHER How your

Psychodermatologists explain the many ways feelings can show up on your face—and how to maintain your glow.

smartphone may make you feel dumber.

72 THE BREAKING POINT Fifteen months into growing out her natural hair, Jihan Thompson considers calling it quits.

80 LIVING WITH LUNG CANCER New science means the disease isn’t always a death sentence.

83 REFRESH! A doable depression fighter...a tip to feed your soul...and more.

the real-life affair between Eleanor Roosevelt and a female journalist...Kristin Hannah treks to the Alaskan wilderness in her new thriller...ten titles to pick up now, including a memoir by a tenacious ex-Mormon...and more.

ingredient: pasta, in all its spectacular shapes and sizes.

136 FAST OR FANCY Two takes on a winner chicken dinner.

98 THE LONG ROAD HOME In Oprah’s latest

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CONTRIBUTORS BEHIND THE SCENES THE QUESTION LET’S TALK! OPRAH: HERE WE GO! THE O LIST: BLUE-AND-WHITE EDITION 140 OPRAH: WHAT I KNOW FOR SURE

book club pick, author Tayari Jones tells a love story exploring personal and political injustice.

MAKEUP: Derrick Rutledge, Molly R. Stern, Tracey Levy, Cindy Williams. COVERS 3 AND 4: Photographs by Chris Craymer. FASHION EDITOR: Kym Canter. HAIR: Sascha Breuer using Oribe, Suave Professionals celebrity stylist Marcus Francis (Britton). MAKEUP: Jeannie Robinette for Lancôme, Christy Coleman for Beautycounter (Britton). MANICURES: Gloria Williams for Footnanny.com. SET DESIGN: Fi Campbell and Tamasin Reid for Still Sets. On Britton: Top and scarf (worn as belt), O, The Oprah Magazine Collection for Talbots. Skirt, Talbots.

On Brown: Sweater, O, The Oprah Magazine Collection for Talbots. Pants, Talbots. On Bush: Cardigan, O, The Oprah Magazine Collection for Talbots. For details see Shop Guide. LEFT BACK COVER FLAP: Frank Terry. RIGHT BACK COVER FLAP: From top: Derrick Rutledge.

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Just Breathe

O’s Reading Room

Start the day with meaningful meditations and daily intentions, and experience the health benefits of movement.

We’re reading An American Marriage: A Novel by award-winning author Tayari Jones. Connect with others as we discuss this hand-picked selection

by O’s Books Editor, Leigh Haber.

Love That!

Let’s Eat!

Curated by O, The Oprah Magazine Creative Director Adam Glassman.

Learn everything from how to pack efficiently and look chic, to the essential pieces every woman needs for travel.

Indulge your passion for food without guilt and learn a lifetime of healthy habits inpired by O, The Oprah Magazine’s focus on wellness.

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What America could use right now is...

FOUNDER AND EDITORIAL DIRECTOR

Oprah Winfrey EDITOR IN CHIEF A collective hug.

I’m exhausted!

Lucy Kaylin EDITOR AT LARGE

Gayle King DEPUTY EDITOR

CREATIVE DIRECTOR

DESIGN DIRECTOR

EXECUTIVE EDITOR

MANAGING EDITOR

Deborah Way

Adam Glassman

Jill Armus

Amy Maclin

Abigail Greene

BOOKS EDITOR

BEAUTY DIRECTOR

WRITER AT LARGE

EXECUTIVE PHOTO EDITOR

Leigh Haber

Brian Underwood

Lisa Kogan

Christina Weber

A puppy café in every town. We’d get along better if everyone could snuggle a fluffy friend.

ART DEPUTY ART DIRECTOR Gillian MacLeod SENIOR DESIGNER Tova Diamond DIGITAL IMAGE SPECIALIST

ARTICLES ARTICLES EDITOR Katie Arnold-Ratliff SENIOR EDITOR Molly Simms HEALTH EDITOR Corrie Pikul CONTRIBUTING STYLE FEATURES EDITOR Holly Carter SENIOR ASSOCIATE EDITOR Cathryne Keller ASSOCIATE EDITOR Zoe Donaldson

A pep talk.

America, you are kind. You are smart.

You are important.

Carlos Paredes PHOTO SENIOR PHOTO EDITOR Scott M. Lacey PHOTO RESEARCH EDITOR Deirdre Read PHOTO EDITOR Allison Chin PHOTO ASSISTANTS Sara Neumann, Hannah Kaplan

FASHION FASHION MARKET⁄ACCESSORIES DIRECTOR

Robin Beck Nazzaro ACCESSORIES EDITOR Paula Lee

PRODUCTION ASSISTANT MANAGING EDITOR

BOOKINGS EDITOR Alicia Bridgewater Lanigan CONTRIBUTING FASHION ASSISTANT Mikahila Bloomfield

Megan F. Belair

STYLE

COPY COPY CHIEF Adrienne Girard SENIOR COPY EDITOR Lisa DeLisle COPY EDITOR AND RESEARCHER Christina Doka

CONTRIBUTING STYLE EDITOR Rae Ann Herman BEAUTY ASSISTANT BEAUTY EDITOR Melissa Goldberg

Civility. We need to stop skipping directly from “I disagree with you” to “You’re a Nazi.”

RESEARCH CHIEF OF RESEARCH Naomi Barr SENIOR RESEARCH EDITOR Bradley Rife

A D M I N I S T R AT I O N EXECUTIVE ASSISTANT TO THE EDITOR IN CHIEF Ashley Thomas ASSISTANT TO THE EDITOR AT LARGE Joseph Zambrano SPECIAL PROJECTS EDITOR Kindra Hanson-Okafor

INTERNS BOOKS Lia Lewine, Simona Zaretsky FASHION Karly Gregorio, Evalena Labayen STYLE Lily Cantor, Michelle Simoes

CONTRIBUTING EDITORS AND WRITERS National paid family leave.

Martha Beck, Nate Berkus, Donna Brazile, Brené Brown, PhD, Michelle Burford, Kym Canter, Jenny Capitain, Susan Casey, Glennon Doyle, Elizabeth Gilbert, Bob Greene, Sanjay Gupta, MD, Andrew Holden, Phillip C. McGraw, PhD, Mehmet Oz, MD, Maria Shriver, Jihan Thompson, Farnoosh Torabi, Iyanla Vanzant, Peter Walsh

More peace, love, and Oprah.

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Passports. We all should have a clearer sense of our place in the world and a broader outlook on the rest of the planet.

OPRAH.COM EDITOR IN CHIEF Mamie Healey EXECUTIVE EDITOR Naomi Kim Pascale SENIOR WEB EDITOR Ruth Baron SOCIAL MEDIA EDITOR Samantha Vincenty FOOD EDITOR Lynn Andriani BOOKS EDITOR Leigh Newman CONTRIBUTING COPY EDITOR Myles Evans CONTRIBUTING WEB PRODUCERS Joann Pan,

Ashley Sepanski, Jenae Sitzes

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More women in power and men who respect them.

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A glass of wine. I hear red is good for the heart.

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A break from social media and a look in the mirror.

Contributors Gloria Steinem The feminist foremother is a writer, lecturer, political activist, and organizer.

Her New York Times– best-selling memoir, My Life on the Road, was chosen as one of O’s ten favorite books of 2015.

Truth Tellers

After years and decades and lifetimes of suffering indignity, even assault, at the hands of some epically piggish men, women have bravely, gravely, and thrillingly begun speaking up. Now what? What comes next? For perspective and guidance on moving forward, we looked to a few very wise voices.

Rebecca Solnit The writer, historian, and activist is the author of 20 books about the environment, landscape, community, art, politics, violence, and memory, including the 2017 essay collection The Mother of All Questions and 2012’s Men Explain Things to Me.

Terry Crews The former NFL player stars in the Golden Globe– winning Fox comedy series Brooklyn Nine-Nine. He was a 2017 Time magazine Person of the Year for his vocal support of women who have spoken out about being sexually harassed or assaulted.

Mary Karr The author’s first book of prose, The Liars’ Club, launched a memoir craze. A professor at Syracuse University, Karr has a poetry collection, Tropic of Squalor (Harper), coming out in May.

Mary Beard The University of Cambridge classics professor’s most recent book is Women & Power: A Manifesto. She is also the author of the National Book Critics Circle finalist Confronting the Classics and the best-seller SPQR: A History of Ancient Rome.

Beard is a popular blogger and television personality in England and a regular contributor to the New York Review of Books.

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STEINEM: BEOWULF SHEEHAN. SOLNIT: JUDE MOONEY PHOTOGRAPHY. ATWOOD: GETTY IMAGES. BEARD: ROBIN CORMACK. KARR: DEBORAH FEINGOLD.

Margaret Atwood Atwood, whose work has been published in 35 countries, is the author of more than 40 books of fiction, poetry, and critical essays, among them The Handmaid’s Tale, Alias Grace, and The Blind Assassin, winner of the 2000 Man Booker Prize. In 2012, she received the Los Angeles Times Innovator’s Award for inspiring a new generation of fans and writers through her narrative art.

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Talbots Takeover For a third year, O has collaborated with one of our favorite retailers to create cute clothes for a cause.

Leaping lenses!

Photographer Chris Craymer goes high for a shot of Britton and Bush.

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JUST IN TIME FOR SPRING, the O, The Oprah Magazine Collection for Talbots is heeeere! And what better way to spotlight the classic yet fun pieces than with five shining stars as models. Connie Britton, Sophia Bush, Tanika Ray, Yvette Nicole Brown, and Busy Philipps were thrilled to get behind the charitable initiative (a portion of the proceeds goes to Dress for Success), and the photo shoot was a lovefest. “Their energy was infectious,” says O creative director Adam Glassman. “They’re super passionate about helping women.” —HOLLY CARTER

Philipps with the beloved ladybug clutch.

TIE ONE ON This little silk scarf brings together all the elements of the collection—gingham, stripes, and ladybugs—in the most versatile way.

For a softer take on a bracelet, wrap it around your wrist.

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From top: Glassman with Ray and Brown; makeup assistant Jessie Yarborough touches up Brown before a take; Glassman and Bush stay coordinated.

To learn more about the O, The Oprah Magazine Collection for Talbots, see “Style with Substance,” page 57.

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The Question

My family.

My husband and I believe it’s important to show our teen boys what doing the right thing looks like.

Who inspires you to be a force for good?

BARBARA L. VERGETIS LUNDIN

West Bend, Wisconsin

Ava DuVernay.

She motivates others and opens doors for fellow women directors.

Karma. It’s a great reminder for my students, too: “Remember, what goes around comes around. Do good.”

LIZZETTE SERRANO

Caguas, Puerto Rico

Barack Obama. He continues to inspire me every day, just as he did when he was president.

MARILYN NAITO

Tallahassee, Florida

SUSIE VILLA

El Paso, Texas

THE WOMAN IN MY MIRROR! ROCHELLE MOORE

BARB FRYMAN

North Olmsted, Ohio POPE FRANCIS. HIS OPENNESS, WISDOM, AND BELIEF IN THE STRENGTH OF ALL WOMEN IN THE WORLD INSPIRE ME TO DO MORE FOR OTHERS.

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Here We Go! diving deep into this cultural moment, teasing out what we need to know about gender, power, and how we treat— and mistreat—each other (page 102).

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Witherspoon. You’ll be enthralled by their thoughts on this nevermore-pressing topic (page 115). Because calling out hideous behavior can take us only so far: Eventually, we have to

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THE L AST several months have been a doozy, right? Nearly every day, new revelations that men we’ve respected and admired—men whose work has moved, entertained, and informed us—are not the men we thought they were. And in the wake of their abuses, a trail of women who are scared, exhausted, hurt, and angry.

And now...what? What’s next? Where do we go from here? Answering that question starts with trying to understand the male psyche, the better to address the conflict and darkness that may lurk within. This month we’re

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GIVING VOICE Chameleonic performance artist and playwright Anna Deavere Smith’s new one-woman show turned HBO special, Notes from the Field (February 24), examines, through a series of stirring monologues, the conditions that push young folks of color out of school and into prison.

Five things we’re applauding this month!

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SISTERS ACT March is Women’s History Month! So polish up your bell hooks pin, finalize your feminism 101 playlist (Lesley Gore’s “You Don’t Own Me”? check!), and take time to salute female icons of the past, present, and future.

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DID SOMEONE SAY GROOM SERVICE? The sheets: freshly laundered. The dinner special: filet mignon. The entertainment: a new chew toy? With Americans spending an estimated $63 billion on their pets annually, it’s no surprise that more and more boarding facilities are transforming from drab kennels into Ritz-Carlton-like digs.

Check out three luxury lodgings for dogs or cats that don’t want to ruff it.

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D Pet Hotel This dogs-only chain (New York City, Los Angeles, Austin, and Scottsdale, Arizona) features spa services, spacious indoor exercise areas, and suites with TVs that show animalfriendly programming. At the NYC site, chefs customize raw, grain-free, and organic meals to accommodate peckish pooches. (From $65 per night; dpethotels.com) The Barkley Pet Hotel and Day Spa The Barkley opened in Cleveland in 2007 before its Los Angeles launch in 2012. Guest pups can enjoy an oatmeal soak as well as ice cream socials, while felines can dine on an in-suite sushi feast. The @OPRAHMAGAZINE

California outpost offers rooms situated along its version of Rodeo Drive—think Fursace and Sniffany’s. (From $27 per night; thebarkleypethotel.com) Olde Towne Pet Resort At this hotel’s three locations in Virginia and Maryland, canines can dog-paddle in a heated saltwater pool and receive turndown service that includes a nightly bedtime story; cats get daily cuddles and playtime. And if you want to see what your spaniel or Sphynx is up to, most rooms are equipped with a 24/7 pet camera. (From $35 per night; oldetownepetresort.com) —CATHY ALTER

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The photographer strolls through museums to capture serendipitous moments when viewers mirror the masterpieces they’re admiring.

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VERY SMALL PRINT The dollhouse built in the early 1920s for Queen Mary is full of tiny charms: a wine cellar, running water—and a newly discovered stamp-size story written by Vita Sackville-West specifically for the miniature home’s collection.

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Brave New Worlds Oprah, Mindy Kaling, Reese Witherspoon—this starry trio beams into movie theaters March 9, when Disney’s A Wrinkle in Time premieres. Here’s the scoop on a space odyssey like no other.

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From top left: Mindy Kaling (Mrs. Who), Oprah (Mrs. Which), and Reese Witherspoon (Mrs. Whatsit) are the galactic guardians who guide A Wrinkle in Time’s heroine, Meg Murry, on her epic travels; director Ava DuVernay on a hillside in New Zealand, where much of the film was shot.

“Beautiful isn’t even the word to describe this country,” DuVernay says.

MAGINE THE MOST iconic science fiction film directors, and names like Stanley Kubrick, Steven Spielberg, and George Lucas probably spring to mind.

Now there’s an exciting new member of the fantasy faction: Ava DuVernay, the visionary force behind March’s big-screen saga A Wrinkle in Time. Adapted from Madeleine L’Engle’s 1962 book of the same name, the movie is about a girl, Meg Murry, who hops through time to rescue her dad from an evil, universe-threatening force.

“The book is a tapestry of spirituality and selfempowerment,” says DuVernay. “But to then take those elements into the realm of fantasy? I couldn’t believe such an opportunity was mine.”

That disbelief was justified. The stubborn and shrewd Meg, played by newcomer Storm Reid, might belong in the company of other female dystopian legends like Ellen Ripley and Katniss Everdeen, but the film worlds those women inhabit are almost always crafted by men—and white men, at that. “I knew that as a black female director, my rendering of fantasy OPRAH.COM

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would be different,” DuVernay says. “I look at Ridley Scott’s The Martian and think, Okay, that’s one way to portray a planet. But I had to push beyond what other films had done.”

For DuVernay, part of the push meant shattering perceptions of what superheroes look like. Enter Oprah, Mindy Kaling, and Reese Witherspoon, who play a squad—Mrs. Which, Mrs. Who, Mrs. Whatsit—of sage cosmic custodians who protect Meg during her journey.

“In the book, the Mrs. are described as three little old ladies,” says DuVernay. In the movie, they embody different races, sizes, and cultures (all while decked out in extravagant ensembles).

And while L’Engle’s decision to make her protagonist a bespectacled tween girl was bold, DuVernay took things a step further. “The first order of business was making Meg biracial,” she says. “Viewers who live in households with folks of different hues should be able to enter the film, too. When you’re dealing with fantasy, storytellers have no excuse not to embrace new visions.” Quantum, meet leap.

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Above: “I loved playing the wisest character,” says Oprah (here with DuVernay), who drew upon her news-anchoring days to give Mrs. Which her deep, commanding voice.

“Wise people never have to raise their voices. There was a scene where Chris Pine, who plays Dr. Murry, wanted me to become agitated, and I told Ava, ‘Mrs. Which doesn’t get agitated.’ When you’ve been around for millennia, there’s no need!”

Right: Reese, as Mrs. Whatsit, in a scene with Deric McCabe, who plays Meg’s little brother, Charles Wallace. “Madeleine L’Engle’s book is about what’s possible,” says Reese.

“It seems appropriate to be talking about it right now because it asks, How do we become warriors for good in the world?”

Above: The crew setting up near Lake Hawea in Central Otago, New Zealand. “During the first scouting trip, we flew all over in a helicopter and I’d look down, point at interesting things, and then we’d land,” says DuVernay. “And after walking around I’d either go, ‘Eh, it doesn’t look as good from the ground,’ or ‘This place is incredible! Put it on the list!’”

Left: Storm Reid, 14, as the movie’s world-saving middleschooler, Meg Murry, with Levi Miller, who plays Meg’s fellow time traveler, Calvin.

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Above: Mindy, Oprah, and Reese share a serene moment. Not that it was always quiet on the set: The threesome’s shared trailer positively thrummed with conversation. “Mindy and Reese are two of the chattiest people I’ve ever known,” says Oprah, dryly. Reese confirms: “If you came

“I’ve never seen a girl of color like Storm at the center of a giant film like this. It shows so many other little girls they can be in their own adventure, too.”

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into the trailer at 5:30 in the morning hoping for a little bit of silence— absolutely not happening.” “I learned to enjoy the talk!” says Oprah. “I got into its rhythm.”

Below: Oprah with costume designer Paco Delgado (left) standing by.

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BEST “PINCH ME” MOMENT Booking the role

Left: Oprah’s ensemble for the planet Camazotz. “I saw Mrs. Which as a kind of energy,” says Delgado. “She’s a star in the sky.

I wanted her costumes to play with ideas of metal and light.”

Right: The cast and crew spent two weeks filming on the South Island of New Zealand. “I couldn’t keep up with Mindy and Reese there,” says Oprah. “They told me, ‘First, we’re going to a yoga place. And then we’re taking a helicopter.

And then we’re hiking. And then we’re going on a boat ride.’ They squeezed all the juice out of that orange!”

of Meg Murry! After an audition process that took about a month, my agent finally told my mom to expect one more phone call. We didn’t know what was going on— until Ava DuVernay called from an unknown number to say I’d gotten the part. Mind blown.

BEST ADVICE Don’t waste energy on things you can’t change. Oprah told me that one day when we were having a conversation about my weird fear of being tall—I’m already 5'4"! Instead of putting negative energy out into the universe about something that’s set in stone, like my height, she said I should turn that energy into something positive and use it to make my dreams come true. So if I end up being seven feet, then I’ll be seven feet.

BEST ON-SET SNACK I’m a cookie girl. They were in my trailer, at the catering table— everywhere! My favorite are mint Oreos, which nobody in my family likes—so I get to keep them all for myself.

BEST REASON TO JOURNEY THROUGH TIME To meet my ancestors. My mom just got a DNA kit, and now my sister and I want one, too, so we can learn more about where we come from. It’s kind of like time traveling. —AS TOLD TO JOSEPH ZAMBRANO MARCH 2018

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Above: Oprah greets the crew while shooting a scene on the planet Orion—home to a seer known as the Happy Medium (played by Zach Galifianakis), who lives in a cave. The cast had to walk on massive scaffolding (like the crosslike structure behind Oprah), hence the wire rig attached to her costume for balance.

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It doesn’t take a mean girl to turn Mean Girls into a Broadway musical. Tina Fey wrote the 2004 film’s memorable screenplay, and now she’s brought her comedic writing chops to the highly anticipated stage adaptation (previews begin March 12).

Tina recently told me fans can expect to see the film’s DNA infused with dancing and plenty of high notes. Even Regina George would agree that sounds pretty fetch.

Meet Dominika Egorova, a Russian ballerina turned “sparrow,” a.k.a. government spy. When an accident derails her career, Egorova (Jennifer Lawrence) transforms her mind and body into a weapon—and the line between loyal comrade and dangerous renegade starts to blur. While watching Red Sparrow, I kept wondering whose side she was really on. I bet that on March 2, film audiences everywhere will be doing the same.

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More than a year after its season 1 finale, FX’s acclaimed comedy Atlanta, about a down-on-his-luck musician trying to find his way, finally returns March 1. My first reaction: Yay! My second: Why the wait? According to Donald Glover (the show’s Emmy-winning writer and star), it’s because he was busy fulfilling a dream: acting in an upcoming Star Wars film. I can’t be annoyed with him for that—but please, no delays before season 3!

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I still cringe when I think about my first pair of glasses: turquoise cat-eye frames my mom bought without consulting me first.

If only Pair Eyewear had been around when I was in the fourth grade. The children’s eyewear company wants glasses to give kids confidence and has come up with a fun twist. The frames have a magnetized front, so you can attach different colors and patterns. Hey, if they’re cool enough for Anna (left), my modeling partner and O managing editor Abby Greene’s 10-yearold daughter, they’re cool enough for me!

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FATHER KNEW BEST Battling a puzzling, precipitous illness, Jane Ratcliffe reached out and grabbed a lifeline.

physical agony. Now it felt like my head was locked in an evertightening vice.

My 80-year-old father was not unaccustomed to my calling and asking him to bail me out. In high school, I’d sneaked out many times to clubs and parties from which he often had to collect me. At 20, when I dropped out of college and moved to New York City without a job or a contact, he was my financial and emotional support system. So though it had been a while, he knew to take a midnight phone call from me in stride. But on this night, something in my voice concerned him enough that he lurched out of bed, leaving my 79-year-old mother, who’d been healthy and self-sufficient for decades, and drove an hour to my house in his pajamas. He ended up staying three months.

“It’s connected to the head injury,” I’d say, as red-hot adrenaline shot up my arms. “Yes. And we’re going to fix it,” he would say in his charcoal London baritone.

I wasn’t sure either of us was right.

I’d never told anyone about my mother’s hospitalization, in part out of respect for her privacy and in part because I feared they would start to see me as I saw myself—teetering on the brink. I’d gone to therapy diligently for years, working to stay sane. Now I worried it had all been for naught.

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reply, “Absolutely not.” By which he meant: I won’t let that happen again.

After he arrived, every week involved a visit to some sort of doctor. I told each one about the head injury. I explained that I’d lived through crushing headaches before, and though I’d never experienced symptoms this severe or wideranging, I knew the old injury was to blame. Doctor after doctor dismissed my self-diagnosis with a hastily scrawled prescription for a psychotropic drug. A few suggested I try not to think so much.

But my father stood by me. Every morning he made me oatmeal; lunch was always a cheddar and avocado sandwich lovingly cut into fours. On Sundays, he’d drive to his house to pick up enough of my mother’s home-cooked dinners to get us through the week. When the adrenaline rushes were particularly bad, he ran with me around the kitchen table and up and down the stairs until the surges dissipated. At night he sat in the rocking chair beside my bed and read to me from Winnie-the-Pooh. More complicated plot lines confused me.

On gray, slushy afternoons, my father would tell literal war stories—

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HORTLY AF TER I was born, my mother was hospitalized and received daily doses of shock treatment. She had what would now be diagnosed as postpartum depression, but in the early ’60s, much of female psychological distress was still called hysteria.

My father is a kind and intelligent man, so the doctors must have presented a convincing case to get him to agree to have my mother’s brain lightning-bolted with electricity. Because agree he did. And from this improper care, a family legend was born: My mother was crazy. I not only bought into this myth, but also harbored a fear that I was destined to become crazy, too. So part of me wasn’t surprised when, in January 2008, the prophecy began to bear fruit.

It was after midnight when I called my father. My heart had been racing for several days. I was tired, yet my nervous system was locked in go, go, go. My skin had turned yellow, the whites of my eyes appeared gray, and my normally pink nail beds were colorless. Though not usually one to shed tears, I couldn’t stop crying. The room was flipping over. My short-term memory had all but disappeared; when I took my daily walk, I was unable to find my way home, even from a block away.

Also the pain was back. Since the late ’90s, when a tabletop in a furniture showroom fell on my head, I’d experienced bouts of debilitating

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daffodils were in bloom. The doctor, a small, straight-backed man of few words, actually believed me. In his office, my father and I finally saw an X-ray of my head and neck. It turned out my original injury hadn’t healed properly, and my head was on crooked, reducing the oxygen supply to my brain.

“Worst case I’ve seen in 28 years,” Dr. Denton said, indicating the precarious angle at which my skull was perched on my spine. (How had I not noticed this in a mirror? How had friends and family missed it? Why hadn’t the previous doctors known that symptoms of anxiety are uncannily similar to those of insufficient oxygen to the brain?) “You must have a strong will,” Dr. Denton told me. “Otherwise I don’t know how you’ve been functioning.” I glanced at my father, who gave me a nod of camaraderie. I wasn’t crazy after all.

As my body slowly healed—with the help of Dr. Denton, chiropractors, and craniosacral therapy (no surgery or braces, yet)—I often wondered why my dad had been so keen to keep me away from the emergency room. Did he worry that if the ER workers—trained to view the world as, well, an emergency—had seen me in that state, there was a good chance I’d have been whisked away like my mother?

On the ride home from Dr. Denton’s office, I gazed out the window at the passing flowers, so bright on that rare day of Michigan sun. “Thank you,” I said, turning to my dad. By which I meant: for believing me. He looked surprised.

“You’re welcome,” he said. By which he meant: I knew better this time.

We’re all marked by stories—bad decisions, missed opportunities, mistakes made in distress. But sometimes, with luck and love, our histories can be transformed into the medicine that makes us whole.

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how, as a child, he’d been evacuated from London and separated from his family. And for the first time, he told me that when he and my mother arrived in America in 1954, the job he’d been promised didn’t exist. So he’d trudged up and down the streets of Detroit in a woolen English suit during a muggy August, making inquiries at autoengineering firms. “I was disconsolate,” he told me. We all suffer, he seemed to be saying. You haven’t been singled out.

He also encouraged me to think positively and have patience. Thanks to his profession, he had a cache of car analogies about bringing the “vehicle” into balance. He repeated them so often that I could soon speak with some authority about carburetors, pistons, and cracked aprons.

Above my kitchen sink, he posted three dots and a dash: Morse code for the letter V, echoing Winston Churchill’s World War II–era V-for-victory sign. His daughter, too, would rise again.

On my worst nights, I rushed to my father in tears, wondering whether I should, at last, go to the emergency room.

He’d gaze thoughtfully at me and say no.

Then he would tell me a story. The evenness of his voice, coupled with his very presence, helped me feel as good as I was able to. But the next day, the cycle would begin again: “It’s the head injury,” I’d say. “Yes.” “Am I going crazy?” “No.” I didn’t want to let him down.

At times I would imagine my mother in a hospital robe, being led by a sternfaced nurse down a narrow green hall to a room where she would be instructed to lie on a bed, her heart racing. There, they’d strap down her wrists and ankles, preparing her head for the electrodes.

Then the image would change; it was me being led down that hall.

One day my father took me to see yet another physician. We drove an hour to Dr. Denton’s office in my dad’s Crown Victoria. Along the side of the road,

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WHEN FREEL ANCE WRITER and brand consultant Dixie Laite needed to climb out of the doldrums and find her destiny, she asked O life coach Martha Beck to be her guide. Martha began by advising her new client to get in touch with her gut—literally—by breathing deeply and focusing on physical sensations. “If you pay attention to your body, you will feel physically pulled toward what’s right for you,” she said. “What would make you feel joyful and relaxed?” Dixie confessed her passion for glossy magazines and street-fashion blogs that feature “women of a certain age who dress the way I do.” Aha! Following small pleasures is the way to find your grand purpose, said our coach, who proceeded to give the 55-year-old New Yorker a homework assignment: Do only what delights you. Has Dixie been following her bliss? Let’s find out.

Martha Beck: So tell me what’s been going on in your life since we talked!

Dixie Laite: Okay, I’ve taken some concrete steps. I got someone to help

me develop a website and blog. I want to call it Dametown and write about old-fashioned dame heroes— from the movies or real life—and also my own experiences.

MB: That’s huge!

DL: But here’s where my discipline problem comes in. I’ll say “I’m gonna learn French!” Then instead of signing up for a class, all I do is buy a bunch of T-shirts with French words on them.

MB: You’re stuck in a common pattern, and the cure is so hard for people to grasp. I call it “having the courage to do the small.” This means taking tiny, incremental turtle steps.

DL: Let’s talk about that. I already put the cover of O on my bathroom mirror to remind me to work on the blog for just, like, an hour a day.

MB: Oh, honey. An hour?

DL: That may be too long.

MB: How much have you been doing?

DL: Zero.

MB: Here’s the reason: Your steps are too big. You’re an animal, and your motivational system works the way an animal’s system works. But you’re

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trying to apply an analytical approach. You put out a lofty goal and think you’ll just keep striving, and the only motivation you need is this vague idea that one day you’ll be fantastic. But to train an animal, you give high levels of reinforcement for very small moves. To train a killer whale to jump out of the water, you start by rewarding it just for coming to the surface. If it won’t come all the way to the surface, you reward it for advancing four or five feet.

DL: When I tell myself I have to write for only 20 minutes, I usually get going and find it impossible to stop.

But I have this platonic ideal of what the blog should be, and now that it’s time to really work on it, I worry it’s just gonna be...lame.

MB: I’m speaking to you from experience: Every time you sit down and actually write a paragraph, it’s a piece of crap compared to your fantasy. That’s why it takes courage to do small things. Human beings would rather commit to 12 huge things and then never follow through.

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DL: I always seem to pick the path of

least resistance.

MB: I don’t think it’s about choosing the path of least resistance. What you’re reacting to is not effort. It’s fear. It’s fear of the self-loathing you’ll feel when you look at something small that you’ve done and tell yourself how pathetic it is.

DL: There’s no real reason to assume I’ll fail. I’ve never really failed at anything I’ve tried.

MB: Not in the outside world. But inside your mind, you’re continuously generating stories about yourself, and these narratives are stronger than anything we might call objective reality. People look for evidence to support what they already believe, and they can construct it out of gossamer. Once, I led a seminar where people were working with horses, and I said to one woman, “Were you an athlete in college?

You’re so graceful.” She sulked all day and finally burst out with “I was doing fine until you started screaming that I should be more athletic! I knew you would say something cruel!”

DL: I’m afraid I’m inadequate, and it’s scary to put myself in a situation where I might be proved right.

MB: We create our mental afflictions by creating these narratives— comparing ourselves with others or comparing our performance with what we think it should be. The Buddhists believe a comparing mind is one of the greatest sources of suffering. An animal doesn’t do this.

When a beaver builds a dam, he doesn’t think about whether it’s as great as the other dams. He just keeps building.

DL: You must have hit a nerve because I feel like I’m about to cry.

MB: Sweetie, the essential self often weeps when it finds itself understood.

I could sit here all day and tell you

how amazing I think you are—and I do, by the way—but it won’t defeat your own thought patterns. What will help is starting to think of yourself as part brain, but mostly animal. When you attack yourself for not being good enough, you’re giving electric shocks to an animal. We’ve talked about showing yourself the same compassion you’d offer your pets.

When you think about them suffering, what happens to your body?

DL: Well, I didn’t do that part of the homework—sitting quietly and feeling my physical sensations. I’d rather do 50 push-ups.

MB: Listening to your body is still the most powerful thing you can do to change your life—but if you’re not doing it, that means it’s too big a step.

Before our next session, I have two objectives for you. First, I want you to start noticing how you feel physically when you do something rewarding, even if it’s just petting your dog. The second thing is to find a tiny turtle step that you can take every day. You said writing for 20 minutes builds your momentum. Try ten minutes.

What you write can be stupid and horrible—in fact, put at the top of the page “This is stupid and horrible”—but do it. When is your energy highest?

DL: Mornings.

MB: So sit down first thing in the morning. By day 4, you’ll be tempted to skip it, but keep going, because in my experience, that’s the point when the brain starts thinking, Oh, that’s what I do at this time every day. Set a timer for ten minutes, and when it goes off, stop and give yourself a little reward. I like a cup of rooibos tea.

DL: Maybe I shouldn’t have my coffee until after the ten minutes are up.

MB: Don’t rob the animal of anything.

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“I think of my bookshelves as a vision board,” Dixie says. “I fill them with little things that inspire me.”

Actress Claudette Colbert, a favorite “dame,” sent this photo in response to fan mail from 11-year-old Dixie (a.k.a. Sarah).

find yourself whining and pleading to do more.

DL: What if I want to keep going past the ten-minute mark?

MB: Don’t. You have to stop after ten minutes, because the animal won’t trust you if you lie to it. If it works bravely and proudly for ten minutes, as you asked it to, and then you don’t give it a rest and reward, it will feel betrayed and stop working for you. If you get excited and want to keep writing, you can come back to it later in the day. But right now, you want to motivate your animal self by routine and reward until you become enchanted by the activity.

DL: Okay, I’ll try. You’re very kind. If you’re ever in New York, Martha, let me shower you with jewels!

MB: [Laughs] I live in the woods in my pajamas. In all seriousness, if you do the ten-minute thing, that would be the greatest reward you could offer me.

MARTHA BECK is the author of, most recently,

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NEXT MONTH In their final meeting, Martha and Dixie talk about truth, beauty, and living happily ever after.

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A few blue-and-white things we think are just great!

Why gulp your morning coffee from a paper cup when you can sip from bone china made to look like a paper cup? This is high-glam irony from one of the most iconic stores on earth.

(Tiffany & Co. Everyday Objects bone china paper cups, $95 per pair; tiffany.com)

Tune in to ABC’s The View to see O creative director Adam Glassman reveal special savings from The O List on “View Your Deal.”

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I’m with the Band The Great Gatsby meets Judy Jetson when you update your Apple watch with this vintage-inspired woven nylon strap. (Apple watch series 3 GPS + cellular, $399, and woven nylon band, $49; apple.com)

Feminine Protection Whether you’re looking for a pretty way to block the sun or just paying homage to Bruno Mars, this straw fedora wins the blue ribbon for providing equal parts shade and uptown funk. (Freddie fedora, originally $78, now 20 percent off with code OPRAH; draperjames.com)

The China Syndrome Q: What could be better for a garden party than classic blue-and-white plates?

A: Knowing they’re nearly unbreakable BPA-free melamine. (Brighton blue garden plates, originally $24 for set of four, now 20 percent off with code OPRAH; glitterville.com)

Main Squeeze This motorized, old-school juicer delivers your drink through a pulp strainer, down a dripless spout, and straight into the glass.

Add Champagne, and mimosas, here we come!

(SMEG 50’s Retro Style citrus juicer, $160; bedbathandbeyond.com)

Wait Until Dark Here’s the best lantern since the ones that let Paul Revere know the British were coming.

It’s got built-in batteries and a charging port, LED lights for dimming, and enough power to illuminate your life.

(Koncept Mr. Go! portable table lamp, originally $250, now 20 percent off with code OPRAH; lumens.com)

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Cooking Good This 12-piece collection has a nonstick textured interior, riveted steel handles, a terrific price, and a lifetime warranty. Personal chef not included. (Ayesha Curry Home Collection porcelain enamel cookware set, $140; jcpenney.com)

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Pitcher Perfect These white earthenware pitchers are glazed to a high shine with a sky-blue interior. Sculptural, contemporary, and easy to love. (Roost Beyaz pitchers, from $63 each; artisancraftedhome.com)

Let Them Eat Cake Here’s a no-fail party plan. Step 1: Go to a bakery and purchase a cake. Step 2: Serve it on this charmingly old-fashioned plate. Step 3: Gracefully accept accolades.

(At Home with Marieke cake plate, originally $64, now 20 percent off with code OPRAH; thefrenchfarm.com)

Treat Yourself Who says there’s no blue food? A vivid twist on the beloved black and white cookie, Mr. Greenberg’s are pillowy soft, iced in shades of blue and white, and a delightful treat for the cookie monster in your life.

(William Greenberg Desserts black and white cookies, $45 per dozen; wmgreenbergdesserts.com)

Dress for Recess You don’t know what to wear, but you know you don’t want anything fussy, faddish, or tight. Tory Burch’s wardrobe staple is slimming, terry-towel soft, and perfect with jeans or a pencil skirt. It’s a fashion no-brainer. (Tory tunic, $278; toryburch.com)

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Thanks for Holding Perfect for storing toys, towels, logs, magazines, or laundry, this set of three baskets handwoven from water hyacinth is far superior to jamming all your stuff into a closet whenever the doorbell rings. (Two’s Company blue-and-white handwoven baskets, $310 for set of three; onekingslane.com)

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COAT OF HONOR Fact: Trenches are timeless, and this day-to-night headturner is that and then some. The sleek knee-length design with a one-button closure puts a modern spin on the classic.

Made of softer-thansoft vegan suede, it comes in a single universally flattering oatmeal shade that took months of tweaking to perfect.

And trust us, it was well worth the wait.

R Label by TheReset.com, $295; shop.thereset.com

SOFT GOODS STYLING: BRENDA BARR/MARK EDWARD INC.

PHOTOGRAPH BY Richard Majchrzak

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PETER ROSA/STUDIO D. STYLING: PAULA LEE. HAIR: VASSILIS KOKKINIDIS USING SHU UEMURA THE ART OF HAIR. MAKEUP: CHRISTINA REYNA FOR MAKE UP FOR EVER. MANICURE: ROSEANN SINGLETON USING CHANEL LES VERNIS. GLASSMAN: GREG KESSLER.

SPRING FASHION

LOOK BOOK It’s time to say buh-bye to winter chills and welcome fabulous spring fashion!

Creative director Adam Glassman has handpicked the season’s standouts to get you off to a fresh start.

Left: COAT, Elizabeth and James TOP, Nikki Chasin JEANS, J Brand BRACELET, Tory Burch SLIDES, Lacoste Center: SWEATER, Design History SKIRT, Vince Camuto EARRINGS, Sachin & Babi SANDALS, Frances Valentine Right: TOP, 1.State CHINOS, Talbots EARRINGS, Elizabeth Cole PUMPS, SJP

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FROM RUNWAY TO O-WAY Retro Revamp

Plain and Fancy

Add a little quirkiness to your look with ’60s-style silhouettes, slick textures, and punchy prints that can be mixed and matched. Keep the whimsy from veering into wacky by sticking to a neutral and feminine palette.

Pair what’s everyday with what’s extra—cargo pants with a sequined top, a sweatshirt accented by eyelet trim, a lacy dress and sneakers.

This best-of-both-worlds juxtaposition feels unexpected and new.

MIU MIU SPRING 2018

SUNGLASSES, Jimmy Choo, $495; select Solstice Sunglass stores RAINCOAT, $129; landsend.com TOP, $40; kohls.com

DRESS, Shoshanna, $422; renttherunway.com

SWEATSHIRT, $68; bananarepublic.com

VALENTINO SPRING 2018

EARRINGS, $250; kendrascott.com

SKIRT, $90; eloquii.com

DRESS, Kobi Halperin, $598; 646-438-7776

TOP, 1.State, $89; nordstrom.com

BAG, $209; clarev.com

ANORAK, $298; colehaan.com

SKIRT, $109; talbots.com

CARGO PANTS, $328; johnnywas.com BLAZER, Smythe, $695; shopsmythe.com

SNEAKER, Ash, $185; www.ashusa.com

BROOCH, Simply Vera Vera Wang, $26; kohls.com

WATCH IT Take a break from your phone and tell time the old-fashioned way using these go-witheverything silver wristwatches.

$395; movado.com

Citizen, $195; citizenwatch.com MARCH 2018

Chanel, $4,300; Chanel fine-jewelry boutiques

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$1,850; davidyurman.com

$895; bulova.com

RICHARD MAJCHRZAK/STUDIO D. SOFT GOODS STYLING: ANITA SALERNO/R.J. BENNETT REPRESENTS. RUNWAYS, FROM LEFT: CATWALKING/GETTY IMAGES. PETER WHITE/GETTY IMAGES.

SANDAL, $60; callitspring.com

PEPPY PRINTS

trend alert

We foresee a pattern: statement-makers rising to the top of your most-wanted list.

Check Marks

BAG, $298; henribendel.com

Rainbow Brights

DRESS, $650; milly.com

SHIRT, Alice + Olivia by Stacey Bendet, $375; aliceandolivia.com

OFF-THESHOULDER TOP, $148; katespade.com

SKIRT, $90; zara.com SKIRT, Lafayette 148 New York, $398; lafayette148ny.com BAG, $295; loefflerrandall.com

SLIPDRESS, $395; nikkichasin.com

MULE, TMRW Studio, $250; tmrw-studio.com

Vintage Floral

Polka Dots TOP, Self-Portrait, $410; modaoperandi.com

DRESS, LHD, $595; lhd.us TOP, Tucker, $225; tuckernyc.com

EARRINGS, Elizabeth Cole, $168; shopbop.com

DRESS, $53; asos.com

NEW LAUNCH! CROPPED PANTS, Michael Michael Kors, $140; michaelkors.com

SNEAKER, $278; torysport.com

SKIRT, $69.50; talbots.com

BAG, $95; us.marimekko.com

SNEAKER, Aldo, $65; aldoshoes.com

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BAG, Diane von Furstenberg, $528; dvf.com

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From classic to clever, some of Adam’s favorite things for the season.

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SCARF IT UP! The silky accessory is reimagined as clothes, shoes, and more.

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FLORAL SHIRTDRESS You can never go wrong with this figure-flattering silhouette. Bonus: The handkerchief hem adds a modern twist. Lauren Ralph Lauren, $175; ralphlauren.com

TUXEDO-STRIPE DENIM There are so many reasons to love these two-tone jeans. They have ample stretch, they’re cropped to the ankle, and the dark panels make you look slimmer. $129; nydj.com

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BRACELET, $225; wbritt.com

SHIRT, Sandro, $250; us.sandro-paris.com

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STACKING RINGS More is more when you mix metals and designs to personalize your look.

From top: 14kt-gold ring, $275; pandora.net. 18kt-gold and diamond eternity band, $2,200; heartsonfire.com. 18kt-white-gold and diamond initial ring, Roberto Coin, $680; Neiman Marcus stores

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ALL-STAR SHOES Here’s a trend twofer: menswearinspired loafers embellished with flashy stars. G.H. Bass & Co., $110 per pair; ghbass.com

Made from vintage scarves.

ESPADRILLE, $495; respoke.com

CELEBRATION TEES Own your age with these cotton T-shirts that say it loud and proud. $29 each; chicos.com/ howboldareyou

They’re customizable.

SKIRT, Nic + Zoe, $195; nicandzoe.com

NOVELTY BAG Spread sunshine and smiles with the happy message on this drawstring bag. $145; Elizabeth and James, Los Angeles MARCH 2018

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HANDBAG RAINCOAT Don’t let a downpour damage your purse. This charming cover protects your asset and has a handy exterior pocket. $18; handbagraincoat.com

ST YLE. IT DOESN’T HAVE TO HURT.

Available at Dillard’s and Von Maur.

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ST YLE. IT DOESN’T HAVE TO HURT.

Available at Dillard’s and Von Maur.

learn more at vionicshoes.com

GO LIKE THE WIND Think of the windbreaker as the denim jacket’s cooler lightweight cousin. Wear it with jeans, a full skirt, or a dress— the possibilities just might surprise you.

$179; anntaylor.com

JACKET, G.I.L.I., $68; qvc.com TEE, American Eagle Outfitters, $25; ae.com SKIRT, $695; Derek Lam 10 Crosby, New York NECKLACES, DKNY SNEAKERS, Golden Goose Deluxe Brand

Crazy for It! Our cover girl Reese Witherspoon moonlights as purveyor of her own lifestyle brand, Draper James, which offers pretty pieces like this heart-print dress.

Adidas Outdoor, $69; adidas.com

Livi Active, $90; lanebryant.com

Closed, $409; apresboutique.com

$135; draperjames.com

PASTEL COMBOS

Yes, you can wear a soft shade without resembling an Easter egg. Pair it with a deeper tone in the same color family, then add neutral accessories.

PINK + RED

CARDIGAN, $286; autumncashmere.com

LILAC + NAVY verabradley.com JACKET, Lauren Ralph Lauren, $245; ralphlauren.com TOP, $198; autumncashmere.com PANTS, Lauren Ralph Lauren, $145; ralphlauren.com EARRINGS, Vita Fede FLATFORMS, Michael Michael Kors

SKIRT, $69.50; loft.com BAG, $328; anneklein.com

BLAZER, White House Black Market, $150; whbm.com

OXFORD, Vionic, $140; vionicshoes.com SANDAL, $99; francosarto.com OPRAH.COM

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PANTS, A New Day, $20; target.com

Available in 14 shades and textures.

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ARM CANDY

$299; clarev.com

CLEAR

GUCCI SPRING 2018

Business

DRESS, Self-Portrait, $545; matches fashion.com EARRINGS, Elizabeth Cole SANDALS, Ash

VEST, Michael Michael Kors, $195; michaelkors.com SKIRT, Lacoste L!ve, $95; lacoste.com EARRINGS, R.J. Graziano KITTEN HEELS, Sigerson Morrison

$198; katespade.com

$29; asos.com

Staud, $208; staud.clothing Zac Zac Posen, $395; zacposen.com

$795; mansurgavriel.com

$145; rebeccaminkoff.com

$285; brahmin.com

Nine West, $59; macys.com

LOUIS VUITTON SPRING 2018

Flynn, $325; shopbop.com $95; deuxlux.com $195; parisawang.com TOD’S SPRING 2018 MARCH 2018

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VALENTINO SPRING 2018

HATBOX

It’s an opportune moment to diversify your purse portfolio.

The latest crop of carryalls brings fun shapes and materials to help you spice things up.

WRISTLET

A MIXED BAG

ARM TIGHTS, $30 to $38 each; spanx.com

Party

BELT BAG

A versatile foundation piece is a wardrobe game changer.

Spanx Arm Tights not only provide coverage with a touch of compression, but they’re also great for seamlessly layering under warmweather pieces.

Casual ONE-SHOULDER TOP, $198; autumn cashmere.com PANTS, $175; lacoste.com EARRINGS, Jardin Jewelry SLIDES, Alchimia di Ballin

HAT, $46; hatattack.com

GREAT BUYS UNDER $100

WEST WORLD

MOTO JACKET, $60; oldnavy.com TOP, $59; jjill.com

Americana update: Folkloric fashion is hipper than ever.

BANDANNA, $20; landsend.com

SKIRT, Line and Dot, $85; thelineanddot.com

DRESS, $80; gap.com

SWEATER, $79.50; anntaylor.com JEANS, $89; jjill.com

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ONE-PIECE WONDER

LOEWE SPRING 2018

We all fell for this denim jumpsuit in a dusty pink that sweetens its utilitarian vibe.

BAG, Sondra Roberts, $98; irresistibles.com

RUNWAY: ESTROP/GETTY IMAGES.

JUMPSUIT, $73; asos.com

EARRINGS, Danielle Nicole, $38; amazon.com/ fashion

SANDAL, Nine West, $99; amazon.com/fashion

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“I like the idea that a woman can go to Talbots, buy these cute clothes, and help Dress for Success.

I’d wear this outfit to the park with my kids, then go meet friends for lunch. I must have that clutch with the ladybug on it—but I know I’m going to end up sharing it with my 9-year-old daughter.”

Sweater, $89.50, silk scarf (in ponytail), $29.50, and clutch, $59.50, O, The Oprah Magazine Collection for Talbots.

Jacket, $129, and jeans, $89.50, Talbots.

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Tunic, $89.50, and silk scarf, $29.50, O, The Oprah Magazine Collection for Talbots. Jeans, $109, Talbots.

YVETTE NICOLE BROWN, @YVETTENICOLEBROWN, ACTRESS ON THE MAYOR

“This top just feels right. I am really into the gingham trend.

And I would have never thought of putting the scarf around my wrist. It opened my eyes to what you can do with fashion.”

Sweater, $89.50, O, The Oprah Magazine Collection for Talbots.

Shirt, $69.50, and skirt, $89.50, Talbots.

On Britton: Silk scarf, $29.50, O, The Oprah Magazine Collection for Talbots.

Blazer, $149, and jeans, $99, Talbots.

On Bush: Sweater, $89.50, O, The Oprah Magazine Collection for Talbots. Shirt, $79.50, Talbots.

CONNIE BRITTON, @CONNIEBRITTON, ACTRESS ON FOX’S 9-1-1

Cardigan, $89.50, and silk scarf, $29.50, O, The Oprah Magazine Collection for Talbots. Shirt, $69.50, and pants, $99, Talbots.

SOPHIA BUSH, @SOPHIABUSH, ACTRESS AND ACTIVIST

“I was immediately drawn to this sweater.

Knowing that ladybugs are a symbol of luck and abundance gives it so much meaning.”

“I thought this outfit was fantastic—so simple and chic. The adorable scarf is such a great accessory because it instantly creates a finished look.”

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Cardigan, $89.50, and silk scarf, $29.50, O, The Oprah Magazine Collection for Talbots.

Jeans, $109, Talbots.

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TANIKA RAY, @TANIKARAY, COHOST ON EXTRA

“I have an eclectic style, and this look could easily fit into my everyday. It’s classic with a wink. I’d wear the sweater over a long tank dress with a bunch of long necklaces and embroidered slippers.”

Dress for Success (dressforsuccess.org) has been empowering women to achieve self-sufficiency since 1997. Today the nonprofit has reached global proportions, helping more than a million women in 160 cities and 28 countries enter the workforce with confidence. The charity’s 360-degree approach gives women a boost with professional clothing and accessories, networking, and job support. “We are so grateful to be partnering with Talbots and O, The Oprah Magazine for the third year in a row,” says Dress for Success Worldwide CEO Joi Gordon. “We can’t wait to see the impact this year’s campaign will have on more women and their families.”

COME AND GET IT Find everything from the O, The Oprah Magazine Collection for Talbots at talbots.com/omagazine and in Talbots stores nationwide. From March 1 to 4, you can also drop off nearly new workwear at any Talbots store to be donated to Dress for Success.

FASHION EDITOR: KYM CANTER. HAIR: SASCHA BREUER USING ORIBE AND SUAVE PROFESSIONALS CELEBRITY STYLIST MARCUS FRANCIS (BRITTON). MAKEUP: JEANNIE ROBINETTE FOR LANCÔME AND CHRISTY COLEMAN FOR BEAUTYCOUNTER (BRITTON). MANICURES: GLORIA WILLIAMS FOR FOOTNANNY.COM. SET DESIGN: FI CAMPBELL AND TAMASIN REID FOR STILL SETS.

For details see Shop Guide.

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Hop on the couch! Psychodermatologists—part derm, part shrink— explain how your feelings show up on your skin. BY Melanie Rud Chadwick

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LUSHING WHEN YOU’RE embarrassed, breaking out in goose bumps when you hear something chilling—they’re common examples that prove we just can’t separate how we feel from how our skin looks. Can we use that information to our face’s benefit? Yes! So say the dual-purpose docs we spoke to: dermatologists with additional training in psychiatry or psychology (or vice versa) who treat both the physical and the emotional.

Along with taking care of their patients’ skin, they may practice talk therapy or even prescribe antidepressants or antianxiety medication. The upshot? A unique perspective when it comes to solving all kinds of complexion concerns. Read on for their special brand of skin-saving advice.

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LESSON 1 The mind-skin connection is real.

There’s no shortage of ways that emotions manifest themselves in physical symptoms—think butterflies in your stomach when you’re nervous or a pounding heart when you’re scared—but this effect is particularly strong when it comes to your skin.

The relationship begins in the womb: “The skin and nervous system share a common embryonic origin, meaning the same cells form both the brain and the skin,” explains Josie Howard, MD, a board-certified psychiatrist with expertise in psychodermatology. This creates an inextricable connection, which shows up in a multitude of ways you may not even notice (more on that later).

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explains Wechsler. These nutritive molecules ensure your outer layer is functioning properly and maximizing its ability to repair itself, she adds. Feeling serene or upbeat has similar effects to getting a good night’s sleep (this is why when you’re happy, people say you’re glowing). Your skin can also benefit from another bedroom activity that begins with s: “Sex not only lowers cortisol, it also increases both beta-endorphins and oxytocin, an anti-inflammatory molecule,” Wechsler says, all of which work wonders for your skin.

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LESSON 2 Stress is the root of many skin evils.

Blame cortisol. This hormone is released any time you feel tense, triggering a fight-or-flight response that enables you to react quickly in life-threatening situations. While it’s beneficial if you’re being chased by a bear, it’s not quite so helpful in daily life. Yet these hormonal shifts accompany every kind of stressful experience: a bad day at work, grief over the death of a loved one, prolonged anger over current events.

“Cortisol is meant to be pumped out for only a few seconds or a minute,” explains New York City board-certified dermatologist and psychiatrist Amy Wechsler, MD. “When it’s chronically elevated for days or weeks on end, it has all kinds of negative effects on the skin.”

Excess cortisol breaks down collagen, increases moisture loss, triggers inflammation, dilates blood vessels, slows cell turnover, and increases sebum production, she says. Translation: Say hello to wrinkles, dryness, irritation, redness, dullness, and breakouts.

When a skin ailment strikes, it’s on display for the world to see, which is why skin issues have such an intense emotional impact, explains Howard: “As soon as we sense that people around us are judging our appearance, we feel stressed.

It starts a vicious cycle.”

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Because the skin and the mind are so intertwined, psychodermatologists often recommend a two-pronged treatment approach. When it comes to products, the right formulations can be hugely beneficial: “There are a lot of things working against us, but a good skincare regimen is one thing we can control,” Wechsler points out. The items here (see “Products for Stressed Skin,” right) can help promote overall skin health and antiaging. But if you’re dealing with a chronic condition, such as acne or eczema (both of which are exacerbated by stress), it might be time to incorporate anti-stress practices into your beauty routine.

That means quick daily meditation sessions, regular exercise, a cup of tea—whatever helps you chill out.

“What makes someone feel relaxed is completely individual,” Wechsler advises. “Find what’s best for you.”

And just knowing that you and your doctor have come up with a plan offers its own kind of relief. “The treatment helps the skin, but the sense of control is, in and of itself, very healing, and decreases cortisol levels,” says Howard. Both your mind and your skin will thank you.

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THE TRANSITION: PART 4 THE IN-BETWEEN After removing Jihan’s extensions, stylist Vicki Chambers-Williams combed through her hair to loosen it up and create a textured style that will bring the relaxed ends and natural growth into harmony.

The BREAKING POINT With her natural hair growing in fast, Jihan Thompson is dealing with two wildly different textures—and freaking out. Can she stay the course? just isn’t for me.

My stylist laughs.

She’s heard this all before. And just listening to her say that other women have felt as frustrated as I do is comforting. She tells me it’s not uncommon to give up, go back to straightening, and try again later. Honestly, I’m almost at that place.

It’s not that I want to quit— I don’t. I just didn’t realize how hard it would be to see this through, particularly given what’s happening in my professional life. In 2016, I launched a haircare startup geared toward women of color. And I quickly discovered that when you run a beauty business, everyone—consumers, potential business partners— makes hair contact before eye contact. People expect your hair to look great, which means it’s not an ideal time to experiment.

That’s why I’m afraid of taking out the extensions and managing my hair between appointments.

To be clear, no one is saying I look bad. These neuroses are of my own making. Not truly understanding how to style my hair makes me feel ill-equipped to wear it curly. Will everyone be able to tell I don’t know what I’m doing? Do I even have the face for short hair? Why am I going natural when I haven’t fully embraced the look?

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and I have time to learn to work with what’s on my head, but that would be a cop-out. There’s really never a great time to make a big change. What I need more than a new hairstyle is a new mindset. I’ve been so focused on the end goal (healthier hair! big curls!) that I never bothered to make peace with this messy middle part. If I keep covering up my natural hair, I never will.

When my stylist finally removes the extensions, I’m shocked by how long and thick my hair is. She does a two-strand twist, which involves twirling tiny sections and having me sit under the dryer for an hour to create a curlier effect. When the dryer finally stops, I’m on pins @OPRAHMAGAZINE

and needles. Will I like it? And, more important, will I keep it?

She fluffs the twists to create a curly ’fro, parted on the side.

I finally look like so many of the women in natural hair pics I had pinned and saved. I like it. I don’t quite love it—yet. It’s a lot of hair.

I remind myself that I’m always just one blow-out away from straight hair. And I take heart from other people’s reactions.

Even though I’m on the fence, my friends and, to my surprise, my husband love it. That helps me keep going—so I can give my hair time to grow on me.

JIHAN THOMPSON is a writer, editor, and cofounder of Swivel Beauty, an app that helps women of color find stylists and salons.

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I SHOULD HAVE taken out my extensions three weeks ago.

I’ve never left them in longer than eight weeks because the tension of the sewn-in Before hair can cause breakage. But I don’t care. I’m avoiding my natural hair.

Since I started transitioning to natural hair after decades of relying on chemical relaxers to keep it straight, I’ve had to deal with new growth. But given how slowly hair grows, I was able to mask it. I hadn’t really had to face my newly natural strands because I kept them tucked away, out of sight. Not only was this the easy way out (no big chop to get used to, no new styling to learn), but it’s also been good for my hair. Without the stress of the high-heat blow-outs I would have needed to get a silky-straight style, my natural hair was left to come in damagefree. Brilliant, right? Confused friends would ask, “I thought you were going natural?” I’d say brightly, “I am! I just can’t deal with it yet.” They would nod.

Change is hard.

But my days of hiding are over.

My coarse, kinky hair is now too long to blend nicely with the extensions—the two textures just aren’t working together. I knew this day would come, yet I’m not ready. When I see my stylist, I confess that I’m considering throwing in the towel. Maybe this

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CAN’T CONCENTRATE? Pants feel snug? Burning with rage? “It’s hormones,” you say. And your mom says. Actually, everyone says.

Often, everyone is correct. Think of hormones as the little metal balls that wreak havoc in the board game Mouse Trap. “As they circulate through the body, hormones stimulate cells that have a special receptor for them,” says endocrinologist JoAnn Manson, MD, chief of preventive medicine at the Harvard-affiliated Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston. “With estrogen, for example, there are receptors in virtually every tissue, including the heart, the G.I. system, and the brain.” That’s a lot of havoc waiting to happen. And it’s more pronounced in women than men: Even though both have the sex hormones estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone, their effect is most noticeable when levels fluctuate, as they do throughout the menstrual cycle. During perimenopause, the on-ramp to menopause that can last up to a decade, these fluctuations can be drastic.

But even for women in their turbulent 40s and 50s, hormones aren’t always to blame. And while you’ve been talking smack about them, you may have been letting other stealth causes get the better of you. Consider:

“I hate you!” / “What would I do without you?” mood swings MAYBE IT’S HORMONES Stable estrogen levels are associated with even-keeled moods, says Adelaide Nardone, MD, an ob-gyn in New York City who’s been treating perimenopausal and menopausal women for more than two decades.

So when levels start to fall the week before your period, your mood can nose-dive, too. And during perimenopause, you may feel like

a cartoon villain, veering dramatically from anger to sadness to absentmindedness to exhaustion.

WHAT ELSE IT COULD BE If you’re feeling down or are stuck on an emotional roller coaster all day, every day, for more than two weeks, it may be related to mental health issues rather than hormonal ones.

Indeed, about 20 percent of perimenopausal women experience symptoms of depression. “Ask your doctor about treatment,” says Nieca Goldberg, MD, medical director of NYU Langone’s Joan H. Tisch Center for Women’s Health. Moods tend to brighten after menopause, but in the meantime, antidepressants and talk therapy may help.

The “Not tonight—or any other night” blues MAYBE IT’S HORMONES Women’s libido tends to spike around ovulation, when estrogen levels are highest, then dip once an egg is released. The bigger dipper: Estrogen levels drop during perimenopause and menopause, coinciding with the decline in libidosparking testosterone that happens with age. Perhaps not coincidentally, more than half of menopausal women in one 2008 study reported having low sexual desire.

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TRACK IT! Keep tabs on your symptoms with a calendar or an app like Clue.

If you notice they always occur during certain weeks of your cycle, it’s likely they’re related to hormonal fluctuations, says Nieca Goldberg, MD. (Past the period stage?

The app MenoPro can help you get a handle on symptoms.)

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WHAT ELSE IT COULD BE Where to begin? Stressful life transitions (moving, switching jobs) are notorious libido killers. And resentment, alienation, or relationship insecurity can quash a woman’s drive at any age. Physiologically speaking, it’s tough to even think about sex if you’re exhausted; for the women who participated in a 2015 study, each hour of additional sleep corresponded to a 14 percent increase in the chance that they would have sex the next day.

Then there’s the fire-extinguishing effect of meds like antihistamines, antidepressants, and hypertension drugs (not to mention the pill), which is something to discuss with your doc. Exercise may help you warm up to the idea of sex because of its ability to reduce stress and improve sleep (and body image)—even after just one workout. A small 2012 study found that women taking antidepressants who jogged on a treadmill for 20 minutes before watching a bit of porn became more physically aroused than those who relaxed before showtime.

Hurts-so-bad sex MAYBE IT’S HORMONES Estrogen keeps the vaginal tissues lubricated, so when hormone levels dip during the last week of your menstrual cycle—

or during perimenopause and menopause—sex can be excruciating.

WHAT ELSE IT COULD BE Obsessive exercising and extreme dieting can cause a sharp drop in sexpositive estrogen for two reasons.

First, body fat produces estrogen, so the leaner you get, the less you have. Second, these habits can interfere with the production of estrogen and other hormones. Talk to your ob-gyn. If your pain is simply dryness related, vaginal estrogen and plain-old over-the-counter lubricants can help. If it’s not, yeast infections or STDs can also make sex painful, as can endometriosis and fibroids.

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MAYBE IT’S HORMONES Menopause is an infamous sleep wrecker; up to 60 percent of women experience difficulty sleeping during this time, research has found. Lower

estrogen levels can affect sleep cycles, leading to wakefulness. Plus, night sweats, hot flashes, and related heart palpitations can turn nighttime into the pit of hell. (Hormone therapy is the primary treatment, but some antidepressants can also help control symptoms.)

WHAT ELSE IT COULD BE Sleep troubles could also be due to issues like anxiety, depression, or stress, says Nardone. Another culprit: Afterdinner cocktails help you unwind enough to nod off, but also affect the restorative REM phase of sleep, potentially disrupting slumber.

Whatever your sleep issues, decades of research shows that workouts help people—even insomniacs—sleep better within four to 24 weeks.

“Wait, what?” weight gain MAYBE IT’S HORMONES Well, some of it certainly is. Women tend to put on an average of five pounds during

IT IS HORMONES. NOW WHAT? Talk to your doctor about treatments like birth control pills or hormone therapy (HT), the use of pills, patches, or gel containing female hormones. Large long-term studies have shown that HT can help women with severe menopausal symptoms—but there are health risks, including blood clots and stroke.

It’s safest and most effective when started either before age 60 or within ten years of the onset of menopause.

the menopausal transition, according to the North American Menopause Society. This fat tends to be stored around the waist, Manson says, though researchers aren’t sure why.

WHAT ELSE IT COULD BE An underactive thyroid can lead to a fiveto ten-pound weight gain and cause menopause-like symptoms such as mood swings and irregular periods.

A more common cause for women in their 30s and 40s is loss of lean muscle and a resulting decrease in metabolism. Sedentary people can lose 3 to 5 percent of their muscle mass, which has the ability to burn more calories, every decade starting at age 30. “But this can be countered,” Manson emphasizes, “mostly with strength training and being physically active in general.” Aim for 30 minutes of moderate activity most days, including at least two weekly sessions of strength training, and feel better about your body, hormones and all.

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to-face,” says Cynthia Green, PhD, an assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai in New York City. “If you connect by text or email, it’s not the same test of intellectual or social skills.”

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If your memory is slipping, it may be time to dial back your phone use. BY Laurel Leicht

I’VE RECENTLY NOTICED myself blanking on things I never thought I’d forget—like my own zip code.

Maybe I just have a lot on my mind.

Or maybe the iPhone glued to my hand is part of the problem.

A 2016 study in the journal Memory showed that relying on tech makes our brains lazy: Researchers found that when people were allowed to Google answers to difficult questions, they became more likely to turn to the search engine to help answer simple ones as well. Smartphones also hamper our ability to recall things by overwhelming our mind with distractions, says Susan Lehmann, MD, clinical director of geriatric psychiatry and neuropsychiatry at the Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine. “When you use these devices, you’re often switching quickly between topics or conversations,” she says. “That rapid change in focus can prevent an idea or thought from sufficiently registering in your memory.”

Want to bolster your powers of recall? Try these savvy tips.

Hide your device.

A mere glimpse, even if the screen is dark, slashes your capacity to pay attention and remember, according

to a new study from the University of Texas at Austin. “The process of resisting the temptation to use it can reduce your ability to think clearly,” says study coauthor Adrian Ward, PhD. When you’re not making calls or sending texts, stash your phone in a desk drawer or in another room of your home.

Go off-line.

Turn on Do Not Disturb mode; in Settings, you can then allow calls only from selected contacts. This way you’ll get important or expected notifications but avoid the nonurgent ones (“Look what Alice just tweeted!”) that clamor for your attention. You can also consider swapping your usual device for a credit card–size Light Phone ($150; thelightphone.com). It syncs with your smartphone so you can make and receive calls, but that’s it— no other temptations or distractions.

DRIVEN TO DISTRACTION People look at their phones 47 times per day on average, according to a 2017 global survey by the auditing and consulting firm Deloitte.

Hang out with Facebook friends.

People over 40 who reported socializing with friends and family in the past week were likelier than those who were more isolated to rate their memory as excellent or very good, a 2017 AARP brain health survey found.

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Scribble down quotes, important dates, and other details you want to keep in your mind. Writing notes on paper led to better memory retention than typing on laptops in a 2014 study published in Psychological Science. Typing is often mindless transcribing, but handwriting requires more time and focus, says Ward. The process helps encode information into your memory. You can still use a notes app for minutiae like grocery lists or promo codes for online shopping.

Ban your device from meetings.

When you’re interacting with people or completing a task, your brain relies on what’s called working memory: short-term recall for details that are important in the moment (like sales figures), but might not be in a few weeks. “Working memory enables us to hold on to new information so we can decide whether to convert it to longer-term storage,” says Lehmann. If you’re distracted by your phone while an idea is in working memory, you might not be able to access it later.

Put your phone to bed.

“Memory is consolidated during sleep,” says Lehmann. She advises turning off all devices at least an hour before bed and charging them on the other side of the bedroom, not your nightstand, so you won’t be tempted to sneak peeks when you should be getting zzz’s.

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LUNG CANCER The disease that used to be a death sentence isn’t necessarily so anymore.

Some women are managing it—and even thriving. BY Leslie Goldman

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HEN LINNEA OLSON was told in June 2008 that the cancer she’d been battling for three years had spread from one lung to the other, she began preparing to die.

Given just three to five months to live, the then-48year-old artist and lifelong nonsmoker embarked on a “farewell tour,” saying goodbye to family and friends and arranging grief counseling for her youngest son (then 11).

She wasn’t sure she’d live long enough to make it to her daughter’s wedding later that summer; when she did, she spent the day looking at her three children and thinking about how their lives would be after she was gone.

Then an oncologist tested Olson’s cancerous tissue for a specific genetic mutation whose presence enabled Olson to enroll in a clinical trial for a drug called crizotinib (brand name Xalkori). What happened next seemed nothing short of miraculous. “Within days, my constant coughing and shortness of breath were gone,” Olson says. Seven weeks later, every single one of the 33 tumors in her lungs had almost completely disappeared.

As recently as 20 years ago, a turnaround like this would have been unheard of. And indeed, according to the American Cancer Society, lung cancer still kills more women than breast, ovarian, and uterine cancers combined, with a five-year survival rate of only 21 percent.

Yet despite the disease’s ferocious nature, the medical community’s understanding of it has recently evolved—with the result that some patients are outliving dire prognoses and many more are filled with hope.

Olson, like up to 15 percent of Americans diagnosed with lung cancer, is a “never-smoker”—medical-speak for those who have smoked fewer than 100 cigarettes in their lifetime. Though exposure to air pollution, radon, and secondhand smoke are risk factors, science doesn’t yet know all the reasons why such patients are being diagnosed in increasing numbers, says Andrea McKee, MD, chairman of radiation oncology for Lahey Hospital & Medical Center in Massachusetts and a scientific adviser for the American Lung Association.

Still, oncologists are learning more every day. “We’re discovering how lung cancer behaves, how the cells differ between nonsmokers and smokers, and how we can use various genetic mutations to shape treatment,” McKee says.

One game-changing finding is what led to Olson’s reprieve: About 50 to 60 percent of never-smoking patients have one of many targetable mutations in their lung cancer cells that cause the cells to multiply and divide more quickly and aggressively, explains Olson’s oncologist, Alice Shaw, MD, PhD, director of thoracic oncology at Massachusetts General Hospital. (By comparison, about 20 percent of all lung cancer patients, regardless of smoking history, are thought to have such driver mutations. Women seem to be slightly more prone to them than men.) Over the past five years, Shaw says, it’s become standard practice for patients diagnosed with advanced lung cancer to have their tumors tested for these mutations, called oncogenes, which cause cancer when activated.

Why does that matter? “Now that we have a better understanding of what is driving these cancers’ growth,” says Shaw, “it opens up a whole new array of treatment options.” Among them: targeted therapies, including tyrosine kinase inhibitors (TKIs), the first of which were approved by the Food and Drug Administration for treating some lung cancers in 2003. TKIs have kept Olson thriving for years past her original prognosis.

Easier to tolerate than traditional chemotherapy, which notoriously attacks even healthy cells in a patient’s body in an effort to kill the cancerous ones, TKIs are oral medications that home in on cancer cells specifically, turning off oncogene mutations. Because of this selective assault, fewer healthy cells are affected, and side effects can be milder than with chemotherapy (although TKIs can still cause nausea, diarrhea, memory problems, and fatigue—which Olson has experienced). Patients take a pill once or twice daily and undergo tests every few months to monitor progress. In clinical trials, up to 90 percent of patients with certain mutations experience some degree of tumor shrinkage or stabilization, extending life expectancy. The catch is that in all likelihood, the cancer

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As many as 20 percent of Americans who die from lung cancer have never smoked.

will eventually become resistant to the drug, typically after a year or two, which means patients will need to try a different treatment. Olson is on her third TKI. Targeted therapies aren’t the only new life-extending option. When lung cancer patients are screened for oncogene mutations, they’re also tested for something called PD-L1 expression; here, doctors are looking for a critical mass of tumor cells that produce a high amount of a particular protein marker. “If the PD-L1 results are high enough, and the other actionable mutations are not present, then you try immunotherapy,” says Patricia L. Rich, MD, medical oncology director of Cancer Treatment Centers of America’s Lung Cancer Institute.

That’s what happened in Nancy Vandespool’s case.

Vandespool, a 47-year-old New Yorker, beat stage III lung cancer in 2012 via chemotherapy, radiation, and surgery. Then, in 2016, the never-smoker was horrified to learn her cancer had returned. Her doctors tested her growing tumor, hoping it might respond to drugs that harness the immune system to fight cancer.

“Cancer cells are smart—smart enough to release chemical signals that tell the immune system to stop fighting them,” explains Rich. “But immunotherapy treatments can turn off those signals or help the body generate supercharged cancer-killing immune cells.” Currently approved for advanced lung cancers as well as melanoma and cancers of the head and neck, kidneys, and a few others, immunotherapy typically involves an IV infusion every two to three weeks. Never-smokers have seen benefits.

So far, the results are impressive: A New England Journal of Medicine study found that for patients who’d already had a round of chemotherapy, the overall survival rate at one year was 42 percent for those on the immunotherapy drug nivolumab (Opdivo), versus 24 percent for just a second round of chemo. Combining the two is even more promising: Patients using the immunotherapy drug pembrolizumab (Keytruda) plus chemo had an overall response rate of 55 percent compared with 29 percent for chemo alone. However, as with targeted therapy, patients are likely to develop a resistance that will necessitate switching to another drug.

Immunotherapy seemed to stop Vandespool’s tumor in its tracks: It didn’t grow or spread in the year since her last treatment in January 2017. She doesn’t talk about her prognosis with her physicians; she’s focusing on “enjoying every breath I take.” The side effects of immunotherapy—fatigue, nausea, and ever-present full-body pain—have had an impact on Vandespool’s day-to-day life. “But at least I have a ‘rest of my life,’” she says. “I used to be able to chase my grandson around the park; now I sit and watch him play. And I’m so happy to be able to do that and to be able to kiss my family and just be alive.” She credits family and friends locally and in Puerto Rico (where she’s originally from) for helping keep her spirits up.

Olson, for her part, cheekily calls herself “terminally optimistic.” She’s living in an artists’ community in Lowell, Massachusetts, and spends her time painting, doing street photography, and working on a blog called Life and Breath: Outliving Lung Cancer. “I may not be a survivor,” she says, “but for now, I am surviving.”

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Finding Solidarity in Uncertainty As lung cancer patients outlive traditionally short life expectancies, they face new hurdles, like coping with the stress of frequent scans and the accompanying fear of what they might reveal. Olson calls it OTSD: ongoing traumatic stress disorder. “I feel fabulous,” she says, “but the fear of cancer returning is constant.

Can I plan a vacation a year from now? Is it worth spending money on dental work? Plus, almost a third of my income goes to healthcare.”

The constant ups and downs make social support essential, McKee says: Studies show patients without a support network have poorer overall survival rates.

For Vandespool, emotional sustenance has come from immersing herself in the American Lung Association’s Lung Force initiative, a femalecentric awarenessraising effort that she credits with introducing her to the concept of immunotherapy. “We do fundraising walks, we’ve lobbied Congress to finance more research, and I’ve met other women like myself who have become part of my family.”

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Weight, Lifted A single hour of exercise per week may be enough to help ward off depression (that’s the same amount of time it takes to watch an episode of This Is Us, if you’re doing the math). Over an 11-year period, a Norwegian study monitored the activity habits, lifestyle, and moods of approximately 22,500 healthy adults who had no depressive symptoms when the project started. The upshot? A recent review of the data showed that nonexercisers had a 44 percent greater risk of developing depression than people who worked out just one to two hours each week. What’s more, the intensity of movement didn’t make much difference, meaning a brisk walk is no less heroic than a sweaty strength-training session.

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The emerald crystal on this bracelet is pretty, sure, but green may also spur a sense of optimism, according to a small 2004 study from the University of Georgia. (May birth month charm bangles with Swarovski crystal, $32 each; alexandani.com) WARM WELCOME

Orange symbolizes energy in feng shui, making it an uplifting choice for an accent wall. Our paint pick? Benjamin Moore’s Natura line.

The colors are made to last and contain no potentially toxic VOC chemicals. ($60 per gallon; benjaminmoore.com for stores) BLUE TOOTH

This electric brush comes with a holder that sticks to your mirror—as well as the option to have fresh heads delivered to your door every three months. And in a 2015 Australian study, blue had a calming effect. (Electric toothbrush starter set, from $25, and refill plans, from $5; getquip.com) COLORING BOOK

In Change Your Home, Change Your Life with Color, interior design pro Moll Anderson spells out the full spectrum of ways that different hues can transform your space—and your perspective. ($24; amazon.com) YUM, MEET OM

Baking is even more meditative with this stand mixer in pleasant purple, a shade primarily associated with relaxation in the University of Georgia study. (Kitchen Aid five-quart artisan stand mixer, $380; kohls.com)

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EYE Q A few smart ways to avoid tired eyes. BY Rachel Morris

WORKING YOUR EYES too hard can lead to eyestrain, that must-close-my-lids sensation often accompanied by blurred vision, headaches, and neck pain, says Avnish Deobhakta, MD, assistant professor of ophthalmology at New York City’s Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai. Perk up tired peepers by following this advice:

Space out.

When you look at your computer screen, the ciliary muscle in your eye changes the shape of your lens to bring emails or spreadsheets into focus. And just like any other muscle, the ciliary gets fatigued if engaged for too long, Deobhakta says. At least once an hour, give it a break by gazing off into the middle distance (as if daydreaming) for two to three minutes.

Set a blink reminder.

Each time you bat your lashes—typically, every four seconds—you refresh the nerve-packed surface of the cornea with tears.

But concentrating puts the brakes on your blink rate, which may lead to dry, irritated, sleepy eyes, says Matthew Gardiner, MD, director of ophthalmology emergency services at Massachusetts Eye and Ear. Stick a “Blink!” note on your monitor— no, seriously, do it— suggests Stephanie Marioneaux, MD, a clinical spokesperson for the American Academy of Ophthalmology. And keep artificial tears on hand in case blinking doesn’t do the trick.

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Fight glare.

The ciliary muscle has to work overtime to focus the eye against too-bright light, says Deobhakta. Fiddle with the brightness, position, and tilt of your screen to see whether it makes a difference in how your eyes feel. Antiglare eyewear may help reduce eyestrain in the office (try glasses from Felix Gray; shopfelixgray.com) as well as while driving (Maui Jim makes sport sunglasses with polarized lenses; mauijim.com).

See an eye doc.

Visit an optometrist to rule out presbyopia, a condition that affects your ability to clearly view nearby objects, leading to eyestrain.

Everyone develops some degree of presbyopia by the time they’re 50, thanks to age-related hardening of the eye’s lens, says Gardiner. If diagnosed, you’ll need reading glasses or bifocals (over-the-counter or prescription, depending on severity). Pick a pair you’ll enjoy wearing, since they can help your eyes see—and feel—better.

That’s how much more likely you are to develop heart disease if you stand rather than sit most of the day, according to a study in the American Journal of Epidemiology. Surprised? So were we. But consider the other findings: It’s stillness, not standing or sitting, that significantly increases cardiovascular risk. So every 30 minutes, change your body position or walk outside with a friend—like an old-fashioned smoke break, but one that could save your life. —STACEY COLINO

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Why does your brain beg for brownies when you have an overflowing inbox? In her new book, Why You Eat What You Eat, Rachel Herz, PhD, explains that when we’re under stress, we crave foods we enjoyed as kids because they trigger feelings of safety and reassurance. If you take solace in those indulgences more often than you’d like, try “comfort smelling.” “Studies show that emotions triggered by scents are stronger than those sparked by hearing, touching, seeing, thinking, and, I’m proposing, eating,” says Herz, a neuroscientist and expert on the psychology of smell.

Inhaling the scent of a nostalgic treat won’t satiate you if you’re truly hungry, but before you go back for a third slice of pizza, try closing your eyes and deeply breathing in its aroma. “Smell is linked to brain areas that process emotion and memory, so a whiff of a favorite food could be enough to elicit feelings of love and happiness,” says Herz. Translation: If your hunger is in your head, you may still get the emotional fix you need, without the calories you don’t. —C.K.

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THE WAY THEY WERE In a ravishing novel, Amy Bloom revisits a long-hidden romance.

IN THE VIVID and tender White Houses (Random House), two women step into a pale blue convertible and hit the road. The older one, her hair wrapped in a scarf, takes the wheel, while the younger entertains her with racy stories. It could be a frame straight out of Thelma & Louise—except it’s a scene from Amy Bloom’s new book, set in the 1930s and ’40s, and the women aren’t just friends, they’re “in love, in rapture.”

There’s one more difference: This adventure was inspired by true events. Wearing the scarf is Eleanor Roosevelt; her sidekick is Lorena “Hick” Hickok, a brash lesbian journalist whose hard-up background contrasted strikingly with Eleanor’s genteel one. The road trip, in the summer of 1933, is an unofficial “honeymoon,” a first escapade in their 30-year liaison.

Over the last two decades, the facts of this affair have emerged in multiple biographies informed by thousands of letters the pair exchanged. While

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these accounts tend to focus on the first lady, Bloom—interweaving fact and fancy— lavishes attention on the second, bringing Hick, the novel’s narrator and true subject, to radiant life.

The women become friends during FDR’s first presidential run, in 1932, when the Associated Press assigns Hick the wife-ofthe-candidate beat. Bloom’s reporter quickly captivates Eleanor with stories of her hardscrabble South Dakota girlhood. At 13,

she suffered the loss of her mother, then was raped by her father. Striking out on her own, she found work and camaraderie among circus freaks (far less monstrous than her family) and eventually became a successful journalist and noted raconteur—always with “good-looking women sitting on my knee.”

After FDR’s win, Hick moves into the White House, living in a bedroom that adjoins Eleanor’s. Years later, she awaits Eleanor’s arrival in Manhattan, recalling their inaugural

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BODY HEAT A damsel in distress takes control in Laura Lippman’s sizzling sphinx of a novel.

NOIR WOULD BE nothing

without the femme fatale, that feral enchantress who lures the hard-boiled hero to his doom. Of all the genre’s stock characters, she’s the most charged; the moral lightning rod around which the story galvanizes, crackles, and pops.

In the traditional midcentury noir, the femme fatale is a lethal siren, bored with marriage and uninterested in children and home life, who mates (for pleasure) and kills (for money), then burns the place down. A stand-in for the hero’s (and society’s) deep-seated fears

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assignation: “We kissed as if we were in the midst of a cheering crowd, with rice and rose petals raining down on us.” Deprecatingly, she declares that “Eleanor and I were no one’s favorite secret.” But White Houses gainsays such humility: Bloom makes Hick and Eleanor each other’s favorite secret. In private, Hick confides, “We were beauties. We were goddesses. We were the little girls we’d never been: loved, saucy, delighted, and delightful.”

—LIESL SCHILLINGER

about sexually liberated, independent women, she challenged gender roles and posed an existential threat to the world as it was. Her whole purpose was to titillate and be punished.

In Sunburn (William Morrow), crime fiction novelist Laura Lippman takes these misogynistic tropes, so ingrained in pop culture, and uses them to build a disorienting fun-house of mistrust and misapprehension for her two protagonists. A contemporary spin on such classics as Double Indemnity, Sunburn is a story about the unlikely frisson between a woman with a secret past (or several) and the P.I. sent to spy on her.

Polly Costello—or Pauline Hansen, Pauline Smith, or Pauline Ditmars—abandons spouse number two and daughter while on vacation, hitches a ride to a small Delaware town, and ends up slinging drinks at a dive bar.

There, she meets a handsome, mysterious college-educated cook named Adam Bosk, who she’s not supposed to realize has a whole other agenda. But Polly knows more than Adam thinks, and vice versa. The harder they fall, the less they trust each other. Fast-paced and unpredictable, Sunburn is a smart, sly riff on love in a world of trouble that’s puzzling until the very last piece falls into place.

—CARINA CHOCANO

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POETIC PAUSE A LONELY CUP OF COFFEE

Far preferable / to a sociable cup / which tastes more / of talk / the lonely cup / redolent / rich / ripe / round / blesses / the quiet mouth –From Voices in the Air by Naomi Shihab Nye (Greenwillow).

SURVIVAL SKILLS A daughter faces the unthinkable in a new thriller.

THE BEST DOMESTIC suspense novelists deliver on two counts: Their plots portray complex, relatable families, and their characters face outsize threats that feel urgent and real. Kristin Hannah, who mastered this one-two punch in 2015’s The Nightingale, again nails the nail-biter in The Great Alone (St. Martin’s Press), a haunting tale that penetrates human behavior’s darkest corners, exploring post-traumatic stress disorder and spousal abuse, all made more terrifying by its wilderness setting.

It’s 1974. Leni is the 13-year-old daughter of Ernt Allbright, a fraying ex-POW, and Cora, the battered wife who feels helpless to leave him. Since his return from Vietnam, the three have wandered from place to place, hostages to the patriarch’s instability, until he receives word that a slain army buddy has left him land in remote Kaneq, Alaska. Ernt sees this as a chance for a new start, though Cora and Leni sense that the move will accelerate his unraveling—which it does. As the violence between her parents escalates, Leni feels a primal urge to disentangle before “this toxic dance of theirs” further unhinges her.

Yet Leni can’t abandon her mother, even after her boyfriend, Matthew, offers an escape.

Hannah adeptly weaves in the bizarre headlines of the time, among them serial killers and Watergate, to further underscore the chaos of Leni’s world. But it’s the connections forged in a beautiful, harsh terrain— with Matthew and other locals, between mother and child—that make this family saga soar.

—JACQUELYN MITCHARD

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SENSE OF WONDER An excerpt from physicist and writer Alan Lightman’s latest book, Searching for Stars on an Island in Maine (Pantheon).

My story concerns a particular summer night, in the wee hours, when I had just rounded the south end of the island and was carefully motoring toward my dock. No one was out on the water but me. It was a moonless night, and quiet. The only sound I could hear was the soft churning of the engine of my boat. Far from the distracting lights of the mainland, the sky vibrated with stars. Taking a chance, I turned off my running lights, and it got even darker.... I lay down in the boat and looked up.

A very dark night sky seen from the ocean is a mystical experience. After a few minutes, my world had dissolved into that star-littered sky. The boat disappeared. My body disappeared. And I found myself falling into infinity. A feeling came over me I’d not experienced before.... I felt an overwhelming connection to the stars, as if I were part of them.... I felt connected not only to the stars but to all of nature, and to the entire cosmos. I felt a merging with something far larger than myself, a grand and eternal unity, a hint of something absolute. After a time, I sat up and started the engine again. I had no idea how long I’d been lying there looking up.

EYE FOR AN EYE

It’s feline versus fearless female in Elizabeth Crook’s gripping fifth novel.

IN THE TRADITION of Charles

Portis’s classic True Grit, Elizabeth Crook’s heart-pounding adventure, The Which Way Tree (Little, Brown), features a tough-as-nails orphan in pursuit of frontier justice. But 12-year-old Sam, our indefatigable Texan heroine, is the daughter of a former slave, and the murderer she’s hunting isn’t a double-crossing man but a demonic panther that killed her mother. Joined by a loquacious Tejano outlaw, a preacher and his scruffy OPRAH.COM

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hound, and 14-year-old Benjamin, who does double duty as her brother and our keen-eyed narrator, Sam sets out for revenge. Of course, as in all great cat-and-mouse thrillers, while Sam hunts her quarry, she herself is being stalked—in this case by Clarence Hanlin, or the Sesesh, a highway-robbing Confederate who’s had it out for her since she shot off one of his fingers. Like Hanlin, you’ll follow Sam to the ends of the earth.

—NATALIE BEACH

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TITLES TO PICK UP

Saluting the Sisterhood In July 1920, suffragists, white supremacists, lobbyists, and muckrakers descended on Nashville for the culminating standoff in the ratification of the 19th Amendment.

Thrillingly depicted

by Elaine Weiss in The Woman’s Hour (Viking), these historic figures take a seat alongside fellow veterans of the women’s rights wars portrayed in two other new books. Julia Pierpont’s The Little Book of Feminist Saints (Random House) venerates women warriors from Shirley Chisholm to Kanno Sugako, each page a pithy tribute that gives every goddess her own bio and full-color illustration. And pump a fist in solidarity with The Feminist Revolution (Smithsonian Books)

by Bonnie J. Morris and D-M Withers, an overview of intersectional politics and the rise of the second wave that reads like a punk rock zine.

—N.B. AND MICHELLE HART

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This Will Be My Undoing

by Zadie Smith

by Morgan Jerkins

It seems that nothing is beyond the purview of Smith, who, between acclaimed novels, publishes must-read essays on Brexit, her mother’s fascination with toilets, Justin Bieber, Jordan Peele’s Get Out, and 27 other subjects, curated in this provocative collection.

Combining memoir and criticism, Jerkins’s potent “mental fermentation” broods on black female oppression and the limits of racial equality in a society dominated by white people who have “fooled themselves into believing that they are ‘unraced.’”

Blue Dreams

The House of Impossible Beauties

by Lauren Slater

In this gonzo examination of the messy history and brave future of psychotropic drugs, writer and psychologist Slater sifts through the remedies one in five Americans relies on but knows little about—even breaking into an abandoned asylum in her quest.

by Joseph Cassara

Inspired by the real-life drag queens of the House of Xtravaganza (mainstreamed by the documentary Paris Is Burning), Cassara’s vivacious debut novel explores the power of a chosen family.

The Line Becomes a River

Black Ink

by Francisco Cantú

edited by Stephanie Stokes Oliver

An essayist, translator, and former border patrol agent raised in West Texas, Cantú has studied the boundary separating the U.S. and Mexico from both sides. His beautifully written account of a life between nations cuts through the politics surrounding “the wall” to probe what’s really at stake.

Imagine an intimate, fiery conversation between Frederick Douglass, Roxane Gay, and Barack Obama, in which reading is extolled as among “the first miracles along the path to Black authorship.” A breathtaking anthology celebrating the power of the written word to forge change.

Dreadful Young Ladies

The Undertaker’s Daughter

by Kelly Barnhill

by Sara Blaedel

In the opening story, a beloved widow is described as having a voice that’s “all brisk assurance...that required a yes.”

The same could be said for this playful, witchy collection of addictive tales.

The Danish crime novelist takes a trip Stateside in this exhilaratingly morbid tale of a 40-yearold Copenhagen widow who travels to Wisconsin to run her dead father’s funeral home—and is forced to confront the enemies he left behind.

A False Report

Educated

by T. Christian Miller and Ken Armstrong

by Tara Westover

As a girl in the remote Idaho mountains, the young Westover didn’t attend school, see doctors, or interact with the outside world.

That all changed when she left home and her religion to attend Harvard. A coming-of-age memoir reminiscent of The Glass Castle.

—N.B. AND M.H.

In 2008, a teenager alleged she was raped, then recanted when her community cast doubt on her version of events. And that’s just one of the twists and turns in this riveting truecrime story.

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Reading Room

The Long

Road Home Tayari Jones’s An American Marriage is an aha-moment-inducing tour de force—a love story and a stinging indictment of society’s injustices. It’s also Oprah’s new book club pick.

WHENEVER I OPEN a book, I’m embarking on an adventure. Where will it take me?

Who will I meet along the way? What will I learn about the world and my place in it?

And best of all, will I love it so much I’ll want to choose it for my book club?

In the case of Tayari Jones’s fourth novel, An American Marriage (Algonquin), the answer to that last question was an emphatic yes. After the first few chapters, as I got to know Roy and Celestial and Andre, I forgot they were fictional characters.

I found myself in that zone readers yearn for: I wanted to cancel all my plans and curl up with my new friends.

I won’t spoil the experience by giving away too much of the plot; suffice it to say that a wrongful arrest and conviction shatter the lives of the couple at its center, exposing the cracks in the foundation of their relationship and creating new ones where none existed before. The tale unfolds through alternating narrators, each voice as intimate as a confidant; you’re inside the heads and hearts of all three, feeling the unfairness, the righteous anger, the helplessness, the confusion—and also the complexity and joy of love.

When I finished, I immediately began sharing the book with others, and they, too, devoured it, periodically checking in to talk about what might happen next. By the end, we were discussing the goings-on between Roy, Celestial, and Andre as if gossiping about next-door neighbors. It’s among Tayari’s many gifts that

she can touch us soul to soul with her words— and that those words are so glorious.

A few months ago, I phoned Tayari to tell her I’d decided to make An American Marriage my new Oprah’s Book Club selection. She wasn’t expecting me, and at first she just laughed and kept saying “Oh my goodness!” Then we got to talking.

OPRAH: How did you come up with the idea of this epic love triangle that also wrestles with the hard-core issue of mass incarceration?

It’s definitely not a natural pairing!

TAYARI JONES: My earlier novels were all about me trying to sort out the complications of my own family. With Silver Sparrow, I felt like I put that baby to bed. And with all the chaos in the world, I wanted to look outward and take on something that mattered to others, not just me.

OW: How did you land on criminal justice?

TJ: To black Americans, mass incarceration is an ongoing threat, like hurricanes on the coast and earthquakes or fires in California.

Prison can swoop in and snatch up the men in our families at any time.

I decided to write about the collateral damage around that— what happens to families, to relationships, to dreams for the future. How does this social wrong translate into the everyday? As a novelist, it was that messy gray area I wanted to explore.

OW: Define what you mean by gray area.

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TJ: My character Roy is an innocent man being punished for a crime he didn’t commit, which disrupts not only his life but those of his wife and parents. No ambiguity there.

I’d spent nearly a year researching the subject of incarceration at Harvard and accumulated lots of facts, but couldn’t find a way into the more nuanced story I was trying to create. Then one day I was at the mall and overheard an argument between a couple.

She carried herself elegantly— she didn’t seem like the kind of person who hashes things out with her man in a food court. She shouted at him: “You know you wouldn’t have waited on me for seven years!” I had no idea why they’d been separated or whether jail time was involved, but a lightbulb went off. Suddenly I had my story.

OW: I love the title An American Marriage.

How did you come up with it?

TJ: At first I was calling the book Dear History, but that sounded so academic. I shifted to This Is How I Love You, which spoke to the romance angle but trivialized the broader theme. I was brainstorming alternatives, and An American Marriage popped into my head, but I was nervous it was too big a title for my book, that it suggested a novel about, say, white people in Connecticut getting a divorce. For most of my life, American wasn’t a word I felt was addressed to me without adding black. But my editor urged me to consider it, and I began to realize that in adopting it I’d be claiming a larger space for my characters and their story. But did I

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dare? My mentor, Pearl Cleage, gave me this advice: “You are an American author and this is an American story.” So I went with it.

OW: Wow. That’s what I love about the title—it owns the scale of the story. Are there writers who have especially influenced you?

TJ: I read Toni Morrison’s Song of Solomon at least once a year. When I teach it, I’m that crazy English professor reading aloud with tears streaming down my cheeks.

The other consistent influence on my work

is Greek mythology. In this novel, Roy is like Odysseus. He faces an incredible challenge, has to fight to get home, and meets other women along the way, yet all he wants is to know his wife is waiting for him. Alas, Celestial is no Penelope.

OW: Ha! I heard there was a point when you considered giving up writing?

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I should forget writing and do something else. I went back to Pearl and asked if she thought I was done. She said, “Maybe you are and maybe you’re not.” Somehow that released me from the pressure of having to finish what I started and allowed the story to just be.

OW: Ohhh, I’m so glad you stuck with it.

I so love this book, Tayari. Thank you for writing it.

TJ: Thank you, ma’am.

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THE YEAR OF BIG QUESTIONS

WHERE DO WE GO FROM HERE? ILLUSTRATIONS BY

Brett Ryder

In case you haven’t heard, we’ve got a problem on our hands.

(Hands, in fact, are a major part of the problem.) But in just a few months, we’ve made astonishing progress, sharing powerful stories, toppling powerful pervs. And now? It’s time to channel our outrage at the sexual-harassment pandemic and figure out a righteous way forward.

H E R E I S A stunning suddenness to these moments: Something that seemed immovable doesn’t just move but shatters.

What seemed inevitable and eternal falls apart, explodes, and in an instant, change is possible. But of course, even an earthquake isn’t sudden; it’s the result of tension built up over decades or centuries. So it was when apartheid ended in South Africa, when the Berlin Wall fell, when the Arab Spring broke out. So it was when Anita Hill testified before the Senate Judiciary Committee in 1991 about being sexually harassed by Clarence Thomas. No, that did not halt his nomination, but it did revolutionize our understanding of sexual harassment. There was a crack produced by civil society pushing against injustices, by voices heroic enough to ring out even when winning was nowhere on the horizon.

It’s easy to say that a pair of articles revealed decades of monstrous behavior by one depraved Hollywood producer and frame it as though it all came out of the blue. But feminism had laid decades of groundwork—has evolved the culture to a point at which significant numbers of women are assignment editors, TV and movie producers, and legislators in charge of deciding what the story is and whose story matters. And because plenty of men have also been transformed by the work feminism has done, they are increasingly in the habit of listening to women and treating them as at least as credible as the men they accuse.

I have watched this era unfold with both horror (at the stories of violence and hate) and joy (that at last we are doing something about it); I have seen myriad small actions build a bridge arching across the chasm to bring us into a new era; I have been moved to see women overcome shame and fear and defeat to break their silence. My grandmothers were born into a world that didn’t let them vote. My mother’s young adulthood took place at a time when marriage made a wife a husband’s subordinate.

I grew up in a better world, but still one that devalued women, often forcibly. When I look at my beautiful 10-month-old great-niece, with her cloud of dark hair and wide eyes, I hope we can do better for her.

A deeply moving aspect of the recent revelations is the way women have come forward to support one another—to say this or that victim is not a liar, because this also happened to me, and neither of us wants it to happen to another. Lifting each other up and holding one another’s truths: That generosity toward strangers is, already, a triumph over the rigged value system from which predatory actions arise.

One of the greatest dangers is that in resisting your enemy, or defeating him, you become him. This is why, though punishment of sexual harassers may be necessary and appropriate, punitiveness and retaliation will not take us where we need to go. What will is ensuring that everyone has an equal voice—bosses, interns, pants wearers, actors, farmworkers—and that we hear one another.

There will be more earthquakes. In between, we all can do the slow, subtle, crucial work of love and generosity. And deepen the commitment to building a system, a society, a culture in which women are powerful, men are kind, and children are allowed to grow up whole and free. —REBECCA SOLNIT MARCH 2018

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“It Was Locker Room Talk” ...and other lies we should never fall for again.

REMEMBER WHEN inappropriate was reserved for things like wearing flipflops to the White House?

Words such as misconduct and improper are a mixed blessing now that the news is teeming with salacious stories: They skirt the need to explain to small children what it means to “whip it out,” but using euphemisms, which make the awful sound innocuous, also allows human beings to rationalize bad behavior. “It’s part of what psychologists call moral disengagement— cognitive strategies that let us bypass guilt or shame,” says Tom Page, PhD, a postdoctoral research associate at the University of Kent in England who’s studied sexual harassment.

And euphemism isn’t the only moral-disengagement strategy that’s come in handy lately. A few other popular mental acrobatics...

MORAL JUSTIFICATION

Rationalizing misbehavior as a bonding activity “News is a flirty business.”

—Geraldo Rivera, commenting on the way-beyond-flirty allegations against Matt Lauer

DISTORTION OF CONSEQUENCES

Failing to see what the problem is “I have broached a topic that, unbeknownst to me until very recently, made certain individuals uncomfortable.”

—Former congressman Trent Franks, who asked two staffers if he could borrow their wombs for nine months DISPLACEMENT OF RESPONSIBILITY

Blaming the people in charge “I came of age in the ’60s and ’70s, when all the rules about behavior and workplaces were different. That was the culture then.”

—Toxic fabulist and predatory ogre Harvey Weinstein ADVANTAGEOUS COMPARISON

Making the old “it could have been worse” argument “I said to myself that what I did was okay because I never showed a woman my d*ck without asking first.”

—Performance masturbator Louis C.K. DIFFUSION OF RESPONSIBILITY

Saying it’s okay because other people do it “Mary was a teenager, and Joseph was an adult carpenter.

They became the parents of Jesus.”

—Alabama state auditor Jim Zeigler, on why the claims against the allegedly teenloving ex-judge Roy Moore are no biggie

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Unzipped An expert exposes the complex psychology of men who harass.

LIVING OUT LOUD The woman who started a movement, and how #YouToo can keep it going.

TARANA BURKE has never been one to run from a fight.

“I got into trouble a lot as a kid, usually for standing up for other kids,” she says. “Once, I was suspended from high school for leaving the building to get food for a pregnant girl. My mother would say, ‘Mind your business—that has nothing to do with you.’ But my line of thinking was when there’s a problem, you do what it takes to fix it.”

Years later, while working in an Alabama youth program, Burke met girls who’d been sexually assaulted but didn’t have the language to discuss what they’d experienced. “They weren’t saying, ‘I’ve been raped,’ ” she says. “It was more like, ‘I don’t want to go home because my mom’s boyfriend is always touching on me.’ I’d had my own experiences with sexual abuse and was trying to figure out what healing looked like.” Realizing that

clarity and a sense of community were what she and these girls needed most, Burke eventually founded a nonprofit and referred to her movement as Me Too. In 2017, when #MeToo caught on as a rallying cry, the hashtag was tweeted nearly a million times in just 48 hours and catapulted us to where we are today.

Inspired? Burke says you can spark change, too:

You know that 50-page employee handbook you’ve never read? Get together with some coworkers and review your company’s sexual-harassment policy.

Knowledge is the beginning of power.

Do you let your friends tell rape jokes?

Don’t. Good men and women are complicit in allowing this culture to thrive. We all should interrogate our roles.

If you have cash to spare, donate to any of these organizations, which aim to empower and support women and girls: National Women’s Law Center, Girls for Gender Equity, the National Alliance to End Sexual Violence, End Rape on Campus, or, of course, the Me Too movement. —MOLLY SIMMS

“What people need to understand about #MeToo is that it’s a revelatory moment for men, not women— we’ve always known how bad things are.”

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EVERY MAN WHO acts out sexually has his own unique psychological history and challenges, but there are common patterns. Some men didn’t get the love and security they needed when they were growing up, so they’re expressing their depression and anger physically, as males are more likely to do. They’re sexualizing unmet emotional needs.

Others are afraid of being dominated by women. As boys come of age, they get the message that they can’t be sissies, that a boy’s defining powers lie in sports or aggression or sex. They have to distance themselves from their mothers, whom they associate with vulnerability. When they objectify a woman, they’re saying, “I don’t need you to take care of me. I can make you meet my needs on my terms.”

I’ve also seen many men who behave this way, in part, because they feel powerless at home. They say their wives control their day-today lives or constantly criticize them—yet these otherwisepowerful guys are unable to confront their spouses.

When men act out, women often think their job is to cope. They’re socialized to understand, work around, and find solutions. But not every situation can be analyzed and rationalized away. The answer is not for women to be more fearful of men but to be more trusting of themselves.

—Alon Gratch, PhD, clinical psychologist and author of If Men Could Talk

“Over the past 200 years, women MAY CAUSE have been redefining what it is to be SIDE EFFECTS a woman, but the redefining of what Employment lawyer Allison West examines the flip side of progress. it is to be a man has not kept up.

For the #MeToo moment to last, men The backlash was inevitable. Managers and and boys have to be included in the employees are now conversation, and not just by telling them they are questioning their every workplace interaction: evil and vicious by nature. They are not, any more “What exactly is than women are bitches, witches, or feeble fainting unlawful harassment? violets. But men must work at making the changes Can I touch someone on the shoulder to show in their own self-descriptions in order to improve What if I things for women. Only then can ‘boys will be boys’ compassion? compliment a colleague’s transform into ‘real men don’t sexually assault.’ ” new haircut?” One male —MARGARET ATWOOD, author of the landmark feminist dystopia The Handmaid’s Tale

Sleeping with the Enemy We’re not all bad, men say.

But what about the one who shares your bed?

A psychologist weighs in.

For a woman in an intimate relationship with a man, all these harassment stories can open up a Pandora’s box: What’s really going on between us, or in his private world? Who are men?

Should I even have sex with a man? We’re triggered in deep, body-based ways, and,

as people tend to do in highly emotional situations, we may break down into a blackand-white mindset. We start to think of our partner as a capital-M Man rather than a human being with his own history and struggles. Yes, male sexuality can be highly objectifying, but most of the men I see in my practice want to have loving relationships just like women do. I have empathy for men because integrating this importunate, intense sexuality with the need for love can be a very

demanding developmental and psychological task. We’re all intricate, paradoxical people, not cardboard cutouts, and our ongoing challenge—in our relationships and the culture—is to fight the urge to seek absolutes. The question we should always come back to is: Can I see this person’s humanity?

—Daphne de Marneffe, PhD, author of The Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together

law firm partner told me, “I travel for business; now I can’t travel with a female associate.

What if she sues me for something I said innocently?” While some think that separating men and women will help them escape harassment claims, it could actually lead to a discrimination claim. Avoiding women isn’t the solution. Having collaborative workforces, where people have equal opportunity, is.

—AS TOLD TO M.S.

Yuck-Fest

How pop culture normalized the debasement of women.

HANDY! Come for the articles, stay for the porn.

BOOB TUBE Miss America pageant establishes wholesome annual ritual of fully clothed families gathering to ogle and appraise nearly naked ladies.

HOW DROLL Midcentury New Yorker cartoon humor: Addams Family hijinks, madcap robots, sexual assault in the workplace.

ATWOOD: RICH FURY/GETTY IMAGES. FROM LEFT: JAMES ATOA/EVERETT COLLECTION (INSET). BETTMANN ARCHIVE/GETTY IMAGES. PETER ARNO/CONDE NAST ARCHIVE. BETTMANN ARCHIVE/GETTY IMAGES. SILVER SCREEN COLLECTION/GETTY IMAGES. EVERETT COLLECTION. JOHN BAZEMORE/AP/REX/SHUTTERSTOCK. K. MAZUR/WIREIMAGE. ROBINSON: DESIREE NAVARRO/WIREIMAGE.

SEE SOMETHING? SAY SOMETHING! Men primarily created this problem, and they need to take responsibility for it. When they see harassment, they can’t dismiss it as “dude stuff” or look the other way because they like the guy or he has a family to support.

The reality is, many harassers are not one-time offenders, and by not reporting, you set the stage for them to repeat the behavior with new targets and cause even more damage. There is no such thing as an uninvolved bystander.

Bystander intervention, for both men and women, should be part of workplace sexualharassment policies. As they say in the University of Missouri’s athletics programs, “You see it, you hear it, you own it.”

Take Back Your Might!

Women are prone to impostor syndrome: self-doubt, the fear of being exposed as a “fraud.” Instead of attributing their success to hard work and talent, they tend to credit luck or timing. A woman who’s been harassed may be adding perverse favoritism to this list as well. I would tell her that just as she needs to reclaim her power, she needs to reclaim her accomplishments. Even if a harasser helped you get your foot in the door, you stayed because you proved you deserved to be there. Both impostor syndrome and sexual harassment involve shame.

Shift the shame back to where it belongs: on the harasser.

—Valerie Young, author of The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women

“I am beyond thrilled that the ‘De-peening’—or as most people have been calling it, ‘the Reckoning’—is happening. It should have begun long ago, but we still have a ways to go. We have to believe women when they speak their truth. More specifically, we have to believe women of color, because the Me Too movement was started more than a decade ago by a black woman but didn’t gain the traction it has now until famous women of a certain type latched on to it. So my hope going forward is that not just women of a particular race and class are heard, but all of us are. That those who were at the forefront of this movement are not forgotten or ignored. And that we—and by ‘we,’ I mean ‘everyone’—take care of all of us. This is just the beginning, and I’m proud to witness it.”

—PHOEBE ROBINSON, star of 2 Dope Queens

—Debbie Dougherty, PhD, a professor of communication at the University of Missouri who studies sexual harassment

BLT&A What goes great with curly fries? Double-D servers, of course.

STAND-UP GUY

BOTTLE SERVICE Midriff-baring miniaturizable bimbette lives to please her “Master.” They’d never pull this on Jambi.

Bill Cosby talks up drugging women’s drinks in his “Spanish Fly” routine. Hmm.

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CLAIM GAME START

What really happens in a sexual-harassment case? Let’s follow the entirely fictional story of one Jane Doe.

1 For eight months, Jane, a sales rep at Acme Corp., has been getting unwanted neck rubs and sexual propositions from her colleague Dick, even though she’s repeatedly asked him to stop. A lawyer friend says, “Document it.”

Jane gets a notebook for dates and other details.

CARLSON: BRIGITTE LACOMBE. THE CLAIM GAME, NOTEBOOK: CLAIRE SKELLY FROM NOUN PROJECT. SHOP: RAFAEL EMPINOTTI FROM NOUN PROJECT. BROOM: JUAN PABLO BRAVO FROM NOUN PROJECT. MONEY: MAXIM KULIKOV FROM NOUN PROJECT. GAVEL: MICHAEL THOMPSON FROM NOUN PROJECT.

Jane hasn’t signed a binding arbitration agreement; if she had, she couldn’t publicly file a claim, and a private arbitrator would decide her case. “This can be a clause in ‘onboarding’ paperwork, and people sign without realizing it,” says Noble. Arbitrators may have a pro-employer bias, she adds, because they’re often hired by the big law firms that defend companies. And their decisions can’t be appealed.

6 The lawyer reviews Jane’s evidence to determine whether she has a case; that is, (1) she was harassed because of her sex, (2) it was unwelcome, (3) it was so “severe or pervasive” that it would affect a “reasonable person’s” working conditions, and (4) Acme knew about it and failed to act appropriately.

7 Jane’s lawyer notifies Acme that she plans to file a claim.

3 Dick gets a note in his file and attends a mandatory harassment seminar.

5

Jane calls an attorney.

(sort of)

Good call on pursuing the proper channels, says Laura Noble, an employment lawyer in Chapel Hill, North Carolina. If Jane failed to precisely follow reporting procedures and later tried to file a claim, Acme could be off the hook.

It isn’t, says Washington, D.C., employment lawyer Alexis Ronickher. “Demotion is retaliation, which is against the law.”

Says Ronickher, “It’s very difficult for plaintiffs to meet this standard.”

Ronickher says most of her cases end in settlement. “If a client has enough to build a lawsuit, she’s been through horrible stuff and wants this to be over.”

8 Acme offers a $50,000 settlement. As part of the terms, Jane would have to leave the company and sign a nondisclosure agreement stating that she can say nothing about the case except “the matter was resolved.” If she breached confidentiality, she’d have to pay back the $50,000. A gag order? Jane’s not playing ball. She has savings, so she decides to go to court.

Only 6 percent of federal workplace discrimination suits go to trial, and only 2 percent end in victory for the plaintiff, according to research by the American Bar Foundation.

WINNER!

2 Jane checks her employee manual for sexualharassment reporting procedure, then tells HR.

Acme has more than 15 employees, so Jane is protected by Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964, the federal law that makes sexual harassment illegal. For workers at mom-and-pop shops, legal protection varies by state.

Jane has beaten the odds. As of 2016, 71 percent of federal judges were men. “And often, it’s been decades since they were anyone’s employee,” says Ronickher, “so their idea of ‘reasonable’ can differ greatly from yours or mine.”

11 Jane has her day in court. A jury finds in her favor: She’s awarded $150,000. What she really wants is an apology. Good luck with that, Jane.

10 A federal judge makes a summary judgment to determine whether a “reasonable” jury could believe Dick’s behavior was harassment. Jane’s judge is a woman who once clerked for a guy like Dick. She says the case can go to trial.

This must happen within 180 days of the most recent episode of harassment or retaliation.

9 Jane files with the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission, as required by federal law. After an investigation, the EEOC sends her a “right to sue” letter.

Jane has 90 days to file her lawsuit.

“We need to end the misogynistic corporate cover-up culture of enablers, which too often allows victims to be silenced and harassers to stay in their jobs. We must fix laws that force women into the secret chamber of arbitration when they’re harassed, and give them back their constitutional right to a public trial if they choose. We are witnessing a revolution for women, just like getting the vote and entering the workforce. And there’s no going back.”

—GRETCHEN CARLSON, journalist and author of Be Fierce: Stop Harassment and Take Your Power Back OPRAH.COM

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MODEST PROPOSALS In England, some women have taken it upon themselves, when, say, groped on a crowded train, to grab the offending appendage, lift it, and loudly ask, “Whose hand is this?” In general, we might use the power of humor or ridicule more effectively.

Meantime, so long as no criminal line has been crossed, I would give perpetrators an amnesty...on condition of never again. And I would shift our gaze from celebrity harassment to the cases of “ordinary” women. We are going to make progress only if we all pull together—from the casting couch to the factory floor.

— Mary Beard, whose book Women & Power: A Manifesto traces the roots of misogyny to the Greek and Roman empires

Woman’s enslavement (not only within memory) is the root.

What is happening to you/to us now is a branch.

—ALICE WALKER,

“The work before us is to take care that our exhilaration doesn’t turn into hyperventilation. If this movement is to have a lasting effect, we need to do more than call out our abusers.

We need to heal ourselves, and the straightest road to healing is forgiveness. That doesn’t mean lying down and saying, ‘Go ahead, run over me again.’ It’s not about giving a pass to those who wronged you. It’s about letting go of hatred. People who do nothing but damn and pound and pummel can turn to stone, like hot lava that cools into a sharp rock.

When we forgive, we free ourselves from bitterness, and we grant the person who wronged us the chance to make things right.”

from “A Branch: Sexual Assault in the Present Time”

—Barbara Brown Taylor, Episcopal priest and author of, most recently, Learning to Walk in the Dark

To have the courage to share our wounds And begin to rise, and heal, together...

IN HER SHOES If a nice, clueless male can’t marshal empathy for the forms of sexual humiliation women have endured for eons, he should close his eyes and envision the power differential in the crudest physical terms. Beginning at age 12, say, this guy can’t walk down the street without multiple leering wrestler types loudly discussing his ass, mocking him, threatening him with bodily harm if he’s unresponsive. When he’s grown and his boss corners him, humps him, and shoves a tongue down his throat, the man is shocked to hear a colleague say, “Oh, lighten up. It’s a party.” He gets used to being pawed at and tolerating jokes about what a great blow job he could probably give. This goes on for decades, happens dozens of times. And on exactly zero occasions does a single one of these bullies face even an informal reprimand, much less any real consequence. But he observes that for those who report abusive behavior, there are big consequences: Jobs are lost, classes dropped, careers sidelined.

“What’s the big deal?” a male friend recently asked me, about a guy forcing a kiss or copping a feel—“What does it cost you?” I said: “Great. Let’s film some hulking creature grabbing your johnson and laughing about it. You’re humiliated and ashamed, but you keep your mouth shut. And then the hulking creature is elected president....”

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CAN YOU HEAR US NOW? We need hard accountability mixed with radical grace and actionable solutions—we can’t just exile some guys to an island and say, “Those ones are duds.” For starters, men should listen to the women in their lives. I tell college-age boys to call their girlfriend, sister, or mom and say, “I love you, and I want to know what your experience as a woman has been like.”

Guys text me afterward and say, “Whoa, my girlfriend thinks I’m the best.”

Well, yeah, welcome to communication.

— Alexis Jones, founder of the organizations I Am That Girl and ProtectHer

WALKER: SCOTT CAMPBELL.

Sisters, daughters, cousins, whatever You are to the rest of Earth’s family There is no future for our daughters Or our sons If we do not insist on And forge our solidarity By speaking up.

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TIME Oprah talks with Mindy Kaling and Reese Witherspoon about sexism onscreen and off, and carving a pathway to parity.

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t would be tough to pick two more blue-chip Hollywood names than Reese Witherspoon (star and producer of, most recently, the deliciously sinister, labyrinthine HBO series Big Little Lies) and Mindy Kaling (whose six-season comedy, The Mindy Project, was the first TV show created by an Indian American). Both wield witchy magic alongside Oprah in the upcoming A Wrinkle in Time, the new film adaptation of the 1962 futuristic fantasy novel, directed by another boundary smasher, Ava DuVernay. When the “O” of O sat down with these two fearless changemakers, they immediately started discussing how far women have come— and where we must go next.

OPRAH: I’m so excited to have a conversation with such beautiful, innovative, powerful women—my A Wrinkle in Time costars.

REESE WITHERSPOON: Thank you for

having us! Sitting around and talking is our favorite thing to do.

MINDY KALING: And it’s nice not to be in harnesses and wigs.

OW: Making the movie felt like being part of a trailblazing, pioneering adventure, with Ava as the first African American woman to direct a $100 million–budget film. I hope the message of light it brings will resonate with people—I think a lot about the line in the movie, “The darkness is spreading so fast these days.”

RW: Oh my gosh, it was incredible, that speech.

OW: “The only thing faster than light is darkness.” It’s so interesting that Madeleine L’Engle knew that so many years ago because it really fits the age we’re living in now. What was your reaction when you first started to see the wave of women confronting their harassers and abusers?

RW: Initially, it was really shocking.

When I heard the first Harvey Weinstein story, I was in L.A. OW: You said that you, and several other actresses you knew, were having trouble sleeping because it was so hard listening to these accounts. I said, “Gee, that sounds like you’re having some symptoms of PTSD,” and your eyes started to water.

RW: Yeah, I remember that. All those things I thought I had dealt with a long time ago, I hadn’t dealt with. A lot of these women with stories are my very dear friends, like Salma Hayek and Gwyneth Paltrow. These are some of my closest friends and colleagues, and I had known their experiences were difficult, but I had never understood the depth of the harassment. I was just floored, and then I realized, This is the moment to tell what happened to me when I was young. This is the moment where healing begins.

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tell your story—about being assaulted by a director when you were just 16— and immediately afterward, another actress in the room stood up and divulged something. I’ve seen this happen over and over and over again—that the moment you release the thing that has held you in chains, or that has made you feel shamed or disappointed in yourself, there’s always, always another person saying “Me, too.”

RW: The understanding was that remaining silent was the condition of our employment. Do you want to work? Do you want to get ahead?

Then you don’t talk. But the rules have changed. And with Time’s Up, we’re making sure they’re changing for everyone—by providing legal and financial support to women in any workplace who have been harassed and are ready to speak up about it.

OW: I didn’t grow up in the movie industry, but in the television business, I was so sexually harassed.

It was absolutely, implicitly understood that if I said a word about

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RW: Whistle-blowers were not welcome, and if you wanted one of the very rare leading actress positions, you toed the line.

OW: Mindy, what have you experienced or witnessed, in terms of harassment in Hollywood?

MK: I’ve been lucky enough to never have been the recipient of the kind of overt, sexually menacing harassment that has been in all the headlines.

But I’m empowered as a show creator and writer in a way that I’m not as an actress. Actresses I’ve worked with suffer far more because of the vulnerable nature of their job.

OW: We’re creating new rules as we evolve. Do you think this moment will change the culture of toxic masculinity in the workplace?

RW: I think it just turned the lights on, and yeah, I do think things are going to change. There are a lot of really good men in the world, but I do think it’s incumbent on women in leadership to rewrite the rules.

We have to get together as groups of

women, which is what I’ve been doing with a lot of actresses. It’s been incredibly illuminating. Women in positions of power need to help people understand what the new normal is. You tell people how you want them to treat you.

MK: The key is getting more women into those positions of power.

Having women in charge is the easiest way to make change—assuming they get to be in charge. The harder way is confronting and reporting harassment in the workplace, which is so much more challenging because it requires going out on a limb.

So many women want to simply fly under the radar and not seem like a “troublemaker” or “drama queen.”

OW: In A Wrinkle in Time, we get the message that complacency leads people to abandon independent thought. Do you feel like our culture is complacent right now?

RW: I think our culture’s more alive and vibrant than it’s ever been. We’re waking ideas that have been dormant for a long time, and it’s terrifying and

thrilling. Social media has opened up a conversation that was not possible even ten years ago. Women are talking about things they’ve never spoken about, and they’re actually being heard.

MK: People who were not necessarily speaking their minds before are feeling that they have to. You used to think, I’m an actress, I’m a writer, I don’t necessarily want to get involved. Yet now I feel that being complacent is one of the worst things you can be.

OW: You believe we’re living in an era where people are called to speak up.

RW: For me, one major issue is women’s stories, and creating opportunities for women to tell their stories, which is why I started my production company, Pacific Standard. We cannot expect change in our society if we see only the same movies by the same 20 male directors. It’s been my mission over the past five years to create better parts for women, and also opportunities for women of color, of continued on page 138

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THE GOLDEN GLOW The go-to highlighter shades have been softer in seasons past, but a warm, vibrant gold makes a bigger statement, especially on dark skin. To pull off the look, a thin veil of foundation is a must. “This trend is most flattering when your skin tone looks even,” says Restrepo.

Next, use a small, fluffy dusting brush to sweep a powder or cream-to-powder highlighter (eyeshadow works here, too) in the shape of a 3, starting just under the brow, up to the outside of the brow’s arch, over to the hairline, and curving around the eye to the cheekbones, then down toward the jawline. When it comes to choosing a shade, use Restrepo’s gilded guide: “Fair and medium skin will look great in a true gold, while an amber will work best on olive and darker tones.”

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THE PINK SMOKY EYE This look has evolved past black and midnight blue. But when you’re working with surprising shades, you need a strategic plan. “Start by lining your top and bottom lashes with a lavender shadow,” Restrepo says. “The hint of bluish coolness brings out the whites of your eyes instead of unwanted redness.”

Brush your rosy shadow (something with a hint of shimmer is best) everywhere— from the top lashline to just above the crease, and outward to the tail of your brow, fading the color as you go. Add definition with a generous coating of a volumizing black mascara.

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½ cup grated Parmesan

1 tsp. coarse kosher salt

1 tsp. red pepper flakes

½ tsp. ground black pepper 1. In a large mixing bowl (warmed with hot water and wiped dry), combine yeast with ½ cup warm water. Stir with a wooden spoon until dissolved. Stir in 1 cup flour.

Cover with plastic wrap and set in a warm place until doubled in size, about 1 hour.

1 cup tomato sauce

2 pounds (1 head) cauliflower, florets removed and stems discarded

4 ounces (½ cup) shredded mozzarella, shaved Parmesan, or whole-milk ricotta

1 large egg, lightly beaten 1 large egg white, lightly beaten 1⁄3 cup grated Parmesan ¼ tsp. dried oregano

Optional toppings: cooked broccoli, sliced cooked turkey sausage, or halved cherry tomatoes Optional garnishes: basil leaves or red pepper flakes

½ tsp. coarse kosher salt ½ cup tomato sauce 6 ounces fresh whole-milk mozzarella, sliced or torn into pieces Basil leaves, for garnish Red pepper flakes, for sprinkling 1. Heat oven to 425°. Pulse cauliflower in a food processor until finely ground and fluffy.

2. Transfer cauliflower to a microwavesafe bowl and cover with plastic wrap, poking a few holes. Heat in microwave on high, 5 minutes. Uncover, stir, and let cool slightly.

3. Gather cauliflower in a clean dish towel and twist tightly to squeeze out as much moisture as possible. In a medium bowl, stir well with egg, egg white, Parmesan, oregano, and salt.

4. Transfer to a parchment paper–lined baking sheet and pat out into a ¼"-thick circle (10" to 11" across).

5. Bake until golden brown, about 25 minutes. Top with sauce and mozzarella. Continue to bake until cheese is melted, 10 to 12 minutes more. Top with basil and sprinkle with red pepper flakes.

1. Heat oven to 400°. Place mushroom caps on a baking sheet, gills down.

Drizzle with oil and season with salt and pepper. Bake for 5 minutes.

2. Drain mushrooms on a paper towel– lined plate. Return to baking sheet, gills up. Spoon about 2 Tbsp. sauce into each mushroom cap and top with 1 to 2 Tbsp. cheese and preferred toppings. Bake until cheese is melted, 8 to 10 minutes. Add garnishes, if desired.

Cornmeal-Crust Pizza with Greens, Ricotta, and Bacon MAKES 4 SERVINGS TOTAL TIME: 3 HOURS 30 MINUTES ACTIVE TIME: 1 HOUR 30 MINUTES

1 package active dry yeast 2½ cups all-purpose flour, divided ¼ cup extra-virgin olive oil 2 tsp. whole milk ¼ tsp. kosher salt 1½ cups stone-ground cornmeal, plus more for dusting pan 1 bunch (12 ounces) Swiss chard

Mini Portobello Pizzas MAKES 4 SERVINGS ACTIVE TIME: 10 MINUTES TOTAL TIME: 30 MINUTES

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1 cup ricotta

1 Tbsp. olive oil

4 strips bacon, cut into ¾" squares 4 garlic cloves, thinly sliced Sea salt and ground black pepper, to taste

Pizza Senza Crosta MAKES 6 SERVINGS

TOTAL TIME: 15 MINUTES The most creative pizza base we’ve come across? No 2 cups store-bought or crust at all. Chef Rolando homemade tomato sauce Beramendi, author of (recipe at right) Autentico: Cooking Italian, Coarse sea salt and ground the Authentic Way, delivers black pepper, to taste a bottomless pie that might 3 basil sprigs, leaves torn, be even more ooey-gooey plus more for garnish good than the classic. He deems it “a cross between 1 (8-ounce) ball fresh fondue, mozzarella sticks, buffalo mozzarella, sliced and pizza.” Enough said. into 12 equal pieces

3. Form dough into a ball. Cover bowl with plastic wrap and let rise in a warm place until dough has doubled in size, 1 to 1½ hours. Punch down dough, knead a few times, and reshape into a ball. Return to bowl, cover, and let sit until nearly doubled, about 40 minutes. Divide into 4 balls, reserving 2 for later use.

4. Meanwhile, strip Swiss chard leaves from stems. Chop stems, tear leaves, and set aside, separated. Place bacon in a cold skillet and cook over medium heat until bacon begins to brown, 8 to 10 minutes.

Drain on a paper towel–lined plate. Pour off most of the fat from pan and add garlic. Cook until golden, 2 to 3 minutes.

Add chard stems and cook until softened, 8 to 10 minutes. Add leaves, cover, and cook, stirring occasionally, about 5 minutes. Season with salt and pepper.

5. Preheat oven to 450°. With your hands, stretch a ball of dough into a disk.

Using a rolling pin, roll into a thin 10" circle. Transfer to a baking sheet dusted with cornmeal. Repeat with other ball. Divide greens evenly between 2 pizzas, leaving a ½" border. Spread ricotta over top, then sprinkle with Parmesan and bacon. Bake until brown and bubbly, about 15 minutes, rotating pans halfway through cooking. Sprinkle with sea salt and red pepper flakes before serving.

Olives, anchovies, pepperoncini, or cruschi peppers, for serving 1. In a large skillet over mediumlow heat, warm tomato sauce.

Once bubbling, season with salt and pepper and stir in basil and mozzarella. Cover and heat until cheese is partially melted (with some stringy pieces), about 8 minutes.

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2. Add oil, milk, kosher salt, and 1 cup warm water. With electric mixer on low, slowly add remaining flour and cornmeal and mix into a soft dough. With doughhook attachment or hands, knead dough until sticky, about 15 minutes.

Focaccia, ciabatta, or rustic Italian bread, cut or torn into pieces

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¼ tsp. kosher salt, plus a pinch, divided 2 ripe avocados, pitted and peeled 2 Tbsp. lemon juice 4 flatbreads or pocketless pitas, toasted 2 Tbsp. salted, roasted pepitas (pumpkin seeds) ½ recipe Crispy Barbecue Chickpeas (recipe below) Hot sauce, for serving 1. Preheat oven to 425°. On a large rimmed baking sheet, toss cauliflower with olive oil and ¼ tsp. salt.

2. Roast until slightly golden and tender, 25 minutes.

3. Mash avocados with lemon juice and pinch of salt and spread over flatbreads.

Top with roasted cauliflower, pepitas, and chickpeas. Drizzle with hot sauce before serving.

CRISPY BARBECUE CHICKPEAS Rinse and drain 1 (15-ounce) can chickpeas and pat very dry with paper towels, discarding any loose skins. On a large rimmed baking sheet, toss with 1 Tbsp. olive oil, 1⁄8 tsp. each kosher salt and ground black pepper, ½ tsp. dark brown sugar, ¼ tsp. ground cumin, ¼ tsp. paprika, ¼ tsp. garlic powder, and ¼ tsp. chili powder. Roast at 425°, shaking occasionally, until crisp, 30 minutes. Remove from oven and transfer to a bowl. Chickpeas will continue to crisp as they cool.

2. Remove skillet from heat and scatter additional basil over top. Serve immediately with bread and condiments.

SALSA DI POMODORO (Tomato Sauce) MAKES 3 CUPS TOTAL TIME: 40 MINUTES

In a large saucepan, combine ¼ cup extra-virgin olive oil and 2 large white onions, finely chopped, and sauté over medium heat until onions are transparent, 12 to 15 minutes. Add 2 cups

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tomato puree and 6 sprigs basil and reduce heat to bring to a low simmer. Cook until sauce has reduced by a third, 15 to 20 minutes. Remove and discard basil sprigs and season with coarse sea salt and ground black pepper, to taste. Use immediately or reheat before serving. Sauce will keep in an airtight container in the refrigerator for up to 5 days.

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Why We Love It Tender, chewy, incomparably satisfying—it’s no wonder pasta comforts both body and soul. But if you think it’s just for dinner, wrap your noodle around this: Pasta has a place in all your meals.

Add protein (like bacon and egg) and you’ve got a fuel-filled breakfast; throw in lots of bright produce and call it lunch. Any left over?

That’s why God made midnight snacks.

Gummy bears are fine.

Gummy pasta is not.

To avoid it, wait until your water has reached a full rolling boil before adding noodles.

Kale Caesar Pasta Salad MAKES 6 SERVINGS ACTIVE TIME: 20 MINUTES TOTAL TIME: 30 MINUTES

For maximum flavor, always salt your pasta water (at least one tablespoon per pound of pasta).

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1. Cook pasta according to package directions.

2. Meanwhile, in a large bowl, whisk together mayonnaise, Parmesan, lemon juice, mustard, oil, garlic, salt, and pepper.

Add kale and toss to combine.

3. Once pasta is cooked, strain, immediately add to kale mixture, and toss. Let cool slightly. Stir in radishes and serve.

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TRY THIS Ward off 3 p.m. hunger pangs by including protein, like grilled chicken or sautéed shrimp, in your pasta salad.

Or try Banza’s chickpea-based noodles (eatbanza .com), which offer 14 grams per serving, nearly half as much as a four-ounce steak.

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Smooth sauces like pesto and Alfredo cling better to twisty shapes like fusilli and farfalle.

Thick-walled tubular pastas like penne and rigatoni can handle the heft of chunky veggie or meat sauces.

You can freeze portions of cooked pasta— al dente is best, to prevent post-thaw mushiness— for quick weekday lunches or dinners.

Bacon-and-Egg Breakfast Pasta MAKES 4 SERVINGS TOTAL TIME: 20 MINUTES

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ounces spaghetti bunch Swiss chard, stemmed and chopped slices thick-cut bacon tsp. extra-virgin olive oil large eggs cup grated Parmesan, plus more for sprinkling tsp. kosher salt, plus more for seasoning tsp. ground black pepper, plus more for seasoning

1. Cook spaghetti according to package directions, adding chard during last 3 minutes. Reserve ½ cup cooking water, drain pasta and chard, then return to pot.

2. Meanwhile, in a large nonstick skillet over medium heat, cook bacon until crisp, about 6 to 8 minutes. Transfer to a paper towel–lined plate. Break into pieces when cool.

3. Wipe out skillet and heat oil over medium. Crack eggs into skillet and cook to desired doneness, 3 to 4 minutes for runny yolks.

4. Toss pasta and chard with reserved pasta water, Parmesan, salt, and pepper; fold in bacon. Divide among 4 bowls and top each with an egg. Season to taste with salt and pepper and sprinkle with additional Parmesan, if desired.

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The Fancy Homemade sauce takes your bird into gourmet territory; Acheson’s velvety, tangy version takes your guests to comfort-food heaven.

Fast or Fancy The Chef and the Slow Cooker author Hugh Acheson serves up tips for preparing two versions of roast chicken—one simply delicious, one spectacular.

ROAST CHICKEN AND PARSNIPS

Season 1 whole 3½- to 4-pound chicken inside and out with 1 Tbsp. kosher salt.

Place in an uncovered pan and refrigerate overnight on lowest shelf. Remove from fridge an hour before roasting to bring to room temperature. Preheat oven to 425°.

Discard any juices in pan. Transfer chicken to a roasting pan (breast side up) and drizzle 1 Tbsp. olive oil over chicken. Place pan in oven on middle rack. Cook until chicken is browned and reaches 160° in thigh, about 60 minutes. Meanwhile, remove stem ends of 1 pound parsnips, then peel. Cut 2" from skinny ends and chop ends into thin rounds. Place in medium bowl and add 1 Tbsp. olive oil, ½ cup flat-leaf parsley leaves, pinch of kosher salt, and 1 tsp. lemon juice. Toss well and set aside. Cut remaining parsnips lengthwise into 2"-long half logs.

When chicken has 15 minutes left, surround with parsnip logs in roasting pan. Once flesh reaches 160°, remove from oven and discard fat from pan. Let rest for 10 minutes before carving, then arrange on a platter with roasted parsnips. Garnish with parsnipparsley mixture and 1 cup chopped radicchio. Serve with yogurt sauce (below).

GREEK YOGURT SAUCE In a medium mixing bowl, combine 1 cup plain Greek yogurt; 2 Tbsp. lemon juice; 1 tsp. sweet paprika; ¼ cup chopped dill; ½ tsp. kosher salt; and ground black pepper, to taste, and mix well.

Nuttier and earthier than carrots, parsnips lend complexity to your humble entrée.

The Fast Crock-Pot doesn’t have to mean blah.

Acheson’s savory-sweet Whole Chicken with Vinegar, Shallots, Carrots, Raisins, and Mint (visit oprah.com/ slowcookerwholechicken for the recipe) has so many flavors and textures—but needs so little prep time.

You’ll score bonus wow points for a creamy herbed sauce— it’s unexpected and more refined than gravy.

TOOLS TO TRY Kyocera’s razor-sharp ceramic knives are ideal for chopping hardy produce ($80 for three; kyoceraadvancedceramics.com) and All-Clad’s seven-quart gourmet slow cooker lets you brown and braise for crispy poultry and pork ($300; allclad.com).

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OW: Why do you think it’s important for men to be exposed to more of women’s stories through media?

MK: Women are half the world, but we’ve spent so long seeing the world through the lens of men that we’ve normalized that point of view.

For instance, it’s completely socially acceptable for a man to not want to see a movie or TV show with a female lead, because they’re “not into that kind of thing.” But the opposite is almost never true.

RW: We don’t have compassion unless we see stories through other people’s eyes, and we need a broader range of storytellers. They have to be women, people of color, LGBTQ. The storytelling has got to be more balanced. I truly believe that art is the antidote. When you see something from another perspective, stand in another person’s shoes, that’s what creates empathy, in my experience.

OW: Reese, a speech of yours went viral a few years ago. You proclaimed that for women, “ambition is not a dirty word.” That felt like a call to arms. Why do you think your speech struck such a cord?

RW: A Columbia University study found that people considered an ambitious woman more selfish and less worthy of being hired than an ambitious man.

OW: Can you believe it?

RW: I thought, We need to start reframing this word ambition.

Because it isn’t about being selfish, it’s about wanting to create more and

do better for communities, schools, the world.

MK: It’s true. Ambitious, when applied to a woman, almost means ruthless.

Used for a man, it’s considered a great compliment. But if someone called me ambitious, it’d almost feel like shade.

OW: Right after your speech, somebody posted on Facebook, “I just want Reese Witherspoon sitting on my shoulder whispering ‘ambition’ into my ear for the rest of my life.”

RW: I got you. Whoever you are, I’ll be there.

MK: Women are supposed to be effortless all the time: “Effortlessly beautiful” is supposedly the best compliment. What’s wrong with effort?

OW: Especially when you’ve worked for two hours to look that way!

You’ve both had drive your whole lives. Have you noticed a shift in how people perceive that?

RW: I had this epiphany at 40: You know how NBA players are always talking about how great they are?

Why don’t women talk about how great they are all the time? LeBron James isn’t like, “Oh no, not me.” He’s like, “I’m LeBron James.”

OW: Because when women do that, they’re perceived as being too full of themselves.

RW: Well, forget it. I’m going to start wearing my Emmy for Big Little Lies like a necklace.

OW: Don’t stab yourself—those wings can hurt! So I found out that neither of you likes the word likable.

MK: To me, likable means likable to men. That’s something I want to not care about as much. I think relatable is important, though.

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Used for a man, it’s considered a great compliment.

But if someone called me ambitious, it’d almost feel like shade.”

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overwhelming. I’ve been in many boardrooms where I was the only woman, the only person of color.

There’s a wonderful poem by Maya Angelou where she says, “I come as one, but I stand as ten thousand.”

Before I’d walk into those rooms, I’d say that line to myself, because I feel the presence, the energy.

There’s a whole pack behind me.

MK: That’s so empowering.

OW: What’s the most difficult decision you’ve had to make to fulfill your destiny?

RW: For me, probably leaving an abusive relationship.

OW: What caused the decision? Was it a moment? And was it physical or verbal or both?

RW: Psychological, verbal, yeah.

I drew a line in the sand, and it got crossed, and my brain just switched.

I couldn’t go any further. I was really young, and it was profound.

OW: And that made all the difference.

RW: It changed who I was on a cellular level, the fact that I stood up for myself. It’s part of the reason I can stand up and say, “Yes, I’m ambitious.”

Because someone tried to take that from me.

MK: It’s so hard, because ultimately, people can only have agency if they have financial freedom. For me, bravery starts with having a nest egg.

Once I established that, I felt safe making decisions based on how I’m being treated rather than what I was forced to endure because I needed to stay in a situation.

OW: What’s so incredible is that we did this movie about warrior women who are bringing the light, and that’s exactly what this moment feels like, doesn’t it?

RW: Yes! Between this and Big Little Lies, I’m completely floored by the universe. I keep going, “Okay, I’m listening. I see what you’re doing with me.”

OW: The universe, God, the forces of life—they don’t make any mistakes.

The work you’ve been doing your entire lives has prepared you for this very moment. So let’s do it.

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LOOKING FLY Want to up your style this season? Don’t get dressed without “O’s Spring Fashion Look Book,” page 49.

Brooches, Simply Vera Vera Wang, $26 each; kohls.com.

(All prices are approximate.)

FRONT COVER On Oprah: Top, $46; skinnytees.com. Skirt, $1,625; brunellocucinelli .com. Earrings, Mahnaz Collection, $7,000; 212-717-1169. Ring (left), Roberto Demeglio, $6,480; neimanmarcus.com. Ring (right), Vhernier, $18,600; Madison Avenue, New York City, 646-343-9551. Pumps, $895; similar styles at Manolo Blahnik, New York City, 212-582-3007. On Mindy Kaling: Dress, Pietro Brunelli Milano, $140; apeainthepod.com.

Earrings, Effy; effyjewelry.com. On Reese Witherspoon: Dress, $1,530; davidkoma.co.uk.

Earrings and diamond ring, neillanejewelry.com.

Pearl ring, anitako.com.

INSIDE COVERS On Connie Britton: Earrings, Eye M by Ileana Makri, $1,685; eye-m-ileanamakri.com. Rings, $118 to $148 each; sarahchloe.com. Sneakers, $515; goldengoosedeluxebrand.com. On Yvette Nicole Brown: Earrings, $35; rjgraziano.com. On Sophia Bush: Necklace, $1,880; rockandgemsjewelry.com.

Ring, $85; jenny-bird.com.

HERE WE GO! PAGE 20 On Oprah: Sweater, Elizabeth and James, $325; bloomingdales.com.

Skirt, $720; rolandmouret.com. Earrings, Vram; vramjewelry.com. Ring (left), $6,072; rockandgemsjewelry.com. Ring (right), wendyyue.com. On Reese Witherspoon: Dress, Christian Dior; similar styles at Saks Fifth Avenue, Beverly Hills. Earrings, ireneneuwirth.com. Ring (left), Tiffany & Co.; tiffany.com. Ring (right), ireneneuwirth.com. On Mindy Kaling: Sweater, Neiman Marcus Cashmere Collection, $325; neimanmarcus.com. Earrings, Dana Rebecca, $1,815; marissacollections.com.

O’S SPRING FASHION LOOK BOOK PAGE 49 Left: Coat, Elizabeth and James, $595; net-a-porter.com. Top, $295; nikkichasin.com. Jeans, J Brand, $198; jbrandjeans.com. Bracelet, $128; toryburch.com. Slides, $50; lacoste.com. Center: Sweater, Design History, $108; designhistoryny.com.

Skirt, $119; vincecamuto.com. Earrings, Sachin & Babi, $295; sachinandbabi.com. Sandals, $345; francesvalentine.com. Right: Top, 1.State, $89;

nordstrom.com. Chinos, $80; talbots.com. Earrings, Elizabeth Cole, $308; elizabethcolejewelry.com.

Pumps, SJP by Sarah Jessica Parker, $350; saksfifthavenue.com. PAGE 53 “Go Like the Wind”: Necklaces, DKNY, $78 each; macys.com.

Sneakers, $576; goldengoosedeluxebrand.com.

“Pastel Combos”: Earrings, $490; vitafede.com.

Flatforms, Michael Michael Kors, $135; michaelkors.com. PAGE 55 “Arm Candy”: Party: Earrings, Elizabeth Cole, $167.50; elizabethcolejewelry.com. Sandals, Ash, $168; shopbop.com. Casual: Earrings, $35; jardinjewelry .com. Slides, Alchimia di Ballin, $495; barneys.com.

Business: Earrings, $45; rjgraziano.com. Kitten heels, Sigerson Morrison, $350; shopbop.com.

STYLE WITH SUBSTANCE PAGE 57 Rings (left), ireneneuwirth.com. Shoes, Manolo Blahnik, $745; bergdorfgoodman.com. PAGE 58 On Busy Philipps: Earrings, ireneneuwirth.com. On Yvette Nicole Brown: Earrings, $85; jenny-bird.com.

Shoes, Christian Louboutin, $1,795; Christian Louboutin, Beverly Hills, 310-247-9300. On Connie Britton: Necklaces, Eye M by Ileana Makri, $120 to $370 each; eye-m-ileanamakri.com.

Shoes, $495; francesvalentine.com. On Sophia Bush: Jeans, her own. Shoes, $755; pierrehardy .com. On Tanika Ray: Earrings, $35; rjgraziano.com.

Ring, $160; joomilim.com. Bracelet (top), $115; lizziefortunato.com. Bracelet (bottom), Eye M

by Ileana Makri, $550; eye-m-ileanamakri.com.

PAGE 59 Earrings, Bonheur, $102; bonheurjewelry.com. Sneakers, $65; vans.com.

IT’S ABOUT TIME PAGE 115 On Oprah: Sweater, Elizabeth and James, $325; bloomingdales.com. Earrings, Mish New York; 212-734-3500. Ring, $6,072; rockandgemsjewelry.com. On Reese Witherspoon: Dress, Christian Dior; similar styles at Saks Fifth Avenue, Beverly Hills. Earrings, ireneneuwirth.com.

Ring, Tiffany & Co.; tiffany.com. On Mindy Kaling: Sweater, Neiman Marcus Cashmere Collection, $325; neimanmarcus.com. Earrings, Dana Rebecca, $1,815; marissacollections.com.

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indeed become. Names and faces that everyone knew and could relate to were coming forward.

Now women in every part of the workforce can feel it.

It is, as they say, a reckoning.

A reckoning for men whose condescending, sexually laced comments about women have always been a form of bravado and swagger.

And for women who’ve tolerated varying degrees of misogynistic behavior for so long, we just accepted it as normal.

The normalization is over.

The power of #MeToo has allowed every woman to see that the struggle is not hers alone.

Our voices raised together can lead to systemic changes in the workplace and our culture.

We’re on the precipice of something larger than we know. A shift in the way we view ourselves. And the way the world views us.

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ONE OF US knew it would lead to this. The revelations about Harvey Weinstein’s assaultive, bullying behavior opened a floodgate.

So many things brought us to this moment. The courage of women who dared break their silence, and women like Rose McGowan and Ashley Judd who were finally heard.

The accusations against Bill Cosby and his subsequent trial. The harassment scandals at Fox News that led to the dismissal of Roger Ailes and Bill O’Reilly.

We’re in the middle of a sea change, a cultural shift. And it’s been a long time coming.

I remember so vividly being a young reporter in Baltimore in the mid-1970s—the constant harassment by a male superior and the certain knowledge that there was nothing I could do about it. I knew for sure that to report what was happening would have meant being labeled a “problem.” And the end of my career. So I kept silent, doing my best to avoid contact with my bully boss, a man with an apparent Napoleon complex.

I literally kept my head down whenever he passed.

Do I feel bad about this? No, I don’t. I feel smart.

I did what I needed to do to survive the times.

Now times have changed.

Thanks to the bold-faced bravery of so many women, the silence is shattered, and a torrent of courage is raging forward.

As the revelations about Harvey Weinstein unfolded, I believed that the power of celebrity would make this the seminal moment it has

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Triple THREAT We’re celebrating the muchanticipated film A Wrinkle in Time with our fearless leader and her costars Reese Witherspoon and Mindy Kaling!

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The leading ladies get in character— and enter a new dimension.

IT WAS NO EASY FEAT bringing to life A Wrinkle in Time’s intergalactic trio, who help a young heroine rescue her father and brother. Everything involved in creating the fantastical world of the three celestial guides— Mrs. Which (Oprah), Mrs. Whatsit (Reese), and Mrs. Who (Mindy)—reached epic proportions. Case in point: It took hundreds of pounds of hair to make the movie’s 50 wigs.

POISED AND POSED Photographer Ruven Afanador and hairstylist Laura LaRocca get Mindy, Oprah, and Reese in formation.

TO FEEL THE VIBE of this month’s cover shoot, think of a family reunion—then replace your favorite aunties with the three fierce, commanding women of A Wrinkle in Time. When the film’s stars got together, there was singing and there was dancing. And when Reese shimmied her shoulders to Michael Jackson’s “Don’t Stop ’Til You Get Enough,” Gayle King was all in. “All right, Reese,” Gayle hollered. “Work!” —HOLLY CARTER

BLONDE AMBITION Oprah and director Ava DuVernay (above) fun it up with two of the wigs designed by department head hairstylist Kim Kimble; Oprah as the sage Mrs. Which (right); makeup artist Derrick Rutledge snaps a selfie with Oprah and Kimble (below).

BIG PRIMPIN’ Mindy submits to a touch-up.

BRING THE BLING Oprah and O creative director Adam Glassman consider earring options.

PICTURE PERFECT On set, makeup that stays put is a must. Olay Regenerist Whip face moisturizer ($30; drugstores) is a superlightweight, hydrating formula that preps skin and creates a camera-ready matte finish.

NATURAL BEAUTY Makeup artist Molly Stern gives Reese a fresh-faced look.

BACKSTAGE PASS Oprah, Mindy, and Reese let their hair down (right); fabric swatches and mood boards (below) from costume designer Paco Delgado.

BIG KISS Reese’s key pieces: this trio of pretty Elizabeth Arden Beautiful Color Moisturizing Lipsticks ($25 each; elizabetharden.com).

WORK OF ART Kimble puts the finishing touches on Mindy’s sculptural coif.

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