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“‘When you wake up in the morning, Pooh,’ said Piglet at last, ‘what’s the first thing you say to yourself?’ ‘What’s for breakfast?’ said Pooh.’”

—A.A. MILNE, Winnie-the-Pooh

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I Found a Way to Make a Great Book Last #simplestor y

V E R S I N C E I could hold a book in my hands, I’ve been a passionate reader, and I love working at a magazine that fully leans into the pastime of reading. Around when I became editor here, I discovered the book that would be my favorite of 2019. It was long, though, and my life was unusually jam-packed.

But the novel was about trees—one of my favorite subjects. Funny thing, timing.

The Overstory by Richard Powers tells the stories of nine Americans who are drawn into deep and interesting relationships with trees. Each character arc is so distinct and powerful, and the writing is so beautiful, that I am gladly rationing myself a story a month because I don’t want the book to end.

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I’m a tree lover. Not in a botanist way but in a fangirl, look-at-the-interestingshapes way. In case you need proof: I bought my house because I fell in love with the gnarled, 100-year-old American elm in the front yard. (It’s a rare survivor of the Dutch elm disease that hit North America in the 1930s.) Just as my kids see the pediatrician and my pets visit the vet, my elm gets a regular check from tree doctors. I could—and sometimes do—go on and on about its majesty. I post pretty pictures of its many seasonal changes on Instagram.

As much as I love books, I don’t closely follow literary awards. Knowing that something was the Big Important Book can overpower my experience (or make it seem too high-brow). So I didn’t realize until later that The Overstory—which no fewer than 20 Instagram friends had recommended in the comments of my tree-loving posts—was the 2019 Pulitzer Prize winner for fiction.

Critics have called Powers the “best writer you’ve never heard of.” I’m doing my part to change that.

Already that Sunday, I’d spaced on feeding Milo, bought the wrong breakfast meat, and left my coat hanging in a salon. Then Olivia, 14, raced down the stairs and slid on her socks into the kitchen.

“Did you RSVP me to a party for Hannah?” my daughter asked.

“Oh, Olivia, I did. Weeks ago,” I said, shame rising inside me.

“And then I totally forgot to tell you anything about it. I’m so sorry.”

“It was yesterday,” she said, typing what I’m sure was a text to Hannah about how lame her mother was.

I went upstairs to shower, and— because this is how you sometimes communicate with teenage girls—I texted Olivia: “I’m really sorry, my love. I let you down.”

When I came out of the shower, there was her reply, with two pink hearts: “It’s OK, Mama. Accidents happen.”

Throughout my daughters’ childhood, “Accidents happen” was my go-to remark when I dropped a dish or they spilled the glitter.

I’d wanted to imprint on them a feeling of serenity in those moments, not anxiety.

Everybody makes mistakes, and Olivia was reminding me that moms get a pass too.

—@ L I Z VAC C A R I E L LO

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O N T H E C OV E R

Spinach and White Bean Dip Heat 1/4 cup olive oil with 1 clove crushed garlic in a small saucepan over medium until fragrant, 2 to 3 minutes; let cool. Combine garlic oil, 1 (15.5-oz.) can cannellini beans, 2 1/2 cups spinach, 1/4 cup fresh dill sprigs, and 1 Tbsp. lemon juice in a food processor.

Season with ¾ tsp. kosher salt and ¼ tsp. freshly ground black pepper and puree until smooth. Serve with crudités.

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Recipes with Fresh Flavors 28, 108, 126, 134, 136 When Clutter Requires Compromise

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Easy outfits to speed up your weekday mornings

#1 Trick to Looking Well Rested 50

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Citrus fruits brighten winter dishes

How decluttering keeps the peace at home

Eat for more energy—and a better mood

Cover Photograph by Greg DuPree Food St yling by Chelsea Zimmer Prop St yling by Claire Spollen

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Use chopsticks for much more than takeout

The best car deal for your family’s needs

Maximize your lashes and look wide-awake

Thoughts

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the realist

relating

balance

features

Editor’s Note

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An Easier Way to Clean the Tub

5 Ways to Make It Right (When You’ve Done Something Wrong) 55

Food for Thought, Happiness, and Harmony

Incompatible Clutter

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Your Words

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The Short List

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what we love A Get-Cozy Kit

Find the Perfect Towel How to shop for them, how to care for them

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How to buy a rug

Cooking School

Beauty buys to simplify your routine

Roasted vegetables 21

New Uses for Old Things

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Nail the at-home mani 24

Clever items that make every day better 26

Beauty Coach

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The Essential Dark-wash skinny jeans

The Staple

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Road Test: Beauty

Little Helpers

Steak sauce

Good Read

Real Simplifier

Pretty Smart

Chopsticks

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Long, lifted lashes

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Catherine Newman offers unstinting advice 62

Digital Decluttering Done Right FOMO-free strategies for spending time away from tech

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4 Key Steps to Take When You Get a Raise

Modern Manners

First you invest, then you celebrate

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Make exercise feel automatic

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The smartest move for your life stage

Your Main Squeeze Zest up meals with tangy citrus

One and Done

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food 5 Easy Dinners

126

Road Test: Food Snack bars 90

Smoky turkey chili

Tips to stay motivated on long-term projects 95

Better for You

Ahhh

132

Big Batch

Making It Work

Take a breather

108

Outfits that make getting dressed a cinch 116

The Healthiest Habit You Can Have

We Need Wheels: Should We Lease or Buy?

Pet Tricks Brush up on bath time

Organizing Challenge Stow all those purses and totes

After joining a New Orleans dance troupe, Katy Simpson Smith learns to love her body

What and when to eat to boost your mood

Opposites attract—and disagree about clutter.

Here’s how you can compromise 98

Roasted broccoli pesto pasta

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What song do you always turn to for comfort, and why?

“Put Your Records On” by Corinne Bailey Rae. It warms my heart and puts a smile on my face. @ I L I A N I TA _ DJ

# R S L OV E “ I R E A L LY LOV E D T H I S PU M P K I N S P I C E P O U N D CA K E . WAS N ’ T SU R E H OW I T WO U L D T U R N O U T, BU T I T WAS T H E B O M B ! ” @AW KWA R D _ C H I C K E N

Norah Jones’s “Come Away with Me.” I listened to the song during a really difficult time in my life to help me sleep.

Now, 12 years later, it instantly makes me relax.

MELISSA MILLER, MIDDLEVILLE, MICHIGAN

“As” and “Don’t You Worry ’Bout a Thing” by Stevie Wonder. They’ll always remind me of my mother and make me want to dance, even on the hardest days. @LITA_MARISSA

“Here Comes the Sun” by the Beatles. When I was growing up, my dad always told me, “The only good thing about a bad day is that the next day will be better.”

LISA GRILLI, SANTA CLARA, CALIFORNIA

Any oldies song, but especially “Take It Easy” by the Eagles and “Only the Good Die Young” by Billy Joel.

I would listen to them on the radio with my dad. He passed away two years ago, and whenever I hear them randomly, I like to think it’s Dad checking in on me.

JULIA GOODWIN, PLANO, TEXAS

John Denver’s “Take Me Home, Country Roads” because it reminds me of home.

“All Too Well” by Taylor Swift. This song just feels like a tight hug from a good friend, probably because of the way Taylor sings it. @_VCONVERSE

“Strawberry Wine”

by Deana Carter.

It was my grandfather’s favorite song. I always loved how such a tough, manly man could love such a sweet, sentimental song.

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“Still the One” by Orleans.

My husband and I are 41 years married and going strong! @ J B E AV E R 529

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“Sir Duke” by Stevie Wonder.

I mean, how can you not be in a better mood after listening to this song? So. Good. @PANCAKES. AT.NIGHT

“Let It Be” by the Beatles. The words are so calming that no matter what might be upsetting me, they put everything in perspective.

CAROL HASKINS, SOUTHWICK, MASSACHUSETTS

Billy Joel’s “Just the Way You Are.” It reminds me that the people who truly love and appreciate me do so because of who I am, flaws and all, and I should embrace others that way as well. @BLERNIELEE

Johnny Mathis’s “All the Time.”

It played as I walked down the aisle. We used the lyrics as our wedding vows.

Now, almost 50 years later, whenever I hear it, I fall in love again.

MARE HARE, MARINETTE, WISCONSIN

“Into the Mystic”

by Van Morrison came out the year I was born, and something about it heals my soul. @7JINXY

“Creature Fear” by Bon Iver. My husband and I listened to it on our second date, and I knew he was my person.

Gloria Gaynor’s “I Will Survive.”

My husband of 23 years passed away unexpectedly, and I had a son in college.

To get through those hard times, I would always play this song. I still play it when I need to, 18 years later. It truly got me through!

SANDRA SZULKOWSKI, NAPERVILLE, ILLINOIS

“Stand by Me” by Ben E. King reminds me of my best friend.

We grew up singing it to each other, and we still text if one of us hears it. @WINKS_26

“Good Riddance (Time of Your Life)”

by Green Day. It reminds me to appreciate the good times of the past and the opportunities that lie ahead.

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What song do you always turn to for comfort, and why?

“Dreams” by Fleetwood Mac. It reminds me of my parents.

What’s your pet’s name?

My dog is Sybbie, short for Sybill.

What do you really call her?

Monkey or Monkey Potato!

Most organized part of your life: My calendar. Calendar invites are my love language.

Least organized part: My snack drawer.

Home is…

Where my original copies of Harry Potter are.

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P H O T O C O U R T E S Y O F S U B J E C T;

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“My Girl” by the Temptations always lifts my spirits.

As soon as I hear those opening chords, I can’t help but smile.

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The Short List

5 New Books You’ll Love T O P P I C K S F O R E V E RY T A S T E

By Elizabeth Sile

Juicy read

Moving memoir After her wealthy industrialist father died, Ariana Neumann found a small box of his letters and papers, including his boyhood photo ID—printed with a name she didn’t recognize. In her evocative memoir, When Time Stopped, Neumann discovers her Jewish roots and pieces together the incredible, heartbreaking family history her father never told her.

Time-travel novel

Biographies of our founding fathers are mostly written by men, for men, Alexis Coe points out in You Never Forget Your First. Her cheeky, engaging biography of George Washington dispels popular myths (no, he didn’t free his slaves) and examines previous historians’ gender bias, particularly when it came to Washington’s wife and mother.

On the eve of her 19th birthday in 1982, Oona watches the clock hit midnight— and confusedly comes to as her future 51-yearold self. From then on, every birthday, she randomly ping-pongs to another year of her life.

Margarita Montimore’s Oona Out of Order is a touching novel that keeps readers guessing where Oona’s choices will take her.

Conversation starter Clare Pooley’s heartwarming novel, The Authenticity Project, asks how we might live if we had no fear.

One day, aging artist Julian jots some secrets in a notebook and leaves it for a stranger to find.

Monica picks it up and is inspired to write down her own—and find Julian. As the notebook changes hands, it changes the people who reveal themselves in it.

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Kathleen West’s Minor Dramas & Other Catastrophes is a page-turning romp about competitive parenting and how easily scandals blow up online and IRL. Helicopter mom Julia is all too eager to score an invite to a private Facebook group for high school parents and pile on a teacher accused of pushing a political agenda. But soon— inevitably and hilariously—that same group comes for her.

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Mix a few cocktails using this sleek, color-block tool set. TO BUY: Nolita Cocktail Set, $100; katespade.com.

7 SEEING DOUBLE

Cheese dips have never looked as classy as they do in this heat-safe, split serving dish. TO BUY: Oven-to-Table Two-Part Dish Set, $25; crateandbarrel.com.

8 NIGHTC AP

With 300 trivia cards in six categories, this game will entertain guests for hours.

TO BUY: Ginger Fox After Dinner Trivia Tin, $20; wholeearthprovision.com.

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Bloomeffects Royal Tulip Nectar Tulips have a superpower: They can hold their weight in water. So it stands to reason that tulip complex is the key ingredient in this skin-quenching ointment-to-serum formula. Use it on your face or apply to dry spots on hands and elbows.

TO BUY: $65; bloomeffects.com.

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Choose from a selection of cool metallic colors.

GENIUS FLOSS

Quip Metal Refillable Floss The elegant little dispenser adds some much-needed glamour to flossing.

The string is marked so you can cut the dentist-recommended 18 inches without guesswork. TO BUY: $20; getquip.com.

EYE POPPER

IT Cosmetics Confidence in Your Beauty Sleep Night Cream Your skin’s cell turnover peaks at night— and this bouncy, moisture-boosting cream is right there to help it along, with skin-plumping hyaluronic acid and line-minimizing adenosine. TO BUY: $54; itcosmetics.com.

E C O PA C K A G I N G

Victoria Beckham Beauty Smoky Eye Brick in Signature The smooth gradation of four ultra-flattering neutral shadows looks beautiful on lids, but the plastic-free compact really sold us.

TO BUY: $54; victoria beckhambeauty.com.

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Popsockets Popgrip Lips So Vanilla Never rummage for your lip balm again!

Stick this onto the back of your phone to always have the vitamin E salve handy. TO BUY: $15; popsockets.com.

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Maybelline New York The Falsies Lash Lift Mascara In the salon, a pricey lash lift treatment curls and volumizes what nature gave you.

This tube does the same for a fraction of the cost. TO BUY: $9; amazon.com.

H A I R R E PA I R

L’Oréal Paris Elvive 8 Second Wonder Water This is the express route to repairing damaged hair: Shampoo, apply this liquid, and rinse after just eight seconds.

TO BUY: $10; at drugstores.

F RO M L E A F T O L AT H E R

AOA Studio Soap Sheets Pack this pod in your bag and it won’t be a problem when there’s no soap in the ladies’ room. Just slip out a leaf, add water, and let the antibacterial cleansing begin.

TO BUY: $1 for 35; shopmissa.com.

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New Uses for Old Things

Chopsticks REPURP OSE YOUR SURPLUS. THE SE HACKS WILL BE HELPFUL LO N G A F T E R T H E TA K EO U T A R R I V E S.

By Brandi Broxson

T OA S T E R T O N G S

H A M B U RG E R HELPER

Before freezing ground beef, flatten it in a ziplock bag and carve out portions with a chopstick.

Rather than defrosting all of it, just break off what you need.

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TRIVET

When your buffet has more casseroles than your kitchen has hot pads, place a pan on three chopsticks spaced two inches apart.

B A G - D RY I N G R A C K

Drape a just-washed plastic or silicone bag over two crisscrossed chopsticks in a cup.

No more fused-shut or permanently soggy snack bags!

P R O P S T Y L I N G B Y M I A K O K AT O H

Pluck bagels or toast with a quick pinch and save your fingers from being singed. Wood doesn’t conduct electricity, so chopsticks (as long as they aren’t wet) are safer than metal utensils.

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SNEAKER LIGHTS

These weatherproof safety lights help you glow—and go—in the dark: They hold tight to shoes whether you’re running, biking, or walking. Choose a steady or flash setting. TO BUY: 4id PowerSpurz, $17; thegrommet.com.

E A S Y- P O U R PA I N T

Little Helpers S I X S M A RT P RO D U C T S

S P R AYA B L E S Y RU P

TO M A K E YO U R L I F E E A S I E R

Maple syrup can cost more than $30 a gallon. Of course you don’t want your kid pouring it all over their plate.

This sprays a perfect portion of organic syrup—no mess, no waste. TO BUY: Coombs Family Farms Maple Stream, $8; amazon.com.

By Brandi Broxson

T WO-IN-ONE H A N D WA R M E R

This wonder warms your mitts for up to nine hours. Even better, it charges USB-compatible devices, like smartphones and tablets. TO BUY: Zippo HeatBank 9s, $50; zippo.com.

PET STAINS, BEGONE

S PA C E - S AV I N G T OA S T E R OV E N

This 1,800-watt multitasker toasts, bakes, air-fries, and dehydrates—then flips on its side to save valuable counter space. TO BUY: Ninja Foodi Digital Air Fry Oven, $229; ninjakitchen.com.

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This carpet cleaner dispenses an oxypowered foam that’s tough on spots and odors. The brush top goes above and beyond to nix stains.

TO BUY: Carbona 2-in-1 Oxy-Powered Pet Stain & Odor Remover, $7; carbona.com.

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No more dribbles and drips. This clever can has a built-in spout for a clean pour. If you want to dip your brush directly in the paint, just remove the recyclable lid. TO BUY: Behr Simple Pour, from $41 per gallon; at the Home Depot.

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BEST LIFE

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Quick Ideas 1 TA N GY B B Q S H R I M P

The Staple

Steak Sauce Sure, we’ll run a bite of London broil through a pool of steak sauce any day, but this condiment— a surprisingly tasty mixture of tomatoes, raisins, orange puree, garlic, and more—deepens the flavor of so many other dishes. Add it to New Orleans–style BBQ shrimp to create umami-packed boldness, or cook it with caramelized onions to make a dip no one will be able to resist. And when you do want beef, stir a few glugs into a soy marinade for a Korean bibimbap any steak fan will love.

Melt 5 Tbsp. unsalted butter in a large skillet over medium-high. Add 1 1/2 lb. large peeled shrimp, 1 cup halved cherry tomatoes, 1/4 cup steak sauce, 3 Tbsp. lemon juice, 1 Tbsp. Creole seasoning, and 5 chopped scallions. Cook, stirring often, until shrimp are opaque and sauce thickens, 4 to 5 minutes. Serve with crusty bread and lemon wedges.

2 DEEP LY C AR AM ELIZED ONION DIP

Heat 1 Tbsp. canola oil in a large skillet over mediumlow. Cook 6 cups chopped yellow onions and 1 tsp. salt, stirring often, until browned, 40 minutes. Stir in 1/4 cup steak sauce and cook until thickened, 4 to 5 minutes.

Let cool. Transfer to a bowl; stir in 1 1/4 cups sour cream and 1 tsp. black pepper.

Top with chopped chives.

Serve with potato chips.

Mix 1 lb. thinly sliced flank steak, 1/4 cup each steak sauce and soy sauce, 2 Tbsp. brown sugar, 1 Tbsp. rice vinegar, and 2 tsp. grated ginger in a bowl. Let stand 30 minutes. Heat 1 Tbsp. canola oil in a large skillet over medium-high. Cook steak for 5 minutes. Serve with rice, fried eggs, wilted spinach, matchstick carrots, and kimchi.

By Adina Steiman Recipes by Robin Bashinsky

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Photograph by Corey Olsen

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FIN A LLY, A N E A S IE R WAY TO CLE A N TH E TU B The old-school, hands-and-knees method is such a pain.

Luckily, there’s a tool that makes scrubbing easier on your body, and best of all, you probably already own it. A clean angle broom with synthetic bristles is the secret weapon in this hack from Jill Nystul, creator of the blog One Good Thing by Jillee.

First splash warm water around the tub, using a cup or handheld showerhead. Then pour about a quarter cup of dish soap (Nystul likes Dawn) over the surface in streaks. Next, while standing outside the tub, scrub away soap scum and other buildup with the broom. If the tub is especially grimy, combine equal parts vinegar and dish soap in a glass measuring cup and microwave until hot (about 30 seconds), then stir. Pour the solution all over the tub, let it sit for 30 minutes, and sweep. Both methods create a good lather—rinse thoroughly with cold water, which chases suds faster than warm water, Nystul says.

P R O P ST Y L I N G BY G L E N P R O E BST E L

By Leslie Corona

Photograph by Johnny Miller

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Find the Perfect Towel S O A K U P E V E RY T H I N G Y O U N E E D T O K N O W A B O U T B U Y I N G A N D C A R I N G F O R T H E S E H O U S E H O L D STA P L E S.

S O F T ST Y L I N G BY M A I T R A N

By Leslie Corona

Photographs by Br yan Gardner

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Thea Towel, $24; bonton-studio.com.

TO BUY:

Thirst Things First Pick your weave, which affects how absorbent the towel is and how fast it dries.

I f yo u want a luxe s p a lo o k…

H O N E YC O M B O R WA F F L E W E AV E

If you want som ething i ncre dibl y fl uf f y…

T E R RY C L O T H This fabric is a weave of tiny loops of thread. These little twists are what makes terry towels so absorbent, because each one creates more surface area to drink up water. A fluffy towel like this, though, is slower to dry than thinner options. For the most absorbency, get ones that are 100 percent cotton, or opt for a blend with at least 50 percent cotton.

Plush Egyptian Cotton & Bamboo Bath Towel, $39; garnethill.com.

TO BUY:

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If you want some thing li ght weight and quick- dr yin g…

TURKISH TOWEL This extremely thin bath sheet (a.k.a. fouta) has a tight weave, which means the fabric may be a little less absorbent than other styles.

But it’s lightweight and durable, and it dries quickly.

These towels are perfect for vacation: They take up minimal space in bags, can double as blankets on chilly plane trips, and dry quickly when spread out in a hot car after a beach day.

Feels like a spa treatment but costs way less!

These towels have a variegated surface that offers an invigorating after-shower rubdown. They dry efficiently, thanks to a puckered texture allowing for airflow. That said, their gift is their curse: In the dryer, the towels are prone to shrinkage, which can cause the edges to ripple. Avoid washing in hot water, and line-dry or dry on low heat.

TO BUY: Waffle Bath Towel, $39; parachutehome.com.

Location, Location, Location Where you plan to stash your towel should determine the material you choose.

B amb o o C ot ton

B E ST T O K E E P

BY YO U R T U B Cotton towels, especially if they’re terry cloth, are sturdy, soft, and absorbent. Plus, they are incredibly easy to care for. Towels made of “long staple” cotton, like Egyptian and pima, are softer and have a longer lifespan than regular cotton.

G O O D T O K N O W: Cotton fibers may wear down and fray more quickly and dry more slowly than synthetic varieties.

Low-Pi le Mi crofi b er

B E ST F O R T H E GY M B AG Synthetic microfiber is usually made from nylon, rayon, or polyester. It is lightweight, quick-drying, and—drumroll— can sometimes be antimicrobial, making it ideal for sweaty locales. Bring it to hot yoga or drape it over your bike’s handles at spin class.

G O O D T O K N O W: Synthetic fibers aren’t super absorbent, but they can last longer than natural fibers.

B E ST F O R B AT H RO O M S WITH LIMITED V E N T I L AT I O N These fibers can be antimicrobial, which may help prevent them from smelling musty.

G O O D T O K N O W: Bamboo fabric is technically considered rayon because of the way it’s processed; you may see that on the label instead.

Bamboo towels are often a mix of linen or cotton. Bamboo grows like a weed, so it has an eco-friendly halo, but turning it into fabric involves a lot of processing. Look for a certification like Oeko-Tex, GOTS, or C2C on the label.

TO BUY: Orkney Linen Hand Towel, $40; roughlinen.com.

Li ne n

B E ST F O R T H E P O W D E R RO O M Made from the flax plant, linen is more absorbent than cotton and often used for hand towels. Decorative embroidery and trim look especially nice on this thin fabric. Linen towels feel a little rough when brand-new, but they soften the more they’re washed.

G O O D T O K N O W: Linen wrinkles easily. Lean into it: Put away that iron and embrace the casual look.

TO BUY: Air Weight Organic Cotton Bath Towel, $48; coyuchi.com.

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10 Commandments of Towel Care When you take good care of your towels, they should remain thirsty and plush for years. Follow these tips to keep them in the best shape.

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Be careful with your body care routine.

Skip the fabric softener.

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If you use benzoyl peroxide creams or a whitening toothpaste, know that these could cause discoloration.

Set aside special washcloths to use exclusively with these ingredients.

(Some towels are marketed as stain-resistant, but they are not always effective.)

Spread to dry.

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Wash immediately.

As soon as you bring home new towels, toss them into the wash to remove any chemicals manufacturers may have used to make them look fluffy and feel soft in the store. This can also help reduce lint.

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Give them a deep clean.

If your towels begin to feel stiff or less absorbent, add vinegar or borax to your machine every few washes to refresh them and remove detergent residue.

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Don’t overdo the detergent.

Launder towels after a few uses in warm water with mild soap. For a full load in a high-efficiency machine, add no more than two tablespoons of detergent. Any more might cause a buildup that limits absorbency.

Shake out towels before drying.

If you throw them into the machine all bunched up, they may take longer to dry and could retain stubborn creases.

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Dry on low heat.

To prevent overheating— which can tighten the fibers, making them stiffer and less absorbent—dry towels together on the low setting.

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After your shower or bath, hang your towel across a bar or shower rod so it can dry fully. This will help prevent bacterial growth and extend the time between washes. Avoid using hooks, which can cause moisture to get trapped within the fabric’s folds.

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Keep two per person.

Have at least two bath towels for each person in your household. When one is in the wash, the other can be in the bathroom. Keep four hand towels per person, since they’re used (and therefore washed) more frequently.

Use bleach sparingly.

It’s great for getting stains out of white towels, but frequent use will break down fibers and shorten their lifespan.

O U R E X P E RT S INGRID JOHNSON, PROFESSOR OF TEXTILE DEVELOPMENT AND MARKETING AT THE FASHION INSTITUTE OF TECHNOLOGY FRANCES HOLMES KOZEN, DIRECTOR OF UNDERGRADUATE STUDIES IN FIBER SCIENCE AND APPAREL DESIGN AT CORNELL UNIVERSITY KERRI McBEE-BLACK, INSTRUCTOR IN THE DEPARTMENT OF TEXTILE AND APPAREL MANAGEMENT AT THE UNIVERSITY OF MISSOURI COLLEEN MISTRY, PRODUCT LINE DIRECTOR OF MATOUK, A LINEN COMPANY LAUREL SINGLE, PRODUCT DEVELOPMENT MANAGER OF TOWELS AT THE COMPANY STORE

P E T E R A R D I TO

It coats the fibers with a slick residue and inhibits water absorption. Instead, use wool dryer balls to increase air circulation and help fluff fibers.

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How to Buy a Rug C O L O R S A N D PA T T E R N S A N D M A T E R I A L S , O H M Y !

T H E S E F I V E E X P E R T T I P S W I L L F L O O R Y O U.

By Kathleen Murray Harris

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PICK A T YPE

LO O K C LO S E LY

M A I N TA I N I T

For a living space, you’ll typically choose a 5-by-8, 8-by-10, or 9-by-12 rug, says Bill Ward, a carpet expert in New York City.

The room’s layout should inform your decision: If furniture is against the wall, you can get away with a smaller rug that runs just under the front legs. If furniture is floating in a big space, pick a larger rug and position it two feet from the walls.

When in doubt, go for the bigger size. “People often buy rugs that are too small, because they’re cheaper,” says Erin Gates, a Bostonbased designer and the author of Elements of Style. But there’s a better cost-saving trick: Buy a larger natural rug, like sisal or seagrass, and layer a smaller “wow” rug on top.

Start with color. “Color is the first thing you see and the last thing you remember,” Ward says.

Establish what the boldest element in the room will be: the rug, the walls, or the furniture. Next, pinpoint your style. Do you want a natural look or a dark, intricate pattern? You also want to figure out if you like trendy (Moroccan shag), edgy (overdyed), graphic (casual), or antique (Oriental). Look online to get a sense of styles and patterns. And don’t be afraid to take a risk, Gates says. If your decor tilts traditional, a more modern rug will mix it up.

Choose a material based on your budget, yes, but also on your lifestyle and how much durability you need. For handmade products, wool and silk are considered the best because they’re longlasting and cleanable.

A natural fiber, like seagrass or sisal, looks great but can be harder to clean once stained, so you probably won’t want it for your dining room or anywhere you entertain a lot. Synthetic fibers, like nylon, are improving in quality, Ward says, but check the full material list to make sure there’s no viscose, which even water can stain. If you have an active family, Gates recommends a flat-weave wool rug—it’s affordable and durable.

If possible, examine the rug in person and bring a swatch card with the room’s paint color to compare the contrast.

Also, slip off your shoes and feel the rug’s texture underfoot, Gates says.

If you’re shopping online, request multiple photo angles, especially for pricier styles, like handknotted. (To confirm that a rug is hand-knotted, look at the reverse side; if there’s a backing, it’s hand-tufted or handloomed, a more affordable option.) Zoom in on the angled corner shot.

“This gives the best idea of what the colors look like in real life,” says Chelsea M. Conrad, a designer in New York City. And double-check the return policy, just in case.

Invest in a rug pad. It not only keeps the rug in place but also minimizes wear patterns and makes your vacuum more efficient. Get one with a felt top and rubber backing, Ward says. Keeping your rug clean will also lengthen its life. Your cleaning routine will depend on the material, but vacuuming every two weeks should suffice, Ward says. To tackle stains, resist putting any moisture on the rug, and never rub the spot—blot it instead. For cleaning, Ward suggests Capture Carpet Dry Cleaning Powder ($16 for 21/2 lb.; amazon.com), which is safe for most fibers and fabrics. Just sprinkle it on, brush, and vacuum it off. Rotate rugs once a year, especially in areas that get high traffic or heavy sunlight.

Take a look at our favorite places to buy rugs online at realsimple.com/rugshopping.

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Roast Your Vegetables T H E T A S T I E S T W AY T O C L E A R O U T T H E P R O D U C E D R A W E R I S T O P U L L O U T T H O S E B A K I N G S H E E T S A N D P R E H E AT T H E OV E N .

By Adina Steiman

PREP

SEASON

ROA S T + F I N I S H

vegetables into similarly sized pieces (we like 1 or 2 inches) so they all cook evenly. For long, skinny veggies (carrots, sweet potatoes), cut in half lengthwise, then chop into smaller pieces.

every 2 pounds of produce, use 2 tablespoons olive oil, 1 teaspoon kosher salt, and ½ teaspoon freshly ground black pepper.

PREHEAT

CUT

FOR

PEEL

SKIP the mixing bowl— instead, add flavorings and fat to your veggies on a rimmed baking sheet, then toss to combine.

florets off heads of cauliflower and broccoli, then cut each floret in half through its stem.

BOOST flavor by adding smashed garlic cloves, sprigs of hardy herbs (like thyme or rosemary), and/or 1 teaspoon of a ground spice blend, like chili powder, garam masala, or za’atar.

hard squash and pumpkins, if desired, then use a large chef’s knife to cut them in half. Scoop out seeds before slicing.

SLICE

oven to 425°F and set racks in upper and lower thirds of oven so you can roast a double batch (or vegetables with different roasting times on separate trays; see right). baking sheets with parchment for gentler browning and easier cleanup. For maximum browning, nix the parchment and place the vegetables cut side down on the baking sheet.

LINE

roasted veggies with squeezed citrus, shaved cheese, or chopped fresh herbs. Then serve them in salad, alongside meat or fish, in a grain bowl, or pureed into pesto or soup.

FINISH

TRY THE SE COM B OS Cook Them Quickly FO R 15 TO 30 M I N U T E S

• Zucchini + red bell pepper • Green beans + mushrooms • Asparagus + cherry tomatoes

Cook Them Slowly FO R 30 TO 6 0 M I N U T E S

• Carrots + parsnips • Brussels sprouts + butternut squash • Cauliflower + red onion

M O R E F RO M O U R K I T C H E N Find videos, lessons, shortcuts, and strategies to help you get dinner (and breakfast, and lunch, and dessert) on the table with ease at realsimple.com/cookingschool.

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ECZEMA: UNDER CONTROL.

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Brief Summary of Important Patient Information about DUPIXENT® (dupilumab) Rx Only (DU-pix’-ent) injection, for subcutaneous use What is DUPIXENT? • DUPIXENT is a prescription medicine used: – to treat people aged 12 years and older with moderate-to-severe atopic dermatitis (eczema) that is not well controlled with prescription therapies used on the skin (topical), or who cannot use topical therapies. DUPIXENT can be used with or without topical corticosteroids.

• DUPIXENT works by blocking two proteins that contribute to a type of inflammation that plays a major role in atopic dermatitis.

• It is not known if DUPIXENT is safe and effective in children with atopic dermatitis under 12 years of age.

Who should not use DUPIXENT? Do not use DUPIXENT if you are allergic to dupilumab or to any of the ingredients in DUPIXENT. See the end of this summary of information for a complete list of ingredients in DUPIXENT. What should I tell my healthcare provider before using DUPIXENT? Before using DUPIXENT, tell your healthcare provider about all your medical conditions, including if you: • have eye problems • have a parasitic (helminth) infection • are taking oral, topical, or inhaled corticosteroid medicines. Do not stop taking your corticosteroid medicines unless instructed by your healthcare provider. This may cause other symptoms that were controlled by the corticosteroid medicine to come back.

• are scheduled to receive any vaccinations. You should not receive a “live vaccine” if you are treated with DUPIXENT. • are pregnant or plan to become pregnant. It is not known whether DUPIXENT will harm your unborn baby.

Pregnancy Registry. There is a pregnancy registry for women who take DUPIXENT during pregnancy. The purpose of this registry is to collect information about your health and your baby’s health. You can talk to your healthcare provider or contact 1-877-311-8972 or go to https://mothertobaby.org/ongoing-study/ dupixent/ to enroll in this registry or get more information.

• are breastfeeding or plan to breastfeed. It is not known whether DUPIXENT passes into your breast milk.

Tell your healthcare provider about all of the medicines you take including prescription and over-the-counter medicines, vitamins, and herbal supplements.

If you have asthma and are taking asthma medicines, do not change or stop your asthma medicine without talking to your healthcare provider.

How should I use DUPIXENT? • See the detailed “Instructions for Use” that comes with DUPIXENT for information on how to prepare and inject DUPIXENT and how to properly store and throw away (dispose of) used DUPIXENT pre-filled syringes.

• Use DUPIXENT exactly as prescribed by your healthcare provider.

• DUPIXENT comes as a single-dose pre-filled syringe with needle shield.

• DUPIXENT is given as an injection under the skin (subcutaneous injection).

• If your healthcare provider decides that you or a caregiver can give the injections of DUPIXENT, you or your caregiver should receive training on the right way to prepare and inject DUPIXENT. Do not try to inject DUPIXENT until you have been shown the right way by your healthcare provider. In children 12 years of age and older, it is recommended that DUPIXENT be administered by or under supervision of an adult.

• If you miss a dose of DUPIXENT, give the injection within 7 days from the missed dose, then continue with the original schedule. If the missed dose is not given within 7 days, wait until the next scheduled dose to give your DUPIXENT injection.

• If you inject more DUPIXENT than prescribed, call your healthcare provider right away.

• Your healthcare provider may prescribe other medicines to use with DUPIXENT. Use the other prescribed medicines exactly as your healthcare provider tells you to.

What are the possible side effects of DUPIXENT? DUPIXENT can cause serious side effects, including: • Allergic reactions (hypersensitivity), including a severe reaction known as anaphylaxis. Stop using DUPIXENT and tell your healthcare provider or get emergency help right away if you get any of the following symptoms: breathing problems, fever, general ill feeling, swollen lymph nodes, swelling of the face, mouth and tongue, hives, itching, fainting, dizziness, feeling lightheaded (low blood pressure), joint pain, or skin rash.

• Eye problems. Tell your healthcare provider if you have any new or worsening eye problems, including eye pain or changes in vision.

The most common side effects of DUPIXENT include: injection site reactions, eye and eyelid inflammation, including redness, swelling and itching, and cold sores in your mouth or on your lips. Eye and eyelid inflammation, including redness, swelling and itching have been seen in patients who have atopic dermatitis. Tell your healthcare provider if you have any side effect that bothers you or that does not go away.

These are not all of the possible side effects of DUPIXENT. Call your doctor for medical advice about side effects. You may report side effects to FDA. Visit www.fda.gov/medwatch, or call 1-800-FDA-1088.

General information about the safe and effective use of DUPIXENT. Medicines are sometimes prescribed for purposes other than those listed in a Patient Information leaflet. Do not use DUPIXENT for a condition for which it was not prescribed. Do not give DUPIXENT to other people, even if they have the same symptoms that you have. It may harm them.

This is a summary of the most important information about DUPIXENT for this use.

If you would like more information, talk with your healthcare provider. You can ask your pharmacist or healthcare provider for more information about DUPIXENT that is written for healthcare professionals.

For more information about DUPIXENT, go to www.DUPIXENT.com or call 1-844-DUPIXENT (1-844-387-4936) What are the ingredients in DUPIXENT? Active ingredient: dupilumab Inactive ingredients: L-arginine hydrochloride, L-histidine, polysorbate 80, sodium acetate, sucrose, and water for injection Manufactured by: Regeneron Pharmaceuticals, Inc., Tarrytown, NY 10591 U.S. License # 1760; Marketed by sanofi-aventis U.S. LLC, (Bridgewater, NJ 08807) and Regeneron Pharmaceuticals, Inc. (Tarrytown, NY 10591) DUPIXENT is a registered trademark of Sanofi Biotechnology / ©2019 Regeneron Pharmaceuticals, Inc. / sanofi-aventis U.S. LLC. All rights reserved.

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HEATHER MUIR

Beauty Director, Real Simple

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When weekend errands run right into a date with friends for hot toddies, go with a sweatshirt and statement sneakers. And add a fitted puffer vest and a chic backpack to take the look to the polished-andpresentable place. TO BUY: Women’s L/S Relaxed Sweatshirt, $155; sunspel.com.

AE Puffer Vest, $60; ae.com. Kaya Laptop Backpack, $105; calpaktravel.com.

Maddox Jogger, $199; kennethcole.com.

The coat has the warmth of a bulky sweater but looks much more professional, especially when wrapped with a contrasting neutral belt. TO BUY: Relaxed Classic Shirt, $25; oldnavy.com. Double-Face Wool Coat, $229; bananarepublic.com.

Gold Necklace, $118; jcrew.com. ADA Class Wrap Belt, $79; dillards.com. Beck Leather Tote, $278; vincecamuto.com.

Utah Booties, $140; chineselaundry.com.

Lean in—gently—to the denim-on-denim trend with a slim, light-wash jean jacket worn as a shirt. Accessorize to bring pops of color. TO BUY: Rosa Denim Jacket, $118; us.mavi.com. Wrap Around Hoop Earrings, $24; mulberry-grand.com. Barbados Cherry Painterly Floral Short Skinny Scarf, $45; chanluu.com. Small Jackie Boarskin, $268; francesvalentine.com. Block Heel Pump, $138; anntaylor.com.

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Maxed-Out Lashes L O N G , F U L L L A S H E S A R E L I K E R AY S O F L I G H T A R O U N D Y O U R E Y E S — A N D H E L P Y O U FA K E A G O O D N I G H T ’ S S L E E P. G E T T H E M I N T H R E E E A S Y M O V E S .

By Heather Muir Maffei

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Curling your lashes helps them stay fluttery all day. Carefully clamp them at the base with an eyelash curler (we like Tweezerman ProCurl Lash Curler, $22; tweezerman.com).

Hold for 30 seconds while gently tilting your wrist upward. If you have stubbornly straight lashes, first heat the curler with a blow-dryer for about 10 seconds.

Holding the mascara wand horizontally, wiggle the brush at the lash roots and sweep upward to the tips. Repeat.

Then hold the wand vertically and use a windshield-wiper motion to separate clumps. L’Oréal Paris Unlimited Lash Lifting and Lengthening Mascara ($13; loreal parisusa.com) has a bendable neck to target inner corners.

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To add oomph, apply a primer. It nourishes lashes to prevent brittleness, lengthens, and amps up volume. Marc Jacobs Beauty Velvet Primer ($26; sephora.com) goes on beige so you never miss a spot.

Tip: Wear the primer on its own as an overnight moisturizing treatment.

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Organizing Challenge

Stow Your Purses and Totes TIRED OF CR AMMING PURSES INTO A BL ACK HOLE I N Y O U R C L O S E T O R K E E P I N G T H E M I N A P I L E I N T H E E N T RY WAY ?

T RY O N E O F T H E S E S M A R T S T O R A G E S T R A T E G I E S .

By Leslie Corona

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We know—hanging saves space and keeps bags within reach. But narrow hooks can damage the straps or cause creases over time. If you want to hang your bags, opt for wide hooks.

InterDesign Zia Over-the-Door Closet Organizer, $10; amazon.com.

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TO BUY:

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Get Even Simpler 2 C O R R A L C LU TC H E S

Instead of nesting your small evening bags inside a larger one (and—let’s be honest—forgetting they exist), “file” them in a letter sorter. The perforated or mesh metal types could snag beads or other detailing on bags, so go for a smooth acrylic model. This also lets you see which bag you’re reaching for.

Acrylic Mini Collator, $18; russellandhazel.com.

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M Y 3 - B A G S T R AT E GY Courtney Carver, author of the forthcoming Project 333: The Minimalist Fashion Challenge That Proves Less Really Is So Much More, has just three bags, total: TOT E B A G W I T H Z I P P E R

“For work and travel, I use a tote that’s big enough to fit my laptop and also functions as a carry-on for weekend getaways.

It’s black, I can take it anywhere, and it looks presentable because wear and tear doesn’t show. I clean it out every night, and this prevents the inside from getting cluttered.”

B A G S C O U R T E S Y O F A N E W D AY B Y TA R G E T, B R A H M I N , F R E N C H C O N N E C T I O N , F U R L A , M O D A L U X E , A N D U R B A N E X P R E S S I O N S

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Group different styles of purses by occasion (e.g., fancy parties, summer weddings, concerts) in a sweater organizer that can be hung from the closet rod. This way, your bags remain visible and easily accessible.

Made By Design 3 Shelf Hanging Fabric Storage Organizer in Light Gray, $10; target.com.

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O U R E X P E RT S JULIE BESTRY, CERTIFIED PROFESSIONAL ORGANIZER AND PRESIDENT OF BEST RESULTS ORGANIZING IN CHATTANOOGA, TENNESSEE

really want to travel light, I toss my phone, lipstick, wallet, sunglasses, and keys into this.

It can also accommodate an e-book if I need reading material when I’m waiting somewhere.

It doesn’t have any pockets, which is actually ideal, because pockets encourage you to stuff your purse with things you don’t need.”

C LU TC H “I keep one around for the occasional formal event.

It’s simple, black, and versatile, so it works with almost any dress.” Tip: Just as you wouldn’t buy jeans without trying them on, you need to see what fits in a clutch before purchasing.

Stock any contending clutch with what you’d realistically carry during an evening out— phone, keys, wallet, lip gloss— to make sure you don’t end up with a too-small bag.

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5 Ways to Make It Right (When You’ve Done Something Wrong) STO C KSY

Y O U M E S S E D U P, A N D T H I N G S W E N T S I D E W AY S .

H E R E ’ S H O W E V E RYO N E C A N M O V E O N .

By Jerisha Parker Gordon

Photograph by Danil Nevsky

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Initiate a do-over.

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When you have a bad start, don’t just give up. Think about how to coursecorrect in the moment. I had a client who planned and dressed up for a dream-worthy date, only for Mr. Right to show up looking as if he’d dressed in a hurry at the gym. My client was ready to end the evening, but then her date said, “I didn’t know this was a dress-up date. I’m really sorry.”

And he spent the rest of the night going out of his way to make her feel special. By acknowledging the slipup, he was granted a second chance—and they made plans for a second date.

Set clear intentions.

Once you understand that some part of your action caused someone else’s pain, you need to decide what you want the outcome to be. Do you want the person to feel better? Do you want to mend the relationship? How do you want to feel better?

How do you intend to show that you’re sorry? How do you plan to move forward if the person is unwilling to accept your apology? When you set clear intentions, you can create steps to rectify the situation.

KARAMO IS A CULTURE EXPERT ON QUEER EYE AND THE AUTHOR OF THE CHILDREN’S BOOK I AM PERFECTLY DESIGNED.

JULIE WADLEY IS A DATING AND RELATIONSHIP COACH, A MATCHMAKER, AND THE OWNER OF ELI SIMONE.

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Know that it’s never too late.

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Change your behavior.

Break down barriers after you’ve disappointed someone by admitting your mistakes—and then change your ways. There was a time when my husband would suggest we go out for a date night, just the two of us, and I’d invariably invite friends to join us. Every time it happened, my husband would mention that we never had a night alone, and I would brush it off. But after a while, I finally realized how hurt he was, and I changed my behavior. Now, whenever we have a big night out with our friends (which he enjoys too), we balance it with a quiet night for the two of us.

MARY BETH KEANE IS A WRITER WHOSE LATEST NOVEL IS ASK AGAIN, YES.

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When people realize they’ve made a mistake with someone, they often get so anxious that they don’t even try to reach out. They figure it’s too far gone. The truth is, in a strong relationship, there are many opportunities to fix a situation. Don’t get caught up in overthinking—just start the conversation and apologize.

But remember that your apology doesn’t guarantee a fresh start.

If the relationship can’t be saved, know that you did what you could and move on.

JOY HARDEN BRADFORD, PHD, IS A CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGIST AND THE FOUNDER OF THERAPY FOR BLACK GIRLS.

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Have a heartfelt conversation with yourself.

We are so quick to make things right in situations that affect everyone else, but we never consider ourselves. To truly be happy and move forward in life, you have to make things right within yourself— especially when your relationships, job, or life plans aren’t turning out how you expected. Make a specific goal and force yourself to go all the way. If you want to take a class to further your career or exercise to get healthy, do it. If you can’t follow through on those commitments, consider the reason why— and then challenge it. To overcome obstacles, we must remember our original goal.

MARIE ROBERT IS THE AUTHOR OF WHEN YOU KANT FIGURE IT OUT...ASK A PHILOSOPHER: TIMELESS WISDOM FOR MODERN DILEMMAS.

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Dancing in the Streets A F T E R J O I N I N G A DA N C E T RO U P E I N N E W O R L E A N S, K AT Y S I M P S O N S M I T H L E A R N S T O F E E L C O M F O RTA B L E I N H E R

A D O B E STO C K

OWN SKIN (AND GLIT TER, AND MERMAID WIG).

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Photograph by Michael Flippo

The author, center, performs in a parade last year in New Orleans.

real estate agents will advertise a mudroom or extra-large closet as a “costume room.” It helps, I’m told, to keep the glitter contained.

Here in my adopted city, Mardi Gras is far from a single day. It involves weeks (sometimes months) of parades and festivities that stretch from Epiphany on January 6 to the day before Ash Wednesday. Kim, the woman who sold me my house, is a member of the Sirens, one of the two dozen dance troupes that—along with high school marching bands, men riding motorized recliners, and neon squid on poles— join the city’s famous floats during Carnival. I don’t know where else in America grown women are so invested in public dancing, but since I moved to this city, joining a dance troupe has been my most secret and fervent ambition.

From my position on the sidelines, the Sirens strike me as the most beautiful of them all, dressed in corsets and wigs in every color of the ocean; I try to mimic their moves as they pass. “You should try out,” Kim says to me one day.

Try out? It’s like the pope casually inviting me to join the priesthood. My experience is limited to uncoordinated though passionate car dancing. Even so, I say to myself, “Katy, you are either a coward or a conqueror of dreams.” Which is how, a month later on an early April morning, I show up at a dance studio with 80 other aspirants and pretend I’m Margot Fonteyn.

Several auditionees nervously eye my beanpole body and ask if I did ballet. I show them I cannot touch my toes, and they relax. We are all prickly with assumptions: They’ll want the skinny girls, the leaping gymnast girls, the girls who are the opposite of us.

The committee announces only 15 of us will be accepted.

In what feels like the time it takes bread to become toast, they teach us a complicated sample of choreography and then ask us to perform it back for them. The choreographers’ lingo forms a nonsense narrative—“little cat, tiptoe, washyour-hair, and now we’re swimming, grab yourself, turn, and juggle!”

C O U RT E SY O F G A RY WA D D L E

IN NEW ORLEANS,

Halfway through, I realize I am bringing lasting shame upon my family. My shoulder rolls are jerks, and my elbows are as soft as cookie dough, leaving the rest of my arms spasmodic. When it comes time for the pirouette, I forget to rise up on a pointed foot entirely; my turn screeches on the rubber floor like nails across a chalkboard.

When Kim calls that afternoon, I laughingly make a statement of apology for my poor performance. Her congratulations and invitation to join the Sirens strike me dumb.

After hanging up, I jeté across the room. through the start of Carnival, we 15 recruits rehearse twice a week. The first months of summer training are for breaking in the newbies like me, and we go over the eight dances from previous years. In September, the rest of the Sirens join us to learn and practice four new dances.

At summer training, the pace of instruction far surpasses the computational speed of the human brain. There’s an excess of giggling—the kind that sometimes occurs on terrible blind dates or at funerals. The teacher shoots pained looks our way: “No, not T. rex arms—graceful arms, people!”

The tempo begins to slow down in September, and as the months go by and I haltingly improve, I start to pay closer attention to the collection of bodies around me. They’re as diverse as seashells: the range of shapes, the array of bottoms—pear-shaped, balloon-shaped, pancake-shaped— each with its own attitude. The size of the body has no correlation with its ability to move. Dance, it turns out, is entirely democratic. Thighs shake and breasts hop around, and all this flesh moves with fluidity and precision.

In the last weeks before Mardi Gras, we meet at a track so we can practice simultaneously walking while doing the moves we’ve been learning as stationary routines, circling the rec league footballers and preteen baton twirlers and toddlers escaped from the playground.

We prepare our costumes. The mermaid’s outfit is a clockwork of moving parts: the corset, the tendrils, the fishnets, FROM LATE JUNE

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A F E W W E E K S after that final parade, I volunteer to help with the spring tryouts. I fold myself beneath the ballet barre to watch the choreographer walk the petrified women through the steps. As she speeds through the shoulder rolls and chaînés, I look out over the jungle of floral leggings and am amazed, and somewhat stricken, to see that they’re all basically getting it. Is it possible that a crowd of women, each dancing slightly imperfectly, just look like they’re moving in unison?

This room holds the lithe and the stiff, the gangly and the buxom. Women in swingy skirts and professional gear, with mermaid tights and pearl tiaras, in tank tops that read “Suck it up buttercup” and “I need coffee.” Women who are 25 and 55, black and white, Latina and East Asian and South Asian. Number 29 stands still in a shift dress, while Number 2 keeps dancing after the music ends. Number 95 is petite and perfectly symmetrical, but she can’t keep up.

Granted, no one can keep up, but failure swamps her. She quietly slips out.

The gulf emerges between those who are comfortable in their bodies and those who aren’t—which, it turns out, is the entire moral of this story. The container is beside the point; it’s the spirit that’s being examined. As one Siren tells the dancers during a bouncy butt shake, “if you’re not OK touching yourself, you’re in the wrong place.”

I ask the committee what exactly they’re ABOUT THE AU T H O R looking for. Though they take notes on things Katy Simpson Smith like “quality of movement,” it really comes is the author of The down to disposition. They give these women Story of Land and Sea and Free Men. Her an impossible task—and then see who has fun novel The Everlasting anyway. But how does a woman have fun in will be published in her own body? How does she overcome years March. She lives in New Orleans. of direct and indirect shaming—of fashion advertisements and celebrity diets, of admonitions to acquire a “beach body” and the tyranny and gloss of social media, of listening to family members say the wrong thing, of looking at herself in the mirror and hoping no one ever sees what she sees—to feel pleasurably at home in her skin?

I finally ask Kim, who’s on the committee, why I had been chosen. She says mostly it was because I was enthusiastic. Because I smiled through the fear.

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the wig, the glitter, the sequins, the compression socks, the antichafing gel, the hand warmers. The more senior Sirens’ advice gets real specific, real quick: Don’t cut your toenails the week before a parade. Eat a bucket of pasta the night before. Start hydrating six days out. Remove your wedding ring so you don’t rip your neighbor’s fishnet.

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After our trial-run parade, I develop bruises over my ribs and blisters on my hip bones. “Do you ever get blisters?” I ask my mermaid mentor, feeling like a martyr. “You mean like these?” she says, pulling up her shirt to reveal a deep gash beneath her armpit, where the boning from her corset has popped out and dug into her skin.

The typical Mardi Gras parade route is five miles. The mermaids with Fitbits tell us this will translate, with all our prancing, into 25,000 steps. Our goal is to have fun.

My first official parade falls on a chilly night with an 80 percent chance of rain. Our 5 p.m. call time sees a cluster of half-clad women shivering on the side of the road, glancing with mistrust at the gathering clouds. A light, cold rain begins to fall. By the end of the route, our feet soaked from the flooded streets and our makeup smeared, I turn to another new girl and say, “I’m so sad.” She says, eyes wide, “I’ve never been sadder in my life.” The following morning, I limp downstairs like someone whose crutches have been stolen.

But then the weather is glorious for our second parade, and the crowds bigger. We joyously leap around hot piles of Clydesdale poop like Scottish Highlanders. Watching the crowd as we pass is like watching a zoetrope of humanity.

The faces are dull, the faces are manic, the faces are checking their phones, the faces are screaming, “Yas, queen!”

When someone yells, “You’re so beautiful!” each one of us takes it like a jolt to the heart.

Our final parade is warmer still, with the screamiest crowds yet. We are Mardi Gras goddesses devoted entirely to pleasure, to the shine of the klieg lights and the stomachthumping bass from the speakers, and that periodic moment of climax when the confetti cannon of the lead float erupts like Times Square at the dawning of a new era. Nothing can match the glory of a well-danced parade; it links the individual with a collective with a community. You become the object of adoration, but only because your body is an appendage of a larger organism, and that organism is a sparkly manifestation of the whole city’s desire to celebrate motion, song, excess, hips, the way the body can continue to shimmy long past the point when the heart gives up. A well-timed dance can defibrillate the soul.

The size of the body has no correlation with its ability to move. Dance, it turns out, is entirely democratic.

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My husband and I stay at some wonderful elderly friends’ home two or three times a year. The pillows in their guest room are old and flat, and the bedding is too small for the bed. The last time we stayed there, we purchased pillows locally, sneaked them in, and took them home with us. We’re visiting again soon. Is it all right to send them new bedding as a gift? Or can we buy it there, use it, and leave it? We love this couple, but we can’t keep sleeping that way.

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My friend’s email got hacked, and I received what I thought was a request from him for a $300 gift card that he couldn’t buy for his nephew himself because he was traveling.

Should my friend reimburse me, or do I have to eat the money I lost due to my stupidity?

ABOUT C AT H E R I N E The author of One Mixed-Up Night, Catastrophic Happiness, and Waiting for Birdy, Catherine Newman has shared her wisdom on matters ranging from family and friends to happiness and pickling in numerous publications. She gets advice from her husband and two opinionated children in Amherst, Massachusetts.

A criminal used your friend to rob you, and it’s unfortunate in every way, but it’s definitely not your friend’s fault. Your friend was a victim of this cyberattack too. Consider it a valuable, if expensive, lesson: If something seems fishy (or, you know, phishy), it likely is—especially if there’s urgency or secrecy involved. Some hack-proofing reality checks to give yourself: You haven’t won money or a bizarre inheritance; nobody on vacation suddenly needs a wire transfer; a well-known company is not requesting your password via email. Report the incident to the Better Business Bureau’s Scam Tracker, file a claim with the FBI’s Internet Crime Complaint Center, and know that you’re not stupid—but you are a good friend.

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Whenever I’ve endured a lumpy pullout couch or a guest-room heater that doesn’t turn on (or off), I’ve wondered whether the discomfort was meant to deter me from overstaying. Really, though, it’s more likely the hosts simply haven’t slept in their own accommodations. But there is no way to give your friends comfortable new bedding that isn’t passive aggressive, even if you’d be doing them—and their other guests—a service. Just bring your own and explain that you’ve become weirdly attached to your pillows. Or say that you have allergies. If they catch on, that’s OK. “Oh no, are the pillows flat?” they might ask. You can say, “I think we’ve worn them out because we like staying here so much.” And that will be at least partially true.

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J.Z. ASKS…

I have two girls, one with blond hair and blue eyes and one with brown hair and hazel eyes. People everywhere comment on how pretty my blond daughter is and either say nothing about my other daughter or add as an afterthought, “Oh, you’re cute too.” The worst was when someone said “It’s OK” to my brunette—as though he were consoling her. I would have yelled at him had he not been my husband’s boss. How can I tell people not to be rude without making a big deal about it in front of my girls?

“I’m blessed with two children who are beautiful inside and out” might be a good stock response to the offensive comments. Then discuss the interactions with your daughters.

“People are so weird,” you can say. “Can you imagine talking to a stranger about how they look?” Remind your kids that they’re powerful, intelligent agents of their own lives, not objects to be judged according to sexist standards of beauty and worth. Teach them to cherish the value of difference—in hair and eye color, as well as in skin tone, gender, ability, religion, and other aspects of personhood—and you’ll immunize them against prejudice of all types.

L .G. A S K S …

I have a coworker with a lot of personal problems, which she frequently shares with me and our office mates. Some of her issues seem to stem from a distorted view of reality and a choice to be negative about everything. We’ve tried to get her to see certain problems from a different perspective, but she just gets defensive. She badly needs a therapist, which we’ve suggested, but she makes excuses. On top of this, her daily woes often get in the way of our ability to work. Please help!

You need to protect your time and emotional resources from a negative person who isn’t a close friend. You and your office mates have been compassionate, and this support has doubtless buoyed your troubled coworker, whether or not she shows it. She might be a needy drama queen, or she might be depressed—but it’s not for you to diagnose.

“I think you need some fresh perspective,” you could offer. “If you don’t think therapy is right for you, what about a life coach?”

Then gently say you have to get back to work—and do. Wear headphones, if you think a visual cue will help discourage efforts to connect. And remember: She’s tiresome to you for just a sliver of your life, but she’s stuck being herself 100 percent of the time.

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sectional, banging away on my laptop, my phone is nowhere within reach. In fact, it’s currently set to airplane mode and stashed in my nightstand for the foreseeable future. You see, I’m learning to master the art of digital minimalism, a term popularized

by Cal Newport, an author and associate professor of computer science at Georgetown University.

In Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World, Newport makes the case for a thorough digital decluttering, a task that requires reassessing our (often unhealthy) relationship with tech.

As he defines it, digital minimalism is an “intentional approach to technology that involves a limited number of online activities.”

You have to digitally declutter to get there—to become the kind of person who can step away from their phone without, say, worrying that everyone is sharing memes without you. “The process allows you to focus on a few online behaviors that return you a lot of value—while happily missing out on everything else,” Newport says.

Armed with a desire to spend more time away from my glassand-aluminum sidekick—and way less time scrolling Instagram—I gave digital decluttering a try.

Here’s how you, too, can pull it off.

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Don’t call it a detox.

The term “detox”—like “juice cleanse”—implies it’s a quick break.

“But taking a break from technology only to return to it later doesn’t help anything in the long run,” Newport says. Instead, he prefers “digital declutter,” where the many distracting apps are removed from a phone or tablet at the same time. “Once you take everything off, after some reflection, you can add back the apps that really matter.” Essentially, it’s like the Whole30 program for your phone, the Marie Kondo approach to online life.

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Confront your daily data.

Perhaps like you, I receive a push notification every Sunday that tells me exactly how much time I’ve flushed down the toilet spent looking at my screen. Before my declutter, that number hovered around 31/2 hours a day, for a total of about 24 hours a week. Every week, I was unthinkingly dedicating one entire day to my phone.

Whether that time was spent skimming news headlines, refreshing my Instagram feed, or texting recipes back and forth with my dad didn’t matter—it was enough to convince me to change my consumption habits for good.

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Audit your apps.

Of course, digital decluttering applies to your phone, but it also comes in handy where fitness trackers, smart home devices, tablets, and laptops are concerned. Newport suggests scrutinizing any digital tools that claim your time and attention outside of work. (The phrase “outside of work” is essential here: You can minimize your professional apps only up to a certain point before the boss starts wondering why you’re ghosting her on Slack and email.) In fact, Newport goes so far as to suggest temporarily stepping away from all social media, streaming videos, online news, and digital games. It would even benefit you to dial back on text messaging.

If this process sounds intense, that’s because it is. The goal, after all, is to minimize low-quality digital distractions in exchange for a life well lived.

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Stay away for 30 days.

The key to digital decluttering isn’t merely getting rid of the apps and services and distractions—it’s committing to staying away for a month. My job as a lifestyle editor requires me to be on top of daily trends, so admittedly I couldn’t log out of the internet altogether for an entire month. But I did bid adieu to my most beloved apps (so long, Instagram and Facebook!) and cut down on regular text exchanges for two whole weeks.

At first, the hiatus from social media and even my trusted Netflix app felt unbearable, but once I accepted I could make do with less tech and more real-world socializing, the process became somewhat cathartic. Did I worry I’d miss out on a friend’s engagement or birth announcement? Of course. But avoiding attention-demanding online behaviors let me carve out time to live my own life more intentionally, without feeling the need to check in (or click in) on anyone else’s.

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Avoid the “quick glance.”

Willpower alone isn’t enough to help you navigate the throes of digital decluttering. I learned that lesson on day one, when I found myself repeatedly riffling through my purse to simply make sure my phone was still there. The urgent impulse to check my device arrived at the slightest hint of boredom, and it turns out Newport has a name for that feeling: the quick glance. He points out that many mobile-adapted websites have been optimized to deliver an immediate and satisfying dose of input, which explains why we’re constantly checking to make sure we didn’t miss a text, tweet, notification, or call.

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Rethink your free time.

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Create some distance.

Newport calls having your phone with you at all times the “constant companion model.” To break this habit, he suggests first doing more things without your phone.

If possible, leave it at home next time you run out for groceries or walk the dog. “It’s surprising what a difference regular doses of phone freedom can provide, even if those doses are small,” he says.

Then, when you’re home, leave your device by the front door— treat it like ye olde home phone (you remember, the thing with the curly cord or retractable antenna?). “If you’re worried about missing an important call, put the ringer on loud. If you want to look something up or check texts, do so in your foyer,” he says.

Basically, you are never meant to curl up, cuddle up, or get comfortable with your phone (reserve those behaviors for human loved ones!). This simple method will help transform your relationship with technology at home.

During the decluttering period, think about what activities really matter to you. Incorporating daily hobbies, like exercising, reading, or doing creative projects, leads to a high-quality leisure life that helps fulfill you over time, Newport says. If you worry you don’t have the grit to stick it out for a digital declutter, start doing these things before you make the break. “That way, you’ll know what to do to fill your time once you no longer have a screen to stare at,” he says.

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Let (a little) tech back in.

For me, there was no doubt that a digital declutter changed my daily life. But the tech break did come to an end, after 30 days, at which point I logged back on very carefully. “Only add back the apps that directly amplify or support the things you really care about,” Newport says. “Intention is everything.”

Simplify your digital life even more by decluttering your phone. Get advice at realsimple.com/declutter.

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You know your dog needs a bath when he has rolled around in something, splashed through mud puddles, or begun to stink. Otherwise, a monthly wash is generally fine, though longer-haired breeds and dogs with allergies or skin conditions may need more frequent bathing. Most cats clean themselves thoroughly, but if yours doesn’t or has stopped, visit your vet, who may suggest brushing fur to prevent matting and might want to test for medical issues.

Make tub time a positive experience for your pup by speaking in a calm tone and doling out treats. Try smearing peanut butter on the side of the tub or sink for her to lick as you bathe her. Have an old towel ready for drying off, and use a drain catch to collect fur. If your dog shampoo is concentrated, squirt some into a pitcher and fill the pitcher with water.

Wet your dog with warm water. Avoid his ears (try pressing them closed), since getting fluid in them can cause an infection. Work in the shampoo or your diluted mixture. Most medicated shampoos should stay on for 10 minutes, but check the label. Rinse, then hold up a towel or shut the shower curtain so your dog can shake off the water without soaking you. Towel him down or use a hair dryer on low heat.

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What we eat each day affects us in countless ways, from fortifying our immune systems to aiding in heart health. But fueling your body with vitamins, minerals, and nutrients also helps boost your mood all day long. The approach, which combines the latest nutrition research and the expertise of dietitians, puts the power to get in a great headspace—and stay there—right on your plate. First and most importantly, you need to balance your protein, fat, and carbs in each meal and snack. Then schedule your sugar intake to help maintain mental focus. Finally, work in some gut-healthy foods to help keep anxiety at bay. Enhance your mood with the following feel-good guidelines.

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To Feel Happy: Balance Your Macronutrients You may have heard your CrossFit friends going on about “macros.”

These are the three main nutrients in food: protein, fat, and carbohydrates. Getting the right combination of macros at every meal does more than help prevent weight gain or make you feel full.

“Stable blood sugar really helps put you in a good mood—and to get that, you want a balance of macronutrients,” explains Sarah Dimitratos, RD, a PhD candidate in nutritional biology at the University of California, Davis.

Don’t worry: You can achieve this without counting calories or obsessively tracking what you eat. Just aim to fill half your plate with fruits and vegetables, a quarter with protein, and a quarter with whole-grain carbs. Work in some healthy fats by, say, roasting veggies in coconut oil or adding sliced avocado and—boom!— you’ve just balanced your macros.

Also, try to get omega-3 fatty acids from foods like salmon, flaxseed, and hemp hearts. Omega-3s help maintain the nerves in the brain that are responsible for quick decision-making.

Keep balancing those macros throughout the day, each time you eat—ideally, every three to four hours. “If you want energy all day long, then you have to give your body energy all day long,” says Tara Collingwood, a registered dietitian nutritionist in Orlando, Florida. Had breakfast at 6 a.m.?

Plan on a snack around 10. Eating frequently can elevate your mood and also help you avoid the unhappy feelings you experience

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when you’re stuffed. “If you eat to get full, you might end up feeling groggy,” Collingwood says.

“If you eat small amounts more often, you feel sustained and energized.” Research backs this up: Women who ate breakfast instead of skipping it were happier and more relaxed in the morning, one study found.

If your macros get out of whack— for example, because you only eat protein and/or fat—you might become cranky. “Carbs are your body’s preferred source of energy.

Mood and energy can be negatively affected when you’re not eating carbs,” says Collingwood, who suggests getting carbs from fruits, vegetables, and whole grains (as opposed to white-flour breads, muffins, or pretzels).

However, if your meal or snack is too heavy in carbs—especially those refined white-flour carbs— your blood sugar can spike, then crash. You know what that’s like: “It translates to lethargy, brain fog, irritability, and difficulty getting work done,” Dimitratos says. In other words, you’re not going to be happy.

To Stay Focused: Time Your Sugar Correctly It’s a trap we often fall into. We enjoy a rich, sugary treat as an afternoon pick-me-up, which gives a quick boost and feels good while we’re eating it. But it’s worth keeping in mind what happens after you finish. “There’s some evidence suggesting that the foods we tend to seek out under stress, which are really high in sugar, can create an inflammatory response in the body and brain,” Dimitratos says. What’s worse, as

you give into your sugar cravings, that midafternoon sweet becomes a habit—and it’s hard to focus on work when all you’re thinking about is snacking. (More bad news: Diets high in sugar and fat have been linked to more depression symptoms.)

You don’t have to swear off sugar. Just understand its effects on you, and tune in to whether you’re eating so much of it that you don’t feel the way you’d like to. Collingwood’s advice: “Pick moments when it doesn’t matter what your energy level is.” If it’s been a long week and you just want to veg out, she says, that’s the best time to have a sweet treat. “If you don’t mind crashing on the couch with Netflix, then crash away!” On the other hand, she says, “if you have something important coming up, that’s when you want to pay more attention to sugar and how much you’re taking in.” Got a big presentation this afternoon? It’s probably best to pass on the sweet stuff beforehand.

To Keep Calm: Try Probiotics Who among us hasn’t felt that unpleasant stomach rumble during an anxious moment? Much research indicates that the gut microbiome—the billions of good bacteria living in your digestive tract that influence everything from your body’s ability to absorb nutrients to your immune system— has a direct line of communication to the brain. As such, our anxiety and stress can either lead to or result from GI discomfort, creating a vicious cycle. “Chronic stress can be a precursor to anxiety issues, and it’s possible that chronic stress causes our intestinal lining to wear down,” says Caroline Wallace, a PhD candidate at the Centre for Neuroscience Studies at Queen’s University in Ontario, Canada, who studies probiotics and mental health.

“Emerging research shows you can potentially use probiotics to help alleviate symptoms of anxiety and depression caused by chronic stress.”

There’s evidence that increasing your intake of probiotics can help ease negative GI symptoms.

In turn, probiotics may help reduce stress, anxiety, low moods, and mental fatigue—common symptoms of depression. Think of them as the dietary equivalent of a daily meditation practice.

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You can take probiotics in supplement form or eat probioticrich foods, like yogurt, sauerkraut, kimchi, and miso. It’s still early, but “with regard to mental health, the studies are basically neutral or positive,” Wallace says. “If you experience symptoms of depression or anxiety, be sure to see a professional, but there’s no harm in also trying probiotics.” You have everything to gain and nothing to lose.

Probiotics may help reduce stress, anxiety, low moods, and mental fatigue.

Think of them as the dietary equivalent of a daily meditation practice.

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Maintain your lifestyle.

1

Calculate what it shakes down to per pay period.

That $3,000 bump may seem sizable, but use the calculator at smartasset.com or paycheckcity.com to see what you’ll really have to play with per paycheck after taxes and witholdings, says Mario Hernandez, a financial planner at Gemmer Asset Management in Walnut Creek, California. (If the cash is a bonus rather than a raise, it may be taxed even more heavily.) And not to look a gift horse in the W-2 form, but a raise might put you in a higher tax bracket.

Luckily, that doesn’t necessarily mean less take-home money, says personal finance expert Stefanie O’Connell Rodriguez. “Even if the increase pushes you into the next bracket, you only pay the higher tax rate on the portion that exceeds the threshold,” she says. For instance, if your income jumps from $84,200 to $90,000, you’ll pay the higher tax rate only on the $5,800 difference, which still nets you more green.

The more you make, the more you spend—a phenomenon financial experts call “lifestyle inflation.” Discretionary spending can be a temptation. “Don’t inflate your lifestyle just because your salary increased. That’s what leads to overspending,” says personal finance expert Rachel Cruz, author of Love Your Life, Not Theirs. Resist purchases that require ongoing expenses (the way a bigger house comes with more upkeep) and put windfalls toward long-term financial goals, like retirement or an emergency fund. Lastly, if you get a small pay bump called a “cost-of-living adjustment,” it’s really just meant to accommodate the slow upward creep of daily expenses—it’s not license to ramp up spending.

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Not to look a gift horse in the W-2 form, but a raise might push you into a higher tax bracket.

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Put more toward investing.

Earmark at least part of the raise for retirement. (Set up an auto transfer from your paycheck.) About 20 percent of Americans have less than $5,000 saved for retirement, and almost 15 percent have none at all, a 2019 study by Northwestern Mutual found. Sure, you could spend that extra $300 a month on your day-to-day life, but if you stash it in a retirement account, it could grow to $239,180 in 30 years. Plus, boosting contributions to a tax-advantaged account, like a 401(k) or IRA, could lower your tax burden if you’re in a new bracket.

4

Spend a little on yourself.

Yes, you can splurge a bit to celebrate.

Consider taking a vacation: Employees who use more vacation days have better performance reviews, research shows.

You could also spend the money to further your career, says Julia LorenzOlson of the Art of Finance, a financial planning firm in Austin, Texas. Maybe put some money toward getting a professional certification. Just think: What might help you get that next raise?

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The Healthiest Habit You Can Have M O T I VAT I O N C O M E S A N D G O E S — B U T A R E G U L A R W O R KO U T RO U T I N E M A K E S F I T N E S S A S E A S Y A S B R U S H I N G Y O U R T E E T H . H E R E , E I G H T W AY S T O P U T E X E R C I S E O N A U T O P I L O T.

By Cari Wira Dineen

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I have twice as many excuses not to exercise as I have jog bras. I want to linger in my warm bed a little longer on chilly mornings. The darkness comes too early at the end of each day. Plus, that looong holiday break seriously upended my daily routine. Got a few you’d like to add?

The struggle is real, agrees fitness trainer Kayla Itsines, creator of the BBG high-intensity circuit workout program, who hears it from her nearly 12 million Instagram followers and workout devotees. “Falling out of routine and losing motivation can be especially easy in winter,” she says.

To stick with exercise, make it a habit instead of relying on motivation. The distinction, as Itsines sees it, is that motivation changes over time, but a habit will never let you down. “Habits help you push forward even when you have low motivation,” she says.

Getting to a point where working out is as mindless as combing your hair can take about two months, says Sandy Joy Weston, MEd, an exercise physiologist and the author of My 30-Day Reset Journal. The secret is repetition plus consistent timing and cues, she says. Here’s why: The brain creates neuronal connections when you do something, and with each repetition, the connections get stronger and the action takes less effort.

The trick, of course, is making that first step. These ideas should help you break out of your fitness slump and into a feel-good groove.

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Skew the Results in Your Favor…

Lose the Guilt—Now Your first habit-forming move: Forgive yourself for a slipup. “There’s evidence to suggest that if we can be kind and compassionate to ourselves when we fall off the wagon, we’re more likely to get back on the wagon faster,” says clinical psychologist Dayna LeeBaggley, PhD, assistant professor at Dalhousie University and author of Healthy Habits Suck. Don’t ruminate or self-flagellate; just move on and get back to work. “Tell yourself that to change your life, you have to make a change,” Itsines says. “Today is the day to start because there is never going to be the perfect time.”

Build in a Reward The combination of a cue (say, a morning alarm) and a reward (an afterworkout bite of chocolate, perhaps) helps exercise become and stay a habit, according to a study in the journal Sport, Exercise, and Performance Psychology. If science is telling you to celebrate your yoga session with an episode of The Crown or a shiny mani, who are you to argue? And wait, it gets better: Over time, creating an unbreakable workout habit will become a reward in itself. “If exercise is intrinsically rewarding—you like the way it feels or it reduces stress—you will respond automatically to your cue and not have to convince yourself to work out,” says lead study author Alison Phillips, PhD, assistant professor of psychology at Iowa State University.

“You’ll want to exercise.”

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“The hardest part is going from stationary to moving,” Lee-Baggley says. If you haven’t worked out in weeks (or more), set a goal you’re 90 percent sure you can achieve, she suggests. This can be something as doable as parking in the farthest reaches of the lot at the grocery store—get in those steps! Then you can tweak your usual goal by reducing the frequency (aim to work out once instead of three times this week), intensity (go for a walk and not a run), or length (one lap around the block instead of five). “When we keep failing at something, it’s the natural, human response to stop trying,” Lee-Baggley says. “But when we are successful, we want to keep doing it.” Lower the stakes and you may surprise yourself.

“Even 10 minutes or so on my Peloton is enough to notice a difference in how I feel,” says Cassie Shortsleeve, a new mom from Brookline, Massachusetts.

And don’t underestimate the power of momentum: “Usually, if I set out to just do something, I wind up doing more,” Shortsleeve says. That first step is the hardest one—so why not decide to work out for 30 minutes instead of 20?

…or Just Trick Yourself I heard a story about a woman who kept her makeup bag at the gym. If she wanted to face the day powdered and put together, she was “forced” to go work out. Another woman slept in her sports bra so she could wake up and hit the ground running—until her doctor told her it might not be healthy for the girls. Then she placed her sneakers parallel to the threshold of her bedroom door at night so she’d have to step over them in the morning

if she chose to blow off her workout.

(Cue the reckoning!) “What these stories demonstrate is stimulus control, where you set up your environment to signal healthy habits,” Lee-Baggley says. By linking fitness to something you already have to do (like leave your bedroom or get ready for work), it becomes harder and less convenient to not work out.

Find Your Tribe Workout pals really do work. Studies show that having a gym buddy significantly increases time spent exercising. That could be because we’re hardwired to care what other people think of us and don’t want to let down friends we’ve committed to, Lee-Baggley explains. “The only way I get back on track is through my friend network that I established at my gym,” says Denise Garrett, a compliance specialist in Westfield, New Jersey.

“I ask them to hold me accountable by having them check my schedule with text messages,” she says. Garrett also asks her husband and kids to cheer her on and keep her responsible by writing her workouts on the family calendar for everyone to see. “They want to see me reach my goals,” she says. “After all, they’re the beneficiaries of my increased energy and goodmood endorphins.” continued on page 88

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S O O T H E T H AT S O R E N E S S Took things too far, too fast?

“Muscle soreness when first returning to exercise is normal,” says Itsines, who stresses that recovery, including a warm-up and cooldown with stretching, is essential. Try these soothing strategies.

Stretch and roll. Stretching can help increase muscle blood flow.

Use a foam roller to help ease muscle- and tissue-related pain.

Check out YouTube for how-to videos from TriggerPoint, a popular foam roller manufacturer.

“You can’t say, ‘Maybe I’ll go for a run tomorrow’ and expect yourself to follow through,” says Itsines, whose empire is built on the manageable target of 28-minute workouts. “Create a plan for how you’ll achieve that goal.”

Get granular: Check the weather for the morning, then pick your workout clothes. Determine how long it will take you to dress and set your alarm that much earlier. If you usually feed others in your household (with four legs or two legs), figure out whether you’ll do so before or after exercising.

Leave nothing to chance—and you’ll set yourself up for success.

Do Something That Feels Fun One friend was always so hotly jealous of the neighbor kids’ trampoline that she bought herself a rebounder. “When people ask me what’s the best workout, I always say, ‘The one that you will do,’ ” Weston says. Try workouts that spark some joy while you’re doing them.

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Customize Your Playlist Music has a way of embedding itself in our memories. A particular tune can take us back to our first dance, a relaxing vacation, or even a challenging but satisfying workout. So says a 2018 study published in Sport, Exercise, and Performance Psychology: People remembered higher-intensity exercise, such as running on a treadmill, as a more pleasant experience when it was accompanied by music they chose themselves. No wonder I can’t hear “Stronger” by Kanye West or “Lose Yourself” by Eminem without wanting to get moving—those songs have been on my exercise playlist for years. “We make associations with music, so it brings up certain experiences or states of mind,” Lee-Bagley says. “If you’ve linked particular songs to your workout routine, hearing that music can take you back to the experience of working out, perhaps making it more likely you will engage in it.”

Up your magnesium intake.

Some studies have shown that the mineral can fight inflammation and may improve exercise performance. Eat foods rich in magnesium, like spinach, pumpkin seeds, cashews, black beans, and avocados. If you try a magnesium supplement, aim for 300 milligrams a day. Another option: Soak your aches away in a magnesium-packed Epsom salt bath.

Get back at it. After a hard workout, gentle exercise (such as walking or using a stationary bicycle) can help reduce muscle soreness and stiffness. Hit muscle groups that are less stressed.

“If your glutes and quads are aching, focus on your arms and core, and vice versa,” Itsines says.

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to the big red bows, car dealerships can elicit the thrill of cruising down an open road. But excitement can quickly lead to confusion when the salesperson is luring you with the promise of “low, low payments.” Your first power move is to decide if you should lease or buy, based on your budget, credit rating, lifestyle, and driving habits. “Some people love cars and are willing to compromise on budget for the perfect one; others just want the safest car for their family and calculate their monthly limit before working backward to find a car in that range,” says financial coach Ashley Feinstein Gerstley, author of The 30-Day Money Cleanse. Here, experts offer leaseor-buy advice for a few common scenarios.

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We Need Wheels: Should We Lease or Buy? O F C O U R S E YO U D O N ’ T WA N T T O G E T TA K E N F O R A R I D E . T O D E T E R M I N E T H E M O ST F I N A N C I A L LY S A V V Y O P T I O N , S T A R T H E R E .

By Kathleen Murray Harris

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Illustrations by Naomi Elliott

You have kids who are just about to star t driving.

You’re married and don’t have kids yet—but think you will in a few years.

You need flexibility for the future. “Since leases are typiLEASE cally two to three years long, you’ll be in a good spot to see an agreement through its full term before having your first kid,” says Chase Lawson, author of Financial Freedom: Breaking the Chains to Independence and Creating Massive Wealth. As a married couple with no child-related costs, you can likely fit a monthly car payment into your budget now, he adds. Then, when your family does grow, you’ll be ready to swap out your fun and flashy car for something roomier (hello, mama minivan!).

If you’re worried about the BUY combo of an inexperienced USED teen driver and the high risk of scratches and dings (which you will get charged for in a lease), buying a certified preowned car can save you a ton of money. “You could get a one- or two-year-old car with 95 percent of its life left for 20 to 30 percent less than a new car,” says Lauren Fix, editor in chief of the blog The Car Coach Reports. A car that’s only a few years old will likely have all the safety features you want for a new driver, like blind-spot monitoring, rearview cameras, cross-traffic alerts, and side airbags, which can lower your insurance bill.

Some newer models even have apps that send parents notifications when the driver is going over a safe speed.

Of course, test-drive the car and take it to an ASE-certified technician for a full inspection—of everything from the frame and tires to the brakes, electrical system, and engine—before plunking down any money.

Buying used is especially smart if your new driver has younger siblings, because then the “kids’ car” can be passed down from kid to kid, which you can’t do when you lease (and eventually return) a car.

You need a second family car.

When you need backup wheels—whether for a new commute or for dividing and conquering weekend errands—it’s most cost-effective BUY to purchase a car that can grow with your family and withstand wear and tear (which isn’t covered in lease agreements). Since this isn’t going to be your family’s primary ride, don’t get more car than you need. You want it to seat everyone comfortably, but it doesn’t need every bell and whistle (and refrigerated cup holder). “Think about who and what you will mostly carry in it,” says analyst Rebecca Lindland, founder of the car-review site Rebecca Drives. If you go on only one big family ski trip a year, you can rent a van for the weekend; you don’t need to drive one the whole year. If you have a monster commute, you probably want to buy, since standard leases are usually limited to 10,000 to 15,000 miles a year. If you run over that cap, you’ll pay hefty charges, says financial adviser Kristin O’Keeffe Merrick.

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3 WAY S T H E I N T E R N E T M A K E S CAR BUYING EASIER Only 26 percent of people feel very confident when shopping for a car, a recent Capital One Auto Navigator survey found. But when you do a little homework online, you can maximize your car-buying experience and feel like you’re in the driver’s seat.

Compare prices.

You’re on a ver y tight budget.

If your top priority is having the lowest monthly bill, lease payments will typically LEASE be lower than car loan payments, says Rory Joyce, director of auto product at Credit Karma. A lease’s low “due at signing” payment with average monthly payments may suit your financial situation more than purchasing with a high-interest auto loan. If you can’t pay off the car you want in a 36-month span, the typical term of an auto loan, you will face higher interest charges. “Negotiating is a big part of the process, so in the end, always run the numbers with your specific deal to see what’s more economical for you,” Feinstein Gerstley says. Find calculators online at NerdWallet, Bankrate, and FinancialMentor to determine if leasing or purchasing is the best choice for you.

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Go to edmunds.com or cars.com to find out how much you should be paying for a specific vehicle. “Make sure you’re comparing like with like and the standard set of features is the same,” Fix says. Email multiple dealers to gather financial knowledge. Use this script: “I’m looking to buy suchand-such car with these features—what’s your best price?” Then email dealer B and say, “I’ve already emailed dealership A, and I’m giving you a chance to bid—what’s your best price?” And so on to compare costs.

Get a wide range of opinions.

Read at least five reviews of each car to gain a broad perspective, Lindland says.

Keep your own needs in mind when you read reviews: If you don’t care about a sluggish zero-tosixty time, it shouldn’t rule out your interest in a specific model. Flip through

trade magazines, consult research groups like Consumer Reports, or search Google and YouTube for independent reviews from car experts and bloggers. And always check crash test ratings at iihs.org or safercar.gov before you buy.

Look for out-ofstate deals.

Thanks to the explosion in internet-only sites, like TrueCar and Carvana, you’re no longer stuck with the inventory at your local dealers. If you have a specific car—or even a specific color of car—in mind, check out those sites, as well as dealers in other states who may want to offload inventory. For example, Fix says, there’s less demand for electric cars in a city like Buffalo, New York, where people tend to drive longer distances, so the cost of delivery may be worth the savings.

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M a k i n g I t Wo r k

How do you stay motivated during long-term projects?

By Caylin Harris

H E A D S H OTS C O U RT ESY O F SU BJ ECTS

I work from 9 to 5 and run a chili oil company on the side.

My brain was all over the place until my wife, a behavior analyst, told me I needed structure. That has helped me have better habits and be more consistent with my schedule. After I get home from my job, I play with my daughter until she goes to bed.

Then I turn my phone off, close the door, and move into the chili oil world for an hour. Just having that time on my calendar feels like a win because I showed up—and it’ll pay off in the long run.

STEVEN BOGHOSKHAN, FOUNDER OF PURPLE PANDA, A CHILI OIL COMPANY IN LOS ANGELES

Illustration by Andrea Mongia

I walk away from the work. Especially in graphics, trying to force a design solution can hurt the outcome.

If you don’t have the luxury of being able to push pause, tackle a smaller task that lets your brain shift from its creative side to its logical side. For me, that means sending an email or writing a to-do list—a small goal that’s easy to execute but still moves the project forward. It’s the closest thing to a mini vacation I might get while seated at my desk. I’m being productive, and I’m creating the opportunity to revisit the project with fresh eyes.

JENN SHORE, OWNER OF SHORE—CREATIVE, A GRAPHIC DESIGN STUDIO IN NEWPORT, RHODE ISLAND

Designing an architectural structure is a lengthy, tedious process. I like to have an organizing principle that keeps the big picture in mind but can be broken down piece by piece. In house design, every decision is a little exploration, and each exploration can inspire large-scale changes. Something as simple as figuring out the detailing on a fireplace can and should reveal something about the geometry of the house. But I can’t be afraid to let the lesson learned in designing the fireplace cause the big idea to change.

For 13 years, I worked to launch a migraine medication. In my field, it’s common to work on something for many years and have it fail; the failure rate in my experience is typically around 90 percent. When we hit milestones in the process, I found it helpful to reward ourselves.

One time, we all left early and went bowling. I discovered new facets of my team members that I might have never seen otherwise. It was important to celebrate those moments when we reached a goal, and it made my team stronger.

I have a side gig as a career consultant, where I help job seekers. In my day job, there are channels of approval that my decisions need to go through, and sometimes it can make me doubt myself. What I love about my side hustle is that I’m running the show, and I get to be the expert.

That makes me surer of myself. The confidence transfers over to my day job and motivates me to be more outspoken in group settings during long-term projects.

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Ahhh...

Practice this meditation to lift your mood.

Start by sitting in a comfortable position with your feet planted on the floor.

Visualize a glowing light surrounding your body. Watch it grow bigger with every breath, as if your inhale were fanning its flames. Rub your hands together for 10 seconds as you repeat several words to set an intention. For instance, try “patience” or “peace.” Then raise your hands about five inches above your head. Inhale to draw in that positive energy as you lower your hands to the crown of your head. Exhale and raise your hands again. Repeat with each breath.

Feel the balance of having only your own energy and radiate that into the world.

OFFSET

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I N C O M PAT I B L E CLUTTER Opposites attract.

They also collect or purge, hoard or thin the herd.

No matter how you and your honey may disagree about organization, there’s an approach that works.

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TO H AV E A N D TO...

HOLD ON TO? He’s a collector.

She’s a minimalist.

JEANNETTE COOPERMAN

tells the story of how she and her husband found harmony at home.

I N T H E E A R LY Y E A R S O F O U R M A R R I A G E ,

my husband would stand watch over his stuff like the Queen’s Guard at Buckingham Palace. Andrew is a historian and archivist, tender toward any object he deems significant. I was a nomad, eager to toss aside even the significant. In my single years, I earned the nickname “pitch bitch” by shearing a friend’s 30 boxes of mementos down to three.

Empty shelves calm me. I don’t like my cabinets layered so deeply that I have to undertake an archaeological dig to find the relish. Accumulation feels unmanageable. Burdensome. Unfree.

In my married life, though, it didn’t matter how minimalist I was. I’d still be surrounded by cedar chests crammed with wool blankets we might need if the furnace blew, stacks of old books and brittle

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D I D W E R E A L LY N E E D F I V E HAMMERS? “WELL, W E M I G H T,” M Y H U S B A N D S A I D. I S I G H E D A N D WATC H E D O U R L I T T L E GINGERBRE AD COT TAGE F I L L U P W I T H S T U F F.

record albums, even a collection of objects I was told were called—despite their immovable presence on Andrew’s bookshelf—action figures. They weren’t left over from childhood either. When I made the mistake of asking what he wanted for his birthday, my grown husband said he wanted a Superman action figure.

“But—” I sputtered, swiftly discarding the retorts that first came to mind. “You already have one.”

“I have the Elseworlds Soviet Superman,” he corrected me. “Not the Elseworlds Soviet president Superman.”

“Mmm.” A month later, after I walked through the dark basement and tripped for the hundredth time over the teetering stack of slick yellow National Geographic magazines, I blew a fuse.

“Why do you hoard all this stuff?”

Andrew drew himself up. “I do not hoard. I collect.

And you”—he frowned at me—“do not have the collector gene. To you, it’s redundant to have more than one of a particular kind of thing. To a collector, that’s the point: the endless variation on the theme.

We like to fill our shelves.”

He spun around in his chair and pulled up a link on his computer. “See this? They found a collection of 1,100 seal impressions on clay in the tombs at Ur. Humans have always collected things.” the whole truth. Andrew also kept a hideous thistle-pink tea towel a friend’s elderly relative (not even our own elderly relative) had given us as a present. It is adorned with cheap, scratchy lace and a fake blossom. He “collected” every one of our sweet, departed dog’s saliva-stiff toys.

Traumatized by his mother, who shared—no, quadrupled—my minimalism, he saw irreplaceable sentiment where I saw redundancy. Andrew told me, more than once, how during his childhood, his mom had managed to (whoops!) smash several of his B U T “ C O L L E C T I N G ” WA S N ’ T

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model planes, which she called dust collectors. How she had insisted he give away the toys he no longer played with but still very much loved. How he had raised the drawbridge, protecting his possessions behind stone walls.

I had no idea how deep the moat was, though, until we received the bad news. His father, just 67, was diagnosed with melanoma. It had already spread to his liver. I adored Mal; everybody did. His exuberant warmth spilled over like a fountain you knew would never run dry. In those precious last weeks, we hung out at my in-laws’ home as much as we could. One afternoon, as my mother-in-law, Jo, gently rubbed Mal’s feet, she glanced up at us and asked in her practical way, “Do you guys want this bed?”

We froze, but Mal said amiably, “Could you wait till I’m out of it, woman?” Then he winked at Andrew.

“You know your mother.”

Jo’s way of dealing with grief was, unsurprisingly, to banish any physical object that could remind her of the shared life she was losing. After Mal’s death— immediately after the funeral—she got rid of everything in his Custer Room: sepia photos of Mal’s favorite general and his men, a replica of his cavalry’s pennant, framed ammo his troops might have used, even framed hardtack his troops might have eaten. Next she threw away all the recipes she’d saved in the four decades of their marriage. (I would spend the month before Thanksgiving frantically trying to track down a 1950s stuffing recipe for my bereaved husband.)

Then she casually gave away all her loathed motherin-law’s Chinese porcelain. As the frenzy built, she moved to the basement and tossed all the books and notes Andrew had stored there after grad school.

On an emotional level, I could fathom Jo’s purge.

Her son could not.

I waited a year or so, letting the scars heal, before I raised a few tentative questions. “Could we give away…?” “Could I pitch…?” Nearly always, Andrew found a reason to say no. By now, we had inherited several dead relatives’ toolboxes. Did we really need five hammers? “Well, we might,” he said. “Hammers are expensive. You could drop one. It could get lost.”

I sighed and watched our sweet little gingerbread cottage fill up with stuff.

Periodically, I threw an operatic fit worthy of Carmen. But even as I argued, a painful truth was dawning on me: There might, perhaps, be something ever so slightly mean about my minimalist aesthetic.

I only liked my refrigerator magnets, the ones that echoed the kitchen’s vintage appliances and blackand-white color scheme. I slid Andrew’s souvenir magnets to the side that faced the wall. I only liked my Christmas tree ornaments—the antique gold-andpewter and Victorian glass ones. The foam mouse in military uniform, the shedding cotton-wool lamb, and the royal blue and olive green velour locomotive from Andrew’s childhood I tucked in the back of the tree.

“Don’t you have any sentimental ornaments?” he asked, neatly retrieving the mouse and hanging it front and center.

I nodded and pointed to a small hand-painted wooden Inuit boy. “My dad’s ad agency used to give clients an ornament every year,” I said. “This was the one from the year he died.” Andrew straightened it tenderly and hung the little lamb beside it.

And the velour locomotive below it. And a wooden snowman by its side. As he told me how his mom had bought him the snowman when he was a little boy, something clicked. I’d been so smug, producing my one very small, very flat keepsake: See? Just one.

That’s all I need. But I never had a chance to collect more memories; my father died when I was 8 months old. If my heart held more stories, maybe one tiny Inuit boy wouldn’t be able to contain them all.

So I softened. Just a bit. Later that year, we helped our friends move, and Andrew had his own epiphany.

They had a tight deadline, they weren’t ready, and they were swimming in stuff. I held out a nightstand drawer crammed with crumpled tissues, old ticket stubs, and empty lip balm tubes and asked if there was anything they wanted to save in there.

“Just pack it all,” the wife called, not even looking up from the box she was filling. I bit down hard enough to draw blood. Andrew shot me a look that, to my delight, was equally pained. We proceeded to pack wads of old tissues so they could bounce along on a 20-hour road trip and litter a new house.

That weekend, we cleaned out our basement.

In the years that followed, we did what married people do: wore each other down with love and exasperation and met in the middle. Sometimes I’d

say, “I wish I’d saved…” or “Do we still have…?” and Andrew would wordlessly hand me the object. Regularly, he’d scythe his piles of books and magazines back to manageability.

When we bought a bigger house, he made a solemn vow not to fill up all the shelves. I suspect that promise has been harder to keep than his marriage vow.

I still try to get rid of (what I consider) excess stuff, and I’ve discovered that if I can come up with someone who needs a hammer right that instant, Andrew will say, “Sure, give it to her.” It’s sending a solid object off to a landfill that he can’t abide—just as I can’t abide letting something sit around and not be used.

I’m still a nomad; he’s still a collector. But we make room for each other.

JEANNETTE COOPERMAN IS A STAFF WRITER FOR THE COMMON READER: A JOURNAL OF THE ESSAY AT WASHINGTON UNIVERSITY IN ST. LOUIS. SHE AND HER HUSBAND LIVE IN A (FORTUNATELY) LARGE FARMHOUSE ACROSS THE RIVER IN WATERLOO, ILLINOIS.

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CLUT TER THERAPY Real couples, professional organizers, and relationship experts share ideas so that clashing styles can happily coexist.

BY JENNIFER KING LINDLE Y

You love your partner. But you don’t love your partner’s stuff.

(Or your partner’s aversion to your stuff.) “Clutter is a common issue for couples,” says therapist Anna Osborn, the founder of Life Unscripted Counseling. In fact, nearly half of all couples who live together argue over clutter, one survey found. Seven percent have the argument daily.

One reason the topic is so charged is that “our possessions help make up our identity,” says Robin Coulter, PhD, professor of marketing at the University of Connecticut, who studies our complicated relationship with belongings. “A T-shirt may look ready for the ragbag, but it can hold significant emotional meaning,” she explains. “An attempt to throw it out can seem like a personal attack.” The tension, Osborn says, is less about the stuff and more about the emotion that gets assigned to it.

Alas, this kind of conflict is not going to be defused with a quick run to the Container Store.

Our individual attitudes toward how we manage possessions often have deep roots, Coulter says. For some, the objects provide a sense of security. For others, excess can cause stress.

But it is possible for different approaches to live in harmony.

Just consider the cases on these pages.

C LU T T E R C O N F L I C T 1

Clean Surfaces vs. Landing Zones THE COUPLE:

Mandy and David Y.,

Minneapolis “I used to get irritated when my husband would leave receipts, magazines, and his lunch bag on the kitchen island,” Mandy says. “I care about the aesthetics of our space, so when I see piles, I get anxious.”

THE TENSION:

“We agreed to declare no-fly zones,” Mandy says.

“Anything on the island and desk has to be cleared by the end of the evening. That lets my husband put items there when he’s arriving home, and it alleviates my stress because I know the spaces won’t be cluttered forever.” The trick is setting up a system for those landing spots so the more T H E S O LU T I O N :

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organized partner feels there’s order, explains Cena Block, a certified professional organizer and the founder of Sane Spaces. Any new setup should be as easy to follow as the old one so the habit sticks (and so the partner who likes to come home and drop their stuff doesn’t feel totally aggrieved).

Mandy adds that she’s also focusing on gratitude: “He’s in law enforcement. When I see his lunch bag on the counter, I remind myself it means he made it home safe today.”

C LU T T E R C O N F L I C T 2

The Tidier vs. The Pack Rat THE COUPLE:

Lisa and Steven A., Fall River, Massachusetts

“I like to have things in their place,” Lisa says. “My dad was a Portuguese immigrant, and in our house order was a sign of pride and accomplishment. My husband was raised Northern English working class. Coming from scarcity, he wants to keep everything. He buys pants, and even if he doesn’t like them, he keeps them forever. If I don’t wear something after two seasons, it’s gone.”

THE TENSION:

Help for Hot Spots Place a tray on a table to catch keys, phones, and other odds and ends. If space is at a premium, hang wall hooks for keys and bags.

BACK D O OR:

Another frustratingly common pile magnet. (It’s all too easy to rationalize, “I’ll wear this sweatshirt tomorrow, so I’ll just drape it here rather than fold it and put it away.”) “A hook hung near where clothes tend to land makes it easy to rewear them,” says Sara Pedersen, a professional organizer and the founder of Time to Organize.

B E D RO O M C H A I R :

Cede entire areas. You are not going to turn a magpie into Marie Kondo overnight, so agree on which spaces will be clutter-free and which will be anything goes, Block says. “His domain is the computer area, which I don’t try to organize,” Lisa says. “For everything else, I create systems.”

If space is limited or the extra stuff is affecting how your household functions, work together to reduce volume. “Establish physical boundaries,” says Beth Penn, author of The Little Book of Tidying. For example, your partner can collect mugs, but they all have to fit on one shelf. Savers may be willing to pare down but feel overwhelmed. “Volunteer to do the heavy lifting,” says organizing coach Alejandra Costello, founder of Alejandra.tv. “The other person can just sit there and say yes or no as you hold up one shirt at a time.”

T H E S O LU T I O N :

U N D E R S TA N D T H E E M O T I O N S :

After you excavate an area, put a beautiful object there as a reminder that it’s now a no-dumping zone. “It acts as a visual stop sign,” Pedersen says.

D I N I N G RO O M TA B L E :

Your partner may be reluctant to part with stuff because of an emotional attachment. “Letting go of an item can seem like a betrayal of a relationship: Grandma left me this sewing machine! Or it represents memories that recall past glories,” says certified professional organizer Julie Bestry, president of Best Results Organizing.

“My husband has played baseball since he was 5 and had stacks and stacks of old uniforms,” Osborn says. “I asked if I could make a quilt out of them. Now he uses it every time he watches TV.” MAKE A MEMENTO:

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G O D I G I TA L : Scan memorabilia like letters, programs, and ticket stubs, Penn says. (She likes the Evernote Scannable app.) Or take photos of soon-to-be-gone-but-not-forgotten objects and show them off in a revolving electronic frame.

SHOWCASE A FEW TREASURES:

Instead of keeping 15 boxes of Great Aunt Jean’s belongings in the basement, display one setting of her china on a special shelf. “Often what people want is to tell the story of how something came into their lives,” Bestry says. Sort through stuff together and just listen. “Once they share it, they can let the thing go.”

L E A R N T O TA L K LIKE A TEAM Pick a good time. Do not tackle the subject when you are tired and cranky. “Sit down over coffee or take a walk to discuss it,” suggests therapist Debra Roberts, author of The Relationship Protocol.

C LU T T E R C O N F L I C T 3

My Own Stuff Organizer vs.

The Whole House Organizer

Lead with “I” statements.

Meg and Keith R., Grand Rapids, Michigan THE COUPLE:

“My husband has a compartmentalized toolbox, meticulously wraps his audio cords, and sorts his Legos by color,” Meg says.

“But when it came to the common areas, he had no interest. I felt like a nagging wife when I told him where to put things.”

THE TENSION:

“One evening, while my husband was putting the dishes away in seemingly random places, I asked him, ‘Why did you put that bowl there?’ He replied, ‘Because it fit,’ ” Meg says. The solve? They labeled the shelves. “It didn’t take him any more time, and I wasn’t constantly telling him where to put things.”

T H E S O LU T I O N :

C LU T T E R C O N F L I C T 4

Organizing Daily vs. Only When Things Are Chaotic Farrah and Phillip F., Glen Burnie, Maryland THE COUPLE:

“My husband prefers to neaten up his personal spaces— nightstand, closet, toiletries—weekly, and I’m a daily tidier,” Farrah says.

THE TENSION:

“We now spend five minutes a day tidying together,” Farrah explains. “You have to come up with rules of engagement,” Block says.

“Nagging never works.”

T H E S O LU T I O N :

Agree on a regular tidying time, then put on music or a podcast. Or consider it bonding during a busy day. Set a timer so the session is satisfyingly finite—and brief.

MAKE IT (MORE) FUN:

Label broad categories so you don’t have to endlessly refine the system. If you don’t like the look of labels, Costello says, use them as “training wheels” and remove them once you have the system down.

MAKE IT SIMPLE:

P L AY T O T H E I R S T R E N G T H S :

“Compliments go a long way,” Pedersen says. “Say, ‘You did such a great job organizing your sports gear! Can you help me find a system for the shoes?’ ” Or suggest they use their demonstrated skills for a similar challenge: The tool tender might do well organizing all those knives crammed in the kitchen drawer.

If your partner has a different attitude toward stuff, they may not realize the Mt. Everest of hats in the hall closet gets you twitchy.

First explain how the situation makes you feel, Osborn advises.

Try, “I feel really upset when you put mail all over the counter, because I can’t easily cook, and cooking is how I unwind.” Speaking about your emotions in this way encourages empathy and understanding. Using “you” statements can put the other person on the defensive.

Consider attaching a running to-do list to the fridge. Family members can check off an organizing task when they’re so inclined (rather than waiting around to be told what to do).

DIVIDE AND CONQUER:

If you feel the need to tidy daily but your partner doesn’t, the onus might be on you. “Some people get a cleaning high,” Pedersen says. “Go around the house with a basket each evening and collect your partner’s out-of-place stuff. Once a week, your partner clears the basket.

Knowing it won’t be there forever may reduce your tension.”

TA K E T H E L E A D :

Progress to “we” statements.

Suggest possible solutions; don’t dictate. Using “we” during the problem-solving stage of a conversation reminds the other person that you’re a team. Say, “Let’s work together to find a system so we’re not tripping over shoes when we come in the door. I have some ideas, and I’d like to hear yours.”

Follow up. Check back in a month to assess how the new plan is working for both of you. Meanwhile, praise progress lavishly. “It helps having a mantra to repeat silently so you don’t snap the next time you see the countertop cluttered,” Osborn says. “Try, ‘We’re on the same team.’ ”

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Ever yCitrus Salad with Almonds and Manchego

For the prettiest plate, peel the fruit and slice it into sunny, colorful wheels.

Brighten up some favorite meals with l e m o n s , l i m e s , o r a n g e s , a n d m o r e.

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Cuban P o r k Ta c o s with Orange Slaw Zingy orange segments in the slaw balance out the richness of the braised pork.

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SlowRoasted Citrus Salmon

Any citrus works with this tender salmon, so feel free to add slices of whatever you have on hand.

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C u b a n P o r k Ta c o s with Orange Slaw ACTIVE TIME 15 MINUTES TOTAL TIME 8 HOURS, 25 MINUTES SERVES 6

3 navel oranges

Ever y-Citrus Salad with Almonds and Manchego ACTIVE TIME 15 MINUTES TOTAL TIME 15 MINUTES SERVES 6

1/4 cup fresh orange juice (from 1 orange) 1 Tbsp. finely chopped shallot

1/4 cup fresh lemon juice (from 2 lemons) 4 1/2 tsp. kosher salt, divided 3/4 cup chopped fresh cilantro leaves, divided 1 1/4 tsp. freshly ground black pepper, divided 1 3-lb. boneless pork shoulder (Boston butt), cut into 4 pieces ½ small head green cabbage, shredded 1 small yellow onion, thinly sliced

1 Tbsp. Dijon mustard

2 Tbsp. olive oil

1/4 tsp. freshly ground black pepper 6 Tbsp. olive oil 2 1/2 lb. navel oranges, blood oranges, and/or grapefruit 1 small head radicchio, leaves roughly torn 1/2 cup flat-leaf parsley leaves 1/2 cup roasted whole almonds, chopped 1/2 cup shaved Manchego cheese (about 1 oz.)

2 Tbsp. white wine vinegar 1 15-oz. can black beans, drained and warmed 12 6-in. corn tortillas, warmed

orange juice and shallot in a medium bowl; set aside for 5 minutes. Whisk in maple syrup, mustard, salt, and pepper.

Gradually whisk in oil until dressing is emulsified. Set aside. away peel and pith of citrus and slice flesh into 1/2-inch-thick rounds.

CUT

LAYER radicchio and citrus rounds on a serving platter. Top with parsley, almonds, and cheese. Drizzle with dressing.

juice from 1 orange to equal 1/4 cup; add to a 5- or 6-quart slow cooker. Stir in lemon juice, garlic, 4 teaspoons salt, 1/2 cup cilantro, and 1 teaspoon pepper. Add pork, turning to coat. Cover and cook on low until pork is forktender, 6 to 8 hours.

SQUEEZE

broiler to high with oven rack 6 inches from heat. Shred pork with 2 forks and spread in an even layer on a rimmed baking sheet (reserve 1/2 cup cooking liquid). Broil until pork is browned and crisp, about 10 minutes. Season with remaining 1/2 teaspoon salt and transfer to a serving platter. away peel and pith of remaining 2 oranges while pork broils. Working over a medium bowl, cut out orange segments and squeeze membranes to extract juice. Stir in cabbage, onion, remaining 1/4 cup cilantro, oil, vinegar, and remaining 1/4 teaspoon pepper; toss gently to combine.

CUT

SKIM off fat from reserved cooking liquid; stir into beans. Serve pork with tortillas, slaw, and beans.

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1 navel orange 1 lemon, sliced into rounds 1 2 1/2- to 3-lb. skin-on side of salmon, pin bones removed 2 1/2 tsp. kosher salt, divided 5 dill sprigs, plus more for serving 1/4 cup plus 2 Tbsp. olive oil, divided 1/2 cup mayonnaise 1 Tbsp. whole-grain mustard 1/4 tsp. freshly ground black pepper 6 Persian cucumbers, sliced 2 tsp. granulated sugar 2 Tbsp. white vinegar

PREHEAT

COMBINE

ACTIVE TIME 15 MINUTES TOTAL TIME 55 MINUTES SERVES 6

8 cloves garlic, smashed

1 Tbsp. pure maple syrup 1 1/2 tsp. kosher salt

Slow-Roasted Citrus Salmon

1 small shallot, thinly sliced PREHEAT oven to 275°F. Slice half of orange into rounds. Squeeze 2 tablespoons juice from other half into a bowl; set aside. Arrange half of citrus rounds in a 13-by-9inch baking dish. Place salmon, skin side down, on citrus; season with 1 teaspoon salt. Top with remaining citrus rounds and dill sprigs. Drizzle with 1/4 cup oil and bake until salmon is opaque, about 50 minutes.

mayonnaise, mustard, pepper, and 1/4 teaspoon salt to bowl with orange juice; stir to combine. Toss together cucumbers, sugar, and remaining 1 1/4 teaspoons salt in a medium bowl.

Let sit for 5 minutes; drain. Stir in vinegar, shallot, and remaining 2 tablespoons oil. Top salmon with more dill sprigs and serve salad and sauce on the side.

ADD

Greek Chicken and Potatoes

Roasting lemons makes them much less sour and soft enough to eat—peel and all.

ACTIVE TIME 10 MINUTES TOTAL TIME 55 MINUTES SERVES 6

3 lemons 6 cloves garlic, smashed 3 Tbsp. fresh oregano leaves 1/3 cup plus 2 Tbsp. olive oil, divided 1 3 1/2- to 4-lb. whole chicken, cut into 8 pieces 1 lb. small red potatoes, quartered 1 large red onion, cut into 1/2-in. wedges 1 Tbsp. kosher salt, divided 1 lb. Broccolini, trimmed 1 tsp. freshly ground black pepper oven to 450°F. Squeeze juice from 2 lemons to equal 1/3 cup; add to a large bowl. Cut remaining lemon into wedges and add to bowl along with garlic, oregano, and 1/3 cup oil. Add chicken, spooning marinade over chicken; let sit for about 15 minutes.

PREHEAT

together potatoes, onion, 1 teaspoon salt, and 1 tablespoon oil in a large bowl. Transfer to a large baking sheet and roast until just beginning to brown, 10 to 15 minutes.

TOSS

together Broccolini and remaining 1 tablespoon oil in a large bowl. Transfer to baking sheet with potatoes and toss to combine. Using tongs, arrange chicken mixture on baking sheet in a single layer (discard marinade); season with pepper and remaining 2 teaspoons salt. Bake until chicken is cooked through and Broccolini is browned, about 30 minutes.

TOSS

Greek Chicken and Potatoes

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A shrub is a blend of fruit, vinegar, and sugar. It makes for a zingy mixer in sparkling water or cocktails.

Coconut-Lime Crumble Bars ACTIVE TIME 15 MINUTES TOTAL TIME 3 HOURS, 15 MINUTES SERVES 12

CRUST

1 3/4 cups all-purpose flour, divided 3/4 cup unsweetened shredded coconut 3/4 cup salted roasted macadamia nuts 3/4 cup packed light brown sugar 3/4 cup (1½ sticks) unsalted butter, softened 1/4 tsp. baking soda 1/4 tsp. kosher salt FILLING

2 14-oz. cans sweetened condensed milk 3 large egg yolks

GingerGrapefruit Shrub

1 Tbsp. lime zest plus 1 cup fresh juice (from 8 limes), plus more zest for serving the crust: Preheat oven to 350°F. Line a 9-inch square baking pan with parchment. Combine flour, coconut, nuts, sugar, butter, baking soda, and salt in a food processor. Pulse until crumbly but beginning to clump together, about 15 pulses. Set aside 1 1/2 cups flour mixture for topping. Firmly press remaining flour mixture into bottom of prepared pan. Bake until crust begins to brown, about 20 minutes. Let cool for 10 minutes.

MAKE

GingerGrapefruit Shrub ACTIVE TIME 15 MINUTES TOTAL TIME 3 DAYS SERVES 16

2 large Ruby Red grapefruits, plus slices for serving 1 1/2 cups granulated sugar 1 4-in. piece fresh ginger, thinly sliced 2 cups apple cider vinegar Chilled seltzer, for serving

the shrub: Grate zest from grapefruits with a Microplane to equal 2 1/2 tablespoons; place in a large bowl. Cut away peel and pith of grapefruits; discard. Chop flesh into 1-inch pieces. (You should have about 2 cups.)

START

sugar to zest in bowl and rub with fingertips to release natural oils. Stir in chopped grapefruit and ginger. Cover with plastic wrap and let sit at room temperature, stirring occasionally, for at least 8 hours and up to overnight.

ADD

vinegar into grapefruit mixture. Cover and refrigerate for 2 days. Strain mixture through a fine-mesh sieve into a 1-quart lidded jar. (You can store shrub in refrigerator for up to 3 months.)

STIR

Pour 3 tablespoons shrub into an ice-filled glass; top up with seltzer and garnish with a grapefruit slice.

TO SERVE:

the filling: Whisk condensed milk, yolks, lime zest, and lime juice in a medium bowl until smooth. Pour over crust and sprinkle with reserved flour mixture.

MAKE

at 350°F until filling is just set and topping is light golden brown, 22 to 24 minutes. Let cool completely on a wire rack. Refrigerate for at least 1 hour and up to 3 days. Cut into 12 bars and garnish with lime zest.

BAKE

A tart, tangy lime curd is the perfect filling for a tropical crust made with both coconut and macadamia.

CoconutLime Crumble Bars

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Go for a cheery color—then add even more brightness with blue flats and a green bag.

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The clean lines make it timeless.

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On the go, you can make healthier choices with snack bars (page 132) that, sure, give you energy, but feel indulgent too.

We also have the perfect antidote to the Sunday scaries: a big pot of chili (page 134) that you can share with a group of friends as you huddle at your house watching the Super Bowl.

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FOOD

Easy Dinner 1

Baby Kale and Chicken Caesar ACTIVE TIME 15 MINUTES TOTAL TIME 25 MINUTES SERVES 4

✓ Quick Cooking ✓ Family Friendly

3 slices soft white sandwich bread, torn into 1-in. pieces 3 Tbsp. olive oil 1/2 tsp. kosher salt, divided 1/2 tsp. freshly ground black pepper, divided 1/2 cup mayonnaise 1/4 cup grated Parmesan cheese, plus 1/3 cup shaved Parmesan, for serving 2 cloves garlic, finely chopped 2 anchovy fillets (from a can or jar), finely chopped 1 tsp. Dijon mustard 1 tsp. fresh lemon juice (from 1 lemon) 1 lb. Brussels sprouts, thinly sliced 2 cups shredded rotisserie chicken breast (from 1 chicken) 1 5-oz. pkg. baby kale oven to 425°F. Toss bread, oil, and 1/4 teaspoon each salt and pepper on a rimmed baking sheet. Spread in an even layer and bake until golden brown and crispy, about 10 minutes.

Transfer croutons to a bowl and let cool for 10 minutes.

PREHEAT

whisk mayonnaise, ½ cup water, grated cheese, garlic, anchovies, mustard, lemon juice, and remaining 1/4 teaspoon each salt and pepper in a large bowl. Add Brussels sprouts, chicken, and kale; toss gently to coat.

MEANWHILE,

salad to a platter. Top with croutons and shaved cheese.

TRANSFER

PER SERVING: 581 Calories, 38g Fat (7g Saturated), 71mg Cholesterol, 6g Fiber, 28g Protein, 32g Carbs, 1,159mg Sodium, 6g Sugar

Easy Dinner 2

1 1/4 cups couscous 1 1/2 tsp. kosher salt, divided 3/4 cup dried currants 1/2 cup roasted almonds, chopped

Spicy-Sweet Tofu with Couscous ACTIVE TIME 20 MINUTES TOTAL TIME 20 MINUTES SERVES 4

✓ Quick Cooking ✓ Make Ahead ✓ Vegetarian

1/3 cup torn mint leaves, plus more for serving 5 Tbsp. olive oil, divided 1/4 tsp. freshly ground black pepper 1/3 cup harissa (chili pepper paste) 1 Tbsp. fresh lemon juice (from 1 lemon), plus wedges for serving 2 tsp. honey 1 tsp. ground cumin 1/4 tsp. ground coriander 1 15.5-oz. pkg. extra-firm tofu, drained and cut into 1-in. cubes 1 1/4 cups water to a boil in a saucepan. Stir in couscous and 1 teaspoon salt. Cover and remove from heat. Let stand until liquid is absorbed, 3 to 4 minutes. Stir in currants, almonds, mint, 2 tablespoons oil, and pepper. Set aside.

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BRING

harissa, 1 tablespoon oil, lemon juice, honey, cumin, coriander, 1 tablespoon water, and remaining 1/2 teaspoon salt in a small bowl.

WHISK

remaining 2 tablespoons oil in a large skillet over mediumhigh. Add tofu; cook, turning occasionally, until browned, 8 to 10 minutes. Add 1/4 cup harissa mixture and stir until coated, about 1 minute. Serve with couscous, remaining harissa mixture, mint, and lemon wedges.

HEAT

PER SERVING: 669 Calories, 32g Fat

(4g Saturated), 0mg Cholesterol, 8g Fiber, 23g Protein, 74g Carbs, 888mg Sodium, 24g Sugar (3g Added Sugar)

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Easy Dinner 3

Shrimp Linguine with Chorizo ACTIVE TIME 20 MINUTES TOTAL TIME 20 MINUTES SERVES 4

✓ Quick Cooking

2 Tbsp. olive oil, divided 1/3 cup panko 1 1/2 tsp. lemon zest (from 1 lemon) 1 tsp. kosher salt, divided 1/2 tsp. freshly ground black pepper, divided 4 oz. dry-cured Spanish-style chorizo, chopped 3 cloves garlic, thinly sliced 1 lb. peeled and deveined large raw shrimp 1/3 cup dry white wine 1 9-oz. pkg. fresh linguine pasta 2 Tbsp. unsalted butter 2 Tbsp. chopped fresh parsley BRING a large pot of generously salted water to a boil over high.

Heat 1 tablespoon oil in a large skillet over medium. Add panko and cook, stirring often, until golden, about 5 minutes. Toss with lemon zest and 1/4 teaspoon each salt and pepper in a bowl.

HEAT remaining 1 tablespoon oil in same skillet over medium-high.

Add chorizo and cook, stirring occasionally, until crispy, about 5 minutes. Transfer to a plate.

Add garlic to skillet; cook, stirring often, until golden, about 2 minutes. Add shrimp; cook until pink, about 3 minutes. Add wine and cook, scraping up browned bits, until reduced by half, about 1 minute. Stir in remaining 3/4 teaspoon salt and 1/4 teaspoon pepper.

cook pasta according to package directions for al dente. Drain, reserving 1 cup pasta water. Add pasta, reserved pasta water, butter, and chorizo to skillet; toss gently to combine.

Top with panko mixture and parsley.

MEANWHILE,

PER SERVING: 551 Calories, 25g Fat (9g Saturated), 257mg Cholesterol, 2g Fiber, 38g Protein, 41g Carbs, 1,084mg Sodium, 1g Sugar

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Easy Dinner 4

Slow Cooker Mexican Beef Sliders ACTIVE TIME 15 MINUTES TOTAL TIME 7 HOURS, 15 MINUTES SERVES 8

✓ Make Ahead ✓ Big Batch ✓ Slow Cooker ✓ Family Friendly

1 cup low-sodium beef broth

1 Tbsp. olive oil

1 large yellow onion, chopped

1 Tbsp. fresh lime juice

6 cloves garlic, finely chopped 1/4 cup finely chopped chipotle chiles in adobo plus 3 Tbsp. adobo sauce (from 1 can) 1 1/2 tsp. ground cumin 1 tsp. dried oregano 2 1/4 tsp. kosher salt, divided 1 3 1/2-lb. boneless beef chuck roast 4 cups prepared coleslaw mix 1/4 cup packed cilantro leaves

16 slider buns, toasted 1/2 cup sliced pickled jalapeños, for serving (optional) broth, onion, garlic, chipotles, adobo sauce, cumin, oregano, and 1 1/4 teaspoons salt in a 6quart slow cooker. Add beef and turn to coat. Cover and cook on low until beef is very tender and pulls apart easily, 7 to 8 hours.

STIR

TRANSFER beef to a large bowl; coarsely shred with 2 forks. Toss beef with 1 1/2 cups cooking liquid and 3/4 teaspoon salt.

TOSS coleslaw mix with cilantro, oil, lime juice, and remaining 1/4 teaspoon salt in a medium bowl.

Divide beef among buns; top with slaw and pickled jalapeño slices, if using.

PER SERVING: 448 Calories, 11g Fat

(2g Saturated), 109mg Cholesterol, 3g Fiber, 46g Protein, 41g Carbs, 1,097mg Sodium, 2g Sugar

FOOD

1 2-in. piece fresh ginger, peeled 2 Tbsp. vegetable oil 6 oz. shiitake mushrooms, stemmed and finely chopped 2 cloves garlic, finely chopped 3/4 cup thinly sliced scallions, plus more for serving 1/4 cup mirin 2 Tbsp. low-sodium soy sauce, divided 6 cups low-sodium vegetable broth

Easy Dinner 5

Mushroom Wonton Soup ACTIVE TIME 30 MINUTES TOTAL TIME 40 MINUTES SERVES 4

✓ Healthy Pick ✓ Vegetarian ✓ Family Friendly

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24 square wonton wrappers 1 large egg, lightly beaten 6 oz. baby bok choy, cored and sliced (about 2 cups) chop half of ginger. Cut remaining piece in half; set aside.

Heat oil in a large skillet over medium-high. Add mushrooms and cook, stirring occasionally, until browned, about 8 minutes.

Add garlic, scallions, mirin, 1 tablespoon soy sauce, and chopped ginger; cook until liquid evaporates, about 1 minute. Let cool.

FINELY

broth, 2 cups water, reserved ginger, and remaining 1 tablespoon soy sauce in a large saucepan and bring to a simmer.

COMBINE

1 teaspoon cooled mushroom mixture in center of a wonton wrapper. Brush edges with a bit of egg. Fold 1 corner of wonton over filling to meet opposite corner. Press to seal edges.

Brush remaining 2 sealed corners of wonton with egg and fold under filling to meet; press to seal. Repeat with remaining wrappers and mushroom mixture, keeping formed wontons covered with a damp cloth.

PLACE

broth mixture to a boil over high. Remove and discard ginger. Add bok choy and cook until bright green and almost tender, about 3 minutes. Add wontons and simmer until cooked through, about 2 minutes. Top with scallions.

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Big Batch

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By Adina Steiman

ACTIVE TIME 35 MINUTES TOTAL TIME 1 HOUR SERVES 8

1 large yellow onion, chopped 2 tsp. kosher salt, divided 3 poblano peppers, seeded and roughly chopped 3 cloves garlic, finely chopped 2 Tbsp. chili powder 1/4 tsp. ground cinnamon 1 lb. ground turkey 1 28-oz. can whole peeled plum tomatoes, undrained 1 large sweet potato, peeled and cut into 1/2-in. pieces 3/4 lb. fresh tomatillos, husks removed and tomatillos chopped 1 15.5-oz. can black beans, drained and rinsed 1 15.5-oz. can pinto beans, drained and rinsed 1/4 cup chopped fresh cilantro, plus more for serving 2 canned chipotle chiles in adobo, chopped Sour cream, sliced pickled jalapeños, and/or grated pepper Jack cheese, for serving

oil in a large Dutch oven or other large, heavy-bottomed pot over medium-high. Add onion and 1 teaspoon salt; cook, stirring often, until softened and lightly browned in spots, about 8 minutes. Add poblanos; cook, stirring often, until slightly softened, about 5 minutes.

HEAT

garlic to pot; cook, stirring constantly, until fragrant, about 1 minute. Add chili powder and cinnamon; cook, stirring constantly, until fragrant, about 1 minute. Add turkey and cook, breaking up meat with a wooden spoon, until no longer pink, about 5 minutes. Add tomatoes and crush into large pieces.

ADD

in sweet potato, tomatillos, beans, ½ cup water, cilantro, chipotles, and remaining 1 teaspoon salt. Bring to a simmer over medium-high. Cover; reduce heat to medium and cook, stirring occasionally, until sweet potatoes are tender and flavors have melded, about 25 minutes. Serve chili topped with cilantro, sour cream, pickled jalapeños, and/or cheese.

STIR

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B e t t e r f o r Yo u

Roasted Broccoli Pesto Pasta FA S T, H E A LT H Y, A N D F U L L O F F L A V O R

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ACTIVE TIME 10 MINUTES TOTAL TIME 30 MINUTES SERVES 4

1 1 1/3-lb. head broccoli 2 cloves garlic, smashed 3 Tbsp. olive oil, divided 3/4 tsp. kosher salt, divided 1/4 tsp. freshly ground black pepper, divided 8 oz. whole-grain pasta (such as brown rice, kamut, or whole-wheat) 1/4 cup raw almonds 2 Tbsp. grated pecorino Romano cheese, plus more for serving (optional) 1 tsp. lemon zest plus 1 Tbsp. fresh juice (from 1 lemon) 3 cups packed baby arugula, divided oven to 400°F. Cut stalk from broccoli head; peel and thinly slice into rounds. Cut crown into florets and toss with stalk, garlic, 1 tablespoon oil, 1/4 teaspoon salt, and 1/8 teaspoon pepper on a rimmed baking sheet. Roast until charred in spots, about 20 minutes, stirring halfway through. bring a large pot of salted water to a boil. Add pasta and cook according to package directions. Drain, reserving 1 cup pasta water. Set aside.

MEANWHILE,

1 cup roasted florets in a large bowl; transfer remaining to a food processor. Add reserved pasta water, almonds, cheese, lemon zest, lemon juice, 1 cup arugula, and remaining 2 tablespoons oil, 1/2 teaspoon salt, and 1/8 teaspoon pepper. Process until pesto is smooth, about 1 minute.

PLACE

pasta to bowl with florets.

Toss with pesto and remaining 2 cups arugula. Top with more cheese, if desired.

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