The Lindsay Advocate - December 2024

Healthcare would benefit from a system-wide approach

On the road again: The commuting challenge

Torrey family history showcases our agricultural past

JOCELYN RECEIVED AN UNIMAGINABLE DIAGNOSIS. THEN SHE WAS GIVEN UNPARALLELED CARE.

A devastating diagnosis upended the Shauf family, triggering a year of intensive treatment for a rare form of leukemia.

Today, Jocelyn is cancer free.

With life returning to normal, her family is sharing their gratitude for ‘the army of people’ who supported Jocelyn’s recovery, by telling their story and encouraging donations to the Ross Memorial Hospital Foundation.

SOUND SOLUTIONS FOR A CLEAR TOMORROW

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Local family’s history an example of our rich heritage. Healthcare needs more organization. feature 10 cover 16 feature 22

The commuting challenge.

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Humane Society gratitude

A heartfelt thank you for running our media release about the Taylor Swift ticket fundraiser so promptly on lindsayadvocate.ca. We saw a surge in ticket sales following it and as a result, raised a whopping $40,500 in two weeks. We are grateful for your support and please know the difference it has made for the animals in our care.

— Corinna Campbell, Humane Society of Kawartha Lakes

Natural death not the same as MAID

Regarding the Medical Assistance in Dying (MAID) feature (October Advocate).

I would characterize end-of-life differently from Dr. Brent MacMillan, whom I know to be a kind, empathetic physician to his palliative patients but with whom I differ on his description of how one appears when one dies.

With present-day palliative care medications, we do not allow our patients to “suffer” but offer relief from pain and discomfort and provide peace and dignity and quality time for family and friends who want to have meaningful, lasting memories of their loved one. We should consider that allowing natural death is not “lingering” and not “horrible” but a peaceful exit from this world no matter how long it takes.

Any deterioration happens in the months or years prior to death and is a result of the illness itself and not of allowing natural death and that decline has already happened by the time the patient qualifies for MAID. As one who provides palliative care, I have seen beautiful loving scenes of closeness and spiritual connection between patients and their loved ones. Perhaps in today’s fast-moving society, we just want to get things done and over. We should not put natural death into that category.

— Peter Petrosoniak, Lindsay

“A word after a word after a word is power.”

— Margaret Atwood

MAID article resonates with reader

The article on MAID and the related column “Let’s talk about death, baby,” by Aliyah Mansur has deeply resonated with me. She is young and has such a mature outlook on a subject where those so much older than her, avoid. There is much to learn from her openness and approach to dying. At 81 and having recently experienced cancer, surgery and radiation therapy the article has certainly brought closer to home the absolute need to commiserate openly with family about my future health and ultimate death which is a reality. Hiding my head in the sand is not my solution.

Thank you Roderick Benns for the Advocate and to the contributors of what is a monthly read I look forward to.

— Zarina Decambra, Lindsay

New columnist’s advice appreciated

Regarding “Mansur’s Musings,” Aliyah Mansur shows courage, honesty and empathy in her writing. I, too, moved to Lindsay with my partner from big city living (from Toronto via Montreal) decades ago for family reasons. The first few months were lonely for us, but we soon met people outside of our family circle who welcomed us here. It is people, in all their diversity, that make for a great community and Aliyah has added a richness to our town. Her advice to “slow down, take a breath” resonated with me as a newcomer to widowhood. It has been a difficult, and at times busy, period of adjustment that often felt frantic and other times felt numb and non-productive. I thank her for her suggestion to “give ourselves grace when building even the simplest new habits” and to think about the good that has happened this year. There has been goodness amidst the grief, but this is the thing: she may have written with a different context in mind, but her advice is universal and insightful enough to include my situation. To Aliyah, thank you for sharing your wisdom, and to the Advocate for publishing it.

— Joy Wilson, Lindsay

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Merry Festivus and the like

The bare November days of Robert Frost have receded. Now we face December, a month of merriment and significant events.

First up is that perennial crowd-pleaser, the anniversary of the Statute of Westminster. That’s of course when an act of the British Parliament gave Canada its autonomy in 1931. Now we’re free to get our own decisions wrong without the United Kingdom’s help.

For instance, Exhibit A: Justin Trudeau and Exhibit B: Doug Ford. The first doesn’t know when to quit and the second thinks sending $200 cheques to millionaires and billionaires is good economic policy. (I wonder what Galen Weston will do with his $200? Maybe he’ll spend it at one of his own stores. At least he can fill one bag of groceries.)

By Roderick Benns Publisher

season. (Keep in mind I simply love the cheekiness of the holiday; please visit our advertisers found in this magazine and tell them I sent you.)

And I don’t need to tell you about Christmas. You’re celebrating it for all kinds of reasons. Christian tradition. Familial pressure. FOMO. No matter your cultural orientation, it’s pretty hard to escape something called the Christmas season when it lasts longer than a Canadian summer.

I must admit, I do less and less for Christmas each year. As my kids started not to care so much about Christmas decorating, I followed their lead. You know those folks who put up Christmas lights on their house and leave them up all year long? First, I never bothered with that much effort, even at my Christmas-caring peak. But I’ve taken this idea to another level. I now have a onemetre-high Christmas tree that I leave decorated from year to year. I put it in a tall storage cupboard and then each year I can just remove it and set it in the living room. Challenge met.

After the merriment of the Statute of Westminster anniversary, we then acknowledge Dec. 21, also known as the winter solstice. That’s a Wiccan-sounding euphemism for when we start to freeze our bums and other sundry body parts right off.

If I’ve fully recovered from celebrating those two raucous events, my next favourite holiday is Festivus. As popularized by Seinfeld, it’s a secular holiday celebrated on Dec. 23 as an alternative to the commercialism of the Christmas

This year, I also acquired two Christmas pillowcases, as accent pillows on my sofa. They are white on one side (for most of the year) and then I just flip them over when it’s time to celebrate the holiday.

While most of us celebrate Christmas in some form or another, not everyone celebrates Boxing Day. That’s when we go on YouTube and stream old videos of our favourite boxing matches. I’m partial to Lennox Lewis vs. Mike Tyson, or Evander Holyfield vs. Mike Tyson. (You know, boxing where the outcome wasn’t preordained.)

No matter what you celebrate – or why – I wish you the very best of the holiday season.

About this month’s cover

This month, the Advocate commissioned local artist Laura Butler to create a special painted cover in art deco style to capture the spirit of our community’s downtowns during the holidays.

Butler is a multi-media artist, raised in Kawartha Lakes, who is passionate about all kinds of art, from textiles, sculpture, drawing, painting, and printmaking. She graduated from Western University in 2021 with an Undergraduate Degree in Visual Arts, Honours, and a certificate in Museum and Curatorial Studies.

Most recently, Laura exhibited more than 15 original artworks in her first solo exhibition at Kawartha Art Gallery, titled Sincerely, Plants. She also did Fireside Publishing House’s popular Play Stay Live publication last year. Find her on Instagram @laurabutlerstudio.

Healthcare hardships

Our patchwork system no longer serves us. Let’s get behind Dr. Jane Philpott’s model for fixing healthcare in Kawartha Lakes and beyond.

By Corey Norman

I was born and raised in Lindsay. I spent my formative years here before moving to large urban communities to do my undergraduate, post graduate and master’s degrees. When it came time to start my career and a family, I called Toronto home. But it wasn’t. Not really. And then my father got sick. At the time my wife and I were looking for a place to settle down and we took it as a signal. Along with our two young daughters we moved to Lindsay, in part so I could look after him in his last few months, and in part to give our daughters a place to call home. I am now the manager of business development at the Kawartha Lakes Community Futures Development Corporation (KLCFDC) and a member of the Launch Kawartha Team. Kawartha Lakes isn’t the same place where I grew up. When I drive around the different communities, the growth is significant. And it is easy to forget just how vast this city really is. I was on a drive to visit a client in Minden, and it was nearly an hour of driving before I left the city limits. And the amount of development happening is

eye opening. So, I know that my experience isn’t the same as every member of this community – it can’t be. I am 10 minutes from the hospital, my daughters’ school and daycare are within 10 minutes of my home, I can walk to get groceries or visit the bank, and I have history here.

Thankfully, we were able to get our two children into a local physician. My wife and I, however, have had to maintain our doctors in Toronto to continue receiving primary care. Nearly a third of the Kawartha Lakes community are without a primary care physician. And we don’t measure or track how far people must travel to see a physician – so long as you have one at all you are in a privileged position. That is our starting point. Too many members of our community have similar experiences when it comes to accessing primary health care.

Now, layer in the 6,500 homes that are planned to be built by 2031 that will bring more unattached people (those without a doctor) into Kawartha Lakes over the next 10 years. I won’t do the math but just say, the situation is go-

ing to get worse – a lot worse. Growth in population brings opportunity for more small businesses, which means more jobs and a better quality of life. Which brings more people, and so on. At least that is the hope. But, while we can build as many homes as we want, who will buy them knowing they won’t have access to a primary care physician once they move in? The real limit on our growth will be primary care physicians and daycare, yet another issue. So which situation is worse – one, we have a significant growth in population, but no one has a doctor, or two, we invest lots of time, energy and money to build lots of housing that no one buys, and still no one has a doctor?

However, it also isn’t that simple, and in fact it is a lot more complex. A real solution isn’t just numbers –getting 100 doctors to call Kawartha Lakes their home is neither realistic, nor optimal. How we utilize limited resources is as important as the amount of resources we have. That is why the recent appointment of Dr. Jane Philpott by Premier Doug Ford to lead the provinces “Primary Care Action Team,” to me, is opportune. Her vision for access to primary care physicians is both idealistic and realistic. On April 5, her article It’s time for Canadians to have the right to a family doctor was published in the Globe and Mail.

I have spent the last few months connecting and talking with individuals in our community about what can be done. While there seems to be alignment on the what needs to be done, the how has been far more difficult to pin down. Because, despite what seems like a very clear answer, the bureaucracy – and I don’t mean our municipal, provincial and federal representatives – create barriers to getting us all rowing in the same direction. Over many years we have created new committees, health teams, networks, not-for-profits and models in hopes of plugging a different hole

in our ‘system.’ Each of those stakeholders either believes they are the solution or aren’t willing to admit they are not. In reality, there is no system. What exists is a hodgepodge of services delivered by entities within their own self-defined boundaries.

If we had the opportunity to design a real health system from scratch, how much of what we have would remain? Honest question. So, tabula rasa. How might we build a health care system where every citizen has access to a primary care physician? The bright side is this is no longer a problem where we need to think outside the box for solutions; Philpott has quite clearly laid out the guardrails on the box. Now we have to take the box and apply it in our context – what we do here by virtue of everything I have described makes what we do here look different than, say, Scarborough. So the problem is clear, the vision of a solution has been described, and the challenge is on us – this communityto make it real. We can help ourselves, or we can get in the way by continuing to cling to our pieces of the broken, piecemeal ‘system.’

It is time to gather a small group of interested parties, local health care experts, municipal representatives, medical recruitment experts, those representing business and job creation, and philanthropic interests to embrace what Philpott’s model could look like in Kawartha Lakes. If we don’t do something soon, our collective hope for what this community could be will be lost.

It is time to gather a small group of interested parties, local health care experts, municipal representatives, medical recruitment experts, those representing business and job creation, and philanthropic interests, to embrace what Philpott’s model could look like in Kawartha Lakes. If you have interest in being involved in the conversation, or being part of the solution, please reach out at cnorman@klcfdc.com. LA

Put on your eating pants

By Aliyah Mansur Contributor

This year for the holidays, I’m putting on my eating pants and calling it a day. In an age of relentless self-improvement books and podcasts, weaponized therapy-speak, and the daily bombardment of new fitness and diet trends, I’ve decided who I am and the body I’m in right now is good enough for me. Yes, it’s good to work on ourselves, eat well (though the food industry and nutritionists can never seem to agree on what ‘well’ means) and exercise, which can be great for both mental and physical health. But you know what I’ve never actually tried in 29 years on this planet? Accepting where I’m at and trusting myself to give my body and mind what they need without the external pressure to train, eat and think in highly specific and artificially engineered ways. Because whether I’m not working towards any goal and quietly judging myself for not “doing enough” or I’m actively working towards some fitness or food goal, the gnawing voice in my head pestering me to be in a state of perpetual improvement is never satisfied.

There’s so much pressure these days to be the best version of ourselves. Whether it’s wellness and hustle culture influencers saying everyone should wake up at 5 a.m. to journal, gym, or meditate (no shade if you do these things, but it’s not for everyone), companies implementing goalsetting that conflates our performance improvement with our value, or even that one friend who keeps saying everyone should be in therapy. No one activity, habit, or method of improvement works for everyone.

Even the foods and exercises that work for each of us varies and so does the timing of implementing new habits. For instance, I find I’m better suited to a cycle

that goes with the seasons, where over the spring and summer I shift into more intense and demanding ‘improvement’ habits and then pull back into a softer and slower pace for the winter, prioritizing acceptance. What’s best for someone else might be a cycle that repeats every morning. Or week. Or month. Whatever it is, we get to choose and we shouldn’t feel bad because what works for us looks different to what might be trending in that given moment.

I find I’m better suited to a cycle that goes with the seasons, where over the spring and summer I shift into more intense and demanding ‘improvement’ habits and then pull back into a softer and slower pace for the winter, prioritizing acceptance.

The dark side of perpetual, unbroken self-improvement is struggling to see yourself as whole. I don’t want to feel complete, whole, or my best purely because I fulfilled the demands of a trend. Because we may have had the body positivity movement, but it was immediately followed by the celebrity Ozempic craze.

I’ve simply had enough. Being my ‘best’ is not sustainable. It doesn’t allow for the nuanced shifts of life’s ups and downs and the wonderful mess of creativity that comes out of the challenges we experience that can make ‘best’ hard to achieve. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not over here trying to be my worst self, but maybe I can just be myself. Period.

Roses and THORNS

What we liked — and didn’t like — in 2024.

The walkability of our communities. Isn’t it nice to live somewhere this size?

Local writers and historians who collectively completed a book about the former Victoria County started by the late Rae Fleming. Our own writer, Ian McKechnie, was involved.

Speaking of downtown, it’s great the BIA now has cameras in downtown Lindsay to help police do their work to keep people and property safe. Cameras at our landfill north of Lindsay is also a great idea, which helps citizens navigate busy line-ups.

Green bins for organic waste. Can we say finally? This is a great initiative by the city for our most densely populated areas.

The long-awaited cultural centre for Kawartha Lakes is one step closer to reality. The city is experiencing tremendous growth and a thriving cultural scene must be part of that.

LCVI for successfully pulling off a production of Little Shop of Horrors this past spring, thanks to support from the broader community.

Catching up with friends over tea and eats at Kindred, whether planned or by chance. The venue’s name is so apt. And now there’s a beautiful location in Bobcaygeon, too.

The fullness of our downtowns. It wouldn’t be surprising to have some vacancies in our three largest communities – Lindsay, Bobcaygeon and Fenelon Falls. But it’s rare – let’s keep it that way by showing our support, no matter how big Kawartha Lakes gets.

Local churches that continue to host well-attended suppers and other special events, despite a shrinking volunteer base.

The new art installation that is coming to downtown Lindsay in 2025, finally covering up a painting of Kansas from a movie that was shot here long ago. This is long overdue.

Bad drivers: that’s not how a four-way stop works.

Litterers. It’s sad how too many residents use our shared space as a garbage can.

Bad drivers again. The speed limit was reduced to 40 km, not 20 km – if scooters can pass you, you’re going too slow.

People who think they need to go to Peterborough for all their shopping needs. Kawartha Lakes has amazing small businesses that deserve your dollars.

What happened to the bars and what is there for people in late evening? There’s not enough nightlife, and we don’t mean we want a return to rowdy drunkenness. The Halloween party at the Armoury was great and we need more events like this Lion’s Club initiative.

The premier of Ontario, for his insensitive comments about the homeless and how they are unwilling to work. We need real solutions to this problem here in Kawartha Lakes and beyond, not gaslighting.

Annoying drivers. Obnoxiously loud vehicles and their owners – you’re not impressing anyone, only informing us that you’re insecure.

Real estate that is out of reach in pricing for so many people. This isn’t an easy fix and needs a supply solution, backed up by all levels of government.

The abysmal lack of cycling infrastructure in downtown Lindsay. Even the absence of places to properly tie up a bicycle on Kent Street is not ideal.

Awful behaviour at Kawartha Lakes Council chambers by audience members and a handful of presenters. Trying to hijack local democracy and insulting city officials does nothing to help their causes.

Speaking of that, the loss of civility and keyboard warriors are repugnant aspects of the internet age.

remembers her commuting days and is happy to have left them behind.

Robyn James

To and fro: the connective, reflective, and transformative realities of commuting

By Aliyah Mansur

It’s a bracing December morning. The sun won’t be up for another few hours as high school teacher Dawn Legrow gets into her car to drive to work. Living in Reaboro, Legrow works in Toronto’s west end. Her commute can take anywhere from two to three hours. Meanwhile, just north of Lindsay, Chris Schmidt puts the address of his downtown Toronto office into the GPS and sits back as his self-driving car pulls out of the driveway. Schmidt’s foot won’t have to touch the break or gas pedals for the majority, if not all, of his commute. A few hours later, Robyn James returns home from walking her kids to school. As she passes her car in the driveway, a memory of her commuting days flashes in her mind. James breathes a sigh of relief as she realizes she doesn’t have to spend the next few hours sitting in traffic today, or tomorrow, or until she chooses to visit the GTA on her own terms.

The cost of commuting to the GTA from Kawartha Lakes is high. With climbing gas prices, toll fees to use Hwy 407 and avoid a jam-packed Hwy 401, and up to six hours a day spent in the car, excellent financial planning and time management are key. Gas alone will run Monday to Friday commuters around $650 per month. If you include a few uses of the 407 (with a transponder) you can add another $56 dollars per round trip – that’s an extra $243 per month to use the toll highway just once a week. Add in an occasional breakfast purchased at a drive-thru because of a missed alarm, or a last-minute stay in a hotel due to a sudden snowstorm and the monthly cost of being a commuter easily passes $1,000.

Though the financial costs are nothing to sneeze at, our commuters agreed that one of the worst parts of commuting is the ever-increasing traffic. Especially as people continue to move their home life out of the GTA while their work-life remains in the city.

“This is my 10th year commuting (and) every year the traffic has gotten worse,” says Legrow. James echoes this sentiment, saying that when she first started commuting back in 2014, “I didn’t even think about it, but as the years went on, I got more anxious and worried for my safety.” According to a recent article in the Toronto Star, “in the past two years, 220,000 more Canadians have abandoned Ontario’s capital than arrived.” To compare, back in 2017 that number was only 40,000.

We may be experiencing a balmy fall this year (in fact, on Nov 5, a 65-year-old high temperature record was broken by a few degrees), but worsening weather is the other major concern for our commuters. Legrow and James both said that the weather has become more unpredictable over the years, with severe storms coming on more suddenly and seemingly out of nowhere, making planning for poor road conditions a huge challenge. “I have a storm playlist for rain and snow, because I really want to concentrate,” says Legrow. “I always have a bag packed in the winter, and I keep it in my car from October to March,” in case she needs to stay the night to wait out a storm. In 2021, CBC reported that “(extreme weather) is happening more quickly than expected… the science supports our experiences.”

The combination of worsening traffic and weather makes for driving conditions that bring out the worst in people, creating drivers that are impatient and frustrated. “If you look around, no one’s joyous and they take bigger risks,” says Schmidt. Legrow points out that “the stubbornness to drive doesn’t pay off,” as she’s learnt over a decade of living one to three hours’ drive from her job. She continues, “there’s the odd time I have to use sick days because I haven’t had enough sleep and it’s not safe to drive.”

Given the added costs, energy and stress, many people need a good reason to justify the commuter lifestyle, whether it’s a dream job or dream home and community. “There’s something different about Lindsay that I love,” says Legrow, who wants to work locally, but as a teacher, switching to the Trillium Lakelands District School Board would mean losing her seniority. “There’s a safe sense of community that a small town has to offer,” says Schmidt, “so much of our friend group moved here from major cities, there’s something very appealing about that broad perspective in a small

town.” Schmidt, who’s commuted to Toronto twice a week for four years, bought his car new in June and has already put more than 26,000 km on his odometer. For James, her dream job kept her commuting for years, until recently the toll of the driving grind caught up and when the opportunity to take a break from working arose, she took it. James previously commuted to Toronto three days a week, driving to Oshawa and taking the GO train the rest of the way, using train time to get extra work done.

On top of having a solid raison d’être, our commuters said the trick to surviving a long commute is the right type of distraction. Something that will help you pass the time but doesn’t take away from being a good driver. Boredom can feel like it’s just a nuisance, but while driving it can be deadly. Legrow says boredom is one of her biggest challenges and though “rural roads might be technically longer, it doesn’t feel that way because they’re more interesting.” Legrow, James, and Schmidt are all big fans of listening to music and podcasts to stay engaged on the commute. “If I

Chris Schmidt’s self-driving Tesla gets him to the GTA for work, although he prefers small town life.

had to give someone advice, find something to listen to or do that makes you want to stay in the car.” James says, the right podcasts had her “getting out of the car feeling inspired.” Schmidt –whose commute sometimes involves flying on top of his regular drive – says the time in the car provides an opportunity “to get connected with people or be reflective in the stillness.”

For parents in particular, their commute might be the most uninterrupted time they get to themselves. “Driving home is the perfect time to make that phone call you never get to,” says James, who’s youngest just started Kindergarten. Similarly, Legrow uses the drive home for phone calls, as she feels less rushed than in the morning. Though she teaches kids in the city, her own children attend school in Kawartha Lakes. “It’s time I’m able to connect with people,” says Schmidt, “on days I’m not commuting I have less time to check in on my friends.” Schmidt chose Lindsay because he wants his kids to grow up where it’s safe and they have more space to just be kids.

The energy in Toronto is very different from Kawartha Lakes and stereotypes about city vs. small town folk have some basis in reality. The city is very stimulating, with crowds generating a sense of urgency – even if you aren’t in a rush yourself you might find yourself picking up the pace. In a small town like Lindsay and area, people will take their time for pleasantries and there’s more patience. When you’re a commuter, you occupy both urban and rural spaces, which requires constant code switching.

“In some ways, when you go from a small town to an urban centre, you almost metamorphosize into the person you need to be,” says James. The hours on the road, the commute, gives time for this transformation “back to who you were when you lived in the city,” says James. She continues, “as you come home, people start to dissipate and you’re driving on smaller roads, you come back to your small-town self.” LA

Dawn Legrow has put up with commuting for a decade.

In the spirit of the season

In the spirit of the holiday season, we decided to spread some cheer by asking a couple of local business owners a few fun Christmas questions.

Anna Greig is the owner of The Purple Boat in Fenelon Falls and The Purple Door Craft and Christmas Store in Kirkfield.

What Christmas song best represents your business and why?

White Christmas (1947) by Bing Crosby because there is something for everyone in my store and old-fashioned personal service. It’s a song that everyone loves.

If you could turn any holiday movie into a real-life event at your store, which one would it be?

Miracle on 34th Street. The real Santa works here. He spreads and encourages kindness and contributes to miracles happening - giving hope to people.

If you could invite a famous person (living or dead) to your business’s Christmas party, who would it be and why?

Dolly Parton. I love her singing (White Christmas and Mary, Did you know?) I would love to meet her because she has not forgotten where she came from. She donates to many causes and from all the interviews I have seen, she seems so genuine, spiritual, funny and loving.

Holly Wreggitt is a co-owner of Kingsway Optical in Bobcaygeon.

What Christmas song best represents your business and why?

Walking in a Winter Wonderland because you can see all the wonders of winter with clear vision.

If you could turn any holiday movie into a real-life event at your store, which one would it be?

It’s a Wonderful Life

If you could invite a famous person (living or dead) to your business’s Christmas party, who would it be and why?

John Candy, he is hilarious, and the party would not be boring.

Torrey family has a long, rich history in agriculture

By Laura Love

One doesn’t have to go far in Kawartha Lakes to see that farming and agriculture are a key part of the landscape. According to the 2021 census there are 1,146 farms averaging about 242 acres in size. Nearly 200 years ago, when the former Victoria County was first surveyed in 1827 into 100 acre lots, settlers were promised cheap land, some for as low as $1 an acre – hard to fathom today. Over the course of 150plus years these farms were improved and treasured, and there are many residents whose families go back to these early settlers. Some are even fortunate enough to still be in the same family, and the Torrey-Dale Farm is one of them.

The Torrey family have lived and farmed on the same property since before 1851, well before their Crown Land Deed was signed on July 10, 1864. I was invited to speak with Reid and Helen Torrey, the fourth generation to own Torrey-Dale Farm, and had the pleasure of learning about Reid’s family’s history, and a getting a glimpse of life on the farm over the years.

Reid took me for a drive through Eldon Station, sharing stories about the area’s families and buildings, both standing and gone. We then headed down Sandringham Road to the Torrey family farm, where we met Reid and Helen’s son, Mark, who now lives in the 1904 brick farmhouse and farms the land.

Reid recalled his early years as a farmer: “Mom didn’t want me to farm; she knew how hard it was. But I did.” Reid began helping his father in 1951 and took over operations in 1963 after his father passed.

Sifting through family papers at his kitchen table, Reid tells me of his family’s origins in Scotland and the life they made for themselves in Kawartha Lakes.

Reid’s great-grandfather George Torry was born around 1803 in the Isle of Islay, Scotland. As a widower, he immigrated to Canada with his two children John and Nancy ‘Ann’ from Scotland in 1834. Shortly after settling in Port Perry in the 1840s, George, his second wife Mary Kerr, and their now family of eight, moved to Woodville in Eldon Township. According to family stories passed down, the family left Woodville because clearing the oak trees proved difficult. The family found property north on Concession 5, where the pine trees were easily removed and it was here that George built a log shanty on the west side of Sandringham Road for his large family.

The 1851 agricultural census for Victoria County, Eldon Township, records that George had 30 acres cultivated and 70 wooded.

George died at 50 in 1853, and the farm was inherited by

Torrey-Dale Farm.

his eldest son, John, and for the next 11 years John managed the land. By the end of 1864, John had not only purchased the farm’s 100 acres for $200, and replaced the shanty with a log cabin (located just west of the current brick house), but he also married. John married Ann MacDonald, whose parents also came from Scotland.

John and Ann welcomed two boys and six girls. John became John Sr. with the birth of his youngest son John Alexander (John A.), Reid’s father.

Over the next 40 years the Torry farm continued to prosper. By 1898, 100

acres were cleared, a barn was built for $100. In 1904, for the cost of $843, a two-storey brick house was completed. Reid notes that “the bricks were transported by train to Balsam Station and then by horse and wagon to the farm.”

After his elder brother’s unexpected death in 1896, John A. inherited the farm when John Sr. died in 1915.

Reid recalls his father describing the tough early years on the farm. Facing challenges during both world wars and struggling through the depression, losing the entire cattle herd to

tuberculosis. Eventually, John A. had to work off the farm.

During the First World War, John A. rented out the farm and temporarily moved to Toronto with his sister Isabella. While she taught, John A. built Jeeps for Willys-Overland.

In 1925, John A. returned to the farm and in the autumn of 1927, he married Mary Reid from Reaboro. Mary, a teacher at the local school, was boarding with the McEachern family, whose farm neighboured the Torrey’s.

Between 1927 and 1941, John and Mary

The Torrey family 1880s: Ann, John Alexander, Isabella, John Sr.

welcomed five children, John ‘Reid’ was the middle of those five.

At the wake of the Second World War, John A. went to work at the arsenal in Lindsay, as many people did at that time to make ends meet. Reid remembers, “we kept the farm and hired Archie D. McEachern to work the land for us.”

Reid and his four sisters, Jean, Alda, Ruth and Donna spent much of their childhood helping around the farm: milking cows, looking after the hens and pigs, cutting wood. Everyone had a part, “we were all raised but it wasn’t the wealthy things or the money things that we gained, it was the honesty and integrity as our parents taught us.”

Reid remembers “in the earlier days when a pig was slaughtered the pork would be fried, put into a crock and leftover melted fat would be poured over the meat to help preserve it… mom sometimes would use some of the leftover fat to fry doughnuts.” When asked if she made them for special occasions, Reid replied with a smile and short laugh. “It was

always a special occasion when she made them.”

When asked how they met nearly 60 years ago, Helen smiled at Reid, prompting him to share a familiar story. He began, “I was at Jack Little’s wedding in Udney, and she was serving. I asked Bob Robertson, her first cousin, if he knew her.” Helen added with a smile, “A stroke of good luck.”

The couple married at Udney United Church and headed to Ottawa for their honeymoon. “I sold one sow to pay for it,” Reid chuckled. Helen remembered buying their first chesterfield on the way home. When they returned to the farm, Reid tried to carry his new bride over the threshold, saying, “I almost made it,” while his mother Mary held the door. We all laughed.

Reid and Helen were blessed with four children: Carol, Ian, Dwayne and Mark.

Growing up on the farm everyone had a role. “The farm was a family operation, the kids knew when they were get-

From L to R, Mark, Michelle and their children with Helen and Reid Torrey sharing their Spotlight on Agriculture award.

ting off of the bus in the evening and mom (Helen) had hot chocolate on the stove, they were headed to the storage to bag potatoes.” Pride, love and hard work was instilled in everyone, “but there was also so much fun,” remembers Reid.

At the height of farm operations, the family cared for 25 to 30 cows and calves and grew, sorted and bagged 300 tones of potatoes, per year. Reid sold and hand delivered potatoes to local general stores in Cannington, Woodville and Oakwood. It was around this time that Reid started calling the farm Torrey-Dale. “Torrey-Dale is what Dad named it when he started marketing potatoes in the 60s…it just stuck” commented Mark. Helen

proudly stated that, “there was not one accident on the farm!” Both Helen and Reid attribute no accidents to how well their help was treated, “two hot meals a day, with coffee breaks at 10 a.m. and 4 p.m. and paid $1 an hour, that was 20 cents more than what others could pay. The Township of Eldon paid 80 cents.”

The proud farming tradition continues with Mark. Like his father, Mark wanted to farm. Mark is a graduate of the Ontario Agricultural CollegeUniversity of Guelph, and with all of his jobs, every one of his endeavours were to get him back to the farm. He is now the proud owner-operator of Torrey-Dale Farms, as the fifth-generation of Torrey’s. He is joined by his wife Mi-

chelle and their children. In addition to the farm, Mark is the member services Representative for the Ontario Federation of Agriculture (OFA).

Reid and I spoke briefly about the pride he has that his family farm hasn’t left Torrey hands. Humbly, Reid remarked “that’s what you hope will happen, but you never do know.” LA

With thanks to the Torrey family. Has your farm/land been in the family for over 100 years? We’d love to hear your story and recollections. Please contact Laura Love at llove@kawarthalakes.ca or visit kawarthalakes. ca/moments.

The Torrey Family 1890s: Flora, Mary, Catherine, Isabella and John A. Absent: George, Jessie and Margaret.

Adelaide Place: The changing landscape of healthcare

By Erica McWilliam Director of Care at Adelaide Place

How has Adelaide Place evolved to meet the needs of residents?

When I started at Adelaide Place 11 years ago, we had a strong belief that residents deserved to have the choice of aging in place. This means we would evolve to meet the needs of our residents and allow them to age in our home. It has meant rethinking how we approach care needs, working with families and community partners (Hospice, Ontario Health at Home) and training our team members in new skills. Recently we have educated and trained our team on person-centred language to help all our residents feel at home, regardless of their medical conditions. Adelaide Place has evolved to accommodate the growing needs of our community as we continue to see longer wait lists for Long Term Care beds, and a strain on our home care services. Our multiple lifestyle options allow residents to move in and be as independent as they wish and also have access to additional support services, as needed, from administrating medications, to assisting with personal care and social visits.

What is your favourite aspect of your day?

Seeing the difference we can make in the lives of our residents. Our residents have chosen to live at Adelaide Place for different reasons, and I love interacting with them, hearing their stories and how we have collectively made them feel at home.

What sets AP apart from its competitors?

Our passion for person-centred care and a strong belief that no matter what a resident’s needs are, they deserve to age in place.

The building was designed by Thomas Fuller in what was called the Romanesque Revival style. Characterized by enormous stone foundations, imposing facades sporting generously-proportioned arched windows, and large towers anchoring a corner, Romanesque Revival visually conveyed the importance of federal institutions in small towns throughout the nation. Constructed of local materials (notably, Bobcaygeon-procured limestone) over the course of 1888-1889 under the supervision of Sarnia-based contractor P. Nevan, the Lindsay post office was finally ready for business by the opening days of 1890. Thanks to an ingenious method of laying the bricks from the inside out, local residents were able to appreciate the full scale of the structure without scaffolding blocking the view.

Brad Whitley has 30 years experience in the 4 way locking metal shingle industry, as a roofing manager, project manager and installation trainer for affiliated companies such as Alcoa Manufacturers, Classic Metal Roofing Manufacturing and Metal Works/Tamko metal shingles. After 10 years as a dealer with Ideal Roofing, Brad is now their Product Specialist and trainer for Wakefield Bridge and Heritage metal roofing and Gallanta steel siding. His passion is helping the next generation learn a new trade one roof at a time.

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Secretly include in an email

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Hwy. sign distances

Fists that are "put up"

Lodge on the river

Jobs

Water under "le pont"

Record time?

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What about China?

As I write this, my daughter is enjoying a vacation near the pristine north beach of Haida Gwaii off the coast of B.C. She drove there in late October, through the picturesque rocks and trees of Northern Ontario.

And past a bereft herd of elk standing in a fire-blackened forest near Jasper.

I love this beautiful country of ours, and the world it’s a big part of. When it’s threatened, I want to do everything I can to reduce that threat. We know the threat is huge. Worldwide, temperatures are soaring, fuelling stronger hurricanes, downpours and floods, droughts and fires. It’s a global problem, and we need all hands on deck to dial down the excess heat, much of which comes from burning fossil fuels.

Admittedly, we’re a big player, with a contribution less than 2 per cent of total emissions. China, with its vast population, is about 26 per cent of the problem. However, there are more than 180 countries that pollute less than Canada. In total, their emissions are greater than China’s. We all need to do our fair share.

And Canada plays an oversized role in the problem. Consider:

• We’re the 11th largest emitter, globally.

• We’re number two in per person emissions. That number is calculated by totalling a country’s emissions and dividing by the population. Thanks to our oil and gas industry ‘s significant pollution, we look pretty bad on that score.

• We’re the fourth largest oil producer in the world. Most of it gets exported.

• Canada is the only member of the Group of Seven countries whose pollution is higher than it was in 1990. It’s up 17 per cent. Meanwhile the U.S. is slightly below 1990 levels and Great Britain has slashed emissions by more than 50 per cent.

Some argue we should wait until China takes action. For well over a decade, that’s been happening. Chinese electric vehicles make up almost 60 per cent of new car sales globally. This summer more than half of new cars sold in China were electric. They’re also surging ahead on battery technology. And China produces about 35 per cent of the world’s heat pumps, according to the International Energy Agency. Last year China added more solar power than the entire world did the year before. Today, wind and solar account for 37 per cent of its total power capacity, and they were expected to surpass coal this year.

So we can’t say China has been doing nothing. In fact, when it comes to clean tech, China is eating our lunch, one former Canadian Imperial Oil exec said recently.

It’s time for Canada to catch up. For starters, the federal government needs to cap planet-warming emissions from oil and gas production to bring our pollution in line with our G-7 partners. Those emissions are out of control, and rising. The industry has been saying for years that they’re working on reducing their pollution, so why the propaganda campaign fighting a cap, unless they were just kidding?

A Leger poll in April showed the vast majority of Canadians support that kind of government regulation. Many businesses, industries and families are doing what they can for the environment. All sectors need to do their fair share, and the fossil fuel industry’s share of the global warming problem is vast – as vast as the country my daughter just crossed. The same country we love.

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Ornament Make & Swap

Looking for a unique ornament? Join us to take, leave, trade, or make one! Indoor decor only. Leftovers will be in the Lindsay Branch lobby for a week, then donated.

• Lindsay Branch – December 7

• 1 PM – 4 PM

Audiobook Club

Come together to listen to a book and share your thoughts in a fun, engaging discussion.

• Lindsay Branch – Third Wednesday of the month

• 2 PM – 4 PM

Movies in the Library

Join us for free movies every Friday— everyone’s welcome! Movie ratings will vary. Please ask staff about upcoming films and feel free to suggest future films. Familyfriendly movies will be shown on PA Days and holidays.

• Lindsay Branch – December 6, 12, 20, & 27

• 2 PM – 4 PM

HomeSchool STEM

Join us for hands-on activities, experiments, and games that spark curiosity about science, technology, engineering, and math. Bring your creativity, and let’s inspire each other!

• Bobcaygeon Branch – December 17

• 10:30 AM – 1:30 PM

There

Holiday hubbub at the Lindsay post office

This past summer, a friend from university days mailed me a postcard from Alaska, detailing the trip she took by train through that state’s majestic landscapes. Nearly two years ago, a friend from Alberta sent me a seven-page handwritten letter bringing me up to date on her various projects in the public history sector. And each year still other friends take the time to entrust lovely Christmas cards to the postal service, kindly inscribed with a note of warm wishes for the forthcoming year.

In this increasingly digital age, there is something quite heartwarming about receiving correspondence that has been carefully sealed into an envelope, stamped, and postmarked. Not only do cards and letters seem infinitely more personal and tangible than messages sent through computer screens, they carry on a tradition that, in Canada, stretches back to the 18th century. And for generations of Canadians sending and receiving mail, the centre of action – particularly during the winter holidays – was the post office.

While the Christmas rush played out in general stores and even private homes-cum-post offices across rural communities, those living in towns and cities would wait with bated breath in majestic buildings designed expressly for the purpose of sending, receiving, and sorting mail. For a period of nearly 75 years, the Lindsay post office towered over Kent Street, becoming one of the town’s most recognizable landmarks – and annually contributing to the hubbub of the holiday season.

The building was designed by Thomas Fuller in what was called the Romanesque Revival style. Characterized by enormous stone foundations, imposing facades sporting generously-proportioned arched windows, and large towers anchoring a corner, Romanesque Revival visually conveyed the importance of federal institutions in small towns throughout the nation. Constructed of local materials (notably, Bobcaygeon-procured limestone) over the course of 1888-1889 under the supervision of Sarnia-based contractor P. Nevan, the Lindsay post office was finally ready for business by the opening days of 1890. Thanks to an ingenious method of laying the bricks from the inside out, local residents were able to appreciate the full scale of the structure without scaffolding blocking the view.

The Lindsay post office as seen on a postcard from 1914. Kawartha Lakes Public Library collection.

In addition to the post office, the building also housed customs offices, the inspector of weights and measures, and the collector of inland revenue. The vast second storey was fitted up for the caretaker and his family; eventually the tower was crowned with a working clock and a bell.

For local residents anxiously awaiting their mail in the days and weeks leading up to Dec. 25, though, the architecture was of secondary importance to customer service.

In 1912, a local newspaper cautioned readers to be patient with the harried

postal clerks as they went about their tasks. A.F. Palen, appointed as postmaster only nine months before after some 20 years on staff, had his hands full. Some $250 worth of stamps were sold only a day before Christmas Eve, and the volume of mail surprised a reporter who was dispatched from the Evening Post to take stock of the situation. “All the tables were piled to overflowing, while piles of it were on the floor and in large baskets,” the reporter observed. “The post office staff were engaged sorting it out until a late hour and certainly showed the effects of a strenuous day’s work.”

And so went the same routine each year, as soon as the first snow fell and local merchants began wooing shoppers with the latest in consumer goods – goods that added to the burden of postal workers. “Last night’s mail was particularly heavy, being augmented by the arrival of Eaton’s and Simpson’s catalogues,” the Lindsay Daily Post reported on Dec. 21, 1923. “The members of the staff jumped into the pile with a do-or-die determination and had things cleaned up late in the evening.”

In 1947, postmaster Aubrey Warner announced that up to 17 additional letter carriers would be hired to aid in delivering mail during the festive season. Warner remarked at the time that the volume of mail sent and received by the citizens of Lindsay seemed to get heavier each year and admitted that he had no idea when it would abate. Statistics released by Warner and his staff in 1952 are staggering: over a period of two weeks in the middle of December, 293,000 cards and letters were processed by the Lindsay post office’s cancelling machine, while 3,740 bags of parcels were sent out. Residents were encouraged to help make the process more efficient by separating local mail from outgoing postage and ensuring that all packages had a stamp in the upper right-hand corner.

The Christmas rush at Lindsay’s post office saw a notable change in 1961, when nine women were hired to sort holiday mail overnight. They would be among the last to carry on this annual ritual in the venerable Romanesque Revival building. By the time Christmas of 1963 rolled around, the grand old landmark was gone – demolished to make way for a grocery store, while the post office relocated to its current location at the southeast corner of Cambridge and Russell Streets.

Though our streetscapes continue to change with the years, some things in life remain constant – as when the weather grows cold and hearts grow warm upon reading mail from old friends far and near. LA

The old post office building was nearing the end of its life when this photo was captured in 1961. Note the clock on top of the tower. Kawartha Lakes Public Library collection.

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Willy Piet “Bill” Kuypers

April 12, 1932 – November 5, 2024

In his 93rd year, Willy Piet “Bill” Kuypers passed away peacefully surrounded by family. He lived and died the way he wanted.

Brian Switzer

April 3, 1931 – November 8, 2024

Philip Reginald Payne

April 3, 1931 – November 8, 2024

He immigrated to Canada in 1952 as a farmhand, he became a bricklayer, roofer that grew into a prosperous business. His entrepreneurship went on to include developing custom residential & commercial buildings. He valued hard work & ambition. Bill was an inspiration.

He left a beautiful legacy to the town of Lindsay and was the mentor to many people with the help of his Late wife Teena (nee Kuipers) of 63 years. Now at rest with his son Bill Kuypers Jr (survived by Pat). Lovingly remembered by daughter Mona-Lisa Kuypers. Opa to Ian MacDonald, Michael MacDonald (Kelcie), Colleen Kuypers (Paul), Jennifer Kuypers, Will Kuypers (Sarah) & Tom Kuypers (Casey). Great Opa to Kent Kuypers, Noah Kuypers & one more on the way. Bill will be sadly missed by many extended family & friends.

A Celebration of Life was held at Lakeland Funeral Centre (19 Moose Road, Lindsay) on Saturday November 16th, 2024 between the hours of 2PM – 4PM.

In memory of Bill, please donate to your favourite charity. Bill & Teena contributed to The Heart & Stroke Foundation of Canada, The Ross Memorial Hospital, Women’s Resources & Kawartha Lakes Centre of Hope.

Beloved father, grandfather, farmer and community member Philip Payne died peacefully at Victoria Manor on Friday, Nov. 8, at the age of 93. Predeceased by his wife and partner in all things, Genevieve (Sedgwick) Payne, he will long be remembered by children Megan (Jeff Payne), Bruce (Jennifer Ackert), Nancy (Denis Grignon) and Valerie (Scott Iverson), by grandchildren Madeline, Conor (Bailey), Sydney, Nikita, Yannick, Jonah (Rose), Esmé and Christian, and dear friend Mary McKay. A former councillor, deputy-reeve and reeve of Ops Township and warden of Victoria County, Philip was prouder of his other legacies, his loving family above all else, and will be remembered as a gifted cattleman, a respected judge of character, a willing volunteer and a person of deep integrity. He gave time to a wide range of agricultural organizations, sang in church choirs, was central to the building of the Ops Community Centre, sat on the provincial drainage tribunal, was among the earliest board members of the Kawartha Region Conservation Authority, and was the definition of a good neighbour. An informal time of visitation will begin at 9:30 a.m. on Saturday, Dec. 28, at Cambridge Street United Church in Lindsay, followed by a memorial service at 11:00. In lieu of flowers, donations in Philip’s honour would be welcomed by Parkinson Canada parkinson.ca or the Mission and Service Fund of The United Church of Canada at united-church.ca/donate. The family will forever be grateful for the loving care of staff at Victoria Manor for Philip and Genevieve before him.

Brian Switzer suddenly passed on November 14, 2024. Brian Switzer was a beloved son of James and Carol Switzer from Fenelon Falls (predeceased). Predeceased by two loving older brothers John and Mike (Jenn) Switzer. Loving uncle to Michael (Kelsey), Sara, Dawn, Justin (Jamie), Joseph, Ashley (Patrick), Maria, and great uncle of Alexandria, Thane, Zachary, Lucus, Quintin, Rhett, Emmett, Paisley, Benjamin, Spencer, Alana. Brian made many friends over the years from living in different townships between Lindsay and Haliburton and will be greatly missed.

Beloved father, grandfather, farmer and community member Philip Payne died peacefully at Victoria Manor on Friday, Nov. 8, at the age of 93. Predeceased by his wife and partner in all things, Genevieve (Sedgwick) Payne, he will long be remembered by children Megan (Jeff Payne), Bruce (Jennifer Ackert), Nancy (Denis Grignon) and Valerie (Scott Iverson), and by grandchildren Madeline, Conor (Bailey), Sydney, Nikita, Yannick, Jonah (Rose), Esmé and Christian. A former councillor, deputy-reeve and reeve of Ops Township and warden of Victoria County, Philip was prouder of his other legacies, his loving family above all else, and will be remembered as a gifted cattleman, a respected judge of character, a willing volunteer and a person of deep integrity. He gave time to a wide range of agricultural organizations, sang in church choirs,

Celebration of Life

As per Brian’s wishes, cremation has taken place. Friends are invited to gather in THE COMMUNITY ROOM 13523 Hwy. #118, Haliburton, Ontario (705) 457-9209 for a celebration of Brian’s life on Nov. 25th, 2024 from 2 - 3. As an expression of sympathy, the family has asked for donations to be made to Snowflake Meadows in Brian’s honour. These amazing people have helped take Zeus and find him a foster home till he can find his forever home. Funeral arrangements have been entrusted to the HALIBURTON COMMUNITY FUNERAL HOME 13523 Hwy. #118, Haliburton, Ontario (705) 457-9209.

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Walking a mile

By Trevor Hutchinson Contributing Editor

We are all products of our time and the culture that formed us. I sometimes consider myself lucky that I was raised in an extended multicultural family, with matriarchal leadership. My family included the differently-abled. But I’m still a product of my time. I have had to learn and listen to others to at least try to be a better person. Thankfully, I was raised with the adage of “never judge someone until you walked a mile in their shoes.”

I’ve found myself thinking about that a lot lately. Because of a stroke and some (thus far) mysterious medical events, I have had to use a walker and a cane for the last five months. I still consider myself very lucky and fortunate, but there are some things I took for granted that are now difficult or impossible for me.

Like any good centrist, I thought I understood mobility/accessibility issues. I definitely could speak to the issues, albeit from a very privileged position. But I didn’t have the lived experience of using assisted devices to be mobile. I didn’t know what it was like to not be able to drive. I hadn’t experienced how a crappy, bumpy sidewalk or an over-exuberant retail sidewalk display might affect someone who is not 100 per cent mobile.

It’s my fervent hope that my personal situation will be temporary. To be clear. I am not trying to speak for any community.

If I let myself, I could get angry about some of these issues. I could complain about a sidewalk to the city.

But fixing a sidewalk happens when you fix the below-ground infrastructure and the entire road itself. These needed repairs take a plan, time and tax dollars. To the credit of the last municipal administration, there is a master plan to address our roads, over time.

Because of a stroke and some (thus far) mysterious medical events, I have had to use a walker and a cane for the last five months.

My inconvenience or anger won’t help anything, despite the political forces that want to harness it. God knows, the appeal to our anger can be stronger than performative messages that come across as hubris. The thing is though, neither anger nor performative gestures of understanding will fix a sidewalk or a housing crisis (or you name it). Joining a chorus of anger is not being heard, although it might feel like it. And let’s face it, our history doesn’t contain a lot of examples of an angry mob running off to go do something good.

Perhaps I am just frustrated, which I can’t confuse with anger. I can’t run anywhere at the moment, angry or not. My temporary inconvenience pales in comparison to others I know. But I am thankful for the reminder that I must really try to listen more. And hope that others do too.

From my family to yours I wish everyone a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to all those who celebrate it!

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Make memories with your little ones this holiday season

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So here we are, inside The Lindsay Advocate! We wanted to do this – just once –to showcase Kawartha Social magazine to all our loyal Advocate readers. We thought it was a great way to get more eyes on our premium lifestyle magazine.

As the chill of December settles over Kawartha Lakes, there’s a warmth that begins to spread throughout our community. It’s the warmth of togetherness, of shared moments, and of the festive spirit that defines this holiday season. December is a time when we come together, not just to celebrate the holidays, but to reconnect with loved ones, friends, and neighbours.

The holiday season is a perfect opportunity to strengthen the bonds that tie us together. Whether it’s through hosting a cozy dinner party, or simply sharing a coffee or cocoa by the fire, these social connections are what make the season truly special.

So here at Kawartha Social, the holidays remind us of the importance of slowing down and appreciating the people around us.

In this edition, writer Denise Waldron shines the spotlight on crafts for kids

while Geoff Coleman takes a look at the Wee Tree Farm near Fenelon Falls. On a more serious note, Sarah Fournier’s focus this month is on how to co-parent in the best possible way, especially over the holidays. Columnist Erica Ehm reflects on how she challenged her comfort zone this past fall on a Vancouver Island water adventure. There’s much more of course and we hope you’ll enjoy all our regular features, too.

As we look forward to the new year, it’s important to carry the spirit of togetherness with us. The connections we make during the holidays can continue to grow and flourish throughout the year – and in fact, isn’t that the point? It seems a little sad to only worry about gratitude during the Christmas season.

Happy Christmas Kawartha Lakes – and we look forward to seeing you in the spring.

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CHRISTMAS CRAFTS FOR KIDS

MAKES FOR GREAT HOLIDAY MEMORIES

BY DENISE WALDRON

The Christmas break is a time to make memories, and if your little ones want to be creative and express holiday excitement in a hands-on way, you can’t beat edible crafts. Plus, the bright colours and textures are appealing to children.

Crafting helps kids engage with the festive season by making decorations, gifts, and ornaments that add a personal touch to their surroundings. It also creates a sense of accomplishment as they see their creations come to life, often contributing to the holiday atmosphere at home. Plus, the process is playful and interactive, involving bright colours, different textures, and materials, making it an enjoyable and memorable activity.

The Santa apple crafts are simple, inexpensive and once finished can be eaten, gifted or put on display. Ages 5 and up.

THE SUPPLIES

Medium or large red and/ or green apples

Strong toothpicks pointed at both ends

Cotton balls ripped in half

Whole cloves

Red Jujubes for Santa’s hat and mittens

Black Jujubes for Santa’s boots

Honey to glue on Santa’s beard

Large marshmallows

THE HOW-TO

• Wash and dry the apples.

• Make sure the apple’s stem side is on the bottom.

• Insert two toothpicks to approximate Santa’s legs as if he was sitting near the bottom of the apple.

• Place one marshmallow on his toothpick leg, snugly to his body. Repeat with his other ‘leg.’

• Slide black Jujubes with the flat side facing out for his boots.

• Repeat the process to make his arms, using the toothpicks and marshmallows and the red Jujubes for his mittens with the flat side facing in.

• Insert a toothpick on top for his head, followed by a marshmallow and a red Jujube for his hat.

• Insert cloves into Santa’s marshmallow face for his eyes and nose.

• Tear a cotton ball in half and glue to his lower face and body with a bit of honey for Santa’s beard.

* If Santa’s mittens and boots fall off, you have placed the toothpicks too far into his body. Slightly pull them out and reposition the marshmallow and Jujubes.

Denise Waldron is a writer-at-large for Fireside Publishing House family of magazines.

Siblings, Rebekah 10 and Hannah 6 of Lindsay enjoy crafting at grandma’s house. Photo: Sienna Frost.

WEE TREE FARM A BIG HIT FOR THE HOLIDAYS

BY GEOFF COLEMAN

Though at its best during the holiday season, John and Marilyn McEachen’s A Wee Tree Farm provides a year-round example of the Christmas spirit.

Located near the central west shore of Cameron Lake off Wrenhaven Road, the farm got its start in 2017 when the McEachens, along with their son Tim, and daughter-inlaw, Calli, bought a 3.5-acre parcel of land close to their house. The original plan was to grow Christmas trees – and that definitely happens – but in addition it has organically grown to become a community hub all through the year.

For a family new to farming, getting things off the ground was a “learn by doing” experience. Says John, “if it worked, we kept on doing it and if not, we tried a different approach.”

Marilyn adds, “the best part of starting up was our spring tree planting parties where the community came out to plant and enjoy time together. James Pugh, a friend of the farm and an arborist, showed us the way and we planted over 600 bare root evergreens in record time.”

When neighbour Al Crockford found out about the purchase, he asked the McEachens if he could claim a little plot to grow tomatoes and a 40 x 60-foot section was plowed. His success that year inspired other residents to plant their own vegetables and now 12 families comprise the Wee Community Garden which has expanded to two plots. Calli commented, “it is really cool to see, on the weekends, three generations of a family working together in the garden on their rows.”

When gardeners had a bumper crop, they would leave extras on a table for others to enjoy. In time, a self-serve farm stand was erected as an easy way to offer farm produce and products to the local community and generate some income to offset costs.

The farm stand proved so popular that it has evolved into the multi-vendor “Wee Market” held on Saturday mornings of the four long weekends in the summer. As Tim McEachen points out, “All the vendors and musicians are local, and for several artisans it has been their very first market. It has become a bit of a community destination for local walkers and families. Our charity of choice for the summer markets is the Terry Fox Foundation.”

In addition to the markets and community garden, the McEachens have expanded to

Dave Stewart with Santa Claus.

include an apiary, pollinator garden, sunflower garden, and pumpkin and raspberry patches. The Wee Pollinator Garden has been a special project of love for Marg Pearson, a local, long-time cottager and devoted gardener. The garden is actually an island that surrounds the old rock pile that the original farmers built as they cleared the land a century ago.

“The original pile of rocks the old farmers created was infested with every invasive species of plant and tree there is in Ontario, as well as a ton of poison ivy. Tim and I did all the heavy clearing and shaped the garden. Marg has volunteered countless hours of planting and maintenance to make it happen. We are now seeing all sorts of butterflies, including Monarchs and several species of bees and birds enjoying the garden, explained John.

Another neighbour, Bruce Forrester, built and installed two Blue Bird houses nearby, and the species now appear in the spring where they have never been seen before.

At the end of the growing season, guests gather for the annual Farmfest – a windup lunch for gardeners and the rest of the neighbourhood. As might be expected, it is a community-driven potluck on a grand scale, complete with local musicians, that provides a chance to say an unofficial goodbye to seasonal residents.

Despite all the activities, the McEachens have not lost sight of the original purpose of the farm and Christmas trees remain the core operation.

“We planted 300 bare root trees in the spring of 2017 and 300 the next year following a soil test with the University of Guelph to determine the pH and mineral levels. In a nutshell the plantable soil is 20”- 24” of glacial till over limestone – not much soil and certainly not sandy loam that would work best for evergreens,” says McEachen.

The soil is quite alkaline thanks to the limestone, and of the five different species they test planted, Scotch Pine is doing the best, with Austrian Pine and Colorado Blue Spruce also thriving.

John explains, “We grow new trees in the farm garden, and each spring we back fill the trees that did not make it or were not doing well. This year we will have Scotch Pine available if folks want that species, otherwise we will bring in beautiful Balsam Fir from the east coast.”

Natural Christmas trees are surging back in popularity, and A Wee Tree Farm provides a close destination for Kawartha Lakes families to enjoy the very Canadian experience of picking up a fresh-cut tree. Again, as you might expect, a bonfire, a cup of hot chocolate or cider, Christmas cookies, and pictures with Santa by a professional photographer are never far away.

The mini market in the newly built Wee Cabin will have live potted trees, honey, maple syrup and maple sugar, local artwork, Christmas baking, knit goods and “a whole bunch of locally made tree ornaments” on offer. And, if the vibe of A Wee Tree farm inspires you, specially priced

“Spirit of Christmas” trees will be on sale too.

For the uninitiated, The Spirit of Christmas is a grassroots charity started in 1999 at Fenelon Falls Secondary School that, through donations and fundraising, provides a Christmas for families in the school’s catchment area who won’t have one otherwise. The trees purchased at the farm are added to the gift bundle.

The farm may see the most visitors during their holiday season which starts on the Fenelon Falls Santa Day and runs for three weekends, but the unique combination of charity, generosity and friendship that grows here welcomes visitors all year long. KS

Geoff Coleman is a writer-at-large for Fireside Publishing House family of magazines and Kawartha Lakes Weekly. He lives in Fenelon Falls.

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A KID-FOCUSED CHRISTMAS LEARNING HOW TO CO-PARENT AMICABLY FOR

BY SARAH FOURNIER

The holiday season can be exciting for many, but families navigating a separation or divorce during this time may feel anxious or worried about the festivities ahead. The desire to maintain peace and ensure kids feel loved and secure despite the changes in their family dynamics can be a challenge for many – especially early on in the co-parenting journey. For those considering, or going through, a separation, deciding on schedules can be challenging during this time when emotions often run high. With a collaborative approach to separation and divorce, however, these decisions don’t have to be made alone or by a judge in court. The local chapter of collaborative law, the Kawartha Collaborative Practice (KCP), offers families an alternative to traditional litigation that prioritizes cooperation, clear communication, and most importantly, the well-being of children. Together, the collaborative team helps parents navigate the emotional terrain of the holidays and beyond.

A DIFFERENT APPROACH TO SEPARATION AND DIVORCE

The traditional approach of splitting a

family often involves litigation, contention, court appearances, and high legal fees. Collaborative law, a lesser-known approach to separation, offers a more amicable and affordable option for those motivated to focus on the kids throughout negotiations. The process is designed to keep families out of court while working toward mutually beneficial agreements.

As KCP collaborative lawyer Chantel Lawton explains, “The collaborative process gives families more control over the outcome and allows them to focus on what’s important for them, not just what the law says.” The method is structured to be less adversarial, with each parent working with their own lawyer trained in the collaborative process, as well as other professionals, like financial advisors or ‘family neutrals’, to address all aspects of the separation.

Unlike traditional litigation, which can be confrontational and drawn out, the collaborative process allows families to consider more creative solutions tailored to each family’s unique needs. “We help parents communicate effectively, work as a team, and make decisions that

benefit everyone,” adds Anna Friend, another collaborative lawyer with the KCP. “We can be creative and not live in a box when discussing solutions.” By avoiding lengthy court battles and minimizing the emotional toll on all parties, parents can also establish a foundation for a positive working relationship.

A BETTER WAY TO CO-PARENT DURING THE HOLIDAYS

The holiday season is often one of the most difficult times for separated families. Parents may feel torn between old traditions, new realities, and their children’s expectations. Carolyn McAlpine is a family neutral, a professional who can be added to the team to work on developing a parenting plan and give the child a voice in the process. They can also teach effective communication. She explains that one of the greatest challenges children face during the holidays is being caught in the middle of warring parents. “Kids don’t want to choose between parents or upset them,” she says. “I work on separating the parent’s emotions compared to the kids’ needs.” McAlpine’s role in the process is to

educate parents on how to communicate effectively and work together to create a shared parenting plan. This outlines how parents should make important decisions like how to divide holiday time. “Whether it’s alternating years or splitting the holidays between two households, we help families find creative solutions to the holiday plans that meet the parents’ goals as a team,” McAlpine explains. “If you go to court or arbitration, you’re giving up the power in decision-making, essentially putting your life in other people’s hands.”

This child-focused approach is especially important at this time of year. “It’s crucial that families plan ahead and avoid leaving holiday decisions to the last minute,” Friend advises. “In collaborative law, we’re able to come to a decision together without having to wait for the courts.” When compared to the alternative where a judge may decide on these cases, this process helps the parents maintain control over the decisions. As a bonus, everything remains completely confidential, compared to court proceedings, which are part of the public record. “This helps protect both the parents and children when dealing with sensitive issues requiring discretion,” Friend adds.

SUPPORTING FAMILIES THROUGH DIFFICULT TRANSITIONS

For parents, the collaborative law process provides more than just legal support—it offers emotional support, too. Lawyers and family professionals are trained to understand the emotional journey of separation, and they guide parents through difficult decisions with empathy and understanding.

“If a client is upset about not getting a particular day, we circle back to the goals and help them see the bigger picture,” says Lawton. “It’s not about winning a particular battle; it’s about what will work best for the family in the long term.” This approach helps parents focus on the end goal — creating a positive, stable environment for their children.

For one local mom, the collaborative law process has had a significant impact on her family’s ability to manage the emotional challenges of separation while prioritizing her children’s

needs. “If we didn’t go through this collaborative process, we wouldn’t have been on good terms,” she explains of her experience. “We’re more on the same page than we’ve ever been.”

Collaborative law offers parents a way to resolve issues maturely and respectfully, without the emotional turmoil that often accompanies traditional litigation. “The kids have to be the most important thing and this process offers that,” the mom says. “It’s a great model to follow in any important situation.”

ADVICE FOR SEPARATING PARENTS

For parents who are considering a separation or divorce, the advice is clear: put the children first. As McAlpine suggests, “It’s okay to reach out to professionals, but above all, step back and think about what would be best for the kids. If parents can do that, they will create a positive experience for their children during the holidays.”

“Change is hard, but it can also be wonderful,” adds Lawton. “You might not have the same traditions as when you were in an intact family, but this is an opportunity to make new traditions together.” For those facing separation, collaborative law is a compassionate approach that offers hope for a brighter, more peaceful future. KS

Sarah Fournier is the co-owner of Colour and Code in Lindsay and is a writer-at-large for Fireside Publishing House family of magazines.

CHRISTMAS A KAWARTHA LAKES

Nothing says curated, more than Christmas. From colour coordinated tree décor to the perfect wrapping paper scheme, to table settings with all the right details. At Home by Tim + Chris we believe that your own creativity and last-minute decisions are often the best ones and not everything has to be “curated.” Through working with our many Kawartha clients, we know that living on and around our lakes requires a certain lifestyle, and also because we live it too. We enjoy a casual and comfortable feel to our weekends so holidays in our home, tend towards the “uncurated” with a relaxed and ready for anything approach.

We’ve compiled our top seasonal picks from Room by Tim + Chris to help take the work out of gift planning, table setting and preparing your home for your own personal version of an “uncurated” Christmas.

THAT HOLIDAY FEELING

Setting the mood and building ambience is a seasonal given. Layering in plaid throws, wool blankets and cozy pillows both inside and out, creates that indoor outdoor feeling that a Kawartha Lakes lifestyle imbues. Whether around the campfire or the hearth, casual means comfort, through layers of textiles and accents so you can create your own rustic lodge.

SENSE THE SEASON

Nothing says seasonal cheer like the many holiday scents we suggest layering into your rooms. Scents like pine and balsam evoke memories and nostalgia. From natural boughs and wreaths to candles and diffusers, scent is a big part of setting the holiday atmosphere. Using wood and pine cones to decorate, bring an earthiness and woodsy flair to your room that help lift and maximize scent.

THE GIFT OF COLOUR

Seasonal taste can be expressed through pretty much any colour. Modern, contemporary Christmas décor has gone the way of inserting all colour schemes into décor and table settings. Steering away from traditional colours can be a unique way to refresh your take on the usual. Using or gifting napkins in various shades like blue, yellow and plum is one way to bring festive flair to your Christmas look.

OUTDOORS INSIDE

Enjoying everything our area has to offer is part of the natural beauty that living in Kawartha Lakes presents! Our own back-

yards boast everything from home-made ice rinks to the ageold tradition of outside bonfires. Campfire décor can include anything from a hot chocolate bar to outdoor games. Sweeping lake views create elevated experiences and an outdoor fire is another way to gather and create holiday memories. For all of that outdoorsy activity, making your home resilient and functional is important. Considerations for entry rugs, equipment storage and campfire supplies go a long way in creating zones for easy, practical entertaining.

When designing for our Kawartha clients, we consider the many outdoor activities driving the winter months in our region. From skating on lakes to hosting bonfires, our homes and cottages need to be resilient and functional for how we

enjoy the natural beauty of our surroundings. Through our design we tell stories, stories of returning after a day of snowshoeing and hiking, to snuggle under warm blankets and curling up with a hot chocolate. Our designs create balance between nature and our inside spaces.

As we look forward to our own version of a comfortable and relaxed season, we encourage you to explore the “uncurated” Christmas! The “uncurated” Christmas leaves room for unexpected guests, and invites a more relaxed holiday spirit into our Kawartha homes and cottages. So, if you end up using a paddle as a hockey stick on the rink, or not serving turkey, or foraging day of, for centrepieces and décor, it’s the art of the beautifully imperfect and “uncurated” Christmas you have mastered!

— Tim + Chris

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ADVENTURE A REMINDER TO

CHALLENGE MY COMFORT ZONE

BY ERICA EHM

I’ve never been a water person. After buying my home on Sturgeon Lake five years ago, I invested in a kayak which exponentially added to my lake life.

I could never have anticipated how that purchase would lead me to the northern tip of Vancouver Island, watching humpback whales breech in front of me.

Andrea Mendel Campbell launched karibu adventures two years, a bespoke adventure tour company that incorporates local culture into highly curated trips. A friend of mine emailed me a link to one of her expeditions with a “this would be a fun adventure for you” note.

The description read “Kayak amidst humpback whales, orcas and sea lions in an unparalleled aquatic safari while staying at an island base camp off the famed Johnstone Strait. Karibu partners

with Indigenous carvers, cultural leaders, artists and guides who share their rich culture and story of resilience.”

The mix of kayaking and culture piqued my interest. The base camp portion –which translates to live in a tent – did not. In fact, I own a t-shirt that reads “I love not camping.”

But the universe works in strange ways. I had recently made a conscious choice to get out of my comfort zone. So, I booked a call with karibu adventures.

Three months later, I was on a tiny plane flying to Port Hardy, the first stop on my six-day odyssey. The afternoon was spent wandering around town, which felt like the setting of the TV series Northern Exposure. At dinner in the Indigenous-owned Kwa’lilas Hotel, Andrea introduced our Indigenous guide Thom-

as Wamiss, to the ten of us on tour. With ages ranging between 17-81, our eclectic group included some travelling with a son or daughter, some couples and others solo like me. We were given dry bags, raincoats and instructions to pack essentials for an early start the next morning.

We watched sprays of water from humpback whales and orcas swimming in the distance. It was surreal to be so close that we could hear these magnificent animals breathe.

And so began the adventure. A whale watching boat dropped us off on Hanson Island, our basecamp for three nights by the Johnston Straight. I would be rooming with Andrea in a permanent canvas tent on a raised platform furnished with a couple of cots, warm sleeping bags, and coat rack. Glamping at its finest.

Our guides Jenn and Kayla called us to the beach for a paddling safety session, then helped us squeeze into to our sleek sea kayaks. For much of the next two days, we glided through channels of craggy tree-lined islands, seals and sea lions basking on the rocks. We watched sprays of water from humpback whales and orcas swimming in the distance. It was surreal to be so close that we could hear these magnificent animals breathe.

A highlight was clamouring up a tiny pebbly island, affectionately named Picnic Rock, to enjoy a homemade lunch of quinoa and cookies while sea lions frol-

icked and barked in the water around us. The third morning was chilly and rainy. Everything felt wet. At the outdoor dining area for another delicious breakfast, I confessed being too uncomfortable to kayak.

At this point in the trip our group had bonded. Strangers had become friends. I was persuaded to ignore my discomfort and join our final kayak. I am so glad I changed my mind! Our third day turned out to be remarkable.

Floating in kayaks, we spotted a deer saunter through basecamp, jump in the water in front of us and swim to the next island. Even our guides were surprised. We paddled through now-familiar channels, but this time we found ourselves in the path of humpbacks, shocking us

by breeching only 20 metres away. Then a herd of testy sea lions swam around and under our kayaks, reminding us we were in their territory. To calm our racing hearts, the guides led us through a peaceful channel while we listened to sounds of rain on water with eyes closed. I felt tears run down my cheeks.

Next morning, we said goodbye to Hanson Island. We boarded a boat to Alert Bay where we were immersed in local Indigenous culture and First Nations politics from local community leaders.

Six days flew by. I am so grateful for the new friendships, knowledge and memories I made with karibu adventures. If you’re reading this, consider it your sign to take an adventure. You’ll thank yourself for getting out of your comfort zone.

Erica Ehm is a writer, entrepreneur, speaker, broadcaster, and former MuchMusic host. She’s at home in Toronto and Kawartha Lakes.

COOKING CHRISTMAS CLASSICS

– OR EVEN OPT FOR SOMETHING NEW

The holiday season is a time of warmth, togetherness, and, of course, indulgent feasting. This season, why not elevate your Christmas dinner with some delectable options? While turkey often takes centre stage, don’t hesitate to venture into new culinary territories with duck, ham, or other sumptuous alternatives.

THE PERFECT CHRISTMAS TURKEY

The turkey is the quintessential centerpiece for Christmas dinner, and cooking it to perfection is an art. Here are some best tips to ensure your turkey is the talk of the table.

First, choose the right bird. Opt for a fresh, high-quality turkey from a reputable butcher. Heritage breeds can offer more flavour compared to standard turkeys.

Season it generously: A good rub or seasoning blend can make a huge difference. Combine butter, garlic, rosemary, thyme, and sage to create a flavourful herb butter. Gently lift the skin and rub the mixture directly onto the meat for maximum flavor.

Stuffing and aromatics. While stuffing the turkey itself can lead to uneven cooking, placing aromatic vegetables like onions, carrots, and celery inside the cavity, along with herbs and citrus, can enhance the flavor.

Proper roasting techniques: Preheat your oven to 325°F (165°C). Place the turkey breast-side up on a rack in a roasting pan. Baste the bird occasionally with pan drippings. To achieve a crispy, golden skin, start roasting the turkey uncovered. If it begins to brown too quickly, cover it with aluminum foil.

Monitor the temperature: Use a meat thermometer to ensure your turkey is cooked to perfection. The internal temperature should reach 165°F (74°C) in the thickest part of the breast and thigh. Allow the turkey to rest for at least 20 minutes before carving to let the juices redistribute.

ALTERNATIVE CHRISTMAS OPTIONS

If you’re ready to break away from tradition, consider these delectable options to make your Christmas dinner truly memorable.

“Nothing beats a holiday meal for bringing family and friends together.”

– MATT DE VRIES

PRIME RIB

Prime rib at Christmas brings a touch of elegance to the holiday table. It also pairs well with a variety of sides, from roasted vegetables to creamy mashed potatoes. Season with salt, pepper, garlic, and herbs like rosemary and thyme. Let it sit at room temperature for about an hour before cooking. Preheat your oven to 450°F (230°C). Place in a roasting pan, bone-side down, and roast for 15 minutes to create a nice crust. Reduce the oven temperature to 325°F (165°C) and continue roasting. When done to satisfaction, remove from the oven and let rest for at least 20 minutes. This ensures a juicy and tender roast.

DUCK

Duck is a rich, delicious alternative to turkey. Its gamey taste pairs wonderfully with festive spices and fruits. To achieve a crispy skin, score the duck breast and season it with salt.

HAM

Ham is another classic Christmas choice that offers a delightful contrast to poultry. A honey-glazed ham is a holiday hit. Brush the ham with a mixture of honey, mustard, and brown sugar for a sweet, caramelized crust. Stud with cloves for added flavour and a festive appearance, stud the ham with cloves before baking. This simple touch infuses the meat with a wonderful aroma and taste.

Christmas dinner is a time to celebrate and indulge. Whether you stick to the classic turkey or explore new options like duck or ham, the key to a memorable meal is in the preparation and the love you put into the cooking. Happy holidays and happy cooking!

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COZY WINTER READS... BARNABY UNBOXED BY THE FAN BROTHERS

HURRICANE WARS BY THEA GUANZON

Thea Guanzon’s Hurricane Wars is a captivating entry into the realm of fantasy fiction. Set in a world torn by elemental conflict, this novel presents a thrilling narrative of power, betrayal, and unexpected alliances. Guanzon’s vivid world-building is particularly notable, as she crafts a universe where hurricanes are more than just weather phenomena — they are weapons of mass destruction controlled by those with the rare ability to wield them.

A stunning, standalone picture book set in the world of The Barnabus Project. Meet Barnaby: he’s half mouse and half elephant, with just a dash of flamingo . . . and fully trained!

When he’s brought home to be pampered and cared for by his very own little girl, life is perfect . . . until a new, even more perfect pet comes on the scene. Suddenly Barnaby is no longer the most perfect pet around, and his little girl doesn’t seem interested in him anymore. Feeling unappreciated, Barnaby runs away and finds himself swept up on a wild journey through the city and an emotional search for home.

LAST SECRET BY MAIA CARON

Ukraine, 1944 - As war rages and Nazi forces occupy her homeland, Savka Ivanets, a medic for the Ukrainian resistance, stitches wounds by day and steals supplies by night. When her WaffenSS husband forces her to deliver a coded message, the mission goes awry, and her son is kidnapped by the KGB.

Salt Spring Island, 1972Jeanie Esterhazy lives in isolation, haunted by scars and amnesia from a tragic accident. When a stranger arrives, her flashbacks uncover long-buried secrets tied to her wedding night.

Interweaving Savka and Jeanie’s stories, The Last Secret is a luminous tale of love, resilience, and hope, celebrating the unyielding strength of women against unimaginable odds.

VULNERABLES BY

SIGRID NUNEZ

Elegy plus comedy is the only way to express how we live in the world today, says a character in Sigrid Nunez’s ninth novel. The Vulnerables offers a meditation on our contemporary era, as a solitary female narrator asks what it means to be alive at this complex moment in history and considers how our present reality affects the way a person looks back on her past.

Humor, to be sure, is a priceless refuge. Equally vital is connection with others, who here include an adrift member of Gen Z and a spirited parrot named Eureka. The Vulnerables reveals what happens when strangers are willing to open their hearts to each other and how far even small acts of caring can go to ease another’s distress.

I ENJOY NOTHING BETTER THAN TRAVELLING THE OPEN ROAD PAST ROLLING FIELDS, WEATHERED BARNS, UNDER BILLOWING CLOUDS.

KAWARTHA SOCIAL: What is your preferred medium?

ROSEMARIE CONDON: A lifelong illustrator, designer, writer and fine artist I work in watercolours, oils, acrylics, inks and pastels. I have also created many pieces of commercial art digitally. The media I choose to work with often depends on the subject matter and where I am at the time. If I am plein air painting I love working in oils, if I am backpacking, I choose watercolour because it dries fast and is easy to transport when paddling or scrambling through wilderness. In my studio I favour oils if I don’t have a time constraint such as a tight deadline, that’s when acrylics are best.

When I created the 26 paintings to illustrate the award winning ‘Canadian Shield Alphabet’ I used acrylic on canvas. Illustrating ‘Terror on Turtle Creek’ I used pencil for black and white illustrations and acrylic for the full colour cover. Illustrating my own children’s books, I use watercolours or pen and ink.

KAWARTHA SOCIAL: How did you feel about having your piece selected by the city for a traffic control box wrap?

ROSEMARIE CONDON: I’ve been very involved in the arts community, volunteering and exhibiting, since I settled in Kawartha Lakes two decades ago, so I was very pleased that my painting Passing Shower was selected for a traffic control box wrap as well as the cover of the 2025 municipal calendar.

KAWARTHA SOCIAL: What was your inspiration for the piece that was selected for the wrap?

ROSEMARIE CONDON:  I enjoy nothing better than travelling the open road past rolling fields, weathered barns, under billowing clouds. Sometimes the angle of the sun and the shadows it casts provide a magic moment. If I am unable to safely stop and sketch, I at least take a reference photo.

KAWARTHA SOCIAL: Do you have any shows coming up?

ROSEMARIE CONDON: I have several large paintings showing in the Bobcaygeon Library.

As a member of Kawartha Arts Network, I exhibit at the Academy Theatre and I’m currently participating in ‘Radical Buffet,’ the juried exhibition at the Kawartha Art Gallery where I also welcome children each Saturday morning for ‘Crazy Creative.’  I also enjoy teaching children’s classes in painting and sculpting for Kawartha Arts Network. As a signature member of the international group ‘Artists for Conservation’ my paintings have been represented in their online exhibition and coffee table books for the past three years, as well as their travelling exhibition ‘Silent Skies.’

“PASSING SHOWER”

IN YOUR STARS

BY MISTER MYSTIC,

an astrologer living in the Kawartha Region.

ARIES

MARCH 21 - APRIL 19

With Mars retrograde in Leo, you may feel a slowdown in your creative projects or romantic life. However, Jupiter’s opposition to Mercury on Dec. 4 could bring unexpected opportunities for learning or travel. Maybe get out of Lindsay and see France or Italy? The full moon on Dec. 15 in Gemini may illuminate important conversations or short trips.

CANCER

JUNE 21 - JULY 22

The new moon on Dec. 1 in Sagittarius might inspire you to start new health routines or work projects. Mars retrograde could slow down matters related to home and family. The sun’s square to Neptune on Dec. 18 may bring confusion in work-related matters, so stay grounded before the busy holidays.

LIBRA

SEPTEMBER 23 - OCTOBER 22

Your ruling planet Venus forms a trine with Jupiter on Dec. 19, potentially bringing good fortune in finances. The new moon on Dec. 1 could inspire new learning opportunities or short trips. Be mindful of the Venus-Uranus square on the 28th, which might bring unexpected changes in partnerships. You love to weigh things out, but you’ll have to make a decision on what’s best for you now.

CAPRICORN

DECEMBER 22 - JANUARY 19

Saturn, your ruling planet, is squared by Jupiter on Dec. 24, which might create tension between your need for structure and desire for expansion. The new moon on the 30th in your sign is perfect for setting intentions for the coming year. We know you’re ambitious. Time to ask for that promotion.

TAURUS

APRIL 20 - MAY 20

Venus, your ruling planet, forms a trine with Uranus on Dec. 2, potentially bringing exciting changes to your financial situation or personal values. The conjunction of Venus and Pluto on Dec. 7 could intensify relationships or financial matters. Is it time for the big talk about combining finances with the person you met in the GTA last year?

LEO

JULY 23 - AUGUST 22

With Mars retrograde in your sign, you might feel less energetic than usual. However, the sun’s opposition to Jupiter on Dec. 7 could bring opportunities for fun and creativity. Start things off with a nice dinner with your partner at Gusto Grande or Ziraldo’s. The full moon on the 15th may illuminate matters related to friends or group activities.

SCORPIO

OCTOBER 23 - NOVEMBER 21

The Venus-Pluto conjunction on Dec. 7 could intensify matters related to personal resources or values. Mars retrograde might slow down financial matters, but it’s a good time for reassessment. The full moon on the 15th could bring a financial or intimate matter to light. A deal you are thinking about making grows closer to completion.

AQUARIUS

JANUARY 20 - FEBRUARY 18

Uranus in your home sector forms a trine with Venus on Dec. 2, potentially bringing positive changes to your living situation. Are you leaving Kawartha Lakes or just changing your living arrangements? The Venus-Pluto conjunction in your sign on the 7 could bring intense experiences in personal matters or relationships.

Your ruling planet Mercury goes direct on Dec. 15, coinciding with a full moon in your sign. This could bring a longstanding dispute with your friend or family member to a conclusion. Jupiter’s square to Saturn on Dec. 24 may create tension between your need for expansion and your responsibilities. Maybe get a local gym membership to work it out?

VIRGO

AUGUST 23 - SEPTEMBER 22

Mercury, your ruling planet, goes direct on Dec. 15, which should help clear up any miscommunications. The sun’s conjunction with Mercury on Dec. 5 could bring important insights related to home and family matters. Venus opposite Mars on the 12th might create tension in relationships. Maybe try to go easy on the nitpicky things?

SAGITTARIUS

NOVEMBER 22 - DECEMBER 21

The new moon in your sign on Dec. 1 sets the tone for personal growth this month. Jupiter, your ruling planet, opposes Mercury on the 4th and the sun on the 7th, potentially bringing opportunities for expansion in relationships. Maybe you’ll meet someone while grocery shopping at Sobeys. Or maybe your Match membership will pay off?

PISCES

FEBRUARY 19 - MARCH 20

Neptune, your ruling planet, goes direct on Dec. 7, which could bring more clarity to your personal goals and identity. The sun’s square to Neptune on the 18th might create some confusion but also inspire creativity. Jupiter’s trine to Venus on the 19th could bring fortunate opportunities in your career or public life.

JENNINGS CREEK USED

TO

HAVE FOXES RUNNING

FREE NOW PEOPLE LIVE IN BOXES

KAWARTHA SOCIAL: Why did you decide to tour together?

WARREN FRANK: I reached out to Cassie after watching her perform at a virtual open mic and was blown away by her performance. I said if she ever needed an opener I would be honoured to play a show with her. She responded by inviting me to tour the East Coast with her. I’m writing this from a hotel outside of Quebec City on our third East Coast tour together, so safe to say it’s been a great match.

KAWARTHA SOCIAL: What is your process? How does the music come together?

CASSIE NOBLE: Though we’ve never actually written a song together, Warren was instrumental in the making of my last album. I brought him a record almost fully formed and asked him to rethink and rework it. In some cases, he would take a song away, make it totally different, then bring it to me and see what I

thought. Sometimes, I would go into the studio, and we’d work on it together.

KAWARTHA SOCIAL: What is your favourite thing about performing? And where is your dream venue in Kawartha Lakes?

WARREN FRANK: My favourite thing about performing is sharing my experiences with other people and connecting with communities in different cities. I think people are quick to feel isolated in their struggles and feelings, but playing shows consistently shows me how similar most of us are at a base level. Anytime I get to play the Flato Academy Theatre I feel really fortunate. I hope to play there again soon.

KAWARTHA SOCIAL: Out of all your songs, what are your personal favourites?

WARREN FRANK: When I played in an indie band called The Kents I wrote a song about my late grandmother. It’s called Caroline, and it’s always remained very special to me.

Stream Cassie and Warren’s music from your favourite music platform.

CASSIE NOBLE: Leave You Like This from my latest album is a farewell song I wrote for my dad, so it will always mean a lot to me. I spent months making a stop-motion music video for that one. I’m also quite fond of  Jennings Creek, which touches on my aversion to ‘progress’ in the form of turning wetlands and forests into subdivisions.

Cassie Noble & Warren Frank.

WARREN FRANK WITH CASSIE NOBLE AT KINDRED IN LINDSAY.

PET PARENTS

LINDSAY’S MARIAH HILTON AND HER DOG MONTY, WHOSE BREED IS UNKNOWN BUT “THE KIND THAT BARKS A LOT.”

PHOTOS: MARIAH HILTON.

MONTY’S CUTEST MOMENT: I’d say when we were doing nail clipper desensitization work together. He was very afraid of the clippers. But it was that first moment he offered up his paw in exchange for sausage, but then second-guessed himself and pulled it away, but then third-guessed himself and cautiously offered it back like a DJ scratching a vinyl disc. He’s very food motivated. And maybe a closeted DJ.

SPECIAL TALENTS OR TRICKS: Monty has this impressive talent we call selective hearing. He can turn it on and off whenever he feels like it.

MOST MISCHIEVOUS MOMENT: That time he stole and inhaled a sixpack of mini cheesecakes and a freshly broiled pan of chimichurri chicken. He miraculously didn’t suffer any digestive repercussions, so we didn’t learn our lesson and as a result he regularly catches us off guard and scores human delicacies off the counter. #baddogparenting101

IF MONTY COULD TALK, WHAT WOULD HE SAY? “Listen mom.... Guard-dogging is a lot of work. I don’t think you really understand how much work it is scaring off the mailman, those threatening toddlers and those pesky geriatrics walking by our window. I feel I need appropriate daily compensation for my efforts. So, here’s my list: food, walkies, and game time. Oh, and don’t forget to set out the stuffed Kong for me. And while you’re at it, just throw in a bull-wrinkle and the snuffle-mat. Oh… and the treat-ball. And the stuffed toilet roll surprise box.”

NICKNAMES: Moo, Monty-moo, Mooji, Moo-town. Moo-moo. Monty-cello, Monty-pulciano, and sometimes Montypleasebequiet.