5 Dating Tips That Work for Introverts

5 Dating Tips That Work for Introverts

Getting into a relationship is oftentimes an exciting prospect for most people.

However, it can be downright scary for introverts. The usual thrill and excitement can often feel like anxiety and stress for an introvert, due to the uncertainty and jumping into the unknown. Many introverts wonder if dating would even work for them, and shy away from forming meaningful connections. The reality is that even for introverts it is fully possible to find a committed partner and build a strong relationship with them. The following tips can help with that big-time: 

Inhibitions are no one’s best friend – introverts may often find themselves fancying someone but then having an infinite number of bad scenarios in their head, ultimately leading to them taking no action. There will be many such inhibitions for an introvert, more than other people. In this case, it is important to be objective about the situation and discard any such doubts and questions. For introverts, it is especially important to maintain focus on the other person, trying to get to know them well and experiencing their company in whatever meaningful way they desire. That is how they will figure out if a more serious relationship is worth pursuing.

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Taking one step at a time – introverts are always serious when it comes to relationships and love. They often have a picture of the best scenario in their

heads and they are trying to make it realise fully. But it is important to keep things in perspective and not rush with anything. Taking things one step at a time is a nice strategy to ease an introvert into feeling more comfortable around a potential partner. 

Rapport is important – introverts should always work towards building a good rapport with the one they are dating. They need to know the other person well enough before they can open up and reveal more of themselves.

Introverts should pay attention to the feelings and thoughts they get about the other person and read the other’s perception of them as well. Because introverts tend to attach and detach much sooner than others, they need to strive to maintain better balance.

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Introverts should be honest about what they like – sometimes, people don’t understand introverts all that well. There is always the risk of their partners seeing them as too needy or moody. That is why introverts should be more honest when they communicate. If they require more solitude, or less contact with people till they feel more comfortable, their prospective partner should know about this. That is very important for the other person, who may otherwise make rash decisions and cut things short.

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Sharing things that are important for them – extroverts and introverts often have different perceptions and values. This is especially the case when an introvert is dating someone more on the extrovert side of things. An introvert needs to share what is important to them. This could mean things like how uncomfortable it can be to socialise in a big crowd, and how they would prefer a company of smaller size. It may also be things like how they need some time for themselves now and again, to regain some energy, etc.

Introverts should never assume that the other person knows their needs and preferences. They have to communicate these honestly and openly.

Following these tips makes it possible for introverts to find love and start a committed relationship. It is important to approach the chance of a relationship with an open mind and focus on the positives. © Kate Mansfield Dating Coach