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JOY FEELINGS! Star war stars, Daisy Ridley and Lupita Nyongo, The queen of katwe Make your love Last forever in love and sex tips! Much more keep your feet beautiful With joy beauty tips

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 LOVE AND SEX: Whats life without love? / Tips on how to make your love relationship last forever. / Dealing with sexual incompatibility  JOY BEAUTY: The best ways to keep your feet beautiful.  ENTERTAINMENT: Read the star wars story and meet the sexy Daisy Ridley the main character./ meet Lupita Nyongo Africa’s rising star in Hollywood staring in a new movie called Queen of Katwe.  FINE LIVING: How to set a perfect dinner table.

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EDITORS NOTE

In this issue we start with love as our center of focus. We all want to succeed in our relationships and we are working so hard to make sure we do. Along the way we feel we have practically read everything and seem not to be heading anywhere. However that’s not the case. Love also takes faith. You have to believe in it and not just hope it works out but try to change any behavior that could be letting you down. I truly believe that we all have so much love in us. So good luck with your love life! Joyce wolayo

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WHATS LIFE WITHOUT LOVE? How We All Desperately Need it.

Love is said to be the center of the universe. We all need it because it’s the center of the universe. Plain and simple. Human beings are at war with each other. They fight fist fights, economic fights, political fights and even social fights that just wont stop because there has to be a disagreement and a disagreement caused by a selfishness which is just a nature in all human beings. JOY FEELINGS MAG!

Love in so many ways saves our world from being crumbed into tiny broken pieces of glass. For example if somebody helped you deal with a debt problem that could have had you rotting in jail because of some unpaid dues. This is the kindness that you needed at that specific time when every bone in your body seemed to be cracking from tension and confusion.


Another person needed money to pay for a cancer operation too. The cancer needed a lot of money which the patient did not have. However uncle Jeremiah somehow helped him get the money through friends and family to try to save his life. At that moment he realized a humbling situation. He could have been dead without uncle Jeremiah’s help. He saved you! You are gonna live! The world would be dead without this little show of love and compassion for the sick and dying.

Love your partner as you love yourself and it will be true love. This is my first sieving spoon and my litmus paper. Dip it into your love life and find out if your relationship isn’t really the JOY FEELINGS MAG!

worst thing that ever happened to you. Healing also comes from love. It’s all about releasing stresses in your body to return to your natural sate of balance away from stress and burnt out. People with such symptoms arise as a result of stress are not being their real loving selves. Symptoms of illness and disease in someone’s body comes from imbalance perceptions that they feel that they are not loved and thus try very hard to look for evidence of being loved when this is absolutely unnecessary. You need to trust your elf and know that the love you have for yourself is always present regardless of how you really feel in any given moment.


THINGS THAT COULD HELP YOUR RELATIONSHIP LAST FOREVER

1. Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love. 2. Protect your own heart. Just as you JOY FEELINGS MAG!

committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there. 3. Fall in love over and over and over again. You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you


were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to rechoose each other everyday. SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her. 4. Always see the best in her. Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see JOY FEELINGS MAG!

anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your partner. 5. It’s not your job to change or fix her. Your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not. 6. Take full accountability for your own emotions. It’s not your partner’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love. 7. Never blame her if you get frustrated or angry at her. It is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. They are YOUR emotions, and your


responsibility. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed. You were attracted to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all of your childhood wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal them...when you heal yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you ever were. 8. Allow her to just be. When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s your job to HOLD HER and let her know it’s ok. Let her know that you hear her, and that she’s important and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean. The feminine spirit JOY FEELINGS MAG!

is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and unjudging she will trust you and open her soul to you...DON’T RUNAWAY WHEN SHE’S UPSET. Stand present and strong and let her know you aren’t going anywhere. Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion. 9. Be silly. Don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier. 10. Fill her soul every day. Learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED. Ask her to create a list of 10 THINGS that make her feel loved and memorize those things and


make it a priority everyday to make her feel like a queen. 11. Be present. Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully WITH HER. Treat her as you would your most valuable client. She is. 12. Be willing to take her sexuality, to carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul. Let her melt into her feminine softness as she knows she can trust you fully. 13. Don’t be an idiot. And don’t be afraid of being one either. You will make mistakes and so will she. Try not to make too big JOY FEELINGS MAG!

of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make. You’re not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid. 14. Give her space. The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing....(okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point. Tell her to take time for herself, ESPECIALLY after you have kids. She needs that space to renew and get recentered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.) 15. Be vulnerable. You don’t have to have it all


together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes. 16. Be open. If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING... Especially those things you don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don’t know i she will like what she finds... Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. DROP THE MASK...If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be. 17. Never stop growing together. The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the JOY FEELINGS MAG!

flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards. 18. Don’t worry about money. Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates fight. Figure out ways to leverage both persons strength to win. 19. Forgive immediately and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. Cut the


anchor loose and always choose love. 20. Always choose love. Always choose love. Always choose love. In the end, this is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure.

DEALING WITH SEXUAL INCOMPARTIBILITY IN A RELATIONSHIP Most couples that are breaking up every other day with a mind blowing statistic

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are having sexually related problems. When you break up and go on wondering why he left and you keeping asking yourself why the sex was so bad that he had to leave? He shouldn’t have left and you too shouldn’t have given in to the emotional strain caused by sexual incompatibility. Sexual incompatibility indeed varies from lacking the same sexual appetites to having differing opinions on sexual positions and lack of satisfaction in your sex life. We believe that couples can work through this problem and solve it.


Sexual incompatibility is one of most common reasons why couples drift apart and eventually break up. This is because though all lovers want physical intimacy from their partners, the exact form and frequency of sexual desire may differ from one person to another. If such a situation continues for long, it might even lead to the breakdown of a relationship. However you can manage sexual incompatibility and here are a few ways to go about it. Identify the problem Sexual incompatibility is used to refer to a whole gamut of conditions ranging from varying sex drives to differing sexual preferences. JOY FEELINGS MAG!

Before you throw up your hands in exasperation, identify where exactly you and your partner are coming into conflict. It could be that you wish to have sex more often or that your partner wishes to spend longer time in foreplay. Then again each partner may view sexual fantasies, sex aids or sex games differently which could be creating conditions for sexual incompatibility. Recognizing the source of difference between how you and your partner feels will help you to take the right steps in addressing the situation. Get rid of the pre-conceived notions


Sex has been made into the subject of so much analysis, theory and discussions that it is difficult to consider it objectively. There is too much being written and talked about how much, how often and how long couples should have sex. So at the very outset, accept that whatever works for you both is the right way and the right amount; so don’t perturbed if your best friend gets it thrice a week whereas you can manage it only thrice a month. At the same time keep in mind that sometimes two separate individuals may naturally have different sex drives. Don’t assume that your partner is a freak for wanting it more often than you do or that he/she is cold and insensitive for wanting it less than you do. Once you begin to get rid of fixed notions, it will be much easier to look for and work out a solution. JOY FEELINGS MAG!

Seek a middle ground However things become problematic when couples experience actual desire differences as opposed to imagined ones. In such a situation, see if you both can meet somewhere in the middle. Suppose your partner is hooked to pornographic visuals while you like to restrict things between the two of you. An acceptable compromise would be to encourage him to share his sexual fantasies and see if you can act them out. This way he will get the visual stimulation he needs while you need not get uncomfortable about other images getting into the ‘picture’. Even though compromise means that neither of you gets what you really want and for the same reason maybe considered as less than an ideal solution, it is at least a start to accommodating differing


needs and shows a desire to work at a relationship. And finally it is certainly a better option as compared to sitting and brooding or worse, turning to affairs and divorces. Show goodwill Once you reach a compromise, avoid sniping or making hurtful comments at each other about how much you are sacrificing or how you have got a raw deal in the relationship. Very often these little but cruel remarks over time can do as much if not more damage to a relationship than a one-time full-blown fight. Obviously you haven’t got what you exactly wanted but remember neither has your partner. Rather try to work out issues with good will, a little bit of generosity and keep your sight trained on the ultimate end of saving your relationship from a breakup. JOY FEELINGS MAG!

Plan sex dates It is difficult to have mutually satisfying sex when you are in a hurry or thinking about the company presentation that is scheduled for the evening. One of the best ways around this is to plan intimate sessions well in advance. Both you and your partner will then have time to try out the various things that you want. A long, relaxed foreplay is highly recommended for such situations and try to incorporate as many kinds of stimulation as possible – visual like dressing up, imaginary like role-playing and auditory like indulging in pillow talk. Scheduling sex in fact works well for partners with differing sex drives – the one who want more sex can look forward to a night of fireworks while the one who wants it less gets a break from fending off amorous advances and can even do


what is necessary - like a warm relaxing bath or a visit to the spa – to get into the mood. Redistribute commitments at work and home One of the most common forms of sexual incompatibility is differing sex drive – when your partner does not want sex as much or as frequently as you do. More often than not low libido is caused by mental and physical exhaustion brought about by pressures at work or at home. Here the higherdesire partner can take on some of the parental responsibilities and domestic chores which probably leave the other partner too wornout to look forward to sex. At the same time the lowerdesire partner can hire help or delegate responsibilities to be able to enjoy some leisure and pamper oneself, all of which are great for putting one in the mood for sex. If JOY FEELINGS MAG!

stress or long hours at work are the usual causes of low libido, see if you can take on fewer commitments or keep weekends absolutely free for your partner. Don’t give up non-sexual affection One of the first fatalities of sexual incompatibility in a relationship is romance. Couples begin to display fewer evidence of non-sexual affection towards each other like kissing, holding hands on a walk or cuddling in front of the TV. While one partner fears that any instance of cuddling or hugging will be interpreted as a sexual invitation, the other may feels no need of showing affection since he/she knows sex will not follow. However the truth is that engaging in acts of non-sexual acts of affection is crucial to enriching a couple’s sex life. It makes both partners feel loved and cherished and hence more


giving in terms of sexual overtures which may not be their own favorites but which their partners would like to try out. In the process, such acts of non-sexual affection strengthen the emotional connection between partners and thus act as important investments needed for mutually fulfilling sex life.

SETH MEYERS PSY.D. ON HOW COUPLES CAN COPE WITH DIFFERENT LIBIDOS, SEXUAL DESIRE

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Using a simple scale can help you figure out who's right or wrong - for you.

I’ve learned from counseling countless men and women that everyone needs to know what I call their ‘Sex Number.’ Simply put, on a scale of 1 to 10, how sexual do you consider yourself? I use a simple 1 to 10 scale frequently when working with clients to help them figure out where they fall on this basic scale. Knowing your sex number is crucial for many reasons. If you’re single, you need to ask yourself what number range you want your future partner to be in. Once you’re in a relationship and tied down because of the emotional attachment,


realizing that you’re sexually incompatible can be extremely frustrating. If you’re the one who wants more sexual activity because your number is significantly higher than your partner’s, you might find yourself doing any of the following: constantly pushing for more sex; taking your partner’s lack of interest in having sex with you personally; or looking outside of the relationship to get your sexual needs met. If you’re in a relationship already, I’m sure you could come up with the number that you believe fits your partner. (I hope for the relationship’s sake that your numbers are in a similar range). The next time one of you tries to initiate sexual activity and the other isn’t interested, remind yourself what your sex numbers are. The most important benefit of knowing your sex number is that it JOY FEELINGS MAG!

prevents everyone from taking sexual interest and libido levels personally. One member of a couple I saw in session recently said, “I stopped feeling bad that he never seeks me out because I realize he’s a 2 and I’m an 8.” I’ve spent almost two years seeing this particular couple, and it’s the intervention where I asked them to state their sex numbers that has proved to yield the most significant impact. Who knew, given all the years I spent studying complex theories in grad school? If you are very sexual, you have a significant need to engage in sexual activity regularly and frequently. If you are not very sexual, you have a need to have your partner understand that you have a low sex number and don’t want to be pressured to be sexual when it’s not really something you want.


Everyone understands that a very sexual person is going to feel frustrated if the partner isn’t very interested in sex, but many people forget to think about the frustration the less sexual partner feels. After all, who wants to be pressured into anything, disappoint your partner or be made to feel guilty if you’re simply not an extremely sexual person? For the less sexual partners of the world, many of them would rather give up sex altogether than continue to argue about it. What should you do if your sex numbers are very different but you’ve been together for a long time and don’t want to end the relationship? If either or both of you feel significantly frustrated by the difference in sex numbers and the discrepancy has been the source of more hard feelings and awkward or angry conversations than you can JOY FEELINGS MAG!

count, the two of you need to find a way to compromise so that both of your needs get met. Discuss a Menu of Sexual Acts One way to compromise is to broaden your range of activities that the two of you consider sexual. In addition to the obvious sexual activities, add other forms of touch and intimacy into the equation. Include light touching and massages, as these activites reinforce intimacy. If the more sexual partner wants more, the more sexual partner can masturbate, for example, while the other watches. In order for this to work without producing unnecessary drama and tension, the two of you must first discuss what you want from the encounter. Person A says, “I’d be up for some light touching, and I could kiss you while you


masturbate if that’s okay.” What, you ask? This doesn’t sound romantic? Don’t dismiss deliberate conversations about sex because they prevent a lot of negative feelings in the long run. When you first learn to start discussing sexual plans with your partner, it can feel awkward and uncomfortable; once you get used to talking about sexual acts, the conversations will become automatic to the point that you don’t think twice about it. Rethink Monogamy The vast majority of romantic couples in American society report that they're monogamous, despite the fact that a high percentage of individuals within those couples secretly seek out sexual adventures with others. Secrets, of course, are bad news for the obvious way that they can destroy JOY FEELINGS MAG!

intimacy. If you and your partner have vastly different sex numbers and the less sexual one isn’t interested in compromising to have more sexual activity, you both should consider creative ways that the more sexual partner can get those needs met. If you’re a couple who would consider letting each other have the occasional sexual dalliance outside the relationship, make sure to keep the lines of communication open to avoid growing apart. Perhaps you’re a couple that must set specific rules: never engage in sexual activity with the same person more than once, only seek out adventures on vacation or far away from home, and so forth. Sublimate Your Sexual Energy The first time I ever considered the various ways an individual could sublimate


sexual energy, I was in a supervision session in grad school with one of my mentors. She shared with me that her own romantic relationship had become fairly unsexual over the years, and went on to explain that she had found a way to sublimate her still-strong sexual energy into making art. The benefit of sublimation, a high-level defense mechanism, is that you can choose to sublimate sexual energy into whichever behaviors turn you on, so to speak. For some, it may be art; for others, it may be woodworking, exercising, making music, or writing. It's important to note that all of the behaviors I'm suggesting actually produce a tangible result, so the mental energy isn't wasted on feelings of frustration, sadness, or anger. Bottom line: If you have decided that you want to stay with your partner for the long haul, despite the difference in JOY FEELINGS MAG!

sexual interest, sublimation of your sexual energy is one of the healthiest ways to manage your sexual thoughts and feelings. Consider ending the relationship. As a therapist, I'm hardpressed to believe that ending a relationship for sexual reasons is a good idea. Given that the are so many alternatives (sublimating the energy, changing the parameters of monogamy, and compromise), my hope is that couples find a way to keep the good parts of the relationship rather than throw it away. Yet I also know the reality, that sometimes the dynamic between a couple gets tarnished to the point that going separate ways is worth considering. If you and your partner have tried hard and tried many different ways - to compensate for the difference in your sexual


numbers, have a conversation where each of you discusses the pros and cons of splitting up.

of the ongoing need to change and adapt, and your life will reward you!

Ultimately, sex is always a delicate a subject, and navigating it within a couple requires that everyone be careful and sensitive as they set out on the course to get their needs met. Be mindful

HOW TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR FEET

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Having Beautiful Feet. They're the workhorses of our bodies, but we give them so little respect.

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It's easy to take our feet for granted. They're just there, putting up with a host of challenges, from being jammed into high heels and elevated to unnatural heights to smothering inside sweaty socks or tight nylon pantyhose. While suffering those indignities, our feet take hundreds of tons of force impact just during an average day of walking. That

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Make a point to wash your feet (and between your toes!) with a washcloth carefully and regularly. Yes, that means bending over in the shower to soap them up; if you can't

pounding explains why feet are the body part most likely to get injured. You don't need an expensive spa treatment to take care of your feet. Spending just a few minutes a day on foot care and choosing the right shoes can keep you free of problems that may lead to pain and even disability. These ideas can help your feet feel great:

balance safely, use a longhandled shower brush or sit on a chair outside the tub as you wash your feet under the faucets. Be sure to dry feet completely, including between the toes. This


wash-and-dry system lessens problems such as athlete's foot, odor, bacteria and fungus. If you like to soak your feet, forget the Epsom salts— they're too drying and don't offer any medical benefit. Instead, just use warm (never hot) water and a little liquid soap, such as dishwashing solution, containing skin softeners. Moisturize your feet after washing. During dry-skin winter months, you may want to moisturize several times a day. Nothing fancy is needed: basic lotions and creams are fine. Alternate the shoes you wear each day. That may mean having two pairs of your favorite everyday style, but shoes need time to air out to avoid triggering foot odor or infections. Change socks or stockings more than once a day. If you have a problem with smelly feet, soak them in a JOY FEELINGS MAG!

mixture of vinegar and water. Your feet should not hurt— ever. Tight shoes can worsen bunions, distort toe shape and cause painful foot growths. If you wear high heels, choose heels that are wide, stable and no higher than two inches. Toe boxes should be wide; pointed toes shouldn't begin their narrowing shape until well past the ball of the foot. To protect your Achilles tendon from shortening, alternate heel heights regularly. Flip-flops and completely flat shoes don't provide arch support. Neither does walking barefoot. Women are especially prone to developing flat feet, which can lead to other foot problems. To keep feet strong and healthy, minimize the amount of time you wear shoes that lack supportive arches.


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Pregnancy, aging and diabetes all affect your feet. Pregnant women need shoes with broad heels, arch support and good shock absorbency. Added pregnancy weight may cause your shoe size to change, so get your feet measured. Older women lose some of the cushioning fat on the balls of their feet; choose shoes that provide more shock protection. Diabetics can develop

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serious conditions related to the feet and lower legs. Check feet for any problems daily and see a podiatric physician at least annually. Be cautious about having a pedicure in a salon, where cleanliness of tubs and instruments is vital. If you have diabetes, talk with your doctor before having a pedicure.


STAR WARS: THE FORCE AWAKENS This is the movie that touched people’s hearts last

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Christmas. We decided that star wars would be JOIE JOURS AWARDS best movie of the year 2016.


30 years after the defeat of Darth Vader and the Empire, Rey, a scavenger from the planet Jakku, finds a BB-8 droid that knows the whereabouts of the long lost Luke Skywalker. Rey, as well as a rogue stormtrooper and two smugglers, are thrown into the middle of a battle between the Resistance and the daunting legions of the First Order. - Written by Noah White 

A scavenger (Daisy Ridley) and a renegade stormtrooper (John Boyega) enlist the help of legendary smugglers/freedom fighters Han Solo (Harrison Ford) and Chewbacca to transport a droid carrying information regarding the whereabouts of long lost Jedi Master Luke Skywalker to General Leia Organa of the Resistance

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before it falls into the hands of Kylo Ren and the First Order. When critical information is placed into a simple droid, both the evil First Order and the heroic Resistance go searching for it. Then something neither of them planned for happens: Rey, a scavenger from the planet Jakku finds the droid and keeps it as her own. Finn, an ex-stormtrooper who hopes to leave his past behind him, crosses paths with her and breaks the news of what exactly the importance of the droid is. Next thing either of them know is that they are on the run in order to withhold the droid from the First Order. They meet a pair of old buddies and after a few skirmishes between them and the determined First Order, the droid is brought to the Resistance base. There, multiple plans are hatched against the First Order while the secret information on the


droid is slowly and surely working itself out... 30 years ago the Empire was defeated and now a new threat, the First Order has risen from the ashes of the Empire. A scavenger called Rey has come into contact with a droid that contains a map to the legendary Luke Skywalker, who has vanished. Rey and a rogue stormtrooper called Finn find themselves in a monumental conflict between good and evil, that will see faces old and new. Thirty years after the Galactic Empire vanquished, a new threat rises. The First Order attempt to rule the Galaxy and only a small bunch of heroes have the ability to stop them. Meanwhile, a female scavenger named Rey teams up with a rogue stormtroopter to return a droid to the resistance base containing a map to a legendary Jedi Master. JOY FEELINGS MAG!

A desert scavenger, a traitor, and a new lovable droid set off on a race to find an old legend, Luke Skywalker. However the First Order has risen from the ashes of the Empire and threatens to destroy him first, with their Starkiller Base. Old heroes reunite with the new in an unforgettable journey of friendship and loss aboard the rusty Millenium Falcon. Three decades after the defeat of the Galactic Empire, a new threat arises. The First Order attempts to rule the galaxy and only a ragtag group of heroes can stop them, along with the help of the Resistance. - Written by Brian McInnis

DAISY JAZZ ISOBEL RIDLEY (born 10 April


1992) is an English actress. She began her acting career by appearing in minor television roles and short films before being cast as the

main protagonist, Rey, in the Star Wars sequel trilogy– first appearing in Star Wars: The Force Awakens (2015).

Daisy Ridley was born on 10 April 1992, in Westminster, London. She is the youngest of three daughters born to Louise Fawkner-Corbett and Chris Ridley. She has two older sisters, Kika Rose and Poppy Sophia. She also has two older half-sisters from her father's first marriage. Her mother's family, the FawknerCorbetts, were landed gentry with a military and medical

background. Her great-uncle was Dad's Army actor and playwright Arnold Ridley. When she was growing up, her favourite film was Matilda (1996), an adaptation of Roald Dahl's children's story, with the title character(played by Mara Wilson in the film) a role model to her. Ridley won a scholarship to Tring Park School for the Performing Arts in Hertfordshire, which

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she attended between the ages of 9 and 18. She then began to study classical civilisation at Birkbeck,

University of London before dropping out to concentrate on her acting career.

Ridley began her career with minor roles in the television programmes Youngers, Toast of London, Silent Witness, Mr Selfridge and Casualty. She also appeared in the short film Blue Season, which was entered into the Sci-FiLondon 48-Hour Film .

Challenge. Ridley played the lead in film three of Lifesaver, an interactive film which was nominated for a BAFTA Award. She has also appeared in the music video for Wiley's song "Lights On", playing the character of Kim

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In April 2014, Ridley's casting as Rey, one of the lead characters in Star Wars: The Force Awakens, was announced. She was chosen for the film in February 2014. Her choice by director J. J. Abrams was seen as a repeat of George Lucas's move of casting relatively unknown actors for the lead roles in the first Star Wars film in 1977, as well as the first of the Star Wars prequel trilogy in 1999. At the time of her casting she was, according to Rolling Stone, a "total unknown." Prior to the film's release, in JOY FEELINGS MAG!

October 2015 Ridley appeared at the launch of a set of Star Wars postage stamps issued by the UK postal service Royal Mail, with Ridley's character Rey featuring on a stamp along with the droidBB-8. With international revenues of over $2 billion, The Force Awakens was a major boxoffice hit and the highestgrossing film of 2015. After an early screening of the film, Brian Viner of the Daily Mail called Ridley the "real star of the show," adding that her performance as Rey


should "send her career into orbit." Her performance received critical acclaim, with Richard Roeper describing her portrayal as "a breakout performance". Ridley became executive producer of the documentary The Eagle Huntress in January 2016. Director Otto Bell said of her commitment, “Like so many other theatergoers around the world, I was blown away by

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Daisy’s recent portrayal of an empowered female protagonist. I’m thrilled she’ll be bringing that same energy to supporting a realworld heroine who is also on an epic journey to win victory in a far away land.” The movie premiered at the Sundance Film Festival on 24 January 2016, with Ridley also narrating.


Ridley voiced the lead role of Taeko in the English dub of the 1991 animated film Only Yesterday, released on 1 January 2016 in New York City and throughout the US on 26 February. She will also continue her role as Rey in Star Wars: Episode VIII, which is scheduled to be released in December 2017. In August 2016, it was announced that Ridley was set to star in the movie adaptation of the young adult novel series Chaos Walking. Ridley is one of several actors featured on Barbra Streisand's 2016 .

album Encore: Movie Partners Sing Broadway. Along with Anne Hathaway, Ridley and Streisand perform the song "At the Ballet" from A Chorus Line, with Ridley performing the role of Bebe, one of a trio of dancers hoping to be cast in an upcoming show. Ridley is to star in a film adaptation of Agatha Christie's detective novel Murder on the Orient Express. Directed by and starring Kenneth Branagh, production begins in London in November 2016


Ridley is currently dating British actor Charlie Hamblett. She has a tattoo of three stars on her left foot that she got when she was 15, a tattoo of the alchemical symbol of air on her upper right thigh, and a peace symbol tattoo behind her right ear. Ridley also owns a dog called Muffin. She was voted No. 1 on AskMen.com's Crush List 2016, and also appeared

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in People magazine's World's Most Beautiful 2016 list. Ridley suffers from endometriosis, caused by polycystic ovaries, which required her to undergo multiple laparoscopic surgeries. She revealed over the social media site Instagram that she was diagnosed with the condition at the age of 15, and admitted that the condition left her feeling low in self-confidence due to acne that followed.


Ridley was praised for her message by news outlets and

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fans alike.


LUPITA NYONG'O

Lupita Amondi Nyong'o was born March 1, 1983 in Mexico City, Mexico, to Kenyan parents, Dorothy and Peter Anyang' Nyong'o. Her father, a senator, was then a visiting lecturer in political science. She was raised in Kenya. At age 16, her parents sent her back to Mexico for seven months to learn Spanish. She read film JOY FEELINGS MAG!

studies at Hampshire College, Massachusetts and, after working as a production assistant on several films, graduated from the Yale School of Drama's acting program. In 2013, she impressed cinema audiences in her film debut, as brutalized slave Patsey in acclaimed director. Steve McQueen's 12 Years a


Slave (2013). She was also the lead in MTV's awardwinning drama series, Shuga (2009), appeared in the thriller Non-

Stop (2014), and will have roles in the big-budget films Star Wars: The Force Awakens (2015) and The Jungle Book (2016).

Lupita's stage credits include playing "Perdita" in "The Winter's Tale", (Yale Repertory Theater), "Sonya"

in "Uncle Vanya", "Katherine" in "The Taming of the Shrew", as well as being in the original

production of Michael Mitnick's "Elijah".

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Queen of Katwe is a 2016 American biographical sports drama filmdirected by Mira Nair from a screenplay by William Wheeler. Starring David Oyelowo, Lupita Nyong'o, and Madina Nalwanga; the film depicts the life ofPhiona Mutesi, a Ugandan chess prodigy from Katwe who becomes aWoman Candidate Master after her performances at World Chess Olympiads. Adapted from an ESPN magazine and book by Tim Crothers, the film is produced by Walt Disney Pictures and ESPN JOY FEELINGS MAG!

Films. Queen of Katwe was screened at the 2016 Toronto International Film Festival. The film was released in limited release in North America on September 23, 2016, and in general on September 30. The film garnered critical praise for its black cast, setting, and subject matter; elements regarded as rare for a major American studio release. Living in the slum of Katwe in Kampala, Uganda, is a constant struggle for 10-yearold Phiona (Madina Nalwanga) and her family.


Her world changes one day when she meets Robert Katende (David Oyelowo), a missionary who teaches children how to play chess. Phiona becomes fascinated with the game and soon becomes a top player under

Katende's guidance. Her success in local competitions and tournaments opens the door to a bright future and a golden chance to escape from a life of poverty.

 KEYS' SONG INSPIRED BY CHESS PLAYER'S TRIUMPH

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empowerment, so when the singer watched the new film


“Queen of Katwe” and saw its female lead, Phiona Mutesi, win best male chess player, she was overjoyed. “That was like so good and she played against all these boys because there wasn’t anybody else she could play against, and she was the best of all,” Keys said. “I think that was really, really powerful.” It was one of the many scenes in the film starring Lupita Nyong’O that inspired the piano-playing star to write “Back to Life,” a song about hope and perseverance that plays at the movie’s end. “As far as we feel like we’ve come – and as far as we’ve come, we definitely have made strides forward – it’s such an important reminder to know that when given opportunity, young people, especially girls, really flourish,” Keys said in an interview last week. “It’s just that simple.” JOY FEELINGS MAG!

“Queen of Katwe,” which opened locally last week, stars Madina Nalwanga as a gifted chess player from the Katwe slums in Kampala, Uganda, who reaches new heights in the international chess world. Nyong’O plays the role of her mother and David Oyelowo is her optimistic and passionate chess coach. The true story was directed by Mira Nair. Keys said it was emotional watching the film, which highlights Uganda, a place Keys has visited and done charity work with through her Keep a Child Alive organization. “All over the world, and even in all of our backyards, there’s just so many incredible stories … (and) it’s great to be a part of continuing to just evolve and diversify the stories that we see and hear,” she said. “It’s personal to me in the way that I can identify with


Phiona finding her way, finding herself. When I say ‘Back to Life,’ it’s like finding your greatest (self), finding what makes you alive. I feel like I myself am learning that more and more every day.” Keys said she’s hoping “Back to Life” will satisfy fans who are waiting for her next album, though it could drop any day. “This is definitely like the best music I’ve made in my life yet … because it’s like the most vulnerable, most urgent … it just has such a good vibe to it,” said Keys, who has won 15 Grammys and released five studio albums. “It’s really kind of this dope cross between art, activism, what’s going on in  .

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the world, how it makes us feel, who we are; it’s personal, it’s relatable, it’s musical.”

 Kim Kardashian has been left 'badly shaken' after being robbed at gunpoint at a Paris apartment early on Monday morning. The reality star, 35, had $11 million worth of jewellery stolen by five armed masked men dressed as police officers


This looks really bad

 Theresa May has set out the government's timetable for leaving the EU, telling the BBC she

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will trigger Article 50 to start the two-year process by the end of March next year.


HOW TO SET A TABLE

You want to have a perfect dinner table for yourself and friends or guests? We have a few tips for you. Food? Check. Drinks? Check. Table setting? Almost. While a simple plate, fork, spoon and knife set-up may do the job, if you really want to impress your dinner guests, take the extra time to set a formal dining room table. Before you feel the JOY FEELINGS MAG!

need to start shopping around for an oyster fork, we’ve outlined the three main table settings—basic, informal and formal—for you to choose from based on your style and dinner plan. We’ve also included some fun table-setting trivia so you can spend your meal impressing guests after setting the perfect tablescape. Bon Appétit! Ultimately, good food and good company make for the best dinner parties. Bring


together your table setting with a fabulous bouquet. From rustic to elegant, a

Throwing a dinner party or having guests for the holidays? Improve your party hosting skills with three quick and easy ways to set a table.

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floral centerpiece can set the tone for your meal.


Setting the table is often a hurried, last-minute task that can leave you wondering about the correct placement of the flatware, plates, napkins and glassware. Don't add stress to your dinner plans, and keep the focus on the food, your family and friends, with these super easy table setting ideas. Start with a basic setting to dress up the table and set a

casual mood for your dinner party or holiday gathering. For a more formal setting, add more pieces by bringing additional plates, silverware, glasses and other serving pieces to the table as outlined below. You'll be a dinner party pro in no time!

Basic Table Setting


This setting is appropriate for most occasions, and you just add to the basic pieces as needed. The dinner plate is positioned in the center of the place setting and everything else is placed around it. Then, the flatware is arranged around the plate in the order in which it will be used: 

To the left of the plate is the fork.

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To the right of the plate is the knife and spoon. The knife is placed to the right of the plate with the sharp edge toward the plate. To the right of the knife is the spoon.

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A water glass goes above the knife.

Napkins can be placed under the forks or on the plate for an informal setting.


Informal Dinner or Luncheon Table Setting

Simply start with a Basic Setting and add to it with these items: 

If a salad is to be served, the salad fork is placed to the left of the dinner fork. Eliminate the salad fork if no salad is served or place it to the right of the dinner fork to use as a dessert fork if appropriate. (The dessert fork can also be

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brought to the table when dessert is served.) 

If soup is served, set the bowl on the plate and a soup spoon to the right of the beverage spoon.

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Salad or bread and butter plates go to the left of the forks. Position butter plates above the forks with the butter spreader placed across the plate.


Cup and saucer go above the spoons with the handle toward the right. Wine or water glasses can be positioned to the left of the coffee cup.

Begin with the setting for an informal dinner or luncheon and add to it using the following ideas: 

White and red wine glasses (if necessary) along with the water

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Formal Dinner Table Setting

glasses are positioned to the left of the coffee cup. 

The beverage, soup and/or dessert spoons are to the right of the knife or can be brought to the table when soup or dessert is served.


To dress it up more, place a charger under the dinner plate.

height), otherwise guests won't be able to see each other across the table. 

Serve appetizers and beverages in the living room before sitting down. You'll have one less course to bring to the table.

Before calling guests to the table, fill water goblets and put out the bread and butter for guests to pass. If you're serving a salad, fill individual salad plates and set them at each place setting. Consider chilling the salad plates in the refrigerator for several hours to keep greens crisp.

If your dinner plates are oven-safe, set the oven to the lowest possible temperature and place the stacked plates in the oven to warm while enjoying salad and bread. If your dishes are not oven-safe, rinse them under hot water and dry just before filling.

How to Make a Sit-Down Dinner Special The holidays are a perfect time to add a little elegance to the table. Instead of a casual family-style supper, where food is passed from one person to another, host a formal sit-down dinner, where individual plates of food are served to guests. Here's how: 

Keep the guest list small.

Bring out your china, crystal, silver and best linen cloths. Use place cards so guests don't have to guess where to sit.

When selecting a centerpiece for the table, make sure it isn't too tall (10 to 12 inches is an acceptable maximum

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When guests have finished with the salad, clear the plates and utensils used. Then prepare and garnish individual dinner plates in the kitchen.

Before serving dessert, clear the table of all dishes, including extra glasses, salt and pepper shakers and condiment dishes.

Serve the dessert and coffee cups. Place the sugar and creamer on the table.

Avoid the temptation to clear the table and start washing dishes…that can wait until after your guests leave.

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