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JANUARY 21, 2021 | The Jewish Home OCTOBER 29, 2015 | The Jewish Home
Dating Dialogue
What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters
Dear Navidaters,
I was dating Dovid very seriously, and we were a few short weeks from getting engaged. Suddenly, he ended the relationship, without a conversation, because he believed his friends who were in similar situations appeared to be more excited than he was.
It’s been some time now and I have open-mindedly gone out with other guys, but I still have an intuition that we will end up together. I am aware that the way he handled the entire situation says a lot about him and his communication style, or lack thereof, but I wish there was some way to facilitate the conversation that should have happened before he decided the relationship was over. My rabbi has continuously reminded me that Dovid knows how to contact me if he wanted to reach out again and that it’s not my place to initiate. However, I fear that Dovid doesn’t have the tools within him to conjure up the courage and strength necessary to make the call because of his self-deception. I continue to daven and hope that if it’s part of Hashem’s plan it will happen. Any advice on how to proceed?
Thanks, Shira
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