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Around the Community


Weekly In The Five Towns, Queens & Brooklyn

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HAFTR High School Hosts First Alumni Day Page 39

CIJE and BBY…A Winning Team!

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Nathan Krasnovsky Joins the JCCRP as Executive Director Page 39

Pioneering a Solution to the

Tuition Crisis

TOVA Mentoring’s 2013 Kickoff Event A Resounding Success

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Yeshiva Darchei Torah Dinner Celebrates 40 Years of Chinuch and Chesed Page 38

Chatting About Romney, Republicans and Radios

TJH Interviews

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Host of Spinclass and Village of Lawrence Trustee

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Dear Readers, As I write this, my neighbors are packing up their house for their move from Lawrence to North Woodmere. The move is bittersweet for me; we are happy that they are moving on to a new home but are sad to see them go. Living next to them over the years has been a wonderful experience. Our children have become close; in some ways, they are like siblings to each other. They play together in the morning and evenings, share toys and laughter, and sometimes join in each other’s suppers. It’s funny—as I saw them fill their house with boxes, it brought me back to camp days when all our possessions were packed into our suitcases and duffel bags the night before we were set to go home. Yes, we were happy to go back to our families, but we were sad to leave the place that brought us so many wonderful memories. I guess this is true for so much in life. As we go from stage to stage, we experience a moment of nostalgia. We know that moving on is important. We know that as people it’s important for us to move to the next level. But there is still something within us that yearns to stay at that point just for a little bit longer. This week, we are privileged to hear from Michael Fragin, one of the Trustees of the Village of Lawrence. Years ago, Michael joined the board of the Village of Lawrence when he saw that things needed to be fixed in our town. Now, Michael is the host of Spinclass, a popular “radio” show streaming on-line. In his weekly show, Michael brings listeners the people and politics behind the headlines. It is refreshing to hear his views and the story behind the news. If you are interested in knowing what goes on behind the scenes in Washington, Spinclass is required listening. The schools in our community are wonderful institutions that provide stellar education to our precious children. The teachers and rebbeim are warm and enthusiastic. They bring Torah and Yiddishkeit alive for our young generation. But the cost of tuition and the tough economy has been hard for many frum families. Of course, the tuition crunch is a topic that is on the minds of many parents in our community. This week, Shira Diamond presents some solutions for the high cost of tuition. The solutions she writes about are varied, but the underlying message is clear: change is needed and if we all work together, a solution can be found. As always, we love to hear from you! Feel free to email me at Wishing you and your family a wonderful week, Shoshana

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Dear Editor, I cannot agree with letter-writer Mr. Novak more. In his letter, Mr. Novak opines that perhaps our community should insist that women marry at a more mature age. I have been saying this for years. Among others, one of the problems with shidduchim in our community stems from an age-gap between the girls and boys. Indeed, some say to let our boys date younger. But that is hardly the solution. With parents desperate to find the “right” shidduch and terrified that their children will be “left out,” we have pushed our girls to date younger and younger. As Mr. Novak points out, our girls are barely out of high school when they are forced to provide for families and juggle babysitters and work schedules. Let’s let our girls enjoy life. Let’s let them take the time to breathe after school, get a worthy degree, a wonderful job, build up a substantial bank account and become more mature women before building their homes. Many young couples struggle with relationships. Perhaps, that is not a “sign of the times.” Perhaps that is just because they were not given the time to develop as their own people before starting a relationship with another. Marriage is hard work. A solid marriage

does not come easily—a couple has to invest time and effort, and each person has to be mature to be able to deal with the other’s differences. My daughter tells me time and time again that she feels that she only was able to make the right choice in a husband because she only got married when she was 24. She says that if she would have gotten married at a younger age, it’s possible that the relationship her husband and she shares would have a different flavor. Parents, do yourselves a favor. Let our young women enjoy life and mature to the right age before partaking on the journey of building a family. Let’s give them a good chance to share a wonderful relationship with their future spouses. May all our children find the right shidduch in the right time! Karen W. Dear Editor, I have noticed that many policemen are on the streets, pulling cars over and issuing tickets. In general, talking and texting on cellphones is truly dangerous. But when the cops are issuing tickets right and left, I hope that our community will be extra careful. S. S.

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The Week nounced a deal to take over Current TV, the low-rated cable channel that was founded by Al Gore, former vice president, and his business partners seven years ago. Al Jazeera plans to shut down Current TV and start an Englishlanguage channel, which will be available in more than 40 million homes. News will originate from New York and Doha, Qatar. The news network is financed by the government of Qatar, although it claims editorial independence from the country. The purchase price was not disclosed but sources claim it was around $500 million. Since Al Gore owned 20 percent of the company, that’s a $100 million payout for him. Luckily for Gore and his partners, this deal went through by December 31 so they are not subject to the higher tax rate that took effect January 1. Perhaps the biggest challenge the channel will face will be persuading Americans to watch. “There are still people who will not watch it, who will say that it’s a ‘terrorist network,’” said Philip Seib, the author of The Al Jazeera Effect. “Al Jazeera has to override that

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In News by providing quality news.” “There’s a major hole right now that Al Jazeera can fill. And that is providing an alternative viewpoint to domestic news, which is very parochial,” said Cathy Rasenberger, a cable consultant who has worked with Al Jazeera on distribution issues in the past. However, she warned, “there is a limited amount of interest in international news in the United States.” Time Warner Cable had warned that it might ditch Current because of its low ratings. It took advantage of a changein-ownership clause and said in a brief statement Wednesday night, “We are removing the service as quickly as possible.” How scary that this news giant can now flaunt its hatred against America and democracy in the land of the free and home of the brave!

Cat Burglar Arrested at Prison Brazilian prisons have their share of animals trying to enter their walls. But last week, when prison guards saw a furtive feline approaching, they arrested the cat. It seems that this kitten was no ordinary kitten. This cat was about to help prisoners escape by carrying vital instruments needed to dig tunnels and communicate with the outside. It was trained by prisoners to deliver cell phones and tools to dig tunnels and also sneak in with forbidden items strapped to its body. Marcelo Avelino, the head of the prison guards’ union, explained, “An agent saw the cat and went to look at it closely because something about it seemed wrong.” The agent found a bag tied to the animal’s body filled with saw blades and drill parts for concrete drilling and digging tunnels, along with a cell phone complete with battery and charger. This cat had been seen many times entering and exiting the Alagoas jail but no one ever paid much attention to it until now. Prison officer Luiz de Oliveira said that prisoners had raised the cat and that relatives would often take it home after a prison visit. Oliveira said, “We were very surprised by this new tactic of pris-

oners,” who trained the animal so that it returned to the prison and even managed to carry materials. Thank G-d it was caught—this story could have ended cat-astrophically!

Google Chairman Visits North Korea

North Korea is not a country known for its openness and technology. The country’s economy has been languishing for decades and has been relying on outside help for supplies. Strict regulations are set, restricting many things people in the free world enjoy. That is why a visit from Google’s executive chairman, Eric Schmidt, is so surprising. It’s almost as if the two— the person and the country—are at diametric opposite sides philosophically. On the one hand, Schmidt heads one of the most open and advanced companies in the world. On the other hand, most North Koreans do not have access to the world wide web and many of them don’t even have access to computers and cellphones. Last Monday, Schmidt and New Mexico Governor Bill Richardson visited the dictatorship. Schmidt is the highest-profile U.S. executive to visit North Korea since Kim Jong Un took power a year ago. Many at the U.S. State Department have criticized the trip since it comes so close to a recent rocket launch by North Korea. Richardson has visited North Korea more than half-dozen times over the past 20 years. Richardson emphasized that the trip is a “private trip.” “This is not a Google trip, but I’m sure he’s interested in some of the economic issues there, the social media aspect. So this is why we are teamed up on this. We’ll meet with North Korean political leaders. We’ll meet with North Korean economic leaders, military. We’ll visit some universities. We don’t control the visit. They will let us know what the schedule

is when we get there,” he said. In general, much of what comes out of North Korea is heavily censored. Visitors only see what the government intends for them to see. The dictatorship squashes any dissidents and relies on fear to promote its agenda. Google has offices in more than 40 countries, including all three of North Korea’s neighbors: Russia, South Korea and China, another country criticized for systematic Internet censorship.

well! He will return!” The opposition says Chavez’s absence is an indication that he is no longer fit to govern. Cabello slammed their criticism. “Get this into your heads,” he shouted. “Hugo Chavez was elected president and he will continue to be president beyond January 10. No one should have any doubt.”

Icelandic Teen Fights to Keep Her Name

Venezuela Appoints Assembly Chief Due to Chavez’s Medical Condition

Diosdado Cabello, a combative ex-soldier, was reelected by Venezuelan lawmakers as Assembly Chief of Venezuela. The close ally of President Hugo Chavez will become the caretaker president if the socialist leader does not recover from cancer surgery. Cabello is regarded as the third most powerful figure in government, behind Chavez and Vice President Nicolas Maduro. If Chavez is forced to step down due to his medical condition or dies, Cabello would take over the running of the country as Assembly President until a new election could be organized within 30 days. “As a patriot ... I swear to be supremely loyal in everything I do, to defend the fatherland, its institutions, and this beautiful revolution led by our Comandante Hugo Chavez,” Cabello said as he took the oath, his hand on the constitution. In the last 18 months, Chavez, 58, has undergone four surgeries in Cuba, where he is currently recovering. On Thursday, the Venezuelan government said he was suffering from a “severe” respiratory infection that hindered his breathing. The Venezuelan leader has not been seen in public for more than three weeks. Hours before the vote to re-elect Cabello, thousands of Chavez supporters clad in red gathered, chanting: “We are all Chavez! Our comandante will be

For many, their name defines who they are and is precious to them throughout their lives. But for a 15-year-old teenager in Iceland, the name she holds dear is officially illegal and she is suing the Icelandic state for the right to legally use the name given to her at birth by her mother. The girl’s birth name was Blaer (Eidsdottir), which means “light breeze” in Icelandic but is not on an official list approved by the government. The Personal Names Register of Iceland includes 1,712 male names and 1,853 female names that fit Icelandic grammar and pronunciation rules and that officials claim will protect children from embarrassment and bullying. Parents need to choose from the list or apply to a special committee that has the power to allow or forbid a name. Iceland is not the only country that has rules about baby naming. Germany and Denmark have similar laws. Blaer’s mother claims she only learned that her daughter’s name wasn’t on the list after she had already named her. The clergy who gave the baby the name mistakenly allowed it. “I had no idea that the name wasn’t on the list, the famous list of names that you can choose from,” said Bjork Eidsdottir, adding she knew a Blaer whose name was accepted in 1973. “And my daughter loves her name,” Blaer’s mother added. The panel rejected the name, claiming that the word Blaer has a masculine tone. This is ironic since Blaer was the name of a female character in a novel by Iceland’s revered Nobel Prize-winning author Halldor Laxness. Blaer’s official documents say

In News “Stulka” which means girl. (Is that less embarrassing?!?) This has obviously caused frustration over the years since she always had to tell the whole story when questions arose. Blaer and her mother are hoping to challenge the names committee decision in court. “So many strange names have been allowed, which makes this even more frustrating because Blaer is a perfectly Icelandic name,” Eidsdottir said. “It seems like a basic human right to be able to name your child what you want, especially if it doesn’t harm your child in any way.” “The law is pretty straightforward so in many cases it’s clearly going to be a yes or a no,” said Agusta Thorbergsdottir, the head of the committee, a panel of three people appointed by the government to a four-year term. “What one person finds beautiful, another person may find ugly,” she acknowledged. She pointed to “Satania” as one unacceptable case because it was deemed too close to “Satan.” Names beginning with a “c” have been rejected because the letter “c” is not part of Iceland’s 32-letter alphabet.

Aid Workers Murdered for Fighting Polio Last week, TJH focused on some of the items and concepts that have been banned in Pakistan. Among them was the polio vaccine, as the Taliban believes that the inoculations are a conspiracy of the United States. Last Tuesday, six female aid workers and a male doctor were ambushed and shot dead by gunmen in Pakistan. The attack is believed to be linked to the groups’ work distributing the polio vaccination. District police officer Abdur Rashid Khan said their vehicle was targeted as they returned home from work at a children’s community center run by Pakistani charity Ujala, or Light. The shooting occurred in Swabi district, northwest of the capital of Islamabad. This was the first attack on aid workers in the area. The victims worked at the center for aid agency Support With Working Solutions, whose head Javed Akhtar said they had told their other 160 staff to sus-

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Several hours later, the pain started….she began to ache all over and each step she took became torturous. Visions of herself being unable to dance at her daughter’s wedding plagued her.


So she called the office of “Kollel Chatzos” and was given the opportunity to submit two names. She presented her own name, and asked that the kollel men pray that the wedding not be ruined by her apparent injury, and that she should be able to greet her guests with a genuine The Best smile on her face. At the same time, she gave them her daughter’s name, that the bride should merit setting up a moral and healthy home, one full of joy and Naches, along with her soon to be husband. “I have to tell you,” related the mechutenesta “I didn’t believe it could happen! The pain disappeared entirely and we celebrated a beautiful wedding, and I felt like a new person. The power that “Kollel Chatzos” possesses is immense! Thank you!!

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pend work following the killings. It had run a school and dispensary in Swabi and helped vaccinate children against polio, a disease that can cripple or kill within hours of infection. In reference to the attack, Mr. Akhtar said: “This seemed to be part of the campaign against the polio drive by certain anti-polio elements.” The Taliban denied any involvement in the attacks, although its leaders have repeatedly denounced the vaccination program. It was in this region that a Taliban gunman shot 15-year-old Malala Yousufzai in the head last October for advocating for girls’ education. No group has officially claimed responsibility for the incident.

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Baruch Hashem, the administration of “Kollel Chatzos” feels honored to report that they have acquired a strong base of esteemed men who will serve as the learners of “Kollel Chatzos – Monsey”. These carefully selected members will work to protect the good people of Monsey as well as the rest of Klal Yisroel, and will help open the gates of Heaven each night to accept their fervent prayers for good health, abundant wealth, and good luck etc.

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For months, French actor Gerard Depardieu has been fighting a proposed super tax on millionaires in France. He has been threatening to give up his French citizenship in protest, and as of last week, is now a citizen of Russia. Last week, the celebrity was personally given his new Russian passport by President Vladimir Putin. To celebrate, he flew to the provincial town of Saransk on Sunday where he was greeted by fans as a local hero. Supporters even offered him a free apartment. Putin welcomed the actor to his residence in Sochi, the host city of the 2014 Winter Olympics on Saturday. Russian media showed a photo of the two men embracing. Depardieu has not decided exactly where he will live within Russia. He did mention that he was not considering Moscow because it is too big and he prefers a smaller village. France’s new Socialist government tried to raise the tax on income above $1.3 million to 75 percent from the current 41 percent. That plan was shot down by the highest court. Budget Minister Jerome Cahuzac said on Sunday that the government is coming up with a new plan

In News that will still force the very wealthy to pay higher taxes. “I find it a bit pathetic that for tax reasons this man – whom by the way I admire infinitely as an actor – has decided to exile himself,” Cahuzac said. I actually think it’s smart. If someone were to take all my money, I’d also leave the country. Here’s to you, Mr. Obama!

How Do You Say Frozen in Chinese? Bbbrr it’s cold out there… Temperatures in China have dropped drastically, making this winter the coldest in almost three decades. Temperatures are cold enough to freeze coastal waters and trap 1,000 ships in ice. Since November, the average temperature has been minus 3.8 degrees Celsius, which is equal to 25 degrees Fahrenheit. That’s 1.3 degrees colder than the previous average, and the lowest in 28 years. The sea in Laizhou Bay on the coast of Shandong province in the east has frozen due to the bitter cold, stranding nearly 1,000 ships. The area under ice is reported to be 291 square km or 180 square miles. The weather has affected transportation in and out and within the country. More than 140 flights from the state capital airport in central Hunan province were delayed. Bundle up!

Israel Fatah and Hamas Join Forces

Thousands of Palestinians joined together in a rare rally led by President Mahmoud Abbas’s Fatah group in Gaza on Friday, as tensions ease with rival Hamas Islamists ruling the enclave

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The Week since 2007. A long hiatus in peace talks between Abbas’s administration and Israel has narrowed ideological differences between the two main Palestinian factions. Solidarity has developed since the Israel-Gaza conflict in November, after which Hamas declared victory. Abbas remains based in the Israelioccupied West Bank, but several of his senior advisers attended Friday’s march in the Gaza Strip. They paraded down the street with yellow Fatah flags rather than the green Hamas colors that have dominated such events since Hamas fighters drove Fatah from the territory in 2007.

Egypt Seizes U.S. Made Weapons Meant for Gaza Security officials reported that Egyptian security forces snatched U.S.made anti-tank and surface-to-air missiles intended for Gaza. After a tip-off, officials discovered six missiles in the Sinai, which borders

Gaza and Israel. Sinai is a scarcely populated peninsula that is home to lavish tourist resorts in the south and terrorists in the north. It is a key transit point for smuggling arms into Gaza. Friday’s report comes a few days after Western sources revealed that Egypt has prevented three instances of largescale smuggling of weapons into Gaza since the end of Operation Pillar of Defense. The activity against the weaponry smuggling is part of Egyptian-U.S. coordination, agreed upon in the discussions involving Secretary of State Hillary Clinton two days before the end of the operation. According to the sources, Egyptian forces hindered at least three separate instances of significant quantities of weapons being smuggled. Two of the occurrences originated from Libya, and another from Iran through Sudan. Last week, Egyptian media reported that the country’s armed forces in the northern Sinai, in cooperation with local Bedouins, foiled an attempt to smuggle 17 rockets to Gaza. Last month, Italian police seized a shipment of weapons intended for Egypt with a final destination of Gaza.

In News The weapons, which included a rocket launcher, were part of a shipment that was supposed to go on an Egyptian ship which was detained by local authorities. Italian media reported that the information about the weapons came from Israel. Israel has accused Iran of supporting the smuggling of weapons into Gaza. Recently, there was a mysterious bombing at a military factory in Khartoum, Sudan that Israel was being blamed for. The October 23rd strike on the Yarmouk compound led to speculation that Iranian weapons were stored or manufactured at the factory in Sudan. Sudan has denied Iranian involvement in weapon manufacturing and has accused Israel of “spreading fabricated information.” What a mess!

Israeli Arrested in Yemen A man with two names has been imprisoned for the last few weeks in Yemen after being accused of being an Israeli spy.

Abdullah Muhsan al-Himi al-Siari, also known as Abraham al-Deri, was arrested in the southern province of Ta’izz several weeks ago, after being accused of working for the Israeli Mossad and setting up an espionage network in the country. Reportedly, he was taken to the nearby city of Aden for questioning. Authorities believe that recently he was moved to a different holding facility. According to Yemeni media, this is the first time an Israeli citizen has been arrested in the country.

Israeli Doctors Treat Obama’s Grandmother Barack Obama’s step-grandmother received emergency eye surgery from Israeli doctors in Equatorial Guinea last week. Sarah Onyango Obama is the third wife of President Obama’s paternal grandfather. She lives in a remote Kenyan village. Mrs. Obama required surgery for an unspecified problem, and the nearest full-service hospital was the Israeli-operated Shalom Hospital in the Guinean

capital of Malabo. The elderly Obama was personally escorted by Guinean Health Minister Tomas Mecheba Fernandez, and after her treatment was quoted as saying, “All of Africa is talking about your [the Israeli] hospital and the fact that one doesn’t need to fly to Europe to get medical treatment.” For years, Israeli humanitarian aid groups and teams of doctors have been providing free and low-cost medical assistance to poor regions of Africa.

Morsi Calls Israel “Blood Suckers”

A video released by Egyptian media showing President Mohammad Morsi speaking harshly about Israel back in 2010 has been circulating. In the video, he calls for armed resistance against the “criminal Zionist entity.” The video was taken when Morsi served as the Muslim Brotherhood’s official spokesman. In the first clip, Morsi described “Zionists” as “blood suckers,” “warmongers” and “descendants of apes and pigs.” “These futile [IsraeliPalestinian] negotiations are a waste of time and opportunities,” he said. “The Zionists buy time and gain more opportunities as the Palestinians, Arabs and Muslims lose time and opportunities and get nothing out of it.” He went on to say, “The Palestinian Authority was created by the Zionist and American enemies for the sole purpose of opposing the will of the Palestinian people and its interests. No reasonable person can expect progress on this track. Either [you accept] the Zionists and everything they want, or else there is war. This is what the occupiers of the land of Palestine know – these blood suckers who attack the Palestinians, these warmongers, these descendants of apes and pigs. They must not be given any opportunity and must not stand on any Islamic or Arab land. They must be driven out of our countries.” He also claimed that, “We should employ all forms of resistance against

them. There should be military resistance within the land of Palestine against these criminal Zionists who attack Palestine and the Palestinians. There should also be political and economic resistance through a boycott as well as by supporting the resistance fighters. This would be the practice of the Muslims and the Arabs outside Palestine. They should support the resistance fighters and besiege the Zionists wherever they are.” Morsi stated, “Resistance is the only way to liberate the land of Palestine.” In a separate interview with the Hamas-affiliated al-Quds TV, Morsi said, “The Zionists have no right to the land of Palestine. There is no place for them on the land of Palestine. What they took before 1947-8 constitutes plundering. By no means do we recognize their Green Line. The land of Palestine belongs to the Palestinians not the Zionists. We must confront this Zionist entity. All ties of all kinds must be severed with this plundering criminal entity, which is supported by America and its weapons as well as by its own nuclear weapons, the existence of which is well known. The Arab peoples must boycott this entity and avoid normalizing relations with it. All products from countries supporting this entity – from the US and others – must be boycotted.” “They [the Zionists] are hostile by nature. The Zionists understand nothing but the language of force,” Morsi added. The video was also distributed by an Israeli research institute, the Middle East Media Research Institute. However, several Egyptian media outlets used another version of the clip to discredit Morsi for altering his radical views since taking power. This version shows Egyptian Ambassador to Israel, Atef Salem, saying, “I come with a message of peace” after he presented his letter of credence to President Shimon Peres. “I am here to emphasize that we shall work to build trust and transparency and we are committed to all the agreements we signed with Israel,” he said. Morsi sounds like a true friend to Israel.

Israel Bans Cosmetics Tested on Animals A revolutionary step has been taken in terms of the welfare of animals in Israel. The import of cosmetics, toiletries, and detergents whose manufacturing process involves animal testing has

In News been officially banned by law. The Knesset originally passed the law in 2010. The new regulations took effect on January 1, 2013. MK Eitan Cabel (Labor), who serves as head of the Knesset’s Animal Rights Lobby, promoted the legislation which states that “Israel will no longer allow the import and marketing of cosmetics, toiletries or detergents that were tested on animals. Animal testing in the Cosmetics Industry inflicts horrific suffering on these animals. Each product requires between 2,000-3,000 tests, and animals die in agony.” The only exception the law allows is for medicinal products, which are not categorized as drugs, and follows the guidelines set by the European Union, which enacted a similar ban in 2004. MK Cabel said that the law represents “a true revolution in animal welfare in Israel. We’ve come a long way in the last Knesset term and this law in the pinnacle of our efforts. “I hope we’ll create a change in perception that will end animal testing altogether,” Cabel added. The new law was enacted as an addition to a law enacted in 2007, which

banned animal testing in the Israeli Cosmetics Industry altogether.

National Outspoken Critic of Israel Nominated to Secretary of Defense In what Senator Lindsey Graham describes as proof that President Obama’s second term will be “in your face,” President Obama has chosen former Republican Senator Chuck Hagel as Secretary of Defense. President Obama’s choice places many in the awkward position of wanting to support the seemingly bipartisan choice of a former Republican Senator, who is also a Vietnam War veteran, while at the same time protesting the choice due to Senator Hagel’s outspoken positions against Israel. Hagel once stated that the “Jewish Continued on page 22

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The Week lobby” intimidates members of Congress when it comes to Israel. He also advocated for direct talks with both Iran and Hamas and voted against encouraging the European Union to label Hezbollah a terrorist group. In an interview with the Algemeiner Journal, former New York City Mayor Ed Koch stated, “Frankly, I thought that there would come a time when [President Obama] would renege on what he conveyed on his support of Israel. It comes a little earlier than I thought it would.” Koch added, “It’s very disappointing, I believe he will ultimately regret it.” He pointed out that “it undoubtedly will reduce support for him in the Jewish community, but I don’t think he worries about that now that the election is over.” Hagel has said that his critics have “completely distorted his record” and that the nomination will enable him to show his “unequivocal, total support for Israel.” Despite Chuck Hagel having an “R” for “Republican” after his name, there are many that question the authenticity

of the “R.” If enough Republicans in the Senate oppose Hagel’s nomination, this may turn into a classic nomination fight.

Teenager Confesses to Hit-and-Run on Facebook

They say there’s a truth behind every joke… Jacob Cox-Brown is an 18-year-old teenager from Oregon. It comes as no surprise that he frequently uses Facebook to communicate with friends. A recent posting that was intended as a

In News joke but had some truth behind it landed him in prison. He joked about driving drunk and hitting another vehicle. Two of his 656 Facebook friends saw the post and instead of chuckling, wisely reported it to police. After investigation, police discovered that thankfully no one was hurt but Cox-Brown did indeed strike two cars that were damaged and fled the scene. “We have used Facebook previously as an investigative tool, but this is the first time I believe we have arrested someone who posted they had committed the crime,” Brad Johnston, deputy chief of police in Astoria, Oregon, said. On New Year’s Day, the teenager posted: “Drivin drunk... classsic ;) but to whoever’s vehicle i hit i am sorry. :P” (Doesn’t sound too regretful…) Astoria police “have an active Social Media presence. It was a private Facebook message to one of our officers that got this case moving,” said Johnston in an incident report file shared on the department’s website which included a screenshot of Cox-Brown’s Facebook posting.

“When you post [that] on Facebook you have to figure that it is not going to stay private long,” Johnston said in the release. Maybe this will teach him to stay out of trouble and stay off the road for a while.

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The Week husband, former President Bill Clinton, are America’s two most popular politicians. At the same time, a Bloomberg poll found that 70 percent of Americans view Ms. Clinton favorably—that’s an amazing number considering the political divide that splits our country. So what makes these two so lovable? Some say that Americans admire Ms. Clinton for her “get up and go” attitude. She is the most traveled Secretary of State, and even after spending time in the hospital, was “raring to go” to continue her mission around the globe. The Clintons also seem to be ubiquitous. Bill has been seen showing up everywhere from the Democratic National Convention and on the campaign trail for Obama. He is a popular speaker and people feel connected to him when he talks. Others admire Ms. Clinton for being able to work for the man she once opposed in the primaries. Many admire her for turning a defeat into a political asset and for doing her job to its fullest. Regardless of what exactly is their

secret for likability, it is certain that we will be hearing more from this power couple in 2016.

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NY Has Fifth-to-Most Burglaries in USA Every city has its share of thefts, but some cities seem to have than others. Residents in these cities should make sure to lock their doors, set their alarms and buy a watchdog. According to the FBI, burglaries accounted for approximately $4.8 billion in lost property in the U.S. last year. With almost 2.2 million burglaries committed, this means that the average loss per burglary was $2,185. FBI Uniform Crime Report put together a list ranking the cities with the most burglaries. And since you’re wondering…New York has the fifth-to-most burglaries nationwide. In 2011, there were 18,159 robberies in New York. Phoenix held down the number four spot at 18,666 last year. Next up is Dallas at 18,727 followed by a big jump to

The city with the most burglaries nationwide is Houston, Texas. In 2011, there were 27,459 robberies. My advice to you? Make sure to set your alarms!

Some Missing From Official Photo of Women in Congress— Or Maybe Not? To mark the first day of the 113th year of Congress, House Minority Leader Nancy Pelosi organized a photo with all the female Democratic lawmakers on the Capitol steps to mark the historic number of women in the new Congress. There are now 101 females in both chambers—twenty in the Senate and 81 in the House. The temperatures on Thursday morning, January 3rd, were below freezing, and after several minutes of waiting atop the frigid marble for latecomers, Pelosi had the official picture taken without four tardy members. And now, thanks to Photoshop, when Pelosi’s office released the photo, all the women in the party appeared. When questioned about the doctor-

ing of the photo, Pelosi defended the incident. “It was an accurate historical record of who the Democratic women of Congress are,” she said during her weekly Capitol Hill press briefing. “It also is an accurate record that it was freezing cold and our members had been waiting a long time for everyone to arrive and had to get back into the building to greet constituents, family members to get ready to go to the floor,” she said. “It wasn’t like we had the rest of the day to stand there...Not only were they women, but they reflected the beautiful diversity of our country. Women who from every community, as well as every religious faith, so we were pretty excited about it.” She added: “Thank you for asking about it.” I don’t know why she didn’t Photoshop everyone in the photo in the first place—this way no one would have had to wait outside in the cold. Oh, and by the way, Ms. Pelosi, when you do that, sometimes people wonder just what else you’ve been Photoshopping…

No Respect for Life in Detroit Real estate in Detroit may be down but the homicide rate in the city has continued a devastating upward trend in 2012, hitting its highest peak in nearly two decades. A shrinking population of 706,585 people in 2011, combined with the rise in homicides, makes Detroit’s murder rate among the highest in the nation. Detroit Mayor Dave Bing and Police Chief Chester Logan held a press conference to address the grave matter. “We’ve just lost respect for each other; we’ve lost respect for life,” Bing said. “I don’t want to say that you can forget about this generation or the generation before us, but if we’re going to solve the problem, we’ve got to get into the heads and the minds and the hearts of our young people, and it’s going to take all of us to do that.” There were a total of 411 homicides in 2012, up from 377 in 2011. The number includes 386 criminal ho-

In News micides and 25 “justifiable homicides” that included three shootings by police, according to numbers released by the city. The number of criminal homicides increased 12 percent from 344 in 2011. The total in 2010 was 308. “I think the message that we want our citizens to understand is that we need them. We need them to help us. I just don’t believe that our police department should have the total responsibility for safety in the city,” Bing said. “There are, as the chief said, he can have an additional thousand cops, but there are things that are happening in homes and families in the communities and the neighborhoods that whether a cop was there or not is not going to stop the crime.” Detroit Police Chief Logan said the criminal activity in the city comes from a small minority of the city’s population. “These aren’t the average citizens we are talking about,” Logan said. “Many of these people are involved in nefarious walks of life, and there’s a difference between a law-abiding citizen who shoots a gun and a criminal or a

thug who’s out there using one.” Mayor Bing added a message of hope for the city, “We can’t give up, we can’t give in, and we’ve really got to let the small percentage of our population that’s creating havoc in our city know that we’re not going to continue to accept it and all of us need to get involved and help each other solve the problem,” he said. For the most part, homicides nationwide have been declining for the last few years, most notably in New York, where in 2012 there were 414 homicides at a rate of one per 19,915 people.

Record $80.4 Billion Spent on SNAP During fiscal year 2012 which began October 1, 2011 and ended September 30, 2012, the U.S. government spent a record $80.4 billion on food stamps through the Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program (SNAP). That is a $2.7 billion increase from the 2011 fiscal year.

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The Week According to the Monthly Treasury Statement that summarizes the receipts and outlays of the federal government, $80,401,000,000 went towards SNAP during FY 2012, which was a $2.7 billion increase from $77,637,000,000 in FY 2011. The SNAP program is administered by the U.S. Department of Agriculture (USDA), which also runs other food assistance programs under the auspices of the Food and Nutrition Service Agency. In total, nearly $106 billion was spent on food assistance in 2012, with $18.3 billion that went to “Child Nutrition Programs.” Throughout Obama’s first term total federal spending on SNAP has increased each year.

Obama Signs Fiscal Cliff Bill While on Vacation Thanks to the help of a handy “autopen,” President Barack Obama didn’t have to interrupt his fun in the sun in Hawaii in order to sign Congress’ new fiscal cliff bill. The technology works by copying a signer’s pen strokes and storing them for when the user is not present. NPR notes that this is at least the third time Obama has used the device during his presidency. In May 2011, Obama signed a Patriot Act extension while attending the G8 Summit in France. In November 2011, the President signed an emergency spending bill while in Indonesia. The Obama administration defends the practice by citing a 2005 decision by the Justice Department that allows the commander-in-chief the ability to command a subordinate to affix his signature (via autopen) to a bill he has approved.

This makes the autopen an extremely powerful device. “I always heard the autopen was the second-most guarded thing in the White House after the president,” said Jack Shock, Bill Clinton’s director of presidential letters and messages. What will they think of next? A body double?

Town to Burn Violent Video Games In the wake of the Sandy Hook tragedy, a Connecticut community has a plan to try to eliminate and discourage children from playing violent video games.

The city of Southington plans to hold an amnesty of violent video games by offering gift certificates in exchange for donated games, which will be burned on January 12th in Southington, Connecticut. The group, a coalition of local organizations, says its actions do not assert that video games were the cause of the killings in nearby Newtown, but argues that violent games and films desensitize children to “acts of violence.” A dumpster has been placed to collect any violent video games, CDs or DVDs. On Thursday, January 3rd, students of Sandy Hook elementary school returned to classes for the first time in Monroe, the neighboring town. Sandy Hook elementary is still being treated as a crime scene and it has not been determined if it will reopen. “As people arrive in their cars to turn in their games of violence, they will be offered a gift certificate donated by a member of the Greater Southington Chamber of Commerce as a token of appreciation for their action of responsible citizenship,” the group said in a statement. “Violent games turned in will be destroyed and placed in the town dumpster for appropriate permanent disposal.”

In News That’s Odd Dr.’s Rx: Daily Tanning Josh Borelli has a rare skin disease with an equally rare treatment. When Borelli was in eighth grade, he woke up one morning with lesions all over his body. They resembled chicken pox but were not contagious and did not go away after a few days. His doctor eventually diagnosed him with MuchHabermann disease, an extremely rare skin condition. Mucha-Habermann strikes males more often than females and occurs more frequently in children, specifically between the ages of five to 10. Borrelli’s father claims that Josh was believed to be the only person in the country to have the disease at the time he was diagnosed. “This disease is so rare that most dermatologists don’t see it in their entire practice,” said Dr. Doris Day, clinical associate professor of dermatology at New York University Medical, who does not treat Borrelli. “It’s something that we read about but don’t see.” Borrelli’s case went into remission as he entered high school but returned at the start of his senior year at the Medford, New Jersey, high school. This time, his doctor ordered a new treatment in addition to his prescribed medication: daily visits to the tanning salon. “My dad went with me the first couple of times to the tanning salon because I was a bit nervous,” Borrelli said. He now spends eight minutes per day in a tanning booth. The treatment was successful and Borrelli’s skin is now smooth with no lesions. Doctors say that if Borrelli would miss a single day of ultraviolet rays it could potentially cause the disease to resurface and cause life-threatening complications. “It’s a tough situation and it’s been very challenging for him but I’ve seen him rise to the occasion,” Borrelli’s father, David Borrelli said. Wonder if his insurance covers the tanning salon bills…

Woman Writes Memoir with Only Her Thumb Susan Spencer-Wendel was always a writer. She used to write about other

people’s lives until one day her own life circumstances and hardships became the subject of her journalism. Susan suffers from ALS, also known as Lou Gehrig’s Disease; she was diagnosed during the summer of 2011.

As her body succumbed to this devastating disease, Spencer-Wendel spent three months typing a memoir of her life on her iPhone with only her right thumb. The memoir she wrote is inspiring and heartrending, as she knows she only has a short time left to live. “I cannot lift my arms to feed myself or hug my children,” the 45-yearold mother of three wrote in Until I Say Goodbye: My Year of Living With Joy, which will be published in March. She predicts that by the time the book is released, she probably will no longer be able to speak clearly. “My muscles are dying, and they cannot return. I will never again be able to move my tongue enough to clearly say, ‘I love you,’” she wrote. “Swiftly, surely, I am dying. But I am alive today.” Spencer-Wendel is a former courts reporter for the Palm Beach Post newspaper in South Florida. She still resides in the sunny state with her husband, John, and their children, Marina, 15, Aubrey, 11, and Wesley, 8. “Time to stop dreaming and start doing, I thought,” she wrote of her trip to New York. She and her daughter, then just 14, went to New York City to pick out Marina’s wedding dress at Kleinfeld’s Bridal. It was a bittersweet moment since they both knew that SpencerWendel will not live to see her daughter walk down the aisle. “As my beautiful daughter walks out of the dressing room in white silk, I will see her ten years in the future, in the back room right before her wedding, giddy and crying, overwhelmed by a moment I will never share,” she wrote. “When my only daughter thinks of me on her wedding day, as I hope she will, I want her to think of my smile when I

say to her at Kleinfeld’s, ‘You are my beautiful.’” Editors at publishing giant HarperCollins noticed Spencer-Wendel’s manuscript and offered her $2 million for her memoir, co-written with Bret Witter. Until I Say Good-Bye is expected to be translated into 25 languages. Universal Studios paid her another $2 million for the movie rights to her story.

Fight Erupts over Ketchup, Leads to 911 Call

One Florida man just wanted ketchup on his Philly cheesesteak sandwich at Subway. When he didn’t get it, a confrontation with the sandwich maker ensued, leading to a 911 call. Now-former Subway employee Lawrence Ordone was working the counter at the Subway in an Orlando Walmart on New Year’s Eve. A man walked in and ordered a sandwich… standard fair for a sandwich restaurant. But the customer wanted ketchup— doesn’t sound like a big deal, right? However, according to the menu on the Subway website, they do not offer ketchup. Instead, they offer other condiments like mustard, vinegar, oil, and mayo. “He [the customer] wants ketchup on the Philly cheesesteak and I have never put – we don’t even have ketchup at Subway – I’ve never put ketchup on anybody’s sandwich,” Ordone said. But Luis Martinez refused to eat a ketchup-free sandwich so another customer standing in line offered to buy it instead. That’s when things got heated. Ordone claims that Martinez got upset by the offer and began to yell at the other customer. Then Martinez said to Ordone that he had “something” for him and walked toward his car and the employee felt threatened and called 911. “I was scared,” Martinez said.

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“Next thing, I’m thinking a gun’s going to come out.” Supposedly, by the time the police arrived, the irate ketchup-lover had fled the scene. This incident caused Ordone to lose his job at Subway. Ordone regrets his actions that led to his dismissal. “You can go buy your own ketchup, and I promise to G-d, you can put as much as you want on it and nobody’s going to say nothing,” he said. What would you do for ketchup on your sandwich?

authority. “He was not charged ... he’s free to go.” The man had an Icelandic passport, Marsico said. Icelandair did not immediately respond to a request for comment, but a spokesman for the airline confirmed the incident to Icelandic media, adding that plastic ties and tape are standard on board flights to help in such situations. I wonder if they made him fasten his seatbelt when landing.

Passenger Taped to His Seat on Flight

World’s Fattest Man Loses Weight

Flying just got a little stickier. An attention-grabbing photo appeared on a blog run by New York businessman Andy Ellwood. It was a photo of a drunk passenger on a trans-Atlantic flight taped to his seat. Ellwood received the picture from an acquaintance who witnessed the incident. “My friend was on the flight and he sent me the photo because we like to trade travel war stories,” Ellwood said. His friend chose to remain anonymous. As the story goes, the passenger got a little too rowdy and uncontrollable after consuming too much alcohol in flight. The passenger “drank all of his duty free liquor on the flight from Iceland to JFK yesterday,” Ellwood wrote in his blog post. “When he became unruly, (i.e. trying to choke the woman next to him and screaming the plane was going to crash), fellow passengers subdued him and tie(d) him up for the rest of the flight. He was escorted off the flight by police when it landed.” The Port Authority of New York and New Jersey confirmed the incident.

Paul Mason lost two-thirds of his weight. That’s a whole lot since he now weighs around 330 pounds. He didn’t do it through diet and exercise. He lost the weight after undergoing gastric bypass surgery that shrunk his stomach to the size of an egg. The next surgery on Paul’s wish list is getting rid of loose skin. The retired postman admits, “I still have a way to go.” He was once the

“A 46-year-old man was taken into custody last night at JFK off an Icelandic flight and then brought to the hospital because Port Authority police determined he was intoxicated,” said Ron Marsico, a spokesman for the port

world’s fattest man and dreams of being the world’s greatest “slimmer.” Medical bills are estimated to have cost taxpayers £1million which is about 1.6 million in dollars. Paul is fighting the National Health Service (NHS) to fund another surgery, to remove the skin left over after his weight loss. This surgery can cost up to £30,000 which is around $50K. Paul said, “The NHS says my weight must be stable for two years before they will consider operating on me to remove the loose skin.” The 51-year-old confessed: “I was ashamed to be called the fattest man in the world because I knew I’d got myself in … a state. Now I guess I could well be the biggest slimmer in the world, but I still have a way to go. I want to get down to between 14 and 15 stone which is the healthy weight for someone who is 6-foot-4inches. I am proud that I have shown to other people with weight problems what can be achieved.” Fourteen stone is about 200 pounds. Paul remembers that on his worst days he would consume close to 20,000 calories a day—that’s nearly ten times the suggested daily intake. His diet

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Firefighters removed the front wall of his house and used a forklift to plant him in an ambulance when he needed a hernia operation in 2002. A housing association built him a special widedoored bungalow, and council workers feed and clean him four times daily. Paul blames childhood bullying for a compulsive eating disorder and says it intensified when his dad died in 1986. I feel a whole lot skinnier after reading this article!



In News Walking Down the Aisle in 10 Degree Weather One couple from Dayton, Minnesota, shivered their way through their “I Do’s” on New Year’s Day. Nikki Hering, 28, and Ryan Hoffman, 26, got married at the Minnesota Horse and Hunt Club on January 1. Instead of the ceremony taking place inside the cozy warm lodge, the couple chose to walk down the aisle in 10-degree weather outside. “We both really love winter,” Hering said. “We wanted to be a little different. The outdoor area just really has a neat backdrop and overlook and it was the perfect setting for it,” said Hering. “We gave them [guests] blankets to wrap up, and provided hot coffee and cider for them to hopefully warm up. It was short and sweet so they weren’t miserable for too long.” Hering herself wore a fur cropped jacket over her wedding dress to brave the cold. “I had the fur stole wrapped around the top half of my dress, and had some fingerless gloves. Otherwise, I got boots to wear under my dress that you couldn’t see, and wore them with my lucky hunting socks,” she said. Of course, their plans were initially met with skeptics. “They didn’t quite believe us,” Hering said. “Everybody asked, ‘Really, are you sure?’ We told them it’d be short so they wouldn’t have to wait too long. The grandmas and the young kids in the family watched from a window inside.”

“It was somehow magically snowing right when the ceremony started. It was a super-light, perfect snow,” said the bride. Bbrr…

Police Ordered To Stay Out Of Restaurant Belleville police chief Bill Clay is ordering his officers to get their pancakes from anywhere but Denny’s, calling the restaurant “political stupidness.” There’s a story behind this strange command. On New Year’s Day, there were was a slight quarrel between five detectives and one Denny’s manager. It all began when a few detectives went out for lunch, out of uniform but wearing their badges. Manager David Rice approached them and asked them to either leave the restaurant or put their guns in their vehicle. Rice told the detectives that one of their weapons, specifically a female detective’s gun, was making another diner feel uncomfortable. The officers chose to leave without their food. The General Manager Michael Van stepped in a little too late. As the officers were walking out, he corrected the manager and said it was fine for them to stay. The insult was already in the bag and the officers declined the offer to stay, saying that it would be awkward and left. Denny’s corporate office has released an apology saying, “Denny’s policy permits law enforcement officials to carry their firearms in the restaurant and we regret any misunderstanding.”

Looking for Jewels at KFC Two Australian thieves set out on a mission to steal precious gems from a jewelry store. Instead they found fried chicken. The burglars burrowed the wall of the wrong store and found themselves inside a KFC and not inside Wrights Jewelers jewelry store. The pair used an iron bar to break into a bathroom at the rear of the connected shops. Sorry, wrong address! But this pair was unstoppable and spontaneous. Undeterred, the pair staged an impromptu hold-up and escaped with $1,000. Peter Welsh, 32, and Dwayne Doolan, 31, were arrested and charged with the New Year’s Eve robbery on Wednes-

day after a police raid on Welsh’s Woodridge home. Reportedly this was the pair’s third unsuccessful attempt to rob the independent jewelry store that day. Police prosecutor Sergeant Damian Summerfield said that earlier in the day, the thieves began throwing spark plugs at the jewelry store, in an attempt to smash the front window. When “plan A” failed, they allegedly tried to break in through the rear doors, but instead found themselves in the neighboring Animal Welfare League Opportunity Shop. Sgt Summerfield said the men stole a charity box from the front counter containing $50, before trying again to break into the jewelry store. Their third attempt ended up at the KFC when they hacked a hole in the wall of the public restrooms. Once inside, they allegedly threatened staff and demanded cash. These thieves may not be the brightest, but they do get an “A” for effort.

Man Buys Shirt Made of Gold for $230K Talk about a gold rush… An Indian businessman bought a solid gold shirt for $230,000 as an investment. Datta Phuge has an obsession with gold. More than two dozen goldsmiths toiled for 15 days to prepare the shirt custom ordered by Phuge. The top weighs seven-pounds. The shirt is crafted from 14,000 22-karat gold rings linked together with six Swarovski crystal buttons and has a belt also made of gold.

Phuge said he considers the shirt “an investment which will keep appreciating.” “People buy cars and go on holidays abroad,” he told the Mirror. “For me, gold is the ultimate passion. That is the reason I have spent a whopping amount of money on the shirt.” In India, gold is the symbol of

wealth and financial security. Luckily for Phuge, his investment may pay off. HSBC recently predicted that gold prices would jump even more this year. And that is thanks in part to demand from Indian customers like Phuge. To welcome in 2013, Phuge wore his beloved shirt accessorized with another 11 pounds of gold accessories including chains, bracelets and rings. Rumor has it he just custom ordered a gold case for his Nokia phone. Phuge isn’t concerned about being robbed or mugged. “I have my own security system in place,” he told the said. “I always move around with bodyguards.” What’s next? A toothbrush made of gold??!!

Completely False Article on Wikipedia for 5 Years Often you read something online and it’s completely unbelievable. But there are some sites we have come to trust. Wikipedia is one of them and just recently, editors of discovered an issue with one of the site’s articles. The subject of the entry was a wellwritten 4,500 word document detailing the 17th century Bicholim Conflict. It was on the website for at least five years. It was voted a “good article” by readers. It was even nominated for a featured article – Wikipedia’s gold star for research. The piece tells the story of “how colonial Portugal clashed with India’s massive Maratha Empire.” However, there is one thing wrong with the entry. The article is 100% false and completely made up. Wikipedia has admitted the entire conflict and books cited as sources for the piece are fictional. The writer of the article remains unidentified but was clearly successful in pushing his own agenda thanks to Wikipedia’s lax rules. The scam was uncovered when another user from Missouri, known as ShelfSkewed, finally realized the deception and nominated the article for removal. Wikipedia acted on his warning and immediately removed the piece. “After careful consideration and some research, I have come to the conclusion that this article is a hoax—a clever and elaborate hoax, but a hoax nonetheless,” they wrote. “An online

In News search for ‘Bicholim conflict’ or for many of the article’s purported sources produces only results that can be traced back to the article itself.” “Unfortunately, hoaxes on Wikipedia are nothing new, and the craftier they are, the more difficult it is to catch them,” William Beutler, president of Beutler Wiki Relations, a Wikipedia consulting firm said. “Anyone who’s clever enough to make up convincing sources and motivated enough to spend the time and skilled enough to write a plausible article can deceive whole Internet—at least for a while.” Anyone ever hear of the Parpades Islands?

Pilot Watches Burglar Rob his House from the Air It’s all about timing… A Florida pilot was flying over his property upon returning home from North Carolina on his personal plane when he spotted an intruder on his prop-

erty. David Zehntner was returning home on Sunday in his Cesna 182 and decided to fly over his home in LaBelle, when he noticed an unfamiliar truck in his driveway. He hovered over his home for nearly 10 minutes, watching a man try to break into his house. “Right in front of us, with us making a tight circle around our property here, watching from the air – and he was clearly looking at us several times,” Zehntner said. Zehntner then flew closer, dropping the plane to 300 feet, and saw the man attaching Zehntner’s red trailer to his truck and pulling out of his driveway. The pilot immediately called Glades County Sheriff’s Office from the air while continuing to follow the thief as he drove down the road. “The gentleman had a plane at several points circling him at close altitude and never thought, I guess, that somebody might be watching me,” Zehntner said. Authorities located the thief on Interstate 75 heading into Charlotte CounContinued on page 34

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The Week ty and arrested him after a traffic stop about 40 miles from Zehntner’s house. The thief, Gary Robert Haines, had his truck impounded and searched, and authorities found a loaded rifle and bullets on the floorboard. Score one for the good guys!

Kindness Streak Lasts 3 Hours During the holiday season, coffee drinkers in Canada spread kindness and generosity. For three hours at a Tim Hortons branch, the chain of kindness was 228 customers strong, as one customer after another paid for the next person’s purchase. It began when one drive-through customer in Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada, decided to pay for the next customer in line at Tim Hortons, a Canadian coffee chain. The next person caught on, evidently, and continued the trend. In the spirit of the gift-giving season, the acts of kindness continued for about three hours, as 228 orders were fulfilled

all on someone else’s tab. According to Troy Thompson, who manages the restaurant, both staff and customers delightedly participated. “They were calling out the numbers, ‘We’re at 162,’ and they made a really big deal of it. I think that’s what helped keep it going because nobody wanted to be the one who broke that streak,” said Thompson. “We don’t know who started it, but that’s the beauty of this act of generosity,” a company spokeswoman said. “It was the start of something wonderful.” But every party has a pooper. Eventually one customer wasn’t feeling the spirit and ended the streak of kindness by refusing to pay for the next customer’s three coffees although he had received four free coffees.

This Gym is Not for the Slim If you’re looking to join this gym, you better gain a few pounds. Downsize Fitness is an exclusive



In News health club but it doesn’t require a load of money to join. One of the requirements, though, is that members must be at least 50 pounds overweight to join. The chain says that members feel more comfortable around other members who need to lose a few pounds. In an extra push to make members even more comfortable, there are no mirrors in the gym. Windows are fogged so passersby can’t peek in. And the equipment is built to hold the extra pounds. One personal trainer says that she is still trying to lose weight and her clients feel they can relate better to her because of that. Francis Wisnewski said he started the gym because “I was embarrassed to go to the gym.” He admits that he has been “overweight [his] whole life.” Apparently, others agree. Wisnewski opened his first two stores in 2011 and has since expanded.

Going Green for Coffee

last Thursday. In an effort to help save the earth, Starbucks Corp. introduced a $1 reusable plastic cup at its cafes. The Seattle-based coffee chain already gives customers a dime discount each time they bring in reusable cups for refills. The goal of the new cup, that resembles the throw away cups and bears the Starbucks logo, is to discourage customers from always using disposable cups. The new cups will be cleaned with boiling water each time a customer brings them in to be filled. The cups were tested in 600 stores in the Pacific Northwest over the past few months and hit stores nationwide and in Canada last Thursday. In 2008, Seattle-based Starbucks had said it wanted to serve 25 percent of all drinks in reusable cups by 2015. That goal has since been reduced to 5 percent. Saving the environment one cup at a time!

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Yeshiva Darchei Torah Dinner Celebrates 40 Years of Chinuch and Chesed Photos by Tsemach Glenn

An overflow crowd of approximately 1,500 parents, grandparents, alumni and friends of Yeshiva Darchei Torah gathered on its Far Rockaway campus on Sunday for the Yeshiva’s 40th annual dinner, an event that paid tribute not only to a distinguished set of awardees but to the Yeshiva community’s response to Hurricane Sandy. Throughout the inspiring speeches and the beautiful video presentations, speaker after speaker echoed a consistent theme: in response to a devastating storm, the Yeshiva and the greater Far Rockaway-Five Towns community banded together to ensure that the learning resumed as quickly as possible and that the affected families –which number in the hundreds – would be given every form of assistance necessary to rebuild their homes and lives. Darchei Torah’s modus operandi for forty years – a chinuch infused with chesed – was illustrated even more vividly in the cri-

sis of the hurricane and its aftermath. This year’s dinner was held on the Yeshiva campus for the very first time, in recognition of the hardship still facing many yeshiva families as they recover from the storm. And judging by the guests’ reactions, holding the dinner at the Yeshiva itself – and in the heart of its community – has been received quite favorably. The program, preceded by a delicious buffet prepared by the Yeshiva’s own kitchen staff, was opened by Elisha Brecher, co-chairman of the Darchei Torah executive board. Divrei bracha were delivered by Rav Shlomo Avigdor Altusky, Rosh Yeshiva of Darchei’s post-high school Beis Medrash Heichal Dovid. Yeshiva president Ronald Lowinger served as dinner chairman and delivered heartfelt remarks. State Assemblyman Phil Goldfeder, an alumnus of the Yeshiva, spoke briefly, as did Jason Cury, the president of the Gruss

Rav Yaakov Bender addressing the crowd at Yeshiva Darchei Torah’s 40th anniversary dinner

Life Monument Funds who accepted an award on behalf of that organization. Rav Yaakov Bender, Rosh HaYeshiva of Yeshiva Darchei Torah, delivered the final address of the evening and then introduced the honorees with the screening of individual videos about them: Mr. and Mrs. Yisroel Salamon, alumnus of the year; Mr. and Mrs. Motty Jacobowitz, young leadership award; Mr. and Mrs. Naftali Tepfer, parents of the year; and Mr. and Mrs. Ben Landa, guests of honor. A surprise presentation was made to Rav Yitzchok Brailofsky, a devoted rebbi in the Yeshiva for decades who also serves on the Hanhala. The conclusion of the program was the showing of

“Strength through the Storm,” a moving presentation about the Yeshiva and the community’s resilience and resolve in the face of the hurricane. The program was followed by a delectable dessert reception and a rousing performance by the Yeshiva Darchei Torah Fifth Grade Choir. The reaction of the guests seemed to be unanimous. “The dinner tonight was truly outstanding,” wrote one. “It was brilliant having it in the yeshiva itself and entirely appropriate in the post-Sandy matzav.  And the yeshiva itself was transformed beyond words!  As usual the speeches and videos were inspiring and beautiful to watch.  “Thanks for a wonderful evening and a wonderful yeshiva!” Videos are available from the Yeshiva Darchei Torah office. Email: news@

Shloshim for Rav Mendel Weinbach, zt”l to Be Broadcast Live to Four U.S. Communities By Daniel Keren This coming Sunday, January 13th, thousands of American alumni will join via a live broadcast from the Main Beis Medrash of Ohr Somayach in Yerushalayim a Shloshim Tribute to the Beloved Rosh HaYeshiva and co-founder of Ohr Somayach International , HaRav HaGaon Mendel Weinbach, zt”l. The dream of Harav Weinbach 40 years ago was to create a Makom HaTorah that would give any young or middle-aged man from the Englishspeaking world despite an assimilated

background that precious opportunity to connect to his Torah heritage. And over the four decades that followed, Harav Weinbach inspired tens of thousands to become frum or more committed. Today there is no kehilla or hardly any shul in Eretz Yisroel and the English-speaking world in which you will not find among the mispallelim alumni who got their start in Yiddishkeit at Ohr Somayach or its satellite branches. The Sheloshim will begin in a packed Ohr Somayach Beis Medrash

in Yerushalayim at 8 P.M. (Israeli time) and will include speakers such as HaRav Yitzchok Scheiner, HaRav Moshe Shapiro, HaRav Nota Schiller, HaRav Aharon Feldman and HaRav Moshe Lazerus. The tributes to the beloved Rosh Hayeshiva will be broadcast live to Brooklyn’s Young Israel of Midwood (1 P.M), Monsey’s Yeshiva Ohr Somayach (1 P.M.), Chicago’s Chicago Center for Torah & Chesed (12 P.M.) and Baltimore’s Congregation Shomrei

Emunah (1 P.M.) Following the live broadcast, special hespedim will be delivered in Brooklyn by Rabbi Moshe Pindrus, in Chicago by Rabbi Avraham Rockmill, in Monsey by Rabbi Yisroel Rokowsky and Rabbi Yehuda Samet, and in Baltimore by Rabbi Mordechai Perlman. For further information, please call (718) 677-6200 or email r.salenger@



HAFTR High School Hosts First Alumni Day Our inaugural Alumni Day event, held on Thursday, December 27, was as successful as we had hoped. The program was a collaborative effort between the College Guidance Department and the Business Office.  Director of Admissions and Communications Leslie Gang, College Guidance Counselor Susan Szaluta, and Associate Director Karen Wolf met over a period of several months to plan the logistics of Alumni Day.  The goal of the event was to raise awareness about a wide range of colleges (academically and geographically) and careers.  It is vital that students as early as ninth grade begin to think about the college process as well as alternative careers. Prospective alumni were contacted through various social media outlets, including traditional email, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn.  The entire HAFTR High School student body participated; students selected a career panel (otherwise they were assigned)

and were placed in a random college panel. Eight panels (four career panels and four college panels) ran simultaneously with two sessions of each to accommodate all of the high school students.  Twenty-two current college students, recent college graduates, or graduate students participated, representing many different colleges, including Barnard, Binghamton, Baruch, Boston University, Columbia, Cornell, Emory, FIT, George Washington, Hofstra, Maryland, MIT, NYU, University of Pennsylvania, Queens, Stony Brook, University of Michigan, University of Pittsburgh, University of WisconsinMadison, and YU.  Approximately 25 HAFTR alumni from a variety of ca-

reers and industries participated, including science and technology, engineering, health sciences, business and finance, visual and performing arts, social media, law, entertainment, and fashion.

We are grateful to all of our accomplished alumni who took time out of their active lives to answer our students’ questions and attend this worthwhile event. Following the two roundtable-style sessions, students and alumni met in the gym to give students the opportunity to converse with our alumni.  Feedback from students and alumni has been very positive, and we hope to use responses gleaned from our surveys to make next year’s event even better.

Nathan Krasnovsky Joins the JCCRP as Executive Director Nathan was born and raised in Far Rockaway, where he currently resides with his wife and three children. He graduated from Queens College with Honors, earning a Bachelor’s degree with a major in Political Science. Subsequently, he graduated from Yeshiva Sh’or Yoshuv with a Master’s degree in Talmudic Law and received rabbinic ordination. Currently, Nathan attends Fordham Law School in the evenings. Nathan comes to the JCCRP from The Met Council on Jewish Poverty where he worked for the past three years, first as a Legal Liaison in the Family Violence Department and then as the Director of its Midwood, Brooklyn Single Stop program. Nathan was responsible for transforming The Single Stop into one of Met Council’s most successful programs, providing low-income residents of the Flatbush community with a wide

array of social services, including assistance with public benefits, legal services, immigration help and emergency financial assistance. This success led to six featured articles in the New York Times from 2011-2012. In addition to these specific achievements, Nathan utilizes a very serious and conscientious approach to his work combined with a humane, empathic attitude to his clients. The JCCRP is very excited to welcome Nathan and to begin its new era, under his direction. Under his leadership, the JCCRP will continue its dedicated service to the community. The JCCRP continues to offer the following services to community residents: – Food stamp advocacy and enrollment – Medicaid/CHP/FHP enrollment, recertification and advocacy – Kosher food pantry

– Information, referral and assistance with government benefits including: –Social Security, SSI, SCRIE, HEAP and Section 8 Housing –Tenant/Landlord mediation –Assistance with Medicare – enrollment into part D, advocacy and information –The Rabbi Michael Scholar summer camp scholarships – Crisis intervention – Free summer fair and concert

In order to make an appointment to apply for health insurance as well as the services listed above, please call the JCCRP at (718) 327-7755 or visit our offices at 1525 Central Avenue, Far Rockaway, New York. In order to make a tax deductible donation you may visit our website or mail a check to us at the above address. Remember, 100% of your donations goes to the needy in our community.

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Rambam’s 21st Learn-A-Thon Features Rabbi Milstein Rabbi Yerachmiel Milstein was the keynote speaker at this year’s Rambam Grandfather/Father/Son Learn-A-Thon. For the past two decades, Rambam has been holding a special program on January 1st and has been privileged to have many Roshei Yeshiva and prominent rabbanim as guest speakers. This year’s program was no different. Rabbi Milstein, who is one of the senior lecturers for Aish HaTorah Discovery Seminars,

is a much sought after and internationally acclaimed speaker. Grandfathers and fathers joined their offspring for Shacharis in the Ashkenazic or Sephardic minyanim which are held daily at Rambam. After some divrei Torah from Rabbi Friedman and Rabbi Eliach, parents and sons proceeded to the gymnasium where the women’s league, chaired by Sharon Duftler and Devorah Elkouby, had set up a beautiful and sumptuous breakfast. Families bonded over omelets, French toast, and hot chocolate before the learning began. After bentching and clearing the tables, ma’areh mekomos were hand-

ed out and chavrusha style learning began in earnest. It was truly heartwarming to see the active learning taking place between grandfathers, fathers and sons. “It was a true fulfillment of the Pasuk of ‘and you should teach it to your children and your grandchildren!’” said Rabbi Friedman. Rabbi Milstein was also visibly impressed by the intensity of the learning of the participants. He then launched into his shiur, which he described as a ”white knuckle, one hour, rollercoaster ride traversing over 3000 years of Jewish history.” In essence, Rav Milstein shared the various prophecies outlined in the Torah and showed how it was impossible for any human being to divine such predictions. “By all accounts of history and

natural order, the Jewish people should be extinct today, yet we are here,” he proclaimed. The Torah predicts that we will be scattered amongst the nations, oppressed and discriminated against, which has happened throughout our history. No human being could have made such a prediction thousands of years ago with such a c c u r a c y. Noting that in the usual course of one nation conquering another, the defeated nation remains in place and becomes the subjugated slave of their conquerors, the Torah predicted that the Jews would be exiled from their land, which indeed happened. Once again, “These are the events that would be impossible for a person to predict and foretell,” said


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Rabbi Milstein. He continuously demonstrated with prophecy after prophecy the impossibility of any source other

than Hashem making such predictions and having those predictions fulfilled exactly as stated. The close to 300 people who were in attendance were enthralled by his presentation. A lively question and answer session followed as yet another inspiring Rambam Learn-A-Thon came to a close.

Shiur Ha’Chodesh for Women in Kew Gardens Hills Rabbi Israel D. Rosenberg Educational Institute Of Congregation Etz Chaim presents Shiur Ha’chodesh For Women By Women, a monthly program of advanced shiurim on Wednesday evenings at 7:45 pm. The next shiur will be held on Wednesday, January 16, 2013

at 7:45 pm at Congregation Etz Chaim, 147-19 73 Avenue, Kew Gardens Hills. Yael Leibowitz will be speaking about Innovation for the Sake of Continuity in EzraNechemia. Suggested donation: $5.00

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Around the Community The Hebrew Academy of Nassau County High School Inducts New National Honor Society Members Seventeen HANC High School students were officially inducted into the school’s Maalot chapter of the National Honor Society at the end of December. Selected on the basis of their scholastic excellence, service to school and community, character, citizenship, Ahavat Yisroel, Limud Hatorah, and Derech Eretz, these sophomores, juniors and seniors joined with the other 37 established members in a beautiful candlelight ceremony in the HANC auditorium.  After short greetings by Associate Principal, Mrs. Carole Tabin; Honor Society advisor, Ms. Karen Sheff; Maalot President, senior, Jacob Kessler; and HANC Principal/Menahel, Rabbi Shlomo Adelman, the inductees were presented with their NHS certificates and membership cards by Mrs.

Carole Tabin and Assistant Principal, Ms. Tziporah Zucker.  Science Chairperson, Mrs. Marie Palaia and Rabbi Mezei helped recognize our current members of the National Honor Society.  Kudos to freshman, Sarah Byrne and senior, Michelle Teitelbaum, who provided the musical accompaniment and to the members of the Boys’ Chorus who assisted during the singing of the national anthem and the Hatikvah. HANC’s NHS chapter is named Maalot after the northern Israel town of the same name, in which 23 yeshiva high school students were murdered in cold blood by Palestinian terrorists on Yom Ha’atzmaut 1974.  Rabbi Meyer Fendel, HANC’s founding dean, established HANC’s Maalot chapter l’zecher nishmot the twenty-three korbonot.


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The Bayswater Players Annual Play in Bayswater Jewish Center The Bayswater Players will be presenting their annual play once more this year at the Bayswater Jewish Center. Two of their popular performers, local favorites Dr. Stuart Rappaport and Jack Tarzik (seen above), will be featured players once more, this time in the performance of “The Crucible” by Arthur Miller. Performances will take place at 8 p.m. on January 3, 5, 10, 12, 17 and 19 and at 3 p.m. on January 6, 13, and 20. Also pictured here are some of the performers going through a practice session preparing for the upcoming performance under the guidance of Director Mario Martone and Producer Michael Gliner.


Community YOSS Young Leadership Committee Melave Malka

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On Motzai Shabbos, December 29th, the Young Leadership Committee of Yeshiva of South Shore conducted a Melave Malka in the Yeshiva’s gym.  The theme of the evening was “Standing Together”; the YOSS family is there for each other through good and difficult times. In line with this theme – Rabbi Yisroel Kaminetsky, Menahel of DRS was invited to speak.  He expressed his Hakoras Hatov to the 200 parents for their Yeshiva’s Hachnosas Orchim during his Yeshiva’s time of need.  The 9th and 10th grades of DRS spent a month on our campus while their building was repaired due to the damage from the storm. Ben Isaacs, an alumnus of the Yeshiva and now a parent, spoke of his

newfound respect and appreciation for all that is YOSS; the care and concern of the administration as he, and many others, went through this crisis, gave them the strength to deal with it – knowing that the Yeshiva was there for them. Zvi Rada, a parent of the Yeshiva, provided the musical accompaniment for the evening, while David Jaison, another parent and a Mentalist, went from table-totable drawing in the audience. Together with soups, wraps and salads (oh – and cheesecake, always cheesecake!), the evening created an atmosphere where parents introduced themselves to each other – truly joining in that most wonderful community – the South Shore family!

New Engineering and Technology and Robotics Course In DRS DRS is proud to offer a brand new STEM course to its students. STEM is an acronym that stands for Science, Technology, Engineering, and Mathematics. STEM is an approach to education that expands current teaching models for science and math, by incorporating technology and engineering concepts into standardized instruction. The demand for jobs in America that require STEM skills continues to grow. The mission of the STEM course at DRS is to help students realize their potential for success in future engineering or technology careers by supporting their exploration of STEM related fields and by encouraging the development of 21st century skills. The STEM course is designed so that students have the opportunity to develop relationships within teams to collaboratively solve problems and to develop leadership skills. Hence, the course not only improves the academic component of the students’ lives, but also provides valuable

life lessons that can be applied to solve tomorrow’s problems in the real world. STEM students will utilize advanced technology and equipment, investigate a wide variety of STEM related fields such as robotics, bio-technology, assistive technologies, structural engineering, bio-mechanical engineering, computer science, and more. Students will get a chance to interact with professional scientists and engineers.  Another way our students develop their STEM skills is by attending our new state of the art robotics course. Using the LEGO NXT robot system, the students meet in pairs and learn to collaborate toward solving challenges prepared for them by Mr. David Mark, who also serves as the DRS AP Psychology teacher. A vital part to any difficult task is learning to work as a team and “deal” with those in our immediate work environment. This is a class that stresses the importance of perseverance, out of the box thinking, and collaboration.

The Flatbush Basketball League Week 6 Recap In The Elementary Division: Lazer Marble 45, Perfect Collision 32: Too much JO JO in this one, as the Jr. Valenski scores 31 points. Yitzy

Waldman had 12 & Yosef Kapetas 13 in the loss. Both teams are now 3-3. Quality Carpet rolls over ITP as Ezi Fischman outscored ITP 39-16. Look for some changes to come, Yanky Frank’s team leads with a 5-1 record. Pizza Nosh stays undefeated eating up Art World 59-30: Gideon Valenski matched Art World’s total by himself. Shmuel Mandelbaum chipped in with another 17 points. In the game of the night, The Jewish Connection pulled out the win vs. its rival The Jewish Press 52-51: Yaakov


HANC’s Sefer Bereishit Dioramas

Ibrigimov and Dovid Reiser showed the way for JC, but the tag team of David Manashirov & Gavriel Niyazov showed how powerful they are, scoring 37. JP`s record of 1-5 is very misleading. In the High School Division: China Glatt -47, The Visual Image 36: Shaya Greenspan`s “ally yoop” was a key in this upset win. The division get tighter as Shulem’s China squad is now at 500 with a 3-3 record. Ari Slomovics has a breakout game with 15 points as Repairs on Wheels rolled over Batampte Pickles 50-37. Mordy Kiss had a team high 13 for Batampte and Arele Birnbaum had 20 for Russels’ Repair team. In the closest game of the season, Aura Electric beat out Pizza World by a final score of 31-30. Moshe Shain’s 17 points helped Aura with the victory. In the biggest shocker yet, Ave. M Bagels beat the #1 seed Plaza Auto Leasing 45-36. Aron Weiss’ 13 points led M Bagels to their much deserved second win of the season. The Jewish Home snatched their first win of the season beating Nosh Express by a score of 37-32. Yossie Schwarcz and Mendy Klipper led with 13 and 14 respectively.

HANC’s Chazak Party Students in Kindergarten – Second Grade at HANC’s Samuel & Elizabeth Bass Golding Elementary School in West Hempstead celebrated the completion of Sefer Bereishit with a spirited Chazak Party! Rabbi Michael Merrill read the last few pesukim of Sefer Bereishit from a sefer Torah and after the final words


were read, all the students responded with a very enthusiastic “Chazak, Chazak, V’Nitzchazeik.” After the reading from the Torah, the students continued the celebration with singing and refreshments. All the students are excited to start Sefer Shemot!

Students in Morah Shoshana’s first grade class at HANC’s Samuel & Elizabeth Bass Golding Elementary School in West Hempstead reviewed Sefer Bereishit by creating dioramas. Each student was given a topic in Sefer Bereishit that he/she brought to life with an original and creative diorama. The

students had a wonderful time learning about their topics and presenting their dioramas to the other students in the class. The dioramas are now displayed in the school lobby so you are invited to come take a peek!

Meet Tamar Lichter, Shalhevet Senior and National Merit Semi-Finalist By: Dani Elman, 12th grade At first glance, Tamar Lichter looks like a regular senior at Midreshet Shalhevet High School in North Woodmere, NY. Yet, once you get to know her, you’ll find that she has accomplished far more than your average high school student. Tamar is a semifinalist in them National Merit Scholarship Competition. Tamar says that “I am so grateful to Shalhevet for helping me get so far, challenging me with high-level classes, and encouraging me to be myself and explore creative and interesting hobbies. I am really happy with my college prospects and I appreciate Shalhevet’s excellent college guidance as well as their teachers. They help me do the best I can.” Tamar has taken four Advanced Placement courses as well as Honors classes each year. Shalhevet has a huge variety to choose from; last year Tamar took AP Calculus AB and AP Biology, and this year she’s taking AP Calculus BC and AP English. She finds Honors Gemara especially interesting—it challenges her to use new thought processes. Tamar also has enjoyed electives such as Studio Art, Sign Language, and Spanish III. Tamar has competed on the school’s College Bowl team all through high school and became the team’s captain as a junior. This year, in addition to heading the team, she helped write

the official College Bowl qualifying exam. Tamar also competes with and is captain of Shalhevet’s Math team. With all her intellectual interests, she is still a well-rounded student, with a special interest in art. She has enrolled in Shalhevet’s many art electives. As a sophomore, Tamar won the competition to design the Israeli Day Parade Tee, and this past summer she took private art classes to broaden her range of mediums and techniques. She is currently using her artistic skills to design the set for Shalhevet’s play, an adaptation of “Newsies, The Musical.” She will also dance in this production. “A Shalhevet education can’t be beat. Shalhevet is preparing me for life. Taking Zionism with Rabbi Yotav Eliach has grounded me in understanding our history and connection with Israel. Business math and Economics teach you real world skills. Shalhevet courses such as Machshava, Nashim Bihalacha, and Jewish Ethics have strengthened my relationship with Judaism. My Shalhevet experience has equipped me with confidence that I can enter the next stage of my life with grace, with the ability to make my own choices. I am confident in the skills I have been taught, and I know that I will be prepared and ready for seminary and college, and beyond.”

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DRS Annual Yom Iyun: Maintaining Healthy Relationships in Modern Times

Last Tuesday, DRS held its annual Father-Son Yom Iyun. This year’s Yom Iyun was titled: Maintaining Healthy Relationships in Modern Times. The program focused on various relationships that the students have and would have encountered in their lives. The program began with opening remarks from DRS Menahel Rabbi Yisroel Kaminetzky, who delivered a message to

fathers and sons about the importance of Kibbud Av V’Em, and the tremendous focus that Judaism places on the relationship between parents and children. After a delicious breakfast, students and fathers got the opportunity to choose from a long list of shiurim, delivered by DRS Rabbeim. Topics of the shiurim included “Honoring One’s Grandparents,” “The Shidduch Crisis,”

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Dirshu Conquering the Next Frontier: Completing Shas with Tosafos Elite Lomdei Torah Attend New Daf Yomi Shiur with Tosafos By Chaim Gold Completing Shas with Tosafos! No words sound more beautiful to the ear. It is a dream that is within reach! The Dirshu World Siyum did not just mark the historic occasion of thousands of people finishing Shas and being tested on it. It marked the beginning of something far bigger and greater! Not only have more than 15,000 lomdim been taking tests on the new machzor, but perhaps even more historic—a large number of them are taking tests on Tosafos too! On many occasions, Dirshu’s hanhala has emphasized that Dirshu’s goal is to continuously raise the level of learning and to seek new vistas in limud haTorah; its aim is to increase learning, encourage deeper learning and propel its lomdim to have greater she’ifos in learning. At the world Siyum, the Rosh Yeshiva of the Chevron Yeshiva, HaGaon HaRav Dovid Cohen, shlita, related that Dirshu strengthens the in-depth learning of its participants while simultaneously providing them with wide-ranging knowledge of Shas. HaGaon HaRav Wosner, Shlita: “It Was Rav Meir Shapiro’s Desire That The Daf Yomi Not Be Learned Superficially.” Indeed, HaGaon HaRav Shmuel Wosner, the venerated posek hador and one of the last remaining talmidim of the founder of Daf Yomi, Rav Meir Shapiro, zt”l related that it was Rav Meir Shapiro’s desire that the Daf Yomi not be learned superficially but rather be learned and reviewed with iyun. Perhaps this is why gedolei Yisroel and the family of Dirshu is especially gratified that now, in this latest machzor, scores of talmidei chachomim are learning the Daf Yomi with Tosafos. Dirshu is Constantly Striving Higher and Deeper Learning the Daf Yomi with Tosafos, with even more iyun, was proposed at the World Siyum in Eretz Yisroel by the Nasi of Dirshu, Rav Dovid Hofstedter as being the next frontier for constant growth in limud haTorah. At that time he clearly said that Dirshu will never rest on its laurels but will always try to conquer new vistas in Torah and learning the Daf with Tosafos was the next step. Perhaps nothing more signifies Dirshu’s desire to keep raising the aspirations of its participants than its regula-

tion that states that those who have already been zoche to complete the entire Shas with Rashi during the last machzor of Daf Yomi will only receive half of the regular stipend in this machzor if they continue to learn the Daf Yomi just with Rashi. If, however, they undertake to be tested on the Daf with Tosafos too, they will receive the even higher stipend awarded to the elite group of lomdei Tosafos. Rabbi Avigdor Berenstein, Dirshu’s Director of Operations, relates a fascinating incident that transpired just over a week ago. “Every three months Dirshu dispenses an optional chazara test with questions on the material covered over the previous three months. There is no stipend for the test, but those who achieve excellent results are entered into a lottery for a prize. Although we have both the Rashi and Tosafos track in the monthly tests for the chazara test we neglected to compose a chazarah test that includes questions on Tosafos. Instead we sufficed with the test on Gemara and Rashi. I was completely floored by the reactions of the lomdei Tosafos. They were upset! ‘Why didn’t you make a chazara test on Tosafos too?’ they asked. ‘We have been toiling over Tosafos, we have been chazering with tremendous iyun and diligence; we would like to be tested on Tosafos as well!’ “It was then that I realized the extent of Torah lishma that Dirshu promotes. There was no reason for them to demand the Tosafos test. Their only reason for wanting such a test was so that they could test themselves lishmah, so that they could ensure that they learned, reviewed and truly remembered every single Tosafos. That is the beauty of Dirshu,” Rav Berenstein concluded, “it engenders constantly striving for higher goals, for aliyah ruchniyus and greater hasagos in Torah in all of its participants.” Groundbreaking New Daf Yomi Shiur With Tosafos That is why it should not be surprising that Dirshu has embarked on a groundbreaking addition to its myriad shiurim – its new Daf Yomi iyun shiur with Tosafos! It is no secret that the Dirshu revolution began 15 years ago in Toronto, Canada with the founding of Dirshu by Rav Hofstedter. Since then thousands upon

thousands have joined, many becoming shiur. It is a totally different dimension! bekiim in the entire Shas; others becom- Most Daf Yomi shiurim don’t even learn ing the morei horaah, the poskim of the all the Rashis and here we are treated next generation; and yet others learn- to a shiur that is literally a ponim chaing the Daf HaYomi B’Halacha thereby dashos. It is a totally different Daf.” bringing shmiras halacha into their daily lives. Rav Shlomo Rozenstein, Dirshu’s Tosafos Weakens the Yetzer Hara and director of Communications in Eretz Rectifies the Sin of Adam Harishon Yisroel, put it most succinctly when he Rav Eisenthal, another participant said, “Dirshu has been instrumental in of the shiur, concurred, elucidating with making Daf a story. “The Yomi learnGerer Rebbe, ing a nachthe Imrei las haklal for Emes, would thousands of hire private bnei Torah melamdim to who otherteach his sons. wise would The melamed never have whom he joined the Daf hired to teach Yomi learners his youngest and acquired son, the future Shas.” Gerer Rebbe, By nature, Rav Hofstedter speaking at the Siyum Hashas at French Hill the Pnei Mebnei Torah are nachem, was constantly seeking ways to take their an elite talmid chacham who gave the learning to the next level. In keeping future Rebbe his foundation in learning. with this transformative legacy, Toronto, The Pnei Menachem related that this the birthplace of Dirshu, is once more melamed told him in the name of Rav serving as the trailblazer of a new shiur Simcha Bunim of Peshischa, that as long that in the spirit of Dirshu’s hashkafa, as the yetzer hara can prevent a person propelling the learning of Daf Yomi to from learning Gemara with Tosafos he is an entirely new level. more than happy for a person to engage Rav Hofstedter has now begun de- in any other kind of avodas Hashem. livering a daily shiur on Daf Yomi with Learning Tosafos purifies the mind, it Tosafos and iyun kal. The shiur is attend- gives a person a Torah mind. For that ed by distinguished talmidei chacho- reason, the yetzer hara will do anything mim, marbitzei Torah and mechanchim to prevent a person from engaging in this from across the city and has raised limud life-giving elixir.” haTorah with its inherent excitement It was this ideal that Rav Hofstedter and simchas haTorah to new heights. so eloquently explained at the Siyum The shiur is uniquely suited for talmidei HaShas, held in the French Hill neighchachomim who have already learned borhood of Eretz Yisrael. He said that the Daf once and now desire to review it learning Shas with yegiah, with toil, while adding the Tosafos and other me- with Tosafos, is the tikun – it is the way forshim that come in its wake. Each day, to rectify the original sin of Adam Haristhe shiur covers the particular daf from hon that caused the yetzer hara to dwell 7 days prior in the standard Daf Yomi within the person. Quoting Rav Meir cycle to allow for chazara in preparation Shapiro, Rav Dovid said, “The snake is for the Tosafos and iyun shiur. The shiur the only animal whose gestation period began last week with Perek Klal Gadol, is 7 years… and it takes 7 years to learn one of the most challenging, deep pera- the entire Shas with Daf Yomi! Those 7 kim in Masechta Shabbos. years of toil, those 7 years of hard work, of taking Daf Yomi learning to the next “It Isn’t A Daf Yomi Shiur. level by learning and truly laboring and It Is A Totally Different Dimension!” sweating over the Gemara, with ToRav Aharon Levine, former Mena- safos, with iyun, is undoubtedly a tikun hel of both Yeshiva Eitz Chaim and Ye- of that aveirah! It is a tikun that has the shiva Ner Yisrael of Toronto and a shiur power to usher in the ultimate geulah for participant, relates, “It isn’t a Daf Yomi which we are so longing!”



TOVA Mentoring’s 2013 Kickoff Event A Resounding Success photo credits Harvey Baron

While Delicious Dishes’ Cholent is a great place to meet friends and eat great food on a Thursday night, there’s something you can’t get there. You can’t learn about and contribute to a great cause that is saving Jewish neshomos. But on Thursday evening, January 3, you could have done just that. The 2013 kickoff fund-raiser for TOVA Mentoring was held at the home of Pinky and Miri Friedman and was successful beyond expectations. The list of inspirational speakers included Rabbi Dovid Weinberger of Shaarei Tefillah, his son Akiva, himself a beneficiary of the program, and Mr. Richard Altabe, one of TOVA’s founders. The event had originally been planned for November but our local superstorm blew the event out to sea. Yehuda Klinkowitz, Program Director for TOVA, worked around the clock in the dark to reschedule this important event and hired a new Director of Development, Eliezer Zezy Fuld, to initiate, develop and implement new and exciting events for TOVA. The rescheduled event last Thursday was a great hit. R’ Zezy Fuld emceed the evening and introduced the program by describing how he came to work for TOVA after investigating how he could best help the children of the Five Towns and Far Rockaway. Guest speaker Rabbi Dovid Weinberger spoke on the topic “No Child Left Behind”. He related a moving and tragic story of a woman he met at an out-of-town wedding who shared that in the 13 years since her divorce, four of her seven children went “off the derech.” “I searched for people to work with my children and speak with

L-R: Boruch Ber Bender, Founder of Achiezer; Yehuda Klinkowitz, TOVA program Director; Rabbi Feiner, Rav of The White Shul

them. Unfortunately, there was nothing like that where I live.” Rabbi Weinberger went on to say that every Jewish neshoma is priceless and must be helped and how fortunate our community is to have TOVA Mentoring. Akiva Weinberger related his own experience as someone helped by TOVA Mentoring many years ago and how the experience permanently changed his life for the better. “My mentor is still in almost daily contact with me. I feel that I can discuss anything with him.” Richard Altabe, one of TOVA’s founders, pointed out that for the cost of taking a young person out to coffee daily, you could sponsor a year’s worth of mentoring for a child for $1,800. “It buys 12 sessions of therapy. We are getting off cheap!” The event concluded with people feeling inspired, making donations and partaking of delicious desserts. One guest, Mr. Jordan Hiller, was extremely enthusiastic, “Rabbi Weinberger is a wonderful speaker! I find it hard to be-

L-R: Pinky Friedman; Richie Altabe, Founder and Executive Vice President of TOVA; Yehuda Klinkowitz, Program Director; Eliezer Zezy Fuld, Director of Development

L-R: Eliezer Zezy Fuld, Director of Development; Rabbi Dovid Weinberger, Rav of Shaarei Tefillah; Yehuda Klinkowitz, Program Director

lieve that I have lived in this area for many years but did not know how truly amazing TOVA Mentoring is!” Mr. Hiller was so inspired that he has agreed to host an event for TOVA in February for his North Woodmere community. “We need more people to understand how important TOVA’s services are for our chidren and for them to help out any way they can,” said the host of the evening, Mr. Pinky Friedman. Since Hurricane Sandy, TOVA has

L-R: Yehuda Klinkowitz, Program Director of TOVA; Pinky Friedman; Rabbi Reisman, Rav of Agudas Yisroel of Long Island

been receiving an increased volume of requests for mentoring and are working overtime to fill the need. Zezy Fuld, the new Director of Development, is working on several upcoming events to help support TOVA’s vital programs. A raffle will get underway very shortly and there are other events on the horizon. For information on how you can help TOVA Mentoring please e-mail or call 516-295-0550 EXT 102.

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Acheinu Brings Another 1,400 Neshamos to Torah By: Shimmy Blum On a recent trip to Eretz Yisroel, have Hashem’s children acknowledge I had the opportunity to visit Yeshi- and serve their Father is Acheinu, the vas Acheinu in Har Nof. None of the foremost kiruv organization for youth in wealth of information that I had known Eretz Yisroel. Acheinu works at various about the Acheinu organization could levels to reach out to Israeli youth from have prepared me for the sight I was secular or weak religious backgrounds treated to. and lead them to become full-fledged It was Friday afternoon, shortly bnei Torah, firmly rooted in Yiddishbefore Shabbos. Immediately upon en- keit. Over the years, Acheinu’s unique tering the Bais Medrash, I was hit by multi-tiered outreach system has, a resounding kol Torah reminiscent of b’ezras Hashem, enabled the organizawhat can be expected from much larger tion to have an over 90% success rate in crowds of talmidim on the first day of developing lost youth into earnest Torah the zman. Wide smiles were plastered Jews. The premier gedolei hador – past on the faces of both the Yeshiva bo- and present – have actively supported churim and the rabbeim as they engaged Acheinu. The revered elder mechanech, in boisterous debate over the nuances of Harav Michel Yehuda Lefkowitz zt”l, Rashi, Tosafos and Rishonim in the sugya of “Isho m’shum chetzyo.” I sat down with two bochurim and delved into the sugya, and was blown away not only by their keen grasp of their limudim, but also by their distinctly refined, respectful demeanor. This scene would be delightful in any context, but the fact that this was a Yeshivas Acheinu, whose talmidim were devoid of Torah and One-on-one learning at Yeshivas Acheinu in Har Nof, Yerushalayim mitzvos not all that long ago, made it all the more special. As its Rosh Yeshiva, Rav Zev Hofstedter, served as the organization’s nasi until shlita, explained, “You can literally his passing. write a book about every bochur in this Shortly before Rosh Hashana, this Bais Medrash.” writer spoke to Acheinu’s exuberant Indeed, books can be written about kiruv coordinator Rabbi Chaim Goldevery single one of the over 10,000 berg, who was immersed in opening yet boys and girls that have been brought another Yeshivas Acheinu, this time in under the wings of Torah through this Rechovot. This is in addition to the netorganization over the past two decades. work of approximately 30 independent This year alone, Acheinu helped place Yeshivos and girls schools that are af1,400 new students in the protective filiated with Acheinu and are matched walls of various Yeshivos. We’d rather up with suitable boys and girls seeking not think of where they’d be now with- to advance in yiddishkeit. out that effort... As we spoke, Rabbi Goldberg was, in classic Acheinu fashion, making sure Acheinu Boom that the talmidim of the newest Acheinu With the stark divide between pious Yeshiva are taken care of as best as posTorah Jews and rabid secularism per- sible, down to the last detail. Referring meating every aspect of Israeli society, to the 1,400 neshamos that have been its ramifications affect perhaps nothing newly saved by the organization, Rabbi greater than the educational scene for Goldberg commented, “Acheinu is like Israeli youth. Children and teenagers of special operations commandos. They any background who do not merit a sol- use sophisticated tactics to be effective id Torah education can be expected to in every situation.” have virtually no knowledge of HashBesides for the comprehensive, em and His Torah, and are prone to the growing network of Yeshivos, Acheinu most decadent aspects of global secular runs “Batei Chizuk” youth centers society. across Eretz Yisroel, where youth are Down in the trenches of the battle to offered a haven from the streets, where

they can interact with loving kiruv professionals and get acquainted with Torah true Yiddishkeit in a most pleasant way. Another secret to Acheinu’s success is its comprehensive mentoring program, where qualified frum mentors build close relationships with youth under the organization’s wings, and help lead them towards healthy, viable Torah lives for the long term – through their Yeshiva years, marriage and child rearing. One huge component in reaching the number 1,400 has been “Project Toronto,” an innovative program targeted towards children from secular or weaker religious backgrounds who attend Chinuch Atzmai or other religious elementary schools that do not continue into high school. Project Toronto reaches out to these students during their upper elementary years and helps acquaint them with life in a Yeshiva high school through short and weekend visits to Yeshivos and other methods. Approximately 400 of the latest neshamos saved by Acheinu are elementary school graduates who are now blossoming in the walls of mainstream Yeshivos due to Project Toronto’s efforts. Yet another major catalyst for Acheinu’s increased reach, says Rabbi Goldberg, is its cutting edge use of modern day technology to spread the word of Hashem. Acheinu’s website offers youth in Eretz Yisroel a dazzling treasure trove of information regarding their questions and struggles with Yiddishkeit, and a convenient medium through which to connect with Acheinu’s kiruv resources. Book of Life While trying to absorb the latest statistic, the words of Rav Zev Hofstedter, son of Rav Dovid Hofstedter, shlita, founder of Acheinu and Dirshu, during my recent visit to his Yeshiva continue to ring in my ears. You can write a book about every one of them. Though I had to rush out of the Yeshiva to make it back in time for Shabbos, Rav Hofstedter did manage to give a small taste of some of the stories behind the young, radiant bnei Torah around us, who appeared just like their peers in mainstream Yeshivos and were on track to move on to the most prestigious Yeshivos in Eretz Yisroel. Every one of them was a living tale of struggle and triumph. They struggled vigorously to abandon the freewheel-

R’ Chaim Goldberg with an Acheinu child at the Kosel

ing surroundings they were raised in and had to deal with parents who fought them at every step. The mother of one of the boys showed her son a bottle of prescription drugs and promised to overdose if he goes to Yeshiva. Upon consultation with gedolim, the boy went to Yeshiva; his mother is alive and well. One boy came to the Yeshiva, but later chose to leave its uplifting surroundings. His father, who had vehemently fought his enrollment in Yeshiva just a few months earlier, came pleading to the hanhala to try to get him back in. He realized what a positive impact the Yeshiva had. And so on. Multiply these precious neshamos and their offspring for generations by the thousands -1,400 for 5773 alone. May Hashem inscribe all of his returning children, their guides – indeed all of klal Yisroel – in the Book of Life. The upcoming Acheinu Lakewood Parlor Meeting is scheduled to take place on Tuesday, January 22, 2013 at 8:30 pm. The event is being hosted by Reb Binyomin Heinemann at his home, located at 327 Carey Street. HaGaon HaRav Yitzchok Sorotzkin, shlita, the Rosh Yeshiva of Telshe, Mesivta D’Lakewood, will be the guest speaker. A delicious hot buffet will be served as well. 100% of proceeds from the event will go directly to Israel to help an Acheinu child.

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Bais Yaakov Students Deepen Their Understanding of Cartography Maps visually clarify our understanding, and Bais Yaakov students of all ages deepen their knowledge with them. While learning about communities, first grade students defined all different types of communities, including where they live, their school, and even their classroom. They learned that every community has a plan, and the plan includes the needs of those who live in it. Lively discussions described the many communities of the children, their similarities and differences. Further discussion led the students to question about the ways we learn about communities. Mrs. Schonfeld, their first grade teacher, introduced the concept of maps to her class. Students discovered the many ways a map can help someone as well as the many types of maps one can have. Listening to the students’ conversation about maps, their teacher guided them to actually create a map of their classroom. The girls decided what was necessary for a clear and understandable depiction, including pictures and a key. Their newfound map skills and artistry designed a huge map of their class-

room which they display right outside their door, and it is beautiful. At the same time, one of the fourth grade classes used baking ingredients to deepen their understanding of the world and mapping. If anyone peered into Mrs. Geiger’s room, it may have seemed that the course title should be entitled “baking 101.” Actually the flour, found everywhere, the dough, carefully mixed, and the warm water, added slowly, were the culmination of a map skills unit. The students made salt and flour dough to mold it onto a wonderful likeness of a world map showing all continents and adjacent oceans. After each student prepared a mold, the students had the opportunity to paint them being very careful to outline the continents and oceans differently. Lastly, and the true test from a teaching perspective, they accurately labeled flags with the names of the continents and oceans and placed them on the ready-to-maps. Truly, it was fun and educational! With these mapping skills, Bais Yaakov students will be ready guides throughout their lives!


Community Bnot Yaakov of Great Neck Popcorn Experiment

Bnot Yaakov’s first grade filled out their “lab sheets” quite carefully last Friday, describing keen observations of what they saw, heard, felt and tasted in their “Popcorn Experiment.” Mrs. Kashi taught her students about the human body, its construct of neurological systems that manifest as our “senses” and then had them experience it with popcorn. “Popcorn is the perfect vehicle for getting kids to realize how they perceive the world,” said Mrs. Kashi enthusiastically. “The girls can see it popping, hear it, smell it and then after –they get to taste it and eat it.” First graders had a great time with their very scientific Popcorn Experiment and

conscientiously wrote down their every observation just like real scientists do. They reported with great accuracy all they had observed through their senses onto lab sheets before sampling the “experimental” popcorn itself. The students were generous enough to share their samplings with others and offered popcorn to all visitors who poked heads into their room to see what the Bnot Yaakov Scientists were up to. The halls smelled of popcorn and people just followed their noses to the first grade!

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Camp Sdei Chemed Tours Western Europe By Dovid Teitelbaum For the first time in many years, I took a group of campers on a tour of Western Europe. I set myself a budget of under $1,000, including food, transportation, accommodation, and touring. There was no agency that would even work with me for that budget and so using the internet and Google to translate, I began researching everything. From overnight trains to low budget motels, I pulled it off. Here are the highlights of our week in Italy. Our first stop was Vienna. We first visited Judenplatz, the town square in Vienna’s Innere Stadt that was the center of Jewish life and the Viennese Jewish Community in the Middle Ages. The highlight of Vienna was the Schönbrunn Palace, a former imperial 1,441-room Rococo summer residence in modern Vienna. Brunch was at a really fine restaurant called Novellino. We then took the overnight train to Rome. The first day we relaxed and at night we explored the famous Coliseum which was all lit up. On the second day, we toured the Jewish Ghetto and visited the main attractions of Rome with the local double-decker buses, followed by a short cruise through the canal. We took our second overnight train to Milan, where we spent some time at the Piazza del Duomo – the world fa-

mous square in Milan, Italy. The weekend, and no doubt the highlight of the trip, was spent in Venice and it was indescribable. Everything was amazing. The apartments we

We also made friends with the young Chabad shluchim and got to know them well over the weekend. Venice is as beautiful as they say, if not more. It’s relaxing and busy at the

stayed in were 5-star and the hospitality of Chabad was really inspiring. The Shabbos meals were catered by Gam Gam, alongside the water. Singing and dancing was comparable to camp itself.

same time. The ghetto is very small but it feels like home. Motzei Shabbos we walked to the famous Piazza San Marco, which is the nicest part of Venice. It’s hard to explain the beauty of it, I

don’t think pictures do it justice. Sunday morning we took a tour of the three famous shuls in the ghetto. The architecture was incredibly breathtaking; unfortunately no pictures were allowed. Sunday afternoon we took a boatbus to the nearby Island of Murano where the famous glass factories are. We got a tour of the glass blowing and visited the many shops in town. It was like visiting a museum with all different forms of glass art. Some of us continued on to Burano, another small island known for its manufacturing of lace. The lace wasn’t too interesting but the homes were, as each home is painted a different bright color, like something out of a Dr. Seuss book. We left Venice on Sunday night and took our last overnight train to Vienna to board our plane. We made the flight just in time and after a long, fun-filled week we were all excited to go back home. B”H it was a big success and everybody had an amazing time. I think the small group of boys that went created a stronger connection over the extra week. Maybe it was the overnight trains and being stuffed into small living quarters. We hope to keep this as an option for future summers.

Nofei Israel Presents Self-Construction Lots in Givat Zeev for Sale With the growth spurt of the Jewish communities in Israel and the world over, and the continual rise in Aliyah numbers, it is obvious that the development of new communities and building projects in Israel is of paramount importance. As the epicenter of Aliyah dreams, Jerusalem sees an unprecedented number of immigrants annually, many of them searching for highquality living in one of the world’s most sought after cities. Many Orthodox-Hareidi families who are considering or have made Aliyah are struggling to find the perfect neighborhood of residence. With the convenience of religious institutions such as shuls and schools of key concern on one hand and high quality of life of considerable importance on the other hand, many are finding the search for the perfect home in Israel a struggle.

In addition, achieving the dream of living in Jerusalem itself is even harder. Enter Nofei Israel. With visions of luxury and class, built in the heart of Jerusalem for affordable prices, Nofei Israel’s building projects are truly a dream come true for anyone considering Aliyah or searching for the perfect home in Jerusalem. Located in the neighborhood of Givat Zeev, minutes away from the center of Jerusalem, Nofei Israel truly brings the best of both worlds. Surrounded by beautiful greenery and parks, Nofei Israel caters to religious families who are looking for high quality of life amidst all of the necessary community facilities and amenities. Modern commercial and recreational areas will further serve to create a rich living experience. Marketing of the first 400 lots is now underway, with 150 lots currently

being marketed as self-constructing. An additional 250 luxury apartments will be added to establish the Orthodox community, as well as the necessary shuls, schools and mikvahs. So far 80 lots have already been sold. While catering to the enormous demand for living quarters in Jerusalem, Nofei Israel places strong emphasis on quality of life with beautiful views of nature and a country atmosphere being of utmost consideration. In addition, community centers will also be built in the neighborhood – uniquely adapted to the target audience and its requirements. Designed by Israel’s top architects, individual apartments within the development have potential for every conceivable comfort – from swimming pools to private decks and beyond. Nofei Israel, a company that has acquired an esteemed reputation in the Israeli real

estate market, offers buyers five different design options. Alternately, buyers may choose to build their own homes to their unique specifications. The most desirable aspect of the deal is of course the bottom line. With land unit costs at about $250,000 and construction costs estimating $380,000, the final cost of a luxury house in Givat Zeev is between $600,00-$700,000, a bargain for a rich quality of life in a spacious beautiful home. Nofei Israel representatives will be available to discuss options in the comfort of your home in the Five Towns over the next few weeks. For more information or to setup an appointment in your home, call 718475-5668.



Yeshiva of Far Rockaway Yarchei Kallah The Yeshiva of Far Rockaway in conjunction with Kollel Ner Rochel Leah, the yeshiva’s kollel hosted a three day Ya r c h e i Kallah held at the yeRabbi Yoel Marton shiva on Sunday, Monday, and Tuesday, December 30th through January 1st, where they learned the sugya, Melecha Sheino Miskavein. Each day began with a Mussar Vaad. On Sunday, the vaad was given by Rabbi Aaron Brafman. On the following two

days, the vaad was given by the Rosh Yeshiva, Rabbi Yechiel Yitzchok Perr. The vaad was followed by a learning

Rabbi Yosef Bronner

seder focusing on the sugya, as preparation for the shiur to follow. On each of the three days, shiurim were given by different Rabbonim. Sunday featured Rabbi Yoel Marton, an alumnus of the yeshiva; Rabbi Yosef Bronner, Rosh Kollel of the Yeshiva’s Kollel on Monday; and Rabbi Moshe Brown, 2nd & 3rd year Maggid Shiur, concluded the series.

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At Yeshiva Chofetz Chaim’s HaRav Paltiel and Goldie Friend Memorial New Year’s Day Alumni Learning Program

Rav Binyomin Kaminetzky, a talmid of Rav Dovid Leibowitz ztl, speaking with (R) Rabbi Moshe Winter at the event

Rav Akiva Grunblatt giving the shuir

Rav Simcha Bunim Cohen shlita recently delivered a shmuess to the upper grades of Mesivta Chaim Shlomo in Far Rockaway, New York. Rav Cohen is the rov of Khal Ateres Yeshaya in Lakewood and the author of numerous sefarim.

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Facing The Future: Career Day At SKA

Mrs. Margie Glatt speaks at SKA’s Career Day

How many of us still wonder what we want to be when we grow up? High schoolers usually aren’t given the opportunity to evaluate career choices during their teen years, but the sophomores, juniors and seniors of the Stella K. Abraham High School High School for Girls were more fortunate! At SKA’s Career Day, held on Tuesday, January 1, students heard mothers and alumnae showcase the work they do, giving girls a chance to learn about different professions and an understanding of what it means to be an Orthodox Jewish woman in today’s workplace. The guest speaker, Mrs. Marjorie Glatt, spoke of her work as a Rebbitzen, lawyer and matchmaker, all while raising a Jewish family. She exhorted the

girls to determine what their passion is when deciding on a career, and painted a realistic picture of working outside the home as an Orthodox Jewish woman. The students were then able to select three out of eighteen career rooms to visit, each with two or three professionals who gave an overview of their work. Workshops on interview skills and resume writing were very informative and a special session on being Orthodox in the workplace was of much interest too. Thanks go to Dr. Tzipora Meier, SKA Principal, Grades 11-12, Mrs. Sheri Hammer, Mrs. Naomi Nachman, Mrs. Elaine Steinmetz, Mrs. Jan Wernick and their committee members for a very enlightening morning!

Hurricane Sandy and the Evolving Needs of the Community By: Hindie M. Klein, PsyD, OHEL Director of Clinical Project It has been weeks since Hurricane Sandy stormed our community, leaving devastation and trauma in its wake. For many, life has returned to “normal,” though that term might be suspect considering the life altering circumstances that many experienced. Perhaps a better phrase would be the “new normal.” With the new normal there are still traumatic memories that are too fresh to forget. For those that have returned to their homes, jobs, and their old routines, memories, images and sounds may still cause distressed and painful reactions that unfortunately may last for a while. But what about those not back in their homes or regular work environments? Those that are still in limbo and cannot even claim to have a new normal? The Six Phases of Disaster There are several stages in a Disaster. The first 3 stages include: the PreDisaster phase, where there may or may not be warning signs, causing different reactions ranging from feelings of extreme vulnerability to guilt; the Impact Phase, where reactions can range from shock to overt panic; and the Heroic Phase, where many exhibit a sense of altruism and there is tremendous activity and the desire to aid and rescue. As we saw during the Hurricane Sandy Disaster, during the next phase, the Honeymoon Phase, disaster assistance was readily available. Many relief teams within the communities

bonded together to offer help, supplies, moral support, counseling, and optimism. Community cohesion was at its height. People began to rebuild their homes, get their children back to school, acquire new cars, and get back to work, all the while receiving ongoing services and support from the many agencies and programs that were set up to help during this tragic crisis. But now, as they say, the honeymoon is over. Though many are still displaced and even those that are back to a new normal are still reeling, a new phase is about to set in: the Disillusionment Phase. During this phase, the constant stress and fatigue, both emotional and physical, begin to take its toll. Optimism may turn to discouragement. The reality of all that was lost, from the living room furniture, to the family album, to the important work documents, is settling in. Acute Crisis programs may begin to diminish their services and decreased services may lead to feelings of abandonment. A new kind of panic may set in. Many may ask: “Will our trauma be forgotten? Will people not realize how unsettled and traumatized we still are? Will the nightmares and anxiety ever go away?” These statements may be exponentially relevant to those who have a history of trauma and who are now experiencing significant re-traumatization. At OHEL, we are committed to ensuring that the Disillusionment Phase

for traumatized victims of Hurricane Sandy will not cause feelings of abandonment. We are there—through Project Hope at OHEL. What is Project Hope at OHEL? Project Hope was created to help adults and children feel strong again after Hurricane Sandy. Project Hope provides free and confidential crisis counseling, education, outreach, and referrals to individuals and groups affected by Hurricane Sandy, related trauma and its aftermath. Project Hope at OHEL is funded by the Federal Emergency Management Agency (FEMA). What services does roject Hope at OHEL offer? • Individual Crisis Counseling: Project Hope at OHEL provides emotional support to individuals to understand their own responses to trauma, manage stress, and identify and develop healthy coping strategies. • Group Crisis Counseling: Project Hope at OHEL offers support groups to family members and friends affected by the disaster, youth groups, senior citizens, teachers, administrators, and others who are offered the opportunity to share experiences and provide support to one another. • Outreach & Education Services: Project Hope at OHEL participates in health fairs, community events and programs, and meets with individuals to

educate them about our services. • Educational Programs & Lectures: Project Hope at OHEL gives presentations on the range of responses to trauma in order to strengthen healthy coping skills, and places a focus on wellness, stress-management and resilience. Project Hope at OHEL provides lectures to organizations, schools, community centers and houses of worship on topics related to Hurricane Sandy and its aftermath • Distribution of Educational Material: Project Hope at OHEL educational brochures help individuals understand the range of responses to trauma. These are distributed through public education events, health fairs, mailings, newspapers, and in-person through Project Hope at OHEL’s outreach efforts. • Referrals for ongoing services: Referrals are made for those individuals who require treatment or services outside of what is provided by the program. At Project Hope at OHEL, our goal is to work with and help those in need, so that they can continue to move toward the last phase, the Reconstruction Phase. A time where people can truly and positively adjust to their “new normal,” grieve their losses, develop strong resiliencies, and recognize their ability to rebuild their lives. For more information about Project Hope at OHEL, please contact Tzivy Reiter at 718-686-3294 or



CIJE and BBY… A Winning Team! What do the girls of Bnos Bais Yaakov, Bais Yaakov Academy of Queens, Shulamith, Hebrew Academy of Long Beach, and Yeshiva Central Queens have in common? They share a common interest in conquering the challenges of solving complicated math problems. The Center for Initiatives in Jewish Education (CIJE), the organization that is committed to ensuring academic excellence in Jewish day schools, has been conducting a math competition for the last four years which was open to boys’ schools and coed schools. BBY’s General Studies Principal, Mrs. Surale

Koenig, has long been interested in having her junior high school students join such a tournament. She knew that her math teachers were superb and that the girls were more than capable of

holding their own in a contest of math skills. The problem, as she explained to Mrs. Linda Goldberg, CIJE Math and Science Coordinator, was that BBY girls could only compete in an all-girls event. For two years, Mrs. Koenig and Mrs. Goldberg discussed this idea until finally, this year, it came to fruition with the help of Ms. Esti Hellmann, CIJE Educational Liaison. An all-girls Math Olympiad was held on January 6th and BBY, the initiator of this event, hosted it lavishly. In preparation, all students interested in participating underwent a math screening to determine eligibility. Mrs. Devorah Monczyk, one of BBY’s junior high math teachers, acted as coach to the selected team members. By working with the girls on weekends and after school, Mrs. Monczyk took these bright and motivated girls and challenged them to think harder, longer, deeper, and more creatively about math than ever before. Her hard work, the girls’ incredible dedication, and the excellent foundation laid by BBY math teachers, Mrs. Rocky Stern, Mrs. Miriam Mandelbaum, and Mrs. Ahuva Berkowitz, led the BBY 7th graders to victory. At the conclusion of the two rounds

of math questions, it was quite clear that the young ladies seated around the tables in BBY’s lunchroom were all extremely mathematically adept. Round 1 tested each girl’s individual knowledge, while round 2 allowed each school’s participants to work as a team. Mrs. Koenig noted with pride that the BBY girls were exceptionally smooth in their teamwork. They “divided and conquered” with no time wasted on deliberations over approaches or assigned tasks. CIJE Vice President and Director, Mrs. Judy Lebovits, Olympiad Facilitator, Mrs. Michelle Saks, and Mrs. Goldberg were extremely impressed with the enthusiasm BBY displayed for the Olympiad, and they thank BBY’s Dean, Rabbi Shmuel Hiller, for once again seizing an educational initiative and running with it. Mrs. Lebovits has of-

ten commented that the climate of academic conscientiousness in BBY is simply amazing. She enjoys working with BBY as the pilot Bais Yaakov school for many CIJE initiatives because of the staff’s willingness to cooperate and the excitement the school generates about its own academic achievements. Mrs. Goldberg was lavish in her appreciation for Mrs. Koenig’s spirit of cooperation. Everything that Mrs. Goldberg suggested in preparation for the tournament was met with Mrs. Koenig’s standard response, “It’s not a problem.” Mrs. Goldberg found that it was a “sheer pleasure to work with BBY personnel. They are very accommodating, helpful, and welcoming.” Mazel Tov to the winners of the competition: BYQ’s 6th graders, Shulamith’s 8th graders and BBY’s seventh graders.

Bais Yaakov of Queens Integrates Play With Learning For Middle School! To teach the girls more about the new Midah of the Month, Kibud Horim U’Morim, the girls played musical chairs. At this month’s Midos Assembly, the 5th and 6th grades kept standing up, as they would for parents and teachers. In addition, a card with either a T, true, or F, false, was stuck under each chair with magnetic tape. Each time the music stopped and the girls sat down, one of the 6th grade assistants read a Halacha, such as, “You may not interrupt your parent!” which is true, or a statement such as, “You should go to sleep an hour after your parent tells you!” which is false. After each Halacha or false statement was announced, the girls called out “True!” or  “False!” and then checked

under their chairs. If the correct card was there, they were in, otherwise they were out. The girls learned many halachos of Kibud Horim U’Morim while playing this exciting version of Musical Chairs.   Afterwards, the Talmidos Hachodesh were announced, one from each class. The girls have been putting notes of recommendation into a special box this entire month, writing how their friends excelled in Nosei B’ol im Chaveiro, last month’s Midah. Some of the more special notes were read aloud first. Then one note from each class was randomly selected from the many notes submitted, and that girl was awarded a Talmidas Hachodesh certificate and prize.

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t’s always a challenge during the winter months making hot foods for Shabbat lunch. I came up with the idea to make a Yaptzik, a.k.a. overnight potato kugel with meat. It is so easy to make and so delicious. It is always a big hit. I tried to Google the origins of the recipe and the name and there wasn’t much information there except for the fact that it was layers of potato kugel and meat cooked in an overnight oven. Another idea for hot food for Shabbat day was putting a Naval pastrami (a fully-cooked and smoked pastrami) in the oven overnight. I buy it at Seasons in

Lawrence and it comes double wrapped in plastic. I take off the outer plastic layer and keep the vacuum-packed plastic on. Right before Shabbat, when I am putting in my Yaptzik in the oven, I place my pastrami in a Pyrex dish and fill it ¾ way up with hot water, cover it tightly, and place it in the oven at 200°. The next day I carefully take it out as the water is very hot. I drain the water, cut open the plastic, and slice the pastrami. (It cuts like butter.) My guests and family go crazy over this meat. (Make sure you buy the Naval pastrami as it is fully cooked already.) I serve it with different kinds of mustard.

Overnight Potato Kugel, a.k.a. Yaptzik Ingredients 2 strips of meaty flanken 8-10 large potatoes (I prefer Yukon Gold) 1 large onion 4 large eggs salt and white pepper to taste 1 cup water or chicken soup Directions Place meat at the bottom of a 9 x13 inch pan. In a food processor, grate onion, potato and eggs. Add salt and pepper to taste and pour batter over the meat. Bake for 1 hour and a half at 350° and remove from oven. (You are only partially cooking it so don’t eat it yet.) Before Shabbat, add one cup of water or if you have chicken soup boiling for Shabbat, use some of the soup. (The soup boosts the flavor.) Place a piece of parchment paper over the kugel, then layer some heavy duty aluminum foil over that and cover well. Place in a 200° oven right before Shabbat. Take out the next day right before serving. Naomi Nachman moved from Australia approximately 20 years ago and, in 2004, started “The Aussie Gourmet” to cater weekly and Shabbat/Yom Tov meals for families and individuals within The Five Towns and neighboring communities. Naomi is also sought after to teach cooking classes throughout the NY/NJ Metropolitan area (from Scarsdale to Boro Park, Manhattan to Teaneck, the Hamptons and Connecticut… and of course, The Five Towns). She has also taught classes in Florida, Australia and Israel. Naomi is a guest host on the QVC TV network and has been featured in cookbooks, a cooking CD and a variety of newspaper articles. Naomi currently lives in Woodmere, NY with her husband and 4 daughters.


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TJH: Michael, it’s a true pleasure to speak with you. I hear that your new show, Spinclass, which started in October, is really popular right now. I love the name! Can you tell us how it got started? MF: It’s a pleasure to meet with you as well. Well, before the summer, a friend of mine asked me to co-host a show on Zev Brenner’s network that was called Let’s Talk Tachlis. It was a more heimeshe-oriented show. We hosted it for seven or eight episodes and then after some discussions with Nachum Segal and his station manager, Miriam Wallach, who lives in Woodmere, I decided to host a show on his network. What’s interesting about Spinclass is that it’s not really on the radio. In this day and age most people don’t even listen to radio anymore. In fact, if you try to listen to JM in the AM in the Five Towns, you won’t be able to find the right signal. You have to listen to it online. And my show streams online on Nachum Segal’s website. TJH: I know the show focuses on politics. What’s your “spin” that sets the show apart from the regular political shows we hear daily?

MF: My focus has been to give my listeners the people and politics behind the headlines. Generally, I have been doing interviews with journalists who write the headlines and we try to put a “spin” on what’s behind the regular news that you read in the papers daily.

I have been friends with for a while. I’ve been involved in politics for many years and so I know many people in the political arena. PR maven Stu Loeser, Mitch Barak of Kevoon Polling, Josh Nathan Kazis of The Forward, GOP consultant Jeff Ballabon, Josh Pruzan-

My focus has been to give my listeners the people and politics behind the headlines.

An hour is incredibly short—it just flies by. Many times I don’t have time to answer the calls or have my guests respond to the emails I receive. You know, it’s hard to compartmentalize what your guest has to say. And there are things that you want to follow up on as well, so it’s been a challenge to get everything into the time slot that we have but it’s really been a lot of fun. TJH: It sounds like you enjoy what you do. Who have you had on the show so far? MF: Most of the people who I’ve had on the show have been people who

sky of the OU, and Allison Hoffman of Tablet Magazine have all been guests on the show. I aim to give people something that they won’t read in the general news. For example, my last show was about the fiscal cliff deal, something that’s on everyone’s minds. Well, I wanted to discuss what went on behind the scenes and why it went down like it did. Why was it a Republican-brokered deal that the House Republicans actually voted against? Why was it brokered by Biden and not Obama? And most importantly, why do the Republicans look like the Democrats used to look? Why is the

Republican Party seemingly falling apart? I’m friendly with many of these guests. At first they may come on my show as a favor to me but hopefully, they’ll like the banter and the flavor of the show and then join me again. TJH: Spinclass sounds like a “must” for anyone who is looking to learn more about what goes on behind closed doors in Washington. I’ll be sure to tune in. So tell me, I know you’re a Trustee of the Village of Lawrence. Can you tell us why we seem to be the only place in New York that has villages? I feel like that word takes us back to the 1800’s. MF: Sure. Well, every state is different, but in New York, the village is the smallest part of government. Not all areas in New York have villages. Some choose to incorporate as villages and some don’t and there are advantages and disadvantages to both. States are divided into counties. Counties are divided into towns. And then towns are divided into villages. Nassau County is sort of an anomaly. It has the Town of Hempstead which is the largest town in America. Some say that a town that large is way too big to

TJH: What made you decide to get involved in local politics? MF: I wanted to make a change and make a difference. You see, back in 2007, I would walk across the 878 every Friday night with my kids. But it was dangerous—the street lights were out at least eight months a year. And so, I started going to monthly meetings and every month I would ask, “What is up with the streetlights on the 878?” and every month I would get the runaround. So I got frustrated and I decided to run. There had never been any contested elections. Well, in turns out, that in the end, there was a vacancy and the mayor appointed me to the board. There are four board members and the mayor who is considered part of the board as well. All the members are frum. TJH: Let’s go back a few months ago, to Hurricane Sandy. How do you feel the disaster was handled? MF: Let me start by telling you that it was not handled well. As a village, we have very little control, unfortunately. Emergency help goes from the federal level, to state to county and then to us. We, the Five Towns, were on the short end of the stick. The county really fell down on the job. They couldn’t even get emergency street lights here— they were really not well-prepared. And LIPA was really not well-prepared. You know, when you call LIPA, it’s very archaic. Their orders are not computer-

TJH: I have seen that you are involved with helping candidates run for office. How did you get involved with that? MF: I’ve been involved with many campaign elections throughout the years. Generally, you have a relationship with a candidate and they ask you to help out. There is not a large place for Republican operatives in New York, especially on the Jewish side. TJH: Did you think Mitt Romney would win? MF: No. TJH: Well, did you hope he would win? MF: Does that matter? TJH: Well, how about this: did you think he was a good candidate?

county did versus what our local volunteer organizations did. When comes down to it, you can’t have a good working philosophy that’s predicated on destroying government. You have to believe that government serves a role and a purpose. I don’t think the Ron Paul approach wins. Ron Paul is the most extreme. But Republicans have fallen into some sort of grade of that. Every Republican candidate is far more afraid of primary elections than general elections because they are afraid of someone who’s more extreme than them taking their seat. Primary voters are generally more extreme or passionate about their views. And they will consistently vote in more “extreme” candidates. Generally more moderate voters stay home during primaries and they’re more casual in their voting. So that’s one of the problems of the Republican Party nowadays. There’s another problem, and I think Mitt Romney did this with his 47% comment. Republicans are mar-

The Republican Party is at war with itself right now. There’s no other way to say it.

MF: I didn’t support him in 2008 either. I never thought he was a good candidate. TJH: I thought he did surprisingly well in the debates. MF: He had his moments but otherwise, I thought he was pretty lousy. TJH: So why does the Republican Party have such a problem getting good candidates to run? MF: The Republican Party is at war with itself right now. There’s no other way to say it. Look at the fiscal cliff. They can’t figure out if they want to be outsiders, or angry or if they want to govern. They Republican Party always had the message that they are better than the Democrat Party and that they will make government work, they will make it more efficient. But so many people go to Washington and believe that government has no function at all and don’t believe in government except militarily. So it’s a little bit of a problem because philosophically, they will do everything that they can to kill it and do away with it. I can’t say I blame certain people because in certain ways government is more the problem than the solution. I mean, look at the hurricane—look at what FEMA, the state, the city, and the

ginalizing themselves as a party without a message for most of the country. They can’t continue being the party of angry, white men. The Caucasian group is a shrinking part of the voting pie. You can’t build a party that won’t reach out to emerging minorities. Latinos, Asians—we have done so poorly with those groups. Perhaps it’s a legacy of doing so poorly with African-Americans and they don’t feel connected to them. But those two groups are very right. Latinos are socially conservative and Asians are fiscally conservative. We have a base on which to appeal.

Ed Koch said one of most wonderful things ever. He said, “If you agree with me 100% of the time, you’re insane.” You don’t have to agree with these groups on everything. And that’s the problem. The party has become what the Democrats were 20 years ago. You have to agree with us all the time otherwise we’re gonna run you out of the party—like they did with Joe Leiberman—and the Republicans are becoming like that as well. TJH: That sounds scary. How do you begin to change it? MF: Politics are cyclical. It’s generational and it’ll eventually swing back. TJH: I certainly hope so. I see you have a copy of TJH on your desk. Why did you decide to keep this issue on display? MF: I kept this issue because of the feature article—The State of Housing in the Five Towns. It was written right before Hurricane Sandy. And this is something that people have not yet come to terms with: a lot of the houses have no value now. Think of the equity that has been lost by some people. Some people are so mortgaged out and owe way more than their houses are worth—this is a terrible situation to be in. TJH: I agree. That is something that many people are unfortunately facing after Hurricane Sandy. Is there anything that you’d like to tell our readers? MF: First of all, if something needs to be done, contact your local officials directly. People do it all the time and that’s what we’re here for. Also, if you’re looking to hear some inside “scoop” into politics, listen in at 8pm on Thursdays at or at You’ll be glad you did. TJH: Thanks so much Michael! It was a pleasure speaking with you.


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TJH: I never really knew that about the Five Towns, so thanks for giving me that information. You’re a Trustee—so what exactly is your role? MF: Well, in order to incorporate as a village, you need a mayor and an elected board. I’m a trustee—a legislator essentially—so I vote on the budget and on any laws.

ized. Sometimes they don’t even know what’s happening until the crews come back at night. And their problems were compounded by the storm.

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be responsive and that may be why we have so many villages. Cities themselves are self-contained and are not part of towns. There are only two cities in Nassau County— Long Beach and Glen Cove. They have their own police and fire department and their own sanitation department. As a village, we can choose to have more or less control but each village control its own zoning and court system. For example, if you get a ticket in Cedarhurst, you have to go City Hall in Cedarhurst to pay the ticket. In Lawrence, we have our own country club with a golf course, marina, and tennis courts. That’s something that’s owned by the village. The Village of Lawrence has around 7,500 people. Hewlett Harbor has around 700 people. So villages really vary in size.

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Submitted by Yoni Vertig Maurice, who has all the money and mundane accomplishments there are to achieve, is about to embark on a solo sailing voyage around the globe. This is a risky voyage, but he is ready to take on the windy seas and high waters. Before departing, he gets his affairs in order and draws out a lengthy will. He tells his best friend, Sammy, “If I’m not back in two years, I want you to have the contents of my treasured safe. Here is the key.” Sammy solemnly takes the key and bows. Maurice sets sail, when almost immediately a massive wind and tornado erupt. He is fortunate to get out of the sea alive and trudges home. His family is shocked that he survived and can’t contain their tears of joy. Whereas he just departed several hours ago, they were certain that he could not have survived the gusty storm. His best friend Sammy is also in tears and turns to him and says, “Maurice, wrong key.”

Homonym... homonym... homonym Homonyms are words with the same sound and spelling but different meanings. The blanks in the following sentences will be filled in with three different homonyms to make valid sentences. The dashes indicate the number of letters in the words. Can you fill in the blanks? 1. The cut on his _ _ _ _ won’t _ _ _ _ in time for the race, so _ _’ _ _ have to drop out. 2. The man was so upset about being _ _ _ _ that he regularly _ _ _ _ _ _ himself up on the bed and _ _ _ _ _ _ his eyes out.

Submitted by Yochanan Krong There are three light bulbs in a room, and three light switches outside the room. You are outside and want to match up which switch goes with which light bulb. You can only travel into the room once, and cannot come back in again. You can do anything you want upon entering the room. You have 10 minutes to figure out which switch goes with which light bulb. What do you do? Answer on next page

Better Take Your Vitamins These Diseases are Contagious! • The Macy’s One Day Sale Flu. • The Friday Afternoon Shabbos Starts Way Too Early Sudden Unbearable Stomach Pains. • The I’m Looking for a New Job and I Don’t Know How Long It’s Going to Take, but I Want To Stay On The Payroll Until-Then Mysterious Infection. • The Driver’s License Renewal Appointment 24-Hour Virus. • The My Husband’s Got the Week Off So Suddenly I’m Too Contagious To Come Into The Office Disease. • The I Need a Hair Cut and My Stylist Doesn’t Make Evening Appointments Bout of Influenza. • There’s No Federal Holidays for Two Months and I Want a Day Off Sickness. • The There is No Way I am Going Into Work The Day After Purim Disease.

3. I couldn’t _ _ _ _ _ any of the _ _ _ _ _ _ in the flower shop, because for some strange reason I had 50 _ _ _ _ _ crammed up my nose.

• The It’s Spring Break and I Want To Pretend I’m a Teenager Again General Ailment.

4. A bloodthirsty pirate will wander the _ _ _ _ and essentially _ _ _ _ _ everything he _ _ _ _.

• The I’ve Messed Up Royally and I Won’t Come In To Face the Music Illness.

Answer: 1. The cut on his HEEL won’t HEAL in time for the race, so HE’LL have to drop out. 2. The man was so upset about being BALD that he regularly BALLED himself up on the bed and BAWLED his eyes out. 3. I couldn’t SENSE any of the SCENTS in the flower shop, because for some strange reason I had 50 CENTS crammed up my nose. 4. A bloodthirsty pirate will wander the SEAS and essentially SEIZE everything he SEES.


• The I Really Am Sick and I’ve Got The Doctors’ Bills and the Completed Medical Expense Reimbursement Forms to Prove It Infirmity • The I Can’t Bear Another One of Those 9:00 AM Three-Hour Meetings Morning Sickness.

(A 2012 wrap up trivia for both teams because neither deserves their own trivia.)

2. How many touchdowns and interceptions did Mr. Sanchez throw this season? a. 13(TD)-18 (Int) b. 17 (TD) - 17 (Int) c. 26(TD) -15(Int) d. 16 (TD) -12 (Int) 3. How many yards in total did Tim Tebow throw for as a NY Jet? a. 630 b. 864 c. 1,145 d. 39 4. What did Rex Ryan say about the 2012 Jets at the beginning of the season? a. “I really like this team...but we are going to need every player to step up and play their hearts out because like all teams we have our shortcomings.” b. “I really like this team...this has the chance to be the best team I’ve had since I’ve been the coach here.” c. “I predict that there will be a TJH Centerfold trivia in January with the words ‘Jets’ and ‘Superbowl’ in the same title.” (Just so Rex is right about something, we named this trivia what we did.)

d. “I am hopeful that we will win more games than we lose and make a nice run in the playoffs.” 5. What did Tom Coughlin say about the 2012 Giants at the beginning of the season? a. “I really like this team...but we are going to need every player to step up and play their hearts out because like all teams we have our shortcomings.” b. “I really like this team...this has the chance to be the best team I’ve had since I’ve been the coach here.” c. “We have no illusions of the improvement that needs to be made, and I am talking about from the top of our team to the bottom.” d. “I am hopeful that we will win more games than we lose and make a nice run in the playoffs.” 6. How many touchdowns did the leading receives for the Giants and Jets have this year? a. 7 (G) - 7 (J) b. 10 (G) - 3 (J) c. 4(G) - 6 (J) d. 6 (G) - 4 (J)

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Answers: 1. C 2. A 3. D 4. B 5. C 6. B- Victor Cruz caught 10 TDs for the Giants, and Jeff Cumberland & Stephen Hill each caught 3 TDs for the Jets. Scorecard 5-6 correct: You know too much about 2 teams that had useless seasons. 3-4 correct: Hopefully you got the Giants questions right and not the Jets ones, because even though both teams were a waste this year, I must say, the Jets were a bigger waste. 0-2 correct: Rex, instead of reading TJH trivia, why don’t you get to work on putting together another one of your “this is my best team ever” teams?!

Answer to riddle: Turn one of the switches on for 9 minutes and 29 seconds, then shut it off and turn another switch on. Then enter the room. The light that is on, goes with the second switch you hit. Feel the two bulbs that are off. The one that is warm goes with the first switch that was on and the cold bulb obviously corresponds to the switch which was never turned on.

1. How many touchdowns and interceptions did Eli Manning throw this season? a. 23 (TD) - 4 (Int) b. 17 (TD) - 17 (Int) c. 26(TD) - 15(Int) d. 30 (TD) -12 (Int)

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R’ Ben Tzion Shafier

Parshas Va’eirah

The Measure of the Man “This was Aaron and Moshe to whom Hashem spoke...” — Shemos 6:26 After Hashem commanded Moshe and Aaron to be the emissaries to free the Jewish people, the Torah lays out their lineage. At the conclusion, the Torah repeats the names of Aaron and Moshe, this time in reverse order, with Aaron mentioned before Moshe. Rashi seems to be bothered by both the repetition of the names and the reversal of their order. He says this comes to teach us that Moshe and Aaron were equal. Even though from this point forward, Moshe would be the leader of the Jewish nation, don’t make any mistake. Aaron was just as great. The difficulty with this Rashi is that according to all measures, Moshe Rabbeinu was far greater than Aharon. Moshe was the leader of the Jewish nation. He brought the makkos on Mitzrayim. He led the Jewish people out of slavery. He split the Yam Suf. He went up to receive the Torah on Har Sinai. But even more telling, he was the greatest Navi who ever lived. The only human who reached the level of seeing Hashem with total clarity was Moshe. There never was, nor will there ever be, a person who will reach that level. So how can Rashi tell us that Moshe and Aaron were equals when clearly Moshe Rabbeinu was on a higher level?


Before each person is born, he is predestined to certain abilities and talents, a particular level of intelligence, and an exact disposition and temperament. Two Systems for Measuring the Greatness of a Person The answer to this question seems to be that there are two systems for judging a person’s greatness: one is absolute and the other is subjective. When measuring a man based on the absolute standard of greatness in Torah and perfection, Moshe was far greater than Aaron. He towered over any other human ever created. However, there is another system for measuring a person’s success. Based on his capacity, and his potential, how much did he accomplish? Before each person is born, he is predestined to certain abilities and talents, a particular level of intelligence, and an exact disposition and temperament. At the end of his days, he will be compared to what he could have become. How far did he grow? How much did he accomplish with the tools given to him? This system is subjective. How much of his potential did he fulfill? Moshe may well have reached 99% of his potential, but so did Aaron.



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So even though in the absolute sense Moshe was far greater, and others had to treat him as the greatest human being ever, in the subjective sense of reaching one’s capacity, Aaron was his equal, and as such was just as great. That is what the Torah is teaching by exchanging the order of their names. I Won’t Be Compared to You One of the most sobering concepts is that when I finish my job on this planet, I will be judged. But I will not be measured in absolute terms of how much Torah I mastered or how much I accomplished. That is far too inequitable. I won’t even be compared to others in my generation. I won’t be compared to you, or to him, or to her, or to anyone else. I will be measured by a far more just and exacting standard – me. How much of me did I become? 80%? 60%? 50%? And that is who I am for eternity. When We Leave This Earth – the System is Subjective In this world, we can’t measure a person’s capacity, so we give honor and respect based only on the absolute measure of the person. If this person is functioning on the level of a great person, we are obligated to respect him and treat him with honor. However, when we leave this temporary existence, everything will be-

come clear. I will understand exactly what I was destined to be. And I will also know your capacity and what you could have been. There are no head starts, no advantages or disadvantages, just percentages of realized potential. At that point in our existence, there will be individuals who appeared to us as great while we were occupants of the physical world who then will shrink dramatically, having only reached 20% of their potential. They’ll be pygmies. And there will be many others who we once cast into the category of the insignificant, but who are actually towering giants, having reached 85% of their potential. Just as with Moshe and Aharon, it wasn’t the rank or position that they held that is the final determinant, but rather their subjective greatness in regards to who they should have been. Who I Am For Eternity This concept has great relevance to us – both positive and negative. It seems to be a natural tendency to compare ourselves to others. “I am smarter than he is. Better than she is. Not as talented as he is. . .” If my disposition is to favor myself – being kindly to me and tough on you – I become inflated, over-confident, and full of myself. If my prejudice is to be harsh on myself, then I will constantly find others superior, and my sense of self will suffer. The reality is that all of it is irrelevant. It just doesn’t matter. It is true that at the end of my days I will be compared – not to you, but to me. The only question they’ll ask and the only criteria that will count is how far I took my G-d-given talents and situation. How much of me did I become? And that will be the rank and station that I will occupy for eternity.

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half my readership, if not more. But suffice it to say that when people think big muscles guarantee success, they’re dead wrong. Often, we try to get our way or make our points by screaming louder than the other person, or by getting angry and

ed him for ten minutes at the top of your lungs about how he will be too tired to go to school or have fun or do anything else, and if he doesn’t go to sleep this instant he will never be allowed to see his friends and he will end up a sanitation engineer in a small town in Appala-

Strength may make a person give in, but it won’t make them agree with you. For that, you need diplomacy and balance. showing powerful emotion. We think this will impress them and help us. The odds are it actually works against us. You see, as much as we want to be right, so does our opponent—be they our friend, enemy, business partner, neighbor or spouse. Strength may make a person give in, but it won’t make them agree with you. For that, you need diplomacy and balance. You need to find a way for them to feel they got their way, or at least, they weren’t totally stripped of any options or opinions. If something is forced, it won’t last. I’m reminded of an old parable from a Sunday school book my mother used to teach from. The Sun and the Wind made a wager about who could get a man to take off his coat. The wind tried first, blowing with all his might. Fierce wind swirled around the poor man, but he just pulled his coat around himself more tightly. The wind blew until he was blue in the face…or blew in the face… or whatever… but he could not get the man to take off his coat. Then it was the sun’s turn. Instead of force, he just beamed at the fellow until he felt all warm and cozy. Then he kept on smiling, and the man got hot, ultimately removing his jacket. I guess it’s pretty simple. Force isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. Imagine your child tells you he can’t sleep. Do you think a calm lullaby will work? Or would it perhaps be better if you berat-

chia? I think we know which one has a better chance of working. How about yelling at someone who is hysterical: “CALM DOWN THIS SECOND OR YOU’LL BE SORRY!!!”? Think it will work? I don’t. The problem is, it takes more strength to remain balanced than to exhibit strength and force. Ironically,

showing our power is one of the easiest things for us to do, while being calm and soft is so much harder. “It’s not about strength, it’s about balance.” If we can remember that, then we have a better chance of succeeding in our goals, and of uplifting others (and the Sefer Torah). It doesn’t matter whether or not you’ve eaten your Wheaties; you can be a champion every time. Jonathan Gewirtz is a freelance writer whose work has appeared in publications around the world. He also operates, where you can order a custom-made speech for your next special occasion. For more information, or to sign up for his weekly Dvar Torah in English, e-mail © 2012 by Jonathan Gewirtz. All rights reserved.

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used to occasionally attend a certain shul where the Rov would never fail to make some reference to my articles. Almost as soon as I entered the foyer of the shul, he would say, “You don’t have to include this in an article,” or “I hope you don’t write an article about that.” What’s funny is that each time this happened, something I deemed worthy of being written happened as well. This time, it was something I said that I didn’t intend to be profound, yet the way it came out was phrased in a way that made me decide it should be written down (unlike the structure of the preceding sentence, which gave me a headache). On that morning, I was given Hagba, the honor of lifting the Sefer Torah in the air, showing it to the attendees, then sitting with it upright, ready to be tied and covered (the Torah, not me). As we had just lained the last parsha in the Torah, V’zos HaBracha, the Sefer Torah was rolled almost entirely to one side. As I approached, murmured comments offered opinions on how difficult it would be; musing whether I was a righty or a lefty, including the de rigueur comments about having eaten my Wheaties. I managed a smooth lift, opening the Torah about 4 columns wide, and turning completely around. The Rabbi whispered, “I knew you could do it.” That’s when the following pearl of wisdom fell from my lips: “It’s not about strength, it’s about balance.” In truth, this really is the secret to a good Hagba. It’s not a question of how strong you are, though if it’s a heavy scroll, a weakling might not be able to do it. The lift itself isn’t so bad. The hard part is getting it into the open position and keeping it from flopping over. That is achieved by making sure the parchment is taut, so that you’re lifting one large item with both hands, not trying to control two individual scrolls, one in each hand. If you’ve never done Hagba, you probably have no idea what I’m talking about, so I’ve just eliminated at least

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From the Eye of the Storm


Learning and Growing after Hurricane Sandy & Other Dramatic Events





Choose from the 2 questions below for your grade level.

GRADES 3-5 • If you had to suddenly leave home in an emergency, what two things would you take? • Share a story about a hero in your life who overcame a challenge

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Winning students, together with their school administrators will be recognized at the OHEL Gala, February 10, 2013. Notable entries will be published.

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• What has Hurricane Sandy/an experience of hardship taught you about the true meaning of community/ or the true meaning of home? • Hurricane Sandy came on very suddenly and many people's lives changes instantly as a result. Tell us how your life changed after Hurricane Sandy or sudden crisis/challenge.


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Pioneering a Solution to the Tuition Crunch Children are the most important part of our nation. They represent the future and are the links in the chain of our important lineage. So much of our mesorah is given over to our children at home. But not everything can be given over at mother’s knee. In order to make sure that our children learn the richness of our heritage and the importance of our Torah and mitzvos, we entrust our children to dedicated teachers and rebbeim who spend their lives instilling our beautiful values in our precious children. Parents spend long nights worrying about their children’s success in school: Is Sara learning the Aleph Bais correctly? Does Chaim have friends? Will Rachel ever learn the multiplication tables? When will Avi master the gemara? Is Daniel seeing the beauty of Yiddishkeit in everything that we do? But parents also spend nights worrying about another factor in our school system—tuition. How will we afford it? Will we ever be able to make ends meet and still be able to provide a quality, Torah-dik education for our children?


uition is a word that strikes fear in the hearts of just about any Jewish family and with good reason. The price of tuition has been a hot topic for a very long time, as the cost of a Jewish education continues to rise and with today’s economy, families are being squeezed tighter than ever before. Is there anything that can be done to make tuition more affordable? Or is the price of tuition going to create a frum elite society where only the rich can receive a good Jewish education? Are there any reforms on the horizon that

can possibly lighten the load on frum families, or are we destined to pay sky high prices forever? For most frum families, Jewish education is a necessity, not a luxury. The choice to send a child to public school simply does not exist. But for many, the stress of paying the hefty price tag that comes along with it can wreak havoc on their personal lives. Some families choose to send their children to a school that is not appropriate for them, simply because the tuition costs less there. Some families fall into debt because

of the large amount of money they must shell out for yeshiva tuition. And some simply just make ends meet, without an extra penny to put away for the future. Of course, there are some lucky families that do not stress about the high costs of a Torah education, but those are the exception, not the rule. In fact, I remember when my first child was born, I received words of wisdom from numerous people, “Better start saving for tuition now…”


he issue of how to bring relief from the high tuition prices has been one that has occupied the minds of many over the past two decades. A study done by the Institute of University-school Partnership at Yeshiva University called the “Survey of the Governance Practices of Jewish Day Schools” says that the current model for Jewish day schools is unsustainable because the system costs about $2 billion annually and requires $500 million in financial aid for students. “I agree that it is unsustainable,” says Dr. Jeffrey Becker who is the co-founder and immediate past president of the board at Shearim Torah High School for Girls in Phoenix. He continues by saying that “to fix this, boards must take the role of developing a solid strategic financial plan for future economic viability.” That, however, is much easier said than done. The study talks about some solutions that have been put out there to remedy this situation. Some have suggested that conducting a massive community fundraiser and putting together a community tuition fund might help solve the crises. Others disagree; Harry Bloom, for example, who produced the governance study, said that wouldn’t be enough. Even a seemingly massive fund would not provide enough for each school to make a real difference. According to him, that is only part of the solution. Another idea is to get schools to work together to create buying power as well as share office support and space. “We need to think out of the box in order to find a real working solution,” he says. But Mr. Bloom admits that something absolutely must be done to fix what is broken with the system. Speaking to frum families can open a small window into just how much pressure tuition prices put on parents. A woman living in Lawrence told me that she and her husband are constantly discussing their financial future, lamenting that they don’t see how they can pay their tuition bills. “My son’s yeshiva education is wonderful—his teacher and rebbe are amazing. But we have only one child in school now, and iy”H our other children will be entering school soon. How can we afford to spend almost a whole salary on our kids’ education?” And that, she explained, is with both

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“We try to turn community activism into a lobbying group. The more people we have to voice our needs, the more politicians understand how important this topic is.”

she and her husband working full-time. One mother from Queens who sends her children to yeshiva told me, “Every year prices go up. You have to struggle to find the money. It makes you question whether or not to grow your family. It shouldn’t be like that. By the time our children get to high school, what will we be paying already?” Similar feelings to these are shared by many parents in our communities. And the fact that tuition can play a role in family size is frightening. An article by Rabbi Yitzchok Alderstein in Cross-Currents sums it up when he writes, “Here’s where it gets ugly. I wouldn’t write about it so openly if this were not already the dirty secret that everybody knows. The changed realities of the new economy mean that people are having [smaller families] … They are limiting family size because they cannot see how b’derech hatevah, they can fork over those tuition checks for another child.” So where does this leave the frum middle class, those who fall between the lines of not being able to secure tuition assistance and those who can easily pay the astronomical sum for their children’s education? In recent years, much more is being done about the tuition crisis and the problems that come along with it. There have been several schools opening up that claim to offer superior education at a reasonable rate. One school in New Jersey called Yeshiva Ha’atid, opened its doors to 115 students this year based on a model that claims to lower costs without compromising quality. One of the main focuses of the school is the blending learning model. It combines face-to-face instruction with online learning tools to create a positive and effective learning environment for the child. This model also is said to reduce the need for resources outside the classroom. Founders of the schools believe that a bold idea such as this not only helps prepare children for the ever-changing world that we live in, but also makes tuition much more affordable for many parents. The school is out to prove that the idea that one needs to spend more money for a better education is just not true. Two more schools are said to be following their lead in the Five Towns and Westchester, both in initial planning stages, as well as in Los Angeles, Baltimore and Boston. There are some that are confident that this is the new roots of a plan that will possibly spell relief for families. But it is not the solution. Nothing can compare to the warm and enthusiastic words of a beloved teacher or rebbi. These people help mold our children and are the reason our children grow up to be contributing members of Klal Yisroel.


ome organizations are stepping up to the plate because of the massive financial pressure on Jewish private schools and frum families. About a year ago,

the Orthodox Union had a tuition conference, where participants identified a need for more government funding for Jewish schools. The OU realized they needed to put more resources and time into a more effective approach, an approach that was already going on at a national level and now could be brought down locally. Maury Litwack, the director of state political affairs and outreach in the OU’s Institute for Public Affairs, heads a team set on accomplishing this goal. He is a recognized advocacy expert and has worked with many elected officials. Maury and his team have gone from a staff of one or two people, to fifteen people working exclusively on funding for Jewish education. The team has three types of basic staff members. There are those that work exclusively for lobbying in the legislature. Another group works with schools in maximizing the funding they already get. Lastly, there are staff members that work with the community, getting the community leaders engaged and encouraging activism. They are looking to demonstrate to government officials that we as a community have a strong voice. Maury emphasizes that he and his team do not want to repeat what has already been done in this area. He explains that they asked themselves, “’How are we really going to get this done?’ Typically, getting things done is about who you know. If you know someone who works in politics or you get someone who can speak to a politician, that person becomes the voice of influence. But in this group, we try to turn community activism into a lobbying group, similar to the education lobby. The more people we have to voice our needs, the more politicians understand how important this topic is.” And seeing the effort our communities have put into this initiative, Maury says, is a model of how much influence the frum community can have in politics. The team also works on coming up with real life ideas that can work to make increased government funding more possible. One idea is having the states pay for secular funding. “Why can’t they pay for math and science for our kids, like they pay for the rest of the population to learn those subjects in public schools?” Maury asks. He also tells us how frum lobby groups can maximize their influence on Capitol Hill. Other faith-based communities who use private schooling can join with the Jewish groups to create an even more powerful influence. Our groups don’t always agree on every topic and area, but we can work together in this issue to get the job done. There are also a number of school choice advocates that support the group’s efforts just because they feel it’s the right thing. Education is the civil rights issue of our day, and there are many people not personally involved who

take an interest in fighting for private schools. The government provides some funding for schools now, but the funds are just not enough. It’s possible that the funds are insufficient because the government doesn’t truly understand our needs and why it’s important. Or they might look at our budget and say they don’t know how they could help. But the OU’s education team’s goal in lobbying is making elected officials understand that frum people cannot send their kids to public schools; help for them is absolutely vital. In New York State, 15% of children go to private schools, but only 1-2% of the budget goes to private schools. That is a huge gap. Where is the other 13%? To date, Maury and his staff have had some smaller and some bigger wins across the nation. Millions of dollars have been brought in for schools in New York, New Jersey, Pennsylvania and Florida. Cash credit programs are also a possible help to the current situation. Currently, Florida and Pennsylvania parents can take a percentage of their dollars and apply it for schools. These programs will help private schools in many ways, and many schools can pass the savings down to parents. Without this money, schools would have had to increase tuition rates for parents. Maury explains, “We have a big return compared to what we invest in. The more we put in, the more we will succeed. Many times people doubt the ability to gain more funding. They say, ‘I don’t know if you can do it.’ We say, ‘Let us turn ourselves into a serious lobbying group and then let’s see where we’re at.’ It is definitely possible and even likely if we are an organized entity.”


he topic of yeshiva tuition will most likely remain a key concern for many years to come. But the awareness that has been created and the programs formed to help remedy the situation shows how the community has grown in leaps and bounds in turns of effective campaigning for important topics. Just how much these new ideas with help, only time will tell. In the meantime, it pays for each and every one of us to get involved and make our voices heard in government. There is power in numbers, and the more of us that stand up for financial relief from the heavy burden of Yeshiva tuition, the more likely it can become a reality. Our children are our future and the most important people in our lives. Their yeshiva education is vital for their growth. And the lessons that they learn there are vital for the growth of our nation. But the economy and finances play a large role in our lives as well, and as a community we can work together to make sure that every one of our precious children receives the stellar education that they deserve.

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hroughout the 20th century, before fighting in China. Even though before rounds left onboard. Green’s total that fired a long burst into it. I could see the video game craze took over, the war it was considered obsolete by day included 4 Junkers transports, a hits along the fuselage and engine. m a n y some, others pre- Dornier bomber and a Bf-109 fighter The 109 burst into flames and startyoung children ed spinning toward the ground out ferred it and had that he caught after a thrilling tree-top had the dream of control. A minute and a half later, success with the chase. The total of the 325th Group that of becoming an day was an astounding 38 destroyed I saw an aircraft fire on the ground plane. airplane pilot. directly below my attack. Lt. Gille Green flew and six damaged enemy aircraft. The plane first Two months and three more enemy witnessed the combat and confirmed his first mission took to the the victory, my fifteenth. In the conon May 19, over kills later, Green became the commandskies in 1903 fusion of the fight, I got a snap shot Italy and shot ing officer for the 317th Squadron. After and within a at a passing FWdown a Messer- shooting down two few short years, 190 and observed schmitt Me-109. more Nazi planes, many daredevils some hits on it, but His plane was so he switched airwere in them I couldn’t continue shot up with en- craft again this showing off their the attack and emy bullets that time to the P-51 skills around don’t know what even though he Mustang. He shot the country on happened to him… was able to land down five planes barnstorming I was always awed safely, the plane with the new plane tours. Many of by the flak put up itself never flew for a total of 18 Heiligman Hershel Green in the cockpit the children were over Ploesti, and again. Nine days aircraft shot down of his plane. Notice the swastikas painted on the side. Each one represents enamored by the I said a prayer for later, he shot in the air. He was another Nazi plane shot down. brave pilots and the bombers which down two more also credited with Green standing on his P-51 Mustang decohoped to fly one flew through it. 10 Me-109s and destroying rated with the Checkertail warpaint. day. Little did they know that soon soon was promoted to captain as well as planes that were Once the bombers America would one day need hundreds given a new type of aircraft—the P-47 on the ground. He were committed to of thousands of pilots to fight against Thunderbolt. the run, they had to fly straight and describes in his book Herky. The Memthe fascists during WWII. One of these level for the bombardier to hit the Herky didn’t shoot down any more oirs of a Checkertail Ace, a particularly children who became an ace pilot was Germans until January 30, 1944, when fierce battle over Germany: target. Herschel “Herky” Green. Herschel Green not only led the Herschel Green was born in Hickory, Kentucky in 1920 and watched his 325th as their leading ace, he had more He shot down six Nazi planes in one day. A pilot first barnstorming aerial show when he kills than anyone in the MTO. He also was five. As an added bonus, he was flew 100 missions, which is another needs five confirmed “kills” to be called an ace. An amazing statistic as most pilots were given a ride in the backseat of the birelieved of frontline duties after having plane and from then on was hooked on “ace in a day” was extremely rare. flown just 35 missions and those who flying as a career. In 1940, he earned his did stay on were eventually shot down civilian pilot’s license and a year later by the enemy—but not Green. After his joined the Army Air Force as a cadet Our next oil raid with the heavies 100th mission he was promoted to Lieu(the air force was a branch of the army he achieved an extraordinary feat. He (B-24 Liberator 4 engine bomb- tenant Colonel and assigned to the 15th until 1947). After the war broke out, shot down six Nazi planes in one day. ers) was on the 23rd Air Force’s headquarters. he was assigned to the 317th Fighter (A pilot needs five of June to Ploesti After the war, Green was again in Squadron, 325th Fighter Group and confirmed “kills” to where we always ex- the pilot’s seat, this time flying the new flew in the P-40 Warhawk. The squad- be called an ace. An pected a fight from F-80 Shooting Star jet plane. Most piron, nicknamed the Checkerboard Clan, “ace in a day” was the Germans who lots fly just one type of aircraft throughwas sent to the Mediterranean Theater extremely rare.) The were fighting des- out their career; Herschel Green flew of Operations (MTO) in early 1943 plane that he usuperately to protect several types, and not just well—he aboard the carrier USS Ranger. They ally flew was down their dwindling oil became an ace in two of them and shot flew off the carrier to their new base in for maintenance so supply. We were not down another three in a third type. His Casablanca in North Africa and began he borrowed the disappointed. Ap- record is a testament for his superb flypreparing for operations. plane of a fellow piproximately 35 en- ing skills and will live on as a legacy for The Allies were about to force the lot but was unaware emy aircraft met us generations of pilots to come. Axis out of Africa and reinforcements that the plane carin the target area. I were pouring in to finish off the task ried 6,400 rounds of saw three Me-109s and prepare for the next operation—the ammo instead of the below me turning to Avi Heiligman is a weekly contributor to invasion of Sicily. The 12th Air Force, usual 3,200. Had he which later became the 15th Air Force, known that, he more attack the bombers. The Jewish Home. He welcomes your comwas the American air unit in the MTO. than likely would I pushed my nose ments and suggestions.for future columns The squadron was flying the P-40, a have shot down more enemy planes down and started after them. I came and can be reached at aviheiligman@ plane made famous by the Flying Tigers instead of turning for home with 4,000 down on the tail of the last plane and

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s I promised last week, I will try to provide some more “calming” information and offer some advice for parents that deal with common pediatric problems. Spitting up or Gastro-Esophageal Reflux is an extremely common symptom in infants. I vividly remember that while watching my son playing in Little League in 2011, one of my friends commented that from the amount of prescriptions of Prevacid for babies being filled at his pharmacy, it seems that the entire Boro Park suffers from reflux. I was not shocked, because as I recalled, I had to spend many hours calming and explaining to parents why babies spit up and when to treat it. Therefore, I felt that by sharing my advice, I may be able to alleviate some unnecessary worries that some of you may have.

Is Your Child Vomiting or Spitting Up? For many first time parents, spitting up is a new, frightening event. Do you remember when your baby first spit up? When the milk came out shooting from his or her nostrils? When you first witnessed that “huge” pool of milk on the floor? Hundreds of times, parents have paged me after hours to describe these horrific events and each time they describe the baby “vomiting,” I recall the wise guidance of my late mentor Dr. Harvey Aiges ob”m. While I was a fourth year medical student at Downstate, I rotated at Northshore Manhasset Hospital in the Department of Pediatric GI, which was then headed by Dr. Aiges. Dr. Aiges was an amazing diagnostician and an even more capable mentor. After each patient left his office, he put up a warm smile and in an inquiring tone posed a question regarding the case we just witnessed. One day he asked us, “Guys, how would you define the difference between spitting up and vomiting?” None of us could put our fingers on the exact difference so he proceeded: “When you last vomited, do you remember how sick you felt before vomiting? There was probably pain and discomfort that lasted at least 5-10 minutes, followed by an excruciating act of

vomiting. Spitting up, on the contrary, is a quick act that is not preceded by pain; rather, it is often preceded by a small burp and is totally painless.” That is exactly what my patients hear each time they confuse “spitting up” with “vomiting.” Why Do Babies Spit Up? Here are several explanations: • Babies have small stomachs. If they drink too fast, too much, too frequently, or if they swallow air, their stomachs become over-distended, which makes them spit up.

• Babies have a weak gastroesophageal sphincter that allows food to come up when they burp or when they lay down after being fed. • Babies are fed mostly liquids that can easily ascend into the esophagus. Once they are introduced to solid foods, the spitting up generally improves. When Should You Treat Babies With Reflux? 1. If your baby appears to be in pain each time he spits up. 2. If your baby is struggling to gain weight. 3. If your baby starts to refuse to drink bottles, due to the pain associated with feeding. 4. If your baby or child has a persistent cough. 5. If your baby or child is persistently hoarse.

What Else Could You Do? My father told me over a story of how 50 years ago, an Iranian professor asked a full auditorium of students to diagnose a 2-month-old child who persistently spit up after every single feeding. The students wanted to impress him by suggesting that the baby suffered from the likes of pyloric stenosis (which many frantic parents unwisely google and convince themselves that their baby is sick), milk allergy and esophageal atresia. Then, the professor smiled and said: “This baby is perfectly healthy. Unfortunately, the mother was

using his older sister’s nipple which was too wide for the baby’s bottle. The baby was drinking the formula much too quickly and subsequently spit up after every feed.” The nipple was switched to a smaller size and the spitting resolved. Relax – Mothers, you have gone through so much pain carrying the baby and delivering, now you toil around the clock changing and cleaning her. I suggest you all try and stay seated for 10 minutes after finishing the feeding. Don’t rush and run right after nursing your child. You deserve the rest (fathers too, on occasion). If your child is a bad “spitter upper” – do not stand up for 10 minutes. Put your feet up, relax and enjoy your baby six times a day. Keep the baby upright for 30-40 minutes after the feeding. Never put the baby in a rocking swing after feeding her.

Elevate the head of the bed – by placing a small towel under her mattress. Thicken the formula with baby cereal – this is used in many Neonatal ICUs, even for premature babies. Just make sure that the formula is not too thick, so it could pass through the nipple, and make sure that your baby is not constipated by the rice or oatmeal cereal. Start solids – You can start feeding your baby solid foods from the age of 4 months. Solid foods are heavier and will not reflux up the esophagus as easily. I do not like to treat reflux with medicine unless I see signs that are very worrisome. Anti-reflux medicine have a slew of dangerous side effects such as eradication of the normal flora of good bacteria from the intestines and prevention of calcium absorption into our bodies. Most babies naturally stop to spit up between 9-12 months, as their esophageal sphincter becomes stronger and tighter. Please feel free to contact me with any questions or comments. Until then, put your feet up and enjoy some quality time with your precious ones. Wishing you all happy and calm babies, David Elazar Simai, M.D. Dr. David Simai is a Board Certified Pediatrician from the Five Towns. He is a full time attending in his own private practice since 2007 in Cedarhurst, New York. In addition, he is an Attending Physician at LIJCohen Children’s Hospital, North-Shore Manhasset University Hospital and South Nassau Communities Hospital. He can be contacted for consultation at 516 374-2228 or via email at NOTE: name, gender, geographical area and other identifying information were deliberately altered in this article in order to protect the patient’s privacy. This article is not intended to help diagnose or treat any specific disease. Always consult your personal physician before diagnosing or treating yourself or your child for any of the above mentioned illnesses.

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When Recess is the Worst Part of the Day “I have a stomachache, Mommy. It hurts so much.” 8 year old Eliana looked up at her mother with tears in her pleading eyes. 7:45 AM. Stomachache time. Some days it was a headache, others it was a vague leg pain, but mostly it was the standard stomachache. Eliana knew that when she got to school, she’d be alone. At recess time she would stand at the side of the playground, watching while the other children played jump rope and ball. She would rather clutch at her stomach until she made it hurt for real than go to school and be alone for another day. Why do some children have a hard time making and keeping friends? Social challenges can be especially difficult for young children. They often lack the skills for handling playground situations. Problems that could be solved with some basic solutions may seem insurmountable. Telling a teacher what is going on may seem like a task too hard to face. The factors listed below are some of the root causes of social skill problems. Often, when we see a child who has a hard time with peers, it’s because there is another, deeper problem that is showing up in the way he or she acts. The social skill deficit may be just a symptom. • Anxiety. Children who have phobias or anxiety may be worried about how they appear socially. They may freeze when in a group setting, finding themselves too afraid to interact with others. • Temperament. Some children are naturally shy and introverted. They may struggle to assert themselves in a

group setting. Saying, “Can I play with you?” may be too risky for kids who are used to being quiet. • Academic Challenges. Children tend to view their peers by the way they perform in the classroom. If one child goes out to the resource room, answers questions wrong in class, or does poorly on tests, s/he may be viewed as inferior by classmates who are too young or ignorant to tell the difference between academic and social success. • Low Self Esteem. Children may develop low self confidence for a variety of reasons. The problem is that once they are convinced that they are not as good as their classmates, it may be hard for them to believe that they could actually make friends. • Speech or Motor Skill Delays. When children have a physical delay, that often affects the way that they function with friends. Children with speech delays may have a hard time expressing themselves in a way that their peers can understand. Children with motor skill or sensory problems may struggle with the physical aspect of playing games and using appropriate social boundaries. • Low Frustration Tolerance. Some children find themselves getting angry when things don’t go the way they expect. They punch, kick, or yell instead of communicating in ways that can be more effective. What Does a Social Skill Deficit Look Like? Zevy stuck his hands into his pockets and wandered around the schoolyard. He was in no rush. He had nowhere

to go during the fifteen-minute recess. Out of the corner of his eye, he saw his classmates starting a game of football. Why did they never let him play? He got angrier and angrier as he saw all the kids having fun. All he wanted was to be a part of it. He ran to Chaim, that boy who was always in charge, and grabbed the ball, pushing Chaim to the ground. “Ha, ha, now no one can play!” Zevy thought to himself. Social skill deficits most commonly appear in two ways: loneliness and aggression. The lonely child is left out of games and discussions, either by choice or because s/he has no friends. The lonely child may have difficulty with skills such as making eye contact, initiating conversation, respecting social boundaries, and maintaining a positive self-image. The aggressive child may use words or actions to hurt other children. The aggressive child may be perceived as a “bully” and may have difficulty with skills such as recognizing and managing emotions, tolerating frustration, and communicating in a healthy way. Being alone and using aggression may be equally painful when children just don’t know why they are not making friends. They may not realize that the things they do are alienating them from their classmates. Helping from the Outside In How do we help children who are suffering in social settings? One key and underutilized way of helping is communicating with the other adults in a child’s life. When parents and teachers make the effort to reach out and have conversations about a child’s challenges, new solutions can be found. A teacher may be able to pay special attention to a struggling child during recess, ensure that the child has a partner for a special project, or praise the child in class. However, this can only happen if the teacher is aware of the problem. Sometimes even the most talented teachers may not realize that a child is hurting inside. Once they are made

aware, teachers can be allies for students facing social difficulties. Helping from the Inside Out Children can learn many skills that help them feel more confident and prepared in social situations. Picture the process of building muscle through exercise—it takes time and effort, but ultimately builds strength. The same goes for learning social skills—the process may take children out of their comfort zone, but it ultimately helps them build social “muscle” that they can use to conquer many social situations. Chil-

dren are very resilient, and with the right support they can change the way they interact with peers.

Social skills groups are one effective way to bolster social skills. At South Shore Cognitive Therapy (SSCT), social skills groups are run by seasoned professionals who help children learn the skills they need for social success. SSCT uses the latest scientific and evidence-based cognitive and behavioral treatments to alleviate emotional problems. Our experienced clinicians offer intensive and customized treatment plans that enable our clients to maintain a high level of personal control throughout the treatment process. Jonathan Cohen, PsyD is the director of SSCT and has advanced training in evidenced-based therapies for emotional and behavioral problems. Sara SchwartzGluck, LCSW is a Clinical Social Worker who works with children and adults, and has lectured at schools and mental health organizations throughout NY and NJ. She can be reached at 516-568-7493 or at www.

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Secrets and Struggles brag and spout out what he believed to be wisdom: He became a know-itall. When he graduated college, he decided upon embarking on a business. This would be a great way to quiet those ugly voices: He would be wildly successful. So it was not enough for Kalman to work hard at growing his business. After all, it was not to be an ordinary business but one that produced real wealth, and quickly, if possible. Only that would chase away the evil voices in the back regions of his mind.

is the family supposed to do? Kalman has two jobs. He has to work on the present but he must correct the past. In the present, he needs to acknowledge each of his mistakes and come up with a plan to solve them. The beautiful thing about life is that we all get another chance. And another one. Our generous and gracious G-d bestows endless opportunities on us to get it right. My mother-in-law passed away just a few months short of 102. That’s pretty old. And in the last year of her

Kalman has to work on the present but he must correct the past. The beautiful thing about life is that we all get another chance.

Unfortunately, he suffered a selffulfilling prophecy: His business history was a disaster. I’ve found that this scenario happens often. It seems as though having been criticized as a child goes hand-in-hand with later business failure and verbal abuse at home. Worst of all, not only will the undesired end come about through these messages, but the recipient of them will surely hear a lot more of them once the business dreams collapse. The entire family and extended family will blame Kalman for all these mistakes. They would be justified; after all, he lost a lot of money through bad planning and insufficient ego disguised as too much ego. What can Kalman do for himself? What is Penina’s role here? And what

life, she came to acknowledge HaKodosh Baruch Hu. It took that long, but it happened. So we must never give up on trying. Kalman can sit down, for example, with a member of SCORE (Service Corps of Retired Executives) who give their time for free to figure out how to rescue his business – or start over. He can consult a vocational counselor and consider getting a job to generate a cash flow while he restarts his business. There are hundreds of possibilities for Kalman. He only has to think in terms of “How can I solve this problem?” rather than, “It’s all over.” Because it most definitely is not all over. The second job Kalman has is to correct the past. Now this is tricky. He can’t be telling himself, “I am a suc-

cessful investor,” because he’s not. But he can’t continue with the negativity he always received, either. He’s got to start displacing all the old messages in his head with positive but realistic new ones such as, “I’ve learned some tough lessons and I will use what I’ve learned to rebuild my life intelligently.” What should Penina be saying to her husband when he starts up with family members? I think Penina should reinforce the above positive message that Kalman needs to hear. Perhaps she can say to him, “I love the idea of you rebuilding your life intelligently. Do you really want friction with family to be part of that?” Since friction is not intelligent, it is unlikely that Kalman will keep up the battle with Chemie, his brother-in-law, or with others, for that matter. Penina may need to ask that question more than once. I have rarely met a person who learns with one trial. Now just how many times should Penina have to remind her husband through this gentle question before she can conclude that it is not working? It is really possible that it will have to go on quite a bit but that in the end, Kalman will improve his vision of what he wants for his life. Which brings me to all the extended family and how they can be helpful. All they really need to do is lovingly remind Kalman of his new goals – and cheer him on. They also must be realistic about the possibility of backsliding and watch Kalman’s actions going forward. No one learns anything in a straight path to a goal; there’s always a step or two back. But don’t look at the backsteps and think everything is doomed. There is always a chance for Kalman to redeem his life. I believe in giving lots of chances. Dr. Deb Hirschhorn has had over 35 years clinical experience. She has been in numerous publications, both professional and for the public, and has appeared on TV and has been featured on radio. She practices Marriage-Friendly Therapy. She has a local practice in Woodmere, N.Y. See her website,, or call her at 646-54-DRDEB.

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emember Kalman? We wrote about him a couple weeks ago. He and his brother-in-law had a flare-up because Kalman used some very sharp language to make his point. He felt entitled to “express” himself. His wife, Penina, was exhausted with a lifetime of this sort of thing. She used to quarrel with her husband and that certainly didn’t work. Then she tried to reason with him and learned, much to her surprise, that he could not apologize to her brother because he would feel it was “weak.” She disagreed; she told him that admitting mistakes is a sign of strength because it takes a strong person to do that. I asked how readers think that the story will end. Some people think that Kalman will never change. Here is my problem with that: You have to have tried everything—and I mean everything—before you can be sure that your conclusion is correct. Most people give up too easily. Kalman might possibly be able to change if he can heal from the original pain that caused him to become so adversarial and sharp-tongued. Kalman grew up with very critical parents. As he said, “They never had anything positive to say.” When that happens, a child is always on the lookout for criticism. He expects it. So, if the best defense is a good offense, then Kalman mastered the art. The problem, of course, is that it causes the very problem it was meant to avoid: attacks. Not only that, it certainly loses the good will of others. This is made worse because Kalman bears a painful secret, a secret that he is too ashamed to admit to anyone. It’s one thing if your critical parents missed the mark in their negativity, but what if they were correct? What if they thought you were something of a loser – and you actually were? Wouldn’t that really put a dagger in your heart? That’s how Kalman felt. You see, he had, over his lifetime, made some bad business decisions and lost a considerable sum of money. As a child, Kalman learned that one way he could feel good about himself (given all these toxic messages swirling around in his head) would be to

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Rebbetzin Naomi N. Herzberg

Discovering a Non-Verbal Form Of Communication Through Art


ll human beings possess a need to communicate feelings. Each individual’s needs differ on many levels. Children for some reason, have an easier time expressing themselves than adults. I did not study psychology on a deep level; therefore, I am not going to speak about this topic in depth. My connection to the understanding of human emotions comes mainly from life experience in my many various roles. These

experiences have granted me an unofficial license to understand the strong need for human connection and communication. The art of Winslow Homer is worth investigating. Winslow Homer was born in 1836 and grew up in New England. He had a very happy childhood and loved the outdoor country life. Winslow was an artist who used art as a nonverbal means of communication from which we can all learn. He would draw continuously

in the margins of his schoolbooks, illustrating numerous pictures of real life happenings that told a story. Some of his paintings depict scenes from the Civil War. In a book written about him, it said that he was “the most vital, colorful, and most varied of all American artists of the 19th century. He saw things in American life that no other artist had seen, and painted them in new ways.” Did Winslow’s love for art come from his being in the presence of a mother that was an artist? All we know is that he absolutely adored sketching from a very young age, and that he never formerly studied art. He was planning on going to a university when he grew up, but unfortunately, life was difficult and he had to earn a living to financially help his family. He took a job as an apprentice for a lithographer earning some money, but he did not enjoy doing this. That feeling forced him to take a chance painting pictures and to develop his own talents. He loved painting outdoors—taking in the light and feelings of the areas surrounding him, which eventually became his trademark and “signature.” After some time, he sold one of his pictures to Harper’s Magazine. He traveled with the Union army and was able to see firsthand what was happening; he painted pictures communicating in a non-verbal way, the true story in picture form as to what he saw. Harper’s Magazine put his paintings of the Civil War into its publications. The rest is history. He became a famous painter. Later on in life at the age of 37, Winslow began to paint in watercolor. He loved the outdoors; this medium gave him the ability to paint while traveling, as it dried quickly and required minimal clean-up. He spent much time doing pictures of the sea in watercolor. Winslow was an emotional person who enjoyed painting pictures with a strong

sense of realism. He contributed greatly to the world of art and his work is sorely missed. Many artists have tried to duplicate his style. I myself have practiced and taught his style of painting to many of my students. It is not an easy task that takes persistence and an extremely steady hand; even then, it is still hard to capture and own. Unfortunately, Winslow died quite young at the age of 74. As Winslow Homer was able to do, I have chosen the venue of art, my life-long passion, as my means of non-verbal expression. This path has been extremely satisfying for me. Based on my varied experiences, I have come to the conclusion that personalizing an art experience helps one gain insight into their uniqueness and sense of self.

Rebbetzin Naomi N. Herzberg is a professional art educator, artist and designer. Among her known artwork is a floral sculpture presented to Tipper Gore, Blair House, Washington, D.C. Presently she is the Director of Operations at Shulamith School for Girls. Please feel free to email with questions and suggestions for future columns.

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Some signs of ODD are: Frequent • temper tantrums • Excessive arguing with adults • Often questioning rules • Active defiance and refusal to comply with adult requests and rules • Deliberate attempts to annoy or upset people • Blaming others for his or her mistakes or misbehavior • Often being touchy or easily annoyed by others • Frequent anger and resentment • Mean and hateful talking when upset • Spiteful attitude and revenge seeking There are multiple treatments for ODD, among the most effective is social skills training to increase flexibility and lengthen frustration tolerance with peers. In many ways, a child with ODD can be very difficult for parents. Below are some ways that the American Academy of Child Adolescent Psychiatry suggests dealing with children with ODD: • Build on the positives. Give your child praise and positive reinforcement when he shows flexibility or cooperation. • Take a time-out. Time-outs are useful for yourself as well, if you are about to make the conflict with your child worse, not better.  This is good modeling for your child.  Support your child if he decides to take a time-out to prevent overreacting. • Pick your battles.  Since the child with ODD has trouble avoiding power struggles, prioritize the things you want your child to do.  If you give your child a time-out in his room for misbehavior, don’t add time for arguing.  • Set up reasonable, age-appropriate limits. Make sure you can enforce the consequences if these expectations are not met. Many children with ODD will respond to the positive parenting techniques and negative behavior will significantly subside. However, don’t be afraid to reach out for extra help from doctors, health professionals, and educators – because, yes, there is a solution to temper tantrums.

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Q: Is there a solution to temper tantrums? A: The short answer to this question is “yes.” However, the longer answer is that depending on the age of the child and the type of tantrum, there are many different solutions. For toddlers, Dr. Harvey Karp, a board certified pediatrician, suggests speaking in “toddler-ese.” In other words, speak to the child in way they can understand. We all do these actions when we are happy, but when our child gets upset, we often become calm and rational. Toddlers may not respond to that kind of reaction. Instead: • Reflect their wants back to them in short sentences and syllables. For instance, if your child is upset because they want a candy bar in the store. Say, “You want a candy bar.” “I hear you.” “You want a candy bar.” • Use repetition. In order to get your child’s attention, they need to recognize that you are listening to them. • Express yourself through facial expressions and hand motions. These physical gestures are much easier for children to understand. Let them know that you are aware that they are upset. Once your child recognizes that you are listening, chances are he will calm down enough to rationalize with. This will be your chance to explain to him what he needs to do so as to get what he wants. Alternatively, this might be your chance to distract him. Either way, once he recognizes that he has been heard, he will calm down and be ready for a calm interaction. All children are argumentative and cranky from time to time, especially when they are tired, hungry, or stressed. Their behavior could range from arguing, talking back, and disobeying or defying authority figures. This conduct is even part of the normal development of toddlers and early adolescents. However, when a child consistently and frequently acts out so much that it stands out when compared to other children of the same age and developmental level, there might be something more than regular temper tantrums going on. “Explosive Children” or children with Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) exhibit a pattern of uncooperative, defiant, and hostile behavior that interferes with day-to-day performance.


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Lola's Story

Lola Lieber Schwartz

A World After This

A Memoir of Loss and Redemption Lola Lieber Schwartz is a world-renowned artist whose paintings have been exhibited in art galleries throughout the United States and are part of the Yad Vashem archives in Jerusalem. Most importantly, Lola is a mother, grandmother and great-grandmother to many. She has myriad friends and sees life in all its vibrancy and vitality. But life was not always easy. Lola was only sixteen-yearsold when Hitler ym”sh invaded Poland, and Lola was forced into hiding and spent years on the run with her husband, Mechel. Through six years of trying times, near Chapter 4 The Education of a Jewish Girl


djusting to Mechel visiting our home each night was not as much of a jolt to my situation as the question of my formal education. There has always been a mythology that strictly Orthodox families do not wish to educate their daughters. Certainly there was resistance to girls receiving formal Torah education and training to the same extent and depth as boys. Our faith is the oldest monotheistic faith in the world, and in our Torah men and women

are treated equally. Each contributed in their own way to maintaining our faith at crucial times in our long history. Sarah, our matriarch, joined Abraham, our patriarch, in leaving the land of false gods and settling in the land where our religion took hold. Of course, I was also aware from the teaching of our belfer and from my babbiko of our other matriarchs besides Sarah – Rebecca, Rachel, Leah – and others such as Miriam, Devorah, Ruth, and my own namesake, Queen Esther. I also knew the blessings and duties required to be performed by women on

starvation and brutality, Lola and her husband held onto their faith and values. It was Mechel’s words of encouragement, “There will be a world after this,” that helped them cling to the hope that there will be a life of light and joy waiting for them at the end. This is the story of Lola’s life—from her grandparents’ “enchanted garden” to meeting Eichmann ym”sh to making the Pesach seder for the Bobover Rebbe during the war—her words will take you back to a different world. Shabbos and during the Holidays. I was intuitively aware that as women we did play a significant role, particularly in what is now called “ultra-Orthodox” Judaism. It was a term I had never heard as a child. We all lived in our shtetls and everyone was the same…we were simply all Orthodox Jews living together and observing in the same ways. Labels were not necessary in those days. By the 1930s in Poland, and in Krakow especially, a new phase in the education of Jewish girls had dawned. I am talking about the historic figure of Sarah Schenirer, a remarkable and intelligent Jewish woman, the leader of the Bais Yaakov movement. She was a Krakow seamstress (in fact her last name is the word for seamstress). Although she was unmarried and had no children of her own, she was a true Jewish mother. She became the spiritual mentor for many Polish girls. Our modern Sarah was born in 1883. By 1918 she had accomplished something few believed possible. She had opened an authorized Orthodox school for Jewish girls in Krakow. The number of her schools, which she named Bais Yaakov, expanded quickly into the hundreds. She was taken from life in 1935. It was by the profound grace of Hashem that she did not live to witness the extinguishing of the lights of Jewish learning and of Polish Jewish life. It is told that upon her death hundreds upon hundreds of Jewish girls wept in inconsolable grief at the loss of their teacher and mother figure. How sad it is that despite the great amount of knowledge now available about women leaders and thinkers, few people, even among Jews, know of this dedicated and pious woman. You might say that Sarah Schenirer was a Jewish missionary working for the continuation of our people. She saw that without understanding the meaning of our rituals, Jewish girls could be tempted to leave Judaism and to marry outside our faith. In nothing short of a miracle of understanding and activism,

she understood what needed to be done. In the period just after the First World War, she saw that as girls became more modern, they were somewhat embarrassed by their mothers. Mothers had old-world or shtetl mannerisms and usually spoke in conversational Yiddish. She knew this could cause a rip in the fabric of Jewish life that would disrupt the legacy of Jewish continuity. Sarah Schenirer knew that the way to a girl’s heart would be through her mind. A girl who understands fully the antiquity of our faith and is able to comprehend Torah knowledge will develop pride for the critical role a woman plays inside Judaism. Feelings such as this ensure a lifetime of devotion to Jewish tradition. Sarah was able to convince important Chassidic Rebbes in Krakow of the importance of and the need for the education of girls. With their cooperation and approval she established a school and an after-school program, and later a seminary for the training of women teachers. When I was only ten years old and spent a year in Krakow, I once met her. I did not then have any idea of her significance to Jewish life in Krakow and elsewhere. She was an unassuming woman, who wore thick glasses and dressed in a simple style. I was not enrolled in the Bais Yaakov School then because I was only a part-time resident in Krakow. In any case, I could not have done the required assignments as my Hebrew was woefully inadequate. When we think of the Shoah, it is difficult to focus on anything other than the genocide of an entire people. However, it is also important to remember that besides all the lives lost, we lost the main threads of our history because we lost entire nations of Jews. Although the Bais Yaakov movement eventually rebuilt itself in Europe, Israel, and North America after the war, the numbers are far smaller than they would be if so many had not been efficiently and ruthlessly killed.

Beyla, Mechel’s sister

Leah, Mechel’s sister

Mechel’s brother, Joel Lieber, in Paris

girls we were still taught some Tanach (Bible) as Jewish history. We also studied the weekly Torah portion. We sang Hebrew songs and danced the hora (traditional Jewish circle dance) together. The memory of all of us Orthodox Jewish girls dancing together still brings me joy when I recall it. At last, I looked forward to each day with the expectancy of a normal teenager. It was thanks to these girls and to the B’nos program that for the first time since our rushed and forced departure from Munkach, I wasn’t so sad. To some of the B’nos girls I appeared a bit spoiled and privileged. They were not unkind to me, but they couldn’t figure me out. I did not look anything like they did. By their standards, I wore fancy clothing. More than anything else what set me apart in dress was my silk stockings. Fifteen-yearold girls in Krakow wore heavy woolen stockings, not lady-like stockings. I was modestly dressed, of course, but still, the sleeves on my dresses and blouses were a tiny bit shorter than theirs, and this raised eyebrows too. And I played the violin and spoke several languages. But the most obvious deviation from

the norm, even worse than the stockings, was my hair! I’d come from Munkach with beautiful curls, just like Shirley Temple. In Krakow, Orthodox girls all wore their hair very short or braided. At first, I brushed off their attitudes because I knew that teenagers are conformists – they all want to be alike. I was an artist; I was from Munkach; I was different. They would just have to accept me as I was. It was their problem, not mine. What was really bothering them began to settle into my brain more slowly than it should have. They were thinking something other than what I thought they were. It wasn’t that they thought I was rich or that I was spoiled or that I was a snob. They suspected that my appearance was the sign of something far more troublesome. What I saw as exhibiting a personal artistic and geographic cultural difference, these girls saw as an indication of religious laxity – or worse! They thought I was indifferent to our traditions. Krakow had such a large Jewish population of so many different leanings that things like this mattered. This was the real education of Lola. I finally realized that I was misunderstood because of something I had not thought about, yet

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Sara, Mechel’s sister

could unintentionally bring embarrassment to my family. That is why I wanted to enroll in the Bais Yaakov seminary and become a part of the educated and Jewishly enlightened girls of Krakow, who knew more than their Hebrew blessings. I wanted to know more Torah and more about our faith. The paradox is that I wanted to become more observant, not less. Yet the others thought the way I dressed signified a lack of commitment. The girls who were “in charge” debated at length about what on earth to do with me, an alien creature from Munkach. They reasoned among themselves that if I were admitted, I might be a bad influence on the others. They were probably also a little jealous. They criticized me but they might have liked to have pretty things to wear. Fortunately, the teachers took over and held a vote. They admitted me, the nonconformist, but with some restrictions. I, too, would wear woolen stockings and a sweater to cover my shorter sleeves. I wanted to be accepted by the B’nos girls, and I wanted to receive a deeper Jewish education, so I surrendered to the requirements. Then they went too far. They demanded that my hairdo had to go with words such as, “Why can’t you just put it up into a bun?” I felt I had given up enough of my former identity, said no, and stood firm. They compromised and let me keep a bit of my old self. So with compromises on both sides, the Education of a Jewish Girl In Krakow began in earnest. Goldie had promised me her friends would become mine, so I contacted them, but found only more disapproval. After we met, they immediately asked about my background. Most of them had turned eighteen and were marriageminded. My responses caused them to question me even further. Oh No! I thought to myself, here I go again. Am I ever going to be accepted into this Krakow Bais Yaakov crowd? However, they were acting like typical girls and I realized they didn’t dislike me. They simply had to become comfortable with someone so different. They told me small secrets about how they sometimes bent the norms a little bit themselves. Nothing they did was of any serious importance. It was just their way of saying: “Okay, Lola, we will take you at your word and you’ll take us at ours.” Our divergent personalities and styles met and adjusted to each other and our norms converged. Finally, I had friends and a life in Krakow.

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When I became a permanent Krakow resident and not just a ten-yearold visitor, I was more than willing to enroll in a public high school, as I had in Munkach. However my parents and grandparents in Poland wouldn’t hear of it. By now I was old enough to attend one of the schools started by Sarah Schenirer. One major impediment remained for me. I might have been sophisticated and adept in other languages, but I did not meet the Hebrew language qualifications for admission. I knew only a limited sort of Hebrew: the blessings and prayers that my Munkach belfer had taught me. I could struggle through a smattering of other Hebrew words but without understanding much (this was exactly what Sarah Schenirer sought to change among girls!) What would become of my educational development? I think everybody in the family was a bit perplexed about what to do with me. While I did love to read and to learn, there was no question my talents and true vocation resided in the world of art. I “killed time” with Polish library books, trying to further my comprehension of the language. I read them between mornings at the corset shop and evenings of crocheting. My Polish was getting better and better, but it wasn’t really enough to satisfy me. Nor did it serve to replace companionship for a girl so homesick for the familiar setting in Munkach. Then I discovered B’nos, which was the after-school organization of the Bais Yaakov movement. I fell in love with it. Their activities held my attention and made me happy again. We divided ourselves into groups, each with a leader who attended the seminary. My group leader was Reina Finkelstein, and one of the other participants was Peszka Mandelkern (subsequently Pearl Benisch), who wrote the best-selling Holocaust memoir, “Vanquish the Dragon.” This is when I became officially known as Lola, the Polish version of Leiku. I had girlfriends now as well. My two best friends were older girls, who were both named Lola. Lola Scheindorf crocheted pilot caps and earmuffs to earn enough money to purchase a proper marriage trousseau. She was extremely disciplined; she set herself a quota each day and would not stop until she had reached it. Finally I figured out that despite her strict regimen, she was never going to have a moment of life as a girl if someone didn’t rescue her. Happily, I pitched in, and then we had some fun together. The other Lola was from the Petzenbaum family. She was a wholesome, dark-haired girl, whose family owned a furniture store. We were the Lola Triplets. Even though we were not fullfledged Bais Yaakov students, as B’nos

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Finding Meaning In Misfortune Recently I have been experiencing very serious health and financial issues. I do believe that G-d is sending me a message, but I have no way of knowing what it is. Is there a way to determine what He is trying to tell me? If not, what’s the point? The Rabbi Responds: It was truly inspiring to read your letter. To see how you choose to deal with difficulty and suffering is nothing less than remarkable. Instead of feeling hopelessness and giving into despair, you look for meaning in your struggles and are attempting to turn adversity into opportunity. You have already taken the first, formidable, and most critical step: recognizing that all that befalls a man is decreed by G-d and not random mischance. This recognition itself is ironically a source of relief, for if one knows that every aspect of his life is controlled by a merciful, loving, and wise Father, he realizes that as difficult as things may seem, all that transpires to him is ultimately in his best interest. (See Psalms 23:4). Why does G-d make you suffer? Is He sending you a message? There are many reasons why G-d can bring difficulty upon a person; most are beyond the human ability to comprehend. That does not mean that He isn’t sending you a relevant message. In fact, Maimonides refers to someone who experiences misfortune and chooses to ignore G-d’s communication by attributing his troubles to coincidental hard knocks, as a “cruel person” because he is being cruel to himself and to G-d. G-d caused him misfortune for a constructive purpose, and he made his suffering meaningless. What could be crueler? In the days of yore, things were much simpler. If a person fell ill, instead of making an appointment with his doctor, he made an appointment

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with his prophet, who would decipher G-d’s message, and the patient would become penitent, and then cured. Today, we no longer have prophets among us. Yet, the Talmud tells us that one who experiences adversity should engage in self-introspection. Maimonides writes (Hil. Teshuva 6:5) that beside the prophets, G-d endowed mankind with a natural moral compass, the ability to be intellectually honest, and understand his own shortcomings. Still, G-d does not, and cannot, expect us to know with certainty why calamities occur. He only expects us to use our hearts and minds to heed his words to the best of our finite ability. Everyone has weaknesses and areas they can improve upon. Committing to taking even a small step towards making yourself a better person shows that you are trying. There are also instances when the primary reason for one’s suffering is not a call to repent, as there are countless possibilities behind G-d’s sometimes mysterious ways. We don’t know the answer to the timeless question of why the righteous suffer. But as we know that G-d is omnipotent, omniscient, and has unconditional love for us, we can strive to reach the faith of those who aren’t bothered by the question. All the best,  Yehoshua Levy

Please note, the information written above is not meant as a rabbinic ruling. If you have any questions, please consult your rabbinic authority for clarification. Yehoshua Levy, a teacher of Torah, is a writer and lecturer who dares to think outside the box to bring his thought-provoking insights and facts to his readers. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at

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013 is here, and after months of learn that determined patients can literpost-election sound and fury, we ally will themselves to delay death past took a quick “test leap” off the important dates like birthdays, holidays, dreaded “fiscal cliff.” Look out below! and anniversaries. Hospitals saw death By this point, we’re all familiar with rates drop significantly in the last week the income tax consequences of the cliff. of 1999, only to increase by similar The Bush tax cuts expired, as scheduled, amounts in the first week of 2000. That on December 31, sending everyone’s suggests that patients were determined taxes up. The 2% payroll tax holiday ex- to catch at least a peek at the new milpired at the same time, with no hope of lennium. resuscitation. The Alternative Minimum A similar but happier phenomenon Tax (AMT), which up until this week can occur when it comes to giving birth. had never been indexed for inflation, still In 2004, the Australian government hadn’t been “patched” for 2012, mean- gave taxpayers a $3,000 new baby boing it would catch nus, starting on 27 million more July 1. A 2009 Americans in its study found that For individuals dying claws. There are as many as 1,000 within two weeks even new Medibirths were decare taxes and a layed to take adof a tax reform, 3.8% “unearned vantage of that income Medicare windfall. a $10,000 change contribution” on But dying earin estate taxes earned income ly to save estate and investment intaxes? Really . . . ? increased the chance come for individuWell, believe als earning over it or not, yes. of dying in the low$200,000 and joint A 2003 study tax period by 1.6%. filers earning over published in the $250,000. (Okay, The Review of those new MediEconomics and care taxes aren’t Statistics by two technically part of the “fiscal cliff” – but economics professors asked if changes they don’t give upper-income earners in estate tax rates affected mortality much reason to cheer 2013, either!) rates – and found that for individuals dyBut the fiscal cliff also threatened ing within two weeks of a tax reform, a some dramatic estate tax changes as $10,000 change in estate taxes increased well. Taxpayers dying on December the chance of dying in the low-tax pe31 could leave a tax-free $5.12 million riod by 1.6%. This is hardly surprising “unified credit” to their heirs, and pay when living longer let people claim the a 35% rate on any balance above that savings. But the authors even found eviamount. On January 1, however, that dence of people dying sooner to avoid unified credit shrank to just $1 million the increases. (That’s especially ironic – and the tax itself jumped to 55%. Die considering that, by definition, nobody on December 31 with a $3 million estate gets to enjoy saving tax on their own esand owe Uncle Sam nothing. Die just tate!) one day later, and pay a $1.1 million tax. We’ve said all along that proactive That’s one awfully expensive day! planning is the real key to paying less Of course, Washington spent New tax. And smart tax planning lets you pay Year’s Day scrambling its way back less and even live to enjoy it! So, we’re from the cliff. As we now know, we’ll glad that you’re reading these words, keep the Bush tax rates on incomes up to and we promise we’re here to answer all $400,000 ($450,000 for joint filers) and your questions on the “American Taxget a permanent AMT fix. As for estate payer Relief Act of 2012”! taxes, the unified credit stays the same and the rate climbs to 40%. So, here’s an awkward question, Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in moot as it now may be. With such large practice for over 30 years in Queens, NY. estate taxes at stake, would millionaires He welcomes your comments and can be choose to die early to spare their heirs reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@ the risk of higher taxes? You probably won’t be shocked to


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o I’m at this Bar Mitzvah and a rabbi gets called up to speak. He’s the last one on the program. He starts off by sharing with us that now he has now been put in a tough spot. He has been warned… “Don’t ever get caught between a Jew and his dessert.” You know that’s probably why many Jews get frustrated with life. It’s the place a Jew gets caught between being born and his ultimate dessert. Why are we Jews so hung up with food? And is it a good thing? Honestly—I think it is! I mean think about it: no one ever got pulled over for a D.W.E. (Driving While Eating). D.W.I’s on the other hand, are lethal and they’d get you arrested. Driving while texting is considered a major danger and you’d get ticketed and fined. Driving without a seatbelt gets you a fine of $50. But, eat, gazinta heit, the whole trip driving, say, all the way to Florida and no one will say a word. That is, unless you eat so much that you can’t get your seatbelt around you, then you’re in trouble—at least to the tune of $50. A baby is born, we eat. People get engaged, we eat. People get married, we eat. Shabbos is a 15-hour eating marathon: • Breakfast • Kiddush club • Kiddush • Lunch • Shabbos Party • Shalosh Seudot • Melava Malka • Out with friends • Midnight snack • And that all-important 1am Dunkin’ Donut run! The only time we don’t eat is on a fast day. But then we spend the whole day thinking of what we’re going to eat when the fast is over. Still, you’ve got to be impressed with us. Some people are getting rowdy, acting nuts, throwing furniture, all because of what they drank. Or some people spend their time preoccupied

with inappropriate items. They wind up causing massive tragedies. But the worst thing we find a Jew doing is eating so much chulent or kugel on Saturday afternoon that he fails to drag himself up to bed and instead commandeers the whole living room couch for himself. I know people are not always happy to be burdened with this preoccupation. They keep dieting and visiting nutritionists, but that’s still a heck of a lot better than visiting bars or shooting ranges. We are obsessed with eating, but the worst thing anyone ever did with food is throw a tomato at a bad performer. And I wouldn’t be surprised if the person on stage didn’t think, “You couldn’t toss in a little salad dressing with that?!” I’m not trying to make fun of us. I’m actually saying even our vices are pretty mild. We are a people who try not to hurt others or be disruptive. We want to have a good time but not at the other person’s expense. In fact, we want everyone to join in and have a good time, too! I think one of the most famous lines we all identify with a warm Yiddishe Momma saying is “Ess, ess mein kind!” (eat my child). Food was always the answer to good health! After all, I ask you what’s been the most popular cure for what ails you—even till this day? It needs no FDA approval, has no toxicity, yet it’s certified to make you feel good every time! Absolutely, the good, old, dependable chicken soup! Just think of some popular sayings: “The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.” “Food for thought.” “It takes calories to burn calories.” Whether you’re getting into shape, trying to grow intellectually, or looking for a lifemate, there is a saying that encourages eating. We are certainly onto something! Even when G-d promised us a return to our homeland… He promised us a Land of Milk and Honey!

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his winter has turned out to be one of the worst seasons for colds and flu, with a recordbreaking n u m b e r of people reporting f l u - l i k e symptoms and an unusually great volume of people being hospitalized due to the flu. Taking precautionary measures like getting the flu shot, washing your

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foods that can aid in prevention or help decrease the symptoms of the flu/cold. Try these tasty foods and you just may

as nature’s penicillin, this oldie but goodie works for several reasons. Hot chicken soup helps clear clogged airways by thinning the mucus thus enabling you to blow your nose and the bacteria within. The broth also contains phytochemicals from the vegetables that have been steeping in it. Hot and Spicy Foods: These were recently mentioned in my appetite suppressant article, and have the added bonus of easing congestion. Use spicy sauces or spices when cooking to give your food that extra zip. Garlic: It contains a phytochemical called allicin, which can kill bacteria. A British study found that people taking allicin supplements suffered 46% fewer colds and recovered faster from the ones they did get. Garlic is also believed to act as an antioxidant and destroy free radicals. Experts recommend cooking with at least 2 fresh cloves a day. Mushrooms: These veggies usually get overlooked as a health food but they contain two weapons you can use to fight the flu: one is selenium, which helps white blood cells produce cytokines that clear sick-

ness, and second is beta glucan, which help support the immune system by activating cells that find and destroy infections. Tea: Researchers at Harvard University found that drinking 5 cups of black tea a day quadrupled the body’s immune system, probably because of the theanine. Tea also contains catechins which clean up the free radicals n your body. Drink one to three cups of black, green, or white tea every day. Vitamin C sources: Citrus fruits like oranges and grapefruits, strawberries and pineapple can help you fight/ prevent colds and the flu. Ginger: Many people find that fresh ginger root helps treat the coughing and fever that often accompany a cold or flu. Try making a ginger tea: pour a cup of boiling hot water over 2 tablespoons of freshly grated ginger and let it steep for 5-10 minutes. Yogurt: Probiotics, which is the friendly bacteria found in yogurt, help reduce cold and flu symptoms. When buying yogurt look for the “Live and Active Cultures” label. A crucial preventive measure is to keep your immune system strong by eating three meals a day and getting enough sleep. When your immune system is compromised, you are more susceptible to getting sick. Whether you are well or sick, incorporating these foods into your diet will be the tools that will aid you in your fight back to good health. Wishing you a happy and healthy winter!

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owa—the land of rolling hills and rushing rivers—is bushels, barrels and acres of fun. The relaxing and peaceful nature of the land is apparent, and its residents are friendly and easy-going. In fact, Iowa has been named one of the safest states in which to live. But don’t be fooled by the calm spirit felt in Iowa. Iowans are hard-working and the state produces much of what you see in your food pantry. This mid-western state has been named the Food Capital of the world, as it grows many important staples for our world’s economy. A trip here will bring you back to nature and invigorate you with its old-school charm and refreshing appeal. Things You Won’t Want to Miss Des Moines As Iowa’s capital and largest city, Des Moines is a “mustsee” on a trip to this state. Plan on spending time here—there is so much to explore! Make sure to include the State Capitol, the Botanical Center, a relaxing stroll along Principal Riverwalk, and Terrace Hill, which is the official residence of the Governor of Iowa. Des Moines is also just a hop, skip and a jump to Adventureland in Altoona and the Living History Farms in Urbandale. Boys and dads alike will enjoy Trainland USA in Colfax and the Iowa Speedway in Newton. Iowa State Fair If you’re planning a visit to Iowa, make sure to stop in during the summer. The Iowa State Fair, which is held annually in August, is one of the largest state fairs in the country and is bushels of fun! This year’s Fair’s theme was “It’s Fairilicious!” and the residents here take their “Fair food” really seriously! The first State Fair was (appropriately) held in Fairfield in 1854, with a budget of just $323. Now over a million people visit the Fair and the Fairgrounds take up over 445 acres! People flock here to see the world famous Butter Cow, one of the world’s largest livestock shows, more than 50 foods-on-a-stick, and the Fair’s double Ferris wheel. There are contests throughout hailing the largest animals—the Big Boar, the Super Bull, the Largest Rabbit and the Heaviest Pigeon. And of course, no fair is complete without some wacky contests including monster arm wrestling, pie eating and pigeon rolling. It is also home to the world’s only Lawn Chair Toss competition. (I’d like to sign up for that one!) Reiman Gardens Located in Ames, Iowa, Reiman Gardens is a wonderful place to spend a beautiful spring day with the family. This

picturesque garden features 14 acres of outdoor gardens along with a tropical conservatory and a Butterfly Wing with more than 800 live, exotic butterflies in flight. There is a new garden theme every year and children will enjoy the Children’s Garden and special award-winning rose gardens. Swan Lake Park Located in Carroll County, Swan Lake Park is home to 550 acres of nature. The park offers picnicking, camping areas, canoeing, a 100-acre lake, a nature center, a petting zoo and scenic miles of trail to explore. For those who love to fish, boat or go horseback riding, the time to visit is in the summer. Ice fishing, cross country skiing and snowmobiling are popular winter activities. Crystal Lake Cave A tour of the Crystal Lake Cave showcases stalagmites and stalactites glittering in the dark. A visit here is fun for everyone—just remember, the cave is only open from May to October, so plan your trip accordingly. Living Tree Museum A tree museum is certainly unique—it’s an open-air museum that features “descendants” of famous trees. Located in Storm Lake City Park, the museum plants seedlings and cuttings of trees that are documented to be associated with famous people or events, such as Johnny Appleseed and Henry Wadsworth Longfellow. Whether you’re a fan of trees or not, a trip here is relaxing as you stroll along the yards of foliage.

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