Five Towns Jewish Home 05.29.25

Dear Readers,

The last mitzvah in the Torah is the obligation for every person to write a Sefer Torah for themselves. The words that the Torah uses to refer to the writing of a Sefer Torah is “ha’shira ha’zos, this song.” The Torah, it seems, is compared to music. Just like a beautiful song is made up of different, intricate melodies and harmonies, so, too, is the Torah complex and multi-layered with many facets of understanding beneath the surface.

The Jewish nation is one of many layers, too. Walk into a gathering of Jews, and you’ll see all different types of head coverings – shtreimels, knitted kippahs, velvet yarmulkes, baseball caps… And even when the head coverings are the same, the minhagim and the nuances in each person’s personal path in Yiddishkeit vary in so many ways.

Perhaps that’s one of the reasons why the Torah is so complex. It was given to the Jewish nation, tailor-made for us. A onesize-fits-all approach wouldn’t fit a nation so diverse and so complex.

So much of the Torah highlights our differences. There are arguments about which way is correct and questions about how we come to the conclusion that these ways are correct. There are healthy back-and-forth disputes that demonstrate the differences of thinking from respected authorities of Torah.

As a nation, we question, we examine, we probe – all because we want to understand and appreciate the Gift that we received three millennia ago.

Rabbi Lord Jonathan Sacks, z”l, notes that because the Torah encourages deep understanding and allows for discussion and questions, the Torah remains for us a living, breathing blueprint for our lives today.

“The Judaism of Torah, emunah and halacha continues to do what it has done for so long: to defeat the law of entropy that states, all systems lose energy over time. Not Judaism,” he says. “Where you find argument, there you will find passion.”

And yet, when we received the Torah, we famously were united with one heart – “k’ish echad b’lev echad.” All our differences and disparities didn’t disappear. But we were aware that we each played a role in this majestic nation and that each of our roles was unique, special, and beautiful in their own way.

Like a brilliant harmony, we achieved a divine balance of melodies where each note complemented the other to bring our song to a magnificent crescendo.

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To My Loyal Customers in the Five Towns, Far Rockaway, and Our Beloved Yeshivot,

After 33 wonderful years, it is with heartfelt regret that I announce the closing of Pizza Pious, due to the sale of our building.

Thank you for your unwavering support, loyalty, and friendship over the decades. It has been an honor and a true joy to serve this incredible community.

Our final day of operation will be June 22, 2025.

With deepest gratitude, Leo Shalamoff

Dear Editor,

We moved to Woodmere in 2000, way back when the only pizza shops were on Central Avenue. It was a pain for my parents to beat the crowds, find seating, and worry about enough quarters in the meter all for a slice and some fries.

Having davened at Young Israel of Hewlett in those days, Leo Shalamoff would occasionally cater kiddush on Shabbos with scrumptious falafel balls, Mediterranean platters of matbucha, babaganush, hummus, savory soups, baked ziti, lasgana, rice and beans, and his famous zeppolis. Hungry mispallelim would leave stuffed.

Growing up, Sundays, vacation days, and even outings with friends meant one place only: Pizza Pious. My mother introduced me to my go-to stuffed vegetable slice. Just about every siyum at South

Shore Yeshiva meant ordering from Leo with boxes of pies and cans of Coke. We even ordered pies from him for birthday and Chanukah parties.

Pizza Pious was one of Woodmere’s only kosher eateries for the bulk of my time here. He was always reasonably priced, the pizzeria was a chilled place to enjoy a slice and some zeppolis, and there was no meter to feed. The highlight was when he would play Elmo’s pizza song for the kids.

I was shattered to hear just now that after 30+ years serving the community, he will shut his doors; I urge anyone who is in the area to please support him during his final days. His last day is June 22.

A huge thank you to Leo for all the memories, delicious food, and satisfied tummies!

Chaim Feldman

Dear Editor,

This past Sunday, I was proud to march in the Lawrence-Cedarhurst Memorial Day Parade for the third consecutive year. And for the third consecutive year I was disappointed with the turnout from our community. The short parade route was sparsely populated with members of our community and so was the ceremony held in Cedarhurst Park. Vanishingly few schools, shuls, and community organizations felt it was important enough to be represented there. Frankly, I find it embarrassing that the Five Towns

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can’t muster a stronger showing to honor the men and women that died defending the nation that has granted us the rights, opportunities, and protections that we all enjoy. We live in a true “malchus shel chesed,” and it’s about time we as a community showed a bit more hakaros hatov.

At last week’s Salute to Israel Day Parade our community’s schools, shuls, and other organizations made the trip to Manhattan and showed up in huge numbers. I don’t understand why we can’t muster even a small fraction of that energy to honor those that paid the ultimate price for freedom and democracy in the United States. At a time where Jewish people’s patriotism and loyalties are being questioned across the political spectrum, we need to show up more than ever to show our love and appreciation for this country.

Avrami Szlafrok Woodmere,

NY

Dear Editor,

Due to a strange series of events, I chanced upon a kever. It was the kever of Ida Davidowitz at Old Montefiore Cemetary (Springfield Blvd.)

Her kever reads only as Eige Bas Ezriel (spelled with an aleph). It seems that she was a 38-year-old childless women, at the time of her death, and her matzeivah reads in Yiddish, “Beloved people, I am very alone here, I didn’t leave behind any children. Please grant me as well a candle, and beg for my neshama. In this zechus, may Hashem help you, you should live to see children and grandchildren in their old age with all good.”

I believe her kever is Gate 360/e, block 17, row 006R Grave 3 in the Viznitz chelka.

I hope you are able to visit this kever and grant her request, as her yarzheit approaches (Tes Sivan). May it be a zechus for you and your family.

Kindly circulate this to others who are in need of their own yeshuos. You may not need to make the trek to all corners of the world to beseech various tzaddikim and tzidkanios. You may find the answer right here.

With much hatzlacha, L.M.

Dear Editor, Shavuos seems to have come upon really quickly this year (although it’s the same amount of time between Pesach and Shavuos every year). Even though it’s just a few days before yom tov, you still have time – do it now! – to invite guests. There are many people who did not have meals for yom tov and would appreciate an invite.

Think of the people in shul who daven around you: the single mother – with and without kids, the not-yet-married woman and man, the older couple whose children are married and live out of state, the family on your block whose wife could use a break, the baal teshuva who doesn’t have family they could go to…

Open your heart and your home. In the zechus of our unity – k’ish echad b’lev echad – may we merit to see the geulah b’karov

Shmuel Assouline

Dear Editor,

I recently returned from Israel and wanted to share a very disappointing experience.

One evening around 9:30 PM, after a long day out, I was waiting for a bus to take me to my destination. At the stop, there were at least 50 seminary girls also waiting. When the bus — a long, triple caterpillar one — finally arrived, the girls boarded. By the time I got on, every seat was taken.

To my surprise and dismay, not a single girl offered me a seat. I am past retirement age, and the ride was uncomfortable, to say the least.

If children today are being overprotected and overly indulged at home and throughout their schooling, then perhaps the seminaries — where parents are paying upwards of $40,000 a year — should be emphasizing not just academics, but also basic decency and core Torah values, such as standing up for elders.

These are not just manners — they’re middos. Teaching respect and responsibility should be a cornerstone of any serious educational program. If the seminaries made this a greater focus, perhaps students would leave not only more knowledgeable, but also more considerate, mature, and ready to embrace their future roles with empathy and awareness.

A Senior

Liverpool Car Ramming

On Monday, a 53-year-old British man drove his car into a crowd in Liverpool, England, injuring almost 50 people, four of whom were children. One child and one adult sustained serious injuries, while 27 victims wound up in four hospitals, according to officials. Four of those who were injured are “very, very ill,” according to the mayor.

The crowd had been celebrating the Premier League victory of the Liverpool Football Club last month. Hundreds of thousands of people had assembled earlier on Monday. The car ramming took place at approximately 6 p.m. local time. Police and fire officials were on the parade route at the time of the attack.

The driver, who was in a dark color car, was from Liverpool. After his car stopped, he was detained. He is believed to have committed the car ramming alone. For now, the attack is not being treated as an act of terrorism, and the driver’s motive is currently unclear. British authorities only treat crimes as terrorism if they are committed to influence the government or intimidate the public and are done “for the purpose of advancing a political, religious, racial or ideological cause.”

“The scenes in Liverpool are appalling — my thoughts are with all those injured or affected. I want to thank the police and emergency services for their swift and ongoing response to this shocking incident. I’m being kept updated on developments and ask that we give the police the space they need to investigate,” said British Prime Minister Keir Starmer.

“Our thoughts and prayers are with those who have been affected by this serious incident. We will continue to offer our full support to the emergency services and local authorities who are dealing with this incident,” the city’s football club said in a statement.

Chemical Plant Explodes in China

On Tuesday, a large explosion occurred at a chemical plant in eastern China, sending towers of gray and orange smoke into the air and damaging windows in nearby buildings. Immediately, authorities launched a rescue operation. At least five people were killed in the blast.

The blast took place in the workshop of Shandong Youdao Chemical in Gaomi city, Shandong province, minutes before noon local time. A loud bang could be heard in buildings miles away.

One worker at a factory about 6 kilometers from the blast site said she heard a boom and felt a shake and “a strong gust of wind.”

“A strong gust of airflow scared me so much that I didn’t dare leave my office,” she said. “The doors and windows in (my) factory were damaged… The airflow rushed in through the window, and if I had been a bit closer, it might have thrown me against the wall.”

Shandong Youdao Chemical is owned by Himile Group. Founded in August 2019, Shandong Youdao Chemical occupies more than 46 hectares of land in the Gaomi Renhe chemical park and employs more than 300 people. It develops, produces and sells pesticides, pharmaceuticals and chemical intermediates, according to its website.

In 2015, a series of blasts at a chemical warehouse in the northeastern city of Tianjin killed more than 100 people and sent toxic fumes into the air.

Sudan Hit with Cholera

Sudan, suffering from internal strife, is now “on the brink” of a public health disaster as cholera and other deadly diseases spread, the International Rescue Committee (IRC) has warned.

In just one week, Sudan’s Health Ministry recorded that 172 people died due to a cholera outbreak. Many of those deaths

are in Khartoum state.

According to local doctors, drone attacks have caused power outages at water purification stations, which has left people with no choice but to use unclean water.

IRC country director for Sudan Eatizaz Yousif noted that the civil war – now in its third year – “is fueling the resurgence of cholera.”

Additionally, vaccine coverage against the disease is very low.

Doctors Without Borders medical coordinator Slaymen Ammar said that “the conflict has clearly compromised basic infrastructure.” The conflict has led to the absence of healthcare in many parts of the capital. Many health workers have left the country in fear for their lives.

As many as 500 cases of cholera were reported in just one day in the past week in Khartoum. Other cities have reported cases as well.

Most people with cholera have mild symptoms or none at all. However, the disease can be fatal if it causes severe diarrhea, requiring antibiotics and IV fluids for treatment, according to the World Health Organization.

More than 150,000 people have been killed during Sudan’s conflict, which began over two years ago when Sudan’s army and the RSF began a vicious struggle for power.

Millions have been forced from their homes. The conflict has plunged the country into what the UN calls the world’s worst humanitarian crisis.

Elections in Venezuela

Venezuela’s electoral council, stacked with officials loyal to the autocrat Nicolás Maduro, claimed late Sunday that his

party had won an overwhelming victory in regional and legislative elections. No independent vote monitors were present, and critics called the election a performance designed to rubber-stamp a government approved by Maduro.

The results, announced on state television and presented without evidence, stripped the opposition of some of the last few positions it held, including the governor’s seat of Zulia, the country’s most-populous state and the heart of its oil wealth.

Despite near-empty streets and polling places, the electoral council claimed that turnout was higher than 40%. The electoral council did not post the results online, as it had done in elections before 2024.

Benigno Alarcón, a political scientist with the Andrés Bello Catholic University in Caracas, said the vote lacked the minimum requirements to count as democratic.

The announcement comes less than a year after a presidential election in which Maduro also claimed victory, despite a vote count that showed that he had lost decisively to his opponent, Edmundo González. That tally was found to be accurate by the Carter Center, an independent monitoring group, which said Maduro’s claim was a “falsification.”

Speaking on state television Sunday night, the vice president of the electoral body, Carlos Quintero, said that an alliance of parties that support Maduro had won more than 80% of votes cast for legislative seats. The same coalition had won governors’ seats in 22 of the country’s 23 states, Quintero said.

Previously, four states had been held by governors not aligned with the government. Now, just one, Cojedes, in central Venezuela, will be controlled by a dissenting voice.

The voting took place amid a bitter fight among opposition leaders about whether to participate in the vote.

The country’s most prominent opposition leader, María Corina Machado, a former legislator who had backed González in the presidential race last year, had called for people to abstain, saying that the government should recognize the result of the July 2024 election.

But a cluster of others, including twotime presidential candidate Henrique Capriles, called for candidates to run and people to cast ballots, saying that the election — even if it was ultimately stolen — could be used to rally and energize the opposition for the next fight.

In the end, abstention — or at least disillusionment — appeared to win. (© The New York Times)

King Charles Heads to Canada

On Monday, Britain’s King Charles III arrived in Canada for his first visit as its head of state, where he carried out a highly-symbolic trip seen by many as a show of support for Ottawa.

Charles, 76, was in Canada for two days with his wife, Queen Camilla. He delivered a speech in Canada’s parliament and celebrated the country’s cultural heritage and diversity.

The King was met at the airport in Ottawa by dignitaries, including Canada’s new prime minister, Mark Carney, and the country’s first indigenous governor general, Mary Simon, who is the king’s representative in Canada.

Carney, who was elected on an anti-Trump platform in April, asked the King to visit shortly after he became leader of the Liberal political party. At the time, Trump had imposed tariffs on Canada and was suggesting that the U.S. annex Canada as its 51st state.

In a statement, Carney said the King’s visit was an historic honor that matches the weight of the times.

“It speaks to our enduring tradition and friendship, to the vitality of our constitutional monarchy and our distinct identity, and to the historic ties that crises only fortify,” Carney said.

The King attended the State Opening of Parliament on Tuesday, where he delivered the ceremonial Speech from the Throne to the Senate chamber. The address marks only the second time in Canadian history that the reigning sovereign has opened parliament and the third time that the British monarch has delivered the Speech from the Throne.

During his throne speech, Charles said, “Every time I come to Canada, a little more of Canada seeps into my bloodstream and straight to my heart.” This is his 20th visit to Canada, although it’s his first visit as king.

He added that he always had the “greatest admiration” for Canada’s “unique identity” for its “bravery and sacrifice in defense of national values,” and the “diversity and kindness of Canadians.”

As tensions have been rising between Canada and the U.S., Charles stated that by staying true to Canadian values, Canada can “build new alliances and a new economy that serves all Canadians.”

He added that the relationship between Canada and the U.S. is “rooted in mutual respect and founded on common interests, to deliver transformational benefits for both sovereign nations.”

The Canadian government is also working to strengthen its relationships

with “reliable” trading partners around the world, the King said, adding that it is “recognizing that Canada has what the world needs and the values the world respects.”

Arrests in Ship Mishap in N. Korea

A recent major accident involving the launch of a new warship that took place in front of a large crowd was a huge em-

arrested the chief engineer of the Chongjin Shipyard among others, state KCNA news agency reported on Sunday.

Satellite imagery shows the warship, covered in blue tarps, lying on its side, with the stern swung out into the harbor, but the bow remaining on the side slipway, according to the U.S.-based Center for Strategic and International Studies.

Kim has ordered the ship restored before a ruling party meeting in June. KCNA said the rehabilitation plan was pushing ahead.

Against U.S. military buildup in the region, North Korea’s armed forces “will thoroughly contain and control all sorts of military threats from the enemy countries,” KCNA said in a separate dispatch citing the policy chief at the defense ministry.

EU Tariffs Postponed

On Sunday, President Donald Trump announced that he had agreed to provide an extension on a proposed 50% tariff on imports from the European Union. Trump had originally said the tariffs will go into effect on June 1.

barrassment for leader Kim Jong Un and the North Korean nation. As such, those responsible for the accident are being rounded up and punished.

The failed launch that crippled the 5,000-ton warship was witnessed by leader Kim Jong Un at the northeastern port of Chongjin. Kim said the accident damaged the country’s dignity and vowed to punish those found responsible.

As the investigation into the case intensified, law enforcement authorities

In a Truth Social post, Trump said he received a call from European Commission President Ursula Von der Leyen requesting an extension on the June 1 tariff hike.

“I agreed to the extension — July 9, 2025 — it was my privilege to do so,” Trump wrote. “The Commission President said that talks will begin rapidly. Thank you for your attention to this matter!”

Von der Leyen said on X that she had a “good call” with Trump and that Europe is “ready to advance talks swiftly and decisively.”

On Friday, Trump threatened to impose a 50% tariff on imports from the European Union amid ongoing trade negotiations.

“Their powerful Trade Barriers, Vat Taxes, ridiculous Corporate Penalties, Non-Monetary Trade Barriers, Monetary Manipulations, unfair and unjustified lawsuits against Americans Companies, and more, have led to a Trade Deficit with the U.S. of more than $250,000,000 a year, a number which is totally unacceptable,” Trump said. “Therefore, I am recommending a straight 50% Tariff on the European Union, starting on June 1, 2025.”

The EU tariff threat came after Vice President JD Vance met with von der Leyen and Italian Prime Minister Giorgia Meloni on May 18.

Earlier in the week, U.S. Treasury Secretary Scott Bessent said President Donald Trump is trying to “light a fire” under the European Union.

“I would hope that this would light a fire under the EU, because... I’ve said before, [the] EU has a collective action problem here,” Bessent said on “America’s Newsroom.” “It’s 27 countries, but they’re being represented by this one group in Brussels. So some of the feedback that I’ve been getting is that the un-

derlying countries don’t even know what the EU is negotiating on their behalf.”

Denmark to Raise Retirement Age

Want to retire? Don’t move to Denmark. The country is set to have the highest retirement age in Europe after its parliament adopted a law raising it to 70 by 2040.

Since 2006, Denmark has tied the official retirement age to life expectancy and has revised it every five years. It is currently 67 but will rise to 68 in 2030 and to 69 in 2035.

The retirement age at 70 will apply to all people born after December 31, 1970.

The new law passed on Thursday with 81 votes for and 21 votes against.

Last year, Social Democrat Prime

Minister Mette Frederiksen said the sliding scale principle would eventually be renegotiated.

“We no longer believe that the retirement age should be increased automatically,” she said, adding that in her party’s eyes “you can’t just keep saying that people have to work a year longer.”

Protests backed by trade unions against the retirement age increase took place in Copenhagen over the last few weeks as many workers rail against the increases in retirement age.

Ahead of Thursday’s vote, Jesper Ettrup Rasmussen, the chairman of a Danish trade union confederation, said the proposal to increase the retirement age was “completely unfair.”

“Denmark has a healthy economy and yet the EU’s highest retirement age,” he said. “A higher retirement age means that [people will] lose the right to a dignified senior life.”

In Europe, other countries offer different ages for retirement. For instance, in Sweden, the earliest age individuals can start to claim pension benefits is 63. The standard pension age in Italy is 67, although as in the case of Denmark, this is also subject to adjustments based on life expectancy estimates and may increase in 2026.

In the UK, people born between October 6, 1954 and April 5, 1960 start receiving their pension at the age of 66. But for people born after this date, the state pension age will increase gradually.

In France, a law was passed in 2023 that raised the retirement age from 62 to 64. The highly unpopular change sparked protests and riots and had to be pushed through parliament by President Emmanuel Macron without a vote.

In the U.S., the full retirement age for Social Security benefits is gradually increasing. For those born in 1960 or later, the full retirement age is 67, although you can start receiving partial payment from the age of 62. Those born between 1955 and 1959 have a full retirement age between 66 and 67. Individuals born in 1954 or earlier have a full retirement age of 66.

recounted the torture he endured during his time in Hamas captivity while speaking to the Bar Association conference on Sunday.

Wenkert, now 24 years old, was intentionally starved, with his captors, for two or three weeks straight, only giving him half a pita a day to eat. After Israel’s ground campaign expanded to Rafah, Hamas terrorists began torturing Wenkert for fun.

“One of them brought insect repellent, stood me up at the end of the corridor, and sprayed me in the face, with my eyes open,” he recounted. “He also decided to beat me with an iron rod.”

For six and a half months, Wenkert lived in isolation, with terrorists approaching him “once in a while.” About 80 days after he was taken hostage, his captors relocated him from one tunnel to another tunnel, which he says was a “dark room with a little lamp.” The tunnel he mostly stayed in had a hole he could use to go to the bathroom and was “about 90 centimeters (35 inches) wide, and about 9-10 meters (29-32 feet) long.”

“I was on a small mattress, with my back against the wall. I was there for 420 days, I think,” Wenkert said.

“They tried to drive me crazy — to damage my sense of time,” he said. “When they put down food for me, they told me to turn around, so they could leave. Bathing was once in 50 days, with a little bottle. Only after nine and a half months did I bathe for real.”

On June 13, 2024, Evyatar David and Guy Gilboa-Dalal, two hostages who have yet to be freed, joined Wenkert in the tunnel.

Wenkert was taken hostage by Hamas on October 7, 2023, at the Supernova music festival. Around 40 others were kidnapped from the festival, while 360 others were killed. Wenkert was finally brought back home on February 22, 2025, after spending more than 500 days in Hamas’ hands in Gaza.

Former Hostage Recounts Torture

Omer Wenkert, who survived 505 days of being held hostage by Hamas,

Hamas Executes Gazan Looters

30 Monday for allegedly stealing from arriving aid trucks last week and “causing the death of members of a force tasked with securing aid trucks.”

The terrorist organization is now searching for seven others suspected of stealing aid, according to a Hamas-controlled umbrella group that calls itself the “Palestinian Resistance.”

Yasser Abu Shabab, a large clan leader in Rafah and Hamas’ opponent, announced he was establishing an armed force to ensure aid isn’t stolen. Hamas has alleged that, in months past, Abu Shabab himself stole aid, an accusation he denies. Abu Shabab calls himself a “grassroots leader who stood up against corruption and looting,” though a Hamas security official branded him a “tool used by the Israeli occupation to fragment the Palestinian internal front.”

On Monday, Israel announced that the Gaza Humanitarian Foundation had started distributing aid to Gazans. The foundation is meant to deliver aid in a way that prevents Hamas from stealing it, as it generally does.

40 Years Since Operation Moses

On Monday, Yom Yerushalayim, thousands of Ethiopian Israelis gathered at Mount Herzl, where they commemorated the 40th anniversary of Operation Mo-

ses, which took place in 1984 and 1985. During the operation, the Jewish state rescued 8,000 “Beta Israel” community members from the embattled and famished country of Ethiopia and brought them to Israel.

During the annual ceremony, Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu and President Isaac Herzog spoke.

“Generations of Ethiopian Jews prayed and swore to return to Zion, to Jerusalem,” said Herzog. “They did not forget or lose hope during thousands of years of exile, hardship, longing and yearning. And when the opportunity came, they left their homes, their possessions, sometimes even part s of their families and set out on a difficult and dangerous journey that took a painful and heavy toll.”

“The code word for thousands of Jews who left their cities and villages was one word that said it all: Jerusalem,” Netanyahu declared at the ceremony. “This is a victory of faith, hope, and willpower. This is the victory of love for Jerusalem.”

In the early 1980s, thousands of Ethiopians traveled hundreds of miles on foot to Sudan, where they were put in refugee camps, with 4,000 of them dying from the journey or from starvation, disease, or violence. To rescue thousands of Ethiopian Jews, Israel secretly coordinated Operation Moses with the United States, the CIA, and many Jewish organizations. Israel also had to bribe Sudanese officials to help, since the Jewish state did not

have diplomatic relations with the Northeast African country. The operation took place from November 21, 1984, to January 5, 1985.

In Operation Joshua, which took place in March 1985, and Operation Solomon, which took place in 1991, Israeli officials rescued more than 14,000 people in the span of 36 hours.

Around 170,000 Ethiopian Jews currently live in Israel.

ple of a bright future together.”

Washington’s Metropolitan Police Department and the FBI are investigating the murders. The U.S. Attorney’s Office for the District of Columbia is prosecuting the alleged murderer.

Lischinsky, a German Christian, grew up in Nuremberg, Germany, and moved to Israel. He had served in the IDF. He was a research assistant in the political department at the Israeli Embassy. Milgrim had organized and worked with delegations. They were both known as peace-seeking bridge-builders, according to their colleagues.

2 Israeli Embassy Staffers Killed

Two Israeli embassy staffers, Yaron Lischinsky and Sarah Milgrim, were murdered on Wednesday night outside the Capital Jewish Museum in Washington, D.C., during an event. Lischinsky had planned on proposing to Milgrim the following week after their move to Jerusalem.

According to recent charges, the pair was repeatedly shot by Elias Rodriguez, who told police that he killed them “for Palestine. I did it for Gaza.” He has since been charged with two counts of first-degree murder and other charges, such as the murder of foreign officials. He allegedly shot the two staffers several times.

Security footage shows Rodriguez outside the museum, shooting the embassy workers in the back. From the scene of the murder, investigators found 21 empty shell cases and a 9mm handgun that matched a weapon bought by Rodriguez in 2020 in Illinois. Rodriguez declared and brought the gun on a flight from Chicago to Virginia.

“This brutal, antisemitic violence has no place in our country or anywhere in civilization,” said Pam Bondi, the U.S. Attorney General, who visited the site of the murder. “We will follow the facts and secure the most severe possible punishment for the perpetrator of this heinous crime, which robbed two wonderful young peo-

Before the murderer shot the two victims dead, he was kicked out of the event. He then waited outside for the embassy workers, where he killed them. Three other people escaped from the attack and were not hurt.

“The person who shot these two young people dead last night shouted, ‘Free, free Palestine.’ This was done in the name of a political agenda to eradicate the State of Israel,” noted Yechiel Leiter, Israel’s ambassador to the United States. “The State of Israel is now fighting a war on seven fronts. This is the eighth front in the war to demonize, to delegitimize, to eradicate the right of the State of Israel.”

Dan Bongino, the FBI’s deputy director, said officials were investigating the possibility that Rodriguez wrote and posted a manifesto on X called “Escalate For Gaza, Bring The War Home,” which legitimized attacks against Jews and Israelis.

Lischinsky, 30, was laid to rest on Sunday in the village of Beit Zayit, nestled in the wooded hills west of Jerusalem. Milgrim is to be buried in Kansas, where she grew up.

Sewage Boat Explodes in NYC

On Saturday morning, a boat that had been carrying raw sewage exploded at the North River Wastewater Resource Recovery Facility in West Harlem in New York City. Sadly, one person lost their life in the explosion: Chief Marine Diesel Engineer Raymond Feige, 59.

“Ray was a respected engineer and a steady, beloved colleague who will be deeply missed,” said DEP Commissioner Rohit T. Aggarwala. “For more than three decades, he worked at DEP in a job that is largely unseen by most New Yorkers but is critical to keeping the City running, and we are grateful for his service.”

The DEP said Feige started at the agency in 1991 in the marine section, where he remained for the rest of his decades-long career with a love for working

on the water and bonding with shipmates.

The city employee “brought deep technical expertise and unwavering dedication” to the city’s wastewater operations, the agency said.

Another employee who was injured in the explosion was brought to the hostpial.

The DEP said the explosion was caused by an accident on the boat, which is still under investigation.

A day after the order went out, U.S. District Court Judge Allison Burroughs issued a temporary restraining order, blocking the Trump administration’s order. Burroughs said Harvard proved it would “sustain immediate and irreparable injury” if the ban on international student enrollment is implemented. However, the restraining order will expire after around a week, after which the ban will be implemented unless Burroughs issues a preliminary injunction. A preliminary injunction would stop the Trump administration from terminating Harvard’s certificate until the lawsuit is decided in court.

As such, for now, Harvard University can continue enrolling international students. On Thursday, Burroughs is expected to decide whether to issue a preliminary injunction after hearing arguments at a Boston federal courthouse.

Harvard University had 6,793 international students as of the 2024-2025 academic year. That is over a quarter of its student population.

If the Trump administration’s order goes into effect, Harvard would lose all its current international students starting next semester and be banned from enrolling them anymore. Thus, to keep their non-immigrant status in the United States, international students would have to transfer to another university, according to a letter sent by Homeland Security Secretary Kristi Noem to Harvard.

Harvard claims that the Trump administration’s move constitutes political retaliation. Research at the university would be affected, and Harvard would lose a substantial amount of money, as much of its tuition-paying students are foreign.

Harvard Int’l Student Ban

The Trump administration’s Department of Homeland Security recently moved to terminate Harvard University’s Student and Exchange Visitor Program certification, thus attempting to ban the Ivy League university from enrolling international students.

A Big, Beautiful Bill

The House passed a major bill, called the “One Big Beautiful Bill Act,” last Thursday evening in a 215-214 vote. Now, the Senate will have to vote on the bill. The bill, if signed into law, would accomplish several of President Donald Trump’s goals: revive Trump’s 2017 tax cuts; increase border, deportation, and national defense funding; create Medicaid reforms, including work requirements;

do away with green energy tax incentives; increase the debt limit by $4 trillion; and eliminates taxes on tips and overtime.

Though it may not survive the Senate, the bill’s passing is a big victory for House Speaker Mike Johnson, who persuaded Republican lawmakers to vote for the bill.

“Today, the House has passed generational, truly nation-shaping legislation to reduce spending and permanently lower taxes for families and job-creators, secure the border, unleash American energy dominance, restore peace through strength and make government work more efficiently and effectively for all Americans,” Johnson declared.

House Minority Leader Hakeem Jeffries (D-N.Y.), House Minority Whip Katherine Clark (D-Mass.), and House Democratic Caucus Chair Pete Aguilar (D-Calif.) condemned the bill in a joint statement, asserting that it would take

healthcare and food assistance from millions in order to make the rich richer.

John Thune, the Senate majority leader, said he was considering making a few changes to the bill, including by making certain tax provisions permanent and lessening the legislation’s impact on Medicaid. Johnson has asked Thune to make any tweaks as minimal as possible.

Top Republican lawmakers said they aimed to put the bill into law by July 4. Congress has until mid-July to prevent a default, according to Treasury Department Secretary Scott Bessent.

Only two House Republicans voted against the bill: Kentucky Rep. Thomas Massie and Ohio Rep. Warren Davidson.

Maryland Rep. Andy Harris, the chair of the Freedom Caucus, voted “present,” while Arizona Rep. David Schweikert and New York Rep. Andrew Garbarino mistakenly missed the vote.

Former Police Chief Escapes Jail

Grant Hardin was the chief of police in Gateway, Arkansas, until it came to light that he was living a life of crime. He had worked for several law enforcement

agencies, including a community correction center in northwestern Arkansas, before he was sentenced to prison on murder and other charges.

On Sunday, Hardin, who had been sitting in jail on a 30-year sentence in the North Central Unit in Calico Rock, escaped through a controlled entryway wearing a fake law enforcement uniform. Now, he’s on the run as local authorities scramble to catch him.

“I don’t feel like he’s got a whole lot of choice but to get a vehicle, you know,” Brandon Long, the sheriff of Stone County, said. “And whether he just steals a vehicle or he takes someone hostage with the vehicle is our biggest fear, obviously.”

He is considered dangerous.

While in prison, according to state records, Hardin completed a course in anger management in 2019. He also completed a safety and training course in food handling earlier this year.

2 Inmates Still on the Run

Last week, 10 prisoners in a New Orleans jail managed to escape the facility by cutting a hole in the bathroom wall. Now, more than a week later, two inmates are still on the run.

On Monday, authorities captured three of the escapees: Lenton Vanburen, Leo Tate and Jermaine Donald. Tate and Donald were the first of the escaped inmates to be found outside Louisiana. They were arrested in Texas after what the Huntsville Police Department described as a high-speed chase involving multiple law enforcement agencies.

Antoine Massey and Derrick Groves have still not been found. Authorities say that both of them should be considered armed and dangerous.

This is not Massey’s first time escaping from prison. The 33-year-old has a history of escapes dating back to 2007, when he broke out of a New Orleans juvenile detention center after being arrested for armed robbery and aggravated assault. He was 15 when he and five other juveniles used metal shackles to shatter a window and escape the jail. He was on the run for more than two weeks before authorities found him in east New Orleans.

Two years later, Massey faced a charge of attempted simple escape in Orleans Parish. At 27, Massey and another inmate broke out of a detention center in northern Louisiana in broad daylight by cutting and slipping under a chain-link fence in the exercise yard, Chief James Mardis of the Morehouse Parish Sheriff’s Office said. The two men were believed to have been picked up by a vehicle with Texas tags that was seen in the area. Massey was caught in Texas later that day.

Massey has also twice cut off electronic ankle monitors. Court records from late 2023 alleged Massey had “tampered and/or removed the court-ordered GPS monitor.”

Derrick Groves is also on the run. He was being held at the New Orleans jail after being convicted near the end of last year in the killing of two people on Mardi Gras day in 2018. Groves was found to be one of the gunmen who opened fire with AK-47-style assault rifles “on what should have been a joyous Mardi Gras family gathering,” the district attorney’s office said.

As of Tuesday morning, it is believed that at least 13 people helped the 10 inmates escape from jail last week – providing assistance either before or after the May 16 jailbreak. The growing number of arrests provides new insight into just how elaborate and far-reaching the planned jailbreak may have been.

Sterling Williams, a maintenance worker who turned off the water to the toilet, is charged with aiding the escape. Massey purportedly threatened to shank Williams if he did not turn off the water, according to an affidavit, but Williams’ attorney later said that one of the jail’s deputies asked Williams to fix the toilet because it was overflowing.

Kennedy argues Williams was only doing his job and that jail officials are “trying to use him as a scapegoat to minimize their own embarrassment” over the breakout.

San Diego Plane Crash

Last Thursday, shortly before 4 a.m., a business jet hit a powerline around two miles from Montgomery Executive Airport and then crashed into a military housing community in San Diego, killing all six people on board.

Among those killed was Dave Shapiro, the co-founder of Sound Talent Group, a music agency, as well as two of his unnamed colleagues. According to Federal Aviation Administration records, Shapiro was the official owner of the jet, a Cessna 550 airplane. He had a pilot’s license.

There were people in the home that was hit by the plane. Thankfully, they successfully evacuated with help from neighbors. In the wake of the crash, debris and jet fuel rained down, igniting a number of vehicles.

The plane had left Teterboro, New Jersey, on Wednesday at 11:15 p.m., before making fuel stops in Wichita, Kansas. The jet is considered reliable. As such, the crash’s exact cause is unclear. While descending at 9,000 feet, the plane’s pilot asked air traffic controllers about the weather at Montgomery Gibbs Field. Since the Automated Surface Observing System was not working, the controller gave him the conditions of the Marine Corps Airfield, which was around 3 miles away. The controller said there would be visibility of half a mile and a cloud ceiling of 200 feet.

“They are part of a military community that makes up our city – proud partners of our community – and we will support them for as long as it takes to make sure that we get back to good here,” said Todd Gloria, the mayor of San Diego.

Bye-Bye Penny

By early 2026, the Treasury Department will stop producing pennies. Once the penny’s production is phased out, businesses are expected to round their prices to the nearest 5 cents, as there will not be enough pennies circulating.

In February, President Donald Trump

requested that the Treasury pause making pennies. The House and Senate have since introduced legislation to end the minting of pennies. The Treasury can pause the minting of new coins, but only Congress can permanently discontinue or eliminate coins.

After ending penny production, the United States Mint expects to save $56 million a year in reduced material costs. One penny costs almost 4 cents to mint. The government will also save more money after retiring some of the facilities it uses to produce pennies. Last year, the government lost over $85 million after minting around three billion pennies.

Americans will still be able to use whatever pennies remain for everyday transactions.

In 2012, Canada discontinued its penny. Decades ago, Australia and New Zealand did the same.

The U.S. Mint began producing pennies in 1792. Its design, size, and composition have changed over the years.

Rep. Charles Rangel Dies

On Monday, Charles Rangel, a former United States representative from Harlem, New York, passed away. He was 94.

Rangel, a Korean War veteran with a Purple Star and a Bronze Star, became a congressman in 1971. In 2006, he became the first African American chairman of the Ways and Means Committee. In 2010, the House investigated him on allegations of financial and fundraising misconduct, convicting him to censure him for 11 ethics violations. During that time, he stepped down as chair. In 2017, Rangel, one of the founders of the Congressional Black Caucus, retired from his House seat.

Rangel was a part of the Gang of Four, a group of powerful New York black politicians, along with David Dinkins, the first Black mayor of New York; Percy Sutton, the borough president of Manhattan; and Basil Paterson, the secretary of state of New York and deputy mayor. Rangel was the last surviving member of the Gang of Four.

After his passing, Rangel was praised by Rev. Al Sharpton, House Democratic Leader Hakeem Jeffries, and others.

Rangel is remembered for taking a strong stance against the Iraq War. He also encouraged Hillary Clinton, a former secretary of state, first lady, and presidential candidate, to run for Senate in 2000. Rangel’s name was used in Congress’s 1987 “Rangel Amendment,” which withheld foreign tax credits to U.S. companies that were investing in the South African apartheid regime.

When Rangel was younger, he dropped out of high school. With the G.I. Bill, he attended college and graduated from New York University and St. John’s University Law School.

10 Commandments in TX Classrooms

On Sunday, a key vote in the Texas legislature passed a requirement that all public school classrooms in the Lone Star State display the Ten Commandments.

Senate Bill 10 moved forward despite a federal court ruling that a similar Louisiana law violated a constitutionally required separation of church and state.

The bill passed the House 88-49 on Saturday. The lower chamber’s initial approval came after more than two hours of debate and despite last-ditch Democratic efforts to water down the law, including giving school districts the opportunity to vote on the policy and adding codes of ethics from different faiths into the bill.

On Sunday, the House passed the bill 82-46, but clarified in it that the state would be responsible for any legal fees if a school district were to be sued over the policy. With the amendment, the bill must go back to the Senate for final approval, which passed it 20-11 in March. If the Senate approves it, the bill then heads

to Gov. Greg Abbott, who is expected to sign it.

The bill was sponsored by Republican Senator Phil King. Every classroom will need to visibly display a poster of the Ten Commandments of at least 16 by 20 inches.

“It is incumbent on all of us to follow G-d’s law, and I think we would all be better off if we did,” Rep. Candy Noble, a Republican from Lucas who is carrying the bill in the House, said during the floor debate on Saturday.

Supporters argue that the Ten Commandments and teachings of Christianity more generally are core to U.S. history.

In 2021, Texas required schools to display “In G-d We Trust” signs if they were donated by a private foundation. In 2024, the State Board of Education approved Bible-infused teaching materials.

This session, lawmakers have also advanced bills that allow a prayer or religious study period in school.

Texas is one of 16 states where lawmakers have pursued the Ten Commandments bills.

Last June, a federal court struck down a Louisiana law requiring all public school classrooms to display the Ten Commandments — the first state this decade to pass such a law. The state is appealing the decision.

Africa swam 62 miles around Martha’s Vineyard this week, becoming the first person to swim all the way around the island off the coast of Cape Cod.

It took Pugh many days to complete the swim. He began on May 15 to swim many hours a day and finally came out of the water at the finish line on Monday. Why would Pugh spend so much time battling the waves and the freezing water? He wanted to raise awareness about the plight of sharks, who he said are at risk from human threats. The animals received a bad rap after the film “Jaws” debuted fifty years ago, according to Pugh. It was filmed in the area where Pugh completed his swim.

“We’ve been fighting sharks for 50 years,” he said after completing the last 1.2 miles of the swim. “Now, we need to make peace with them.”

In total, Pugh swam for about 24 hours over 12 days. His first stop in Edgartown after greeting cheering fans on the beach as he completed his feat was at an ice cream shop, where he enjoyed a cone of salted caramel and berry brownie.

Swimming for the Sharks

Lewis Pugh is quite the fearless swimmer.

The 55-year-old athlete from South

Pugh is used to swimming – he’s been battling the waves for almost 40 years, swimming near glaciers and volcanoes. He’s shared the waters with hippos, crocodiles and polar bears. Pugh was the first athlete to swim across the north pole and complete a long-distance swim in every one of the world’s oceans.

Speaking about his latest soaked jour-

ney, “It’s been a long journey, it really has, 12 days, cold water, constant wind, waves and then always thinking of what may be beneath me. It’s been a big swim. A very big swim,” he said. “When you swim for 12 days, you leave as one person, and I think you come back as a different person with a new reflection on what you’ve been through.”

He rode the waves in just swimming trunks, a bathing cap, and goggles. Some days, Pugh was only able to make it a little over half a mile before wind and waves made it impossible to see in front of him. Other days, he had to make up lost distance by swimming multiple legs in a day.

“I was just getting really cold and swallowing a lot of sea water, not making headway and then you’re constantly thinking: ‘Are we taking the right route here? Should we go further out to sea? Should we get closer in?’” he said. “And meanwhile you’re fighting currents.”

Still, for Pugh, every stroke was a battle for the sharks.

On Monday, Pugh called the decimation of sharks an “ecocide.”

“I think protecting sharks is the most important part of the jigsaw puzzle of protecting the oceans,” he said. Sharp thinking.

On the Moo-ve

Parts of Australia have been struggling with devastating floods. Thousands of houses and animals have been affected by the rising tides, and at least five people have been killed. One cow, though, made an udderly amazing journey when it was found alive on Old Bar Beach, around 11 miles away from its home in Taree, New South Wales.

Layla Philipson discovered the bovine in the sand and shared photos on the Taree Community Noticeboard on Facebook, leading to the cow’s reunion with its owner.

“Alive cow Oldbar beach between Wallabi and meridian,” read her post Thankfully, the owner was found, and the animal was reunited with its master. Cowabunga!

“Everest Man” Sets Record

Nepali sherpa Kami Rita is known as the “Everest Man” – and for good reason. This week, the 55-year-old guide scaled Mount Everest for the 31st time, breaking his own record for the most climbs up the world’s tallest peak.

He had been guiding a group of Indian army officials up the mountain when he reached its 8,894-meter summit at 04:00 local time on Tuesday.

“Kami Rita Sherpa needs no introduction. He is not just a national climbing hero, but a global symbol of Everest itself,” expedition organizer Seven Summit Treks said.

Kami Rita first summited Everest in 1994 guiding a commercial expedition and has made it to the peak almost every year since. In some years, he even got there twice.

His closest competitor for the Everest record is fellow Nepali sherpa Pasang Dawa, who scaled the peak 29 times – the latest attempt made last week.

“I am glad for the record, but records are eventually broken,” Kami Rita said in May last year. “I am more happy that my climbs help Nepal be recognized in the world.”

Kami Rita’s feat comes one week after British mountaineer Kenton Cool summited Everest for the 19th time, also breaking his own record for the most climbs for a non-sherpa.

More than 500 people and their guides have climbed Everest successfully this climbing season, which is coming to an end. Nepal had issued more than 1,000 climbing permits this season – for Everest and other peaks – according to its tourism department.

Kami Rita, though, is the one who has soared the highest.

A Name for a Bear

Two panda bears finally have names. Hong Kong’s first locally born giant pandas have been named Jia Jia and De De.

They are affectionately known as “Elder Sister” and “Little Brother.” But in a ceremony this week at Ocean Park, the theme park housing them, they received more formal names.

The names were the winning suggestions from residents in a naming contest that drew more than 35,700 entries.

The Chinese character “Jia,” from the female cub’s name “Jia Jia,” carries a message of support and features an element of family and a sense of auspicious grace. The name embodies the prosperity of families and the nation and the happiness of the people, the park said.

The Chinese character “De,” from the male cub’s name, means to succeed, car-

rying the connotation that Hong Kong is successful in everything. De also has the same pronunciation as the Chinese character for virtue, the park said, suggesting giant pandas possess virtues cherished by Chinese people.

Ocean Park chairman Paulo Pong said they followed tradition by using Mandarin pronunciation for the pandas’ English names. He said “Jia” sounds like a word in the Cantonese term for elder sister, while “De De” sounds a bit like the Cantonese phrase for little brother. Cantonese is the mother language of many Hong Kongers.

“It’s a very positive pair of names,” he said. “We have to be a bit creative here with the names.”

The cubs, who live with their mother at the park, attracted crowds of visitors on Tuesday. The twins’ birth in August made their mother, Ying Ying, the world’s oldest first-time panda mom.

Throngs of visitors have been coming to the park to view the cuddly creatures, forming what some people call a “panda economy.”

They’re so cute we can bear-ly believe it.

Smooth Sailing

Oliver Widger spent the past few weeks on a boat with only his cat as com-

pany. The 29-year-old from Oregon had quit his job and used all his savings to set sail for Hawaii from Oregon. On Saturday, he finally reached his destination and was greeted by cheering fans who had followed his journey on social media.

Widger was greeted by Hawaii Gov. Josh Green at the Waikiki Yacht Club on Oahu.

He said he was feeling “really weird” — not seasick, but, “I just feel like I have to, like, hold on to things to not fall over.”

Widger became an online sensation with his story. He had received a diagnosis four years ago with a syndrome that carried a risk of paralysis and made him realize he disliked his managerial job. He quit his job with “no money, no plan” and $10,000 of debt — and the goal of buying a sailboat and sailing around the world.

Widger didn’t know how to sail a boat but taught himself how to sail by watching videos on YouTube. He spent months

refitting the $50,000 boat he bought to ensure it was up for the adventure.

The social media sensation set sail for Hawaii with his cat Phoenix in late April. He said he thinks his story, which made national news, resonated with people.

“I think a lot of people are, you know, you’re grinding at your job all day long, and it doesn’t really matter how much money you make at this point, everybody’s just trying to do enough to get by and that just wears you out,” he said. “It’s just the world’s in a weird place, and I think people have seen that it’s possible to break out.”

At one point during the trip, the rudder failed on Widger’s boat. Most of the time, though, he enjoyed seeing the dolphins and whales and being surrounded by the beautiful, calm ocean.

“Being in the middle of the ocean when it was completely glass in every direction was an absurd feeling,” he said.

Widger said he never truly felt alone, since he was communicating with friends by means including video conference.

For now, Widger is back on land and hopes to make repairs to his boat. After that? Well, he may travel to French Polynesia, although he’s not really sure. He’s just happy he made it to Hawaii. Let’s not rock the boat.

Around the Community

Kol Torah 12th Graders Experience Eretz Yisroel Together

Trike-A-Thon At Gan Chamesh

The children at Gan Chamesh enjoyed an exciting Trike-a-Thon in honor of Lag B’Omer. With their personalized driver’s licenses, they scooted on scooters and pedaled on tricycles around a racetrack. Every child was a winner and received a gold medal and refreshing ices. The children’s smiles rivaled the shining bright sun. A fun time was had by all celebrating Lag B’Omer at Gan Chamesh!

Gesher’s Brachos Fair: A Day of Learning, Creativity, and Family

The much-anticipated Brachos Fair at Gesher was a big hit, bringing together students, parents, and grandparents for a day of fun, learning, and connection. The fair featured a variety of creative, hands-on stations that helped kids explore the meaning and beauty of brachos in an engaging way. From making pickles to decorating challah covers, cookies, and personalized cups, each activity highlighted the importance of making brachos in our ev-

Lag B’Omer Celebrations

All HALB lower school students enjoyed a day at the park in honor of Lag B’Omer. Students and

teachers had a great time playing sports, playing in the playground, and on the fields!

How HAFTR Coach Hoenig Turns Sefiras HaOmer into a Slam Dunk

At HAFTR, we know that consistency is everything—on the court and in our commitment to mitzvot. That’s a message Athletic Director Joseph “Joey” Hoenig lives by and shares with his student-athletes all year long.

eryday lives.

The Brachos Fair wouldn’t have been complete without the highly anticipated Bake Sale. Parents and staff went all out, volunteering their time and talent to bake delicious treats—tables were filled with cakes, cookies, sourdough bread, and more, all made with love. It was a wonderful day where every child had a blast, and the message of brachos came to life in a memorable, meaningful way!

But when Sefirat HaOmer arrives, Coach Hoenig finds a truly unique way to blend sports and spirituality – HAFTR style.

Now in its fourth year, Coach Hoenig’s nightly Sefirat HaOmer Sports Chat has become a beloved tradition across the HAFTR community. What started as a simple reminder has grown into a nightly celebration of mitzvot, sports trivia, and school spirit. Each evening, Coach Hoenig sends out that night’s Sefira count, alongside a photo and short bio of an athlete who wore that corresponding number. The chat is then lit up with

photos and shoutouts of other athletes (Jewish or not) who wore that same number (this includes HAFTR athletes, too!). It’s fun. It’s communal. And it’s rooted in something deeply meaningful.

Today, the Sefira chat reaches over 1,000 people—students, alumni, parents, faculty, and friends. As Coach Hoenig puts it, “Kids are involved in something fun and doing a mitzvah at the same time.” That’s the magic: it’s not just about counting; it’s about connecting. This initiative perfectly reflects HAFTR’s values—combining excellence, creativity, and a passion for Yiddishkeit in everything we do.

Whether you’re here for the sports or the spiritual growth, Coach Hoenig’s Sefira project is a homerun. Or maybe we should say, a perfect 49 for 49.

Hanacha K’Halacha at YOSS

This past week, the seventh grade talmidim at YOSS Mechina celebrated together for a grade wide tefillin breakfast. Rabbi Lemberger, seventh grade rebbe, shared divrei bracha and spoke to the talmdim about how to tap into their tefillin. The talmidim received a special sefer, “Bar Mitzvah and Tefillin,” which includes halachic questions, captivating stories and insights for bar mitzvah boys.

Following breakfast, sofrim from “The Tefillin Awareness Project” visited the seventh grade students. The students learned practical halachos relevant to tefillin, ensuring they are keeping the mitzvah properly every day. Each student also had the opportunity to have his tefillin checked and, if necessary, adjusted as well.

HAFTR Excels at YLMUN

By Natalie Bellehsen and Leah Kammerman

The third annual Yeshiva League Model United Nations (YLMUN) conference took place at the Young Israel of Woodmere on Thursday, May 22. This event brought together passionate high school student delegates from nine yeshiva high schools from New York and New Jersey for a day of competitive debate, public speaking, and creativity. Organized by HAFTR High School’s Speech and Debate Coach Mr. Alex Libkind and secretary-generals Elana Max and Abby Rutta, two dedicated seniors from HANC and North Shore Hebrew Academy, the event kicked off with powerful opening speeches that set the tone for a day full of excitement and academic excellence.

YLMUN is a competitive debate conference where students represent coun-

tries from across the globe. At YLMUN, there is not only a focus on skills and international policy, but there is also an emphasis on students engaging in fun activities and amusing “crisis” situations. These events are interactive and often humorous, and they challenge students to think on their feet and collaborate creatively and effectively. YLMUN develops students’ skills in public speaking, negotiation, teamwork, creativity and critical thinking.

This year, the HAFTR team performed outstandingly while representing the country of Australia. Among the standout participants this year were three honorable mentions: Rylee Gluck, Micki Appel, and Ari Mitgang, all recognized for their strong performances and contributions in their committees, with topics varying from women’s rights to international wars. Moreover, HAFTR

student Hailie Avigdor won the Best Delegate award in the committee for Science and Technology. Her diplomatic skill and articulate leadership stood out and earned her this award. HAFTR and the Yeshiva of Flatbush emerged as co-winners of the Best Overall School award, an outstanding award for the dedication and preparation of both schools’ teams. Ramaz took second place and MTA third place.

A unique aspect of YLMUN, compared to other nationwide model UN conferences, is that some high school students have the opportunity to be the chairs of the committees at the conference. The chairs administer their respective committees, judge the delegates based on their proficiency, and provide the delegates with constructive feedback to improve their skills in model UN. At this YLMUN conference, HAFTR juniors

Natalie Bellehsen, Leah Kammerman and Miles Shusterman had the opportunity to be chairs for the Middle Eastern Summit. This allowed the three to see model UN from a different perspective, this time not as delegates. They had the chance to learn how to administer a committee session and even learned some skills from the delegates. They also introduced the Great Humus Crisis.

Thank you to Rylee Gluck, Hailie Avigdor, Ari Mitgang, Ethan Muller, and Micki Appel, who were the delegates from HAFTR, for their hard work and dedication to YLMUN. Additionally, we want to thank Mr. Libkind for making this event happen. The turnout at YLMUN III was spectacular, and great anticipation surrounds next year’s YLMUN IV!

Rav Eliezer Ginsburg inspired the seventh grade talmidim of Rav Dovid Frischman, Yeshiva Darchei Torah, at his shul in Brooklyn

Pros and Cons of a Medicaid Asset Protection Trust

AMedicaid Asset Protection Trust (MAPT) is one option a person may consider to protect their assets from Medicaid and nursing homes or long-term care.

A MAPT is an irrevocable trust created during your lifetime. The primary goal of a MAPT is to transfer assets to it so that Medicaid will not count these assets toward your resource limit when determining whether you qualify for Medicaid benefits.

However, creating an irrevocable trust comes with a certain lack of control over the assets you transfer to this trust. Before making such a significant decision, consider some pros and cons to see if this long-term care strategy is right for you.

Benefits of a MAPT

1. You Can Still Benefit From the Assets of a MAPT

Although transfers of assets to a MAPT cause you to relinquish your ownership and control of them, the finality of the arrangement is not as harsh as it sounds.

In creating a MAPT, you select a person (trustee) who manages the trust assets for your benefit. So, if you transfer investment accounts to the MAPT, you can still receive the income generated from these investments. If you transfer your home, you can still live there. In exchange for giving up control of your assets to a MAPT, your assets no longer count against you for Medicaid eligibility purposes.

2. Your Assets Are Safe From Medicaid and Other Long-Term Care Creditors

Once your assets are in a MAPT and other criteria are met, Medicaid can’t seize them or ask you to spend them down to pay for your nursing home or long-term care costs. These assets also are not subject to Medicaid’s estate recovery program.

As a result, your heirs can benefit from the assets without the interference of Medicaid or liens it could otherwise file against your estate after you pass.

3. You Can Choose Your Beneficiaries

A MAPT also functions as an estate planning tool. This is because you can designate who receives what remains of the trust upon your passing. The benefi-

ciaries you choose will receive the assets per the terms of the trust agreement, and the chances of a probate court getting involved are diminished.

In addition, you may be able to retain what is called a “limited power of appointment.” This allows you to change who the beneficiaries of the MAPT will be, should your wishes or family circumstances change.

4. Assets Are Protected From Your Beneficiaries’ Creditor

Even though you can designate a MAPT’s beneficiaries now, those beneficiaries do not have full access to the trust’s assets because of how it is structured. This also means their creditors do not have access to it. And, if your child is a beneficiary and is going through a messy divorce, neither does their spouse. You can also designate how bequests to beneficiaries can be used.

5. Protection From Capital Gains Taxes

A properly drafted MAPT preserves the full capital gains tax exclusion on the primary residence (currently $250,000 per spouse). Later, when a person’s beneficiaries sell the home, it would be valued at the market price at the date of gifting and not at the original purchase price. This can avoid or significantly minimize the capital gains tax that your heirs may owe.

Drawbacks of MAPTS Timing Is Everything

For a MAPT to function as intended, it needs to be created in advance to avoid the Medicaid lookback period. In most states, this is five years for nursing home or institutional care. In some states, there may also be a lookback period for community Medicaid care (home aides, local programs, etc.)

If less than five years have elapsed since you created your MAPT, you may still be responsible for some or all of your long-term care costs until sufficient time has passed.

To learn how to protect you and your family visit www.haaszaltz.com or call 516-979-1060. You can also email them at info@haaszaltz.com.

Mrs. Kalish’s second graders at Yeshiva Darchei Torah learned about sound in the science laboratory

YOSS Mechina Celebrates a Year of Extra Mishmar Learning

Every Tuesday night throughout the year, seventh and eightth grade YOSS talmidim transformed the KAY shul into a roaring beis medrash!

This optional mishmar, under the direction of Rabbi Yehuda Neuman, has quickly become one of the gold-standard programs at YOSS and has given talmidim the opportunity to take the next step in their learning. In order to celebrate another successful year of this program,

they enjoyed a night of music, singing , dancing and ruach, together with their fathers/grandfathers and rabbeim. Rabbi Kamenetzky gave divrei chizuk and bracha and explained that they don’t come for prizes or food rather they come because “a Yid goes to the beis medrash at night!” This is something that they will surely take with them as they enter Mesivta and well beyond!

Color Shalom: Not Just a Competition But a Collaboration

Mercaz Academy’s annual Color Shalom broke out on Lag B’Omer in a shower of colorful confetti, an apt portent of the fun to follow. At Mercaz Academy, there is competition, but no “war.” The four teams, selected with special care to keep all siblings on the same side, are not viewed as enemies. Instead, they are potential collaborators and boosters–in fact, one of the categories in which teams competed was how well they supported and assisted other teams. This year, to honor Yom Yerushalayim’s rapid approach, each team represented a different aspect of the city of Jerusalem: Torah (red), Kindness (white), Peace (orange), and Holiness (blue).

In addition to grade-leveled Bracha

Bees that garnered points for each team and thoughtful skits and divrei Torah explaining the significance of their team names, there was fun and collaborative competition throughout the three-day program. On Field Day, teams competed in soccer, football, basketball, and newcomb, with two teams working together on each side. “Tug of Strength” was another exciting arena for competition. Students in grades one through four enjoyed a contest of creative engineering, using a bag of various recycled materials to design a protective case for an egg. These protective cases were intended to keep the eggs from breaking when they were dropped off a six-foot ladder. Incredibly, several worked as intended and got the egg safely to the ground.

The teams presented and explained beautiful banners designed to convey each team’s view of Yerushalayim. Continuing the collaborative spirit, the team songs were actually one song based on “Yerushalayim,” by the Miami Boys Choir. Each team sang its own stanza about its name, but all came together on the chorus, a lively and meaningful lesson on the power of working together.

All the teams made the school’s staff and administration proud, not least when Ir Hachesed (City of Kindness) was announced as the winning team and the others were gracious and supportive. Mercaz Academy students clearly understand that it is all the colors united that make a rainbow beautiful, and that Jerusalem’s uniqueness is visible from every angle.

Rav Mutty Zeiger, seventh grade rebbi, and Rav Moshe Bonrouhi, bochein, with Yeshiva Darchei Torah seventh graders Shlomo Halpern, Eli Maron and Menachem Lifshitz, who reached a high-level Baal Peh milestone in the middle school. Each one will be receiving a Shas for his achievement.

Playoff Action at the 5 Towns Flag Football League

What a week it was at the 5 Towns Flag Football league. We started the first round of the playoffs, and the games were so close, with many games going into overtime. In the Pre-1A and 1st grade division, the boys finished up the season with great playing, and the Pre-1A boys learned how to play with flash for the first time. In the 2nd grade division, all teams made the playoffs. The following teams had great victories: the Vikings, Panthers, Eagles, and Patriots all moved on to the

Yeshiva Ateres Eitz Chaim’s Memorable Memorial Day

This past Memorial Day, Yeshiva Ateres Eitz Chaim transformed a national holiday into a meaningful day of connection, inspiration, and preparation for Shavuos with a beautifully orchestrated Parent-Son Day of Learning.

semi-finals. Dovid Brazil and Shlomo Weider were the MVPs in their games In the 3rd and 4th grade division, Morde Shapiro led his Saints’ squad to a great victory, and the Steelers, Vikings, and Seahawks all were victorious. In the 5th and 6th grade league, the #1 seed Vikings won a close match, with Mo Friedman making some amazing catches. The Giants upset the #2 seed Jets.

We can’t wait for next week’s semi-finals and championship games.

The morning began with heartfelt Shacharis davening, setting a tone of kedusha and gratitude. Following tefillah, attendees were treated to a lavish breakfast, prepared with care and enjoyed in an atmosphere of warmth and camaraderie. The culinary spread matched the spirit of the day — nourishing both Guf (body) and Neshama (soul).

The highlight of the event was a series of inspiring shiurim centered on the themes of Matan Torah, delivered by our esteemed Menahel, Rabbi Boruch Oppen, and the Rosh HaYeshiva, Rabbi Geda-

liah Oppen. Their words offered timely insights of mesorah, chinuch, Kabbalas HaTorah and deepened participants’ appreciation for the upcoming yom tov of Shavuos, reconnecting talmidim and their parents to the eternal relevance of Kabbalas HaTorah. A special thank you to Rabbi Tzvi Mitzman and Rabbi Yisroel Harrar for enhancing the day. It was a day that encapsulated the mission of Yeshiva Ateres Eitz Chaim: strengthening the bond between generations through limud haTorah and cultivating a love for Torah in the hearts of our talmidim.

As we count up to Shavuos, events like these remind us that the giving of the Torah is not just a historical moment but a living legacy renewed every day and every generation.

HALB sixth grade students visited the first and second grade classrooms to read with them last week

Annual Kollel Tirtza Devorah Dinner

L-R: Dovid Scharf, Avrohom Scherman, R’ Eli Scharf (Kesser Torah Awardee), R’ Nosson Scherman, R’ Mordechai Groner and R’ Dovid Bender, Rosh Kollel.

L-R: Sons and sons-in-law of Rabbi & Mrs. Yechezkel Kakminsky at the Kollel Dinner’s Memorial Tribute, L-R: R’ Yitzchok Gartner, R’ Menachem Zev Eidelman, R’ Shaya Hirschman, R’ Yaakov Bender, Rosh HaYeshiva; R’ Yitzchok Hauer, R’ Gavriel Kaminsky, R’ Yissochor Kaminsky and Ronald Lowinger

Standing, L-R: R’ Moshe Bender, R’ Shlomo Avigdor Altusky, R’ Eliezer Selengut (Harbotzas Torah Awardee) and sons, R’ Yaakov Bender, Ronald Lowinger, R’ Dovid Bender, and Mordechai Rosen and Mordechai Heinemann, dinner co-chairmen – Seated, L-R: R’ Dovid Geller, R’ Shmuel Strickman, R’ Avrohom Nusbaum & R’ Yossi Reisman

Shaar Lev: A Beacon of Jewish Education Celebrates First Graduating Class

In the heart of the local Jewish community, Shaar Lev has been quietly transforming the educational landscape for Orthodox children attending public schools. Founded by Mr. Richard Altabe, the principal at Hebrew Academy of Long Beach (HALB) Elementary School, and with the foresight and cooperation of Dr. Ann Pedersen, Superintendent of the Lawrence School District, this innovative after-school program is now celebrating a significant milestone—its first graduating class this June 2025.

Bridging Educational Worlds

Shaar Lev was created with a singular vision: to provide children who attend public schools during the day with the same rich Jewish education that their peers in yeshivas receive. “Each day, after a full schedule of public school, our dedicated students arrive with eager minds and open hearts, ready to immerse themselves in the beauty and wisdom of the Torah,” explains Mr. Altabe.

The program serves as a crucial bridge, allowing children to maintain strong connections to their Jewish heritage while receiving much-needed services in the local public schools. What makes Shaar Lev particularly special is its comprehensive curriculum designed to give the children as much Yahadut as possible in the after-school setting.

A Comprehensive Curriculum

Shaar Lev’s educational approach is well-structured and encompasses several key components:

Mishna/Gemara

Students in grades 6th-8th learn the history of Torah Shel B’al Peh (the Oral

Law) and how it came to be written down in the form of Mishna and Gemara. The program’s master Rebbe provides students with fundamental skills needed to understand these complex texts, laying groundwork for more advanced study.

Halacha

All children receive age-appropriate instruction in halacha to ensure they understand basic Jewish practices. The curriculum covers essential laws including brachos, tefilla, hilchos Shabbos, and kashrus. Students also learn about the halachos associated with each yom tov as well.

Parsha

One of Shaar Lev’s main goals is for children to feel included in every aspect of Jewish life. The parsha program reviews the weekly Torah portion, and each child receives a parsha sheet to take home, enabling them to share insights at the Shabbos table alongside their siblings.

Kriah

The Kriah program is particularly impressive, teaching children to recognize letters of the aleph bais before advancing to combining letter sounds with nekudos to read Hebrew words. Using a multi-sensory approach, children employ various learning modalities to master

the Hebrew alphabet. The ultimate goal is fluent Hebrew reading ability, allowing students to daven from a siddur - which they receive once they’ve mastered basic reading skills.

First Graduating Class

As Shaar Lev prepares to honor its first graduating class this June, there’s a palpable sense of achievement and excitement. These pioneering students have demonstrated extraordinary dedication, attending the program consistently after completing their regular school day.

“Our mission is not only to educate but to inspire a lifelong love of learning and a profound sense of Jewish identity,” notes Mr. Altabe. “Through engaging lessons and hands-on activities, our students gain a deeper understanding of their heritage, empowering them to live full lives imbued with the same chinuch as their siblings and friends.”

Looking Ahead

The success of the first graduating class marks just the beginning for Shaar Lev. With continued community support, the program aims to expand its reach

and enhance its offerings, ensuring that every Jewish child has access to their “rightfully deserved Torah inheritance,” regardless of which school they attend during the day.

For many families navigating the complexities of educational services while maintaining traditional Jewish values, Shaar Lev has become an invaluable resource—a true “gate to the heart” of Jewish learning and identity, just as its name suggests.

As this first cohort of students prepares to graduate, they carry forward not just knowledge, but a living connection to thousands of years of Jewish tradition—a testament to the vision of Mr. Altabe and the dedicated educators who have made Shaar Lev a beacon of Jewish education in the community.

To find out more about Shaar Lev and to donate to this amazing organization please go to shaarlev.org

Registration is now open for the ‘25-’26 School Year! Go to the website or email Mr. Altabe at raltabe@halb.org for more information.

Announcing the Launch of Ha’Baer –

The Well

A New Home for Post-Seminary Growth and Connection

This September 2025, a transformative new initiative will open its doors to the young women of the Five Towns community. Ha’Baer –The Well is a post-seminary program designed to be a nurturing space where Torah, community, and personal growth converge.

Rooted in the vision of continued inspiration beyond the seminary year, Ha’Baer provides an opportunity for young women to stay deeply connected— to Torah learning, to each other, and to their own spiritual journey. The program takes its name from the Hebrew word “ha’baer,” the well, symbolizing a source of nourishment, depth, and ongoing discovery.

A Place to Stay Spiritually Grounded

Located at Yismach, 1034 Broadway in Woodmere, Ha’Baer aims to be more than a learning center. It is a spiritual home and communal hub for graduates navigating the next stage of life. The initiative recognizes the need for continuity in Torah engagement and emotional connection as these young women begin careers, studies, and adult responsibilities.

Tentative Schedule: A Balance of Inspiration and Flexibility

• Sunday Mornings – 10:30 AM

• Monday Evenings – 8:00 PM

• Thursday Evenings – 8:00 PM

A Project Led with Passion and Care

Ha’Baer is led by Mrs. Naomi Munk and Mrs. Rochel Chafetz—two dedicated educators who bring warmth, wisdom, and a deep understanding of young women’s spiritual and emotional needs. Their leadership ensures a program that is both rooted in Torah and responsive to the contemporary realities of life after seminary.

For more information or to get involved, please contact Rabbi Heshy Blumstein at 516-668-6554.

As the name suggests, Ha’Baer – The Well is here to offer a deep, sustaining source of Torah and connection. We invite all post-seminary women in the community to join this exciting new journey. Come draw from The Well.

For more information on sponsorships and dedication opportunities, please call Rabbi Blumstein at 516-6686554.

Reb Shmuel Yehuda Silver, rav of Kehillas Emunas Yisroel, visited Siach Yitzchok

Around the Community

Achiezer Launches Annual Camp Fund Campaign: “It’s

Not CAMPLICATED”

As the school year draws to a close, families across our community prepare for the next chapter: summer camp. For most, it’s a given. But for hundreds of others, it’s a source of anxiety and uncertainty. That’s where the Achiezer Camp Fund steps in — and this year’s message is clear: It’s Not CAMPLICATED.

“Every child deserves a summer,” says Aliza Wartelsky, Achiezer’s Family Crisis Coordinator and the manager of the Camp Fund. “The Achiezer Camp Fund helps us help hard-working families who simply don’t have the extra funds to send their children to camp. Sometimes it’s families dealing with unexpected tutoring

or therapy bills. Other times, it’s someone going through a crisis with nothing to work with at all.”

The demand is real — and growing. 389 families have already reached out to Achiezer this season.

“These are humble families,” shares Boruch Ber Bender, President of Achiezer. “It takes strength and fortitude to pick up the phone and say, ‘Achiezer, I can’t send my kids to camp unless you help me.’ What should we do — leave kids on the street to climb the walls all summer? I don’t think there’s another fund like this. We don’t hire staff, we don’t take overhead — it all goes straight to camp.”

Indeed, 100% of every dollar raised

goes directly toward tuition for children whose families can’t shoulder the cost alone. No overhead. No red tape. Just impact.

“Our job,” says Aliza, “is to make sure camp becomes a reality — even for families who wouldn’t have prioritized it, but whose rebbeim or school principals strongly advocate for it for the sake of the child’s emotional well-being.”

Roughly 80% of the families supported by the Camp Fund are those Achiezer works with throughout the year via its trailblazing Westwood Financial Management Division. The rest undergo a careful, respectful vetting process to ensure that help is extended where it’s truly

needed.

Achiezer is calling on the community to join in this effort; a campaign that truly belongs to us all.

“It’s simple but powerful,” says R’ Boruch Ber. “What better zechus to make sure your own kids have a happy, healthy summer — than making sure that every other child does too?”

The Achiezer Camp Fund. It’s not CAMPLICATED. Join the fund. Open your heart. Let’s give every child a summer.

To donate, visit achiezer.org/camp

Historic Siyum Celebrates Extraordinary Achievement at MTA’s Yeshiva Fellowship Year-End Seudah

The Yeshiva Fellowship at MTA is a unique and powerful program designed for talmidim who are eager to elevate their ruchniyus and push themselves beyond the standard curriculum. Whether through mastering additional perakim in the yeshiva’s masechta or joining the inspiring chaburas led regularly by Rav Hershel Schachter, shlit”a, participants seize every opportunity to grow in Torah and avodas Hashem

Last week, the Fellowship hosted a deeply meaningful end-of-year siyum, celebrating the tremendous dedication of talmidim who voluntarily learned extra perakim of Maseches Bava Metzia outside the regular sedarim. Many of these young men, through unwavering hasmadah and ameilus, are well on their way to completing the entire masechta—a feat that reflects immense discipline and passion for Torah.

The highlight of this year’s celebration was the extraordinary accomplishment of two ninth graders, Daniel Crystal and Shaul Sarway, who completed Bava Metzia not once—but four times—over the course of the school year. Their remarkable achievement came from a tireless commitment to utilize every spare moment, both in and out of yeshiva, for learning and chazarah

Rabbi Axelrod addressed the gathering, underscoring the historic nature of this accomplishment. In MTA’s more

than 100-year history, he noted, it is likely unprecedented for two freshmen to complete an entire masechta four times within one academic year. He urged all present to be inspired by their example, reminding us that in ruchniyus, we are all capable of achieving far more than we might imagine.

Rabbi Daniel Konigsberg, MTA’s principal, expressed his deep pride in the cohort’s accomplishments:

“The nachas we feel from our talmidim is immeasurable. Their commitment to growth in learning and their excitement for Torah reflects the incredible culture of the Yeshiva Fellowship. I am equally proud of the Rebbeim who guide and inspire our students each day—their

dedication is the foundation of this success.”

Adding to the simcha was a powerful address by Rav Yaakov Neuberger, one of MTA’s esteemed roshei yeshiva. Rav Neuberger expressed his personal joy, noting the unique nachas he feels as both a Rosh Yeshiva and the Rav of Daniel Crystal’s shul. He highlighted the tremendous impact of a siyum and praised the budding talmidei chachamim for their incredible accomplishment.

Rabbi Shimon Schenker, MTA’s Menahel, shared his admiration for the standout efforts of Crystal and Sarway:

“For two ninth graders to not only complete Bava Metzia, but to do so four times, is simply extraordinary. Their has-

madah, consistency, and drive to internalize what they’ve learned should serve as a model for all of us. This is the kind of geshmak for Torah that changes lives.”

Following the siyum and spirited dancing, the talmidim enjoyed a celebratory seuda generously sponsored by Smashburger. They also heard uplifting divrei chizuk from 12th grader Isaac Kantowitz, who is himself nearing the completion of the entire masechta

As a token to commemorate the milestone, each talmid received a personalized seforim stamp. The event concluded with a renewed sense of excitement and inspiration, as the talmidim looked ahead to even greater heights in their Torah journey.

Siach Yitzchok Shabbos Melamdim

At the Siach Yitzchok Shabbos Melamdim, the rabbeim got together for an uplifting and beautiful Shabbos.

The Menahel, shlita, spoke at the Friday night seduah, Reb Avrohom

Kleinkaufman spoke at the Shabbos day seudah, and Reb Elysha Sandler spoke during shalosh seudos. About an hour after Shabbos, Rabbi Weingot graced the chevra with a chazonisdika Havdalah.

Jewish History Exhibit

Over the course of the year, the fifth grade girls at HALB learned an overview of Jewish history, beginning with Noach, highlighting important times in Jewish history up until

October 7th. Parents went around the room to the various displays, and students explained what happened during that time period.

MTA Inducts New Members into The National Honor Society

By Mayer Schwartz

Last week, MTA held its annual ARISTA induction ceremony, where a select group of rising seniors were named members of MTA’s chapter of the National Honor Society.

Induction into the society is one of the school’s highest honors, given to talmidim who have demonstrated academic success and a willingness to serve the broader community.

In MTA, members of ARISTA volunteer to organize programs and events, including the school-wide study day before finals and the bi-annual MTA blood drive. They also run a school-wide peer

tutoring program, where students are matched with an ARISTA tutor to assist them with their coursework.

At the ceremony, each recipient was called upon to share a short speech about somebody in their lives that embodies the four pillars of ARISTA: scholarship, service, leadership, and character. Afterwards, they each received a certificate and a pin, formally inducting them in as members of the National Honor Society.

MTA congratulates these special talmidim and their families and looks forward to the continuing positive impact they will have on our community at large.

HAFTR Leads the Way in Seamless School Transitions

For the past month, HAFTR has been laying the groundwork for seamless division transitions. An issue that comes through every multi-divisional school and institution is bridging the gap between them. Through thoughtful and coordinated planning, HAFTR has performed this crossover perfectly.

In the case of meaningful parent programming, HAFTR created two “StepUp” nights for parents: one for leaving the PreK into Kindergarten and one for those leaving 5th and going into 6th (Lower into Middle School) for parents, HAFTR has set the standard for easy transition and meaningful transparency for its parent and student body. For the parents, they are intentional moments designed to ensure that every parent feels confident, connected, and informed as their child enters a new division. Parents had the opportunity to hear from teachers, ask questions, and gain a deeper understanding of what lies ahead, all while being reminded that while their child’s classroom may change, the core values, warmth, and sense of community that define HAFTR remain constant. These events reflect our belief that communication and partnership with parents are essential in supporting each child’s growth and success.

This sense of unity is something we live every day through our structure and staffing. Transitions between divisions and their leadership aren’t abrupt; they’re guided, familiar, and consistent. For example, our Mashgiach Ruchani, Rabbi Asher Klein, serves as a spiritual anchor for our students from Nursery through 8th grade, nurturing their growth and connection to Torah and Judaism across each stage. Principal Dr. Joshua Gold leads both the Lower and Middle Schools,

providing families with the comfort of steady leadership and a consistent educational philosophy as their children progress. Our Science Chair K-8, Gittel Grant, seamlessly integrates innovative STEM instruction throughout Lower and Middle School, ensuring that each grade level receives developmentally appropriate and exciting science education. These few examples of inter-divisional faculty ensure that the quality and values continue for the students.

Additionally, our students and staff work to bridge their divisions as well: Shared lunches or evening events such as Lag B’Omer evening kumsitzes between the High School and Middle School students create meaningful opportunities for mentorship, friendship, and school spirit across grades. The Lower School brings students to the Early Childhood for Read Aloud Time. The Middle School choir sings for the little ones, also! Middle School students share their STEM projects with their colleagues in Lower School.

Faculty collaboration across divisions, from joint limudei kodesh planning to unified approaches in digital citizenship and literacy, reflects HAFTR’s intentional effort to build a cohesive and connected educational experience. These moments and events reflect a school that grows with its students and for its students.

“These events are part of how we live our mission—by showing up for our students, families, and faculty, and walking forward together as one school, one community, and one team,” remarked a HAFTR administrator. The strength of the HAFTR community shines, anchored in partnership, rooted in shared values, and united in our commitment to success.

Mazal tov to all of the HANC ECC Nursery Aleph graduates on moving up to Nursery Bet

Rav Nechemia Weiss’s fourth grade talmidim at Yeshiva Darchei Torah celebrated a siyum on Mishnayos Sukkah

MAY’s Immanuel Warshawsky, A”H, Annual Shabbaton

This past Shabbos was a particularly meaningful and uplifting one for the talmidim of Mesivta Ateres Yaakov, as they participated in the Immanuel Warshawsky, A”H, Annual Shabbaton on the beautiful campus of Camp Romimu in Monticello, NY. From beginning to end, the Shabbaton was a resounding success, filled with remarkable growth in ruchniyus, achdus, ahavas Hashem, and ahavas haTorah

The days surrounding Shabbos—Friday and Sunday—were packed with outdoor sports and recreational activities. Softball, basketball, pickleball, and tennis topped the list, while the lake and heated pool also saw enthusiastic use. Talmidim

were well cared for, enjoying delicious meals provided by Camp Romimu, along with snack boxes for each bunk and hundreds of bottles of water generously supplied by the MAY Student Government.

On Erev Shabbos, before Kabbolas Shabbos, the Rosh HaYeshiva, Rabbi Mordechai Yaffe, set the tone with a heartfelt address highlighting the ko’ach of Shabbos. He encouraged the talmidim to open both their minds and hearts to the spiritual opportunities the Shabbaton had to offer. A spirited Kabbolas Shabbos, filled with passionate singing and dancing, beautifully ushered in a truly memorable Shabbos.

The Mesivta was honored to welcome

Rabbi Avi Schulman—beloved former Rebbe at MAY and current S’gan Menahel at Yeshiva Ketana of Long Island—as the guest speaker. Rabbi Schulman spoke several times over the course of Shabbos, inspiring the talmidim with his trademark warmth, positivity, and insightful messages of growth and personal development.

In keeping with MAY tradition, Shabbos kibbudim were auctioned off in exchange for hours of voluntary learning throughout the extended weekend. This meaningful program, dedicated l’ilui nishmas Immanuel Warshawsky, A”H, an esteemed alumnus of the Yeshiva, saw talmidim commit to over 300 hours of

Village of Lawrence Woodmere Club Update

The Villages of Lawrence and Woodsburgh, along with the Town of Hempstead, have been engaged in lengthy legal proceedings with the owners of the Woodmere Club concerning their proposed development plans. The property owners have agreed to pause the litigation, allowing all municipalities involved to pursue a potential formal settlement.

The owners have proposed an age-restricted (55+) luxury residential development on the portion of the property located within the Town of Hempstead. Importantly, no development is planned for the areas within the Villages of Law-

rence and Woodsburgh. Additionally, over 70% of the site (approximately 80 acres) would be preserved as open green space, to be managed and owned by a land conservancy.

This proposal is intended to fully resolve the litigation.

Both Lawrence and Woodsburgh held multiple public hearings on the matter.

Based on the strong show of support and positive community feedback received during these sessions, our Board believes this proposal is a reasonable and viable option for our communities.

However, because the proposed development falls within the Town of

Hempstead’s jurisdiction, their support is essential for the project to move forward. Over the past year, the municipalities continued dedicating significant time and resources to the litigation while also engaging in extensive discussions with all parties.

The Town of Hempstead has now indicated it may support the proposal, under certain conditions, for a luxury condominium development, up to 160-units (subject to change with negotiations).

The Village of Lawrence thanks the Town and its elected officials for their willingness to reconsider and engage.

While this is a positive step forward,

independent learning. The tremendous amount of both formal and informal Torah study was a powerful reflection of the talmidim’s growth this z’man. Motzei Shabbos featured a lively Melave Malka BBQ, the annual varsity vs. junior varsity softball game, and a stirring, heartfelt kumzits to end the weekend on a high note.

Mesivta Ateres Yaakov extends its sincere gratitude to Rabbi Shlomo Drebin for organizing the Shabbaton, and to Rabbi Shlomo Pfeiffer and Camp Romimu for once again graciously hosting this unforgettable experience.

many important details remain to be negotiated. The Village of Lawrence Board is committed to ensuring that any final agreement includes protections that preserve the character of our community.

The Town of Hempstead is now leading the negotiation process, and our Board remains actively involved. We will continue to keep you informed as progress is made.

A formal public hearing will be scheduled by the Town to allow residents the opportunity to provide input. Further details will be shared as soon as they are available.

Strivright Celebrates 25 Years of Miracles, Milestones, and Memories

On the evening of May 14, 2025, over 500 guests gathered at the stunning El Caribe Country Club for a night that was nothing short of magical. The Strivright 25-Year Gala was more than an event—it was a celebration of dreams fulfilled, voices found, and a community united in purpose to ensuring that every child can be the best they can be.

This silver anniversary marked a bold declaration: amazing things happen when expertise, compassion, and love come together- the impossible becomes reality. And for a quarter of a century, Strivright has been proving that—again and again.

The evening radiated heart, hope, and deep appreciation. Rabbi Joey Haber delivered a moving keynote that captured the very soul of Strivright’s mission: “Changing a child’s future starts with giving them a voice and letting them be heard.”

The room came alive with song and joy, thanks to unforgettable performanc-

es by Dovid Pearlman, Dovid Rotberg, and the electrifying Y-Studs A Cappella Group. Every moment sparkled with warmth and celebration.

A special appearance by New York City Mayor Eric Adams added distinction and pride, as he honored Strivright’s remarkable contributions to the city’s educational and therapeutic landscape.

The spotlight also shone brightly on three extraordinary couples, whose sto -

ries and support have become a part of Strivright’s legacy:

Mr. & Mrs. Nachman and Freda Assoulin – Community Leadership Award

Mr. & Mrs. Victor and Marlene Saadeh – Guests of Honor

Mr. & Mrs. Maurice and Eleanor Harary – Parents of the Year

Each spoke with heartfelt emotion:

“They never, ever give up,” said Nachman Assoulin. “They care about your child’s success as much—if not more— than you do.”

“There were so many things we didn’t even know we needed—but Strivright did,” reflected Marlene Saadeh. “They were with us every step of the way—always ready to help, always with a smile.”

“To have a meaningful conversation with our four-year-old—to see him express himself, grow, and thrive—that’s the power of this school,” shared Maurice Harary. “Strivright isn’t just a place where kids learn—it’s a place where kids are loved.”

Together with Gala Chairs Boruch Ber and Suri Bender, these honorees brought unmatched energy and generosity, elevating the evening into an unforgettable tribute to Strivright’s mission.

The celebration followed the school’s 36-hour 25th Anniversary Fundraising Campaign (May 6–7), which ignited support across the globe. With essential funds raised to sustain and expand Strivright’s life-changing work, the numbers speak for themselves:

Thousands of children served.

98% mainstreamed by age five.

Families relocating from 20 states and 11 countries—just to be part of this journey.

“You’re investing in an institution that goes deep,” said Eleanor Harary. “Strivright makes a lasting, personal impact—and it shows in everything they do.”

But the real impact? It’s in the stories. It’s in the moments. It’s in the confident children who learn, speak, and shine because someone believed in them.

“They held our hands through everything,” said Marlene Saadeh. “I just want to give back, because Strivright gave us so much.”

As the song echoed and the applause filled the room, one thing was clear: “Hear” we are. And the best is still to come.

Touro Celebrates Achievements of 600 Graduates at 51st Annual Commencement

Touro University graduated nearly 600 students last Sunday at the 51st Annual Commencement Exercises, held at Alice Tully Hall in Lincoln Center. It was a day to celebrate the individual and collective achievements of the graduates and offer hope for the future.

In his message to the graduates, Touro University President Dr. Alan Kadish shared his insight on the need to tap into two traits that have long characterized Jewish tradition: adaptability and resilience. “You have faced COVID, a rise in antisemitism and the meteoric growth of new technology. Yet, you’ve all made it here today and that shows you are able to adapt to changes around you and that you are resilient and able to stand strong and rise to myriad challenges,” said Dr. Kadish.

“While the world may seem bleak today, pessimism is not a Jewish trait,” continued Kadish, quoting one of his own teachers. “I have full confidence that the future will be bright and I look forward to seeing what each of you will accomplish. Wherever life takes you, you’ll always be part of the Touro family. We are all here to support each other and now more than ever, we are counting on you – the 2025 graduates – to create a hopeful future.”

Numerous awards were presented for community service as well as high aca-

demic achievement in math, accounting, biology, finance, psychology, computer science, political science and more.

Speaking Up for Truth and Morality and Against Antisemitism

Congressman Ritchie Torres received an honorary degree and served as keynote speaker. He shared his views on the critical need to stand up for truth, justice and morality in today’s world. He also urged graduates to infuse their lives with gratitude.

“One of the greatest honors of my life is to receive a degree from an institution I truly respect. Not every university lives up to the ‘higher’ in higher ed. Touro is an institution that does take that seriously. As a lifelong learner who considers words the most powerful forces on earth, I know they can create, but we’ve also learned from our post October 7 world that words can also destroy. Words can be used to spread lies and incite hatred that hardens into violence and terror. Since October 7, we’ve seen the creation of an alternate reality. Evil has become good, wrong has become right and antisemitic terror has become resistance,” said Torres.

“In this age of lies and libel, we have no greater obligation than to speak the truth with moral clarity and courage. That is the burden that has been conferred upon you by your Touro education. We cannot remain silent, we must stand

up and be revolutionary truth-tellers in a world of lies against the Jewish people and the Jewish state. In that effort, you will have in me a lifelong friend and ally.”

Torres also shared his thoughts on the virtues of gratitude. “Being grateful is not merely an emotion, it is a way of life, a way of viewing the world that has the power to transform how we experience life,” said Torres.

“It is human nature to obsess about what is missing in our lives, rather than appreciate what is present. For me, gratitude is the ability to see clearly and value deeply the blessings in our lives. Be grateful for the love and support of family, friends and educators, and for the power of Jewish tradition. Its staying power is a gift and a miracle, its structure is a deep foundation for living a flourishing life. Graduates, make the most of the gift and harness it in service of building a better world. I am rooting for you and beyond that, I now stand with you as a new, but proud member of the Touro family,” continued Torres

Future is Bright for Touro Grads

The Touro graduates are headed for careers in top firms in technology, finance, accounting, cybersecurity and more. Many will enter graduate and professional schools in law, medicine, dentistry and psychology, where they have acceptance rates of over 95%. Others will pursue health science careers as physical

and occupational therapists, physician assistants and pharmacists through Touro’s Integrated Honors Pathways.

One of the valedictorians, Rachelle Halpert of Touro’s Lander College of Arts & Sciences, shared thoughts on the unique experience at Touro as well as encouragement to fellow students as they enter the next stage.

“I believe that Touro has fostered the best possible environment for me and my fellow graduates to thrive. Touro has developed in us an enthusiasm and ‘fire’ for learning, while at the same time providing a calm, serene atmosphere, giving us the time and space to succeed. For those willing to put in the effort, Touro gave us the opportunity to truly fulfill our potential. My fellow classmates, we’ve faced deadlines, long nights and hard choices, and we’ve made it here. We’re not just prepared for the future; we’re part of shaping it. The world is waiting!” said Halpert.

Other valedictorians included Yedidya Diena of Touro’s Lander College for Men who is planning for a future as a wealth manager, Rachel Hanan of Touro’s Lander College for Women The Anna Ruth and Mark Hasten School who is headed to Touro’s New York Medical College this fall, and Michael Weingarten of Touro’s Lander College of Arts & Sciences, who is gearing up for a career as a physician.

Using Sifrei Neviim, Rav Zevi Trenk, menahel of Mesivta Chaim Shlomo, prepared the nursery boys of Yeshiva Darchei Torah for Shavuos by teaching them about the Torah Hakedoshah and showing each one the letters of his name inside the scroll.

HALB’s Names, Not Numbers Premier

HALB’s eighth graders premiered their Names, Not Numbers documentary last week. All year long they learned interviewing, filming and editing skills. Then they put their new skills to work. While some students interviewed Holocaust survivors, their peers filmed it and together they edited the film. The evening was incredibly powerful, and the experience left a lasting impression on all the students.

YUHSG Celebrates with Salute to Israel Parade, Wildcat Awards Luncheon

As we grow closer to the end of the spring semester – and the academic year – the student life events calendar at the Yeshiva University High School for Girls (Central) is a whirlwind of excitement and bittersweet final moments. The class of 2025 is enjoying the fun while anticipating the closing of their high school careers: on May 16 and 17, the senior class held its final Shabbaton in Woodmere. Wildcats got in some last moments to sing, schmooze, daven, and bond together with Senior Grade Dean and Judaic Studies faculty member, Mrs. Rebecca Teper. (Many thanks to the Bausk, Katz, Windholz, Schiffer, Amar, and Secter families for hosting seniors during this fun-filled weekend.) Topping off the weekend was the annual Salute to Israel parade on Sunday, May 18, at which Central marched with Yeshiva University, demonstrating the close relationship the school enjoys with the university.

On Monday, May 19, the school hosted its first annual Central Wildcat Awards Luncheon, an event that paid tribute to Central’s athletics program, as well as its competitive academic and performing arts teams. From the Torah Bowl team to Mock Trial to varsity sports, all Wildcat extracurriculars were recognized, and participants were celebrated for their efforts over the past academic year. Instrumental in putting the event together were those seniors who have spent their internship programming working right here at Central – and not as students, but as newly-minted work experience additions. Seniors Maya Kikov, Esther Nazarov, Ava Reschke, and Emma Roth-

schild have spent their internship month assisting the front office with administrative and organizational tasks – and more. During the ceremony, Director of Athletics, Electives Department Chair and Spanish teacher, Mr. Erez Bar-Levy, was honored as the head of Central’s Athletics program, and Humanities faculty member, Ms. Chevi Friedman, was honored as Faculty Advisor of the Year. And continuing the year’s experiential learning were Central’s Engineering students, accompanied by Central’s Director of Technology, Mrs. Marci Karoll, and Science and Engineering faculty, Mr. Michael Spindel, who attended the CIJE Innovation Day at the American Dream Mall. Over 1,100 students from 40 different schools participated in the event, which featured over 400 engineering projects. A Central team composed of sophomores Elana Engelsohn, Maya Goykadosh, Aden Muskat, and Bailey Rosenstock won third place for Best Promotional Video.

There’s more excitement in the weeks to come: along with Central’s annual senior dinner on May 29 and an expo demonstrating their May internship experiences on May 30, the seniors will enjoy their annual class trip to Lake George on June 4 and 5. Central juniors will also be on the road for their class trip, traveling to Lancaster, Pennsylvania on May 27 and 28, and Central’s sophomores and freshmen will celebrate the end of the year at Six Flags Great Adventure on May 28. Lastly, the 73rd annual YUHSG commencement ceremony will be held at Lamport Auditorium on the Yeshiva University campus on Monday, June 9.

Stanley Cup 5 Towns Hockey Championship Games

As the Championship games have just finished, we take a look back on what an incredible season this was. The Five Towns Hockey League has experienced a truly exceptional season, marked by intense competition and outstanding athleticism across all participating teams. The level of play throughout the regular season was consistently high, culminating in a postseason that delivered memorable moments and surprising results. The playoffs were especially noteworthy, featuring a series of upsets that defied early expectations. Initially, it appeared that the top-seeded teams would have a straightforward path to securing the championship. However, the underdog teams demonstrated remarkable resilience and skill, ultimately disrupting the anticipated dominance of the top seeds. As of this writing, none of

the #1 seeds have claimed the championship, underscoring the unpredictability and excitement that define this year’s league playoffs.

In the 2nd and 3rd grade league, we’d like to congratulate Rabbi Lieberman’s team for an incredible playoff run, upsetting higher-ranked teams round after round to win the championship over Leon Mayer’s team, who put up a great fight. Special congratulations to MVP Shua Terline, who was phenomenal in goal.

In the 4th/5th grade league, Leon Mayer finally captured the championship with a thrilling 3-2 victory over Elie Errich’s team. Elie did an outstanding job, but Leon’s squad, led by MVP Avraham Mayer, was a force to be reckoned with. We’d also like to thank all the coaches in the league for dedicating their time to

help coach and teach the children how to play. Your efforts are truly appreciated! Both championship games were fan-

tastic, and we’re already looking forward to next season! Registration is now open at www.5townssports.com.

Ezra Academy Celebrates a Successful Year at the Annual Retreat

Ezra Academy students and faculty recently gathered for a fourday retreat at Camp Moshava in Indian Orchard, Pennsylvania, to celebrate a year of learning, growth, and the strengthening of friendships. The retreat, held from Thursday through Sunday, was a culmination of the year’s academic and spiritual accomplishments, solidifying bonds between students and their rebbeim/morot and providing an inspiring atmosphere for the entire school community.

Despite a rainy day that may have altered the schedule (but without dampening the spirits), the students made the most of their time together, enjoying a weekend filled with meaningful activities. The theme of the Shabbaton, “B’chol Derachecha Da-ayhu” (Know Him in all your ways), served as the foundation for numerous sessions and discussions, ex-

ploring how to connect to G-d in every aspect of life.

Highlights of the retreat included a lively scavenger hunt, where students raced across the campgrounds to complete a somewhat familiar but always evolving scavenger hunt. In addition, “Class Combat” pitted grade against grade in fun yet competitive activities that tested teamwork and school spirit. Special sessions were held for extra learning, including insightful Shiurim for the Kollel and Shalhevet Chava groups, providing deep spiritual nourishment to all participants.

A panel discussion with the accomplished women who are married to (or children of our Ezra rebbeim) and interactions with the Traveling Chassidim inspired students, allowing them to gain a broader perspective on Jewish spirituality and the importance of Torah in every-

day life. As the weekend progressed, students participated in davening, singing and dancing, strengthening their connection to one another and their emunah through their observance of Shabbat.

The retreat also provided a special opportunity to honor the senior class of 2025, who are completing their final year at Ezra Academy. Their dedication to both their academic and spiritual growth was celebrated, marking a bittersweet moment in their journey as they prepare to transition into the next chapter of their lives.

The weekend was a perfect blend of learning, connection, and celebration. Whether through engaging in group discussions, enjoying the natural beauty of the camp, or simply spending time with friends, the students of Ezra Academy left the retreat refreshed, inspired, and ready to tackle the final stretch of the ac-

ademic year.

As one student put it, “It was an unforgettable experience, filled with moments of inspiration and fun, and a true reminder of how much we’ve grown together as a community and why we love Ezra Academy.”

The Ezra Academy retreat continues to serve as a cornerstone of the school’s mission to foster growth, build connections, and inspire each student to live a meaningful and spiritual life.

Ezra Academy is dedicated to providing students with a well-rounded, rigorous education in both Judaic and secular studies, preparing them for success in both their academic and personal lives. Through innovative programs and a nurturing environment, Ezra fosters the growth of students into confident, thoughtful individuals who are committed to the values of Torah and tradition.

The talmidos of TAG’s Ganger Early Childhood Division enjoyed learning about the seven years until Shmittah from the parsha. They found an innovative way to count seven, which added up to a fun lesson

YCQ Celebrates Lag Ba’Omer with Two Incredible Color Wars

In celebration of Lag B’Omer, Yeshiva of Central Queens (YCQ) hosted two exciting Color War events for students in Grades 1-5 and Grades 6-8. Over the course of several days, students engaged in spirited competition, creative expression, and meaningful team-building activities.

The Color War for Junior High School began on Friday with a surprise breakout during the second annual Poetry Slam. After a series of inspiring performances, Rabbi Landsman concluded the event with a special poem depicting a battle between the colors red and blue. The teams were announced, with red representing Bein Adam L’Makom (between man and G-d) and blue representing Bein Adam L’Chavero (between man and his fellow man), and the competition was officially underway.

On Monday, students in Grades 1-5 enjoyed their own Color War celebration. The day began with fun activities at Flushing Meadows-Corona Park and continued with a delicious BBQ lunch at school. Students showcased their creativity and teamwork through a variety of competitions that impressed both their teachers and the administration.

Meanwhile, Junior High students traveled to Cunningham Park for a full day of competitive events and team bonding, followed by a BBQ lunch. The Color War continued on Tuesday with a lineup of activities including a high-ener-

gy Apache Relay, team stomps, original skits, spirited cheers, creative banners, and original songs. The level of enthusiasm, creativity, and sportsmanship displayed by the students was remarkable.

Although the students enjoyed the three days of activities, this was more than just a fun time. From athletes to artists, techies to Torah bowlers, every single student had the chance to apply their individual talents and strengths. Everyone was given the opportunity to shine and develop their personal and collaborative skills, alongside their leadership abilities. Color War truly enabled students to develop a healthy sense of self-worth and confidence that will help them mature into successful bnei and bnot Torah.

Many thanks to Morah Shirly PouradKaikov and Mr. Jacob Grossman for organizing what many have called the best Color Wars to date. Their vision and dedication, along with the support of countless teachers and staff members, made these incredible events possible.

Recognition is also due to the student leaders who played a pivotal role in guiding their teams. For the Red team: Generals Liana Shakarov and Ariel Nazarov; Lieutenant Generals Hannah Kaykov and Eyal Hiaeve; and Captains Emily Leviav and Yonatan Davidov. For the Blue team: Generals Daniella Bitton and Joshua Natanov; Lieutenant Generals Abigail Inoyatov and David Behfar; and Captains Ayala Avramov and Yishai Hativi.

Connecting to Greatness Around the

As we prepare to receive the Torah anew this Shavuos, Yeshiva Ateres Eitz Chaim embarked on a meaningful and inspiring trip to the kevarim of several of the towering Torah luminaries buried in Queens. This was not just a historical or educational excursion, it was a heartfelt effort to deepen our connection to the mesorah, to the gedolei Yisrael who shaped the Torah landscape of America, and ultimately, to the Torah itself.

The trip included visits to the kevarim of Rav Avraham Pam, zt”l, Rav Henoch Leibowitz, zt”l, Rav Dovid Leibowitz, zt”l, the Rebbe of Yampola, zt”l, Rav Yaakov Kamenetsky, zt”l, Rav Shlo-

mo Heiman, zt”l, Rav Nota Greenblatt, zt”l, Rav Yaakov Yosef, zt”l and many more, each a giant in Torah, mussar, and leadership. At each kever, the bochurim learned Torah connected to the life and teachings of the tzaddik, recited Tehillim, and personal tefillos. These moments were quiet yet charged with the sense that we were not just remembering the past but standing in the presence of eternity. Each gadol we visited represents a living legacy. Rav Pam’s gentleness and unwavering emunah, Rav Henoch’s fierce commitment to mussar and growth, Rav Dovid Leibowitz’s vision in founding Yeshivas Chofetz Chaim, the Rebbe of Yampola’s Ahavas Yisroel, Rav Yaakov’s

wisdom and middah of emes, Rav Shlomo Heiman’s fiery hasmadah, Rav Nota Greenblatt’s decades of service to Klal Yisroel, and Rav Yaakov Yosef’s commitment to the highest standards of kashrus are just a few lessons we learned. All these are not just stories of the past but torches we carry forward.

Before and after visiting each kever, bochurim heard divrei Torah and historical context, focusing not only on who these gedolim were, but how their teachings are still shaping our learning today. This trip was purposefully timed in the days leading up to Shavuos, the day we reaccept the Torah as individuals and as a nation. Our visit was an act of preparation, an

effort to stand on the shoulders of giants and open our hearts to the Kol Torah. By connecting to our gedolim in a personal way, we align ourselves with the chain of transmission that goes back to Har Sinai. Our bochurim came away not only with inspiration, but with a sense of responsibility, to live up to the mesorah, to continue the work of these giants, and to bring their Torah into our own learning, davening, and daily lives. May these tzaddikim continue to be meilitzi yosher for Klal Yisroel and we should be zocheh to a deeper, meaningful Kabbalas HaTorah this Shavuos.

Around the Community Derashos of The Pnei Menachem

Preparing for Kabbalas HaTorah

The Chiddushei HaRim explains that the Shabbos before Shavuos is often called Shabbos Derech Eretz based on Chazal’s teaching that derech eretz precedes the Torah (Vayikra Rabbah Ch. 9). Derech eretz includes all the character traits that we are meant to improve during the days of Sefiras HaOmer as we prepare for Kabbalas HaTorah on Shavuos (see also Sfas Emes, Shavuos 5643).

We find in the Mishnah that the wicked are judged in Gehinnom from Pesach until Shavuos (Eduyos 2:10). They stand in judgment for having failed to utilize this precious season for character improvement while they still lived. Perhaps this was also the reason that R’ Akiva’s talmidim passed away during this period. According to their lofty spiritual level, they were expected to make better use of this time to improve themselves and show greater respect to their peers (Yevamos 62b).

When Bnei Yisrael left Mitzrayim, they began a purification process that culminated with Kabbalas HaTorah (Kesones Pa-

sim, Kedoshim; Imrei Emes, Emor 5676, 5690). This opportunity for self-improvement returns each year between Pesach and Shavuos, and we are expected to take full advantage of it.

The relationship between Hashem and Klal Yisrael is compared to that of a husband and wife. Both sides must invest in the relationship. On Shavuos, Hashem shines a great light upon us from Above, but here below we must make the necessary preparations in order to receive it. Each day of Sefiras HaOmer makes its own demands on a person, to uplift himself, improve his middos, and strive for perfection in all ways, so that he will come prepared to receive the Torah on Shavuos.

In the Haggadah we say, “Had He brought us before Har Sinai but not given us the Torah, it would have been enough for us.” What point would there be in coming to Har Sinai had we not received the Torah? The answer is that there were two sides to Kabbalas HaTorah. On the one hand, the Torah was a gift from Heaven. On the other hand, Bnei Yisrael had to work hard

to improve themselves and make themselves worthy of this gift. Had Hashem only brought us before Har Sinai, and helped us to reach this high level of preparation, this alone would have been enough to warrant our eternal gratitude.

The pasuk states, “When He finished (k’chaloso) speaking to him on Mount Sinai, He gave Moshe the two Tablets of Testimony” (Shemos 31:18). Chazal comment on the word k’chaloso that when Moshe was on Har Sinai, he kept forgetting everything Hashem had taught him, until finally Hashem gave him the entire Torah as a gift, just as a kallah is given as a gift to her chassan (Nedarim 38a; Rashi, Shemos 31:18).

We can understand the metaphor of a chassan and kallah based on the Maharal (Tiferes Yisrael, Ch. 30), who explains that man and woman have two totally different souls. Each one lives in his or her own world. Still, when they get married, they form a powerful bond with one another, which allows them to build a home and have children together, thus ensuring the continuation of the world.

So, too, the Torah and the human being are two opposites. Man’s nature stands at odds with the Torah. There is no way that he could grasp the inner meaning of the Torah had it not been given to him as a gift from Heaven, just like the miraculous union between a chassan and a kallah.

Overcoming the difficulties inherent in the union between the physical and the spiritual is an essential part of Hashem’s plan in giving the Torah to mortal creatures of flesh and blood. Chazal tell us that when Moshe ascended to Heaven to receive the Torah, the malachim complained that Hashem should leave the Torah with them in Heaven. Hashem asked Moshe to answer their complaint, and he told them, “Is there jealousy among you? Is there a yetzer hara among you?” (Shabbos 88b). Hashem deliberately gave the Torah to mortal man, who suffers from these ills, so that the holiness of the Torah could permeate even the lowest levels of creation.

Nonetheless, we cannot simply wallow in our petty jealousies and our yetzer hara and expect Hashem to give us the Torah, without doing anything to make ourselves worthy of it. By our basic nature, we could have no connection to the Torah. Therefore, we must do as much as we can to uplift ourselves in preparation for Kabbalas HaTorah. Otherwise, we will not merit to receive it.

Chazal tell us that before a person is

he learns the entire Torah inside his mother’s womb. Then, as soon as he is born, he is slapped by an angel, causing him to forget everything he had learned (Niddah 30b). What is the point of teaching him the Torah, if he will forget it all in any case?

The Noam Elimelech explains that man is born into this world with such strong physical desires, and such a selfish disposition, that it would be impossible for him to connect himself to the holy Torah. Therefore, he is taught the entire Torah before he is born, and before his physical body with all its desires has been fully formed. The malach who “slaps” him and makes him forget the Torah is none other than the yetzer hara, which enters his heart the moment he is born (Maharsha). Since he has already learned the Torah in his mother’s womb, he is able to eventually overcome the yetzer hara and regain all that he has lost.

Even so, great effort is still required in order to regain our portion in the Torah. The Beis Yisrael would often quote the Gemara (Kiddushin 30b) that states that the yetzer hara renews its attacks against us every day and attempts to kill us. Without Hashem’s help, we could never overcome it. The Beis Yisrael warned that although our ability to overcome the yetzer hara is a gift from Heaven, we still must do our own part by working hard to improve ourselves, in order to merit this special siyata diShmaya.

The excerpt is reprinted from Derashos of The Pnei Menachem with permission from the copyright holder, ArtScroll Mesorah Publications.

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What Type of Flower You Are & What it Says About You

Rose – You’re dramatic, high-maintenance, and absolutely worth it. You pretend you don’t love attention, but you literally come with thorns.

Sunflower – You radiate joy and positivity; sunshine in a stalk, but low-key offended every time someone treats your offspring as a snack.

Tulip – You’re sleek, seasonal, and always leave people wanting more. Emotionally available for three weeks a year, tops.

Orchid – You thrive in complex conditions and need five apps just to keep track of your skincare. Basically: elegant, mysterious, and a little high-strung.

Dandelion – You’re scrappy, underestimated, and somehow everywhere. Technically a weed, but you call that “low-maintenance and spontaneous.”

Peony – You peak for ten minutes and expect lifelong loyalty. You have big main-character energy and zero tolerance for rain.

Lily – You’re classy, quiet, and definitely judging everyone at the brunch table.

Daisy – You think you’re “not like other flowers,” but everyone knows you cried at a commercial about the latest skin care medication.

Lavender – You tell people you’re chill and calming, but you’ve threatened at least one person with herbal revenge.

Cactus Flower – You’re cute but will emotionally poke anyone who gets too close. Vulnerability? No, thanks. You’re thriving alone in a dry climate.

You Gotta Be Kidding Me

A man walks into the police station wishing to speak with the burglar who had broken into his house the night before.

“You’ll get your chance in court,” says the police officer guarding the burglar.

“No, no, no!” says the man. “I want to know how he got into the house without waking my wife. I’ve been trying to do that for years!”

Flower Trivia

1. Who was the first flower breeder in the United States?

a. George Washington

b. John Flowersmith

c. Alexander Graham Bell

d. René Barbier

2. How many flowers are there approximately in Dubai’s Miracle Garden’s 72,000-square-foot attraction that opened in 2013?

a. 4 million

b. 17 million

c. 24 million

d. 45 million

3. What is the national flower of the U.S.?

a. Daisy

b. Tulip

c. Rose

d. Violet

person who harvested the nicest tulips gets to plant the garden at Buckingham Palace.

d. It was a craze that took place in the Netherland’s in the 1630s when tulips were seen as a status symbol, causing them to become more valuable than gold. The market eventually collapsed, and tulips became nearly worthless, leaving tulip speculators in financial ruin.

4. Which flower shares its name with a musical instrument?

a. Drumflower

b. Flute pedals

c. Viola

d. Harp flower

5. What was tulip mania?

a. It’s a WWE wrestling match that takes place in a large city’s botanical gardens at the end of every summer.

b. It’s a disease in which a person is compelled to plant tulips in every free space of their garden.

c. It is a tulip competition that takes place in England. The

Answer:

1) A- Not only was he the first U.S. president, but George Washington was also the first American rose breeder. He had hundreds of bushes at his home and believed his ability to care for roses came from pruning cherry trees as a child.

2) D

3) C-On November 20, 1986, then-President Ronald Reagan signed a proclamation certifying the rose as the national flower in a ceremony at the White House Rose Garden.

4) C

5) D

Wisdom key:

4-5 correct: A scent of genius… Flower power!

2-3 correct: You are a carnation… “Eh, nothing special!”

0-1 correct: Were you knocked in the head during tulip mania?

Riddle Me This

When do we have kri’as haTorah five days in a row, other than on Pesach, Chanukah, and Sukkos?

Answer: When Rosh Hashana falls out on Thursday and Friday. The third day is the regular Shabbos leining, the fourth day is Sunday which is Tzom Gedalyah, and the fifth day is Monday, on which we always lein.

Torah Thought

Parshas Bamidbar

By Rabbi Berel Wein

The count of the Jewish people as it appears in this week’s parsha is always a difficult issue to appreciate and understand. What are we to learn from all of the detailed descriptions and seemingly exact numbers? The general lesson that every Jew counts – and is to be counted – is most apparent. But that lesson can be learned from a much more concise précis of the population of the Jews than the long description that ap -

pears in the parsha.

I think that the messenger here is itself the message. By that I mean that the Torah wishes to express its relationship to the Jewish people simply by dwelling on an “unnecessary” lengthy detailed counting of its numbers. For those with whom we have a loving relationship, there are no unnecessary or superfluous acts or gestures. The rabbis compare this type of relationship, in a wry way, to one

counting one’s money.

For instance, the criterion for the speed and intensity of reciting the words of prayer is the rate of speed that one would use in counting valuable coins. The care in counting is itself the expression of the underlying attachment to what is being counted. I always note that people leaving the ATM cash dispenser invariably check the bills that they have received. This is not only an act of pru-

themselves as being parents of all Jews. Some Jews crave affection, and others need very tough love. The enormous diversity – twelve different tribes that are counted separately before being united in one total number of the whole people – of the Jewish people is emphasized by the sheer individual counting of them. The responsibility for the fate of the Jewish people is a heavy burden for leaders to bear. But it is an unavoidable one that

For those with whom we have a loving relationship, there are no unnecessary or superfluous acts or gestures.

dence; it is an act of affection and importance. So, the count of the Jews in the parsha, even in its detail and length, is logical and makes perfect sense.

Another understanding of this issue can be found in the description of the counters themselves and not only in the description of the ones counted. Moshe, Aharon, Elazar and Itamar are the leaders of the Jewish people. They are responsible for the physical and spiritual welfare of the Jewish people in its totality. Part of their task is to somehow know all of their millions of constituents – to have some sort of relationship and affinity to each individual Jew.

The leaders of Israel always saw

automatically comes with the posts of leadership. And the counters of the Jewish people are themselves the leaders of the people, aware at all times that the people rely upon their leadership and wisdom. And they must also be aware that each of those counted are somehow to be accommodated in their needs and development.

So, counting the Jewish people are not empty numbers to the leaders of Israel but rather the list of challenges and opportunities presented before them. May both the counters and the counted of Israel in our day be great in numbers, spirit and accomplishments.

Shabbat shalom.

Parshas Bamidbar is read the Shabbos before Shavuos every year. The Shulchan Aruch codifies this practice in halacha (Orach Chaim 428:4). Tosafos (on Megillah 31b) explain that the source for this halacha is the Gemara’s statement that Ezra Hasofer instituted the reading of the rebuke in Parshas Bechukosai (the week before Parshas Bamidbar) before Shavuos and the rebuke in Parshas Ki Sisa before Rosh Hashana. But this explanation merely shows why we must get Parshas Bechukosai “out of the way” prior to Shavuos. It does not fully explain why there is an active obligation to ensure that we read Parshas Bamidbar immediately before Shavuos. And what is it about Parshas Bamidbar that prepares us to receive the Torah?

The Midrash (Bereishis Raba 3:5) says an amazing thing. Each of the five books of the Torah corresponds to one of the five times Hashem uses the word “light” on the first day of Creation. The pasuk “And G-d said, ‘Let there be light’” (Bereishis 1:3) corresponds to the book of Bereishis.

From the Fire

Parshas Bamidbar Bridging the Gap

By Rav Moshe Weinberger

Adapted for publication by

Binyomin Wolf

The pasuk “And G-d separated between the light and the darkness” (ibid. 4) corresponds to the book of Bamidbar. The Midrash explains that this is because “the book of Bamidbar separates between those who went out of Egypt and those who came into the land [of Eretz Yisroel…”

But this is very difficult to understand. How can the Midrash say that the people who were innocent of all of the sins of the generation in the desert were compared to darkness relative to their predecessors? And why is it so important to begin this book which separates between the light of the generation that left Egypt and the darkness of the generation that entered Eretz Yisroel immediately before Shavuos?

Reb Tzadok Hakohein from Lublin, zy”a, explains in many places (including Pri Tzadik Bereishis 2 and Bamidbar 2) that the generation of the desert was characterized by their face-to-face relationship with G-d because they received the Torah directly from Moshe Rabbeinu. Hashem revealed Himself to them primarily through

the written Torah. It was given directly from Heaven and through miracles. In contrast, the generation that entered Eretz Yisroel received the Torah from Yehoshua. Accordingly, their relationship with the Torah was primarily formed through their study of the oral Torah.

That is why the Gemara (Bava Basra 75a) says, “The face of Moshe is like the sun, and the face of Yehoshua is like the moon.”

The generation that received the Torah directly from Moshe was compared to light because they viewed the Torah through a clear lens. But the generation that received it from Yehoshua only saw the reflection of the original light. That is why they were compared to darkness.

That is also why Chazal teach us (Temurah 15b) that when Moshe Rabbeinu died, the Jewish people forgot 300 halachos. According to some, it was 3,000 halachos. And Chazal (Tanchuma 58:3) express the lack of clarity in the post-Moshe era when they state, “It is difficult to study the oral Torah and there

is great pain [in studying it] because it is compared to darkness, as the pasuk (Yeshaya 9:1) says, ‘The people who walked in darkness saw great light.’ This refers to the scholars of the Talmud who saw a great light when Hashem illuminated their eyes [with the laws of] the prohibited and the permissible.” The Midrash compares those who study the Talmud, the Oral Torah, to those who walk in darkness. That is why Chazal teach us (Tanchuma Ki Sisa 36) that when Moshe Rabbeinu was on Har Sinai, Hashem taught him the Written Torah during the day and the Oral Torah at night. Based on the above, we can now understand why those who left Egypt and received the Torah from Moshe were compared to light and the generation that entered Eretz Yisroel and received the Torah from Yehoshua were compared to darkness. The generation which left Egypt received the Torah directly from Moshe, who received it directly from Hashem. For them, the Torah was as clear as day. But the generation which entered Eretz Yisroel

received it from Yehoshua, whose light was only a reflection of Moshe’s light. For them, it took much more effort to understand the Torah. It was not as clear. That is why they were compared to darkness.

The Netziv, zt”l, teaches in his introduction to the Book of Bamidbar that Moshe operated on a level above nature. He was surrounded by miracles. But Yehoshua operated according to nature. At the end of the forty years in the desert, we already began the transition to the way of Yehoshua. In the battles against Kena’an and Sichon, we began fighting in a more natural way. There was no more “G-d will fight for you, and you shall be silent” (Shemos 14:14). We had already begun to transition into the way of life of darkness and the Oral Torah. That is the role of the Book of Bamidbar: to usher out the age of light, of miracles, of the clear lens of Torah, and to usher in the age of darkness, nature and viewing the Torah through a partially opaque lens. It became necessary to struggle to understand the Torah.

With this background, we can now begin to understand why Ezra instituted the reading of Parshas Bamidbar immediately before Shavuos. Doing so emphasizes the importance of the generation that entered Eretz Yisroel, who began to learn how to toil in Torah. They began to know what it means to struggle to understand Hashem’s will when it is not readily understandable. It demonstrates that it is Hashem’s will that we study Torah not only in the light of the day but also in the darkness of night. Before we enter into the holiness of Shavuos, we must understand what it means to struggle to understand and clarify the Torah.

Rav Pinchas Friedman, shlita, the Belzer Rosh Kollel, explains, based on the Arizal, that each of the five books of the Torah corresponds to one of the five parts of the four-letter name of G-d: Yud-KHeyVav-KHey. The book of Bereishis corresponds to the tip of the letter Yud at the beginning of Hashem’s name. Shemos and Vayikra correspond to the first two letters of the name, Yud-Hey, and Bamidbar and Devarim correspond to the last two letters of the name, Vav-Hey.

We therefore see that Shemos and Vayikra, which tell the story of the Jews who left Egypt and reflect a way of life characterized by miracles and the open revelation of the written Torah, correspond to the supernal, more elevated part of G-d’s name, Yud-Hey. This is the aspect of “Let the Heavens rejoice” (Tehillim 96:11). And the bookend, which has the story of the generation which would enter Eretz Yisroel and was characterized by a more natural way of life in which the Oral Torah was predom-

inant, correspond to the “lower” part of Hashem’s name, the part which brings His essence down here to the earth, Vav-Hey. That is the aspect of “And let the earth be glad” (ibid.).

Parshas Bamidbar is the bridge between these two worlds: the worlds of the Written and Oral Torahs, the worlds of nature and miracles, and the worlds of Moshe Rabbeinu and Yehoshua. It is the perfect introduction to Shavuos because it teaches us how to connect both worlds.

two letters, to reveal Hashem’s light in the Oral Torah no less than it is revealed in the Written Torah and to connect to Hashem through the leadership of Yehoshua no less than through Moshe Rabbeinu. “Let the Heavens rejoice and let the earth be glad.”

We join together the worlds of light and darkness, Moshe and Yehoshua, the Written and Oral Torahs, by reading Parshas Bamidbar immediately before Shavuos. And we also work to make this connection on Shavuos itself by fulfilling the teaching

It demonstrates that it is Hashem’s will that we study Torah not only in the light of the day but also in the darkness of night.

Before we do a mitzvah, many of us say that we are doing so “to unify the Holy One and His Divine Presence.” What does that mean? The Sefer Teshuos Chein (Parshas Bo) explains that we unite the higher revelation of G-d known in kabbalistic terms as “The Holy One” and the more worldly revelation of His light called “His Divine Presence” by finding connections between the Written and Oral Torahs. That is why, in the Gemara, the sages always ask, “From where do we know this [law in the Mishnah]?” The entire Talmud is filled with the product of the sages’ efforts to find sources in the Written Torah for the laws outlined in the Oral Torah. They were really “unifying the Holy One and His Divine Presence.”

In every Gemara, we attempt to unite the more supernal, elevated part of G-d’s name Yud-Hey with the “lower,” more earthly part of Hashem’s name Vav-Hey by connecting the laws in the Oral Torah to the pesukim in the Written Torah. When we study the sages’ teachings, we connect “Give ear O Heavens and I will speak” with “And listen O earth to the words of my mouth” (Devarim 32:1). The sages’ whole goal was to bring together “the dew of Heaven and the fats of the earth” (Bereishis 27:28).

The sefer Megaleh Amukos says that the light of the sun corresponds to the first two letters of Hashem’s name Yud-Hey and the light of the moon corresponds to the last two letters of Hashem’s name VavHey. The pasuk says that in the World to Come, “The light of the moon will be like the light of the sun…” (Yeshayahu 30:26). The ultimate goal is to unite the first two letters of Hashem’s name with the last

of the Magen Avraham in the name of the Shelah Hakadosh, who says that one should connect the night and the day of Shavuos by spending the twilight period at the beginning of Shavuos and the period between first light and sunrise Shavuos morning in prayer and Torah study.

This is one way we “to unify the Holy

One and His Divine Presence.” We bridge the gap between the infinite light of the Written Torah with the constricted light of the details of the mitzvos outlined in the Oral Torah. That is also why many people have the custom of reading the Tikkun Leil Shavuos throughout the night. They join together the worlds of Moshe and Yehoshua not only by studying Torah and davening from twilight till first light, but also by studying portions of the Written and Oral Torahs contained in the text of the Tikkun Leil Shavuos. That is how they unify the supernal aspect of Hashem’s light with His light as it is revealed in this physical world. Through this, they connect the first two letters of His name with the last two letters of his name and His essence above with the Jewish people’s observance of the details of the mitzvos here on earth.

In the merit of our observance of the customs of Shavuos, may we merit to succeed in seeing how “the light of the moon will be like the light of the sun…” with the coming of Moshiach soon in our days.

Rav Moshe Weinberger, shlita, is the founding Morah d’Asrah of Congreagation Aish Kodesh in Woodmere, NY, and serves as leader of the new mechina Emek HaMelech.

Gifting the Torah to the Children of Hashem

By Ra BB i Daniel Glatstein

The tefillah of Shacharis begins with Birchos HaShachar, the morning blessings. One of these brachos is shelo asani goy, a blessing in which we thank Hashem for not making us non-Jews.

The Midrash Pliah reveals that this bracha has unique and ancient origins:

At the time when Hashem said, “Anochi Hashem Elokecha asher hotzeisicha mei’Eretz Mitzrayim, I am Hashem, your G-d, Who has taken you out of the land of Egypt (Shemos 20:2), Moshe exclaimed, “Baruch Atah Hashem…shelo asani goy, Blessed are You, Hashem, our G-d, for not having made me a non-Jew.”

Thus, it would seem that this blessing can be traced to the giving of the very first of the Ten Commandments.

This Midrash is quoted in the sefer Divrei Shaul (Parshas Yisro), where R’ Shaul HaLevi Nathansohn opines that it is not authentic and has no true source. However, he writes, even if the actual Midrash is unsourced, the concept can be explained nonetheless. The Jewish people are required to believe in the One and Only Supernal G-d. Non-Jews are also required to believe in G-d — this is one of the seven Noahide laws that all nations of the world are commanded to observe. However, there is a difference between the Jew’s mandate versus that of the non-Jew. The Shulchan Aruch rules that if a non-Jew believes in shituf, a partnering force with G-d, he is not liable for violating the commandment to

believe in G-d. This is not the case for a Jew, who must believe in One, and only One, Hashem.1

The Anochi Factor

Where, in fact, do we find that a Jew is forbidden to believe in shituf, partnership? The Divrei Shaul offers that it derives from the first two of the Ten Commandments: “Anochi Hashem Elokecha, I am Hashem, your G-d…” and “Lo yehiyeh lecha Elohim acheirim al panai, You shall not recognize the gods of others in My presence” (Shemos 20:2–3). Our belief in Hashem must be exclusive, barring any supposed accompanying force.

This, says the Divrei Shaul, would be the explanation of the words of the Midrash. When the commandment “I am Hashem” was issued, it distinguished our belief system from that of the nonJews. Thus Moshe exclaimed, “Blessed are You, Hashem, for not having made me a non-Jew!”

The Divrei Shaul concludes that he later heard from a darshan that this Midrash is sourced in the Midrash Avkir. As Midrash Avkir is a reliable source, quoted many times in the Yalkut Shimoni, we must therefore strive to understand the depth of its words.

Cosmic Clash

The Gemara (Shabbos 88b) describes that when Moshe went up to the Heavenly spheres to receive the Torah, he was

subjected to a heated debate. The angels did not want the Torah to be handed over to mankind. The Gemara says: And R’ Yehoshua ben Levi said: When Moshe ascended to the Heavenly heights [to receive the Torah], the ministering angels said before the Holy One, Blessed is He: “Master of the Universe! What is one born of a woman doing among us?” [The Holy One, Blessed is He] said to them, “He has come to receive the Torah.” They said before him: “The coveted and treasured [Torah] that was stored by You as a treasure for 974 generations before the world was created! You intend to give that to flesh and blood?”

Ultimately, the angels lost the argument, and the Torah was given to Moshe to be delivered to the Jewish people. We must understand, what was the angels’ claim? Why did they feel that they deserved the Torah rather than the Jewish people?

The Chida explains this based on the Gemara (Bava Metzia 108a) that outlines a halachic principle called dina d’bar metzra. This means that if one wishes to sell his field, his neighbor has the right of first refusal. The source for this rule is the verse in Parshas Va’eschanan, “V’asisah ha’yashara v’ha’tov, You shall do what is fair and good” (Devarim 6:18). Since the neighbor stands to gain by having two fields adjacent to each other rather than in different locations, it is “fair and good” to allow him the right to purchase the field before any other per -

son is contacted.

The Chida says that the angels were invoking this claim. They, who dwell in the heavens, were “neighbors” of the Torah, which also existed in the heavens. Thus, in line with the rule of dina d’bar metzra, they held the right of first refusal with regard to the gifting of the Torah.

Sale to a Son

If the angels were basing their claim on legitimate halachic grounds, why did it fail?

The answer lies in an exception to the rule. The Sifsei Kohen (known as “the Shach”) writes that when the would-be purchaser is the seller’s son, it may be that the rule of dina d’bar metzra should not apply. The logical reason is that since the source for dina d’bar metzra is the verse “you shall do what is fair and good,” it may be more “fair and good” for one to sell a property to his own son rather than to a non-relative, albeit a neighbor.

The Shach writes this as a possible consideration. However, the Shitah Mekubetzes brings in the name of the She’eilos U’Teshuvos HaRif that the rule of dina d’bar metzra definitely does not apply when it is a son who wishes to purchase.

It is with this idea, the Chida explains, that we triumphed over the angels’ claim. While it is true that they were the Torah’s “neighbors,” this did not preclude our right to receive the Torah. This is because the principle of dina d’bar

metzra did not apply since we, the Jewish people, are Hashem’s children. And a child’s claim takes precedence over that of a neighbor.

The Chida uses this concept to explain the continuum between two segments of the Haggadah.

We recite the paragraph “Baruch HaMakom Baruch Hu, Baruch she’nasan Torah l’amo Yisrael, Blessed is the Omnipresent, Blessed is He. Blessed is the One Who has given His Torah to His people Yisrael.” This is a statement of gratitude to Hashem for giving us the Torah. This paragraph is followed by the recitation of the Arbah Banim, four Sons: the wise son, the wicked son, the simple son, and the son who does not know how to ask.

The Chida explains: We first say “Baruch HaMakom Baruch Hu, Baruch she’nasan Torah l’amo Yisrael” to express our thanks for having been given the Torah. But our right to the Torah faces a challenge. According to R’ Yehudah, the angels’ claim of dina d’bar metzra should continue to stand. In R’ Yehudah’s view, when the Jews sin, they are no longer called Hashem’s children. At that point, the Torah should revert to the angels, who maintain the right of first refusal as dina d’bar metzra. The Haggadah therefore continues with the “four Sons” paragraph. There, we express that all four — even the wicked one — are called a “son.” This reiterates that the halacha is like R’ Meir, and thus, we will never lose our designation as Hashem’s children.

One Heart

That we must be Hashem’s children in order to receive the Torah is an idea that can help explain a phenomenon described in Parshas Yisro, when the Jews arrived at Har Sinai. The pasuk says, “Vayichan sham Yisrael neged ha’har, and Yisrael encamped there, opposite the mountain” (Shemos 19:2). Rashi comments on this verse, “K’ish echad b’lev echad, like one man with one heart .” Why was it critical, prior to encamping opposite the mountain, that the Jews join in absolute unity?

We can answer this question based on the words of R’ Chaim Palagi, commenting on the pasuk in Parshas Re’eh that says, “Banim atem l’Hashem Elokechem, You are children of Hashem, your G-d” (Devarim 14:1). The verse doesn’t end with this statement. It continues with a prohibition: “Lo tisgodidu l’meis, You shall not cut yourselves … for a dead person.” This commandment forbids one from cutting himself in grief upon the demise of a loved one. The Gemara ( Yevamos 13b) interprets these words homiletically: Lo saasu agudos agudos, do not make multiple assemblages. According to this interpretation, the Torah is cautioning us from dividing congregations into separate groups adhering to disparate practices.

R’ Chaim Palagi writes that these two parts of the verse — “banim atem” and “lo tisgodidu” — go hand in hand. Unity among Jews reflects our being Hashem’s children. Since we are children of Hashem, we shall not impose divisiveness among our gatherings.

This idea sheds light on the emphasis of our unity prior to Matan Torah. As we have learned from the Chida, we — rather than the angels — merited to receive the Torah by virtue of our being children of Hashem. In order to affirm this reality, we had to act with utmost unity which, as R’ Chaim Palagi taught us, is a reflection of the fact that we are Hashem’s children.

Just and Good

In Parshas Re’eh (Devarim 13:19–14:1) we find the following two pesukim juxtaposed:

“ When you hearken to the voice of Hashem, your G-d, to observe all His commandments that I command you today, to do what is right in the eyes of Hashem, your G-d” and “ You are children of Hashem, your G-d — you shall not cut yourselves and you shall not make a bald spot between your eyes for a dead person.”

The first verse concludes with a command to do what is right in the eyes of Hashem, and immediately thereafter it says, You are children of Hashem, your G-d

What is the connection between these two verses? The Bnei Yissaschar says we can explain based on the words

of the Chida cited above. The commandment to do “what is right in the eyes of Hashem” is the underlying reason behind the rule of dina d’bar metzra. This sparks the claim of the angels: According to this principle, they deserve the Torah! To this, the Torah responds: “ You are children of Hashem, your G-d .” Since the Jewish people are Hashem’s children, the rule of dina d’bar metzra does not apply.

The Klausenberger Rebbe, in the Divrei Yatziv, utilizes the Chida’s approach to explain why Moshe Rabbeinu broke the Luchos upon seeing the Jewish people worshiping the Eigel HaZahav, Golden Calf. Wouldn’t it have been more logical to simply turn around and return the Luchos to Shamayim rather than break them?

According to the Klausenberger Rebbe, Moshe feared that the Cheit HaEigel was so grave that the Jews might lose their status as Hashem’s children. Therefore, were he to return the Luchos to Shamayim, the angels would appeal their case, claiming once again that they deserve to receive the Torah, in line with the principle of dina d’bar metzra. This time, however, there would be no counterclaim that the Jewish people, as Hashem’s children, take precedence over the angels. following the Cheit HaEigel, the angels could say that the argument was no longer valid: The Jews were no longer Hashem’s children. Thus, were Moshe to return the Luchos to Shamayim, he risked losing them forever. By breaking them, he ensured that the Torah could still be reclaimed through Bnei Yisrael doing teshuvah

Ours to Inherit

The connection between our being Hashem’s children and the Giving of the Torah can be further demonstrated by the Yalkut Shimoni in Bamidbar. There, the Yalkut teaches that when the Jews accepted the Torah, the nations of the world were jealous, protesting that the Jews were no more deserving of the Torah than they were. Hashem responded by saying, “Bring me your sefer yuchsin (ledger book of genealogy) as My children have brought [theirs].”

The Navah Tehillah explains this Midrash based on the Gemara (Kesu-

bos 53a) that teaches that one may not transfer an inheritance from one son to another — even if the transferee is a better son. This principle would support the claim of the nations of the world, that “even if the Jews are the ‘better son,’ nonetheless, Hashem should not appropriate our inheritance (the Torah) in favor of the Jews!”

What Hashem is telling them is that they have no “yichus” — they bear no “familial” relationship with Hashem. The Jews, on the other hand, are Hashem’s children. Thus, the issue of transferring an inheritance from one child to another is irrelevant — for only the Jews are Hashem’s children.

With all we have learned, we can return to explain the Midrash with which we began. The moment that Hashem said, “I am Hashem, your G-d, Who has taken you out of the land of Egypt,” Moshe responded by saying “Baruch… shelo asani goy.” for it was at that moment, when the very first of the Ten Commandments was proclaimed, that Hashem gave us the Torah, overcoming the angels’ claim of dina d’bar metzra and affirming our identity as Hashem’s children.

This is further demonstrated by the very words “… Who has taken you out of the land of Egypt.” As we have learned, our being redeemed from Mitzrayim was also made possible only through our being Hashem’s children. Thus, the moment that Hashem declared “Anochi Hashem Elokecha,” Moshe became overwhelmed with gratitude that we, rather than the nations of the world, are His children. Moshe therefore exclaimed the blessing, “Shelo asani goy! ” for there is no greater blessing than being Hashem’s child.

1The sefer Noam Megadim writes something incredible. How, in fact, did we merit to become Hashem’s children over all other nations? The author explains that a slave is a material possession and, just like any other possession, can be owned by two masters. A child, however, can have only one father. Therefore, the Jewish people, who believe in only one Hashem, merit to relate to Him as a Father. Non-Jews, on the other hand, who believe in shituf, must relate to Him as a Master, since only in a slave-master relationship is a partnership possible.

This article has been printed from Rabbi Meir Baal Haness and the Eternal Children of Hashem by Rabbi Daniel Glatstein, published by Artscroll.

Rabbi Daniel Glatstein is the Mara D’asra of Kehilas Tiferes Mordechai in Cedarhurst, NY, and author of numerous seforim in Lashon Hakodesh and in English for ArtScroll. He is an international lecturer and maggid shiur. His thousands of recorded shiurim are available on Torahanytime.com, podcast, his website rabbidg. com, and

Sparks of Light

One Destination Returning to Har Sinai

In 1960, the Boyaner Rebbe, a descendant of the holy Rizhiner Rebbe, traveled to Eretz Yisrael. Just before Shavuos, a group of chassidim from Tel Aviv came to see him. They said, “Rebbe, we cannot stay for yom tov, but we would love to host you for Shabbos afterward.” The Rebbe responded with a smile and a line that captured his essence: “Right now, I have only one destination, Har Sinai.”

He was not thinking ahead to the next week or the next event. His entire focus was on the moment before him, preparing to accept the Torah once again, as if for the very first time.

In Parshas Behar, we read: “Hashem spoke to Moshe at Mount Sinai.”

Rashi famously asks: “Mah inyan Shemittah eitzal Har Sinai? What connection is there between Shemittah and Mount Sinai? She’kol ha’mitzvos ne’emru b’Sinai. To teach us that all mitzvos, with their general principles and detailed laws, were given at Sinai.”

Why highlight that Shemittah, of all mitzvos, was given at Mount Sinai? One possibility is that Shemitah, like Shavuos, teaches us to pause. It is a mitzvah of stepping back from the everyday rush and resetting our priorities. Just like the Omer count helps us measure our time between leaving Mitzrayim and arriving at Har Sinai, Shemittah helps us remember that true growth requires moments of stillness and reflection.

That brings us to the essence of Shavuos: what does it mean to “receive” the Torah? Did we not already receive it centuries ago? It is sitting on our bookshelves, in our pockets, on our screens. So what are we receiving? The answer is: everything.

While the Torah was given once, each person and each generation are meant to accept it anew. That renewal

By Rabbi Benny Berlin

is what we aim for on Shavuos. But in our time, when Torah is so widely accessible through podcasts, websites, seforim, and shiurim, it can become part of the background. We forget just how incredible it is to have constant access to Hashem’s wisdom.

The Rambam writes: “Keser Torah munach, v’chol ha’rotzeh l’tol yavo l’yitol. The crown of Torah is lying and waiting; whoever wants it can come and take it.”

It is not exclusive to the elite. It is open to anyone who truly desires it. But sometimes, because something is so available, we stop appreciating its worth. That is why Shavuos is not about learning something new. It is about loving Torah like it is new.

Similarly, in Devarim, Rashi hones in on this principle by writing: “V’hayu ha’devarim ha’eileh…ka’chadashim. These words should be to you as if they were new today.”

The Mishnah Berurah goes further. This is not just an inspiring idea; it is a halachic expectation. Even if we have read these words a hundred times, we are meant to approach them with fresh eyes.

Rav Aharon Lichtenstein once observed that we get excited for the rare mitzvos, like Birkas Hachamah, which comes once every 28 years, or even Pesach night, which is once a year. But what about the daily mitzvos, the ones we live with constantly? The very consistency of Torah can make us lose our sense of awe.

Rav Soloveitchik told a story of visiting a Belzer shtiebel in Warsaw as a child. He watched the chassidim linger in song after Shabbos ended because they did not want Shabbos to end. One man, Yankel the porter, wore a kapoteh with more holes than fabric. When the Rav, who at that point was still a child, asked when they would daven Maariv,

Yankel responded: “Atah mitga’age’ah l’chol kol kach? Do you miss the weekday that much?”

That is the mindset we are trying to bring into our relationship with Torah, not to rush out of it, but to linger in it, to dwell in its beauty.

Rav Melech Biederman quoted Rav Shach as saying: “Ha’yeish gedulah m’zos – she’Hakadosh Baruch Hu nasan lanu es Toraso? Is there any greatness greater than this, that Hashem gave us His Torah?!?

That is why the Torah emphasizes Shemittah. Because rare mitzvos excite us. And Hashem is telling us: every mitzvah, every pasuk, every word of Torah was given at Har Sinai. Treat it that way. Do not just learn the Akeidah like an old story you know by heart. Read it as if it is happening right now. Light Shabbos candles not out of routine but with the awe of someone hearing the mitzvah for the very first time.

We all have received the Torah. But have we opened it? And even if we have opened it before, maybe now is the time to open it again.

Let us carry the words of the Boyaner Rebbe with us: “Right now, I have only one destination, Har Sinai.”

Let that be our focus. Not where we are going this summer. Not what is coming next. Just this: How do I get myself back to the mountain? How do I feel the fire, the thunder, the awe?

If we open our eyes, we will see it. And if we open our hearts, we can receive it again.

Rabbi Benny Berlin is the rabbi of BACH Jewish Center located in Long Baeach, New York. For more information, visit: https:// www.bachlongbeach.com/.

The Kingdom That Fell Asleep

A PAr Able of the Soul’ S return

By Naftali Gurwitz

There was once a kingdom, hidden not in land but in spirit. Its stones were forged from truth, its rivers flowed with clarity, and its breath was prayer. It lived inside one person—a princess—whose soul was its throne and whose heart was its gates.

She had been born to inherit this kingdom—not to rule with force, but to protect its light, tend its garden, and carry its purpose to fulfillment. The air she breathed was sacred; the trials she faced were tools meant to carve her inner strength. But the road was not easy. The winds of honesty cut deep. The fire of transformation burned slowly. Her days felt long, her nights filled with echoes of questions unanswered.

And slowly, she began to resent the pain.

“Why must everything be so hard?” she asked the sky that gave no reply.

Her spirit, once vibrant, dulled under the weight of her expectations. She had believed that greatness would feel good, that purpose would taste sweet. Instead, she met silence. She mistook that silence for abandonment.

So she wandered.

She left the core of her kingdom and wandered to its edge. There, she found the Sentiment Keepers—gentle ones who wrapped her in soft praise. They listened kindly and stroked her wounds, whispering, “You’ve been through so much, you don’t need to prove anything. Just rest. Just feel. Just stay.”

For a time, it comforted her. Their affirmations became a balm. The pain she once struggled to escape now became her identity. She wore her suffering like a crown of delicate glass—fragile, but beautiful in the light of others’ pity.

She began to believe that maybe her destiny was not in rising, but in remaining: a living monument of brokenness, praised for her endurance rather than her purpose. Pettiness disguised itself as safety. The approval of those around her convinced her she was whole—despite the hollow she quietly felt inside.

But nothing grew.

The gardens she had once been called to tend withered. The kingdom waited, but no one came. Flowers curled inwards. The towers whispered her name in their crumbling. The birds stopped singing. And she no longer dreamed.

Then came the stillness.

One day, she stumbled upon a spring—still, silver, and quiet. She looked down and saw not her face, but a reflection of who she had once been. The girl who held seeds in her hand, who dreamed of beauty not yet built. Behind that child, in the reflection, was a garden—empty. Overgrown. Neglected.

And then she saw it.

No one else would plant it.

No one else could.

Her knees buckled under the weight of the truth. Her crown of pain shattered against the rocks. The praise of others faded from her ears. She finally saw that her suffering was real—but it was not her throne. It was the gate.

She turned.

And beside the spring was the path—thin, quiet, humble. Not paved with admiration but worn by devotion.

With trembling steps, she entered it.

Thorns tore at the garments she had worn to win others’ love. Stones pressed on the wounds she had tried to keep untouched. The path did not pamper her— but it led her home.

She passed through the Valley of Accountability, where every tree bore fruit shaped like forgotten tasks and abandoned intentions. She walked the Riverbank of Responsibility, where the water wept the tears of the kingdom waiting for her return.

And finally, she came to the gates.

They were not locked—only heavy.

Inside, the kingdom stirred. The winds returned. The towers leaned forward. The garden—empty still—waited.

At its edge stood the Gardener.

He did not scold. He did not weep. He simply handed her a single seed.

She understood.

No one else could plant it. No one else was born for this soil. Her suffering had softened the ground, but her will—her return—was the rain.

She bent to the earth and pressed the seed into it with her bare hands.

It was not time to reign.

It was time to grow.

And now the riddle rests in your hands:

Have you mistaken your pain for your purpose?

Have you traded your garden for sympathy, your crown for comfort?

Can you still see the seed, and the quiet path—waiting to be found, just beside the still water?

The kingdom has not closed its gates.

It waits.

Not for someone.

For you.

Torah Thought

Getting Closer to Hashem: Renewing Our Holy Vows

By Nataly Magendzo

Inspired

by a shiur given by Rabbi David Ergas

As we approach the holy moment of Matan Torah, we are reminded that this is not just a commemoration – it is the ultimate marriage between Hashem and Am Yisrael. But as we stand at Sinai once again, it is worth taking a personal moment to reflect not just on that divine bond but on our own relationships – especially the one we call marriage.

Yeshayahu says: “Shimu rechokim asher asisi, u’di’u kerovim givarti, Listen, those far away, to what I have done; and know, those close, My strength.”

Rashi offers a striking insight: The “rechokim” —those seemingly distant— are actually those who have always followed Hashem’s will. They have profound emunah and keep His ratzon from their early ages. But the “kerovim ”—those deemed close—are the baalei teshuvah who recently came close with a sense of renewal, “michadash.”

The word “renewal” (michadash) is the key to understanding this Rashi. Rashi shifts our perspective: closeness to Hashem isn’t measured in space, but in time and action – spiritual renewal.

So, the question becomes: when was the last time we did something “from

new”? When was the last time we broke our routine of Yiddishkeit to reach for more? When did we last elevate our Shabbos table, even with a small change like switching from grape juice to wine for kiddush or singing an extra niggun? When did we last daven with just a bit more kavanah? When did we last make

At a Purim tish, after getting the Rebbe’s permission, a badchan, a jester, stood before the crowd and began to imitate the Rebbe’s davening. Every motion was perfectly copied: the tone, the sway, the tilt of the head, the shrug of the shoulders. The crowd roared with laughter, marveling at the badchan’s precision. Knowing that

Let’s come close – not because we were far, but because we’re ready to begin again.

any effort to make our relationship with Hashem new?

The Alter of Kelm once taught that the things which inspire us in youth lose their impact with time, not because they change, but because we change. We get used to them. Think of a child fascinated by a line of ants, only to grow up and ignore – or step over – the very same wonder. That childlike awe often slips away, and so can our spiritual sensitivity.

There’s a beautiful story told about the Satmar Rebbe, Rav Yoel Teitelbaum zt”l.

the Satmar Rebbe appreciated wit, they assumed he, too, was enjoying the show.

Then something unexpected happened.

The Rebbe began to cry.

The badchan froze. Distressed and apologetic, he rushed to the Rebbe and pleaded for forgiveness. “I thought the Rebbe would enjoy it! I never meant to cause any tza’ar, chas v’shalom.”

The Rebbe looked at him and softly explained: “You imitate my davening so well… I wonder: perhaps I am merely im-

itating myself?”

In just a few words, the Rebbe exposed a powerful fear – that his prayer had become mechanical, that he might have begun to repeat movements and sounds not out of soul but from habit.

Many of us began building a connection with Hashem at the age six or seven. Now, decades later, we may find ourselves still standing in that same place – comfortable but not evolving. Growth requires courage. Imagine crossing a river using a narrow log. Letting go of the branch behind us to walk forward is frightening. But that’s exactly what we’re called to do.

This is the deeper journey from Pesach to Shavuos. We left Mitzrayim, counted the Omer, and now arrive at Sinai – not just to listen, but to renew our vows.

Let’s not let this Shavuos pass as just another date. Let’s use it to begin again, to come close, be mechadash – from anew – and to deepen our avodah and connection with Hashem in a way that is fresh, real, and lasting.

Let’s come close – not because we were far, but because we’re ready to begin again.

Think. Feel.Grow.

What is the Deeper Purpose of Shavuos?

By Rabbi Shmuel Reichman

We experience life through the medium of time. Each new moment brings with it new opportunities as we ascend through this journey of time. Amidst these constantly moving waves of time, the chagim are specific and set points that carry with them unique energy. Each holiday presents us with the chance to tap into and experience the theme inherent to that point in time. Before we delve into the specific theme and uniqueness of Shavuos, we must first understand time in general.

Circles of Time

The widely accepted understanding of time is that it moves in a straight line. Hashem created our world of space and time, and since its inception, time has been moving inexorably forward. Along this line of time is the past, present, and the future. If we were to move backward along this line, we could peer through history and find Avraham Avinu at the Akeidah, Moshe Rabbeinu receiving the Torah, and the Rambam writing the Mishneh Torah. Our current experience is taking place in the middle of the line, and if we could move forward along the line, we would see events that have not yet occurred. However, there is a major contradiction to this theory.

There is a piyut in the Pesach Haggadah (Sefer U’v’chen V’amartem) that describes how Avraham Avinu served matzah (unleavened bread) to the three malachim who visited him because it was Pesach at that time. Rashi (Bereishis 19:3) quotes this opinion and says that Lot served matzah to the malachim as well when they came to Sodom. How can this be? The mitzvah of matzah originates from the events of yetzias Mitzrayim, which would not occur for another two hundred years!

In order to understand why Avraham and Lot served their guests matzah before the miracles of Pesach occurred, we must develop a deeper understanding of time. Time does not move along a continuous, straight line; it circles around in a repeating yearly cycle. As the Ramchal explains, Hashem created thematic cycles of time, and each point in the year contains unique spiritual energy.

This deep understanding transforms our perception of time. We don’t celebrate freedom each year on the fifteenth of Nissan because that’s when the Jews were freed from Egypt; rather the Jews were redeemed from Egypt on the 15th of Nissan because that is z’man cheiruseinu, the time of freedom. This power of freedom allowed the Jews to escape the slavery of Mitzrayim, and this is why Avraham and Lot ate matzah long before yetzias Mitzrayim occurred. Matzah represents freedom, and Avraham and Lot tapped into the spiritual energy of freedom present at that point in time. Rather

than commemorating a historical event, they were tapping into the deep energies of time already inherent at that point in the circle.

So too, when we celebrate each holiday, we do not simply commemorate a historical event; we tap into and experience the deep energies inherent at that point in time. Rosh Hashana, Yom Kippur, Sukkos, and all the chagim give us the opportunity to access unique spiritual energies in time.

Spirals in Time

However, even the circle analogy is limiting. If time were indeed a circle, each point of the year would simply be a repetition of that point from the previous year, from the previous lap around the circle. That would be pointless. We do not seek to re-experience the past each year. Our goal is to expand upon what we have created year after year, so that each time we return to that same point on the circle, we are on a fundamentally different level.

Each Rosh Hashana must be higher than the previous one: each Pesach, a new Pesach; each Shavuos, a new Shavuos, etc. Through our growth and ascension, we convert the two-dimensional circle into a three-dimensional spiral, traversing along the same circle to ever greater heights. We maintain circularity while achieving ascension.

Re-Experiencing Shavuos Every Year

Once we understand the concept of time, and the distinct opportunity and importance of tapping into the unique theme of each point of time in the systematic process of ascension, we must delve into the specific theme that Shavuos presents. What is the power and potential inherent in this time of the year, and how can we harness it to grow along our ascending, spiraling path?

On Shavuos, there is a custom to stand during the Torah reading. Rav Yosef Dov Soloveitchik (Harirei Kedem Vol 2) explains that we stand during Torah reading on this day because we are recreating the experience of Matan Torah, when the entire Jewish People stood around Har Sinai to receive the Torah.

On Shavuos, we do not simply remember what once occurred; we relive the experience as we tap back into the power of kabbalas ha’Torah, receiving and accepting the Torah. We do not simply repeat this process each year, rather we reaccept the Torah on an entirely new level, as fundamentally higher beings, growing through each revelation of Torah. Kabbalas ha’Torah this year is at the same point along the circle as last year, but one rung higher on the spiral.

We are truly receiving the Torah anew, in a new dimension of time and spiritual energy.

What is Torah?

If Shavuos is the time of kabbalas ha’Torah, to truly understand what we are trying to experience on Shavuos, we must first understand what Torah is. Some may refer to the Torah as a history book; others may think of it as a book of law or a source of Jewish wisdom. While these are all true, they only scratch the surface of the Torah’s true nature. Torah is not simply a guide to living a life of truth within this world; it is the blueprint and DNA of the world itself. Our physical world is a projection and emanation of the deep spiritual reality described in the Torah. This is the meaning behind the famous Midrash, “Istakel b’Oraisa u’bara alma — [Hashem] looked into the Torah and used it to create the world” (Bereishis Rabbah 1:1). Torah is the spiritual root of existence; the physical world is its expression.

Imagine a projector: the image that you see on the screen emanates from the film in the projector so that everything you see on the screen is simply an expression of what’s contained within the film. So too, every single thing that we see and experience in the physical world stems from the spiritual root — the transcendent dimension of Torah. To illustrate further, the trees you see outside originally stemmed from a single seed. Similarly, each and every one of us originated from a zygote, half a male and half a female genetic code. From that single cell ultimately manifested a fully developed and expressed human being. You are the expression of your original seed, just like the world is the expression of its original seed and root — the Torah. Thus, the world in which we live is an avenue to the spiritual; we can access the spiritual, transcendent world through the physical world because the two are intimately and intrinsically connected.

To relate to this concept, think of the way in which other human beings experience and understand you. All they can see of you is your physical body. They cannot see your thoughts, your consciousness, your emotions, or your soul. All they can see are your actions, words, facial expressions, and body language, i.e., the ways in which you express yourself within the world. They cannot see your inner world, but they can access it through the outer expressions that you project. The same is true regarding human beings trying to experience Hashem and the spiritual. We cannot see the spiritual; we cannot see what is ethereal and transcendent, only that which is physical. However, we can use the physical to access the spiritual; we can study the

Torah’s expression in this world to understand its spiritual root.

The Gift of Torah Hashem gave us the Torah in order to guide us on our spiritual journey in this world. Shavuos is therefore not a call to be transcendent, angelic beings, lofty and perfect, beyond the struggle innate within the human condition. This is not permission to deny our humanity and restrict our sense of self. This is a calling to be human, to be the ultimate human, to bring transcendence and spirituality into this world. We don’t aim to escape this world, we aim to transform it. Kedushah in not transcendence or escapism; it’s marrying transcendence with the immanent. This is what Torah teaches us: how to uplift our physical experience and connect it to the spiritual. When implemented correctly, Torah enables us to uplift every aspect of our worldly experience to something higher, holier, and more meaningful. Our mission is to make this Shavuos the next step in our evolutionary spiral through time. We must not only reaccept what we have already accepted, we must take it to the next level, the next rung of the ladder. We do not simply remember, we build; we do not repeat, we ascend.

May we be inspired to accept the Torah this Shavuos with all of our heart, commit to living a life of Torah truth, and endlessly pursue higher and deeper perceptions of the physical world as an expression of a spiritual reality.

Rabbi Shmuel Reichman is the author of the bestselling book, “The Journey to Your Ultimate Self,” which serves as an inspiring gateway into deeper Jewish thought. He is an educator and speaker who has lectured internationally on topics of Torah thought, Jewish medical ethics, psychology, and leadership. He is also the founder and CEO of Self-Mastery Academy, the transformative online self-development course based on the principles of high-performance psychology and Torah.

After obtaining his BA from Yeshiva University, he received Semicha from Yeshiva University’s RIETS, a master’s degree in education from Azrieli Graduate School, and a master’s degree in Jewish Thought from Bernard Revel Graduate School. He then spent a year studying at Harvard as an Ivy Plus Scholar. He currently lives in Chicago with his wife and son where he is pursuing a PhD at the University of Chicago.

To invite Rabbi Reichman to speak in your community or to enjoy more of his deep and inspiring content, visit his website: ShmuelReichman.com.

In 1848, a cholera epidemic swept through Eastern Europe, including the Jewish communities of Lithuania. The disease was swift and deadly, and its effects were especially devastating in crowded and impoverished areas.

Rav Yisrael Salanter, the founder of the Mussar movement, was living in Vilna at the time. Seeing the mounting number of deaths and the panic among the people, he realized that strict fasting on Yom Kippur could dangerously weaken many individuals, making them more vulnerable to the disease.

A Controversial Decision

As Yom Kippur approached, Rav Yisrael Salanter consulted with doctors. He concluded that fasting could be life-threatening for many.

But convincing a devout community to break the Yom Kippur fast—the holiest day in the calendar—was no small task. The law permits and even demands that one violate fasts or other mitzvot to preserve

Delving into the Daf

Required Eating on Yom Kippur?

By Rabbi Avrohom Sebrow

life, but many people were hesitant to rely on this. Moreover, others could and did argue that their lives were not in danger.

The Kiddush in the Shul

On Yom Kippur morning of 1848, the shul in Vilna was filled with congregants dressed in white kittels, holding their machzorim, ready for a day of solemn prayer. At some point during davening, he ascended to the bimah. To the astonished mispallelim, he proceeded to recite kiddush! Rav Yisrael felt that it was so crucial for everyone to eat; therefore, this public display was necessary.

It is so astonishing that Rav Yisrael would abolish the fast of Yom Kippur wholesale, leaving some to question the story’s veracity. Moreover, some argue that certain facts simply don’t make sense.

For starters, the Magen Avraham (OC 618) rules that even a sick person does not recite kiddush on Yom Kippur. Chazal would never have enacted an obligation to recite kiddush if it could not be performed

in the vast majority of circumstances. They would not have enacted an obligation of kiddush just for sick people. A counterargument, which historically checks out, is that in 1848, Yom Kippur fell on Shabbos. Rebbe Akiva Eiger, in his comments on Shulchan Aruch, suggests that when Yom Kippur coincides with Shabbos, there may be an obligation of kiddush. Obviously, for healthy people, kiddush would not be an obligation on that day. However, for those who are sick, it is different. The obligation of kiddush on Shabbos exists every week. Since they are eating on this Shabbos, which happens to coincide with Yom Kippur, the obligation would extend to this day as well.

Still, there is another major issue. To fulfill the obligation of kiddush, one must consume a requisite shiur. The accepted halacha is that if one is forced to eat on Yom Kippur, he should not consume a shiur that, if done without permission, would make him liable to kareis. Therefore, individuals who are infirm and need to eat on

Yom Kippur consume less than a shiur of food every nine minutes. Even if Rav Yisrael Salanter ate on Yom Kippur, he would not have eaten a full shiur in the proper amount of time to fulfill the obligation of kiddush. Therefore, he would not have recited kiddush since, in any event, he would not have fulfilled his obligation.

Still, one can possibly counter this argument that the shiur to fulfill the obligation of kiddush and the shiur for eating on Yom Kippur are not the same. The shiur for kiddush is food the volume of an olive. The shiur for Yom Kippur is the volume of a plump date. Perhaps he ate enough to fulfill the obligation of kiddush but not sufficient to violate Yom Kippur more severely.

The main facts of the story are corroborated in many sources. The story is recorded in Tenuas HaMussar. Rav Moshe, zt”l, cites it in a teshuva. HaRav Yaakov Kamenetzky, zt”l, reported that he heard the story from HaRav Dovid Leibowitz, zt”l, who was a great-nephew

of the Chofetz Chaim. Rav Dovid said he heard the story directly from the Chofetz Chaim. The Chofetz Chaim was a young boy davening in the shul in Vilna when the incident took place. Sadly, the Chofetz Chaim’s father would pass away on Simchas Torah of that year, another victim of the epidemic. Rav Yaakov said Rav Yisrael went up to the bimah with tea and cake. Therefore, it’s possible that Rav Yisrael did not actually recite kiddush, thereby answering the objections raised above. HaRav Nosson Kamenetzky theorized that when it was initially reported that Rav Yisrael made kiddush, it was a colloquial use of the term. He brought a small amount of food and drink up to the bimah. Nevertheless, it is pretty extraordinary that Rebbe Yisrael permitted healthy individuals to break their fast. Some say there was more to the story. (HaRav Elyashiv said over this version in shiur.) Rav Yisrael instructed everyone to take an oath, forbidding themselves from consuming a date’s volume of food from right before Yom Kippur until after Yom Kippur. The Gemara implies that in this scenario, since consuming food on Yom Kippur would already be forbidden under pain of an oath, the Yom Kippur prohibition would not take effect. One prohi-

bition cannot be layered on an identical prohibition that covers the same food for the same people. As explained above, consuming even less than the requisite shiur on Yom Kippur is still biblically forbidden. However, the Chiddushei HaRan states that the same logic cannot be applied to an oath. If someone utters an oath not to eat an olive’s worth of bread,

not be used to permit healthy individuals to eat less than a shiur on Yom Kippur. After all, the Chiddushei HaRan retracted his position and concluded that the Rambam was right. (Ran on the Rif in Mesechta Shavuos.) The Rambam ruled that one is not allowed to eat half a shiur of food prohibited by an oath, the same way one may not consume half a shiur on

To the astonished mispallelim, he proceeded to recite kiddush!

he is permitted to eat half an olive’s worth. This ingenious solution, of making an oath before Yom Kippur, would allow one to eat half a shiur on Yom Kippur without violating a Torah precept! The Yom Kippur prohibition cannot take effect because there was already an existing prohibition of an oath. Moreover, one can eat less than a shiur of food that is prohibited by an oath. It is worth noting that some sages who were required to eat on Yom Kippur utilized this device. Still, Rav Elyashiv warned that it can-

Yom Kippur. Therefore, one would still violate a prohibition by eating less than a shiur. However, the technique is still beneficial because instead of violating a kareis prohibition under duress, one is only violating a negative precept under duress. Moreover, some opinions concur with the Chiddush HaRan’s view. Therefore, perhaps this technique strengthened Rebbe Yisrael’s position, allowing everyone to eat on Yom Kippur.

Rav Asher Weiss remarked that there is no need to question the story regarding

whether Rave Yisrael would have permitted even healthy people to eat less than a shiur. This exact ruling is already found in the Teshuvos of the Chasam Sofer. Even if some details of the story are unclear, we have a clear ruling in this matter from the Chasam Sofer. True, that psak was and still is controversial, but it’s no longer surprising that a great gadol like Rav Yisrael would rule the same way as the Chasam Sofer.

Rav Nosson Kamenetzky further theorized that Rav Yisrael knew that sick people would only eat if the healthy people ate, too. Therefore, he decreed that everyone should eat, ensuring that the sick people who needed to break their fast under the principle of pikuach nefesh did so. He cited a halacha that if a dangerously ill person refuses to eat unless ten healthy people eat with him, they may all break their fast.

Please do not derive any halachic conclusions from this article. The purpose of this article is to engender discussion.

Rabbi Avrohom Sebrow is a rebbe at Yeshiva Ateres Shimon in Far Rockaway. In addition, Rabbi Sebrow leads a daf yomi chaburah at Eitz Chayim of Dogwood Park in West Hempstead, NY. He can be contacted at ASebrow@gmail.com.

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Don’t Feel Prepared for Shavuos? Read This

By Rabbi Yair Hoffman

Shavuos is called Z’man Matan Toraseinu. Originally, this event occurred in the Hebrew year 2448 (3,337 years ago). Rav Dessler in his Michtav M’Eliyahu explains that time does not flow as a straight line, but rather as a circle. The day of Shavuos, which is the 6th of Sivan every year, is, therefore, the very day that we receive the Torah.

Similarly, the Nesivos Shalom explains that just as the Torah is eternal, so too is Kabbalas HaTorah eternal. Each and every year there is a new Kabbalas HaTorah. In other words, Shavuos is not just a commemoration of our receiving the Torah; we are receiving it once again.

Receiving the Torah is monumental. The entire essence of the nation of Israel is only for Torah (Sefer HaChinuch 273). The entire universe, heavens and earth, were only created for the sake of the Torah (ibid). Receiving the Torah, therefore, requires much preparation. Indeed, the Torah tells us in Parshas Yisro that we needed to prepare for three days: “Heyu nechonim l’shloshes yamim” (Shemos 19:15).

One of the preparations that we make for receiving the Torah is that we learn Pirkei Avos on every Shabbos between Pesach and Shavuos. The Midrash Shmuel explains, “One who will be learning Torah must first know its method of study and how to treat Torah. Therefore, so that the heart of each member of K’lal Yisrael will be ready to accept Torah with a complete heart and to properly observe it, they enacted the learning of Pirkei Avos.”

Let us also recall that Shavuos represents the zenith of our spiritual growth. When we left Mitzrayim, we were on the lowest level of tumah, impurity. In a matter of 49 days, we experienced record spiritual growth to the point where the nation of Israel was the greatest generation that ever lived.

We should also be aware that there

is no limit to the heights and growth we can accomplish in our ruchniyus, indeed in any mitzvah. This can be seen from a passage of the Targum Yonasan on Sefer Rus. Boaz tells Rus that he is aware of both how she came and joined the nation of Israel and also of all the chessed that she had performed with her mother-inlaw. The Targum Yonasan explains that because these two things were said in the same breath, the two mitzvos were equal to each other.

This is fascinating. Rus was a princess of Moav, a very powerful nation. It is remarkable that one of the top women in society would give it all up to become a lowly member of the Jewish nation who had to take tzedakah. Is this lofty mitzvah equal to the mere chessed that she does for her mother-in-law?

The answer, according to Rav Henoch Leibowitz, zt”l, is that there is no spiritual limit to any mitzvah that we perform. If we do a chessed – any chessed – with the right intentions, it can be equal to the greatest of mitzvos.

Preparing For Shavuos

The Shla HaKadosh explains that Erev

Rosh Chodesh Sivan is a special time of preparation in terms of teshuvah, tefillah and tzedakah. This may be based upon the Rashi in Parashas Yisro (19:1–2) that the nation of Israel did teshuvah on this day when they traveled from Refidim.

The pesukim in the Torah give us the pre-history of Matan Torah:

On Rosh Chodesh Sivan, K’lal Yisrael entered Midbar Sinai, a place wherein Har Sinai is located.

On the second of Sivan, Moshe was told and gave over to K’lal Yisrael the two parashios of “Atem Ra’isem” and “You shall be for Me a nation of priests and a holy nation.” This was when they answered, “Everything that Hashem spoke, we shall do.”

On the third of Sivan, Moshe related to Hashem the words of the nation. Moshe was then told the mitzvah of separating.

On the fourth of Sivan, Moshe was told to go to the nation and sanctify them. He then told them to prepare themselves for three days.

The Mechilta (Parashas Yisro) explains that part of the preparations involved the utter unity of the nation: “Vayichan sham Yisrael ”—“b’lev echad k’ish echad ” with one heart, like one man. It is clear

from this Mechilta that there are levels of d’veikus and holiness that cannot be achieved alone but only through a joint and communal effort. We achieved this level at that time. It was through this unique achdus that we merited to say “Naaseh v’nishma—we will do and then we will listen.”

Ultimately, Hashem placed the very mountain above them like a barrel. The verse tells us that they stood under the mountain: “Vayisyatzvu betachtis ha’har ” (Shemos 19:17). Rashi explains, “Kafah aleihem har k’gigis.”

The Three Days of Hagbalah

“The essence of these days,” according to the Shaar HaMelech, “is to separate ourselves from all the vanities of this world to be prepared to greet Hashem. In each and every year, we should look at ourselves as if we are preparing ourselves for Kabbalas HaTorah on the mountain of Sinai.”

The separation means to focus on things spiritual and avoid an emphasis on aspects of the physical world that take us away from concentrating on Hashem and upon our relationship with Him. Our brachos should therefore be recited with more intensity and concentration. We should avoid unnecessary window shopping and looking at catalogues. Rather, our focus should be on three more important things: 1) Improving our davening; 2) Focusing more on the life lessons inherent in our Torah studies; and 3) Chessed. Each of these three brings us ever closer to Hashem.

Other Names Of Shavuos

Another name for the yom tov of Shavuos is Atzeres. There are actually two yomim tovim with this name. Both of them have a special quality to them that no other yom tov has. Shavuos is achieving a state of being alone with Hashem. The Beis

Avraham explains in terms of the d’veikus that can be achieved through the yomim tovim that Pesach is considered like the period of engagement and Shavuos is like the wedding itself. When the mountain was placed upon the nation of Israel like a barrel, it was like a chuppah.

The closeness to Hashem that we achieved at Matan Torah makes Shavuos the ideal time to celebrate the first fruits of the seven species with which Eretz Yisrael is blessed. During this time, the first fruits were harvested and brought in decorated baskets to the Beis HaMikdash. Thus, another name for Shavuos is Chag HaBikkurim, the Festival of the First Fruits.

Shavuos is also the time when we celebrate the abundant wheat harvest that Hashem has given us. This is why it is called Chag HaKatzir, the Feast of Harvest. It is because Shavuos is also the beginning of the wheat harvest that we bring the Shtei HaLechem (two loaves) as a meal-offering in the Beis HaMikdash.

Customs

Bloodletting: The Talmud (Shabbos 129b) tells us that a celestial damager was sent out against the nation of Israel on the day before Shavuos. Its name was T’voach. By virtue of K’lal Yisrael having accepted the Torah, they saved themselves from the destructive fate of T’voach. On the eve of Shavuos, we do not engage in any form of bloodletting because of the dangers involved. Indeed, the sages forbade doing so on every erev yom tov on account of Shavuos. The minhag is cited by the commentators (Darchei Moshe CM 468:3), and the custom in K’lal Yisrael is to avoid blood testing unless there is medical need.

Sleeping On Erev Shavuos: Some people have the custom to sleep on erev Shavuos in order to be able to stay up the entire night on Shavuos. The Magen Avraham (OC 290) quotes the Sefer Chassidim that when erev Shavuos falls on Shabbos, it is forbidden to say that one is resting so that he or she can be awake for the night of Shavuos.

Grass and Trees in Shul: There is a minhag mentioned by the Ramah in Shulchan Aruch (OC 494) to place grass, flowers, and trees in shul on Shavuos. One explanation for this is found in the words of the Levush (Rabbi Mordechai Yaffe): it commemorates the grass that surrounded Har Sinai at the time of Matan Torah. As the verse states, “The sheep and flocks may not graze.” The indication is that grass grew there. It is a worthwhile minhag to continue because

it helps us relive the experience at Har Sinai, an experience that we actually go through once again.

Another explanation is that it commemorates the bringing of the Bikkurim, the first fruits, which were made from baskets woven from and decorated with grasses and flowers (Ziv HaMinhagim).

Another explanation is that Moshe Rabbeinu was saved on the banks of the river which had grassy knolls (Chiddushei HaRim).

The Brisker Rav explained that the decorations are minimal and show us that the only means by which one can acquire Torah is if we are satisfied with the minimum and do not pursue luxuries and other forms of consumption. Grasses are mentioned in this vein in the Gemara Eiruvin 22a by Rabbi Adda bar Ahava (Moadim L’Simcha p. 402).

Dairy: The Ramah mentions that it is the custom to split the meal on Shavuos, where the first half of the meal is comprised of dairy foods and the second half is comprised of meat foods. Although it is no longer the custom to split the meal, we do have the custom to eat dairy foods on Shavuos. The reason for this custom is to remind us that when we received the Torah we were taught the laws of preparing meat in the proper, kosher manner. Since we were unable to do this immediately, we consumed only dairy foods at the time.

Waiting for Nightfall: Although generally we are permitted to begin Shabbos or yom tov slightly earlier than is required, in regard to Shavuos, the custom is to wait for nightfall. The reason is that we want to count the Omer completely and perfectly. Doing so would entail making sure that the last day is complete.

Staying Up All Night: Although the custom is not mentioned in the Talmud or in the Shulchan Aruch, the custom has developed in K’lal Yisrael to remain awake the entire night of Shavuos and to study Torah. The sefarim hakedoshim explain that one who stays up all night studying Torah merits gilui Shechina, revelation of Hashem’s Divine Presence, on that night.

The Kaf HaChaim (OC 494) writes that women who have the custom of counting the Omer can indeed partake in perfecting the tikkunim involved in the mitzvah of Sefiras haOmer by learning at night as well. Other poskim explain that there was no minhag for the women to stay up.

Shavuos Davening : The Shacharis and full Hallel of yom tov are recited. The reading of the Aseres HaDibros takes place on the first day of Shavuos. On the first day, after the kohen is called

for his aliyah to the Torah but before he makes the bracha, we recite the piyut (supplication poem) of Akdamus. On the second day, Megillas Rus is read before the reading of the Torah. During the kohen’s aliyah on the second day, many recite “Yetziv Pisgam.”

The reading of the Torah is followed by Mussaf and the birchas kohanim.

The Piyut of Akdamus: The piyut was written by Rav Meir ben Yitzchok Shliachtzibbur, a Rishon who is often quoted by Rashi and Tosefos (see, for example, Rashi on Tehillim 73:12 and Tosefos R.H. 11a). It is a double-aleph-beis poem that describes the greatness of the Creator of the world, the nature of malachim, and the loftier stature that the nation of Israel has above the angels themselves. One section of it describes how, kavyachol, Hashem is longingly desirous of K’lal Yisrael learning Torah and desires their prayers. It ends with the statement that those who hear (and absorb the depth and meaning of the piyut) will merit to be among that group that will see fantastic miracles on the great day.

The piyut is recited in Aramaic so that the malachim will not understand it and take it for their own use. It should remain special for the Jewish people alone. It is recited while the Sefer Torah itself is lying on the bimah. This demonstrates how very special it is.

Why We Read Megillas Rus: There is a debate among the poskim as to whether our custom to read the Megillah of Rus on Shavuos is a full-fledged obligation or rather a minhag. The reason we read the Book of Rus is to teach us that Torah is only given through hardship and poverty (Yalkut Shimoni 596). Another reason is that the entire episode took place during the Z’man HaKatzir, and Shavuos is known as Chag HaKatzir, too. A third reason is so that we will have read from all three parts of the Tanach on the day of Matan Torah (Otzer HaMinhagim).

Yizkor: On the second day of yom tov, after the Torah is read, a special prayer of Yizkor is recited. We daven for and pledge tzedakah in the merit of those in our family who have passed on. It is the custom in K’lal Yisrael for everyone who still has both parents to leave the shul during the recitation of Yizkor.

Yom Tov Halachos

As on Shabbos, there exists a prohibition of performing melacha on yom tov. The admonition against certain melachos should be used as a means of coming closer to Hashem as well. What is melacha exactly, and how can it be used as a tool

for greater closeness to G-d?

Melacha is not defined as work, necessarily. Melacha is defined as a specific type of creative act. More precisely, melacha is defined as the specific creative acts that were necessary to create the Mishkan, the resting place for Hashem’s concentration of the Shechina Presence here on earth.

Our refraining from such creative acts on Shabbos and yom tov is the collective flag of the Jewish people. Just as any nation is proud and salutes its national flag, so too is the observance of Shabbos and the holidays the flag of the Jewish people. It symbolizes and embodies our belief that the world was created for a purpose by a kind and benevolent Being who rewards good and punishes evil. A focus on this idea will cause us to become ever closer to Him. Mere contemplation of it when we refrain from melacha achieves this end.

While the definition of melacha is the same for both Shabbos and yom tov, the Torah made some exceptions for yom tov. The Torah states that actions that are necessary for people to eat are permitted on yom tov. This is called “ochel nefesh.” Not all actions, however, are permitted for ochel nefesh purposes. If the food preparation could have been done with equal freshness and results before yom tov, and one had the time and opportunity to do it then, then it may only be done with a shinui (variation) on yom tov itself. There are some melachos on yom tov that are forbidden, or permissible only in a specific manner, even when it comes to food preparation.

It is also important to know that one may never do melacha on yom tov during bein hash’mashos, twilight, that immediately follows a yom tov. Why is this so? Because we do not know exactly when the day changes from one to the other. It is forbidden to do melacha on yom tov for another day. Thus we might be doing melacha on yom tov for another day which is forbidden.

One is also not permitted to perform any tasks on the first day of yom tov for the second day of yom tov, even if the preparations involve no melacha. This is called “hachana,” and is something about which we must be very careful.

May it be Hashem’s will that we merit a complete and full Kabbalas HaTorah this year!

This article should be viewed as a halachic discussion and not practical advice. The author can be reached at yairhoffman2@ gmail.com.

Ulpan days march on; Sunday and Tuesday mornings, except when we find any excuse not to attend, are dedicated to learning Hebrew grammar. Mastering the tenses and nuances of the Hebrew language continues to be the bane of my existence, and though I have been told that progress is being made, I don’t feel it.

I have come to the conclusion that though my comprehension continues to improve, my spoken language is still a blend of mixed-up tenses and gender jumble. The most frustrating aspect is my class placement. Though I knew I was placed in the wrong section from the start, I should have followed up with my request for a class placement adjustment. Should have…could have…didn’t.

I really like my teacher Meital; she tries so hard to help us. Meital does not give up easily, despite the many curveballs, she perseveres in her efforts to get the students to learn. Within a class of French, Spanish, Russian and English language speakers, Hebrew tries to be the common language.

A few weeks ago, I was able to book a series of medical appointments, decipher routine blood results, follow a gym routine, order from a menu, and shop for clothes I don’t need – all in Hebrew. Pre-Ulpan days, I was not able to accomplish most of that. I believe that I owe my burgeoning language dexterity to day-to-day experiences and the kindness of friends.

Life continues to be a magnificent adventure.

Though the war continues, miluim continue to be called back some for the fourth time, hostages are still held captive and airlines are not flying, there is no place we would rather be.

People here try hard to lead normal lives and hold onto a stable existence; it’s not easy. Unless you have experienced it yourself firsthand, the effects of sirens screaming during the day and night are not describable. When you are in a deep sleep and suddenly you are jarred into action and running for

School of Thought

Can’t Find the House

By Barbara Deutsch

safety, you start not believing that there will ever be calm.

There is something special about Israel and birthdays; young and old celebrate as much as they can. And as an American, you celebrate a Hebrew and English birthday. Any opportunity you can find, you throw a party or host a dinner.

Shabbat is the best. Before Covid, we would host multiple Shabbat dinners for friends and family. We had a big dining room table, and it would give us great pleasure to enjoy delicious food prepared by my husband Bob; he is an adventurous gourmet chef. I worked long hours far away from home, and he walked to work and loves to cook.

Covid shut everything down.

Since our Aliyah, we have been hosted into the homes of family, old friends and new. Some of the meals have been an adventure, and a number of the foods we have eaten have been let’s just say interesting, but every meal has been filled with zemirot, divrei Torah and interesting conversation.

That is why we looked forward to a festive meal at the home of a couple who are among our favorite people. We asked for an early Shabbos and looked forward to a long, fun-filled quality meal. After shul, we made our way to Azza, not far from our home.

As we made our way, we greeted many families walking to and from shul (early and late Shabbat). Most people were dressed in Israeli-style Shabbat casualwear. “Good Shabbos,” “Shabbat shalom” filled the air. It seemed like everyone was going out for a Shabbat meal.

Azza street was busy. There is always action on that strip; for and against Netanyahu, he lives on the Azza. Our friends live two houses down from his; I was not sure if their correct house is number 38 or 39. Shlepping our special bottle of wine, we searched Azza for the house number. We located 38, a bank with no entrance available without a key code. Number 39 was nowhere to be found.

Thinking we must have missed it, up and down and back and forth, we walked. In and out of houses, we climbed rows and rows of stairs. Sadly, we found that most of the apartments were “ghost houses” with no tenants. Other apartments housed strangers with funny looks on their faces when they saw us, complete strangers, on the other side of the door.

Hot, hungry and exhausted, we sat on a chair to wait for them to look for us; we waited and waited. Passersby stopped and wished us “Shabbat Shalom/Good Shabbos” or simply nodded. One British gentleman thought he knew

the family from Manchester and offered to invite us for dinner save for the fact that he was going out.

Our friends are not from Manchester.

After two hours, we gave up, our only concern being that our hosts would be worried about what happened to us. I did not lose it and blame someone in frustration – before-Aliyah me would have.

As we dragged ourselves home, we debated our options. We had food; we were hosting the next day. Going to our daughter’s family? They don’t make early Shabbos and would just be at the soup course. People coming home from the regular minyanim greeted us, and upon hearing our sad tale invited us, too.

In open-mouthed disbelief, they asked, “What does that even mean; you couldn’t find it?” Then they cracked up. We got home, made kiddush, and ate salad and challah. It was fine.

After Shabbos, we called our hosts and explained. They, too, could not believe that we could not find house number 39.

My cousin Deena and I walk down Azza to a papercutting class on David Shimoni Street; finding that block is another novel; even taxi drivers can’t find David Shimoni. As we walked along chatting, I noticed 39 Azza. It seems that on Azza, 39 comes after 48 on the left side of the block. .

The next Friday, our friends treated us to a delicious breakfast at a new restaurant called Pepe. It has no store number or signage. It’s right near our friend’s house on 39 Azza; the food is delicious.

Good luck finding it.

We finally delivered the bottle of wine.

Barbara Deutsch is the former associate principal at HANC, middle school principal at Kushner, and Dean of Students at Yeshiva of Flatbush. A not-retired educator, she is trying to figure out life in Israel through reflections on navigating the dream of aliyah as a wife, mother, grandmother, great-grandmother and friend.

Israel Today Drums on the Walls of Yerushalayim

At the sprightly age of 79, my chavrusa, Moshe Frankel, displays more energy than people half his age. I sometimes feel exhausted just listening to him describe his monthly, day-long hikes with his grandchildren.

Beneath a quiet humility lies a strength and toughness that are hard to describe. Moshe remained something of an enigma to me until about a year ago, when he casually mentioned he wouldn’t be available to learn with me on Yom Yerushalayim—the day commemorating Israel’s retaking of the Old City in 1967. Puzzled, I asked him why.

All he said was that he had never missed going to the Kotel since the war. Then, almost as if by accident, he let slip that if I wanted to know more, I could find a 2009 documentary about his battalion.

“What battalion?“ I asked.

“I ’m sorry. Battalion 71. We were among the first to enter the Old City, during the Six Day War,“ he said.

I watched the documentary, Drums on the Walls of Jerusalem, and was moved by what I saw. It tells the stories of Moshe and some of the remaining members of Battalion 71, who were among the first soldiers to fight their way into the Old City.

Moshe had just turned 21 when the war broke out. A native Jerusalemite, he thought he’d be home the same day and left his tefillin on the bus.

“I was so distraught I couldn’t focus,“ he recalled. Eventually, he was able to retrieve them.

As one of his comrades said so aptly, “To me, you’re a tzaddik with tefillin or without. With a kippah, or without.“

The battle for the Old City may have lasted only four days, but it came at a heavy cost. These former soldiers, now in their 60s at the time of filming, speak

By Rafi Sackville

with raw emotion about friends who were wounded or killed. They were, in their words, “just babies“ who had never before witnessed the cruelties of war.

After fighting their way down the Via Dolorosa, they reached Har HaBayit. Moshe chose not to ascend for halachic reasons.

Later, he told his comrades he was going to the Kotel. One friend still regrets not going with him. Though Moshe doesn’t appear in the iconic photos—from the famous image of three soldiers at the Kotel to Rav Goren blowing the shofar— he was there. It was the proudest moment of his military service.

He remembers how, before the war, every Tisha B ’Av, he would go to a distant hill and gaze longingly at the Old City. And suddenly, he was standing in the very place Jews had yearned to return to for thousands of years.

But the documentary doesn ’t end there. Its creator, Musi, a fellow member of Battalion 71, sought to dispel the idea

that what happened next was merely a myth.

After securing the area, the soldiers made their way to Jaffa Gate. Just inside was the Kishleh, the Jordanian police station (still a police station today). Inside, one of them found a large bass drum. They carried it up to the walls of David’s Tower and began banging it so that the residents of Mamilla—then a poor and battered neighborhood—would know the war was over, and it was safe to emerge from their shelters.

“We banged and banged,“ Moshe recalls, “until slowly, people started coming out. They realized it was Israeli soldiers on the wall. Soon, they were dancing in the streets.“

The filmmaker shared his project with coworkers, hoping to find someone who had lived in Mamilla at the time. One colleague, Dalia Montilio, a ninth-generation Jerusalemite, was 17 in 1967. She remembered hearing the drumbeats echoing from the walls.

Until then, no one had documented this moment—not on television, in books, or in interviews. According to Moshe, whenever someone did mention it, others dismissed it as a figment of imagination. In the film, Moshe returns to that same spot on the wall. Tears well in his eyes as he hears Dalia’s account. Her family had endured 19 years of Jordanian fire from those very walls, staying in shelters during the battle.

“Suddenly,“ she recounts, “we heard a different sound from the wall. I climbed out and saw an Israeli flag. I heard a drum. I told my father, but he warned me—you know what those Jordanians are like. It could be a trick.“

She smiled at the veterans gathered beside her. “You ’d bang the drum, and we ’d clap. And to think I worked with Muki for 38 years and never spoke to him about it.“

Dalia has since passed away, and many of the veterans are now in their 80s, their health declining. Still, they try to reunite each year on Yom Yerushalayim.

This past Monday was Yom Yerushalayim. Moshe wasn’t available to learn. I still made my way to the fourth floor of the old age home across from our apartment to prepare our next daf of Gemara. I count my blessings every time I learn with Moshe.

To me, he is not only a close friend—he is a hero.

For those who wish to watch the documentary, it is available on YouTube in Hebrew under the title Tupim al Chomos Yerushalayim, Drums on the Walls of Jerusalem.

Rafi Sackville, formerly from Cedarhurst, teaches in a prominent yeshiva in Yerushalayim.

Rafi with Moshe Frankel in shul

My Israel Home Seeing Opportunity Where Others See Inconvenience

By Gedaliah Borvick

It’s hard to walk through Jerusalem or Tel Aviv without hearing the hum of jackhammers or spotting towering cranes reshaping the skyline. With a growing population and major urban renewal projects underway, construction has become part of daily life.

For homebuyers, the disruption can sometimes feel like a major inconvenience. But whether you’re looking for an investment property or a future

home, buying in a construction zone can be one of the smartest real estate moves in Israel today.

Israel’s population is projected to double over the next few decades, creating an urgent demand for housing. Urban renewal initiatives, such as Pinuy Binuy and Tama 38, are replacing old buildings with modern, upgraded towers. Cities are expanding roads, building light rail lines, and adding parks and

commercial centers. While disruptive in the short term, these projects are transforming once-overlooked neighborhoods into thriving, sought-after communities.

Living near construction isn’t always easy – noise, dust, and detours are all part of the package. But history shows that once the cranes leave, property values tend to rise. Katamon in Jerusalem is a prime example. Once a quiet, aging area, it has undergone major redevelopment and is now one of the city’s most desirable neighborhoods. Similar transformations are underway in Talpiot, Ramat Gan, and other emerging areas.

For buyers and investors, this presents a strategic opportunity. Purchasing – either an older apartment or buying “on paper” in a new development – in a renewal zone allows buyers to secure lower prices while the neighborhood is still evolving. As projects finish, prices typically rise sharply, fueled by modern housing, better infrastructure, and improved transportation.

Buying “on paper” can be especially attractive: developers often offer discounted prices during early sales phases, flexible payment plans, and customization options for finishes and layouts. It’s an opportunity to lock in a better price before the area reaches its full potential.

Keep in mind that buying in an evolving area requires a long-term view. Some neighborhoods that feel rough around the edges today will be in high demand just a few years from now – especially where large-scale communal upgrades, like parks and public transit, are part of the plan, as government-backed infrastructure projects often accelerate these transformations.

I’m experiencing this “living in a construction site” phenomenon firsthand in Nofei Hashemesh, where a large new project is being built right in front of my home. The dust and noise can be disruptive, but overall, it’s exhilarating to watch this amazing community expand. Construction may be inconvenient, but it’s also a sign of progress, growth, and future value. The neighborhoods that seem chaotic today will soon become some of the most desirable places to live. For investors, buying in a developing area can lead to strong returns. For families, it’s a chance to secure a modern home in an up-and-coming area at a more favorable price. Instead of viewing scaffolding as a nuisance, it’s worth seeing it as a symbol of opportunity — an investment in a better future, both financially and in quality of life.

Gedaliah Borvick is the founder of My Israel Home (www.myisraelhome. com), a real estate agency focused on helping people from abroad buy and sell homes in Israel. To sign up for his monthly market updates, contact him at gborvick@gmail.com.

Eucalyptus project in Nofei Hashemesh

Unquestionable Unity between the U.S. and Israel at Jerusalem Post Conference

The 2025 New York Jerusalem Post Conference was held last week at the Pierre Hotel, with representatives from Israel and the Jewish community joining together to speak about the state of the State of Israel and the Jewish people.

Zvika Klein, JPost editor-in-chief, headed the packed program, welcoming local and international leaders and advocates from across a broad spectrum.

“Despite everything we’ve been through, we are still standing, we are still thinking, and we are still believing in the future of Israel and the Jewish people,” he declared.

in a display of unity following the October 7 attacks. Rep. Mast believes President Trump is making positive moves for all parties involved.

“The President, across the globe, wants to use business and not bombs. That’s his strategy, and we see that play out in this situation as well, but it plays out in a very pointed way. We want to do this diplomatically, but if we have to do it kinetically, don’t think that that’s off the table,” said Mast.

He addressed the possibility of a more peaceful Syria, “We’re having serious conversations to bring the world to a different place than where it’s been historically. Think about the gravity and the history to be in the conversations that we’re having.”

By Tammy m ark

The conference lineup was filled with those who support Israel, coming from sectors of business, healthcare and entertainment. Topics included the reliability of the U.S.-Israel allegiance, the growth of Israel in all sectors, and, of course, the vital immediate urgency of rescuing the remaining hostages in Gaza. A pervasive concern was the question of President Donald Trump’s allegiance to Israel, in regards to his recent trip to the Middle East and meetings with Arab countries without visiting Israel. This was met with many assurances that there was no cause for concern.

Congressman Brian Mast, Chair of the House Foreign Affairs Committee, is a U.S. military veteran who lost his legs while serving in Afghanistan in 2010. In 2015, he went on to volunteer with the Israel Defense Forces packing medical kits and publicly wore his IDF uniform

Mast reassured the crowd, “You know, I was looking back at this backdrop, and I was looking at the flags, and as long as there are 50 stars in a sea of blue and 13 red and white stripes, she’ll never be alone.”

Florida Senator Rick Scott agreed with the strategy. “I think if you look at the Middle East where Trump’s going to be is, he’s going to do everything he can to expand peace and to build relationships, not just for America, but also for Israel. I think it’s no question he’s going to stand with Israel. He’s never going to back down from what he’s done for Israel.”

Scott stated emphatically, “We have to completely destroy Hamas.”

Representatives for Israel included Ofir Akunis, Consul-General of Israel in New York, who relayed his hopes for the region. “I am saying to all of you and Qatar from here – they should be using their money to build Gaza above

ground, not under it. Hamas must put down their weapons. They cannot be a political or military party anymore.”

He continued, “Gaza can be like the Emirates if they want to. The same applies to Judea and Samaria with the Palestinians.”

Gilad Erdan, Magen David Adom Global president and former Israeli Ambassador to the UN, spoke frankly on the state of the UN.

“The United Nations is beyond reform. It’s beyond repair,” Erdan declared. “The institution created to prevent atrocities after the Holocaust now protects genocidal regimes.”

“After four years at the evil UN, I chose to channel my devotion into an organization of pure good,” he said. Erdan closed by honoring Adham Safadi, a senior EMT who lost his daughter when a Hezbollah rocket hit the soccer field where she was playing.

Adam Boehler, U.S. Special Envoy for Hostage Response, shared his experience upon the release of American hostage Edan Alexander.

“It was an unbelievable moment on Sunday. The whole time, we couldn’t sleep. It was exciting, nerve-wracking… That first phone call was unbelievable. It was right on Mother’s Day when we went over. It had a lot of meaning – for me, Steve [Witkoff] and everybody.”

Boehler said he hopes for an imminent deal. “I think it’s getting closer and closer to make a deal here. If Hamas wants to come forward and make a legitimate offer they’re willing to stand by and release hostages, we’re always open to that.”

Boehler continued, “I do think we’re closer than we ever were. Part of that is because of the movement of Israel and the IDF on the ground.”

Chants of “Bring Them Home” echoed throughout the ballroom. Im -

passioned pleas came from Keith and Aviva Siegel, Hamas captivity survivors, on the dire state of the remaining hostages and the critical need to bring every single one home. Bar Godard, daughter of Meni Godard whose body is held in Gaza, and Ilay David, brother of Evyatar David, who is a living hostage in Gaza, shared their stories and echoed the sentiment. October 7th survivors Liora Eilon and Oded Etinger from Kfar Aza were in the audience, after spending Shabbos at the Young Israel of Woodmere to share their journeys of survival and beyond. To witness their personal suffering underscores the goal of the public conversation – the absolute peace and security for the Jewish people in Israel and around the globe.

New York City Mayor Eric Adams joined Economy Minister and former Jerusalem mayor Nir Barkat to sign an historic initiative, launching the NYC-Israel Economic Council to increase economic cooperation between NYC and Israel. Additionally, the Mayor’s Office to Combat Antisemitism will set about immediately establishing an interagency task force dedicated to fighting Jew-hatred. A vocal advocate for Israel and the Jewish community, Adams stated, “As long as I am mayor of this city, we will be invested in Israel.”

Dani Naveh, former Member of Knesset and current President and CEO of Israel Bonds, explained the significant role of Bonds.

“On October 7, I initiated a special campaign of support for Israel,” Naveh shared. Immediate impact was made and continues on. “Since October 7, Israel Bonds raised almost $5 billion… These funds really have played an important part in Israel’s economic resilience.”

Rabbi Yehoshua Fass and Tony Gelbart of Nefesh B’Nefesh and Adv. Avi -

chai Kahana, of the Ministry of Aliyah and Integration, shared good news about upsurges in Aliyah.

“After October 7, we have seen an incredible increase of Aliyah interest,” said Rabbi Fass. Despite the surge, his organization is working fervently to bolster medical immigration, to support the shortage of doctors.

Siggy Flicker, national spokeswoman for JEXIT and former TV personality, took the stage alongside her father, Mordecai Paldiel, a Holocaust survivor and historian. Flicker, who was born in Israel and grew up listening to her father’s tales of the Holocaust, was recently nominated to The U.S. Holocaust Memorial Council. Flicker stood up and gave an impassioned impromptu speech about her absolute faith in President Trump’s support for Israel.

“He will never turn his back on the Jewish people or the Jewish homeland,” she assured.

She said she appreciates that people are very concerned about Israel, worried about Qatar and Hamas, but trusts the plan. “Sometimes you have to go to the head of the snake to normalize the region.”

Montana Tucker, actress, singer and descendant of Holocaust survivors, received an award in recognition of the use of her platforms to serve as a social media activist despite brutal backlash. One panel brought together Rudy Rochman, current IDF soldier, Jewish and Israel rights activist and filmmaker, along with internet influencers and advocates Lizzy Savetsky and Zach Sage Fox, to discuss the battles facing the Jewish people. Former TV personalities Julia and Miriam Haart shared their evolution into staunch Israel advocates. All of them have lost fans, brand deals and personal relationships, while enduring massive online hatred.

Inbal Bouskila welcomed guests

from diverse backgrounds. Internet entrepreneur “Nas Daily” Nuseir Yassin, with his imitable energy, shared his hopes for peace and understanding as an Israeli-born Palestinian Muslim.

Deputy Chief Richie Taylor, NYPD’s highest-ranking yarmulke-wearing Orthodox Jew, spoke on the commitment to protect the New York community and the efforts to help identify and arrest violent perpetrators.

Klein wrapped up the event with talk show host and political commentator Brian Kilmeade of Fox & Friends.

“America and Israel make mistakes—we’re not perfect—but I believe we are on the right side of history. There’s a fundamental synergy between our two countries,” he said.

With top security inside, the conference was free of disruptions unlike the previous year, yet anti-Israel protestors camped outside the venue. A musical performance by Miri Ben-Ari, Grammy Award-winning American-Israeli violinist, kept spirits up. Through moments of tough talk and realistic conversations, the comforting and reassuring messages shared throughout were universal and concrete.

“We want to do this diplomatically, but if we have to do it kinetically, don’t think that that’s off the table.”

The Wandering Jew Spain Again

Part I

The year was 2006, about five years after I organized a trip for friends of my brother Yossi and his wife Idii to Poland, Hungary and Moldova. Since the enormous success of that trip, Yossi and his friends kept on nudging me to arrange another journey to Europe. I was definitely interested in coordinating this journey and suggested an eleven-day trip to Spain with a Shabbos in Gibraltar. I had once organized a similar trip with two other couples in 1999 and was quite familiar with the wealth of sights, especially those with Jewish interest.

We left on Sunday, May 7, with two dozen boxes of food which included everything we needed for breakfast and for lunch as well as for our dinners until Shabbos. The only items I was able to obtain in our hotels were fresh fruit, vegetables, and drinks. The travelers were a very cohesive group and included beside Pesi and me, my brother Yossi and Idii,

and another eight couples. Motel Bergman, Moshe Chopp, Shaye Lieberman, Max Rosenberg, Shiya Roth, CJ Schnitzler, Lenny Schwartz and Hersh Chaim Wulliger and their wives were people

pretty much most of Spain’s magnificent capital. The ornate buildings are mostly from the 18th and 19th centuries, built under the reign of the Habsburgs, the Bourbons. I cannot begin to describe how

As we were returning, the quiet atmosphere changed into tumultuous pandemonium, with people running and screaming and horns blaring.

whom Pesi and I knew for many years. In total, we were ten couples who formed of a “mobile minyan!”

After checking into our hotel in Madrid and making the refrigeration arrangements, we headed out to see the city. We took a two-hour bus tour that covered

overwhelmed we were from the elaborate architectural designs and decorative features. At the end of our bus tour, we were dropped off at the three centuries-old Royal Palace, the largest palace in Europe. It is the official residence of the royal family but is actually used only

for ceremonial events. During our visit, King Juan Carlos I and Queen Sofia were the ruling monarchs. We took a tour which covered the grand interior of this majestic palace and then walked around the vast exterior grounds. Then we went to an important historic site called Plaza Mayor. This famous public square was a food market until the late 16th century and the site where royal celebrations and religious events took place. It was also the location where the Inquisition’s Auto da Fe and other public executions took place. Presently, the square is home to many outdoor vendors and shops and is a major tourist attraction.

Afterwards, we came back to our hotel and enjoyed a delicious hot dinner while we recollected our first impressions of Madrid and planned for Tuesday’s trip to Toledo.

Toledo is an ancient walled city and is known for its Christian, Jewish and

Posing with Toledo in the background

With my brother and sister-in-law Yossi and Idii

Statue of the Rambam in Cordova View of Toledo Courtyard of the Alcazar palace in Cordova

WISHING THE ENTIRE COMMUNITY

AN ENJOYABLE SHAVUOS

Rabbi Moshe Kotlarsky, z”l

A Selfless Ambassador for the Jewish Nation

By Eliy A hu Ro SENBER g

The end of Shabbos drew near in Crown Heights

Having just davened Mincha, six-year-old Moshe stood at the entrance of 770.

You see, Moshe and his friends — eager to interact with the Rebbe — came up with a simple but brilliant plan: hold the door open for the Rebbe, and he’ll say “yasher koach” to you. What an honor that would be.

But Moshe, hoping for more, took it to the next level. His idea was as follows: hold the door open for the Rebbe on Motzei Shabbos, after Kiddush Levana, and you’d get not just a “yasher koach” but also a “gutte voch” and a “gutten chodesh.”

After Maariv, the Rebbe and his chassidim recited Kiddush Levana outside. Then, the Rebbe headed toward the entrance of 770. As the Rebbe walked through the doorway, he turned to the boy and smiled.

“Did you recite Kiddush Levana yet, or were you too busy holding the door?” the Rebbe asked, his expression warm and gentle. Moshe admitted that he hadn’t yet said the tefillah.

“Say Kiddush Levana,” the Rebbe told Moshe. “And then come to my office.”

And so he did. After reciting Kiddush Levana, the young boy knocked on the Rebbe’s door. The Rebbe opened it.

The Rebbe — with a wide, warm smile on his face — looked at the boy and exclaimed: “Yasher koach, a gutte voch, a gutten chodesh!”

Fromhis childhood in Crown Heights to the day he was tragically niftar one year ago, Rabbi Moshe Kotlarsky, z”l, dedicated his life to bringing the Rebbe nachas and fulfilling his vision. The 27 th of Iyar marked a year since the day of Rabbi Kotlarsky’s passing — the day we lost a truly humble giant. Rabbi Kotlarsky was born in 1949 to Rabbi Hirschel and Rebbetzin Goldie Kotlarsky. His father — who journeyed through Lithuania, Russia, Japan, China, and Canada before reaching New York — survived the Holocaust. During his childhood, Rabbi Kotlarsky had no relatives in Crown Heights. But that doesn’t mean he didn’t have family. His father’s classmates from Poland were like his uncles, and their children, like his cousins. Most of all, Rabbi Kotlarsky, growing up, considered the Rebbe like his grandfather. Indeed, it was the Rebbe’s wisdom and guidance that shaped Rabbi Kotlarsky’s life the most.

In fact, by age 20, young Rabbi Kotlarsky, a student in Montreal’s Tomchei Temimim, was already a key player in the Rebbe’s mitzvah campaigns. It was 1969. A non-observant Yiddish comedian named Shimon Dzigan was doing a comedy routine in Montreal. And Rabbi Kotlarsky had a mission: convince the comedian to put on tefillin.

Before the show, the young Lubavitcher went to the comedian’s dressing room and knocked on the door. Shimon Dzigan opened it.

“What do you want?” the comedian asked.

Rabbi Kotlarsky asked him if the man was interested in putting on tefillin.

“Okay, fine. But quickly. My show starts in a few minutes,” Shimon Dzigan responded.

Rabbi Kotlarsky helped the comedian put on the tefillin. And just as the man said Shema, he burst into tears. As he cried, Shimon explained that his entire family had been murdered in the Holocaust.

“You don’t understand how much it means to me that you put tefillin on me,” the crying comedian exclaimed.

Afterward, Rabbi Kotlarsky sent the Rebbe a one-and-a-halfline report, sharing: “Today, we met with Shimon Dzigan. We put on tefillin with him. He said Shema, and he was moved to tears.” The Rebbe was very proud.

Around a year later, Rabbi Kotlarsky married his wife, Rivka. The couple was immediately interested in going on shlichus for the Rebbe. After they had their first child, the Rebbe’s secretaries gave the couple three options for shlichus: Washington, D.C.; Texas; or the central Chabad office in Crown Heights.

The young rabbi and rebbetzin asked the Rebbe which location they should pick. He told them to stay in New York.

“From here you will be able to spread chassidic teachings and Jewish observance across the globe,” the Rebbe told them.

At age 22, Rabbi Kotlarsky became the Rebbe’s ambassador to the world, traveling to countries all around the globe. He would make connections with Jewish communities, traveling everywhere from Beverly Hills to Bangkok, to Holland to Hong Kong, and finding each one a suitable shliach.

Now, there are shluchim in all 50 states in the United States and in more than 100 countries. Rabbi Kotlarsky was intimately connected to each one.

As Rabbi Moshe Kotlarsky once wrote, “It felt like a dream. The Rebbe threw me into doing his work across the globe. It was a huge responsibility, but when the Rebbe entrusted someone, he gave them his complete confidence.

“The Rebbe did not give jobs; he gave opportunities. If you did them well, he gave you more. In fact, that is how you knew the Rebbe was happy with you—if he gave you another mission.”

The Rebbe had high expectations of Rabbi Kotlarsky. In 1984, the Rebbe received a letter from the Jewish community of Cochabamba, Bolivia. They wrote in broken e nglish, “o ur religious life is agonizing, since few members of our community are observant, and also for want of a community leader. Please, can you perhaps provide us with one?” The community, composed of around 200 Jews, was mostly made up of Holocaust survivors.

After the Rebbe read the letter, he forwarded it to Rabbi Kotlarsky’s office. On top of the letter, the Rebbe wrote: “Do you know about this, Kotlarsky?”

A few days later, Rabbi Kotlarsky’s phone rang. It was the Rebbe’s chief aide, Rabbi Chaim Mordechai Isaac Hodakov. Rabbi Kotlarsky answered the phone and told Rabbi Hodakov that he didn’t know about the community in Cochabamba. Suddenly, Rabbi Kotlarsky heard the Rebbe’s voice on the phone.

“If he knows, what has he done about it?” asked the Rebbe. “And if he doesn’t know about it, how could it be that there is a community in the world — in a country that he is responsible for — that he doesn’t know about?”

Immediately, Rabbi Kotlarsky focused his efforts on helping the community.

earlier that year, Rabbi Hodakov had called Rabbi Kotlarsky for a similar assignment. He received the call at three in the morning.

“The Rebbe wants you to go to Curacao immediately,” Rabbi Hodakov told him over the phone.

That was the only instruction he received: go to Curacao, an island in the Caribbean. What should he do once he’s there? He had no clue. Nevertheless, he left for the island immediately. When he arrived, he got into a taxi.

“Please take me to the synagogue,” Rabbi Kotlarsky asked the taxi driver.

It would have been expected for the taxi driver to bring the Chabad rabbi to the Mikveh Israel Synagogue, the oldest and most famous shul in the Western Hemisphere. Instead, thanks to hash-

gacha pratis, the taxi brought Rabbi Kotlarsky to a small shtiebel.

Just as Rabbi Kotlarsky stepped out of the taxi, he saw a man leaving the shtiebel. Rabbi Kotlarsky approached the man.

“Hello, I was sent here by the Lubavitcher Rebbe,” Rabbi Kotlarsky told him.

The man’s jaw dropped. Then, he explained his story.

The man, whose name was Chaim Groisman, explained that there was no Jewish school on the island. Thus, he had to send his son, e li, to a Christian school. The issue: the school had mandatory Christian religious services. Because e li wouldn’t go to the services, he had no school to go to. By law, it was required for all children to be in school. As such, the Groisman family found themselves in an awful situation: e li had to go to school, but there was no school for him.

Chaim then explained that, the night before, his Bubbe Baila came to him in a dream.

“If you’re ever in trouble,” she told him, “you should turn to the Lubavitcher Rebbe.”

Chaim had never heard of the Rebbe before. Moreover, he had no way to contact the Rebbe. Thus, the following morning, Chaim went to his local shtiebel. He asked the shamash to open the aron. And Chaim davened with all his might. The moment he exited the shtiebel, Rabbi Kotlarsky appeared before him and declared: “I was sent here by the Lubavitcher Rebbe.” Chaim nearly fainted.

Rabbi Kotlarsky ended up bringing Chaim’s son, e li, back to Crown Heights, where the boy had the privilege of attending yeshiva. Later, Chaim Groisman wrote a letter thanking the Rebbe for helping “a small Jew from Curacao.”

The Rebbe responded: “There is no such a thing as a ‘small Jew.’”

RabbiMoshe Kotlarsky played a role in forming, running, funding, and transforming countless Chabad Lubavitch networks and projects, including CTeen, an organization that organizes activities for Jewish teenagers in communities with shluchim; JNet, a service that pairs up chavrusas all around the world; MyShliach, a network that helps the children of shluchim, particularly those in isolated parts of the world; Compass Magazine, a publication for shluchim and shluchos; and, most recently, oneMitzvah, a website where people can log their mitzvos and commit to doing mitzvos in the future.

But one of Rabbi Kotlarsky’s most significant undertakings was his role in leading the International Kinus Hashluchim, the annual conference where every shliach meets together. When the kinus began in 1983, it was composed of just 70 American and Canadian shluchim. Today, it serves a total of 6,000 shluchim.

At the Kinus, Rabbi Kotlarsky took great pride in reading out the “roll call,” the list of ev-

At a Kinus for shluchim in South America in 1990

Speaking at the European Conference for Shluchim in 1991

With Chabad shluchim in the Soviet Union in 1991

Meeting with the Rebbe

er-growing countries where shluchim serve as ambassadors of Judaism throughout the world. Starting with those in e urope – beginning with those in Austria – and listing the hundreds of shluchim throughout the world, the roll call spans scores of countries across the globe and all 50 states in the United States. With immense pleasure and delight, Rabbi Kotlarsky applauded each of the shluchim who selflessly commit themselves to the Rebbe’s mission of bringing Torah and mitzvos to all four corners of the earth.

As the convention’s organizer, Rabbi Kotlarsky saw to every detail. every year, he worked hard to make the conference as enjoyable as possible for every shliach. For the conference’s banquet, he meticulously planned the menu, including a wide range of options to accommodate all preferences. If a shliach couldn’t afford a plane ticket to New York, Rabbi Kotlarsky would ensure the ticket was paid for. If a shliach didn’t have anywhere to stay in Crown Heights, Rabbi Kotlarsky would find him a place.

Rabbi Kotlarsky worked hard every year organizing the Kinus, because he knew that many shluchim live lives of constant sacrifice. Many live in uncomfortable, remote locations. Many don’t have access to delicious, kosher food (aside from what their wonderful wives prepare). So, for the three days a year that all shluchim gather in New York, Rabbi Kotlarsky wanted to ensure that each has the best time possible: that their accommodations are exceedingly comfortable; that they have excellent food, including steak; and that the experience is as uplifting as it could be.

And that’s just the kind of person Rabbi Kotlarsky was.

“He didn’t live life for himself. His life was literally for everybody else,” recalls Rabbi Kotlarsky’s daughter, Rebbetzin Chanie Wolowik. “every single shliach who you are going to speak to will tell you, ‘He knew our children’s names.’ Anywhere he traveled, he always brought treats for the shluchim’s children. He brought cholov Yisrael chocolate everywhere he went – not because he had to, but because he wanted to.”

Rebbetzin Nechama Kantor is the shlucha with her husband in Bangkok. “every person who encountered Rabbi Kotlarsky felt like he loved them – no matter how old, no matter how young,” she shared. “every time he came to us, he always brought something for the kids. They called him Zeidy – Zeidy Chocolate.”

“Every time he saw me, he would take $200, $300 out of his pocket and say: ‘Pini, take this and buy candy and chocolate for the kids,’” Rabbi Pini Zaklos of the Chabad House in Zagreb, Croatia, said.

He would be there for the shluchim in their times of joy and when they needed his help. He anticipated their needs and would preemptively provide for them. He loved hearing from them after yom tov, telling him how many people joined their sedarim this year or how many people came to their Chanukah celebrations.

When each shliach was sent to a new city, Rabbi Kotlarsky held their hands. Each Chabad House is independently financed, but Rabbi Kotlarsky would help the shluchim connect with the supporters who would be able to finance them. In certain places, such as cities in the former Soviet Union or on college campuses, Rabbi Kotlarsky would get global donors, like the Rohr and Tabacinic family, with whom he had a special kesher, to help finance the Chabad Houses.

o ne Shabbos afternoon, at the home of shluchim in Thailand, Rabbi Kotlarsky rested on a cot made of hay, because that’s all they had to offer him. He declared, “If it’s good for the shluchim, it’s good for me.”

When a shliach from China sent him a picture of their Chanukah program, Rabbi Kotlarsky immediately called the shliach.

“How’s your wife?” Rabbi Kotlarsky asked the shliach. “I noticed she’s not in the picture. Is she okay?”

“Actually, she’s in the hospital,” the shliach replied.

And so, Rabbi Kotlarsky went to the ohel every day to pray for her until she came home. one Shabbos, Rabbi Kotlarsky was in Florida. Rabbi Yoel Caroline, a shliach in Key Biscayne, Florida, invited him to a shalom zachor. Rabbi Kotlarsky was staying over an hour away from the shalom zachor. And yet, on that Shabbos, Rabbi Kotlarsky went to the shalom zachor despite the hour-long walk.

“He showed love. He showed care. He showed commitment to the Rebbe. In the tough times, he helped you. In the good times, he was there. He traveled to every simcha,” Rebbetzin Wolowik explains.

“After he passed away, the shlucha to Sweden wrote, ‘Rabbi Kotlarsky traveled here for every single simcha. There wasn’t a simcha that we had that he didn’t come to Sweden for. Now, it’s our turn to pay you back.’ And she came in for the shiva.”

Rebbetzin Shterni Wolff, the Chabad shlucha who lives in Hanover, Germany, lost her husband Benny in 2020. After Rabbi Wolff passed away, Rabbi Kotlarsky worked to ensure that Shterni never felt alone.

“When Benny passed away, Rabbi Kotlarsky got even more involved,” she said. “He personally made sure I wouldn’t feel alone. He would call every Friday to wish a good Shabbos. And when he was sick and had treatments on Friday, he would call on Thursday. He would call before Chanukah, and he would ask about the kids and send them Chanukah gelt.”

Rabbi Shais Taub noted, “You can fake caring, but you can’t fake showing up.” Rabbi Kotlarsky cared for all – but even more than that, he was there for them in every way.

There are countless more stories of how Rabbi Kotlarsky touched the lives of shluchim all around the world. But his selflessness extended far beyond emissaries of the Rebbe. He loved and cared for everyone. He didn’t care if you’re rich or poor, or if you’re young or old. He loved you for who you are.

“My father was able to run the conference of shluchim and inspire every single time he spoke. And then, he was able to relate to a four-year-old or a seven-year-old and teach them how to live their lives connected to Hashem. He had this global vision, but at the same time, he was focused on the individual,” shares Rebbetzin Wolowik.

“If you ever did anything for him, even once — if you drove him up the avenue — when he saw you, he would thank you again. He had a phenomenal memory. He had worldwide knowledge of everything. And he had tremendous hakaras hatov to anyone who ever helped him in any way.”

Rabbi Kotlarsky was not just connected to those in the Chabad community. He was close to many rabbanim who were not Chabad. He had connections with heads of state and politicians. In fact, political leaders in Israel knew that if there were any issues with Israelis worldwide, they

Invigorating the crowd at a CTeen event in Times Square

With his son Reb Mendy at the annual photo of Chabad shluchim taken at the Kinus

With his son Reb Mendy and President of Argentina Javier Milei

Speaking at a Kinus Shluchim

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could turn to Rabbi Kotlarsky to help them solve the predicament. His love and his devotion were for Jews around the world – and his mission was to help them in any way he could.

“Who is their first call when there is a tsunami? What happens when there’s an earthquake in Nepal? Or in Peru, there’s a national disaster? Who gets called? It’s always Chabad,” Rebbetzin Wolowik notes. “They’re always the first on the scene. When a backpacker goes missing or when a family is stranded, they know who to call.

“My father had a phenomenal memory and a worldwide knowledge that he used to help. And that’s why people reached out to him in these situations.”

Rabbi Kotlarsky gave of himself without hesitation, with unwavering selflessness that put the other person’s needs far above his own.

Rebbetzin Wolowik relates that the Tanya writes that genuine love is like water – when you look in water, your image is reflected back to you.

“If you’re genuine and you care about somebody, it’s reciprocal – and that was my father. It was never about him. It was about making the Rebbe proud and bringing him good news. And what did the Rebbe want? He wanted us to perfect our world, to be there for each person, genuine ahavas Yisroel.”

She adds, “When you care so much about someone, you care about what they care about. And he cared about every single person so much, that he truly cared about what was important to each of these people.

“He had no secretary,” Rebbetzin Wolowik shares. “He had one cell phone. He answered his cell phone when he was able to, always. If he said, ‘I’ll call you back,’ he called you back…

“Thousands and thousands of people believe that he was their best friend, their confidant… He gave the most sage advice… If somebody was, G-d forbid, sick, my father took immense interest in their family and their children. He would call and speak to them, pay them visits, and be in constant contact with their family. He made you feel like you really mattered… He could speak about the most serious things and cry genuine tears but knew how to leave you feeling uplifted.”

o nce, a nine-year-old boy decided to donate his savings – a couple of dollars – to Chabad shluchim. When Rabbi Kotlarsky met the boy, he made the child feel so special.

“Wow, what a tremendous baal tzedakah! You’re so giving,” Rabbi Kotlarsky told the boy. And he meant it. Rabbi Kotlarsky believed that anyone who gives what they can give — no matter how much that may be — is special. Years later, the boy still remembers that interaction fondly.

“His house was not in the best shape, but it was so full of warmth and love. My parents fed 100 people every single Shabbos, even if the ceilings were leaking,” Rebbetzin Wolowik recalls. Most of all, he was exceedingly humble and selfless. Throughout his career, he raised a tremendous amount of money for Chabad. As Rebbetzin Wolowik notes, “He did not take even one penny in a commission.”

If someone tried to give him tzedakah, he would say something along the lines of: “oh, you have something to give? The shluchim in Angola just called me. Send it there.”

He never wanted credit or acknowledgement. He never wanted to be honored. He never even craved appreciation. Rabbi Kotlarsky would pass up on being the guest of honor. He disliked speaking about his personal life because he didn’t think he should ever be in the spotlight. o nce, Rabbi Berel Lazar, the shliach of Russia, sent Rabbi Kotlarsky a cheesecake in a show of gratitude. Yet, Rabbi Kotlarsky refused to accept it. He didn’t want to be rewarded for his efforts.

“His name’s not on a building. His name is nowhere, and yet he

financed everything,” Rebbetzin Wolowik adds. “He had zero ego. None. It was about the Rebbe.” It seemed as though Rabbi Kotlarsky’s efforts transcended space and time. Somehow, without having a single secretary, he was able to juggle countless different tasks — from his networks and organizations to the Kinus Hashluchim to the daily connections he made — the countless phone calls he answered, the countless countries he visited, and the countless people he cared for. And yet, even in his busiest hour, he never once forgot about his family.

Rabbi Kotlarsky and his wife, lbch”l, Rebbetzin Rivka, raised nine children together.

“He was a superb grandfather. every one of his grandkids had a personal connection with him… He had the closest connection with his grandchildren. He was such a tuned-in grandfather to each of his grandsons and granddaughters,” Rebbetzin Wolowik shares.

“Never once did we struggle because of my father traveling every week… My father would bring his stories home and make us feel part of it. Some of the summers, we got to travel and stay in places. We even spent a couple of summers in europe, so that he could travel and visit the shluchim but still be with us.”

Rabbi

Moshe Kotlarsky would always say: if you’re going to the ohel and you’re writing a letter to put in the kever of the Rebbe, before asking for anything, you should start your letter with some good news, something positive that you could share to make the Rebbe proud.

Indeed, that’s the way Rabbi Kotlarsky lived every day of his life. He dedicated his life to bringing the Rebbe nachas, to fulfilling the Rebbe’s vision.

“What was the vision of the Rebbe? To add acts of goodness and kindness to make this world a better place, to bring Moshaich. That’s it. every single mitzvah is independent, and every single mitzvah gives Hashem nachas. It’s a connection. Mitzvah means connection. And every mitzvah is an opportunity for us to connect to Hashem,” says Rebbetzin Wolowik.

That was Rabbi Kotlarsky’s message to his children: bring the Rebbe nachas by making this world a better place.

“My father’s matzeiva has one line on it: ‘He strove every day of his life to bring the Rebbe nachas.’ That’s it,” Rebbetzin Wolowik says. “And that’s what motivated his entire life. If you want to give the Rebbe nachas, it means that you look at every person with unadulterated love. You care about every person with unadulterated love. You just want to be there for every person in every way possible. That was my father’s life.”

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With his children, Rabbi Zalman and Rebbetzin Chanie Wolowik

Blessing his grandson before his chuppah

Sharing the nachas

With his wife, Rebbetzin Rivka Kotlarsky

Spending time with a few of his Wolowik grandsons

Living an Elevated Life

MiriaM Baver ShareS Why She

ChoSe to Join the JeWiSh nation

Written by Malkie Schulman

Igrew up in Philadelphia with my parents and four siblings, completely secular and non-Jewish. My family never went to church and observed no religious practice of any kind. Yet I always retained a strong belief in G-d. I don’t even know where it came from, but I had always had this sense that there was a G-d taking care of me. As a teenager, I became interested in religion, but that phase didn’t last too long. First of all, it wasn’t an easy path, especially in my not-interested-in-religion-at-all family, and then I ended up in a kind of cultish religious group for a while, which I (baruch Hashem) eventually backed away from because it didn’t feel right.

After that negative experience, I stopped looking into religion. Instead, right after high school graduation, I got married at 18 years old. I had two children in two years, and by the time I was 20 or 21, the marriage was over, and I was left a very young, very

inexperienced single mom. In my early to mid-30s, my kids were budding teenagers, and I was a struggling mom, trying to figure out how to discipline them and get them to understand the concept of personal accountability. I started searching for religion again. Over the span of two years, I explored a number of different churches, finally ending up in a fundamentalist Bible Baptist church.

Although the church had obviously some very distorted views of halacha, still, I would say, 75% of their teachings came from Torah, what they called “The Old Testament.” They believed in Sabbath as a day of rest, for instance. And although their Sabbath was on Sunday, so they got that wrong, they did not work that day. Of course, they didn’t have the Lamed-Tes Melachos – they drove to church, used electricity and even handled money, for example. But the women all dressed modestly. In fact, I started only wearing

dresses once I joined the church.

Shortly after joining, I became a Sunday school teacher for four-year-olds. As I taught, I noticed a pattern: when the kids asked questions from the “Old Testament.” I was comfortable answering them. When they asked about the New Testament, I’d say, “Ask your parents.” I discovered that I didn’t feel comfortable with those answers. I believed in the Old Testament; I just wasn’t buying into the rest. After a while, I realized I was in the wrong place.

opening the Door to JuDaiSM

That’s when I started looking into Judaism. At that time, I didn’t even know there was an option to convert to Judaism. Nevertheless, I began to learn. I found an Orthodox rabbi willing to teach me and soon found out there was possibility to convert (though that was still

down the road for me). I was living in South (New) Jersey at the time, and I traveled on two buses and a train to the nearest Orthodox community to meet with the rabbi every week to learn. Eventually, I stopped learning with him because of an incident involving some of his congregants driving to shul for Rosh Hashana services. I’d just come from a strict fundamentalist church, and here was this rabbi allowing congregants to desecrate the holiday. I had a hard time with what I felt was a lax attitude, so I found myself a Chabad rabbi in the next town over. The Chabad rabbi was the one who ultimately arranged for my conversion in New York three years later.

It wasn’t so simple just getting the conversion arranged, by the way. Even after I was living in a frum Jewish community in Atlantic City and observing everything I was allowed to observe as a non-Jew, I had to push a lot to make the conversion happen and repeatedly tell the rabbi, “I’m ready to convert. Can we get this moving?”

My father, who always said he was an atheist (though I think he was really agnostic), supported me completely. He drove me to the beit din, and while I was inside, went to the flower shop and bought me a beautiful bouquet of baby roses to present to me when I emerged as a Jew. As he handed the flowers to me, he wished me all the blessings and happiness in my new chosen life.

My mother, on the other hand, didn’t feel quite the same way. I hadn’t been eating in my parents’ home for a few years already, ever since I began exploring Judaism. But when I walked into my parents’ house after the conversion, I smelled the aroma of roast pork. My mother made roast pork only once a year, on January 1. It was not January 1 that day, but nevertheless, she made it and asked me if I wanted to have some. So, I’d say there was a little passive aggressive message in that offer somewhere. She said she wished me well, but her actions didn’t mirror that.

My children were ages 16 and 17 at the time of my conversion, and while they’d gone along with me to the Baptist church, they felt Judaism was too much for them. In any case, my son was living with his father then, and after graduation at age18, my daughter moved out as well. It wasn’t that they were angry with me, it’s just that they felt Judaism was not for them. Over the years, both of them, at different times, moved back home for a while when I was already remarried and living as an Orthodox Jew. But, no, neither of them are practicing Jews. I say “practicing Jews” because it’s a possibility that they are Jewish. I have evidence pointing that way but not enough to prevent me from having to have gone through my conversion and not enough to say that my children are definitively Jewish.

ClueS froM the paS t

While I was going through the conversion process, I started uncovering evidence and observing indications that my mother and grandmother might be Jewish. One thing that pointed me in that direction was my mother’s deep fear that the Holocaust could happen again. After I converted, more than once, out of the blue, she would make a comment expressing this fear. Also, there were multiple times when I asked my mother if our family

was Jewish. She never admitted it. But she never denied it either. Another interesting incident occurred during the first Pesach after my conversion. My rabbi asked me to drive to Lakewood to pick up food for the shul sedarim. I asked my mother if she wanted to come along for the ride and she said yes. Normally, if we were going on a long car trip, she’d bring snacks along, but because my car was already kosher for Pesach, I told her I’d bring them. While driving, I asked her if she wanted to try a type of cracker called matzah. She said, “I don’t have to try it. I know what it tastes like.” I asked her how she knew, and she told me, “Babci (Polish for Grandma) gave it to us all the time when we were growing up.”

swered, “No,” I was stunned. “Why not?” I asked. I remember her mouthing the words to me, “Because he wasn’t Jewish.” Then she quickly changed the subject.

That was an “aha” moment for me, because while today, many stores around the country carry matzah and it’s no big deal for non-Jews to have tasted it, in the 1940s, when my mother was growing up in Philadelphia, you couldn’t just find matzah unless you were looking for it. Why would her mother be looking for matzah?

There was more. I had always been told a certain narrative about how my grandmother came to America. But I found out it wasn’t true. She was actually born in the U.S., and the family returned to Poland

Even as a non-Jew, I knew G-d was always there taking care of me.

when she was five. Her brother, my great-uncle, was arrested by the Nazis. By the time I discovered this through a letter from a relative in Poland, my grandmother had already passed away and my great-uncle had died in a nursing home a week after I received the information. I never got to ask him why the Nazis had arrested him. That discovery, however, blew up the family story I’d always been told.

Another even more telling incident occurred after my mother suffered her stroke. We were sitting in the hospital and talking about my and my siblings’ marriages. I’ had already married my wonderful, love of my life, husband, Nechemya, z”l. My mother said she was happy with our spouses. She saw they were good people and that we were happy.

I remember asking, “What about Babci? Was she happy with your choice of a husband?” I expected her to say yes, of course (otherwise I probably wouldn’t have had the nerve to ask her) because my father was a hard worker and a good man. I even recall that whenever we came to visit, my grandmother would always tell my mother to give my father something to eat. “Give him a sandwich,” she’d say. I thought she adored him. So, when my mother suddenly became furtive and an-

The last telling experience is that throughout our childhood, we were always encouraged not to talk to our grandmother about her past in Poland. We were told never to ask her any questions about her childhood because it would only cause her pain. None of these anecdotes are enough evidence for a beis din to conclude that I am a Jew from birth, however. All I can say, though, is that when my daughter’s first child was born, the rabbi who knew my story and believed that it meant we were born Jews gave my new granddaughter a Hebrew name.

In a strange way, my father had already been teaching me about Judaism before I even realized it. He always told me not to speak badly about people, to always be honest. When I began learning Torah, I felt like I already knew so much of it. He was the one who taught me the basic principles.

My father’s lessons coupled with my innate belief in G-d made conversion to Judaism almost a natural progression. Even as a non-Jew, I knew G-d was always there taking care of me. For instance, years before my conversion when my children were young, I lived near my parents. My younger brothers were seven and eleven years older than my kids, and they’d come over and play a lot. Our neighbor down the block was jealous of my family. She saw us always doing things together, and even though I may not have seen us that way, in her eyes, we were one big happy family.

Anyway, I’d babysat for her children when they were small, and she was friendly with my mom, as well. But out of jealousy, she decided to call Social Services on us one day. She reported that my brothers were abusing my children. It was a total fabrication, and the case was thrown out right away because there was no foundation for her lies. I remember thinking at the time that I didn’t have to worry about getting her back for what she’d tried to do to us. G-d would take care of her for the pain she’d caused. I was able to totally let it go.

A few months later, it turns out her police officer husband was out target practicing in the woods with a buddy. They had been drinking beer and shooting when he accidentally shot and killed a train conductor riding by on a passing train. This neighbor was very conscious of social status, and her world crumbled. I felt sorry for her but at the same time also validated in my belief that I don’t need to take justice into my own hands. G-d runs the world. He sees everything and takes care of me –and that’s all I need to rely on.

BuilDing a JeWiSh life

The small Orthodox community in Atlantic City where I was living was very welcoming to me. They

144 were an older congregation, and I think they were happy to have fresh young blood. Not long afterwards, I met Nechemya. We were both participants on an online chat group that was called Torah & Thought, and through this venue, we corresponded, eventually started dating and then married. Nechemya was a ba’al teshuva since his teenage years, significantly older than me and divorced with children. By the time we met, he was well respected and established in the Chicago Jewish community. After we married, I moved to Chicago, and we were very happy together for 18 years until he passed away from brain cancer a few years ago.

Most people have no idea I’m a convert. I look like a regular frum woman—I wear the uniform, say the brachos, and do what I’m supposed to do. I’ve always been open about my conversion, much to my husband’s chagrin. I think he was worried that people would treat me differently if they knew. But they never did, probably because I never expected to be treated differently.

I learned so much from my husband. As a freshly minted Jew, I was often mortified by other Orthodox Jews’ sometimes less-than-perfect behavior. When I’d discuss it with Nechemya, his response was always, “Don’t judge Judaism by Jews. We’re all humans trying to do the best that we can. Judaism is perfection. We strive for it but rarely reach it.”

Nechemya truly lived emunah. Who am I today is because of him in many ways. When he was diagnosed with his final illness, we took up the mantle of ein od milvado although we’d already been living it throughout our married years. In fact, I’d been giving emunah classes for three years prior to the diagnosis, which I believe was Hashem’s way of preparing me for what was to come, so I’d have the proper tools to deal with it. We’d both experienced challenges in our lives and understood that this world is transient. I didn’t rail against Hashem. We would literally walk into each doctor visit chanting the words “Ein od milvado.”

After Nechemya underwent his first brain surgery, as the doctor was walking back with me to the recovery room to see my husband, he explained that because the brain is such a delicate organ, there’s always a risk that accidentally touching the wrong area could cause damage.

He told me that during the entire surgery my husband was mumbling incoherently, and when he came out of the anesthesia after the operation, he was screaming the same incoherent words. He wanted to prepare me for the worst. However, when we got into the recovery room, I saw that the words my husband had been mumbling and then literally shouting were “ein od milvado.” I laughed and assured the doctor, “Don’t worry, he’s saying just what he should be saying!”

My husband’s life was permeated with that faith. I teach hisbodedus and emunah to clients and students around the world, and this is what I learned from my husband.

In a way, for me at least, physical illness is the easiest way to see Yad Hashem. My challenge is when a person is unkind to me. That’s when I must work hard at understanding that this person has no control over me and that this struggle too is directly from Hashem. And if it’s from Hashem, it must be good. I get there eventually, but my first response very well

might be, “Why me? Why me?” or “How dare you step on my toes?”

The example that comes to mind involves an incident during Covid with my mother with whom I’ve always had a difficult relationship. In 2020, she suffered a stroke and was placed in a nursing home. Though my father never left her bedside, out of five siblings, my sister and I bore the brunt of her care.

Hashem expects of me. I try not to react emotionally. If I caused pain, I took responsibility. But no matter what she was doing or saying to me, I wanted to make a kiddush Hashem. In a previous lifetime, I may have been hurt or fought with her. But now, my focus was and is: am I doing the best I can? Could I have done something better to make other people have honor and respect for Hashem?

The truth is, I was always a bit of a black sheep in my family of origin. There were five of us, (three boys and two girls), but I always felt outside of them, like they had this tight-knit kinship that I was not part of.

In fact, my sister didn’t talk to me for decades. It was well before my conversion, so it had nothing to do with that. Though, ironically, when I converted, she took her two sons and had them baptized. Years later, when my mother had the stroke, and we were forced to come together, we began to speak again. At one point, we were on a three-way call with my brother, and I think my sister thought I’d hung up, when I heard her say, “I can’t believe we’re getting along—we’re so much alike.” It hit me then that we probably could’ve been friends all these years. Today, although we live far apart, we speak often. We do have similar interests and similar personality traits so it’s not hard.

rooteD in EmEs

Life had been good, but with Judaism, it became something elevated and more complete.

My sister and I made sure she had what she needed and did our best to keep her comfortable. I was in Chicago at the time and would FaceTime with her two to three times a week, staying on the phone sometimes for as long as seven hours. Some days, she was mean to me and said nasty things. Some days, she wasn’t cognizant. That was the challenge—caring for someone on a regular basis with the appropriate amount of love and respect despite how she treated me.

In one call, she began speaking only in Polish. I said, “Ma, I don’t understand you. You have to speak in English.” She said, “Ask him. He knows,” meaning my husband. I asked him if he understood her, he said, “No.” (He knows Russian, not Polish). She said, “Uch, you’re both dumb Polaks.” Then she stopped talking to me altogether. Thankfully, the tablet died so I had an excuse to get off the phone.

The way I looked at it was how to do it right and not make a chillul Hashem. It’s difficult when interacting with people who are not nice or not in their right mind, to make sure my behavior is aligned with what

I didn’t feel like I gave up a lot to become Jewish. OK, yes, I liked bacon and my grandmother’s kielbasa was amazing. But seriously, becoming a Jew wasn’t about losing anything; it was about stepping into something I had always been moving toward. It felt like the whipped cream on top of a latte. Life had been good, but with Judaism, it became something elevated and more complete.

As a Jew, I feel more connected to my fellow Jews. After my husband Nechemya passed away, I remarried, but that marriage did not work out. I am now divorced and staying with a friend until my apartment is ready. I think if this had happened to me as a non-Jew, I would probably be homeless right now. The friendships I’ve formed as a frum Jew are stronger.

Even my professional work as a certified energy healer and certified life coach is directly sourced from Torah and Kabbalah. These teachings would not have been available to me in the life I lived before. I work with clients all over the world. They don’t have to be Jewish, but they do need to have a basic belief in G-d.

When someone becomes Jewish, part of that choice means showing up every single day and doing what you need to do, whether it’s easy or hard. Sometimes, it is a challenge just to be, just to continue going on day after day, especially when life brings loss, hardship, or disappointment. But, for example, I believe that my short and difficult remarriage was something my neshama needed, and Hashem knew that.

And I think, whether we are ba’alei teshuva, born frum, or converts, we all have the same choice when we wake up each morning. Every single one of us decides whether we will live according to Hashem’s will or not. That decision is not something I think about because I am a convert. It is something I live because I am a Jew.

“MRabbi Dov Ber Cohen

Living and Breathing Torah

By Eliyahu RosEnBERg

y grandfather died when he was 100,” Rabbi Dov Ber Cohen shares. “But before he died, he warned me against living an ‘I should have’ life.”

At the time, Dov Ber Cohen was a young secular Jew growing up in London. He was smart, ambitious, and ad-

In His Words…

venturous. But like most young people, he hadn’t begun to think deeply about the life he wanted to live. So, for a moment, his grandfather’s wisdom seemed foreign.

“What do you mean?” a puzzled Dov Ber asked.

“When you get to 90, you don’t have a lot to look forward to,” his grandfather

if you’ve got a good attitude, then you’ll have a good life, no matter if it’s sunny or rainy.

The whole purpose of life is shabbos.

There’s a very big difference between pain and suffering. Pain is an unpleasant feeling. it could either be physical pain, like if you bang your knee, or emotional pain, like if someone dies or you split up with your partner. That’s pain. suffering is a mental narrative. it’s your mind not dealing with the pain in a healthy way. so, when you say, ‘ i feel lonely,’ that’s painful. But then suffering is, ‘ i wish i weren’t lonely. i hate being lonely. i’ll always be lonely. it’s my fault i’m lonely. it’s her fault i’m lonely. if i were married, i wouldn’t be lonely. if i weren’t married, i wouldn’t be lonely.’

Freedom is knowing what your goal is, knowing the rules that are going to help you reach that goal, and being free to do those rules.

explained. “So, you start looking back on your life. You think, ‘I really should have spent more time with my family. I should have traveled more. I should have considered what my purpose in life is. I should have worked more on being happy.’”

The old man looked at his grandson. Then, he continued.

“There are many things that I regret not doing,” Dov Ber’s grandfather confessed. “But starting from the age you are now, you could live your life in a way that ensures that when you get to 90, you’re not regretting your life. Instead, you can actually look back on your life and think: ‘Wow, I had an amazing life.’”

Most inspirational conversations motivate us for a moment. But that conversation changed Rabbi Dov Ber Cohen’s life. He’d never considered living life with the end in mind. Enlightened and shaken by his grandfather’s wisdom, young Dov Ber left the room as a new person. In that moment, he resolved to live life to the fullest by using a threestep process for success: 1) Identify your goal; 2) Find out what you need to do to accomplish it; and 3) Do what you need to do to achieve your goal.

* * *

When he was a philosophy major at Manchester University, one thing was obvious to Dov Ber Cohen: most people aren’t happy.

Around his junior year of college, he decided to conduct an informal survey. He started asking people: “How are you?” The top five answers were: “Can’t complain,” “getting by,” “hanging in there,” “could be worse,” and “not too bad.” Coupling that with the rising rates of divorce and depres-

sion, it seemed clear to Dov Ber that most people — if they even get to live to age 90 — would end up with serious regrets.

In Dov Ber’s social circles, happiness was everyone’s dream but few people’s reality. He wanted to escape that world. And so, he turned to religion. But in his search for truth, he almost immediately skipped over Judaism. As Rabbi Cohen explains, he seriously misunderstood Judaism. He thought Yiddishkeit was spiritually lacking. And his view of G-d and the Torah was flawed, to say the least.

“If you look at the Torah on a very, very superficial level, it seems like there’s an angry man in the sky who’s going to punish you if you don’t do his silly little rules,” Rabbi Cohen explains. “And he needs us to jump through these hoops, or else he’ll get very upset with us. I thought he seemed very egotistical. The prayer book says, ‘G-d, you’re so great and awesome and holy.’ And I’m like, ‘You’re so insecure if you need me to tell you how great you are all the time.’ So, on a surface level, Judaism doesn’t seem to teach deep, profound spiritual wisdom.”

At the time, he started reading books on Buddhism and other Eastern religions, and he was instantly intrigued by their teachings. Meditation, in particular, fascinated him. And thus, with his grandfather’s words still echoing in his mind, Dov Ber Cohen decided to go all in. It wasn’t enough for him to read Buddhist texts. It wasn’t enough for him to meditate at home. No. He couldn’t do it halfway. He needed to be all in. As such, once he graduated from college, Dov Ber left England and went to live in Asia for six years.

“The first place I went was Sri Lan-

ka. I started teaching English in a very, very small village. And I worked in the orphanage there. I really felt that I had so much to give. Lots of them had never seen a white person before, and they freaked out. They were like, ‘He’s got some disease!’ After drinking their water, I did have some diseases,” Rabbi Cohen half jokes. “So, you get this middle-class, white, North London Jewish boy, and you stick him in this hut in the middle of the Sri Lankan forest. And I tell you, I never felt more at home. I felt so alive.

“The kids were amazing. They were happier than most of my friends. Lots of these kids had polio. The muscles in their legs didn’t grow, and they would crawl on the floor. They didn’t have parents, or they had alcoholic parents. They had one meal a day, no running water, no electricity,” he recalls. “Yet, they were happier than most privileged people. And that’s because we very rarely appreciate everything we have. We always want more, and we take things for granted. They had one pencil between about five children. So, I ran into town, and I bought them each a pencil. It was the best day of their life. They couldn’t believe it. They were like, ‘For me, teacher? My own pencil?’ So, that was very eye-opening for me.”

From there, he spent a year and a half in Thailand, where he meditated in Buddhist temples. Then, he got a black belt in Taekwondo in Korea, where he would climb mountains and go scuba diving. He studied kung fu in China and then got a brown belt in aikido from Japan. He also spent another year and a half in India, hiking in the Himalayas, doing yoga, and going on meditation retreats where he wouldn’t speak for 10 days.

“Complete silence. But not only silence. No reading, no listening to music, no phones, no TVs, nothing. No distractions for 10 days. So, it really forced you to go inside,” Rabbi Cohen recounts. “We slept on wooden beds, no mattresses. And when I arrived at the temple, the head monk gave me a block of wood, and he said to me, ‘This is your wooden pillow.’ The bell would go off at four o’clock in the morning, and you get out of bed, and you get a bucket of cold water. We each got a

big ladle, a big trough of cold water. We’d splash ourselves with cold water a few times. And then, we’d all walk towards the meditation hall, we’d do a little bit of tai chi and yoga, some kind of physical wake-up. And then we’d do anapanasati for about 16 hours. Ana means breathing in, and pana means breathing out, and sati means consciously: consciously breathing in and out. At around 10:00 in the morning, we’d get a break, and we’d have our only meal of the day, which was rice and some vegetables. And at 6 p.m., we had a warm cup of soy milk.”

It was certainly a lesson in discipline. But for Dov Ber, the most life-changing part of the experience was the meditation. Some people think that meditation is complicated. Others think it’s pseudoscience, a fad, or an idolatrous concept. Nothing could be further from the truth. All meditation entails is focusing your attention on your breath: breathe in through your nose, hold your breath for a few seconds, and then release your breath, and rinse and repeat. Your mind will inevitably wander — that’s part of the process.

“Ninety-nine percent of your thoughts are, firstly, about yourself. But secondly, they’re either about the past or the future,” Rabbi Cohen explains. “You’re planning, you’re anxious, worried, doubting, judging. Or you’re thinking about your past: good memories, bad memories, regretting your past. So the mind, by definition, is in the past or the future. But the breath is in the present moment. So being able to just focus on your breath can bring you into a much more deep, calm, peaceful place.”

Meditation became an essential part of his life. One day, in fact, he realized that meditation was one of the only things he needed to be happy.

“I learned that the less you need and the less you want, the happier you’ll be,” explains Rabbi Cohen. “So, I realized that I only needed three things: Number one was meditation, because your whole life is your mind. If your mind is peaceful and calm and pure, then you’ll have a good life. The second one was education. And the third one was exercise, because a lot

of spiritual and emotional health is based on physical health. And then, I realized, even if I’m in isolation, if I’m in prison or solitary confinement, I’d at least be able to do meditation and push-ups. So, I’d still be happy even there. It was an amazing moment of: ‘I’m now going to be happy for the rest of my life.’”

After spending six years in Asia, Dov Ber Cohen’s next goal was to canoe down the entire Amazon River. But before doing that, he decided to visit Israel for three weeks. Needless to say, he never ended up canoeing down the Amazon. Today, over 17 years later, he’s still in the Holy Land.

* * *

During his time in Israel, he stayed on a kibbutz. There, he met a religious man who encouraged him to give Judaism a chance.

“Come on. You’re Jewish. Why don’t you learn about Judaism?” the man asked him.

“Because it’s chauvinistic, outdated, and strange,” Dov Ber responded bluntly.

“Just go and at least learn a little about Judaism,” the man replied.

And so, he figured he had nothing to lose. Dov Ber went to Tzfat to learn the basics of Yiddishkeit. And for the first time, he realized his entire understanding of Judaism was wrong.

“I started learning very simple things. For example, we don’t believe that there’s an angry man in the sky who’s going to punish us for not following his stupid rules. We believe in infinite consciousness. Even the name of G-d, yud and hay and vav and hay (hayah, hoveh, and yihyeh; was, is, and will be) means continuous and present. So, G-d Himself is the continuous present. Basically, I started hearing ideas that I was actually very familiar with,” Rabbi Cohen shares.

“So, I had a whole list of ‘this is why I don’t like Judaism,’ but then I started learning, ‘Hold on, we don’t believe that.’

And if G-d is infinite consciousness, that means I’m a finite aspect of infinite consciousness,” he explains. “So, when I’m praying and I’m saying, ‘G-d, You’re so great and holy and mighty,’ I’m not talking to an egotistical man in the sky. I’m saying, ‘I’m part of something great.’

In fact, the word for ‘to pray’ in Hebrew is l’hitpalel , which is reflexive, which means you’re really doing something to yourself. ‘Palel ’ has many meanings, but one of them is to connect. So, ‘l’hitpallel ’ really means connecting to yourself. So, in prayer, for example, we praise G-d and say He’s so great. But G-d doesn’t need praise. Rather, it’s for me to live a life of wonder, to see how unbelievable life is. We request things, but G-d knows what we need. In reality, prayer is for me to understand my values and what I really want in life. And we thank G-d all the time. So, G-d doesn’t need thanks. Rather, it’s for me to be able to live with gratitude, like the kids in the orphanage.”

But as Dov Ber Cohen, then 29, fell in love with Yiddishkeit, he had one doubt that he couldn’t shake: how do we really know that Judaism is true? He had that same issue with Buddhism; the monks told him, “Because Buddha said so.” He tried Hinduism, but he also got no guarantees that it was the ultimate truth. Soon, he was encouraged to learn at Aish, where his doubt quickly disappeared, as he realized that the Torah couldn’t have possibly been written by a human being.

As he became observant, Rabbi Cohen’s friends would say, “You’re so unlucky. You used to be free. You could eat and smoke whatever you wanted. Now, you’re so restricted.”

In turn, he would answer: “Freedom isn’t doing anything you want. If it were, you would just be a slave to your physical desires, to your ego, and to society. That’s slavery. Freedom is knowing what your goal is, knowing the rules that are going to help you reach that goal, and being free to do those rules. So, it’s only within the rules that we can truly and fully express ourselves.”

He also realized that Judaism strikes a perfect balance between the physical and spiritual. Eastern religions require a complete detachment from physicality. You can’t have relationships, money, or good food. But Judaism, on the other hand, doesn’t reject the physical world. Instead, it makes the physical holy. Yes, we can have relationships, but they have to be with the right people. Yes, we can

have money, but we should also generously give tzedakah. And of course, we should eat great food, but it has to be kosher, and we have to make a bracha on it.

“Let’s say you’re in the ocean. There’s so much coming at you. You’re stressed. So, meditation is basically, ‘Let’s go and sit on the beach for a little bit, reset, and calm down.’ A Buddhist, however, would say, ‘And now stay on the beach for the rest of your life.’ Judaism says, ‘No, you’re meant to be the water. You’re meant to be feeding orphans. You’re meant to do a lot.’ But it’s very important to be able to do it in a very calm, healthy, and present way,”

Rabbi Cohen shares.

“There’s a famous story. There was a monk, and he went into a cave for 15 years, and he overcame his ego. And they asked him, ‘Come down and teach us.’ And at first, he said, ‘No,’ but then they convinced him. And on his way, someone stepped on his foot. And he said, ‘Excuse me! Do you know who I am? I’m the monk who overcame his ego!’ And then he realized, ‘Oh, no! I didn’t overcome my ego.’ So he went back to the cave for another 15 years.

“The point is that it’s easy to overcome your ego when you’re in a cave, and no one’s bothering you. But when it’s 20 minutes before candle lighting on Friday and you’ve got three children, and the

food’s not ready, and you haven’t washed the floor, and 10 guests are coming, can you overcome your ego in that moment? That’s a much higher level.”

* * *

Today, Rabbi Dov Ber Cohen is an author, a lecturer at Aish HaTorah in Yerushalayim, and, most importantly, a proud Jew. And although he knows Judaism is the truth, Rabbi Cohen doesn’t regret his journey.

“When I became religious, people said, ‘Now give classes about how bad Buddhism and Hinduism are.’ And I said, ‘No way.’ Firstly, I don’t think they’re bad. I don’t think they’re true, but I think they’re really wonderful things, and we can learn things from

them. But secondly, if I have to put other people down to make myself look good, what does that say about me? I’d rather just say how beautiful Judaism is,” Rabbi Dov Ber Cohen declares.

Rabbi Cohen’s journey began because of his grandfather’s wisdom. Today, if Rabbi Dov Ber Cohen had the chance to speak to his grandfather again, this is what he’d say:

“I’d say, ‘Thank you for the inspiration. Baruch Hashem, I’m moving in the right direction. I haven’t mastered life, but I know where I want to go and I know how to get there. And I am committed to growth.’

“So, I’d say to my grandfather: ‘Thank you for the kick.’”

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Dating Dialogue What Would You Do If…

Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters

Dear Navidaters,

Thanks for the opportunity to send in a question. My daughter just reached her 30th birthday, and to be honest, everyone around is shocked how she is still not married. She has been dating since she was 21. She is smart, geshikt, has her law degree and has a very fulfilling job, and is fit, active and very beautiful.

For the first few years of dating, she was only looking for a learning guy, but that never panned out –the guys she was dating were never with it or worldly enough. She’d go out a lot but never feel connected.

Once she started looking for working/learning guys, she was already in her upper 20s, and the prospective options she received were also not her speed both religiously and in terms of personality.

She is 30 now and is so ready to find the right one, but she is still struggling. We do live out of town, and for her job, traveling is difficult. She does require prospective guys to come and meet her in our town. I have been told that she should work it out with her job to allow more flexibility in this regard and more opportunities will arise for her. The problem is she won’t budge about that; she wants to keep her job as is and not be flexible about traveling.

What can my wife and I do?

Thank you, Aron & Mindy*

The Panel

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We want to offer YOU an opportunity to be part of the discussion! Please email us at MichelleMondShadchan@gmail.com, subject line “reader’s response,” if you would like to participate in the new “A Reader’s Response” columnist spot. We will send you a question and publish your answer in an upcoming Navidaters edition. If you have a question you would like the Navidaters to answer, please reach out to this email as well.

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The Rebbetzin

Rebbetzin Faigie Horowitz, M.S.

Iunderstand your quandary. Your daughter is accomplished with much to offer yet not looking to travel to meet prospective possibilities. Being creative about dating opportunities takes time, creativity, and resources. Investing the energy to coordinate for the sake of blind dates suggested by people who don’t know her can seem like a poor investment with little return.

If someone who knows her makes a suggestion and the fellow is a legitimate candidate, it’s normal to have a few Zoom dates first before one of them travels. That is the way of today’s world. Young people do travel from out of town and often combine dating and recreation or a simcha. However, your daughter has to make the decisions about who, where, how, and when. It’s her life and her career you are talking about.

I think that the initiative you take with regard to her dating life should be focused on communicating with people who will get to know her, by Zoom or phone, will respect her accomplishments, and frequently deal with outof-towners. Don’t frustrate yourself and jeopardize your relationship with your daughter by trying to push her or by chasing after shadchanim who are bombarded. Take the time to investigate newer, creative initiatives for her demographic. Some of us rebbetzins did just that recently.

The Shadchan

Michelle Mond

Dear Aron and Mindy,

Thank you so much for writing in with this important question. Being on the sidelines while your daughter goes through this process can feel incredibly challenging. As parents, it’s only natural to want to ensure she’s doing everything possible to maximize her chances of finding the right one.

Those who have advised her to be open to traveling for dating are making a very valid point. Expanding her flexibility, especially when it comes to location, could open doors to meeting many serious and Torahdik frum professionals in the tri-state area. These men are often balancing in-person work and learning, and many of them simply don’t have the time or flexibility to travel for a first date when they already have plenty of local suggestions within their immediate circles.

Another idea would be for her to attend singles’ events in New York that are geared specifically toward young professionals. In many cases, once a man meets a woman he is genuinely interested in, he will gladly make the effort to travel and continue the relationship. At that point, it often becomes a shared responsibility, with both parties alternating travel as the dating progresses.

Ultimately, if your daughter is serious about getting married, it’s important for her to view dating as an active

investment rather than something that simply happens passively. That means being willing to stretch a bit outside her comfort zone and prioritizing opportunities that may not be convenient but are potentially very fruitful.

That being said, she is an adult, and while you can guide and advise her, she will make her own decisions. Which is, as you’ve experienced, hands down the hardest part about being a parent. If she seems resistant to hearing it from you, try encouraging a trusted mentor or a married friend she respects to gently open the conversation with her. Sometimes hearing it from someone a bit more neutral can make all the difference.

Wishing you much hatzlacha and clarity with your daughter!

The Zaidy

Dr. Jeffrey Galler

Your daughter has worked hard to establish a fulfilling and successful career, and she has every right to feel proud of her accomplishments.

It’s understandable that she’s hesitant to make compromises when it comes to her career, because her current position is an important part of her identity.

I heard a story that might give your daughter some perspective about achieving the proper balance between career and personal life. I believe that it was about the recently deceased Ethel Kennedy, who was the wife of Senator Robert Kennedy and the mother of 11 children.

Years ago, someone asked her, “How did you decide to forego a potential career as a lawyer and, instead, devote yourself to marriage and family?”

She reportedly answered, “I asked myself, in 50 years, would I rather look at a scrapbook of my major legal cases, or look at a photo album of my children and grandchildren?”

Ethel Kennedy became a celebrated human rights activist and was awarded the Presidential Medal of Freedom. Her story illustrates that there are different paths in life — both equally important — and sometimes personal fulfillment and

It’s important for her to view dating as an active investment rather than something that simply happens passively.

career success can be intertwined with a strong family life.

Reader’s Response

Tova and Elana, Best Friends and Fans of The Navidaters

Dear Aron and Mindy,

It seems like your daughter is an incredible girl who, at this point, knows exactly what she is looking for. She seems to have her priorities straight. However, she is finding it difficult to be flexible and travel for dating, even though that may help her find a prospective match. Being flexible is an important part of any relationship. Does your daughter lack flexibility in other areas as well? This may be something she wants to explore with a therapist or mental health coach; perhaps there are deeper reasons as to why she can’t budge or make compromises. Is she perhaps sabotaging her own dating because she is afraid to commit?

These are some issues she may need to work out. It is clear that you are very worried about her and that you care about her, but at this point, you can’t force her to do anything. She is an adult making her own choices. You can encourage her to be more flexible and tell her you’ll support her in any way she needs, but there’s not much else you can do. Although it may be difficult to watch, she has to work this out on her own, whether that means seeing a therapist or seeking out a mentor to help her navigate these issues.

Best of luck to you and your daughter.

Pulling It All Together

The Navidaters

Dating and Relationship Coaches and Therapists

Dear Aron and Mindy,

Thank you for reaching out and for sharing your hearts so openly. It’s clear how much you love your daughter and want to see her happy and settled. I can imagine how painful it must be to watch her longing for a relationship while doing everything “right” and still not finding the match that feels like home.

Your daughter sounds like an extraordinary woman – driven, accomplished, and grounded in who she is. She’s built a life that reflects her values and strengths, and that’s not easy to do. But I hear your concern. Dating hasn’t been straightfor -

ward. And now that she’s 30, the pressure, both internal and external, can really start to build.

It’s hard to know what to do as a parent in this situation. You want to help, but there’s only so much you can do. Dr. Shefali Tsabari, a psychologist whose work I deeply respect, often reminds parents that our children are not extensions of us. They don’t exist to fulfill our visions or timelines. They are their own beings with their own timing, path, and purpose. That can be difficult to sit with, especially when we think we see a clear way to fix what seems off. But

conscious parenting in adulthood means recognizing that our role shifts from guiding to simply being with. (“The Conscious Parent” by Dr. Shefali Tsabari was recommended to me by a close friend many years ago and has informed my practice and my personal life. I personally found it to be game changing as have many of my clients and friends. It is a book recommendation I would offer to any parent at any stage of parenting.)

That said, if she’s open to it, there are ways to gently support her. Not by pushing or correcting, but by offering. You could ask if she wants help brainstorming ways to meet more people. Maybe a new platform, a weekend trip, a different kind of event. You could invite her to reflect, ideally with a coach or therapist, on what she’s really looking for now and whether anything has shifted for her emotionally or spiritually in recent years. You could offer to be a sounding board, or to help vet potential matches if she finds that exhausting. But if she says

no, the work becomes holding space for her choice with grace.

You mentioned her unwillingness to travel and the demands of her job. That may be frustrating to watch, especially if you believe that loosening those boundaries would help her meet more people. And maybe you’re right. But timing change is different from forcing change. You can invite her to reconsider, but it’s up to her whether or not she’s ready. If you try to push too hard, you risk shutting down connection.

Sometimes the most healing thing a parent can say is, I trust you. I see how hard this is. I’m here, no matter what.

This is a scary and tender time for you as parents. You’re holding so much; love, hope, fear, even grief for how things haven’t gone the way you imagined. I just want to say I see that. And I hope you can also hold onto the truth that things can still unfold in beautiful and unexpected ways.

Warmly, Jennifer

Jennifer Mann, LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist and certified trauma healing life coach, as well as a dating and relationship coach working with individuals, couples, and families in private practice at 123 Maple Avenue in Cedarhurst, NY. To set up a consultation or to ask questions, please call 718-908-0512. Visit www.thenavidaters.com for more information. If you would like to submit a dating or relationship question to the panel anonymously, please email JenniferMannLCSW@gmail.com. You can follow The Navidaters on FB and Instagram for dating and relationship advice.

School of Thought

By Etti Siegel

Q:Dear Etti,

Our school is switching over to ParentLocker, “a digital platform schools use to keep parents informed and organized. It serves as a central hub where parents can view homework, grades, announcements, calendars, and important updates, all in one place. Teachers can post assignments and messages, and parents receive real-time notifications, reducing the chance of missed information. It streamlines communication between home and school, making it easier for families to stay on top of their child’s education.” (I asked AI to help me define the platform…)

It sounds great, but what does it do to teaching children responsibility? Why should they write down homework or remember when a test is if Mommy can just pull up the info for them?

I’m concerned. Should I be?

- A Teacher

A:Dear teacher, First of all, thanks! Thanks for being there for our children! Your question proves how teaching is more than a job; it is “an act of heart.”

It makes sense that a teacher would be concerned about the deeper implications of using tools like ParentLocker. You gave us a good working definition of what it is and why it is a good tool. On the surface, it’s an efficient, user-friendly platform offering transparency, instant communication, and a single place where assignments, grades, updates, and schedules can be accessed. In a world where families are juggling multiple demands, it can be incredibly helpful. But that very convenience also brings with it a real and troubling cost that you are alluding to, especially when it begins to replace the kind of mental work that students need to be doing themselves in order to build cognitive strength and independence.

You’re absolutely right to raise the concern about memory. Research going back to George Miller’s work in the 1950s points out that the average person used to be able to hold about seven items in short-term memory. That’s the reason phone numbers were originally seven digits long. Recent research suggests that people can now hold up to four when it comes to working memory, especially in the current environment where we are less frequently required to use memory intentionally. Technology has made it easier than ever to outsource memory (think reminders, lists, calendars) and, now even more, through tools like ParentLocker.

When students know that every homework assignment,

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project deadline, and upcoming test is already uploaded and accessible through a portal, the drive to remember or even write down these details is significantly reduced. That might seem like a minor shift, but it actually represents a major departure from how students used to develop cognitive habits. Writing down homework in a planner, remembering to bring home the right books, recalling which teacher mentioned an upcoming quiz, all of these daily tasks served a dual purpose: getting the work done and strengthening the brain’s ability to manage information.

When those routines disappear, students may appear more organized, but in reality, they are not developing the skills of organization at all. Everything is simply being organized for them. And that distinction matters. Because memory, like muscle, atrophies when not used. And when the stakes become higher, like in high school, seminary/ college, or running a home or job, when parental scaffolding falls away, students often find themselves ill-equipped to manage the mental load of academic life.

We see this in classrooms all the time. When students are told they don’t need to take notes because everything will be uploaded, or when they begin to rely entirely on slides and recordings instead of engaging with material actively during the lesson, their retention suffers. Studies have repeatedly shown that note-taking by hand, especially when students are summarizing or rephrasing what they hear rather than transcribing notes word-forword, increases understanding and recall. But that takes effort. And when systems are built to remove effort, we remove the learning, too.

This doesn’t mean we should abandon ParentLocker altogether. It’s a helpful tool when used as a support rather than a replacement. The key is to preserve the challenges that build memory and executive function while allowing families to stay informed. For instance, teachers can still require students to write down their homework assignments, even if they’re also posted online. Students should be held responsible for managing their own work, even if their parents have access to it. Perhaps parents should not be asking, “Why didn’t you do your math homework? It’s on ParentLocker,” but the more meaningful question, “Did you write it down when it was assigned?”

We also need to be more intentional about teaching students how to remember and organize information. In

some classrooms, teachers are bringing back techniques like retrieval practice, which ask students to remember what they learned yesterday without looking at their notes. Others, individual teachers or schoolwide, are encouraging analog tools, planners, checklists, and color-coded folders that force students to engage with the material and its management more directly. Happily, most of our schools have limited technology. Thankfully, teachers are continuing to ask the kinds of questions that build memory muscles: “What were the three key points from today’s discussion?” “Can you repeat the directions back to me?” “What’s your plan for remembering this tomorrow?”

There’s also an important human element. When students struggle to remember something and then succeed, it builds confidence. There’s a unique satisfaction in realizing that you didn’t have to rely on a screen – you remembered it on your own. That feeling, much like reaching the top of a mountain after a steep climb, creates a positive feedback loop that motivates future effort. That’s something technology can’t replicate.

What we’re seeing now is a slow erosion of that struggle and the triumph that comes with it. With every system designed to make life easier, we must ask: easier for whom and at what cost? Because education was never meant to be easy. It was meant to develop the tools we need to manage complexity, to adapt, to grow. Memory is part of that. Executive function is part of that. And while digital tools can support these goals, they must never replace the work that students should be doing themselves.

There are too many studies coming out about decreased motivation, teenage depression, etc. I wonder if it is all related. When children feel the challenge and then succeed, they build resilience and self-confidence. Our students don’t just need grades and assignments delivered to them. They need the mental endurance, flexibility, and resilience that come from doing the harder work themselves, even when there’s an easier way.

So yes, let’s use ParentLocker wisely. But let’s also keep our eyes on the long-term goals.

Thanks for sharing your concerns. And please keep us all focused on the most important thing of all: our students, our children.

Thanks again for all you do and how much you care,

- Etti

an MS in Teaching and Learning/Educational Leadership and brings sound teaching advice to her audiences culled from her over 35 years of teaching and administrative experience.

is an Adjunct at the College of Mount Saint Vincent/Sara

She is a coach and educational consultant for Catapult Learning, is a sought-after mentor and workshop presenter around the country, and a popular presenter for Sayan (a teacher-mentoring program), Hidden Sparks, and the Consortium of Jewish Day Schools. She is a frequent contributor to Hamechanech Magazine and The Journal for Jewish Day School leaders. She will be answering your education-based questions and writing articles weekly for The Jewish Home. Mrs. Siegel can be reached at ettisiegel@gmail.com.

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Parenting Pearls From Flowers to Cheesecake

By Sara Rayvych, MSEd

There have been a number of occasions when I’ve heard gentiles express excitement when hearing that we have a holiday when we eat cheesecake. While our focus will be mostly on Matan Torah, we will still make time for enjoying some dairy. Ice cream, blintzes and cheesecake will all be a major part of what the children are looking forward to over Shavuos. Those who are lactose intolerant will find a suitable substitute to at least feel included. There is something special about minhagim. They add a unique flavor to our celebrations and a tradition to hold onto. We often don’t realize what a strong role minhagim have in our Jewish lifestyle. Interestingly, a significant amount of minhagim surround the foods we eat. Meals are a time for bonding and connection. Food naturally brings us closer together and gives us the opportunity to share with each other. It should not be surprising that so much tradition surrounds the gastronomic area of life.

Minhagim are passed down through the generations and become part of a family’s unique tradition. Pesach, for example, will look very different from home to home. Yes or no to kitniyot. Avoid gebrokts, or matzah balls with every meal. Enjoy the entire Pesach supermarket section or stick to potatoes and onions. Often, families couldn’t imagine Pesach any other way. This applies to every yom tov where we can appreciate the beauty of each other’s unique traditions. Children should be raised with an awareness of the beauty of being part of the Am Hanivchar. At Matan Torah, we were bequeathed a lifestyle that is based on emes, resulting in a life of happiness and connection to our Creator. Truly, only the Creator of humanity could design guidelines to perfectly match our needs. Minhagim add a unique spice to an already flavorful dish.

Lessons From Minhagim

We often underestimate how educational minhagim are. An entire lesson plan could be written just focusing on what is brought out by these special practices. One common example is gefilte fish that was developed as a solution to avoiding borer on Shabbos.

Children learn best from hands-on experiences. Minhagim are a practical way to impart a deeper lesson that would be difficult to teach as an abstract. For example, one of the origins for the minhag of eating dairy is to commemorate the Shtei Halechem in the Beis Hamikdash. After discussing the avodah in the Beis Hamikdash, we can then springboard into learning some of the halachos of separating milk from meat. Reading Megillas Rus (a predominantly Ashkenazi minhag) brings to mind her devotion and mesiras nefesh for a nation that was not yet her own. The resulting hashkafic discussions are an opportunity to impart these important lessons.

Let’s not let these opportunities pass us by. Use each precious minhag as a chance to educate and inspire the next generation in a way that only minhagim can. Whenever possible, we should try to include our children in the process. Especially with food, they can prepare, bake, and, of course, eat alongside us. Children can decorate the house with a floral decor and set the table. Allowing children to be a part of the process makes them feel included and internalizes the memories.

Familial Pride

Within the greater Jewish nation, we are fortunate to have such variety in the nuances of our observance. Some kids will gravitate to potato kugel; others will turn towards ash reshteh masty. They may smell cholent or hamin as they wake up on Shabbos morning. We all follow halacha, but with the specific distinctions that mark our family’s more recent origins. The Shabbos table of my Ashkenzi family will look a

little different than that of my Sephardic friends, but we’ll all be connecting with Hakadosh Baruch Hu.

Minhagim are one way parents can pass on a greater pride in their family’s personal heritage. We each descend from ancestors who have withstood great challenges and displayed incredible mesiras nefesh to keep their traditions. Teaching minhagim can be one way to pass on our family’s unique historical story.

Often, children don’t even realize what their family does differently until it’s pointed out. It took a few years before I realized that potatoes weren’t a karpas staple on every Pesach table. We may need to consciously educate a child in this area.

As meaningful as traditions are, children should be carefully taught the difference between what is halacha versus a minhag. Sadly, many adults can’t separate between the two, and this can cause confusion and problems.

Kids can be very black and white thinkers, often belittling anything different from themselves as being “bad” or “less.” We can use these traditional differences to educate the next generation about the beauty of each individuals’ uniqueness, helping them to better appreciate each other.

Consistency in Practice

I wanted to have more examples of different minhagim. If asking this question before Pesach, I would likely get a separate answer from each individual, leaving me with a list longer than this paper. With so few specific mitzvos for the yom tov, I assume Shavuos lends itself to fewer minhagim.

I reached out to some Sephardic (pre-

dominantly Persian) friends for a greater variety of minhagim beyond the traditional Ashkenazi ones so many of us are familiar with. I became increasingly frustrated as the Shavuos answers started coming in.

While some Persian families include dairy at some point, such as after kiddush, they are makpid to have basar v’yayin as seudat yom tov. Shavuot is also called “Muid Gol” (the holiday of flowers) since they decorate the shul and table at home with flowers. The men stay up for “tikkun liel,” learning Torah until late into the night. Surprisingly, each time I was told of a unique Sephardic minhag for Shavuot, I recognized it as also having an Ashkenazi counterpart. Despite the differences, we truly share far more similarities. After the initial confusion, I realized that this isn’t a chisaron but a sign of the strength of Klal Yisroel. With little communication between different countries spanning across many continents, we all held strongly to our mesorah over centuries of separation. We all came from the same source, sharing the same Torah after standing together at Har Sinai.

We are a nation that has withstood millennia together, even if at times separated by land and large bodies of waters. While developing our own flavor to our festivities, we still strongly maintained the mesorah we received together. May we once again reunite as one nation – together in Yerushalyaim.

Sara Rayvych, MSEd, has her master’s in general and special education. She has been homeschooling for over 10 years in Far Rockaway. She can be contacted at RayvychHomeschool@gmail.com.

Health & F tness

Fat Chance The False Promise of Yo-Yo Dieting

By Aliza Beer MS, RD, CDN

Yo-yo dieting, also known as weight cycling, refers to the repeated loss and regain of weight, usually due to restrictive or unsustainable diets. Many people find themselves caught in this frustrating pattern: they lose weight through intense dieting, gain it back once the diet ends, and then struggle even more the next time they try to lose it. This isn’t just a matter of willpower, there are real biological and psychological reasons why this cycle gets harder over time.

What Makes a Diet a Yo-Yo Diet

Yo-yo dieting usually begins with an extreme or overly restrictive plan that promises fast results, often by cutting calories too low or eliminating entire food groups. These types of diets are often labeled as fad diets or very low-calorie diets, and while they may lead to quick weight loss at first, they are difficult to maintain and rarely support long-term success. In general, diets that fall below 1,200 calories per day for women or 1,500 for men are considered too low and can be harmful if followed for more than a short time.

Rapid weight loss, especially more than two pounds per week, often means you’re losing not just fat but also water and muscle mass. This kind of loss isn’t sustainable and usually causes a rebound once normal eating resumes. When your body adapts to such low-calorie intake, your metabolism slows down to conserve energy, and your cravings tend to increase. Once the diet becomes too hard to follow or ends altogether, most people return to their old eating habits. But now, with slower metabolism and lower muscle mass, weight is often regained quickly, and usually as fat rather than muscle. This starts the yo-yo cycle: diet, lose weight, regain weight, repeat.

Ultimately, the cycle of yo-yo dieting is both physically and emotionally exhausting. A healthier and more sustainable approach focuses on steady, gradual weight

loss, about one to two pounds per week, through balanced eating that includes all food groups and enough calories to support your body’s needs. Real, lasting progress comes from creating habits you can stick with, not from jumping from one restrictive plan to the next.

How Yo-Yo Dieting Affects Your Metabolism

When you go on a very low-calorie diet or try to lose weight quickly, your body sees it as a form of stress—almost like you’re starving. To protect you, it slows down your metabolism, the rate at which your body burns calories. This process, known as metabolic adaptation or “starvation mode,” means your body learns to function on fewer calories. Your body starts using energy more slowly so it can hold onto fat and make the most of the few calories you’re eating. During this time, your body makes several changes in order to preserve energy. It lowers your body temperature, slows your heart rate, and may even reduce the function of some hormones, causing you

to feel tired, cold, or sluggish. At the same time, your hunger hormones also change, causing you to start feeling hungrier and less satisfied after eating. You may crave high-calorie foods, especially sugar and fat, because your body is trying to quickly replace the energy it thinks is lacking. When you return to normal or increase calorie intake, your metabolism doesn’t automatically speed up. This lag causes more calories to be stored as fat. Over time, your resting metabolic rate may decrease, making future weight loss more difficult and less effective.

Loss of Muscle Mass

During rapid weight loss, especially from crash diets or very low-calorie eating, you don’t just lose fat; you also lose muscle. This is a problem because muscles are important for keeping your metabolism strong. Muscle burns more calories than fat, even when you’re resting or sleeping. Therefore, the more muscles you have, the more energy your body naturally burns throughout the day. When you lose

weight too quickly, your body often breaks down muscle to use for energy, especially if you’re not eating enough protein or doing strength-training exercises. This encourages your metabolism to slow down, making it easier to regain weight once you go back to normal eating. Additionally, when the weight comes back, it’s usually more fat than muscle. This changes your body composition as you may weigh the same as before, but now suddenly you have more fat and less muscle. This further encourages your metabolism to slow down even more. Over time, going through this cycle again and again leads to a steady loss of muscle. Each time you diet, your body burns fewer calories than it did before, making it harder to lose weight and much easier to gain it back. You might also find that you’re more tired and weaker, and that exercise doesn’t feel as effective. This ongoing loss of muscle makes it harder to stay active, which can further lower your calorie burn and lead to more weight gain. To avoid this, it’s important to focus on gradual, steady weight loss and include strength training and enough protein in your diet to help preserve muscle. Keeping your muscle mass strong is key to keeping your metabolism healthy and supporting long-term weight management.

Hormonal Changes

Weight cycling disrupts the hormones that regulate hunger and fullness. Leptin, the hormone that signals satiety, drops with weight loss, while ghrelin, the hormone that triggers hunger, increases. This imbalance leads to stronger food cravings, less satisfaction from meals, and a higher likelihood of overeating. Your body becomes increasingly driven to regain the weight it lost, viewing it as a protective measure against future “starvation.”

only affects your

body, but it also affects your mental and emotional health. Constantly losing and regaining weight can damage your self-confidence and create a cycle of frustration and disappointment. Many people begin to feel like they’re failing, especially when their efforts don’t lead to lasting results. This can lead to low self-esteem and a growing sense of hopelessness about ever achieving their health goals.

Over time, yo-yo dieting often leads to an unhealthy relationship with food. Instead of seeing food as fuel or something to enjoy, it becomes a source of stress and anxiety. People may start labeling foods as “good” or “bad” and feel intense guilt or shame if they eat something they think they shouldn’t. This way of thinking can create an all-or-nothing mindset—where being slightly off-track feels like total failure. As a result, some people may fall into a pattern of restrictive eating followed by binge eating, which only deepens the cycle.

These emotional ups and downs can be exhausting. The constant pressure to diet, the fear of weight gain, and the disappointment that comes with regaining weight can lead to increased stress, anxiety, disordered eating and even depression. The psychological effects of yo-yo dieting are just as important as the physical

ones. Healing your relationship with food and your body takes time, patience, and often a shift in mindset. It means letting go of perfection, focusing on balance instead of restriction, and learning to treat yourself with kindness. Long-term success comes not from punishing your body but from nourishing it, both physically and emotionally.

Why It Gets Harder Over Time

As the cycle continues, weight loss becomes slower, fat regain becomes easier, and metabolic resistance increases. Your body becomes more efficient at storing fat and less responsive to weight loss efforts, a phenomenon known as “metabolic memory.” Muscle mass continues to decline, resting metabolism decreases, and hormone levels shift in a way that favors fat retention. Meanwhile, diet fatigue sets in, motivation drops, and the emotional burden of dieting grows heavier. Each round of dieting becomes harder both physically and mentally.

Breaking the Cycle

Avoiding or breaking free from yo-yo dieting is possible, but it requires a shift in mindset and approach. Consider the following tips:

1. Rather than chasing fast results, focus on long-term, sustainable habits.

2. Eat enough food to support your energy needs by aiming for balanced meals that include lean protein (like chicken, fish, eggs, or beans), healthy fats (like avocado or olive oil), and fiber-rich carbohydrates (like oats, quinoa, fruits, and vegetables).

3. Avoid extreme restrictions; no food needs to be labeled “off-limits.” Instead, practice the 80/20 rule: eat nourishing foods 80% of the time, and allow for enjoyment and flexibility the other 20%. It’s all about moderation, not deprivation.

4. Incorporate strength training 2-3 times a week using bodyweight exercises, resistance bands, or weights to preserve and build muscle, which supports a healthy metabolism.

5. Prioritize 7-9 hours of quality sleep per night and manage stress with techniques like journaling, daily walk, or something that you find enjoyable and relaxing.

6. Work on improving your relationship with food through mindful eating. This means eating without distractions, slowing down, recognizing hunger and fullness cues, and letting go of guilt around food.

7. Use practical tools like meal planning apps, food journals (not calorie counting apps), or even setting reminders to take breaks and eat consistently every 3–5 hours.

8. If needed, seek help from a registered dietitian or health professional who can guide you in building a flexible, nourishing plan that works for your life, not against it.

If you’ve struggled with yo-yo dieting, it’s not a personal failure, your body is responding exactly as it’s designed to do under stress and deprivation. With patience, consistency, compassion, and help, you can stop the cycle and support your body’s natural ability to maintain a healthy weight. Sustainable change may be slower, but it is far more effective and empowering in the long run. Your body deserves nourishment, not punishment, and lasting health comes from working with it, not against it.

Aliza Beer is a registered dietitian with a master’s degree in nutrition. She has a private practice in Cedarhurst, NY. Patients’ success has been featured on the Dr. Oz show. Aliza can be reached at alizabeer@gmail. com, and you can follow her on Instagram at @alizabeer

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Behind the Scenes with Vera Newman,

Author of the Marblespoon Series

By Su SA n SchwA mm

Vera, you live in Detroit now, but you grew up in Panama. Tell us a little about that.

I was born and raised in Panama. I come from a Sephardic background and grew up very sheltered in a way, not knowing about the vastness of the Jewish world in America. In Panama, growing up, it was just like this little bubble. After I graduated, I went to seminary, which was not typical. Girls in Panama usually graduate and marry boys from Panama, and no one ventures out. I’ve always been a little more “out of the box” in a way.

I went to Israel, to Neve, for six months. It was so eye-opening for me. I went to all these different houses for Shabbos. Many of them were Ashkenazi, and it was so interesting for me because I grew up in a Sephardic culture.

I decided to start wearing skirts when I was in seminary. And I realized that I might be open to the possibility of even marrying an American, Ashkenazi boy if it was suggested to me. Lo and behold, someone suggested I go out with my husband – he’s Ashkenaz and from Detroit – and we got married. We’ve been living in Detroit since our wedding almost 14 years ago.

I’m sure that blend of your Sephardic background and your husband’s background influences how you cook.

One hundred percent. I always say it’s like a big melting pot. My mom cooked Syrian and Panamanian food and also some Moroccan food, and in Panama, there are so many different restaurants with so many different cuisines. We always had lots of different food options growing up.

Interestingly, when I was growing up, I never really cooked or helped my mom cook. But when I came home from seminary, I told my mom, “I’m taking care of Shabbos. I’ll cook; I’ll make the menus.” I was inspired, for

some reason. And that’s how it all started. I started cooking for my family for Shabbos, and then I got married and I was in my own kitchen and got into making different recipes.

For the first six years of marriage, I didn’t “work” in food. I had a kids’ clothing store, and I worked in an office. But at some point, at the end of 2016, I decided to open my Instagram account by the name of Marblespoon.

The name is pretty random. At the time, I was decorating my house, and I had a lot of different things that were marble. I was very drawn to marble at the time. So I thought, let’s attach some other word that would tie it all together for a foodie account – spoon – and that sounded good. So that’s how the name Marblespoon was born.

When I started my Instagram account, I started posting recipes and stuff from my everyday life, and my following was slowly growing. I saw that people were relying on my recipes for Shabbos, and they enjoyed my style of cooking, which was very exciting for me.

At some point in 2019, my husband came up with this crazy idea: “Why don’t you write a cookbook?” I thought he was crazy. But he said, “Why don’t you put all your recipes from your Instagram into a book and sell it so everyone has your recipes in an organized form?” I thought that was a great idea.

On Motzei Shabbos, I announced to my followers that I was coming out with a cookbook – but I had nothing, nothing, started. I reached out to a bunch of publishers and connected with Menucha Publishers.

That sounds so exciting – and so brave.

It was crazy. I didn’t know anything at the time. Miriam Pascal was coming out with her second cookbook around that time, and she was coming to Detroit to promote her book. I’m a big fan of hers. I reached out to her to ask her if I could pick her up from the airport, and we could

photos for my book.

I told her, “Listen, I really need someone to shoot my cookbook, but I don’t know how to do it myself. Like, I don’t own a camera. I don’t know food photography. I don’t know lighting. I don’t know any of it.”

She told me, “Vera, it would be crazy for me to do it for you because I would have to come in for two weeks to do all the work. It wouldn’t be worth it. But I think I can teach you how to do it, because I see your work. I see what you’ve done. You have an eye. I think I can teach you, and you can learn.”

She gave me a four-day crash course in food photography and styling – eight-hour days – it was so intense.

Right after she gave me the crash course, the pandemic hit. It was crazy. The kids were home; it was not easy. But somehow, I pulled myself together and came out with my first Marblespoon cookbook, which was highly successful.

After that, Artscroll saw my work, and I was able to work with them on my other books.

In all my books, I do everything myself – which is not typical. I develop the recipes. I’m the photographer, the stylist... Of course, the publisher does the editing and the graphics, but the rest is up to me.

People don’t see what’s behind the scenes of a photo shoot. They don’t see the chaos behind the beautiful picture. It’s real life.

When you have a lot of followers on Instagram, all they see is your perfect picture, but they don’t see that your kids are on the couch sick with strep in the background.

Yes. That’s literally the epidemic of social media. You only get a little glimpse, a little perfect picture. That’s something I’d like to emphasize: people need to know that so much of what they see on Instagram is fake.

That’s why the subtitle of my book is “Tried and True.” It came from feedback I got from people from my recipes. But I also want people to be “true” to who they are.

How long did it take you to complete this cookbook?

I literally invested an entire year of my life into the book. From the beginning of 2024 until the end. It was very intense. It was probably the hardest cookbook of mine to put out, but I like to think that it’s the best of the three.

You went on this journey, and your journey gave you three different cookbooks. What lessons did you learn from cookbook one, two, and three, and what tricks have you learned along the way?

Cookbook one I call my “amateur work.” It’s kind of like when you first dip your feet into the pool. The recipes are really good, but sometimes I cringe at the creativity of the book. It was also made during the pandemic, when you had to stand in line for 30 minutes wearing a mask to go shopping. In a major way, my first cookbook really taught me what I’m capable of under pressure, with a pandemic and all that.

Number two really gave me such a thrill. But after I finished working on my second cookbook, I had what I call the “post-cookbook blues.” I was so busy putting it together, and then my life was quiet. So right away, I reached out to Artscroll and told them that I was ready to write my third cookbook. Most people don’t put three cookbooks out in five years.

Writing a cookbook requires a lot of work, and I realized that I haven’t really been present for my kids. I decided that this year I’m going to take off and be fully present for my family. So that’s the message of my third cookbook. I was so happy that I did it, but now, I’m going to take a step back.

Which recipe in this book took you the longest to perfect?

It’s hard to think about which one, but perhaps it was the Sticky Honey Garlic Pargiyot. I had to make them many times in order to get them right. I have a similar recipe for pargiyot in my second cookbook, but I had something else in mind for this cookbook and it took me many tries to get it right.

With the Honey Harissa Potatoes, I had to play around with different temperatures and the timing. It also took a lot of tries.

If you look in the dairy chapter, you’ll see the Healthy Muffins. I worked on that one with my friend. It took many tries to perfect. We tried so many different things because we wanted it to be healthy but also really taste good and be something you want to eat. That wasn’t easy.

What spices do you usually turn to in your kitchen when you’re cooking?

Sea salt, black pepper, garlic powder, onion powder, paprika… I like to cook very normal. My style of cook-

ing is that it should be approachable and be available for most people. I don’t usually cook with such out-ofthe-box ingredients, because I find that nobody wants to start looking around for unusual ingredients. My recipes are most well-received when they use the staples in people’s houses.

I also try to make everything pretty and kid-friendly. I have four kids, baruch Hashem. All of them are very opinionated, but they’re all foodies, and they appreciate different flavors. My husband is also a really good taste-tester.

Would you consider yourself more of a cook or a baker?

A cook.

“People don’t see what’s behind the scenes of a photo shoot. They don’t see the chaos behind the beautiful picture. It’s real life.”

What’s a regular dinner like in the Newman house?

Anything from the Weeknight Suppers chapter, on rotation.

I put that chapter into all my cookbooks; it’s like my signature. People love it because that’s literally what I make for dinner on a daily basis. Of course, if I’m very busy, we’ll have pizza bagels and French fries, but if it’s a regular night, it’s dinner from one of those recipes in that chapter.

What do you recommend people cook from this particular cookbook – or from any of your cookbooks – for Shavuos?

I tried really hard, specifically with this last cookbook, that it should have a very strong dairy chapter, a few nice fish options, and several desserts using cheese products and dairy products.

When it comes to meat options, I like to use all the roast recipes from my cookbooks. You can use the side dishes – all those recipes are really recipes that I use all the time to cook in my house – Shabbos, yom tov, weekday…

What cut of meat do you like to work with the best?

I love a good deckle. I think it’s a very underappreciated and undervalued cut of meat. I use it as a roast, like in place of a second-cut brisket, and I also use it for a pulled beef. I also love a good London broil, one that’s well-marbled. It’s usually called either prime London broil or the butcher’s cut. I also love ground beef. I use it for everything, especially during the week – meatballs, meat sauce, taco meat. My mom used that a lot.

As a food stylist, what tips would you give people to help them plate and serve beautiful food for their guests?

Fresh herbs are a great asset. Microgreens are also pretty great. When it comes to salad, I like to use beautiful colors and different textures. I love using watermelon radishes in my salads. They’re so pretty. Many people have never tasted them, but if you see them in season, make sure you buy them.

At my house, you’ll never find a meal where it’s all brown or cream. I always make sure to use different colors in my dishes.

Do you dress your salads before they come to the table? Or do you lay them out nicely before and then dress them at the table?

Literally, like right before. For some salads, I’ll plate them in a wide, shallow bowl as a nice presentation. For other salads, like Israeli salads, I put them in a big bowl. Then for other salads, like grilled chicken salad, I serve each component separately on a big tray, like you see in my cookbook.

I serve a lot of small, marinated salads that are not lettuce-based. I put them out in pretty, small bowls. There’s something cute about it. Even if I have to go back to the kitchen and add more to the bowl, I like a variety of little marinated salads on my table.

You’ve been on Instagram for so many years. What’s your most viral recipe from your Instagram account?

Funnily enough, I have a Vanilla Bean Apple Loaf Cake that, like, every single person made this past Rosh Hashana. I included that recipe in my third cookbook because it was so popular on Instagram. It’s classic and simple but so delicious.

We spoke about lessons that you learned along the way from your cookbooks, but are there any lessons that you learned along the way from your Instagram account?

It’s been almost 10 years. The point I’d love to emphasize is what we discussed before: don’t believe everything you see on Instagram. Take everything with a grain of salt. Also, if you’re on Instagram, only follow accounts that inspire you and make you feel good. Don’t “hate follow.” That’s not healthy. And always remember, everyone has their struggles; you just may not know about them.

Marbles P oon on the Menu

By Vera Newman

Crustless Cheesy Vegetable Quiche

Dairy | Yields 6 servings | Pesach | freezes well

It’s hard to come up with healthier sides when planning a dairy menu. Quiches are usually my go-tos, in addition to dishes like pastas, pizzas, salads, and fish. This crustless version is as good if not better than quiches baked in a flaky crust; the combination of veggies, the cheesy goodness, and the yummy texture will have you convinced. Feel free to use your favorite veggies, and, if you really want a crust, bake this recipe in two (9-inch) ready-to-bake pie shells!

Ingredients

>> 5 Tbsp olive oil, divided

>> 1 medium onion, thinly sliced

>> 1 orange bell pepper, diced

>> 1 large zucchini, quartered and sliced

>> 1¼ tsp sea salt, divided

>> ¾ tsp garlic powder, divided

>> ½ tsp black pepper, divided

>> 1 (6-oz) bag fresh baby spinach

>> 1 cup cherry tomatoes, halved

>> 8 eggs

>> ¼ cup sour cream

>> ½ cup shredded mozzarella cheese

>> ¼ cup crumbled feta cheese

>> ¼ cup shredded Parmesan cheese

Preparation

Preheat oven to 350°F. Coat a 9x13-inch baking pan with cooking spray.

Heat a large frying pan over medium heat. Add 3 tablespoons olive oil and the onion. Sauté for 4-5 minutes, or until translucent. Add bell pepper, zucchini, 1 teaspoon salt, ½ teaspoon garlic powder, and ¼ teaspoon pepper. Sauté for 3-4 minutes or until vegetables begin to soften.

Transfer vegetables to a bowl.

Add remaining 2 tablespoons olive oil to the same frying pan. Add spinach, cherry tomatoes, remaining 1/8 teaspoon salt, and remaining ¼ teaspoon garlic powder. Sauté for 2-3 minutes, or until spinach is wilted and tomatoes begin to blister.

Transfer to the bowl of sautéed vegetables.

Meanwhile, to a second bowl, add eggs, sour cream, mozzarella cheese, feta cheese, and Parmesan cheese to the egg mixture; whisk to combine. Carefully add cooked vegetables to the bowl. Stir until just combined.

Transfer mixture to prepared baking dish. Bake, uncovered, for 35 minutes, or until no longer jiggly in the center.

Allow to cool for 15 minutes before cutting into the quiche.

Mango Pom salad with Poppy seed Vinaigrette

Dairy | Yields 4-6 servings

This is THE SALAD you are going to want to bring to your next get-together lunch, or shiur! For several years, I’ve been fortunate to be a part of a small group, alongside some of the most incredible ladies in our community, of an Emunah and Bitachon Vaad, led by the one and only Sara Aliza Scheinberg, whom I’m fortunate to call my spiritual teacher and friend! We get together once a week to learn, and those classes have truly become my lifeline, as some of us like to describe the positive effect and impact this class has had on our lives! Over a year ago, when we finished learning Mesilas Yesharim, we got together for a little siyum celebration, and one of my friends brought a similar salad to this one. I enjoyed it so much, I made myself a mental note to create my own version to include in my upcoming book!

Ingredients

>> 8 oz green leaf lettuce or 1 heart of romaine, chopped

>> ½ large ripe mango, peeled and diced

>> ½ cup pomegranate seeds

>> ¼ small red onion, peeled and thinly sliced

>> ½ cup crumbled feta cheese

>> ½ cup honey roasted slivered almonds

Poppy Seed Vinaigrette

>> ¼ cup oil

>> ¼ cup granulated sugar

>> 2 Tbsp balsamic vinegar

>> 2 tsp poppy seeds

>> ½ tsp sea salt

Preparation

Prepare the poppy seed vinaigrette: In a glass jar, combine all vinaigrette ingredients; whisk or shake until well combined and emulsified. Taste; adjust seasonings, if necessary.

To assemble: Place a bed of lettuce into a serving bowl or on individual plates. Top with mango, pomegranate seeds, red onion, feta cheese, and almonds.

Drizzle with desired amount of dressing; toss to coat salad before serving.

a lmond Crunch

Ice Cream Cheesecake Pie

Dairy | Yields 10-12 servings | freezes well

This recipe has me so excited for Shavuos, I can hardly wait! If you know me, you know my attempts at baking an uncracked proper cheesecake were thrown out the window years ago. I refuse to spend $20+ on ingredients to have my cheesecake flop; call it pride but after several failed attempts over the years, I’ve been on the quest for easy cheesecake alternatives you can be proud to serve on your Shavuos table and be sure to come out victorious. Across my cookbooks you’ll find several different recipes for easy cheesecakes; this one, though, is in a category of its own. I truly cannot wait until you try it: it’s just perfect!

Ingredients

Almond Crunch

>> 3 Tbsp unsalted butter, at room temperature

>> 3 Tbsp granulated sugar

>> 1/3 cup all-purpose flour

>> ¼ cup almond meal (not almond flour; see note)

>> ½ cup sliced toasted almonds

No-Bake Crust

>> 1¼ cups graham cracker crumbs (8 sheets graham crackers, crushed)

>> ¼ cup almond meal (not almond flour; see note)

>> 5 Tbsp unsalted butter, melted

>> 1/3 cup granulated sugar

Ice Cream Cheesecake Filling

>> 2 (8-oz) blocks cream cheese, at room temperature

>> 1 quart (2 pints) vanilla ice cream, softened slightly

Optional Toppings

>> dulce de leche, melted in the microwave for 30 seconds for easy drizzling

>> fresh strawberries, diced

>> store-bought cream cheese frosting

Preparation

Preheat oven to 375°F. Line a baking sheet with parchment paper.

Prepare the almond crunch: Combine butter, sugar, flour, and almond meal in a bowl. Use your fingertips to combine ingredients until mixture is crumbly.

Spread crumble evenly on prepared baking sheet. Bake for 1012 minutes or until golden brown. Set aside to cool.

Prepare the no-bake crust: Generously spray a 9- or 10-inch springform pan or line with parchment paper. In a small mixing bowl, mix together the graham cracker crumbs, almond meal, melted butter, and granulated sugar. Press mixture firmly into the springform pan; place into the freezer while you prepare the filling. Prepare the ice cream cheesecake filling: To a high-powered

food processor or blender, add softened cream cheese and ice cream. Process until smooth and creamy, 2-3 minutes.

Remove the graham cracker crust from the freezer. Pour in the filling, smoothing it with a spoon. Top with cooled almond crunch. Return to freezer; freeze for at least 4-6 hours prior to serving.

Before serving, remove the cheesecake pie from the freezer for a few minutes, then run a knife around the edge of the cake and remove the springform pan. Place pie on a cake stand. If desired, drizzle with dulce de leche, decorate the edge of the pie with fresh strawberries, or pipe on cream cheese frosting.

Tr Y THIS : Blend 2 cups frozen strawberries into the ice cream cheesecake filling to create a strawberry ice cream cheesecake pie. Increase blending time, if necessary to achieve a smooth mixture.

N OT E: Almond meal is sometimes also known as ground almonds. You may substitute with ground walnuts.

excerpted from Marblespoon – Tried and True by Vera Newman, published by ArtScroll Mesorah Publications.

In The K tchen

White Pizza

The recipe above makes one 12-inch pie, which usually comes out to four servings.

By Naomi Nachman

My family loves pizza! Then again, what’s not to love, especially when you make it yourself? This dough recipe is quick and easy to make so you can throw together homemade pizza at the drop of a hat. It is one of the most popular recipes in my book Perfect Flavors.

When I make it, I try to come up with interesting toppings. I recently made this one for my family even though I wasn’t sure if they would like a tomatoless pizza. Amazingly, it was a huge hit and now I have gotten them to try all kinds of assorted toppings, sauces and vegetables on their pizza. (BTW, Australians love pineapple on their pizza.)

Ingredients

Dough

◦ 2 teaspoons dry yeast

◦ 1 teaspoon sugar

◦ ¾ cup very warm water

◦ 2 cups flour

◦ 1 tsp. salt

Preparation

1. Preheat oven to 450 degrees.

2. Combine yeast, water and sugar in a bowl and let proof for 5 minutes, until bubbling.

3. Add flour and salt and knead for 2-3 minutes until flour is well blended and a dough ball forms.

4. Cover and let rise in a warm place for 1 hour. Roll dough to fit a 12-inch disposable pizza pan or pizza stone.

Toppings

◦ 1 cup ricotta cheese

◦ 1 cup mozzarella cheese

◦ ¼ cup parmesan cheese

◦ 1 tablespoon olive oil

◦ 1 tablespoon milk

◦ ½ teaspoon garlic powder

◦ ½ teaspoon salt

◦ ¼ teaspoon oregano

◦ 8 oz. can pineapple chunks

◦ ½ small onion, sliced

Preparation

5. Mix cheeses, oil, milk, garlic powder and salt together in a bowl until smooth.

6. Spread all over pizza dough, leaving a crust.

7. Top with pineapple and sliced onion and sprinkle with oregano.

8. Bake for 20 minutes.

Naomi Nachman, the owner of The Aussie Gourmet, caters weekly and Shabbat/ Yom Tov meals for families and individuals within The Five Towns and neighboring communities, with a specialty in Pesach catering. Naomi is a contributing editor to this paper and also produces and hosts her own weekly radio show on the Nachum Segal Network stream called “A Table for Two with Naomi Nachman.” Naomi gives cooking presentations for organizations and private groups throughout the New York/New Jersey Metropolitan area. In addition, Naomi has been a guest host on the QVC TV network and has been featured in cookbooks, magazines as well as other media covering topics related to cuisine preparation and personal chefs. To obtain additional recipes, join The Aussie Gourmet on Facebook or visit Naomi’s blog. Naomi can be reached through her website, www.theaussiegourmet.com or at (516) 295-9669.

Notable Quotes “Say What?!”

The world may go on a weekend break, but the war continues, regardless of weekends and weekdays. This cannot be ignored. Silence of America, silence of others around the world only encourage Putin.

- Ukrainian President Volodymyr Zelensky condemning the “silence of America” early Sunday following one of Russia’s biggest attacks yet in Kyiv

What Vladimir Putin doesn’t realize is that if it weren’t for me, lots of really bad things would have already happened to Russia, and I mean REALLY BAD. He’s playing with fire!

- Pres. Trump on Truth Social condemning the attacks on Sunday

Regarding Trump’s words about Putin “playing with fire” and “really bad things” happening to Russia. I only know of one REALLY BAD thing — WWIII. I hope Trump understands this!

- Putin’s right-hand man Dmitry Medvedev, responding on X to Pres. Trump’s comments

Democrats, my brothers and sisters, I understand why you’re worried about Trump. I understand why you call him an ultimate evil, but I don’t agree. And if you want the ultimate evil, look at the Islamists, the extreme ones in America, not just Muslims, and mind your dogs who are doing their bidding.

Whoops! My ear!

- President Donald Trump at a Washington event when there was a loud popping sound in the room

That was amazing. Very strange noise. That brings back some not-so-good memories.

– ibid.

“Free Palestine” is just today’s version of “Heil Hitler.”

- Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu

– Chris Cuomo on NewsNation after a leftist heinously murdered two people at the Jewish Museum in Washington, D.C., last week

We are not cutting Medicaid. We are not cutting SNAP. We’re working in the elements of fraud, waste and abuse. SNAP, for example, listen to the statistics: in 2024, over $11 billion in SNAP payments were erroneous.

– Speaker Mike Johnson on “Face The Nation” talking about what’s in the One Big Beautiful Bill

I know many in our community are mourning the absence of our graduate, Mahmoud Khalil.

- Columbia University interim president Claire Shipman at the school’s graduation, stoking the flames of hatred by “mourning the absence” of a 30-year-old Palestinian activist who the Trump administration is deporting for leading Jew hatred protests and anti-American protests on campus while being here on a student visa, despite the fact that he did not attend classes

If Biden Was Too Old For The Job, Voters Should Have Been Informed

- The Washington Post in a headline that should win a Pulitzer Award in the “You Think?” category

How Did So Many Elected Democrats Miss Biden’s Infirmity?

- New York Times headline that should win a Pulitzer Award in the “No Mirror Here” category

They don’t want to live together. All of these diplomatic solutions… it’s not going to work because it’s us or them.

- Hamas captivity survivor Agam Berger to French Foreign Minister Jean-Noel Barrot at a meeting in Paris

If it were possible not to choose war, we wouldn’t choose it. But the moment that there is a war for the existence of our country — that’s what we’re going to do.

- ibid.

Somebody’s calling me from some number I don’t recognize, something in Florida, and I sent it to voicemail. And a little bit later I thought, I better check that voicemail and see if that was anything I need to deal with. And the first sentence in the transcription, cause you know the phone gives you the text version of the voicemail as well. The first sentence is, “This is your favorite president.” And I thought to myself, no, did I just send the most important person in the world to voicemail?

- Dilbert comic creator Scott Adams talking about the call he received from Trump after he revealed on a podcast last week that he has terminal cancer

Same day, it’s the afternoon, and all of a sudden another call comes through, also from Florida, and I thought to myself, no … way, there’s no way he’s calling me again, and I answer it, and it’s Trump.

- ibid

I’m gonna get blasted for this, but you know, I see all these negotiations going on in the Middle East and then, I don’t know when these buildings were approved or when these deals got done, but then I also see like, oh, there’s a brand new [Trump] hotel going up in Dubai or Abu Dhabi, and another one going up in Doha. That stuff kind of worries me.

- Former Navy SEAL Shawn Ryan on The Tucker Carlson podcast

Well, it seems like corruption, yeah.

- Carlson, in reponse

This is what globalizing the intifada looks like. Palestinianism is built on violence. This is a culture built on violence, and we need to start treating it that way.

- Congressman Randy Fine (R-FL) talking to reporters after the heinous murder at the Jewish Museum in Washington, D.C., last week

We need to start to call evil for what it is, and not make excuses for it. And the fact of the matter is, the Palestinian cause is an evil one.

- ibid.

The only end of the conflict is complete and total surrender by those who support Muslim terror. In World War II, we did not negotiate a surrender with the Nazis; we did not negotiate a surrender with the Japanese. We nuked the Japanese twice in order to get unconditional surrender. That needs to be the same here.

- ibid.

I think the charges are absurd. You know, it’s ridiculous. I was there to do my job along with my other colleagues. We have done this before. This is our obligation to do. It’s in our job description to have oversight over this facility. The entire situation was escalated by ICE. They caused the confrontation.

- Representative LaMonica McIver (D-NJ) on CNN after she was charged for body slamming an agent at a New Jersey ICE detention center in which she was trespassing

We are horsing around and, really, joking with my wife. It becomes a sort of geo-planetary catastrophe.

- French President Emmanuel Macron, 49, several hours after a video went viral of his wife Brigitte Macron, 72, punching him in the face as they were about to exit their plane on a visit to Vietnam

CNN’s Jake Tapper just executed one [great] business plan: He’s charging people money to read what Fox News had already told ‘em.

- Scott Pinsker, PJ Media

I’m happy to be here, and I’ll stay on the desk for as long as I possibly can. But if I disappear, that’s what’s going on.

-Co-anchor Olivia Jaquith of CBS6 Albany informing viewers this week that she is in labor and may have to leave the broadcast to have a baby

Political Crossfire

The Media’s Cover-Up of Biden’s Decline Further Wrecked its Reputation

In the wake of Joe Biden’s cancer diagnosis, the debate over his mental decline in office “should be more muted and set aside,” Democratic strategist David Axelrod suggests. The opposite is true. It is now clearer than ever that Biden was in no condition, either mentally or physically, to serve a second term. And the time has come to hold those who misled to the American people about his fitness for office to account – not just in the White House but in the media, too.

It was clear even before his 2020 election that Biden was mentally diminished. During the 2020 campaign, he fumbled the words of the Declaration of Independence; misstated what office he was running for; mistook Super Tuesday for “Super Thursday”; declared “poor kids are just as bright and just as talented as White kids”; and claimed to have worked with Chinese leader Deng Xiaoping (who died in 1997) on the 2015 Paris climate accord, among countless other mental lapses.

And almost from outset of his presidency, Americans began to realize that Biden was suffering from cognitive decline. In November 2021 – after just 10 months of watching him in action – a 48 percent plurality said Biden was not “mentally fit” for office. By June 2023, a year before his disastrous presidential debate performance, the share of Americans who said they had concerns about Biden’s mental and physical health had risen to 68 percent. Yet virtually every news organization in the country downplayed, ignored or helped the White House minimize one of the biggest stories in modern presidential history: that the commander-in-chief was increasingly non compos mentis.

One of the worst offenders was CNN’s Jake Tapper. He accused those who voiced concern about Biden’s cognitive decline of “mocking his stutter” and spreading Russian disinformation. Tapper insisted Biden was “sharp” mentally and “not the way he

By Marc A. Thiessen

is caricatured on Fox.” When Rep. Dean Phillips (D-Minnesota) dared to question Biden’s age, mental fitness and ability to lead, Tapper attacked him, asking “how seriously can anyone take” his accusations. Now, Tapper has the chutzpah to publish a book, “Original Sin: President Biden’s Decline, Its Cover-Up, and His Disastrous Choice to Run Again,” in which he unironically investigates the very cover-up he helped perpetuate.

The only reporters to extensively investigate Biden’s mental fitness before his debate fiasco were the Wall Street Journal’s Annie Linskey and Siobhan Hughes, who produced a rock-solid report on Biden’s cognitive decline. That didn’t stop many of their fellow journalists from joining the White House in attacking their reporting. CNN’s Oliver Darcy wrote that their article played into “a GOP-propelled narrative that the 81-year-old president lacks the fitness to hold the nation’s highest office” and had “glaring problems” because the on-therecord sources were mostly Republicans. “The Wall Street Journal owes its readers – and the public – better,” Darcy declared.

Actually, it is Darcy, Tapper and all the other reporters who should have covered this story but didn’t who owe the public better. Every other news organization ought to be asking itself a simple question: Why didn’t we report that story?

The answer, as former New York Times executive editor Jill Abramson explained in Semafor, is that “the story was reportable” but “too many journalists didn’t try to get the story because they did not want to be accused of helping elect Donald Trump,” adding, “I get that. But this is no excuse for abandoning our first duty, which is to report the truth and hold power accountable.”

Sorry, I don’t get that. Reporters didn’t care whether exposing Watergate or the Monica Lewinsky scandal would hurt the president politically. The job of a free press is “to give the news impartially, without fear or favor,” as the Times stated its principles – in 1896.

But that is not what far too many journalists believe today. Seventy-six percent of Americans say the media should strive to give equal coverage to all sides of an issue, according to a 2022 Pew Research

Center survey, but 55 percent of journalists disagree. The disdain for evenhanded reporting is even worse among younger reporters, 63 percent of whom say varying sides do not deserve equal coverage, as do 69 percent of journalists who say their outlet’s audience leans left.

This growing disregard for objectivity is destroying public trust in the media. According to the 2025 Edelman Trust Barometer, 70 percent of people believe “journalists and reporters purposely mislead people by saying things they know are false or gross exaggerations.”

Perhaps that is because, over the past several years, they watched as many in the media pushed the discredited, Hillary Clinton-campaign-funded Steele dossier; breathlessly reported false allegations that Trump had colluded with Russia to steal the 2016 election (only to learn from the Mueller report that it was little more than a conspiracy theory); suppressed the Hunter Biden laptop story as Russian disinformation; and then aided the cover-up of Joe Biden’s cognitive decline – until his disastrous debate performance made it undeniable (and a political liability for Democrats).

For many, an unmistakable pattern has emerged: Whenever Trump is on the ballot, the media colors its reporting to hurt him and favor his opponent.

And now Americans are watching with deep skepticism as the same reporters who dismissed Biden’s mental decline are suddenly asking tough questions about it and making excuses for their failure to cover it. Sorry, Biden’s mental decline was obvious for years, and the reporters covering the president knew it. They just could not bring themselves to report a story that might help Trump. How will this profession recover its reputation? The first step to recovery is admitting you have a problem.

© 2025, Washington Post Writers Group

Trump’s Road to Failure in Ukraine Political Crossfire

“Vladimir, I told you in January that if you didn’t stop the war in Ukraine, I would impose sanctions. You ignored me. You are disrespecting me and my presidency.

BIG MISTAKE!!!”

President Donald Trump could post a message like that tomorrow and begin to rescue his failing Ukraine peace initiative. He could impose the sanctions he has threatened for months – and show Russian President Vladimir Putin that he means business about stopping what he calls a “bloodbath.” Tragically, if he doesn’t, his most important foreign policy initiative will probably collapse – with violent aftershocks that could plague his entire term.

It’s crunch time for Trump on Ukraine. After his phone call with Russian President Vladimir Putin last Monday, Trump tried to declare victory and hand off the peace negotiations to Russia and Ukraine. That’s like telling David and Goliath to be friends – and a recipe for more death. Trump can’t blame this diplomatic disaster on former president Joe Biden. It’s on him.

A review of Trump’s Ukraine peace efforts tells a troubling story. He clearly understands the immense suffering of this war, and he has repeatedly pledged to end it. But his scattershot diplomacy has led to a series of false starts. He makes proposals but doesn’t follow through. He warns Putin to compromise but does nothing when the Russian leader refuses. He pressures Ukraine, the victim, but not Russia, the attacker.

Trump’s negotiating team has many cooks but no master chef. Special envoy Steve Witkoff handles Russia; special envoy Keith Kellogg manages Ukraine; Secretary of State Marco Rubio talks with his European counterparts. Vice President JD Vance critiques everyone.

By David Ignatius

But when meetings are scheduled, nobody’s sure who will be there or what agenda will be pursued. The team waits for Trump, whose opinions can spin 180 degrees in a matter of days.

The sad truth is that peace in Ukraine is probably more distant today than when Trump took office in January. He started with a sensible plan for European leaders to take over responsibility for arming Ukraine. And he warned Putin hours after his inauguration: “I think Russia’s going to be in big trouble” if it doesn’t make peace.

Trump put it bluntly in a Jan. 22 post: “If we don’t make a ‘deal,’ and soon, I have no other choice but to put high levels of Taxes, Tariffs, and Sanctions on anything being sold by Russia to the United States, and various other participating countries. … We can do it the easy way, or the hard way - and the easy way is always better. It’s time to ‘MAKE A DEAL.’ NO MORE LIVES SHOULD BE LOST!!” That threat and a half-dozen

since have proved empty.

Putin has played a weak hand masterfully with the new president. His cleverest move was to create a back channel between Kirill Dmitriev, the head of Russia’s sovereign wealth fund, and Witkoff, a real estate dealmaker who is perhaps Trump’s best friend. Both Dmitriev and Witkoff had close contacts in Saudi Arabia, Qatar and the United Arab Emirates who encouraged the relationship. And Witkoff was flush with success in Gaza hostage negotiations during Biden’s last days.

Dmitriev floated a hostage deal to Witkoff. On Feb. 11, the Kremlin released Marc Fogel, a captive American teacher in Russia in exchange for a Russian prisoner. The back channel was open for business.

Trump called Putin the next day. They “discussed a possible Ukraine settlement,” but the Russian readout described a disagreement that remains to this day. Trump favored “stopping the hostilities as soon as possible,” it said,

but Putin “pointed out it was necessary to eliminate the root causes of the conflict.” But the two sides agreed it was time to work together.

Trump had been president just three weeks, and he had already played his biggest Ukraine negotiating card – ending the isolation of Putin, designated a war criminal by the International Criminal Court. Defense Secretary Pete Hegseth offered two more unbidden concessions that week – saying that Ukraine wouldn’t join NATO and would have to give up territory in a peace deal. The negotiation began with this imbalance.

Trump was putting the big squeeze on Ukraine. Treasury Secretary Scott Bessent traveled to Kyiv on Feb. 12 to demand that President Volodymyr Zelensky sign a deal giving the United States a share of its future mineral income. Zelensky balked, angering Trump. Rubio and Witkoff, meanwhile, met their Russian counterparts in Saudi Arabia on Feb. 18 to plan resumption of normal diplomatic ties.

Trump delivered an unforgettable roundhouse to Ukraine’s leader with a televised tantrum from the Oval Office on Feb. 28. An exhausted Zelensky pleaded that Russia wasn’t a trustworthy partner, but Trump thundered on and dismissed him from the White House. Then, in early March, Trump suspended military and intelligence support. Zelensky soon capitulated, but European nations were shocked at Trump’s belligerence, and the Oval Office showdown galvanized their support for Ukraine.

The Trump team’s first negotiating approach was to try to coax a 30-day ceasefire – initially on energy and maritime attacks and then extended to a full ceasefire. Ukraine agreed at a March 11 meeting in Saudi Arabia. But Putin in a March 18 call with Trump refused any

halt in ground operations.

Rather than try to break through the ceasefire impasse, the Trump team moved to a new exercise of comparing “term sheets” for a possible settlement. Witkoff traveled to St. Petersburg on April 11 to work out a list. Zelensky met with Rubio, Witkoff and European leaders in Paris on April 17 to review that list; European and Ukrainian aides then met in London on April 23 to draft a counteroffer.

The term-sheet exercise seemed to be narrowing differences. And Trump was peeved that Russia was still hammering Ukraine’s capital. He posted on April 24: “I am not happy with the Russian strikes on KYIV. Not necessary, and very bad timing. Vladimir, STOP! 5000 soldiers a week are dying. Let’s get the Peace Deal DONE!”

Witkoff met Putin again in Moscow on Apil 25, but the Russian leader still wasn’t budging on a general ceasefire and kept bombing Kyiv. Trump nudged closer to Zelensky in a brief private meeting at the Vatican on April 26 and then issued a post suggesting he was being played by the Russian leader: “It makes me think that maybe he doesn’t want to stop the war, he’s just tapping me along, and has

to be dealt with differently, through ’Banking’ or ’Secondary Sanctions?’ Too many people are dying!!!”

But Putin remained unyielding, and the Trump team abandoned the termsheet exercise. The Financial Times reported that Witkoff on May 8 canceled a trip to Moscow because it was clear Russia wouldn’t consider the 22-point

there. And I don’t believe anything will happen, whether you like it or not, until he and I get together.”

Without Putin, the administration then turned to lower-level, face-to-face diplomacy. But a meeting between Russian and Ukrainian diplomats in Istanbul on May 16 produced only a prisoner swap. Russia was implacable in refusing a

That’s like telling David and Goliath to be friends – and a recipe for more death.

proposal that had emerged from the Paris and London sessions narrowing the terms.

Now the U.S. strategy shifted yet again, to personal diplomacy. Trump dangled the possibility that he would meet Putin in Turkey during his Middle East trip. But when Putin didn’t bite, Trump backed off. “Look, nothing is gonna happen until Putin and I get together,” Trump told reporters. “And he wasn’t gonna go. … He wasn’t going if I wasn’t

ceasefire, and Trump was ready to yield. This long exercise in diplomatic frustration culminated in Trump’s Monday phone call with Putin. Trump issued an upbeat statement after the call, claiming he had launched a phase of direct negotiations toward a ceasefire (as Putin had demanded). “The conditions for that will be negotiated between the two parties, as it can only be,” he said – even though only a few days before he had insisted that he and Putin alone could stop the

war. “Let the process begin!” trumpeted Trump, as though he had achieved a breakthrough.

The Russia statement dispensed with the bubble machine. Trump “shared his position on the cessation of hostilities,” it noted coldly. “Eliminating the root causes of this crisis is what matters most to us” – code for Ukraine accepting Russian hegemony. In four months, Russia hadn’t budged.

Negotiations of some sort will no doubt resume. Russia will deliver a paper, and Ukraine, Europe and the United States will respond. But the missiles will keep landing on Kyiv, and the bloodbath that Trump deplores will continue.

Sometimes diplomatic history is ambiguous. But the results of the Ukraine negotiations are crystal clear. Russia, the aggressor, has refused to stop fighting until it gets what it wants. And Trump, the attempted peacemaker, has so far let Putin get away with it.

Unless Trump finally delivers on his threats, he has folded his hand on what could be the most damaging failure of his presidency.

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Domestic Terror is the Inevitable Next Step For Hamas Sympathizers Political Crossfire

For the past 19 months, angry mobs have taken over college campuses and the streets of major American cities. These demonstrations, tent encampments and building takeovers have not just been expressions of opposition to Israel’s efforts to eradicate the Hamas terrorists who led the Palestinian Arab assault on southern Israel on Oct. 7, 2023. They have also often been indicative of the protesters’ support for Hamas and the embrace of terrorist goals, as well as their antisemitism—something that was made obvious by the way they have targeted Jews during the course of their “activism.”

Yet rather than being isolated and widely condemned, these pro-Hamas activists and demonstrators have been cheered by many in the media and even rationalized by former President Joe Biden and Vice President Kamala Harris, as well as their party’s left-wing leaders, who spoke of them as idealists who “deserved to be heard” and validated, even if they disagreed with some of what they were saying.

In doing so, they were ignoring the warning signs that the pro-Hamas movement was more than just mainstreaming Jew-hatred in discourse. As has been the case throughout history, those who speak of their support for terrorism elsewhere often wind up committing it at home.

After the tragic murder on Wednesday night of two young Israeli embassy staffers outside an American Jewish Committee event at the Capital Jewish Museum in Washington, D.C., it’s obvious that this is also the case with those who embraced the war against Israel’s existence.

There is much we don’t yet know about the accused murderer, who was apprehended at the scene. But the targeting of Israelis at a Jewish site, as well as the fact that police have reported that the assail-

By Jonathan S. Tobin

ant shouted “Free, free Palestine”—the same expression heard at countless proHamas and anti-Israel rallies since Oct. 7—leads to an inevitable conclusion.

A Short Leap to Violence

It didn’t take long for words to turn into action—from being willing to demonize Israelis, falsely accuse them of “genocide” or “apartheid,” and rationalize or even support the barbarous murderers, rapists and kidnappers of Hamas, and then condoning or rationalizing violence against Jews and Israelis on American soil.

We will be told in the coming days that the bloodshed in Washington has nothing to do with “criticism” of Israel or its policies.

There will be distinctions made between what will be described as “mostly peaceful” pro-Hamas demonstrations and the murder. The groups that have organized those protests and engaged in antisemitic acts of intimidation, and even violence, will likely condemn the murder

as they continue to smear Israel and its supporters. And, as has been the case with those who oppose the Trump administration’s efforts to combat antisemitism on college campuses and to deport those foreign students who have violated the terms of their visas and green cards by engaging in illegal activities, we will be told that the nation’s priority should be to defend the free speech of Hamas supporters and antisemites. Concern for the rights and welfare of these Israel-haters will be voiced, especially by left-wing Jewish groups.

But it should be remembered that while the right to peaceful and legal protests should be defended, the violent nature of much of what is now termed “pro-Palestine” activism is no accident. The same is true for the antisemitism that is never far from the surface whenever these supporters of terror speak or gather.

What

Those Provocative Chants Mean The chants of “Free, free Palestine”

have nothing to do with the freedom of people in Gaza who were not “occupied” when they attacked Israeli communities and committed unspeakable atrocities on Oct. 7. They are not about a two-state solution to the conflict with Israel, which the Palestinians have made clear time and again they do not want. It’s a cry for the replacement of the State of Israel by a Palestinian Arab state in which Jews would no longer have the ability to defend themselves.

Chants of “From the river to the sea” are, regardless of whether those who are shouting it can identify either body of water, a demand for the eradication of Israel and the genocide or expulsion of the 7.2 million Jews who live there.

Those shouting “Globalize the intifada!” have not been speaking about some idealized protest movement spreading from the Gaza Strip to Europe and the United States. It’s a slogan rooted in a belief of the right for those who hate Israel to carry Hamas’s campaign of anti-Jewish violence around the world. That means in every town, city, state or country where Jews reside.

The proof that this “pro-Palestinian” activism had nothing to do with support for human rights and peace was made abundantly clear in the aftermath of Oct. 7. The atrocities carried out during Black Shabbat—during which 1,200 Israeli men, women and children were slaughtered, and 251 people were kidnapped and dragged back into Gaza to suffer further torments—did not give Hamas’s supporters pause. They didn’t wait for Israel to begin its military campaign three weeks later to ensure that these crimes would never again happen to condemn the Jewish state and its citizens as having gotten exactly what they deserved.

This has nothing to do with wanting a better life for Palestinian Arabs, since

anyone who really wished them well would demand that they be freed from the control of Hamas. Instead, over the course of the following 19 months, this movement continued to support the cause of Israel’s destruction and the genocidal goals of the Palestinians.

The legitimization of this pro-Hamas movement was enabled by the political cowardice and willingness of many in the Democratic Party to buy into the toxic myths of ideologies like intersectionality, critical race theory and settler-colonialism, all of which falsely claim that Jews and Israelis are “white” oppressors who must be resisted and defeated.

The Media’s Responsibility

It has been abetted by corporate news media that have been acting as Hamas’s stenographers, accepting bogus, exaggerated figures of Palestinian casualties, as well as false claims of famine in Gaza, such as the recently debunked claims of CNN and NBC News that amount to blood libels. Mainstreaming these lies about Israeli indiscriminately killing Palestinians—when, in fact, the Israel Defense Forces takes more care to avoid civilian casualties than any other army in modern history—or carrying out a myth-

ical “genocide” has consequences.

Those who falsely label Jews as mass murderers intent on killing all Palestinians, when in fact it is Hamas and other Arab groups that seek the genocide of the Jews, are not merely making journalistic errors or engaging in hyperbole. They are legitimizing those who believe that any and all tactics—“by any means necessary”—are justified in fighting and killing Israelis and Jews.

This is a symptom common to the American political left. We witnessed this last year when Bryan Thompson, the CEO of the UnitedHealthcare insurance company, was assassinated by a 26-year-old “activist” who was applauded and treated as a hero by many on the left. Such reactions were not limited to left-wing social media but were echoed by the “yes, but” comments from politicians like Sen. Elizabeth Warren (D-Mass.) and Rep. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez (D-N.Y.), when they condemned the murder but still rationalized the political positions that led to it.

As I noted at the time, this wasn’t the first time in American history that policy debates morphed into political violence. Anarchist bombings and assassinations of public figures, such as President William McKinley in 1901, were seen by some

as a legitimate response to the excesses of capitalism during the “Gilded Age.” In the 1960s, an element of the movement protesting American involvement in the Vietnam War similarly became violent as the Weather Underground engaged in a campaign of domestic terrorism that involved larceny and murder, as well as bombings of sites like the U.S. Capitol in Washington, D.C.

Those episodes, as well as the murder of Thompson, provided an ominous precedent for the latest iteration of left-wing activism that focuses its hate against Jews and Israel, rather than business leaders and their political allies.

That’s why no one should be surprised about what happened in our nation’s capital. Israelis and Jews have been under siege since Oct. 7, both in the United States and elsewhere around the world, as sympathy for Hamas and belief in the illegitimacy of the sole Jewish state on the planet has spread.

What “Pro-Palestinian” Really Means

It’s not good enough for those who oppose insurance companies or Israel to say that nothing justifies violence while also supporting the agendas of

those who have already crossed the line from advocacy to murder. A desire to seek scapegoats or to apply toxic Marxist ideology to political disputes often leads to the same dismal conclusion. That is why decent people should disavow such causes rather than treating instances of violence as something that should impel us to do the bidding of those who claim to be “pro-Palestinian.”

It has long been apparent that in the current atmosphere that “pro-Palestinian” has become indistinguishable from antisemitism. Regardless of the mental state of the D.C. shooter or the denials of responsibility of anti-Israel groups, violence against Israelis and Jews was always the inevitable next step. Those who chant for Jewish genocide cannot disavow their role in legitimizing violence against Jews. The response from the U.S. government and decent people everywhere should be to isolate this movement and to take whatever measures are needed to ensure that such assassinations, coupled with the targeting of Jewish students on college campuses, come to an end.

Jonathan S. Tobin is editor-in-chief of JNS (Jewish News Syndicate).

WEDNESDAY, JUNE 4TH 5:00PM

Originally known as Decoration Day, Memorial Day is a time to remember and reflect those who have given their lives in the service of the United States. While Veterans Day is commemorated to honor those that have served, Memorial Day is specifically for those that did not come home. Many people visit cemeteries where memorials take place, and flags are placed by the graves of those killed while in uniform. Throughout the history of the American military, many Jewish service men and women have paid the ultimate sacrifice. Here are some their stories.

About 10,000 Jewish soldiers served on both sides of conflict during the American Civil War. One of the 600 Jewish soldiers killed in battle was Lieutenant Max Sachs of the 32nd Indiana Volunteer Regiment. Born in Prussia, Sachs’s home was listed as Cincinnati, and he enrolled with Company C of the 32 nd Indiana in August 1861. The regiment was sent to the Green River in Kentucky, north of Bowling Green, to guard bridges and pontoons. On December 17, 1861, at the Battle of Rowlett’s Station in Kentucky, Sachs was killed after fending off a de -

Forgotten Her es Heroes to Be Remembered

By Avi Heiligman

termined Confederate attack. He used his two revolvers to kill seven enemy soldiers before falling in battle. Sachs was described as “an old country soldier and a brave man” and is buried in a Jewish cemetery in Cincinnati.

Flight Officer Joseph Levy was a fighter pilot with the 18th Fighter Squadron, 343rd Fighter Group, 11th Air Force. The fighter group had been activated

tinguished Flying Cross and the Purple Heart posthumously.

The USS Plymouth (PG-57) was a gunboat assigned to patrol duty off the East Coast. The presence of German U-boats was an ever-present danger, and ships like the Plymouth were sent to protect convoys traveling to and from American naval bases and ports. She made several trips from New York to Key West and

He used his two revolvers to kill seven enemy soldiers before falling in battle.

in September 1942 and was sent to the Aleutians later that year. Levy flew a P-40 Warhawk. The unit’s mission was to provide air defenses for the American bases and to attack Japanese positions on Kiska Island. On July 24, 1943, Levy’s plane was shot down by anti-aircraft fire on Kiska, but he didn’t survive the crash.

The 23-year-old was awarded the Dis -

three trips to Guantanamo Bay, Cuba. On March 2, 1943, she accidently collided with and sank a submarine chaser off the coast of Cape Hatteras. A few months later on August 5, she was again off the coast of North Carolina when she made radar contact with something underwater. A few moments later, the ship was struck by a torpedo, causing a violent explosion.

It was later determined that the torpedo that sank the Plymouth came from the German submarine U-566 which in turn was damaged and scuttled just two and half months later.

On board the Plymouth was Ensign Rubin Keltch from the Bronx. The torpedo struck on the port side and caused fires that rapidly were spreading to other compartments on the ship. Disregarding the danger, Keltch helped several sailors to safety. He then went to the engine room to assist trapped sailors but was unable to leave the room in time. Ensign Keltch tragically lost his life while saving others who were able to escape the engine room. For his actions, he was posthumously awarded the Navy Cross.

American involvement in Vietnam started in the early 1960s, and by the time the Vietnam War ended in 1975, over 2.7 million American servicemen and women had served in the region. Of these, approximately 30,000 were Jews, with 270 of them paying the ultimate sacrifice.

Corporal Jack Rabinovitz from Dorchester, Massachusetts, enlisted in the Marine Corps in 1963. He was sent to Vietnam as a machine gunner with Com-

pany C, 1st Battalion, 3rd Marines, 3rd Marine Division. On February 14, 1966, the lead vehicle in his convoy hit a hidden mine in Quang Nam Province. Five marines were killed in the initial blast and four more, including Rabonovitz, later died from their wounds. Rabinovitz had been badly burned and had been transferred to a navy hospital in California. He is buried in a Jewish cemetery in Massachusetts.

Twenty-seven Jewish servicemen and women were killed during Operation Iraqi Freedom. 1st Lieutenant David Bernstein

of Phoenixville, Pa graduated fifth in the 2001 class at West Point. His assignment in Iraq was with 2nd Platoon, B Company, 1st Battalion (Airborne), 508th Infantry, of the 173rd Airborne Brigade, and he parachuted into combat to secure an airbase near Kirkuk. “Super Dave,” as he was called by the men whom he served with, led several missions and soon was selected to become the executive officer of C Company. On October 18, 2003, his convoy of three vehicles was coming back to its base when the base started taking enemy fire. The convoy went to find the enemy

that was shooting at the American base when they came under small arms fire. Bernstein’s Humvee lost control and went into an embankment, trapping the driver underneath. As he exited the vehicle, he was hit by a bullet in the upper thigh and after five attempts managed to climb on top of the Humvee. Bernstein was able to move the vehicle off the injured driver and pull him to safety. Bernstein collapsed at that point from a loss of blood. A medavac helicopter took him to a hospital, but it was too late. For his actions in saving the driver, David Bernstein was posthumously

awarded the Silver Star.

These heroes who died while in service are just a few who served bravely on the battlefield but didn’t make it home. Memorial Day is a time for remembrance to those who made the ultimate sacrifice and is a reminder that freedom isn’t free.

Avi Heiligman is a weekly contributor to The Jewish Home. He welcomes your comments and suggestions for future columns and can be reached at aviheiligman@gmail.com.

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Reach Your Target Market

Where you will go, I will go. Your home will be my home. Your meals will be my meals. Sound familiar?

We seem to make this very big deal that Rus said this to Naomi.

But the truth is that Rus sounds very much like every daughter or daughterin-law when it comes to this holiday. Young moms are exhausted and done. Camp packing is looming in the near distance, graduations are hovering overhead, homework and after-schools are still going strong, and Sunday teams and recitals are suddenly in full swing.

Who wouldn’t want to follow any adult who is willing to take them in, cook for them, and accommodate them by the time Shavuos rolls around?!

I guess the difference is that Rus could have opted to return to her original roots and experience five-star, Michelin cooking. Instead, she chose farm to table.

Wow!

Of course, that was quite impressive back then, because it meant she was, in fact, the farmer – not just the recipient. Today, there would be a meal out/a new chic restaurant concept.

Life C ach Worth Emulating

By Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., LMFT, CLC, SDS

Rus is an admirable character. She is the ultimate loyalist. A real team player. Completely devoted.

Is she too great a figure for woman to live up to – able to decide in a moment where she wanted to be and follow through?

Absolutely not!

learn from? Absolutely! She was willing to try new things. She believed in her ability to scale challenges. And she forged forward with faith in the future.

We can all learn from Rus.

Her manner, as well as her actions, seem worth emulating. Rus, it seems, communicated respectfully. Rus seemed

Not bad for opting to spend one Shavous with your mother-in-law!

So no matter where you are for the holiday, take a page out of the Rus story and be humble, respectful, a team player, and patient with others. Then you, too, may produce a little prince or princess. Though, I’d venture many might have already!

Rus seemed to be able to launch herself into the future rather than getting stuck in her past.

After all, she had no toddler pulling at her and wanting to run in the opposite direction. And she had no husband resisting change, declaring, “I like my own home.”

Still, does that make her actions less impressive?

As with everyone, she had her own challenges. Among others, she had no joy of the patter of little feet, and she had lost her husband.

So is she someone whom we can

to acknowledge the wisdom of her elders. Rus seemed to be able to launch herself into the future rather than getting stuck in her past.

Every day, we all face trying situations. It is helpful to look at our iconic figures and incorporate some of their coping qualities with the hopes of creating our own successes.

And did she ever thrive!

She produced our king and our savior. No small feat.

Because, as we know, sometimes, it just takes a few generations to see the fruits of our labor. David, after all, was not Rus’s son or even grandson. She had to wait for it. He was her great-grandson.

So, work on you. Do your best – and let G-d do the rest.

Have a fulfilling and meaningful Shavuos!

Rivki Rosenwald is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist working with both couples and individuals and is a certified relationship counselor. Rivki is a co-founder and creator of an effective Parent Management of Adolescent Years Program. She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or at rivkirosenwald@gmail.com.