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october 2018 Robin Johnson Bethke Jennifer Bryerton

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Dear Friends,


The perfect fall weather, leaf raking, soccer games, pumpkin picking and daytrips! We even made it to the Virginia Museum of Fine Arts recently. The

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last 10 minutes of the car ride was dedicated to expectations. How long we


anticipate spending, (which exhibits everyone wanted to see was already

negotiated because that can take much longer), basic museum rules, the plan


for snacks and, most importantly, a safety review. We discussed, “If you get lost where will we meet (by the coat check desk)? If you can’t find us, who do you ask for help (someone in a museum shirt)? And, who do ask if you can’t find an employee (a mom with children)?” This one always makes my husband and I smile. Years ago when our oldest son was a precocious 6-year-old, he trotted out some impressive critical thinking

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to tell that you are lost.” Fortunately, I bit my tongue and didn’t instantly correct

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him. Instead, I asked, “what do you mean.” He actually had a logical response.

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me, too.” I could only agree because, of course, I think my children are amazing. However, after some fast thinking of my own, I countered with, “Another parent would understand how sad Dad and I would be, and she’d want to help reunite our family.” He reluctantly accepted this, and fortunately, he’s never been put to the test to see if this bit of safety procedure would be followed. He is a critical thinker and also an independent one! I loved the article on page 40 and learning about the strategies our local teachers are using to help our students learn not just the “who” and “where” but also the “how” and “why” and “what ifs.” Teaching them to be problem solvers and critical thinkers are things that will stand them in good stead in both the classroom and throughout life. Our son knew I was usually right but still thought it through on his own. That is all that any mother could hope to teach her child. Happy Learning!


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October 2018

Contents TABLE OF



News 4

The Buzz Around Town 6  Would you allow your young daughter to wear “traditional” leggings as pants?

Snapshot 8

Kristina Berg, Child Life Specialist

Our Schools 10 School-Wide Morning Meetings

LIVING WELL New Mom 34 Registry Must-Haves


Tips & Trends 38 Fabulous Finds and Fun

Healthy Family 36 Sleep Needs by Age

Halloween Fun 24 Spooky Stories to Tricks & Treats Costume Winners & Craft 26 Readers’ Most SPOOK-TACULAR Costumes & A Festive DIY Craft

Helpful Tips for Parents & Their Toddlers

October Activities & Events

Pumpkin Picks 20 Fall Festivals & Pumpkin Patches

Local Teachers Share How They Foster Critical Thinking

The Tantrum Survival Guide 50

Out & About Calendar 12

Developing Sharp Minds 40


Editor’s Pick!

What better way to welcome fall then with festivals, pumpkin patches and a costume contest. You’ll also find our private school guide (pg 44), tips on fostering critical thinking skills (pg 40) and much more.

A Guide to Private Schools 44

The Inside Info on Area Schools

UNTIL NEXT TIME Vamps with School Spirit 58  A Dad’s Humorous Tales

38 So Love This! “I am really looking forward to seeing all of the adorable submissions from the Halloween Costume Contest and attending a few of the festive events.” — Christine, office administrator



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Blue Ridge Home Builders: Parade of Homes

Step UP for Down Syndrome 5K & Festival Acca Shrine Center October 6

Crozet Arts & Crafts Festival Claudius Crozet Park October 6 & 7

Foxfield Races Family Day

The Lion in Winter

Foxfield October 7

Four County Players October 12–15, 19–21 & 26–28

Monsters, Inc.

Boo Bash

Virginia Gold Cup

The Paramount Theater October 21

Virginia Discovery Museum October 26

The Plains October 27

October 6, 7, 13 & 14

AHS Students Work Together

Waldorf 6th Graders Start Apiary Program For sixth graders at the Charlottesville Waldorf School, their first session of beekeeping was a successful one. Waldorf Schools around the globe are bringing bees to their campuses to educate their students on a variety of factors. The multi-year project is under the direction of Diego Decorte, a teacher who is also the beekeeper of Elysium Bees and has over 30 years of experience in the art of beekeeping. Dana Pauly, a biodynamic gardens teacher, and Summer Anderson, a third-grade teacher, are working together to coordinate the classes and work of the bees on the campus. Currently, the middle schoolers are creating manuals as they learn with Decorte. The hope is that these will be what Decorte uses in the future to continue his work with schools. For the students, the goal is that they will accrue enough hours to receive a certificate for beekeeping when they are done.


October 2018

After a meeting with school officials at the conclusion of the 2017-2018 school year, Albemarle High School students tipped off the school year with presentations and workshops. The goal of the presentations is to help instill bonds amongst students and encourage a one-body mindset, an issue that students brought forth in last year’s school review. The school’s faculty plans on working with experts to identify other ways they can improve the student-body’s culture and discourage students feeling “separation” from each other.

Clark Elementary Welcomes Upgrades

CHS Student Selected as Bezos Scholar Charlottesville High School student Cole Fairchild began his “term” in the Bezos Scholars leadership development program at the Aspen Ideas Festival, where he was able to meet Girls Who Code Founder Reshma Saujani. Each year, rising high school seniors and their educators are selected to attend the festival before returning home to organize their own community change project of their choosing. Since his time in Aspen, Fairchild has carried over the skills and experiences he learned to his work with Matt Shields, his educator, and some fellow students. The group is working with the Charlottesville City School system to try and put together an annual event for elementary schools geared towards inspiring interest in STEM. The Bezos Family Foundation began its year-long program in 2005 and continues to support leadership development in students.

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Would you allow your young daughter to wear “traditional” leggings as pants?

87.5% say “yes”

12.5% say “no”

“If she paired the leggings with a long top, sure. We stress modesty for our kids. We also encourage self-expression. So, it’s a balance for both our kids and us since we don’t always agree on what is modest.” – Charlottesville Mom of five

“I’m so glad you asked. No! Leggings do have a place in fashion either specifically for exercise or as a thicker form of tights, but definitely not to be worn as pants. Please feel free to wear with dresses or a long shirt, this goes for adults, too!” – K. A. Ryan

“Yes. I want them to wear clothing that allows them to run, jump and play. Leggings allow all of that, so they are a staple part of their wardrobe. Their toddler brother wears them, too. Also, to be honest, I love wearing leggings. My husband is the only one legging-less in all of this!” – Emily “Absolutely, she can wear leggings. They are comfortable, and as long as they fit properly, I don’t see a problem. Tights, however, are not acceptable as pants!” – L Anderson, Charlottesville “I only allow my daughters to wear leggings as pants if they are wearing a dress.” – Dance Mom “Yes, however, the shirt has to be long enough to cover front and back lower region parts. If the shirt is above, no no no!” – Colleen S, Charlottesville “My daughter finds most pants too itchy, including some leggings. I will let her wear any pair of leggings, pants or shorts she finds comfortable. Modesty is always factored into the equation, as she’s also aware of its value.” – Maureen, Ivy

“My oldest came home from school one day only to relay that she heard some boys talking about a classmate of hers wearing leggings. Since then, she has only worn leggings when sporting a dress.” – Mom of three girls “I have seen at least a handful of young girls this summer wearing leggings that are nearly see-through. If parents want to allow their children to wear them, that’s fine. I do think, though, that parents need to monitor the types of ‘leggings’ their daughter is wearing more often.” – Grandmother of two young rambunctious boys “I could go either way on this, depending on how they are worn. If she is playing outside, lying around the house or going to a friend’s, I see no problem. However, if she is out in public, I prefer she wears jeans or skinny jeans.” – Dan, Dad of five “We allow our daughter to wear them, but only as ‘leggings’ not in place of pants. Her brother has even helped in the matter without prompting, telling her she should be her own person and not follow the lead of other girls.” – Gordonsville, Parents of three

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October 2018

Baby Reunion Celebrating Life It was an exciting event in September for all involved at the University of Virginia (UVA) Children’s Hospital baby reunion. The hospital invited all babies and families who beat the odds, or “graduated” from the neonatal intensive care unit at UVA, to reunite with nurses and doctors who worked with them during their stays. It was an opportunity to celebrate the kids and their victories, and for doctors and nurses to reconnect and support how much they’ve all grown.

Non-Profit Pairs UVA Students with Area Schools For Brandon Christ, Rise Together, a non-profit group-mentoring program, was the answer to his desire to mentor younger students in the area. The program pairs UVA students with students at Western Albemarle and Monticello high schools and then with younger students at Walton Middle School. Christ’s interest began back in North Caroline when he was a shy young boy receiving mentorship and guidance. That experience instilled a give-back mentality, one that led him and his mother training students at his high school to mentor elementary-age students after the local chapter of Big Brothers/Big Sisters in North Caroline lost funding. Christ, who is a fourth-year student at UVA studying youth and social innovation in UVA’s Curry School of Education, is pursuing an accelerated master’s in public policy in the Frank Batten School of Leadership and Public Policy. The program provides field work experience for Curry students. photo: Dan Addison, UVA

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SNAPshot written & photographed by Beth Seliga

Kristina Berg Child Life Specialist

For Kristina Berg, a trained Child Life Specialist (CLS) at the University of Virginia, its about helping children and their families cope with the stressors and challenges of hospitalization. For a CLS, her goal is to empower children to understand their obstacle and all that comes with it, whether it be a diagnosis, surgeries or procedures. Through “normalizing” the hospital environment with therapeutic activities and celebrating “normal” events, CLSs like Berg can make all the difference in a family’s stay. What are the best and most challenging parts about your job? Of the many parts of my job that I love, my favorite would have to be helping a child through a difficult or stressful procedure. Giving a child the control and power to accomplish something scary is the most rewarding part. We also have a supportive role with a child and their family during times of bereavement and loss. Helping families make positive memories during this time through legacy building and sibling support is certainly challenging. How do you balance all the different needs of your patients? Each day, I prioritize the needs based on several different factors: new diagnosis or admission, scheduled procedures, coping concerns or compliance issues, length of stay and family presence. We also have a wonderful support team that includes Child Life Assistants and pediatric bedside volunteers who are able to provide opportunities for play and socialization for those children who still need something fun to do to brighten their day! How have you grown and changed over the years? I have been working as a CLS for almost four years, with three of those years at UVA. The program here is very new, therefore our team is working hard to develop the program and educate staff and families about our role. I hope our program continues to grow in size so that we can better meet the needs of our patients.


October 2018

What advice do you have for parents and their young who aspire to help others through a career? Remember to take good care of yourself, too! Self-care is so important when working in a field where you are helping and giving to others every day. You can’t pour from an empty cup, so make sure you find things that make you happy outside of work. I always advocate for caregivers to be open and honest with their children. Whether it is a clinic appointment, upcoming surgery or new diagnosis, being prepared for what to expect is vital for the child’s long-term coping and trust between a child and caregivers. What routine or habit helps you keep on top of obligations? I keep a detailed calendar each month, where I place all of these obligations so that I never over-book or have too many things happening at once. What is your favorite time of the week with your family/friends? Saturdays are usually my favorite time of the week to spend with family and friends. It is a wonderful feeling to have that protected time where there are no obligations the following day. What is one thing your parents did well that you will try to incorporate into your parenting? My parents were always calm and collected during chaos, and this is something that I always try to incorporate into my care with patients. Children feed off of their parents and can read the mood of a room even at a young age, so I would encourage all caregivers to remember this even during hard and stressful times. Before switching to capturing the look of love and the inner beauty of her subjects, Beth was a sports photographer with her work appearing in Sports Illustrated, USA Today and Pro Cycling, among other publications. See her work at

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It is standing room only in the auditorium at Burnley-Moran Elementary School in Charlottesville. Parents line the back walls, all smiles, as they watch the BME Bobcats enthusiastically chanting the school’s cheer, “Everywhere we go-o! Everywhere we go-o! People want to know-o! People want to know-o!” Next, several students are recognized for their summer reading accomplishments, followed by the Message of the Day—a lesson about the importance of contributing to our community. Then, students surprise their new principal, Dr. Elizabeth Korab, with a robust rendition of Neil Diamond’s tune “Sweet Caroline” … “Dr. Korabbbb, bump, bump, bump. Good times never seem so good. So good! So good! So good!” Finally, everyone rises to their feet to dance and sing the Bobcat Boogie led by the school mascot, “Yes! We are the BurnleyMorannnnnn Bobcats!” ----------School-wide morning meetings like this one are just one way that schools across the city are fostering community and a sense of belonging among their students, staff and families. “These gatherings help us sustain a strong school culture and climate across all grade levels,” says Dr. Korab. By building tradition, school pride, and camaraderie, these meetings can not only set a positive tone for schools but also lead to far-reaching academic and socialemotional benefits for students.

In her book, In Our School: Building Community in Elementary Schools, author Karen Casta, EdD profiles a myriad of schools, both urban and rural, public and private, that credit community building activities such as morning meetings with transforming student performance, boosting school morale, and creating a more caring and respectful environment overall. For these reasons, other Charlottesville City Schools like Clark Elementary and Venable Elementary also hold school-wide meetings once a month. Venable Principal Erin Kershner and Assistant Principal Valeta Paige kicked off their first gathering of the year by performing a skit for the students about their hopes and dreams for their school. “We want our students to view everyone at school as their partner in learning and to be proud to identify as a Venable All-Star,” says Kershner. ----------As the school-wide morning meeting wraps up at Venable Elementary, students listen intently as the skit comes to a close. Kershner reaches in her backpack and pulls out a big heart while delivering her last line, “Most important of all, we want everyone to feel loved and to spread love. I love you, Ms. Paige.” With a big hug, Paige responds, “I love you, too, Ms. Kershner.”

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ANNOUNCEMENTS Heinz ProAV changed its name to Spectrum Integrators. St. Anne’s-Belfield’s Head of School David Lourie is now the president of the Virginia Association of Independent Schools’ Board of Directors. Digital Company, WillowTree Inc. will relocate and expand from its Charlottesville City location to Albemarle County’s former textile factory, Woolen Mills.

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SPORTS ZONE Area Schools Join State’s 1st 8-Man Football League After a successful and positive experience in playing eight-man football games last season, St. Anne’s-Belfield School was joined this season by The Covenant School and five other teams to form the Virginia Independent School Football League (VISFL). The season kicked off in late August with Charlottesville’s two schools, Covenant and St. Anne’s, going head to head. The two schools are joined by Hampton Roads Academy, Greenbrier Christian Academy, Kenston Forest, Brunswick Academy and, Virginia Episcopal School, with each making a twoyear commitment to the VISFL. The VISFL—Virginia’s first sanctioned eight-man league—plans to have a full playoff schedule at the conclusion of the season. The league has hopes to include more schools next season. This popular change better serves football programs with lower roster numbers. The only difference between this eight-man league and a typical 11-man game is the width of the football field. The VISFL, along with other eight-man leagues around the country, narrows the width of the field to 40 yards wide.

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FESTIVALS & FAIRS Pancake Breakfasts

Now–November, Weekends, 10am–12pm at Chiles Peach Orchard, Crozet All-you-can-eat pancakes with a fresh fruit topping, a side of sausage and OJ/milk/coffee. 434-823-1583,


Get outdoors! is offering 4th graders free passes to National parks!

State Fair of Virginia

September 28– October 7 at The Meadow Event Park, Doswell See Virginia’s finest animals and agriculture, exhibits and shows, music, arts and crafts, and more. 804-994-2800,

Green Valley Book Fair

September 29–October 23 at 2192 Green Valley Ln., Mt. Crawford Huge selection of children’s books at 60%–90% off retail prices on new, over-run or irregular books. 800-385-0099,

Freefall Music & Art Festival

Saturdays in October, 5–9pm at IX Art Park Freefall picks up where Fridays After Five ends but with a unique and funky vibe. See site for lineup.

12th Annual Step UP for Down Syndrome 5K & Family Festival


October 6, 9am–1pm at Acca Shrine Center, Richmond Enjoy free family activities, live music, a fashion show, pumpkin patch, exhibit displays and more. All proceeds benefit the Down Syndrome

Association of Greater Richmond. CharlottesvilleFamily is a proud sponsor! 804-447-4713,


October 6, 12–7pm at Frontier Culture Museum, Staunton Bring the whole family to enjoy games on the German farm, traditional food, live dancing and live music. 540-332-7850,

Fall Fiber Festival and Sheep Dog Trials

October 6 & 7, 10am–5pm Saturday, 10am– 4pm Sunday at James Madison’s Montpelier Enjoy animal exhibits, sheep dog trials, handson demonstrations, a fleece sale, fiber and craft vendors, and more.

Crozet Arts & Crafts Festival

October 6 & 7, 10am–5:30pm Saturday, 10am–5pm Sunday at Claudius Crozet Park Fun family event with live music, entertainment, children’s activities and painting classes, food, and artists and crafters showcasing their work. CharlottesvilleFamily is a proud sponsor! 434-326-8284,

Graves Mountain Apple Harvest Festival October 6–7, 13–14 & 20–21, 10am–4:30pm at Graves Mountain Lodge, Syria In celebration of 48 years, savor good food and homemade apple butter at this annual fest with bluegrass music, crafts fair, hay maze, hayrides and more. 540-923-4231,

The Foxfield Races Family Day

October 7, 10am–5pm at Foxfield In addition to the steeplechase races, there will be a jack russell terrier race, stick pony rides, face painting, and children and teen activities tents along with much more. CharlottesvilleFamily is a proud sponsor! 434-293-9501,

Cville Sabroso: Latin American Festival October 7, 12–8pm at IX Art Park A family-friendly day of music, dance, art and food. This event was postponed from September 15 due to inclement weather. 434-207-2355,

Imagine a Day Without Water Event

YOU CAN October 10, 11am–1pm HELP! at Charlottesville Downtown Mall Learn about Charlottesville & Albemarle County’s water supply and conservation, and enjoy giveaways, entertainment from 106.1 The Corner, activities and more.

15th Annual Pancake for Parkinson’s

October 13, 9am–2pm at UVA’s South Lawn Enjoy pancakes and entertainment on the Lawn. Donations will benefit the Michael YOU CAN J. Fox Foundation. HELP!

Fall Family Fun Festival

October 13, 11am–5pm at Horton Vineyards At this third annual festival, enjoy fun and delicious activities, from food trucks to carnival games. 540-832-7440,

Boats & Butterflies

October 20, 10am–3pm at Lewis & Clark Exploratory Center Make butterfly art and learn about natural history. See boats from FLOWtilla, and enjoy 10-minute rides on the Rivanna, weather permitting. Children’s activities, art and boats for all ages.

19th Annual Apple Harvest Celebration


October 7, 10am–5pm at Foxfield. See this page.


October 2018

October 20, 10am–5pm at Showalters Orchard and Greenhouse, Timberville Enjoy a large variety of already-picked apples, PYO apples, Virginia-made items, food trucks, craft vendors, live music, Old Hill cider tastings, children’s activities and more.

Blue Ridge Folklife Festival

October 27 at Ferris College, Ferrum Virginia’s largest celebration of authentic regional traditions with musical performances and storytelling, workshops, artisans, folk games and more. 540-365-4412,



1582 KENDRA STREET • $975,000 Set on a spectacular 1 acre elevated lot with mountain and city light views, this home offers an open floor plan, first floor master suite, gourmet kitchen, multi-level outdoor living, home office, home gym and 3-car garage. Close to UVA and Downtown. Shannon Thomas (434) 882-1761. MLS# 580963

707 NORTHWOOD AVENUE • $1,200,000 Meticulously renovated home just a short stroll to Downtown. Updated kitchen includes marble island, local soapstone counters, high-end appliances & custom cabinets. New master bath with marble top double vanity & tile/glass walk-in shower. Finished basement. Lisa Lyons (434) 987-1767. MLS# 580896

5th Annual Oktoberfest

October 27, 11am–4pm at Lewis Ginter Botanical Garden, Richmond Celebrate fall, nature’s grand finale, with OktoberFest at Lewis Ginter Botanical Garden—a day filled with live music, games and prizes, all included in Garden admission. 804-262-9887,



Crozet Farmers Market

Now–October 13, Saturdays, 8am–12pm at Crozet United Methodist parking lot 434-823-1092

City Market

Now–October, Saturdays, 7am–12pm at Second and Water Street parking lots

Forest Lakes Farmers Market

Now–October, Tuesdays, 4–7pm at Forest Lakes South 434-531-2733,

Farmers in the Park

Now–October, Wednesdays, 3–7pm at Meade Park 434-970-3371,

2430 RIVER RIDGE ROAD • $1,695,000

Built in 1999, this light-filled custom home on 14 private acres provides a thoughtfully designed floorplan of 6,200 sq ft. Updates include a great room with 12 ft ceilings, gourmet kitchen with top-of-theline appliances, 2 master suites, a finished basement with full bath, sauna, and a delightful screened in porch, 3-car garage. Neighborhood and country living meld at this tranquil property in the Meriwether Lewis school district and less than 10 mins from town. Liz Raney (434) 242-3889. MLS# 581059



265 CAMPBELL ROAD • $1,245,000 Gorgeous 4,800 sq ft farmhouse offers stunning kitchen w/ quartz counters & top-of-the-line stainless appliances. Open concept first floor features soaring ceilings, light-filled rooms & hardwood floors. Only 20 mins to town! Harmony Thurston (434) 9960006 or Erin Garcia (434) 981-7245. MLS# 581016

2210 CAMARGO DRIVE • $1,250,000 With exceptional curb appeal in the Meriwether Lewis district, this stone & hardiplank residence built in 2007 by Jacque Homes offers a 1st floor master, open casual living spaces, covered porch, roughedin kitchen, screening & wine tasting rooms on the lower level & 2 bluestone rear patios. MLS# 580821

Scottsville Community Farmers Market Now–November 3, Saturdays, 8am–12pm at Scottsville Pavilion 434-286-9267,

Martha’s Market 2018 YOU CAN HELP!

October 5–7 at John Paul Jones Arena Shop 80 unique boutiques. Be among the first to shop and enjoy hors d’oeuvres and live music during the 25th Anniversary Preview Gala on October 4. Fifteen percent of every dollar spent at Martha’s Market supports women’s healthcare at Sentara Martha Jefferson Hospital. Ivy Publications is a proud sponsor!

Barracks Road Annual Sidewalk Sale YOU CAN HELP!

October 18–21 at Barracks Road Shopping Center Shop sales in support of the CharlottesvilleAlbemarle SPCA.


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{our town calendar} Rain, snow, or shine! Sunday, December 2 11:00 AM Start Downtown Mall Course: 1 mile

Be a Claus for a Cause! Put a team together or fund-raise individually and run/walk a mile as Santa to help The Arc of the Piedmont provide and serve people with intellectual and developmental disabilities. All proceeds from this event go to support the programs and services The Arc of the Piedmont provides for people in Charlottesville and the surrounding community living with intellectual and developmental disabilities. Thank you for supporting our mission! Event Day Registrants will receive their costumes (Santa suit for adults and elf ears for children). Please arrive to the check-in location at the Sprint Pavilion on the Downtown Mall between 9:30 and 10:30 a.m. to receive your costume and turn in any donations if Awards will be presented necessary. No paper tickets are necessary.

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STAGE & SCREEN Books on the Big Screen

Now–December 1, First Saturdays, 2:30pm at Northside Library Relax with an afternoon movie and snack. Bring a blanket and a pillow to sit on. In October, watch Goosebumps; in November, How to Train Your Dragon; and in December, Matilda. 434-973-7893,


October 3, 7pm at The Wayne Theatre, Waynesboro An America’s Got Talent finalist, Catapult features incredible dancers who work behind a screen to create shadow silhouettes of shapes. 540-943-9999,

Cville JR. Idol 2018

October 5, 7pm at Venable Elementary School This year’s theme is the Greatest Showman.


October 5–27 at Live Arts Theater Enjoy this musical based on E.L. Doctorow’s novel. 434-977-4177,

WWE Live!

October 14, 7pm at John Paul Jones Arena Come see WWE Superstars live. 888-575-8497,

Sugar Skull-Mexico Beyond Mariachi


October 20

Age-appropriate tours with hands-on art activities. 434.243.2050

October 25, 7pm at The Wayne Theatre, Waynesboro Sugar Skull is a colorful, musical family adventure that celebrates the rich traditions of Dia de los Muertos, and the vibrant heart of Mexican culture. 540-943-999,

LEARNING FUN Barn & Farm History Days

Now–November 15, Weekend Afternoons, 2–4pm at Ivy Creek Natural Area Enjoy displays, including an observing beehive and farm equipment, at the barn at Ivy Creek Natural Area, formerly the showpiece of River View Farm. 434-973-7772,

Girls’ Geek Days

October 13, TBA at Crozet Elementary School Girls learn new tech skills and connect to other STEM programs in the community. Open to all ages, girls in third grade or younger should plan to bring a guardian, too. Registration required and space is limited.


October 2018

Interactive Archaeology Dig for Kids

October 20, 10am–2:30pm at Monticello Archaeologists-in-training will dig in a mock excavation where they will learn proper field techniques, including digging, screening and identifying artifacts.

Creation Station

October 26 & November 30, 3:30–4:30pm at Gordon Avenue Library Create with UVA Madison House volunteers with a different project each week to explore. STEAM ahead with hands-on fun. For all ages. 434-296-5544,

Let’s Go Cook Chocolate

October 27, 9:30–11:30am at Monticello Take a delicious journey back in time and around the globe to discover the story of chocolate. Grind cacao beans and make historic recipes enjoyed in Thomas Jefferson’s time. For young cooks (ages 5 and up) and their favorite grown-ups. 434-984-9800,

Dig It! Montpelier Archaeology Tour

October 27, 1–2pm at James Madison’s Montpelier Tour highlights the many components of the archaeological discovery process. See sites that have been located by the archaeology department, and explore the ongoing excavations.

STORYTIMES AND GAMES Blank & the Three Bears

October 1, 10am–5pm at Central Library Bring your stuffed animals and help them join in this favorite fairytale. Measure and find your favorite spots at this drop-in STEM program for all ages. 434-979-7151,

Donuts with Dad

October 6, 10:30am at Central Library Donuts, coffee and juice will be served along with storytime fun. For dads, grandads, uncles or buddies (and, of course, moms). 434-979-7151,

Paws to Read

October 6, 1–2pm at Crozet Library Improve your reading skills and make a new friend by reading aloud to Abby or Lucy, a registered therapy animal. Registration required. 434-823-4050,

Read-Aloud Crowd

October 11, 3:30–4:15pm at Gordon Avenue Library Enjoy a story and share some fun. Grades K–2. Registration required. 434-296-5544,

Sensory Storytime

October 12, 10:30–11:30am at Gordon Avenue Library An inclusive program for preschool children who may be on the autism spectrum, have sensory processing issues, or feel overwhelmed by noises or crowds. Ages 3–4. Registration is required. 434-296-5544,

Yak & Snack

October 13, 2:30–4pm at Crozet Library Talk about “Lowriders in Space” by Cathy Camper. Free copy of the book included on first-come, first-served basis. Snacks are served at each meeting. Grades 5–8. Registration required. 434-823-4050

PJ Pals: A Stuffed Animal Sleepover

October 15, 7–7:30pm at Gordon Avenue Library Bring a stuffed pal for a special evening storytime and let your friend spend the night at the library. What will all the stuffed friends do during the night? Find out when you pick them up the next day. 434-296-5544,

Be the Book Trilogy

October 16, 23 & 30, 4–5pm at Central Library Join this workshop to learn acting exercises, expand your imagination and help bring some books to life. 434-979-7151,


WHOLE FAMILY • Family-Friendly Screenings including Disney/Pixar’s Coco •  Musical instrument Petting Zoo with the Charlottesville Symphony •  Interactive Arts Festival •  Hands-on Drop-in Arts Activities •  Free and Convenient Parking

And the best part… it’s all free and open to the public! SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 3, 2018 ON THE UVA ARTS GROUNDS

9:00AM to 2:00PM


*Located on Culbreth Rd between Rugby Rd and University Ave



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Now–December 6, First Thursdays, 4–5pm at Northside Library Bring your creativity and natural engineering ability; building blocks will be supplied. No registration required, but space is limited. Ages 5–12. 434-973-7893,

Annual “Imagine a Day Without Water” School Art Contest


Now–October 15, Submissions mailed to or dropped off at Department of Public Works Open to all city of Charlottesville and Albemarle County public, private and home schoolers grades 1–8. Any medium may be used. Winners selected from each grade division, and will be recognized at special ceremonies and have their work displayed. Rules and restrictions apply. 434-970-3877,

Tech Encounters for Curious Kids

October 4, 4–5pm at Central Library Use engineering and creativity to fold a paper flextangle fidget toy or jumping frog. Registration recommended. 434-979-7151,

TinkerCAD Workshop

October 15, 6:30–7:30pm at Northside Library A workshop on TinkerCAD, a free and easy-touse CAD program where you’ll be designing festive pumpkins. Registration required. Ages 10–18. 434-973-7893,


Intro to Calligraphy Workshop

October 16, 6–8pm at Crozet Library Explore the art of modern calligraphy with this workshop by Michelle Streeter of Ma Belle Calligraphy. All materials provided. Grades 6–12. Registration required. 434-823-4050,

Family Art Jams

October 20 at The Fralin Museum of Art at UVA Age-appropriate tours with hands-on art activities. 434-243-2050,

SPORTS & OUTDOORS Rides on the Gypsy Express

ALL SHOWS ON SALE NOW TICKETS:, Downtown Visitor Center, 877-CPAV-TIX


October 2018

Now–October 28, 1–5pm at Gypsy Hill Park, Staunton A short, fun ride around a scenic area of Staunton’s Gypsy Hill Park. Enjoy the nearby trails, duck pond and multiple playgrounds, too. 540-332-3800,

9th Annual Crozet Trails Crew 5K


HELP! October 6, 8am–12pm at Claudius Crozet Park Run, walk or jog through woods, grassy fields, along streams and over bridges. The Kids Fun Run at 8am, adult race beginning at 8:30am and award ceremony at 9:30am. Registration includes admission to the Crozet Arts and Crafts Festival.

13th Annual Clark Buzz-by-Belmont 5K October 6, 8am–12pm at Clark Elementary School Join this family-friendly run/walk through the Belmont neighborhood. There will also be a free Kids Dash for elementary students (pre-K to 4th grade) on the Clark Elementary Field. 434-249-1951,


Guided Property Walk at Montpelier

October 6, 9am–11am at James Madison’s Montpelier An interpreter-led, two-hour trail walk on the 3.55-mile Montpelier Loop Trail. Learn about Madison’s role as an early environmentalist, managing Montpelier today, tree identification, the duPonts and more. 540-672-2728,

Family Dance Party

October 11, 5:30–7pm at Central Library Put on your dancing shoes and join the fun. Pizza and drinks will be available. 434-979-7151,

Fan Mountain Observatory Public Night October 12, 7–11pm at Fan Mountain Observing Station, Covesville Open to the public only twice a year, the Fan Mountain Observing Station offers free public observing nights. Tickets must be requested in advance and are fulfilled on a first-come, firstserve basis. 434-243-1885,

Fall Foliage 5K & 10K Walk/Race

October 13, 8am Kids Fun Dash, 8:15am 5K & 10K at Constitution Park, Waynesboro The race includes a race day t-shirt, fully stocked aid stations, and a post race party with food and drink. 540-942-6735,

Walk to End Alzheimer’s

October 20, 9am–12pm at IX Art Park Held annually in more than 600 communities nationwide, the Alzheimer’s Association Walk to End Alzheimer’s is the world’s largest event to raise awareness and funds for Alzheimer’s care, support and research. 434-260-7718,

Community Bridges 5K Run/Walk



HELP! October 20, 9am at McCormick Road A special 5K run/walk in honor of Jim Ryan’s inauguration as UVA’s new president will raise money for service organizations and nonprofits in Charlottesville.

4th Annual Uncorked Trail 5K

October 27, 9am–12pm at Early Mountain Vineyards Celebrate Halloween with a run through the vineyards. There will be live music, a post-race awards ceremony and food for purchase from a local food truck. Costumes are optional, but encouraged. Walker, goblin and ghost-friendly.

ESPECIALLY FOR TEENS Invitation to Weaving

October 6–December 1, First Saturdays, 11am–12pm at Central Library Explore the work of weaving with local artist Andrea Korotky through hands-on demonstrations. Space is limited, so please sign up for the workshop you choose two weeks in advance. Ages 16+. 434-979-7151,

Maker Mondays

October 22 & November 19, 6–8pm at Northside Library Drop by the library’s Teen Desk to work on a craft at your own pace, or take home supplies to finish your masterpiece later. Limited supplies; Ages 11–18. On October 22, sushi pompoms, and on November 19, finger knitting/crocheting. 434-973-7893,

OCT 6 & 7




Just as You Are Homecoming Social

October 11, 7:15–8:45pm at Central Library Join LGBTQ+ teens and allies for an evening of food, dancing, games and much more. Costumes encouraged. 434-979-7151,

Youth Fall Kickoff Event

October 13, 5–8pm at Hillsboro Baptist Church, Crozet A free youth event to kickoff the fall for youth in 6th–12th grade. The event will include a jousting arena, a log slammer, bonfire, food and other games. 540-256-1360,

Teen Book-to-Film Club

October 16, 6–7pm at Central Library Discuss “The Hate U Give” by Angie Thomas in anticipation of the forthcoming movie release with refreshments provided. Geared toward more mature readers. Registration required. 434-979-7151,

ESPECIALLY FOR PARENTS Sibling Class at UVA Hospital

October 6, 10am–11am at UVA Hospital A one-session class for children ages 2–10 who are expecting a new sibling. Interactive play teaches about life with a new baby in the home. A tour of a hospital room is included. 434-924-9920,


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Now–December 6, First Thursdays, 4–5pm at Northside Library. See page 16.

BRHBA Parade of Homes

October 6, 7, 13 & 14, 12–5pm Visit area homes to see the latest in building innovations. Ivy Publications is a proud sponsor! 434-973-8652,

College Financial Aid Workshop with PVCC

October 18, 6:30–7:30pm at Northside Library Filing for FAFSA, but unsure where to start? Come for a brief overview followed by one-onone help. Register by phone or email. 434-973-7893,

OPEN HOUSES Discover Fork Union Columbus Day Event

October 8 at Fork Union Military Academy 434-842-4205,

Open House

October 13, 10am–2pm at the Village School 434-984-4404,

DATE NIGHT Turnpike Troubadours

October 5, 7pm at the Sprint Pavilion Enjoy seeing this country music group live. 877-272-8849,

Fall Classic Half Marathon & 10K

October 7, 7am start time for both races at Sprint Pavilion, Downtown Mall Experience Charlottesville in its fall glory. One of the most scenic courses in the east, trailing through some of the most historic Charlottesville neighborhoods and along the Rivanna River. 434-218-0402,

Murder Mystery Wine Train

October 13, 5:30pm departure at Durbin & Greenbrier Valley Railroad Go on a rail adventure to help figure out whodunit. While the mystery unfolds, you’ll enjoy appetizers and wine tastings. 877-686-7245,

2018 Fall Concert Peabody School Fall Open House

October 17, 9am–1:30pm at Peabody School Reservations are required. Adults only. 434-296-6901,

October 14, 3:30pm at PVCC Dickinson Auditorium Enjoy the Charlottesville Municipal Band’s 96th season. 434-295-9850,

The Covenant School Open House

Bob Nocek Presents: Black Violin

October 18, 8:30–11am at The Covenant School For grades pre-K–5th. RSVP required. 434-220-7330,

Admissions Info Session

October 23, 9am at Tandem Friends School 434-951-9314,


October 2018

October 23, 8pm at The Paramount Theater See classically-trained violist and violinist Wil B. And Kev Marcus, who combine their classical training and hip-hop influences to create a distinctive multi-genre sound. 434-979-1333,

Keith Urban

October 28, 7:30pm at John Paul Jones Arena Keith Urban performs with special guest Kelsea Ballerini. 434-243-4960,

Castle Hill Cider, a place to celebrate.


Come visit. Drink our award-winning ciders. Wander the gorgeous grounds. We trust you’ll enjoy our rich history, and perhaps even create some of your own. We have daily tasting hours of 11-5, and host special events like weddings, corporate parties, and small gatherings —all sure to create beautiful memories. 434.296.0047 • • 6065 Turkey Sag Road, Keswick

Quality Course Conditions 5 Minutes from Downtown

Affordable Rates: WEEKENDS $48 w/cart 18 holes

WEEKDAYS $43 w/cart 18 holes

PGA PROFESSIONAL AVAILABLE FOR GROUP AND PRIVATE INSTRUCTION Rent the Meadowcreek Grill space for your next event.

1400 Pen Park Road (434) 977-0615

Saturday, Dec. 1, 2018 10am–4pm

120 Waldorf School Rd. across from Pen Park

Gift formaking adults  children

Free admission & parking park-n-ride shuttle service from the Charlottesville Catholic School

jump-rope making • leather stamping • candle-dipping • puppet show • children's secret garden • raffle • Rudolf's Diner • local artisans • handmade gifts

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Friday, Nov. 30, 2018 6–9pm


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Fall Festival Weekends

Now–October 28, 10am–5pm Saturday, 12–5pm Sunday at Hartland Farm & Orchard, Markham Get lost in the corn maze, take a hayride, ride down the 60-foot-tall slide mountain, visit farm animals, enjoy pumpkin bowling and more. 540-533-6901,


Now–October 28 at The Market at Grelen Every Saturday and Sunday in October, enjoy free hayrides to the Apple Orchard and Pumpkin Patch. 540-672-7268,

Hess Corn Maze & Family Fun

Now–October 31 at Back Home on the Farm Corn maze, farm animals, pick your own pumpkins, pig races, carousel rides and more. 540-442-6493,

Come Play in the Hay! Greenfield Fall Festival 2018 Greenfield is a great educational activity for people of all ages. Take home a pumpkin, enjoy hayrides, farm animals and try the giant slide! And of course play in the 5 acre corn maze. There is also a play area for toddlers.

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Pumpkin Patch at Milmont Greenhouses Now–October at Milmont Greenhouses, Stuarts Draft Pick the perfect pumpkin from the patch. 540-943-8404,

Belvedere’s Fall Harvest Festival

Now–November 3, Weekends at Belvedere Plantation Pick pumpkins from the patch or select prepicked. Enjoy the corn maze, wagon rides, ziplines, straw jump, pumpkin cannon and more. 540-373-4478,

Dairy Road (Rt 633)

2 miles north of Ruckersville off Rt 29

(434) 985-7653 •

Open to the public - weekends from September 29 - October 31, Sat 10-5, Sun 1-5 Groups of 15 or More Welcome Anytime! Please call for an appointment during the week.

Liberty Mills Farm Corn Maze

Now–November 10 at Liberty Mills Farm, Somerset Explore Central VA’s largest corn maze (over 33 acres) and enjoy maze puzzles, hay rides (when operating) and more. Flashlight maze: 6–10pm. You-Pick Pumpkin Patch opens September 29. 434-882-6293,

Pick Your Own Pumpkins Now–November at Chiles Peach Orchard Pick your own pumpkins or buy them in the market. Ready-picked pumpkins also available at Carter Mountain Orchard. 434-823-1583,

27th Annual Pumpkin Festival

September 28–October 28, 4–8pm Fridays, 10am–5pm Saturdays, 12–5pm Sundays at Sinkland Farms, Christiansburg Music, food, hayrides to the pumpkin patch, a corn maze, a kids’ zone, ride-a-rescue horse and more. 540-382-4647,

Fall Pumpkin Festival $12.50 Admission Includes: •Hay Ride to Pumpkin Patch •200 ft. Zip Line •100 ft. Super Slide •Hay Bale Maze and Pyramid •Corn Maze • Farm Animals •Moon Bounces •Tire Swing Playground Also Available: (not included in $12.50 admission) •Off-Road Adventure Rides •Pumpkins • Face Painting •Pony Rides • Barrel Train •Pumpkin Blaster •Mechanical Bull

OCTOBER 6TH - 31ST 3:30–6pm weekdays 10am–5pm weekends

Enjoy the Fun on a 700 acre working farm! Take a Hay Ride to the Patch and Pick your own Pumpkins!

Fun at Creative Works Farm

September 29–October 28, 10am–5pm Saturdays, 12–5pm Sundays at Creative Works Farm, Waynesboro Find your way through the 5.5-acre maze then enjoy games before you buy your pumpkin. All proceeds benefit Camp LIGHT.

In Beautiful Orange County

ROund-HiLL-FARM.COM 540-308-8245


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Greenfield Fall Festival

September 29–October 31, 10am–5pm Saturdays, 1–5pm Sundays at Greenfield Farm Pumpkins, hayrides, farm animals, toddler play area, giant slide and corn maze. 434-985-7653,

Layz S Ranch Pumpkin Patch & Activities

September 29, October 6, 13, 20 & 27 at Layz S Ranch Enjoy fall family fun with hay rides, corn maze, corn pit and slide, hay maze, giant slides and the pumpkin patch. 434-591-0898,

Apple Butter Makin’ Festivals

The Golden Kernel

October 6 & 20 | 10am - 4:30pm

Saturdays in October at 1752 Weyers Cave Rd, Grottoes Enjoy free hayrides to the pumpkin patch with over 26 acres of pumpkins, squash and gourds, weather permitting. 540-249-4813, facebook. com/The-Golden-Kernel-119153671460831

Featuring: fresh apples for selection, homemade apple butter, live music, food vendors, children’s activities, crafters, pick your own pumpkins, corn maze

Pumpkin Patch October 1 - 31

Sarah’s Pumpkin Patch

Pink Lady Day October 27

Retail Store Hours: Monday to Saturday 10am - 4:30pm & Sunday 1pm - 5pm

5529 crabtree falls hwy, tyro, virginia | $.60/lb and/or no pumpkin more than $10!


Pumpkin Patch

Pick Your Own!

Saturdays & Sundays in October Saturday 10am - 5pm | Sunday 12noon - 5pm

Along with the pumpkin patch: Free Admission & Free Parking!

• Hay Rides • Hay Maze • Corn Hole • Ladder Golf • Corn Box • Pick Your Own Flowers

146 Caves Ford Lane, Orange

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October 2018

Weekends in October, 10am–5pm Saturdays, 12–5pm Sundays at 146 Caves Ford Lane, Orange Pick your own pumpkins and enjoy family fun including hay rides, ladder golf, a corn maze and more. 540-308-8267,

Pumpkin Patch

October 1–31 at Silver Creek & Seamans’ Orchards, Tyro Pick your own pumpkin or buy a pre-picked one. 434-277-5824,

Apple Butter Makin’ Festival

October 6 & 20, 10am–4:30pm at Silver Creek & Seamans’ Orchards Watch apple butter being made the oldfashioned way. Enjoy live music while kids pick pumpkins, play games, explore the corn maze and more. 434-277-5824,

Pumpkin Patch & Corn Maze

October 6–28, Saturdays & Sundays at Chisholm Vineyards Enjoy live music from 2–5pm, food trucks and family fun on a real working farm. 434-971-8796,

Fall Pumpkin Festival

October 6–31, 3:30–6pm weekdays, 10am–5pm weekends at Round Hill Farm Admission includes a hayride to the pumpkin patch, a 200-foot zip line, a hay-bale maze, corn maze, 100-foot super slide, moon bounces and more. 540-308-8245,

Apple Festival at Drumheller’s

October 19–21, 9am–5pm at Drumheller’s Orchard Apple festival with food vendors, crafters, hayrides, an apple sling shot, a corn maze, apples, fresh cider, pumpkins, inflatables and more. 434-263-5036,

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Quiz Question: Can you figure out the actual day of Poe’s birthday?

Edgar Allan Poe MUSEUM

Only an hour to an hour and a half drive away, teens can explore the Edgar Allan Poe Museum in Richmond. Housed in part in the oldest surviving building in Richmond, the Old Stone House dating from 1737, the Museum offers a glimpse into early nineteenth century Richmond, where the city’s most-loved literary son lived and worked on the Southern Literary Messenger. The Museum houses a nice collection of pictures, first editions, and artifacts that document his life and accomplishments. A peculiar feature of the house is the insignia “IR” which is theoried to stand for “Jacobus Rex” meaning “King James,” as the house was built during the reign of James the II. In addition to the Old Stone House, the Enchanted Garden was designed to portray the feel of Poe’s poem “To One in Paradise.”

Fun Fact: When Poe was buried in 1849, his grave was left unmarked. It took approximately 10 years for anyone to figure out that Poe’s burial place was being neglected.

1,000 1st PlaPclaece: $: $500 2nd

Open to all ages! Charlottesville Gas invites you to sing along with Flicker! Perform your musical talents by submitting a video of Flicker’s jingle. Anyone can participate in the fun! Tune your instruments, warm your vocal chords, and gather your friends and family. The top winner will receive a $1,000 prize! For over 10 years Flicker has lead the way in gas safety education, and he wants you to help spread the gas safety message in your community!

For full list of contest rules, visit:

A fun fact is that in honor of Poe’s affection for cats, the museum cares for two delightful black felines named Edgar and Pluto. Can you figure out where they got the name Pluto? When they were just kittens, museum staff discovered them in the garden and decided it was only fitting to allow them to reside there. In the spirit of Halloween, the museum will be hosting a pumpkin patch on October 27 in the Enchanted Garden, where kids can get their faces painted, enjoy pumpkin decorating, create their own raven puppet and visit with Edgar and Pluto. For more information, visit Tickets range from $6–$8.

How to Participate • Follow the link at • Submit a video showcasing your unique Flicker jingle. • Entries must be between 30 and 90 seconds long, and include the “Flicker the Flame” melody and lyrics. • Sheet music, lyrics, and an mp3 will be available to download. • Participants are encouraged to be creative as long as the jingle is recognizable. No lip-syncing is allowed. • Only one entry per person, and per email address.


Oct 1st to Oct 28th The winner will be selected by online voting from the top 10 entries.

Voting PERIOD:

Nov 7TH to Nov 25TH The winning video submission will be announced on-air at CBS 19.


Happy Halloween Places for having a wicked-awesome time!


Saturdays in October, 9am–5pm at Henley’s Orchard, Crozet Hay rides, cider making, live music, food trucks, apple cider donuts, baked goods, the miniature pony and her carriage, and more. A costume contest will occur on the final Saturday. 434-823-7848,

Haunted Camp Weekends

October 5–28, Fridays, Saturdays & Sundays at Misty Mountain Camp Resort Enjoy activities including trick or treating, costume contests, pumpkin carving and more. 888-647-8900,

Escape from Frankenstein’s Lab

October 20, 3–6pm at Aldersgate United Methodist Church All children are invited to dress up and trick-ortreat from trunk to trunk. There will be food, refreshments, crafts, games, a petting zoo and more. Children must be accompanied by an adult. Adults are asked to not wear masks. 434-973-5806, events/257394898419609

Masquerade Ball

October 20, 6–8pm at Carver Recreation Center Dress in your favorite costume and enjoy an evening out with your family. Youth under the age of 17 must have a chaperone. There will be refreshments, music, dancing and a photo booth. 434-970-3269,

October 17, 6:30–8:30pm at Gordon Avenue Library Try to puzzle your way out of Frankenstein’s Lab escape room or become a monster yourself. Individuals and groups can sign up for halfhour time slots (max of 5 people). Ages 12+. Registration required. 434-296-5544,

Ghostbusters [PG]

After Hours Movie: Goosebumps [PG]

Make a Mask

October 19, 6–7:45pm at Crozet Library Bring the family to see this fun movie based on RL Stine’s book series. 434-823-4050,

Boo at the Zoo

October 19–21, 5:30–8:30pm at National Zoo, Washington DC With more than 40 treat stations, animal demonstrations, decorated trails and opportunities to learn about some seriously spooky animals, this frightfully fun evening is a magical time for the whole family. 202-6334888,

Escape Room Redux

October 20, 10:15am–4:30pm at Northside Library The Hogwarts-themed escape room accommodates up to four participants at a time and takes 30 minutes. Ages 11 to adult. Required registration. 434-973-7893,


Trunk or Treat

October 2018

October 20, 7pm at The Paramount Theater Come out to see the classic original film. 434-979-1333,

October 20 & 26, 10:30–11:30am at Crozet Library Create a fantastical mask and listen to a few stories to get ready for Halloween. Ages 3–7 and an accompanying adult. Registration required. 434-823-4050,

Monsters, Inc. [G]

Boo Bash

October 26, 5:30–8pm at the Virginia Discovery Museum Enjoy carnival games, the Little Shop of Prizes, mad scientists, the Witches Cabin, cookie decorating and face painting. Recommended for ages 2–8. Ivy Publications is a proud sponsor! 434-977-1025,

Fright Night: A Grimm Escape Room

October 26, 6:30–8:30pm at Crozet Library Break free from a Grimm fairytales-themed escape room and experience the creep factor of a library after-hours. Costumes for a contest encouraged. Snacks provided. Register in advance. Grades 7–12. 434-823-4050,

Stony Point Ruritan Annual Haunted Boo House

October 26–27, 6–10pm at Stony Point Ruritan Club Fun evening with concessions, conversations and firepit. 434-973-7026

Harvest Fest

October 26–28 at Wintergreen Resort Celebrate the bounty of the season with a Halloween twist. Pumpkin carving, cookie decorating, fun around the campfire, movies and more. A spooktacular fun time for the whole family. 434-325-8180,

Downtown Safe Halloween Festival

October 21, 2pm at The Paramount Theater See the Disney-Pixar hit with the family. Ivy Publications is a proud sponsor! 434-979-1333,

October 27, 2–4:30pm at Sprint Pavilion Costume contests, games, entertainment and safe trick-or-treating on the Downtown Mall. Games and events until 4pm followed by trick or treating until 4:30pm. 434-970-3260,

Inedible Jewelry: Halloween

An Evening With Ghosts

October 24, 6–8pm at Central Library Miniatures artist Jessica Partain will cover basic techniques in working with polymer clay to turn food items into earrings or necklaces. At this session, you’ll bake up sugar cookie ghosts and candy corn. Ages 12+. Registration required. 434-979-7151,

October 27, 5:30–9pm at Grayhaven Winery, Gum Spring Tales of history, mystery and hauntings by Grayhaven’s winemaker Chuck Peple, also known for his work as a Civil War historian. For those who return from the forest, a roaring bonfire and hearty stew awaits. 804-556-3917,

After Hours: Library Haunted House

October 27, 6–8pm at Central Library Get a little spooked at the haunted house. Free comics will be handed out as well. The haunted house is for ages 5+ with supervision required for kids under 10. 434-979-7151,

A Haunting Halloween

October 27, 6–9pm at Pleasant Grove Park (Pole Barn) A free event for toddlers–12-year-olds.

Goblins and Gourds

October 28, 10am–4pm at Lewis Ginter Botanical Garden, Richmond Fun for the whole family. Goblins and Gourds is a harvest celebration featuring live music from the Richmond Indigenous Gourd Orchestra, pumpkinpainting and good green fun in the Children’s Garden. 804-262-9887,

Halloween on The Lawn

October 31, 4–6pm at The Lawn/Rotunda A long-standing tradition on the historic UVA Lawn. College students hand out goodies and parents don’t have to worry about zooming cars. Stop by Edgar Allan Poe’s room and say hello to the resident raven. 434-924-3736,

What do goblins and ghosts drink when they are thirsty?


Downtown Halloween Trick or Treat Extravaganza

October 31, 4–6pm at West Main Street, Orange An evening full of Halloween festivities for all ages. Main Street is closed off allowing safe entertainment. The event includes a Child Safety Fair, barrel train rides, and St. Thomas’ annual Free Book Fair in Taylor Park, where church members dress in costume and distribute free books to the children. 540-672-2540,


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CONTEST You submitted, and you voted for your favorite Halloween costume on Facebook based on the best photo overall: most creative, original and fun (not necessarily the most adorable, since ALL of our children are adorable)! Go to Facebook to check out even more. We hope you share your child’s photos this Halloween on our CharlottesvilleFamily Facebook page!

Thanks again for participating, and a huge thanks to Bumble’s fabulous sponsors:

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4th runnerup Turn the page for more costumed cuties from all around Charlottesville!



{halloween costume contest} Tips to Keep Kids Safe for a Spook-tacular Halloween For decades, parents have shared their advice about ways they keep their children safe every Halloween. One risk to children on Halloween, or any time of the year, is child

• If walking on roads, walk facing the oncoming traffic. Where possible, stay off the road completely. • When crossing streets, use crosswalks if

predators, though studies have shown the

possible, and look both ways twice. If at a

incidence doesn’t increase on Halloween.

stop sign or light, make sure traffic comes

Still, parents should take precautions and educate their kids before they head out with and without adult supervision. Below are some tips to help keep your kids safe from stranger and acquaintance dangers

to a complete halt before crossing. • Don’t cross the street between parked cars or where drivers’ views might be obstructed. • Carry a flashlight so cars and bicycles can

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reflective or add reflective tape to costumes and bags. Wearing a glow stick

• Young children should be in the company of an adult when trick-or-treating. • Older kids should trick-or-treat with a friend or preferably in a group. • Tell your kids not to step inside the homes

is another option. • Keep props such as swords and knives short, soft and flexible to avoid injury to self or others. • Don’t wear colored contact lenses

or cars of strangers or even acquaintances

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have to wait outside.” • Give your kids a curfew so you know what time to expect them home. • Know what route they plan to take. Make sure it’s in safe neighborhoods and that they won’t have to walk through secluded areas to get there. • Only go to houses with porch lights on. • Have kids carry a cell phone and make sure they know how to use it to dial 9-1-1. • Add a tracking app to their phones such as Family Tracker, Glympse, Footprints,

Safety tips for visiting trick-or-treaters: • Keep cords and tripping hazards out of your driveway and walkway. • Use glow sticks or solar lights in pumpkins and luminaries rather than candles. • Pass out sealed candy. Otherwise, many parents won’t allow their child to eat it. • Keep pets away from trick-or-treaters. Costumes and excited children can scare pets and lead to unexpected behavior.

FamilySignal or Life360. • Make sure costumes, masks and shoes fit well. Costumes shouldn’t drag on the ground posing a tripping hazard. • Avoid masks. Instead, use makeup and well-fitting hats or wigs so vision isn’t obstructed. • Avoid high heels.

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• Try to find flame-resistant costumes, and make sure kids keep their distance from lit pumpkins and luminaries.


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SUPPLIES • Tote Bag/Paper Bag • Glitter Tulle (sometimes known as Sparkle Tulle) on a roll—2 complimentary colors • Accent ribbon • Plain thin ribbon to act as your “anchor” • Glue gun with Low-Temp setting 1. Getting Started • Set your glue gun to the Low-temp setting since this is lightweight fabric. • Lay your bag down, and measure the amount of “anchor” ribbon you need for your base. I allowed enough extra to wrap mine around the side gusset of the bag. • Trim the ribbon and add a bead of glue to each edge, but NOT the middle at this time. 2. Prep Your Glitter Tulle • Measure and cut your tulle ribbon. I cut mine to 18” long per strand. • I used five strands of the purple and four strands of the black. • I then cut three strands of the accent ribbon in orange. (These were also 18” long.) 3. Assemble Your Trick-or-Treat Bag • Tie your cut pieces of tulle onto the “anchor” ribbon, which you glued onto the bag. • Alternate your colors, beginning with the color you cut five pieces of. • Once all your pieces are tied on, hot glue the knots at a couple of points to help hold the ribbon in place. Glue the “extra” ribbon onto the sides. • Tie on your three accent ribbon strands, and you’re done!


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Halloween is coming right up, and I thought it would be fun to share an easy DIY project that you and your little ones can do together. This project comes together so quickly and can be easily customized to suit a costume’s color scheme. Plus, it’s a great way to update an old bag you may have lying around the house!

What do birds sing on Halloween?

Twick or Tweet!

You can tie on some extra pieces to the handle for a little extra dash of fun. I attached a Halloween-themed door hanger. I like that this makes a bit of noise as my daughter walks with the bag. Something reflective or that lights up would be great, too. This will be handy when we’re out trick-or-treating, and it starts to get dark. Hope you enjoy!

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No matter what age children are, sleep is essential for their physical and mental health. Babies and toddlers who regularly don’t sleep enough can have trouble reaching developmental milestones. For older children, you can expect behavioral problems. “Too little sleep,” says Dr. Alaina Brown, a pediatrician at Sentara Medical Center, “can lead to irritability, difficulties with learning and memory, decreased motivation or lack of interest for everyday tasks, impulsivity, anxiety, depression and... illnesses.” So how much sleep does your child need? The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that in 24 hours: • Newborns sleep up to 20 hours, usually in blocks of two–three hours. • Infants sleep 12–16 hours, including up to three naps. by Katharine Paljug • Children 1–2 years old sleep 11–14 hours, including up to two naps. • Children 3–5 years old sleep 10–13 hours, sometimes including naps. • Children 6–12 years old sleep 9–12 hours. • Teenagers 13–18 years old sleep 8–10 hours. “Over childhood, we consolidate sleep into longer continuous blocks and decrease the amount over time, so by age 5, most children no longer nap,” says Brown. “Middle and high school kids are the most likely to not get enough sleep.” It’s important to teach them good sleep habits. “Healthy sleep habits start in infancy,” says Brown. She recommends putting babies down to sleep when they are drowsy and letting them fall asleep on their own. If they wake at night and you know they don’t need to eat, give them a chance to fall back asleep on their own. “For older kids [and] teens, changing bedtime and wake times throughout the week can cause poor sleep.” The best thing to do is keep bedtime the same every night, even if you are traveling or dealing with schedule changes. Turn off any screens at least an hour before bed, and don’t allow computers or smart phones in the bedroom. Keep your child’s room dark and quiet during bedtime. Cool temperatures can also promote good sleep. For more information, Problems with sleep can still pop up. When that happens, visit Sleep Education determining whether the problem is falling asleep or staying by the American Academy asleep. “Look for when they normally start to slow down— of Sleep Medicine at that’s the time they should be falling asleep,” Brown says. “If they are still napping, this may be a sign it’s time to drop a nap.” You may also need to tweak bedtime routines, making it longer to help them wind down or shorter to avoid getting overtired. Anxiety can prevent children from falling asleep just like adults. Talk to your child about anything they have on their mind. If the problem is waking up at night, identify the cause. Once you know the cause, you can correct it moving forward. Some sleep troubles are caused by an underlying medical problem, so be sure to talk to your pediatrician or family doctor about any concerns. Finally, Brown advises if your child is happy and healthy, try not to worry too much about their sleep. As long as your child’s sleep habits fall in the normal range for their age, they’re probably doing just fine.


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Fall-Inspired Fun 1. Hike Saunders-Monticello Trail. Sneak away for a walk in the woods with a friend. While there, gather some natural items (pine cones, leaves) to use for fall décor. They also offer pumpkins to take home! 2. Tasting Local Cider. Many of the wineries, breweries and orchards in the area offer homemade cider during the fall. Collect a few varieties and have friends over to sample.

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Local Teachers Share How They Foster Critical Thinking by S. Byer

Just a few weeks ago, students walked into their homerooms for the new school year—some eager and excited, some nervous. It didn’t take long for students to once again be engaged. No matter what they might learn—history on American catastrophes, force and motion, the eras of American literature, etc.—our students will practice working together as well as independently throughout the course of the school year.

Information aside, it is clear that critical thinking will be a large part of their education. Critical thinking can happen in every step of the learning process, such as when they analyze and evaluate evidence, or question arguments, claims and beliefs. “Critical thinking is the ability to analyze one’s thoughts and to present evidence beyond personal opinion to support an argument,” says Tucker Winter, an Upper School English teacher at Tandem Friends School. It’s about opening up our children’s minds, teaching them how to process and analyze information, and encouraging them to ask questions and make decisions. Where to Start Through research, the four approaches of inquiry, questioning, problem-solving and collaboration have been identified as having the biggest impact on our children’s critical thinking. In the approach of inquiry, students are able to tie everything together through essential questions that help them probe for deeper meaning. The questions they are challenged to answer are posed as open-ended. At North Branch School, Katrien Vance, the middle school coordinator, uses the approach of inquiry with her seventh and eighth grade American history students. “I know they’ve already learned a chronological version of American history and will again see a traditional version in high school, so I feel it is important to find out what they want to know most about American history that has perhaps left them questioning recent events in their hometown.” It’s an opportunity to give Peabody School photo credit: Susan Parmar Photography


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how to work as a team, communicate with

children for the complex decisions and

others effectively, are exposed to differing

situations they will face throughout life.

perspectives and improve interpersonal skills.

Area teachers are helping students do just that in the classroom. For youngsters

At the Blue Ridge School, educators

who are still getting used to the idea of going

have a focus on project-based learning

to school five days a week, they, too, have

(PBL). “This curriculum includes the four

the opportunity to experience and develop

‘C’s’ that make up the pillars of a four

their critical thinking skills. According to

dimensional education,” says Peter Bonds,

Christina Russ, a kindergarten teacher

the Dean of Faculty and a U.S. history

at the Charlottesville Waldorf School,

teacher for eleventh and twelfth graders.

“Imaginative free-play is one of the most

“The four dimensions our faculty strives

important opportunities for growth and

to work their assignments and projects

development that a child can be given, and

around are critical thinking, creativity,

is one of the most important experiences

collaboration and communication. To add

that parents and educators can offer to

a level of support for our educators, we

their children.” She believes strongly that

have changed our staffing model slightly

through imaginative play, children begin to

to bring in a PBL Coordinator who can help

experience the world around them, “while

teachers structure projects and learning

working to strengthen their creativity,

around developing those four C’s.”


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skills in an enjoyable and developmentally

Learning to think critically doesn’t



“We want them to be able to engage in the world effectively and powerfully, to be able to analyze information clearly and to be able to respond independently, forming their own opinions based on careful analysis and healthy skepticism.”


appropriate fashion.”

happen overnight. In fact, learning to think

Vivian Jones-Schmidt, a third-grade

critically is a lifelong pursuit, one that we,

teacher at the Charlottesville Waldorf

adults, still challenge ourselves to do on a

School, shares the example of storytelling.

daily basis. However, planting these seeds

“The ability to listen is an essential skill,”

at younger ages will help prepare our

she says. “And, hearing a story without

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come together to retell, illustrate or recreate a story told by the teacher, this can tie in a variety of skills relevant to critical thinking.” For first graders in Robin Fox’s class at Peabody School, the study of




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with particular emphasis given to visualization,



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Ken Ludwig’s book How to Teach Your Children Shakespeare, that she finds to be particularly effective in enhancing student’s critical thinking. “It helps

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Caduff says. After the initial build, each student is required to make at least two more iterations of their original car. “I believe this project helps develop critical thinking as it allows for a wide variety of approaches. Students feel success when they are able to design the next model that rolls even farther than their original model.” Elizabeth Anderson, a logic and rhetoric teacher and college counselor at the Regents School of Charlottesville, shares how their seventh and eighth

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and help guide them on a journey of discovery rather than giving them a quick answer. Ask them probing ‘why’ and ‘how’ questions, then encourage them to find out by experience, research and analysis of evidence.” Providing




opportunities for play can be one of the simplest, yet most effective, ways to help them build a foundation for critical thinking. This can include giving them a space indoors and outdoors to explore, and encouraging pretend play. It can also help them develop hypotheses during play with questions like, “Let’s predict what we think will happen next,” or “What do you think will happen if we do this?” By encouraging them to think in new and different ways, you’re helping


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Based on Bloom’s Taxonomy, this word list is a great guide for questions to ask students.

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Incorporate these and other words into your day to encourage your child’s critical thinking.


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them practice their ability to problem

they can otherwise do it for themselves.”

at their suggested solutions if you just


Other suggestions include involving them

give them some time to get there. It can

in your daily life so they can witness you

even be as simple as allowing your infant

solving problems, too.

time to figure out how to pick up a toy on

Gloria teacher of

Boesenberg, with






School not

Offering your child time to think and

intervening too quickly. “Rescuing your


generate a response isn’t always easy.

his or her own. Confidence falls in line with this and is

child from the struggle of solving a

So, try counting to 60, or longer, while

another crucial component of developing

problem takes away their chance to learn.

your child thinks. This will allow them

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Helpful Tips for Parents & Their Toddlers

For children, losing control is part of growing up. But it doesn’t have to be an everyday event. Here’s how to get a handle on toddler tantrums!

You can hear the wailing before you see them—the harried mother at the grocery store unable to move down the aisle because a screaming, flailing mass of red-faced fury is insisting on Fruity Pebbles. We’ve all seen it, and most of us have been that mother at one point. What to do? Walk down the aisle and hope the child calms down and follows? Pick him up and march out of the store, abandoning the shopping attempt? Give in and wearily add the desired box to the cart? Nadine, mother of 3-year-old Darcie, would like to know the perfect solution. “I don’t know what to do,” she says. “Usually I end up dragging her down the street to get away from all the busybodies who are staring, making me feel like a terrible mother. The fits almost always happen when she’s overtired or hungry and, of course, I always swear I’ll never let her get overtired again.”


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For toddlers, meltdowns are a part of growing up. “Between ages 2 to 4, children are developing their own identity, beginning to exert their independence. Losing control once in a while is a learning opportunity. It helps preschoolers learn

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control. They are impulsive. They are just beginning to learn social controls, things like talking quietly in the library or lining up to walk to the bathroom at preschool. They don’t have the cognitive skills to “think over” a situation before they react to it. And it’s impossible to reason with an out-of-control 2-year-old. “You can’t reason with a 2-year-old

Once parents accept that emotional meltdowns will happen once in a while, there are ways to ensure that they don’t happen every day.

because they don’t have the language ability that an older child does,” says Robin F. Goodman, Ph.D., a consultant on traumatic stress in children and adolescents. “A 2-year-old sees something she wants; she grabs it. Language ability means that you think things through using an internal language, too.” A 4-year-old, on the other hand, can use his language skills to ask himself, “Will Mommy let me have this?” or “Should I ask her for it?” “When a 4-yearold is hungry, he can tell you, ‘Give me something to eat’ rather than having a melt-down when he’s hungry,” Dr. Goodman says. Once parents accept that emotional meltdowns will happen once in a while, there are ways to ensure that they don’t happen every day. Prevent them by preparing in advance for outings to “tantrum-prone” spots like the toy store, supermarket or mall. Praise your child’s good deeds and practice positive reinforcement of desired behaviors. Some children can defer gratification. For them, a simple “yes, but not now” can be better than saying “no.” Use diversionary tactics for younger children and always make sure they are well-fed and rested before major excursions. If a tantrum does blow in, the best course of action is to stay


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bring himself back in control. Taking the time to prepare your child for an event can help him avoid feelings of confusion and loss of control that lead to meltdowns. “Preparation means telling them what will happen first, then next. Help them visualize the experience,” says Dr. Rubinowitz. You might say, for example, “When we go to school to hear your big brother’s band concert, you’ll have to sit on my lap and be quiet. But we’ll listen to the music together. You can take your Spiderman action figure along to play with, and I’ll bring a bag of

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your child that if he helps you nicely, he can choose the type of cookies to buy is a perfect reward in this situation. Be generous with your praise and encouragement, such as “I appreciate how you’re helping today” or “That’s great the

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way you put the cereal in the cart.” As your child learns the appropriate behavior, not tantrums, they can receive a reward. Three-year-old Sam has definite opinions about what he

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wants and when he wants it. “Usually it’s something totally out of the question, like Star Wars fruit snacks for breakfast,” says his mom, Jane. But if Jane explains to Sam when he can have the forbidden item, rather than simply giving him a flat “no,” it will head off disaster. “I’ll tell him that he can’t

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because while he’s eating his sandwich he’ll remind me and say, ‘I can have fruit snacks when I’m done, right?’ Sam has learned that I always keep my end of the bargain, and that’s important for parents to remember, too.” For younger children, diverting their attention from whatever is irking them is always a good trick to try. “A 2-year-old is easily distractible,” says Dr. Goodman. “Every parent knows this is true because when a toddler starts to fidget, you jangle your car keys in front of their face. Parents should learn to use this distractibility to their advantage. Simply changing a child’s focus can fend off a fit.” Dr. Goodman advises, in the grocery store for example, to have the child name


different fruits; ask him to look for a particular item or bring along a favorite


toy. Many parents say that a meltdown is much more likely when their child is hungry or overtired. In our house, I know that’s one reason why the whining and crying increases right at the dinner hour, slacks off when everyone’s wellfed and then picks up again as bedtime approaches. And experts agree. “With younger children, their physical needs have






behavior,” says Dr. Rubinowitz. “If he’s hungry, tired or has to go to the bathroom RIGHT NOW, it can turn an ordinary situation into a potential meltdown.” When your toddler is pitching a fit, it’s easy for a parent to feel out of control, too. That’s because you are, notes Vicki, a nurse psychotherapist. You’re not in control of your child’s behavior. “A parent can’t put the brakes on that emotional roller-coaster any more than the child himself can,” Vicki says. “That’s when you see so many helpless, frustrated parents



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begging their child to just stop it and settle down. By that point, they can’t.” It’s tough to be calm mid-meltdown, especially in the face of disapproving stares from onlookers, but it’s important for parents to stay composed. If a parent begins to lose it, too, it only makes the situation worse. “You’re teaching the

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watching a child’s meltdown can do a lot to finish off a fit. “Have you ever seen a child stop in mid-scream and check if anyone was watching? It happens all the time,” says Beck. “Pick him up and take him out if you have to, but I’m in favor of getting the child away to a quiet place, first.” Getting away to a quiet place until the child feels more in control of his emotions is a good strategy for children ages 3 and up. It’s different from a time-out because the child is not being punished. He can engage in calm activities like reading or something more demonstrative to help vent his emotions, like playing loud

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when they do occur.” Experts say that as a child grows and learns to manage his feelings better, emotional meltdowns should become less frequent. “It’s not uncommon, but with older kids who still get meltdowns, it’s part of their personality,” says Beck.


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“They tend to be highly competitive kids; children with low frustration tolerance and low self-esteem.” Parents can teach children healthy ways to deal with feelings of anger, frustration, jealousy and disappointment before they lose control. Keep your parental antenna up for situations that might set the child off. For example, they’re posting the list of who made the baseball team. “Parents can roleplay or coach the child in appropriate ways to react to teasing, disappointments or loss,” says Dr. Rubinowitz. He could brainstorm how to work through his frustration if he doesn’t make the team, maybe by shooting baskets or talking with another friend in the same boat. The goal is for the child to feel

Between ages 2 to 4, children are developing their own identity … Losing control once in a while is a learning opportunity.

better prepared so that he will know how to bring himself back in control.

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A Dad’s Humorous Tales

by Rick Epstein

They fly through the air at night, they have superhuman strength and agility, they put the bite on you time after time, and they can completely take over your life during football season and beyond. Vampires? I wish! I’m talking about cheerleaders. My 16-year-old daughter Wendy is on the junior varsity squad at Good Times Regional High School. She

if they’ve been asked to help Purple Heart veterans, apparently thinking, “Cheerleaders give so much, and all they ever ask in return is ‘Gimme a G, gimme an O...’” All right, I admit it. I can’t imagine why the money pours in. At first, I’d frowned on the idea of Wendy

is a “flyer.” That means the other girls grab the soles of her feet and thrust her up into the air to be the peak of their human pyramid. When they break the formation, she’s the one who plummets down, depending on the other girls to catch her. If you’ve seen the procedure, you’ve said, “Oh my gosh! I’m so glad that’s not my child!” The flyer lays her trust to a half-dozen teenage girls, who I might add are about equally divided amongst her best friends, worst enemies and the undecided. But, you wouldn’t pick any of them to pack your parachute, especially if their boyfriends think you’re cute. It is horrifying to watch, and I’ll tell you something: They don’t always catch the flyer. All of the cheerleaders at Good Times Regional are flyers in that they all jet off to Florida each February to compete in the Nationals. So from July until takeoff time, the girls are feverishly raising money and practicing. Besides working out and practicing, the girls wash cars, serve refreshments at school events, host breakfast with Santa for little kids, run cheerleading clinics for middle-sized kids, and sell candles, frozen pizzas and chrysanthemums. But that isn’t quite enough, so the girls stand outside supermarkets holding donation cans, asking, “Would you like to donate to Good Times Regional cheerleading?” And a good percentage of shoppers pay up as

panhandling. I didn’t want her to be encouraged in her belief that the best way to get money is to just ask for it. But, I’ve changed my mind. If people really want to send cheerleaders to Florida, it is not cost-effective to buy $20 worth of chrysanthemums just to put $5 into the girls’ peppy palms. Fifteen of the dollars they’ve just coughed up aren’t moving even the tiniest cheerleader one inch toward the Sunshine State. The scope of the parents’ and girls’ commitment was sketched out for a couple dozen moms and me at my first meeting of the Cheer Booster Club in the high school library one night back in June. Then money was collected—for special personalized practice outfits, for a week of cheerleader camp and for weekly “cheernastics” lessons. Mid-meeting, I whispered to my friend, Brenna’s Mom, “I can’t keep up with this; I’m going to hide in the bathroom.” I do have a heart, and although I don’t consult it often enough, it is thrilled that Wendy is working at something she’s excited about. And I’m grateful to the energetic moms who run the Booster Club; they have figured out how to make things happen for the girls and how to mobilize the rest of us for the cause. There are meetings to attend, transportation to provide, fundraisers to chaperone, publicity to arrange, more checks to write and many, many emails to craft and send. Alpha moms, I’m yours to command. I only hope that my wife doesn’t get jealous when she sees all these other women pushing me around.

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