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ADOPTION IN VIRGINIA: THE GIFT OF FAMILY Years ago, when Judy Bingham first explored the idea of fostering, she really only envisioned welcoming one child into her home. That was, in fact, before she received a call from her local department of social services informing her that three siblings were in need. She still vividly recalls her husband waving his hands behind her whispering, “No, no!” The memory is something they all laugh about today as the proud, adoptive parents of those children from that fateful call. “We really didn’t want these kids to become separated,” Bingham said. “Now we can’t imagine our lives without them.”

In Virginia, there are currently 4,800 children in foster care, more than 600 of which are permanently and legally separated from their birth parents. These children are waiting for safe, permanent homes with a loving family to call their own.

Many misconceptions exist about the foster care and adoption process, but the facts remain that you don’t have to be rich, own your home, or even be married to adopt in Virginia. Apart from time and energy, the most important requirement is that you are willing to provide a lifetime of love to a child so they may grow and thrive as adults.

It’s okay— and quite frankly, normal — if you’ve never considered adoption before. Some seasoned foster or adoptive parents will share that they always knew they would welcome an adopted child into their world, but many others can attest that sometimes the right timing and the right child find their way in to your life and alter your original path for the better.

In Virginia, there are currently 4,800 children in foster care, more than 600 of which are permanently and legally separated from their birth parents.

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WHO ARE VIRGINIA’S WAITING CHILDREN? The average age of children in care of the Virginia Department of Social Services is 8. Pre-teens are the largest population of the more than 600 youth who are legally available for adoption.

Virginia’s waiting children are in foster care due to no fault of their own. They have colorful stories sometimes tinged with loss, financial instability, abuse or neglect.

Many of the real-world problems we hear about every day on a national scale, inevitably trickle down to localities, communities and of course, families. When parents are afflicted or embattled, vulnerable children are often displaced, and their lives disrupted.

These children are siblings, teens, only children, extroverts, introverts, readers, math enthusiasts, musicians, athletes, bookworms, and more.They may have unique hobbies and individual personalities, but all have the goal of finding a home with a family that will support them in achieving their dreams.

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While completing a home study with your local department of social services, you’ll have the opportunity to discuss your goals, expectations, fears and anticipation before submitting your final paperwork. When approved, you are then contacted for a

Adoption is a collaborative, community-based effort and your local department of social services is your partner every step of the way. The process to becoming a foster or adoptive parent isn’t an overnight journey (nor should it be to ensure safety and compatibility for all). Throughout these steps and even after an adoption is finalized, the Virginia Department of Social Services ensures there are tools, resources and support networks available to help you and the child(ren) in your care be successful.

Whether you’re interested in adopting down the line or not, meeting one of the many great youth in

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a right fit.

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placement based on the best fit for your family and the child coming into your home.

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Just Between Us…

PUBLISHERS

november 2018 Robin Johnson Bethke Jennifer Bryerton

CREATIVE DIRECTOR Robin Johnson Bethke EDITOR-IN-CHIEF Jennifer Bryerton TECHNICAL DIRECTOR Peter D. Bethke SENIOR EDITOR Sarah Pastorek

Dear Friends,

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My beloved husband was traveling recently, leaving me solo to tend to the kids and the house. Between baseball and piano practices, feeding the chickens and driving to dentist appointments, I found myself trying to help with homework in the car. I did okay right up until I found myself in a spirited

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on the back of the grocery list. Our 9-year-old would not be persuaded that the

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divisor was 6. In fact, he was so adamant, and I’m so not math-confident, that

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I asked his older brother to double check my work. I was quite relieved when he confirmed that I had it right. Yep, that’s my brag. I can still help at least our youngest with his math homework!

Having all the kids home together at Thanksgiving is a true treat. I’m looking forward to board games and kickball and teaching them how to make their favorite dishes. And, I’m very hopeful, too, that any school projects over break involve vocabulary words, tree identification or writing an essay about a historical dilemma. But please, no chemistry or calculus!

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Contents TABLE OF

50

OUR TOWN

LIVING WELL

New Mom 24 New Dad

News 4

The Buzz Around Town 6

Do you parent differently when other parents are around?

Snapshot 8

Helen Williamson, Mother, Grandmother, Children’s Author & Teacher

Our Schools 10

Dear Bob 26 Your Parenting Questions Answered Healthy Family 28 Diabetes I and II

Tasty Thanksgiving Recipes from the Staff at CharlottesvilleFamily

Gratitude Cards 42 Nurturing a Grateful Mindset

Talking to Kids About Disabilities 44

Tips for Teaching Kids to Understand

and Empathize

Editor’s Pick!

In this issue, you’ll enjoy all sorts of tips, from talking to your child about disabilities (pg 44), nurturing preschool communication (pg 50), choosing the perfect pet for your family (pg 60) and more.

November Festivals & Events for Families

From Our Family to Yours 40

Out & About Calendar 12

Trim that Tree! 20

Local Farms Offer Petting Zoos,

Cookies with Santa and More

Using History Lessons to Solve Today’s Problems

INSPIRATION

Let’s Chat 50

Building Blocks for Nurturing Preschool Communication Skills

Pets + Kids 60

What to Consider When Choosing the

Perfect Pet for Your Family

RESOURCES

Tips & Trends 30 Fabulous Finds and Fun

Special Needs Guide 49

Home & Garden 32 Putting the Garden to Bed

Food & Family 36 Better Dining Out Experiences

Local Resources for Health & Learning

Guide to Local Preschoolers 52

Local Resources for All Ages

Local Pet Guide 62

Caring for Your Precious Pets

UNTIL NEXT TIME

Love Notes 64

A Dad’s Humorous Tales

32 So Love This!

“I’m looking forward to attending a variety of holiday festivals (pg 12) and making some seasonal pumpkin-flavored treats!”

— Caroline, calendar editor

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Ivy Publications proudly sponsors: Montpelier Hunt Races

Artisan Studio Tour

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Charlottesville & Nearby Counties November 10-11

Grand Illumination Downtown Mall, Central Place November 30

Renaissance Student Dreams Up Award-Winning Short Although Renaissance School junior Alex Zuffoletti named his homegrown musical comedy OUT.OF.STOCK, he has certainly not faced a shortage of awards. In just three days, Zuffoletti envisioned, penned, produced and edited the film with aid from students Jakob Krosby and Nate Winter. The short has since clenched wins in the Best Director and Best High School Short Film categories at the 15th Annual Progeny Short Film Festival in Blacksburg, VA. The artistic accolades don’t end there. The three-piece team took home the Audience Award at the 14th Annual Adrenaline Film Project, was named an American Youth Film Festival finalist and gained admittance into the Gold Coast International Film Festival occurring this month. The success of Zuffoletti and his crew grew in part out of support from Light House Studio, a film-focused nonprofit equipping young storytellers with confidence and collaborative skills. Representatives from Light House and other community partners team up with students annually to lead nine-week Art Practicum elective courses, culminating in showcases that encourage youth to celebrate artistic achievement.

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Marching Toward Excellence Trumpets, trombones, tubas and more poured into the Charlottesville High School stadium last month as a part of Cavalcade, the school’s established annual marching band competition. This year, the event—spanning a single afternoon—pooled in five classes worth of performers from over 20 high schools across Virginia. A cluster of judges doled out scores in categories ranging from marching and color guard to percussion and music, and the bands with top tallies in each division took home awards for their distinguished performances. Cavalcade, which has been a statewide staple of musical excellence for the past three decades, directly benefits the CHS Band, encouraging continued artistic success for years to come.

Science Museum of VA Spins Imagination into Innovation The Science Museum of Virginia in Richmond is taking a different approach—even going so far as to encourage visitors to stick their hands in displays, play with the parts and create. The museum’s new community makerspace, The Forge, is 7,500-square-feet of fun, offering innovation-focused activities which range from do-it-yourself engineering tasks in the morning to registration-required skill workshops in the afternoon.

No one can predict when an emergency will happen.

Stop in to toy with the 3D printer, dream up a digital wallpaper design, discover what famous inventions (such as Reynold’s Wrap®) were born in Virginia and watch a robot churn out art. Just like the minds of visitors, the space’s influence is set to develop and expand with time.

Since its opening in late September, The Forge has kept its doors open seven days a week, with a variety of different timeframes for varying ages. Visit smv.org for more info.

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Do you parent differently when other parents are around?

29% say “yes” 71% say “no” “I have to hold my sarcastic tongue when others are watching.”

– Mom of two, Charlottesville

“Yes. I find that I am more willing to let go of some of the things I see my child’s friends do that I would not tolerate with my children out of respect for the other parents. When other parents are around, I don’t want to be a ‘back-seat parent,’ nor do I want to alienate my child by being the only parent parenting.”

– M, Barboursville Mom of four

“Do grandparents count as other parents?

When we are at their house, my husband and I tame down our rules and tend to let the grandparents create and enforce the rules of their homes.”

– Local Mom

“It is hard not to… As parents, we are all insecure about how we are parenting and that is why we are also so quick to judge others. I try not to make too many ripples when we are out with other parents, both for our adult relationships and the relationships of my children.”

– Crozet Mom

“I usually treat my kids the same in our home as I would if another parent were in front of me. There is no one way to parent and discipline, and parenting is different based on cultures and upbringing.”

– Teresa B, Mother of

two young ladies

“Consistency is important.”

– Caroline A, Charlottesville

Mother of three girls

“Consistency is the key to good parenting.

When you parent differently because of who you are around, it can confuse a child on what is expected.”

– Darlene T.

“I try to always hold my kids and their friends accountable, even when we are in front of other parents. The other parents and children need to know that certain behavior is not acceptable in our household.”

– B, Dad of two

Visit CharlottesvilleFamily.com to answer next month’s question:

Are elementary-aged kids too young for smartphones?

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ACPS Leads State with Soaring Graduation Rate For the eleventh year in a row, the Albermarle County Public School (ACPS) district has distinguished itself as the top dog statewide in terms of on-time graduation rates.

This particular measurement, which was introduced into the educational sphere in 2006, tracks the percentage of students that fulfill all necessary high school requirements within the anticipated span of four years. According to the report by the Virginia Department of Education, 2018 also marks the ninth straight year that ACPS has soared past the 90th percentile line in this category. The 92.7 percent on-time graduation rate tops the 91.6 percent statewide and 84 percent national averages.

ACPS’s dropout rate has also sunk as low as five percent, beating out the 5.5 percent average in Virginia and the 6.1 percent United States average. The study also found that over 63 percent of high schoolers in the district graduated with distinguished Advanced Studies diploma—a rate which blows past the national average by 11 percentage points. Local educational administrators cite the rise and growth of programs aimed at closing up opportunity gaps as key factors.

Charlottesville Students Align Freshness with Fun

Bees, goats, farmers and scarecrows came to class last month as part of Charlottesville’s Healthy Schools Week and Virginia Farm to School Week.

Each city school benefitted from one or more interactive presentations, informational chats and health-focused lessons, and all nine schools served up colorful menus featuring farm fresh and locally sourced foods. Even Atif Qarnia, the Virginia Secretary of Education, joined in the celebration with a special visit to Venable Elementary School. The series of engaging educational events helped all students, ranging from elementary to high school grade levels, fine-tune their understanding of healthy living habits, gardening practices and the role of local farming.

Birthday Wish Coat Drive For local teen Ashton Ryan, he had a wish to help others in a small way. That wish has blossomed into seven years of giving back to the community, where volunteers and the Ryan family work together to collect coats that they can then distribute around town, and sometimes even throughout the state, to ensure others are keeping warm during winter months. To date, they’ve collected over 12,000 coats, and hope to collect even more over the next several days.

Donation boxes are accessible around town at the following locations until November 15: Tiger Fuel Markets, Applebees on Pantops, Bremo Auctions at Pantops and Moose by the Creek Restaurant. If you know someone who in need of a coat, email ashtonswish@aol.com.

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SNAPshot written & photographed

by Sylvia & Patrick Kibler

Helen Williamson Mother, Grandmother, Children’s Author & Teacher

As a children’s author, mother and grandmother, Helen Williamson captivates the joy of childhood through her storytelling. Her love for reading and writing began during her childhood in Holywood in County Down, Northern Ireland. Her captivating and enchanting tales were first told to her children and grandchildren as bedtime stories before she felt compelled to write books to share her passion with others. Her first children’s book, “Tales from Balladoon,” was published in 2008 followed by “A Pineapple Dream and other Nonsense,” both of which showcase her whimsical and humorous approach to engaging readers. In her latest book, “Adventures in Dinglewood,” illustrator Nancy Atkins’ watercolor illustrations capture the mood of the book while Williamson’s writing of two mice and their magical adventures brings the reader into the story.

What are the best and most challenging parts about your job?

Seeing the delight on children’s faces when I read them my stories and poems is the best part of my job. The most challenging part is reaching deep inside myself for new ideas.

How have you grown and changed over the years?

The journey to publish my five books has been a huge learning experience. I have had to sharpen my computer skills, which are, sadly, still pretty wobbly. But working with the accomplished and dedicated Belle Isle Books publishing team, and my talented illustrator, Nancy Atkins, has helped me grow enormously throughout the whole publishing process. My hope for the future is to continue writing and entertaining children with my books.

What advice do you have for parents and their young aspiring writers that can guide them into their future careers?

Dream Big! Be open to new ideas, and let your imagination soar.

Read voraciously and write, write and write. Parents, foster your aspiring writers creativity by giving them your undivided attention

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as you read their stories and discuss their work.

What have you learned from children/students/young people you work with?

I have found that children thrive with encouragement. They are naturally imaginative, curious and eager to learn. They are a pleasure to work with.

What is your favorite childhood book?

Can I cheat and name three books? The Just So Stories by Rudyard Kipling, The Wind in the Willows by Kenneth Grahame, and Alice in Wonderland by Lewis Carroll were my favorite books. These books light up the pages with their imagination, illustrations and humor.

What is one thing your parents did well that you try to incorporate into your parenting or mentoring?

My parents taught me to think for myself. They made me realize that anything is possible. I hope that I have instilled these beliefs in my own children and grandchildren.

What inspired you to become a children’s author and what are your hopes for your newest book, Adventures in Dinglewood?

Books have always enchanted me. Words, like a magic carpet, have the ability to take you wherever your imagination leads. This freedom is what inspired me to become a writer. My hope is that the readers of Adventures in Dinglewood will enjoy meeting these rather zany woodland characters, look forward to further Dinglewood adventures and, perhaps, even inspire them to write.

Sylvia and Patrick, parents of five rambunctious children, are a husband and wife team in the Charlottesville area who focus on lifestyle photography, weddings and portraiture. See their work at sylviakiblerphotography.com.

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by John Hobso

Using History Lessons to Solve Today’s Problems At the end of the last school year, many of our high school students participated in a project funded by a $20,000 grant from John Legend’s Show

the benefit of multiple perspectives in helping us to meet our goal.

Not all of our research took us far back in time. This past month, one of

Me Foundation and sponsored by the National Writing Project. The project was born in the midst of the controversy over Civil War monuments in Charlottesville.

Its purpose was to engage students in a deep and serious study of stories told and untold by public monuments and to have students create their own stories of recognition.

Their selections included a broad diversity of community members, chosen for their individual courage and determination, often in quiet ways, to improve the lives of others. Included, for example, was a local African-American soldier who was awarded the Medal of Honor during the Civil War. This project sparked our school division’s next logical step, made more compelling by a national report that only 8 percent of high school students correctly identified slavery as the reason why the south seceded from the union.

We put together a program we call Reframing the Narrative that brings together middle and high school social studies teachers. We wanted a history curriculum that more accurately and comprehensively addressed the legacies of racism, slavery and inequity through stories told and untold. Additionally, we wanted students and teachers to have

our visits was to the Virginia Holocaust Museum, where students heard from Christian Picciolini, a former Neo- Nazi who now forcefully rejects that ideology and encourages others to do the same.

We spent the better part of a year researching historical sites and events, talking with experts and community members and exploring a wide range of thoughts and opinions. We gained a more holistic and complex understanding of what we should learn from our past and how it can help us to better understand how to live and work for success today, as well as in the future.

Jelani Cobb, a Columbia University professor and a well known writer, educator and author, says that if we do not dig into “hard history” then the past becomes an imperfect guide to the troubles of the present.

We all want students to be well equipped to be active citizens and leaders in a global community. We want to dig into our nation’s “hard history” and use what we learn to produce a social studies curriculum that is more accurate, meaningful and relevant to solving today’s problems, and unlocking greater opportunities for success in the future.

John is a lead coach for social studies for Albemarle County Public Schools, working with and advising principals and social studies teachers across the division on best instructional practices.

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UVA Basketball Season Tips Off The University of Virginia men’s and women’s basketball teams kick off their seasons in November. On November 6, the men’s team begins their schedule with a home opener against Towson. For the women, they also open their season at home with a game against Mississippi State on November 9. It will once again be an exciting year for both programs, with each looking forward to a competitive season.

The men’s ACC play tips off at the end of November with a matchup at the University of Maryland, and the women will once again host the Cavalier Classic over Thanksgiving weekend, where they open the tournament taking on Central Michigan. Both programs will once again invite young players to join in the fun at either pre- or post-game activities, so be sure to keep an eye on the schedule. For home game dates in November, see our calendar section beginning on page 12.

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ANNOUNCEMENTS Dr. Christine Diggs, the Director of Technology Services for Columbia Public Schools, has been appointed as Albemarle County Public Schools’ new Chief Technology Officer. She will begin her new position on November 12.

Albemarle County Public Schools’ Chief of Community Engagement, Dr. Bernard Hairston, has been appointed as the new Assistant Superintendent for School Community Empowerment.

Hantzmon Wiebel, LLP celebrates 90 years of serving the central Virginia community this year.

The Jefferson Area Board for Aging (JABA) is expected to be the next long-term tenant in the new Yancey School Community Center, joining the Education Transformation Centre, whose long-term lease was approved by the Albemarle County Board of Supervisors in September.

Moe’s Original Bar B Que will be opening a second location at 200 Water St W. (formerly the location of Mono Loco).

Stone-Robinson Elementary School now offers students a nature playground.

The University of Virginia HealthSouth Rehabilitation Hospital changed its name to UVA Encompass Health Rehabilitation Hospital.

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Dr. Amy Malek has joined the Pediatric Associates of Charlottesville, PLC’s practice and is currently working out of their Zion Crossroads Office.

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10th Annual Earlysville Turkey Trot 5K & Kids Half-Mile Run

November 22, 8:30am kids’ race (ages 12 and under), 9am 5K (ages 6 and up) at 601 Earlysville Green, Earlysville Kids can participate in a free half-mile race, and walkers are welcome. Strollers are welcome at the back of the pack. No dogs. Benefits the Blue Ridge Area Food Bank. cms-events.com

37th Annual Boar’s Head Turkey Trot November 22, 9am at Boar’s Head Inn Run or walk the annual 5K course to raise money for the UVA Children’s Hospital. No pets. Early registration recommended.

434-972-7454, turkeytrot.redpodium.com

Blessing of the Hounds

November 22, 10–11am at Grace Episcopal Church Enjoy a brief blessing ceremony with bagpipes, a soloist, hounds and horses, then enjoy cider, donuts and the beginning of the hunt. No pets allowed on church grounds.

434-293-3549, gracekeswick.org

Thanksgiving Weekend at Wintergreen

November 22–25 at Wintergreen Resort Traditional feasts, the grand illumination of the courtyard, holiday workshops and family fun.

434-325-8180, wintergreenresort.com

NOVEMBER 2018

Check out our online calendar for more local family events and fun!

ArtCHO

YOU

November 3, 10am–6pm at IX Art Park CAN Annual festival with art, music, food and fun HELP! in a family-friendly environment. Donations support local charities.

434-242-9759, artcho.org

Colonial Canine Celebration

SPECIAL EVENTS Apple Harvest Celebration

Now–November, Weekends at Carter Mountain Orchard Join the Chiles Family for food, hayrides, wine tastings, apple picking and all things apple­­— including apple butter, apple cider and more.

434-977-1833, chilesfamilyorchards.com

Montpelier Hunt Races

November 3, 9am–6pm at James Madison Montpelier Experience world-class steeplechase horse races. Enjoy the Jack Russell Terrier races, kids’ stick-horse races and Vendors Row, too. Ivy Publications is a proud sponsor!

540-672-0027, montpelierraces.org

18th Annual Apple Harvest Festival

November 3, 10am–5pm at Albemarle CiderWorks, North Garden Annual festival featuring local food and craft vendors, hayrides, an apple pie contest, live music and all kinds of apple dishes.

434-297-2326, albemarleciderworks.com

November 3, 11am–2pm at Poplar Forest, Forest Join together for the dedication and ribboncutting of Poplar Forest’s brand-new dog kennel and the release of the children’s book “Colonial Klaus in Thomas Jefferson’s House.” Pets welcome. 434-525-1806, poplarforest.org

7th Annual Día de los Muertos Festival

November 3, 5:30–9pm at McGuffey Art Center Enjoy live music, open studios inside and the Taquería Mi Ranchito Food Truck. Bring photos, flowers or creations that are symbols of what your ancestors or loved ones enjoyed. Each person/family will be given a luminary bag to decorate for the community altar.

434-295-7973, mcguffeyartcenter.com

24th Annual Artisans Studio Tour

November 10 & 11, 10am–5pm in Charlottesville and surrounding counties 40-plus artisans set up in over 20 studios throughout central Virginia to display their crafts on this self-guided tour. Ivy Publications is a proud sponsor!

434-973-6846, artisanstudiotour.com

4th Annual Fall Festival & Open House

November 11, 12­­–6pm at Montfair Resort Farm, Crozet Enjoy food, bluegrass music, cottage and nature walking tours, fishing and artisan demos.

Bonfire and s’mores from 4–6pm. Lantern making and walk at 5pm. 434-823-5202, montfairresortfarm.com

Greek Fest and Bake Sale

YOU CAN

November 16, 10am–8pm HELP! at Greek Orthodox Hellenic Center Traditional Greek foods served with lots of pastries and goodies. Enter the raffle for prizes, too. A portion of the proceeds will benefit the Charlottesville Free Clinic. 434-295-5337, transfiguration.va.goarch.org

BLESSING OF THE HOUNDS

November 22, 10–11am at Grace Episcopal Church. See this page.

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Veterans Day Weekend at Montpelier

November 9–11, 9am–4:30pm at James Madison’s Montpelier During Veterans Day Weekend, Montpelier offers all active and retired military guests free house tours. 540-672-2728, montpelier.org

Veterans Day Weekend at Monticello

November 10–12, 8:30am–5pm at Monticello Free admission for House Tour, and Grounds tickets will be granted to U.S. veterans.

Admission for active-duty military members is free all year. 434-984-9800, monticello.org

6th Annual Salute to Hometown Heroes

November 10, 9am–5pm at Carter Mountain Orchard Celebrate hometown heroes. Enjoy a flag ceremony by the local American Legion, military and rescue vehicles on display and booths honoring and providing services for those who serve and have served. All hometown heroes (with ID) will receive discounts all day.

434-977-1833, chilesfamilyorchards.com

IMMACULATE 157 ACRE WESTERN ALBEMARLE ESTATE - EXCELLENT VIEWS

Veterans Thank You Day

November 10, 9am–5pm at Saunders Brothers Market Paul Saunders shares veteran stories told to him by locals and invites you to share, too. Live music by David Matthews of Lovingston will follow the singing of God Bless America at 11am. 434-277-5455, saundersbrothersfarmmarket.com

Fee Free Day

November 11 at Shenandoah National Park Enjoy the park without having to pay an entrance fee in observance of Veterans Day. 540-999-3500, nps.gov

3396 FOX MOUNTAIN ROAD • $2,195,000

This idyllic country estate offers 157 tranquil, protected acres adjacent to other estates, 20-25 minutes west of Charlottesville. The welcoming residence was reconstructed on the current, stunning homesite in 1991 by Gibson Magerfield of reclaimed, c. 1800 materials. High ceilings, wide plank pine floors, antique mantels & stunning wainscoting abound. The core structure has only been enhanced with the addition of guest suites and modern systems. A remarkable barn and log guest cabin complete the offering, all located in absolute privacy yet with sweeping mountain views. MLS# 581764

PRISTINE LIVING - MEADOWBROOK HEIGHTS

DAZZLING RENOVATION AT CITY’S EDGE

2015 SPOTTSWOOD ROAD • $1,285,000 In the city’s most desirable Rugby neighborhood & situated on .72 landscaped private acres, this 1-story renovated home offers open, light-filled, formal & casual spaces. Foyer w/ soapstone floors leads to living room w/ wood burning fireplace. Walk out terrace level suite. Lindsay Milby (434) 962-9148. MLS# 581572

202 STURBRIDGE ROAD • $785,000 Classic Colonial on quiet cul de sac minutes from UVA. 5 bed, 4.5 bath home offers casual and formal rooms, light-drenched breakfast room & finished walkout basement. Stunning master bedroom & dreamy spa-like bath w/ heated floors & jaw-dropping walkin closet. Sally Neill (434) 531-9941. MLS# 581539

Veterans Day Commemoration Ceremony

November 12, 1–2pm at James Monroe Highland The University of Virginia Army ROTC Cadets, the Buford Middle School band and featured speaker Colonel James O’Kelley, USMC, Ret., will join together for a ceremony in salute to our veterans. 434-293-8000, highland.org YOU CAN HELP!

3rd Annual Warrior Hike

November 18, 12–4pm at The Market at Grelen, Somerset This annual hiking event will benefit Warrior Expeditions. Hike the Grelen Trails for as many miles as you want, picking up tokens along the way. Turn them in at the end for a chance to win raffle prizes. More miles equals more tokens and better chances at winning.

540-672-7268, themarketatgrelen.com

401 PARK STREET • CHARLOT TESVILLE, VA

434.977.4005 W W W . L O R I N G W O O D R I F F . C O M CharlottesvilleFamily.com

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UPCOMING EVENTS AT THE PARAMOUNT PARAMOUNT AT THE MOVIES PRESENTS:

POLAR EXPRESS [G] DECEMBER 2

MOSCOW BALLET PRESENTS:

GREAT RUSSIAN NUTCRACKER DECEMBER 9

PRESENTED BY:

SPONSORED BY: CAPLIN FOUNDATION

PARAMOUNT AT THE MOVIES PRESENTS:

WHITE CHRISTMAS [NR] DECEMBER 21

T H E PARAMOUNT THEATER | 215 East Main Street, Charlottesville, VA 434.979.1333 l www.theparamount.net PRODUCERS CLUB SPONSORS

Marquee Producer Club Sponsor

Luna the moon guides three friends as they visit new places around the world.

Let’s Go Luna!

Premieres November 21 at 9 AM

HOLIDAY HAPPENINGS Annual Mason’s Toy Box Wrapping Party

YOU CAN November 2, 6–8pm at Stonefield Location HELP!

Decorate a toy box that the community will fill with new toys to deliver to young patients and their families. Bring your favorite wrapping paper and any decorations you want to decorate your box. 833-682-4438, masonstoybox.org

Barnes & Noble Storytime: “How the Grinch Stole Christmas”

November 3, 11am at Barnes & Noble, Barracks Road Shopping Center Grow your heart three sizes with this beloved holiday classic and join in special activities.

434-984-0461, stores.barnesandnoble.com

Virginia Gingerbread House Competition November 16 for entry forms, December 2–5 display at the Omni Hotel Entry forms due to the Ronald McDonald House. Drop-offs of creations at the Omni Hotel on November 30 and December 1. This year’s theme is “Favorite Holiday Book.”

434-295-1885, rmhcharlottesville.org

Maymont Mansion Holiday Tours

November 16–January 6, 12–5pm at Maymont Mansion, Richmond Lavish decorations and old-timey activities bring a Victorian Christmas to life.

804-358-7166, maymont.org

Christmas Town

November 17–January 5, 2019, select dates at Busch Gardens, Williamsburg Experience Christmas traditions from around the world. Visit Santa Claus at his North Pole workshop and sip some hot chocolate.

800-343-7946, seaworldparks.com

Celebration of Holiday Lights

November 19–January 1, 2019, 5–11pm at Gypsy Hill Park, Staunton Enjoy a drive through the 214-acre park aglow with charming night-time scenes, most made by local organizations and businesses.

540-886-8660, celebrationoflights.org

Boar’s Head Grand Illumination

FAMILY ART JAMs:

November 17

Age-appropriate tours with hands-on art activities. uvafralinartmuseum.virginia.edu museumoutreach@virginia.edu 434.243.2050

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November 23, 5–8:15pm at Boar’s Head Resort & Inn Enjoy a walking tour of festive lights and Christmas trees. The Tree Lighting ceremony starts at 5pm, and pictures with Santa from 6–8pm. Enjoy carriage rides, hot chocolate and cookies from 5:15–8:15pm. 434-296-2181, boarsheadresort.com

Christmas Fair

November 23–24, Friday 9am–5pm, Saturday 9am–5pm at The Frontier Culture Museum The museum offers their version of the traditional, German-inspired Christmas Market.

Enjoy holiday-themed activities, caroling and more. 540-332-7850, frontiermuseum.org

Dominion GardenFest of Lights

Gingerbread Workshops

November 23–January 7, 2019, 5–10pm at Lewis Ginter Botanical Garden, Richmond A holiday tradition featuring more than a-halfa-million lights, botanical decorations, trains, seasonal activities and more.

804-262-9887, lewisginter.org

November 25–December 23, Sundays 1–3pm at The Boar’s Head Resort & Inn Spend a fun afternoon with Santa and Mrs. Claus designing and building your own edible masterpiece. Light refreshments and Boar’s Head homemade hot chocolate and cookies will be served. 855-220-6620, boarsheadinn.com

Breakfast with Santa & Carriage Ride

November 24–December 22, Saturdays, 9–11am at The Boar’s Head Resort & Inn Glide on a horse-drawn carriage through the resort. Enjoy a traditional breakfast as children whisper Christmas wishes in Santa’s ear.

434-972-2230, boarsheadinn.com

Cookies with Santa

Deck the Halls Open House

Charlottesville’s Grand Illumination!

November 29–December 9, Various times at Stonefield: Suite 120, 2035 Bond Street Children enjoy one-on-one time and a photo with Santa and share cookies at this holiday event. jlcville.org

November 24–25, 11am–5pm at Early Mountain Vineyards, Madison Local makers and artisans present their crafts, and Early Mountain offers a wide array of food and wine. Holiday fun for the whole family.

540-948-9005, earlymountain.com

November 25, 9am–4:30pm at Monticello Visit with Thomas Jefferson for free and see the house decorated for the holidays. The Shop at Monticello will offer tastings and treats.

434-984-9800, monticello.org

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The Best Christmas Pageant Ever

November 30–December 16 at Four County Players Mainstage, Barboursville This holiday-themed production, written by Barbara Robinson and directed by Jane Gargett, will be presented on the Mainstage.

540-832-5355, fourcp.org

across from Pen Park

Free admission and parking*

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Friday, Nov. 30, 2018 6–9pm

Helping Hands Craft Bazaar

YOU

CAN November 3, 9am–3pm at Ruckersville HELP! Elementary School Benefiting the WCOG Scholarship Fund. Get a head start on holiday shopping and enjoy lunch. facebook.com/events/282779422341258

RVCC 12th Annual Winter Markets

November 3, December 1 & 15, 9am–12pm at Rockfish Valley Community Center, Afton Each market, except for the one on December 15, coincides with RVCC’s Pancake Breakfast and the Treasure Chest Boutique Bag Day. 434-361-1725, rockfishcc.org

Friends of the Library Fall Book Sale November 3–11, 10am–7pm at Gordon Avenue Library Browse books, CDs, DVDs, LPs, games, puzzles and more. Proceeds benefit programs and services of the JeffersonMadison Regional Library.

434-977-8467, jmrlfriends.org

YOU CAN HELP!

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*complimentary park-n-ride shuttle service from the Charlottesville Catholic School

Sneak Preview Shopping Event

November 3, 8am–12pm at Scottsville Pavilion 434-286-9267, scottsvillefarmersmarket.org

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120 Waldorf School Rd.

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jump-rope making leather stamping candle-dipping children's secret garden • puppet show • raffle • Rudolf's Diner

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Holiday Open House

November 30, 5:30–8pm at the Downtown Mall Enjoy musical performances, kids’ crafts and activities, a visit from Santa and over 20,000 LED bulbs. The tree lighting begins at 7:30pm, followed by a showing of “Home Alone” at The Paramount Theater at 8pm.

CharlottesvilleFamily is a proud sponsor!

434-409-8226, charlottesville.org

MARKETS & BAZAARS

• local artisans • handmade gifts

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BRETT DENNEN

NOV 6

LOTUS CHRIS ROBINSON BROTHERHOOD RUMOURS

NOV 7 NOV 8 NOV 10

SAN HOLO

NOV 11

WITH NICK MULVEY

A FLEETWOOD FLEE MAC TRIBUTE

WITH BAYNK, TASKA BLACK, AND THE NICHOLAS

MARCUS KING BAND NOV 12 WITH SPECIAL GUEST IDA MAE

I’M WITH HER

NOV 15

THE INFAMOUS STRINGDUSTERS

NOV 16

“THANKFUL DEAD”

NOV 21

WITH THE BROTHER B BROTHERS

WITH THE WAY DOWN WANDERERS

FEATURING BIGFOOT COUNTY & MAMA TRIED

GROOVE TRAIN WITH LYDIA STATION

NOV 24

WITH THE MASTERSONS SPONSORED BY WTJU

DEC 9

SOUTHSIDE JOHNNY & THE ASBURY JUKES DEC 14 WITH THE GLADSTONES

BILLY STRINGS HISS GOLDEN MESSENGER SKIP CASTRO

November Yard Sale

November 9–10, 4:30–6:30pm Friday, 8am–1pm Saturday at The Center, 491 Hillsdale Drive A selection of holiday décor, kitchenware, all the decorations you need for trimming your tree and more. The event kicks off with an early-bird sale on Friday. 434-974-7756, thecentercville.org

Holiday Craft Fair

RICHARD THOMPSON ELECTRIC TRIO NOV 28 STEVE EARLE & THE DUKES NOV 29 EDDIE FROM F OHIO

CHARLOTTESVILLE’S GRAND ILLUMINATION

November 30, 5:30–8pm at the Downtown Mall. See page 15.

DEC 20 DEC 21 DEC 29

YOU CAN HELP!

November 10, 9am–2pm at Moose Lodge 715, Lynchburg Browse crafts, jewelry and artwork, and the bazaar will offer food and a door prize raffle.

Proceeds benefit the Jefferson Choral Society.

434-528-5700, jeffersonchoralsociety.org

Rummage Sale & Silent Auction

YOU

November 10 at Misty Mountain CAN HELP! Camp Resort Lots of excellent, even new, items.

There will also be a silent auction. All proceeds will go to St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital.

888-647-8900, mistymountaincampresort.com

Holiday Shopping at the Farmers Market

November 17, 8am–12pm at Madison County Volunteer Fire Company 540-948-6881, madisonfarmersmarket.info

Craft Fair at Albemarle High School

NEW YEAR’S EVE DECEMBER 31, 2018

DONNA THE BUFFALO FEB 2 MANDOLIN ORANGE FEB 4 DAWES FEB 8 KATHLEEN MADIGAN FEB 15 LYAO COMEDY SHOWCASE

For more info and full calendar lisings visit:

JEFFERSONTHEATER.COM

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November 17, 9am–3pm at Albemarle High School The Albemarle High School Band Boosters are hosting a craft fair with photography, jewelry, baskets, knit and crochet items, jams and more.

434-975-9300 , k12albermarle.org

15th Annual Mistletoe Market

YOU

November 18, 10am–4pm CAN HELP! at Boar’s Head Pavilion An annual holiday shopping event featuring artisans, craft makers and vendors from Charlottesville and surrounding areas.

All proceeds will benefit the Junior League of Charlottesville and the Charlottesville community. 540-570-9258, jlcville.org

Poinsettia Open House

November 23 & 24, 8am–5:30pm Friday, 8am–5pm Saturday at Milmont Greenhouse, Waynesboro Enjoy homemade donuts and coffee, vendors, door prizes and over 30 varieties of poinsettias.

540-943-8408, milmont.com

Green Valley Book Fair

November 23–December 17 at 2192 Green Valley Ln., Mt. Crawford Huge selection of children’s books at 60–90 percent off retail prices on new, over-run or irregular books. 800-385-0099, gobookfair.com

Holiday Market

November 24–December 22, Saturdays, 8am–1pm at Second and Water Street parking lots 434-970-3371, charlottesville.org

The 43rd Christmas Collection

November 29–December 2, 10am–7pm Thursday–Saturday, 10am–5pm Sunday at the Richmond Raceway Complex Comb through a wide selection of unique holiday gifts. 804-673-7015, thebizarrebazaar.com

STAGE & SCREEN Books on the Big Screen

Now–December 1, First Saturdays, 2:30pm at Northside Library An afternoon movie and a snack. Be sure to bring a blanket and a pillow to sit on.

November: “How to Train Your Dragon.”

December: “Matilda.” 434-973-7893, jmrl.org

Virginia Film Festival

November 1–4, Various times at Various locations Celebrate the magic of movies and find inspiration with featured documentaries, films and fresh perspectives on timeless classics.

434-924-3376, virginiafilmfestival.org

Family Day at the Virginia Film Festival

THE BIZARRE BAZAAR®

November 3, 9am–3pm at Betsy & John Casteen Arts Grounds, UVA Enjoy free screenings of kid-friendly films, free art-inspired workshops, drop-in toddler activities and crafts, performances and music.

434-982-5277, virginiafilmfestival.org

presents...

The 43 rd Christmas Collection

13th Annual Best of Both Worlds Dance and Step Competition

November 17, 3:30pm at The Paramount Theater See dance and step teams competing for their share of $2,500 in cash and prizes, as well as bragging rights, in this highly competitive event. 434-979-1333, theparamount.net

Mike Super: Magic & Illusion

Fabulous Unique Gifts!

November 24, 7pm at The Paramount Theater Illusionist Mike Super wows the crowd with never-before-seen magic tricks.

434-979-1333, theparamount.net

Picture Book Film Fest

10 - 7 10 - 7 10 - 7 10- 5

Adults - $9.00 - Children (2-12) - $1.50

50¢ off One Adult General Admission at door with this ad!

RICHMOND RACEWAY COMPLEX

November 29, 10:30–11:30am at Crozet Library Bring a blanket and pillow, cozy up and watch a few of your favorite stories on the big screen. Drop-ins are welcome.

434-823-4050, jmrl.org

Virginia Glee Club’s 78th Annual Christmas Concert

Thursday, November 29th Friday, November 30th Saturday, December 1st Sunday, December 2nd

TICKETS!

Advance, Preview & Early Bird Tickets Sold Online at:

www.thebizarrebazaar.com

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November 30 & December 8, 8pm at Old Cabell Hall (Nov. 30) & First Presbyterian Church (Dec. 8) The UVA Glee Club performs seasonal favorites with plenty of audience participation and entertainment for the entire family. virginiagleeclub.org

SPORTS & OUTDOORS Liberty Mills Farm Corn Maze

Now–November 10 at Liberty Mills Farm, Somerset Get lost in Central Virginia’s largest corn maze of over 33 acres. Admission includes puzzles within the maze, hay rides (when operating), and activities and games.

434-882-6293, libertymillsfarm.com YOU CAN HELP!

22nd Annual 5K Run/Walk for Shelter

November 3, 7–7:45am race registration; 8am race starts at Downtown Mall This run in downtown Charlottesville benefits the Shelter for Help in Emergency, which serves victims of domestic violence.

434-963-4676, shelterforhelpinemergency.org

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14th Annual Kelly Watt Memorial Race

Wildrock Autumn Trail Magic

6th Annual Habitat for Humanity Rake-a-thon

November 3, 9am packet pick-up at North Branch School, Afton Support North Branch by participating in a series of fitness challenges for all ages. Face painting, refreshments and festival fun, too.

434-962-6428, north-branch-school.org

November 3, 10 & 17, 9:30am–5pm at 6600 Blackwells Hollow Rd, Crozet Create, play and explore with exciting trail activities and free fun on a unique nature playscape. 434-825-8631, wildrock.org

UVA’s Men’s Basketball Home Games November 6, 11 & 16 at John Paul Jones Arena Join in cheering on the ‘Hoos at home. virginiasports.com

November 17, 8:30am Kids Run, 9am 2-mile Race at Panorama Farms Run in the open two-mile race or have the kids run the half-mile run. All kids receive awards for participation. thewattey.net YOU CAN HELP!

November 17, 9am–3pm at Various locations A family-friendly event for people of all ages which raises funds and awareness for affordable housing in the Charlottesville community.

434-293-9066, allevents.in

ARTS & CRAFTS Family Art Drop-In

November 9, 20, 24 & 25 at John Paul Jones Arena Join in cheering on the ‘Hoos at home. virginiasports.com

November 2, 10:30am–12pm at Northside Library Families are invited to construct fall leaf suncatchers together. Making eye-catching art can be messy, so be sure to come to the library dressed to create. 434-973-7893, jmrl.org

Ultimate Nerf Battle

Sharpie Tie Dye

UVA’s Women’s Basketball Home Games

November 10, 6–8:30pm at ACAC Adventure Central Children grades 1 through 8 are invited to the gym for an epic Nerf battle in the Arena. Pizza and juice will be provided for a dinner in the Big Room afterwards. 434-978-3800, acac.com

November 3, 11am–12:30pm at Crozet Library Bring a washed and dried white t-shirt to create an awesome wearable work of art. Grades 5–8.

Registration required. 434-823-4050, jmrl.org

Rain, snow, or shine!

Sunday, December 2 11:00 AM Start Downtown Mall Course: 1 mile

Family Art JAMs: Nature Up Close

November 17, 1–3pm for ages 5–7, 3–5pm for ages 8–12 at UVA’s Fralin Museum of Art Age-appropriate tours with hands-on art activities for children. Parents/adult family members are encouraged to serve as assistants.

434-243-2050, uvafralinartmuseum.virginia.edu

Alcohol Ink Tiles Craft Workshop

November 19, 6:30–8:30pm at Crozet Library Decorate ceramic tiles with alcohol ink to create unique designs. Ages 14 and up. Registration required. 434-823-4050, jmrl.org

LEARNING FUN Writer’s Eye Contest & Tours

Now–November 16 at UVA’s Fralin Museum of Art This annual competition challenges youth in grades 3–12, University students and adults to submit original poetry and prose compositions inspired by works on view in the Museum.

434-924-3592, uvafralinartmuseum.virginia.edu

Earth Drama

November 2, 10–10:45am at Crozet Library Native American tales come to life in this blend of theatre and storytelling. Registration required. 434-823-4050, jmrl.org

Mark your calendar!

Be a Claus for a Cause!

Put a team together or fund-raise individually and run/walk a mile as Santa to help The Arc of the Piedmont provide and serve people with intellectual and developmental disabilities.

All proceeds from this event go to support the programs and services The Arc of the Piedmont provides for people in Charlottesville and the surrounding community living with intellectual and developmental disabilities. Thank you for supporting our mission!

Event Day Registrants will receive their costumes (Santa suit for adults and elf ears for children). Please arrive to the check-in location at the Sprint Pavilion on the Downtown Mall between 9:30 and 10:30 a.m. to receive your costume and turn in any donations if Awards will be presented necessary. No paper tickets are necessary.

to the top corporate team and family team for raising money for the Arc of the Piedmont mission!

Enjoy light breakfast snacks and refreshments beginning at 9:30am to fuel up before your run/walk!

Register online: https://events.arcpva.org/arcsantarun2018

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February 10, 2019

Fun Fair& Camp Expo

2019

The only Expo of its kind in Central Virginia!

Exhibitor and Sponsorship spaces still available!

Call (434) 984-4713

NaNoWriMo Kickoff Party

November 3, 2–4pm at Crozet Library Head to the library to learn helpful techniques, get motivated and find resources to get your writing challenge off to the perfect start. 434823-4050, jmrl.org

Block Play

is proud to support Toy Lift!

November 9, 10:30–11:30am at Crozet Library The library will provide a variety of block stations for you and your little one to explore.

Ages 6–35 months. Registration requested.

434-823-4050, jmrl.org

Creation Station

November 30, 3:30–4:30pm at Gordon Avenue Library Stop by the library to create alongside UVA Madison House volunteers. STEAM ahead with hands-on fun, and delve into science, technology, engineering, art and math discovery.

434-296-5544, jmrl.org

ESPECIALLY FOR TEENS Teen Game Night

November 13, 6:30–8pm at Crozet Library The library will supply the standards, as well as games like Pandemic, Harry Potter: Hogwarts Battle and more. Feel free to bring your own games. Grades 6–12. 434-823-4050, jmrl.org

Job Fair with Virginia Career Works

November 14, 2–5pm at Northside Library Visit the library and sit down one-on-one with more than 15 representatives from local employers. Bringing a resume is encouraged.

Arrive an hour early for a helpful workshop on job interviewing. Ages 16 and up.

434-973-7893, jmrl.org

Creative Writing Club

November 28, 5–6pm at Northside Library Collaborate and get constructive feedback on your writing. All creative writing is welcome, including poetry, nonfiction and fanfiction.

434-973-7893, jmrl.org

OPEN HOUSES Renaissance School Fall Open House November 5, 9am–11am at Renaissance School 434-984-1952, renaissanceschool.org

Covenant School’s Student Visitation Day

November 6, All day at The Covenant School RSVP to attend. 434-220-7330, covenantschool.org

Field School Open House

November 6, 9–11am at Field School of Charlottesville 434-923-3435, fieldschoolcv.net cont’d pg 22

It Only Takes

ONE to make a

difference this holiday season!

2018 TOY LIFT

Friday, December 7, 2017

toylift.org CharlottesvilleFamily.com

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the t c e f r e P Tree!

Bees & Trees Farm Elkwood 540-423-9020, beesandtrees.biz

Belmont Christmas Tree Farm Spotsylvania 540-854-6757, facebook.com/BelmontChristmasTreeFarm/

Chisholm Vineyards at Adventure Farm Earlysville 434-971-8796, chisholmvineyards.com

Christmas Trees at The Market at Grelen Somerset 540-672-7268, themarketatgrelen.com

Claybrooke Tree Farm Mineral 540-872-3817, claybrookefarm.com

Poinsettia Open House

eene Meadow r G s Farm A Traditional Christmas Experience

Friday, November 23 & Saturday, November 24 Open 8:00 - 5:30 MOn - Fri 8:00 - 5:00 Sat

located on rt 340 about 3.5 miles south of i-64.

Less than 30 minutes from Charlottesville!

Vendors free homemade donuts door prizes & more!

Visit www.milmont.com for the latest updates on specials and details for the open house.

(540) 943-8408 • milmont@milmont.com

www.milmont.com

choose

& cut:

White Pine White Spruce (limited) Canaan Fir (limited) fresh pre-cut

Frazer Fir Concolor Fir Canaan Fir

plus wreaths • swags garland •centerpieces

Visit the Christmas Shop to help outfit your perfect tree.

Visit the lambs in our Petting Zoo while enjoying a complimentary cup of hot cocoa or cider, a candy cane and coloring book.

Open the Friday after Thanksgiving until Christmas Eve

Fri., Sat., Sun. 10 am - 5 pm

434.990.1999

www.greenemeadowsfarm.com

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Foxfire Christmas Tree Farm Scottsville 434-286-3445, foxfireva.net

**Greene Meadows Farm November 23–December 24, Friday– Sunday, 10am–5pm at Greene Meadows Tree Farm, Stanardsville Choose and cut White Pine, White Spruce (limited) or Canaan Fir (limited), or choose a fresh pre-cut Fraser Fir, Concolor Fir or Canaan Fir. Fresh wreaths, centerpieces, swags and garland will also be available.

Visit with lambs in the petting zoo while you sip a complimentary cup of cider or hot

chocolate, a candy cane and coloring book.

434-990-1999, greenemeadowsfarm.com

Long Meadow Tree Farm Waynesboro 540-649-4307, facebook.com/LongMeadowTreeFarm

Saunders Brothers Farm Market Piney River 434-277-5455, saundersbrothersfarmmarket.com

Spruce Rock Farm Brightwood 540-543-2309, sprucerockfarm.com

Stonehearth Christmas Tree Farm Leon 540-547-2576, facebook.com/Stonehearth-ChristmasTree-Farm-181376008540160/

**See ad below

WAYNESBORO December 1

LYNCHBURG December 15

CHARLOTTESVILLE December 20-23 Land of the Snowflakes inspired by

www.CharlottesvilleBallet.org/Nutcracker FOR 10% OFF TICKETS IN CHARLOTTESVILLE, USE DISCOUNT CODE CVF22

The 2018-19 Season would not be possible without the support from our Diamond Level Corporate Sponsors:

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November 7, 5–7pm at Albemarle High School 434-975-9300, k12albemarle.org

Tandem Friends School Admissions Information Session

Join us for a very special event that will create Holiday Memories for the entire family!

Gingerbread House Competition There is a category for everyone—children, youth, adults, businesses, organizations, and professionals. Creating a gingerbread house is a great group activity. Your entry can be created over a period of time. Start now and take it to perfection over the weeks ahead. We need to know of your intent to enter by November 16, but actual creations are not due until November 30/December 1. See our website for this year’s theme, guidelines, and the entry form.

All of the beautiful gingerbread creations will be open for viewing —free of charge—starting the evening of: December 2 • 4pm-8pm December 3 & 4 • 10am-8pm December 5 • 10am-2pm

For full details and updates visit: rmhcharlottesville.org/Events

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Volunteer opportunities available for this event. Visit the website!

November 8, 9–10:30am at Tandem Friends School 434-951-9314, tandemfs.org

Regents School of Charlottesville Open House November 13, 7pm at Regents School of Charlottesville 434-293-0633, regents-school.org

DATE NIGHT Opening Night Gala: 31st Annual Virginia Film Festival

Presented by:

Winners of each category will be announced the evening of December 4. There will be special visitors to join us along the way, too!

November 1, 9:30pm–12am at the Jefferson Theater The Gala brings together visiting stars and Festival patrons in celebration of the magic and beauty of film. 434-982-5277, virginiafilmfestival.org

Brett Dennen

November 6, 8pm at the Jefferson Theater Singer-songwriter and avid traveler Brett Dennen performs a folksy set. Erin Rae opens.

434-245-4980, jeffersontheater.com

Charlottesville Ballet UpFront

FIRST EVER Meals on Wheels

Santa Picture Event & Holiday Gift Drive Saturday, December 1st • 1–4pm at Cardinal Point Winery

with professional photography by Lindsey Zovco

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November 10, 4–7pm at CB Studio Theatre, Charlottesville Ballet An exclusive preview performance of the 2018– 2019 season with a celebration sponsored by The Shebeen Pub & Braai. Enjoy repertory from the Charlottesville Ballet choreographic archives and excerpts from the season’s upcoming story ballets. 434-227-7592, charlottesvilleballet.org

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New Dad 6 Ways to Help a First-Time Dad Feel Involved

New Mom

Because caring for a newborn is more like a multi-month music festival where artists share the stage, this month’s column is dedicated to you, new dad.

But let’s rewind to before baby’s debut. Pregnancy is a great time to become an involved partner. Here are some ways you can show your commitment and love.

1) Come along for prenatal doctor’s appointments and childbirth classes.

For a first-time mom (and all moms, really), having her partner present for pregnancy checkups is both comforting and helpful. Early in pregnancy, work to establish a shared calendar. Schedule appointment times and classes that work for both of you. Before meeting with your medical caregivers, make a list of questions and concerns. While mom’s being examined, take notes and collect forms for reference at home.

2) Collaborate on work/family time-sharing. If you and mom-to-be both work outside the home, discuss what your professional plans will be postpartum. Will one of you become the primary caregiver while the other works full-time? Or

by Whitney Woollerton Morrill will you need full-time childcare after maternity leave because you both will return to work full-time? Map out a strategy that respects both parents’ needs and obligations. Weigh the family budget, work goals and degrees of flexibility.

3) Plan for a secure future. Are you and your partner financial gurus? If so, great! If not, become ones so that you, mom-to-be and baby can plan for prosperity and feel prepared for whatever life brings. Do you have health, life and disability insurance so your family’s has a safety net? Are there taxadvantaged accounts for your retirement and baby’s education? It may take a village to raise a child, but it takes a town to raise a parent. Build a team of professionals who can help ‘get your house in order’. Consider an estate attorney for advance medical directives, wills and trusts, as well as engaging a financial advisor to help with short and long-term savings goals.

Once baby arrives, new partners can be involved by: It's not too early to start looking 4) Repeating 1, 2 and 3! Attend newborn check-ups, of for gift ideas. Alakazam Toys which there are many in the first month. The early weeks of and Shenanigans Toys are parenthood are exciting and tiring, so having both parents two great places to start your present to assimilate information is invaluable. Keep the shopping locally. For more, work/life conversation going because sometimes priorities see the “Shop” section on shift after baby arrives.

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5) Stay tuned in to your partner and baby. Mom and baby may seem like an inseparable pair because they’re so physically and emotionally interdependent. But remember, the more the merrier. Sit with them during feedings and take turns offering bottles.

Change diapers, do laundry, record feedings and once baby’s well fed, put him in your arms and rock him to sleep. When taking walks as a family, take turns wearing him in a front carrier.

6) Ply baby’s mom with food and outings. Put snacks in the pockets of the rocking chair. Stock the car with water and quick calories. Set your phone to remind you every 30–60 minutes to see if she needs a break to shower, take a walk, surf online or call a friend. Station little tables or stools around the house where mom can set a water glass and a burp cloth. Little gestures mean a lot because they say, “we’re in this together.”

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Expert Advice

Dear Bob

Your Parenting Questions Answered

My 3-year-old is biting other children at daycare and we cannot get her to stop.

What can I do? The school said that if it continues she will need to stay home until she can follow the rules.

My grandson was kicked out of a couple of daycare centers when he was a preschooler for biting. It’s a fairly common problem for children between 2–4 years old. In this case, the problem is that your daughter doesn’t yet have words she can use when she feels frustrated, angry or scared. Kids aren’t naturally aggressive.

They strike out when they don’t know what else to do.

You want to start by letting her know this is serious, that biting hurts others and she can’t do this. Say this is a firm but calm way—no yelling or spanking, and absolutely no biting her to show her how it feels—as this prevents her from hearing your message and will only make her be more aggressive. If she (and you) are calm, ask her what happened at school to lead her to biting. You want to tell her to go to her teacher when these situations happen. You can even role-play at home.

by Bob Taibbi You can also arrange playdates where you have a chance to watch her in action. Here, you want to intervene when you can tell she is getting emotionally upset. Calmly pull her aside and say that you can tell she is starting to get upset and want to help. Ask her what she would like to do or give her forced choices, such as take a break, solve the problem with sharing the toy, etc. Make sure you reward her when you see she is being cooperative or reining in her emotions.

Finally, talk with her teachers to get their input, and come up with a plan together. Oftentimes, teachers can tell when a child is getting too wound up and then it is a matter of their intervening more quickly.

Although my husband happily enough chips in with chores and childcare, I am in charge and he expects me to direct him on what he could do followed by thanking him. I feel like this is an unfair balance of responsibility since we both have careers and that it’s setting a bad example for our son and daughter who even at 5 and 7 seem to understand mom is in charge.

You are not alone; there is plenty of research backing up your Email your parenting complaints. In spite of all the economic and social changes of concerns and queries to the past decades, women are still doing the heavy lifting when it editor@IvyPublications.com. comes to household responsibilities. It sounds like you are actually Yours might be included in describing two problems. One is that your husband is passively an upcoming issue! following your direction. The other issue is that because of this you become the drill sergeant and are seen as such by your kids.

This is a not a chore problem but a communication problem. You want to have a conversation with your husband away from little ears about your concerns. Let him know you appreciate his stepping up but that you’re worried about the kid’s perceptions (talk about soft emotions like worry and concern rather than annoyed or angry). See if you can come up with a chore list together with items he is in charge of. Better yet, make this a family activity.

Have the kids participate in chores and have your husband start the conversation in a family meeting with the kids. Give the kids forced choices and establish expectations ahead-of-time about when and how chores will get done.

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Diabetes I and II

Healthy Family

How Everyone Can Support Children with Diabetes According to the American Diabetes Association, nearly 193,000 children have diabetes. “A child with diabetes needs an adult [with some basic knowledge] to be responsible for their care at all times,” says Dr. Christine Burt Solorzano, an Associate Professor of Pediatrics at UVA’s Children’s Hospital.

Diabetes I vs. II. Diabetes is a condition where the body doesn’t adequately produce or use the hormone insulin. Insulin controls glucose levels, a type of sugar the body’s cells use for energy in the blood. Without enough insulin, cells starve and stop functioning properly. Type I is an autoimmune disorder, where the immune system attacks cells that make insulin. People with Type I diabetes need to take insulin multiple times a day around mealtimes. People with Type II diabetes still make some (but not enough) insulin, and their bodies can’t use it properly. Oftentimes Type II is related to weight, and children are more likely to

by Katharine Paljug have Type II if a parent does.

Children frequently need to change their insulin doses and nutrition as they grow. Because of this, the American Diabetes Association advises working with a team that specializes in pediatric diabetes to create a daily management plan.

If diabetes isn’t properly controlled, it can affect the kidneys, eyes, heart and feet. Low glucose, known as hypoglycemia, can lead to seizures or a coma, and elevated glucose levels can impair the immune system or lead to a serious condition called diabetic ketoacidosis (DKA).

Supporting children with diabetes. In addition to needing help from parents, teachers, coaches, grandparents, babysitters and even the parents of friends can and should lend a hand. If you are responsible for a child with diabetes, you should be able to assist with checking their glucose levels or giving a rapidacting sugar if their glucose drops too low. If a child with diabetes eats with you, you will also need to supervise the counting of carbs, checking of blood sugar levels and administering of insulin.

If a child shows signs for severe hypoglycemia—hunger; feeling shaky, sweaty and/or weak; headache; unusual sleepiness, confusion, seizure or loss of consciousness; For more information about behavioral/mood changes; vision changes; and nighttime helping a child with diabetes, awakening, you should test the child’s blood glucose. If the visit the American Diabetes blood glucose is less than 70 to 80 mg/dL and the child is Association at diabetes.org. alert, give rapid-acting sugar (e.g., drink juice or regular soda, cake gel into cheeks). Repeat every 15 minutes until the blood glucose is normal. If the child’s levels don’t respond, call 911.

If a child is showing signs of diabetic ketoacidosis (DKA), seek medical attention. Signs of ketones and acidosis include: thirst and frequent urination from high blood glucose readings; stomachache, nausea or vomiting; rapid breathing; breath that smells fruity; and decreased alertness or consciousness.

Mental health and independence. Talk openly with your child about diabetes. For younger kids, consider speaking to their classmates, with the school’s permission, about diabetes and how it is managed. Teenagers may be torn between wanting help and wanting to pretend they are normal. Solorzano says to encourage teens to be independent, while also being active in their care to keep them safe.

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Katharine is a freelance writer, Bloom’s Family Health Editor and mother to one busy toddler. You can see more of her work at katharine-writes.com.

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{living well home & garden}

“The work of a garden bears visible fruits – in a world where most of our labors seem suspiciously meaningless.”

– Pam Brown

Putting the Garden to Bed words by Becky Calvert

With the summer vegetable garden—a pleasant memory as the blooms are visibly fading—one might think she is done with garden tasks until next spring. The truth is, what you do in the fall helps set the garden up for success next year.

Start by removing all annuals from the soil, even the ones in pots. If any other plants are showing signs of disease, now is the time to remove the diseased parts and dispose of them by either burning or placing them into the trash rather than creating a brush or compost pile. Scrub all pots clean, dumping the soil into a bin or other large container to be reused next season. Comb through the soil you plan to recycle to remove all roots and to allow the soil to dry out. Old potting soil can be used in a variety of ways, from filling in holes in the yard that were dug out by critters, refreshing it to use in next season’s pots, potting up giveaway plants or topdressing for newly planted carrots, beets and other shallowly planted seeds.

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Fall is the best time to amend the soil, allowing time for the improvements to take place. This is the time to test the soil, plant a cover crop or just mulch the area. Never leave bare soil going into winter, and avoid using hardwood mulch in areas you want to plant next spring, as it takes longer to break down without adding as many beneficial nutrients to your soil. Mulch also helps start your battle against next season’s weeds. Instead of bagging all those leaves, rake them into a pile in the corner of the yard and let them rest. They will quickly become free mulch that offers much to your soil.

Take time to clean your garden tools as well, removing all soil, sharpening edges and oiling metal parts for longer lasting tools before storing them for the winter.

One thing you can skip? Don’t bother deadheading all those perennials, as those seed heads offer food and habitat for wildlife throughout the winter, and not to mention a bit of interest to the winter landscape.

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Start with a theme, whether it be a color like blue or a pattern like stripes, florals or polka dots to find a common denominator to work with. Then begin to layer your dishes with your charger or dinner plate on the bottom, followed by salad and bread plates before topping off the arrangement with a soup dish.

Alternate the settings at your table, rather than trying to have each

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Now & Again: Go-To Recipes, Inspired Menus + Endless Ideas for Reinventing Leftovers

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This book is filled with go-to recipes and endless ideas for recreating leftovers while being thrifty with food choices—concepts all of us welcome when it comes to feeding our famines. Turshen’s latest book also gives ideas on what to do with some of that produce that is fading fast along with some inspired menu ideas. Available for $28 at Barnes & Noble, Barracks Road.

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{living well food & family} words and photos by Sylvia & Patrick Kibler

“One cannot think well, love well, sleep well, if one has not dined well.

– Virginia Woolf

The Spice Diva Phyllis Hunter’s Passions Spice Up Charlottesville Just four months after Phyllis Hunter, the owner of The Spice Diva, a former professional opera singer and mother of three, moved to Charlottesville with her husband, William, she opened her spice shop in Charlottesville’s Main Street Market.

Always passionate about food, her inspiration for the shop came during a visit to see their son in northern California.

While there, he recommended a trip to Oxbow Public Market in Napa. “There was an independent spice shop there,” Hunter says, “And after shopping there twice, I had made my decision.”

In March of 2016, Hunter expanded to a new location inside Main Street Market to allow for a full kitchen large enough for cooking classes and demonstrations. Hunter also serves as a Co-founder of Charlottesville Women in Food, a support group where female food professionals come together to raise awareness and to promote female empowerment in the restaurant community.

What do you love most about having a business in Charlottesville Community?

My wonderful customers. They are well travelled, well read and well versed in many styles of cooking.

Do you have any current projects at work?

Currently, I am working on expanding my wholesale business and my online sales, and serving the Charlottesville Women in Food, which now has 315 members.

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What are your favorite recipes to make?

My favorites are: Roast Chicken; Chicken Provençal; Turkey Zucchini Burgers from Jerusalem, A Cookbook; Lamb Shawarma from Jerusalem, A Cookbook; and Cream Cheese Pound Cake.

What was your favorite book as a child?

The Wizard of Oz by L. Frank Baum.

What is one of your first food memories?

The very crusty fried chicken from The Chicken Shack in Abilene, Texas, is a memory that still sticks with me. My granddad used to take us there after church on Sundays, and I’ve been looking for it ever since. The first thing I remember baking was with my mother. We used to make an orange pound cake with orange glaze.

Whom do you admire?

Leni Sorensen. She and I have similar backgrounds in show business. She has reinvented herself many times by growing and canning her own food, getting her PhD after she had children and becoming a food historian. She is our connection between the present and the past as the Charlottesville area evolves out of its history into the modern era.

What traits do you find admirable in others?

Loyalty, intellectual curiosity, tolerance and openness.

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We always love Continental Divide, and even though we say we will not “this time,” we always order Santa Fe Enchiladas. For more sophisticated fare, the C & O Restaurant has a beef tartare [Beef Sirloin Carpaccio] that is superb.

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Plan ahead and save your money.

What is your favorite go-to snack?

Cheese straws.

Can you share a recipe that is quick and easy to make with kids that they, too, will love?

Pick a spice mix that you love, such as Ras el Hanout, a 20-spice mixture from Morocco. Sprinkle it onto some chicken thighs and put them into an oven at 400 degrees for about 20 minutes. You have dinner, and they have a big sense of accomplishment.

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To keep my family from experiencing tragedy.

Why is it important to teach children about healthy eating?

My three boys were always hungry after school. I tried to bring a snack in the car when I picked them up. If they persuaded me to stop at a convenience store, they were allowed milk or water and a healthy snack to share. To this day, none of them drink soda.

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Frozen Whiskey Sours

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I remember watching my grandmother make this as a kid, wondering what made it so yummy that all of the adults would request it. When I got old enough, I realized why.

This delicious drink was my grandmother’s specialty and a huge hit with the adults. She

This recipe has been around in my family since my grandmother, my mom’s mom, hosted Thanksgiving decades ago. After this dish became a staple in our family’s Thanksgiving menu, my mother took to preparing and tried to give it a new spin with

would serve the whiskey sours in Jefferson cups to keep everything cold and delicious.

Cheers to you and your’s this Thanksgiving.

raisins. Not my favorite variation, but it’s a keeper nonetheless. My favorite is with dried cranberries (or craisins), and we hope you will try and like it, too. A secret I’ve learned is that it’s also a great way to get the kids to eat broccoli!

• 1 (12 oz) can frozen lemonade concentrate thawed a bit • 1 (12 oz) can frozen orange juice concentrate thawed a bit • Bottle of bourbon of your choice • Oranges, sliced • Cherries 1. In a large blender, fill halfway with ice.

2. Pour in lemonade and orange juice, then fill empty can of lemonade with bourbon and pour on top of mixture.

3. Blend on high speed to make slushy.

4. Add more ice if needed to make it a slushier consistency.

5. Garnish with orange slice and cherry.

6. Double or triple the batch for a larger crowd, and serve in Jefferson cups or chilled glasses for a festive touch.

• 5–6 cups broccoli florets (1 lb.)

• 1 cup sharp cheddar cheese (thicker, not finely shredded) • 2/3 cup dried cranberries • ½ cup crumbled bacon • ½ cup salted sunflower seeds • 1/3 cup red onion, diced Dressing: • ¾ cup mayo • ¼ cup sour cream • 1 ½ tablespoon white wine vinegar • 3 tablespoon sugar • ¼ teaspoon salt • ¼ teaspoon pepper 1. Combine broccoli florets, cheddar cheese, dried cranberries, bacon, sunflower seeds and onion in a large bowl.

2. In a separate, small bowl, whisk together mayo, sour cream, vinegar, sugar, salt and pepper until smooth and well combined.

3. Pour dressing over broccoli combination and toss or stir well.

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Granny Kerns’ Sweet Potato Pie

Leftover Turkey Soup

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This is a special recipe that has been handed down in our family for generations. It comes from my great grandmother, Granny Kerns, who grew up in the Ozarks where sweet potatoes grew well in the hills of Deepwater, Missouri, and were stored in the root cellar through the cold winter months. She faithfully carried her mother’s recipe with her in the covered wagon that took her as a 16-yearold bride to Oklahoma around the turn of the century and then back again to near her childhood home. The recipe was passed along by my Grandma Helen, who substituted condensed milk to try and replace the sweetness of rich whole milk from the family cow. My mother added cloves to the recipe and sometimes likes to add a tablespoon of butter. Enjoy!

• 1 ¾ cups of mashed cooked sweet potatoes • 1 teaspoon milk • ¾ cup milk • ¾ cup condensed milk • 3 eggs • 1 cup of sugar • 1 ¼ teaspoon of cinnamon • ½ teaspoon of nutmeg • ½ teaspoon of ginger • ¼ teaspoon cloves

1. Leave sweet potatoes in their skins and boil them until soft.

2. Cool, then peel and smash. It helps the peeling to do it under a tap running with cold water.

3. Combine the liquid ingredients [milk,

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condensed milk and eggs] in a small bowl, and then set aside.

4. Combine the dry ingredients [sugar, cinnamon, nutmeg, ginger and cloves] in a mixing bowl, then pour in the liquid mixture.

5. Once mixed together, add in the mashed sweet potatoes, and blend until thoroughly combined.

6. Pour into a 9-inch baking pan, and bake at 425 degrees for 45–55 minutes.

soup recipe for me. It's delicious, filling and so easy to prepare. And, the soup has now become a day-after Thanksgiving tradition in our family, one that we hope you will love as much as we do!

• 1 small onion, chopped • 1 cup chopped celery and/or other optional vegetables • 1 tablespoon oil • 2–3 cups diced turkey • 1 cup cooked rice • Leftover gravy, or combination of gravy and chicken broth 1. Sauté onion and celery in oil in saucepan until translucent.

2. Combine all ingredients in slow cooker, adding gravy and/or broth until you reach the consistency you want.

3. Cover. Cook on Low for at least 2–3 hours, or until heated thoroughly.

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It’s funny how sometimes the simplest things can mean the most. Take gratitude for example. It’s a very simple emotion, but one that can so easily be taken for granted.

In the hustle and bustle of everyday life, stopping to be grateful can be easy to forget.

only Thanksgiving but also Christmas. This is a busy season, so finding little ways to hit “pause” and be mindful of all the good there is around us just feels nice!

To begin, cut out several leaf shapes of paper. You could easily grab a leaf image

To celebrate November, and all that there is to be grateful for in my life, my daughter and me are making it a point to stop every day and make a note of something we’re thankful for. I think this is a great way to build up to not

off the Internet or even trace a cookie cutter if you have that.

Of course, you can do any shape you want. Next, just jot down something that comes to mind. Be sure to date it, too.

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initialing it or adding the writer’s name.

The reason I date it is because I want to keep these from year to year. I think it will be a lot of fun for my little one and I to have these to look back on in the coming years. She helped me write the “family” leaf. So cute! I think it will be fun to watch her handwriting develop over time, too!

Don’t be afraid to be silly and serious—a little of both is a good thing.

Because I always need a little sparkle in my life, I’ve clipped these with our handpainted glitter clothespins.

We hope you will join us in being “grateful on purpose” this month! I think it will radically increase our joy.

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Talking to Kids About

Disabilities

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Tips for Teaching Kids to Understand and Empathize

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“Why do you talk like that?” I heard the question come from behind me as I helped another child in the Sunday school class.

“It’s just the way I am,” I heard my sister-inlaw wisely answer the curious boy.

My sister-in-law, Kara, was born with Cerebral Palsy. She was helping me in the classroom that day when one of the kids noticed her speech is different. Kara has been taught to answer, “It’s just the way I am,” after years of questions about her differences Our kids have grown up around their beloved Aunt Kara and accept her as she is, but there came a time when each of them asked about Aunt Kara’s disability and why it makes her different.

Chances are, at some point, your child will meet someone at school or in the community that has a disability, whether it impacts their speech or their ability to partake in certain activities. It is normal for children to have questions about people who are different, which means parents should be prepared to answer their questions in an intelligent and appropriate way. Here are some tips to get the conversation started: Emphasize Similarities. All of us have unique gifts, personalities and challenges. No two people are the same, and this is a great thing because diversity makes life interesting and fun. While we all have differences, everyone has things in common, too. All people, including those with disabilities, want to have friends, be shown respect, have feelings, like to have fun and have the desire to be accepted. With care, separate the

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{resources parenting} person from the disability by encouraging your child to embrace the similarities and find common ground. Perhaps your child is interested in a popular television show, book, toy or game that a person with special needs is interested in, too.

Similarities could be as simple as them being the same age or both having a pet. Encourage your child to ask them what they love to do. I am sure they will be happy to tell you. Talking about similarities will help you show your child that a disability does not define a person.

It’s OK to Notice. Some disabilities are obvious and some are not. Some people may need a walker or wheelchair to help

A good place to emphasize it that just because a person can’t do something as well as others doesn’t mean that person doesn’t excel at something else.

them move around, while others may have a cognitive (thinking) disability that is not as visible. If you notice your child looking at someone with a visible disability, it is best to take the lead and explain in simple terms that people struggle with different things and may need a little extra help from a physical tool (like a wheelchair) or help from others. For instance, you could say, “I see that you are looking at that boy in a wheelchair. Some people’s

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muscles work differently than your’s so he needs it to help him move around.” People can have impairments with seeing, hearing, walking, speaking or cognitively, among a variety of other things. So, it is important to make sure our children understand that just because a person might have a visable impairment, such as needing a wheelchair, it doesn’t mean that person has a cognitive disability, too. Try to keep things positive by focusing on how something helps a person rather then their inability. These things may sound obvious to adults, but children process things differently and many have these questions.

Words Matter. Emphasize that people with disabilities have feelings, too. Namecalling is hurtful, disrespectful and is a form of bullying, and no one should be called a name based on a characteristic or inability.

People with disabilities need others to stand up for them when they cannot stand up for themselves. Encourage your child to tell an adult if kids are teasing another child. Your child can be an example to others by being kind and respectful. Parents can set an example by using positive and

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respectful

behavior

any other questions about others with

towards others, as well. A great place to

terminology

and

disabilities, and reinforce the value of

start is by identifying a person before

treating everyone equally. A good point to

their disability rather than identifying

emphasize is that just because a person

a person by their disability. Specifically,

can’t do something as well as others

rather than saying an “autistic child,” say

doesn’t mean that person doesn’t excel

“a child on the autism spectrum.”

at something else.

Teach Them to Understand and

My sister-in-law, now 38 years old,

Empathize. Kids are curious and love

has been asked many questions over

to ask questions. Many times, they will

the years, some rude and some just out

speak exactly what is on their mind

of curiosity. She has learned to handle

without thinking about whether the

them well because she knows that, just

comments will be hurtful. This can be

like anyone else, she has challenges to

very embarrassing to parents. So what

overcome and successes to celebrate.

do you do if your child blurts out a rude

Not everyone really understands all that

and embarrassing comment? Start by

comes with having a specific disability,

answering calmly and matter of factly.

so these questions are opportunities

If, for example, your child says, “Why

to share knowledge with others. Kara

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is that boy using a walker?” Simply

has also come to learn that she loves

answer, “He needs it to move around.

watching movies, dancing to music and

Why don’t you say hello?” If the child is

taking care of animals. She loves eating

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reluctant, say hello to him yourself along

candy, pizza and tacos. She is fun to be

with something like, “John likes trains.

around, and loves to get out and explore

Do you like trains, too?” If the person

new places. People with disabilities are

accompanying the child responds, follow

just people. So, sometimes that simple

their lead. It is always better to treat

fact is all kids need to know.

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others as you would like to be treated than to hurry away in an embarrassing

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Building Blocks for Nurturing Preschool Communication Skills Talking with your preschooler isn’t just about what you say but also what you do. And showing your child how to listen to what someone else is saying is an integral part of any conversation.

As any parent who has been on the

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and 5 talk a lot. With an endless stream

she is regularly amazed by the ways her

of whys, repetitive stories and awkward

students interact with her, each other and

public announcements about exactly

the world around them. “From ages 2 to 5

what Mommy did in the bathroom this

is when their mind is like a sponge, and it

morning, preschool children always have

just absorbs everything they see and hear

something to say.

around them,” says Adie.

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measuring the strategies teachers use in preschool classrooms. And she’s had the opportunity to take those strategies home to her own daughter, too.

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“Knowing that makes me feel better on those days I don’t feel like I went the extra mile at home.”

Conversation, says Adie, can be one of the easiest strategies to add to your daily interaction as a family. She suggests that parents make this exchange of ideas easier for young children by picking a specific topic to talk about. She recommends asking them, “How do you feel?” or “What did you have for snack today at school?” She continues, saying, “When you ask a question like ‘How was school today?’ you won’t get an answer, because children are immersed in the present moment. So, be more specific to

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help the child engage more.”

Ask Open-Ended Questions Talking to toddlers generally involves one- or maybe two-word replies. But conversations with your preschooler can become more complex. “Ask questions that don’t have a specific one-word answer, where you’re actually looking for them to elaborate and tell you something out of their own head,” advises Helferstay.

These

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thoughts.

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“Ask questions that don’t have a specific one-word answer, where you’re actually looking for them to elaborate and tell you something out of their own head,” advises Helferstay.

and speech. “For instance, if a child says,

physically engaging with your preschooler.

‘I hearded her crying,’ I can respond,

But, you can still listen carefully to what

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they are saying and respond thoughtfully.

This allows you to teach your child in an

“Really make the child feel that you are

organic way, Ralston explains, without

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constantly making corrections or pointing

interest and presence.”

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It teaches empathy and demonstrates

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an integral part of any conversation.

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lives as they grow and develop. And when

connection that is important to young

talking to your preschooler, that may be

children on multiple levels. “Really take

the most important lesson of all.

the time to make eye contact … and maybe [put] your hand on their shoulder,” she advises parents. “It provides respect— that this person is respecting me enough to look at me and take the time to talk to me.”

Not every conversation will happen in an environment when you can make eye contact, of course. Chatting in the car or

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What to Consider When Choosing the Perfect Pet for Your Family

I’ve been in the doghouse lately. It’s not that I’ve done something wrong, I just haven’t done what my kids think is right, which is get a dog. It started several months ago when random pet items suddenly appeared on my shopping list: “dog food,” “pet dish,” “leash.” You get the idea. Then there was the begging, pleading, whining and tears.

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by Denise Morrison Yearian

Don’t get me wrong. It’s not that I don’t want a four-footed, furry friend.

But having grown up with a sundry of dogs, cats, birds and rabbits, I know what a huge responsibility it is to own a pet. So before we get one, I want to be sure we’re making the right choice for our family.

Bringing a pet into your home can lead to years of joy and happiness. But choose the wrong animal, and it can end in frustration … for you and your pet. So how do you decide what is the right pet for you?

First, hold a meeting to discuss what kind of animal your family would like.

While discussing potential pet choices, consider

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The answers to these questions will vary according to the kind of pet you choose.

Next, consider the animal’s needs.

Think about the breed, size, temperament and tolerance of the animal. Are you in the market for a large dog? Better have plenty of room for it to run and play. Do you have young children? You may want to choose an animal that is not too large or small, has a calm temperament, and is tolerant with children. Some breeds of dogs, such as Retrievers and Dalmatians, are ideal with children, while others, such as toy-sized poodles, are more suited to adult households.

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responsible for feedings, walkings, vet

rabbit over a dog. Dogs require much more

visits, clean ups and grooming? How

doesn’t suffer at your child’s expense.

When you bring your pet home,

attention than felines and rodents. If you

often will these things occur? Be sure

establish house rules. This includes

are active but still want a dog, choose a

your children understand the magnitude

where the animal can and cannot go

smaller breed so you can take it with you.

of the pet ownership—a responsibility

and what it can and cannot do. If your

Other lifestyle issues to consider include

and time commitment of up to 15

children are small, safety rules are

finances, health matters, costs, shedding,

years—maybe more.

especially important. This will keep

One problem many parents run into

both your children and your pet safe.

is a child who begs for a pet, promises

Talk about how to (and not to) touch the

While discussing potential pet choices,

to take care of it, and then doesn’t

animal, as well as signs your pet wants

share your expectations about animal

own up to the responsibilities. To avoid

to be left alone. Adhere to strict rules

care and maintenance. Who will care for

this, consider your child’s age. Most

about tail pulling and leaving the animal

the pet? Where will it sleep? Who will be

children under the age of 10 or 11 are

alone while it is eating and sleeping.

developmentally able to care for a pet

While all this may seem like common

entirely on their own. While this is a good

sense to you, it may not be to your child.

way to teach your child responsibility, for

Also, show your little one how to pick up

the time being, you will need to act as an

and carry the animal so injury to either

administrator, checking to see that the

party is not incurred.

animal scents, cleanliness and time to exercise and/or play with your pet.

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work is done.

Give your pet a retreat so it will

To help your child establish a pet

always have a place to go when it wants

care routine, create a job chart. Make

to be alone. This private area could be an

two lists. One will contain daily tasks;

extra bedroom, laundry room, hallway

another should have weekly pet care

or a corner of a quiet room where you’ve

chores. Place the list on a large poster

placed the pet’s bed. If you have toddlers,

board with boxes to check off when

a baby gate can be used to protect your

the job is done. Put the chart in a

pet from your child.

conspicuous place so your child will see

Finally, encourage positive play. Show

it. To help him remember to do these

your child the right way to play with

chores, link the responsibilities to other

your new pet. Give him a piece of yarn,

daily routines. For example, feed the cat

paper bag or ball on a string and let him

before dinner or walk the dog before

wiggle it in front of the cat. Teach him

going to the bus stop.

how to play fetch or hide and seek with

If

your

child

forgets

to

carry

your dog. Avoid potential attack or chase

out his responsibilities, use natural

games where an overzealous animal

consequences as simple reminders. If,

may inadvertently pounce on, or run

for example, he forgets to clean out the

down your child. If your child is under 5,

hamster cage, don’t let him play with his

always supervise the play.

pet for the day. If he forgets to take the

Above all, show your child how

dog out, make him clean up the mess on

to love your new pet. It is, after all, a

the floor. If your child doesn’t take care

new member of the family. During the

of his pet responsibilities before leaving

holidays, wrap up a special gift for it,

for school, tell him you will do it for

celebrate its birthday and buy it special

him and, in exchange, he can do

treats. Most importantly, love your pet,

some chores for you after

play with it and enjoy its company and

school.

This

way

affection.

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{until next time humorous reflections}

Love Notes

A Dad’s Humorous Tales

by Rick Epstein

My 10-year-old self was shopping at a strip mall while my mom was buying groceries. I had no money, so technically I was just loitering.

In the window of an art-supply store, there was a $2 book on how to draw animals, a skill I desperately needed. While I was yearning toward the book, two boys

clients and other potential employers.

When they wanted something expensive but worthwhile, I told them, “I’ll pay half if you pay half.” A whole summer at camp? Yes! A really fancy computer?

OK! But when that system failed, the results were bad debts that lingered until forgiven (if not forgotten).

wandered up—my classmate Joe Prince and another boy I didn’t know. Trying to follow my gaze, Joe yelled, “Wooohooo!” and pointed to a bendable, wood-and-wire human figure that looked like a foot-tall crash dummy. It was sex-neutral, but it was also naked.

“Calm down,” I said, “I’m looking at that book,” and explained my situation. Then Joe’s friend casually handed me two dollar bills. “Here you go,” said this kid I’d never seen before, “Live it up.”

That young philanthropist’s donation made such a vivid impression on me that Last week, a local decades later I tried to recreate that impact to mother…, asked Wendy please and motivate my if she would watch her children.

6-year-old. “I’ll do it,” Over the years, I’ve given out small cash Wendy told us. “She gifts to complement a might not pay me, but good choice of friends I could use the good ($1), to cheer up a sick

So where is my wife while I am doing all this? Betsy is busily dispensing the coin of human emotion—love, approval, disapproval, exhortation and sympathy, paid out along with hugs and kisses. That’s what really runs the family.

A few months ago, when our youngest daughter, Wendy, turned 18, she asked us, “What would you do if I got a tattoo?”

My wife voiced her expectations and spoke of what a loving daughter owes to her loving parents. She also touched on decisions that a teenager would regret later. I just said, “I’d stop paying your allowance.” Fifteen bucks a week isn’t much, but it’s something.

Surprise! A week later, Wendy was tearfully showing us a blue butterfly engraved just southeast of her navel.

Her mother felt worse than I did because she had put some personal oomph into the issue. I’m not a big punisher, but I cut off Wendy’s allowance for six months just to maintain credibility for future threats.

Last week, a mother, known to local babysitters as an iffy payer, asked Wendy if she would watch her 6-year-

karma.”

child ($2), to celebrate a good report card ($5), to reward a daughter who protected a classmate from bullies ($10), and to keep a teenager from cursing around her parents ($3 a week). Whenever a daughter was about to head back to college, instead of weeping tears of farewell, I’d lay a couple of extra twenties on her.

It’s risky, expressing approval and love with money, especially nowadays when a steady job can’t be taken for granted. But my practices have a sober side, too.

I’ve always kept each kid’s allowance low. That’s so I wouldn’t mind them squandering it, but also to help them understand that the real money would not come from Dad. It is “out there”—in the pockets of babysitting

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old. “I’ll do it,” Wendy told us. “She might not pay me, but I could use the good karma.”

I am proud of her, so proud in fact, that when the mom ended up giving her excuses instead of money, I gave Wendy $20 to show her that a good deed is its own reward. Hey, even I can see the irony in that.

So what DID she learn? Who knows? I wonder if any of my attempts at using money to manipulate or improve my children have any effect beyond expressing my feelings. It could be that giving money to kids has no more educational value than feeding them lumps of sugar. But is that so wrong?

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