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volume 19 issue 1 PUBLISHERS

january 2018 Robin Johnson Bethke Jennifer Bryerton

CREATIVE DIRECTOR Robin Johnson Bethke EDITOR-IN-CHIEF Jennifer Bryerton

Dear Friends, I love the fresh New Year! I start planning resolutions weeks earlier, and by the time we’re making the 18-hour drive home from Grandma’s house post-

TECHNICAL DIRECTOR Peter D. Bethke SENIOR EDITOR Sarah Pastorek ONLINE EDITOR Madison Stanley CALENDAR EDITOR Caroline Hirst GRAPHIC DESIGN

holiday, my family is good and tired of my constant chatter. The hopefulness of

a clean slate always inspires … 2018 will be our best year yet!

SENIOR MARKETING CONSULTANT

Practical resolutions like Freecycle away loads of stuff so we have room in the shed to do projects or start a gratitude jar are straightforward, but other times, I’m more ambitious—trying a new vegetable dish once a week or

Danielle Burr, Barbara A. Tompkins Susan Powell

MARKETING CONSULTANTS Carath DeFrancia, Allison Muss, Carter

Schotta, Jenny Stoltz

volunteering at the nursing home. Last year, I downloaded the app Duolingo to

HOME & GARDEN EDITOR Becky Calvert

learn Italian, daydreaming we’d plan a “vacanza en Italia,” but my enthusiasm

CONTRIBUTING WRITERS

Cathy Ashby, Doug Bloor, Becky Calvert,

Melanie Dick, Rick Epstein, Sarah

Lyons, Whitney Woollerton Morrill,

Jan Pierce, Beth Seliga, Madison Stanley,

Ron Stolberg, Darlene Sweetland,

in the evenings, be more in the moment with the kids, read more books and so

Bob Taibbi

on. It’s going to be a full year, and I’ll have fun trying. If even a little bit sticks,

BOOKKEEPER Theresa Klopp

I’ll be the better for it!

OFFICE ADMINISTRATOR

stalled out in a couple weeks. I’m going to try again, but this time on the stationary bike. Fifteen-minute lessons with a 15-minute ride fit perfectly with desire to be efficient. And, I want to invite friends over more often, always clean out my email inbox on Friday afternoons, turn off the news (and my cell phone)

My favorite tradition though is our annual family New Year’s resolution.

Our best was the promise that we made to get ourselves outside, all together, for a big adventure at least once a month, whether it was biking, hiking or kayaking. We rarely miss doing this, but my recent injury has put a crimp in that. So in the spirit of the season, I finally schlepped myself to the doctor’s a few months ago and have diligently been pursuing physical therapy for my knee. I’m stronger and ready for whatever January 1 shall throw at us.

I hope you find yourself similarly inspired this January – be it small or large, change and hopefulness is good for us.

Happy New Year’s!

Christine DeLellis-Wheatley

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Contents TABLE OF

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OUR TOWN

News 6

The Buzz Around Town 8

Do you talk to your kids about body weight?

Snapshot 10

Our Schools 11

Rock & Megan Watson, Army Vets, Foster Parents, Coaches & Entrepreneurs

Walton Middle School’s Ambassador Program

LIVING WELL New Mom 22 Mindful Meals

INSPIRATION

Dear Bob 24 Your Parenting Questions Answered

Healthy Family 26 Tear-Free Check-Ups

January Activities & Events for Families

Daytrip Fun! 18

Snow Tubing

A Healthier You 30

Tips & Trends 28 Fabulous Finds and Fun

CharlottesvilleFamily’s 2018 Fit Kit

Summer Camp Countdown 38

A Month-by-Month Guide to Prep

Let It Snow 48

Wintery Experiments for Your Budding Scientist

Increasing Confidence 50

Turn the Table on Anxiety: 4 Ways

Parents Can Boost Up Their Child

Out & About Calendar 12

Editor’s Pick!

From sleepaway camps (pg. 42) to a healthier you this year (pg. 30) and other parenting advice, this issue has everything you need to tip off the new year as a family.

RESOURCES

New Year, New You 34

Local Resources to Starting the Year Healthier

Early-Bird Camp Quicklist 42

A Guide to Sleepaway Camps

UNTIL NEXT TIME

Bamboozled Every Time 56

A Dad’s Humorous Tales

28 So Love This!

“I am really excited to try the Fit Kit (pg. 30) and to start 2018 off on a healthier foot!”

— Madison, online editor

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UVA Researchers Promote STEM The NY Times Visits Johnson Elementary Elementary school students are now being published in a new kids’ section of The New York Times, which will be included in the Sunday print editions of the monthly newspaper. A recurring feature of the section called “Speak Your Mind” has The Times’ editors visiting classrooms around the country to help students write their own opinion pieces. The Times chose Lindsay Wayland’s students at Johnson Elementary School as their first “Speak Your Mind” contributors, and the choice was motivated, in part, by the August 12 white nationalist rally in Charlottesville. The NY Times’ editors, Caitlin Roper and Aaron Retica, didn’t prompt the students with questions though so that the students’ own opinions could shine through in their writing. Prompted to write about something they are passionate about, the fourth graders spoke on littering and bullying, among other topics.

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The University of Virginia (UVA) has partnered with several Charlottesville schools to promote science, technology, engineering and mathematics (STEM) education and diversity for K–12 students.

Professors in the School of Engineering and Applied Sciences lead their students in developing projects for Clark Elementary School, Walker Upper Elementary School and Buford Middle School. These projects will then be presented at an interactive STEM fair. Charlottesville High School students have also worked with UVA on a poster symposium called “Future Leaders in Health Care.” Participating students go to the UVA Health Sciences Library, conduct research on a healthcare issue, meet with physicians and scientists, and later present their research at a symposium, where they are judged and awarded by health professionals.

“Imagine a Day Without Water” Contest Winners With the recent draught warning, the “Imagine a Day Without Water” campaign, hosted by the City of Charlottesville, the Albemarle County Service Authority and Rivanna Water and Sewer Authority, was more relevant than ever. The campaign included a public awareness event and an art contest in which students throughout the city and county were prompted to illustrate “Why every drop counts.” Over 630 entries were evaluated based on creativity, originality and the use of the challenge question, with one winner chosen from four grade divisions to receive a $200 gift card and to have their artwork shown throughout Charlottesville.

Johnson Elementary first grader Nathan Jordan won in the first division, St. Anne’s-Belfield fourth grader Sophie Rubin won in the second division, sixth grader Annie Meng of Sutherland Middle School won the third division, and Savannah Gale, a seventh grader at Henley Middle School, won the last division.

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{our town voices} The

Buzz

AROUND

TOWN Do you talk to your child about body weight?

38% say “yes” 62% say “no” “I talk to my daughter about body weight only when she says anything negative about her body. By explaining the amazing things her body can do, I hope to help her have a positive self image.”

– Harrisonburg Mom of three “I would say we have more of a focus on healthy habits rather than weight itself. We talk about how some foods are “sometimes foods” while others are always a healthy choice. My kids are now 9 and 11, and they are in no way obsessed with their appearance, or that of others. They just focus on healthy habits and understand that other families may have other rules, and these choices are personal ones.”

– Sam, Ch’ville Mom of Two “We do talk about body weight to our children in the form of carb intake. We try to watch what we eat on a daily basis because of family history of health issues now that they are older in age. Knowledge is key to healthier lives, and we are all for providing the best.”

– Shelly B., Barboursville,

Mother of two girls

“We talk about healthy fuels for our body, but never make it about weight.”

– Mom of two, Ch’ville

“Focusing on body weight only provides a problem and not a solution. And what determines the “right body weight” for someone to strive for? Short of going to a dietitian and having an in-depth look at your body type and fat levels, measuring your weight is not a good determination of what is healthy weight because it is often judged against cultural expectations.”

– Sarah, Mom of one

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The group, called Student Launch Team, Troop 17 (SLT17), is one of 15 middle and high school groups selected nation-wide to compete in NASA’s Student Launch Initiative. Students participating in this collegelevel STEM competition must design, analyze, build, test and fly a rocket that reaches an altitude of one mile high.

The team is also working to raise $20,000 for its materials, STEM education program for disadvantaged students and flights to Alabama for Flight Week in April. To donate to SLT17, visit gofundme.com/troop17-nasa-student-launch-team.

“We try to teach and exemplify what goes into having a healthy lifestyle, like being active and eating well, and the benefits of being healthy, from how you feel to your energy levels. We do not want the focus to be on body weight because it is a product of your lifestyle and so unique to your build and genetics.”

– Barboursville Mom of three

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3rd Graders Build Tiny Houses Hollymead Elementary School’s third-grade students have built tiny houses as part of a class project. The houses include all of the essential rooms, just on a smaller scale. Before starting their project, the students were able to visit the fully functioning tiny house built by Western Albemarle High School students. While the third graders planned layouts, the assistant principal handled most of the woodworking for the exterior structure of the houses.

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Rock & Megan Watson Army Vets, Foster Parents, Coaches & Entrepreneurs

Local army veterans, Rock and Megan Watson juggled challenging work schedules in the military while raising their now adult kids.

The couple has since taken to fostering regularly and has even adopted their now fifth grader from foster care. It’s important to them to open their hearts and home to the community. For Rock, coaching has always been a passion. Recently, he serves as the first Varsity Girls’ Basketball Coach at Regents School. For Megan, it has been baking. Together, the couple continues to work in the community and have even opened a mobile cake bar, called “Sliced.”

What are the best and most challenging parts about your business?

The best part about our job is that we get to do it together. We love spending time with each other. We look at it as the second phase of courtship. The most challenging part for me (Megan) has been sticking to our motto of keeping things simple. This is a part-time business, set up to allow us to be present for our youngest child and any other children who may come into our home through foster care. I (Rock) would have to agree with Megan ... staying true to our motto is what keeps us focused on the big picture.

How do you balance all the different, often conflicting, needs of your community? The wonderful thing about working together is, you have to prioritize what’s important and you have each other to weigh the options. As much as we want to give attention to the many things that are happening in our community, we try our best to stick to what is important to us. Pouring into our family and into our fostering journey absolutely come first. We stand strong on the foundation of our faith and to follow God’s teaching “to look after the orphans and the widows in their distress.”

What are your hopes for the future? Although I have hopes for the future of seeing our business grow and become a family

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affair, I (Megan) try not to think too far ahead because I lose sight of being present for the here and now. I (Rock) definitely hope to have our business grow and someday have a brick and mortar.

We hope to employ local foster kids to give them an opportunity to learn important skills that they can help them become more independent and self-sufficient.

What advice do you have for young who are aspiring to help others through their careers? Don’t be in such a rush to figure out your life plan, and be sure to stick with your hobbies. Who knows, you might be able to make a living doing something you truly enjoy.

Do you have advice for their parents? With so many choices available to young adults, it can be difficult to make a choice and stick with it. Be patient with them, be open to them finding their way. It might take a few stops and starts, but ultimately, you have done a fantastic job raising your children and they’ll turn out great.

What is one thing your parents did well that you try to incorporate into your parenting? (Megan) We sat down to dinner as a family growing up. It probably helped that my mom was and still is a fantastic cook. She cooked foods from different cultures and expanded our palates. We have incorporated sit down dinners in our house. This time at the end of the day gives us an opportunity to reconnect, check-in with each other and share stories of our day. We continue to sit down to dinner every night with our youngest and have weekly family dinners where our adult children join us. I hope the chairs around our table continue to grow in number.

Before switching to capturing the look of love and the inner beauty of her subjects, Beth was a sports photographer with her work appearing in Sports Illustrated, USA Today and Pro Cycling, among other publications. See her work at 3catsphoto.com.

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OPENINGS Charming Charlie, Charlottesville Fashion Square Mall Silk Thai Restaurant, 2210 Fontaine Avenue Zaxby’s, 1248 Emmet Street N

ANNOUNCEMENTS The Charlottesville Municipal Band received over $1 million in donations.

Following an anonymous donor announcing he/she would match up to $500,000 raised by the band, the band surpassed their goal of $500,000 after a five-month campaign.

Grymes Memorial School now welcomes 3-year-olds.

Hamer & Hamer Orthodontics welcomes Dr. Andrew Glassick to its office.

Kohr Brothers Frozen Custard will become a seasonal shop and is closed for the winter. Both Charlottesville locations will re-open in March.

Poke Sushi Bowl will be opening a second Charlottesville location at 1104 Emmet Street.

The Susan G. Komen Foundation gave the University of Virginia a $450,000 grant towards breast cancer research.

Thomas Jefferson’s Poplar Forest villa will be closed to the public from December 31–March 15 for ceiling restorations.

Becker’s Hospital Review named the University of Virginia Medical Center in its list of 100 hospitals and health systems with great orthopedics programs.

2nd Annual Walton Middle School’s Ambassador “Play for Preemies” Program: A Welcoming Voice for Students It happens every school year—the transition from elementary school to middle school can be one of the most overwhelming changes that pre-teens face. And on occasion, it can result in a cross word or two between students who are experiencing new relationships.

At Walton Middle School, a program was designed to turn an opportunity for conflict into an opportunity for resolution.

We call it our Ambassadors Program. We have 42 students in grades six, seven and eight who are Ambassadors. All have participated in training by an outside mediation consultant to learn how to bring people with opposite viewpoints together in a constructive way. Our Ambassadors learn and teach empathy, and they become adept at setting high expectations for how students treat one another. They develop and sharpen essential skills, such as how to be a good listener, how to read body language and how to identify opportunities for agreement.

Talking behind someone else’s back could be rudeness or considered bullying, but when a dispute gets referred to the Ambassadors, the students involved are brought together to meet with their peers—no adults involved. The students talk through the issues and reflect upon how best to live the school division’s values of respect, young people,

excellence and community. When the session is over, the original disputants sign an agreement.

The program has been an instant success in promoting a more collaborative and enjoyable learning environment, and one that strengthens student engagement.

Our Ambassadors’ contributions are not limited to mediation, but they serve as a welcoming resource for newcomers to our school. Each Ambassador works with the new students to increase their familiarity with the school and to connect them with their classmates.

More recently, our Ambassadors have taken on the responsibility for improving the school’s physical space, building on an initiative that came about last year. One of the most innovative beneficiaries has been our new science labs, which incorporate some of the students’ input we received.

Among the most powerful ideas in contemporary education today is student-centered learning—the concept of putting students at the center of the learning process, empowering them to generate ideas and problemsolve, and equipping them with the information, skills and experience to drive collaboration and positive change.

Walton’s Ambassadors are the proof of that concept.

Submit Biz Bits to: editor@IvyPublications.com Doug is a school counselor at Walton Middle School where he facilitates the Ambassador Program.

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About

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Open Community Audition for “A Fairy Tale Gathering”

January 12, 5:30pm at Charlottesville Ballet Studios An open community audition for Charlottesville Ballet’s interactive Family Series ballet. Local children ages 5–8 are welcome to audition.

Dance experience is preferred, but not required.

434-973-2555, charlottesvilleballet.org

Meet the Symphony Musician

January 13 & February 3, 10:30am at Virginia Discovery Museum On each program, orchestra members demonstrate a featured instrument and accompany a guest reader of a children’s book.

Afterwards, musicians hold a petting zoo of instruments from the featured instrument’s family. 434-977-1025, vadm.org

Frozen Sing-Along

January 14, 2pm at The Paramount Theater Sing-along with the hit Disney film with the family. CharlottesvilleFamily is a proud sponsor of this event! 434-979-1333, theparamount.net

SkateTacular Dreams on Ice

January 26, 7:30pm at The Wayne Theatre, Waynesboro An all-star cast of world famous professional ice skaters, singers, dancers and cirque acts glide across the stage in an original live-sung ice musical. 540-943-9999 waynetheatre.org

JANUARY 2018

Check out our online calendar for more local family events and fun!

New Year’s Day 5K

YOU CAN HELP!

January 1, 11am race at 5404 Wesley Chapel Rd, Free Union Proceeds benefit the Boys & Girls Clubs of Central Virginia. Age group awards. Bring canned food for Emergency Food Bank. cvilletrackclub.org

First Saturday Bird Walk Wonder Woman Movie Matinee

January 27, 2–4:30pm at Gordon Avenue Library With the help of an American pilot, an Amazon princess works to end a war. Free popcorn and drinks. Movie is rated PG-13.

434-296-5544, jmrl.org

Finding Neverland

January 30–February 4 at Altria Theater, Richmond The hit Broadway musical comes to Richmond as part of Broadway in Richmond.

Recommended for ages 6+.

800-514-3849, altriatheater.com

SPORTS, OUTDOORS & ACTIVE FUN Roller Skating

Now–May, 6–9pm at Greenwood Community Center Greenwood Community Center is open every Saturday night for roller skating under the Disco ball. 434-296-5844, albemarle.org

January 6, 7:30–9am at Ivy Creek Natural Area Enjoy an early morning bird walk with Jenny Gaden of the Monticello Bird Club. Beginners welcome. Binoculars are available to share.

Meet in the parking lot of Ivy Creek Natural Area. 434-973-7772, ivycreekfoundation.org

UVA Men’s Basketball

January 6, 9, 14, 23 & 31 at John Paul Jones Arena Cheer on the ‘Hoos at home.

800-542-8821, virginiasports.com

UVA Women’s Basketball

January 7, 21 & 25 at John Paul Jones Arena Cheer on the ‘Hoos at home.

800-542-8821, virginiasports.com

Special Olympics Xperience Tennis Invitational

YOU CAN HELP!

January 11–13 at The Boar’s Head Sports Club Xperience Special Olympics tennis at its best during this three-day tennis extravaganza.

Sign up to volunteer to cheer as well. specialolympicsva.org

Martin Luther King Weekend

January 12–15 at Wintergreen Resort Events will include Wintergreen Rail Jam, kickoff of the National Ski Areas Association’s Safety Awareness Week, great music slopeside and live entertainment at The Edge.

434-325-8180, wintergreenresort.com

Move & Groove

January 13, 2pm at Crozet Library Enjoy some indoor moving and grooving.

Dance to music you create on a floor piano.

Test your skills on an indoor obstacle course.

Create a pancake pileup. Silly fun for ages 5–9.

Requested registration. 434-823-4050, jmrl.org

Snowman’s Ball Square Dance

New Year’s Day 5K

January 1st, 11am in Free Union. See this page.

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YOU CAN

HELP! January 19, 7:30–10pm at Rockfish River Elementary School Live square dance caller and refreshments. All proceeds given back to selected community organization. All welcome.

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Tinkergarten Free Class

January 5 & 9, 10:30–11:45 Friday, 10–11:15am Tuesday at Mint Springs Valley Park, Crozet Children aged 18 months to 8 years of age are invited to this free class to meet outdoors to connect and learn through play. tinkergarten.com

Girls’ Geek Days

January 6, TBA at Greer Elementary School Girls learn new tech skills and connect to other STEM programs in the community. Open to all ages, girls in third grade or younger should plan to bring a guardian too. Registration is required and space is limited. tech-girls.org

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Creation Station

January 12–March 23, Second & Fourth Fridays, 3:30–4:30pm at Gordon Ave Library Stop by to create with UVA Madison House volunteers. There will be a different project each week to explore with hands on science, technology, engineering, art, and math. For all ages. 434-296-5544, jmrl.org

Spanish Moves With Ali

January 29–May 21, Monthly on Mondays, 1pm at Central Library This bilingual session will get kids moving while learning Spanish and enjoying stories and rhymes. 434-979-7151, jmrl.org

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PLAYTIME LEGO Mania

January 4–May 3, First Thursdays, 4pm at Northside Library All you need to bring is your creativity and natural engineering ability; building blocks will be supplied. No registration required, but space is limited. Ages 5+. 434-973-7893, jmrl.org

Custom, brick 2.5 story home in an extraordinarily peaceful setting yet located merely a few minutes from UVA. The 3.6 acre property features a Pool and your own full-size Ball Field – Sellers hosted children’s team practices for years! 5,056 finished sq ft boasts formal as well as informal rooms, a Home Office with mountain views, and 5 Bedrooms, plus 5 full Baths & 2 half Baths. 2-car Garage and abundant storage space. This offering presents a unique opportunity in the Meriwether Lewis district. Tommy Brannock (434) 981-1486.

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2005 ASHMERE DRIVE • $435,000 Absolutely turn-key 4 bed, 2.5 bath home on 6.5 acres w/ 2-car garage & nearly level, partially fenced sunny yard.

It feels like new w/ new paint inside & out, refinished hardwood floors throughout 1st level & new carpeting in bedrooms. Large kitchen w/ breakfast nook, island & bar area. Suzie Hegemier (434) 962-8425. MLS# 568079

526 JEFFERSON DRIVE • $244,900 Sited near the Tufton gate & 20 minutes from Cville is this expansive house with loads of living & storage spaces. Huge kitchen with maple cabinets, granite island, separate breakfast bar, wainscotting & crown molding.

Expansive master suite. Enormous rec room over 2-car garage. Helen Ascoli (434) 996-2225. MLS# 569041

LEGO at the Library

January 22, 2pm at Crozet Library Join other master builders for an hour of openended block building fun. The library provides the LEGOs, you bring your imagination. Ages 5–11. Registration requested.

434-823-4050, jmrl.org

STORYTIMES & READING FUN Drop-In Stories and More

Now–March 31, Saturdays, 11–11:30am at Gordon Avenue Library Add some brain-building to your errands. Stop by on Saturdays for stories, movement, and early literacy: Sing, Talk, Read and Play fun for the young. 434-296-5544, jmrl.org

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Read-Aloud Crowd

January 3–March 7, First Wednesdays, 3:30–4pm at Gordon Avenue Library Visit the library after school to unwind, enjoy a story and share some fun. Grades K–1.

Registration required. 434-296-5544, jmrl.org

Tunes & Tales

January 6–May 5, First Saturdays, 10:30am at Northside Library Families are invited for stories, music and movement. 434-973-7893, jmrl.org

Wee Ones Winter Session

January 10–February 28, Wednesdays, 10:30–11am at Crozet Library A special time for babies and caregivers to read, sing, move and play. Ages 12–23 months.

Birthday must fall between January 11, 2016 and January 10, 2017. No siblings.

434-823-4050, jmrl.org

Alphabet Soup Winter Session

January 11–March 1, Thursdays, 10:30am at Crozet Library Designed to help grow our next generation of readers, Alphabet Soup is a fun half-hour of stories, songs, dancing and more. This group is for older 3-,-4- and 5-year-olds who are ready to enjoy storytime on their own, without an accompanying adult or younger siblings.

Registration is required. 434-823-4050, jmrl.org

Tales for Twos Winter Session

January 11–March 11, Thursdays, 9:30am at Crozet Library A fun half-hour that promotes verbal, motor and social skills through the use of stories, songs, rhymes and more. For 2-year-olds and young 3-year-olds, and an accompanying adult.

434-823-4050, jmrl.org

FAMILY ART JAMs: Age-appropriate tours with hands-on art activities—an enriching experience for the whole family!

Twos & Threes Together Winter Session January 17–February 28, Wednesdays, 10:15am & 11:15am at Northside Library A 30-minute program of stories, songs and fingerplays for ages 2–3 with an accompanying adult. Registration is required.

434-973-7893, jmrl.org

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January 18 at Central Library Celebrate Winnie the Pooh and his pals on the birthday of their creator, A.A. Milne. The birthday bash will include stories, dancing and treats. Ages 2-6. 434-979-7151, jmrl.org

Preschool Pals Winter Session

January 18–March 1, Thursdays, 10:15am & 11:15am at Northside Library Thirty minutes of stories, songs and fingerplays designed for 3-, 4-, and 5-year-olds who are ready to enjoy independent learning.

434-973-7893, jmrl.org

Nursery Rhyme Rumpus

January 20, 10:30am at Gordon Avenue Library Hey Diddle Diddle, can you help the spoon run away with an egg? Build a house better than a little pig? Jump a candlestick more nimbly than Jack? Ages 2–6. Registration required.

434-296-5544, jmrl.org

Paws to Read

January 22, 1–2pm at Crozet Library Improve your reading skills and make a new friend by reading aloud to Lucy, a registered therapy animal with The Alliance of Therapy Dogs. Registration is required.

434-823-4050, jmrl.org

Mother Goose Time Winter Session

January 22–March 12, Mondays, 9:30am at Central Library Ten to 15 minutes of simple stories, rhymes and songs chosen to enhance your wee one’s language development followed by time to play and socialize. Designed for babies up to 24 months with a caregiver. 434-979-7151, jmrl.org

More Fascinating than Fiction

January 24, 3:30pm at Crozet Library Visit the library and listen to incredible stories, enjoy an afternoon snack and chat about books you’ve been reading. Registration is requested.

434-823-4050, jmrl.org

ARTS & CRAFTS My Monticello: An Exhibition of Student Art Opening January 13, 12pm–2pm at Monticello’s David M. Rubenstein Visitor Center and Smith Education Center Celebrate artwork made by over 400 Charlottesville City second graders who visited Monticello this fall. See the exhibition opening complete with family activities and light refreshments. 434-984-9822, monticello.org

Drop Spindle Class

January 27, 11am–12pm at James Monroe’s Highland Led by crafter Russell Hubert, participants will learn how to spin wool using the traditional drop spindle method. Wool will be provided

by Highland from the flock of Dorset sheep.

No materials or experience are needed to participate. 434-293-8000, highland.org

wine chocolate & pairing

Saturday, February 3 11:30 am & 2:30 pm Tickets $45 per person | $85 per couple

Includes 6 tastings of some of our VINTAGE wines paired with a uniquely hand crafted chocolate made

by Jennifer Mowad of Cocoa & Spice. All 6 wines tasted will come from our library and will be for sale at the end of the event.

Tickets are non-refundable and seating is very limited so stop by the winery or give us a call at 540-832-7440 to get your tickets now!

ESPECIALLY FOR TEENS Game Night

Now–May 15, Third Tuesdays, 6:30–8pm at Northside Library Wii U, Xbox Kinect, board games and snacks.

Come with a friend or meet new people.

Registration is recommended. Grades 6–12.

434-973-7893, jmrl.org

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WINDOWS ON WALDORF Please join us for this interactive Open House!

Come play in our Kindergarten, be a part of a math circle in the 2nd grade, or a science experiment in the middle school, and much, much more.

Children are welcome and encouraged to attend.

January 2–May 1, First Tuesdays, 6:30–7:30pm at Central Library Share ideas and give feedback to the library by joining the Central Teen Advisory Board. Build your leadership skills and earn volunteer hours by helping to plan activities and events at the library. Grades 6–12. 434-979-7151, jmrl.org

Teen Best of 2017

January 9, 6:30–8pm at Crozet Library Walk the red carpet and fight for your favorites of 2017. We compile the nominations and popcorn, you provide the intense opinions and lively debate. Grades 6–12.

434-823-4050, jmrl.org

Resolution Rocks

Experience Waldorf education for yourself!

January 13 | 10:00 am to 12:30 pm

January 10, 7pm at Gordon Avenue Library Paint your resolutions for the new year onto rocks to create inspiring reminders. Use your creations as paperweights, decorations, or hide them to encourage and delight someone else.

All supplies provided. Ages 12+. Registration required. 434-296-5544, jmrl.org

This is a structured event. Pre-registration is recommended. To reserve your space, go to: cwaldorf.org/visiting.html

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January 10–May 9, Monthly on Wednesdays, 5–6pm at Northside Library Be a part of the Northside Teen Advisory Board.

Help create displays and plan programs and activities while earning volunteer hours. Enjoy snacks and meet new people. Grades 6–12.

434-973-7893, jmrl.org

Northside Pathfinders Club

January 10–May 9, Second & Fourth Wednesdays, 6:30-8:30pm at Northside Library Love monsters, magic, swords and goblins?

All you need is dice and your imagination.

Registration required. Ages 13–18.

434-973-7893, jmrl.org

Creative Writing Club

January 17–May 16, Third Wednesdays, 5–6pm at Northside Library Looking for a welcoming space to collaborate and get constructive feedback on your writing?

Visit Northside Library each month. All creative writing is welcomed, including poetry, nonfiction and fanfiction. Grades 6–12.

434-973-7893, jmrl.org

Novel Revision Workshop

January 23, 6:30–8pm at Crozet Library Learn techniques for revising your plot, making your sentences sing and helping your characters leap off the page. Ideal for folks with in-progress or finished novels, but all creative writers can benefit. Grades 6 through adult.

434-823-4050, jmrl.org

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Novel Chat Book Club

January 29–April 30, Monthly on Mondays, 6:30–7:30pm at Northside Library Discuss books and do a related activity while enjoying free snacks. Each month the group will read to a different theme. Grades 7–12.

Registration required. 434-973-7893, jmrl.org

The Literati Book Club

January 30, 6:30–8pm at Crozet Library Discussing: Everything, Everything by Nicola Yoon. A humorous and powerful contemporary.

For more mature readers. Registration required.

434-823-4050, jmrl.org

ESPECIALLY FOR PARENTS 17th Annual Golden Apple Award Nominations

Now–February 1 at Schools in Albemarle County and City of Charlottesville Nominate your favorite teacher at a public or private school in Albemarle County or the City of Charlottesville! One winner will be selected from each school.

434-296-5820, www2.k12albemarle.org

Grandparents Class

January 6, 10am–12pm at UVA Hospital, Room 8614 A class for expectant grandparents and family members. Prepare for the addition to your family by learning what’s new in labor, delivery and baby care.

434-924-9920, uvahealth.com

CharlottesvilleFamily Fun Fair, Camp Expo & Birthday Bash!

February 11, 10am–3pm at The DoubleTree Hotel Charlottesville Join in us in celebrating the 20th anniversary of CharlottesvilleFamily! This event helps parents get a jump on camp shopping. Meet over 80 exhibitors from camps offering horseback riding, sailing, sports training, travel, robotics and much more. With entertainment, great giveaways and special kids’ activities.

434-984-4713, charlottesvillefamily.com

OPEN HOUSES Free Union Country School Open House January 12, 9–11am at Free Union Country School 434-978-1700, freeunioncountryschool.org

For some sleepaway camp ideas, see our Camp Quicklist on page 42!

Admissions Open House

January 19, 9–11am at Mountaintop Montessori 434-979-8886, mountaintopmontessori.org

Windows on Waldorf

Covenant School Coffee With Head of Upper School & Tours

January 13, 10am–12:30pm at Charlottesville Waldorf School 434-973-4946, cwaldorf.org

January 22, 8:30am at The Covenant School (Upper School) 434-220-7330, covenantschool.org

Oakland School Open House

Archangel for a Day

January 15, 10am–12pm at Oakland School, Troy 434-293-9059, oaklandschool.net

January 22, 1–3pm at Charlottesville Catholic School RSVP to admissions@cvillecatholic.org.

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While winter certainly can make going outside less enjoyable, there are many fun ways you can take advantage of the cold weather.

Our area has several winter resorts that offer family-friendly snow tubing just an hour or two away. If you need a bit more snow to play in, we’ve also included a few resorts that are farther away. Before you get on the road, remember to check height and age requirements, as well as ticket availability. You should also wear snow boots or waterproof boots, and dress for the weather (layers, hats, gloves and snow pants). Most importantly, follow the rules and have fun!

Just an hour’s drive away is Wintergreen Resort’s The Plunge, the largest tubing park in Virginia. After riding up the park’s conveyer lift, guests can zoom down its 10-story tubing lanes at speeds

reaching 30 mph. The park recommends The Plunge for ages 6 and up, and requires children to be at least 43 inches tall. Younger and smaller children can take part in the tubular fun at Ridgely’s Fun Park. wintergreenresort.com Also close to home is Massanutten Resort’s Family Adventure Park.

Snow tubing is very popular here and regularly sells out, especially on weekends and holidays. Tickets are sold in person starting 30 minutes before the first session. Because gold card holders and

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Participants must be at least 5 years old and 48 inches tall. thehomestead.com For taller mountains and a longer snow season, visit Snowshoe Mountain’s CocaCola Tube Park in West Virginia. The park offers five six-story tubing lanes and twohour sessions. Advanced reservations are strongly recommended, and children must be at least 4 years old and 36 inches tall. snowshoemtn.com

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{our town calendar} Covenant School Coffee With Head of Lower School & Tours

January 23, 8:30am coffee, 8:45–11am tours at The Covenant School 434-220-7330, covenantschool.org

Field School Admissions Open House January 23, 9–11am at Field School 434-823-4353, fieldschoolcv.net

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National Theatre Live in HD Presents: Follies

December 30 & January 7, 7pm at The Paramount Theater Stephen Sondheim’s legendary musical is staged for the first time at the National Theatre and broadcast live to cinemas.

434-979-1333, theparamount.net

The Opera House

January 13, 12:55pm at The Paramount Theater The Opera House, a new film by awardwinning documentary filmmaker Susan Froemke surveys a remarkable period of the Metropolitan Opera’s rich history.

Featuring rarely seen archival footage, stills, recent interviews and a soundtrack of Met performances, the film chronicles the creation of the Met’s storied home. 434-979-1333, theparamount.net

Porkuary Fest: Beer and Bacon Pairing Class

January 13, 2–4pm at Stable Craft Brewing, Waynesboro As part of this day-long celebration of the pig (to include a pork buffet among other things), take a special beer and bacon pairing class featuring eight beers paired with eight types of bacon. 540-490-2609, facebook.com/ events/407190939698485

Winnie the Pooh Day

January 18, 10am–5pm at Horton Vineyards, Gordonsville Celebrate National Winnie the Pooh Day and visit the tasting room to enter a drawing for a collection of the Winnie Pooh Stories by A.A. Milne. Pick up your favorite wine, and add local honey to your purchase. 540-832-7440, facebook.com/events/297876170718500

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The Opulence of Integrity

January 18, 6:45pm lecture, 7:30pm show at The Paramount Theater Theatrical, multimedia ensemble work influenced by the public life and inner searching of boxing superstar, Muhammad Ali. A complimentary lecture precedes the show.

434-979-1333, theparamount.net

A View From a Train: Decoding the Music of the Underground Railroad

January 20, 7:30pm at PVCC V. Earl Dickinson Building Explore the coded meanings behind the legendary songs that guided and inspired thousands of the enslaved population who embarked on a dangerous journey into the North in search of freedom between 1840 and 1860. 434-961-5376, pvcc.edu

The Wood Brothers

January 25, 8:30pm, doors open at 7:30pm at The Jefferson Theater Soulful folk singers The Wood Brothers perform along with The Stray Bird.

434-245-4980, jeffersontheater.com

Know Good Beer & Bourbon Fest

January 27, 1–6pm at IX Art Park This fun fest offers unlimited 2–4 oz samples from dozens of carefully selected craft beers, bourbon and other spirits available for sampling at no extra cost. Live local music along with local food vendors and artists. knowgoodbeer.com

Blue & Silver Dinner

January 27, 7–10pm at The Field School, Crozet A relaxed adult-only dining experience open to the public. Renowned Field School Culinary Expert Patrick Critter crafts a delectable meal.

Eighth-grade students provide table service.

Ticket price includes meal, beverages and dessert along with entertainment.

434-923-3435, fieldschoolcv.net

The Wildmans + Mike Mitchell Trio

January 27, 7:30–10:30pm at The Front Porch Enjoy seeing The Wildmans, an acoustic string band, and the Mike Mitchell Trio perform.

434-806-7062, frontporchcville.org

UVA Chamber Music Series Presents Rivanna String Quartet

January 28, 3:30pm at Old Cabell Hall, UVA Musicians provide professional performances to the University and the central Virginia community. 434-924-3376, music.virginia.edu

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Mindful Meals

6 Things For Mothers-to-Be to Consider

New Mom

Pickles and ice cream. Say these words, and most everyone will know you’re talking about pregnancy cravings. The bizarre food cravings, the increased appetite, the third-trimester acid reflux… Eating while you’re expecting definitely has its highs and lows.

In some ways, it’s sweet and nostalgic how society wants to pamper expectant mothers with extra helpings of comfort food, but maintaining a nutrient-based eating plan is important for both mom’s and baby’s health.

Determining the “right” pregnancy weight isn’t always easy, especially for women of certain statures. University of Virginia (UVA) School of Nursing professors Anna Maria Siega-Riz and Jeanne Alhusen are currently focusing their research on this demographic of expectant moms and what they define as “mindful eating.”

Siega-Riz and Alhusen seek to determine whether the combination of

by Whitney Woollerton Morrill mindfulness techniques and nutritional instruction could help women better manage pregnancy weight gain. Maintaining healthy weight leads to better lifelong health outcomes for mom and baby.

While Siega-Riz’s and Alhusen’s research results are still gestating, all expectant moms can benefit from their general approach. Try some of the following techniques inspired by their work for your own mindful meals.

1. Talk to your caregivers about your weight. Work with them to determine the optimal amount of weight gain for your pregnancy, given your health, body type and age.

2. Learn all you can about healthy food choices during pregnancy. Some doctors and midwives offer pamphlets with dietary guidelines and recipes. Registered dietitians are another great option, as are the websites of the American Council of Obstetricians and Gynecologists and the Women, Infants, and Children program.

Visit acog.org or wicworks.fns.

3. Listen to your body. When you’re hungry and your usda.gov/nutrition.../nutrition-andstomach’s growling, eat. Whereas, when your mind is bored, health-pregnant-moms for more or you’re feeling stressed and lonely, remember that the healthy tips for craving is likely for emotional comfort. expecting mothers.

4. Before beginning a meal, pause for reflection. Focus on the food before you, and how it will nourish you and your baby.

According to NPR, research shows that what expecting mother’s eat may also have a reflection on baby’s food preferences later in life.

5. While eating, be present. Notice the taste and texture of the food, as well as the color, and the seasoning.

6. Listen for satiation cues. The goal is to feel pleasantly full, not full to the point of pressure and discomfort.

All-in-all, it’s important for expecting mothers to be aware of what they are putting in their bodies while carrying baby. And, “mindful eating” should be a practice that then carries over onto baby’s plate when he or she is old enough to consume foods.

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UVA® CHILDREN’S HOSPITAL & KOHL’S CARES. WORKING TO MAKE OUR CHILDREN HEALTHY Nationally close to 32% of school aged children are overweight or obese.

UVA® Children’s Hospital would like to thank Kohl’s Cares for generously sponsoring Kohl’s Hoo’s Fit – a program designed by UVA® Children’s Fitness Clinic to promote healthy eating and active living among area children and parents.

You can help by looking for special Kohl’s Cares merchandise like books and plush toys, throughout the year. 100% of the net profits for these items support health and educational opportunities like Kohl’s Hoo’s Fit. The partnership between Kohl’s and UVA® Children’s Hospital is creating a healthier future for area children.

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Expert Advice

Dear Bob

Your Parenting Questions Answered I’m a single mom, and my married friends include me in girlfriend occasions but rarely invite me to whole-family functions. I asked one, and she said it felt awkward since everyone else would be there as a couple. This was hurtful, and I hate that my son is being left out, too.

I hope you are able to see (and it sounds like you are) that this is all about them and not about you. In situations like this, I usually say to folks, what’s the best you can do? The best you can do in this situation is speak up, which you did, to help others know how you feel, do your best to drill down and understand what feels so awkward for them and try and problem-solve. Do this, and you’ve done what you can. You could also ask some of your other friends if they feel the same way. They may not, or they may have a different perception. Perhaps they’re actually worried that you would feel awkward among them and they are actually trying to be protective. Again, help them understand how you feel.

If you do get invited, be sure to let them know that you appreciated it, that

by Bob Taibbi you and your son enjoyed it and felt comfortable and hoped they did, too. Finally, rather than playing defense, try going on offense both in terms of inviting them over to your events and trying to expand your own social circle so you are less dependent on them for support.

Our son had a friend over for dinner recently and I was very impressed. He said “thank you” for dinner and cleared his plate without being asked. Any suggestions on how I can transform my own sweet piglets into such charmers?

A good place to start, as always, is with yourself as a role model. This is especially true for kids in that preschool range where they so naturally copy what you say and do. Think less about specific tasks to start and more about changing the overall climate in the house—modeling the “pleases” and “thank yous,” the respect and courtesy all go a long way in helping your children easily pick up good habits. And when they don’t, let them know how you feel in a calm, but clear, manner and that your feelings are hurt and it simply is not a good way to treat others.

Email your parenting You can then move onto specific skills. Say that it doesn’t concerns and queries to editor@IvyPublications.com. seem fair for you to have to clear everyone’s plates after dinner Yours might be included in and that you need help. Or slowly increase participating in chores an upcoming issue! by having a one-hour family clean-up time where everyone picks a chore and works for an hour. And if they go to some social activity like a play-date or birthday party, gently remind them before they get out of the car to say “thank you,” etc. One or two items, not 20, that are said once again in a calm voice are the best place to start.

The guidelines here are to start slow—no make-over campaigns—by modeling what you want, encourage and offer rewards and praise rather than punish; and don’t micromanage. There are plenty of resources online with age-appropriate manners that your kids are ready to tackle at certain ages. Think of these as lifeskills that need to be taught and as ones that you can gradually build into their everyday routines.

WANT TO ASK BOB A QUESTION?

Author of 11 books and more than 300 articles — including the regular “Ask Bob” column in this magazine — Bob has 44 years of experience in couple and family work and is in private practice in Charlottesville (bobtaibbi.com).

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Tear-Free Check-Ups

Healthy Family

4 Tips for A Calm & Efficient Doctor’s Visit

The average child will have nine well visits in their first two years of life and at least one checkup every year after. For kids who tend to worry and even fear going to the doctor, this can be overwhelming. There are a few things parents can do to calm the fears of kids who have an upcoming checkup.

Discuss what will happen. Prior to the appointment, talk to your child about what to expect. Be open and honest about what will happen at the appointment and why. “We talk about everything that may happen, good and scary,” says Sara, a mom of three boys. “I feel it helps them prepare emotionally and keeps the image of the doctor as a ‘helper’ rather than someone to be feared.” Also, be sure to ask your child if he or she has any questions or concerns. Be honest and tell the truth, even if it is something unpleasant, such as shots. “We encourage

by Sarah Lyons our kids to ask us, the nurses or doctors, in order to get the info they need to feel comfortable,” says Sara. The more information your child has the more comfortable he or she will feel when the day of the check-up arrives.

Try role-playing. Playing doctor is not only is fun for kids but also a great way to get them more comfortable with the idea of visiting the doctor. Tara, a school nurse and mom of two says, “I always buy kids ‘doctor kits’ for their first birthdays.” She also suggests letting them touch the equipment themselves prior to someone else using them on them. Becky, a mom of triplet boys, suggests checking out library books about visiting the doctor, or watching children’s videos like Daniel Tiger or Doc McStuffins that help kids learn what to expect. Roleplaying helps kids act out their fears and concerns as well as become more comfortable with new situations.

Come prepared. When the day of the check-up arrives, try to be as prepared as possible. Pack items—such as books, small toys, coloring books and crayons, or even a tablet if Wi-Fi is available at the doctor’s office—that will entertain your child if they have to wait. Include any comfort items that may help your child if he is nervous or upset as well as a water bottle. You might also consider bringing pain medication like kids’ Tylenol to For some books about give after shots are administered. It’s best to wait until after doctor visits, check out visits because an accurate temperature must be recorded playtolearnpreschool.us/doctorprior to vaccines, and painkillers mask a fever if your child has books. one. It’s also important for the parent to be calm and supportive throughout the check-up. When mom and dad are calm and comfortable, the child will most likely feel the same way.

Plan a reward. Prior to the visit, set up a reward, big or small, for your child, and let them know what to expect. Having something to look forward to after the check-up can make even a reluctant child more willing to cooperate during their time with the doctor. Choose something that will motivate your child. Some ideas could be going out for lunch or a trip to the park or pool, or an opportunity to invite a friend over to play. After the visit, tell them you are proud of them for their bravery and talk about how they felt during the appointment. When a child knows they can talk about their feelings honestly, they are usually more likely to discuss other fears in the future.

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new year, new you Whether it is because of a desk job or transporting kids to activities, active movement is decreasing in our daily routines. We are now having to make more conscious decisions to setting aside time in our day to be active—taking the steps, parking at the back of a lot, walking while on the phone, etc. With it being a new year, there’s no better time to create a plan for our families and ourselves. So, we have pulled together a kit of different ways—eating more color, stretches at a desk, workplace workout ideas, fitness apps, family-fun runs, health screens and more—to help all of us start out the year more health conscious.

EATING MORE COLOR

Super Flexible Superfoods. All forms

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of fruits and vegetables—fresh, frozen,

tips on how to get five servings of fruits and

canned, dried and 100% juice—can be part

vegetables a day and why these colorful,

of a healthy diet. They can be eaten raw or

nutritious

cooked, whole or chopped, organic or not,

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and alone or in combination with other

Full of the Good. Fruits and vegetables provide

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foods. They are among the most versatile, convenient and affordable foods you can eat.

including vitamins, minerals, healthy fats,

A Whole Body Health Boost. A healthy

protein, calcium, fiber, antioxidants and

eating plan rich in fruits and vegetables can

phytonutrients. Add fruits and veggies to

help lower your risk of many serious and

meals and snacks for a nutritional power

chronic health conditions, including heart

boost.

disease, stroke, obesity, high blood pressure,

Free of the Bad. Fruits and vegetables

high blood cholesterol, diabetes, kidney

typically contain no trans fat, low saturated

disease, osteoporosis and some types of

fat and very little or no sodium. The natural

cancer. They’re also essential to many daily

sugars they contain don’t affect your health

functions of a healthy body.

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STRETCHES AT YOUR DESK

filling you up, thanks to the fiber and water

Rubber Neck. Sit up tall and drop your

they contain. Replacing higher-calorie foods

right ear down towards your right shoulder

with fruits and vegetables is an easy first

(you don’t have to touch it!) and hold for a

step to a healthier eating plan.

few seconds and repeat to the left side.

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Try these fun and convenient fitness apps for those impromptu workouts.

Take advantage of the free health screens in the area each year, where anyone can get free eye and hearing exams, blood pressure screenings, mammograms and even sports physicals.

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Reach for the Stars. Interlace your fingers and reach up towards the sky, as high as you can … keeping your palms facing up towards the ceiling.

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towards your ears and hold for a few seconds and release. Repeat a few times for good measure.

Chest Opener. Bring your hands behind your back, press your palms together, sit up tall and hold for 5–10 seconds.

Seated Toy Soldier. Sit up tall and extend your right arm all the way up towards the ceiling. Straighten your left leg out and raise it up as you bring your right arm down and try to touch your left foot. Do 8–10 on each side.

Knee Hugger. With a bent knee, lift your right leg up and grab it with your arms and pull it in as close to your chest as you can. Hold for 5–10 seconds, and make sure to do it on the left side, too.

Reach and Bend. Extend your right arm over your head and reach out as far as you can to the left and gently bend over. Hold for a few seconds and do it the other way.

Knee Press. This one stretches out the glutes. With your right ankle on your left knee, gently press against the right knee a few times.

Of course, after you’re done with the right side, be sure and give the left side some love, too. **Originally seen on Draxe.com.

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WORKPLACE WORKOUT Book Press (Works Triceps). Grab the heaviest book you have, and hold it behind your head with your elbows pointed towards the ceiling. Try and keep your arms as close to your ears as possible as you extend your arms up and straight.

Bring the book back behind your head and start again.

Shoulder Blade Squeezes (Works to Improve Hunched Posture). Pretend you are holding a pencil between your shoulder blades, squeezing them together for 10 seconds. Release, then repeat.

Office Yoga (Works to Relieve On-theClock Stress). Keep a mat rolled up under your desk, and bring it out when you need 5–10 minutes of peace and zen.

Chair Squats (Works Booty). Stand

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six inches in front of your chair. Lower yourself into a squatting position, keeping your knees over your toes, until your bottom hits the edge of the chair. Stand back up and repeat.

Tricep

Desk

Dips

(Works Triceps).

Facing away from your desk, place your

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hands behind you shoulder-width apart on the edge of the desk. Extend your legs out to where your weight is leaning more on your shoulders/arms. Bend your arms to about 90 degree angles, keeping your legs as straight as possible in front of you.

Your bottom should lower slightly below the edge of your desk. Straighten back up

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Wall Sits (Works Quads). Stand with your back against the wall. Bring your

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from the wall, then bend your knees to a should be pressed up against the wall.

Hold for 15 seconds, slide back up and then repeat.

Standing

Calf

Raises

(Works Calf

Muscles). Stand behind your chair with your feet together. Rise up onto the balls of your feet, hold for 10–15 seconds, release and repeat.

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Leg Raise (Works Abs). Sit up straight in your chair, with your knees bent and feet on the floor. Straighten your legs out in front of you, and hold for 10 seconds.

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Lower your legs almost to the floor before raising again. (Try one-leg raises if two legs puts stress on your lower back.) **Originally seen on Time.com.

7 BASIC HEALTH SCREENINGS EVERYONE SHOULD HAVE Confused about screenings? A UVA primary care physician reviews some common checks to keep track of your disease risk.

Diabetes and obesity are occurring more frequently—and at even younger ages—among

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FAMILY FUN RUNS IN THE NEW YEAR Mark your calendar and motivate each other while training for one or many of these races in 2018.

talk to your doctor about screening and prevention.

Paul Targonski, MD, PhD, is a UVA primary care physician and epidemiologist who

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Triglycerides

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and molecules in the body. High levels of triglycerides have been linked to an increased risk for heart problems, stroke and blood vessel disease.

High-Density lipoprotein (HDL). HDL is a transport molecule that primarily moves fat out of cells, importantly out of the cells associated with blood vessel walls, where fat accumulation can lead

to atherosclerosis. Higher HDL levels protect against heart disease.

Low-Density Lipoprotein (LDL). LDL represents a group of molecules comprised of fat and protein in varying proportions that move fat around the body to be taken up by cells. In general, too much is not good—more LDL usually means a higher risk of more fat in blood vessel walls and higher risks for heart attacks and stroke, among other outcomes.

Glucose. Glucose is the sugar most often used as energy in the body. Once absorbed from a meal, the sugar goes into the bloodstream and is called blood glucose. Doctors check blood glucose levels to test for diabetes. Insulin is a hormone that moves glucose into the body’s cells for conversion to

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Countdown January 2018

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This is a good time to spend a few evenings at home curled up beside the

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researching

potential camps and requesting camper information packets. Many camps are already accepting registrations at this point, so make sure you ask about deadlines and cut-off dates. This is also the time to decide what kinds of camps you’re looking for, how big (or small) your budget is, and what time frame is best for your family’s summer schedule.

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If your child is a first-time camper, talk about what he can expect while he’s away.

Make sure he is involved in the planning and packing process. attended in the past, so you can speak with someone who has experienced the camp firsthand. Many camps will also supply you with a promotional video to give you a better idea of what the program is really like. When you attend the CharlottesvilleFamily Fun Fair and

Visit the CF Online Camp Fair at CharlottesvilleFamily.com

Camp Expo on February 11, you’ll have a great chance to ask questions to camp representatives in person and get a feel for the whole camp experience.

If you’ve got a short list of several wonderful camps, listing pros and cons of each and prioritizing camp features with your children can help you make the final decision.

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Sleep-away Camps It’s just as certain as hot weather and afternoon thunderstorms: Come summer, thousands of Charlottesville kids will pack their bags for sleep-away camp. For parents (and kids, too) choosing a camp can be daunting because reservations need to be made so early. This year, we’re introducing our Early Bird’s Guide to Sleep-aways. So, make yourself some s’mores in the microwave, start planning now for summer fun and brush up on those campfire songs!

AstroCamp Clover, VA 888-836-1212 astrocampsummerva.org The rolling hills of Staunton Meadows and Lake Orion create a unique summer camp experience for boys and girls ages 8–14. AstroCamp Virginia is a science and adventure summer camp where campers get hands-on science and astronomy training while participating in a variety of activities. See ad page 41

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Camp Hidden Meadows Bartow, West Virginia 1-800-600-4752 camphiddenmeadows.com Co-ed, non-sectarian camp offered at 1-, 2-, 3- and 4-week sessions.

Activities include horseback riding, sports, rock climbing, backpacking, mountain boarding, performing arts, organic gardening, 1,000-foot zip line and much more. Ages 6–16.

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If you’ve got a short list of several wonderful camps, listing pros and cons of each and prioritizing camp features with your children can help you make the final decision. you’ll know what it’s going to cost and you can prepare a budget to take you from down-payment to paid-in-full, with a few stops in between at clothing and supply stores.

Remember to send in your camp registration

materials

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Carefully read through the camp rules and regulations, and complete all requested

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Camp Holiday Trails Charlottesville, Virginia 434-977-3781 campholidaytrails.org Fun and challenging activities for kids with special medical needs and autism, including canoeing, fishing, horseback riding, wall climbing, swimming, archery, music, arts & crafts and much more. Accredited.

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forms in a timely and thorough manner.

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checklist nearby, and fill it up gradually,

January 2018

Begin to plan your packing strategy. Will you pack a few items at a time as you accumulate (and label!) them, or are all concerned content to throw everything together at the last minute? If you’re not a family that thrives under deadline pressure, it might be a good idea to put the suitcase in a little-used spot with a checking off each item as you go.

MARCH Schedule the camp physical. Ask for an appointment as close to the camp’s deadline as possible, so you’ll be up-tospeed on any new developments as the summer draws near. Consider scheduling a physical, even if the camp doesn’t require it. Regular check-ups help you keep tabs

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If possible, schedule a visit to the camp location so your child will feel more comfortable when the summer arrives.

Take a tour of the facilities and get the “lay of the land.” If this is not feasible, touring the website or looking at the camp’s brochures together and speculating about all the exciting activities your child will get to take part in is another way to help him or her prepare.

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APRIL If your child is a first-time camper, talk about what he can expect while he’s away.

Make sure he is involved in the planning and packing process. Remind him that feelings of homesickness are normal and that everyone at camp will have them. If outdoor camping is part of the program, go on a weekend family camping trip or set up camp in the backyard. Try to prep for whatever new experiences are on your camper’s horizon: practice doing laundry, finding the bathroom in the dark, addressing envelopes, making telephone calls with a calling card.

Discuss with camp staff members any

special

medical

circumstances.

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or wait

personal until

registration day, because camp staff may be too busy to listen carefully at that point. Have a conversation ahead of time, and consider following up with a brief note, summarizing what you said on the phone.

MAY Make

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suitcase or trunk, to make packing for

that you’ll miss him while he’s gone,

home easier. Schedule a haircut for your

but don’t overdo it. You don’t want him

child a week before camp begins. Seven

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other personal belongings. If you ordered on. Include a list of packed items in his

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Let It Snow Wintery Experiments for Your Budding Scientist

Winter is a magical time for children, and you can enhance their appreciation and understanding of the season by conducting simple, but serious science investigations right in your own home.

Give your children a head start in mastering basic scientific methods of study by teaching them to investigate their world through prediction, observation, hypothesizing, estimating and recording their findings. Here are a few simple snowy science experiments guaranteed to be both fun and informative.

What Happens When Water Freezes?

• Fill an empty metal container to ½ inch from the top with water.

• Use a permanent marker to mark the water line on the outside of the can.

• Predict what will happen when the water freezes.

• Place the can on a tray or on aluminum foil, and then place in the freezer overnight.

• Observe the ice line the next morning and record the results. *Water expands as it turns to ice. Use the terms liquid and solid states. What will happen when the ice melts back into liquid state?

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The Ice Cube Race • Place three ice cubes in identical containers.

• Leave one ice cube as it is, add salt to the second and sugar to the third.

• Estimate the length of time it will take for each ice cube to melt completely.

• Observe at one-minute intervals and record information.

• Write a paragraph describing the rate of melting for each of the three cubes.

• Can you explain why one melted faster? *Which would you use to melt the ice on roadways, sugar or salt? Why?

Make Snowy Ice Cream After conducting the other snowy science experiments, you’ll want to do one last exercise in lowering the freezing temperature using salt.

• Blend half a cup of cream and half a cup of milk. Pour into a ziploc bag and seal.

• Fill a second, larger ziploc with ice and large salt crystals.

• Place the smaller bag inside the larger one.

• Wait 5–10 minutes, occasionally shaking the bags to “fluff” the ice cream.

• Remove the ice cream bag carefully and enjoy.

The Birth of an Ice Crystal • Pour orange Kool Aid into a petri dish.

• Prepare a bowl of crushed ice mixed with salt.

• Place the petri dish into the bowl of ice.

• Observe for three to five minutes, stirring occasionally.

• Use a flashlight to observe the formation of an ice crystal. *Freezing occurs when water cools. Molecules move more slowly, causing them to come together and form ice crystals.

Rapid cooling speeds the process. This lesson lends itself to predictions based on time. Observe and record information.

Drawings of the crystal at each one-minute point would be appropriate.

Jan Pierce, M.Ed., is a freelance writer living in the beautiful Pacific Northwest.

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{resources parenting}

INCREASING

CONFIDENCE Turn the Table on Anxiety: 4 Ways Parents Can Boost Up Their Child

50 January 2018

W

e,

as

First, we live in a fast-paced society

provide

of

with advanced technology that provides

to get ahead. There is more academic,

uncertainties and that

instant access to information. Instant

extracurricular and social pressure for

we cannot change those

gratification has become a way of life.

kids now than with past generations.

for our children nor ourselves. What we

Kids in this generation are so accustomed

Parents and kids hear consistently how

can do is help prepare our children for how

to getting things immediately that they

hard it is to get into a “good” college and

to deal calmly with life’s uncertainties,

can become easily frustrated, and even

the pressure is on them to do more and

helping ease out anxiety.

anxious, when asked to wait.

do it better, which causes tremendous

that

parents, life

is

know

full

More kids are dealing with anxiety

Second, in today’s culture of raising

than ever before for two main reasons.

children, there is a lot of pressure to

them

with

every

advantage

anxiety for children and teens.

words by Darlene Sweetland, Ph.D. & Ron Stolberg, Ph.D.

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{resources parenting} The best way to increase confidence

For parents who have a child who is

in children is allowing them to develop

coping with a lot of anxiety, it is very easy

the skills to have patience and consider

to fall into the pattern of rescuing their

resolutions to a problem when it arises.

child because they just want their child to

When parents see their children struggle

experience some relief from that anxiety.

with a problem or react with sadness,

However, the same holds true. “Rescuing”

anxiety or frustration, it is very tempting

children from challenges promotes low

to jump in and fix it. One of the most

frustration tolerance. Indeed, these kids

common mistakes that parents make

may require more “support.” They may

is failing to recognize the difference

need their parents to sit with them,

between supporting their children and

comfort them and encourage them as

rescuing them.

they are coming up with solutions more

When parents rescue their children

than other kids who do not experience

from a conflict, they are “doing” it for

the same degree of anxiety. The premise,

them. By contrast, when parents support

though, is the same. Supporting kids as

their children in solving the problem

they figure out what to do is great, but

independently, they are “encouraging”

rescuing them has the opposite effect.

the process of critical thinking and frustration

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tolerance. When

Second,

parents

can

increase

children

confidence in their children by teaching

work to identify solutions on their

them to tolerate waiting. Parents have

own, they use problem-solving, social

the added challenge of raising children in

skills and planning, as well as learn to

the Instant Gratification Generation. This

tolerate the discomfort that comes from

generation of children and teens has very

not feeling sure about the resolution.

little need to wait for anything. From On-

This process is an essential practice for

Demand movies and television shows to

children and teens to develop confidence,

smart phones, texting and social media,

and it is lost when they are rescued.

they have access to instant information

Children and teens need the freedom to make decisions, deal with unexpected outcomes, practice social skills and mess up all on their own.

in almost all aspects of their lives. In

daily opportunities to have their children

leaves the child feeling upset and possibly

addition,

wait.

shameful. On the other hand, if the child

parents

have

also

become

accustomed to this pace, which very

One of the best gifts parents can

fixes the mistake him or herself, it fosters

often translates into responding to their

give their children is to allow them to

pride and confidence in doing the same

children’s requests and desires quickly.

fix mistakes on their own. Parents will

the next time. It also avoids a child feeling

That results in a lot of anxiety when kids

often tell their kids, “It is okay to make

fearful about making future mistakes,

are required to sit with a problem without

mistakes.

which as we know is inevitable.

having a solution right away. Whether it is

However, that message is meaningless

Children who experience a lot of

picking them up from an activity, getting

unless the kids are allowed to fix the

anxiety tend to choose avoidance as their

them something they want, or responding

mistakes themselves. If a child makes a

coping strategy. Instead, if they experience

to a text right away, parents need to find

mistake and a parent jumps in to fix it, it

anxiety after making a mistake, but

Everyone

makes

mistakes.�

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{resources parenting} One of the most common mistakes that parents make is failing to recognize the difference between supporting their children and rescuing them. experience the pride that comes from

them the knowledge and confidence that

Only after a long discussion and a lot of

resolving the problem on their own, it

they need to deal with future unexpected

listening should you ask questions such

increases confidence for future mistakes.

mistakes or outcomes.

as, “Did you consider…?”

The fourth way to help children

Here are four situational examples

develop confidence is to allow them

to help parents raise more confident

the independence to plan, organize and

children.

my P.E. clothes! Can you bring me some

improvise when given unstructured time.

It is very important for parents to recognize that children in this generation tend to

2. “Mom, my shorts don’t meet dress code. They are going to make me wear

1. “Dad, I am getting a C in Math and

different shorts?”

Celebrate

saw that I missed some assignments.”

mistakes.

Resist

the

lead very scheduled lives. That leaves

Encourage problem solving. When

temptation to jump in and fix your

minimal time for them to independently

your child comes to you with a problem,

children’s mistakes. Allowing them to fix

figure out what to do with unstructured,

your first response should always be, “Tell

their own mistakes builds confidence.

unplanned time away from the watchful

me what’s going on.” Then ask, “What

It is essential for children to learn how

eye of an adult. Yet, that experience is

solutions have you thought of so far?”

to

very important in developing confidence.

or “What is your plan?” Even though it is

mistakes and the only way to do that

Children and teens need the freedom to

very tempting to provide solutions at this

is practice. It is good practice for us, as

make decisions, deal with unexpected

point, refrain from doing so. Let your child

parents, to re-think the way we view our

outcomes, practice

and

know it is okay not to have a solution

children’s trials and tribulations. And

mess up all on their own. Yes, part of the

right away. After your child has shared

then, celebrate them as an opportunity

practice is messing up and figuring out

some solutions, you can say, “What do

to practice using the skills that will be

what to do about it. That is what gives

you think will happen if you do that?”

essential throughout their lives.

social

skills

remedy

unexpected

outcomes

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they need to wait. Begin this pattern

for it. For example, you can say, “That

when children are toddlers with taking

game was cool. Let’s talk about things you

turns with games. The time for waiting

can do this weekend to earn the money

advances with each age. For example: “I

for it.” Or, “Yeah. I love that style of jeans. I

am putting these clothes in the bedroom;

can give you the money I would normally

I can help you in two minutes.” Or, “I am

pay for jeans and you can find ways to

putting dinner together. I can help you

earn the rest.” For expensive items, you

with that in 15 minutes.” For teens, it can

can say, “You want your own car? Let’s

include, “I am at lunch with a friend. I will

determine the cost of different types of

take you there in two hours.”

cars, and you can decide how much you need to work to earn the money to buy

4. “Dad, can I get the candy drop app? It

the one you want.”

is only 99 cents.”

Make them work for it. One of the 3. “Mom, I am hungry.” Mom responds, “What can I get for you?” or Text sent at 3:05: “Dad, where r u? It is after 3!”

Integrate Teaching tolerance

waiting

resilience is

at

every

age.

and

frustration

extremely

important.

Children with low frustration tolerance tend to be impulsive problem-solvers.

Therefore, you need to make the effort to integrate waiting into their daily lives.

If your children ask you to do something for them, share what you are doing and then let them know the amount of time

best gifts you can give your children is the confidence that they can make a plan to get the special things they want all by themselves. It teaches them they can set goals and find ways to obtain them. Young kids can help Mom or Dad with a chore and earn something small, and older kids can learn to build up savings. When a child asks for something that costs money, it is great to be supportive. That does not mean buying the item for the child; it is simply sharing interest in something new.

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{until next time humorous reflections} Bamboozled Every Time

A Dad’s Humorous Tales

by Rick Epstein

“There’s no silverware in my pants!” said 3-yearold Wendy. Her mother, two sisters and I stared across the dinner table at her. We’d gotten about halfway through supper when Wendy issued her abrupt denial.

I picked her up and gave her a light shake. Clink, clink.

I set her down and frisked her, finding two spoons and a fork.

We laughed, but Wendy was angry—angry with us

the next stop. He runs inside a tavern, slips out the men’s room window and then dashes away down an alley. Wendy is that slippery … I think.

At 6 p.m. on a school night, I go to fetch Wendy from her friend’s house so she can eat with us and then do her homework. I arrive to find out that her hosts have just ordered Chinese food and to take Wendy home would be to disrespect their kindness and dishonor

for not trusting her or perhaps angry with herself for bungling her first attempt at deception. I couldn’t say for sure. But I doubt it was her last attempt.

My dad used to come home from work, step over our school books, feel the crunch of cinnamon-sugar on the kitchen floor, see crumbs on the counter, find garments or toys in the hallway and say, “I can tell exactly what you kids have been up to every minute since you got home from school. I hope you never become criminals.” His subtlety was wasted on me. Of course, he was telling us not to be such slobs, but I took it as career counseling.

Ever since fourth grade, I’d wanted to be a detective, not a criminal. Back then, I would pick up cigarette butts in the street, check them for lipstick and try to determine their brands.

I acquired an inkpad and practiced fingerprinting myself. My evenings were spent sneaking around the house, spying on my parents and brothers.

Since then, people have generally quit smoking, the really smart detectives have moved on to DNA and I’ve been told that my whole family knew I was spying on them. My dad even used the phrase “sneaking elephant” to describe my stealth.

Worse yet, fate is pitting me against a master of deceit. I think so anyway. I’m not really sure. It’s Wendy again, only now she’s 14 years old. You’ve seen the movies in which a criminal knows a detective is shadowing him. He jumps on a bus and jumps off at

a costly and delicious pint of General Tso’s chicken.

Somehow the evening slips away and it’s 10 p.m. before Wendy has been recaptured.

I can also recount the time I ferried a carload of girls to the movies, only to learn that Melissa’s mom won’t let her be at the theater unsupervised. If I leave, I’d have to take Melissa home, which would ruin everyone’s evening. It would most likely leave Melissa’s mom with doubts of my fitness as a parent. I phone my wife to let her know she’ll be spending Saturday night alone.

And then there was the time I granted Wendy permission to go to an amusement park with her friend’s family with confirmation and agreement that she would be home in time for Grandma’s birthday dinner. She wasn’t, of course. Everyone was so hungry after a day of thrills and joy that the nice dad decided to stop at a restaurant. I certainly couldn’t call his cell phone and say, “Look, pal: You said you’d have Wendy home by 5:30!”

I also can’t forget the time I took Wendy to a “party” at her boyfriend’s house, only to learn later that no one else showed up and the two spent the evening alone in privacy of his finished basement “watching TV.” Is Wendy the helpless beneficiary of factors beyond her control or is she working me? I don’t know, but each time I walk right into the fog with my eyes wide open, and the next thing I know I’m grinding my teeth in frustration. I get small consolation from remembering my glory days when I knew exactly what Wendy was up to. (I keep the spoons and fork anyway as a kind of trophy.)

Ever since fourth grade, I’d wanted to be a detective, not a criminal … My evenings were spent sneaking around the house, spying on my parents and brothers.

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Rick can be reached at rickepstein@yahoo.com.

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