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february 2019 Robin Johnson Bethke Jennifer Bryerton

CREATIVE DIRECTOR Robin Johnson Bethke

Dear Friends,

EDITOR-IN-CHIEF Jennifer Bryerton TECHNICAL DIRECTOR Peter D. Bethke

I’ve recently discovered a podcast on NPR called the “Science of Happiness,” and it is fascinating! Each episode, someone interesting like an author, a parent,

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a professional athlete, a college student or a comedian implements a research-

based practice for happiness, resilience, kindness and connection. The episodes

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are short, just 15–20 minutes, and always a mood-lifter. Yesterday, I was hooked

in by the tantalizingly title “These Words Cause Happiness,” so I listened to the episode about the effect of a compliment. Science shows a compliment activates the ventral striatum part of the brain—the same place the sense of

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rewards is processed, such as when you win a contest, eat chocolate or receive

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a wonderful gift. And, we know, too, that we not only trigger the reward system

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of their brain but also boost our own happiness when we give a compliment. So simple! “Did you know that you are beautiful? This is wonderful! I can see how hard you worked! I’m proud of you! You’re an amazing kid! I’m so glad you’re my friend!”

The episode also mentioned a study on how compliments can change the quality of relationships. It cracked me up that one of the women took responsibility for her own validation and sat her husband down regularly to share all the wonderful things she’d done with their children that week and asked that he thank her. And he did, genuinely, and they were much happier for it. It’s really kind of brilliant and so much better than feeling under-appreciated.

I intend to do this, and I’ll be looking for thoughtful compliments I can throw his way, too!

So in honor of that podcast, I want to thank you this Valentine season from the bottom of my heart for being an engaged parent and community member.

On days that I know are busy, I really appreciate that you are taking this time to connect with what is going on in local schools, finding ideas for being an even better parent and making plans for an activity to do with your kids. Good for you! You are amazing! And, keep it up!

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Contents TABLE OF

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OUR TOWN

News 10

The Buzz Around Town 12

Do you bribe your children to get them to behave?

Snapshot 14

Devon Sproule, Teacher, Songwriter & Performer

Our Schools 16

Supporting the Whole Child:

Social-Emotional Learning

Out & About Calendar 18

February Festivals & Events for Families

Valentine Fun 34

DIY Bumble Bee Valentine Craft

& Festive Books

LIVING WELL New Mom 24 Doctors, Doulas & Midwives

INSPIRATION

Happy Parents, Happy Kids 36

Healthy Family 26 Body Image

Camping Buddies 42

Editor’s Pick!

February’s issue brings families many resources, from sleepaway camps (pg 44) and area private schools (pg 53) to tips on growing a happy family (pg 36) and discussing body image (pg 26).

Camp Friends are Friends for Life

The Science Behind the Curriculum

UVA Professor Angeline Lillard, PhD,

Shares Her Expertise on Montessori

RESOURCES

Guide to Residential Camps 44

Tips & Trends 28 Fabulous Finds and Fun

Nurturing Your Marriage So You Can Nurture Your Family

What You Need to Find the Best Camp for Your Child

2019 Guide to Private Schools

The Inside Info on Area Schools

Home & Garden 30 The Perfect Guest Room

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Food & Family 32 Better Dining Out Experiences

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Dad’s Phone-Pix Campaign 62

A Dad’s Humorous Tales

30 So Love This!

“I am really looking forward to trying out some of the daytrip ideas and events in February, and making the adorable Valentine’s Day craft.”

— Olivia, editorial intern

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Ivy Publications proudly sponsors: Kid*Vention Key Recreation Center February 9

CharlottesvilleFamily’s Fun Fair & Camp Expo The DoubleTree Hotel February 10

Paramount at the Movies Presents: Disney’s The Rocketeer

Be sure to watch our CharlottesvilleFamily Facebook page for an upcoming Harlem Globetrotters giveaway!

The Paramount Theater February 17

New Calm Space at CHS Charlottesville High School designated a “calm space” for students to relax and unwind throughout the school day. The room is filled with sensory materials such as stress balls, bean bag chairs, water painting, coloring and aromatherapy to help students rest and take their minds off exams and school work. Keeping with the relaxing mindset, students are not allowed to have phones on or out while in the room and are instead encouraged to do purposeful and intentional activities that will positively impact and calm themselves.

Sentara MJH Supports Community Health In 2018, Sentara Martha Jefferson Hospital donated a total of $83,750 to several area nonprofits. The Charlottesville Free Clinic, which serves over 2,500 patients a year, many of whom suffer from chronic illnesses, received a generous $15,000 donation. Additionally, Bay Aging received $18,750, the City Schoolyard Garden received $25,000 and Region 10 Community Services Board received $25,000. The donations aim to help these nonprofits better serve the community, whether it be with necessary medications or by providing assistance to those who live independently.

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UVA Children’s Hospital Ranks Nationally Six specialties ranked nationally for the University of Virginia (UVA) Children’s Hospital in the 2018–2019 “Best Children’s Hospitals” guide from U.S. News & World Report. Coming in 43rd was the Heart Center’s Pediatric Cardiology & Heart Surgery specialty. As the only hospital in Virginia that performs pediatric heart transplants, the hospital also wrapped up 2018 having performed 13 pediatric heart transplants. Thomas L’Ecuyer, director of Heart Failure and Transplant in Pediatrics at UVA, claimed that 80 percent get one in time. Most children fully recover after surgery, however, there is still room for improvement when it comes to ensuring every child who needs a transplant receives one, because the most important thing is giving children the opportunity to live a long and happy life.

IRC & Tandem Friends Students Collaborate This holiday season, teachers at Tandem Friends School asked their eighth graders to raise money to give back and help others. The students were tasked with raising the money by performing chores around their homes. The students then used what they had raised to shop at Food Lion for groceries for the International Rescue Committee (IRC) in Charlottesville, with each student having a budget of $50 and a list of what to purchase. Afterwards, the students traveled to the IRC to deliver the goods and share in the gift of giving.

AHS Knitting Club Donates Their Talents Albemarle High School’s Knitting Club students used their talents for a good cause this winter. The club’s 75 students banned together to create handmade items such as hats, mittens and booties to donate to Charlottesville’s Ronald McDonald House.

The students were happy to turn their hobby into something meaningful, by creating personal items with love and care to serve their community. The club also donated several animal blankets to the Louisa County Animal Shelter. The students plan on donating more items in the spring and ask for donations of knitting supplies. If you would like to contribute, contact Albemarle High School at 434-975-9300.

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Do you bribe your children to get them to behave?

59% say “yes” 41% say “no” “If I’m in public and having a hard time getting them to behave, YES, I will bribe them. At home, I can give instant consequences, punishments and rewards as needed.”

– Heather, Mom of two boys

“Before we leave the house or car, I remind my kids of the expected behavior and any consequence(s) for not following them.

Sometimes, [I give] a chance or two to behave as instructed, but no bribing.”

– Charlottesville Mom

“I do not have children of my own yet. But, I am a teacher, and some days I need that incentive to get through the day. Love all of my kids.”

– Tiffani

“A parent should not have to bribe their child for them to behave, as rules and respect should be established at a young age. If you are bribing, nip it now, it’s only going to get worse!”

– Kents Store Mom of one boy

“An occasional bribe has been used to get my otherwise very active boys to, on occasion, hold it together. It’s usually a candy treat that I planned to share, but that they could totally go without. It’s not a frequent go-to because I don’t feel it’s a realistic way to get them to go along with what we are asked to do in life.”

– Mother of two boys

“I think that without a reason to behave, no one would. For children, especially young children, they have to have a reason that directly benefits themselves until they learn/want to behave for society norms and for the betterment of themselves.

Even as adults, we get our own ‘treats’, which could be a shopping spree, special restaurant night out, a promotion, etc., for ‘behaving.’”

– Liz B.

“We don’t offer bribes, but if she wants to play something else, she has to clean up first.”

– Kimberley R., Stanardsville,

Mother of one girl

“My mom didn’t do that with me, and I plan not to bribe my kids either. I think it can impact their character and they will only do things for bribes.”

– M, Charlottesville mom

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CLOSINGS Brown’s Cleaners, all locations Kumon Math and Reading Center of Charlottesville, 225 Connor Drive Levy’s, 2120 Barracks Road Lindt Chocolate, 1039A Emmet Street Sweethaus, 929 2nd Street SE & 2248 Ivy Road

ANNOUNCEMENTS Charlottesville ranked #1 in metropolitan areas with the most Peace Corps volunteers per capita in 2018.

Charlottesville Opera hired David O’Dell as its new General Director.

The Spanish immersion program in Albemarle County middle schools expanded from just Paul H. Cale Elementary School to Leslie H. Walton Middle School and Jackson P. Burley Middle School in the 20182019 school year.

Mount Vernon’s renovations in the first-floor front parlor will reopen on February 16.

PVCC will receive $1.35 million from Dorothy Batten over the next three years to use for the college’s Network2Work program.

The U.S. Green Building Council awarded UVA’s Clark Hall its “LEED V4 Existing Buildings, Operations + Maintenance Silver” certification, the first such project recognized in Virginia.

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UVA® CHILDREN’S HOSPITAL & KOHL’S CARES. WORKING TO MAKE OUR CHILDREN HEALTHY Nationally close to 32% of school aged children are overweight or obese.

The Kohl’s Hoo’s Fit Program is a UVA® Children’s Fitness Clinic initiative whose mission is to promote healthy eating and active living among area children. It includes innovative nutrition education and fitness programs provided in schools and community centers.

Here are some tips to help set your child on a healthy path. Plan a family physical activity each week and make sure kids get one hour of exercise daily. Make meals at home and eat around the table. It’s never too soon for healthier lifestyle choices.

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Devon Sproule Teacher, Songwriter & Performer

Devon Sproule released her first album, Devon, in 1999 when she was just a teenager. After nearly two decades of experience and success, the bluesy, indie folk singer encourages young, aspiring musicians to focus not only on music but also on their other talents and interests, because “it can help keep your music fresh and real, and your music career less overwhelming.” Today, Sproule continues to write, record and perform music in addition to teaching guitar and songwriting.

When did your interest in music begin?

Where I grew up, Twin Oaks Community, we had a big industrial kitchen where people took turns making meals. Since the dining hall is separate from the residences, people can really blast music while they cook or clean. In the summer, when the windows are open, you can often hear the music from far away. I like to picture running by those windows as a little kid, hearing all kinds of music filtering out. I sang a lot with my parents and friends—harmonies and rounds, Christmas songs and Solstice songs. We loved that songbook Rise Up Singing.

What are the best and most challenging parts about your job?

Well, before I had a kid, maybe the best part was sleeping in. Hardest parts would be the uncertainty of income, and driving more, later and longer than is safe. I like being able to change what I’m working on or how much I’m working based on what’s going on in my life.

So, it’s been satisfying to shift to more teaching.

How do you balance all the different needs of your community?

Since I’ve been home more, I’m starting to learn about what makes our Charlottesville community work and what keeps it from working. I work with two local organizations, MIMA and The Front Porch, trying to bring music education to people in town

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who have less access to it. Aside from music, I hope to help make Charlottesville a less racially and economically segregated place.

I bring up these issues in conversations, listen to what people say, and put my money and time where my mouth is.

What helps you keep on top of life and work obligations?

Aside from having a helpful husband, our “bathroom calendar,” a hard copy calendar that hangs in our bathroom, helps remind us about all our commitments, personally and professionally.

What advice do you have for parents and their young who are aspiring to help others through their careers?

Advice for aspiring musicians: try to establish a few small streams of income, verses relying on just one to support yourself. These could be teaching, performing, a service-oriented job, working in a coffee shop, working with elders (in music or care), graphic design, video work, visual art, or even something in health or mental health services. There is no shame in having varied areas of work.

If anything, it can help keep your music fresh and real, and your music career less overwhelming. For parents, consider encouraging your child to have the identity of a person, verses the identity of a musician. If our whole identity is wrapped up in the idea of “being a musician,” we can feel totally lost if we aren’t able to do that.

What is one thing your parents did well that you try to incorporate into your parenting?

Encouraging me to hang out with and be influenced by other adults.

Sylvia and Patrick, parents of five rambunctious children, are a husband and wife team in the Charlottesville area who focus on lifestyle photography, weddings and portraiture. See their work at sylviakiblerphotography.com.

12th Graders Help Build Homes As part of its Winter Intensive Program, St. Anne’s-Belfield School provides its seniors with the unique opportunity to study a subject of their choice for three weeks in between Thanksgiving and Christmas. Every year, a good number of students choose to work with Habitat for Humanity of Greater Charlottesville, and this year marked its largest group yet.

Students helped with all of the steps to building homes, such as installing drywall and painting.

The program teaches students vital skills such as construction, leadership and the power of giving back.

Area Students Help Students in California Students at Nathanael Greene Elementary School (NGES) in Stanardsville want to help both students who’s homes were destroyed by the wildfires in Paradise, California, as well as Paradise Elementary School. Greene students hope to raise $1,100 for the Paradise students who have had to travel 23 miles to attend school in another town. Many of the families affected have been left without transportation, and require funds for classroom supplies, groceries and gas. NGES students feel for the families and students that lost so much in the fires and are accepting donations from those who wish to contribute. All proceeds will be sent to Paradise Elementary School.

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2nd Annual Supporting the Whole Child: Social-Emotional Learning “Play for Preemies” Charlottesville City Schools has earned state and national recognition for its commitment to supporting the whole child, which includes mental wellness, social-emotional learning and an atmosphere that supports students who have experienced trauma. Part of this is a commitment to teaching children specific behaviors, including the ability to recognize and regulate their emotions. By teaching behavioral and emotional skills, and by creating routines that support emotional wellness, we believe our students will see personal and academic gains. At Venable Elementary, Principal Dr. Erin Kershner is seeing the fruits of these programs first-hand.

Q: Why is social-emotional learning important at school?

Kershner: We are finding that students are becoming more self-aware and better able to self-regulate as teachers and adults give them language and tools to do so. We are also finding that when adults are more traumaresponsive, it helps to strengthen the relationships and trust between adults and children. With trust, most problems can be resolved in the classroom so that learning can continue. We are excited

about the journey that we’re on to learn more about how we can better respond to the needs of our students in a way that promotes the health of our entire community.

Q: What’s a classroom Safe Zone?

Kershner: Safe Zones are classroom areas where a student who is feeling out of sorts can go to re-regulate and then re-engage with class activities when he or she is ready. Different from a time out, Safe Zone acknowledges that students always want to do their best and demonstrate expected behaviors.

If students aren’t behaving their best, then something is interfering with their ability to regulate their emotions or behaviors, and they need some time, space and resources to re-regulate. We, as the adults, need to provide extra care and support in these times for students; they need to know that we will keep them safe and help them get back to showing their best.

Q: What are some of the resources students are using to help them reregulate?

Kershner: In each Safe Zone, teachers have placed one or two resources such as deep breathing prompts, mandalas

to color or low-intensity exercises that students can do. We also use a curriculum called Zones of Regulation (zonesofregulation.com) in the Safe Zones, which helps students identify what zone they’re in—green (feeling good), yellow (nervous or annoyed), red (angry) or blue (sad, tired, etc.). The curriculum gives children strategies for working their way back to green. This curriculum is being explicitly taught in kindergarten this year, and it will grow with the students as they move up. School counselors and administrators are also successfully using this same system when speaking with students and making a plan to resolve any disciplinary issues that arise.

Q: Would these strategies work at home?

Kershner: Yes, teachers at schools throughout Charlottesville tell stories of their students who have taught their whole family how to “check in” with each other about what zone they are in. If parents want to learn more about the home applications of these tools, they can ask their child’s teacher or visit charlottesvilleschools.org/social-emotionallearning to find resources.

Krissy is the Community Relations Liaison for Charlottesville City Schools. She can be reached at goodnews@charlottesvilleschools.org.

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SPORTS ZONE Wahoos Compete for a Cause The UVA football team may have been intensely preparing for the Belk Bowl game against the University of South Carolina, but that did not stop the team from having others on their mind. The players visited the Second Harvest food bank in Charlotte, North Carolina, where they filled backpacks with food and canned goods to donate to families in the area. The UVA players filled a total of 1,500 bags, combined with another 1,500 the South Carolina football team filled, to reach a total of 3,000 backpacks that will feed 3,000 families. The Wahoos were happy to give back and make a difference for families who may not have the opportunity to eat every day. Although it was a day of giving, the football players could not help but incorporate some fun competition into the process by having the offense compete against the defense to see who could fill the backpacks the fastest. The defensive players may have come out on top but winning was not the players’ priority. What mattered most was coming together as a team to benefit others and make a difference in the community.

Biking for a Cause Tammy Johnston has proved she will do anything for a noble cause.

In 2016, Johnston was on her way to bike 2,000 miles to raise money for the Arc of Augusta, a nonprofit in Waynesboro that serves those with intellectual and developmental disabilities. Unfortunately, her journey came to a halt when a car hit her halfway to her destination.

A year and a half later, and with her fractured back fully recovered, Johnston completed her goal of biking from El Paso to San Diego for the Arc of Augusta. The grueling half-country bike ride took 13 days but was well worth it for the cause she passionately supports. She wants to keep raising awareness for the nonprofit and plans to hike the entire Appalachian Trail next.

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FEBRUARY 2019

Check out our online calendar for more local family events and fun!

Maymont Mansion’s View From the Backstairs

February 2 & 3, 12–5pm at Maymont Mansion, Richmond See the mansion through the eyes of African American employees of 1893 and experience Richmond’s Gilded Age showplace from the perspective of those who worked there.

804-358-7166, maymont.org

Drumcall & Friends Workshop

February 7, 4–5pm at Gordon Avenue Library Drum in Black History Month and groove to the beat of African drumming with drummer Whit Whitten. Learn how to celebrate with rhythm and sound. Ages 8–12. Registration recommended. 434-296-5544, jmrl.org

Kid’s Club Foxy Valentine

February 2, 10am–12pm at Michaels Drop in for Kids Club, where your little makers will make a Valentine’s craft.

434-971-1072, michaels.com

Hemings Family Tour at Monticello

Daily in February, 1:45pm at Thomas Jefferson’s Monticello A small interactive tour exploring both the Main House and Mulberry Row through the stories of seven members of the largest enslaved family at Monticello. 434-984-9800, monticello.org

VALENTINE’S DAY

Let’s Go Explore the Past Through Archaeology

February 9, 10am–12pm at Thomas Jefferson’s Monticello In honor of Black History Month, join Monticello archaeologists to discover how the enslaved community lived at Monticello. Kids and their favorite grown-ups will learn about what happens after excavation. For children ages 7–11. 434-984-9800, monticello.org

Ezibu Muntu

February 16, 7:30pm at Piedmont Virginia Community College Celebrate Black History Month with highenergy drumming and dancing. A spectacular display of African tradition and artistic custom. pvcc.edu

Bet You Can’t Eat Just One

February 21, 4–4:45pm at Northside Library Join the library for a savory Black History Month program. Learn about the invention of the potato chip and crunch on some samples.

Ages 5–11. Registration required.

434-973-7893, jmrl.org

Father/Daughter Valentine’s Dance

February 2 & 3, 1pm or 4:30pm Saturday & 2pm Sunday at Charlottesville Ballet Studios The afternoon includes a mini-performance, refreshments, treat decorating, Valentine decorating, dancing and special activities led

by Charlottesville Ballet. Moms, dads, sons and daughters are welcome to attend.

434-227-7592, charlottesvilleballet.org

Valentine’s Crafternoon

February 5, 4:30–5:30pm at Crozet Library Drop in to make a fun handcrafted token for a special someone. Registration required.

434-823-4050, jmrl.org

Father/Daughter Dance

February 8 & 9, 6–8pm at Carver Recreation Center Dads (Uncles and Grandpas, too), take your little Valentine out for a fun night of dancing.

DJ and light refreshments provided. For daughters ages 12 and under.

434-970-3260, charlottesville.org

Valentine’s Day Beading

February 9, 10am–4pm at Lewis & Clark Exploratory Center Get ready for Valentine’s Day. Beads and gift boxes will be available to decorate, as well as cards to practice calligraphy.

434-996-7282, lewisandclarkvirginia.org

MAKEbreak: Slime Your Heart Out

February 9, 1–3pm at Michaels Fill slime with glittery mix-ins for a little valenslime fun. Supplies provided.

434-971-1072, michaels.com

Date Night Drop-Off: Party Hearty

CHARLOTTESVILLEFAMILY FUN FAIR & CAMP EXPO

February 10, 10am–3pm at The DoubleTree Hotel Charlottesville. See page 19.

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February 15, 5:30–8:30pm at Virginia Discovery Museum Parents, enjoy a Friday night out to yourselves and let the Virginia Discovery Museum watch the kids. Kids will enjoy a pizza dinner, playtime in the Museum, Valentine-themed STEAM challenges and more. 434-977-1025, vadm.org

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Valentine’s Surprise Square Dance

February 15, 7:30–10pm at Rockfish River Elementary School Live square dance caller and refreshments. All proceeds given back to selected community organization. All welcome. 434-361-2470, sites. google.com/site/grandsqsofnelson

COVETED UNIVERSITY LOCATION

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1888 WESTVIEW ROAD • $1,565,000 Character-rich, light-drenched home at the end of a quiet, dead-end street in the Venable school district.

Screened porch, covered front porch and private, rear bluestone patio provide abundant outdoor living space. Gourmet chef ’s kitchen with commercial 6-burner range. Reidar Stiernstrand (434) 284-3005.

726 CARGIL LANE • $569,000 Classic brick home located Downtown off of Park Street is situated on a spectacular lot with rock walls and an attractive creek. Hardwood floors and architectural details throughout the home. Walk Downtown or utilize quick access to the Route 250 By-Pass.

Tommy Brannock (434) 981-1486. MLS# 584549

FESTIVALS & FAIRS Kid*Vention 2019

February 9, 10am–3pm at Key Recreation Center Explore a wide variety of scientific fields through hands-on experiments, demonstrations, games and more, as the museum welcomes local exhibitors with expertise in areas like biology, chemistry, physics and zoology.

CharlottesvilleFamily is a proud sponsor!

434-977-1025, vadm.org

CHARACTER-RICH AND TURN-KEY IN NORTH DOWNTOWN

CharlottesvilleFamily Fun Fair & Camp Expo

February 10, 10am–3pm at The Doubletree Hotel Charlottesville The annual CharlottesvilleFamily Fun Fair & Camp Expo helps parents get a jump on camp shopping. Meet over 80 exhibitors from camps offering horseback riding, sailing, sports training, travel, robotics and much more! During the expo, families can also enjoy Ben & Jerry’s ice cream, a bounce house (weather permitting), great giveaways and special kids’ activities!

434-984-4713, charlottesvillefamily.com

MARKETS & BAZAARS Winter Farmers Market

616 PARK STREET • $2,500,000

Historic charm meets modern living in this circa 1884 Victorian home, arguably located on one of the best lots in North Downtown. The extraordinary home boasts both formal and informal entertaining spaces, high ceilings, original heart-pine floors and a huge light-filled kitchen in the rear of the home. Only a quick walk to the Downtown Mall, this stately home sits on an acre of land and offers 5 bedrooms, 5 full baths and almost 5,000 square feet on 3 levels. The quality and timeless details of this home will not disappoint! Harmony Thurston (434) 996-0006

36 ACRES ON THE MECHUMS RIVER

CLASSIC COUNTRY PROPERTY

6008 MIDWAY ROAD • $1,190,000 Classic 1800’s farm house in the heart of Crozet, minutes from Charlottesville. Modern additions blend seamlessly with the original home. Over 3000 fin. sq ft including 3 bedrooms, 3.5 baths, 3 fireplaces, country kitchen, parlor, dining room & family room. Punkie Feil (434) 962-5222 or Elizabeth Feil Matthews (434) 284-2105

2330 JORDAN RUN LANE • $895,000 Set privately in the Farms of Turkey Run, this Greek revival residence boasts a 1st floor master, kitchen open to family room with fireplace, finished basement & custom built wine cellar. 21+ acre parcel provides 2 fenced horse pastures, creek, & gated security.

Genevieve Verlaak (434) 996-6683. MLS# 584459

Now–March 23, Saturdays, 9am–1pm at IX Art Park 434-207-2355, facebook.com/events/1964807213828992/

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RVCC Winter Market and Pancake Breakfast

February 2, 8:30am–12pm at Rockfish Valley Community Center, Afton The market coincides with RVCC’s pancake breakfast served from 8:30–10:30am.

434-361-1725, rockfishvalleycommunitycenter. memberlodge.com

Winter Madison Farmers Markets February 9, 10am–12pm at Hoover Ridge Park, Madison madisonfarmersmarket.info

401 PARK STREET • CHARLOT TESVILLE, VA

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{our town calendar} STAGE & SCREEN Huck & Tom and the Mighty Mississippi

FUNDR AISER Saturday, March 2 7-11pm Dress to Impress!

Costumes encourage!

Hors d’oeuvres + cash bar DJ and dancing!

Raffle for great prize packages! $100 per ticket includes music, food, two raffle tickets and one drink.

All net proceeds will benefit Wigs for Kids.

The Reserve Charlottesville 104 5th Street, SE Charlottesville

Now–March 3 at The Children’s Theatre at Willow Lawn, Richmond This Virginia Rep original adaptation brings Mark Twain’s two classic American novels into one musical adventure down the Mississippi.

Approximately 1 hour, no intermission.

Suggested for ages 6–12.

804-282-2620, va-rep.org

Cat in the Hat

February 4, 9:30am & 12:30pm at The Wayne Theatre, Waynesboro The mission of this program is to present educational theater that engages children in meaningful ways, complements school curricula and cultivates appreciation of the performing arts. 540-943-9999, waynetheatre.org

Broadway Our Way: A Teen Musical Revue

February 8–17 at Four County Players Songs in the Cellar presents Broadway Our Way: A Teen Musical Revue, directed and choreographed by Geri Carlson Sauls. Music direction is by Erica Umback, and vocal direction is by Natalee Louise McReynolds.

540-832-5355, fourcp.org

BalletSchool Dance Group Winter Performance

February 9, 7–8pm at PVCC Dickinson Building The program will feature new works choreographed by BalletSchool faculty and students. balletschoolva.com

Paramount at the Movies Presents: Disney’s The Rocketeer [PG]

February 17, 2pm at The Paramount Theater A period adventure based on the comic books

by Dave Stevens. CharlottesvilleFamily is a proud sponsor!

434-979-1333, theparamount.net

ARTS & CRAFTS Groundhog Day Activities & Watercoloring Workshops

February 2, 10–2 at Lewis & Clark Exploratory Center, Darden Towe Park Enjoy watercoloring workshops and a shadow art activity. Additionally, to celebrate the Lewis and Clark Expedition’s rodent, the Prairie Dog, visitors can make a prairie dog sculpture out of paint, dowels and add-ons.

434-996-7282, lewisandclarkvirginia.org

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Handcraft Group

February 7 & 14, 10am–12pm at Scottsville Library Swap ideas, learn new skills or just enjoy the conversations. Bring a project in progress, or the supplies you need to get started.

434-296-5544, jmrl.org

Kids Club: Lovely Frames

February 9, 10am–12pm at Michaels They craft, you shop. Parent or guardian must remain on premises during the event.

434-971-1072, michaels.com

Chinese New Year at Horton

February 9–10, 10am–5pm at Horton Vineyards, Gordonsville Celebrate the Chinese New Year with special complimentary gift offers to wine buyers and let the kids do some crafts while you’re there. Kids can make their own dragon masks, among other things. 540-832-7440, facebook.com/events/221573185255565

Plushie Factory

February 11, 6:30–7:30pm at Northside Library Use the provided materials and blueprints to lovingly immortalize your pet in fabric and stuffing, or go wild and build a nightmarish monster. 434-973-7893, jmrl.org

Family Art JAMs: Dancing Shapes 2D

February 16, 1pm & 3pm at UVA’s Fralin Museum of Art These popular programs combine ageappropriate tours with hands-on art activities that make the Museum’s exhibitions accessible to children. 434-243-2050, uvafralinartmuseum.virginia.edu

Creation Station

February 22, 3:30–4:30pm at Gordon Avenue Library Create with UVA Madison House volunteers.

There will be a different project each week.

STEAM ahead with hands on science, technology, engineering, art and math. For all ages. 434-296-5544, jmrl.org

GAMES, STORYTIMES & MORE Elmo’s Super-Duper Birthday

February 2, 11am at Charlottesville Barnes & Noble It’s Elmo’s birthday and we want to celebrate!

There will be activities, stickers, crafts and fun.

434-984-6598, bn.com

Anime Club

February 4, 6:30–8pm at Northside Library Watch episodes of your favorite anime flicks with friends, all while enjoying snacks like Pocky. Show ratings range from TV-G to TV-14.

434-973-7893, jmrl.org

Tots and Dots: Human Figures

February 5, 9am, 10am & 11am at Kluge-Ruhe Aboriginal Art Museum This is a two-part early visual literacy program for children ages six months to four years.

434-244-0234, kluge-ruhe.org

Pictures & Pages with Glynis Welte

February 6, 10–11am at UVA’s Fralin Museum of Art Start with a book and then go look as you take a visit of the museum to share stories, music and movement. Ages 2–4.

434-243-2050, uvafralinartmuseum.virginia.edu

Northside Pathfinders Club

February 7 & 21, 6:30–8:30pm at Northside Library Love monsters, magic, swords and goblins?

Head to the library. All you need is dice and your imagination. 434-973-7893, jmrl.org

Girls’ Geek Days

February 16 at St. Anne’s-Belfield School Girls learn new tech skills and connect to other STEM programs in the community. Open to all ages, girls in third grade or younger should plan to bring a guardian. Registration required. tech-girls.org

Presidents’ Day Weekend

February 16–18 at James Madison’s Montpelier Take specialty tours, hike the walking trails, peruse galleries and enjoy barbecue. On Sunday, Linda R. Monk, constitutional scholar, journalist and award-winning author, will discuss her books on the U.S. Constitution and the Bill of Rights. 540-672-2728, montpelier.org

Be the Book Club

February 20, 4–5pm at Central Library Learn acting exercises, expand your imagination and help bring some books to life.

434-979-7151, jmrl.org

Cuentos y Canciones Bilingual Storytime February 27, 4–4:30pm at Central Library Enjoy a special storytime in both English and Spanish featuring favorite stories, rhymes and songs in both languages.

434-979-7151, jmrl.org

LEGO Mania

February 28, 4–5pm at Central Library Meet up with other LEGO-minded people and construct your very own masterpieces. Ages 5+.

434-979-7151, jmrl.org

SPORTS, OUTDOORS & ACTIVE FUN

UVA Women’s Basketball Home Games

February 7, 10, 21 & 24 at John Paul Jones Arena Cheer on the ‘Hoos at home as they take on Boston College (Feb. 7), Duke (Feb. 10), Louisville (Feb. 21) and Georgia Tech (Feb. 24).

800-542-8821, virginiasports.com

Tri to Stay Warm – USATri60 Indoor Triathlon 2019

February 10, 7:30am at Brooks Family YMCA 10 minutes of swimming, 30 minutes of cycling and 20 minutes of running or walking. Perfect for beginners and experienced triathletes ages 15+. Awards will also be given to the top 3 with most “tropical” gym wear. app.racereach.com/event/tri-to-stay-warm/ register

Presidents Weekend at Wintergreen

February 15–18, 9am–10pm at Wintergreen Resort A long weekend to take advantage of great skiing, riding and tubing. Some of the best conditions are in February.

434-325-2200, wintergreenresort.com

UVA Men’s Basketball Home Games

February 2, 9, 16 & 22 at John Paul Jones Arena Cheer our ‘Hoos at home against Miami (Feb. 2), Duke (Feb. 9), Notre Dame (Feb. 16) and Georgia Tech (Feb. 22).

800-542-8821, virginiasports.com

Give your PBS KID the gift that gives all year.

Spring & Summer Camps for Children Ages 4-8 Spring Break

Maker Camp | April 1-5 9:00 am-1:00 pm Daily $220/Child (Member Discounts Apply)

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Summer Break

Dates & Themes: Online 9:00 am-1:00 pm Daily $220/Child (Member Discounts Apply) Early Bird: Register by May 1, Get $10 Off

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Learn more at ideastations.org/ideakids

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February 12, 6–7pm at Central Library Enjoy a hot cocoa bar while painting with friends. All materials will be provided for a fun evening. Grades 6–12. 434-979-7151, jmrl.org

Job Fair with Virginia Career Works

February 13, 2–5pm at Northside Library Sit down one-on-one with more than 15 representatives from local employers. Bringing a resume is encouraged but not required. Arrive an hour prior to the fair to attend a helpful workshop on job interviewing. Ages 16+.

434-973-7893, jmrl.org

Animanga Book Club

February 19, 4:30–5:30pm at Central Library Discuss and read manga, then watch the anime adaptation. Light snacks provided. Grades 7–12. Free copies of the book will be offered to the first 10 participants to sign up.

434-979-7151, jmrl.org

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“CHOOSE YOUR CHARITY” Preview Event!

Monday, March 11, 2019 • 10am-6pm • $5 Entry Fee SALE DATES: March 16-23 (Closed Sunday) (Restocking dates are March 12-14— sale closed.)

Heroes’ Pre-sale! March 15, 10am-6pm for active duty military, first responders, and nurses. ID and/or pass req’d. See website for info. “...an extremely well-organized sale...the best run sale I know of!!” ~Helen S.

PICTURES & PAGES: Feb. 6, Mar. 6 Story time with Children’s Librarian Glynis Welte.

BABIES IN ARTLAND: Mar. 12 Art conversation, with baby coos and cries encouraged.

TODDLERS IN ARTLAND: Feb. 26, Mar. 26 Introduction to development theory.

FUN FOR THE YOUNG: Feb. 20, Mar. 20 Explore artwork through observation, play and projects.

FAMILY ART JAMs: Feb. 16, Mar. 16 Age-appropriate tours with hands-on art activities.

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Now–February 16 at ReadyKids ReadyKids is inviting nominations for the John L. Snook Child Advocate Award, to be presented at the 23rd Annual ReadyKids Community Breakfast on April 16.

434-296-4118, readykidscville.org

Grandparents Class

February 2, 10am–12pm at UVA Hospital, Room 8614 A class for expectant grandparents and family members. Prepare for the addition to your family by learning what’s new in labor and delivery and baby care, and learn how to help the new family in the first year.

434-924-9920, uvahealth.com

Respectful Parent-Child Classes

February 17, 3:30–5pm at Our Neighborhood Child Development Center Children will be invited to play as parents observe and learn through the facilitation of the Our Neighborhood team. 434-202-8639, ourneighborhood.community

OPEN HOUSES Free Union Country School Admissions Open House February 4, 9–11am at Free Union Country School 434-978-1700, freeunioncountryschool.org

CATEC Open House

February 5, 5–7pm at Charlottesville Albemarle Technical Education Center 434-973-4461, www2.k12albemarle.org

Peabody School Open House

February 12, 9am–1pm at Peabody School 434-296-6901, peabodyschool.org

North Branch School Open House

February 12, 9:30–11:30am & 5:30–7:30pm at North Branch School, Afton Inclement weather day is February 15.

540-456-8450, north-branch-school.org

Admissions Info Sessions at Tandem

February 25, 9am at Tandem Friends School 434-951-9314, tandemfriends.org

DATE NIGHT 12th Annual Main Event Gala Benefit YOU CAN HELP!

February 2 at Common House, Downtown Charlottesville The event will offer a sophisticated evening of silent auction, food and drinks, and dancing. Main Event 2019 proceeds will go toward cancer programs and research at UVA Children’s Hospital.

434-924-8643, healthfoundation.virginia.edu

Wine & Chocolate Pairing

FIX A LEAK WEEK IS MARCH 18TH—24TH! This year we want Charlottesville to search your home for leaks and crack down on water waste! Many common household leaks are quick to find and easy to fix. Follow these easy steps to start saving water and money now!

1. Check Your Utility Bill: Look for spikes in your bill.

2. Read Your Water Meter: Find your water meter (usually outside in a lid marked “water”) and take readings during when no water is being used.

3. Take the Toilet Test: Put a leak detection dye tablet into the top tank of the toilet, sit for 10 minutes, and if you see color in the bowl, you have a leak.

FOR MORE INFORMATION ON HOW TO FIND & FIX LEAKS GO TO: WWW.CHARLOTTESVILLE.ORG/WATERCONSERVATION

February 9, 11:30am & 3:30pm at Horton Vineyards There will be two seatings. Tickets include 6 tastings paired with a uniquely hand-crafted chocolate made by Jennifer Mowad of Cocoa & Spice. 540-832-7440, facebook.com/events/261928954672578

San Valentine Salsa Night Party

February 9, 5–11pm at CrossKeys Vineyards, Mount Crawford An elegant night of social dancing.

Instructional classes will be taught by Edgar Ornelas. Advanced tickets required.

540-234-0505, facebook.com/events/534625383686705

Kathleen Madigan: LYAO Comedy Showcase

February 15, 8:30pm at the Jefferson Theater For 28 years, comedian Kathleen Madigan has been touring and squeezing in hour-long filmed specials and performances on every late night show. See her perform live.

800-594-8499, jeffersontheater.com

Open Mic Night – Andrew Neil

February 23, 8–10pm at The Front Porch Enjoy some of Central Virginia’s songwriters in an intimate setting. Wine and Champion Brewing beer will be available for purchase.

434-806-7062, frontporchcville.org

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Pregnancy Help The Differences Between Doctors, Doulas & Midwives

New Mom

When I was pregnant, a friend with grown children offered me some advice.

“Everyone’s an expert when it comes to pregnancy and parenting,” she said.

“Your job is to tune it out and decide who you are as a person and a mother.”

As it turns out, an expectant mom’s decisions start early—including choices for pre-natal care and childbirth. Having options allows us moms-to-be to seek healthcare partners and birthing experiences that align with our priorities and beliefs. Let’s break down the main categories of childbirth professionals who support mom during childbirth and beyond: doulas, midwives and doctors.

Mothers-to-be may choose one or more to assist them in the process.

Doctors. Trained doctors who have attended medical school/residencies, passed licensing exams and met certification requirements have expertise and

by Whitney Woollerton Morrill experience in all-around obstetrics and gynecology. Ob/gyns meet regularly with pregnant patients to monitor maternal and fetal health. They may conduct ultrasounds, order diagnostic/genetic testing, prescribe medications and deliver babies (typically in hospitals). Cesarean sections are also within their qualifications. Though individual doctors may vary, ob/gyns specialize in the progression of pregnancy, as well as labor and delivery. There are also doctors with even further specialized training for exceptional circumstances.

Doulas. A doula is a childbirth professional who stays alongside a momto-be throughout her labor and childbirth, and often for a short period after the baby is born. Doulas are trained and certified to provide comfort, support and information during the birthing process.

Serving as a birthing coach, a doula doesn’t deliver the baby, but rather focuses on mom-to-be’s birth experience and can assist with relaxation, breathing, massage, and other physical and emotional support modalities. In addition, there are For more doulas, midwives postpartum doulas who specialize in helping new moms and doctors in the area, adjust to motherhood in the days and weeks after delivery. check the “Shop” tab on A number of different organizations train and certify doulas.

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Midwives. A midwife’s relationship to her patient is medical in nature, emphasizes woman-to-woman care, and extends throughout pregnancy, childbirth and postpartum phases.

Practitioners may become Certified Professional Midwives (CPMs) through the North American Registry of Midwives (NARM) either through an apprenticeship process or by attending accredited programs and passing examinations. According to NARM’s website (narm.org), midwives seek to empower women to select the location of their labor and delivery, as well as those who attend. This means that midwives are qualified to deliver babies in their patients’ homes, in hospitals or at birthing centers. Midwives support a holistic, natural approach to childbirth, with limited technological interventions during delivery. They’re also trained to identify complications and to engage other medical professionals when needed.

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Body Image

Healthy Family

Teaching Your Child to Love Their Body According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, body image issues start early on. Three-year-olds want to be prettier, 9-year-olds go on diets and over 80 percent of 10-year-olds are worried about being fat. “I’ve seen kids as early as age 8 saying they’re worried about being overweight,” says Dr. Katherine Smyth, a pediatrician at Sentara Palmyra Medical Associates. “Parents should start being aware [of body image] from birth and promote that every body is normal.”

Focus on health. “Even if you think your kid is mildly overweight, never talk about their weight,” says Smyth. “Always talk about health and nutrition.”

Encourage kids to play outside or exercise because it’s fun and makes them strong. Offer healthy food and occasional treats, but don’t enforce “clean plate” rules or argue with children about food. This makes meals stressful and can lead to emotional eating. “With younger kids, don’t force them to eat,” Smyth says.

by Katharine Paljug “They’ll learn to eat when they’re hungry, then stop. Give them control and make healthy food available so they can keep making good choices.”

Watch your words. “Parents shouldn’t comment on people’s bodies except positively,” Smyth advises. “If you mention how [your kids] look, it should be positive. Reinforce the value of the body.” Use phrases like “you’re so strong,” or “you look nice in that outfit”—things kids can control and be proud of.

Smyth also recommends that parents should pay close attention to how they talk about themselves. “You should never talk about your own weight, or have conversations in the house about other people’s weight or body,” she says. And if you hear other people making comments about weight or appearance, use that as a teaching moment. “You can talk to them about what other people say with comments like, ‘That’s too bad someone would say something unkind about another person’s body.’”

Be aware of media. As children get older and consume more media, their perception about what is a normal, healthy body can be dangerously skewed. Parents should take an active role in helping kids think about what they see. “Kids who follow celebrities can see a lot of abnormal bodies,” says Smyth.

“Look at it with them. Have conversations with them, and do To learn more about body it without judgment. Listen to what they think about what image, visit The American they’re seeing, and share your own thoughts.”

Academy of Pediatrics at Know the warning signs. Severe body image issues can heathykids.org. cause stress, anxiety or even eating disorders. To keep your kids healthy and safe, watch for warning signs, such as unexplained weight loss; eating then spending a lot of time in the bathroom; excessive exercise; limiting what they eat; negative talk about their own body; and negative talk about others’ bodies. Your child may also express concern about their weight or appearance to you directly.

If that happens, listen and respond positively and compassionately. Tell them you find their body beautiful and healthy, and if needed, offer them a chance to talk to their doctor.

If you are worried about your child’s body image or are afraid they are developing an eating disorder, seek help from their pediatrician sooner rather than later. And remember, says Smyth, your child faces a lot of outside pressure you can’t control. “If you have a kid who unfortunately has body issues, don’t blame yourself.” Instead, focus on being a source of love, safety and encouragement while your child recovers.

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Katharine is a freelance writer, Bloom’s Family Health Editor and mother to one busy toddler. You can see more of her work at katharine-writes.com.

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{living well tips & trends} Love and Ruin

by Paula McLain

Paula McLain’s new book, which focuses on Ernest Hemingway’s intense marriage to Martha Gellhorn, explores the dynamics between a couple when one partner becomes wildly successful while the other continues to strive for her own career aspirations.

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Give Yourself Some Self-Love February (unsurprisingly) has us thinking about love. This month should remind us how important it is to focus on self-love and self-care.

1. Take Care of Your Body. A simple but effective addition to your exercise routine is foam rolling. Rolling out your legs and hips post-workout or before bed is said to improve flexibility, the appearance of cellulite and energy levels.

2. Speak Kindly to Yourself. It’s easy to get in the habit of critical self-talk. Try to reframe your thoughts and speak kindly to yourself instead. A good rule to live by is to speak

to yourself as you would a dear friend—be gentle.

3. Regularly Do Something You Love. We’re all always pressed for time, but squeeze in some time for yourself to do an activity you enjoy. Set aside a few minutes for a run, enjoy a wine tasting with friends, read a juicy novel or bake your favorite good. “You can’t pour from an empty cup.”

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“Create a spa-like experience at home,” says Nikki Fayolle, owner of Glo-Out Glamour Bar. “Whenever we need to decompress after a long day, we like to bring the spa right to our own home. Light some candles, turn off the lights and take a hot shower. Pour yourself a glass of wine or tea, play some relaxing music and take a long bubble bath. It’s the perfect way to spoil yourself with things you probably already have lying around your house.”

“Spread love wherever you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier.”

MODERN LOVE PODCAST Modern Love features essays from everyday people and their experiences surrounding love. They range from happy and sad to poignant and funny. You might recognize the voices of some of the readers— some are read by celebrities.

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The Guest Bedroom “Be faithful to your own taste, because nothing you really like is ever out of style.”

– Billy Baldwin

words by Olivia Jackson

Hosting guests doesn’t have to be stressful, especially when you have a beautiful guest room to make them feel welcome. The perfect guest room is clean, quiet and provides guests with a space to unwind. One of the first things your guest is bound to do after traveling is finding a place to set their luggage. Provide a bench or luggage rack to help them get settled in, and clear out the closet or dresser to allow room for their belongings.

The guest room should be more than a place to sleep.

Guests need to feel free to use the space however they want and whenever they choose. There should be some form of entertainment, whether a television (with a list of channels), a radio alarm clock or a pile of news and entertainment magazines for visitors to engage with. In addition to entertainment, every guest room requires a place to relax. If you have the space, include a comfy armchair draped with a blanket for a late afternoon nap or place a reading lamp beside it with a pile of books within reach. A space for sitting will also come in handy when putting on/taking off shoes.

The way you choose to decorate the guest room does not have to follow the same rules for the other bedrooms in your house. Have fun picking out bedding and use it to find the

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perfect bedroom color to pair with it. If you have trouble deciding what your guests might like, try thinking about what you would like if you were staying over at someone else’s house. Use color to make the room appear large and bright, such as by having an accent wall or using different shades of the same color to make the space feel open and cohesive. A throw rug or two will also help the space feel cozy and welcoming, and different options for lighting the space, such as a ceiling light as well as lamps, will allow for guests to safely move around the space in the darker hours.

When it comes to the decorations, take advantage of the opportunity to be fun and bold or simple and sleek.

Make sure to have extra pillows and blankets available in the room, so your guests don’t have to ask. To help your guests feel like they are staying at a four-star hotel, use high quality linens on the bed and even place a card with the Wi-Fi information in the room to prevent the inevitable inquiry about the password. Plush accent pillows and curtains will make it feel homey and warm. If you want to add a personal touch, find a picture of you and your guest to place on the dresser—it will certainly put a smile on their face.

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“If you don’t take care of your body, where are you going to live?”

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Rachel Pennington Rachel Pennington, Owner and Head Baker at The Pie Chest, opened her first shop on March 14, 2015 (Pi day) in downtown Charlottesville with the goal of making food that is fresh, seasonal and from scratch. Like so many of us, some of her first fond memories of food as a child began with her grandma. For Rachel, her MeeMaw’s strawberry patch and the simple and sweet taste of freshly cut berries dipped in sugar instilled in her just how powerful food at its root source can be.

What are your favorite recipes to make?

My favorite recipe to make is my Nanny’s Chicken & Dumplings.

I asked her to teach it to me when I was 23. So, I’ve now made it for almost 17 years. Somehow it gets better each and every time because I continue to mature as a cook, learning new techniques and methods but not changing her tradition.

Where do you love to eat out locally?

Locally, my partner Tina and I love Tilman’s (the pickle plate, pimento cheese and bruschetta burrata are amazing). Also at Citizen Burger, it’s Mini Citizen with fries; at Rooftop in Crozet, goat cheese bucatini; at Monsoon Siam, vegetable fried rice and spring rolls; at MarieBette, the everything prezzant, croissant and baguettes; at Albemarle Baking Company, chocolate escargot, pain de campagne and chocolate praline dome cake; and, of course, Bodo’s.

Why is it important to teach children about healthy eating?

More than anything, my hope for young palates is to experience different kinds/sorts of food, as early as possible. It breaks my

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Baker & Co-Owner of The Pie Chest heart when I meet older children or adolescents who eat only a handful of things and have negative perspectives about certain types of food. We are all born with preferences, but I believe that many of our tastes are learned by exposure and access.

Do you have any current projects?

To continue to tighten and solidify The Pie Chest’s place within the food community and the city as a whole. On a macro level, what are the ways in which we can be a force of goodness in Charlottesville? I’m very proud of the charities, non-profits and individuals we have assisted, and am currently pondering even deeper avenues for the future.

What is the best advice your parents have ever given you?

The best advice my parents shared with me is not anything expressed verbally but the examples they set over the course of their lives. My mom modeled a studious nature and work ethic. My dad modeled a generous and kind way of thinking and being in his community. Taken together, they make up the essence of who I am and who I strive to be.

Why is it important to give back to the community?

Community investment is a no-brainer to me as a business owner. It’s never just about the pie, but pie as a means to more, whether it is donating goods to Charlottesville High School’s snack pantry for students to take home for holiday break, inviting Cville Pride and Building Experiences to host meetings and events in our space, or participating in CAYIP by allowing young people to come and serve as interns in our kitchen.

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I have always loved the iconic symbol of Bumble Bees. I remember a quote by Mary Kay Ash that said, “Aerodynamically, the bumblebee shouldn’t be able to fly, but the bumblebee doesn’t know it so it goes on flying anyway.” This really resonates with me. There is so much we can achieve if we believe and don’t give up.

This year, while my daughter and I were brainstorming Valentine card ideas for her to share with her fellow secondgraders, one idea we felt strongly about was a bee craft. Bees are the mascot for her school, so we knew this would be a popular idea.

My preferred way to make these cards is by using my Cricut papercutting machine, however, the PDF I have created will allow for the kids to help. For the PDF, as well as for a video tutorial with step-by-step instructions, visit celebratingeverydaylife.com, so you can download, print and then cut out by hand.

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Materials Needed: • BumbleBee Valentines PDF available in my Free Resource Library (more about that below) • Adobe Acrobat Reader • Cardstock • Scissors • X-Acto Knife • Tootsie Roll Pops Directions: 1. Get the card file from my blog’s Free Resource Library. When you sign up to receive my email newsletter, you are automatically sent a password to access the library.

2. Once you’ve logged in, the file you need is called “BumbleBee Valentine PDF.” Click to download the PDF file. Make sure you don’t accidentally download the Print then Cut version for a Cricut

paper-cutting machine.

3. Open your downloaded file in Adobe Acrobat Reader, and press the print icon to print as many copies as you need.

4. Once printed, use scissors to cut out the bees.

5. You will also need to make 2 slits on the bee for the stick of the lollipop. Use an X-Acto knife for this step.

6. Once your bee is cut, along with your two slits in the body, slide the stick of the lollipop through these slits so that the pop is behind the bee’s head.

Ta-da! You have a charming Bumblebee Valentine card that is affordable and easy to pull together, even if it’s last minute, and a card that will stand out for friends and teachers to love.

Jennifer, a Southern gal with an unquenchable thirst for all things creative, wears many hats—a photographer, blogger, designer and home entertainer. From cooking to decorating, no matter what she is doing, she is committed to celebrating everyday life. Visit celebratingeverydaylife.com.

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Nurturing Your Marriage I’ll never forget the day I called my mother to share the weekend plans I’d made with my 5-year-old son, Aidan. “It’s going to be great!” I chirped. “The two of us are taking a hike, and then we’ll hit the science museum. There’s also a new restaurant we want to try.”

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“What?” I prodded.

“I was just wondering what your poor husband’s going to do while you’re off having fun,” Mom said.

“How should I know?” I asked, irritated that she’d question my special plans with my son. She clearly didn’t realize how much times had changed. After all, when I was Aidan’s age, family life wasn’t focused on the kids. We used to play outside by ourselves all day and go to bed early. My parents would routinely trot off to cocktail parties, and my husband’s parents took weeklong, childfree golf vacations.

The more I thought about it, though, I realized I couldn’t remember the last time Dan and I had gone out alone on a Saturday night (never mind escaping the domestic doldrums for a whole week), because Aidan would scream every time a babysitter arrived. Dan and I weren’t unhappy, but parenthood had more or less reduced us to a business partnership, complete with tax forms. We both worked, and we were like runners in a relay race, passing Aidan between us like a baton.

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In these days of tag-team parenting, those lazy hours spent talking about everything can feel like a distant memory. To stay close, Code suggests that you each share a highlight of your day (like when your son winked at you across the room) and a low point (that parking ticket). Discussing your worst moments may seem like a downer when you have limited time together, but when you understand what the other person is going through, you’ll be more of a team.

Don’t Coast No matter how great your marriage was before you had kids, you can’t just leave it on autopilot now. “A lot of family life is about putting out fires,” says Linda

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“Kids whose parents’ relationship has cooled are more likely to have behavioral or academic problems than kids of happy couples,” says Philip Cowan, PhD.

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look at him. But, I didn’t want us to fight,

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own relationship.” However, you have to

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Go Out on a Limb Routines are great for little kids, but they can make a marriage stale. “It’s important to find new ways to connect and keep your relationship fresh,” says Dr. Waite. In my own zeal to reconnect with Dan, I signed us up for a weeknight pottery class. I figured, how hard could it be to make a pot? Very hard, as it turned out. In our second class, I accidentally ran my potter’s wheel backward, flinging clay at the walls.

Dan emerged looking as if he’d been swimming in a mud hole. But, a funny thing happened afterward. We went to a restaurant, and there was a pitcher on the table. The two of us began discussing its construction: Had the potter thrown it in two pieces or one?

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CAMPING BUDDIES Camp Friends are Friends for Life

There’s something very special about the friendships formed at summer camp. Maybe it’s the compressed timeframe or the shared bathrooms, the late-night talks or the collective pangs of homesickness. Whatever the reason, there are few other environments in which such strong bonds are formed in so short a time frame. Nicole Carosella, a former camper services director, sums it up simply: “Camp friendships are for a lifetime,” she says.

But what makes camper relationships so special?

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friends quickly. Camp staff members

kids enjoy the same things they do. An

Association (ACA), making friends at

know that the kids need to work and play

aspiring young poet may have one friend

camp is easier than at other places

together, contribute and cooperate with

at home who shares his passion, but at

because camp provides an environment

each other. They also know that making

a writing program, he’ll find dozens of

in which children can learn how to make

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have a trained facilitator looking out for

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thousands of friendships develop and

to make sure that campers start making

experiences also play key roles in camper

thrive at camp, and she knows how

friends as soon as they arrive. They

friendships,

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quickly common interests can bond a

introduce campers to one another. They

programs like sports camps or academic

group of children. “New campers rapidly

plan get-to-know-you games. And, they

camps, where even shy kids find comfort

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and confidence in knowing that the other

about their favorite things. And, believe

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Bunny Brown, co-owner and director of Skyland Camp for Girls has seen

interests especially

and at

“There is something exciting about making friends from other parts of the country and/or the world.”

me—a 60-year-old who met friends at

Camp Handbook, explain the deep bonds

director. “Camp tends to expose us as

camp at age 8!—those friends are friends

of camper friendship in this way: “When

we really are—warts and all—and when

for life.”

kids live with a group of their peers under

we come across a person who can say, ‘I

On the other hand, argues R. David

the supervision of positive adult role

know the good and the bad about you,

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models, their care and concern for others

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camper

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increases. This sense of kinship solidifies

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appeal. “There is something exciting

lessons about sportsmanship, sharing

Even if you’re a shy camper, there’s

about making friends from other parts of

and responsibility. Most importantly, the

ways to make friends. The first day

the country and/or the world.”

experience forges bonds of friendship

of

that last a lifetime.”

experience. The combination of new

differences

also

hold

Regardless of their similarities or differences,

camper

friendships

summer

camp

can

be

a

scary

run

“Many adults will tell you that the

faces, different scenery and unfamiliar

deep. Christopher Thurber, PhD and Jon

best friends they have were met at camp,”

food is intimidating; especially to young

Malinowski, PhD, authors of The Summer

says Dean Barley, a founder and camp

campers who know they’ll be sleeping in CharlottesvilleFamily.com

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{resources camp guide} 2019 Guide to Residential Camps See what the area’s residential camps have to say about themselves.

Camp Alleghany for Girls Lewisburg, WV “Steeped in tradition, girls ages 7–16 enjoy the same customs established 98 summers ago. Archery, arts and crafts, canoeing, dance, drama, rifle, ropes, singing, sports and more with emphasis on sportsmanship, citizenship, cooperation, consideration for others and the Honor System. ACA accredited.”

304-645-1316, campalleghanyforgirls.com See ad page 46

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Camp Friendship Palmyra, VA “Camp Friendship sets the benchmark for an exceptional summer experience. Founded in 1966, we are a family-owned, ACA-accredited camp for ages 7–16. Campers are empowered to choose their own adventures from 35+ activities, including archery, horseback riding, kayaking, wilderness survival, high ropes and more.”

434-589-8950, campfriendship.com See ad page 49 Camp Hidden Meadows Bartow, WV “Camp Hidden Meadows offers one-, two-, three- and four-week sessions for boys and girls ages 6–16. Activities include horseback riding, dance, woodworking, painting, white-water rafting, organic farming, mountain boarding, canoeing, mountain biking, fishing, swimming, a 1,000-foot zip line and more. ACA accredited.”

800-600-4752, camphiddenmeadows.com See ad page 48 Camp Holiday Trails Charlottesville, VA “Camp Holiday Trails is a year-round nonprofit committed to empowering, encouraging and educating campers with chronic illnesses and autism, ages 7–17. Children with special medical needs and chronic illnesses and their families can enjoy 1- and 2-week residential summer camp sessions and family weekends. ACA accredited.”

434-977-3781, campholidaytrails.org See ad page 63

a strange bed at the end of the day. The best defense against first-day jitters for kids of all ages is a pal, a buddy, a comrade or, at the very least, someone to sit with at dinnertime.

Some kids don’t have any trouble making friends. With enviable confidence, they attract crowds and entertain them with ease. But the majority of youngsters worry that they won’t fit in, that the other kids won’t like them and that they’ll be lonely at camp.

The good news is that there’s plenty you can do to help boost your child’s friend-making powers before he packs for summer camp.

“Parents

should

encourage

their

children to sleep over at a relative’s or friend’s house for the weekend,” recommends

Aimee

Jones,

a

former

assistant director. “Campers who have experience being away from home tend to have an easier time adjusting to camp.”

Parents can also prepare children by telling them what to expect. “Campers tend to be less anxious if they are familiar with the situation,” says Jones.

“Set up expectations before arriving at camp by explaining what will happen when

the

camper

is

dropped

off,”

suggests Riggins. “Introduce the camper to responsible staff and let the staff person take over. Tell the camper that you will write. And follow through with encouraging notes.”

Adam Boyd, a camp director, urges parents to “let their campers know that they will not be pressured to act like someone they are not. It is when campers feel safe that they are comfortable speaking up,” he says.

Staff members at most camps are trained to spot shy campers and draw them out of their shells. cont’d pg 49

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{resources camp guide} Camp Horizons Harrisonburg, VA “Camp Horizons is a premier co-ed, sleep-away camp for ages 6–16 in the Shenandoah Valley. We provide a safe, supportive community where campers feel comfortable embarking on new adventures and developing friendships that will last a lifetime. ACA accredited since our founding in 1983.”

540-896-7600, camphorizonsva.com See ad page 44 Camp Strawderman Edinburg, VA “Camp Strawderman has been offering summer camp experiences since 1929.

Activities include tennis, horseback riding, swimming, archery, hiking, crafts, dance, nature study, drama, yoga, choir, role playing games starting at the times of Indians in the 1950s and more for girls in the Alleghany foothills. Ages 6–17.”

301-868-1905, campstrawderman.com See ad page 40 Camp Yogaville Buckingham, VA “Camp Yogaville is a two-week long yoga summer camp for kids ages 7–14.

Kids will enjoy 700+ acres for activities like swimming, hiking and crafting, learning yogic ideals, practice Hatha

Yoga every morning, learn Sanskrit and more.”

800-858-9642, yogaville.org/camp See ad page 38 Fork Union Military Academy Fork Union, VA “Fork Union offers an all sports camp, football and basketball camps for ages 7–17, with both day and overnight options and a summer school, which includes a non-military program combining academics, leadership development, athletics and fun.”

434-842-4281, forkunion.com See ad back cover iD Tech Camps Multiple Locations “Our flagship program blends worldclass instruction with fun camp activities. In each weeklong session, you’ll explore a top campus, create an impressive project and build lifelong skills. iD Tech Camp courses are segmented by age for campers ages 7–19 and for all skill levels.”

1-888-709-8324, idtechcamps.com See ad page 39 Nike Sports Camps at UVA Charlottesville, VA “Summer camps provide young players with the opportunity to improve their

STEAM

skills and have tons of fun. Camps offer both overnight and day camp options geared towards kids ages 9–18 of all ability levels.”

800-645-3226, ussportscamps.com See ad page 38 Oakland School Summer Program Troy, VA “With both day and boarding options, Oakland’s five-week summer program offers a healthy mix of academic support and traditional camp fun on a 450-acre property. Campers ages 6–13 enjoy small class sizes and 1:1 instruction along with activities like horseback riding, swimming, archery, arts, nature study and more.”

434-293-9059, oaklandschool.net See ad page 54 Science Camp Watonka Hawley, PA “A small, privately owned boys’ sleepaway camp in the Poconos with 130 campers (ages 8–16) and approx. 50 staff, offering a hands-on program with physics, chemistry, biology, electronics, robotics, earth science, video, photography and more. An elective program includes crafts, waterfront and sports, dirt bikes, trips and a ropes course. ACA accredited.”

570-226-4779, watonka.com See ad page 38

The Oldest Girls’ Camp in the Virginias since 1922

Discovery Academy

Join us this summer at STEAM Discovery Academy and let us cultivate your student’s passion for all aspects of STEAM: Science, Technology, Engineering, Art, and Math.

Students learn to think on their feet, evaluate challenges, and experiment their way to solutions.

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SOCA Charlottesville, VA “For over 30 years, SOCA has been coaching players in soccer. The Blue Ridge Residential Soccer Academy provides U9–U16 boys and girls an allinclusive, weeklong soccer experience, with multiple daily training sessions.

The camp has access to dormitories, a food service, over six acres of fields, a pool, classrooms and more. Team registration also available.”

434-975-5025, socaspot.org See ad page 48

Triple C Camp Charlottesville, VA “Triple C Camp serves rising K–11 graders with horseback riding, ropes course, daily swimming (daily lessons for K–3), nature, sports, hiking, canoeing and more. Bus transportation available, lunch and snacks included. Licensed VA childcare. Members of the ACA.” 434-293-2529, tripleccamp.com See ad page 45

Woodberry Forest Summer Camps Woodberry Forest, VA “For more than 50 years, our sports STEAM Discovery Academy camps have been getting boys ages 9–16 Charlottesville, VA outside to develop their athletic skills.

“STEAM Discovery Academy is offering Also offered this year is Woodberry new STEAM and sports camps for Compass, a program that helps middle students in grades K–12. There is the school boys get out of their comfort opportunity to explore all aspects zone in two areas of their choosing. All of STEAM: Science, Technology, camps are located on 1,200 acres.”

Engineering, Art and Math, challenging 540-672-6044, woodberry.org/camps them to think on their feet, evaluate See ad page 4 challenges and experiment their way to solutions.”

434-987-3918, steamdiscoveryacademy.com See ad page 46

Day Camp Options ACAC See ad page 11 Alter, Lee Watercolor Painting See ad page 40 Blue Ridge School See ad page 55 Boar’s Head Inn See ad page 41 Charlottesville Waldorf School See ad page 59 The Covenant School See ad page 53 First Presbyterian Church Preschool See ad page 52 Free Union Country School See ad page 27 Frost Montessori School See ad page 56

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“Great camps have a place for all types of personalities,” says Boyd. “Very shy children, very outgoing children, very athletic, very loud—they’re all looking for where they fit in the group. A great

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counselor will help a camper find that place without trying to make them like every other camper.”

“Our counselors are trained to engage all campers in games and activities that will break the ice and involve all campers,” says Jones. “Especially shy campers who do not want to participate will spend some time talking with their counselor and figuring out games or situations that will help them become more comfortable.”

Often, says Jo Anna Riggins, a former program director, camp staff members recruit help from experienced campers.

The peer interaction helps the shy camper feel included and the returning camper feel helpful. It’s a win-win situation.

Brown encourages campers to offer friendship in order to receive friendship.

“To have a friend, you must first be a friend,” she says. She offers examples of friendly overtures: “You can ask a camper

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techniques at camp gives you habits for a good lifetime.”

Brown expects her staff to master these techniques, so they can attend to shy campers, to campers who aren’t getting along and to those who aren’t fitting in well.

It’s not easy for children to leave the comfort and security of home, friends and family behind when they go to camp.

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THE SCIENCE BEHIND THE

CURRICULUM UVA Professor Angeline Lillard, PhD, Shares Her Expertise on Montessori

Most locals are familiar with the idea of Montessori since we are fortunate enough to have six local schools embracing the philosophy—Albemarle Montessori Children’s Community, Frost Montessori School, Generations Montessori School, Montessori School of Charlottesville, Mountaintop Montessori School and University Montessori School. Some of us may even be familiar with Maria Montessori, one of the first women physicians in Italy best known for her work with young children 100 years ago. What we may not know is that one of the preeminent Montessori scholars of our time Dr. Angeline Lillard is a UVA professor and her work does more than scientifically validate Montessori’s methods. She presents studies in best practices, demonstrating how children learn best in any setting. Lillard has graciously written a story based on her bestselling book, “Montessori: The Science Behind the Genius” (Oxford University Press, totally revised 3rd edition 2017) specifically for our CharlottesvilleFamily readers.

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by Angeline Lillard

As a practicing physician, Montessori

school in Rome, Montessori developed a

took a special interest in neurological

different method of schooling that is

problems.

method

actually much more in line with how

of working with children with mental

modern research shows all children

disabilities

learn and develop than the traditional

She

developed

that

successful, so

a

was

much

these

method. She observed children in an

children were able to pass Italy’s early

environment where they were free to

1900s version of State Exams for school

work with a complex and interwoven set

children

without

so

extremely that

While

of self-teaching materials that she and

people marveled that this genius had

disabilities.

her collaborators designed and improved

such good results with neurologically

over a period of 45 years, with children

impaired children, Montessori wondered

from birth to 12 years of age from all

what was happening in Italy’s schools

social classes and on three continents to

such that typically developing children

captivate children’s interest and convey

were not performing better than children

increasingly

with neurological disabilities.

observations led to many insights about

She went back to school to study

complex

concepts.

Her

how children learn and develop.

education and anthropology, and she

First, let me briefly describe a typical

began with an experimental class of over

traditional Montessori classroom. Do

50 2- to 7-year-olds in a housing project

note that Montessori schools may vary:

in a very poor area of Rome. Some think

Montessori is not a trademarked term,

Montessori schools are only for children

and sometimes schools can vary a good

from wealthier homes, but they were

deal from the practices Dr. Montessori

actually first developed with children

described using in her classrooms. What

from

I illustrate is a program that adheres

low-income

households. Today,

most of our 500+ public Montessori schools serve children in low-income

closely to her descriptions.

Montessori

classrooms

combine

school districts. In addition, over half the

children from 3–6, 6–9 or 9–12 years

children in public Montessori schools in

old. There is one trained Montessori

the United States are children of color.

teacher, and sometimes an assistant, in

Based on her observations in that first

the classroom. The classrooms are very

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{resources education} neat and organized, and are aesthetically

Children work their way, over the three

in myriad areas of development from

pleasing. Most of the materials are of wood

years they are in a classroom, through

social to spatial understandings, and

or other natural materials, and the walls

the sequences of materials in that room

even adults learn better when moving in

are uncluttered, having a few museum

before they graduate to the next level.

ways that simulate what we are learning.

reproduction posters or other art. The

Great videos of Montessori classrooms

For example, we memorize faces better

room contains sets of low shelves, and on

can be found at Montessori-guide.org.

to the extent that we mimic their

those shelves, arranged by topic area, are

By

observing

children

in

these

facial expressions while we memorize.

specially designed Montessori materials

environments, Montessori came up with

Montessori education is imbued with

that were developed over many years to

many interesting observations that have

movement that is aligned with cognition.

work together in particular sequences,

gradually been rediscovered by scientific

Letters are learned by tracing sandpaper

with repeated use of children learning

research. For example:

letters while uttering the sounds, rather

particular concepts from the materials.

than

merely

by

visual

recognition;

I. Movement & Cognition are Closely Aligned

mathematical

impossible to grasp at first glance; many

Montessori wrote at length about

show how the mathematical operations

Montessori teachers spent a full school

the close connection between hand and

work; geography is learned by making

year learning to use them all and to

mind, action and thought. “One of the

maps oneself. There is good research

appreciate their depth and complexity.

greatest mistakes of our day is to think

support for all these techniques.

The depth of thought and time that went into developing these materials is

concepts

are

always

introduced with materials that clearly

A Montessori classroom tends to be

of movement by itself, as something

a hub of quiet activity, as children go

apart from the higher functions… Mental

about working in either small groups

development must be connected with

or on their own with materials the

movement and be dependent on it. It is

teacher has shown them how to use. The

vital that educational theory and practice

among

classroom belongs to the children, and

should become informed by this idea.” A

the degrees of choice and control it

they are responsible for caring for the

wealth of research in psychology today

gives children. Children are not free

environment. The teacher oversees all,

supports this idea. For example, the onset

to misbehave or avoid parts of the

and checks nonconstructive behaviors.

of crawling is associated with advances

curriculum, but each day, they arrive in

II. Choice & Control Assist Learning & Well-Being Montessori

education

educational

is

unique

programs

in

First Presbyterian Church Preschool

GENERATIONS Montessori School Ages 2 months–6 years old

Based on the teachings of Maria Montessori, GMS is a small, family-run school aiming to provide a quality education for children from infancy through kindergarten to help them grow into confident, curious, motivated, and creative lifelong learners.

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Area Private School GUIDE Albemarle Montessori Children’s Community

540-671-9894, albemarlemcc.com Ages 2–12 Offers a Montessori Method education at pre-primary, primary and elementary levels that strives to develop students’ critical-thinking skills, self-confidence, selfinitiative and emotional strength.

See ad page 52

Charlottesville Waldorf School

434-973-4946, cwaldorf.org Parent-child and Pre-K–Grade 8 Bringing age-appropriate curriculum for children 18 months–8th grade through academic, artistic and physical education based on the ideals of imagination, intellectual curiosity, social responsibility and diversity in a safe and nurturing environment since 1982.

See ad page 25, 59

First Presbyterian Church Preschool 434-296-1447, firstprescharlottesville.org/preschool Ages 20 months–5 At First Presbyterian Church Preschool, their program is designed to help children learn and develop independence and confidence through imaginative play and exploration. See ad page 52

Fork Union Military Academy

Blue Ridge School

434-985-2811, blueridgeschool.com Grades 9–12 This all-boys boarding school is committed to helping boys reach their potential through a character-based culture and personalized, structured, innovative learning practices in a college-preparatory, all-boarding community. See ad page 55

The Covenant School

434-220-7309 (Birdwood Campus) 434-220-7329 (Hickory Campus) covenantschool.org Pre-K–Grade 12 A PK–12 non-denominational, coeducational day school, providing a Christian Liberal Arts and Sciences education within a vibrant school community. Students develop morally, intellectually and physically in a nurturing environment. See ad page 53

434-842-3212, forkunion.com Grades 7–12 Founded in 1898, this college-preparatory military school for boys is structured around discipline, leadership development and Christian values with a goal of building “solid citizens” who embody values of integrity, honor, duty, selfdiscipline and service to others.

See ad back cover

NOW ENROLLING Check out our distinct Middle School program, now Grades 6-8!

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{resources education} the morning and choose what to work on, with whom to work on it and how long to work on it. Montessori is the only major school system with this degree of individual choice; others are primarily teacher-led

and

employ

whole-class

learning. Psychology research strongly confirms Montessori’s insight that a sense of choice is beneficial to people.

Among other benefits, choice enhances creativity,

well-being,

and

problem

solving speed and ability.

III. Interest Improves Learning Research has shown that learner interest significantly impacts the quality of one’s learning. In one study, children were given a list of topics and asked to indicate which were of most and least interest to them (Estes & Vaughan, 1973).

Each child was then given two difficult passages to read, one on the topic the

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child had ranked of most interest, and the other on the topic the child had ranked of least interest. These were followed by a comprehension test. Scores on the comprehension tests for passages of high interest were significantly higher than those for passages of low interest, showing children learned best about what they were most interested in.

Other studies have shown the effects of learner interest extending over a range of school subjects, from math to history to biology to vocabulary and to outcomes ranging from learning, to grades, to self esteem, to perception of one’s own skill, to intrinsic motivation. Furthermore, the effects of interest extend over at least several years. Rathunde and Csikszentmihalyi

(1993)

examined

particularly talented students’ degree of engagement in their talent areas, such as math and music. Three years later, progress in one’s talent area was predicted by the degree to which one had

• • • •

previously reported feeling interested and excited when engaged in the activity.

Although interest researchers lament that their findings could never impact education, Montessori education begins with learner interest and is structured to allow individuals to pursue their personal interests. Montessori designed specific materials and scripted lessons

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Free Union Country School

434-978-1700, freeunioncountryschool.org Preschool–Grade 5 An inspiring environment with small classes, where teachers who know each child, encourage critical thinking, nurture social skills and awareness, and provide a strong foundation in math, science, reading, writing and outdoor exploration.

Parent involvement welcome.

See ad page 27

Frost Montessori School

434-979-5223, frostmontessori.com Ages 24 months–6 years An enriching child-centered Montessori curriculum that promotes development of the whole child (academic, social, emotional and physical components of each child are emphasized regularly).

Excited learners emerge.

See ad page 56

Generations Montessori School

434-422-8161, generationsmontessoricville.org Ages 2 months–6 years old Based on the teachings of Maria Montessori, Generations Montessori is a small, family-run school aiming to provide a quality education for children from infancy through kindergarten to help them grow into confident, curious, motivated and creative lifelong learners.

See ad page 52

Grymes Memorial School

540-672-1010, grymesschool.org Pre-K–Grade 8 A private, co-educational school on 42 acres in Orange with a curriculum emphasizing joyful learning. Class plays, public speaking, STEM, hands-on activities, small classes, sports, art, music, Spanish and computers. Developing wellrounded, confident students. Bus service provided. See ad page 61

Montessori School of Charlottesville

434-295-9055 (Cutler Lane) 434-295-0029 (Gordon Avenue) montessoriofcville.org Ages 21 months–K A Montessori preschool established in 1976 with the mission to support independence and social responsibility in children. The mixed-age classrooms are places of peace where children from all backgrounds learn new skills while developing social graces necessary to be a part of an inclusive, diverse world.

See ad page 58

Mountaintop Montessori

434-979-8886, mountaintopmontessori. org Toddler–Grade 8 Accredited and progressive programs grounded in the Montessori philosophy serving developmental needs. A curriculum and outdoor experiences on the 9-acre campus foster both a zest for learning and skills like concentration, planning and collaboration.

See ad page 54

WHERE BOYS LEARN BEST At Blue Ridge School, we are the experts in how boys learn best. The result is a college prep program that guides boys to reach their full potential. Individual success is achieved through a tailored learning environment and an accepting culture that fosters the best in each of our students.

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540-456-8450, north-branch-school.org Preschool–Grade 8 Committed to fostering respect, environmental responsibility and community involvement with an emphasis on hands-on learning and cooperation through a challenging foundation in academics, the arts and life skills. Small class sizes and outdoors time daily.

See ad page 58

Oakland School

434-293-9059, oaklandschool.net Ages 6–13 at admission A small co-educational day and boarding school that enables children with learning or attention differences to reach their academic and personal potential through small class sizes, a multi-sensory learning approach and individualized student programs. See ad page 54

Olivet Preschool

434-295-1367 (church office), olivetpreschool.org Ages 2.5–5 year Provides a Christian preschool opportunity to ready children for Kindergarten, academically, socially and spiritually.

Olivet Preschool also offers full-day childcare during the week as well.

See ad page 58

Peabody School

434-296-6901, peabodyschool.org Pre-K–Grade 8 Offers in-depth programs to serve gifted and academically advanced students.

Learn alongside highly skilled faculty. A rich curriculum offers weekly experiences in world language, visual and performing arts, technology, athletics and service learning.

See ad page 60

Regents School of Charlottesville

434-293-0633, regents-school.org K–Grade 12 Independent, private school based on the classical Christian model. Challenging academics, small class sizes, fine arts and a thriving athletic program. Raising up leaders who can discern truth, think logically and speak winsomely for the benefit of man and the glory of God. See ad page 56

Renaissance School

434-984-1952, renaissanceschool.org Grades 9–12 Renaissance School is a college preparatory high school for high ability students in the arts, sciences and/or humanities that embraces the whole student through differentiated and experiential learning and emphasizes creativity, critical thinking and collaboration. See ad page 60

University Montessori School is a diverse family-centered school community committed to Montessori education, allowing for our student’s academic, emotional, physical and social development.

A Classical Christian School Grades K-12 • Team Sports

Tours every Wednesday (434) 293-0633

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SCHOOL

Call Heather Heisig, Director, at 434.977.0583 to learn more about UMS. universitymontessori.org

to provoke interest, and teachers learn

order to get a reward

and practice these during their training.

used

the

markers

half as much as did

IV. Intrinsic Rewards Inspire Sustained Interest & Learning Montessori said, “The prize and the punishment

are

incentives

towards

the other children.

People also choose easier

tasks

they

expect

when to

evaluated

or

unnatural or forced effort… The system

be

of prizes may turn an individual aside

rewarded.

from [their true] vocation.” This has

sixth graders were

clear support in the literature: when one

told

expects to be rewarded for something

receive a grade for performance on a

science in high school (Dohrnmann

one already likes to do, after getting the

set of jumble-word puzzles (anagrams),

et al., 2007), and another showed they

reward one subsequently loses interest in

and others were told it was just a game

had better grades and mental health in

the activity. In one early study, researchers

(Harter, 1978). Children in the group

college (Shankland et al., 2010).

offered some preschool children a reward

receiving a grade chose less challenging

for drawing with markers; others were

anagrams, solved anagrams less well,

not given a reward, or were rewarded by

and also showed more anxiety and

surprise after drawing (Lepper, Greene,

less pleasure while solving anagrams.

well

& Nisbett, 1973). Children who expected

Montessori

social

and received a reward drew pictures that

intrinsic, and

judges rated as less creative than those

with

of the other children. Second, when the

correction

Some

they

would

education

they outperformed peers in math and

keeps

monitors

self-correcting

rewards

performance

Montessori aligned

education with

arrangements.

is

research

also in

its

Developmental

psychologists know that children are

peer

not particularly social with their peers

observation.

before elementary school. They engage

researchers went back to the classroom

There are no grades or tests. However,

in parallel play and are often quite

and observed the markers used several

Montessori children appear to adapt fine

interested in watching each other, but

weeks later, they found that children

to grades and tests when they transfer

they don’t engage all that intensively

who had been told they could draw in

to traditional schools; one study showed

or often with each other. By elementary

and

materials,

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hands-on

materials

show children quite clearly what their learning applies to and why different procedures like mathematical formulae work.

The

Pythagorean

theorem

material, for example, is a right-angled isosceles triangle with multiple small squares emerging from the legs (32 and 42) and hypotenuse (52), which clearly shows how the formula actually works.

well-implemented

and

and rich stories of

intellectual,

ancient

Egyptians

development. The fact that the founders

and

need

of Google and Amazon all credited their

the

to

education

profoundly

to

positively

impact

children’s

social

education

and

is

personal

measure

property

Montessori

precisely,

and

to

(Barbara Walter’s 10 Most Fascinating

remeasure

suggestive

it

after

People of 2004 NBC, December, 2004;

the Nile flooded and

Business Week, 20 December 2004, p.

changed

18; wikipedia.com). Bezos recently backed

property the

this up with his pledge of $2 billion to

could levy property

support Montessori-inspired preschools

taxes

precisely.

for low-income children. More telling, a

Montessori children

recent study showed former Montessori

become

those

students performed better in science and

“rope stretchers,” measuring areas of

math than their tenth- to twelfth-grade

their classroom or the land outside by

classmates who matched them in gender,

forming triangles with knotted ropes.

ethnicity and income (most of them in

Children are told that “geometry” means

high schools for gifted students), even

measuring the earth: it had practical

when the control group was matched

origins. Montessori education is situated

at test rather than at Montessori school

in real contexts.

entry (Dohrmann, 2003). Another showed

A great deal of research suggests

that

children

in

Montessori

middle

Montessori education is well aligned

schools felt more motivated, energetic,

with how humans naturally learn and

interested and happier than children in

develop. Because of this alignment,

traditional middle schools while working

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lines, so

how much there is to do.” And, so on.).

this

material is presented

on school tasks but not on nonschool tasks (Rathunde & Csikszentmihalyi, 2005). I have shown in two studies that children in low-income city Montessori schools outperform controlled groups of children who had lost a random lottery for admission to those schools on both social and academic measures (Lillard & Else-Quest, 2006; Lillard et al., 2017).

In the more recent study, we found that after three years in Montessori public preschool,

low-income

children

had

statistically caught up to their higherincome

peers

in

conventional

and

Montessori schools. Public Montessori thus offers promise for reducing the achievement gap. Similarly, a former UVA student who is now a professor at Furman University has found higher test scores among over 7,000 children in South Carolina’s public Montessori schools, and their teachers also reported higher job satisfaction than among teachers in the state at large.

Different Montessori schools, and even teachers, might implement the method to different degrees. Parents should always visit classrooms, meet teachers and ask about what their child will be doing. In addition, some parents are only comfortable with more traditional settings that feel like those they had as children. Although authentic Montessori can cost less than conventional school to operate, some schools choose instead to

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A Dad’s Humorous Tales

by Rick Epstein

Offices used to be noisy with the ringing of telephones, the bellowing of insensitive bosses and the clattering of typewriters. But on a recent afternoon, you could hear only the white noise of computers, the subdued warbling of desk phones, and the grim mumbling of workers whose computers had just betrayed them.

Suddenly the brooding quiet is cut by loud rap music:

I like big butts and I can not lie.

You other brothers can deny...

It’s my phone! I fumble it out of my pocket as Sir Mixa-lot elaborates and a dozen co-workers stare. “Hello?”

It’s my wife.

It doesn’t take me long to figure out that our 15-year-old daughter Wendy had borrowed my phone, downloaded “Baby Got Back” as a ring tone and set it up to play whenever my wife calls. (For the record: My wife’s butt is only medium sized, and I’m not ...our 15-year-old just saying that because she might read this. Ask daughter Wendy had anyone.) borrowed my phone, Because Wendy downloaded “Baby Got generally doesn’t give us the time of day, I was Back” as a ring tone and touched that she went set it up to play whenever out of her way to play her my wife calls. e-prank on me. So I kept that ring tone in place (as if I knew how to undo it), and it makes me laugh every time. Even when my wife calls with grave news, the incongruous theme song has a cheering effect. But when I go into my boss’ office or meet with serious people, I try to remember to switch the phone to airplane mode.

Among the serious people I deal with is Roger, our Director of Artificial Intelligence. I’m the liaison between him and the office computers. With some justification, he regards me as a dull-witted technophobe. When I appear in his doorway, write him a note or call him on the phone, he cannot conceal his contempt.

Appearing in doorways was high-tech back when people were living in caves, writing a note may have been edgy in 2000 BCE, and the telephone hasn’t been new since the 1890s. But when contacted by email, Roger is

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more sympathetic when he explains that the technical trouble dwells in the hardware or the software, or the server or the stars … or whatever else he isn’t responsible for.

This made me wonder if maybe Wendy and I could relate better if I communicate with her the way her friends do. They are forever sending texts or videos on their phones, and sending selfies to each other.

When I talk to Wendy, it’s like speaking bad high school French to a Frenchman. There is little communication, and you get the feeling that the approach is inherently offensive.

Did you ever attempt to mount a horse from its righthand side? Try it, and you’ll see what trying to chat with Wendy is like. She’ll shy away or give you a hoof to the head (figuratively).

Maybe it’s the sound of my voice. Anyhow, one evening when Wendy was off at a sleepover, I used my phone to take a picture of a woman on TV sticking out her tongue and sent it to her. Not exactly a heart-to-heart dialogue on the meaning of life, but we could work up to that.

The next morning, I was at a garage sale and found a big, red stuffed parrot that was actually a hat. It wasn’t the kind of thing you’d buy, but it was the kind of thing you’d put on your head, get a picture of and phone to your daughter (if you’re me at least).

By noon, I’d sent a couple more silly pictures and even a few text message words. These efforts were coming more easily, and it was getting to be fun. I imagined her clicking open the pictures and making that sweet little “mmm” sound she makes that is not quite a laugh, but lets you know she’s delighted in a small way.

Then my phone chirped and I received a text message: “IF U SEND ONE MORE PIX I WILL BREAK UR PHONE,” along with four different anger emojis.

Not the response I was looking for.

After my feelings have had a chance to reboot, I’ll give the spoken word another try. Unless new media has been invented by then.

Rick can be reached at rickepstein@yahoo.com.

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