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Balancing your personal and professional life

Hi Taylor - I know you’ve managed to have a family and a successful career My wife and I are getting to the point of talking about kids, but we always come back to the question of how we balance work and a family How are you able to do both?

- George

Hey George - One of my favorite topics and questions! I’ve got a longer post about this very thing at GoFarWithKovarcom that you should check out While there are a million things to think about and plan, the short answer is: you’re ready Here’s why

It will never feel like the perfect moment Having children is a massive undertaking. Every second of it is a blessing, but to think it won’t completely reshape your life is naive Because of that, it’s pretty improbable you’d ever feel like it was the perfect moment and situation to have a child You can only hope you’ll be able to adjust to a growing family without letting go of things you love It will be a big adjustment, but I promise you won’t regret a thing as you make room for the newest member(s) of your family If you’re both excited about parenthood, stop waiting for things to fall into place and embrace the life you want “Necessity is the mother of invention ” It’s not a direct connection, but I think about this phrase a lot when it comes to parenting Until you have children, it’s hard to fathom how you can make it all work Once they arrive, brightening your day and taking up all your time, you don’t remember what life was like before Without thinking twice, you’ll make the necessary changes and keep

Living with children

moving forward It may counterintuitive, but I’v countless people find m fulfillment in their care having a baby You gai perspective about what important, and that help you within your family profession Having kid you more about yourse could ever imagine You deserve both The fact that you’re asking these questions and wondering if it’s the right time is an indicator, to me, that you’re ready This kind of thoughtful approach will only help you in your parenting, and we could use more moms and dads who really want to engage in the process of raising their children You’ll be able to make time for a good career and a loving family, even though you’ll have a little less time for sleeping.

As much as a successful career matters, nothing should come before family Trust in yourself and your wife and go after the life you want Best of luck, George!

Taylor Kovar, CEO of Kovar Capital Read more about Taylor at GoFarWithKovar com

Disclaimer: Information presented is for educational purposes only and is not an offer or solicitation for the sale or purchase of any specific securities, investments, or investment strategies Investments involve risk and, unless otherwise stated, are not guaranteed Be sure to first consult with a qualified financial adviser and/or tax professional before implementing any strategy discussed herein To submit a question to be answered in this column, please send it via email to Question@GoFarWithKovar com, or via USPS to Taylor Kovar, 415 S 1st St, Suite 300, Lufkin, TX 75901

Howe 7 vs. Boyd 34

Howe Rushing Yards: 68

Howe Passing Yards: 102

Howe Rushing:

Brandon Williams 13-36

Caiden Harmon 6-26

Jalen Thornton 4-20

Carson Daniels 3-6

Layton Elvington 6-(-20)

Howe Passing:

Layton Elvington 8-15-0-94, 1TD

Austin Haley 2-2-0-8

Howe Receiving:

Jalen Thornton 6-31

Steven Waldrip 2-33

Caiden Harmon 1-19

Kolby Windon 1-19, 1TD

Boyd Rushing Yards: 273

Boyd Passing Yards: 66

Boyd Rushing:

Rendyn Lamance 12-93, 3TD

Allen Gaught 14-87, 1TD

Dillon Inman 4-72

Hayden Hansen 2-27

Logan McCormick 1-(-6)

Boyd Passing:

Hayden Hansen 5-11-2-35

Rendyn Lamance 2-7-1-31, 1TD

Boyd Receiving:

Brian Couture 3-33

Dawson White 2-18

Nick Taylor 1-10, 1TD

Braedon Hopkins 1-5

As my regular readers know, I am a certified heretic in my field: child and family psychology To the point, I am convinced that psychological parenting theory, which began to inform American child rearing in the late 1960s, has caused more problems than psychologists know how to solve

I came to this conclusion in the early 1980s I was in private practice at the time and grappling with the realization that few of my clients were getting good results from the psychologically-correct manner in which I was approaching the child-rearing problems they brought to my attention Without going into the relatively long story, which involved major problems my wife and I were having with the older of our two kids, suffice to say I pretty much trashed nearly everything I had learned in graduate school and post-graduate seminars and embraced the pre-psychological parenting approach my parents’ generation (and previous generations stretching back thousands of years) had employed.

Almost everyone in my profession was telling parents to avoid punishment I not only began recommending punitive consequences, but punitive consequences that were HUGE (but never, contrary to the myth surrounding my name, spanking) My colleagues were stressing the importance of talking to children about their feelings They called it “affirming” and “validating” child feelings I became convinced that these parent-child or therapist-child conversations usually made matters worse. I stopped meeting with children for that reason Child psychologists were making a living diagnosing children with ADHD, which looked a lot to me like oldfashioned disobedience and irresponsibility I was the first psychologist in America to blow the whistle on the lack of science and logic behind the diagnosis and the specious explanations being offered for it.

Because I was spreading my heresies through this column, my speaking engagements, and my books, they caused many people in my field to develop full-blown hysteria I became a target for all manner of attempts to silence me, but here I am, still spreading heresy and intending to do so until I’m no longer capable of much of anything

Going back to my feelings about child therapy, it is a fact that the reliable efficacy of not one form of psychological therapy with children has ever been verified Furthermore, I have collected an ever-growing trove of stories from parents attesting to the damage done by therapy to their kids

I was recently reminded of this by an online article in which a psychologist listed signs that “Your Child Needs Therapy” One of said signs was “If talking to your child about his feelings doesn’t seem to be working ” I had to laugh to keep from screaming With rare exception, talking to a child about his feelings accomplishes nothing As does a child’s behavior, a child’s feelings need to be disciplined Children don’t need to be encouraged to vent their emotions They need to be taught to control them

Along that line, the parents of a 7year-old girl came to me asking what to do about their daughter’s fear of riding the bus to school She was convinced that the bus was in imminent danger of crashing and exploding into a ball of flame The parents talked and explained and listened and talked and listened and explained with nothing to show for all this yadayada-yada

I told them to tell the child that they’d read an article written by an expert saying that children with fears of that sort were not getting enough sleep As such, if the little girl resisted getting on the bus in the morning, she had to go to bed immediately after supper that evening in order to catch up on her sleep Stop talking, I told them Don’t even talk with her about her fears if she asks to talk A child’s feelings, I said, are like a hurricane The more energy they suck up, the more destructive they become

Within three days, the little girl was riding the bus without incident and continues to do so to this day, proving once again that the best therapy usually consists of lying in the beds one makes, no pun intended

Family psychologist John Rosemond: johnrosemond com, parentguru com

John Rosemond has worked with families, children, and parents since 1971 in the field of family psychology In 1971, John earned his masters in psychology from Western Illinois University and was elected to the Phi Kappa Phi National Honor Society