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Contents 4 Things

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Hi from Mel!

6 O vercoming Obstacles

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Let Them Know

10 Fun & Games

Contributors Melanie Paticoff • Editor in Chief Valorie Johnson • Creative Contributor N-KCreative.com • Magazine Design CiCi Gregory • Featured H W Teen With special thanks to H W friends: Alexa, Kevin, KJ, Reagan

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Dear Readers,

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W rds, W rds, W rds Break the Ice

Meet KJ and Reagan, siblings who never let hearing loss get in the way of fun!

KJ, 11, does not have hearing loss, and Reagan, 9, uses one cochlear implant and one hearing aid to hear.

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Reagan: KJ is a nice big brother. He is very funny, I love him, and we like to play together.

(Sometimes he’s annoying, though!) He helps me by always checking to make sure I’ve taken my “ears” off before I jump in the pool.

KJ: Reagan and I are really close friends and love doing things together. I feel protective of her and help by repeating things when she doesn’t hear. She is really good at sports, so I hope she can be a professional soccer or basketball player one day.

Both: We like to learn song lyrics together. Recently a new song came out on the radio. Reagan thought the words were, “I’m not a gaga lace, no trouble,” but KJ helped her realize the words are actually, “I’m all about that bass, no treble.” :-) One Last Word from KJ: I’m proud of Reagan. I think her “ears” are cool. It would be so nice to be able to ‘turn off my ears’ at the end of the day!

Hearing loss is part of the whole family.

Share your story with info@hearingourway.com

Language can be tricky, especially idioms, which mean something different than what they say.

You might hear the idiom break the ice and think it has to do with winter or even ice skating… nope!

Break the ice has nothing to do with the cold; it has to do with finding a way to get past being nervous about a situation. An example is: “I was nervous about meeting new people, so I decided to ask them who their favorite characters from Frozen were as a good conversation starter and a way to break the ice.”

Psst… Have you ever had to play an icebreaker game on the first day of school or camp? This is how that kind of introductory game got its name!

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With a bounce in her step, tap shoes on her feet, and… a hearing aid and cochlear implant!

All About Me

Hi, I’m CiCi. I’m 12-years-old and a 6th grader from Florissant, Missouri. I am a creative, caring, and happy person, and I love to express myself through dance!

CiCi’s Faves!

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My Hearing Loss Story

I was born 3 months early at only 1 pound, 11 ounces and needed strong medications and noisy machines that helped save my life.

My parents began to suspect that I might not be hearing when I was 12-months-old, but it wasn’t until I was almost 2-years-old that I was diagnosed with a progressive hearing loss. I began wearing hearing aids and learned to listen and speak at the Moog Center for Deaf Education in St. Louis, Missouri. When I was 5, my hearing loss was profound in one ear, and I received a cochlear implant. I have been mainstreamed since 2nd grade and use an FM system in school and at dance class. I love being bimodal because my hearing aid gives me great acoustic sound that I use to dance, but one day I may go bilateral!

two students with hearing loss in the entire school. Now I attend a large middle school where there are three other students with hearing loss in my grade alone. We can share an FM system, troubleshoot* technology, and go to each other for support. It’s the best of both worlds to have other kids with hearing loss who understand and can relate but also still have my friends at school who do not have hearing loss.

Overcoming Obstacles

Life with hearing loss has its typical challenges, such as hearing in noisy environments or missing homework assignments when the teacher doesn’t write them down. Being a dancer with hearing loss has itsown set of challenges.

Learning to count in time to the music is something that I’m still working on.

I’ve also found that it takes extra time

School Cool

I have had smooth transitions from my school for the deaf to elementary school and from elementary to middle school. When I was at Moog, I was surrounded by other kids with hearing loss and lots of support.

In elementary school, I was one of only

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to learn the vocabulary of dance, mainly because I don’t know the meaning or spelling of many French words used in ballet.

Just like when I’m in school, in dance class I need to be in the front of the room, ask for repetition, clarify when I’m confused, and practice at home. Accommodations and self-advocacy don’t end in the classroom!

really opened my eyes to the entertainment industry—we filmed about 48 hours for only 7 minutes of total air time! Next, I was honored to be selected to train at the Dance Theatre of Harlem in New York. Saying goodbye to my parents and being dropped off in a big city was scary at first, but it was an amazing summer where I learned so much, and I can’t wait to go back to New York someday!

Advocacy All the Way

Working with teachers of the deaf has always been a part of my education. My itinerant teacher helps me with organization, vocabulary, assignments, and preparing for tests.

We also work on my speech so that I can continue to improve my skills and gain confidence. It’s a safe place to check in with someone who is honest and helpful. I like to ask questions like, “How do I pronounce this?” and “Does this sound right?” to help stay aware of my own speech by getting feedback from someone I trust. Another important piece of my education is my FM system which I use both in school and at dance. I know that some kids stop using their FMs when they get older, but I always plan to use mine. I love when it turns on and ‘zooms in’ to pick up voices so clearly; I think it will be great preparation for bigger classes in college. [CiCi’s Tip: Teachers, please mute my FM if you need to step out of the room. Subs, I’m talking to you! ]

Getting Creative

This past year, my audiologists helped me to remember that there is always a solution to any problem when you get creative and work together. At an audiology appointment, I mentioned that I was having trouble hearing the sound of my tap shoes because my devices were picking up the sound of everyone else’s tapping. My audiologists helped me brainstorm a solution: we could attach a wireless microphone that works with my FM directly to my tap shoe! Now I’m able to hear my own tapping, and I’m able to attach the mic to my teacher’s shoe as well. Tap class is a lot better now, and I was reminded to always ask for help!

* Troubleshoot: Trytofixa[noften technological] problemindifferent waysuntil youfindasolution.

Role Model CiCi uses her audio cable to listen to her music!

Hearing Gear

I am obsessed with my favorite piece of hearing gear. My audio cable, which connects my iPod directly to my cochlear implant, is the greatest thing in the world to have. I love listening to music and watching music videos with it. I’m constantly plugged in, which drives my mom crazy, but of course as a dancer I love music! My only hope is that one day there’s a solution for listening directly from my iPod to both my cochlear implant and my hearing aid.

My role model is Misty Copeland, a ballet dancer who never let being different stop her.

She was recently featured in a viral commercial inspiring young girls to be confident. People didn’t think she had the right body type or skin color for ballet, but she kept moving forward and didn’t give up. Now she tells other young people they can do anything they set their mind to. I loved meeting her last summer in New York, and one day I’d love to share her message, too.

#HearingLossMoment

I’ve had some #hearinglossmoments not just in dance class or rehearsals, but during performances and talent shows!

Even though I use special hair tape and clips to keep my devices on when I dance, there are still times when I do a turn and my cochlear implant flies off! I quietly go off stage, circle back, and gracefully pick up my device as if it’s all part of the dance, always with a smile on my face. It challenges me to be creative and #justkeepdancing!

Five Minutes of Fame… and a New York Minute!

This past summer was definitely one to remember! First, I had the opportunity to share my story on Nick News with Linda Ellerbee: Now Hear This! What If You Were Deaf? It was so exciting to raise awareness about what it’s like to be deaf and use cochlear implants and hearing aids to listen and speak. I was filmed at my house with friends and family, then at my dance studio. It

CiCi with her role model, Misty Copeland !

When I Grow Up

When I grow up, I want to be a famous professional dancer who just happens to be deaf. I want to inspire kids who are deaf, who have disabilities, and also those who don’t, to follow their dreams. I think that everyone has challenges along the way to success, but there’s always a way to reach your goals and always someone to ask for help. My advice to other kids facing challenges is to find support, be confident, be bold, be the best you can be.

No one is perfect, so just be yourself!

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When you grow up with a hearing loss, it is important to be a good self-advocate and stand up for yourself. There will be times when it’s necessary to speak up, but there may be other times when you may be happier letting things slide and not holding onto anger. Tell us about a time you decided to let it go or let them know… info@hearingourway.com!

Nevermind “Nevermind.” “Forget it.” “Nothing.” These can be some of the most frustrating phrases to hear when you have hearing loss and ask someone to repeat what they said.

There will be times in conversation when it’s okay for someone to say “nevermind.” Maybe what they said really just isn’t that important or worth repeating all over again. Try asking yourself, ‘Does this person usually repeat when I ask them to? Can I trust that if they are saying nevermind, it really must not be important?’ If the answer is yes, let it go.

However, if you know someone who refuses to repeat when you ask them to and continues to brush you off, it’s time to speak up and let them know. “I know you might think what you said doesn’t matter anymore, but I think you’re really funny, and it’s important to me to hear what all of my friends are saying. I really appreciate it when you repeat what you said when I ask.”

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Raise Your Hand During school, it’s hard work to listen to every word your teachers say throughout the day.

Accommodations like FM systems, preferential seating, and captioning can help, but sometimes things are still missed. Should you raise your hand every time you have a question or are there times to let it slide?

Students with hearing loss need to be such strong self-advocates that you may feel pressure to never miss a word, but it’s likely every student, even those who don’t have hearing loss, miss something here or there. There will be times when it may not seem right to interrupt the lesson. If you know you missed something, should you let it go? Maybe for the moment. If you don’t want to interrupt, you can ask a friend, consult notes if you receive them, or ask the teacher after class.

During class, if you are confused, missed something that was said, or need to clarify, it might be time to say something. Oftentimes if you have a question about the lesson, it’s very likely that another classmate is wondering the same thing. In this case, raise your hand and let them know. There is no such thing as a stupid question—you’re in school to learn!

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My Dream Career

I want to be an audiologist so that I can help people with hearing loss like myself get diagnosed and appropriately fit with hearing devices.

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I have mild sloping to profound hearing loss bilaterally and wear behind-the-ear hearing aids.

Laugh It Off “What are you, deaf?” We’ve all heard the jokes. It never feels good to be made fun of or mocked, but with people you trust, a sense of humor can be one of the best tools for growing up with hearing loss. So when do you laugh along and when do jokes cross a line?

Tips & Tricks

When you’re in a group of friends and family that love you and accept your hearing loss, there are times when jokes might be totally appropriate. The first time you hear one, you may be taken aback, but instead of being offended, try to let it go because it’s likely they have your best interests at heart. In fact, have you ever tried to use humor yourself?

Show them you’re okay with the joke by jumping in with one of your own, like “Sorry, what’d you say?” or “#HearingLossMoment !”

Ü T urn on subtitles and captioning when watching TV and videos.

Sometimes, jokes about hearing loss can be just plain mean, especially when said by someone who isn’t a true friend. When a joke is said in a hurtful way or just crosses a line, it’s time to let them know. “It’s not okay to make fun of my hearing loss. It hurts my feelings, and I don’t find it funny.”

Have you ever seen another person be bullied right in front of you? When you see this, you are a bystander, and you may feel like you should do something to help. Have you ever wanted to say something but worried about being considered a tattle-tale?

If you see someone being bullied, it may not always be the right time to speak up. Do you feel so angry that you might say something you regret? Do you feel like you could be at risk of being hurt in this situation? The best thing to do may be to let it go and not make anything worse. There’s still something you can do though—reach out to the person being bullied and let them know you are there for them.

Whether you decide to let things go or let them know, you can always talk to friends, family, and teachers that you trust for support!

Ü D on’t be afraid to discuss hearing challenges, talk to others about your hearing loss, and advocate for yourself to improve communication.

Audiology fun fact

Standing By

There are bullying situations when as a bystander you must let them know. If you feel that you can help by calmly talking to the bully, try saying something like, “Please stop. That is bullying, and it is not funny.” You can also always tell an adult you trust. It’s important to let someone know—if you just let it go, bullying will continue to happen again and again.

Ü Try out your telecoil program—I find that it really helps amplify sound!

Did you know that the size of your cochlea is the same size as a pencil eraser, but it has more than 20,000 hairs?!

I would tell young Bryn...

You are in charge of your goals, dreams, and abilities. Challenge yourself. Don’t accept anything less than excellence in your life.

Learning to Let It Go A few years ago, I had a professor

question whether I could pursue audiology because of my hearing loss. It caused me to doubt my entire future, until I let what he said go and focused on what I always knew was true: that I had the strength, drive, and intelligence to do anything I set my mind to !

Interested in learning more about Bryn’s graduate program in audiology?

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