RESILIENCE

How

AWARENESS - SITUATIONAL & SELF:
Honestly appraise own self & what is happening
COMPASSION & EMPATHY: Considerate of others and other points of view
RESOURCEFULNESS:
Can find solutions with what’s at hand
HUMILITY: Put things into perspective and ask for help when needed HEALTHY BRAIN & BODY
These skills help us face our challenges and recover from set backs. Fortunately, they can be developed and strengthened
Understand the neuroscience of stress and resilience
Understand the skills needed to manage pressure and be even more productive
Understand how to develop resilience
Need to understand that pressure and stress are different
PRESSURE IS EXTERNAL DEMAND OR ENVIRONMENT: (a very short deadline)
STRESS IS YOUR INTERNAL DEMAND: (worry or anxiety that you won’t meet the deadline or achieve the quality you want)
Make a list of YOUR pressures:
For Each Pressure, add stress rating -
0 if a little stressful
+ if some stress
++ a LOT of stress
KEEP THIS LIST FOR FURTHER REVIEW
We can help the stress in our head with a better understanding of what’s inside our head Given the complexity of what’s inside your skull, a simple hand model of the brain is a useful way of learning the basics
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THE AMYGDALA IS THE INTEGRATIVE CENTRE FOR:
• Emotions
• Emotional behaviour
• Motivation
• Survival Reflex
• Focus
• Forethought
• Planning
• Judgement
• Decision Making
• Organisation
• Follow-through
• Empathy
• Learning from mistakes
• Problem-solving
• Expressive Language
• Impulse control
• Saying no to behaviours inconsistent with goals
• Conscientiousness
• Short attention span
• Distractibility
• Poor Planning
• Lack of Perseverance
• Erratic Decision Making
• Poor Problem-solving
• Disorganisation
• Procrastination
• Difficulty being in touch with emotions
• Lack of Empathy
• Impulsivity
• Saying yes too often
• Lack of Conscientiousness
• Trouble learning from experience
• Chronic lateness & poor time management
Have you experienced any of the above?
PASSIVE
• Weariness
• Feeling inadequate
• Sadness
• Lowering standards of performance
• Missing deadlines
• More cynical
ACTIVE
• Unhealthy eating
• Neglecting healthy routines
• (more) Easily annoyed
• (more) Impatient
• (more) Discontented
• Losing their cool (more often)
• Spot the symptoms
• Reflect before react
• Practice & promote bigger picture- reframe problems
• Support in the struggle (one solution doesn’t fit all)
• Combat the culture of urgency/ immediate action
Sleep deprivation, poor diet, lack of exercise, all have a significant negative impact on our cognitive functioning
Including our ability to manage our amygdala, accurately assess a situation, make informed decisions, communicate effectively and lead ourselves, let alone a team!
TAKE YOUR BRAIN TO THE GYM PHYSICAL EXERCISE IS IMPORTANT FOR YOUR BRAIN
BREATHE: CHANGE THE RATIO OF INHALE (4) TO EXHALE (8)
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SLEEP WELL
• WALKING/PHYSICAL ACTIVITIES
• FRESH AIR
• “FEED YOUR BRAIN”
Try this
*Think of conscious thinking as a precious resource to conserve.
*PRIORITISE Prioritising, as it’s an energy intensive activity. SCHEDULE TIME FOR PRIORTISING TASKS
*Save mental energy for prioritizing by avoiding other high energy consuming conscious activities such as dealing with emails
*Schedule the most attention-rich tasks when you have a fresh alert mind
*Use the brain to interact with information rather than trying to store information by creating visuals for complex ideas and by listing projects
*Schedule blocks of time for different modes of thinking
For each task ASK 3 questions aloud, emphasising the words in red:
Research has shown that accepting negative emotions, rather than avoiding or dismissing them, may actually be more beneficial for a person’s mental health in the long run. One 2018 study of more than 1,300 adults found that people who habitually avoid acknowledging challenging emotions can end up feeling worse
“To expect that this time is going to be the time to make yourself better and to change yourself, that’s the toxic positivity,” said Clinical Psychologist,Jaime Zuckerman, noting, “There’s nothing wrong with trying to make the best of it, but making the best of it is different from toxic positivity. Making the best of it is accepting the situation as it is and doing the best you can with it, whereas toxic positivity is avoidance of the fact that we’re in a really bad situation”
Here’s a useful tool from Positive Psychology
Can also make matters worse
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BY DELEGATING THE IRREVERSIBLE & INCONSEQUENTIAL DECISIONS TO OTHERS YOU FREE YOUR BRAIN TO CONCENTRATE ON THE MORE IMPORTANT CONSEQUENTIAL DECISIONS THAT REQUIRE MORE THOUGHT
by Adam Grant
Feel morally obligated to ‘over deliver’
When costs of overperformance are high, use a ‘rule of thumb’ to keep yourself in check
If you don’t you won’t have time, energy or resources to do it all to the standard you set yourself…
2 3
Get angry when <100% consistent with good habits
Regular self checks
Wake Up: from “Waking sleep”
Physically and Mentally
Control your attention *****
Remember you can care about the external stuff without worrying about it
Put things into perspectivestop the drama-rama!
How much will this matter in 3 years?
What’s the worst that could happen?
Let go (HARDEST)
• Acceptance: it’s the way it is
• Learning the lesson: What have I learned from this experience?
• Action: Sometimes you do have to do something
• Ask: What action is needed here?
Pressure doesn’t have to turn into stress: Nicholas Petrie 2017
The capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; bounce-back
Courage and resolve; strength of character
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Oxford English
Dictionary 2021
SOMETIMES YOU NEED BOTH GRIT AND RESILIENCE
Overly harsh negative feedback
Resilience Grit
Pause Heal Recover Listen & learn Prevention
RECOVER & LEARN FROM EXPERIENCE
Recover: take a time out
Engage: Any truth?
Deeper Issue?
Get through the situation now
Breathe
Try to understand: Ask questions
Listen
Silence is perceived as permission and what you permit– you promote!!
Resilience is about recovery NOT endurancePAUSE to be more productive
Take Tech Breaks - especially from your phone
Offtime & Unplug apps schedule auto airplane mode
Take Cognitive Breaks every 90 minutes
Try not to eat lunch at your desk- go outside instead
Take ALL of your paid leave and holidays
Try 10 min Desk Yoga