Hat Trick Magazine November 2014

Volume 3 • Issue 11

November 2014

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Editorial Team

Michelle Fitz Editor-In-Chief, Page Design

Michael Hartley Associate Design Editor

Michelle is originally from Arkansas and the head of Hat Trick Strategies, a UK firm for Emerging Technologies, Business Change and Corporate Strategy. Her firm has served US and UK household names, government departments and a portfolio of business coaching clients, based globally.

Michelle produces all page layout, custom graphics and ad designs for this publication. She holds professional qualifications in LEAN Six Sigma, PMI PMP, is a Practitioner in both PRINCE2 and MSP and is a leader in digital synergies linking content, the customer journey, social media and customer care words/SEO.

Michael is a British entrepreneur based in Manchester, England and is an expert in graphic design, digital artistry, branding and design management. He is a trained violinist, and brings a tremendous breath of creativity to projects. His firm, Michael Thomas Designs, are experts in brand research for target demographics, image and the production of a consistent brand identity for mid-sized companies. Michael understands how to get at the heart of a firm’s offerings and customer base and works closely with select web designers to implement a consistent look and feel across digital, print and online platforms.

Eleni Sofroniou Illustrator

Andrea Sullenger Business & Tech Editor

Eleni is an illustrator based in London and owns Fall Into London.

Andrea is a mix of “kick butt” sales/marketing coach and inspirational possible-i-tarian.

She has been working with solo-entrepreneurs for the past 16 years, helping them build their own thriving transactional businesses all while creating streamlined and successful digital products to maximize and leverage their income streams.

She produces the majority of the illustrations which appear in Hat Trick Magazine (which compliment and give our magazine its distinctive look and feel).

She has previously created pieces for ELLE Magazine, Essex Style Magazine, and The Female Entrepreneur Association. As well as creating personalised illustrations, Eleni’s illustrations can be purchased from her website.

Andrea shares many of her strategies via Hat Trick Magazine, but to get the latest, subscribe to her list.

Editorial Team

Sandra Cunningham Career & Learning Editor

Shalanda Turner Style Editor

Sandra contributes to the Careers column for the Financial Times and is the owner of Outside In Coaching and Communications, where she helps mid-career women make a successful transition from a soul-sucking, dead-end job to a meaningful and fulfilling career, while creating a lifestyle they can afford and enjoy. Sandra truly believes it’s possible to be wildly successful doing work you love whilst having the work/life balance most people can only dream of. Visit her website for free articles, resources and to sign up for your free e-booklet “21 Pointers to Sharpen Your Career Edge.”

Shasie has a B.S. Degree in Chemical Engineering and works as a Project Engineer for a Specialty Chemicals company in Houston, Texas.When Shasie is not at work, she moonlights in the Fashion Industry. She is the creative voice behind the top Fashion Blog; Live Life in Style, Founder of Houston Fashion Bloggers, Style Editor for online media site FashionMingle.net, Fashion Brand Ambassador for Monarch Magazine, Owner of Shop Shasie’s Closet and Houston Fashion Examiner for Examiner.com.

Charlene SanJenko Wellness & Learning Editor

Rachael Pontillo Beauty Editor

Charlene SanJenko is a serial entrepreneur with a successful lifestyle and fitness practice serving Canada. She is an accomplished figure competitor and has served her community in local government.

Rachael Pontillo is the creator of Holistically Haute™, and is the bestselling author of Love Your Skin, Love Yourself, and The Sauce Code. She’s also an award-winning AADP-certified holistic health and image coach, licensed aesthetician, natural skincare formulator and educator, and has just launched the new online course, Create Your Skincare™: a comprehensive 6-week online course where students learn to design their own custom products for luminous skin using all-natural and organic ingredients.

As a social entrepreneur, she believes there is an intrinsic link between physical and emotional fitness, leadership and excellence.

She is a thought leader whose emphasis is in helping transform ordinary ladies into “HIP”, High Impact Performance women www.powHERhouse.com

Editorial Team

Tanya Jackson Food, Home & Family Editor

Karen Salmansohn Faith & Self Help Editor

Tanya is the author of our popular Southern recipe column and the editor for our Food & Home section. She is married to a pastor, her high school sweetheart, and is a proud Southern mother and grandmother. Tanya has lived all over the US, but wherever she has lived, she has brought her love and curiosity for local foods and flavors. Tanya believes the best aspect of having cooked in the four corners of the US, was learning to cook what grows around us; because it is our families that make a difference in our lives and sharing our love and enjoyment of good food together goes hand-in-hand.

Karen is an ex-Senior VP, award winning ad writer/creative director (at age 27) who left her successful advertising career (having worked as a writer/creative director/ image consultant for numerous household names), to pursue her passion of writing. She owns notsalmon.com, is an Oprah columnist and a best selling author and book packager with over 1 million books sold. Some titles: How to Be Happy Dammit; Enough Dammit; The Bounce Back Book; and many more. Journalists call Salmansohn “Deepak Chopra Meets Carrie Bradshaw�, merging empowering psychology/ philosophy tips with edgy humor and stylish graphics.

Contributers

Lorraine Hill Head of Global Planning

Michelle Holmes Business Contributor

Sorelle Amore Style Contributor

Mina Muirhead Health Editor, Lifestyle

Gina Hussar Lifestyle Contributor

Manuela Wahnon Lifestyle Contributor

Mellissa Mallaya Lifestyle Contributor

Dara Avenius Career & Learning

Suzanne Perry Faith & Self Help (Victim Support)

Katie Clifton Faith & Self Help (Christian)

Cherie DeBurger Home Contributor (Life & Family)

Sukh Pabial Career & Learning

Marina Berberyan Style Contributor

Lisa Wynter Style Contributor

Joey Phelps Cartoonist

Amber Hamilton Henson Associate Home Editor

Ann Pissard Graphic Artist

Michael Phelps Cartoonist

Kate Spencer Lifestyle & Wellness

Nathalie de Ahna Lifestyle & Wellness

Katie Geddes Business Contributor

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Business & Tech Tips

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A Simple Way To Grow Your List

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What’s With Webinars?

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What Does It Take To Walk Your Walk? (Pt 1)

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Using Artwork As A Coaching Tool

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Style & Beauty

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Shasie’s Picks

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5 Ways Herbs Can Save Your Skin

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Confessions of a Hollywood Stylist

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Christian Columnist: Faith & Focus

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Breathe: You Are Enough

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From the Editor

Why I Stopped The Presses For Women I literally had to stop the presses this month and reprioritise content - from feature to cover, editorial to imagery - after a string of anti-woman, backward and nonsensical comments were made by real CEOs and top corporate officials– including the CEO from Microsoft. Not behind closed doors.

Not in whispers over coffee. This time, in broad daylight, with the press invited, at a women’s tech conference no less, and for all to hear.

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Elizabeth Cronise McLaughlin is no stranger to this publication. She is a bad-ass, New York lawyer who gave up a $300,000 a year gig to start her own practice. She coaches other hard-hitting executives on their careers and how to get past “the sift” of resumes and understand the verbiage and experience that “rocks their socks” from a sea of hiring managers and gatekeepers. Elizabeth isn’t a feelgood, warm and fuzzy, “find your bliss” coach. No. She will take your career and focus on what the big players want, not only match their requirements but to get what you want.

Exactly what you want.

Elizabeth has launched the mega-femme power organisation 40 Percent And Rising, an organisation devoted to the ground swell of women who have stepped into the role of primary breadwinner. Think that is cool? You should read her mission statement – it’s basically a feminist super-hero’s theme tune.

From the website: “Forty percent of American households are now helmed by a primary breadwinning woman – more than ever before in recorded history. Never before have so many women shouldered so much financial and emotional responsibility simultaneously. Never before have we been so successful, and yet so completely overwhelmed. 40 Percent and Rising is an organization by and for primary breadwinning women. Our mission is to support, find solutions and advocate on behalf of those struggling with the financial, emotional and spiritual challenges of being a primary breadwinner woman and/or mom”.

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field, this cause is close to my heart. Every day I face the consequences of not having a penis. I endure the notions that “we just think a man would be a stronger leader” is acceptable feedback. Of course, I get the rugby punch on the shoulder. I’m one of the lads – they feel they can be honest. “You know how it is, babe! But let me make another role for you. You are amazing and I know you’ll add value.

Also you’re the only one I’ve seen who knows x, y or z!”

I have all the right qualifications and all the right experience.

I suffer because I am 5’ 4” tall, have a feminine voice and doe eyes. I suffer because there are men who are attracted to me. I suffer because Mr. Misogynist on the team feels uncomfortable when I deliver the same set of orders he would have received without issue from a male counterpart – because it was a girl who told him so.

Let me assure you that this still happens to women, particularly those in consultancy. After all, no employment laws are violated – it’s really just Neanderthal thinking for the world to see. And it’s everywhere.

I have a friend who is a fundraiser for seed money and startups in Silicon Valley. She knows by the end of the night, a hand will be placed on her rear and attempts will be made to arrange a weekend meeting - outside the office. How many women spend far too much time thinking their wardrobes through to find the right balance of professional, puttogether, not-slutty?

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called leaders in the companies that used to - and in theory, still should - inspire us about the future of humanity.

I am tired of women being blamed for their rapes, shamed for their knowledge, tenacity and drive, and confined to the Madonna-Whore notion of society. I am taking back the word bitch and I am owning it.

I am so grateful for Elizabeth and her audacity to call time on this behaviour. I stopped the presses because this bitch has something you need to read. This bitch has something that needs to be said. And this bitch can change your life if you let her.

So when Elizabeth (this hard-core, amazing woman; this bitch) gave me her copy in response to the idiotic remarks made by Microsoft CEO, Satya Nadella, my reaction was HELL YES. I pulled everything else I had planned JUST to bump THIS BITCH right to the top of the pile of “things our readers need to read”.

By MICHELLE FITZ, Editor-In-Chief

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Cover Story

Equal Pay: The Karma Problem With Elizabeth Cronise McLaughlin

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On Thursday, October 10th, Microsoft CEO Satya Nadella set the internet alight with his comments concerning equal pay, wherein he claimed that women should not ask for raises, or demand equal pay, but rely instead on karma to take care of the wage gap.

It’s true, the wage gap does have a karma problem, but it’s not what Nadella suggested. Last year, the Pew Research Institute released a study showing that for the first time ever, forty percent of American households are now helmed by a primary breadwinning woman. That means that our economy, our children, our education system, our tax base, and indeed the future of our workforce are now more dependent than ever before on what women earn.

And yet, as the National Women’s Law Center pointed out last week, the result of the pay gap is that, over the course of the average woman’s lifetime, she will earn nearly $500,000 less than an average man. Individually, that’s not a small amount. Collectively, it amounts to nearly 30 trillion dollars. And let’s remember that karma, in its loosest sense, is about cause and effect. The cause of the equal 20 • Hat Trick Magazine • hattrickstrategies.com

pay gap, in most instances today, is unconscious gender bias on the part of corporate leaders – a bias that women in the workforce face daily, and know intimately. Nadella’s comments are emblematic of that unconscious bias. His statement that women who don’t ask for raises or equal pay are “the kind of person that I want to trust…the kind of person that I want to really give more responsibility to,” reveals an endemic corporate viewpoint that women who demand equal pay and promotion are untrustworthy and irresponsible. That’s unconscious gender bias at its finest.

As a former Wall Street lawyer who was routinely paid less than her male counterparts while simultaneously supporting a family, I experienced the effects of this unconscious bias first hand. Every time I questioned why less qualified men were earning more than I was, I was perceived as “difficult” or “aggressive.” Every time I questioned why less experienced men with lesser track records of success

The US government needs to start pursuing equal pay violations as vigorously as it pursues other types of discrimination

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were being promoted when I was not, I was labeled a “troublemaker.” Every time I advocated for a promotion, only to have less qualified, less able, less successful men who also advocated for themselves promoted ahead of me, my pay, my bonuses, and my career took a hit. And, as karma would have it, so did my family’s ability to invest, to purchase what it needed, to educate our children, and to contribute to the tax base. Cause, meet effect.

Recent efforts to address unconscious bias in pay and promotion, such as those underway at Google, are to be commended. However, they are a drop in the bucket of what is needed to rectify the long term effects of the pay gap given the growing role of female breadwinners in the economy. The US government needs to start pursuing equal pay violations as vigorously as it pursues other types of discrimination, and also needs to pass legislation eliminating retaliation against those who publicly disclose salary gaps or work to diminish employer secrecy in pay.

More women also need to be empowered to step forward to file private lawsuits – including class actions that make corporate employers sit up and take notice – to enforce equal pay laws against corporations where rampant bias in pay and promotion exists. But the law alone is not enough.

We need a massive cultural reframing of equal pay and unconscious gender bias in general. Because with the rise of women as primary breadwinners, equal pay is no longer just a women’s issue. It is a global issue. And that’s the real karma of the pay gap. The long term effects that will result Equal Pay: The Karma Problem •

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if the pay gap continues are that households, the economy, and the workforce will begin to suffer exponentially from the lack of investment, the lack of purchasing power, the lack of education, and the lack of resources that those missing $30 trillion would otherwise support. Equal pay matters mightily for all of us. And if our nation intends to continue to compete in the 21st century, and to grow to meet the demands of the new economy, equal pay’s karma problem must be rectified, and now.

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You’re desperate for support and understanding, and for solutions that don’t seem to exist. All that’s about to change

ABOUT US Forty percent of American households are now helmed by a primary breadwinning woman – more than ever before in recorded history. Never before have so many women shouldered so much financial and emotional responsibility simultaneously. Never before have we been so successful, and yet so completely overwhelmed. You know this already, because you’re one of us. You’re working insane hours that take you away from your family and your personal life, yet you’re being told to “lean in” more than ever to get ahead.

At home, you’re still managing most of the childcare responsibilities and the bulk of the household chores on top of keeping your family afloat financially. Your marriage may be a source of resentment rather than a haven as you Equal Pay: The Karma Problem •

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grapple with the new gender dynamics of being a primary earner, a mother and a woman. And you’re cracking under the financial responsibility of supporting your family in an environment where equal pay remains a myth, where paid maternity leave often doesn’t exist, and where your work/life balance is completely out of whack. On a day to day basis, you’re exhausted, frustrated, and alone. You’re desperate for support and understanding, and for solutions that don’t seem to exist. All that’s about to change...

We are 40 Percent and Rising. And we want you to join us.We are an organization by and for primary breadwinning women, and we are the first of our kind. Here, you are not alone. We see you, we hear you, we understand and we support you, because we ARE you, and you are us. We’re here to offer you a sanctuary where you can get inspired, get connected, and find solutions to the challenges you face as a pioneer of the primary breadwinning revolution. We’re here to not just survive, but thrive.We’re here to stand shoulderto-shoulder with eachother as we RISE – to lead families, corporations, and nations. And we’re here to change your world, and the world around us, for the better.

Elizabeth Cronise McLaughlin, a former Wall Street lawyer and high-profile executive coach, is the CEO & Executive Director of 40 Percent and Rising, an organization supporting primary breadwinner women worldwide. To learn more, go to www.40percentandrising.com, or follow her on Twitter using the links overleaf.

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Business & Tech Tips

A Simple Way To

Grow Your List

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By Andrea Sullenger

List building, it’s what every online business strives to continually do. Let me ask you, how is your list building going?

Has it slowed a little bit? If the answer is yes I have good news. I want you to take the list building challenge and flip it. I want you to create an interactive challenge for your ideal clients. Capture their attention and add them to your list.

I did this exact thing when I created the, “40 Days To Let It Go” challenge. It actually began out of a selfish need. It was the need that I had to literally and symbolically let things go so I could see what was really important, focus on that and also so that I would have room to usher in more of the right stuff…in moderation.

Challenges aren’t new to the online world and I don’t foresee them going away any time soon.

People like them. They participate in them. So why not create one for you, your business and your clients. It is a win win win. I’ve got 15 steps to get your challenge started but let me tell you what will really blow this challenge up and add a ton of interested and responsive new people to your list. It is getting strategic partners to contribute and to also promote your challenge.

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You automatically get to tap into their lists, their social media following and it means less work for you, more perspective for your challenge takers and ultimately better results for your list building.

Here are the first 15 steps you will want to take to create and deliver a killer challenge…

Decide you want to start and that you are committed to giving it your all. Grab your calendar and mark today as your start date. Mark out the half way point and your end date. That is the date you should be able to see how far you have come and also be able to see that you in fact did increase your list…well past tripling it!

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What’s the best plan for you? Is it a challenge, a game, a dare? What would resonate with your ideal client avatar?…don’t stay in analysis paralysis… just pick one and let’s go for it.The main thing is to start and to do something that will grab your ideal audience’s attention plus get them participating.

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Choose a name for your event. Don’t pick something too long.

Don’t try to explain the whole concept with the title.

Don’t pick something that

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makes you sound like you are a used car sales man. Be your brand.

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Create your time line.

Time to take the plunge and reach out to the potential strategic partners / contributors. I know it can be scary but you never know how well it can work or what is going to bomb until you just do it.

Once you have a list compiled of all that you want to contribute you must then weed it down. If you are like me you will get way more than you are even looking for. Do your investigating and find the ones that bring the most value. (Note: use your auto-responder to do the heavy lifting.)

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Send out the confirmation email to those you have chosen to be the contributors.

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Gather all of the contributors profile information and contribution content.

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Create your strategic partner / contributor webpage hub. This is the page that will house instructions, links, swipe and the time line.

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Send out an email with access information about the strategic partner / contributor webpage. (Note: make this password protected.)

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Personally promote the event.

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Make sure your strategic partners / contributors are promoting the event.

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Load all the content into your auto-responder.

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Let the fun begin.

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Be responsive to all comments or questions about the challenge and continue to promote the event up until the last day.

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Embody Your Sexy Geek Quick Techie Tips to Let Your Sexy Geek Shine

What’s with Webinars?

And what can they do for your biz?

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What’s a Webinar?

The dictionary says: “could not be found.” Lucky for you, though, they’re real. And happening big time. Here’s a quickie definition:

web·i·nar

ˈwebinär/ noun noun: webinar; plural noun: webinars

a seminar conducted over the Internet.

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Webinars use software (more on that coming) that allows you to connect with and optionally interact with your online audience. They may use video, audio and presentations uploaded created in programs such as PowerPoint, Keynote and Prezi. They can be live or pre-recorded. You may allow attendees to ask questions before, during or after your presentation. You can also record a live webinar and use the recording to spread your message far and wide.

It’s proven that people do business with those they like. In marketing, it’s called the “know, like and trust factor” — it’s human nature.

Webinars allow you to build this quickly and effectively.

Some people refer to a one-way webinar as a webcast, distinguishing whether or not you include audience participation. Any way you slice ‘em, webinars are an excellent way for you to engage clients — current, new and potential. Here are thoughts and tips so you can build a great one.

The Coolest Part

One of the coolest aspects of giving a webinar for entrepreneurs is that you don’t need much to be ready for them. You don’t even need to have a website. I highly recommend webinars to startup businesses who have a 36 • Hat Trick Magazine • hattrickstrategies.com

great message but limited funds.

This is one way to beat the seeming Catch 22 of “you gotta do this to do this but you can’t get this until you’ve got that.” Attract clients through your webinar, start to build revenue and watch your business soar.

Live Audiences vs. Replays

Most people think of webinars as live and allowing people to interact with you is one effective approach.

Especially starting out, though, there’ll be several aspects to juggle concurrently, with monitoring your slides, watching your time, recording and staying on topic. So adding audience questions that are unpredictable may be more manageable if permitted either at the end of your session or by inviting people to get in touch with you personally after, a further opportunity for connection with those who are genuinely interested. That choice depends on your business goals.

Promotion and Recording

One thing that’s mandatory in my opinion is that your service allows you to record your session. Your recorded webinar becomes something you can use long into the future as a link and in advertising.

Promoting your webinar is a separate undertaking. You need to get people to see it to have it work for you. When you record it, you take the time pressure element away and can focus on making sure you write, design and deliver a Embody Your Sexy Geek •

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great webinar rather than worrying about promotion at the same time.

It’s nice to offer webinars where people are not being “sold” and instead you simply provide fun and/ or useful information that shares your brilliance. This is a good way to build loyal followers.

Bonus Tech Tip for Advanced Users: Check out Stealth Seminar for one approach to reusing your webinar.

Software Options

Some of the best-known companies for delivering webinars are GoToWebinar and Instant Teleseminar. Many people like these companies. Another option is WebinarJam but I’ve experienced distracting flaws with them. After considerable research, my personal recommendation is AnyMeeting.com because they offer the following: Simple setup with small learning curve Easy recording on Mac and PC and easy exporting of your recording in a standard format 38 • Hat Trick Magazine • hattrickstrategies.com

Nice looking presentation screens (almost no one has this, amazingly) that you can easily brand with minimal distracting gunk Reasonable pricing compared to the industry Costs are usually billed monthly and are usually in the $80 range for the better services, well worth the expense if you average just one client per undertaking. There are dozens of worthy companies who offer webinar software if you do a search. Pick one that appeals to you and don’t let software bog you down.

What Result Do You Want?

You’ll want to figure out the result you want before you put together your presentation. Examples could include:

g n i d l i u List B s p u n g i S / t s e r e t n I r e ff O g n i Driv Attracting Client Conversations How you format your webinar depends on which of the above results — or another result — you choose. For instance, if you want to build your list in general, there’s no need to ask people to buy something at the end of your webinar. It’s nice to offer webinars where people are not Embody Your Sexy Geek •

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being “sold” and instead you simply provide fun and/or useful information that shares your brilliance. This is a good way to build loyal followers.

If you do have a current offering, however, a webinar is a chance to give people a taste for what they’ll get. You can demonstrate your expertise and allow people to feel comfortable with you in a way that a sales page alone can’t do because people can hear — and see if you use video — you.

If your work is primarily with one-on-one clients, you can invite listeners to schedule a call with you after your webinar wraps. Use scheduling software to make your life easier, such as Timetrade, Acuity or Satori App.

Duration

Length of webinars is usually between 30 minutes and 2 hours. I’m a fan of short and sweet, presuming that busy entrepreneurs, my clients, don’t have a lot of free time to spend. Base this on who your client is and survey them to find out their preferences.

Content

Instead of the standard slides with headings and bullet points, consider something refreshing. My own webinars and those I do with clients feature relevant artwork, often accompanied by fitting quotes on their topic. This creates a rich experience visually and intellectually so your slides are not just duplicating what’s being said. I regularly receive positive feedback on this approach.

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If You’re Ready to Dazzle with Your Webinar

For those who’d like to learn more and are ready to jump in, I’m hosting a small, exclusive group of entrepreneurs in an upcoming program. I’ll be sharing with you personally all I’ve learned so you can create a webinar that gets you fantastic results.

This small group online program starts in November and runs for 6 weeks. Participation is limited to 11 people because there’s copious personal attention given to your specific content plus live calls. Small groups create an energy unlike other setups where you benefit from one-onone attention as well as the magic of kindred spirit group support.

To inquire, e-mail me at sexygeek@embodyart.org. We’ll determine if we’re a good fit and you can get rockin’ with this rewarding new way to bring big connection and notch up your revenues while you’re at it.

Lovin Bytes, Katie xx Katie Geddes can be found geeking it up at Embodyart.org, where she’ll show you how to profit from your passion. Katie designs thriving businesses for playful, spiritual entrepreneurs.

E-mail Katie at sexygeek@embodyart.org to say hi, ask a question, sing a song or apply for a FREE discovery session that’s worth a friggin’ fortune.

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Career & Learning

What Does It Take To

Walk Your

Walk? ( Part 1)

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‘Authenticity’ It’s one of those buzzwords that makes eyes roll and bodies cringe whenever it comes up in a workshop or seminar. The culprit, I believe, is the over-use, miss-use and abuse of the terminology, and that’s a shame, because it tends to bring down the shutters on a topic that most of us would do well to think about from time to time.

Like many people, I used to think that having authenticity made you someone who operates at a ‘higher’ level than most. It was a quality – a way of being – that we should all possess. Something that makes us ‘better’ people. So it probably won’t surprise you to know, I also assumed that inauthentic people were fake. Two-faced. Weak. Not to be trusted. Lacking.

Of course, most of us would like to think that we’re the real deal. And that the problem exists somewhere out there – with other people, but, moi? Surely, not!

Believe me, authenticity is not as second nature as we might want to believe! As I have found through doing my own work, and in the work I do with clients, deciding to ‘Walk Your Walk’ every single day is a conscious, intentional choice. It’s certainly not an easy option, and it takes practice.

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Why Does Authenticity Matter?

Authenticity is one of the most important keys to a fulfilling life. When we know ‘who we are’, when we act in alignment with ‘who we are’ and when we express ourselves honestly as ‘who we are’ in our interactions with others, life becomes a lot more satisfying. There is generally a greater sense of clarity and freedom in our lives; a feeling of flow and ease.

Decisions become more straightforward to make. We may hear ourselves talk of feeling more grounded, balanced and contented. And the people in our lives appreciate it too.

It’s not that we no longer experience the inner frictions, confusion and angst as we did before. We simply learn to recognise the signs of dissonance when they appear. And we can then take the necessary steps to re-calibrate with our true selves and get back on an even keel.

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CV’s, to extensive use of Botox and photo-shopping our online profiles.

We tend not to think of these examples: Following a career path that we hate, but fell into; Staying in a relationship because we don’t want to be alone; Not pursuing a dream for fear others will laugh/criticise/judge; Holding back from expressing our opinions in case we look stupid; Agreeing with the boss to appear like a good team player; Failing to ask for what we really want for fear of rejection; Compromising our needs to please others or gain approval; What Does It Take To Walk Your Walk? •

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...and the list goes on! Perhaps there’s less public drama and headline news, but these situations are a lot more common and familiar to the majority of us, and not to mention extremely harmful to the quality of our lives, and our relationships.

But Hang On! If You Have To Practise Being Authentic, Doesn’t That Really Mean You Are Mostly…Inauthentic?

“The trouble starts when ‘one of those days’ start to become the norm, or when we know we’ve over-stepped something highly significant...”

The answer to this is, No. It’s not as black and white as that. We all have the capacity for living our lives authentically, but what about those days when we’re gripped by forces that prevent us from allowing our true selves to show up and be seen? Those days when we feel insignificant or shameful; when we feel powerless to affect anything; or when we really don’t know which way is up.

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I’ve had one of ‘those days’ more times than I care to remember. Did I then go ahead and show up as my most authentic self? Probably not. It doesn’t make me a bad person. Just human. The trouble starts when ‘one of those days’ start to become the norm, or when we know we’ve over-stepped something highly significant, that our conscience won’t let us forget.

For me, the early warning sign that I’ve let myself down tends to manifest internally as a sick, pitted feeling in my stomach. For you, it might show up differently. One thing’s for sure, if I try to ignore it, the universe will keep on sending me the same old challenge again and again - until I finally learn my lesson, and honour my truth!

Nature’s Lesson So here’s the thing. You weren’t put on this planet to be like everyone else.

No living species is exactly like any other. But each has its place. You are a unique, gorgeous, talented bundle of amazing-ness - and you matter! You have a role to play.

And a voice that needs to be heard. Yes, even if you don’t have all the answers. Yes, even with all your weirdness and flaws...

...Actually, because of them.

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The world needs all of us to come out from behind our masks and take a stand: to follow our truth, and not play it safe all of the time.

Worth The Risk?

There is always a personal price to pay for not Walking Your Walk, and ultimately, that’s a dream of life that ends up falling short; a life of beige, where we end up tolerating the intolerable…unless we’re prepared to take a risk - and claim it on our own terms.

Are you prepared to Walk Your Walk?

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Using

Artwork

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By Sukh Pabial 52 • Hat Trick Magazine • hattrickstrategies.com

I’m delivering a lot of coaching training at the moment. Needs of the business and all that. As happens to us L&Ders, when you repeatedly train on one topic, I start to tinker with how I’m delivering the session. One of the things I’m highly mindful of when I do this is that it needs to be supportive of the learning experience.

I pay attention to what others in this shared world of work do. Particularly I’ve been paying attention to Doug Shaw and his Art for Works Sake series, and Simon Heath and his invitational approach to using art as an expression at the recent Glasgow L&D Connect unconference.

What they’ve both helped me to come upon is how artwork can be a vehicle for discussion.

Unless you maintain artwork as a hobby or do it as your main thing, many people forget how to put pencil to paper to create art. The practise itself is not supported in many businesses, because it’s not a (directly) productive endeavour for making money.

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I’m not on a crusade to reinvigorate art in a work setting.

But I am interested in challenging people’s perceptions of their barriers and of their limitations. It’s far too easy to dismiss something as difficult and not take the time to explore why or what’s going on there. And it’s even easier to not focus on what it might look like if it were better.

So the first exercise I get the group to do is draw something in their view. I’m explicit in letting people know that their skill at drawing is entirely consequential in this context and that even if the drawing is just a series of lines, that’s enough.

I then pair people up and ask them to coach their partner to do the next iteration. Again I’m careful to not give the instruction to make it better. This isn’t about judgement. It’s about helping the partner to explore what they’re doing and what they would try again or try differently.

It’s also important to note I’m not a very arty person. I don’t find drawing easy. I enjoy it but need to spend time with it.

I’m asking people to practise something as a way for them to have dialogue later.

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“I don’t find drawing easy. I enjoy it but need to spend time with it. I’m asking people to practise something as a way for them to have dialogue later.”

I find that the coaching conversation that ensues raises a lot of interesting insights. Some people judge the other person’s drawing. Some people offer direction via their own interpretation – e.g. “you are drawing a boat. It needs to have sails.” Some decide to take authority “I’m the coach, you need to listen to me”. Some ask questions about what the person was trying to achieve. Some provide feedback.

Some offer options for improvement.

All from an opening 20 min exercise.

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Faith & Self Help

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By Karen Salmansohn 56 • Hat Trick Magazine • hattrickstrategies.com

Focus & Faith Today was the perfect day for playing at the park, which just happens to be Lizah’s most favorite place on planet Earth.

She is strong, brave and can be adventurous. The park that we visited today has these crazy bar stool things as a part of the equipment. I am not sure what they are good forbesides impending doom and broken leg bones - but Lizah loves them.

Each time she wanted to cross the stools she

would call out for me to come help her. I would grab her hand and encourage her as she stepped from one stool to the next. Each time she crossed them she called out

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for me. But each time she crossed them she went faster than the time before.

She was becoming more sure of her footing. She was becoming more confident.

She began not holding on to me as tightly. She laughed more. She proceeded forward with more freedom and assurance. She either became more self reliant or more confident in my ability to save her.

“I could hear Jesus teaching me through this moment with my toddler.”

I smiled and laughed with her as I encouraged

her to keep going. I reassured her I was there to catch her or hold her hand. I comforted her with my words and my presence. I love the combination of confidence and trust that she has in me. I am thankful. And in my moment of playfulness and gratitude Jesus was jolting my attention to Him. I could hear Jesus teaching me through this moment with my toddler.

My mind immediately flashed to Peter walking on the water as Jesus called out to him: “So Peter went over the side of the boat and walked on the water toward Jesus. But when he saw the strong wind and the waves, he was terrified and began to sink. ‘Save me, Lord!’ he

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shouted. Jesus immediately reached out and grabbed him. ‘You have such little faith,’ Jesus said. ‘Why did you doubt me?’ When they climbed back into the boat, the wind stopped. Then the disciples worshipped him. ‘You really are the Son of God!’ they exclaimed.” (Matthew 14:29-33 NLT)

Peter had faith. Peter, like my little Lizah,

trusted in the authority around him. Peter called out for rescue and “Jesus immediately reached out and grabbed him.” When Lizah called out for me to help her I didn’t leave her standing in fear, wondering if I would rescue her and comfort her. In fact, calling out for me was unnecessary because I never left her side. Yet hearing her say my name - her needing my help - made me feel loved and needed. It assured me of her need for me. It assured me that what she was accomplishing, could not have been done without me.

Am I calling out to Jesus, as my help? Am I assuring Him that I need Him for everything, for every breath, for every moment? Am I loving Him and reaching to Him? Am I thanking Him for His work in my life - work that never could have been accomplished apart from Him?

How do you think it makes our Savior feel when we call out, “Save me, Lord!”?

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Jesus does not want us to doubt Him, but

I believe He does want us to depend on Him. I previously mentioned that Lizah had either become more self reliant or more confident in my ability to save her, as she went faster and bolder across the equipment.

Are we going faster: with our decisions, with our spending, with our going and doing and living - because we have grown more confident in Christ’s provision and protection or is it possible that we are growing more self reliant and are forgetting that He is the One who calls us out, ordains our steps and is the One who rescues us when we sink?

“God has revealed to me that I have struggled with each of these areas recently. God is calling His people to step out of the boat and to walk on water.”

I am wrestling with this today. Lately a lot of my study time has been focused on contentment and faith. God has revealed to me that I have struggled with each of these areas recently. God is calling His people to step out of the boat and to walk on water: with Him and to Him. The storms around us exist for a purpose. Either they are storms of discipline: allowed for correction and to set our Focus & Faith •

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feet back on the path the Lord has planned or we encounter storms of sanctification: seasons where our faith is tested, purified and grown in perfection.

We cannot be surprised if the Lord

asks us to give up secure, familiar surroundings in order for Him to carry out His will. There were 3 things in Peter’s spontaneous request for Jesus to invite him onto the water that I can take away from this passage and I am praying that your faith will be impacted by the truth reavealed in God’s Word:

“We need to focus our eyes on Jesus when storms of life come.

Don’t focus on the circumstances or our own inadequacies.”

“When our faith falters we need to call out and reach out for Jesus, who is near and quick to rescue His children.”

“The safest place to be is the center of God’s will, even when

we find ourselves in unfamiliar and uncertain surroundings. If the Lord is calling you out, step in faith. We can trust His plans are good and He is faithful.�

I am praying for you, dear sisters, who are in the boat but too scared to take the first step. I know I am a lot like Peter and I have often found myself sinking on the water. I am praying we all focus our eyes so intently on sweet Jesus, that this world fades away into the back ground.

I am so thankful I get

to be mommy to this unique, beautiful girl.

I am thankful for the ways God speaks to me through moments with her and today I am even choosing thankfulness for her strong will, her tantrums and fits -because God uses the tough moments of motherhood to remind me just how Focus & Faith •

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Breathe.

You Are Enough

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By Gina Hussar 64 • Hat Trick Magazine • hattrickstrategies.com

I love Oprah. I love the topic of spiritual development. I devour books on living my highest self.

But the more I speak to women around the world, the more I find myself wondering: Are we being peer pressured into questioning our lives?

“Find yourself ”

“Live your purpose”

h c r a e s d n a t s e “Go on the qu ” y in t s e d e in iv for your d That’s great advice, and you should absolutely ask yourself these tough questions. Ask yourself ‘Am I happy? Am I truly happy with what I have and where I am?’ But here’s the thing – its okay if the answer to that is yes!

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causes us to dismiss the value of our current reality. Sure, there are women every where with big dreams and secret rooms in their soul that house their dual purpose. Notice I said dual, not greater.

Every moment possesses remarkable qualities.We just have to look for them.

I just want to tell you that you are enough. There seems to be a warped perception about purpose going on; one that says if you don’t feel compelled to go on an eat/pray/ love quest that you must be missing something. It’s tricked us into thinking that we shouldn’t be content. Ask yourself the tough questions. At least ask. But if you never feel compelled to do anything other than love your kids, that’s enough. If you never feel compelled to do anything beyond entertaining your friends and enjoying your Sundays, that’s enough. You don’t need to be a hero to millions to be the hero of your own story. You are enough. We stop waiting for life to be extraordinary when we realize that every moment, no matter how simple or cliche, has within it the potential to be extraordinary. Every moment possesses remarkable qualities. We just have to look for them.

Whether you are climbing Everest, sitting next to Oprah, answering the phone at a local business or cooking dinner for your kids in your small suburban town, you are heroic.

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You’ve won, you’ve lost, you’ve learned and grown and soared. You’ve fallen and you’ve risen. You’ve felt deep recesses of pain and overflowing multitudes of love.

There is an epic novel in and around our every day lives.

Each of us is living a masterpiece, one that is full of raw and beautiful moments, ups and downs, adventures and obstacles, quiet victories and huge love.

If you feel called to a dual purpose, honor it, plan for it. But if you turn inward and find that you are indeed content with what you have, celebrate that.

Embrace the incomparable nobility of being the best version of yourself in the life you are currently living.

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5 Ways Herbs Can Save Your Skin

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By Rachael Pontillo 72 • Hat Trick Magazine • hattrickstrategies.com

If you’re someone with acne, rosacea, eczema, or another embarrassing skin condition, you’ve likely tried just about everything to get rid of the problem. Am I right? I remember for me personally, I went through years of trying whatever products were advertised in my favorite magazines, whatever my friends were using (and then getting frustrated when the products seemed to work for them but not for me), and I even tried expensive professional products and medications.

In the end, it appeared that what my skin needed was nourishment–not medicine–and I gave it that nourishment internally through adequate hydration and whole foodsbased nutrition, as well as topically by making my own plant-based, all-natural skincare products. Plants–AKA nature’s medicine–were a huge part of my body’s recovery; particularly herbs.

Today I’m going to share with you five different ways herbs can save your skin as they saved mine. Oh and by the way, when I refer to herbs–I just want to make clear that I’m referring to all the different forms the plant is available in–essential oils, dried herbs, fresh herbs, you name it.

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1 Eat or Drink Them The most convenient ways to do this would be to make herbal infusions (teas), eat them raw, or cook them.

Cooking with herbs is great, but it’s too easy to overcook them in recipes, which may diminish their health benefits. I recommend adding fresh or powdered herbs to your green smoothies like mint, ginger, turmeric, or cinnamon–but my favorite way to ingest herbs is to drink them as tea. While certain plants carry the most benefits in their raw state, others are best when heated to a certain temperature for a certain period of time. Some great herbs to use for the skin are flowers: rose, hibiscus, rosehips, chamomile, lavender, calendula–but others which help the body naturally detoxify are beneficial too. Some examples are stinging nettles, burdock root, licorice root, or dandelion. You’d typically steep 1 teaspoon of herbs per 8 ounces of boiling water for 10-15 minutes. Most skin issues arise as v result of some kind of imbalance within the body–so taking herbs internally is a great way to address the issue at the source.

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in facial gel and emulsion cleansers, serums, and moisturizers. One of my favorite ways to make a toner is to simply mix equal parts of herbal tea or hydrosol with witch hazel in a glass spray bottle. You can either store this in the refrigerator or add vodka or brandy as a natural preservative–not too much though! No more than 15-20% of the total liquid measure of the end product.

3 Steam!

Steam is often used in facial treatments in spas to soften the follicles and help the products used during the treatment penetrate into the deeper layers of the skin. You can use this method of using herbs for skincare at home simply by steaming your skin over a pot of boiling water infused with fresh or dried herbs and flowers. The steam releases and carries the healing properties of the plants and soothes the skin. This is great to do as part of an at-home facial prior to applying a masque. You’d cleanse, tone, then drape a towel over your head and steam your skin (at least 18″ away from the pot) for 5 minutes. Note: don’t use heat or steam if you have rosacea!

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4 In a cleansing oil or oil serum This takes some time and effort, but you can infuse the properties of dried herbs or flowers in an antioxidant and essential fatty acid-rich plant-based carrier oil like jojoba, rosehip seed, or sesame. After 3 to 6 weeks, the oils will take on the healing properties of the plants, while retaining their own benefits. These oils make great cleansing oils, oil serums, and oil phase ingredients in skincare products.

“...it appeared that what my skin needed was nourishment… through adequate hydration and whole foods-based nutrition”

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strips or squares of fabric (can be a washcloth or small towel) soaked in a hot tea (infusion) or tincture and applied to the skin for 10-20 minutes. These treatments are great for softening the skin, draws out toxins and impurities, and delivering the plant’s healing properties directly into the skin. Be sure to use caution around the eye area depending on the herbs you use and leave the nostrils and mouth uncovered for easy breathing!

There are so many more ways to use herbs, flowers, and plants to improve your skin–this was just the tip of the iceberg Do you want to learn more about how to use herbs for skincare?

I teach an in-depth, interactive, 6-week online course called Create Your Skincare™ that teaches you to design custom products for luminous skin using all-natural ingredients including–you guessed it–herbs! Click HERE to learn more about the course, take a free sample class, and find out when our next class begins!

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Los Angeles, California (September 10, 2014) Persian-Armenian lead actor Vahik Vic Pirhamzeiwho not only played the main role - Ray Ardalan - in the suspensethriller Guardian Angel, he also thanked his fans for a warm welcome.

On Wednesday night, the fans loudly cheered

actor Vahik Pirhamzei (My Uncle Rafael), Bokeem Woodbine (Riddick, Total Recall), Colin Cunningham (Falling Skies), Ray Wise (Jeepers Creepers and Twin Peaks), Houshang Touzie (Argo, Homeland), Christopher

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Atkins (Blue Lagoon) and actress Justine Wachsberger (Twilight Saga: New Moon, Red and Sorority Row and Divergent), and Anahid Avanesian (My Uncle Rafael) as they arrived on the red carpet before the screening at Archlight Cinema.

The new indie action-drama movie is

written and co-directed by Vahik Pirhamzei, who also plays Ray, the head of a private security company assigned the task of protecting an aspiring model, Vicki (played byJustine Wachsberger), from the vicious hands of a human trafficker, Gregor (played by Cunningham). Bokeem Woodbine plays an intuitive detective chasing the case. The suspensethriller film directed by Marc Fusco has captivated fans from all over the world, netting The Guardian Angel the Prestigious Golden POM award at the POM Film Festival in Canada.

Some of the other

celebrity red carpet attendees include Lilly Ghalichi, Andy Madadian, Catherine Lidstone, Shaun Robinson, Shani Rigsbee, Malina Moye, Kevan Moezzi, Anthony Azizi, Nick Hermz, Ali Lofquist, Sean Patrick Murphy, and myself Marina BerBeryan with my cousin Joe Berberian.

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The fast-action film by

Richmond Media Entertainment is set to open in theaters in Los Angeles and throughout California on October 17, 2014.

For the “Guardian Angel” movie premiere, I showed off my style credentials in a conservative high-waist pencil skirt by Isabel Depedro, a Barcelona fashion designer, along with a black lace embroidered white silk shirt which I purchased from Macy’s. I paired it with black BCBG Maz Azria pointy heels, polka-dot stalking by Victoria’s Secret, and a black crystalstudded Christian Dior clutch, bringing “Hollywood Glam” to the Guardian Angel’s red carpet event. As for my beautyglam, I opted for a crisp make-up with a beige and peach shade complimented by a light smokey-eye look, adding a bit of sophisticated drama. The lipstick was a lightrose lip gloss whihc brought out the vividness of my face without overdoing it. My blonde locks have always been my trademark ever since I can remember, and so, big blonde hair with a focus on soft, shiny waved curls ruled the night.

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PowHERhouse Peep Sarah Jamieson Connecting Movement to Ideas that Impact Our Community and Create Change FIND ME ONLINE HERE

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Sarah Jamieson is…an Ideator; a Movement & Performance Coach; a Social Crusader; a Yoga Teacher; an Advocate for Youth; an Athlete; a Compassion Junkie; and a Public Speaker.

Sarah Jamieson is…a PowHERhouse. We recently had the opportunity to interview this bright light, and it is our pleasure to share details of her upcoming Mission as well as some genuine real-life, real-women solutions that you can implement immediately into your own Practice of PowHERful Living!

Sarah, please describe your Mission.

RUN4ACAUSE empowers people of all ages to be a hero in their community, and to do so by using the power behind their sport as a vehicle to give back. It’s been a 10-year passion project that started with connecting my passion for running with raising funds and awareness for causes that focused in 4 specific areas: mental health; at risk youth; girls’ leadership; and, first responders.

The goal was to raise 1 million dollars through small acts of impact, and to date I have raised over 1.6 million dollars for over 50 organizations. My upcoming Mission on November 9th is to run in the Beirut Marathon, “Marathon of Peace“.

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This trip is extra special because it is my FINALE race of this 10-year passion project, and I have the honour to support one of my good friend’s organizations – Passion Foundation and their Global Sorority initiative. Our hope is to mobilize 40 young girls to realize their full potential by providing them with life-changing leadership skills and tie in the #move4good theme.

Describe how you stay PowHERful and on top of your game.

My goals, dreams and ambitions are rooted in a solid foundation of the health-first model. I am only so PowHERful when I nourish my body and mind with proper nutrition, restorative sleep, decompression and exercise.

I start and end my day with meditation and reflection and I make time to move every day; whether that be a run in nature, swinging my club-bells or play. Every day I strive to move with purpose, and that feeds my soul.

What is your ultimate dream for your business/mission and where would you like to take it?

My professional designation is as a Movement Coach where I provide industry-leading tools and education in the fields of corrective exercise and recovery strategies, using integrative evidence-based movement and cognitive science. One dream I have is to be able to elevate every active profession to train-for-life and to move with purpose.

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Success is doing one thing to better myself and my world, while taking time to have gratitude for the opportunities ahead.

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What does this mean? It’s the evolution of movement – what if every one of us was able to connect our movement to a greater purpose? What if our movement could give back to others, as well as enhance our own life? My goal for my business/mission is to show the world the deep and profound connection we can have when we link movement or our sport to causes and ideas that impact our community and create change.

Describe what success looks like.

Success is living a life where I flourish. For most of my adult life I believed I needed to suffer to succeed. All the blood, sweat and tears equated to doing more or being more.

Well, if we truly listen and learn from the great leaders of the world, we see that working harder doesn’t mean better – it just means harder. Better is better. Success is being smart enough to balance out the social, psychological and biological spheres of our lives. Success is starting the day feeling revitalized, in balance and energized, and ending the day in contentment. Success is doing one thing to better myself and my world, while taking time to have gratitude for the opportunities ahead. Success is living our truth and not apologizing for that truth. That is success to me.

Describe your success strategy in one sentence.

“Own your Sh*t” – funnily enough this is also the title of my partner’s book, titled before we even met – SAY WHAT!

What would you say your Top 3 Excellence Habits are (ie. habits that ensure your success)?

Perseverance. Resourcefulness. Integrity

Describe your Top 3 Time Management Tips as they relate to your Mission.

1. There are 1440 minutes in a day. Lose “I don’t have

time” from your vernacular.

2. Keep a “to do” list with only 5-10 “to-

do’s”. Long lists never get done and make us feel inadequate. Have a small list each day so you feel proud of your accomplishments and not overwhelmed.

3. Early bird gets the worm – when you

sleep you regenerate. Wake up early. Restorative sleep will ensure optimal productivity and energy for the next day.

Describe your Top 3 Consistency Tips as they relate to your Mission.

1. Wake up at the same time every day.

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2. Fuel your body and brain accordingly. You are only

optimally consistent when your body is running on all cylinders.

3. You either ran today, or you didn’t. Training for a

marathon is no small feat, setting a weekly routine is key to being consistent. If I have a jam-packed day, then my commute to work becomes my training.

Describe collaboration and what the looks like/feels like on the ground – how does it show up in your life?

Collaboration is like a think tank. It’s a team effort where every person contributes to the overall success of any given task. In my day job, I work in an intra-disciplinary environment with physiotherapists and athletic therapists.

As a movement coach, my expertise can complement the

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work of strength coaches so that we can address a client’s needs and progress. In my campaigns with RUN4ACAUSE, I support and assist organizations which focus on an integrated approach that co-creates an amazing space from which the creative process can just flow. Collaboration shows up everywhere in my world!

Describe a favourite hobby or adventure.

My favorite hobby is…comic books. No joke. At least 85% of my day is high energy, working with clients, training, vision boarding…and so my favorite hobby is down time with my favorite comics! Not only is it an opportunity to turn off my brain, it actually creates an open space for inspiration. RUN4ACAUSE’s shtick is harnessing the power of our own inner superhero. Right now I am exploring the world of the Amazons in Wonder Woman! My favorite adventure – life!

Favourite energy meal or healthy snack?

Salads in Mason Jars! I pre-make all of my lunches so that I can grab one to go. Salads in jars are great; my favourite right now is kale, spinach, parsley, diced cucumber, tamari almonds, coleslaw, hemp seed, diced pear and tahini dressing.

Favourite indulgence or treat?

Black licorice! Panda is where it is at!

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Top 3 things on your Bucket List?

1. To run a marathon on every continent (except the Artic).

2. To write a book.

3. To meet Stan Lee. What does giving back (fulfillment) look like to you?

I don’t see fulfillment as giving back; it’s not a choice to me.

It’s a responsibility that I believe is ingrained in all of us.

We are all a part of our local and global world; therefore we all have a responsibility that goes beyond just co-existing as an individual entity. As a community, we should spend more time building each other up, connecting and inspiring each other to strive for our fullest potential. It is what we used to do as primitive human beings – a village helped raise a child – and I feel we need to get back to that kind of community. Fulfillment to me is understanding that we each play a role in the flourishing of each other.

I never leave home without…

My mom’s 3 month sobriety coin. It was one of few items that survived the fire. Having it with me reminds me of her determination and courage she had to fight a hard battle against the very disease that claimed her life – substance abuse and bi-polar disease.

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Current favorite running song…

I listen to superhero theme music, so right now it’s the Dark Knight Rises Soundtrack, but the album I can’t get enough of is ESIK, the Warrior Album.

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Please join our Virtual Event! Convert your activity on November 9th and you will be directly contributing to our cause. Your steps and miles unite us all. Raise A Runner is an exceptional way to not only stay healthy, but to give back as well. Through our partnership with FitCause,

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anyone, anywhere in the world has the opportunity to walk, step, run or move with us, to champion our Mission with us. All you need is a fitness device like Nike Plus, Moves app, RunKeeper, Fit bits (or similar) and you can join our virtual event online. Our hope is that we get 100 people walking, stepping, running, cycling, or just moving for good with our virtual event, sharing stories and championing our message.

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Charlene SanJenko is the Founder and CEO of PowHERhouse, a digital platform that provides solutions for women to keep them strong and powerful, evolves the role that we allow to fitness to play and our lives and celebrates positive, natural female role models in fitness, sport, business and community.

3 Signs You’re Stuck In Old Behaviour Patterns (And How to Break Them)

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As a specialized nutritionist and mindfulness coach, I often meet people with all kinds of worries. Many of them are struggling with their weight, others are suffering from a poor selfimage, some are desperately trying to rekindle the fire in their relationship. Then there are those who have lost the ability to fun doing just about anything.

Their common problem usually is not a lack of effort. Their problem is that they keep trying the same approach, but expect different results. Does that sound familiar? Here are three signs you’re stuck in a pattern of old behaviors, and how to break free of them.

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You’ve wanted to lose weight for so long, but can’t shed the pounds.

You try every new diet, count calories and points like a champ, often drop a size or two — then gain all the weight plus some bonus pounds back because you feel you just can’t live without junk.

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How to break the pattern: Instead of aiming to lose weight through iron discipline and sheer willpower, focus on the dos rather than the don’ts for a change. Restricting calories and cutting out certain foods works about as well as NOT thinking of a pink elephant (gotcha!).

Make a list of healthy snacks and meals you actually enjoy and put it onto your fridge.

Start small and replace one crappy meal per day with a healthy alternative every other day. Once this starts to feel natural, have one healthy meal every day.

Go on until you’ve replaced about 80% junk with simple, real and delicious food and enjoy the remaining “unhealthy” 20% without a guilty conscience.

Of course, this takes time. After a while, however, you’ll realize that you’re starting to feel better, losing weight AND acquiring a taste for your new lifestyle that fits your new wardrobe, too.

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You tell yourself you’re not good enough.

When I was still suffering from depression, I always heard a

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nasty little voice in my head. When something work-related went wrong it said, “You’re stupid!” When I was trying on new clothes and saw myself in underwear from behind in a wardrobe, it whispered: “Your thighs and belly are so fat!”

When a relationship ended, I heard it scream, “You’ll never find the man of your dreams!”

Because this voice was always there, I actually believed what it said. Does that sound familiar?

How to break the pattern: Make a list of all the things you like about yourself. Can you sing or cook? Put it on this list! Are you an awesome friend?

Put it on this list. Do you have beautiful eyes? On the list!

Stick this list on every wall in your apartment and also keep it in your email inbox. The next time you hear that nasty voice and start to feel stupid, fat or worthless again, read this list aloud until the voice fades.

Practice and you’ll become more self-confident by the day.

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You fall into codependent relationships and friendships.

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one common denominator: They had all suffered serious childhood trauma, which triggered in me the urge to “fix” them. This pattern made any happy ending or mutually beneficial friendship impossible.

Do your relationships and friendships feel like running around in circles, too? Are you more often unhappy than full of joy? Giving more than you get?

Then it’s time to get the hell out of them!

This is how to break the pattern: Make a list of all the people in your life who actually make or made you feel miserable. Analyze and scrutinize. Find their common denominator. If you’re stuck in old behavior patterns, it will not be hard to define.

And the next time you meet someone who turns out to be a perfect match for your “black list,” there’s only one thing you need to do: run and DON’T LOOK BACK! Also, make a list of all the people in your life whose company you enjoy. Where did you meet them? What do you have in common? Where do these people hang out?

Think about what you’re really looking for in a friendship or partnership and keep your distance until you find exactly that!

Being stuck in old behavior patterns is not only incredibly exhausting and frustrating, it’s also keeping you from unleashing your true potential and finding your very own “je ne sais quoi.”

It doesn’t matter whether your relationship with yourself, food, other people or your job is suffering — there’s always a way to leave unhealthy habits behind and begin building new and empowering routines.

Don’t give up, if you’ve already tried (so many times) and failed..

...Simply try something completely new!

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Two Hearts, Love Yourself Loving yourself is something that we know we should be doing, but how many of us actually put verbs into the practice of loving ourselves? And what does it really matter anyway?

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Learning to Love Yourself is hugely important.

It really is the cornerstone of your life coming together and your circumstances and relationships blossoming. It’s not arrogant or selfish to love who you are, it’s necessary.

Without this you cannot hope to manifest the life or relationships of your dreams. When you Love Yourself you are sending out a vibrational message to the universe saying, “I AM worthy of all things good,” and as we have learned thus far, the universe will respond to this and send you whatever version of all things good you are manifesting and focused on…You Attract What You Are.

In direct contrast, when you are in an energy of

not loving yourself, this sends out the opposite message of, “I AM not worthy of anything good,” and will create a resistance to positive energy and act as a magnet to the negative.

Do not confuse this with ego. People that do truly love themselves have often walked a long and challenging journey to get to this point in their lives. To Love Yourself means accepting who you are, forgiving yourself, speaking to yourself in kind and encouraging ways, looking after your body, having healthy boundaries and knowing that you are doing your best in every moment. It’s about being at peace with you in all ways, including past, present and future versions of who you are. Loving yourself is being able to Two Hearts, Love Yourself •

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let go of other people’s opinions of you and know that this does not affect the way you feel about you.

Our personal and intimate relationships are great testimonies to how we feel about ourselves. When we are prepared to step out of them and observe the patterns that we have attracted, they can be very illuminating about where we are at as individuals. Look at the experiences that you have drawn to you, and they will show you where you are resonating in terms of your own self-love.

I know from my past experience that living in

an energy of ‘not feeling good enough’ will be matched up by the universe perfectly to people and situations that give you a whole lot more of not feeling good enough.

Years ago, I allowed the tiny reserve of self-worth that I had left to be ripped away from me and trampled on, and I hardly objected at all because after all ‘I am not worthy of love’ was playing on a loop in my mind and energy field.

When I was in a place of not loving myself I drew in people that didn’t love me either, and the more I blamed myself for things going bad, the more I attracted criticism from

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others and believed that I was the cause. For me this was a situation that lasted far too long, and so chronically low was my own self-love that I actually had to be pushed out of the situation kicking and screaming. The way that I thought about myself had stopped me from believing that I was worthy of anything other than what I had, and what I had was certainly not good.

It wasn’t until I started to awaken to my spiritual journey and expand my consciousness that I could start to heal and release destructive patterns that I’d held on to for so long. I started to work on loving me and this was the moment that my life started to change in positive ways. I began to see the correlation between how I thought and felt about myself, and what the universe was sending me in my experience.

It was at this time in my life that I was blessed with

finding someone that loved me for who I was. Interestingly he had been there all along in my social circle, but we had never connected. This could be seen as irony, but I believe that there was an element of divine timing here as well as resonance. Until I had started to release some of my own baggage and start to align my vibration with knowing that I was loveable and deserving, there was no way that the universe could have matched me up with the wonderful man that was waiting all along. Until I had begun to love me I would never have attracted someone that really loved me back, because the vibration was not there to draw it in.

Sometimes as we change, the people that we are close to will also change in resonance and stay aligned with us.

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In this case relationships will remain in your life and grow.

An example of this may be when you go through a lesson with a close friend, family member, or partner that you both learn from and both understand in order to shift your consciousness.

My husband and I have shared lessons in compassion and forgiveness in this way, where a third party has wronged us and we have had the opportunity to act in ways to either seek revenge and deliberately damage them, or to act from a higher self-perspective and see the silver lining of the learning we could experience. In this case we talked it through and expressed our feelings, until we came to the conclusion that we would be damaging ourselves by deliberately damaging others. This would have been in several ways, we were not at this point experiencing forgiveness, and therefore we were carrying around a victim status which was causing resistance to our flow, and also, through Law of Attraction and The Law of Karma, wishing negative experiences for others will bring them back to you.

We both learned the same lesson at the same

time and therefore our resonance changed together, and this was a blessing. If one of us had been hell bent on seeking revenge and the other had wanted to forgive, this would have contributed to a feeling of being on a totally different page from each other. When there is a lot of dissonance in a relationship this can lead to real life discord and arguments as well as a drifting apart of the people involved.

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As you change yourself and grow you may reflect

back ideas and experiences to people in your life that embrace them and applaud your personal and spiritual development, these people are still in resonance with you.

Equally though there could well be people that don’t like the new version of you that is more self-empowered and learning to Love Yourself, if they are not in this place in themselves.

This will be an uncomfortable reflection for them and they will no longer feel in resonance with you. They may make derogatory comments about you changing. Try to look past these and know that this is their resistance and not yours.

“When there is a lot of dissonance in a relationship this can lead to real life discord and arguments as well as a drifting apart of the people involved.”

It’s a big part of loving yourself to be able to

release yourself from situations that are not in resonance with who you are becoming, especially if you are afraid of change or a people pleaser; then it’s often easier to move your own needs and beliefs further down the list and try to remain the older version of yourself in order to keep the peace. This is self-destructive and will start again to resonate to “I AM not worthy.” You will draw in more of Two Hearts, Love Yourself •

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this kind of energy, plus it’s exhausting to have to portray yourself as someone that you are not.

You need to draw on as much self-love as you can and know that you are totally worthy of being the person that you are becoming. By embracing this you are putting yourself first and this alone is sending a vibration to the universe that you Love Yourself.

What do you say to yourself that is unkind and unloving? What is showing up in your life experience as a result? How can you start to show yourself more love? “I AM lovable, I love myself and my life experience reflects this back to me in every moment.”

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About a Homemade Year

Food, Home & Family

Turnips For

Thanksgiving I love turnips at Thanksgiving. My mom usually brings them over and I fix them up! They are one of a few vegetables that I can really make a meal of. Yep, they are really that good, but I wouldn’t recommend too much over indulgence.

It seems our bodies have lost the ability to handle such foods in large amounts. This one dish comes with a multitude of different taste qualities: Bitterness (turnips), savory (bacon), salty (salt), sweetness (sugar).

Enjoy your family at this time of year. Really, make the effort to see them anew. Even if it isn’t reciprocated, it will not be forgotten.

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Method!

• Fry bacon to crispiness. Let the grease cool and retain for step 3.

• Add water, salt and sugar to the pot. Heat ingredients until dissolved.

INGREDIENTS 4 turnips peeled & diced

I love the purple outsides but they are tough when cooked. (Use the small apple size, they are less pithy)

1 cup water

Turnips are mostly water so don’t over do it

1 cup of bacon pieces

(I use “bits & pieces” bacon because you get so much more for your money)

3 tablespoons sugar 1/2 teaspoon salt

• Add turnips, bacon and cooled grease.

• Bring to boil, turn heat down, and cook until tender (but not mushy) for about 20 mins.

• Serve with cornbread…Oh. My. Goodness! Scrumptious.

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Pet Peeves

Cherie began as a weekly columnist for the main local newspaper in her area. Her articles focus on a humorous look at married life with five children and the ups and downs we can all relate to. She has won 2 international short story contests as well as being published in Our Canada magazine. Cherie is a breast cancer survivor and a huge advocate of self-exams.

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Almost anyone will agree with me when I say that I am a pretty easy going person.

I try very hard to have a positive attitude but I have to admit there are times when just looking at someone makes me want to ask them how many times they were beaten with the stupid stick.

I’m know I’m not the only one that runs into this, we all have our own personal pet peeves. Some of these are very common and it’s easy to understand why they drive people crazy.

I have to admit when I see a good looking man dressed in a nice pair of shorts and a dress shirt I will take a second look. If during that second look I see a pair of white knee high socks combined with a pair of sandals it immediately voids out the rest of the look no matter how cute he is.

If someone asks me for my opinion on something I always ask if they really want to hear the truth. It drives me crazy when people get mad at me or argue with me if my opinion is not favorable or what they are looking for.

Why do people insist on passing the car in front of them only to then slow down to a speed that forces the car they just passed to hit the brakes?

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You can talk to anyone and I bet they will agree that it is very frustrating being behind a city bus or school bus. It will usually happen when there isn’t a moment to spare but even if your not in a rush or late for something the stopping and starting is enough to bring on an episode of motion sickness.

A personal pet peeve I have is when my husband has the remote and can’t decide on a channel. I know what he’s like so I try not to even look at the TV while he switches between shows like someone with multiple personalities. It’s like he knows just how long to keep a show on, the exact amount of time it will take for me to unwillingly get interested in what’s on. From the corner of my eye I see his arm raise with the remote outstretched towards the receiver. In my mind I can hear the music from the Six Million Dollar Man begin to play as I vault from my chair and sprint towards him in true Lee Majors slow motion style reaching for the remote before he can press the button and satisfy the next personality. He wonders why he can never find the remote and he thinks the kids are responsible and sometimes he’s right.

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of force they would need to chip through concrete. It never fails that the fork will slide away under the force and all that can be heard is the spine chilling screeching of the knife scratching across the plate.

I have the same bone chilling reaction to the sound or even the thought of fingernails on a chalkboard.

My mouth aches when I see anyone bite an ice cream cone or sink their teeth into the top of a popsicle.

Double dipping is a huge pet peeve and the mere thought of it makes one of my aunts gag. She will guard the veggie tray at family gatherings to make sure there’s none of that happening.

Now a days everyone has earphones on either listening to music or talking on their phone. It makes me cringe when I see someone grab an earphone out of a persons ear and stick it in their own.

There are individuals that have not learned what “personal space” is. Those people who feel anything more than a two inch span between you is to much. I don’t understand, do they think you can’t hear them if they aren’t directly in your face?

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too worried I will embarrass them. So instead I stand there blatantly wiping the spray from my face hoping they get the message.

Adults aren’t the only ones who have pet peeves.

I have noticed that children have just as many strange idiosyncrasies as we grown ups do.

Some kids cannot stand to have their food touching when it is placed on the plate. They will go so far as to not eat the potatoes if they are touching the vegetables.

I have heard of other kids that won’t eat foods that are a certain colour. I thought it was hard just thinking of things to cook never mind having to worry about it being colour compatible.

My kids will not eat anything that is broken. If we are at the bottom of the bag of cookies with only pieces left I have to finish them myself. (Sometimes motherhood can be so demanding.)

If I peel a banana and it breaks into two pieces they don’t want it. I really don’t get the reasoning with this; the food is going to break as soon as they bite it anyway. I have tried to explain this to my children but to no avail. The food must be intact for it to be considered edible, pet peeve or future perfectionist?

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in her room. She would arrange them neatly in a row from smallest to largest. Every time she walked into her room she would make sure they were all in their place. Even if there was one slightly askew she would have to fix it before doing anything else. I wondered if this was a glimpse of what she would be like when she got older, maybe living by the motto “a place for everything and everything in it’s place”, but yeah…no, not even close!

Some pet peeves are cute, some make no sense, and others are down right aggravating, but before we criticize what our kids are doing, make sure it’s not something they learned from watching us.

If you have any comments then please feel free to email me at lifes.moments@live.ca

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