First, I would say that a lot of people believe positive or spiritual thoughts will save them from uncomfortable feelings. I’ve seen some use “positive thinking” as an attempt to escape or avoid something they don’t want to face or feel. Wanting only the happy moments, only the positive feelings, not only isn’t possible, it isn’t real happiness. True happiness comes when we can meet life as it shows up. When we become bigger than an emotion that passes through us, we begin to have freedom and true happiness. We are then able to hold all of our feelings, including grief, anger, loneliness, and shame. The more we can allow it all and strengthen our ego, the more we can relax and be truly happy. Otherwise, we remain afraid of life and painful feelings. This may sound counterintuitive to positive thinkers, but the way to bring more positive energy and success into our lives is to face the full spectrum of our feelings and thoughts (from positive to painful), especially around our stuck places. Because as we face, feel, and integrate (unhook) our stuck energy, we naturally move into more of a flow and we become freer, lighter, and happier. So the more we work on and heal ourselves, the easier it is to become positive and stay positive for longer periods of time, although our messy human life guarantees we’ll have a roller-coaster ride through the emotions, and that’s okay.
15. What are some of the ways you’ve seen your work and your clients change over the last 20 years of your work?
Dr Jennifer perfoming one of many book readings, this time in Nashville, TN 32 • Hat Trick Magazine • hattrickstrategies.com
I’ve had the great honor of many people passing through my door, so to speak. I’m happy to share a few of the ways people have healed and changed through our work together, but in order to