GSB News: October 2013

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The Monthly Newsletter for Gill St. Bernard’s School

News

October 2013

October 2013

The Monthly Newsletter for Gill St. Bernard’s School

Inside 2 Homecoming & Family Day

3 Stone Soup Day

4 GSB Golf Classic

5 Parents' Association

Breakfast

6 Headmaster's Reception 7 Seniors Named National

Merit Scholarship Semifinalists

8 GSB Players to Present

The Servant of Two Masters

9 Student Life Recap: Spirit Cup Contest

10 Beyond the Science Lab

11 Athletics: Pep Rally Varsity Girls' Soccer Kicks It to Ovarian Cancer

12 Varsity Sports Round-Up

15 Dates to Remember

From the Headmaster At our opening Parents’ Association Breakfast, I had the opportunity to share a few thoughts with all in attendance. Among the many topics touched upon, large and small, was my hope that we all agree on the importance of helping our children become more resilient. Whether or not you use the term or its equivalent “grit,” it is a quality that is essential for success and the quest to live a healthy, more balanced life. Setbacks, turbulence and even calamities are inevitable events for all of us. Yet, if we never experience them on a small scale (think, receiving a poor grade on a test, losing a game, or failing to accomplish something that we have worked hard for) it becomes even more difficult to cope with the more significant disappointments (such as college or a job) that we inevitably encounter later in life. Back to school nights are currently taking place at area schools, public and private alike. This is the time of year we often hear about how some other schools are offering real-time or “live” grades for parents to receive weekly or even daily updates on their child’s progress at school. Some schools even offer mobile app technology, which sends results for projects, tests, quizzes, and homework assignments straight to a parent’s phone or iPad. In a few cases, parents might receive the grade even before the student does. I, along with my leadership team, feel this is a misguided and unfortunate approach to education. With this type of “helicopter” parenting, how do students learn to manage their own lives? How will they grow? How can they be expected to operate as adults in the real world without first practicing independence and personal responsibility as students? As a parent, I understand how difficult it is to see one of my children struggle or make a poor decision. It is only natural for all of us to choose to intercede and protect, or at the very least help. We rationalize our interventions as necessary because the particular issue is “too important.” However, such action helps only in the short term, and if too frequent, causes long-term problems. When you do your children’s homework or “fight their battles,” the ultimate message is not “I love you, and would do anything for you” or even that they cannot do it without you. Rather, it is that they cannot do it at all. This message (though unintended), repeated often enough, prevents healthy growth and independence. At Gill St. Bernard’s we believe in the importance of balance. Yes, we prepare our students for college,

Gill St. Bernard’s School • St. Bernard’s Road • Gladstone, NJ 07934

Headmaster Sid Rowell.

but more important, we prepare our graduates for a meaningful life. We want our students to be mature, responsible young adults who can give back and add real value to the communities in which they live and work. Most of our greatest innovators and leaders suffered significant setbacks at some point in their lives; it was only through endurance, courage and resilience that they were ultimately able to succeed. Steve Jobs was fired from Apple, the company he established. Abraham Lincoln lost eight elections, failed in two business ventures and suffered a nervous breakdown before successfully leading our country through its greatest constitutional crisis. Without resilience, without the ability for these leaders to overcome adversity, their greatest accomplishments may have never been realized. So while other schools are offering real-time grades and Gill may seem “old fashioned” in the eyes of our tech-savvy parents, this type of technology will not be a part of our culture any time in the near future. I believe that another result of real-time grade posting is an undue parental focus on grades that inhibits a student’s ability to develop executive functioning skills. I am also confident that if we pause and truly think about the educational process and the core values that define Gill St. Bernard’s, most would agree that anything that deprives our students of the natural learning process—which includes fostering the ability to overcome setbacks—has no place at our school. Warm regards,

Sid Rowell 1.


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