AUTHENTICITY. WELLNESS. JOYFUL LIVING.
JULY, AUGUST, SEPTEMBER 2025
LIVING IN HEAVEN
Teshuva and self alignment
THE SHINING STARS
The courage of kids who forge their own path
SUMMER OF PROTEIN
Your strongest, most satisfied self
RETHINKINGSUNSCREEN
The good the bad and the truth about the sun
SUMMER E D I T NOI SUMMER E D I T NOI
4EDITOR’SNOTE WELCOMETOSUMMER
5MYFAVORITES
EYELET,CHROMEANDCREATINE
12FOOD
THESUMMEROFPROTEIN
15HEALTH
GETTINGPRIMED FOR LONGEVITY
24FASHION
THEMOSTVIBRANT SUMMERWEAR
42ROOMTORUNWAY
RAFIAANDPEARLS:THOSE DREAMYTRENDINGTEXTURES
50SPIRITUALITY
CREATINGALIFEOFALIGNMENT: BYBASYAKOVAKS
62ASKTHE COACH
RE-ATTRACTINGANEMOTIONALLY CHECKEDOUTHUSBAND:BYRIVKY KIZELNIK
67ASTROLOGY
FROMCONSTRICTIONTO CLARITY: NAVIGATINGTHE INTENSE MONTHSOFSUMMER
6TIPSFORBESTSUMMER HYDRATE,EXPLORE,FLOWAND GROW
16FITANDHEALTHY ONVACATION
BESTWELLNESSTIPSFORSUMMER TRIPSBYCOACHILANITJOURNO
19RETHINKING SUNSCREEN
THESUNDIDN’TCHANGE,WEDID. BYMICHALLARAWEINSTEIN
33SUMMERFASHION GLOW-UP
SUMMER’S7MUST-HAVE PIECES BYDEVORAGOLAN
39ALFRESCODINING A DREAMYOUTDOORTABLESCAPE BYSHARONLANGERT
45THESHININGSTARS
LESSONSFROMKIDSFINDINGTHEIR OWNPATHBYSHARONLANGERT
54RECLAIMINGTHE SPARKFROMWITHIN 7STEPSTORETURNTOYOUR ALIGNEDSELFBYTANIADELMANI
58CLIMATEPROOFCURLS BECOMEACURLYHAIRREBELQUEENBY STYLISTBLEEMAWEISSMAN
65GETINSPIRED FORROSHHASHANA
RECIPES,DECORANDSPIRITUALITY FOR THEUPCOMINGHOLIDAYS
sitjustme,ordoessummerhaveahabitof showing up like that friend who just pops in wearing flip flops, blasting music, and asking what’sforlunch?
Ifyourschedule’soff,yourhouseisloud,andyou're wondering how it's still only 10:15 AM when the kitchen already looks like a tornado hit, welcome tosummer.Thekidsarehome,routinesareoutthe window,andforgetaboutany‘metime’!
Somehow, the days stretch out and blur together, but isn’t there something magical about it all? We figure out how to shift gears, adjust expectations, andstillfindjoyinthechaos
Thisissueisyourmid-summerexhale areminder that beauty, meaning, and your sanity are all still available, even if your calendar looks more like a crayonexplosionthanaplanner.
Speaking of crayon explosions, this month we’re celebratingcolor—inallitsbold,brightglory.We’re swooning over flowy summer dresses, eyecatching beachwear, and breezy cover-ups that whisper “vacation goddess,” even if you feel far fromthat.InspiredbyourfavoriteInstafeeds(you know the ones that make you want to buy everything), we’ve rounded up looks that will virtuallytransportyoutoexoticlocales.
Need a little deeper nourishment? In this issue we’re bravely stepping into conversations that matter likewhatitmeanswhenourkidsbeginto step away from the path we raised them on Our “Hot Topic” this month explores the heartwrenching,soul-expandingjourneyofkidsleaving our path for their own, with honesty, compassion, and zero judgment. Our “Ask the Coach” feature divesintosmartrelationshipadviceforgettingreconnected when our loved one seems checkedout.
We’re also here to make this your healthiest summer ever with easy, high protein recipes, tips forgettingfitlaterinlife,andgettingyoursummer glow-up both physically and spiritually. We’re also taking a hard look at the sunscreen debate (because you know there’s more to that conversationthanSPF30)
So wherever these next few months find you barefoot on the porch, under an umbrella at the beach, or hiding in the bathroom for five minutes of silence this issue is here to remind you that even in the heat, even in the mess, even in the unpredictabilityofitall...lifeisbeautiful.
Some of my
1. White Eyelet Sets: Fresh and feminine at its best.
2. Custom Name Bangle: I love this bold expression of self.
3. The Hebrew Letters by Rabbi Yitzchak Ginsburgh: For the deep kabbala lovers out there.
4. French Chrome Nails: Clean elegance at your fingertips.
5. Double Headband: Keep your hair off your face with this fresh take on a timeless trend.
6. Beaded Pearl Sandals: Cool and comfortable can also be so pretty.
7. Creatine Monohydrate: Boost your muscles and your brain with this kosher version of the latest health trend.
Hydration isn’t just about guzzling water it’s about how well your body absorbs it. Not all water is created equal, and during summer heat, a pinch of mineralrich sea salt can help your cells retain fluid more effectively by supporting electrolyte balance (think sodium, magnesium, and potassium). Even better? Snack on water-rich fruits and vegetables like watermelon, cucumber, and berries. Their structured water bound in fiber and natural sugars is more easily absorbed by your cells, keeping you cooler and more hydrated for longer.
Summer doesn’t have to mean a packed itinerary or far-off flights. Sometimes the sweetest adventures are found close to home in spontaneous day trips, quiet staycations, orhiddencornersofnature Lettheseasoninviteyoutoslowdown, wander without a plan, and follow the glimmers: a sun-dappled path, a breezy journal session under a tree, or an unexpected conversation with a stranger Let go of the pressure to “makeitallfit, ” andinstead, makeroomforpresence That’swheretherealmagiclives
Is your summer rhythm feeling a little all over the place? Perfect. When kids are coming and going on their own timelines, the best thing we can do is flow with it. Embrace the late-night kitchen chats, the midday coffee runs, the shifting plans and spontaneous drop-ins. Let go of the need to organize every moment and instead savor the small windows of connection those unplanned moments where everyone just happens to be in the same place at the same time. That’s what summer’s really about.
Get your glow on the effortless way this summer. When the temps rise, less really is more think dewy skin and lighter makeup-just a swipe of waterproof mascara, and a juicy lip gloss that catches the light. Get your skin gleaming with light coconut oil as a natural moisturizer (bonus: it smells like vacation and even has a bit of spf.) Toss on a bright pop of color—nails, lips, or that vibrant, happy dress you forgot you loved—and let your natural glow take center stage. Easy, radiant, you.
This is your sign to stop running on sugary iced coffee and unhealthy snacks that offer almost no nutrition. Protein is the unsung hero of your summer keeping your energy high, your mood stable, and your muscles strong (yes, the ones you use for carrying beach bags and chasing kids around). The best part? It’s easier than ever to sneak it into your day from post-swim snacks to easydinners , we’re showing you how to make this the summer your body truly feels supported.
FridgeFinds
-Greekyogurt
-Cottagecheese
-Eggs
-Pre-cookedgrilledchickenorturkeyslices
-Tofuortempeh
-Hummus
-Stringcheeseorslicedcheese
-Freshedamame(shelledorinpods)
-Hard-boiledeggs(store-boughtorhomemade)
-Tunaorsalmonsaladcups
-Frozenwild-caughtsalmon,tuna,orseabass -Chickenbreastsand thighs
-Turkeyandbeefpatties
-Frozenedamame
-Proteinsmoothiepacksorfrozenfruit
-Proteinwafflesorpancakes
PantryStaples
-Cannedtuna,salmon,orsardines
-Naturalnutbutters
-Chiaseeds,flaxseeds,orhemphearts
-Chickpeas
-Proteinpowder(whey,plant-based,orcollagen)
-Lentils,quinoa,blackbeans
-High-proteingranolaorbars
-Wholegraincrackersorricecakes
22 Grams of Protein/Serving
Ingredients:
1 pound ground beef
2 medium zucchinis, diced
1 large sweet potato, peeled and cubed
1 small onion, finely chopped
2 cloves garlic, minced
1 teaspoon smoked paprika
1 teaspoon dried oregano
Salt and black pepper, to taste
2 tablespoons olive oil
Fresh parsley, chopped (for garnish)
Instructions:
Heat the olive oil in a large skillet over medium heat. Add the chopped onion and minced garlic, sautéing for 2-3 minutes until fragrant and softened. Add the ground beef to the skillet, breaking it apart with a spoon as it cooks. Brown the beef for 5-7 minutes or until no longer pink. Drain any excess grease if needed. Stir in the sweet potato cubes and season with smoked paprika, oregano, salt, and black pepper. Cover the skillet and cook for about 10 minutes, stirring occasionally, until the sweet potatoes are tender.
Add the diced zucchini to the skillet, cooking uncovered for an additional 5 minutes to soften while maintaining a slight cru
Remove from heat and garnish with parsley before serving warm
Source: Averyrecipes.com
30 Grams of Protein/6 oz. Chicken Breast
Marinate the Chicken: In a bowl, whisk together 1/4 c. honey, 2 tbl. lime juice, 1 tsp. lime zest, 2 cloves minced garlic, salt, and pepper. Add the chicken breasts and marinate for at least 15 minutes.
Cook the Chicken: Heat a grill or skillet over medium-high heat. Cook the marinated chicken for 6-7 minutes on each side, or until fully cooked through and no longer pink in the center. Remove from heat and let rest for a few minutes before slicing.
Prepare the Rice: In a bowl, combine the cooked rice (1 cup uncooked), ¼ c. chopped cilantro, 1 tbl. lime juice, and salt. Mix well to combine.
Prepare the Avocado: In a separate bowl, toss the avocado slices with 1 tbl. lime juice, salt, and pepper to prevent browning.
Assemble the Stack: On a plate, start with a layer of the cilantro lime rice, followed by slices of the grilled chicken, and then the avocado slices. Drizzle with any remaining honey-lime dressing.
12.6 Grams of Protein per serving
Ingredients
1 cup almond flour
1/3 cup protein powder
2 tbsp cocoa powder
1 tsp baking powder
1/2 tsp salt
1/3 cup melted coconut oil or butter
2 eggs
2/3 cup sugar or granulated erythritol
1 tsp pure vanilla extract
1/2 cup mini chocolate chips (optional)
Preheat oven to 350 F Grease an 8-inch pan, or line it with parchment. Stir all ingredients well. Spread into the pan, using a second sheet of parchment if needed to press down evenly. Bake 20 minutes, then let cool. They continue to firm up as they cool and also firm up even more if you very loosely cover and refrigerate overnight.
Source: Chocolate Covered Katie
By: Coach Ilanit
Functional Nutrition Coach • CEO of Fit
You’ve been doing so well Drinking your water, prioritizing your protein, maybe even starting to enjoy workoutsthatdon’tfeellikepunishment (Whoknew?!)Andnow it’svacationtime
Cue the: “How am I going to keep this up?” “What will I eat?” “How do I NOT come home bloated, tired, andfeelinglikeIundideverything?”
I hear you I’ve coached a multitude of Jewish women around the world, and I’ll tell you this: Vacation can be part of your healthy lifestyle not the thing that throws you off it If you’ve ever felt like vacation equals startingover,you’renotalone.Butthatdoesn’thavetobeyourstory.
With a few smart tools and simple shifts, you can travel, relax, recharge and come home feeling even morealignedinyourbodythanwhenyouleft.Becausefit,healthy,andhappyismorethanavibe it’sa decision.
Here’showtostaygrounded,joyful,andnourishedonvacation withouttheguilt.
Your body isn’t looking for perfection it’s looking for rhythm. That’swhyIteachtheABCMealMethodinsideFitMomentum because it works anywhere: hotels, restaurants, road trips, airports,orShabbatmeals Nostress Norules
A.AnchorwithProtein:Proteinkeepsyourenergysteady,your musclesstrong,andyourbloodsugarbalanced.Somegreat protein options are: Grilled chicken | Tuna salad | Eggs & cottagecheese|Greekyogurt|Lentils+hard-boiledegg
B Build with Color & Fiber (Veggies Most): Gut health Hormone balance Satiety Energy
Think Israeli salad, cabbage slaw, roasted eggplant, grilled zucchini, green beans or even pickled veggies
C Complete with Smart Carbs or Healthy Fats Choose your fuel based on how you feel and what your body needs like Sweetpotato,brownrice,quinoa,avocado,hummus,roasted squash,feta,olivesortahini.
Let’sditchthefoodguilt Vacationsarenotaboutbeing “good” they’reaboutfeelinggood
✔ Oneheavymealwon’tundoyourprogress.
✔ Onesaladdoesn’tmakeyouarebbetzinofwellness.
✔ What matters is: How do you feel after you eat? Energized?Clear?Orbloatedandcranky?
ProHack:Eatdessertafterafullmeal(notonanempty stomach). When you’ve already had veggies, protein, healthy fats plus smart carbs, dessert hits differently. Lessglucosespike.Moresatisfaction.Lesscravingslater. That’sbloodsugarbalance101
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Before you caffeinate, hydrate Before sightseeing Before anything.
Hydrationisyourfirstwinoftheday.
✔ Sipwaterfirstthingwhenyouwakeup
✔ Reusablewaterbottleonthego
✔ Addlemonplusapinchofsaltforminerals
✔ Cravingfancy?Sparklingwaterwithlimeoversugarycocktails.
Yes, we love a spontaneous moment, but smart planning means less stress, which also means better foodchoices Herearesomethingsyoucando:
✔Research Kosher Spots Use Kosher GPS, Shamashorg,oraskyourhotelconcierge
✔CallAhead Hotelsmayofferkosher-friendlymenus orworkwithlocalcaterers.
✔Smart Snacks to Pack: Shelf-stable tuna or salmon pouches cutveggiesandsingle-serveguac,low-sugar, proteinbars(alwaysmoreproteinthansugar tokeep blood sugar stable and your brain happy,) almonds, roastedchickpeas,orchiapacks
Pro Hack: Keep snacks in your purse, beach bag, and day trip tote. Hungry Imas make impulsive choices. Fed Imasfeelfabulous
Forgetthepressureof"burningoff"yourmeals.Instead,think: Whatmovementfeelsgoodrightnow?
✔ Morning walks → especially before or after mealsRambam-recommended!
✔ Afamilystrollafterdinner.
✔ Dance,drop&movewitha10&DonefromYouTube.
✔ Take the stairs, stroll the town, rent a bike, or do a few squatswhilebrushingyourteeth (Yes,thatcountstoo!)Even stretchingcounts Keepitlight,fun,andloving
PS My YouTube isn’t just workouts it’s Kosher Fitness with movement, mindset, and Jewish music that lights up your soul.Comeforthefitness,stayforthevibe.@getfitima
Let’sbereal:Shabbatfoodcanfeelextra.Butitdoesn’t havetode-railyourwholeweek.
✔Fuelupearlierinthedaywithproteinandveggies.
✔Enjoychallahwithyourmeal notaloneonanempty stomach.
✔Startwithveggies,thenprotein, thencarbs&healthy fats
✔Goforawalkwithfamilyafterthemealfordigestion and connection
The order you eat your food matters. Keep glucose steady,energyup,andcravingslow.
Strongoverskinny Nourishedoverperfect Unapologeticallyprioritizingyourhealth evenonvacation
It’snotaboutwillpower,dieting,orfoodrules.It’sabouthonoringyourenergy,yourbody,andyourseasonoflife.InsideFit Momentum, a growing community of Jewish women 40+ are shifting the way they approach fitness, food, and health throughstrength,mindset,andsustainableroutinesthatactuallywork It’snotaquickfix It’sawayoflife Onerootedin joy,rhythm,andrealtransformation Wefocusonwhatmattersmost:Protein•Muscle•Mindset
Becausewhenyoufuelrightandmoveinlove,everythingshifts fromtheinsideout.Whatyou’vereadhere?Justataste. Thetools,thesupport,theconsistency that’swhat’swaitingforyouinsideFitMomentum.So startwhereyouare:
✅ MakeyournextmealanABCplate
✅ Moveyourbodywithintention
✅ Drinkwaterbeforecoffee
✅ Trya10&DoneonYouTube(@getfitima)
Youdon’thavetodoeverything.Justonething today.Thenagaintomorrow.Becauseyou’renotjustonvacation.You’re onamission.Andyou’vegotthis!
Love,Ilanit
disruption, cellular damage, and even cancer Chemicals like oxybenzone, octinoxate, and homosalate are known to disrupt hormone balance, absorb into the bloodstream and generate free radicals when exposed to UV light. Some of these are banned in places like Hawaii for harming coral reefs yet we ’ ve been rubbing them into our children’s skin
Several brands were quietly pulled from shelves, leaving parents feeling betrayed and guilty
We had tried to protect our kids. Were we actually harming them?
Thankfully, mineral-based sunscreens made with nonnano zinc oxide or titanium dioxide offer a safer option They sit on the skin’s surface, reflecting UV rays rather than absorbing them But the deeper question remains: Is the sun really the enemy they told us it was?
Sunlight, in smart and moderate doses, isn’t dangerous. It’s essential So why didn’t they tell us that?
And what about sunglasses? Sure, they’re stylish but they block more than glare Our eyes help regulate melanin production our body’s natural sunblock by signaling the brain that we ’ re in sunlight When we wear sunglasses and coat our skin in SPF 50, we block the signals but not the rays. We stop the burn without building the barrier. So when we finally get sun say, on vacation we burn easily. The sun becomes an aggressor, not an ally
And there’s another layer no one talks about: diet
Most processed foods and even “healthy” snacks are loaded with omega-6-rich seed oils (canola, soybean, sunflower grapeseed) These oils break down under heat and light inside your skin creating free radicals when exposed to UV. That means more nflammation, more burning, and yes, potentially more cancer People in the 60's and 70's didn’t eat industrial seed oils They cooked with butter and tanned with coconut oil Their skin was built differently from the inside out
Then there’s our lifestyle. We live under artificial lights, glued to blue-lit screens deep into the night, and rarely step outside Blue light, especially at night, suppresses melatonin a hormone that doesn’t just help us sleep, but also supports immune function, reduces inflammation, and repairs DNA Without enough melatonin, our bodies can’t heal the UV damage we fear The modern lifestyle has removed the sun from the day and the dark from the night leaving us disconnected, depleted, and out of sync.
So what’s the real answer?
Start by doing your own research Don’t blindly trust industries that profit off fear Ask questions Connect the dots
It’s time to rethink our relationship with the sun
It may sound crazy, but…
What if the rise in melanoma isn’t happening despite all our sun protection but because of it?
What if sunburns aren’t just about UV rays but about the internal state of our skin?
I came across a concept called the “solar callus” the idea of slowly, intentionally reintroducing natural sunlight to our skin and eyes (without burning), allowing the body to rebuild its resilience We can support this process by cutting back on seed oils and eating antioxidant-rich foods like berries, moringa, and omega-3s
So how do we achieve a solar callus? Here are some ways to start: Skip the sunglasses Wear a wide-brimmed hat Use clean, mineral-based sunscreen only when necessary not as a daily reflex Build your sun tolerance slowly Nourish your skin from within Maybe the sun isn’t something to fear but something to understand and respect Think of fire: it can cook your food or burn your house down. The difference? How you use it. The sun is no different. It’s powerful, life-giving and demands mindfulness, not avoidance.
Personally, I sit in the shade or wear hats during peak hours I build my tolerance in the winter with short, intentional exposure I eat clean, avoid seed oils, and protect my skin from the inside out I’ve ditched daily sunglasses and use sunscreen only when truly needed
This is what I call practicing Safe Sun and I encourage you to explore it for yourself Don’t fall for fear-based marketing. Don’t outsource your common sense. Because maybe just maybe like so many things we ’ re now rethinking…
They got it wrong
But the good news? It’s not too late to get it right
Michal Lara Weinstein is a graphic designer, content creator, and outspoken advocate for holistic living. She’s passionate about questioning mainstream narratives, exploring natural health solutions, and helping others reconnect with the wisdom of nature. You can follow her insights and lifestyle at @mlwdesignny.
I don’t know if the algorithm is reading my mind or just knows my heart—but lately, my Instagram feed has been a steady stream of swoon-worthy dresses and swim outfits. Flowy, feminine, effortless... and surprisingly affordable. It’s like the universe (or at least Meta) is whispering, “You need this. And this. Oh and definitely this one.” Naturally, I had to share the bestofthebunchwithyou.
And can we talk about yellow for a minute? That sun-soaked, joy-drenched color keeps popping up like a reminder to lighten up and lean into summer. There’s something about a yellow dress that feels like happinessyoucanwear.So I’ve rounded up a whole page of them—because if sunshine had a wardrobe, thiswouldbeit
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This season, let your mind drift to the jeweled coasts of Europe where fashion meets fantasy and every sunbeam feels like a love note. Inspired by the effortless allure of the French Riviera, the intoxicating charm of Capri, and the iconic, windswept beauty of Santorini, we’ve curated a collection of headturning swimwear from Flaxmaker a brand that, as if by magic, keeps appearingonmyInstagramfeed.Weareobsessedwiththevibrantcolorsand prints...andtheirmatchingcover-upsorskirts!Thesepiecesaren’tjustmadefor vacation they’remadefordreamingofheavenlyescapesandcolorfulliving!
Summer ‘25
ummer isn’t just a season, it’s a state of mind. The days are longer, schedules soften, and the abundant sunshine invites an effortless elegance; a chance to show up a little lighter, a little brighter, and entirelyyourown
Your wardrobe is a Powerful tool for selfexpression, confidence, and alignment When you get dressed with intention, you don’t just change your outfit, you shift your energy.
These seven summer staples will keep you feelingfreshandconfidentwhetheryouare relaxing on the beach, chauffeuring your kids to camp, powering through in the boardroom, and everywhere in between. This is your Ultimate summer glow-up checklist
A flowy white skirt or crisp cotton shorts
This is your ultimate summer neutral. It’s clean, goes with everything, and instantly elevates any outfit. A white bottom feels bothpolishedandrelaxed.
Stylist Tip: Choose high-waisted styles for a flattering silhouette Pair with a fun colorfultoporminimalneutrals
OwntheMoment:Whiterepresents light. This uber chic piece reminds you to stay cool and collected while standing out and shining yourlight.
Gone are the days of oversized shapeless tees. Truth be told, they were never really complimentary on anyone so I, for one, am not sorry to see this style go Your summer t-shirt shouldfeelgoodonyourskinandevenbetteron yourspirit.
Stylist Tip: Choose a slightly fitted style with a fun graphic, bold color, or interesting trim or embellishments.
OwntheMoment:Thisteeisyourquiet confidence. It's casual on the outside, butrootedinpurpose-areminderthat yourpowerdoesn’tALWAYShavetobe loudtobefelt.
Notethe“statement”here Youprobablyalready own a bunch of easy, basic, summer dresses. This dress should be different. The kind of dress thatmakesyoufeelfabulouseverytimeyouput iton.Maybeit’sanamazingprintorastandout silhouette. Throw it on, step outside, and let the complimentsrollin.
Stylist Tip: When the temperature rises, breathable fabrics like cotton or linen are your friends. Wrap dresses, tiered styles, or dresses with a unique sleeve are some good picks to lookfor.
Own the Moment: This dress gives you permission to show up with softness AND strength. It lets you leadwithease,noteffort.Playwithcolororprintto showoffyourpersonality.
The right sandals don’t just complete your outfit, they carry youboldlytochangehowyouwalk into a room A sandal that combines beauty and function is theverybestkind.
Stylist Tip: Soft leather and cushioned soles will keep you comfortable all day. Details like metallic shades, buckles, or straps willupgradeyourlookeverytime.
Own the Moment: Every step you take is a Declaration.Yoursandalsshouldsupportthepath you 'reclaimingwhilelookingeffortlesslychic.
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Protective and powerful, a sunhat frames your face and finishes your look with intention and style.Naturalstrawgoeswitheverythingortrya blackoneforalittledrama.
Stylist Tip: Really anything goes when it comes to straw hats. Wide brims and floppy styles have becomeaclassicforthelastcouple of seasons. This summer, bucket hats and visors are making a comeback.
OwntheMoment:Ahatdoesn'tjustprovideshade, itprovidespresence.Itsays,“IknowwhoIam,and I’mnothidingfromthesunorthespotlight.”
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A woven straw or raffia bag is your reliable, stylish sidekick to hold all your essentials. This carry-all effortlessly bridges the gap between casual and polished. Take it everywhere, from open-air markets to client meetings. It adds texture, purpose, and ease to any outfit, whether you ' re pairing it with a cute summer dress or yourfavoritepowersuit.
Stylist Tip: Look for bags with leather straps or canvas lining for durability. Medium to large sizes will hold all your essentials (with a little room to spare!). Avoid extra large totes that feel bulky.
Own the Moment: This bag carries more than just yourdailytools,itremindsyouthatyou'reequipped for whatever the day brings. Wherever you go, whateveradventureyouembarkon,you’llbeready.
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This one is my personal favorite, and I’ve acquired quite the collection of signature sunniesovertheyears.Sunglassessharpenyour whole look and amplify your attitude. Like jewelry, they can be changed up and utilized to portray a message, depending on your outfit andyourmood.
Stylist Tip: Try oversized frames, mirrored lenses, orthinangularshapestomakeastatement.Go beyond basic black - tortoiseshell, metallic accents,orwhiteframesalladdinterest.
Own the Moment: Sunglasses are your visual armor. Slide them on, and your cool factor immediately rises. The right pair will transform eventhemostbasicofoutfitstoinstantchic.
ThemostpowerfulpieceyoucanwearisIntention, and the most beautiful accessory is confidence. ThesesevenSummerEssentialsaren’tjustseasonal staples. These items, along with everything you wear, should be used as tools to help you move throughlifewithmoreclarity,self-assurance,and joy.
It’stimetoviewyourclosetwithfresheyesandget dressed with purpose. And remember, when your style reflects your essence, you don’t just get noticed,yougetremembered.
Thissummer,letyourwardrobebeareflectionof yourevolution.Light.Bold. geticallyyou.The realglow-upisn’taboutth s,it’saboutwhat thoseclothesunlockinyou
Summer wanderlust beckons, yet not everyone can escape to distant shores. Instead of gazing wistfully at others’ glamorous travels and letting FOMO take hold, why not craft your own European-inspired soirée right at home?
Transform your backyard into a romantic haven, where cherished memories with friends and family can blossom under the warm embrace of summer
Creating a stunning table is both simple and affordable Adorn it with lush greenery from your garden and the soft glow of candles nestled in mason jars Fill it to the brim with fresh vegetables and vibrant salads, evoking the essence of a European feast Delight your guests with a splendid beverage dispenser brimming with mint and lemon-infused water, and for a touch of whimsy, serve popsicles immersed in champagne for a delightful dessert
Embrace the magic of summer!
BLUE AND WHITE DISHES
RATTAN PLACEMATS
GREEN WATER GOBLETS
BEVERAGE DISPENSER
WICKER TRAY
BLUE BOTTLES
CANDLE JARS
T O R U N W A Y
I invite you to explore two of our favorite trending, yet timeless textures, reimagined for both home and wardrobe. We know they’re exceptionally stylish on their own, but when combined, they imbue a natural, yet elegant,andeffortlesslyelevated vibe to your interiors and personal style, bringing quiet luxurytoeverycornerofyourlife.
Wicker Chandelier
Wicker and Pearl Tote
Faux Hermes Pearl Slides
Wicker Seating
Pearl and Gold Necklace
Rafia and Pearl Slides
By: Sharon Langert
Rethinking shame, conformity, and the courage of kids who carve their own path
thatledme towritethis articlemuststartfromthebeginning So,I’dliketofirstshare a little of my history: I grew up in Baltimore, the daughter of baaleiteshuvaparents,immersedintheLitvishYeshiva/Bais Yaakov system from as far back as I can remember. My foundational belief system was built within the postHolocaust yeshivish mindset that permeated the 1970s and 80s
Now, I know not everyone reading this will fully understand what that means, so let me briefly describe the culture without infusing too much of the personal bias I’ve carried throughout the years, including the 26 years I lived and raisedmyfamilyinLakewood,NJ,oneoftheworld’sgreatest centersofTorahstudy
The yeshivish world emphasizes a deep reverence for tradition,centeringaroundatight-knitsystemofBaisYaakov schoolsforgirlsandyeshivasforboys.It’saculturerootedin Torah learning, modesty, and a strong sense of communal identity Manyoftherulesareunspokenbutdeeplyfeltwitha do-or-diepassionthateveryonemusttoetheline Deviation feels dangerous, and questioning is often frowned upon There’s beauty in the structure, but there can also be a heaviness,oftenlacedwithshame especiallyforthosewho strugglewiththechumrahs(stringencies)andrestrictions,or haveexperiencedrejectionfromschoolsorothergroups.The entire lifestyle is internalized to the point that deviation whether by a spouse, a child, or even within ourselves can feel like existential failure For kids who don’t quite fit the mold,forgingtheirownpathcanfeellikeheresy evenwhen it’s just coming from honest curiosity or exploration, or later, fromescapingtheirownpainofjudgmentandrejection.
Justtobeclear,thisisn’ta“bashthecommunity”piece This is about clarity and growth I’m sharing what I’ve learned frommyown,oftenunnecessarilypainfuljourneyinthehope that it sparks some healing, perspective, and maybe even change especially for those navigating challenging family dynamics within the Orthodox world. I think it’s time to share and shed light on some new ideas on how we can view our increasingly more diverse families in a way that is far more beneficialforourkidsandourselvesasparents
With that being said, one can start to imagine the intense pressure, as a parent, to make sure their kids are well accepted within the cultural norms of these communities But it goes deeper than acceptance it’s where the shame creeps in, and It’s this shame and suffering that I want to addressthemost
On the energetic frequency scale, shame sits right at the bottom it’s the lowest vibration emotion we can feel, even lower than guilt or fear It’s the internalized sense that something is fundamentally wrong or bad about us, and that’s what makes it so painful it disconnects us from our worth, our voice, and our sense of belonging. And make no mistake shame doesn’t purify, it paralyzes and keeps us from stepping into who we really are It questions our entire existence and destroys any sense of worthiness we may have It makes us feel teeny and insignificant, so much so that we’d prefer to disappear and become invisible, or G-d forbid not exist at all. As far as I’m concerned, there should be no system, especially a supposedly holy and spiritually elevated one, that should ever use shame as a tool for enforcingitsdogmaonsociety
AndIusetheword‘Dogma’becauseIbelievethatalotofthe social norms of these cultures have, in some instances, moved far away from what Hashem and His beautiful, complex,mystical,deep,andeverflowingTorahintendedfor us Althoughdogmacanprovidestructureandidentity,when held too rigidly, it can stifle personal growth, curiosity, and individualthinking especiallywhenpeoplearediscouraged fromquestioningorexploringbeyondtherules.
We are meant to be a widely diverse people, each with our own beautiful talents, strength, weaknesses, challenges, and purpose ThereisnotonlyonewaytointerprettheTorah,asit islayeredandnuancedandpersonaltoeachandeveryJew. There is no perfect person, nor should there be any elitist system Weshouldnotbedeterminingwhoismore“frum”or less, or not at all No Jew is less important than another, as lovingoneanotherasourselves,andbeingunitedasoneare
some of the most foundational tenets of the Torah If an action or attitude is the exact antithesis of a powerful Torah tenet, yet it’s fully accepted into the culture to the point that everyone’s afraid to question or stand up against it, we shouldknowwe’vegonetoofar.
And that’s where these wonderful, beautiful children-the oneswhowemaycalltherebels-whoaskquestions,andgo againstthenarrativesthatintrinsicallyfeelwrong-comeinto play. Did you ever think that their seemingly rebellious behavior and actions may actually be part of Hashem’s masterplanofbringingsoulsintotheworldthatcanactually see beyond the cultural surface, and correct what has been wrongly embedded deep within, via fear based actions and reactions from years and years of persecution and loss? Maybethesespecialsoulsacceptedtheirrolesinhelpingus movebacktoamoreloving,accepting,and
and uplifting lifestyle that we are meant to live as Orthodox Jews, especially during these healing Messianic times And like all processes in life, it is only through their mistreatment or hardships that these changes can they be materialized.
Rabbi Y.Y. Jacobson has addressed this topic with profound insight and compassion In his talk titled "It's the Children Who Challenge Us Who Teach Us What Judaism Is," he emphasizes that these children are nottobeseenasfailuresoroutsiders, but rather as individuals who can teach us valuable lessons about our faith and community He suggests that their struggles can highlight areas where the community may need to grow or change, urging a response rooted in love and understanding rather than judgment Youcanwatchhistalksthatrelateto thistopicHEREandHERE
Avi Fishoff, the founder of Twisted Parenting, emphasizes the importance of unconditional love and acceptance for children who have left the Orthodox Jewish path. He advocates for a compassionate approach, viewing these children not as rebels but as individuals in pain who need support and understanding Fishoff believes that by embracing these children with warmth and without judgment, parents can create a healing environment that fosters reconnection and growth. His methodology is grounded in Daas Torah and has received endorsements fromleadingrabbinicauthorities,underscoringitsalignment with traditional Jewish values For more insights into Avi Fishoff's approach and teachings, you can explore his YouTubechannelHERE
Moving out of Lakewood (through a series of misfortuneswhichofcourseendedupbeingtotalblessings)andlivingin morediversecommunities,wasarealwake-upcall Afterthe culture shock wore off, I realized what a breath of fresh air it was to finally feel comfortable in my own skin, in communities that included a much wider range of observancelevelsandthefreedomtobeyourownindividual selfinyourservicetoHashem
After attending Avi Fishoff’s support groups for several months, our entire family dynamic changed for the better and I was able to see the beauty in the unfolding diversity within my own family It was only through the healing of my own shame, that I realized how deeply it had affected my ownchildren Becausekids theyfeelandabsorbeverything! When we can finally just accept, and even celebrate ourselvesandallofourfamilymembersforwhotheyare,we notonlyhealtheirsuffering,butwealsohealourown.
I believe it’s time to shed our shame and pain and step into our unique power and calling. For the kids reading this: I hope you know how special and necessary you are to the colorful fabric of our people You are beingcalledtostandoutandmakea difference! And for the parents readingthis:It’stimetotakebackour own power from the need to “fit in” or be judged positively by people who are probably not even thinking about you-because they are in their own unseen struggles Let’s return to the original source of everything we hold to be true and good: Our connection with Hashem and the actual words within the Torah We need to ask ourselves the basic foundational questions that appear once we shed our egos: How do we think Hashem want’s us to behave toward the souls He entrusted with us? If Hashem createdusimperfectandistheone
who arranged for our specific challenges, what do we think He’sactuallyaskingofus?
I believe Hashem wants us to love fully, think for ourselves, andstopmeasuringworthinessbyconformity Eachchildisa divine spark They are here, in this generation, to shake us awake, to challenge what’s broken, and to light the path back to a more compassionate, authentic Judaism Our challenges should teach us to respect each individual’s personal journey by shining our own light as loving, accepting role models, as we are all on the same team, yet meant to be our own unique selves, diverse and united, withinit Andthat’ssomethingwecanallfeelgoodabout!
I don’t really care what people think, but I’m still in so much pain about my kids not following in our ways. How do I deal with it without them feeling my pain and disappointment?
Somewhere along the way you were taught that the only way to be a frum a jew was to live a very specific lifestyle. You were told that it’s the most tragic thing when someone leaves the fold. This belief system is embedded deep inside you. But if you take a step back, and start to look around at the many diverse types of communities and customs within the Jewish world, you will realize that there is not only one way, and that it is in fact not tragic when individuals are searching for a different lifestyle because the current one doesn’t suit them. Different doesn’t me tragic, but the path to get there may be a bit rocky and we as parents need to support and be there for our kids while they’re traveling the road, even if it looks like they’re going the wrong way. Sometimes a person needs to go all the way down to come back up. And even when they do, it may not be horrific, self-destructive we of They system to as the being effect we and a than that haven kids or deepest not As
of letting go of our own egos and expectations. In a way we must mourn a loss of how we expected things to turn out…at least temporarily. We must actively do exercises in looking for and seeing the positives and good within our children and keep our focus there as much as possible. If you’re in public and shame creeps in, give your kid a big hug out of the blue. That action will kill the shame because you will be showing the world THE CORRECT way to be with your kids.
So you’re saying it should just be a free for all? There should be no rules, boundaries, or discipline at all?
Absolutely not. Part of being a loving supportive parent is setting boundaries. But it should always be about safety first, and ‘religious’ things last. As a parent you will recognize what works with your child and what his or her triggers are. Pick your battles carefully. The most important thing is to not add more shame to their already low sense of self, especially around religious restrictions. At a certain age they will do what they want and dress how they want regardless of what you say or do, so you may as well maintain your relationships with them so they don’t have to sneak behind your back. That’s where the danger really lies. If they feel safe with you you can guide them gently especially with things regarding their safety and well-being. When it comes to the things that really don’t matter (like a boy wanting to wear jeans or a girl not wanting to wear socks, simply say, “I trust you to make these choices for yourself.” Even if it means they will “get in trouble” at school. Because clearly that school is not the right fit for them.
I just don’t get it. When I was a kid we knew better. The rules were the rules. We would never disrespect our parents like this!
You are correct, and if you haven’t noticed, it’s a totally different world, and a much different time. We are clearly coming close to the end of the way things were and entering into the new age of Moshiach consciousness. Lot’s of things seems to be breaking down, changing and getting shook to the core…including our little culture bubbles. This is not by accident, and like I mentioned above, I truly believe that we as the parents, and our kids who are going through their own difficult experiences, are the special souls being brought down to do the hard work to shake things up, break things down, and rebuild with light, love, unity, and acceptance.
Hi! I’m Basya. Here’s what my life used to look like:
6:00am:Wakeupinastressylittlepanicbecause Imustbeatworkby8:00,it’smydayforcarpool, my commute is over an hour long, parking is impossible, and my first two clients are overbooked
8:00am–7:00pm:Seeclientsbacktoback,then rush home, get the kids, make dinner, and do homework.
7:00 pm – 10:00 pm: Back to work, see more clients, and handle all my “Girl Boss” responsibilities
There was always more to do As a manager of several coaching locations, it was my job to hire, train, supervise, and manage my staff, create their schedules, handle payroll and client issues, put out fires, implement policies, and constantly strategizetogrowthecompany
Most nights, I would pass out at 2:00 am when I was finally too exhausted to work or worry or scroll anymore. And like a crazy person, I took on even more developing new product lines, partnerships,andprograms.
It was chaos. I couldn’t breathe. I was afraid to turn my phone off because of what I knew would bewaitingformewhenIturneditbackon
TransformativeCoach,Podcast Host,andfounderof BKCoaching,BasyaKovacs shareshowshewentfrom chaostoalignmentthrough connectiontoHashemand learningtobeenough.
I believe that many women in high-responsibility roles don’t even realize when fear is their fuel, because it masquerades as success. Or we notice but we ’ re so stuck we can’t find a way out.
Ohandyes thehusbandandthe5kids
I was anxious all the time I was saying yes to things I should’ve been saying no to, convinced that I had no choice.
Looking back, I recognize that what started out as passion was gradually replaced by a new driver in the driver’s seat: Fear
Fearofdisappointingpeople Fearofnotbeingenough Fear thatifImissedabeat,itwouldallcomecrashingdown
For many of us, somewhere along the way, we internalized the belief that our worth has to be earned, and keep being earned,overandoveragain.
We need to prove maybe to our bosses, to our clients, but if we are being honest to ourselves that we are always producing,alwaysperforming,alwayson
Ibelievethatmanywomeninhigh-responsibilityrolesdon’t evenrealizewhenfearistheirfuel,becauseitmasquerades as success. Or we notice but we’re so stuck we can’t find a wayout.
I was the best coach and the best manager, but I was also distracted,depleted,anddeeplydisconnected
I lived with the constant gnawing feeling of being a bad mother,abadwife,abadboss,abadJew takeyourpick
Ifeltsooff,andIfeltsostuck
It was not sustainable and it was not ok. It had to change, butIdidn’tknowhow.
AndIfeltsoalone.Hashem,theOnewhocouldhelpme,felt veryfaraway
Around this time, I met an incredible woman named Sunny Levi(moreonherinfutureposts,Godwilling). SunnyintroducedmetoHitbodedut andIstartedtalkingto Godagain
Ithadbeenalongtime
I felt so disconnected, I wasn’t even sure how to start and wasprettysureHewasn’tveryhappywithme ButIdiditanyway
Not formal prayer just raw, messy, honest conversations. JustmeandGod.
And through those quiet, personal prayers, I started to get clarity
ClarityaboutwhoIwantedtobe
ClarityaboutthekindoflifeIwantedtolive Clarityaboutwhatmatteredtome
Andasourconversationsgotdeeper(mineandGod’s)and IfeltclosertoHim,somethinginmestartedtoshift.
Iinternalized maybeforthefirsttime thatGodlovesme ThatIdidn’tneedtoprovemyself ThatIwasalreadyworthy. ThatIwantedadifferentlife.
A life that prioritized everything I had stopped paying attentionto myfamily,God,personalgrowth.
Youknowhowitisthough
There are so many reasons why we can’t live a life that’s aligned
Whataboutthemoney?
Whataboutmyboss…myclients…mycoworkers…theyneed me!?
What about the name I built for myself, the company I helped build and what about the identity I created and tiedtoallofthat?
I asked Him to give me the courage to make the changes I wasscaredtomake,andtoknowthatitwouldbeokay ThatI’dstillhaveenough ThatIwouldstillbeenough Thatthefalloutwouldn’tbreakme
That my clients and coworkers would be okay and that I’d beokay
AndHedid.
Heshowedmetheway.
Fastforwardtotoday
I have my own coaching practice as a transformation coach
I see clients from 9:30 am – 2:00 pm, four days a week Sometimesless,nevermore I spend a few hours a day creating podcast episodes, writing,workshops,retreats. Idon’tworknights,andIdon’tworkweekends. AndIcreatespaceforthethingsandpeopleIlove.
Itravel Isayyestotherightspeakinggigs
At4:00pm,Icalmlymakedinnerandthenpickupmykids
IenjoymyeveningsandSundayswithmyfamily.Irelax.
Likereallyrelax
I get to be part of people’s transformations but without needingtoproveanything
Whatchanged? Ichanged. Prayerchangedme.
Hashemhelpedmegetclear,thenhelpedmegetbrave
Living a life that’s aligned with who you want to be is not easy It’s scary You will have to let go of a lot you might havetoquestionyourentireidentity
But when you do this with Hashem, you begin to find yourselfagain.
Now, I live from that place. I’m not perfect. Life isn’t perfect. Nooneis andit’snotsupposedtobe.
ButI’maligned Andtome,that’severything
3 quick questions to check your alignment:
Am I showing up how I want to for the people I love?
Do I know what really matters to me—or am I just running?
Is fear driving me, or faith?
Basya Kovacs is the founder of BKCoaching, a transformation coach, host of Rise, Shine, Grow podcast, and workshop facilitator. With over 14 years of coaching experience and trained in modalities such as IFS, DBT,andACT,Basyahelpsindividualstransformfromtheinsideout Reachheratbasya@mybkcoachcom
LifestyleCoachandHomeopathTaniaDelmanisharesherdeep,spiritualwisdom forreturningtoyouralignedselfin7easysteps
There’s a quiet conversation happening behind every sigh, every scroll, every “I’m fine ” It’s the voice inside a woman ’ s body that says: “I’m tired, and I keep going ” “I feel things, and I don’t have time to feel them ” “I used to be lit up and now I don’t even know what lights me anymore. ” If you ’ ve ever felt that way, you ’ re not broken. You’re not behind. You’re not too late. You’re simply being invited inward.
Perhaps you ’ ve been taught to chase the glimmer the outer glow-up. This is not just about looking good. This is about integration, wholesomeness, holiness and the sacred remembering of who you already are
See Your Mood as a Messenger Your mood is not the problem It’s the portal The symptom is a signal The pain is pointing The fatigue is speaking
Even emotional heaviness and financial tension carry meaning
This is where true healing begins when we start listening
Reclaim Your Libido—Your Vital Life Force
Libido is your yes to life It’s your vitality Your inner spark
It’s not something performative it’s the flame within that fuels your purpose, your pleasure, and your personal power
In Jewish thought, this spark is called the Nitzotz Eloki the divine spark inside you When we turn that light back on, everything begins to shift
Tune into the Energy Body (Meridians + Sefirot)
Our bodies hold ancient wisdom The pain in your throat, the tightness in your chest, the ache in your joints these are not just random
They correspond to meridians and emotional centers that are also reflected in the Sefirot the Tree of Life in Kabbalah. When energy is blocked, you feel stuck When it flows, you feel aligned
You don’t need to guess Your body is talking, and there is a method to hear it
Reveal the Root Cause
We don’t bandage symptoms We decode them Using muscle testing, homeopathy, breathwork, flower essences, and quantum timelines, we gently reveal what’s underneath the surface
Practice. Breathe. Be. Become. (This is the heart of my work )
Breathe: Bring yourself into the present moment Be: Accept what is Become: Align with what’s possible.
Your next level isn’t forced It’s revealed You begin to manifest from calm not from pressure
Anchor in Visualization + Soul Signature Each woman carries a unique soul code A Soul Signature When you tune in to your higher self, you begin to embody your divine design
Try this now:
Place a hand on your heart and belly. Breathe in deeply. Visualize the Hebrew letter Aleph (א) made of two Yuds and a diagonal Vav, totaling 26, the gematria of G‐d’s Name of Mercy.
Whisper: Ein Od Milvado There is nothing but the Divine. Imagine walking through that Aleph and into the wholeness of who you were always meant to be
What would your life look like if you were lit from within? How would you walk? Speak? Feel?
This is your birthright..
Healing happens in layers Sometimes slowly, sometimes suddenly but always with reverence Even resistance is sacred It shows you where to go next
Make the Shift Holistic + Sustainable Transformation is not a one-time event It’s a shift in identity It’s the joy of waking up and saying: “I feel good in my body I feel light in my heart I feel connected to my purpose ”
And this is not limited to one area of life. When your energy heals, it ripples: into parenting, partnership, career, finances even ancestral patterns begin to shift
I began this work for myself when I was just 12 Then for my children Then for my students as a preschool teacher I saw a need I created what was missing
Over the past two decades, I’ve had the honor of helping thousands of women reclaim their spark. And what I’ve learned is this: every activation is different, and every one is divine
Some begin with a quiz Some need a detox. Some want coaching. Some become the healer they wish they had
Through my school and sessions, I’ve watched women go from chronic fatigue to creativity from anxiety to clarity… from “Why me?” to “I see me.”
It’s not magic it’s alignment And yes, it takes work And yes, it’s worth it.
You’re not here to be someone else You’re here to reveal your truth.
Imagine what it would feel like to manifest your soul’s vision To trust your yes and your no To understand your body’s messages To feel wholesome, holy, and home within yourself.
You don’t need to become someone new You simply need to remember who you’ve always been
Take the Libido for Life Quiz at: www livingmybestnow com/quiz
The first 10 women to submit will receive a free personalized Soul Report—and you’ll be invited to share your story or questions for the upcoming Libido for Life Podcast.
This is your time to reclaim your light, your rhythm, your voice Not through force through resonance Not through pressure through purpose.
My blessing to you:
May you feel the wholesomeness and joy of your inner light May your pain become your purpose. Andmayyoursparkleadtheway.
TaniaDilmani,isasoulfulsuccessmentor,homeopatheducator,internationalaward-winning author,andfounderofLivingMyBestandMommyHomeopathyAcademy.TanialivesinBoca Raton,Florida,andhashelpedthousandsofwomenover22yearsthroughpersonalizedcare, emotional decoding, homeopathic healing, and sacred soul mapping. She offers online courses, in-person retreats, private mentorship, and a holistic curriculum of tools including breathwork,meditation,timelinehealing,Hebrewletteractivation,andfloweressences.
Hair and wig stylist Bleema Weissman, founder of Rebel Queen hair products for curly hair, helps us tackle the challenges of managing curly hair during the summer months.
Sun-drenched days, carefree vibes… and a whole new level of drama for our glorious textured hair. From the swampy embrace of humidity to the parched reality of desert heat, and the salty tang of coastal air, each summer climate throws unique curveballs at our curls, coils, and waves. But fear not, I’ll help you conquerthisseason!
Let's decode how summer ' s diverse climates impactyourtexturedtresses:
Desert'sDrySpell:
Flipthescript,andyou'vegottheariddesert, where the air is a moisture vacuum. It relentlessly sucks hydration from everything, including your precious locks The result? Dryness,brittleness,breakage,andcurlsthat lack discernible shape Think rough texture andadull,lifelessappearance
CoastalClimateChaos:
That dewy air? For us, it can quickly turn into a frizz fest. In high humidity, our porous strands act like tiny sponges, soaking up excess moisture. This causes the hair shaft to swell, lifting the cuticle and unleashing that halo of unwanted frizz. Definition vanishes, replaced by alimp,undefinedmass.
Ah, the coast – a beautiful but often bewildering mix. Salty air can be incredibly drying, while lingering humidity can still trigger frizz. Add in wind that loves to tangle and disrupt your carefully crafted curl pattern, and you ' ve got a recipe for hair that'sconstantlyinflux.
Enter Your Secret Weapon for Summer: Curl Confidence.
Imagine a summer where your curls stay defined, hydrated, and frizz-free no matter what the weather throws at you. The key isn’t a complicated routine or a cabinet full of products. It’s understanding what your textured hair truly needs in each environment and giving it the right support.
Whether you're battling humidity, dry heat, or salty coastal breezes, your hair deserves a little strategy and a lot of love. Start with moisture hydration is your foundation in any climate. Layer in lightweight protection to seal in that moisture and block out the elements. And always choose products that work with your natural texture, not against it.
As a curl specialist, I always tell my clients: your summer hair care should work smarter, not harder. That’s exactly why I developed Rebel Queen Curl Control a multi-tasking product designed to hydrate, define, and protect curls in all types of summer climates. It’s become a go-to in my own routine and a favorite among my clients who want results without the fuss.
This summer, embrace the weather and your curls with confidence. With the right care, your hair can thrive anywhere from beachside to city streets. Reign on.
Queens, we want to hear from you! What are your biggest summer hair battles? Share your wisdom and tips in the comments below and connect with us on Instagram: @rebelqueenhair!
BleemaWeissmanisahairandwigstylist,makeupartist,andeducatorbased inPassaic,NJ.Mostrecently,shefoundedRebelQueen,ahaircarebrand dedicatedtobeingyourcurlyhair’snewbestfriend!
C O A C H Q.
Recently, I feel like my husband is checked out emotionally, and I find this to be so painful. What advice would you give to help me through this challenge in my marriage?
When your husband is there but also not really there, because he is checked out, it’s one of the loneliest feelings in the world. It’s extremely painfultobemarriedtosomeonewhoisnotable to comfort you when you are feeling lonely or upset You may feel helpless from the emotional distance-thinkingthiswillnevergetbetter,orthis is just how he is, or maybe you tried everything butnothingseemstowork.
InthisarticlewewillfocusonthemostcrucialC: Relinquishing control. And the hack is this: Get back onto your own paper! This means it’s time toshiftyourfocusfromwhatiswrongwithhimto whatyoucancontrol Andthatisyou!
Instead of trying to control his world by arguing about things you may disagree with like how to dress, what to eat, where to go, when to come home, what to say, or not say; staying on your own paper means tending to your own feelings and desires rather than trying to change your husband’s.
But this emotional detachment does not have to bealifesentence Thereisahacktogettingback to emotional closeness and actually bringing back your husband’s desire to re-connect. The secret to maintaining long term emotional connectionwithyourspouseisfollowingthe3C’s rule: Avoiding Control, Criticism, and Complaining.
Your paper should be where all your decisions are: What you do with your time, your own attitude,whattimeyougotosleep,whatyoueat for lunch, etc Your husband has his own paper too, and you aren’t responsible for what’s on there.Althoughwemaythinkthat,ashiswife,our duty is to make sure he wears the right outfit, spends money the right way, or eats healthy, in truth, this is not the case. When you were dating youprobablydidnottakeonthis“responsibility,” sowhynow?
For some reason, when we get married, we think we are smarter than our husbands, trying to teachthemhowtoimprove,butwhenweareall over his paper, trying to get him to change, he will naturally become defensive and eventually this will lead to him checking out emotionally. Youwillstarttofeelthedistanceandthat’swhen you become painfully lonely, wondering what wentwrong,feelingneedy,andtrying
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It’s
really important to prioritize your own decisions, choices and behaviors rather than focusing on controlling or changing your partner's actions. This involves making choices that align with your needs and values, as your primary responsibility is for your own choices, not your partner’s.
desperately to get back that emotional availability yousodesperatelyneed
So practically, how do you get back to your own paper?
Ask yourself these two questions: 1. How do I feel? 2. WhatdoIwant?
The answers should not simply be, “I want my husband to be emotionally close with me,” because that is still on his paper The answers need to be on your paper-the things about your that you can control
Herearesomeexamples:I feel tired and want a nap, orIfeellonelyandwanttomeetafriendforcoffee.
Rivky Kizelnik is a Lakewood based Relationship Coach trained by Laura Doyle, The Empowered Wife, and is available for private, one-on-one coaching sessions where you will learn the most effective, and surprising secrets to enhance your marriage and transform your life. Rivky can be reached at 732-300-5046
It’s really important to prioritize your own decisions, choices and behaviors rather than focusing on controlling or changing your partner's actions This involves making choices that align with your needs and values, as your primary responsibility is for your ownchoices,notyourpartner’s
This hack of relinquishing control and caring for yourself will project a confident energy of self love and knowing your own value, which will awaken your husband’s desire to reconnect to his now happy, contentwife
Trythisforaweekandwatchthemagichappen!
G E T I N S P I R E D F O R R O S H H A S H A N A
Dreaming of a gorgeous Rosh Hashana table, but don't know where to start? Here are some easy ideas to elevate your Rosh Hashana with simple yet gorgeous centerpieces and recipes 1 Throw some lush pomegrantes, berries and greenery in a few shallow, rustic bowls 2 Turn your favorite challah recipe (or use the recipe in the link) into a gorgeous Rosh Hashana challah bowl 3 Create an al fresco inspired table scape by laying out a runner of greenery, red grapes and green apples 4 Impress your family and guests with this decadent looking Pomegranite and honey cake 5 Here’s another easy yet elegant centerpiece of red apples, cinnamon sticks, green leaves and votive candles placed on wooden boards 6 Level up your tzimis with these Maple roasted carrots 7 Who doesn’t love a fresh variation of a simanim salad like this Apple cranberry carrot salad
Jewish time isn’t linear it’s a spiral. Each month offers us a unique energy, a cosmic invitation to grow, to feel, to return. And nowhere is this more palpablethaninthetrioofTammuz,Av,andElul a sacred arc that carries us from the heat of constriction to the gentle whisper of soulsearching
Tammuz and Av are not easy months In Jewish astrology, they are ruled by signs that speak of intensity: Cancer, the emotional and protective nurturer, and Leo, the fiery heart-centered lion. These are months of paradox where mourning and potential swirl together. We commemorate destruction during the “Three Weeks” and Tisha B’Av, but beneath the sorrow, there’s a deeper message: a crack in the outer shell that lets the lightseepin
In the heat of Tammuz, we feel things deeply. Old wounds surface. Defenses tighten. In Av, heartbreak becomes collective. But Jewish wisdom teaches that from within these constrictedplaces,webirththeseedsof
redemption.“MashiachisbornonTishaB’Av,”our sages say not despite the darkness, but becauseofit.
And then comes Elul Like a soft exhale A turning inward A month of preparation, reflection, and quiet return Ruled by Virgo the sign of refinement and humble service Elul invites us to gentlyexaminetheterrainofourhearts Weblow the shofar each morning to stir our souls from spiritual sleep, to begin the journey back to our truestselves.
Astrologicallyandspiritually,thesemonthsteach us that restriction isn’t punishment it’s preparation That sorrow can till the soil for transformation And that from the ashes of brokenness, we are given the holy opportunity to rebuild stronger,wiser,morealigned
This is the beauty of Jewish time. It holds space for the full spectrum of our experience. And it remindsusthathealingdoesn’tcomeallatonce. Itmovesinrhythm,withthestarsandthesoul.
By:SharonLangert
HowdoweprepareforRoshHashanaandYom Kippur?WhatdoesTeshuvareallymean?Andhow canwecreateheavenonearth?
andIwasstayingatmyfriend’shouseinJerusalem fortheholiday.Idecidedtogoforalongwalkwhilethemenweresleepingafteralongnightoflearning andprayingattheKotel Thebirdsweresingingthemostbeautifulmelodies,thevibrantfuschiasand violetsofthespringflowerscreatedadazzlingbackdrop,andthewarmthofthesunshineinharmony withtheperfectlytemperatebreezefeltlikeawarmhug.Suddenly,Ifoundmyselfsayingoutloud,“I’m literallyinheaven!”
IhavenoticedrecentlythatIsaythisalot IsayitatmyfirstglanceofthedaywhenI open my blinds in the morning and see the magnificent sky over the azure Mediterranean Sea. Or when I’m walking along the Tayelet in Netanya. Or when I’m driving (orridingthetrain)upthemountainstoJerusalem Butthishasnotalways been the default It’s the result of years of practice at actively looking for the good and focusing on being grateful in the present moment. I haven’t always lived in heaven though I, like most people, suffered from anxiety and mild depression over situations I could not control, regrets, disappointments and all-consuming worry, creating devastating scenarios in my head. And we all know what that feels like: It feelslikehellonearth
Thefunnythingisthatthisshiftdidn’thappenbecauseofanychange inmycircumstances,butrather,itwasonlyafterdoingtheinnerwork, thatIbegantoseetheworldinadifferentlight.Andsurprisingly,itdid change some of my circumstances for the better And I truly believe thatthisisthesecretofthemagicofTeshuva
MostofusweretaughtthatTeshuvameansrepentencefromsin But the root of the word of Teshuva literally means ‘to return’ Because, if you really think about it, we mostly sin from feeling disgruntled, disappointed and disconnected. The ego and yetzer horah thrive whenwe’reinastateofsadnessandworry Wearetrickedtobelieve that somehow if we focus on the negative or remain in a victim mindset, we are protecting ourselves, while we are simply repeating oldnegativecyclesthatdonotserveusatall
In Elul, we are called to do Teshuva; to return. But what are we returningto?Whenwereturntothehighersoulversionsofourselves, whenwefeelblessed,gratefulandpresent;wealsoreturntoG-dand thewayHeintendedustoexperienceandliveinthisbeautifulworld.
Creating heaven, and leaving hell is a choice! We get to choose how we see the world, what we focus on, the thoughts we allow and the ones we let go of, and the words and actions we say and perform to ourselves and others This is how we co-create our life And this, I believe,iswhatitmeanstoreturn Thisishowwegettotherootofnot feeling compelled to sin. This is how we do true Teshuva. And this is howwecreateheavenonearth
