Four States Living Magazine May 2024

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PUBLISHER’S LETTER

Robin Rogers, Ed.D.

he best moment of my life was the day my first child was born. I knew so little before that moment, though I thought I knew so much. My doctor was a man; I am pretty certain that Texarkana didn’t have even one obstetrician of the fairer sex back in 1994. The nurses, however, were all female. Those women nursed me through pains, scary moments, and the beginnings of motherhood. The OB-GYN may have caught Ellen, but just as quickly as he delivered her, he was gone, and I was left with one nurse who cleaned me up, one who cleaned up my daughter, and others who talked to me about how I would feed her, diaper her, and even burp her. I was terrified that I might hurt this tiny human who often cried for seemingly no reason and whose head flopped around if I wasn’t careful. I had never before changed the diaper of a newborn, and the diapers seemed to swallow my tiny baby. The nurses reassured me that I wasn’t going to hurt her and that her cries could be attributed to a few very specific issues. My nervousness was normal, and together, they would help me figure it all out.

Over the next day or so, my daughter was diagnosed with jaundice, and instead of going home, she had to stay in the nursery and hang out under an ultraviolet light until her bilirubin numbers leveled out. I was hormonal and cried as much as Ellen did, but it was the nurses who convinced me that this hiccup wasn’t a big deal and that we would soon be home together as a family. I had been discharged, but my baby had to stay at the hospital. So many other mothers have known that feeling, and without a doubt, it is the most helpless I have ever felt in my life. (My grandmother didn’t understand; in her day, jaundiced babies went home and you put them in the window or out in the yard without their clothes on.) My husband and I would go up to the hospital and feed our girl, try to bond, and pray for her to get better faster. It took almost a week for Ellen to be ready to go home, and as postpartum took its toll on me, the nurses at Wadley also nurtured me back to myself.

INSPIRE THE PESSIMIST

ELEVATE THE OPTIMIST

STIR THE MIND

ENTERTAIN THE SOUL

PUBLISHER

Dr. Robin Rogers

INTERIM

Ellen Orr

EDITOR

GRAPHIC DESIGNER

Shane Darby

SALES REPRESENTATIVE

Victoria Herman

EDITORIAL ASSISTANT

Phoebe Warren

Over the years, I have thought a lot about the nurses who helped me deliver my three children. I still remember their names, and occasionally, I’ll get to catch up with them at the grocery store or a random function. I have so much respect and gratitude for them. Not only did they care for the medical needs of me and my babies, but they also comforted me, educated me, and empowered me—exactly what I needed when I was at my most vulnerable and tender.

It is a pure coincidence that, during this National Nurses Month, we have multiple Tribute to Women honorees who are nurses. Jenni Hedrick, who is on the cover, has a passion for L&D that is palpable. Sherry Missildine, too, exudes a sense of purpose in her work as a nurse practitioner. I have felt so inspired—and thankful—reading their stories.

We are also honoring many educators this month; in fact, the remaining seven honorees are all educators in some form or fashion. Debi Coleman, Rhonda Roberts, and Melodie White are all current teachers or school administrators in our community. Tiffany Pumphrey might not describe herself as a teacher, but she educates students every day on financial aid at Texarkana College. Mary Warren is a retired teacher who stays busy with education-related volunteerism. Mary Scott Smith, a legendary musician and semi-retired music educator, has touched innumerable lives with her talents. And Jeni Eldridge, the cofounder and executive director of Haven Homes, began her addictionrecovery work after a 30-year career in the classroom.

Teachers and nurses have a lot in common: they work long hours, are underpaid, and make a huge difference in people’s lives. It is no coincidence that career fields historically dominated by women are highly valued emotionally but widely undervalued monetarily. I wish I could change it; in a land I ruled, teachers and nurses would be among the most well-compensated workers in society. While I can’t personally fix unfair pay, I can do my part to uplift and honor these women through this magazine. Our team has worked hard to tell their stories, and I have no doubt that you will agree that they are worthy of their moment in the spotlight.

To all of the women who have raised, taught, cared for, loved, led, nursed, empowered, and challenged me: thank you for shaping me into the woman I am today. I encourage every person reading this to take some time today to reflect on the women who have influenced your own life—and to thank them. I heard a saying the other day: “Give people their flowers while they can still smell them.” I took it to mean that we should never pass up opportunities to express our appreciation to people while they are alive and well. I hope that we are all generous with the flowers—metaphorical and literal—to the moms and other women in our lives, this month and every month.

As always, thanks for reading FSLM

CONTRIBUTING

PHOTOGRAPHERS

Shane Darby

Katelyn Peek

Kate Reynolds

Dr. Robin Rogers

Chloe Sanders

Amelia Stansbury

CONTRIBUTING

WRITERS

Klark Kent

Ellen Orr

Robin Proctor

Madeline Smallwood

Phoebe Warren

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ON THE COVER MAY 2024

The 2024 Tribute to Women honorees have all made a significant impact on the lives of others. Each woman featured in this issue was chosen by an honoree from last year’s Tribute to Women to be recognized for their extraordinary contributions to the Texarkana community. As professionals, volunteers, and community members, these women have climbed the ladder of success, and FSLM thanks them for their service to others.

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SCENE ABOUT TOWN

FARMERS BANK FOUNDATION HELD AN INSTALLMENT OF ITS DISTINGUISHED SPEAKER SERIES ON THURSDAY, APRIL 11TH AT FARMERS BANK & TRUST AND FEATURED LEGENDARY BOXER SUGAR RAY LEONARD.

Rob and Lisa Sitterley

Tamie and Andy Rogers, Randy Ray, and Monty Harrington

Judy Jones and Curt Green

Derrick McGary and Kevin Sutton

Sylvia and Mike Ingram with Jamye DeHaan

Sugar Ray Leonard

Lilia and Dr. Ross Alexander

Dee Page, Stephanie McKellar, and Kayla Simmons

Justin Swecker, Nicole Raley, Angela Howard, and Carol Waldrum

Glenn and Renee Martin, Ian Childs, Timothy Brown, and Becky and Rodney Fellers

Janet Hart and Jean Matlock

Lori Springer and Shaka Bowie Drew Chandler and Scott White

Jacob Eller, Tim and Janet Choate, and Leigh Cheek

Christie Page with George and Carolyn Moore

Debi Coleman has spent almost 40 years of her life as a teacher. She has worked in public schools, in private schools, and for homeschoolers. She has taught every age from kindergarten through high school. On the weekends, she can be found at Fellowship Bible Church, not only attending but also—you guessed it—teaching Sunday school. Interestingly, Debi’s passion for teaching came as a surprise to her, during her undergraduate years.

“[Teaching] was not something I had ever considered until I needed to decide on a major,” she said. “One summer, I assisted at St. James Day School, and I realized that I truly enjoyed it.” Debi returned to The University of Texas in Austin, declared her major, and never looked back. She graduated from UT in 1974 and earned her master’s from East Texas State University (now TAMU–T) in 1981.

DEBI

COLEMAN

Debi has taught in “many places and situations,” she said, but the lion’s share of her early career was spent with Texarkana Independent School District, where she was employed from 1984 to 2006. In 1995, she was given the district-wide Teacher of the Year Award, which she said many would recognize as her greatest professional achievement. “I think, though, my greatest achievements were following the successes of many students as they grew and matured, and hearing about their triumphs and experiences while in pursuit of their careers,” she reflected. “It always astounds me when I run into a former student and they remember me.”

After retiring from TISD, Debi taught at Veritas Academy for seven years and then homeschooled for three years. Now, she teaches for the Texarkana Regional Alliance of Christian Educators (TRACE), a group of educators who are contracted to teach courses to local homeschool students. Debi currently teaches elementary Latin, elementary science, and middle school science. “I love the opportunities to guide students in opening their eyes to all the wonders in the world,” she said.

Spirituality is important to Debi, who became a Christian as an adult, after the death of her mother and two months before the birth of Debi’s first child. “As an only child, it was challenging trying to come alongside my daddy in his grief while also trying to figure out how to be a mother,” she recalled. “My husband was a good support, but it was during this time that I came to recognize and believe in Jesus Christ as my lord and savior and companion. The reality of his presence, Bible study, and close Christian friends gave me the guidance I needed.”

Debi is the widow of Mike Coleman, who died in 2008 at age 56. She has two daughters, one bonus daughter, two sons-in-law, and seven grandchildren. “I am fortunate to have a close family that all live in Texarkana,” she said. “I spend time with them and all their various activities.”

In addition to her career, church engagement, and family involvement, Debi also serves on the board of Opportunities, Inc. She formerly volunteered with the Junior League of Texarkana, the American Heart Association, the Red Lick ISD school board, and the American Red Cross.

Debi still manages to find free time, much of which she spends outside, working in her yard or swimming and kayaking near her cabin in Arkansas. Most especially, she said, she looks forward every single day to winding down with a good book.

by SHANE DARBY

“ ” I am fortunate to have a close family that all live in Texarkana. I spend time with them and all their various activities.

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FSLM Asked Debi...

What is something most people don’t know about you?

I was a talented horse rider, winning blue ribbons and walk, trot, and canter horse shows.

As a child, what did you want to be when you grew up?

I thought it would be fun to be an archaeologist, traveling the world to find ancient treasures.

What are your favorite local spots to spend time?

I love to see the revitalization that is occurring in downtown Texarkana. Some of my most visited places are Café Lucille, The Banana Club, Verona, and The Stained Page.

LAURA BAILEY’S WORDS:

Debi has served the children of Texarkana for many years as an educator. She taught in TISD and, after retiring, has continued to teach in private schools and as a tutor. She is also involved in the children’s ministry and AWANA program at Fellowship Bible Church. Debi serves with an energetic enthusiasm that radiates to the children and others around her. Observing Debi, you can see her passion and love for investing in the lives of children. What I appreciate about Debi is her quiet strength and deep faith when faced with trials, while still serving others with her energy and a smile.

Debi loves spending time with her grandchildren. Here she is pictured with her grandchildren at Christmas 2021.

Jeni Eldridge founded Haven Homes, a Christian nonprofit organization that aims to help people recover from addiction. They began in 2012 with opening two transitional homes for women leaving Bowie County Women’s Center. To-date, over 200 women have utilized the transitional homes. In the 12 years since, the organization has expanded to serve both men and women recovering from substance addiction. They currently serve about 80 people, who receive safe housing, spiritual guidance, and faith-based counseling, as well as employment, educational, and community service opportunities.

Jeni, who has served as the executive director since 2019, felt that God was calling her to create change in the community after she saw the effects of addiction in her own family.

JENI ELDRIDGE

“I do what I do today out of a passion to see people in the throes of addiction overcome a life-threatening disease,” she said. “I truly had a front-row seat as addiction touched my own family, and I saw the chaos that this disease can bring. Today, I can say our family survived, but it was a long journey with many hills and valleys. Haven Homes was formed out of my passion to see lives and families restored and to make a difference in our community by offering a safe place for people to recover.”

Jeni’s top priority was and continues to be to provide a free, Christian recovery program. “I encountered many families and individuals who could not afford the cost of expensive rehabilitation centers,” she said. “My number-one goal was to create a faithbased recovery program that people could enter at no charge. Through the help of so many individuals, foundations, churches, and businesses, and with my amazing board of directors, we have made that possible today.”

In addition to her work at Haven Homes, Jeni is also the ministry leader of First Baptist Church’s Celebrate Recovery (CR) program, a part-time position she accepted in 2016. CR is open to anyone “who struggles with a hurt, habit, or hangup,” she explained.

Prior to her professional work in addiction recovery, Jeni had a 30-year teaching career, 20 of which were spent at Liberty Eylau School District’s K. Bender Elementary School. “Those were some of the most rewarding years of my life,” she said. “To see a student struggle, and suddenly the light comes on, and they have it—what a joy that was.”

Jeni experiences similar joys today. “To see a person walk through the doors of Haven, wrecked by the effects of addictions, and 12 months later see them restored physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually is the greatest achievement I could ever receive,” she said. “What an absolute blessing to get up every day and be a part of this amazing ministry. I am among the most blessed women, and I thank God every day.”

While most of her time is spent with adults in recovery, Jeni also prioritizes quality time with her three children, three daughters-in-law, and six grandchildren. “[My grandchildren] bring so much joy to my life,” she said. “My Hava is a Pleasant Grove showstopper, and l love watching her dance at PG games. I just returned from a beach trip, and all six of my grands were present at some point during the week. We made great memories.”

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“ What an absolute blessing to get up every day and be a part of this amazing ministry. ”

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SHANE DARBY

FSLM Asked Jeni...

What’s your favorite local spot to spend time?

Mother Kelley’s Home Cooking. Her veggie plate of collard greens, sweet potatoes, and mac and cheese takes me back to my roots.

If you could speak one sentence of wisdom to your past self, what would it be? Never give up hope.

What is something most people don’t know about you? I took fencing in college.

PAM BECK’S WORDS:

It is an honor to nominate Jeni Eldridge as one of the 2024 Tribute to Women honorees. Jeni has lived next door to me for 30 years and inspires me every day. Since Jeni retired from teaching, she has been busier than ever before, running Haven Homes and spending time with her grandchildren. I admire Jeni most of all for her love of God, her family, and anyone who is struggling. She is always willing to give someone a second chance at life. Jeni took the knowledge she gained while handling adversities with her own family and poured that knowledge and love into Celebrate Recovery and creating Haven Homes. She is proactive in making a change in so many people’s lives. She is a kind, humble lady who prays for those in need while placing people in their life so they can grow and find God for themselves. I love seeing and hearing about so many success stories of moms reunited with their children or men getting back on their feet after a slip-up. Jeni truly is a shining light and an inspiration.

Jeni Eldridge is known as “Pink” to her six grandchildren.

SCENE ABOUT TOWN

OPPORTUNITIES, INC. HELD ITS ANNUAL SUNDAY FUNDAY AT CROSSTIES EVENT CENTER ON SUNDAY, APRIL 7TH.

Gay Moss with Dr. Andy and Caroline Curry

Bre Macool and Nathan Moses

David and Lacey Ramsey with Erin and Brad Davis

Patti Neaves and Mila Parsons

Thomas Orr and George Matteson

Fred and Martha Norton, Madeline Haak, and Will Norton

Corie Woodman, Eric Cain, David Ramsey, and Clayton Wisdom

Natalie and Chris McQueen

Since Jenni Hedrick was a student in nursing school at the University of Arkansas, she dreamt of working in labor and delivery. “It is my passion,” she said. After graduating with her BSN, she returned to her hometown of Texarkana, where she was hired at CHRISTUS St. Michael Hospital on the postpartum and pediatric unit—but transferred to L&D a few years later, as soon as a position became available.

While she loved patient care, Jenni knew that she wanted to step into a leadership role and would need more education. To that end, in 2016, she began working toward her master’s in nursing at Texas A&M University–Texarkana. Unexpectedly, while studying, she discovered a new facet of her interest in nursing.

JENNI HEDRICK

“I became passionate about the academia side of nursing,” she said. “I stepped away from the bedside and worked for Texas A&M–Texarkana as the Simulation Lab coordinator. And, after receiving my master’s degree, I became a nursing instructor.”

A talented educator, Jenni was expected by many to remain in academia. But one year, during the university’s winter break, Jenni took a short-term nursing contract at the hospital. “I realized how much I missed being at the hospital,” she said. So, in 2022, she returned to CHRISTUS St. Michael, as the RN project manager. In 2023, she stepped into her current role: the clinical director of labor and delivery.

“L&D is my passion,” she said. “It is an honor to lead nurses who also have that same passion and appreciation for our profession.”

Jenni cites earning her master’s degree in 2019 as her greatest professional accomplishment to-date. While pursuing her degree, she was raising two small children and experienced the loss of her father, Rick Lindsey.

“Losing my dad to lung cancer would have to be my biggest challenge,” she said. “I am very thankful for my parents raising me in a Christian home. My faith in something so much bigger than me and [bigger than] cancer is what got me through very hard days.”

Jenni is married to her high school sweetheart, Taylor. “I’ve spent more of my life with him than without him,” she said. They have two children: Anna Leigh (10) and Lincoln (7). “Through motherhood,” Jenni reflected, “I learned a love I didn’t know existed—a stronger love for Taylor, a more appreciative love for my parents and how precious life is.”

The Hedricks are members of Williams Memorial United Methodist Church, where Jenni works with the youth. She loves giving back in this way, as attending youth group when she was young was formative. “My church youth group was very special to me growing up,” she said. “It was a smaller youth group with kids who were brought up the same way I was.”

When not delivering babies, caring for her two children, or serving teenagers at church, Jenni fills her time with active family fun. “I am not the type to just sit at home,” she said. “We find ourselves always on-the-go. My favorite moments are spent on the water. The lake, river, beach, or pool—those moments are my favorite.”

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“ It is an honor to lead nurses who also have that same passion and appreciation for our profession. ”

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SHANE DARBY

FSLM Asked Jenni...

What book are you currently reading?

The Women by Kristin Hannah.

What are your favorite local spots to spend time?

I love all things downtown: brunch at Café Lucille; dinner at Pecan Point, Zapatas, or Verona; events at Crossties.

Name a girl or woman you admire.

My 10-year-old daughter, Anna Leigh. She makes me want to be the best version of myself. She has such a beautiful heart. She is observant. She is bold and outspoken. She is giving.

NICOLE FANT’S WORDS:

In the six years I have known Jenni, I have seen her compassion for her community and the field of nursing.

As a former faculty member and fellow Texas A&M University–Texarkana alumna, Jenni has taken her MSN in nursing administration to prepare nursing students for the future of nursing. She continues to have a positive impact on the nurses she leads at CHRISTUS St. Michael. Jenni’s love for Christ, for others, and genuine concern for the goodness for everyone is inspiring.

Jenni is the clinical director of labor and delivery at CHRISTUS St. Michael. “L&D is my passion,” she said.

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The ancient Greek philosopher Heraclitus wrote, “A man’s character is his fate.” Sherry Missildine’s character, marked by compassion and perseverance, fated her to a life of caring for others as a nurse practitioner.

Growing up, Sherry didn’t think she was smart enough to pursue a career in medicine. “I didn’t grow up in a supportive environment and was never taught how to study, learn, or retain information,” she explained. During her senior year at Arkansas High School, she was hired as a legal secretary, a position she kept for ten years. She worked for a local attorney who specialized in workers’ compensation and disability. “Everything we dealt with was medicalrelated,” she said.

SHERRY MISSILDINE

At 19, Sherry’s brother, Shannon, was in a motor vehicle accident and suffered a traumatic brain injury. During his stay in the ICU, Sherry visited, and the course of her life changed dramatically.

“One day, I walked in and looked at all the machines he was hooked up to, the camino bolts in his head, the numbers and lines on the monitors, wondering what it all meant,” she recalled. “Then, just as clear as day, I heard a voice say, ‘One day, you’re going to understand what all those numbers mean, and you’ll work in this [field].’ I turned around quickly to see who behind me had said that. There wasn’t anyone there. In my head, I replied, ‘No way. I’m not smart enough. I’ll never be able to do this.’ I knew right then, though, that I was no longer in charge of my future, and I was destined to work in this field. I just didn’t know how it was going to play out.”

Later, Sherry and her family met the on-call neurosurgeon, who explained that Shannon would not recover and that they needed to take him off of the ventilator. “We appreciated his honesty in helping us make the right decision,” Sherry said. “I never forgot that.”

As Sherry kept working at the law firm, reading clients’ medical records every day, the “internal nagging” to pursue a career in medicine became harder to resist. In 1998, she quit her job and enrolled in college. She co-founded the Student Nursing Association at UAMS–Hope and was elected class president. She also served as the Arkansas Student Nurses Association secretary. In 2001, she graduated from UAMS–Hope as part of the nursing school’s first RN/ BSN class.

A short six months into her career as a nurse, Sherry became ill and required two brain surgeries. The neurosurgeon who operated on her was the same surgeon she’d met all those years ago.

Sherry recovered well and went back to work—and back to school. In 2006, she earned her master’s in nursing science as an acute care NP. One day, while working late at the hospital, she ran into the aforementioned neurosurgeon, who asked if she would be interested in working for him. Despite her academic success, Sherry still didn’t understand her own intelligence.

“I told him I couldn’t help him because I wasn’t trained in his specialty, and I wasn’t that smart,” she relayed. “He said, ‘I’ll teach you.’ He has been one of my supervising physicians on-and-off through his and my career for 18 years now.”

“People don’t get sick Monday through Friday, 8–4; they get sick on nights, holidays, and weekends. ”

To this day, Sherry works in neurosurgery. She also owns her own business, called Telemedicine NP, which allows her to work with adult patients remotely during non-business hours.

“People don’t get sick Monday through Friday, 8–4; they get sick on nights, holidays, and weekends,” she said. “I decided to try and solve that problem in my community.” She is reachable via phone at 903-205-1866 or her website, telemedicinenp.org.

A young Sherry couldn’t have imagined such a future for herself. And now? “I can’t imagine doing anything else with my life,” she said.

KELLY PACK’S WORDS:

I nominated Sherry to be recognized in this issue of the Tribute to Women because she is such an outstanding member of our medical community here in Texarkana. She works tirelessly providing top-level care to her patients in the St. Michael neurosurgery department, and she also runs a telehealth practice and provides on-the-go care 24/7 for many people. To provide the deep level of care that she does for so many patients is just a testament to her dedication to her craft and education. She is everything that is good and right about a healthcare provider, and I am so grateful she serves our community.

Asked Sherry...

What is something most people don’t know about you?

I love aviation! I would love to be a helicopter pilot.

As a child, what did you want to be when you grew up?

I really had no idea what I wanted to do. I had so much trouble with math and science in school that I never felt smart enough to do anything that required a large amount of time and education. Ultimately, I wanted to be a physician. When I finally figured it out, it was too late [to go to medical school].

What’s your favorite podcast?

My favorite podcasts right now are Knife After Death, Mother Knows Death, and Erika Taught Me

Sherry enjoys spending time with her sons, Alex and Adam, as well as her yorkie, Jackson.

Some people improve a place with their presence alone. Texarkana College financial aid specialist Tiffany Pumphrey is one of those people. Though she only began her job at TC in 2022, she works and speaks about her work as if she were born to help students pursue higher education.

“There is not a greater feeling than working personally with students to help them overcome financial obstacles that may hold them back from taking the next step in their career,” Tiffany said. “I absolutely love what I do: helping students navigate and understand how financial aid works, unlocking doors to educated success, helping them turn stress into success. I’m committed to breaking down financial barriers for students of all backgrounds.”

TIFFANY PUMPHREY

In her position, Tiffany utilizes a diverse array of skills to help students. In accordance with Department of Education regulations and guidelines, she reviews financial documents, evaluates and processes aid applications, and calculates awards. In addition, she assists students in completing FAFSA applications and helps with financial aid-related outreach. The job requires meticulous organizational skills, which Tiffany has developed over three decades of her career.

Tiffany, after earning her own degree from the University of Arkansas at Little Rock in 1995, returned to her hometown of Texarkana and worked for a pharmaceutical distributor for 20 years. In 2016, she was hired by TISD as a receptionist at Paul Laurence Dunbar Early Education Center. Three short years later, she was promoted to the role of staff development specialist, working alongside the executive director of curriculum and instruction. In 2022, she was named the district-wide Paraprofessional of the Year— an award she considers one of her greatest career accomplishments, along with being recognized as a “woman to watch” by the Northeast Texas Alliance of Black School Educators (NETBASE).

Approaching her two-year employment anniversary at Texarkana College, Tiffany has already made lasting, gratifying relationships with her colleagues, as well as with the students she serves. “I absolutely love being a part of my TC family and working with a great team that allows students to have a positive college experience,” she said. “[I feel so proud when] a student stops by the financial aid office to personally thank me for my assistance in helping them find aid for school and achieving their academic goals.”

An experienced professional, Tiffany knows that there is more to life than work— though resisting the call of workaholism has not always been easy. “I’ve had to choose to prioritize my well-being and personal growth,” she reflected. “The path that I have chosen—to prioritize my emotional, mental, and physical health—is not always easy, and I must remind myself daily that I’m capable of overcoming anything that comes my way.”

For other professional women, Tiffany has profound yet simple advice to offer: “You can’t waste your time wondering if you measure up to the person next to you,” she said. “Focus on what you bring to the table.”

You can’t waste your time wondering if you measure up to the person next to you.

FSLM Asked Tiffany...

As a child, what did you want to be when you grew up?

A neonatal nurse. I love babies.

What are your favorite local spots to spend time?

I love Mexican dishes, seafood, pizza, and burgers! My hangout spots are Tamollys, Mighty Crab, TLC Burgers, and Underground Pizza.

Name a woman who inspires you.

My daughter, Chloe. This kid is absolutely amazing! She received her master’s degree at 23 years old.

TAYLOR RICHARDS’ WORDS:

While Tiffany and I have not known each other long, she has left a mark for the better. It’s obvious to those around her that she works to make each day better than the last. She is a positive voice on the days that feel overwhelming and a steady hand for those who need a friend. Working with Tiffany is a blessing that I’ve grown to cherish. Even on the days that I may not get to speak with her, she’s always sure to give me a smile across the hallway. Tiffany Pumphrey embodies the essence of dedication and compassion. She tackles every challenge with diligence and determination. Once she sets her mind to something, there is no stopping her. Yet, it’s her compassion and generosity for others that truly set her apart. She’s always there to lend a helping hand, volunteer her time, and ensure the success of others. I cherish my friendship with her, and I know she deserves the honor of being highlighted within our community.

Tiffany and her husband, Kenneth, are members of Hickory Hill Baptist Church in Nash. They have two adult children: Chloe Griffin (23) and Evan Pumphrey (28).

Rhonda Roberts currently serves as the director of special education for the Central Bowie County SSA (Shared Services Agreement), which encompasses the Redwater and Maud school districts. She has spent 32 years in education, beginning in 1990 as a special education teacher at a Corpus Christi middle school. During her eight years in the classroom, she earned a master’s degree in educational administration, which allowed her to work as a principal for the district for 12 years.

In 2010, Rhonda was promoted into the role of executive director of instructional support, enabling her “to take on a bigger role in the district [and] have an impact on students, teachers, and staff throughout the district,” she said. “I had the opportunity to continue my growth as an educator overseeing several programs. It was amazing how much I learned during this time.”

RHONDA ROBERTS

Though this position was exceptionally gratifying, Rhonda knew she wanted to return to a position that would allow her regular direct contact with students and to be “part of a school’s community,” she said. To that end, she accepted the job of assistant principal at Redwater Junior High and High School in 2013.

“I spent six years as a principal at Redwater and could not have been happier,” Rhonda said. Her colleagues were happy, too; in 2018, they named her TASSP Region 8 High School Principal of the Year.

Though in many ways she was at the peak of her career, Rhonda retired in 2019 due to “an ongoing string of health issues that seemed to be never-ending,” she shared. “I felt I was physically and mentally slowing down, and it was taking a toll on my job performance. A week after retirement, I was diagnosed with breast cancer.”

Thankfully, surgery, radiation, and the support of family and friends helped Rhonda recover, and after two years at home, she regained the health and stamina to return to her career. In 2021, she was approached to act as interim principal of Redwater Elementary School. At the end of the school year, she was hired as the district’s coordinator for special programs.

When Maud ISD and Redwater ISD formed the Central Bowie County SSA in 2023, Rhonda’s title changed yet again. As the SSA’s director for special education, she manages the special education programs for both districts. In this role, she is able to effect change from above while also reaping the rewards of regular interaction with students.

“We are such a small rural school district, and I have always said the school is the community,” Rhonda explained. “Everyone in our community is involved in events and activities beginning at the school. Our staff, families, and community members support these students. It seems I never go anywhere that I do not see a former student, and I am proud to see the adults they have become.”

Rhonda’s students, past and present, are not the only young people who bring her joy. She and her husband, Larry, are the proud parents of three and grandparents of seven. Spending time with family is a top priority.

“With seven grandchildren, we stay busy going to baseball games, soccer games, and cheerleading competitions,” Rhonda shared. “The best times are having everyone at our home, spending time outdoors and cooking for the whole crew.”

“ We are such a small rural school district, and I have always said the school is the community.

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photo by SHANE DARBY

FSLM Asked Rhonda...

What is something most people don’t know about you? I had quite the temper when I was young. I even spent a day after school in the third grade writing lines—“I will never ever fight at school again.”

Name a woman who inspires you. Maya Angelou.

As a child, what did you want to be when you grew up? A teacher, of course. I spent my summers “playing school.”

LEE ANN CORBIN’S WORDS:

I first met Rhonda Roberts in 2013 as a Redwater High School teacher looking for my first school administrator position. Mrs. Roberts was the newly named principal of the combined high school and junior high campuses when she hired me as her assistant principal. I was thankful for the opportunity at the time but am even more so now that I have worked with her for over a decade. Wise and thoughtful, Rhonda uses her love and advocacy for children to guide her leadership decisions. Her calm and down-to-earth demeanor puts everyone at ease. She has made a difference at Redwater ISD as a secondary school principal, interim elementary school principal, and director of special education. Our leadership team relied on her expert knowledge of special education to transition to serving students with severe disabilities when our shared services agreement with another district ended. Rhonda ensured these students and their teachers became an integral part of the Dragon family, and it has been a mutually beneficial experience for all. She humbly holds many titles: wife, mother, educator, cancer survivor, and—most prized—MiMi to her grandchildren. I am honored to share my dear friend and mentor, Rhonda Roberts, with the readers of Four States Living. The ripple effect of her accomplishments will have a positive impact for years to come. As for me, I am a better leader and person for knowing her.

Rhonda and her husband paint hay bales every fall for their neighbors to enjoy.

Pianist and educator Mary Scott Smith learned early on that music was an integral part of her personhood. As a teenager, she spent two summers at the Brevard Music Center in North Carolina and experienced an epiphany in the place she least expected—the choir risers.

“All the piano majors were put in choir, something which I didn’t understand and had a pretty bad attitude about going in,” Mary Scott recalled. “Our first piece was Beethoven’s Symphony No. 9, and our conductor was going to be Robert Shaw, the legendary choral conductor and also conductor of the Atlanta symphony. When he arrived and rehearsed us, I began to see that this was going to be an amazing experience. When we performed with the orchestra, it literally blew my mind. I had no idea there was a whole world of music like this. It opened so many doors for me. I knew then and there that music was not just for me, it was me, and that these were my people.”

MARY SCOTT SMITH

A native of South Carolina, Mary Scott moved to Texarkana when she married Howard Goode in 2002. In the years since, she has stayed busy, teaching in the music department at Texarkana College for 20 years before retiring in 2021 (though she still teaches as an adjunct). In 2009, she received the TC Endowed Faculty Chair Award for Teaching Excellence. She founded the TC Music Series and co-founded the Texarkana Symphony Orchestra. Though she retired from TSO in 2023, Mary Scott says she still occasionally joins them and regularly accompanies the Texarkana Regional Chorale. She is also the chair of the James Herrin Piano Festival, an annual event held at TC in honor of the late music professor James Herrin.

The local music landscape of today is vastly different than it was in the early aughts, thanks in large part to Mary Scott’s efforts.

“Texarkana has been a wonderful place for me to use my skills and talents to help bring great music and great music education to our community,” she said. “My time in Texarkana has been the most productive of my life. I consider myself lucky to have lived in a place with so much native talent and resources, and a place that has been so receptive to the arts.”

Mary Scott’s husband was diagnosed with neurological disease in 2017, and after two years of “long and arduous” treatment, he died in 2019, presenting Mary Scott with the greatest challenge of her life: “saying goodbye to him.” The grief was tremendous, but on the other side, Mary Scott discovered that “God had another husband in store for me,” she said.

One of Howard’s physicians was Dr. C. Jack Smith, a widower and fellow musician. The two fell in love and were married in 2020. “We have so much in common and are both enjoying this precious time together we have been given later in life,” she said.

Mary Scott is a member of the Texarkana Music Teachers Association, the AR-TEX Music Connection, and the Sue Sanderson Garden Club. She and Jack attend Williams Memorial United Methodist Church. In her free time, she enjoys fishing, strolling at the Williams walking track, and otherwise spending time outside with her husband—though “free time” is in short supply.

“I am busy playing, teaching, and supporting music events,” she said. “I love it. I love teaching people to play well and helping them be their best, and I love bringing great music to our area. I want to continue to support all things piano and piano playing, whether that is in church or school or on the stage.”

I love teaching people to play well and helping them be their best, and I love bringing great music to our area.

photo by SHANE DARBY

FSLM Asked Mary Scott...

If you could speak one sentence of wisdom to your past self, what would it be?

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding” (Proverbs 3:5).

Name a woman who inspires you.

Clara Schumann, wife of Robert Schumann. She was a great 19th-century pianist who was a wife and mother and a composer as well. She was a great musician throughout her life and an inspiration to many others.

What book are you currently reading?

CANDACE TAYLOR’S WORDS:

Mary Scott is undeniably a worldclass musical gem whom I have been blessed to collaborate with on various musical projects. I remain in awe and appreciation of the dynamic energy brought forth when she graces the piano keys. Time and again, her ability to support and accompany a large ensemble has proven to be a tour de force. Mary Scott’s performances are always solid under pressure, while being generous and honest in spirit. Her contributions to education at Texarkana College, especially the founding of the TC Music Series, and involvement with various music associations continues to reap significant benefits. Through her efforts and leadership, our region’s fellow colleagues/music students/music lovers have been exposed to and inspired by the gifts and talents of other world-class artists. Mary Scott has also set an excellent example to follow in music education. I have witnessed her provide students the type of education, motivation, support, and encouragement necessary to assist them in becoming competent musicians; she has, undoubtedly, been an excellent role model for my daughter who plays piano as well. I am especially thankful for the recognition of Mary Scott’s work through an endowment in her name, established to assist in providing music scholarships for deserving students. Mary Scott and I have had good times and great laughs together, with my most fond memory being from 2014, when we traveled to Italy to perform. True to her form, she played superbly.

The Poisonwood Bible by Barbara Kingsolver.

Mary Scott enjoys bass fishing at Holly Mound Duck Hunting Club.

When Mary Warren decided to become a teacher, it was because she knew firsthand the difference a dedicated teacher could make in a child’s life.

“Mrs. Snell, my fourth grade teacher, served as a source of motivation for me to pursue a career in teaching,” Mary reflected. Mrs. Snell was not only Mary’s teacher at school but also the wife of her pastor and her Sunday school teacher. “Throughout our time together, she shared stories from the Bible, led us in prayer, and encouraged us to sing hymns every day. She also stressed the significance of treating others with kindness and respect.”

After graduating from Texas High School in 1974, Mary went on to earn bachelor’s and master’s degrees in education from East Texas State University (now TAMU–T) before beginning a long career with Texarkana Arkansas School District. She worked at the elementary and middle school levels, often clocking many hours outside her contracted 40 per week to meet the needs of her students.

MARY WARREN

“As a committed teacher, I faced a significant challenge in helping my students meet the necessary academic standards for their exams,” she said. “I went above and beyond my usual teaching duties to address this issue by offering personalized after-school tutoring. Despite the extra time and effort required, my dedication to supporting their academic growth inspired me to take on this additional responsibility. These tailored sessions provided the focused attention needed for a deeper understanding of the material.”

Though Mary was only doing what she saw to be necessary for her students, the people around her took note of her exceptional commitment. In 1990, she was given the Parent Teacher Lifetime Membership Award. And, in 2000, she was a Teacher of the Year nominee at College Hill Middle School. Throughout her 39-year career, she received numerous other service awards for her dedication to her students.

“I have a deep passion for guiding and inspiring young minds,” Mary reflected, “and witnessing their growth and success brings me immense joy. Seeing students reach their full potential and become the best versions of themselves is incredibly satisfying to me.”

Though Mary has retired from teaching, she is still actively helping young people grow and thrive. She is a member of Las Amigas Social and Civic Club, a longstanding local organization that strives to improve the community through various means—including an annual debutante program. Mary, who has held various leadership roles in the organization over the years, always sponsors a debutante.

She is still actively involved with educational groups as well. She is a longtime member of the Beta Rho Chapter of the National Sorority of Phi Delta Kappa, an organization for women in education. Mary currently serves as chairperson of the scholarship committee. She also sits on the retirement planning committee of the Miller County Retired Teachers Association.

Mary, who is also the financial secretary of the Top Ladies of Distinction’s Twin City Chapter, finds participation in these organizations to be deeply gratifying. “Through group involvement,” she said, “I aim to establish meaningful connections, foster personal growth, and positively impact society.”

An active member of Oak Street Baptist Church, Mary is the current president of the usher ministry, co-chair of the deaconess ministry, chairperson of the pastor’s anniversary committee, and a teacher at Vacation Bible School. In her free time, she volunteers with the church’s outreach program, packaging food boxes for hungry people throughout the community.

I have a deep passion for guiding and inspiring young minds, and witnessing their growth and success brings me immense joy. “ ”

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Asked Mary...

What’s something most people don’t know about you?

I love NFL football—from watching games and discussing predictions with fellow fans to admiring the skill and athleticism of players.

Name a woman you admire.

My mother, Mary V. Lee, profoundly impacted my life with her unparalleled resilience and empathy. She had a unique ability to bring happiness to any situation, even in the face of adversity.

If you could speak one sentence of wisdom to your past self, what would it be?

“When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time” (Maya Angelou).

SANDRA DODD’S WORDS:

It is a privileged honor to recommend Mrs. Mary Lee Warren as a 2024 honoree. Mary’s daily impetus is an ongoing demonstration of the joy she embodies and the ways she affects others. Her gentle spirit, smile, laughter, and sense of humor are not to be overshadowed by the seriousness and genuine passion she incorporates in her spiritual life and community involvement. The fruit of her labor shines on the faces of those you interact with who have been touched by that labor in some way. That touch may have been today, yesterday, or days that add up to years ago. That’s just how infectious her personality is. Mary is a doer, approaching and accomplishing tasks without having to be asked or reminded. She leads by example. Fondly, I add that, (still) in teacher mode and always a mom, she is usually accompanied by her lovely daughter, Angela (whom I refer to as her “sidekick”). Mary possesses a creative ability to make a difference, make a change, make something work, influence or impact an idea—always in a spirit of giving unselfishly so that others are impacted in a positive way. Mary: sincere congratulations, and thanks for the privilege of knowing such a person and witnessing the impacts you make on people’s lives.

Mary is married to David Warren, a Marine Corp veteran. Their daughter, Angela, is a graduate student at the University of Phoenix.

“I’m an educator because I want to make a difference in the lives of children,” said Melodie White, principal of Theron Jones Early Literacy Center. “I want students to love learning and to become lifelong learners. I want them to realize they can do anything they put their minds to and are willing to put in the hard work to accomplish.”

Melodie has wanted to be an educator for as long as she can remember. “I recall bringing extra school work home and playing school with my dolls, siblings, and friends as a young child,” she said. “My mom was an educator. She owned a daycare in our home, and I remember helping her take care of the children in her care. Seeing how much she enjoyed taking care of and teaching children inspired me to want to do the same.”

MELODIE WHITE

After earning her bachelor’s in early childhood education at Southern University and A&M College in her hometown of Baton Rouge, Melodie taught in various school districts before she and her husband, Mark, along with their son, Justin, moved to Texarkana in 2001. Mark’s job necessitated the move, but it was what the Whites found in Texarkana that convinced them to stay.

“I wanted a place where my son could grow up and make lifelong friends, and I wanted the same for my husband and myself,” she recalled. “We found that in Texarkana, and Texarkana soon became our home.”

Melodie was hired as a kindergarten teacher at Theron Jones, a position she kept for eight years. During that time, she served as a team leader and a mentor teacher, and she was recognized as the campus’ Teacher of the Year. She felt like she had found her niche.

“It was always my plan to teach kindergarten my entire educational career,” Melodie explained. “I never had the desire to move into a leadership role.”

But the women around her urged her to dream bigger. “Jennell Ingram, my principal at the time, saw something in me that I didn’t see in myself,” Melodie said. “She encouraged me to move out of the classroom into other roles. And my best friends, Kristi Lewis and Jenny Pinnell-Norton, convinced me to enroll in graduate school later in life.”

Melodie earned two master’s degrees. Her first, in curriculum and instruction, empowered her to serve as a curriculum coach. Her second, in educational leadership, “opened doors to leadership opportunities,” she said. She worked as the Theron Jones assistant principal before stepping into her current role as principal.

School culture is incredibly important to Melodie. “I am proud of the positive climate and culture that we have created on our campus,” she said. “It’s an environment where students and staff feel like they belong, they can succeed, they are supported and loved.”

Outside of work, Melodie is an active member of Macedonia Baptist Church in Texarkana, Arkansas, where she is a youth Sunday school teacher, the president of the usher board, and the secretary of the women’s missionary board. She is also a member of the Junior League of Texarkana and has chaired various committees. “I enjoy volunteering in the community [with JLT] as we support children’s literacy [and fight] hunger and poverty,” she said. “One of my favorite events is ‘Shoes for the Soul and Clothes for a Cause.’ We take local students shopping at Target for clothes and shoes. I love seeing the smiles on their faces as we shop.”

“ I am proud of the positive climate and culture that we have created on our campus. ”

photo by SHANE DARBY

FSLM Asked Melodie...

If you could speak one sentence of wisdom to your past self, what would it be?

Take advantage of opportunities that come your way; you never know what doors they will open in the future.

What television show are you currently watching?

I enjoy watching the series 1923. My son worked on the show.

Name a woman who inspires you.

My aunt Rosemary is my second mom. She always encourages me and prays for me daily.

ELODIA WITTERSTAETTER’S WORDS:

Melodie is a great school leader and community member whose qualities greatly contribute to her effectiveness and the positive impact she has on those around her. Her ability to connect with others on a personal level—especially in the roles of campus principal and member of the Junior League of Texarkana—showcases her exceptional interpersonal skills and deep commitment to her community. Her genuine care for her students, staff, and community not only enriches those immediate relationships but also sets a powerful example for others. This past year, I have stepped into a new leadership role in our district, and it has given me the opportunity to work with Melodie more closely and see her in action. She consistently exhibits the positive character traits of honesty, kindness, empathy, and authenticity. She remains grounded, humble, and one who is first to give credit to others. She genuinely cares about her students, staff, and community. I am fortunate to know her as a colleague and friend.

Mark, Melodie, and Justin recently visited Yellowstone National Park.

SCENE ABOUT TOWN

THE SALVATION ARMY TEXARKANA WOMEN’S AUXILIARY HOSTED ITS ANNUAL GLADYS MORRISS STONE SOUP LUNCHEON AT FIRST UNITED METHODIST CHURCH ON THURSDAY, APRIL 18TH.

Nancy Robbins, Char Crane, Yulin Brewer, Suzy Heath, and Jerry Brewer

David Gest, Deidra Bennett, and Dr. Brian Matthews

Carol Fisher, Jan Whitehorn, Shirley Daniels, Martha Clinton, and Marsha Parry

Lisa Sitterley, Keith Beason, and Rev. Jaimie Alexander

Captains Clara and Juan Gomez

Mary Nell Short, Brenda Britt, and Beth Pesek

Richard Reynolds and Dr. Robin Hickerson

Janella Garrett and Betty Rateliff

Armand Rogado and Sandi Prater with John and Nedra Frady

Jordan Cox, Eric Cain, Tony Asbille, and Steve Oden

MEET

KYNLEE FLIPPEN

by MADELINE SMALLWOOD

Adorned with sparkling tiaras and radiant smiles, the pageant contestants hold their heads high as they hope to don the winner’s crown and sash. Among the young women is Texas High School junior Kynlee Flippen.

“So this is actually my first year of competing in pageants,” Kynlee said. “I had a bunch of female role models in my life pushing me to do pageants. It was a step out of my comfort zone, but I ended up really enjoying it.”

With two pageants under her belt, Kynlee is the current titleholder of Miss North Texas Teen. “I haven’t gotten too far into [the pageant world] yet, since I haven’t competed at Miss Texas, but I will in June,” she said.

Kylee has found that competing in pageants leads to more opportunities.

“I’ve been able to get out in the community more and be able to share my voice—because having a crown and a sash can really put you on a pedestal to some people and allow them to listen to you and hear your words and apply them to their own lives,” Kynlee shared. “My service initiative is called GOAL, which stands for ‘Get Out And Look.’ It’s primarily about bridging the gap that exists between the homeless population and the rest of our communities.”

Additionally, Kynlee has been able to meet and connect with influential individuals, such as Texas Governor Greg Abbott, who was recently in Texarkana at a political rally. As Miss North Texas Teen, Kynlee was invited to attend as well.

“That morning, I woke up and had to immediately get in the right mindset,” she said. “It was a big day for me because I had to present myself and the Miss North Texas Teen organization well. It was so neat to be able to meet and talk with the figurehead of our state. I was so lucky to have a conversation with him and get to experience that.”

With the Miss Texas pageant quickly approaching, Kynlee has found that thorough preparation is key. “I’ve been going over potential questions for interviews and gaining as much knowledge as possible about politics,” she said. “I’ve been trying to dig deep and really pull out the things that are interesting about me and make me different. I’ve been watching my posture and practicing doing my own hair and makeup leading up to Miss Texas.”

In addition to personal and community opportunities, pageants also provide lifelong memories and connections.

“My favorite thing about pageants is really just the friendships that come along with it,” Kynlee shared. “I’ve really gotten to bond with the girls that are in the Miss Texarkana organization. We all have a passion for making the world a better place regardless of our service initiatives.”

Even though the pageant lifestyle requires hard work and dedication, Kynlee highly recommends it. However, she has one piece of advice.

“You have to be yourself,” she said. “When I first stepped into it, I was super nervous. Then I realized that it’s okay to be yourself because people love authenticity, and they don’t want you to put on a fake face and pretend to be somebody that you’re not.”

Kynlee’s main mission through her pageantry is for everyone to be respected and treated with dignity. “I just want everybody to feel included and loved and welcome, no matter what their situation is or whoever they may be,” she said. “Everyone deserves a chance at love, and that’s what life’s all about.”

Madeline Smallwood is a junior at Pleasant Grove High School. She is a writer for The Edge newspaper and a staff photographer. Her greatest love is sports photojournalism, and she hopes to one day capture the highs and lows of NFL football.

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I realized that it’s okay to be yourself because people love authenticity, and they don’t want you to put on a fake face and pretend to be somebody that you’re not.

CASA AND TCAC HELD ITS ANNUAL COLORFUL 5K RUN AT TRINITY BAPTIST CHURCH ON SATURDAY, APRIL 20TH.

Teeauna Hill, Bianca Telford, Jenny Crow, Missy Davison, Anna Johnson, and Se’Sha Holyfield

Joey Keilbach, Trinity Gardner, Mandi Nack, Maureen Fletcher, and Jessica Kelley

Hallie Thompson, Blakely Kirkwood, and Kristi Kirkwood

John Ed Crisp, John Crisp, and Hudson McWilliams

Joseph Armstrong, Gabi Malone, and Trent Melancon

Oscar Martinez, G’Mar Britton, and John Crisp

WOMEN of FOUR STATES

Women in the Four States area are making an impact in every industry, enterprise, and workplace imaginable. They are CEOs, founders, strategists, and irreplaceable employees who are instrumental in their own organization’s success. Through their daily actions and achievements, they are a great example for the next generation of women in business. Following are just a few of the inspiring women leading the way here in Texarkana!

ESTRONG OOTS

WHEN LIFE GIVES YOU LEMONS, CELEBRATE

by ROBIN PROCTOR

leven years ago, as I wandered around an incredible nursery in Dallas, I stumbled upon a grove of Meyer lemon trees. The sweet aroma of the blooms was absolutely intoxicating. At that moment, I knew I needed a Meyer lemon tree; after all, how hard could it be keeping one alive?

In retrospect, this confidence in my ability to keep a plant thriving makes me laugh a bit. My plant caretaker résumé is riddled with past failures, often involving beautiful plants entrusted to me reluctantly by my father—though, in my defense, most of these “planticides” occurred when I was quite young and just beginning to learn how to take care of myself . . . But that didn’t stop him from softly humming the funeral march as he handed me the plant. He knew it was destined to meet its maker. Sadly, he was usually (fine: always) right.

Years later, my lemon tree is actually still going strong. To say it has been easy would be grossly misleading; it has been a humbling journey full of lessons. Since the East Texas climate is not friendly to lemon trees, a large container (instead of planting in the ground) was necessary. I knew it needed sun and rain—but not too much sun and rain. It wasn’t long before I decided this tree needed a set of wheels. Each growing season, I would hover over the small green lemons, counting them daily and making plans for them. Though not without a healthy dose of sweat and tears (and maybe a few late-night panic attacks wheeling the tree in the house before a frost or surprise hailstorm), the journey has been “fruitful” and absolutely worth the time and effort. So, when life gives you lemons, celebrate, and of course, recognize their full potential.

in knowing exactly where your lemons came from (your love and labor!) and what they have (or haven’t) been exposed to. If you don’t have an extra 40 hours a week to tend to a Meyer lemon tree’s every waking need but still want an unadulterated lemon, go for the organic lemons in the food market.

When life gives you lemons, make limoncello. A few years ago, in a quaint Italian bistro in Manhattan’s Tribeca, my husband and I shared an incredible dinner with friends. As we relaxed at the table following the meal, the waiter delivered the most beautiful, bright-golden digestif to our table. This was my first experience with limoncello, an Italian liquor preferably served ice cold in a small glass. Delicious! So, naturally, when life handed me lemons, I decided to make limoncello. The process started with peeling from the fruit the everso-thin layer of yellow known as zest. As I carefully peeled the zest, it was important to avoid the white part of the lemon, the pith. Pith is known for its bitterness. After peeling the zest, scrape the remaining pith from the zest. The base alcohol for limoncello is Everclear. Don’t worry, this isn’t college (or, for you wild ones, high school); the Everclear is heavily diluted when it’s all said and done. Place the zest in a liter of Everclear and, in the words of Donnie Brasco, forget about it. This will need to steep for approximately three months in a dark area. The oils from the zest will turn the alcohol to a rich shade of yellow. You have now completed the first step for making limoncello. There are multiple recipes for limoncello on the internet. For inspiration, make sure Sinatra is playing loudly in the background.

Dale Carnegie wrote, “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” Now, who doesn’t love a delicious cold lemonade? But it really is just the beginning of the lemon’s possibilities! As a hopeful homesteader, the challenge is discovering those possibilities and putting those lemons to good use.

Whenever possible, start with an organic, unwaxed lemon. Most lemons in the grocery store are coated in wax for preservation purposes. While this wax is not considered harmful, there is something comforting

When life gives you lemons, juice them. Meyer lemons are known to produce an abundance of juice. Ice trays work great for making singleserving size lemon cubes. Afterwards, pop them out and place them in freezer bags. These frozen squares can be thawed for delicious recipes such as chicken piccata, or my mother-in-law’s famous lemon meringue pie. At 97 years young, Ava still makes the perfect pie.

And don’t throw away those juiced lemons just yet!

When life gives you lemons, clean, clean, clean. When I started making sourdough bread (oftentimes with lemon zest, obviously), the

countertop was the perfect surface to roll out and shape the dough. This led me to think about the cleaning residue left behind on the counter and how I really wanted to avoid it transferring to my food. After some research, I decided to make my own all-natural cleaning spray. Vinegar is the perfect natural base for any cleaning spray. I then added leftover lemon pulp and allowed it to steep for about a week. I repurposed an old spray bottle, and voilà! I now had a safe and effective cleaning solution. You can also add a small amount of alcohol to increase the cleaning power.

When life gives you lemons, grow a tree. Don’t forget that each lemon contains seeds that could one day graduate into a lemon tree. Simply place the lemon seeds between two wet cotton pads or paper towels, sprinkle with a little cinnamon to keep away mold, and then place the folded paper towel in a sealed bag. In a week or two, open the paper towel and check for sprouts. If you are one of the lucky few, you may have the start of your very own tree. Before you know it, that tree may be giving you lemons of your own—and now you will know what to do with them.

Robin Choate Proctor was born and raised in Texarkana, Texas. After graduating from Texas High School, she pursued a music career which eventually led her to Nashville, Tennessee. Robin returned to Texarkana and completed her degree in education at Texas A&M–Texarkana. Robin is married to Danny Proctor and has one son Chase Proctor along with three beautiful grandchildren. As an amateur homesteader, Robin enjoys sharing her ideas and experiences about her time in her garden, greenhouse, chicken coop, and kitchen.

SCENE ABOUT TOWN

RAISING FUNDS FOR RANDY SAMS OUTREACH SHELTER, 2 PIANOS PERFORMED A CONCERT DOWNTOWN AT CROSSTIES EVENT VENUE ON THURSDAY, APRIL 18TH.

Kristy Smith and Perry Steitler

Everett Moses, Michael George, Sharon Ross, and Sonny Malone

Jennifer Lacefeld, Greg Davis, Sarah Langehennig, and Susan Stanley

Raeghan and Austin Hunnicutt, Deidra Reeves, and Michael Davis

Brittany Alexander, Amber Brown, Jeff Loving, Leslie Knox, and Elizabeth Kirk

Tina Cunningham and Marcia Austin Juan Green and Jack Forte

Robin and Joe Christen

EXQUISITE INTERIORS

A LOVE LETTER TO MODERNISM

by PHOEBE WARREN photos by KATELYN PEEK

Justin opened the house up to more light, verticality, and function. Due to tedious delays in manufacturing and delivery thanks to the ongoing pandemic, the transformation took about two years. The final result? A gorgeous home that sits rather unsuspectingly on the edge of a cul-de-sac. Opening the doors to this 5-bed, 3.5-bath home reveals a triumphant mélange of sleek modernity married with comfort and personality. M

ary and Jay Wommack purchased their new home in the Northridge neighborhood in 2020. Jay had grown up in this neighborhood and was excited to move back to a location of fond memories. Built in 1964, the Wommacks’ new home called for freshness and vibrancy. As luck would have it, their son-in-law, Justin Scurlock of Scurlock Studio, was excited to take on the challenge.

Modern interior design is characterized by furniture with simple form and function; the use of natural materials such as wood, leather, glass, and stone; and often a warm, neutral color palette. The Wommacks’ home manages to convey modernity in structure and design while blending harmoniously with the traditionalist touches found in the antiques and family heirlooms throughout the house. The entryway of the home immediately sets this tone: a visitor walking in is first greeted by a charming side table adorned with a wooden cat and decorated porcelain bowl. An ornate wooden mirror hangs above the table, and a colorful patterned runner leads into a showstopping dining room.

The dining room’s gorgeous walnut-slat walls contrast with the dark table. Directly above, a curved raised ceiling with knife-edge cove lighting illuminates the space. The design is minimalistic by intention. Before the house transformation, this room served multiple purposes. “We wanted more emphasis here [in the dining room] to make this just the dining room,” Justin said. “We also added floor-toceiling windows here.” The walnut walls are full of surprises; several portions of the walls

Justin Scurlock of Scurlock Studios designed the space.

open up to reveal hidden storage spaces; Mary had expressed the desire for more storage throughout the home in the renovation. A guest bathroom is also cleverly concealed behind one of the wall panels to the left of the dining room.

The airy living room is crowned by a cathedral ceiling and filled with natural light. Again, the space is sleek and modern with dainty touches of traditional pieces, such as a bookshelf filled with classic leather-bound books and antique decor pieces, as well as two comfy green-tweed chairs that once belonged to Jay’s parents.

A narrowed space in between the living room and kitchen provides a necessary transition into the most contemporary portion of the home. The transition space is bordered with two large floor-to-ceiling cabinets. One cabinet reveals a closet full of games and other fun items for Mary and Jay’s grandchildren, while the other turns into a classy bar area, complete with shelving for bottles and refrigerated drawers. The cabinetry, painted in satinfinish “Jitney” by Farrow & Ball, is designed with hairline joints to appear seamless.

The kitchen almost looks like a blank slate at first glance. Exploring the area and opening all of the sleek, touch-latch cabinets and drawers reveal a dishwasher, the trashcan, the microwave, ample storage space, and a grand floor-to-ceiling freezer and fridge to the left and right of the stovetop. An elegant black-marble kitchen island anchors the room and provides a beautiful contrast to the otherwise light space. The kitchen vent hood above the stove is extra tall to accommodate Jay and Mary’s height and also opens up the wall space.

The kitchen was cleverly designed by Justin to draw the eye to the stunning oasis in the backyard. “The most important thing for me in all this was to adjust the back of the house to appreciate the lakeview in the backyard,” he explained. “The kitchen was expanded into the porch that was here to make these floor-to-ceiling windows and open up the space.”

The backyard is more than worthy of the kitchen expansion, with sprawling green hills and the sparkling lake that is also a part of the golf-course on the edge of the neighborhood. “This is a pretty tough shot here,” Mary laughed. “I’ve watched so many golfers from this spot that I can tell by their swing if they’re going to make it [across the lake] or not!”

Behind the main kitchen is a bonus area, where more cabinets and drawers hide storage and a nice-sized laundry nook. Here, there are built-in shelves to hold daily necessities such as vitamins and supplements.

This two-story home is a celebration of functional design that doesn’t compromise the personalization of its owners. It is a gorgeous home full of natural light and carefully crafted luxury.

Trading Stethoscopes for Shoe Boxes

Dr. Laura Balmain is retiring but will keep saving lives

“Retirement is certainly bittersweet,” said Dr. Laura Balmain, longtime beloved gastroenterologist and friend to so many throughout the Four States area. Dr. Balmain has spent over three decades taking care of patients, practicing in Texarkana since 2002.

Throughout her career, she has experienced drastic changes in the medical landscape.

“Back in 1987 [when I began medical school], CT scans had just come out, and MRIs were a new thing,” she said. “For my profession, during a colonoscopy, there was an eyepiece attached to the scope that we used to observe the colon; now, everything is done with a camera, and we view the results on a screen. Crohn’s disease had two remedies back then: steroids or surgery. Now we have alternatives for patients. We even thought that stress caused ulcers, and now we know it’s a bacteria that causes ulcers. So much has changed over the years.”

Long before she was in college or even high school, Laura knew she wanted to be a doctor. As a child, she would visit the nursing home with her grandmother who worked there. While visiting the residents, a four-year-old Laura said, “One day, I am going to be a doctor, and then I will come back and take care of you.” Even before starting kindergarten, Laura knew she wanted to serve others through medicine.

In 1987, after graduating from Texas A&M University at College Station, Laura started medical school at UT Southwestern in Dallas. Between 1991 and 1995, she completed her internship

Dr. Laura Balmain with some of her coworkers at Texarkana Gastroenterology

and residency at the University of Alabama–Birmingham, acting in her final year as chief resident. In 1995, Laura moved to Nashville to attend Vanderbilt and specialize in gastroenterology. By 1997, she had begun practicing in northeast Tennessee, living a dream existence in the Blue Ridge Mountains.

A few years into her career, Laura gave birth to her only son, Joseph. Then, out of the blue, in 2001, a letter arrived from Dr. Stanley Knowles of Texarkana Gastroenterology. He asked Laura to move back to Texarkana to work with him and live where her family and friends were. Laura knew that the greatest gift she could give Joseph was to move back to the Texarkana area, so, in 2002, she moved home.

procedures, 18-hour on-call days, and regular 80-hour weeks, her body has told her that the time to retire is now.

“God called me to do medicine, and I have loved it,” Laura said. “If I ever look back and wonder, I will know that I did what He wanted me to do.”

Look behind you and thank Him.

Look around you and serve Him. Look ahead and trust Him. Look up and expect Him.

In her 23 years at Texarkana Gastroenterology, Laura’s patients have become her friends, and her coworkers have become family. She loves what she does and said that if it weren’t for the physical wear-and-tear on her body, she would keep working. She has often prayed to make it to 65 before retiring (she is now 61), but after 45,000

Dr. Balmain has yet to set an exact date to step away from her daily responsibilities at Texarkana Gastroenterology. Once that day arrives, she will transition into other pursuits.

“You can’t go from 100 miles per hour to a rocking chair,” she said. Her plans are to be a missionary and spend more time on a project that she already contributes to: Operation Christmas Child. Operation Christmas Child, a project of Samaritan’s purse, sends shoe boxes of gifts to kids all over the world. Laura also plans to do medical missions and disaster relief, helping others as she has her entire life, in the name of God.

“I’ll still be around, but my focus will just be saving lives in different ways,” she said.

Dr. Laura Balmain with her son, Joseph Rodgers

– Dr. Balmain’s life motto

Dr. Laura Balmain packing boxes for Operation Christmas Child

One of the packed boxes for Operation Christmas Child

THE DAILY PLANET

by KLARK KENT

Beyoncé said it best when she screamed, “Who run the world? Girls!” Want to know something about me? Every boss I’ve ever had in my entire life has been a woman. That’s right—starting with my first job at Jennings Feed Mill in Foreman, Arkansas, and in every position moving forward, I have been guided by girl power. I’m unapologetically pro-female organizational leadership. Women as a whole are much better than men when it comes to many aspects of running operations and getting things done. The numerous strongwilled trailblazers who set out before us to clear the path for women in the workplace have transformed the leadership landscape over the past three decades. Female leadership has more than tripled across all Fortune 500 companies in the last 30 years. It is truly zero surprise to me that #girlboss is here to thrive.

And double kudos to all the #bossbabes because, although women have taken over leadership in work roles at an unprecedented rate over the past few decades, not much has changed in regard to historic expectations of gender roles. So, not only are they killing it at work, but they are also killing at all of the traditional gender roles (e.g., mom, wife, chauffeur of teens, cooking, cleaning).

Our culture has benefited so much from women winning power and influence in decision-making at all levels. The biggest inequality that still exists within this discussion is equal pay. This is an area that has improved but still has plenty of room for improvement. I’m

confident that as we improve, more and more women will take the helm of management roles.

It’s a brave new world, and no longer will women be held down by any “traditional values.” Don’t get me wrong—it’s uncharted territory that we will have to experience together as a nation. Many unknowns exist. As more women than ever realize their independence, they have flipped a cultural “can of worms.” At a faster-than-ever rate, embryos are being frozen for later use, and many are forgoing a “traditional” family altogether. What will the landscape look like in 30 years? Who knows . . . but I think we’re heading in the right direction.

As a group, females are more nurturing and encouraging to other individuals, which has allowed for new growth in interpersonal dynamics of workplace management. Don’t believe me? Go mess with a tight-knit girl dominated workplace. You had better pack a lunch! This is an unprecedented benefit when it comes to how we are able to approach future and current major world problems with differing viewpoints.

Thank goodness we no longer live in a country where women are forced to endure domestic violence with little to no ability to leave the situation and improve their own and their kids’ lives. Now it’s basically #boybye for any misuse of masculine energy towards women. That’s wonderful news! Do you realize how many of your grandmothers would have left an abusive alcoholic husband if they would have been able to get a job? So let’s take a moment to thank all the females who literally cut the path for our current generation of women to have equal freedoms and marketability within workplaces.

As for me, maybe it’s just natural to me to be pro-female. I was the youngest of seven cousins and the only boy. So, yes,

I was forced to emcee a “Star Search” show at Grandma’s house on the daily and learned from an early age to value women for their uniqueness. I’m not saying I have super powers like Mel Gibson in What Women Want, but I’d like to think I’m definitely above the average male emotional intelligence when it comes to understanding the benefits of advancing women in leadership.

I currently work with 24 women, and, once again, I’m the only male. All the women at my office are probably laughing out loud reading this, but deep down they know who the boss is . . . They are! My role is very comparable to Forrest Gump’s when his drill sergeant asked, “Gump, what’s your sole purpose in this army?” He and I both reply, “To do whatever you tell me to do.” #girlpower

Until next time: be wise, be kind to all persons, and read a book.

Originally from Tom, Oklahoma, Klark Kent earned his master’s of science in engineering at Louisiana Tech University and his PA at The University of Toledo Medical Center. He currently works as a physician assistant (PA-C FM/D) at Texarkana Care Clinic. Husband to Alex and father to Keller and Kix, Klark cherishes his family and enjoys writing (often humorously) about his personal experiences, life, and medicine.

LONESTAR AESTHETICS & WELLNESS HELD A RE-BRANDING EVENT AT THEIR LOCATION ON GALLERIA OAKS DRIVE ON THURSDAY, APRIL 18TH.

Miranda Mikkelsen and Samantha Harris

Rachelle Cope, Alissa Flanagan, and Brooke Fitts

Brooke Marshall, Samantha Harris, and Amy Tankersley

Becca Turner and Kaylie Stephens

Ashley Klimaszewski and Nina Howeth

Kim Drewry, Angie Hopkins, and Bridget Contreras

Amy Vaughn, Sara Marchand, and Margaret Shelton

Amber Stewart, Amanda Razaq, Holly Hickerson, and Holly McMurry

MAY 2024

MAY 3

Soul Shop for Leaders by the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention

Come join this free training opportunity at First Methodist Church, located at 401 North State Line Avenue. This workshop is designed to equip faith community leaders and congregations to minister to those impacted by suicide. The workshop will run from 8:30 a.m. to 4 p.m. This program is open and applicable to all faith groups. Register for this event at sstexarkana.attendease.com. For more information, contact Erica Martinez Cain at 903-708-2012 or caintxk@yahoo.com.

MAY

4

Twice as Fine Texarkana Wine Festival

For the ninth year, this one-of-a-kind art, food, music, and wine festival will be held at Spring Lake Park from 11 a.m. to 7 p.m. All of the proceeds will support the Alzheimer’s Alliance Tri-State Area and Our Place Respite Care Center. To purchase tickets, go to texarkanawinefestival.com.

MAY

5

Cinco de TXK

This year, Cinco de TXK is hosting the first official City-sponsored Latino community outreach event. The celebration will include music, dancing, street soccer, and food trucks. Support of this event helps to recognize and honor the Hispanic communities who have long contributed to Texarkana’s rich tapestry. The event will be held from 11 a.m. to 6 p.m. at the State Line Courthouse and Post Office, and entry is free. For more information, check out the “Cinco de Mayo Txk” Facebook page.

SoulFest! Anthems of Praise

Texarkana Regional Chorale presents “SoulFest!” at Lonoke Baptist Church in Texarkana, Arkansas. The performance starts at 4 p.m. and is sponsored by Dr. George W. English III. For more information, check out the Facebook event “TRC’s SoulFest!”

MAY

6

Tee Up For Temple

The Tee Up For Temple golf tournament will be held at the Texarkana Country Club. All proceeds will benefit the client services at Temple Memorial Pediatric Center. Registration begins at 11 a.m. Sponsorship opportunities and registration forms can be found at templememorialpediatric.com. Contact Gina Parish at 903-793-2705 or gparish@ tmrctxk.org for more information.

MAY

9

We Are One Auction Gala

We Are Washington presents a night of entertainment for the community, including an auction, dinner, and live performances. Proceeds benefit the development and mission of the Washington Community Development Center. The gala starts at 6:30 p.m. at Crossties Event Venue. For information regarding tickets and more, check out the Facebook event “We Are Washington Auction Gala,” or call Jasmine Bruce at 903-701-1662, or email marketing@wearewashington.org.

TMS’ Career Academies Student Showcase

Texas Middle School’s student showcase “Under Construction” will run from 5 p.m. to 7 p.m. For more information, check out TMS’ Facebook page, or contact the district.

MAY 10

First Choice Pregnancy Center Baby Shower

Altrusa Texarkana is hosting a drive-by donation for and at First Choice Pregnancy Center from 11 a.m. to 2 p.m. The center is asking for cribs and other baby items for expecting mothers who are completing educational courses through First Choice.

MAY 11

Texarkana Dragon Boat Festival

The 2024 Dragon Boat Festival will be held at Bringle Lake Park at 9 a.m. Get your team together, and or just come out to enjoy food vendors and a new race every ten minutes. All proceeds benefit the

programs of HandsOn Texarkana, which provides volunteer services in the greater Texarkana area. For more information, email handsontxk@ aol.com, call 903-798-3211, or visit texarkanadragonboat.com.

Texarkana’s Largest Indoor Garage Sale

Come participate in this event hosted by the Texarkana Animal League from 7 a.m. to 1 p.m. The event will be held at the Four States Fairground.

MAY

20

Drive Out Hunger Golf Tournament

The fourth annual Drive Out Hunger Golf Tournament will be held at Northridge Country Club from 11 a.m. to 6 p.m. Help fight food insecurity in Southwest Arkansas and Northeast Texas. All the proceeds from this event support hunger relief programs at Harvest Regional Food Bank. For more information, call 870-774-1398 or email development@hrfb.org.

MAY 22

EMS Appreciation Week Lunch

This luncheon, sponsored in part by Farmers Bank & Trust, Eagle Distributing, and Texarkana Funeral Home, will provide free lunch to first responders from 11 a.m. to 1 p.m. at Crossties Event Venue. Visit the sponsors’ Facebook pages for more information.

MAY 23–25

Talimena Rally Cruisin’ for St. Jude

This annual motorcycle rally benefits St. Jude Children’s Hospital. This year’s rally will be held at the Holiday Inn Convention Center. Rally registration includes two guided group rides, four meals, a t-shirt, and

access to food vendors and live music. For more information, contact Neil Jones at 903-276-6884 or yammerhammer09@yahoo.com.

MAY 27

Memorial Day Service by Texarkana Funeral Homes

A service honoring all those who lost their lives serving our country will be held at Hillcrest Memorial Park. The service will start at 2 p.m. and is open to the public. For more information, call 903-794-1300.

Memorial Day National Moment of Remembrance

The National Moment of Remembrance will be observed at 3 pm local time all across America. For more information, call 903-556-1613 or visit vva278.org.

Tom’s Elton Tribute

The world’s top Elton John tribute band is coming to Texarkana to play all the hits at the Perot Theatre. The show begins at 8 p.m., and tickets can be purchased at perottheatre.org.