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The way I see it ... PUBLISHER’S LETTER Robin Rogers, Ed.D.

IYKYK. The acronyms, that is. Generally, I don’t know what they mean, but then I search the letters. Sometimes, I giggle, and sometimes, I LOL. But if you aren’t keeping up, you are liable to miss something. And today, if you miss something, you will definitely have FOMO.

for at least the last year. These women chose JLT as a working vessel where women collaborate and empower other women while raising money for children. They have worked so hard to plan the most anticipated shopping event of the year for the 35th year! Ladies, IFYP, and you have my utmost respect.

ICYMI - Oktoberfest - (yes, I am going backward a month) was a blast! You probably saw the dancing on Stateline, and the perfect weather, and the Post Office behind the Texarkana Performance Stage (all on social media); you may have experienced FOMO. If you missed out, GOI; you can catch it next year! I know it’s now November, but as one of the volunteers who organized Oktoberfest, my body still aches, there are blisters lingering around my toes and heels, and the list of “thank you notes to do” is on a Post-it affixed to my computer screen.

TBH, I am easily talked into staying at home on the weekends. I enjoy my family. I love working in my yard. And, weekends truly are the best time to curl up under a blanket on the couch and watch ridiculous TV, guilt-free. But I learned a big lesson with this last volunteering endeavor. When someone chooses the couch over showing up, it signals IDC. And the hard workers may say, “Don’t worry. It’s NBD that you chose to ZZZ over Me.” But, in truth, nobody volunteers J4F. Volunteers see an end goal that is giving back to the community. If you are a friend, loved one, family member, or colleague of any of these workers on the cover, for them, GAHOY and support their efforts by showing up to the Mistletoe Market (November 18-20). Send the ILY message instead of the IDC. I will be there because I have a very important person in my life on the planning committee; plus, it’s a fun event, and the shopping is always unique!

PPL, putting on a community event like Oktoberfest or the Mistletoe Market is SRSLY a big deal. I know that I begged, borrowed, and pleaded with everyone I knew to help, give money, or show up for Oktoberfest. FWIW, my daughters and I volunteered our time and energy IRL for months in advance. My work life suffered, and more than once, my colleagues asked, “RUOK?” It wasn’t like I was saying “DBMIB,” but I felt like my life was constantly GFN or BRB or CYT or TTYL. Thankfully, we all survived, and soon it will get back to SSDD. One thing is definitely certain; the many people who helped, supported, were “voluntold,” came out, performed, or worked to make that one day fun and successful, I will never forget your kindness (there are so many folks that I am going to owe favors to). FAWC, when I look at the beautiful women on the cover this month, I see some of the hardest working community members in Texarkana. Many years ago (way back), if you were in the Junior League, you were a professional’s wife, and you were “selectively invited” to be a member of a very private JLT. JSYK, looking at the cover, these Junior League members ARE Texarkana’s professionals, many have spouses and young children, and planning for Mistletoe Market has taken up space in their brains

As I have tried to write this editorial like my son writes, I have been SMH constantly. AFAICT, it’s a CWOT. I feel sure he will say, “AYMM?” Or, better yet, like many of you, this will be frustrating, and TL;DR. Either way, it’s NBD, because I have read every word several times in this entire issue, and JSYK, with TIME, the stories about local people who are thriving through obstacles are incredible. There is so much more to be thankful for this month than turkey day or a few days off. Life is precious. Your people, your tribe, your loved ones. They are invaluable. Hold them close. After the last few years, celebrating the spirit of humankind is huge. Happy Thanksgiving to All. You will never know how grateful I am for our readers, our advertisers, our community partners, and the people who have supported us with FSLM for almost 30 years. You are FIMH.

HERE’S A HANDY LEGEND IN CASE YOU’RE BEHIND ON YOU ACRONYMS IYKYK: If You Know You Know LOL: Laughing Out Loud FOMO: Fear of Missing Out ICYMI: In Case You Missed It GOI: Get Over It PPL: People SRSLY: Seriously

FWIW: For What It’s Worth IRL: In Real Life RUOK: Are You Okay DBMIB: Don’t Bother Me I’m Busy GFN: Gone For Now BRB: Be Right Back CYT: See You Tonight

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IDC: I Don’t Care NBD: No Big Deal ZZZ: Sleep J4F: Just For Fun GAHOY: Get A Hold Of Yourself ILY: I Love You SMH: Shaking My Head

PUBLISHER Dr. Robin Rogers

FEATURE PHOTOGRAPHER Shane Darby

EDITOR Suzy Turner

CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Holly Dickeson Jennifer Jordan Kelsey Rankin Lisa Porterfield Thompson Amber E. Willman Amber Smith Zaliski

GRAPHIC DESIGNER Shane Darby

AFAICT: As Far As I Can Tell CWOT: Complete Waste of Time AYMM: Are You My Mom TL;DR: Too Long; Didn’t Read TIME: Tears In My Eyes FSLM: Four States Living Magazine FIMH: Forever In My Heart

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ON THE COVER - NOVEMBER 2022 The Junior League of Texarkana will host its annual holiday market, Mistletoe Market, on November 18-20 at Arkansas Convention Center. Proceeds from the event allow the League to give back to the community through its numerous service projects and grants. This year’s Mistletoe Market steering committee members include: (front row) Brianna Baird, McKynzi Harper, Morgan Cowling, Haley Williams and Holly Dickeson; (middle row) Victoria Herman, Felicia Horn, Jade Harris, Audrey Anderson, Emily Markle and Maria Woods; (top row) Madeline Robbins, Marissa Johnston, Tiffany Studebaker, Jennifer Tyler and Voscia Walker. See “There’s No Place Like Home for the Holidays” on page 36

INSIDE: A STEP, A STAIRCASE, AND A DREAM For Juan Bustamante, blending cultures has brought him much success and many opportunities in the U.S. See story on page 46

TABLE OF CONTENTS Thankful for This Season of Life

12-17

One Day at a Time 18-22 A New Chapter of Life

24-31

There’s No Place Like Home for the Holidays

36-40

A Step, a Staircase, and a Dream

46-51

From Errors to Trials 52-58 ‘Tis the Season 60-61 ALSO IN THIS ISSUE The Way I See It An op-ed piece from the publisher

History Happens 63 Exquisite Interiors 64-69 Events 70-71 Ask the Experts 71 The Friends’ List 74 Scene About Town 8, 10, 34, 42, 45, 53, 59, 62, 72 N OV E M E R 2 02 2 . fourstatesliving.com

SCENE ABOUT TOWN H E ALTH CAR E E XPR ES S H OSTS FALL MAR KE T

Ana Willis and Mandi Nack

On October 9, HealthCARE Express hosted a Fall Market at The Silvermoon on Broad. Vendors showcased art, jewelry, clothing, food, décor, and more. Light refreshments were served, and prizes were given away. Proceeds from the event benefitted CASA for Children Texarkana.

Jackie Arellano, Haleigh Alexander and Morgan Williams

Katie Beckham and Sara Carper

Alyssa Cisco and Alexia Rowton

Cheyanne Ingvardsen, Ashley Watkins and Ezra Denson

Janice Langley and Jessica McCarty

Alyssa Huckaby

Suzetta Stone, Susan Stone and Jessica Cauley

Trudy English and Tori Rateliff

Laura Henderson and Ryleigh Henderson

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SCENE ABOUT TOWN TE X AR K ANA R ESO U RCES H OSTS “ U N D ER TH E HARVEST M O O N ” D R AWD OWN D I N N ER On September 22, Texarkana Resources hosted its “Under the Harvest Moon” Drawdown Dinner at Ramage Farms. A silent auction was held, and prizes were given away. Chef on the Run Jeff Loving catered the event, while Sam Martinez served as emcee. Photos by Dee Jones Photography

Marcia Davis and Mark Lippian

Amanda Adams and Katie Smith

Will Moore, Amanda Adams and Frances Howze

Sara O’Neal and KC Jones

Trey and Jennifer Lewis

Jack Pappas and Stacy Hart

Christian Rudnick with Abby, Hank, Wendy and AJ Reed

Danny and Rachel Green

Lee and Jasmine Wilson

Brittney Haynes, Barbara Walker and Cody Adams

Pat and Michelle Walraven with Tirsa and Jason Green

Nancy Robbins, Yulin Brewer and Charlotte Hueter

Sam and Terri Martinez

Michael Davis, Ashley Eason, Deidra Reeves and Tess Baker

Dawn and Jeff Kelly

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Although they are used to taking care of others, Pam and Dr. Tim Reynolds recently found themselves in the patients’ chairs while going through a preventative double mastectomy and kidney transplant, respectively by L I S A P O RT ER FI EL D T H O M PS O N

photo by SHANE DARBY

THANKFUL FOR THIS SEASON OF LIFE

Last year’s Reynolds Thanksgiving was a great time for the entire family. Pictured are: (seated) Sydney, Pam, Tim and Natalie; (standing) Austin, Brock and Spencer.

<< Pam and Tim during the Pac-12 championship game in Las Vegas during December, the week before Tim went into renal failure.

am and Dr. Tim Reynolds have dedicated their lives to taking care of others. They have been in emergency medicine and health care for more than 25 years, running an emergency room, working at hospitals, creating a level two trauma center, starting their own businesses, owning an urgent care facility and providing quality health care to people in their most crucial moments of need. So, when the tables turned and Tim and Pam found themselves in the patients’ chairs, it was quite the role reversal to say the least. And it wasn’t the easiest of transitions for either of them. On October 17, 2021, Tim and Pam travelled to Boston for a Cowboys versus Patriots NFL game. On the way home from the game, Tim started feeling sick. “I was very sick,” he recalls. “And I don’t get sick. I felt sort of like I had the flu or something, and that’s completely not normal for me. The symptoms progressed from there, and I eventually found myself considering going to the hospital and looking at my options. I knew I didn’t want to be admitted to the hospital in Boston, so I decided to get home as quickly as I could.” When the two arrived home, their son Spencer, who was in his third year of residency at LSU-Shreveport at the time, met them at HealthCARE Express and began caring for Tim. “We were trying to avoid a hospitalization and going through all the possible causes of me getting sick,” Tim said. “We started researching infectious diseases and illnesses, going through a bunch of testing, and doing bloodwork to rule out various possibilities.” Tim was sick throughout the rest of October, losing 20 pounds, eventually improving by midNovember. In the beginning of December, however, his health deteriorated again. Tim and Spencer continued digging for the cause. On December 13, they decided to do another round of bloodwork and realized his kidney function was off for the first time. That’s when they decided it was time to head to LSU. Tim, Pam and Spencer headed to the ER in Shreveport with the intention of an overnight stay to determine the underlying cause of his decreased kidney function. “On December 13, I was making urine normally and by the 15th, I was on dialysis in complete kidney failure,” states Tim. “Within two days I was on dialysis, but up until then, all my bloodwork had been normal, and nothing in my lab results appeared to be wrong. It all happened very quickly.” What they assumed would be an overnight stay turned into a total of 21 days in the ER and ICU. This was the first time Tim had ever been a patient. In fact, up until this moment, he’d been the picture of resiliency and strength, so for his family, seeing him down and suffering was very difficult. Tim was raised in Salt Lake City, Utah, the son of a truck driver and a stay-at-home mom, and the oldest of six children. He joined the military when he was 17 and became a Green Beret medic shortly thereafter, serving a total of 17 years between active duty and the Army National Guard. He spent two years living in Guatemala, and then came home to attend college. He attended the University of Utah for his undergraduate work and for medical school but accepted a residency at Baylor Scott-White in Temple, Texas, in emergency medicine, which was what brought him to Texas. In 1996, upon finishing residency, he was hired as the medical director for the emergency room at Wadley Regional Medical Center. He worked there for 10 years, bringing the ER up to a level two trauma center. He also met Pam while working there, and the two were married in 2006. Pam grew up in North Dakota on a farm. She earned her bachelor’s degree in Education and moved to Texarkana in 1993. She attended nursing school at Southern Arkansas University and began working at Wadley as a registered nurse. Later, Pam earned a master’s degree in Organizational Leadership. She has also been an example of independence and

Tim shows his determination to fight during his first dialysis treatment at LSU-Shreveport on December 15.

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The day after Tim coded the first time at the hospital was a very heavy day for Tim and Pam, filled with many emotions and prayers. Even though Tim should not have been in a hospital while his immune system was depressed, there was no possible way he wasn’t going to be there to hold hands with Pam on March 25, 2022, just before she headed in for her double mastectomy at UT Southwestern in Dallas.

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strength for as long as everyone who knows her can remember. So, when she elected to have a preventative double mastectomy in the middle of Tim’s health crisis, it was no surprise. “It wasn’t a question of if I would get breast cancer,” Pam said, “it was when. So, when I was faced with the decision of electing to have this surgery or not, it was emotional, but it was not difficult.” Pam has a strong familial history of breast cancer, and when her second sister was diagnosed with breast cancer last October, she knew it was time to get serious about the issues she would eventually face. “My mom has had breast cancer, my sisters have both now been diagnosed, and it was only a matter of time before I was given the same diagnosis,” she said. “It was about the same week that Tim got sick that I requested genetic counseling. These things never happen quickly, so as his health deteriorated, my journey to this preventive surgery progressed. Eventually I had to make a decision, and while there were a lot of reasons I needed to be healthy and needed to be available to care for him, I also realized that I had to fight like hell to stay here, because he was doing the same thing.” They both have fought for health over the past year. And both recognize that the journey has been full of blessings and miracles, amid the unimaginably hard days they’ve faced. “We got through this journey focusing EVERY day on the wins. I would type out a message to our close friends and family, giving them daily updates on the changes, both good and bad. I started a habit of ending that message every day with a list of the wins,” explained Pam. “Some days the wins were harder to pinpoint but they were always there, sometimes well hidden. Eventually, when it became public knowledge that Tim was so sick, I moved those updates to Facebook so that I wouldn’t have to text the 70-90 people that I was keeping up-to-date daily. I wondered initially if Facebook was

Tim and Kevin Rasband the day before the transplant at Mayo Phoenix. They were in Special Forces together where Kevin served as the commo guy, and Tim was the medic.

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the format to share such intimate details about his health but quickly found out from the overwhelming responses that so many people, from all over the world, were sending him daily prayers and messages BECAUSE they saw it on Facebook. The wins helped others to see that every day we all have wins. We just have to look for them.” Tim was diagnosed with Good Pasture’s Disease, an autoimmune disorder affecting 1 in 1,000,000 people. The disease causes the patient’s body to develop antibodies that attack the patient’s own kidneys, and 60% of the time, the antibodies attack the lungs as well. Fortunately for Tim, his lungs were not affected. “Treatment is far worse than the disease itself,” Tim said. “It requires plasma infusions 7 times over 14 days, chemotherapy, and in my case, a kidney transplant. I knew from the testing on my kidney function and research I’d done on the disease that there was a 15% chance my kidney would recover, but in my case, it didn’t look like that was going to happen. I realized while I was still in the ICU that I’d need a kidney transplant.” This happened about the same time that Pam was meeting with her surgeon in Dallas, and in a magical turn of events, the surgeon would end up asking why Tim hadn’t accompanied Pam to her appointment, and the two would go on to discuss Tim’s current medical issues and need for a kidney transplant. The surgeon Pam was visiting, Dr. Sumeet Teotia, had connections at the Mayo Clinic in Phoenix as he had been on the kidney transplant team, and got Tim into the transplant program almost immediately. Most people wait an extended period to be placed on the list, but this blessing expedited the process for Tim and Pam. In another flurry of blessings, once the two made it public that Tim would need a transplant, 37 people stepped up and volunteered to donate a kidney. The team at Mayo was shocked. “It’s incredible and humbling that 37 people offered to help me in my time of need,” Tim said. “But my friend and former Green Beret teammate, Kevin Rasband, was the first to step up, and miraculously, he was a match.”

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After an emergency surgery, two more unexpected hospitalizations at Mayo, and being unable to walk without a walker, the words, “You two can head back to Texas and we will see you in four months” were better than any words Tim and Pam had heard in 10 months!

The Reynolds wish that more people knew that kidney donation was a crucial need in our society. “Any healthy human being can donate a kidney,” Pam said. “It’s such a heartbreaking thing to see all the kidney patients who need a transplant but there aren’t enough donors.” On July 26, 2022, Kevin Rasband gave Tim a kidney, and the initial transplant surgery went well. “I thought that was going to be it,” Tim said. “Everything went great, and I expected to get back to healing right away, but as it turns out, the time after the transplant surgery would prove to be rather difficult, too.” The surgeons had to go back in and do an emergency surgery while Tim was still in the recovery room because the kidney quit working. The venous blood flow out of Tim’s new kidney had been occluded, and it caused his kidney to stop functioning. Because the initial surgery had so many new incision sites, the blood flow started leaking into Tim’s abdomen which caused additional issues for him. He received four units of blood during this second surgery due to the huge amount of blood loss. Additionally, during this second surgery, the retractor they were using to hold the incision open was sitting on Tim’s femoral nerve, and when he woke up after surgery, his leg was paralyzed. Luckily, this was not a permanent paralysis, but it has required extensive physical therapy and patience from Tim. He now has regained approximately 80% use of his leg. The road to recovery is slow, but Tim is progressing well. As for Pam, she had one more surgery to knock off in her journey to wellness to address a shoulder and bicep injury. That surgery took place in May, after her mastectomy and before her breast reconstruction surgeries. “We were very intentional about scheduling every procedure so we could be there for each other, and I could help when I was needed,” Pam said. “I’m thankful to all my surgeons and healthcare providers for working with us to make this year as comfortable as possible.” The Reynolds have stayed busy focusing on recovery, and also managing the day-today of their businesses when they were able and trusting their team when they were not. “We have an incredible group of people working for us,” Tim said. “They are excellent

When Tim woke up from the second surgery, he had lost function of his right leg and was unable to walk for several weeks without use of a walker. At 12 weeks post op, he is now able to control his leg better and has been walking unassisted for several weeks. This photo was taken during his first walk around the nurses station. This was a completely unexpected outcome of the surgery and definitely created a huge setback to Tim’s overall recovery.

On September 2, Tim and Pam drove back onto their ranch in Texas. There was a huge sign with little notes from family, friends and team members with amazing outpourings of love and laughter. Laughter and prayers certainly played a large role in healing for both Tim and Pam.

leaders and capable of doing their jobs at a high level. We are very fortunate to have them each in what we call our dysfunctional family.” Turns out, family is something that Tim and Pam are very thankful for in this season of life. “All of our kids are grown now, and each of them is involved in the business in some way, or at least it seems like that’s the direction it’s headed,” Tim said. “Spencer works for us at HealthCARE Express and splits his time with the hospital. Brock manages our real estate businesses and spent six years at HealthCARE Express. Natalie lives in San Antonio and finished a residency in emergency medicine in July. Austin is 27 and in his third year of medical school at Sam Houston State University, and Sydney is a graduate of the University of Arkansas and runs our educational company, Dr. Tim International.” Each of the children were involved in the medical journey their parents have been on this past year. “They were so supportive throughout the whole thing,” Tim said.

“They visited me daily, we spent Christmas together in the hospital, they called to check on me, and helped me every way they could. “I also want to say how thankful I am for Spencer and what he did for me,” Tim said. “I’ll never be able to repay him for the way he cared for me, and how he was deeply involved in making medical decisions for me. He was in his third year of residency, which is stressful all on its own, but he never left the hospital while I was there. I was never alone. If he wasn’t working a shift in the ER, he was upstairs by my side.” Tim has written a book, “Living Every Minute: Dr. Tim’s Pillars for Creating a Spectacular Life.” Additionally, he has designed and teaches a 3-day course for men (Gladiator) and for women (Valkyrie) to show them how to create the life they choose. He plans on writing his second book to inspire those struggling with medical issues and/ or significant life setbacks. “It’s important to me that I share the knowledge that I have gained in this lifetime to help serve others, to help them to get through their struggles and over the obstacles that life throws their way,” Tim said. Tim and Pam admit that things are changing in their life, for the better it seems, when it comes to managing a work-life balance. “I never imagined that we’d have a second-generation business,” Tim said. “But here we are, in a time of transition with all of our adult children helping or headed back to help with one of the businesses. How fortunate is that?” The Reynolds are looking ahead to what the future holds and realizing that it may look different than what they had always imagined. “We’re in a transition,” Tim said, “and it’s not a transition I ever thought I’d have. I’m turning 60 in November. We’ve travelled to 65 countries on 7 continents, spent our summers in Jackson Hole and have a home in Belize, and now it’s time to think about what really matters. We are refocusing, replanning, and making decisions about what we want the next decade to look like. If I could give anyone any advice that I’ve learned from all of this, it’s that you need to live right now. You never know, you may never retire — I almost didn’t.”

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ONE DAY AT A TIME Despite being diagnosed with renal cell carcinoma and going through many trials with loved ones, Patty Lynn remains grateful and blessed by J EN N I FER J O R DA N

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<<On May 23, Patty found out that she had renal cell carcinoma, after learning the results of the CT scan.

hen it rains, it pours.” Many of us feel the weight of this adage occasionally, as accidents, illnesses, and last-minute difficulties present themselves all at once. We muddle through the flood and move on to more restful days. There is light at the end of the tunnel. For hair salon owner Patty Lynn, the rain has been pouring since December 2021. Patty is naturally a doer who would rather focus on others than herself. She has always taken great care of her grandparents, her daughters, her husband, and her pets. When Patty began having some health issues last December, she did not realize the serious nature. Although she experienced some blood in her urine and went to the doctor, the tests yielded normal results. Patty figured that the stress of purchasing an older building downtown for her salon, combined with her grandparents’ COVID, was causing her symptoms. During this period, her husband, Wesley, suffered from a bleeding ulcer, and then Patty contracted COVID in January. Health issues for Patty and Wesley’s family members continued to mount. Wesley’s mother was diagnosed with lung cancer in March. The cancer had spread to her bones, and Wesley’s mother decided against treatment because the disease had advanced so much. Also, in March, Patty’s grandfather, Sam Allen, was hospitalized for congestive heart failure. As a diabetic, he had been going regularly to the wound care clinic. Patty and her family were very worried as Sam grew weak and had difficulty walking. They chose a skilled nursing residential facility for him. In May, after Wesley’s mother was moved to a skilled nursing facility, Patty was diagnosed with a sinus infection. She began a course of antibiotics. By the third day, severe pain attacked Patty’s stomach, wrapping around to her back. Patty and her uncle, Christopher Allen, thought she might have a kidney stone, as she had experienced tiny ones in the past. Patty returned to the health clinic, and the nurse practitioner conducted a CT scan, which revealed a large mass on her left kidney. The report indicated that the mass highly suggested renal cell carcinoma. Patty was in shock and in denial. She was 46-years-old and did not expect her pain to result in anything so serious. An MRI was scheduled to further test the mass. However, the day after her CT, Patty needed to compartmentalize this news and put it on the back burner. She had to take her grandmother, Marcy (Sam’s wife), to have a knot under her armpit tested. Marcy was diagnosed with Stage 3 triple negative breast cancer, a very aggressive form of the disease. The oncologist told Marcy and Patty that surgery was not an option, but that immunotherapy could provide a 40% chance of shrinking the tumor, which was growing rapidly.

Patty sits with her grandmother, Marcy Allen, right after Marcy is diagnosed with breast cancer.

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Patty waits to be called back for surgery on August 12 at UT Southwestern.

Wesley and Patty dance at Wesley’s nephew’s wedding at Elliot Lake. After surgery, Patty had five incisions with 15 external staples and a drain tube.

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At the end of May, Patty’s MRI revealed that the suggested diagnosis of renal cell carcinoma was accurate. The tumor was taking up most of her left kidney. Patty recalls, “The technician who ran the test told me that his father-in-law had the same cancer, and 20 years later, he was doing well. This gave me some hope.” Yet, she still remained in denial that she had a malignant form of cancer. As summer arrived, Patty’s salon, Beekman Place, required repairs, which added some stress. “Little things happened because it’s an older building,” Patty remarks. “The air conditioning broke in June and flooded. The lights went out in the bathrooms.” On June 24, Wesley’s mother died from her cancer. Then Wesley, who had issues with his hips, was sent to a surgeon. He was told that he needed a hip replacement at the age of 44. The surgery occurred on July 6, and Patty helped Wesley recuperate while she awaited her own surgery date of August 12. When Patty scheduled the kidney surgery at UT Southwestern, she learned that her insurance would not cover the cost because the surgeon was out of network. Friends and family members came to her aid, as Patty’s daughter Zoe set up a GoFundMe. Patty appreciates their graciousness as well as the assistance of a grant from the Angel Fund Foundation. Following the surgery, Patty returned home. Wesley was still recovering from his hip replacement, and Marcy was receiving infusions. “When I returned home, Mema was so happy that everything was okay with me,” Patty states, “I missed her next infusion visit because I could not get around yet, but her wonderful caregiver took her.” On September 7, Patty spent the day with Marcy, and brought her male blue Pit Bull, Kyzer. “She loved that dog. He’d follow her when she got up and

<< Wesley, Patty, Zoe and

Reagan dressed up to attend Comic Con in Shreveport.

Light-hearted and fun, Patty and her uncle, Christopher Allen, celebrated his birthday at Cattleman’s.

jumped on the bed when Mema got ready for bed.” Patty styled Marcy’s hair. “She wouldn’t take a nap because she wanted to visit,” Patty explains. “Finally, I said, ‘Woman (that’s what I called her sometimes), I have to go and give Wesley his dinner.’ Mema required a hug and kiss, and I leaned down while she was in the bathroom.” The next day, Marcy died. “She wanted to live,” Patty comments. “She wasn’t ready, but I guess someone was ready for her.” Patty continues to heal, still caring for her family but also letting them care for her a little bit. Marcy’s passing was kind of a trigger for Sam, who is still at the residential facility. “He will be fine, but then he will want to go home, pack everything, and drive to his hometown.” Patty is thankful for her daughters, Reagan and Zoe, who have each helped in their own way. Zoe stayed with her at the hospital, taking turns with Wesley at night. “They were my tag team,” Patty comments. Reagan helped in Texarkana, and will soon give birth to her first child in December, which will bring joy. Patty still finds it difficult to have people take care of her. “We call her ‘Little Mama,’ Christopher explains, “because she takes care of everyone else.” The follow-up to Patty’s surgery revealed that her tumor’s stage was T1, which is the least aggressive malignancy. “There is less chance for it to return, and this is where I feel fortunate,” she says. “Kidney cancer likes to spread to the lungs, so I will need a scan in November, and depending on that, I might need them only yearly.” Patty believes that she should feel more grateful because her cancer “could have been so much worse. I do have gratitude, but it’s overshadowed by everything else.” Therapy is helping Patty get through the deluge of the last nine months. “I tend to bury feelings and things because there’s too much to do,” she reflects. “I’ve never been a writer, so I found a cheater’s journal, recommended by my therapist. It has three daily sections in which I write every night: one positive moment, one stressful one, and something I’m looking forward to. When I am ready, my therapist says that I should read it aloud to myself. The visual and the auditory actions will help me process.” Right now, Patty is taking it one day at a time. Christopher has served as an incredible support to her. Even though he is her uncle, “he treats me like a daughter,” Patty smiles. Christopher avers, “She’s been my heart and soul always.” For this lovely woman with a heart of gold for others, a year of struggle is hopefully nearing its end, and a calmer forecast is on the horizon. Patty puts it best: “I’m ready for ‘23 to bring goodness.” 22

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A NEW CHAPTER OF LIFE Although he was recently diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes, 11-year-old Jacob Killian still enjoys his favorite activities while adjusting to his new normal

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ummer of 2022 was a life-changing season for the Killian family. When 10-year-old Jacob was diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes, the whole family was swept up in a whirlwind of testing and doctors, glucose counts and insulin shots, and worry and fear . . . and even still, gratitude and hope. As they have adapted to this new chapter of life, the Killians agree that through this struggle, their family has grown closer, and their faith has grown stronger. Jeremy, Melissa, Annabeth (16), and Jacob (now 11) are an active and busy family. Annabeth plays soccer, and Jacob is in a different sport each season. They enjoy worshiping together at First Baptist Church Texarkana, and whenever they can, they love to be at the lake or the beach, camping and spending time together outdoors. This was an especially exciting summer for Jacob because he was going to summer camp at Brookhill for the first time, and he had been looking forward to it. “When we picked him up that Saturday, he seemed tired, a little congested – just kind of worn out,” Melissa said. “But after a week at camp, that seemed normal.” As they heard more about camp, Jacob mentioned that he had been thirsty, tired, and even though he was hungry he didn’t feel like he could eat much. One day at camp, he became overheated and threw up, but that was blamed on getting too hot. Melissa made a mental checklist of symptoms and planned to take him in for a checkup the following week. “Once we got home, I noticed that he was super thirsty, went to the bathroom several times that night, and Sunday was not better,” she said. “That night, I was googling everything, mostly trying to convince myself that it wasn’t what I had feared, signs of diabetes.” By Monday morning, Jacob was really not well. They got in to see Dr. Clark Green as soon as possible. He agreed that they needed to run some blood tests. “Dr. Green called me early that afternoon and explained that we needed to pack our bags for several days, and we immediately started driving to Arkansas Children’s Hospital in Little Rock,” Melissa said. Jacob’s blood glucose level was reading over 800, and his A1C was 11.8 – both dangerously high. “They were waiting for us when we got to Children’s, and Jacob immediately got two IVs and spent the next 18 hours in Intensive Care.”

When Jacob was in ICU at Arkansas Children’s Hospital in Little Rock, he received many surprises from friends and family which really brightened his days.

This sign was in the Killians’ front yard when Jacob came home from the hospital. Wonderful friends surprised him with the sign, and two of his other buddies, Anthony Cummings and Tobias Paez, stopped by that day to give him a gift and check on him.

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Jacob remembers that day as the worst day. “So many things were going through my mind,” Jacob said. “Mostly I was sad and scared, but I knew I had to start feeling better.” For the next few days, the Killians were educated on the ins and outs of how to manage Type 1 Diabetes. Because Jacob’s pancreas was no longer producing insulin, they would have to supply it themselves. There were fingersticks before each meal and two hours after, as well as at bedtime and 2 a.m. to check Jacob’s blood glucose levels. There were insulin shots after every meal and at bedtime at a rotation of injection sites. They learned how to count carbohydrates for each meal and calculate the insulin dose. Melissa and Jeremy easily recall how overwhelming those first few days were, and wishing they could do anything more than watch. “It was difficult,” Jeremy said. “I’m not one to show a lot of emotion, but there were some rough days in the hospital. One thing that I’ve always been able to come back to, though, even when it feels hard, is that this is something that is manageable. This is something we can learn to deal with.” By the end of the week, they were back at home where they continued the intense schedule of fingersticks and shots throughout the day. Jacob was feeling

Even though the Killians were friends with the Deals before Jacob’s diagnosis, the families have become even closer now since both Jacob and John Morris have Type 1 Diabetes. The Deal family has been a constant source of support and encouragement for the Killians.

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Jacob has always enjoyed nature and hiking. Here, he serves as the “leader of the trail” while visiting Beavers Bend in Broken Bow, Oklahoma, with his family. His Dexcom (continuous glucose monitor) is on his left arm, and the Omnipod (insulin pump) is on his right. Both of these devices allow him to be more active and feel his best.

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better, and soon he was learning to give himself some of the insulin shots he had to take. “In July, we received a huge blessing and we were able to get a continuous glucose monitor – (first, a Freestyle Libre, then in a few weeks, a Dexcom) – and that took a lot of the pokes away,” Melissa said. “That made it so much easier and faster to check his numbers.” In August, they were able to meet with provider Ashlea Hill at the Diabetes Care Center in Ruston, Louisiana, and another prayer was answered. “This is an amazing facility, and she was so helpful and so caring. With her help, we were able to get an Omnipod Insulin Pump which replaces all of the shots. That has made all the difference in being able to live mostly back to normal.” Jacob started fifth grade in August with a few adjustments and the addition of Bob. “Bob is my bag that carries all of my gear that I take everywhere with me,” Jacob said. An app on a smartphone connects Jacob’s Dexcom with his Omnipod and gives him and his parents constant feedback on his levels, and there are emergency snacks for lows. “There were a couple times in the beginning when I forgot Bob, but now I remember to always have it with me.” Jacob has also learned how to adjust his diet so that he can feel his best. “I used to drink a lot more sodas, but not anymore. I also get to eat a lot more things like eggs and meat and cheese.” Jacob is back on the field as well – football is his favorite sport to play. He just has to pay more attention to staying hydrated, not overheating or letting his blood sugar get too low. He has become much more aware of how his body is feeling. “I can tell when I’m starting to feel low because it feels like I’m wearing huge, heavy work boots.” In the last five months the Killians have continued learning and adapting. “We haven’t been dealing with diabetes for very long,” Melissa said, “and sometimes it’s still hard to accept, but already it feels like a weight has been lifted.” With a little breathing room and time to reflect, Melissa can see signs leading up to that Monday, June 13, diagnosis that only make sense in hindsight. “I really wish I had known, or paid more attention,” she said. “Jacob just wasn’t his normal self – sort

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of grumpy, more tired than usual. All things we attributed to growth spurts or hormones. Now it all makes sense.” While Type 1 Diabetes is a physical condition, the Killians agree that it has been a mental and emotional journey, as well. “Looking back, even in our worst moments, it’s easy to see God’s hand on us through each part of this journey,” Melissa said. “We have been so blessed with caring medical staff, technology to make this easier, lifesaving medication, and we have had so many people reach out to help us. I know Jacob has felt so loved. We all have.” Jeremy agrees that there is much to be thankful for. “I really think this experience has brought us closer together, and Melissa and I have become a stronger team,” he said. “We’ve learned how we can balance each other, and help each other. I’m grateful for that.” November is National Diabetes Awareness month. “We have been so grateful to other families that have been down this road. They have been so helpful and

encouraging,” Melissa said. “If our story can help others, I hope we are able to pay it forward.” As the shock of Jacob’s Type 1 Diabetes diagnosis has faded, the Killian family is looking forward to a new season, a new year. “Jacob is a determined, compassionate and strong-willed kid,” his parents agreed. “We’ve been impressed watching him adjust and become more responsible.” Jacob still enjoys all of his favorite activities – sports, Playstation, swimming, riding bikes, being with friends. “The biggest thing I’ve learned is don’t let diabetes control you. You can control it and still do all of the things that you love,” he said. In times of struggle the Killians remain faithful. “I’ve always loved Proverbs 3:5-6,” Melissa said, “but I think it holds a deeper meaning for all of us now.” Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.

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SCENE ABOUT TOWN FAN FAR E B O UTI Q U E & G I F TS H OSTS G H O U L S ’ N I G HT O UT Fan Fare Boutique & Gifts held its Ghouls’ Night Out on October 18 for their loyal customers.

Suzan Rogers, Becca Brumley and Mackenzie Brumley

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HOLIDAYS! The Junior League of Texarkana is set to host its 35th annual holiday market on November 18-20 at the Arkansas Convention Center

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he Junior League of Texarkana, Inc. (JLT) is an organization of women working with community partners to address and solve pressing issues such as childhood hunger and illiteracy. Since its formation in 1926, JLT has been instrumental in the development of community programs in Texarkana. These include Texarkana Regional Arts and Humanities Council, Hospice of Texarkana, Discovery Place Children’s Museum, Komen Texarkana Race for the Cure®, Texarkana Symphony Orchestra, and Court Appointed Special Advocates for Children. In alignment with the League’s current focus area, “Children: Literacy, Hunger, and Poverty,” JLT supports four community projects: Open Hearts Food Pantry – Upon learning that secondary students do not benefit from weekend food assistance programs such as those offered to elementary children, JLT members set out to find a solution. Open Hearts Food Pantry was adopted as a project in 2018 to meet the needs of middle school students facing food insecurity. Through this project, the League provides funding and volunteer hours in support of Harvest Texarkana’s weekend food assistance program. Packs for a Purpose – When children leave their homes through Child Protective Services, they’re often only given a trash bag to fill with their belongings. JLT members adopted Packs for a Purpose in 2018 to meet the needs of these children. The packs contain living essentials, school supplies, and comfort items which assist in maintaining the dignity of children. Backpacks are filled by members and distributed to local agencies twice annually. Shoes for the Soul & Clothes for a Cause – Shoes for the Soul was adopted as a project in 2005. It has since expanded to include Clothes for a Cause. With support from local schools, children in need of shoes and clothing are identified. JLT members shop with these deserving children to select new, seasonally-appropriate shoes and clothes. The program is offered twice annually.

Alissa Flanagan shops with a child at Target during JLT’s project, Shoes for the Soul/Clothes for a Cause.

Teacher Take Wing – Since the 1990s, JLT has awarded grants to area teachers for innovative classroom projects through Teacher Take Wing. With support from local schools, JLT distributes grant applications to teachers at the beginning of each school year. Applications are reviewed, scored, and ranked anonymously by the Teacher Take Wing Committee, and grants are awarded in the fall. In addition to giving back to the community through projects, the Junior League of Texarkana is proud to support the development of its members as civic leaders through community service and training. JLT’s active members log over 10,000 combined, service hours annually, and the League budgets, on average, $20,000 for member training each year. As part of an international network of 295 Leagues comprised of over 125,000 women who are engaged in similar work in their own communities, JLT members have access to a unique and powerful depth of knowledge and resourcefulness to bring about community improvement. The Junior League of Texarkana fulfills its mission through the community’s generous support of Mistletoe Market, the League’s primary fundraiser. Moreover, the event is a treasured tradition that has helped to kick off the Christmas season in Texarkana for over 35 years. The 2022 Mistletoe Market Committee has been at work for months, and the members are excited to present an event that will honor Mistletoe’s celebrated history and incorporate new ideas. From our Friday morning Mistletoe and Mimosas brunch, to Friday night’s Jingle and Mingle party, to Sunday’s Home for the “Paw”lidays pet adoption parade, along with a multitude of Children’s Events, there’s something for the whole family to enjoy! That being said, the Junior League of Texarkana invites all to shop, celebrate, and make memories at the 2022 Mistletoe Market!

Collins Cockerell, Staci Brown, and Katelyn Jordan pack backpacks for JLT’s project, Packs for a Purpose.

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MISTLETOE MARKET AT A GLANCE Mistletoe Market will kick off Friday, November 18, at 9 a.m. with Mistletoe and Mimosas. Tickets for the event are $40 and include admission, mimosas, brunch provided by Good Mood Food, a guided “make-and-take” project led by Katie Beckham with Greater Things, and private shopping. General shopping will be available from noon until 5 p.m. and will feature performances by local school groups on stage. The food court will be open during shopping hours and will feature locally-owned food trucks. Weekend pass tickets are $8 in advance and $10 at the door. The market will reopen Friday evening at 7 p.m. for the Jingle and Mingle party. Tickets for the event are $60 and include market admission, heavy hors d’oeuvres catered by Silver Star Smokehouse, beer and wine selections, a cash bar, entertainment by Heather Linn and the Deacons, and a silent auction paired with private shopping. The winner of the League’s benefit drawing will also be selected and announced during Jingle and Mingle. One lucky recipient will win their choice of a vacation for two to beautiful Belize, Walt Disney World Resort, or Lake Tahoe ski getaway. Benefit drawing tickets are $50, and only 200 will be sold! Ticket holders need not be present to win. General shopping will be available on Saturday, November 19, from 9 a.m. to 6 p.m. and will feature performances by local music and dance groups on stage. The food court will be open during shopping hours. Children’s Events such as breakfast with Santa, Christmas crafts, and pictures with Santa will also be available throughout the day. The JLT even has a special “Mommy and Me” craft this year! Children’s Events tickets are $30-$40 depending on the event and include admission for the child, an interactive experience with Santa, a guided “make-and-

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Mistletoe Market co-chairs Morgan Cowling (left) and Haley Williams (right).

During Shoes for the Soul/ Clothes for a Cause, League members shop with deserving children to select new, seasonally-appropriate shoes and clothes. Pictured are (front row) Erika Smith; (middle row) Tiyawna Gellington, Briley Hearn, Courtney Boeckmann, Whitney Akins, Melodie White and Haleigh Alexander; (back row) Voscia Walker, Kelly Harvin, Alissa Flanagan, Kelsey Kuhn, Victoria Herman and Jade Harris.

Holly Dickeson, Venture Watson, Tiyawna Gellington and Shayla Nelson at Target supporting the League’s Shoes for the Soul/Clothes for a Cause project.

Morgan Pritchett stuffs a backpack during Packs for a Purpose.

take” activity, and pictures with Santa. Reservations for all Children’s Events are limited, and tickets are selling fast! Make sure to purchase yours with the QR code provided below. General shopping will be available on Sunday, November 20, from noon to 5 p.m. and will feature performances by local music and dance groups on stage. The food court will be open during shopping hours. The Junior League of Texarkana is also thrilled to present the Home for the “Paw”lidays pet adoption pageant on Sunday from 2:30-3:30! Don’t miss out on this heartwarming event where local animal shelters will showcase pets in need of a home with style. Afterward, the shelters will have the pets ready for you to adopt just in time for the holidays! The Junior League of Texarkana invites all to visit the 35th annual Mistletoe Market on November 18-20 at the Arkansas Convention Center. To purchase tickets and/or make event reservations, contact a JLT member, or call the League office at 870-772-9948. Those who are interested can also scan the QR code below to purchase tickets online!

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SCENE ABOUT TOWN CH U RCH O N TH E RO CK CO M M U N IT Y H E ALTH FAI R On September 24, Church on the Rock hosted a Community Health Fair. Free screenings and health care information was distributed to attendees regarding the mind, body, soul, and spirit.

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Jackie Arellano and Morgan Williams

Katie Stone, Erin Blackburn and Katheryn Schmidt

Larry Mills, Doylia Mills and Susan Hill with Beverly and Ron Baker

Cammie and Les Moody

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Sandi Martin and Janie Coker

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A STEP, A STAIRCASE, AND A DREAM For Juan Bustamante, blending cultures has brought him much success and many opportunities in the U.S. by A M B ER E . W I L L M A N

artin Luther King, Jr. said, “Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.” For Juan Bustamante, the first step was over 1,100 miles. The journey started in 1986 when his father moved to the United States. He received his resident card, or green card, as it’s commonly called. In 1990, Juan’s father filed an application for the rest of the family to receive their cards. The process took over 10 years, and in 2003, Juan’s family was approved. The oldest of five children, Juan left home at the age of 14 and accompanied his dad to America. They left Calderón, a small town of 200 people in central Mexico, and traveled to the United States. At the time, Juan was the only one to join his father in America. His dad didn’t have a house and worked in Louisiana. Juan stayed with his dad’s friends in Texarkana. His father would visit him on the weekends, but during the week Juan was a teenage boy who was mostly on his own in a foreign land and didn’t speak the language. Juan’s hometown lacked educational resources. Students barely had books to read so he never touched a computer until he began tenth grade in America.

Despite a lack of resources, Juan was a straight A student from kindergarten to ninth grade. He viewed the U.S. as an opportunity, and that determination carried him through high school and right into college where he earned two bachelor’s degrees in Business Administration and Accounting. School is where Juan learned to speak English. He didn’t speak a word when he arrived in Texas, but within the first year, he knew the basics. After 18 years in America, he is still learning something new every day. The language barrier is an obstacle for many immigrants. Juan’s brothers chose not to pursue higher education because of it. His sisters are learning the language from their kids. Juan’s wife, Juana, is from the same small town in Mexico, but her family moved to the U.S. when she was 3, so she has been bilingual for years. “My oldest, Maddison Grace is 7. She learned to speak English first. We had to send her to daycare when she was 3-years-old. Currently, she is in Nash Elementary School, and they have a really good program for the kids to learn how to read, write, and talk in both languages. Sarah, the little one, is almost 2-yearsold. We try to talk to her in both languages,” Juan explained.

This mural outside Vero’s is especially important to Juan. It represents leaving Mexico and coming to America for a better life.

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Juan was alone in the U.S. for five years before any of his siblings could join him. Juan took responsibility for his two brothers, who were 10 and 12 at the time, and brought them to America to live with him. His two sisters married and moved here in 2012. “My mom never wanted to leave her hometown, so my dad was here in the U.S. for a short time then he moved back to Mexico. He has gone back and forth for the last 15 years,” Juan said. A working student, Juan started washing dishes in a restaurant when he was 16. He continued to work his way up in various restaurants. In 2010, he got a job as an Assistant Manager at Fuzzy’s Taco Shop in Texarkana. After receiving his first bachelor’s degree, he was promoted to General Manager. “In 2015, after hard work and dedication, I was recognized as the Best Manager for Fuzzy’s. I was competing with at least 100 other managers,” Juan said. Now, Juan owns two other businesses. One is a food truck called Juanitos. The second is called JB Vine. They manufacture grape vine wreathes for interior decoration. Despite working 80-hour weeks, Juan and his family have just launched a new business venture. With his wife, his two brothers, and his two sisters, the family has teamed up to purchase Vero’s Latino Store in Texarkana. Vero’s was a well-known Hispanic grocery store with a meat market and a small restaurant. The family changed the name to Mercado La Fe, meaning The Faith Market. In 2020, Juan graduated from TAMUT with his second degree in Accounting. With him are his daughters, Maddison and Sarah.

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Four-year-old Juan in his hometown, Calderón, Guanajuato.

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“When I was a kid, I helped my mom with a very small grocery store that she still owns in Mexico. I started helping her when I was 8. I always told myself to have faith, and one day I’ll have my own place,” Juan said. “But it was very hard because when I first moved here, even just ordering something to eat was a challenge. But I always had faith in myself.” Like all business owners, Juan’s family wants their business to succeed financially, but their main goal is to support the Hispanic community and help them achieve their goals. “Recently, I was part of the committee for TISD. They are trying to build a couple of schools, and they wanted to hear our opinion. I also participate in Hispanic events at Texarkana College, Texas High School, and Westlawn Elementary,” Juan said. Keeping Hispanic traditions alive is important to Juan and his family. He tries to keep a healthy blend of Mexican culture and American culture. For example, they have adopted Thanksgiving as a holiday since moving here, but they miss the Day of the Dead celebrations from Mexico. “I really missed our traditions, even though we try to use the same traditions here in the U.S.; it will never be the same. Many special days that we celebrate in Mexico are unique here. It’s kind of hard to explain because you have to live it yourself. I miss the smell of the countryside, the fresh air, my grandmother’s seasoning, coffee in the mornings, greetings of the people, and afternoons on the soccer field with friends,” Juan said.

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But he also realizes what a blessing it is to live in America. “Just the fact that I wake up every day and have a job and good health is more than I could ask for. What I love about Texarkana is that our community is very humble, friendly, and close together.” If he could, he would introduce the English language to his hometown. The nearest big city is San Miguel De Allende, and it is a popular destination for Americans. Removing the language barrier would open opportunities for the smaller communities in central Mexico. And in turn, he wants to introduce more authentic Mexican foods to American culture. “Mexican food is not only tacos, burritos, and quesadillas. We have thousands of dishes that America needs to know about. At our store, you can find just a few of the real authentic Mexican cuisine,” Juan said. The blend of cultures is just one piece of the puzzle that is Juan’s American Dream. He defines this dream as opportunity and success. “When I think I have fulfilled my goal, a new In 2006, Juan graduated challenge comes. Every day there is from Texas High School. something new to achieve, so I still have a long way to go to fulfill my dream. And I’m not talking about financially. It’s more like challenges that I need to accomplish,” Juan said. If Dr. King was correct with his staircase metaphor, then Juan’s faith began 18 years ago with an 1,100 hundred mile step. But the staircase is his American Dream, and his opportunities are infinite.

Juan and his wife, Juana, and daughters, Maddison and Sarah, visit with Santa last Christmas.

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SCENE ABOUT TOWN TE X AR K ANA D OWN SYN D RO M E SO CI E T Y H OSTS AWAR EN ES S WALK “Rockin’ That Extra Chromosome” was the theme of the Texarkana Down Syndrome Society’s Awareness Walk on October 8. The walk took place in Downtown Texarkana and featured a full day of music, activities, and fun. Photos by Bryant Allen

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Felisha and Addison Howard

Val Birl, Shanna Birl, Bryson Birl, Brandon Birl and Shannon Long

Melissa Massey, Olivia DeRosier and Kassie DeRosier

Lori Pippen, Stephanie Malone, Audrey Malone and Carol Wood Pearcy

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FROM ERRORS TO TRIALS Richard Turner, the District Clerk for the County Criminal Division of the Miller County District Court, has not always been on this side of the law by K EL S E Y R A N K I N

ichard Turner, a recovering alcoholic and addict, always felt different. He grew up in a rural East Texas community where he felt like the only example of diversity. He recalls the first time that he took a drink. His sister’s boyfriend offered to pick up alcohol for both of them for a party. The three bottles purchased for the two of them were quickly inhaled by only Richard. He also drank several beers that night, and he found himself fitting in with the “redneck country boys” for the first time. He says, “When I drank, I didn’t care … I felt like I was funnier. I felt like I fit in.” As an openly gay teenager from a small rural community, alcohol allowed Richard to feel like he was “part of ” rather than “less than.” Later on in life, he says he “chased that feeling.” The pursuit of fitting in leads to more drinking. Drinking not only allowed Richard to feel more comfortable, but he also ignored those who didn’t like him when he was under the influence. Through his teens and early adult years, the drinking escalated. Richard describes himself as a high school student who just didn’t care and did what was needed to get by, but school was never a focus. He found his place in theater, and was ultimately offered a full-ride scholarship for his acting abilities. Richard made the decision to stay local, and he still says he “should have” taken the scholarship. Richard’s “Papa” (Billy Ray Turner), who only had an elementary school education, pushed the idea of education onto Richard throughout his life. Richard says, “I have to mess it up a lot in order to learn and get something right.” As an 18-year-old nursing major at TC, he continued to fail academically and “that’s when [he] discovered bars.” He remembers, “My goal was oblivion, my goal was blackout, my goal was really to forget me. And that’s how I drank.” With this mind-set, school did not go well. He overdosed in his vehicle on campus, where the police had to break a window to get him out and to the hospital. He soon dropped out of college, and then through a dentist was prescribed pain medicine. Already in alcohol addiction, the addiction to pills quickly followed. In November of 2010, Richard was managing a local hotel, and one day, he just didn’t show up for work. He said he “just didn’t have what [he] needed to function,” so he would just not go to work. Without the pills, he quickly went into a detox and could not work. The owners of the hotel called and told him to come immediately to turn in his keys. He was “in the midst of crisis: mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually.” The owners wrote his last check and asked him to just not come back. Losing his job and his “toxic relationship” at the same time led to stealing in order to survive. He starts “catching charges … a total of three misdemeanor theft charges.” He recognized that he had problems, and he went to his mother to detox him in order to heal. He then willingly went to treatment for the first time and was there for a total of three days believing that he must not have a problem, since he had already gone through the horrible process of detox. Immediately after leaving the treatment facility, he returned to the bars. He made his way back to the pills within just a few months. Within the next year, he was “homeless, jobless, and everyone had given up” on him.

For Richard, family means the people you choose versus genetics. This past July, he met up with some of his closest friends for a birthday party at Luna Llena Mexican Grill.

Richard and his partner Terry privately support a number of causes in the Texarkana area. This shot was taken before Hospice of Texarkana’s annual Jeans and Bling event.

Richard returned to treatment, and the cycle repeated once again. He landed another hotel job, returned to theft and drinking, and was promptly fired again which, again, resulted in homelessness. He remembers that he wanted nothing to do with the recovery community. Richard didn’t believe that it would work, and he “struggled with the God concept.” He believed that if “God didn’t hate me, He wouldn’t have made me all these things that I hate about me.” On August 10, 2015, Richard went to his first meeting and cried through the entire thing. After leaving the meeting, he bought one more bottle and “slammed it.” On August 11, he returned to his second meeting and was quickly assigned a sponsor. In the beginning, although Richard could not believe it would actually work, his sponsor asked him one question, “Do you believe that I believe?” And Richard found that he could believe that much and started working on his sobriety. Through difficulties such as losing his precious Papa, the support system in the recovery community was there for Richard. He remembers one of the men driving him to the funeral, and he asked if Richard had ever noticed all the many

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Sharing the journey of sobriety, Will Carter and Richard regularly celebrate one another’s milestones by having Virgin Marys at Hopkins Icehouse.

After receiving his degrees in Criminal Justice, Richard reached out to Judge Wren Autrey (left) for guidance since the Turners and the Autreys go back decades. Knowing the trials Richard had encountered and his story of overcoming life’s hurdles, Wren had no issue tapping Judge Tommy Potter (right) on the shoulder for a position that he had open in the District Court’s Criminal Division. Tommy jokingly claims, “Judge Autrey made me hire him.”

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During July 2021, Richard finished chemotherapy and throws the deuces to cancer. He has been cancer-free for more than a year now.

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shades of green in the trees as they drove. Richard didn’t know what he meant, and the man continued, “The same God that made all those different shades is the same God that made you.” Tearfully, Richard recalls the impact this one statement had on him. In sobriety, Richard has had many successes. He worked at Twisted Fork as a server which he loved, speaking very fondly of his time there and his work family. Through his friend Will Carter, he was able to interview and get hired at local law firm, Mercy Carter. He learned through on-the-job experience, but realized that he needed more education to continue. He graduated from Texas A&M University with a degree in Criminal Justice. This time around with the encouragement of his partner Terry Roberts, he achieved academic success for the first time. Life was going well for Richard, when in February of 2021, he went into the ER for excruciating pain from what he believed to be kidney stones. After tests, he had kidney stones and appendicitis and needed emergency surgery. Alone in the ICU due to COVID-19 protocols at the time, his surgeon came in. All Richard remembers is the word “cancer.” He called his sister, Whitney, who is a nurse and was working in the hospital. He is so thankful that Whitney was there for him that day. “You got me sober, for this?” is the question that haunted Richard when he was diagnosed with goblet cell carcinoid tumor of the appendix, a very rare form of cancer. Luckily, Richard had befriended Lauren Booker, wife of Dr. James Booker, through his CASA advocacy. He called Lauren who immediately gave the information to her husband, and Dr. Booker called Richard and said, “It would be an honor to be your surgeon, Richard.” Dr. Booker also helped Richard apply and get financial assistance for the expensive treatment. Richard’s gratitude for this act of kindness from the Bookers is evident, believing that he had the best care possible right here in Texarkana. After receiving surgery and chemotherapy, Richard is thankful to be cancer-free. Through the errors of his past, and the trials of cancer, Richard and Terry are grateful to be able to give back through their work in the court system as well as locally in Texarkana. Richard believes in the recovery community and continues to rely on their support while providing his support to others. Richard is visibly thankful for the generosity and blessings afforded to him by the people in his life, and he lives daily to pay that forward.

SCENE ABOUT TOWN TI S D H O N O RS D I STI N G U I S H ED ALU M N I D U R I N G 2 0 2 2 D I STI N G U I S H ED ALU M N I B R E AKFA ST Texarkana Independent School District honored five Texas High Alumni during the 2022 Distinguished Alumni Breakfast held on Friday, October 14. The breakfast was held at 7 a.m. at the Dan Haskins Student Center at Texas High School. The alumni being honored included June Williams-Davis (1969), Curtis D. Ferguson (1983), Chief Justice Josh R. Morriss III (1968), Scott Rozzell (1967), and Dr. Matt Young (1986). Dr. Matt Young, Scott Rozzell, June Williams-Davis, Chief Justice Josh R. Morriss III and Curtis D. Ferguson

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Gerald Brooks and Scott Rozzell

Gerald Brooks, Henry Nell Williams, Curtis D. Ferguson, Carolyn and George Moore and Jo Ann Rice

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‘TIS THE SEASON On December 2-3, TRAHC’s 14th annual Holiday Arts Market will offer a festive shopping event showcasing artists and artisans

is the season! Once again, it’s that time of year to head on over to TRAHC’s jewelry, scarves, pottery, ceramics, sculptures, wood-turned items, handmade soaps, 14th annual Holiday Arts Market at the Regional Arts Center, located local honey, baked goods, Christmas ornaments, leather goods, photography, ‘T at 321 West 4th Street in Texarkana, Texas. This year’s festive holiday shopping doll clothes, walking sticks, and hand-sewn items will be among the many items

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experience will take place Friday, December 2, from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m., and Saturday, December 3, from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Thirty-nine local artists and artisans will show off their talents, and everything you see will be custom made and crafted. Paintings,

community leaders with generous assistance from the Junior League of Texarkana. TRAHC’s mission is to “grow people and community through the arts.” TRAHC’s core values include: artistic excellence, education, collaboration, leadership, accessibility, and community involvement.

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available for purchase. Many items will be one of a kind, which makes them even more special as a gift. Live holiday music will help set the mood for shopping, and TRAHC’s Gift Shop, For Arts’ Sake, will be open for additional shopping.

The Holiday Arts Market began 14 years ago when TRAHC wanted to offer a place for local artists to showcase and sell their artistry to the public at a reasonable price and in a comfortable setting. And the team knew that the holiday season would be the perfect time of the year to offer this unique event. There is no entrance fee for shoppers, and the Regional Arts Center building is wheelchair accessible from the back of the building with a ramp. Inside, three floors will be filled with artists that are accessible by stairs and an elevator. For more information about the Holiday Arts Market or For Arts’ Sake Gift Shop, call Jeanne Harrel at 903-277-3404 or contacted the Regional Arts Center at 903-792-8681.

2022 HOLIDAY ARTISTS 1. Christa Atchison – Baked Goods 2. Vicki Avery – Doll Clothes 3. Gabrielle and Gary Bachers – Scarves/Artist 4. Christopher Bachers – Artist 5. Angie Benifiel – Leather Goods 6. Sarah and Mike Bobbitt – Soap 7. Denise Bolster – Pottery 8. Robert Burke Burns – Artist 9. Polly Cook – Artist/Ceramics 10. Nina Cork – Artist/Pottery 11. Lisa Clark – Jewelry 12. Earlene Crowell – Jewelry Bags 13. Donna Corb – Eco-Dyed Natural Fabrics 14. Mary Crawford – Personalized Ornaments 15. Delbert Dowdy – Wood Turner 16. Kathy Douthit – Knitter 17. Jenny Dodez – Jewelry 18. Andy Dodez – Hiking Sticks 19. Ann Gaskin – Photography 20. Glenda Griffin – Honey 21. Leitha Herring and Dell Kirkman – Jewelry 22. Debbie James – Doodle Stitch 23. Kathy Madison – Glass/Jewelry 24. Joyce Parr – Pottery 25. Joseph Raymond – Artist 26. Amber and Dennis Sartin – Goat Soap 27. Agnes Tirrito – Creative Art Works 28. Chris Thomas – Pottery 29. Mark Thomas – Leather Goods 30. Amy Thomas – Manebangle 31. Roger Tipton – Wood Turner 32. Nan Waits – Jewelry 33. Jon Welborn – Wood Sculptures 34. Pat Willis – Wood Turner 35. Sarah Wright – Jewelry 36. Joel Wright –Artist 37. Peggy Whisenhunt – Jewelry 38. Opportunities, Inc. – Cards 39. Jeffery Vanderbilt – Goat Cheese

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SCENE ABOUT TOWN TE X AR K ANA SYM PH O NY O RCH ESTR A B OAR D M EM B ERS H OST TU N E- U P PART Y On October 8, the Texarkana Symphony Orchestra kicked off its 2022/2023 concert season with “Masterworks I – Zuill Returns!” It was all smiles as $500 & Up Club guests enjoy refreshments and conversations at the Tune-Up Party, hosted by TSO board members, on the Mezzanine at the Perot Theatre before the concert.

Jason and Liz Carter, Mark Van Herpen and Amy and Fr. David Halt

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Katrina and Katelyn McGinnis

Amber Adams with Russell and Jes Sparks

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would never spark that emotion within me. Show me the dollhouse handcrafted for a grandchild and the newspaper clipping describing his labor of love crafted on a tiny scale with handmade furniture, working lights, wallpapered rooms, and the tiniest of accessories. Many of these gifts were made for tiny hands that would spend hours playing and pretending ... hours, perhaps, not spent appreciating her grandfather’s work to its fullest. As someone who in years gone by played with mass produced Barbie dollhouses and someone who now sips coffee as her own grandchildren immerse themselves in worlds of dollhouses and imagination, history begins to creep into my heart. The old gold-colored light bulbs that once graced the Perot marquee sign and enticed people through the doors makes me ponder history. What did Orson Welles think of our town as he kicked off the 5th War Loan Drive in the 1940s? What do current citizens think of a theater that hosted such notable characters as Orson Welles and Mae West? Do we appreciate all those that have crossed our state line, rolled into town on our trains at the once magnificent Union Station? Do we tilt our heads back and marvel at

istory happens to find its way into our lives in manners in which we might tend to overlook, very much like some of the techniques we are taught in math class as a child. When will I need fractions? When will calculating percentages ever be important? Many of us will struggle to memorize the years of the World Wars, the names of those who signed the Declaration of Independence. As children, we may find ourselves practicing rote memorization and then shuffling that information from our brains to make room for learning that we more enjoy. We may simply Mr. Joe Fuq ua, Sr., his w throw our backpack on our bed as ife, and thei children – Jo r e, Jr.; Collin we rush home from school to play s (baby); an Mildred Fuq d ua Little (as a child), circ with our friends – a game of catch 1900. a or playing dolls. We may find a These dollhouse beds are a part of the love in theater or architecture Beverly McDowell donation provided by that lasts from junior high to our the Texarkana Museums System. adult careers – or we may toss that spark aside for something more lucrative, secure. We may immerse ourselves in a corner of our room reading stories about families like Laura Ingalls Wilder, Huckleberry Finn, or Little Women. We may never realize that history complements the things we love in our lives. As someone who has volunteered thousands of hours over the last decade preserving history and attempting to cultivate in others an appreciation for history, I am one for whom history must make an impact on my heart in order for me to fully appreciate the gifts that history gives – I must find that for which I am thankful Orson Welles kicked off the 5th War Loan Drive in Texarkana on June 12, 1944. and blessed. A list of names and dates

the architecture of such a vessel of talent and entertainment? As the recipient of such wonderful moments in time, what stories can our community pass along? Show me the rocking chair donated by Selden McMillin and the stories he enthusiastically shares of his grandmother, Mrs. Fuqua. I see the moments of reminiscing and the impact of his grandmother in his life flash across his eyes and flavor his stories, and I find myself wanting to know more. Where was their home? How did they occupy their days? Why was the soft, gentle sway of a rocking chair so comforting to her at the end of long day when the children were put to bed and the house was quiet? What other family histories can come from a simple, inanimate object? I am thankful that, if allowed, history can answer many of those questions. I may have no deep love of the memorization and tedium of what basic history education often provides. But I am beyond thankful and blessed for the foundation it provides for those who value history and strive to preserve history – those who etch answers into the history books of our lives.

Born and raised in Texarkana, Velvet Hall Cool has strong ties to both Texas and Arkansas but will always consider herself a Class of ‘87 Razorback. She loves to share stories of her nine wonderful grandchildren. When it comes to listening, you can always perk up her ears with stories that speak to personal history and the lessons we learn during our lifelong journey. N OV E M E R 2 02 2 . fourstatesliving.com

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leek lines, organic shapes, floor-to-ceiling windows, exposed beams, and an open floor plan are attributes of modern Tudor homes, and Kim and Randy Swanson’s beautiful 4 bedroom, 3½ bath home is no exception. Located on a gorgeous 2½ acre, lakefront lot in Bent Tree Lake Estates, all of the rooms in this transitional 3,190 square foot home mesh well and flow together seamlessly. Custom built by Mike Rogers Construction, this newly-constructed home’s plans were drawn by Lynlee Harvey of Lynlee Harvey at Home. Since Kim loves all kinds of styles, she chose to decorate and pick out all the finishes for the home herself,while Bryan Callaway of MerchantHouse helped finalize many of the special details. “I like all kinds of styles, so each room fits my vibe,” she admits. “Everything doesn’t have to match; it just has to flow smoothly.” 64

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Ornate glass paned double doors greet guests as they step inside the home. Once inside, the foyer console table hosts two functional lamps and a unique decorative mirror. Vintage European barn doors from the early 1900s add character, leading into Randy’s favorite place in the house: the office. A large floral painting is situated in the middle of sleek green storage cabinets. Kim purchased this art especially for this space, designing the office around the art. A friend’s old dining room table that Kim turned into a desk takes center stage in the room, complete with two wing-backed chairs. Lamps are situated on each side of the desk, offering additional light for the work space. Engineered hardwood flooring is used throughout this immaculate home, adding both beauty and durability. The transitional living area carries out the home’s neutral palette while decorative throw pillows on the sofa and chairs add geometric patterns in

bold colors. The white stacked ledgestone fireplace serves as the focal point of this space, while floor-to-ceiling windows allow natural light inside. Two round cushioned ottomans trimmed with braided jute complete the comfortable sitting space. A custom built navy credenza sits to the right of the fireplace. Measuring 85” long and painted a high gloss navy, the Swansons’ trim carpenter did an amazing job to bring Kim’s vision to fruition, and the painter made it all come to life. Kim added unique round door knocker knobs to set it off, and Bryan Callaway, from MerchantHouse, styled it perfectly. In the kitchen, natural wood drawers and white cabinets offer plenty of storage space. Stainless GE Cafe appliances offer durability and functionality. A large island incorporates additional room for bar seating, offers extra space for food prep, and houses an inset space for Kim and Randy’s fur baby’s food bowls. A 48” dual fuel range and large commercial refrigerator are the perfect accessories allowing the Swansons to easily entertain numerous guests. White quartz countertops and a white Zellige tile backsplash N OV E M E R 2 02 2 . fourstatesliving.com

offer a clean, timeless look. A custom china cabinet was built to resemble a furniture piece, and now houses the Swansons’ wedding china, family heirloom china, and Kim’s grandmother’s silver collection. To the right of the refrigerator, a built-in bar is hidden by two unique arched doors. The bar back is wallpapered with a colorful Moroccan print, offering a super fun place to mix cocktails. Kim admits that the butler’s pantry is her “dream.” Super organized and convenient, unique features include a coffee bar, coffee drawer, spice drawer, and a fabulous food pantry. Double barn doors serve as accent pieces and can be closed to hide the stored items.

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An upholstered fabric headboard creates comfort and coziness in the master bedroom. Unique wooden nightstands flank both sides of the bed, playing host to two tall glass lamps in shades of blue. Two blue leather stools sit at the end of the bed, offering the perfect space to get dressed in the mornings or sit and unwind in the evenings. A sitting area is situated in front of side-by-side windows, offering a tranquil place to view the lake. Vintage reclaimed mirror paned barn doors lead into the master bath. Inside, a massive glass enclosed shower is conveniently situated between dual vanities. A statement piece, the freestanding tub is conveniently situated below a window and offers a bath caddy full of bathing essentials.

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The master closet is organized and efficient, offering the perfect space for clothes, shoes, and accessories. Kim’s closet ceiling is wallpapered with a monarch butterfly print. A mid-century designed Sputnik chandelier provides illumination for the large closet area. “Lighting was very important to me,” Kim says. “I close lots of unique lighting fixtures to enhance each area in our home.” Kim and Randy have put their hearts and souls into customizing every single foot of their charming showplace as a reflection of their self-expression. Every single decision they made when building their new home was talked about, pondered upon, and discussed openly. For fun, Kim was asked what her favorite thing is about her home. Although no surprise to anyone, she quickly responded, “I personally have too many rooms to choose just one. I love the office. I love the bar. I love the guest bath. I love my closet. I love the butler’s pantry. I love our lot – I honestly love it all.” When hearing statements like those from homeowners, it is easy to conclude that their home is definitely where their hearts are.

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EVENTS | CALENDAR

NOVEMBER 2022 NOVEMBER 1 Harvest Regional Food Bank’s 29th annual Taste of Texarkana will be held from 5-8 p.m. Presented by Dr. Ly and Aaron Gaylor, the event will be held at the Four States Fairgrounds. Call 870774-1398 for more information.

NOVEMBER 3 TEXAR will present “Local Bands. Local Brews. Local Bites.” in front of Hopkins Icehouse, from 7-9 p.m. Musical entertainment will feature Heather Linn and the Deacons. Bring a lawn chair, and enjoy the free event.

NOVEMBER 5 Candy Cane Corral Holiday Bazaar will be held from 9 a.m. to 4 p.m. at the Four States Fair Event Center. Activities will include, gifts, local arts, eats, and Santa. Call 870-773-2941 or visit: www.fourstatesfair.com for vendor information.

NOVEMBER 5 The Texarkana Symphony Orchestra will present “Masterworks II: Metamorphosis,” during a 7 p.m. performance in the Perot Theatre. Pianist Andrew Staupe will be featured during the concert. Visit: www.perottheatre.org for tickets.

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NOVEMBER 12 Fan Fare Boutique & Gifts will host a Christmas Extravaganza throughout the day. Activities will include refreshments, giveaways, and prizes. Call 903-832-5196 for details.

NOVEMBER 18

Does an Elder in your life struggle with Boredom? Boredom is the result of a life that lacks spontaneity or variety. Those who suffer from extreme boredom may not see the point of getting out of bed until late in the day or take naps as often as possible to pass the time. When bored, the mind seems to camp out in worry, linger in sorrow and lay dormant with little stimulation to pull forward the type of thinking that keeps us emotionally and intellectually healthy. Ultimately, boredom dramatically increases the risk of depression and anxiety.

Season of Lights Drive-Thru Christmas Light Park and Entertainment Center will open at I-30 and Exit 198 in New Boston. Cost is $25 per car. Follow the park’s Facebook page for daily events and information.

NOVEMBER 18-19 H&N Floral, Gifts & Garden will host its annual Christmas Open House from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. both days. Call 903-794-1417 for more information.

NOVEMBER 18-20 The Junior League of Texarkana will present its Mistletoe Market at the Arkansas Convention Center. Themed “A Hometown Christmas,” the holiday shopping event features a brunch and children’s events as well as photos with Santa. Visit: www.jltexarkana.org for a list of activities.

DECEMBER 2022 DECEMBER 1-3 AND 8-10 Jefferson, Texas, will host its Candlelight Tour of Homes the first two weekends in December. Four tour homes will be lavishly decorated for the holiday season. Tickets can be purchased online at: www.jeffersoncandlelight.com.

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Should I contribute to a Roth or Traditional IRA? There are several factors specific to each individual that must be considered. If a current tax deduction is beneficial, a Traditional IRA might be the best choice. Conversely, a Roth IRA provides no current tax relief, but qualified distributions down the road are TAXFREE, including any earnings that have accumulated in the account. The right IRA choice could even vary from year to year depending on your circumstances. Specific qualifications, such as income limits, apply to each type of account. This is a perfect example of why it is important to have a financial planner and CPA who can work together to help you reach your financial goals.

DECEMBER 2-3 TRAHC’s 14th annual Holiday Arts Market will take place from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. on Friday and 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. on Saturday. This festive holiday shopping will be set up at the Regional Arts Center, located at 321 West 4th Street in Texarkana, Texas. For more information, call Jeanne Harrel at 903-277-3404 or contact the Regional Arts Center at 903-792-8681.

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SCENE ABOUT TOWN H OS PI CE O F TE X AR K ANA’ S 1 3TH AN N UAL J E AN S & B LI N G Jeans & Bling, Hospice of Texarkana’s signature fundraiser, was held October 1 at the Texarkana Texas Convention Center to benefit the local nonprofit organization. All proceeds from the event are designated to support the Hospice Care Center, which opened in 2016. The party included the fifth “Lip Sync Battle” with the 2019 returning Champions, John Ross and Lisa Shoalmire, performing their encore presentation of Dirty Dancing’s “I’ve Had the Time of my Life.” This year’s winner was Cathy Van Herpen and the Ditzy Chicks. They were joined by an entourage of players including, Cathy’s husband, Mark Van Herpen, Jill Lanius, Donna Davis, Terrie Arnold, Lisa Sitterly, Adam Wickliff, Gary Gathright and Jeff Harlow. The Ditzy Chicks group, led by Cathy Van Herpen, acted out their rendition of “Goodbye Earl” to be voted as 2022 Lip Sync Champions. They have bragging rights for a year! The other two competitors included a high-energy, empowerment dance mix routine by Erica Cain and a fun performance of Milli Vanilli’s “lip sync” hit “Baby Don’t Forget My Number” by Amy C. Warren and Veronica Markle. The audience chose the winner by voting with money in support of their favorite celebrity and the Hospice Care Center. You can find video links to all the performances on the “Hospice of Texarkana/Hospice of Hope” Facebook page. Popular KKYR 102.5 FM Deejay Mario Garcia volunteered his time to emcee the evening which also featured live and silent auctions. The auctions were spearheaded by Mike Malone and Andi Darby. Drawings revealed winners of the $2,500 Four States Furniture and Branson trip package, Andrea Sparks and George Merrill, respectively.

Amy C. Warren and Veronica Markle

Cathy and Mark Van Herpen

Jes Sparks and Erica Cain

Rashinda Hampton and Nick Walker

Denis and Mary Washington

Leigh Davis and Casey Hitchcock

Lisa and Rob Sitterly

Charlotte Jewel, Patti Halter and Pam Johnson

Hannah Reed and Haley Reed

Magan and Clayton Wisdom

Dr. Stacy Carter and Tammy Ward

Adam and Carly Wickliff with Courtney Aubrey and Marquita Block

Susan Slimer, Nanette Monte, Renee Fuller, Janie Coker, Teresa Smith and Mary Ellen Young

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Candace Taylor, John Stanley, Cindy Marsh, Patrick Flannery, Sean Rommel, Glen Boles and Manuel Western

Charles and Courtney Shoalmire with Eric Cain

Candace Taylor and Marc-André Bougie

Tina Shearman and Emily Orr

Jamie and Sean Rommel

Kelli Ashbrook Cummings and Jennifer Orgeron

John Ross and Lisa Shoalmire

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the friends’ list

Each month, Four States Living will choose two people who have “liked” our Facebook page to be featured in The Friends’ List. Chosen randomly, these two “friends” will answer questions we provide so our readers can get to know them better. The bonus question (the last question) will be related to the theme of each month’s issue.

BRETT HUTSON Age: 28 Occupation: Texas Farm Bureau Insurance - Agent

HAYLEA MORGAN Age: 31 Occupation: Marketing Manager for TEXAR Federal Credit Union and ¼ of ETX Revival Co.

If you won the lottery, what is the first thing you would do?

When you have 30 minutes of free time, how do you pass the time?

If you were allowed to have one wish granted, what would it be?

At what business could you max out a credit card?

Choose a movie title for the story of your life.

What are you currently watching on Netflix?

If you could visit anywhere in the world, where would you go?

If you could only have three apps on your smartphone, which would you pick?

What’s your favorite sport to watch, and which team do you root for?

Besides buying a vacation home, I would invest more in Texarkana with our business, ETX Revival Co.!

Pinterest on the back porch, with a coffee in my hand.

To slow down time. I’m always doing so much that I forget to enjoy the present moment.

CB2 or Lula B’s in Dallas!

I would have a heart attack!

Watch a TV show or check up on sports/news.

My wish would be for everyone to know Jesus.

Academy or Lowe’s.

“Up – Adventure is Out There!”

“It’s a Wonderful Life.”

“Workin’ Moms.”

I am currently watching “The Rings of Power.”

Greece!

Iguazu Falls.

Spotify. Pinterest. TikTok (best search engine!).

Can we change the channel?

Phone. Messenger. Email.

Anything with good competition. Locally, I watch PG Hawks and DeKalb Bears; college, I watch the Texas Longhorns.

“ T H A N K F U L & B L E S S E D”

WHAT IS THE GREATEST BLESSING YOU HAVE RECEIVED IN YOUR LIFE? Randomly meeting my drummer husband when his band was on tour all those years ago. We were long-distance for three years. Never let distance hold you back from finding your best friend!

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My greatest blessing is my family. My wife, Kristen, and I are expecting our first baby in January, and we could not be more excited! She is my best friend and is going to be a great mom!