FSLM December 2022

The way I see it ...

PUBLISHER’S LETTER

Robin Rogers, Ed.D.

As is typical for me, by the time I sat down to write this December editorial, I was spent. The day before we go to print is always hectic, exhausting actually.

When I made it home tonight, it was dark, and I couldn’t help but notice these awesome, colorful Christmas trees lit up in my neighbors’ yard. As soon as I saw them, my heart sank. My roof is loaded with pine needles. The pumpkin and ghost Halloween decorations just got pulled out of the yard. There is a rotting pumpkin in my trash bin. My contribution to the family today is three bags of Whataburger, with hopes that extra ketchup will make somebody happy. I can’t even begin to think about Christmas gift buying until I’ve finished the Thanksgiving dishes.

It’s easy to get caught up in the stress of the holiday season. So many people are bustling about trying to create magic for perfect holiday celebrations. Can we find matching PJs for the fam ily photo? Have I made the gift list and checked it twice? Where is the good ribbon from last year? And, can some body, anybody, help me gather up the fall decor and re place it with twinkle lights and baby Jesus?

For all that is good and holy, why do we nitpick the details to a point where we can’t see the forest for the trees?

I haven’t been feeling inspired to write, so I asked my daughter Emily what brought her happiness in 2022. Everybody who knows me knows Em (and knows she has been in a wheelchair for her entire life). She very quickly told me that going to New York City and seeing shows made her happy. Then she said vol unteering her time at TRAHC and Oktoberfest brings her joy. Then she said something I never suspected was coming. “The best part of this year was having Ellen home for a part of it.” Ellen is her older sister, and while they have always gotten along, Emily is a smidge jealous of her time with me. It was an immediate “wow” moment. My kids are really adults. We haven’t truly had much time with Ellen for about five years when she left to get a master’s degree in Toronto and then decided to stay. When Ellen finally decided to come back closer to home, it was one of the best days of my life. Ever since, the three amigas (Ellen, Emily and me) have played cards together, Scrabble, taken road trips, gone to concerts, cooked (not me, but them), watched good TV and bad TV together, we have snuggled up too tightly in a little bed (commencing to sing “Three in the bed and the little one said,”) and most of all, we have laughed. We even shared the dreaded C word, which gave us an extra 10 days of up close and personal time and togetherness!

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I asked Ellen, my oldest, what has made her happy in 2022. She said that she feels blessed to have technology that allows her to work remotely with her students all over the world while being in good old Texarkana USA. She said that since she has been gone, Texarkana has experienced a growth in public art and really nice public parks and walking trails. Having a dog in an apartment in Toronto, Ellen became accustomed to walking on snowy sidewalks to dog parks several times a day. Getting a chance to meet new people who have made Texarkana home since she has left, along with reintroducing herself to her favorite people from all walks of life has been wonderful.

In keeping with inclusivity, I texted my youngest, my only son, and the caboose of my now adult child-train. No prompt. I asked him what made him happy in 2022. His first answer was his beautiful girlfriend Ashlyn, who has been part of our family for four years. Then, he said going on a cruise for a week vacation was fun. Then, he told me that mak ing decisions for himself and feeling confident in those decisions was a big part of growth in 2022; in a few months Briley will turn 22. Fi nally, he said that working for a hospital that he is proud of is also at the top of his list; Briley is working at Arkansas Children’s Hospital while he finishes his bachelor’s in Nursing in May of 2023.

It does not matter how old you are; if the people you love are happy, you are happy. Some times, you just have to ask the right questions to those people. Asking my children what has made 2022 fun and special was an exercise that brought me great joy. Knowing my kids are happy and well-balanced and having some fun, well, that is the most I could wish for. Unfortunately, I let pine needles and old pumpkins bring me grief sometimes, when my children help me see the individual trees (moments) that make the forest (life) so incredible.

Joy doesn’t only happen at Christmas. Joy is found in the small victories all year around.Cherish your people, and when you need to sit still and reflect, do it. I guarantee you’ll stop worrying about lists and old pumpkins.

Merry Christmas my friends! I hope you experience the greatest joy, and as always, thanks for reading FSLM

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INSPIRE THE PESSIMIST ELEVATE THE OPTIMIST STIR THE MIND ENTERTAIN THE SOUL

ON THE COVER DECEMBER 2022

Venus and Lt. Scott Lillis and their children, Isla and Ethan, look forward to spending this holiday season together. Since Scott was seriously injured in August while answering the call of duty, the family has been surrounded by a strong and loving support system, making it possible for them to focus on Scott’s recovery and their family’s healing.

See “Answering the Call to Protect and Serve” on page 10

TABLE OF CONTENTS

INSIDE : NOTHING SHORT OF INCREDIBLE

Lyric and Michael Searles share their story of infertility and the miracle of birthing their beautiful baby boy, Fisher.

See story on page 28

Answering the Call to Protect and Serve 10-14 Faith that is Stronger 18-22 Nothing Short of Incredible 28-32 A Family Connection 36-38

Against All Odds 44-49 Holiday Greetings Put Smiles on Faces 54-57

ALSO IN THIS ISSUE

The Way I See It An op-ed piece from the publisher 6

Exquisite Interiors 62-66

Events 70-71 Ask the Experts 71 The Friends’ List 74

Scene About Town 8, 16, 24, 27, 34, 42, 50, 58, 67-69, 72

SCENE ABOUT TOWN

OPPORTUNITIES, INC. FOUNDATION BOARD AUTUMN LUNCHEON

On November 3, the Opportunities, Inc. Foundation Board held its annual Autumn Luncheon at the home of Amy and Ben King. A Tuscany meal by Benchmark American Brasserie was served to attendees.

Pat Smith and Martha Norton

Holland Meador, Leah Orr, Whitney Fuqua, Angie Wilson, Darrah McGuire, Caroline Curry, Katie Andrus and Chase Magness

Kelli Ashbrook, Rendi Wiggins, Natalie Peek and Tina Griffin

Jordan Miller and Lacy White

Sally Patton and Patty Smith

Bennie Phillips, Judy Morgan, Sherry Young and Patty Smith

Lacy White and Treva West

Peggy Tetirick and Amy King

Debbie Schimming, Jeanie Conway and Lisa Looney

Char Crain, Bennie Phillips and Lydia Lawrence

Gayle Wright, Jamye DeHaan and Melissa Harris

Corie Woodman, Amy King and Sherry Young

Brian Schuster, Chuck Waller and Jerry Poore

Patty Smith and Sherry Young

Lyndsey Craig, Holland Meador and Darrah McGuire

Leitha Herring and Diann Roy

Jason and Becky Williams with Corie Woodman

Jo Ann Rice and Brittney Hunter-Brookes

Ruby Old, Melanie Cockerell and Greta Alexander

Patty James, Glenda Williams and Hollis Boyette

Patty Smith, Mary Katherine Haynes and Linda Grace

ANSWERING THE CALL TO PROTECT AND SERVE

by VICKI MELDE

For those who are not personally involved in law enforcement or the armed services or who do not have family members who have answered this call to serve, it is extremely difficult to comprehend how they face life-threatening situations on a daily basis. It takes a profound commitment, not only on the part of the officer or soldier, but equally on the part of their loved ones. The depth of their commitment to their fellow man is truly remarkable.

On August 6th of this year, the Four States area witnessed first-hand the enormous danger – but also amazing skill and training – of the brave men and women who have chosen to put their lives on the line to ensure the safety of those in their communities. Fear spread throughout the region when news was released of a manhunt for a murder suspect who was on a rampage in the area, endangering citizens and, unfortunately, taking the life of a Bowie County resident. After the shooting, the assailant fled, crashed in a vehicle, and then stole another truck. After spotting the stolen truck that the assailant was using, Lt. Lillis stopped the vehicle. As he approached the vehicle, Lt. Lillis was shot in the face by the suspect. Had it not been for the heroic intervention of Lieutenant Scott Lillis of the Bowie County Sheriff’s Office, the number of injured or killed would have been much higher.

Growing up in upstate New York, Scott was a typical young man who played football and ran track and field. After graduating from high school, he drilled water wells for a friend’s family who owned a local business. It wasn’t long before he decided to serve his country by joining the Marines.

It was during his eight years of service in the Marine Corps, while stationed at Camp Pendleton near San Diego, California, that Scott met the love of his life, Venus. She was finishing her last semester of college at Cal State San Marcos and happened to be attending a friend’s birthday party at a sports bar in San Diego at the same time Scott was there. “Our first date was a trip to the museums in Downtown Balboa Park,” Venus recalled. “We both loved music, art, travel, hiking, fitness, and shared the same faith. We’re both Catholic.” Venus also shared that she came from a family of veterans and police officers, so she understood the culture and Scott’s sense of duty to serve his country and community.

As their relationship grew, the two took several cross-country road trips together. “One of our favorite spontaneous trips was a two-day 16.5-mile hike into the Grand Canyon,” Venus reminisced. “Of course, it was summer and one of the hardest times to do this hike. It was both very challenging and amazing! Scott and I are very passionate people – when we set our minds to something, we do it.”

After Scott got out of the Marine Corps in 2010, they moved to Texarkana and were married within a year at St. James Episcopal Church. (Their church, Sacred Heart Catholic, was being renovated at the time.) They now have two children – Isla (10) and Ethan (9) to whom Scott and Venus are very devoted. “A lot of our time is spent with them, attending their activities or just hanging out,” Venus explained. “We love being together and getting to create new experiences for the kids.” This past year, they took a trip to Disneyland in Anaheim and

enjoyed many adventures around San Diego while visiting family. They’ve spent time the past few summers in New Hampshire visiting Scott’s family at their lake house. “We also love Florida trips, so the kids can play at the beach,” Venus added. “Anything to get us out, experiencing the world.”

The Lillis family also includes their cat, Merlin, and two dogs, Bear and Kodi. Kodi, a German Shepherd puppy, is the newest family member. Isla and Ethan wanted him as a combined birthday gift this year, so he kept them busy all summer learning to take care of their puppy.

Following his time serving in the Marines, Scott began to pursue higher education. He currently holds an associate’s, bachelor’s, and master’s degree in Criminal Justice. He chose law enforcement with the Bowie County Sheriff’s Office for the same reason he joined the Marines – he is passionate about protecting and serving his country and community. “I believe we need people out there helping others in need and protecting the community from crime,” Scott shared. “Sometimes serving the community means answering emotionally charged situations, sometimes it’s putting yourself between criminals and innocents, and sometimes it is working to proactively protect the community from negative influences. Bowie County Sheriff’s Office is a great agency, and they treat you like family, which is why I am very honored to be a part of their team.”

Venus and Lt. Scott Lillis share their story of tragedy, resilience, healing, faith and gratitude

While they were dating, Venus and Scott attended the 2008 Marine Corps Ball.

Sheriff Jeff Neal with Scott when he was promoted to lieutenant this year.

While being a part of that team is immensely rewarding, it is also challenging for the officers and their families. Venus displayed a similar commitment to Scott’s when asked about being the spouse of someone whose career is in law enforcement. “Honestly, before this happened, I took for granted that Scott would just always come home safe. My dad has been in law enforcement for 30 years, and my mom was also a corrections officer for some time when I was younger. For a majority of their careers, they were on night shift and working in dangerous conditions. I grew up around police officers, always hearing stories of their experiences, so having a husband in law enforcement feels normal.

When you have a spouse in law enforcement you have to learn to trust that they will make the best decision they can to keep themselves and others safe or the fear of what could happen would drive you crazy. Even now, thinking of him going back to work is unsettling, but he’s here for a reason, and we can’t live our lives in fear.”

The ”this” that Venus referred to was a horrific attack on Scott that occurred on an August evening earlier this year during a traffic stop. Remarkably, Scott remembers the details of the entire evening. “After I pulled over the vehicle, I approached the suspect from the passenger side and flashed a light into the rear window to see who was inside. Recognizing the suspect, I backed away from the vehicle, but the suspect did not hesitate and shot me through the back passenger window. I remember feeling the shot enter through my eye and the intense ringing in my head from the impact. Back when I was in combat triage training for the Marines, a corpsman would tell us, if you’re still thinking, you’re still alive. That’s exactly what I thought after the bullet hit, ‘I’m thinking, so I’m still alive.’ I immediately started assessing my situation and called in to dispatch.

“I believe my military combat training played a large role in how I handled the situation that day. After realizing I was still alive, I knew I had to begin assessing my situation and call it in immediately, so they had an opportunity to catch the suspect and send an ambulance. I will also share that while I was waiting for others, I felt a spiritual presence around me who somehow assured me that I would be okay. It’s surreal when you think about it after the fact.”

Venus recalled how she learned of the attack on her beloved husband. “On that night, Isla and I were taking an evening walk around the neighborhood. Earlier in the day, I had read a social media post about the man who would later shoot my husband but hadn’t thought much else about it. Fast forward to the moment he was shot while we were walking, and I suddenly saw this same man’s face flash across my mind so clearly. Immediately, I had this awful feeling that Isla and I were in danger, and he could be in the neighborhood. The danger

The bullet and shrapnel is evident in this x-ray of the left side of Scott’s head.

This 3D image of Scott’s head shows the bullet trajectory and damage he sustained after the shooting.

around me felt so real that I rushed us both home. Right before we made it back to our house, I saw my dad in the road running toward my house to tell me about Scott. We met in front of my house on the road, and that’s where I found out. Scott’s friend had called him immediately, so Dad could be the one to tell me. A few minutes later, a unit showed up to take me to the hospital. I didn’t know any information until I got to the ER and saw Scott right before he was flown to UAMS (University of Arkansas for Medical Sciences in Little Rock). It was quite horrific to look at, and the doctors initially thought he’d be blind in both eyes. After arriving at UAMS, we learned that the bullet had just missed his skull and the only immediate surgery he would need would be on his eyes. It wasn’t until after that initial surgery we learned his vision in the right eye would be okay because glass and metal hadn’t fully pierced through the right eye.”

Since the attack, Scott has had three surgeries. The first was to repair the initial damage and remove shrapnel from his face, left ear, and both eyes. The second surgery was to remove the remainder of his damaged left eye globe and to reconstruct the orbital eye socket. The third surgery was to reconstruct the left cheek bone, remove more shrapnel, and remove the .45 bullet from behind his left ear. “He’s working on physical therapy for his jaw, so he can open his mouth wider,” Venus explained. “After each surgery, Scott had lost a little more mobility in his jaw, until he could barely open it. After therapy for about a month, he still has some way to go, but he was able to eat a hamburger normally for the first time this past week. Eating food normally is a huge milestone!” Scott has also been cleared to drive after his last eye visit. Miraculously, he has 20/20 vision in the right eye. He recently had his first fitting appointment for the new prosthetic eye. Venus advised that it was an exciting appointment and hopefully he’ll have a new prosthetic eye soon!

Along with Scott’s journey of healing, each member of the Lillis family has had to work through the effects the attack has had on them. The way in which Scott and Venus have approached this with their children is quite inspiring.

“We are always very honest and open with our children about how they or we might begin to process and heal from this experience. This healing journey is something we do together so we can all come out of this experience a stronger family and more resilient individuals. We give them space to share their feelings and let them know it’s okay to be angry, cry, ask questions, or take space from it. Everyone’s journey through grief and trauma is different. We also stress to them that we cannot always control what others do around us or to us, but we can control how we respond to those situations and what we do with that experience afterwards.”

Even in the midst of all the physical and emotional challenges he was facing, Scott has still led by example. “He is so incredibly strong,” Venus remarked. “I have never seen my husband in such a horrific state, yet he remained positive, kept his humor, and took it one day at time. Yes, there were days he was in a ton of pain and parts of the recovery process are challenging both emotionally and physically, but he’s really made an effort to stay positive and focus on the blessing of being alive. We know that others who’ve been in his situation have not been so fortunate.”

The Lillis family has helped each other cope and been surrounded by a strong and loving support system throughout this entire journey. “We have been so unbelievably blessed with such a strong support system. The outpouring of support still leaves us speechless, and in the days following this tragedy, gratitude often drowned out the anger, fear, and frustration. Those who have fed us, comforted us, cared for Scott, cared for our children, cared for our fur babies, maintained our yard and pool, donated time off, cleaned our house, picked up the pieces in our absences from work, brought gifts, sent financial support, organized fundraisers, checked in on us, prayed for us, and shared incredible stories of resilience and hope all made it possible for us to focus on Scott’s recovery and our family’s healing during this awful tragedy.”

Through it all, their faith has sustained them, and they live their favorite saying each day … “Let go, and let God.”

Scott and Venus before his second surgery to remove the damaged eye globe and repair the orbital socket.

SCENE ABOUT TOWN

CHRISTUS ST. MICHAEL FOUNDATION GALA

The CHRISTUS St. Michael Foundation held its Foundation Gala on October 22 at the Texarkana Convention Center. Musical entertainment for the event featured the country music band, Diamond Rio. Proceeds from the event benefit clinical scholarships.

Robert and Becky Bunch

Susannah and Gene Joyce with Stephanie and Jim Wyly

Mary Catherine Haynes, Julia Carpenter, Dr. Milburn Haynes and George Carpenter

Mike and Sylvia Ingram with Jamye DeHaan and Bertha and Bobby Shipp

Tom and Debra Moore

Pam Beck with JR and Michala Beck

Judy Morgan, Debbie Alkire, Barbara Glick and Jackie Gooding

Bob and Cindy Bunch with Carl and Susan Smith

Dr. Tom Cutrer with Margaret and Philip Mobley

Lindy Landreaux and Susan Landreaux

Erica and Eric Cain

Julie and Dr. Trey Mitchell

Rendi and Dr. Josh Wiggins

Terri and Greg Giles

FAITH THAT IS STRONGER

After

by AMBER SMITH ZALISKI

No one is ever prepared to have their life turned upside down. There’s never a good time to have an unexpected health crisis. (Quite the understatements, right?) When Jill Rowe was diagnosed with breast cancer in the summer of 2020, it was devastating. It was certainly not part of the plan. Now two years after a double mastectomy, as Jill looks back on her journey through breast cancer, she is immediately grateful. Stronger than ever in her faith, Jill is even more motivated to share her testimony and encourage others.

Jill was riding some of her highest highs in 2020. She and her husband, Kevin, were expecting their first baby together, a dream come true for them to grow their blended family. Their big kids were all doing well. Her holistic health business, Rowe Casa Organics, was experiencing exponential growth, and her products were helping people improve the quality of their lives. Jill was excited, and life was good, and then one day in late July, after a family lake trip, she noticed that the side of her breast suddenly felt very sensitive. “I was six months pregnant, so, of course, I was thinking it had to be pregnancy-related,” Jill said. “But it did not resolve; it actually became more painful and quickly turned into a hard lump.”

During her prenatal appointment in the following days, Jill remembers her doctor seeming pretty concerned. She went for more testing, which then led to a mammogram, which led to a biopsy, which confirmed one of Jill’s worst fears. “Breast cancer is something that maybe all women have some fear of, and here I was very pregnant, almost 40 years old, busy running a holistic health business, and all of a sudden, I had breast cancer and was facing my own health crisis,” Jill said. “It was a very scary time, and I had some very dark days. I also knew that I would have to rely on the Lord to carry me through this.”

In the earliest days and weeks of her diagnosis, Jill remembers being overwhelmed with questions, and she had so many concerns outside of herself. “My first priority was getting my baby here healthy. Of course, I

After discovering she had breast cancer while pregnant, Jill went in several weeks early for a planned C-section so that they could get more information on how to treat her cancer.

being diagnosed with breast cancer two years ago, Jill Rowe has learned that the simple things in life really mean the most

Sage Avalynn was born perfectly healthy on September 2, 2020. Jill knows that God was with her family during that time, and she loves that Sage weighed 7 lbs. 7 ozs. because in the Bible, the #7 symbolizes “completion.”

Sage’s first birthday party took place on September 2, 2020, at the Rowes’ home and was themed “One in a Melon.”

photo by SHANE DARBY

“I’ve truly learned that the simple things mean the most.”

was worried about how this cancer or the treatment options would impact her, and that guided many of my decisions.” Rowe Casa was also on Jill’s mind as she began this health journey. “I definitely was concerned about the business and our employees and customers, and whether or not we could survive this. To be the founder and the face of a holistic health company having a health crisis ... I had to reconcile that within myself and remember that the Lord put me in the position to lead this company. I also knew that I had so much more to learn.”

Jill held strong in her faith and stayed true to herself as she began a deep dive into her diagnosis. “Really, I am such a nerd,” she laughed. “I’m a problem solver. I love researching, and I read everything I could get my hands on. One of my favorites was ‘Chris Beat Cancer.’” She also sought out experts in all areas of medicine, conventional and holistic. “It was a very eye-opening experience for me,” Jill said. “During my initial consult at Presbyterian Health in Dallas, they were ready to begin 16 rounds of chemotherapy for Invasive Ductal Carcinoma. Honestly, I was more scared of the treatments than I was of the cancer, and I decided to seek out other opinions.”

While healing after giving birth, Jill made frequent visits to the Kotsanis Institute in Grapevine, Texas, throughout October 2020 to receive integrative treatments for cancer. Her treatment included many IVs and supplements. It was a great learning experience and prepared Jill to go into a major 10-hour surgery, double mastectomy, and DIEP reconstructive surgery.

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At the Kotsanis Institute of Integrative Medicine in Grapevine, Jill remembers feeling instantly more at ease. “Their doctors take a holistic approach to treatment, and I truly felt so supported. They taught me so much about stress management, emotional health, nutritional therapy, and gave me so many options to support my body, especially until I was through my pregnancy,” Jill said. “Even though Rowe Casa was rocking along, and I was using organic products, and doing a lot of things, I still had a lot of work to do, personally. I hate to admit, but I was still having Dr. Pepper and Pop Tarts most days, not sleeping enough, just living in a very stressed state. This really forced me to make some changes. The more I learned, the more I realized just how much our lifestyles are killing us.”

In order to move forward with her own treatments, Jill and Kevin decided to plan a C-section birth about six weeks before the due date, and Sage was born September 2, 2020. “I was so afraid, and my biggest prayer was always for her to arrive healthy,” Jill said. “Our doctor was hoping that she would be close to six pounds, and when I heard them announce her birth weight of 7 pounds 7 ounces . . . That is God’s number of perfection and completion, and I just knew we would be okay.”

As she recovered from birth, Jill was simultaneously preparing for the next steps in her treatment plan. “I did some high dose IV vitamin therapies as well as IPT low dose chemotherapy,” she said. “I also learned that my initial diagnosis was incorrect, and my specific cancer type would not have responded to the suggested

Jill’s surgery took place at the Center for Restorative Breast Surgery in New Orleans, Louisiana, with some worldrenowned doctors. Here, she and her sister, Alicia, are celebrating her being cancer-free and being given a 1-2% chance of recurrence with no further treatments needed.

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chemotherapy treatments. I actually had a slower growing cancer, microinvasive ductal carcinoma in situ, and I wanted to have it completely taken care of.” On Friday, November 13, 2020, Jill underwent a double mastectomy at the Center for Restorative Breast Surgery in New Orleans. “I knew I did not want implants, and opted to do a fat transfer from my abdomen to rebuild my breasts. These doctors and surgeons are doing truly amazing things.” After the 10-hour surgery, Jill was declared cancer free.

Jill’s road to recovery has continued into a health journey that she intends to be endless.

“I’ll never stop learning. This experience has changed me, and I feel stronger than I ever have,” Jill said. “I am stronger physically and mentally. My relationships are stronger, and my faith is stronger. It is very motivating to be able to use a personal struggle to better help others.”

Jill’s passion for educating and encouraging continues to shine through Rowe Casa Organics. “I was so worried during that time that everything would fall apart, but that November as I recovered from surgery, we had our biggest month-to-date,” Jill said. “It was such a reminder to me that God is always faithful.” After continued growth, Rowe Casa Organics now has 75 employees, ships products worldwide, and Jill is happy to be able to give back, recently donating $40,000 to local charities and supporting local ministries throughout the year.

As much as we try to plan ahead, to prepare, life remains uncertain always. “I’ve truly learned that the simple things mean the most. I love the everyday things – spending time with my family, celebrating Jesus together,” Jill said. “I definitely feel like I’ve been on the fast track of learning and growth in the last few years, but I’ve never been alone. It has been so amazing to witness God take something so scary and so hard and turn it into something beautiful.”

With

Jill celebrating her 1-year anniversary of being cancer-free are her husband, Kevin; and kids, Drew, Sage, Alexis, and Hosston. (Photo by Kayla Brint Photography)

SCENE ABOUT TOWN

DAISY GARDEN CLUB OF TEXARKANA

CELEBRATES 70TH ANNIVERSARY

Daisy Garden Club of Texarkana celebrated its 70th anniversary October 14 in the Simmons Room of First Baptist Church Texarkana. Daisy Garden Club, federated in 1952 under the Texas Garden Clubs, Inc. organization, began meeting in the home of Betty Lou Crowell. Mrs. Crowell, the first president, lived in the Beverly community. Today, Daisy Garden Club is a group of friends who take gardening seriously and contribute to the community in various ways. The highlight of the program was a delightful interview of the oldest inactive member, Beth Morris, who will be 99 in November.

Joanie Thompson, Ginny Dowdle and Martha Beasley

Sandra Tipton – President of Texarkana Texas Council of Garden Clubs, Devona Cowling – President of Daisy Garden Club and Janella Garrett – Director of Northern Zone of Texas Garden Clubs Vara Hart, Chrys Capshaw and Doris Morris

Sylvia Ingram, Irene Johnson and Wanda Ingram

Carolyn Folse, Wanda Ingram, Maggie Harris, Jean Bratton, Doris Morris and Peggy Burson

SCENE ABOUT TOWN

ANGEL FUND FOUNDATION’S PUTT FOR A PURPOSE

The Angel Fund Foundation held its Putt for a Purpose on September 17 at Texarkana Country Club. The Angel Fund Foundation is a nonprofit organization that helps local cancer patients financially with their medical treatments.

Drawdown winner was Mark Richards, who split the prize and donated half of it back to the Angel Fund. The Fun Putt winners were Mark and Kate Poret. Danny Maxey & The Barn Katz served as the musical entertainment.

(front row) Rebecca Cantrell, Stacye Magness, Samantha Mitchell and Leah Wylie; (back row) Brandy Early, Morgan Wilhite and Farren Stover

Matt and Melanie Crouch

Cyle and Kristin Allen

Libby White, Lauren Cox, Lindsey Dunn, Whitney Burt, Kate Poret and Jenny Crow

Lauren and Jordan Cox

(front) Samantha Mitchell, Melanie Crouch and Anya Howard; (back) Kristin Allen, Steve Thompson and Shelby Furlow

Dr. Joseph and Nancy Robbins with Madeline and Stephen Robbins

NOTHING SHORT OF INCREDIBLE

Lyric and Michael Searles share their story of infertility and the miracle of birthing their beautiful baby boy, Fisher

by LISA PORTERFIELD THOMPSON

photo by SHANE DARBY

yric and Michael Searles are not from Texarkana. In fact, he thinks of Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, as his home, and she grew up in Tucson, Arizona. So, it might seem as if finding the couple here in Texarkana, raising a family and leading a busy, fulfilling life is a bit of an anomaly. But then again, there are a lot of coincidences in the Searles’ story.

Michael, one of 11 children in a blended family, says he lived all over growing up. “I graduated high school in 2007,” Michael said. “After high school, I moved to Texarkana to go to Texas A&M University-Texarkana and pursue a degree in Political Science.” Michael was in the first group of resident assistants in the dormitories at TAMU-T.

It was on a church retreat, for the same group that the couple now oversees, that Michael met Lyric in 2010. Lyric is the oldest of three children, her brother and sister are 15 and 16 years younger than she. In 2010, Lyric moved from Tucson to Texarkana to live with her grandparents and attend Texarkana College and TAMU-T. “It took a few months for Michael to finally ask me out,” Lyric said. “But we started seeing other in May of 2011 and were engaged by the new year. We got married in October of 2012 on an unexpectedly cold day.”

Lyric recalls that most of her bridal party wore shorter knee-length dresses and were left to brave the cold snap without being prepared. “It was a great, chilly fall day,” she said. “We had friends from all over the country that came to share our special day with us.”

The Searles have not always been in Texarkana, but feel that God’s divine guidance has led them here to settle down. “We both grew up on opposite sides of the country,” Lyric said, “but somehow found ourselves here. We moved away for two years after we got married, but felt like someday we would end up back here. God has planted us here, and that’s where we plan on staying until we hear otherwise!”

Lyric and Michael are actively involved in their church, Church on the Rock, where they both serve on staff. Michael focuses on online ministries, while Lyric works in kids ministry and together, they oversee Connection, the young adult ministry. They have served together in international missions and recently have even shared their testimony about infertility with the congregation. “Just a few months before our wedding, I was diagnosed with Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS),” Lyric said. “One of the symptoms affected my body’s ability to ovulate.”

Lyric and Michael tried for seven years to have a baby to no avail. The couple tried every avenue to conceive, and to help Lyric’s body regulate itself. “Every time someone would ask us, ‘When are you gonna have a

Even though he was in the NICU when this photo was taken, Fisher appears to be smiling as he sleeps.

Fisher was born on August 15, 2021, just a couple of weeks after this maternity session for Lyric and Michael was photographed. (Photo by K8 Photography)

baby?’ it was like a knife in our hearts,” she recalls. “My biggest piece of advice to other couples experiencing infertility would be not to keep it a secret. Once we put aside our hurt, shame and embarrassment and shared our struggle with the people that care most about us, everything became so much easier.”

Lyric said their loved ones began to partner with them in prayer and helped carry their burden. “The hardest part was knowing there was nothing we could do to make it happen,” Lyric said. “We tried everything ... all natural solutions, prescription drugs, changed our diet, exercise and on and on. We prayed, we cried, we did everything we could do and still nothing.

“I heard someone say once that couples choose when to make love, but God chooses when to make life, and that was a huge comfort and anchor for us during this long, long journey,” Lyric said. She quoted Hebrews 6:19 as a source of comfort. “We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure.

“That hope, Peter calls it a LIVING hope in 1 Peter 1, is Jesus Christ. And while that is true for all of life’s trials, it is even more pronounced when I think about our situation. At Christmas, we celebrate the birth of a baby that should have never been born. Scientifically speaking, Jesus’ life was not possible. A virgin can’t give birth! And yet, the facts remain that, against all odds, this impossible baby was born. So in our darkest moments, we could always look to Jesus and see that all things are truly possible for God,” Lyric said.

In February of 2019, it seemed as if the darkest days were over for the Searles. “I started to feel lethargic for a few weeks, and also missed work due to severe nausea,” Lyric said. “I took a pregnancy test, and it came back positive. We went to First Choice Pregnancy Center here in Texarkana to get a ‘real’ test done because

Lyric and Michael leading worship for Connection, the young adult ministry at Church on the Rock.

Since he spent six weeks in the NICU, he was about 2 months old before Lyric and Michael could get his newborn photos taken. (Photo by K8 Photography)

I couldn’t wait for my appointment with the doctor. When it came back positive, there wasn’t a dry eye in the place.”

Two weeks later at the eight-week ultrasound, Lyric and Michael were told they had lost their baby.

Later that year, the couple got pregnant again. But again, they lost the baby around eight weeks.

Finally, in early 2021, they found out they were expecting again, and this time Lyric carried the baby full-term. Fisher Oak Searles was born on August 15, 2021. He’s now a 15-month-old bouncing baby boy.

While life as parents has brought with it all the things firsttime parents look forward to, Lyric and Michael have also had to face some challenges that were unexpected. While Fisher was born full-term, he spent the first six weeks of his life in the NICU, struggling to eat and regulate his body temperature. This led Michael and Lyric to begin testing and seeing specialists to address some of their baby’s challenges.

At 7 months old, Fisher was diagnosed with a super rare genetic condition called Coffin-Siris Syndrome (CSS). This genetic condition affects many of his physical and cognitive functions, has caused hearing loss, a hole in his right eye, a malformation in his ureter that had to be surgically repaired, and more. “We don’t really know what the future holds for our family,” Lyric said, “but we’re excited to see what Fisher does.”

The Searles’ faith is nothing short of incredible. The number of obstacles and trials they have endured together in a relatively short time is enough to make anyone cower, and yet they stand strong, assured and confident in their faith and in their family.

Fisher sports his new hearing aid, and it seems to be working really well.

For a long time, Lyric dreamed of taking a family photo on Easter. Michael and Lyric are so happy that they were able to fulfill that dream on Easter 2022.

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TEXAR HOSTS LOCAL BANDS, LOCAL BREWS, LOCAL BITES

TEXAR presented Local Bands, Local Brews, Local Bites on November 3 in Downtown Texarkana in front of Hopkins Icehouse. Musical entertainment was provided by Heather Linn & The Deacons.

Megan and Scott Smith

Summer and Troy Nelson

Vicki and Lynn McDowell

Joe Kennedy and Christian Mackey

Tanya House, Lorie Owen and Anita Bland

Becky Insall and Sheila Dunlap

Cheryl and Brad Gildon

Deeana and David Crenshaw

Lisa and Sarah Mitchell

Tonya Jones and Summer Nelson

Lorie Owen, Sherrea Moon, Haylea Morgan, Kayla Jones and Wesley Cowling

photo by SHANE DARBY

A FAMILY CONNECTION

With tenacity and perseverance, mother-daughter duo, Sarah Richardson and Elizabeth Burt, have both battled and defeated cancer

by JENNIFER JORDAN

Life’s challenges hit everyone differently. For some, struggles can lead to feeling completely overwhelmed and lost. This is a valid reaction. Others regard difficulties as mountains that they will summit. They take the burdens they’re given and persevere to emerge victorious.

Sarah Richardson has encountered her fair share of struggles, but she is one of the persevering kind. With an infectious smile and a grateful heart, Sarah recounts how she and her family have fought through serious health challenges to come out on the other side. At the age of 11, Sarah battled and defeated cancer, only to have her own daughter diagnosed with a tumor 22 years later at the same exact age.

During the ice storm of December, 2000, Sarah was not feeling well at home in Maud. Her mother, Paula Richardson, worked as an RN at CHRISTUS St. Michael. Due to the storm, Paula stayed at a hotel across from the hospital so she could help patients. Sarah joined her mother there during the aftermath of the storm. Soon, she spiked a fever of 106 degrees, and Paula took her to the emergency room. Sarah describes her vision as showing everything “flipping over, spinning in front of me.” Paula noticed a massive lump on the side of Sarah’s head, and Sarah was scheduled for a CT. “This is where our whole journey began,” Sarah recalls.

Local physicians determined that Sarah needed to go to Arkansas Children’s Hospital immediately. Dr. Bower, her ENT doctor, and Dr. Sasinta, her cancer doctor, initially diagnosed the mass as a schwannoma, a benign tumor wrapped around the 9th cranial nerve. However, they also thought that it looked more like a ganglioneuroblastoma and suggested that the family take a vacation.

Sarah had surgery to remove the tumor, which, indeed, was revealed to be ganglioneuroblastoma cancer. Doctors did not expect Sarah to be able to walk or talk, but all thanks to God, her only issues were speech, swallowing, and a lazy right eye. “Swallow therapy would not work, so I had a feeding tube inserted. I wanted to eat, but it took a hot dog to finally do it, “ Sarah explains. “I started choking on a hot dog, and I swallowed for the first time several months after the surgery. It was an amazing feeling to eat again.” Sarah also notes that “whenever I get hot, one side of my face will grow white, and the other side, red. My friends say, ‘Oh, she’s two-faced again!’” Sarah credits her lifelong friends, Kayce Freeman and Amanda Hanson, with helping her to get through everything. “We had just moved to Maud before I was diagnosed. I met these girls, and they were there for me.”

In 2001, at age 12, the tumor returned, emerging in Sarah’s neck. She was scheduled for surgery, but scans revealed that it had disappeared. All she has now is a scar. Small pieces of the cancer remain, but they do not bother her. Sarah feels incredibly blessed, and she has since recognized that many of her family members have experienced severe headaches, which may or may not reflect a genetic issue. “It’s a deep root in our family,” she says. “My brother, Robert; my sisters, Courtney Harrison and Shannon Moore; my stepmother, Pam; my mom, Paula; and my dad, Bobby, who died in 2020, have all suffered.”

The family connection became only more apparent when Sarah’s daughter, Elizabeth Burt, endured the same symptoms this past summer, at age 11. “We just

thought she had swollen lymph nodes, but a tumor popped up,” Sarah explains. Elizabeth was treated at Cook Children’s Hospital in Fort Worth, where she was diagnosed with a schwannoma. “We thought it could involve the carotid artery, the jugular vein, and the 10th cranial nerve. We did not know the outcome because of the carotid risk. The doctors suggested a family vacation, just like with me.”

Sarah cites the support of her community – “whether it was financial, visiting, food, or just crying with me” – who came to help out. “Pastor John and his wife at Church on the Rock, as well as Mrs. Kimi Ryan, have been such a source of comfort,” she asserts. “In addition, Pastor Augustine Alenez and his wife, Lugenia, at Faith Community Baptist Church in Maud have been very helpful to us.”

Elizabeth had to have several different scans, and Sarah understood what her mother must have felt 22 years ago. “I just thought back to my mom and wondered how she did it.” Sarah chuckles as she recalls how advanced MRIs have become in the past two decades. Elizabeth had a counselor walk her through the scans, and she was able to listen to music and wear goggles to watch a screen inside the machine. “The lady was really nice,” Elizabeth comments. “Cook Children’s Hospital is just great,” Sarah avers. “Dr. Roberts and Dr. Macincuk are so understanding.

After her cancer was removed, Sarah didn’t like for people to see her face because of the feeding tube, so she would always wear a bucket hat. One day a stranger placed her hand on Sarah’s chin and said, “This face God made is too beautiful to hide. Be proud of who you are and how far you have come through your journey.” After that moment, Sarah ditched the hats.

Elizabeth slept with this blanket, a gift of encouragement from Amanda Hanson, while recovering from her surgery.

“I had a little breakdown before Elizabeth’s surgery. It could go bad, or it could go perfectly,” Sarah remembers. “I just prayed and prayed. I had a dream that God took Elizabeth by the hand, and I knew it would be okay. I believe 100 percent that without God, it wouldn’t have turned out this way. After the four-hour surgery, the doctor texted that they had finished, and the ENT doctor came to Elizabeth’s father and me and said, ‘We got all of it.’ It was a big relief. It only affected the 10th cranial nerve. They took a few bites out of the nerve because it could reverse function,” Sarah explains. “The tumor was literally on my last nerve,” Elizabeth quips. Within hours of the surgery, Elizabeth was speaking. She recovered so well that she was released after two days to go home.

Elizabeth continued to heal over the summer and began the sixth grade at Texas Middle School. She enjoys drawing and listening to music. Both Sarah and Elizabeth share a lazy eye. “The doctors cannot explain it. It just happens with this,” Sarah explains.

Sarah and her family are thankful for all that God has given them, despite the health challenges experienced by several family members. Sarah’s youngest daughter, Emily, age 9, has autism, and is doing very well in Mrs. Tarantino’s class at Wake Village Elementary School. “Since she was a year old, I knew something was different. Emily has been in therapy at Temple Memorial Rehabilitation Center, where they have gone above and beyond for her. The staff is extremely supportive,” Sarah comments. Sarah’s father, Bobby, suffered from alcoholism. “Although he died from cancer, alcohol damaged his body,” Sarah states.

“I struggled with the reasons that he passed, but I know it’s genetically passed. I want to tell my dad that I’m sorry for him having to deal with it.” For this reason, Sarah has a goal of helping people with substance abuse disorders. She is pursuing her bachelor’s degree in psychology, with a minor in business, scheduled to graduate from Texas A&M University-Texarkana in 2024.

Not only does Sarah attend college and care for her daughters, but she works full-time as well. “I used to work at Cracker Barrel. I loved decorating the trees and working with the merchandise in the gift shop.” Recently, Sarah took a teller position at Guaranty Bank & Trust. “I think people are fun. I love interacting with people. I try to anticipate customers’ needs before they ask.” Sarah has had a great time training at Guaranty’s Summerhill Road location and looks forward to working at the 7th Street location. She also enjoys baking and used to run her own business, “Homemade Happiness,” before the cost of ingredients became prohibitive. “My grandfather and aunt loved to cook,” Sarah says. “It runs in the family.”

Regardless of what life has thrown her way, Sarah’s faith buoys her positive mindset. “If there is something I can learn to help others, I want to do it.” Through her studies at TAMU-T, her new job at Guaranty Bank & Trust, as well as her gratitude for Elizabeth’s recovery and Emily’s therapy, Sarah has demonstrated tenacity with a servant’s heart. She has risen up to not only meet, but overcome obstacles, modeling strength and grace for her daughters. How blessed they are to have a mother like Sarah Richardson.

On the way to Cook Children’s Medical Center in Ft. Worth, Elizabeth loves to stop at Buc-ee’s. Here, she is laughing and having a great time with her father, Chris Burt.

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HILTON GARDEN INN & TEXARKANA CONVENTION CENTER HOSTS CHAMBER AFTER HOURS

On October 20, the Chamber Business After Hours event was held at the Hilton Garden Inn & Texarkana Convention Center. Owned by the Daugherty family, HGI and the Texarkana Convention Center recently celebrated 10 years in business. Hors d’oeuvres and refreshments were served, and prizes were given away.

Josh and Rachael Potter with James Syler and Brianna Conn Suki O’Neal and Katheryn Schmidt

Morgan Pritchett, Gary Gathright, Suki O’Neal, Barbara Walker, Donnie Spriggs and Channon Branch

Brian Daugherty, Jack Daugherty and Mike Daugherty

Brian Daugherty, Barbara Walker, Jack Daugherty and Mike Daugherty

Chase Waddell, Breanna Mitchell and Jessica Harden

Gina Parish and Morgan Pritchett

Jeff Greening, Chelsy Pugh, Dee Page and Mikayla Westbrook

Kevin Avery, Mack Lawrence, Joe Hankins, Mike Daugherty, Brian Daugherty, Jack Daugherty, James Bramlett, Chelsy Pugh, Mikayla Westbrook, Justin Swecker, George Carpenter, Rachael Potter and Jesse Jenkins

Brandon Thrash, Jan Price-Baker, Lucas Sullivan and Tammy Baker

Heather Buster and Chint Murdock

AGAINST ALL ODDS

After suffering an unfortunate injury in his right, dominant elbow, AHS junior Ryan Wardlaw learns to play tennis as a lefty

by MASON MCCLOUD Head Tennis Coach at Arkansas High School

Ryan Wardlaw is currently a junior on the Arkansas High tennis team. He has played for me his three years of high school and also off and on throughout middle school. He made varsity his freshman year. His sophomore season, he went 10-4 on the year as the #1 ranked boy on the team and was a top four season conference player in singles. Ryan was awarded team MVP for the 20212022 season, but amazingly enough, tennis is his second sport. He is a great baseball player as well, but at the end of last season during a baseball workout, he felt an issue with his right elbow. After diagnosis, he learned that he would have to have Tommy John surgery, which is a major surgery that heavily affects baseball pitchers. The recovery time for this injury is 8-12 months, which meant he couldn’t use his right arm for athletics during that time period. His surgery was performed on June 20, 2022, and Ryan found out that he wouldn’t be able to play tennis this season.

The week after his surgery, I received a text from him asking if he could still try to play tennis. Tennis season goes from July to October, which was four months after his surgery. Even though he was wearing a brace, he still wasn’t able to throw a ball let alone swing a racquet, so the answer had to be “no.” His response was, “What if I play left-handed?” I read the text and laughed. I replied, “If you can get a doctor to sign off on that, then sure.” I hated to give any kind of hope to him in a situation like that. Not only was he unlikely to get cleared for that, but play left-handed? I just didn’t think that was achievable.

I have a very solid tennis team full of quality players. If Ryan was cleared, he would have to quickly learn how to play left-handed, which is obviously his underused, nondominant side. I even told him that if he got cleared to play as a lefty, I wasn’t going to work with him at all this season on his form. It just seemed like a waste of my time since he will play right-handed again his senior year. Furthermore, the rest of my team is solid. Not only would he have to learn to play as a lefty, but he would have to get good enough to actually beat people currently on the team in order to take their place. I still thought it wasn’t achievable, but if he wanted to give it a try then by all means, I wanted him to go for it.

Top photo: Ryan and Coach McCloud during this year’s Homecoming pep rally where Ryan was an escort.

AHS’s varsity tennis team participate in the 5A South Conference Tournament at Lakeside High School. Team members are: (front row) Jacob Dupree, Hannah Smith, Rachel Massey, Makayli Harvey, Abby Hopkins, Katie Brown, Ava Price-Gentry and Alexis Peoples; (back row) Bryce Jones, Garrett Pendergraft, Taylor Griffin, Ryan Wardlaw, Corbin Atchley, Seth Coker and Coach Mason McCloud.

photo by SHANE DARBY

“Not playing was not an option for me. I wanted to play and compete, and I wanted to play the best to see what I could do.”

To my surprise, the note came in from his doctor that he could play left-handed. Day one of summer practice, Ryan worked. He got frustrated. Drill after drill, he struggled to find rhythm. Over the first few weeks of summer practice, he struggled with the form, but his athleticism was still at its peak, and his determination grew. He stayed focused and told me his main goal was to make varsity. “I am a competitor and not making varsity meant less playing time, and I needed to be able to compete with the best to get better,” Ryan explains.

The week of tryouts, Ryan somehow won three of his five matches to qualify for varsity as the number four player. What impressed me the most though was that his two losses, both of which were against two of my strongest varsity boys, were very competitive. My thoughts were, “Has he actually started to figure out this lefty swing? Can he actually compete with top players again?”

During the season, week after week, Ryan got better. He never missed practice and slowly developed himself as an actual left-handed player, equipped with a lefthanded serve, a left-handed forehand, and a nasty backhand slice that actually became his primary weapon throughout the season. Coach after coach and team after team would watch him, seeing the brace on his right arm and ask if he was hurt. When they heard his story, they watched with awe. The fact that someone could play ambidextrous at a high level isn’t something most players have seen at the high school level. “I wanted to compete, so I was motivated to be the best I could be,” Ryan says. “I practiced every day and had some of my friends and exteammates that had already graduated come work with me.”

Ryan started the season an undefeated 5-0 in singles play, with three of those wins being dominate 8-0 victories. Against Benton, players and parents lined up under the awning at Tyndall Park making comments like, “How does he do that?” and “Is he going to even need his right hand when he gets healthy?” Ryan was the only boy victory in the match against Arkadelphia, and Ryan was twice voted as RTV MVP of the Day. “I was grateful being voted MVP,” Ryan admits. “I was not expecting it. My job was to win, and I just did my job.”

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While playing at the AHS courts, Ryan follows through with a lefthanded forehand. (Photo from RTV Senior

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Against Lakeside’s JV, Ryan defeated the #1 boys singles player 6-2, a boy that our team couldn’t beat last year. Ryan was the lone victor in boys singles in our team match against Pleasant Grove. He earned victories in singles against six of the eight conference teams and finished the season with a 11-4 record in singles, beating his record from the previous season as a righty. Ryan received a top seven seed at the conference tournament and made it to the conference quarterfinals after winning his first round match. Ryan avers, “Not playing was not an option for me. I wanted to play and compete, and I wanted to play the best to see what I could do.” Accomplishing what Ryan has this season is nothing short of amazing and impressive.

Ryan’s athleticism is incredible. He has a natural feel for sports and knowing where to be and what to do at the right time. Which arm he was using to play with ultimately just became a facilitator to his movement and hustle. His grit during matches and determination back during summer just to be able to compete during matches is commendable. Most importantly, his mentality has been rock solid. No spells of anger, no damaging frustration, and no signs of weakness at any point would hinder his ability to win the next point ahead of him. “I never went out there with the mentality that I was better than anyone,” Ryan recalls. “I knew I had a disadvantage due to not having my right arm, and I knew it was possible for me to lose, so I just played one point at a time.”

To put myself in his shoes and try to learn a sport from the bottom up, a sport that I know I already am good at with an arm that I can’t use, would frustrate me to a boiling point. Never once did Ryan respond in this way. It’s one thing to joke around as a lefty at practice, but to actually compete brings difficulty to the whole equation. He grew mentally and physically, and I am proud of the way he played this season in overcoming his unfortunate circumstance.

Ryan had the support of many, including myself, parents, and other players and coaches, but I witnessed none more impactful than that of his teammates. The top six varsity team is composed of six juniors, but to Ryan they are his closest

Pictured are: (front row) Ryan Wardlaw and Seth Coker; (middle row) Garrett Pendergraft; (back row) Jacob Dupree, Makayli Harvey, Bryce Jones and Corbin Atchley.

friends, most of whom have all been playing tennis together since early middle school. Their friendships with each other can date back even into elementary school. These deep friendships helped to motivate and propel Ryan this season. Their encouragement, especially in those early summer moments of frustration, really kept Ryan believing. At one point, Ryan asked me how high he needed to be in the ranks to travel? As important as tennis is, I know he also doesn’t want to miss out on these memories with friends.

On October 25, Ryan was cleared for minimal athletic participation on his right arm so his rehab can begin, but he won’t potentially be cleared for further use until January or later. Although he lost his right arm for this season, he made the most of his season with his left hand. What is neat is that a common tennis tactic for learning to hit right-handed backhands is to hit a non-dominant hand forehand (which Ryan did all season). What this means is that Ryan’s weakness from years past should be his strength going forward into his senior year, where we will expect big things from him as the Arkansas High School Razorbacks set sights on a potential conference championship in 2023.

Tennis team members take advantage of the shade while awaiting matches at the 5A South Conference Tournament at Lakeside High School.

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ETERNAL BEAUTY MEDICAL AESTHETICS & DAY SPA WITCHES’ NIGHT OUT Eternal Beauty Medical Aesthetics &

Day Spa held its Witches’ Night Out on October 27. Guests received gift certificates and enjoyed live music, hors d’oeuvres and drinks.

Rachel Stanley and Angie Bowen

Elvia Bustamante and Sara Marchand

Becca Riebesell and Karrie Morse

Brandy Knuppel and Alyssa Daniel

Brooke Marshall, Amy Tankersley and Kyndel Griffith

Amanda Ross, Elizabeth Jacobsen, Loryn Kimble, Tabitha Smith, Jordan Felker, Mesia Luvene and Heather Nalepa

Kim Sutton and Erin McCasland

Heather Linn and Jase Bryant

Brianna Baird, McKynzi Harper and Katelyn Jordan

Heather Post and Debbie Butler

HOLIDAY GREETINGS PUT SMILES ON FACES

by LINDSEY M c MILLAN photos by J BUNCH PHOTOGRAPHY

This time of year, families are busy sending out holiday greetings to loved ones near and far. Most are a simple card, one with a family photo, or maybe even include a letter with all the goings-on over the past year. The holiday cards the Bowers family sends are unique.

Since 2009, Doug, Amy and Madison Bowers have sent silly cards in a variety of costumes and poses sharing holiday cheer. Wanting to add a fun twist to their card, they now send approximately 200 cards each December. It has become a fun family tradition and one they look forward to planning a year in advance. Recipients eagerly await their card and are always excited to see what funny picture the Bowers have. Whether it’s a theme from “Tiger King,” “A Christmas Story,” or a reprisal of the American Gothic painting, there’s always something to bring a smile when the card is opened.

Wrestling with Inflation 2022 – Inflation has blanketed the news in 2022. Influenced by current events, the family felt everyone was probably “Wrestling with Inflation” this year. How better to capture that expression than with a few inflatable sumo suits and a couple of Santa hats?

Doug, Amy and Madison Bowers enjoy sending unique and fun Christmas cards during the holiday season

Doug is the City Administrator for the City of Nash, and Amy is the director of human resources and legal affairs at BWI Companies. Madison is a student at Texas A&M University in College Station where she is majoring in Industrial Distribution. It is always a family affair deciding what theme to do for the cards. Now that Madison lives away, they have to plan ahead and usually take their pictures in the summer before she leaves for school. It’s always a closely guarded secret as to what the card will look like, and many friends nag them asking for a sneak peek. Madison has always been involved in the planning, even when she was younger, and her mom praises her for being such a good sport.

Making American Gothic 2019 –American Gothic, an immediately recognizable painting, served as the inspiration for the Christmas card in 2019. Yet, the Bowers family put their own unique spin on the famous portrait of the pitchforkwielding farmer and woman. Doug thought it would be funny for the family to wear dark eyeshadow and lipstick associated with modern Gothic fashion. In addition, with no pitchfork costume available, Madison had to become a dinner fork instead.

Flagpole-licking Greeting 2013 –

Each holiday season, Doug, Amy and Madison watch their favorite Christmas movies. Topping the must-watch movie list each year is “A Christmas Story.” Inspired by the movie’s “triple-dog dare” scene, they created their 2013 Christmas card.

Gambling Christmas 2009 – After a few years of the “normal” cards, the Bowers family decided to take a turn off the traditional route and created the Elf getting the best of Santa and the Mrs.

Joe Exotic 2020 – Watching the documentary “Tiger King” brought a bit of levity into 2020 for the family. Madison introduced Doug and Amy to the documentary, and she was the driving force in picking this as the family’s Christmas card theme that same year.

The Bowers have worked with several local photographers including April Graves, Miranda Johnson and John Bunch. Their list has continually grown through the years, with everyone wanting one, and two cards are sent to Canada and Taiwan. They hope the tradition will continue through the years to come. It helps get the Bowers family in the holiday spirit and all of those around them.

Coneheads 2017 – Growing up in the ’80s and ’90s, the Bowers were huge “Saturday Night Live” fans and vividly recalled “The Coneheads.” To recreate the signature-look of The Coneheads, they used Christmas tree skirts as capes and purchased professional, prop-quality coneheads. On picture day, they soon realized that Doug’s conehead was a little tight, and it kept collapsing into itself. To prevent this, they stuffed the tip with paper and cut vents into the conehead to allow it to keep its shape.

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FAN FARE GIFTS & BOUTIQUE CHRISTMAS EXTRAVAGANZA

On November 12, Fan Fare Gifts & Boutique hosted its annual Christmas Extravaganza. Guests enjoyed refreshments, prizes, Christmas music, and a backdrop and prop for selfies.

Mike and Shannon West

Audrey Seymour and Ann Cary

Olivia Coleman, Shepherd Friday, Ava Friday and Caleb Coleman

Jess Sparks, Lesa Asbille and Katie Shepherd

Leslie Zapata, Angie Fenton and Taylor McKinsey

Katie Hixson and Jana Adcock

Pam Revells and Angie Fenton

Richard and Judi Franks

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MAGICAL. WONDROUS. MERRY.

by SUZY TURNER photos by JANET COX AND KIM ELDRIDGE

Reminiscent of a southern plantation home, Linda and Mike Lilly’s 5 bedroom, 4½ bath traditional home blends dramatic columns, rich woods, natural fibers, spacious interiors, and large windows as a backdrop for their winter wonderland. Located off Lilly Lane on the sprawling 380 acre Silver Lake Ranch, this home exudes comfort, privacy, and loads of good cheer.

After 4½ days of decking the halls for the most wonderful time of the year, designer Janet Cox has enhanced this home’s true character. Holiday splendor is evident while driving up the winding path. Four life-sized toy soldiers stand guard leading up to the front door. Giant gold ornaments are placed in stone urn planters to create a dramatic outdoor element. Beautiful green garland drapes around the ornate doorway to add some Christmas charm.

Immediately inside, the staircase banister is draped with greenery, red bows, berries, and red and white striped ornaments. White lights illuminate the entryway and cast the perfect glow. An antique sled sits at the bottom of the stairs, reminding one of yesteryear. Pine cones and wooden reindeer bring in a

nature-inspired, yet elegant look. Snowmen dressed as carolers are strategically nestled amongst the festive display.

Linda’s intricate hand-carved cherub collection, started by her mother, has grown substantially throughout the years. Several of these cherubs are situated around the fireplace’s mantel and add nostalgic charm to the space. An ornate metal cross rests above the mantel, centered in a recessed space. The massive grand Christmas tree is nestled beside the fireplace, complete with glass ornament clusters in green, gold and red hues from the bottom of the tree to the very top. A red velvet tree skirt adds a luxurious sheen while gold ribbon intertwined throughout the branches brings in texture and depth.

Whether entertaining guests or hosting a family gathering, the formal dining area offers the social hub for eating, drinking, and being merry. A striking tablescape displays a nativity scene while crystal globe candle holders add elegance. The crystal candelabra chandelier is draped with ivy, while a gold satin bow adds the final touch.

A country Christmas theme is carried out in the kitchen and living area. A large gingerbread man cookie cutter decoration and two grapevine wreaths adorn the vent hood while a farmhouse sign above the stove reads, “We wish you a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.” A familiar holiday tradition, the gingerbread house takes center stage on the functional island while a Mrs. Claus figurine is situated beside it. Red berries, greenery, and pine cones adorn the black wrought iron chandelier above the kitchen island. Off to one side of the kitchen, a staircase leads upstairs, the perfect place to display vintage beaded stockings for every member of the Lilly family. The official flower of Christmas, poinsettias in shades of red and green sit on the landing, symbolizing the Star of Bethlehem.

Waterford crystal ornaments circle a sprig of mistletoe hanging from a greenery-garnished chandelier over the breakfast table. The employees from Mike’s company have given Linda one crystal ornament a year for several years so

she chose to display them over the table where they can be seen and enjoyed by everyone.

A western Christmas tree in the den/casual living room features cowboy Santa ornaments, red bandana ribbon, and cowboy hats. Gifts beneath the rustic tree are decorated in Kraft paper, horse wrapping paper, and red gingham ribbon. Pine sprays, pine cone branches, and fluffy feathers in colorful boot vases are displayed on the mantel, bringing a hint of the outdoors inside. Cowhide stockings hang on the stone fireplace while a lantern with red and white plaid ribbon sits on the hearth. A beautiful horse painting by Judy Wright Walter coordinates with the rustic theme.

Decking out their beautiful home with Christmas décor puts Linda, Mike, and their family in the holiday spirit. From nostalgic traditions to classic collectibles, the Lillys go all out for the holidays using festive accents and subtle touches to reveal their home’s true southern character and charm.

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LONESTAR HEALTH & WELLNESS CUSTOMER APPRECIATION EVENT

On November 13, LoneStar Health & Wellness celebrated its third anniversary during its Customer Appreciation Event. Giveaways were announced every 30 minutes as guests enjoyed hors d’oeuvres, drinks and exclusive specials.

Erin Gibbs and Amberly Stussy

Morgan Hinman and Alex Ouellette

Samantha Harris and Callie Breshears

Nina Howeth, Samantha Hughes, Samantha Harris, Miranda Baugh and Tammy Miller

Kim Miller, Kassidy Gennings and Summer Nelson

Amber Stewart, Rachel Hoover, Claire Moulton and Amanda Razaq

Morgan Pritchett and Amanda Willis

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UNITED WAY OF HEMPSTEAD COUNTY GALA

On October 27, the United Way of Hempstead County held its inaugural fundraising Gala at the Hope Country Club. The red carpet event was designed to spotlight the important community agencies supported by the local United Way, including: Christian Charitable Medical Clinic, First Choice Pregnancy Resource Center of Hope, Hope in Action 1 & 2, Hempstead County 4-H, Junior Auxiliary of Hope, Senior Adult Center, Domestic Violence Prevention, Hope for Paws, and Harvest Regional Food Bank.

The evening featured an award ceremony where Michael Winarta from New Millennium Building Systems in Hope was named “Person of the Year,” Paul Henley was awarded the inaugural “Paul Henley Volunteer of the Year Award” for his 50+ years of service to the community, and the Christian Charitable Medical Clinic was named the “Agency of the Year.” The event raised almost $20,000 through generous sponsorships from over 45 businesses and individuals.

Gina Perkins, Dolly and Paul Henley and Anna Powell

Henry Struckman, Kathy Struckman and Wendy Struckman Jones

Jordan and Jacob Jones

Karina Martinez, Brandy Armstrong and April McKamie

Ericka and Eddie Garcia with Tim and Sallie Nix

Jerry and Twyla Pruden

Shelly Short, Gina Perkins, Sheardon Peace, Lindsey Townsend, Kyla Hamilton, Aley Mendoza, Bren Yocom, Anna Powell, Ashley Martinez, Summer Powell, Lindsey Honea, Tanya Alvarado, Megan Lance, Wendy Jones, Janet Choate, Jennifer Block, Arnetta Bradford, Linsey Kirkpatrick, Amanda Lance, Kim Hollis, Jennifer Wright Cunningham and Lili Rogel Cruz

Adam and Laurie Pinner

Jordan Short and Gala Chair Amanda Lance

John and Kim Hollis

Garrett Gresham, Mary Claire Paddock and Landon Davis

Mayor Don and Betsy Still

Megan Lance and Clay Lance

Rep. Danny and Judy Watson Sharlene and Rusty Burke

Katie Barnes, Cutberto Tenorio, Carson Haynie and Cynthia Ortiz

Dr. Michael and Debbie Malek

Paul and Allison Wilson

Lindsey Barton and Monica Turley

DJ Stanley

Tanya Alvarado, Lindsey Honea and Jennifer Cunningham Sheardon Pearce and Amanda Lance Summer Harrison and Brian Lee Summer Powell and Reyn Brown

Tricia Walker, Kristen Young, Jodie Poole, Dr. Allyson Price, Micheyla Nealy and Amy Knoll

Wade and Lindsey Townsend

DECEMBER 2022

DECEMBER 1

A Christmas Open House will take place from 5:30-7:30 p.m. at The Collins Home. Hosted by HandsOn Texarkana, the event will feature tours of the venue and light refreshments. The Collins Home is located at 1915 Olive Street. Call 903-798-3211 for more information.

DECEMBER 2-4

The Texarkana Community Ballet will present “The Nutcracker” in the historic Perot Theatre. Tickets are on sale at the Perot box office.

DECEMBER 3

The ninth annual Farmers Bank & Trust LIVE UNITED Bowl will take place with a noon kickoff at Texarkana Arkansas School District’s Razorback Stadium. Tickets are available at the Farmers Bank & Trust locations on Arkansas Boulevard and East 9th as well as any Mil-Way Federal Credit Union location, the Texarkana Chamber of Commerce, or the United Way of Greater Texarkana office. Tickets are $10 for adults and $4 for students or can be purchased online at www.liveunitedbowl.com. Student tickets must be purchased at any of the above locations or at the gate.

DECEMBER 1-3 AND 8-10 Jefferson, Texas, will host its Candlelight Tour of Homes the first two weekends in December. Four tour homes will be lavishly decorated for the holiday season. Tickets can be purchased online at: www.jeffersoncandlelight.com

DECEMBER 2-3

TRAHC’s 14th annual Holiday Arts Market will take place from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. on Friday and 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. on Saturday. This festive holiday shopping will be set up at the Regional Arts Center, located at 321 West 4th Street in Texarkana, Texas. For more information, call Jeanne Harrel at 903-277-3404 or contact the Regional Arts Center at 903-792-8681.

DECEMBER 4

Chapelwood Funeral Home will host its 2022 Christmas Memorial Service at 2 p.m. Call 903-838-5300 for more information.

DECEMBER 5

Main Street Texarkana will present the Downtown Texarkana Christmas Parade, beginning at 7 p.m. For more information, call 903-792-7191.

DECEMBER 9-10

Historic Washington, Arkansas, will host its 36th annual Christmas & Candlelight event from 1-8 p.m. Enjoy historic buildings adorned in 19th century style decorations, thousands of luminaries, Williams’ Tavern Restaurant, and music in the churches and the 1940 WPA Gym. Tickets can be purchased at the 1874 Courthouse, 100 SW Morrison Street, in Washington, Arkansas, and www.historicwashingtonstatepark.com

DECEMBER 11

A Texarkana tradition, the Texarkana Symphony Orchestra will present “Christmas at the Perot” during a 4 p.m. performance. This holiday concert for the whole family will feature TSO, members of the Texarkana Community Ballet, the Texarkana Youth Symphony Orchestra and the TSO Chamber Singers. Also, the winner of TSO’s annual Celebrity Conductor Competition will be announced. Call 903-792-4992 for tickets, or visit: www.perottheatre.org

DECEMBER 15

TRAHC will present “The Muses: Voices of Angels” during a 7 p.m. performance in the Regional Arts Center. Call 903-792-8681 for information or purchase tickets at: www.trahc.org.

DECEMBER 17

Premier event sponsor, Farmers Bank & Trust, will present Christmas on Main at the Perot Theatre, located at 221 Main Street. Activities will include movies, vendors, carolers, carriage rides, food trucks, kids’ crafts, and an ice skating rink. Purchase tickets at www.perottheatre.org or at the Perot Theatre Box Office. Call 903-792-4992 for more information.

JANUARY 2023

JANUARY 7

Elvis tribute artist Travis Powell will entertain guests during a 7 p.m. performance in the Historic Perot Theatre. The all female group, Shake, Rattle & Roll, will open the concert. Tickets can be found at: www.perottheatre.org

JANUARY 26

Country music artist Clint Black will perform in the Historic Perot Theatre. Doors open at 6 p.m. for the 7 p.m. performance. Tickets are available at: www.perottheatre.org

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CADDO AREA COUNCIL, BOY SCOUTS OF AMERICA, SPORTING CLAYS CLASSIC

The Caddo Area Council, Boy Scouts of America, held its Sporting Clays Classic on November 12 at Rocky Creek Outdoors. The Pleasant Grove Trap Team, was the team winner, while Danny Clark won the helicopter hog hunt. Proceeds from the event benefit the local Scouting movement.

Steve Morriss and Robert Bunch

Kelly Goodman, Justin Warren, Brent Bunch, Logan Leschper and Jason Clem

Zoe Nakashian, Lonna Johnson and Janice Richardson

Kandice Kimmel and Sigrunn Yost

Claire Huffer, Whit Griffin and Matt Griffin

Daniel Hazel and Lonnie Hazel Dr. Randy Sarrett, William Morriss, Mark Smith and John Mercy

Lonna Johnson and Nick Walker

Travis Old and Gary Old

Daniel Walker, Anthony Jewell, Nick Walker, Nathan Moses and Kevin McMullen

A MUSICAL ALCHEMY

by JODY GOEZ

Travis Powell is a very special kind of entertainer. Although he is not a magician per se, he does perform a spellbinding act. It is a musical alchemy whereby he morphs from unassuming suburban dad into a king. And not just any king. THE king.

As one of the nation’s foremost Elvis Tribute Artists (ETAs), Travis has been winning ETA contests since grade school. In fact, while most toddlers were barely warbling their ABCs or “Twinkle Twinkle Little Star,” by age 4, Travis had already zoned in on what he liked to do – and that was to sing Elvis songs. “My mom was a music director,” says Travis, “and after (my parents) started playing Elvis for me, I apparently got up in the middle of a church service and started singing ‘Love Me Tender.’”

From there, Travis started entering talent shows at school and church events, winning his way through childhood and adolescence. After a stint in Nashville to pursue a country music career, he returned to his roots, and to what he loves best ... as Elvis once said, “It’s my favorite part of the business, live concerts.”

Travis describes what fans can expect at his show. “They’re going to see me cover a couple of eras, the ’68 special and an authentic tribute to the later years. We’re gonna have fun, we’re gonna dance, and relive the magic of Elvis in an authentic way. It’s going to be a good time!

“I know I’m not Elvis,” Travis says wryly. “But if we can go back in time and people can be transported and remember that feeling of actually watching Elvis, that’s what it’s all about. I just want to give everybody in that audience something to relate to. If I can do that, I feel like I’ve done Elvis proud.”

And for those who like to get up close and personal with their favorite performer, Travis says he has never had a bad experience with a fan. “If a fan comes up and, they are teary-eyed or emotional, then I feel like I’ve done my job. What I do when I go on stage is sort of go back in time and remember what it was like to be there …especially for the ones who never got to see him. They can get the feel of what it was like to see him in person.”

Like his idol, Travis is also involved in charitable endeavors. “I started the Travis Foundation in 2014, basically to help the poorer children’s homes in my hometown, whether it be Christmas presents, school supplies, food, tutors, schoolwork, just a bunch of things to help the kids in my hometown.”

When asked what his favorite Elvis song is, Travis replies immediately, “‘My Way,’ although it does sometimes change because I listen to a lot of Elvis songs.”

From performing with artists who actually performed with Elvis himself, such as the Sweet Inspirations, to playing in venues where Elvis once played, Travis has strived to provide the most all-encompassing show possible. “We’ve got a great band, great costumes,” he promises. “I just want to be the most authentic Elvis and express the love I have for him. It’s been a fun ride.”

World Famous Elvis Tribute Artist, Travis Powell, to entertain guests on January 7 at the Perot Theatre

the f riends’ list

Each month, Four States Living will choose two people who have “liked” our Facebook page to be featured in The Friends’ List. Chosen randomly, these two “friends” will answer questions we provide so our readers can get to know them better. The bonus question (the last question) will be related to the theme of each month’s issue.

RASHINDA HAMPTON

Age: 42

Occupation: Director of Marketing and Audience Services, Perot Theatre

If you won the lottery, what is the first thing you would do? I would call my family.

When you have 30 minutes of free time, how do you pass the time? I check on my daughter who’s away at college.

If you were allowed to have one wish granted, what would it be? To have a million more wishes.

At what business could you max out a credit card? Eloquii.

Choose a movie title for the story of your life. “Metamorphosis.”

What are you currently watching on Netflix? I’m a Hulu+ kinda girl.

If you could visit anywhere in the world, where would you go? Capri, Italy.

If you could only have three apps on your smartphone, which would you pick? Pokémon Go. Spotify. Instagram.

What’s your favorite sport to watch, and which team do you root for?

I am not a huge sports fan but I like whichever team has the best colors.

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GREG LYNCH Age: 50

Occupation: Dispatcher, Duane Livingston Trucking

If you won the lottery, what is the first thing you would do? I would pay off everything I own and buy a LOT of drums.

When you have 30 minutes of free time, how do you pass the time? I usually watch something on Netflix or play drums.

If you were allowed to have one wish granted, what would it be? If I was allowed one wish, it would be for all of my family and friends to have healthy, happy lives.

At what business could you max out a credit card? That one is easy .... drum shop.

Choose a movie title for the story of your life. “Almost Famous.”

What are you currently watching on Netflix? I am rewatching the “Ocean’s” trilogy (11,12,13) for the hundredth time.

If you could visit anywhere in the world, where would you go? I haven’t had the opportunity to travel a lot so I would probably start with New York City or Vegas.

If you could only have three apps on your smartphone, which would you pick? Facebook (for our band promoting). Timetree (for keeping up with our gigs). The Weather Channel (just because).

What’s your favorite sport to watch, and which team do you root for?

I enjoy watching Dallas Cowboys football.

A SEASON OF MIRACLES

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TELL US ONE SPECIAL THING THAT YOU ENJOY MOST ABOUT THE CHRISTMAS SEASON.

I enjoy the happiness and love that is normally associated with the Christmas season. Christmas music is my all-time favorite, and you can’t beat the parties! My daughter’s birthday is six days before Christmas, so it has always been extra special!

I love spending extra time with my family. I love riding around looking at Christmas lights with my wife and daughter and basically just hanging out together.